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Hello and welcome to Revolutionize Your Love Life.

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I am your host, Heather Garbitt.

Welcome.

How many times have you created a visualist of your dream

partner and you still don't have anyone?

We are both relationships coaches,

Heather Garbitt and Eva Andryson,

and we would like to share with you our experience

with the visualist goals and intentions.

Thank you, Heather.

Yes.

What is the difference between a wishlist, a goal,

and an intention?

It's a big question.

It's a big question.

A wishlist is--

Sorry, go on.

You can go.

It's OK.

Thank you.

A wishlist is just that.

It's a load of wishes.

And a goal is a sort of mental construct,

and it requires just concrete action to aim towards it.

Whereas an intention is something so much deeper.

Would you like to explain that, Eva?

Yeah, I would like to go as well back to wishlist,

because wishlist, as you said, is a lot of wishes.

And sometimes it's like coming through.

It would be good if we have that.

I would like to have this completely disconnected

from what we really want.

Like, it's like, oh, it would be good.

And maybe it's even good for us, but somebody told us,

or we heard about it, or we saw it somewhere.

It might be good.

And the goal, as you said, it's something like that.

It takes some action.

It's about doing stuff.

But intention is something very higher.

And intention is mostly about being.

Why need to become, actually, to have this fulfilled?

What is really important to me?

Intention is always connected with us.

But also, the dream can be bigger than we can even imagine.

Because the goal is something like, if I

will be myself, I can do stuff, and maybe it will happen.

And intention is really why need to become

that I fulfill my intention, that I have all these feelings.

And I can experience what is really important to me.

Yeah, Heather, would like to add something to this.

Yeah.

Yeah.

When we become, it's who we would have been,

without all the cross-currents of emotional neglect,

or even abuse, the lack of expressed love in a language

that we could really understand it.

That really creates a sense of lack inside us,

and by loneliness we were talking about before.

It creates a sort of cut-off feeling in ourselves.

And it makes it more difficult for us

to have the relationships, or even express ourselves

in the way that we would really want to.

So the work that we do in setting an intention

is to be who we would have become without those cross-currents.

But if you go back to your little self,

and you feel how vibrant and innocent, and powerfully

creative you were, that's who we want you to be in adult form.

It's important-- sorry, go on.

You'd say the next piece that you want to say.

I'm going on and on.

No, it's OK.

Yeah.

It's actually sometimes it needs a shift in our identity,

because sometimes we generate life from the wounded part

we don't know about, or with our survival part, with death.

Like I call it always the mask.

We create it to really be good in life, self-sufficient,

or very good in doing stuff.

Like, heroes, sometimes people are heroes, like achievers.

Yeah, high achievers, it's actually survival mode.

Like, to be able not to feel the inner feeling,

like feeling good enough, you are a high achiever.

And sometimes it can get us later in life, that we burn out,

or that we feel unhappy, not fulfilled inside,

because just we need to achieve and achieve more and more,

or be a superhero, or be more self-sufficient,

that we show our value, and it's not sustainable.

And we create a lot of pain.

And there is something in the middle,

which we usually can't see without help of coach.

That is your true self.

And you actually transform your wound.

You don't need to be achiever anymore.

You can really create life from more inner peace,

from love, and from joy, from wonderful self-care.

And it's from that place that you can choose

and detract somebody that will match that quality in you.

Like, if you're doing it from your masked self,

from your false love identity, from your adapted child,

you're likely to attract somebody who's the same as that,

or their jigsaw piece fits with that.

Whereas if you are, you're fully developed self,

and we're always developing,

you're likely to attract someone who is fully developed as well,

who's mature, who's got secure attachment style,

and can meet you there, and then you can create and live together.

Yeah, and this is the magic.

Yeah, and also it's about really be connected to yourself,

because you become the right partner for your right partner

through this process.

And we've had a video calling in the one group coaching,

and we can support you to really connect with your true self

and really become your right partner for your right partner.

And knowing what you really want to fulfill,

how you would like to feel in your relationship,

what you really would like to experience.

And so many people don't know.

Usually, so they're bad experience,

they know they don't want to feel anymore,

or they don't want their relationships.

But if they just think about it, they always have it back.

And also, if you also don't change yourself and your patterns,

you'll record all the time the same or similar relationships.

And it would like you to have Elsie one, the better one,

the one you deserve.

Yeah, absolutely.

And we both have found that calling in the one

is a really good process for doing this.

So we're going to run the course for eight weeks,

starting at the end of February, 20th of February,

where we'll take you through calling in the one step by step

in a small group so that you can be held and supported

while you do this and have the benefit of our wisdom

and insight and coaching as you go.

And we're going to do the two introductions

so you can have a taste before you decide.

And then they are, could you say the dates and times?

The first one is 30 of January from one 30 UK time.

No, actually two 30 UK time and three 30 European time.

And the second one is, I think, I don't know,

I don't know the date actually.

I think that one's on the 19th, I think.

19th of February. 13th and 19th, yeah.

Yeah, if you are interested, we definitely can send you

all the details, just send out the message or email.

We can send me the email on Eva@andreson.cz or to header.

That's HeatherGolbert.com.

Yeah.

And we would love to meet you.

We would love to support you.

We can even have 30 minutes free conversation with us

before you start the training with us.

It's sort of the offer because we are a big stand for love

and health relationships.

We want you to be choosing the partner of your best dreams

and intentions in 2024.

And we want you to be doing this in the most easy,

relaxed, comfortable, joyful, loving and abundant way

and healthily.

Yeah.

And actually the group,

little group of people always have saved container

of support and openness.

And it's a pleasure for me and Heather

to support people on this journey.

And we are always thrilled by great success of people

and their sharing of their dating and their,

like finding new way how to pursue relationships

and dating and especially themselves.

Yeah.

Wonderful to see.

We get great feedback.

So we hope to see you then.

Love to see you all.

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♪ You are good ♪

♪ You are good from my heart ♪

♪ You are good from my heart ♪

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