08 - Eleanor O'Brien and Polyamory
In LA, Kirsten finds a sound studio through a guy she met on OKCupid and records a Skype interview with the amazing Eleanor O'Brien. Eleanor is a theatre practitioner and creative director of Dance Naked Productions. She's currently touring the Canadian Fringe Festival circuit with her semi-autobiographical show 'Lust and Marriage', which is all about the noble art of polyamory. Kirsten and Eleanor nerd out about the intricacies of developing and maintaining polyamorous relationships and bond over the struggle of trying to do things differently.
Find Eleanor online: http://dancenakedproductions.com/ Twitter: dancenaked IG: dancenakedproductions
Topics covered include: -Trying to not fall in love with casual partners -Ayahuasca answers -Why bother getting married... or divorced? -Eleanor’s vision for a relationship utopia -To have rules or not to have rules in open relationships -Getting over your partner being attracted to other people - jealousy as a manageable emotion -Shifting from non-monogamy to polyamory: being a feelings monster -Dealing with parents who lived through the '70s hippie poly experiment: “we tried it and it didn’t work” -Expensive but judgy therapists -Poly shaming -Poly as feminist activism -“Branching out" and upping your sex game -Awesome threesomes -Poly and kink and personalities and acting and improv and characters and poly! -The lack of poly narratives in popular culture -Meeting boyfriends on okcupid -Adult Friend Finder!
Books we geek out on:
‘The Ethical Slut’ by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54944.TheEthicalSlut?fromsearch=true&searchversion=service
'The Giving Tree' by Shel Silverstein http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/370493.TheGivingTree
'More Than Two’ by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/21955937-more-than-two?fromsearch=true&searchversion=service
‘Sex at Dawn’ by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/7640261-sex-at-dawn?fromsearch=true&searchversion=service
‘What do Women Want?: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire’ by Daniel Bergner http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16065700-what-do-women-want?fromsearch=true&searchversion=service
‘Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships’ by Tristan Taormino http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1128665.Opening_Up
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