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true fulfillment in love. I am your host, Heather Garbett.

Welcome. Hello, everybody. I'm here today with the wonderful Monica

Douglas. She is a, an old and dear friend of

mine. We met years ago in Los Angeles doing a

joint training with Catherine Woodward Thomas and we've had a

heart centered connection ever since. Even though she now lives

in Barbados most of the time. Yeah. She is the

initiator and inventor, creator of Wild Heart wisdom and we're

here today to talk about Opening to Love. Let me

tell you a bit about her. Before I introduce her,

she's a certified relationship coach, the founder of the Wild

Wisdom, which offers guidance to professionals who are navigating healthy

relationships, post breakup or divorce and through mentoring her beautiful

oracle cards and meditations. She helps clients deepen their instincts

and expand their intuition. And she does that by 1

to 1 or group coaching, spiritual guidance workshops and retreats

for people of any faith. Her mission stems from personal

experience recovering from a 27 year relationship using her own

tools with 25 years plus of experience. She's certified in

conscious uncoupling and calling in the one coaching, wellness coaching

and yoga instruction. Her diverse expertise and compassion, a compassionate

approach, make her a valuable guide towards healthier, more fulfilling

relationships. Welcome, Monica. Oh Thank you, Heather. Thank you for

that introduction. Great to be here. Oh, it's lovely to

see you. So tell us how we open to love.

Um So the first thing I wanna say about that

is love is all around us and the process is

are releasing any barriers that are in the way to

us receiving that, which is all around us. Our state

is that. And this exploration of the wild wisdom is

is recognizing that we are natural beings, we're nature and

we're divine at the same time. And in the space

in between is where we get the joy of connecting

with ourselves to others in life in order to open

to love. Mm mm So I know you use your

wild heart wisdom to do this. Can you tell me

a little bit about how that works and what people

can experience as they go through it? Yeah. So wild

heart wisdom is part of the wild wisdom. So the

wild wisdom looks at the body, the heart, the mind

and the soul and being aware of uh connecting with

our intuition in the body. Oh sorry, uh instinct in

the body, our intuition in the heart, our insight in

the mind and inspiration from the soul. And in this

discussion with you, I really wanted to focus on wild

heart wisdom because it's talking about how we open our

hearts expand into intuition and again, allow ourselves to see

in the different aspects of our life where love is

flowing and where it may be blocked. Hm Yes, there's,

there's so much can get caught up with old baggage

that we carry in all of those areas. Body, soul,

heart, mind. Yeah. Yeah. Um So the wild wisdom is

about it all. We're not missing anything out because actually,

it's a holistic system when we are focused on love

and relationships, that makes sense for the entry point to

be the heart and to be uh intuition him. So

that's why I wanted to speak to you about what

hot with them today. Um That's wonderful. So tell, tell

me the process that people go through when they come

to you. Can you give us a case study so

that we can show how it works? Yeah. So, um

this is foundational work for my coaching and some people,

it's the first, it's the first time that they would

connect with me through the Wild Wisdom and the Wild

Wisdom article. So the oracle cards are a set of

44 oracle cards within a deck, there are 11 that

are focused on wild heart wisdom. Now, those of you

who are listening won't be able to see. But if

you're watching this on the video, you will. So these

are the Wild Heart Wisdom cards. They have um a

number of aspects to them. There's a color associated with

each card. There's a central mandala that is the same,

but in a different color way for each card, wild

heart wisdom at the top and at the bottom, there

is a paraphrase or mantra which focuses on an aspect

of our life and connected life such as this one,

I love my past. So in if somebody is coming

to me and their first entry point is through the

card, they will either receive a card or be listening

to the meditation that's associated with that card and seeing

what comes up. And the idea is we, there's a

five minute meditation for each of those cards. And in

that meditation, we're in the space of connecting with everyone

who's ever been with this. Everybody who thought about whether

they love their past through the wild wisdom and then

we're going to connect with everybody who might be looking

at that card or connecting with the energy of it

right now. So thinking about all the people who are

contemplating right now on this podcast, I love my past

and then thinking of anyone who will be gazing at

this card contemplating this reflection in the future. And we're

part of this community of people who are opening up

to loving their past. And by doing this, we also

release the sense of we're doing this alone. We're not,

we're not journeying alone, we're journeying together. And when we

do our work, it helps others to do their work

to and in the contemplate and in the five minute

meditation, there's a, an invitation to look at whether that

paraphrase that statement is true or not. And in that

reflection often, what isn't true about that starts to make

itself known, starts to move from the unconscious to the

conscious and then we can do some work on it

because once it's in our awareness, we can come to

coaching, we can ask for help, we can ask for

support and say, actually, I need to make peace with

this in order for love to flow freely through this

aspect of my life. Hm This is really beautiful. I

love that sense of this being a collective venture, a

collective adventure, collective journey, past, present and future. If we're

talking about the past, I love my past. I, I

love that, that it's, it takes away that aloneness that

you talk about because sometimes it can feel like I'm

the only one doing this. Yeah. And that's miserable and

it mirrors probably pieces of the past where you felt.

I am alone, lonely and the dispiriting and the energizing

quality of that. So you're giving energy to begin with

by creating that connection with each and every person who

is contemplating. I love my past. Yeah, I love that

piece and then moving into through meditation. So you're going

deeper in, you're really evaluating and bringing to light because

so much of the time we're living stuff out because

we're not conscious of it. So you're bringing to the

light, the stuff that's in the way the barriers, the

blocks, the encumbrances and that the stuff that gets stuck

in your body. Um So bringing that to light, bringing

it into awareness is great clarity and there's possibility of

movement and this is so beautiful. What you've devised is

so beautiful. All of the aspects of the cards have

different questions and meanings and statements for so many aspects

of love. It's a real innovation, Monica, it's beautiful and

the way that you work with it is just gorgeous,

gorgeous. So another aspect of the cards is the central

Mandala which has sacred geometry. I don't know if you

can see that there. Heather. Mm It's beautiful. The Pod

podcast. I will put uh an example that you can

link to um the card that I just drew was.

I love my family. Mm And there's a central Mandala

and it's an opening. It's an opening lotus with three

drops dropping down from the heart to the solar plexus

to the sacrum, the abdomen and then to the base

of the body. And it's as though in our collective

meditation and contemplation, we're opening up our heart to this.

I love my family being true. And as we do

it, it may be that that isn't true for us

right now, our sense of um connection might not be

there. And what we're doing is leaning on the support

of others and our collective to open up to what

it might be and how it could be if that

were true, whether it's, it may not be possible with

our uh born family, but we can create a new

family, we can create that which we desire. And by

opening up to that, releasing the blockages from how it's

been in the past, we can create and generate a

new future. So interesting that that one was the one

that was drawn second. And you and I are sort

of like that, aren't we? I don't think we're quite

as close as sisters would be, but I think we're

good cousins. Absolutely. I definitely love you. As my family

ever. Mm. Yeah. That's harmony. Yeah. Ok. Could you give

us another example because I, I just love them. You

know, I'd, I'd love to have you, have you draw

another card and see what else comes? I'm a little

bit hooked now. Yeah. Absolutely. Um, so I'm going to

just move through and see what comes. So I said

is, I love my friends. It's a beautiful radiant turquoise.

There's the central mandala again, inviting us to open up

our hearts to this space of all who have ever

contemplated. I love my friends, all who are contemplating now

and all who will contemplate in the future. I love

my friends and this community of the wild wisdom and

drawing it in drawing in the possibility of the truth

of this. I love my friends into the heart and

then letting the essence of this drop down, drop down

uh into the solar plexus, down into the abdomen and

the sacrum down into the root. I love my friends

and then down into the earth as though you're planting

a seed for it, a seed for it to blossom

in your life so that you attract exactly the right

friends. The people who love, accept and respect you as

you are where you can have honest and open conversations

where you can thrive and grow and be encouraged to

be more of who you are. Mm This is beautiful.

What I'm experiencing as we talk is that sense of

being part of a wave together, that this work that

you're doing is exemplifying that all aspects of love. We're

part of a, a rising tide of love in the

world. And when the tide rises, we know all boats

rise together. So we're in a mission together and you

in particular to raise as many boats as possible. And

I love it that you're doing it so deeply. It's

not just one aspect. No, because your wild wisdom involves

movement. You're very sensitive to the body, you're an interfaith

faith minister so that you've got all aspects of spiritual

life within you uh your heart we know about. Absolutely.

And you have a crystal clear imagination and intuition and

created beautiful things in these cards. And there's something that,

that keeps on for me. It's like it is like

watching a lotus flower, watching you develop in your work

like petal after petal unfolding and more developing. And that's

what you're offering to people more and more and more.

And we talked about before we recorded some lovely questions

to ask. Yeah, sitting with the card and exploring. Is

this true for me? Is there something that would need

to change? How am I showing up? What choices am

I making? What needs to shift and grow in me

to fully express? Say I love my friends. Yeah. Love

it. I love it. Yeah. It's been so beautiful. I've,

I've held um 244 day meditation circles. So people, they've

got the cards, they're sitting with them, we're doing the

five minute meditation at some point during the day and

then just, you know, checking in with one another and

in those circles it's been beautiful. The responses. I'm gonna

read one. Actually, somebody sent me the most beautiful um

response. Um on day 43 of the 44 this was

her response. I've just written in my diary. I love

being me. I love who I am. I've never had

that thought in my being now it's planted. How lovely

is that? Mm Who gave me the chill? Yeah. When

I got it, I was so touched. He about this

practice is so simple. Like people are like, oh yeah,

you know, but actually there's something so deep and powerful

about it like because it's so simple. And I, these

came to me three years ago, Heather, I was in

Barbados. I had a download, started writing bits of paper

on the, on the wall with blue tech with these

phrases, these words, these images that were coming to me.

And um I had the courage to, to keep with

the creative process. And there were times when I was

like, why don't you just get these out there? And

it was like, no, not really. It's more work to

do one again. It was like, actually I really needed

to embody these qualities in order to share them. Then

I could share them with a small group and, and

we've evolved them over time and now it feels like

it's time to help share these with whoever it is

will resonate with them. It won't be for everyone, but

it will be for some. And if people receiving this

guidance, helps them to open up to giving and receiving

more love, the work will be done. Yeah, it's beautiful,

beautiful. I was thinking, you know, we were chatting a

bit beforehand talking about not being literal mothers, but somehow

each of us in our different ways are giving birth

to things in the world. I'm giving birth to my

podcast. You're giving birth to your cards and it feels,

but you really needed that pregnant pause to really incubate

them. And again, you know, right through to embodying, it

makes me want to close my eyes as we're talking,

you know, you're embodying. It's in your imagination, your third

eye. I think it's in your throat shaker of communication

to your heart, your courage, your base creativity and your

rootedness, you know, beautiful, beautiful. Yeah. Born into the world.

Yeah. And it's, it's wonderful and, you know, like, like

this podcast ever, it's like a, I would say a

soul inspiration. It's something that only can be borne uniquely

through you. Um It's only something that could be borne

uniquely through me, but it's not, it's not mine. This

is, this is life wanting to create this and um

and to show it. And as I said, it's a

foundation of my coaching work for me. Some of my

clients use this process, some of them don't, but I

need to use it in order to inform the space

and to really hold the energy for people to have

their breakthroughs to see what they need to see, hear,

what they, they need to hear and feel what they

need to feel in order to move into greater love.

Mm So how can people join in one of your

meditation circles or how can they get hold of your

wonderful cards? Yeah. So people um can look for the

wild wisdom and Monica Douglas on all of the socials.

You'll find me. Um We currently have a Kickstarter going

for the, the cards to be produced, which is helping

with the um printing and the marketing and the sending

of them out into the wild. Um And I have

a, a link tree and I'm hoping that I'll be

able to just put that underneath the podcast Heather and

then people can just connect with me where they feel

the right place at a time. That's right for them.

Oh, that would be lovely. That would be lovely. Is

there anything else you would like people to know that

we haven't covered for me. It's the power. You know,

one of the things about the cards and about the

daily five minute meditation is, it's a ritual. It's a

ritual that anchors us back into the spirit of love.

And I feel that we need them. We need these

rituals. We need these reminders to wake us up out

of the trance. Because some days it's really hard and

something as simple as a beautiful card with a picture

that reminds us to breathe into our heart. That reminds

us that we are not alone, that we are connected

to other people. And it reminds us that we can

choose to open for love in this moment can be

so precious. Um So I want to encourage people to

do that. And if anybody just wants to try um

try a meditation, just connect with me. I will draw

a card for you and I will send you the

meditation. So I want to, I want to share this

and to make it accessible to people as possible. So

get in touch, I would love to hear from you.

That's lovely. Thank you so much Monica. Oh, thank you.

Thank you. Thank you, bless you and thank you for

all that you're doing to, to bring these loving voices

into the world. Thank you. Thank you so much for

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