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Hello and welcome to Revolutionize Your Love Life.

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Do you want to know more about love relationships?

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What makes them work?

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How to create the one of your best dreams?

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Do you want to be in a really healthy,

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juicy love relationship?

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In these podcasts, we will give ideas and

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practical advice to light your way.

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Whether you're looking for a love partner,

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already in a relationship, you wish could be better.

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Or leaving one that has run its course.

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There will be something to inspire, empower and support you.

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Revolutionize Your Love Life is a fortnightly podcast where you will access

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the knowledge and wisdom of love experts and

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relationship coaches from across the world to help you find true fulfillment in love.

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I am your host, Heather Garbett.

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Welcome.

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Do you love your body?

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What is your connection with your body?

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Regarding the statistics, about 80% of women don't like their bodies.

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Because they don't fit to the standards.

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They, one of my clients told me, I don't look like that ladies in that magazine.

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So I don't like my body.

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It's, I just don't like it.

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They are so, they're not good, it's not nice.

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How about you?

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How do you love your body?

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I think it's really essential to really love your body, accept your body

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your way as it is.

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It is essential for you to attract a guy who will love your body as well.

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Because it usually doesn't matter how you look like, but how you feel in your body.

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It shows your attraction, it shows your right ideas.

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What do you think, Heather?

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I absolutely agree with you.

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And the other side of things is,

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if we all had to have perfect bodies, like the ones in magazines, we'd all have to be

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airbrushed and photoshopped before we went out in the morning.

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And if nobody who looked like, who didn't look like that was, well, I'm going to get

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this the right way around.

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If we all had to look like that, Heaven's above, who would have a relationship?

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If you had to look like that in order to have a relationship, none of us would.

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None of us has that perfect Hollywood styling.

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But for me, the most important thing is how we are in our body.

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Like you say, loving your body.

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It's a difficult thing when you've got all that coming against you for perfectionism.

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I remember speaking to a beautiful woman.

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She was naturally radiant.

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She loved herself, but she had this thing about her neck.

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She said it looked wrinkly and who's ever going to look at me with a neck like that.

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And I was really shocked that she said it.

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My reply to her was, who on earth is going to be looking at your neck with a face like

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yours?

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You're so loving and radiant and attractive.

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Nobody's going to notice any imperfections about you.

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The man you truly desire for the woman, I think, it was the man for her.

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The man you truly desire when you want you as you are.

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Absolutely as you are.

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I know Mike Lance, actually, she wasn't also so sure about her body because she wasn't

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very slim.

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She was a little bit bigger.

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And then when she called in her one, he loves her and accepts her completely.

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And for her is the biggest thing.

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Like that he hugs her and loves her and strokes her like completely accepting her body.

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And she told me that she struggled with her body.

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But with his support, she's actually experiencing something unbelievable.

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Which is so amazing.

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And it's always start with us because it's like we know that we should love our body,

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that we should love ourselves.

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But the thing is how we can do it.

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How?

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What is the how?

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Because it's good information, but how to do it.

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And it's what how we support our people in our plans and process of calling in the one.

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Because this process is not only about calling in the one to your life, but it's also about

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calling you and yourself to really know who you are.

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And yourself with your beliefs, also with your struggles, with your experience and

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but also with your body.

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And one of my kind kind told me that she hated her body.

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But after seeing her seeing the movie about Marilyn Monroe, she said, Oh, actually, my

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body's a little bit like hers.

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Maybe not so bad, you know, and it's completely changed her perception of her body.

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Now she's also a little happily married.

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So beautiful, so beautiful.

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And I remember talking to somebody who said that the end of the session, she'd always

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been evaluated by her former husband as, you know, if she was the right dress size or

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the right measurements, you know, the right weight.

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And it really blocked her from having a relationship.

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But we've worked together now.

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And she's so much more comfortable with her body.

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She says, you know, I've got an hourglass figure.

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I never realized before I was so busy being measured.

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And the conversation in her head was the same as that with her husband, always measuring

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herself.

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And this is something else that we addressed in calling in the one is how you talk to yourself.

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It's that inner conversation of love that's so important.

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Yeah, so she now talks to herself about, you know, I have a wonderful hourglass figure.

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And in the second half of my life, and I can run 5k, how beautiful is that?

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And for myself, you know, I've got one leg, two centimeters shorter than the other.

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And that's from birth.

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And I could sort of say, well, you know, that makes me feel wonky.

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And it sometimes gives me back and shoulder pain because of the things being there to

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the alignment.

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But I'm just so grateful because whatever repair they did to my hip has enabled me to

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walk for 65 years and to run and skip, you know, just live.

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It's brought me into, you saw it go on.

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It's brought me into connection with some lovely people.

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You know, the people that adjust my shoes, they're just so loving.

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So I have a raise in my shoes and I choose shoes that can be raised.

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And so I end up having conversations with people in shoe shops and shoe repair people.

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They were just so sweet.

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They want to love me and I just love the whole thing about it.

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It's a beautiful header.

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And it's what is it about?

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Like our body like supporters to live in this life, in this physical body.

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So you just said because of your body, even you have a little shorter leg, you can walk,

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you can laugh, you can, you can enjoy your life.

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You can smell the flowers and it's about to really see what we can do because of our body.

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It's really like admire our body for, for it because we can walk, we can laugh, we can

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walk, we can walk, we can do so many things because of our body.

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It's not something what is obvious.

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And we take it as a, of course, we have our body.

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And when you really get that your body is so important part of your life, then do you

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start to accept it and treat it in different way?

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That's beautiful.

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I remember working with a lady who got stretch marks from having twins.

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And so they were quite big stretch marks.

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Obviously she carried quite big bulge in front of her and she was so ashamed of them.

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She didn't want her husband to see them, you know, when they were dating and she would

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get into bed so he couldn't see them.

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And we talked about it and over the weeks she said that they, they are the marks of giving

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me two beautiful children.

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It's just so lovely, just so lovely.

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And she really adjusted to it.

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And eventually she allowed him to really see her.

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And it was so beautiful, so beautiful because he was as adoring of them.

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You know, these are your children.

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These are your children.

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You said you stroke her tummy.

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Yeah.

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And it had to bring a lot of freedom and relaxation in their intimate life as well because when

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we are in the pressure that, oh, he can see me and we can really enjoy the intimacy.

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And it's again another part of loving your body.

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It's like enjoying your intimacy with your partner, your husband, because like when you

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accept your body, you can even enjoy the lovely moments with ease.

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And because sometimes when we are to worry about something in our body, we are, we keep

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controlling ourselves.

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And it always, it always stops us to really enjoy the moment, enjoy the love we can experience.

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So another part of it is so important to accept your body and love your body that you feel

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relaxed in any time with your husband, with your partner.

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Lovely.

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Making me feel warm thinking about it.

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So shall we tell them about our courses then?

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Yeah, definitely.

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So we would like to start.

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Yes.

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We are running a calling in the one intensive eight week course that begins at the end of

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February, I think the 20th February.

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Yes.

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2.30 on a Tuesday afternoon.

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It goes over a span of nine weeks because we've got a week off in the middle.

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And before that, so you can get a real taste of it and see if this is what you want.

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We're running to zoom webinar workshops and they are both at 2.30 and one is on Tuesday

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the 13th of February and the sooner one is on Tuesday the 30th of February.

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January, January.

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Thank you, pardon?

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The first one is next week actually on Tuesday.

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Yes.

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Shall I save all that again, then?

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So the 30th of January, which is Tuesday next week at 2.30 and then the 13th of February

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at 2.30, which is also a Tuesday.

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Yeah, and we can also write it underneath of this video that you can just click and join

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us.

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We will share the links to our Zoom calls and you can, for this first two, you can join

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us for free and you can experience our work and also you can really dive deeper into your

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desires.

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Yes.

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Yes, we've designed this so that even if you just come to the free one, you'll get a lot

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out of it.

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It's desire is the name of it and it touches all the points in calling in the warm and

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a few others besides just to give you a really rich experience.

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And then after that, you can choose if you want to join us on our small group program.

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Yes, so we can't wait to see you.

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Yeah, it's lovely.

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Thank you very much.

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Thank you so much for listening to this episode of Revolutionize Your Love Life.

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I'd like to know what has been your biggest takeaway from this conversation.

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Do take a minute and share this with us and visit us on our Facebook page.

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You can connect with me personally on my email at Heather@HeatherGarbert.com.

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If you can think of someone who will benefit from listening to this podcast, please do

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share it with them.

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If you have any feedback on how I can improve it, please do reach out to me as I'm always

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keen to learn more.

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Thank you so much again for listening and we'll meet again on the next episode of Revolutionize

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Your Love Life.

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You are good.

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You are good for my heart.

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You are good for my heart.

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Thank you.

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