S1, Ep 6 - Pregnancy and Parenting in a Lesbian Relationship
Season 1, Episode 6, Nov 29, 2021, 12:00 AM
In this week’s episode we’ll be talking about the experience of being pregnant and a parent, within a lesbian relationship. My guests are the wonderful Kate Everall and Charlotte Ulett.
In this episode Kate and Charlotte highlight the challenges faced when trying to become pregnant in a lesbian relationship, including the financial demands that come through IUI and IVF costs, the support they received from friends and colleagues, and the language used around partners of those who chose to carry the baby.
There are some really small considerations that can be made by anyone working in the birthing world when working with same sex couples, that can help both parents feel included, and I loved hearing them. It was such a joy to hear both Kate and Charlottes experiences and I hope that one day same sex couples who wish to grow their family get the support they need much quicker. I hope you enjoy the episode.
Guest Bios:
Kate Everall
Kate is one half of an award-winning LGBTQ Family, Travel & Lifestyle Blog called Lesbemums. Based near Brighton, East Sussex she writes about life as a Two-Mum family and everything in between. From raising a son in a Two-Mum household to their travels and days out. Over the past 8 years she's also written about LGBTQ History and current affairs as well as shared her favourite LGBTQ-inclusive books for children.
► Follow Lesbemums on Instagram HERE
► Lesbemums Website: click HERE
Charlotte Ulett
I first met Charlotte as a Bump Plan Member and I really enjoyed hearing her journey to pregnancy and I wanted to know more about the challenges faced when trying to become pregnant in a lesbian relationship. Charlotte and her partner Katie have been together for 5 years and they started trying to conceive in November 2020.
► Follow Charlotte on Instagram HERE
A Word From Our Sponsors
Penny and Lola
This episode of ‘Bun in the Oven’ is sponsored by Penny and Lola.
A family-run children’s company, born in lockdown, exclusively bring you: The Happy Song Toys. If you’re a parent, or a Youtube fan, I can almost guarantee you have heard the incredibly catchy song by Imogen Heap – ‘The Happy Song’. If you’re not sure what I mean you can watch the video HERE.
The founders of Penny and Lola’s new baby was soothed, like so many babies, by the video of ‘The Happy Song’, and an idea was sparked to recreate the lovable characters - Cat, Badger and Rabbit in cuddly toy form, which my daughter Freya absolutely adores! So much so that when we gave them to her, her first words literally were “I just love them so much Mummy”.
The song was designed to make children happy, so these cuddly toys are intended to do exactly the same. Cute, and quirky, each toy is soft and fluffy and has squidgy beanie arms and legs perfect for little hands to hold onto. Each toy is baby safe and CE and UKCA certified.
With the purpose of sharing happiness the founders of Penny and Lola felt it was important to support a cause that is really deserving, and chose the NSPCC - so you know with each purchase, the happiness will spread a little further.
► As a listener, you can use this exclusive offer of 25% off all Penny and Lola toys by using the code BUNINTHEOVEN(all caps, all one word).
► Head to the website www.pennyandlola.co.uk
► Follow them on Instagram @penny_andlola
The Bump Plan
This episode of Bun in the Oven is also sponsored by The Bump Plan.
Given the theme of this podcast I imagine that some of you are currently pregnant or planning a family. So many women I know just aren’t sure how to move their body safely during this changing time? Or they want to stay active but need someone to show them the way and hold their hand? That’s where the Bump Plan comes in. The Bump Plan is a holistic prenatal fitness plan that allows you to work out with confidence at each trimester of your pregnancy.
Founded by myself, Hollie Grant, The Bump Plan has already helped over 30,000 pregnant women stay active safely, and feel empowered throughout their pregnancies. Through its trimester specific workouts in which I am always at the same stage of my pregnancy as you will be in yours, hypnobirthing subscription, and extensive Education Hub, you’ll feel supported and part of a welcome community.
Let me help you move safely through your pregnancy, maintain your fitness and strength, and enter parenthood strong and prepared for all the demands it poses.
► As a listener of Bun in the Oven I am offering you £5/month off the cost of your monthly subscription to The Bump Plan simply by entering the code 'bun' at checkout. To get started today simply head here and enter the code 'bun' at checkout.
Join our community today and stay strong throughout your pregnancy
► Follow The Bump Plan on Instagram HERE
In this episode Kate and Charlotte highlight the challenges faced when trying to become pregnant in a lesbian relationship, including the financial demands that come through IUI and IVF costs, the support they received from friends and colleagues, and the language used around partners of those who chose to carry the baby.
There are some really small considerations that can be made by anyone working in the birthing world when working with same sex couples, that can help both parents feel included, and I loved hearing them. It was such a joy to hear both Kate and Charlottes experiences and I hope that one day same sex couples who wish to grow their family get the support they need much quicker. I hope you enjoy the episode.
Guest Bios:
Kate Everall
Kate is one half of an award-winning LGBTQ Family, Travel & Lifestyle Blog called Lesbemums. Based near Brighton, East Sussex she writes about life as a Two-Mum family and everything in between. From raising a son in a Two-Mum household to their travels and days out. Over the past 8 years she's also written about LGBTQ History and current affairs as well as shared her favourite LGBTQ-inclusive books for children.
► Follow Lesbemums on Instagram HERE
► Lesbemums Website: click HERE
Charlotte Ulett
I first met Charlotte as a Bump Plan Member and I really enjoyed hearing her journey to pregnancy and I wanted to know more about the challenges faced when trying to become pregnant in a lesbian relationship. Charlotte and her partner Katie have been together for 5 years and they started trying to conceive in November 2020.
► Follow Charlotte on Instagram HERE
A Word From Our Sponsors
Penny and Lola
This episode of ‘Bun in the Oven’ is sponsored by Penny and Lola.
A family-run children’s company, born in lockdown, exclusively bring you: The Happy Song Toys. If you’re a parent, or a Youtube fan, I can almost guarantee you have heard the incredibly catchy song by Imogen Heap – ‘The Happy Song’. If you’re not sure what I mean you can watch the video HERE.
The founders of Penny and Lola’s new baby was soothed, like so many babies, by the video of ‘The Happy Song’, and an idea was sparked to recreate the lovable characters - Cat, Badger and Rabbit in cuddly toy form, which my daughter Freya absolutely adores! So much so that when we gave them to her, her first words literally were “I just love them so much Mummy”.
The song was designed to make children happy, so these cuddly toys are intended to do exactly the same. Cute, and quirky, each toy is soft and fluffy and has squidgy beanie arms and legs perfect for little hands to hold onto. Each toy is baby safe and CE and UKCA certified.
With the purpose of sharing happiness the founders of Penny and Lola felt it was important to support a cause that is really deserving, and chose the NSPCC - so you know with each purchase, the happiness will spread a little further.
► As a listener, you can use this exclusive offer of 25% off all Penny and Lola toys by using the code BUNINTHEOVEN(all caps, all one word).
► Head to the website www.pennyandlola.co.uk
► Follow them on Instagram @penny_andlola
The Bump Plan
This episode of Bun in the Oven is also sponsored by The Bump Plan.
Given the theme of this podcast I imagine that some of you are currently pregnant or planning a family. So many women I know just aren’t sure how to move their body safely during this changing time? Or they want to stay active but need someone to show them the way and hold their hand? That’s where the Bump Plan comes in. The Bump Plan is a holistic prenatal fitness plan that allows you to work out with confidence at each trimester of your pregnancy.
Founded by myself, Hollie Grant, The Bump Plan has already helped over 30,000 pregnant women stay active safely, and feel empowered throughout their pregnancies. Through its trimester specific workouts in which I am always at the same stage of my pregnancy as you will be in yours, hypnobirthing subscription, and extensive Education Hub, you’ll feel supported and part of a welcome community.
Let me help you move safely through your pregnancy, maintain your fitness and strength, and enter parenthood strong and prepared for all the demands it poses.
► As a listener of Bun in the Oven I am offering you £5/month off the cost of your monthly subscription to The Bump Plan simply by entering the code 'bun' at checkout. To get started today simply head here and enter the code 'bun' at checkout.
Join our community today and stay strong throughout your pregnancy
► Follow The Bump Plan on Instagram HERE