S2 Ep50: Dealing with Birthdays when IN Contact with your Narcissistic Mother
As promised, here is the birthday episode for those still In Contact. In this episode we go through all the main challenges that come up when it is your mother's birthday approaching and also when it's your birthday coming up, and also offer some clarity as to how to deal with it all while still being in contact with your mother. Share any questions or your experience with Matilde by emailing ...
47m Mar 26, 2024
47m
S2 Ep49: How a Second Mother Figure Helps You Survive Your Narcissistic Mother
How does mother energy feel? How can you recognise it if you've never been modelled it by your mother? How can you be a second mother figure for someone else? A very important part in the journey of healing from mother wounds is to learn to mother yourself, accessing the mother energy that is indeed within you. But not ever having received this energy from our mothers, that's easier said than d...
42m Mar 19, 2024
42m
S2 Ep48: Birthdays When No Contact with your Narcissistic Mother
Whether it's your mother's birthday coming up, or your own, both these situation can be extremely challenging when you are no contact. Strong intense emotions can be triggered, like guilt, anxiety, grief, sadness, loneliness, all causing you pain and to run into the risk of breaking the no contact. Birthdays are also a time when flying monkeys can come to the attack, and use your moment of vuln...
43m Mar 12, 2024
43m
S2 Ep47: The ABC of Maternal Narcissistic Manipulation
Have you ever asked yourself: "Why is my mother nice at times and abusive other times?" "Why is she always nicer around others and then gets abusive behind closed doors?" "Why some visits/phone calls go ok and others feel terrible?" You may have noticed ups and downs and inconsistency in your mother's behaviour towards you, causing you confusion, conflicting emotions, guilt, feeling like the cr...
48m Mar 05, 2024
48m
S2 Ep46: 5 Steps to Overcome the Impulse of Ringing Your Narcissistic Mother
Do you need days to recover after every call with your mother and yet you still feel the impulse to call? Do you feel the need to contact your mother when something challenging happens to you? Do you need to consult her every time you have a decision to make? Do you feel guilty if you decide something about your life, without talking to her first? If you answered yes to any of the above, I tot...
32m Feb 27, 2024
32m
S2 Ep45: The Myth of Normal With a Narcissistic Mother
Have you ever asked yourself: "Why am I not normal??" "Why do I not fit in??" "Why do I have to go through all of this when other seem so normal??" If you have, I get it. I've been there many times and I've cried a lot over the feeling of not fitting in. I truly feel you. And my mother was no help with that... All she said to me has made it worse. But what is "normal"? Is there such a thing? ...
20m Feb 20, 2024
20m
S2 Ep44: Unpacking What's Holding You Back Healing From Maternal Narcissism
Have you ever made arrangements to get help, to then pull back? If you were to book a call with me, would you feel nervous, anxious or even in a panic right before? Does a lot come up in your life that feel outside of your control and hold you back? If you answered yes, and if you have noticed this kind of a pattern in your life, this could be a sign of an avoidance pattern being active, comin...
46m Feb 13, 2024
46m
S2 Ep43: People-Pleasing as a Result of Maternal Narcissism-Recognising it & How to stop
Do you try your best to meet everyone else’s needs before yours? Do you get very upset if you think someone doesn’t like you or has a problem with you? Do you find it very difficult to say no to people around you? Do you get exhausted by having to interact with others? The pattern of People-Pleasing is one we can easily fall into as daughters of narcissistic mothers, as we carry wounds such as...
41m Feb 06, 2024
41m
S2 Ep42: Understanding The Impact Of Mother Wounds From Maternal Narcissism
➡ Have you ever felt you needed to perform in order to be loved or accepted by others? ➡ Do you lose your cool when things don’t feel in control? Like when something unexpected happens, or when someone surprises you, or you need to access a new environment? ➡ Do you go back and forth in your mind when you need to make a decision, feeling the need for permission or validation? ➡ When strong emot...
43m Jan 30, 2024
43m
S2 Ep41: Unpacking The Role Of The Enabling Father With A Narcissistic Mother
I'm finally getting a window of electricity to upload this episode!! Thank you for your patience!! Do you ever ask yourself why your father never stopped what was happening between you and your mother? Or why did he stay with a woman like your mother? Or maybe why he left you with her?? Did he ever dismissed or minimised what you tried to tell him about how your mother hurt you? Or maybe he lis...
42m Jan 24, 2024
42m
S2 Ep40: Breaking Free From The Pain Of Working For Your Narcissistic Mother
Does your job involve being in close contact with your narcissistic mother? Maybe you work for her, or maybe you work for the family business and she is also involved, or maybe you were meant to work for her and you decided not to but the guilt from your decision still haunts you... Maybe you really want something to change but you feel stuck and don't know where to start... In this episode you...
52m Jan 16, 2024
52m
S2 Ep39: 4 Steps To Reclaim Your Identity When Your Mother Is A Narcissist
Do you feel confused about who you are? Do you feel so emmeshed with your mother that you don't know where to start separating what is you and what isn't? Do you find it hard to set boundaries? Growing up with a narcissistic mother has stifled the natural development of your own identity, which has led you to live a life where you are not truly yourself, and when you don't know who you are it'...
49m Jan 09, 2024
49m
S2 Ep38: How To Overcome Guilt With A Narcissistic Mother
How many times do you feel guilty where your mother is concerned? How often do you feel responsible for her situation? How often do you feel whatever she is throwing at you is your fault? As daughter of narcissistic mothers we were conditions from a very young age to suppress our needs and to feel responsible for our mother emotional state, activating the guilt pattern. In this episode I share...
52m Jan 02, 2024
52m
S2 Ep37: How To Unblock Your Creativity After Suffering From Maternal Narcissism With Val Young
Do you feel an impulse to be creative (doing art, in your work, while cooking...) but feel blocked? Do you feel judged and not capable every time you do something creative? Does you Inner Critic put you down when you think about being creative? The trauma that comes from having a narcissistic mother can leave you feeling all that and more, blocking your creativity right out. In this special epi...
1hr 3m Dec 28, 2023
1hr 3m
S2 Ep36: Why New Year's Resolutions Don't Work For Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers
Do you feel a rising sense of dread and anxiety as you come to the beginning of a new year? Do you look back on the year gone by and feel more like a failure than ever before? Do you compare what you've accomplished with others' achievements and feel like you come up short? Is your mother's voice loud in your head? Telling you how not good enough you are, how you should have done better?? I get...
49m Dec 26, 2023
49m
S2 Ep35: The Importance Of Embodiment When Healing Mother Wounds with Meghan Mahealani
In this Special Episode with Meghan we spoke to: 🔸Accessing Divine Mother energy within, 🔸How to deal with intense emotions in an embodied way, 🔸Breath and movement as essential tools on your healing journey, 🔸The process of reclaiming your identity, disentangling from your mother And more! Access the Free Self-Love Guided Practice here⬇ https://womenreclaimingtheirfullness.me/ For any questi...
59m Dec 21, 2023
59m
S2 Ep34: 15 Signs Your Mother Is A Covert Narcissist
Do you ever feel like you are the only one that sees your mother's behaviour for what it is? Are you told by others that you are too sensitive or that you see too much in her behaviour? Do you feel isolated and not understood when it comes to speaking to the toxic patterns that seem clear only to you? A mother that is a covert, or more correctly, a vulnerable narcissist, can leave you feeling m...
55m Dec 19, 2023
55m
S2 Ep33: 5 Keys To Get Your Partner Understand You With Mark Usher
Do you find it hard to communicate with your husband/partner about the challenges you are experiencing because of maternal narcissism? Do you feel like you are the only "broken one" in the relationship? The only one with trauma to deal with? Does your husband/partner dismiss your pain or tries to fix you?? In this episode, our special guest Mark Usher, Relationship Coach for husbands, host of ...
1hr 38m Dec 14, 2023
1hr 38m
S2 Ep32: Unpacking The Challenge Of Intense Emotions When Healing From Maternal Narcissism
Have you done a lot of work on yourself and yet intense emotions still show up? Do you feel like you've been healing forever and yet you still get triggered? Does that make you feel like you are still broken or there's must be something wrong with you?? First of all, I want you to know that there's nothing wrong with you at all, and if that is indeed what you are experiencing, that is a very na...
51m Dec 12, 2023
51m
S2 Ep31: 8 Keys To Break The Cycle Of Maternal Narcissism When Becoming A Mother
"How do I know I'm not repeating the same patterns as my mother with my own child?" "How can I even become a mum when my mother didn't model anything good for me?" "Am I going to be the same as my mother??" These are the questions that can naturally come up when you realise your mother is a narcissist and you start recognising some of the patterns in your own relationship with your child... Bu...
42m Dec 05, 2023
42m
S2 Ep30: 4 Tools You Need if Your Mother Is A Narcissist
Are you ever feeling crushed and overwhelmed by intense emotions? Do you ever feel like you've done so much work and yet you still get so much anxiety, sadness, loneliness, frustration and so on? Do you ever feel like it's too much and there's no way out?? I get it! I felt that way for a long time, and I get days like that still. None of what you feel is your fault, none of what happened to you...
54m Nov 28, 2023
54m
S2 Ep29: The Key To Successful No Contact During Holiday Season
Are you finding it challenging to maintain no contact during the holiday season? Does your mother use holidays and special events as an excuse to contact you and you have enough of it? Maybe you are thinking of going no contact but don't know how to go about it, especially with the upcoming holidays... In this episode I answer questions I received from some of you amazing women about how to ke...
46m Nov 21, 2023
46m
S2 Ep28: How To Survive The Holiday Season With A narcissistic Mother/Family
Are you dreading the approaching holiday season, with all the family gatherings, obligations, and so on? Do you feel a lot of anxiety around it? Or perhaps this feels like an unhappy time because of your mother? Maybe the sense of loneliness and isolation is stronger for you at this time of the year? I get that! In this episode we explore the ways a narcissistic mother can weaponize the holida...
43m Nov 14, 2023
43m
S2 Ep27: 4 Steps to Liberate From The Box Your Narcissistic Mother Built Around You
How do you describe yourself when asked to? How many things do you regularly say about yourself that do not feel so good? Until now, were you even aware you were using words to describe yourself that feel diminishing, limiting, boxing...? When did you start feel that way about yourself? How many of the labels your mother used for you have you made your own? By slowing down and getting to know...
56m Nov 07, 2023
56m
S2 Ep26: The Number One Wound From Maternal Narcissism & How It Impacts Your Life
Over my 15 years working with women, and indeed in my own personal experience, I’ve observed how despite all that we go through, despite the pain we feel daily, despite life not going our way at all, despite all the suffering and unhappiness, we still hesitate when it comes to do something for ourselves. Do you feel that way? Does that ever happen to you? To know something would truly benefit ...
49m Oct 31, 2023
49m
S2 Ep25: The Impact Of Maternal Narcissism In Relating With Others
Do you feel comfortable among people? Or does interacting with others leave you drained and exhausted?? Would you describe yourself as introverted, shy, not a people person?? Or are you the soul of the party, yet somehow still feeling lonely on the inside?? Growing up with a narcissistic mother truly impacts the way we relate to others, leaving us with the biggest pain yet... The pain of tryi...
47m Oct 24, 2023
47m
S2 Ep24: 10 Ways A Narcissistic Mother Controls Your Beliefs
A narcissistic mother imposes her own truths and beliefs, and not empowering ones of course, on her children, as a very effective way to keep them in her control and fill her tank. By controlling your beliefs, a narcissistic mother controls you. My mother didn’t miss a chance to box me and define me, so I could be more manageable for her, and manageable means easier to control. Let's look at...
43m Oct 17, 2023
43m
S2 Ep23: No Contact With A Narcissistic Mother: The Challenges & How To Do It
Have you tried everything to keep a relationship with your narcissistic mother but the pain is too much? Are you thinking about going no contact but you don't know where to start? Are you no contact already and finding it truly challenging? In this episode I speak to my experience being no contact with my mother for the past 2 years, all the challenges of this decision and how to go about it...
57m Oct 10, 2023
57m
S2 Ep22: 8 Steps To Overcome Procrastination As A Result Of Maternal Narcissism
Do you find yourself procrastinating?  Do you find yourself avoiding those actions that you know would be good for you or important to achieve your dreams?  Do you severely judge yourself for that?  In this episode you gain clarity on what procrastination means, how it can be linked to maternal narcissism, and most importantly 8 steps you can implement form now to support you.  To know more...
53m Oct 03, 2023
53m
S2 Ep21: The Effects Of Maternal Narcissism Through Generations & How To Break The Cycle With Debra Kilby
Have you heard the say "It didn't start with you"? So when did it all start?? In this special episode with Debra you get to gain clarity on how far in the past the patterns started, on how to break the cycle of family trauma and wounding, and what is necessary when you decide to give birth to a child or a project that is close to your heart. You will also gain some wonderful insights on how to ...
1hr 5m Sep 28, 2023
1hr 5m
S2 Ep20: The Big Trap We Fall Into As Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers
If all that has happened to you is not your fault, then who's fault is it?? Being a podcast about maternal narcissism, it is easy to assume that the fault falls on our mothers. Who here has not blamed their mother for something or another?! And yet, this can lead us into a trap... Right into a very disempowering place, where we keep the cycle of pain going on and on... Today we look into Blam...
46m Sep 26, 2023
46m
S2 Ep19: How To Navigate The Impact Of Maternal Narcissism On Friendship
Do you find friendship with women to be challenging? Is it easier for you to make friends with men? As daughters of narcissistic mothers there are a few factors at play when it comes to opening up and be truly safe in trusting women, and it is important to be aware of all that before jumping to judgement both of yourself and others. In this episode we explore all that in depth offering a diff...
51m Sep 19, 2023
51m
S2 Ep18: Don't You Have Enough Of Proving Your Narcissistic Mother Right?!
A provocative title for a provocative episode today! Don't you have enough of proving you narcissistic mother right?! I certainly do!! To know more about what I mean by proving her right, listen to the full episode! To know more or to apply for Reclaim Your Fullness Women Circle here is the link: https://womenreclaimingtheirfullness.me/women-circles/ To know more about the offer of a 10 week...
28m Sep 12, 2023
28m
S2 Ep17: The 1 Thing To Avoid If Your Mother Is A Narcissist
When you hear a woman speaking about her mother like she is her best friend, how do you feel? When you scroll on social media and see women that made it, that healed everything, that have the perfect everything, how do you feel? Do you feel truly inspired, or maybe happy for them?? Or do you use their success as a measure for your failures? When the result of meeting a woman that is doing v...
1hr 1m Sep 05, 2023
1hr 1m
S2 Ep16: 3 Ways A Narcissistic Mother Can Destroy Your Confidence
How many times has your mother criticised, dismissed or ridiculed your ideas? How many times has she told you what you think is nonsense? How often has she told you she didn't have time to listen to you? And what does that do to your confidence??? In this episode we look into the 3 main ways a narcissistic mother can destroy your confidence, but is it truly destroyed or....? Listen to the end...
47m Aug 29, 2023
47m
S2 Ep15: 2 Pillars To Healing Loneliness Resulting From Maternal Narcissism
Do you ever feel super lonely even when you are surrounded by people? Or maybe loneliness hits you all at once the moment things get quiet around you?  And maybe you have tried keeping busy, buying things, getting distracted by stuff, yet that crushing feeling is still there. You feel so alone...  Being brought up by a narcissistic mother leaves us with the belief we do not deserve love, or...
52m Aug 22, 2023
52m
S2 Ep14: Is My Mother Really A Narcissist?
Are you confused by the meaning of narcissism? Are you wondering if the use of the word is truly appropriate for your personal situation? Words can be used and abused, and in time confusion on the real meaning of a word can come in, yet it is important to not get too caught with the word itself and understand the situation you are living and experiencing instead. In this episode my intention ...
45m Aug 15, 2023
45m
S2 Ep13: 4 Essentials to Survive a Visit With Your Narcissistic Mother
How do you feel after visiting your mother? Drained? Exhausted? Like she has sucked the life right out of you? I get it! And you are not the only one experiencing this right at this moment. If you find yourself in a position where you have to visit your narcissistic mother/family on a regular basis, you really need to listen to this episode. And indeed if you are still living at home, there'...
45m Aug 08, 2023
45m
S2 Ep12: When Your Inner Critic Has Your Narcissistic Mother's Voice
Can your narcissistic mother still control you by being a voice in your head?? Absolutely! And in this episode we are going to explore how that is, and how to break the pattern! Being a daughter of a narcissistic mother means having been trained from childhood to disconnect from your inner guidance system, so that you would follow what you were told. Growing up, instead of following your inn...
45m Aug 01, 2023
45m
S2 Ep11: How to Deal With Over-demanding Narcissistic Mother
Do you feel responsible for your mother? Do you feel guilty when you are not able to answer her every demand? If the answer is yes, how is that affecting your physical and emotional state? Your energy levels? Your life in general?? A narcissistic mother has plenty of ways to make you feel responsible for her. It’s important to remember that a narcissistic mother will do anything to be at th...
48m Jul 25, 2023
48m
S2 Ep10: Overcoming Inadequacy as a Daughter of a Narcissistic Mother
How do you feel when you are not on top of things? Do you beat yourself up? Do you push yourself harder? Do you feel ashamed, guilty, unworthy? If you find yourself doing a lot, always feeling exhausted, yet despite the bone deep tiredness you can’t even sleep at night, and your body aches and your mind never stops telling you what you haven’t yet done, it’s worth taking a moment and explore...
29m Jul 18, 2023
29m
S2 Ep9: How to Recognise Parental Alienation By Your Narcissistic Mother
How was/is your relationship with your other parent? having a narcissistic mother, chances are you suffered some degree of parental alienation without even knowing about it in most cases. Today I want to talk about parental alienation, what it is, how it manifests and the effects of it. A child who grows up being told by one parent that the other doesn’t love them and possibly never wanted th...
31m Jul 11, 2023
31m
S2 Ep8: 5 Steps to Unlock Your Potential, Free From Your Narcissistic Mother’s Manipulation
Are you living your life to the fullest? Are you going for that dream close to your heart or have you given up long ago? Do you even know what you would love to do? As daughters of narcissistic mothers we have learnt early on in life that trying something new, that going for our own ideas, it's not a safe choice. It's safer to conform to what was approved of, and often times we are not even s...
47m Jul 04, 2023
47m
S2 Ep7: 3 Main Reasons Why a Narcissistic Mother Acts Like That
Have you ever been told; "Because I'm your mother, that's why!" as if it justified every sort of behaviour from your mother towards you? I have, plenty of times! But what's the real why behind it all? Understanding why a narcissistic mother acts as she does, is not to justify her behaviour or to try to fix her, but is to help you understand, which in turn supports you detangling from many to...
32m Jun 27, 2023
32m
S2 Ep6: The 1 Key Secret to Successful Boundary Setting with a Narcissistic Mother
Breaking the cycle of maternal narcissistic abuse is about boundaries. Yes, boundaries. A word that has scared me for the best part of my life. I truly believed I could die if I ever set a boundary for myself. How do you feel about setting boundaries with your mother? Can you do it? Is it easy? Or does it come with a dose of anxiety, guilt, fear?? Narcissist will react very badly to boundari...
51m Jun 20, 2023
51m
S2 Ep5: The Worst Advice Ever If You Had a Narcissistic Mother!
How many times have you been advised to simply be yourself and it will all be fine? How often have you been told to just show up to whatever event or situation that makes you super anxious, and behave naturally, nothing to fear?? How often has it actually worked??? "Simply show up and be you" is in fact the worst advice to give a daughter of a narcissistic mother and in this episode we are g...
23m Jun 13, 2023
23m
S2 Ep4: Do You Apologies When You Cry?
I want to start today with asking you… Do you hide your tears? Do you wipe them away as soon as they fall? Do you apologize when you cry saying something like “It’s just me, I’m too sensitive”? Can you even allow yourself to cry at all?? If you answered yes to any of the above, I want you to know that you are not alone. Actually, you are in very good company, because many women who are dau...
31m Jun 06, 2023
31m
S2 Ep3: This Healing Doesn't Work! Am I broken??
Have you tried many different healing modalities without success? Have some being effective but only for a while and then back to feeling the usual struggles?? Today I want to speak to why that is. This is not about fixing some broken part of you into becoming perfect. You are not broken and perfect doesn’t exist. This is not about making unnecessary other healing modalities that can be ex...
34m Jun 05, 2023
34m
S2 Ep2: 10 Key Signs Your Mother is a Narcissist
In this episode you get to go through some of the main signs that indicate your mother is a narcissist or has some narcissistic traits. Understanding her behaviour is key for you to realise how much that has affected you as a child, and the impact it still has in your life as an adult. Years of inner work have brought me so far, but it is only when I realised that my mother was and still is a...
12m Jun 05, 2023
12m
S2 Ep1: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Podcast Trailer
Hello and Welcome to Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Podcast My name is Matilde and I am your host. The aim of this podcast is to support daughters of narcissistic mothers in regaining control of their life and breaking the cycle of pain caused by mother wounds. In this podcast we talk all things to support you understanding and dealing with your mother wounds, unlocking your potential and...
2m Jun 05, 2023
2m