STOP EXPECTING YOU FROM OTHERS
You don't understand the behavior because you would never do it. In today's episode, I dive into the emotional toll of trying to understand people who treat us in ways we'd never treat them. I unpack the frustration and confusion that comes from expecting loyalty, honesty, and emotional maturity from people who just aren't capable of giving it. This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever asked...
18m May 05, 2025
18m
LACKING CREATIVITY AND INSPIRATION - how to get inspired and enjoy the creative process
Whether you're a podcaster, content creator, artist, or just someone feeling stuck, this episode's for you. I'm diving into the mindset traps that keep us from authentically creating and being inspired. Today's episode I talk about - The need to constantly be creating - Being too focused on others: Comparison/Following rather than leading - Perfectionism: Being too critical/Being scared of fai...
34m Apr 28, 2025
34m
SKINNYTOK AND TOXIC DIET CULTURE
Skinnytok is a side of TikTok where users talk about weight loss and give dieting advice. Although skinnytok may be helpful for some, it has caused extreme harm to others. Skinnytok often promotes extreme weight loss methods and unhealthy behaviors associated with eating disorders. In today’s episode, I talk about my opinion on toxic diet culture and my experience with an eating disorder. My i...
39m Apr 14, 2025
39m
FOR THE THOUGHT DAUGHTERS: how to stop caring what people think, comparison and setting boundaries - ADVICE SESSION #11
ADVICE FOR OVER THINKERS AND PEOPLE PLEASERS!!! this episode covers: - being okay with being disliked - how to not let something bother you - embracing confidence - how to stop comparing yourself to others - finding your boundaries regardless of what people think Trying Not to Care is sponsored by ZocDoc: go to https://www.zocdoc.com/TRYINGNOT to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor tod...
41m Apr 07, 2025
41m
BIRTHDAY BLUES - why does my birthday make me sad?
If you cry every single year on your birthday...this episode is for you 🧁 In today's episode, I talk about - birthday expectations vs the actual day - feeling unimportant - showing up for people that don't show up for you - how to tell your friends that your birthday sucked - making your birthday special and celebrating yourself BIRTHDAY EPISODE: https://audioboom.com/posts/8274226-hot-girls-...
27m Mar 31, 2025
27m
THE GRASS IS GREENER WHERE YOU WATER IT
In today's episode, I talk about "shiny object syndrome" and how people often look for the next best thing. People become so focused on what others have that they lose sight of all the incredible things and people they have! Instead of trying to find better, pay attention to what you already have. The grass isn't greener on the other side! The grass is greener where you water it! Good things ta...
28m Mar 24, 2025
28m
SPRING RESET: reinventing yourself and how to glow up mentally and physically
IT’S TIME TO GLOW UP. This past winter hit me HARD but with spring officially here, I felt inspired to talk about going from surviving the winter to thriving in the spring. In today’s episode, I talk about starting fresh, resetting and reinventing yourself, and how to glow up mentally and physically. Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Graza: Take your food to the next level with Graza Olive Oi...
38m Mar 17, 2025
38m
THE REALITY OF HEALING
Healing is hard…so let’s talk about it! In today's episode, I talk about ❤️‍🩹Feeling like you’re taking too long to heal ❤️‍🩹Losing yourself and trying to get back to “who you were” ❤️‍🩹Healing your past while being open to the present ❤️‍🩹Finding blessings in moments of breaking Trying Not to Care is sponsored by ZocDoc: go to https://www.zocdoc.com/TRYINGNOT to find and instantly book a top...
23m Mar 10, 2025
23m
IF YOU WANTED TO YOU WOULD
We've all heard the quote, "If they wanted to, they would." You might have even used that quote to determine how someone feels about you. In today's episode, we're using this type of thinking and applying it to ourselves. If you wanted to do something, you would. If you wanted to chase your dreams, you would. If you wanted to leave that relationship, you would. If you wanted to move across the ...
19m Mar 03, 2025
19m
A FRIEND TO ALL IS A FRIEND TO NONE
Have you ever opened up to a friend about a situation where someone deeply hurt or betrayed you, just to have that friend turn their back on you and befriend that person? In today's episode, I talk about what the quote "a friend to all is a friend to none" means, the importance of friendships, the fear of being disliked, the consequences of befriending everyone and how to navigate friendships w...
29m Feb 24, 2025
29m
LET GO OR BE DRAGGED - letting go of what no longer serves you
If you’re stuck in a situation that you’re unhappy in or you want to make a change but you’re scared, this episode is a reminder that NOTHING HAPPENS IF NOTHING HAPPENS. If you want your life to change, you need to make the necessary changes. In this episode, I talk about letting go of things that no longer serve you to make room for things that do. The longer you hold on to these things, the m...
33m Feb 17, 2025
33m
"Do They Like Me?" DO YOU LIKE THEM?
Instead of worrying if someone likes you, ask yourself, “do I like them?” Are they kind? Are they funny? Are they honest? Do they meet your expectations? Do they respect your boundaries? Are they living up to your standards? No? THEN WHO CARES IF THEY DON’T LIKE YOU. YOU DON’T EVEN LIKE THEM!!!!! Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Honeylove- Get an additional 20% off the @honeylove Holiday ...
40m Feb 10, 2025
40m
I’m Amazing, but I’m Not for Everybody
I started this podcast in 2022 when I decided to start taking social media seriously. I was so afraid of what everyone thought of me (hence why I called it Trying Not to Care), and I wanted to please everyone. I soon realized that no matter what I do, I cannot please everyone. Today’s episode is a reminder to not lose yourself trying to get approval from others. The things someone dislikes you ...
29m Jan 27, 2025
29m
The Power of Dream Interpretation with Natasha Dreamseer
THE FIRST GUEST EPISODE OF 2025! Welcome Natasha to Trying Not to Care! In today's episode, we delve into the fascinating world of dreams, exploring their significance, the emotional insights they provide, and practical techniques for dream recall and interpretation. Natasha shares her personal journey into dream interpretation, emphasizing the importance of cultivating a relationship with ...
58m Jan 20, 2025
58m
2025 INS AND OUTS
WE’RE SO BACK!!!! the first episode of 2025!!!! let’s talk about my ins and outs for the new year. IN ❤️ intentional screen time ❤️ reading and learning ❤️ investing in yourself ❤️ not having an aesthetic ❤️ showing up as your highest self ❤️ doing more of what you loved as a kid and romanticizing your life ❤️ being kind ❤️ investing in friendships and relationships OU...
35m Jan 13, 2025
35m
2025 Mindset - Important Things to Remember in the New Year
I CAN’T BELIEVE IT’S THE LAST EPISODE OF 2024!!!!!!!! So grateful to have spent this year with all of you. 🥂 Here are a few lessons I learned that I believe are important to remember in 2025. SHOP MY MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/ Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Nutrafol - Find out why 4,500 healthcare professionals and stylists recommend Nutrafol for healthier hair. Go to Nutr...
34m Dec 30, 2024
34m
What I Learned in 2024
Before the year ends, let's talk about a few things I learned in 2024. Every emotion has a hidden meaningThe people who say you can’t or won’t are usually the ones who are afraid you will Someone who becomes your enemy over a misunderstanding without trying to resolve it was always your enemy We are products of our past but we do not need to be prisoners of it You will bloom if you take the tim...
31m Dec 23, 2024
31m
Holiday Reminders
Holiday reminders for anyone who is struggling during the holiday season🫶🏻 We talk about 💌Don’t compare yourself to others and how their holidays lookYou don’t have to drop your expectations and boundaries to make family feel comfortableDon’t feel guilty for your eating and exercise schedule changing Don't isolate yourself15 days of holiday self care SHOP MY MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com...
40m Dec 16, 2024
40m
I'M ENGAGED
IN MY FIANCÉE ERA!!!!!!!!!! HOW IS THIS REAL LIFE?!?!?! Let's talk proposal details, the story of how Josh and I started dating, dating advice, and what my plans are!!!! AHHHHHHHHH💍 SHOP MY MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/ Trying Not to Care is sponsored by ZocDoc - Find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/TNTC Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Equip - You don...
35m Dec 09, 2024
35m
Building a Dopamine Menu
LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE NEXT TIME YOU’RE IN A FUNK AND NEED A LITTLE BOOST. In today’s episode, I share how to make a dopamine menu as well as what’s on my menu!! A dopamine menu is perfect for days when you’re in a funk, need a little motivation, or you just want some excitement in your life. What’s on your dopamine menu????? 🤸‍♀️💓💫🦋✨ SHOP MY MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/ Trying...
30m Dec 02, 2024
30m
To Be Cringe Is to Be Free
You're not cringey!!!! You just care way too much about what people think of you!!!! SHOP MY MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/ Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Cuddly - Donate to CUDDLY today! Head to cuddly.com/TNTC and help make a difference. Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Just Ingredients - Visit just ingredients.us and use code TNTC for free shipping on your order. Trying N...
31m Nov 25, 2024
31m
Things Get Messy Before They Get Better
If you’ve been feeling like things are falling apart and you have no idea what you’re doing…listen to this episode. SHOP MY MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/ Trying Not to Care is sponsored by ZocDoc - Find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/TNTC Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Equip - You don't need a formal diagnosis to receive care from Equip. Visit equi...
28m Nov 18, 2024
28m
The Answer to Your Question About Someone Is in Their Actions
This week has been a difficult one for me, as I’m sure it was for many of you. I went through 10 stages of grief, and I’m still crashing out as I type this.   I have received so many comments and DMs asking for guidance on what you should do if a person in your life has voted differently than you in this presidential election. I wish I had an easier answer for you, but I hope today’s episode g...
37m Nov 11, 2024
37m
Keeping Quiet Keeps the Peace
I was taught that keeping quiet kept the peace until I realized whose peace is it keeping? After voicing my opinion in a video last week, I received a few comments that read, "I used to like you, but now I need to unfollow." My first reaction was to laugh it off, but as I sat with it, I felt as if I did something wrong. I knew I stood behind what I said in that video, I was proud of myself ...
25m Nov 04, 2024
25m
Seasonal Depression, Cuffing Season, Finishing the Year Strong, Food Guilt, Holiday Spending, Skin Breakouts and Fall Fashion Tips - ADVICE SESSION #10
ADVICE SESSION #10!!!!! ALL THINGS FALL 🍂🌲🧸☕️🧣 In today’s episode, I’m answering your seasonal questions to help you get through the next month. How to deal with seasonal depression, being alone during the holiday seasons, balancing work and festive activities, feeling guilty about food, stressing about money, skincare tips and how to dress cool but comfy this fall!!!!! WANT TO ASK ME QUES...
40m Oct 28, 2024
40m
It’s Time to Start Checking Yourself
It's much easier to point out when someone else makes a mistake or is acting out of character than it is to check yourself. In today's episode, I talk about holding ourselves accountable and checking ourselves when we're not being the best that we can be. It's important to take a step back and look at how we're behaving and how we're treating others. It's not enough to talk about how good of a ...
30m Oct 21, 2024
30m
Thank You for Leaving My Life!!!!!
Thank you for leaving my life (I never would have walked away on my own)!!!!! In today’s episode, I talk about being grateful that relationships and friendships didn’t work out. Trying Not to Care is sponsored by CUDDLY - Donate to CUDDLY today! Head to cuddly.com/TNTC and help make a difference!Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Equip - You don't need a formal diagnosis to receive care from Eq...
35m Oct 14, 2024
35m
Overthinking Is OUT, Letting Things Be Is IN
If you can’t stop overthinking, listen to this episode.  Last week I went on my first brand trip, and it was INCREDIBLE. The days leading up to the trip, I was so nervous and was thinking about every possible thing that could go wrong. It got to a point where I almost backed out of the trip because I was overthinking and SPIRALING. Thankfully, I pulled it together and forced myself to go, and ...
28m Oct 07, 2024
28m
Fall Glow Up: A New Season of Life for You
I COULD CRY TEARS OF JOY THAT FALLS FINALLY HERE!!!!! Today's episode is all about glowing up this new season. As the seasons change, so should you! Listen to this episode if you want to become a better version of you, change your mindset, switch up your routine, or just be more present this season. We're talking new priorities, being intentional, making changes, and things I'm doing this fall ...
47m Sep 30, 2024
47m
In My Saying No Era
If you're a people pleaser, listen to this episode. We are stepping into a new era where we are saying no to other people so we can say yes to ourselves. Here are a few things that I am going to be doing less of for my own good.Not taking on more than you can handleNot being contactable 24/7Staying away from people who make you feel badNo longer being negative or meanNo longer allowing disrespe...
43m Sep 23, 2024
43m
Your Direction Is More Important Than Your Speed
If you’ve ever felt like giving up because things aren’t working out the way you planned, listen to this episode. There’s been so many times where I felt discouraged because I saw others achieving things quicker than me. I would doubt myself and think that I was less deserving or even believe that things just weren’t going to work out for me. Today’s episode is a reminder that it doesn’t matter...
31m Sep 16, 2024
31m
Listen When a Bad Day Hits
This is your reminder that it's only a bad day, NOT A BAD LIFE. If you're feeling down or things just aren't going your way, listen to this episode. I talk about being consumed with negativity, feeling your emotions, taking things slow, doing more of what you enjoy, letting go of what you can't control, and having gratitude for the little things. Trying Not to Care is sponsored by FÜM - To...
30m Sep 09, 2024
30m
What Your Life Feels Like Versus What It Looks Like
It can be tempting to make your life seem much more luxurious and interesting than it actually is. We think if we post videos at a cool party or photos of us in an expensive car, it will wow others and make them envy our lives. But what is more important? People thinking our lives are so cool, or us actually enjoying our lives? Instead of focusing so much on trying to curate this perfect image ...
20m Sep 02, 2024
20m
Big Sister Advice (Juicy and Unfiltered) - ADVICE SESSION #9
Episode 126 ADVICE SESSION #9! I asked you on Instagram what big sister advice you needed and today I'm answering your questions. QUESTIONS I ANSWER IN TODAY'S EPISODE: Should I give the ugly guy a chance? How to feel comfortable with my sexuality and coming out? How to not get nervous before kissing someone? How to shave down there without it hurting? How to put a tampon in for b...
36m Aug 26, 2024
36m
Be the Most Interesting Woman in the Room
#125 I used to have a lot of social anxiety and was afraid of how people perceived me. I didn't think I was cool or interesting, and I didn't think people would like me. Before going out, I would always have so much anxiety because I didn't know how to talk to people or what to talk about. In today's episode, I share tips on how to be more confident and become the most interesting woman in the...
30m Aug 19, 2024
30m
I Don’t Want to Be Around What I Had to Heal From
You don’t have to spend time around people who have hurt you or engage in things that you’re no longer interested in. In today's episode, I talk about my experience with not wanting to be around certain people after taking time to work through things and heal. If I spent a year getting over a friend who hurt me, why am I going to hang out with someone who treats me the same exact way? If I spen...
29m Aug 12, 2024
29m
Girl Therapy and Free Self Care
Self care doesn't have to cost money. In today's episode, I'm sharing some free self care ideas as well as my girl therapy favorites. If you're looking for ideas on how to cheer yourself up or romanticize your life, listen to this episode!  Trying Not to Care is sponsored by FÜM: to get a free gift with your Journey pack go to - https://www.tryfum.com/TNTC Trying Not to Care is sponsore...
36m Aug 05, 2024
36m
Breaking to Reinvent Yourself (Hitting Rock Bottom Is a Blessing)
At the end of 2021, while I was working at my old job, I was struggling with my mental health, personal issues, and paying bills. I felt so lost in life and was so unhappy with my situation.  Up until this point, I made excuses for why I couldn’t leave my job and pursue posting on social media full time. Excuses like, “What if I don’t make money? What if I can’t pay my bills? What if I emba...
23m Jul 29, 2024
23m
Confusing Control for Love
This one is for all the lover girls that try to see the best in everyone. In today’s episode, I talk about confusing control for love, my past relationships, what love is and is DEFINITELY NOT!!!!! SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe here Revolve, Amazon Storefront and more:...
33m Jul 22, 2024
33m
Romanticizing Your Summer on a Budget
If you're having FOMO watching others enjoy their summers in the Hamptons, are unable to afford the trending summer products you see on TikTok, or are feeling bad about yourself after seeing "aesthetic day in the life" videos online, listen to this episode. Today's episode is a reminder that you don't need to spend a lot of money (or any money at all) to enjoy your life. I walk you through my i...
29m Jul 15, 2024
29m
Fear of Being Perceived: Life Is About Experiencing, Not Being Perceived
LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE IF YOU ARE CONSTANTLY WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU. Being a successful content creator has always been a dream of mine, but I didn't start pursuing that dream until a couple years ago. The reason it took me 10+ years to start posting online is because I was afraid of others thinking I was cringey and making fun of me. I look back on those years with regret, but...
29m Jul 08, 2024
29m
DO IT FOR HER (Her Being You)
Instead of being motivated to prove others wrong, be motivated to prove yourself right. In today's episode, we're talking about becoming the person younger you always wanted to be, making your inner child proud and having self discipline. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe ...
30m Jul 01, 2024
30m
Being the Backup Friend, Moving on After a Friendship Breakup, Being Single and How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex - ADVICE SESSION #8
WE’RE BACK WITH THE ADVICE SESSIONS!!! In today’s episode, I’m answering a few of your questions about friendships and relationships. If you’re struggling with moving on after a friendship ends, want to forgive your bestie after they hurt your feelings, are unsure if you should stay single, or want to stop thinking about your ex, LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE.  COVERED IN THIS EPISODE ✨When a good...
33m Jun 24, 2024
33m
Your Body Isn’t the Problem, Your Mindset Is
TW - This episode talks about sensitive topics such as body image, weight and disordered eating. Lately there's been this conversation online where people are working out, out of fear of "being fat" rather than to be healthy or to feel good. It makes me so sad to hear people speak this way about themselves and spread such a harmful message. In today's episode, I share my experience with disord...
32m Jun 17, 2024
32m
What I Can Control vs What I Can’t
Listen to this episode next time you’re frustrated over something that’s out of your control. Things don’t always go our way, but just because they don’t, doesn’t mean we’re at a complete loss. This episode is a reminder to focus on things you do have control over and let go of what you don’t. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's ...
40m Jun 10, 2024
40m
Summer Favorites and Maintenance Routine
HAPPY JUNE!!!! Let's kick this week off with a suuuuuuuper chill episode. Here's my summer favorites and my summer maintenance routine to look and feel my best this summer. I give you recommendations from hair care, skincare, makeup, high maintenance routines, supplements, food and movement! Products mentioned: Amazon Summer Products Skin Gym mask Face Sculpting Tool Espressoh Highlighte...
34m Jun 03, 2024
34m
Moving on Without an Apology
I hope you heal from the things no one ever apologized for. This episode is for anyone who has been hurt by someone and has struggled to move on because there was never any apology or closure. Today we’re talking about moving on without an apology and healing with or without that person.  Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Betterhelp. Visit betterhelp.com/TNTC to get 10% off your first mon...
23m May 27, 2024
23m
Things I'm Letting Go Of
I try to go into every year with an idea of the things I want to accomplish as well as the person I want to be. With it almost being half way through the year, I want to talk about some things I'm letting go of. These things, I believe, are holding me back from reaching my full potential and doing more harm than good.  Things I'm letting go of: Beating myself up over past mistakes when I didn'...
33m May 20, 2024
33m
3 Daily Wins
With it being Mental Health Awareness Month and following last week’s episode, we’re talking about 3 daily wins. A lot of my stress and anxiety come from wanting to be successful, which leads me to overwork myself and put my needs on the back burner. I’m slowly starting to learn that there’s more than one way to be successful. If you’re taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and spirit...
29m May 13, 2024
29m
Rest Is Productive
After struggling with burnout, I thought it was only right to come back and speak about how I’ve been feeling as well as the pressure to always do more.  I think a lot of us struggle to actually relax because society has made us believe that taking a break is a bad thing. Whenever we take time to slow down, we feel guilty, like we could be doing something more productive. Today I break down why...
29m May 06, 2024
29m