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Hello and welcome to Revolutionize Your Love Life.

Do you want to know more about love relationships?

What makes them work?

How to create the one of your best dreams?

Do you want to be in a really healthy,

juicy love relationship?

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practical advice to light your way.

Whether you're looking for a love partner,

already in a relationship, you wish could be better.

Or leaving one that has run its course.

There will be something to inspire, empower and support you.

Revolutionize Your Love Life is a fortnightly podcast where you will access

the knowledge and wisdom of love experts and

relationship coaches from across the world to help you find true fulfillment in love.

I am your host, Heather Garbett.

Welcome.

Hello everybody.

We're here to talk to you today about calling in true,

committed, romantic love.

I'm Heather Garbett, psychotherapist of 40 years and

now a psychotherapeutic coach, coaching calling in the one.

And I'm here with Eva.

Do you want to introduce yourself, Eva?

>> Yes.

Hello, everyone.

I am Eva Angiessen and I am relationship coach and

I've worked as a coach for last, then in half years.

Welcome, Eva.

So we want to tell you some success stories from some of our clients.

So you get a feel of the work that we do.

Last year was a really lovely year for me.

There were three marriages and two new babies.

One of those was a woman who'd had a really bumpy ride in relationships.

She'd had people who were very controlling or very dismissive,

who had her in a state of fear.

She couldn't be herself in relationships.

They treated her like a workhorse or like a sort of service supply for them.

It was really painful to watch.

And over the time we worked together, she really got through to the root of

the problems in her early childhood, an absent father and absent mother.

She was loved by her mom, but her mom was away quite a lot.

She needed to for working to support her, but her father just abandoned her.

So she had no real model of constant present love.

And it was so painful to see.

But I'm delighted to say that she's had her second,

coming up for her second anniversary.

With a man who is more than she could ever have imagined.

You know, she said to me the other day that he looks at her now and says to her,

"Wow, you're mine. I can't believe you're mine."

They love each other deeply.

They travel together.

They do some work together.

They're an inspiration to people around them.

And it was so lovely attending their wedding.

Yeah, I love these success stories because it always filled my heart with joy and love.

And for example, I would like to share one lady who got married last year

and we expecting her baby in April this year.

When we met in calling in the one group, she was very upset.

And she didn't believe in love anymore because her boyfriend left her and her little baby.

And she wasn't interested about her and her baby.

He didn't even say any money to support them.

And it was just completely dismissing the baby and her.

And it was so hard.

She was like not believing in men, not believing in love anymore.

She was just hiding.

And she didn't want to put herself in the market again, like in the love again

because she was so worried that it will be painful again.

And through the process, she really got that she can trust herself

that it's possible to have health relationship.

It's possible to be loved again and trust guy again.

I think it was by the end of the program a little bit later,

she started to date.

Amazing guy.

Well, she married last summer.

And actually, when she had the wedding, he gave the ring not only to her,

but also her little girl.

So like she was like marrying both of them.

And actually now they went through the court.

And it's like processing that she, little girl is going to have his surname as well.

And also that he will be like his father, like that going through adoption now.

And her little sister will be born in April.

So it's also very lovely to see when we actually stop to be fearful because of the past.

And we open again ourselves to possibility to love.

So I love this possibility and what it can open, how it can change lives for people.

So joyful, isn't it?

I feel so proud of them too.

And they've done their work.

You can see how different they are at the start.

I was talking to a lady this morning who said she's so different.

She's working on calling in her wand.

She's in the middle.

And she's she's had a difficult set of family relationships.

That this Christmas she stood her ground with.

She was so much bigger in herself.

And she said, I see now why I wasn't able to call in anybody

because I was so collapsed in myself.

So emotionally drained and fearful.

And now you can see the difference.

She's radiant.

She's standing tall.

When you're talking about this, it just came.

I had the story of my client and she was so happy last week on our call

because she was preparing herself for the divorce for about three years.

But she was so worried and scared to put the divorce paper.

So she contacted me in May last year.

So I support her to get through the divorce and get her to gals to her custody.

And then when she like it was even actually quite quickly,

the divorce within about six months.

And then she she signed up for calling in the wand.

And but she wasn't sure that she's completely ready.

But later on she was very so the process she was opening her heart.

And she can't even imagine that she had already two guys interested in her.

Second one, it's like she feels so relaxed with him.

He listens to her.

They have beautiful, beautiful moments.

And she told me, oh, I didn't think that I can experience it.

But if butterflies interbellum, I would be 50, you know.

So she said, I can't believe that in May I was so fearful.

And now I am really joyful.

And she actually is also buying new house because she realized that she can make it financially.

So she's so happy, completely different person from like from less than a year.

So I loved what's this process calling in the van and even conscious and coupling with it also

with our clients can help how it can help to people to change their lives for better.

Yes, yes.

And I'm thinking of her lovely lady I worked with a couple of years ago.

And she'd had a 30 year marriage and that ended with her husband having an affair.

And we did conscious on coupling and we're about to do calling in the one and she'd read the book.

And then she met the love of her life.

It took her breath away.

She couldn't believe it.

And they'd been talking on the phone, you know, and then they met.

And the chemistry was there as well.

And they just built their lives together.

They just set up and built their lives together.

And they're so happy.

They're so relaxed.

And that's the thing when you when you really are right for each other and you can be yourself.

That's what she said.

I can just be myself.

I can just relax.

I know he's got my back and I've got his with together facing life,

not me on my own trying to work out how to manage my husband with together.

We're working together.

So joyful.

Yeah, and it's so joyful and so important.

Like to be yourself in relationship with authentic.

It's a lie level.

So what we have with my husband that I can be completely authentic and he's there for me

and supports me.

And I think that it's essential for loving relationship to feel that

that a person is interested in me in my feelings, in my needs, in who I am.

So yes.

Yes.

And the other piece that the skills in relationship that we learn is to be able to

speak up when we're asked to know what our feelings and needs are and be able to communicate

them, which is not in our culture very much, you know, to be assertive with your feelings.

Oh, it's very difficult, particularly, you know, if the past hasn't welcomed that in our

childhoods, that's not been welcomed or nurtured or understood.

So we haven't got the skills and that's why our relationships don't work.

We have old beliefs about ourselves about whether we are welcome with a partner

and then we have all the lack of skills and don't know even if we're with a partner how to

have a relationship and you just described, you know, how it can be to have a beautiful

relationship where, yeah, you have conflicts, but you deepen through conflicts.

It's not the end.

Exactly. And it's what we can support you with, what we can teach you and support it also shift

in your life. I remember one lady from our group from spring, do you remember her?

Like she was so scared to go online, do you think?

And in the end, she did.

She was so disappointed that she wanted to cancel it.

But by mistake, she, I think, extended or something, yeah?

And then she started to date. Amazing.

And she is now in love.

So it's always like overcoming our beliefs and really in support of the group, it's beautiful

that you are inspired by each other. You are encouraged by each other and it gives you so much

support and power. So if you would like our support, we start calling in Durban,

group coaching at 20th of February. It will be on Tuesday for eight weeks or actually for

nine weeks because we have one break from 230 UK time for one and a half hour.

And if you would like to have a little taster, we will have two webinars, 30, or January,

which is next Tuesday and 13th of February. Also on Tuesday, both 230.

UK time, which is 3-30 European time. And you can actually come and see if you would like to work

with us. Yeah. And we'll put the Zoom links for those meetings, two different Zoom links in the

comments. And hopefully we will see you there.

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You are good for my heart.

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