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Carl Yung says no matter how isolated you are and 
how lonely you feel if you do your work truly and

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conscientiously unknown friends will come and seek 
you no matter how many friends you have you could

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always use one more your own Dark Side everybody 
has a dark side but most people are unaware of it

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this is one of the most important things K Yun 
has brought to light during in his career as a

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psychoanalyst Dr Yung along with Sigman Freud 
and Alfred Adler was one of the founders of

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modern depth psychology or psychoanalysis after 
some time Yung separated from Freud's teachings

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to pursue his own beliefs he founded his own 
School of Psychology alongside the field of

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analytic psychology among yung's published books 
are psychology of the unconscious man and his

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symbols the the archetypes and the collective 
unconscious Modern Man In Search of a soul the

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psychology of the transference memories dreams and 
thoughts and the relations between the ego and the

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unconscious one of yung's most important teachings 
was about the self and the psyche the psyche is

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what some people would consider to be our soul or 
mind and it encompasses our Consciousness as well

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as our unconsciousness the self is the psyche and 
all its potential the totality of who you are and

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who you could become our Consciousness contains 
everything we're aware of and in contrast the

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unconsciousness houses everything we are not aware 
of Yung became immensely famous for his theory on

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the individuation process an almost step-by-step 
plan that seeks to fulfill your psyche's potential

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by trying to make the unconscious ious the most 
important part of the unconsciousness to focus

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on for this practice is what Yung called The 
Shadow or your dark side the shadow contains

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all the aspects of yourself that you'd rather not 
have and are in denial about your bad traits and

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darkest side the shadow is what you try to 
pretend you don't have even to the point of

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convincing yourself examples of traits the shadow 
could house are explosive anger jealousy Envy

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greed Pride laziness vanity and so on generally 
we tend to be completely unaware of our shadow

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it's in our unconscious but the suppressing of 
your unconsciousness is exactly what sustains

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unhappiness inauthenticity and misery while you 
might think your Shadow sounds more like your

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enemy than your friend in this video we'll explain 
why that's not true and why you should consider

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your dark side your friend number one your dark 
side can reveal your true self Carl Yung says

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no Noble well-grown tree ever disowned its dark 
roots for it grows not only upward but downward

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as well a defining part of your Shadow is the fact 
that you don't know it that's why it's called the

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shadow everything you know about yourself is in 
the light all the other things are behind it in

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the shadows and in order to befriend your dark 
side it's vital to shine a light on your Shadow

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to truly try and get to know yourself remaining 
ignorant about your unconscious and especially

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the shadow is very dangerous in theory when you 
repress your bad traits you only show your good

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ones but in fact you can never truly remove bad 
traits whatever you push down is bound to Bubble

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back up during unexpected uncontrollable moments 
for example the repression of your anger will

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result in sudden outof the blue outbursts every 
now and then in the most unpredictable ways the

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same goes for any other undesirable trait if you 
ignore your flaws they will always control you

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the denial of our Shadow Self however feels very 
natural it's difficult to try and look straight

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into the aspects of ourselves that we despise 
or fear the most how could someone who takes

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great pride in their kindness and generosity ever 
acknowledge their raging Envy how could someone

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who sees themselves as fully confident ever 
address their insecurities well in most cases

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they don't if someone sees themselves as a highly 
confident person they'll probably ignore and deny

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their insecurities but that doesn't mean they're 
not there instead they might subconsciously avoid

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facing their insecurities by avoiding certain 
situations not wearing certain clothes and so

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on people who remain in denial about certain parts 
of themselves have to stay in their own bubble in

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order to avoid running into those parts if you 
pretend to be confident you'll always have to

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avoid anything that could bring your insecurities 
to light but true confidence comes from facing

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your fear and insecurities and doing so can only 
be done by recognizing them or in other words by

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recognizing Your Shadow how can you work on 
something that you don't even know exists

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since you cannot improve what you don't know the 
first step of growing beyond your weaknesses is

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to get to know them how by interrogating yourself 
get to know the deepest darkest side of yourself

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this won't be easy it takes time effort focus 
without distractions and you have to keep the

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conversation flowing take some time out of 
each day to ask yourself what behaviors did

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I exhibit today why did I do the things 
I did what motivated me what was I afraid

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of today the best ways to reflect on these 
questions that Yung recommends specifically

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are through meditation journaling or drawing 
when it comes to drawing Yung specifically

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recommends focusing on drawing mandalas drawing 
something especially something as symmetrical and

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simple as a mandala relaxes your brain and will 
help your thoughts focus on all the things that

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you normally suppress moreover the kinds of 
lines you draw and colors you choose can tell

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you things about yourself do you use round soft 
shapes or harsh lines cold colors or warm colors

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and what do you think this reflects if you analyze 
yourself through mandalas every day week or month

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you can track your growth and changes in a way 
you never have before another particularly helpful

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aspect to examine when it comes to exploring your 
Shadow is how you view others one big consequence

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of suppressing your bad traits is Extreme and 
often unfair Judgment of others portraying that

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very trait you want want to convince yourself 
you don't have for example if you've convinced

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yourself you're never lazy and you've suppressed 
your tendency to be lazy into your Shadow you'll

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quickly brand others as lazy even if you don't 
have enough information or context to do so this

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is called projection instead of accepting the 
fact that you might feel lazy every now and

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then you project that trait onto others suddenly 
everyone you see sitting down or taking a break

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is lazy and you judge them harshly even unfairly 
for it so when you sit down to explore Your Shadow

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take the extra time to ask yourself who did I 
judge today why what traits do I find the most

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despicable in others and why and do I ever feel 
a tendency to portray that trait too however you

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do it make sure you set aside a certain time to 
spend reflecting like in evening before bed or

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in the morning before work getting to know your 
Shadow is a difficult and NeverEnding process

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since you're always changing but it's also one of 
the most rewarding things you'll ever do once you

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get to know what it is that you push away you 
get to know what drives you the most and what

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truly makes you you after having gotten to know 
your Shadow you probably won't like it in fact it

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might dis disturb or even disgust you you don't 
want to associate with anything you found let

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alone befriend these traits but that is what you 
need to grow as a person number two your dark side

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can give you advice according to Yung one does not 
become enlightened by imagining figures of light

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but by making the darkness conscious allow your 
new friend the shadow to give you advice every

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now and then no matter how badly you might want it 
to be false Your Shadow is part of you and every

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single part of you can be helpful in different 
kinds of situations for example Your Shadow

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might be made up of greed anger childishness 
and laziness not an ideal friend sure but what

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positive qualities might these traits house a 
greedy friend might inspire you not to settle

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when you could have more maybe in order to avoid 
being greedy you've always been overly generous

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denied yourself luxuries or convinced yourself you 
don't deserve whatever your Shadow wants however

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being the opposite of greedy can backfire in 
many ways greed is of course a bad trait and

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generosity is greatly appreciated but those who 
find no balance between the two do themselves

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no favors if you want to get a raise at your job 
you often need to ask for it if you want to lift

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from a friend you should reach out and tell them 
if you want to treat yourself every now and then

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you should be able to instead of ignoring your 
greed see it as a friend telling you you deserve

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more you might disagree from time to time but you 
should at least hear it out moreover take anger

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someone who's always angry isn't Pleasant to be 
around that's true loads of people especially

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those who want to be seen as kind easygoing 
or gentle repress their anger all the time

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they hide it in their Shadow and never look at it 
repressing anger however allows it to Fester which

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can lead to sudden outbursts or even serious 
mental health problems besides that anger can

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actually be incredibly useful when your friend in 
other words you is angry ask yourself why anger is

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often a basis for fairness and Justice sometimes 
the anger you feel is very much appropriate and

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can serve as a motivation for you to stand up for 
yourself so like with greed instead of repressing

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your anger you should listen to your Shadow as if 
it were a friend saying hey you should be angry

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about this and then decide whether you agree or 
not a childish friend might show you what it's

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like to regard the world with Wonder and enjoy the 
little things lazy friends will teach you how to

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relax and take breaks the longer you think about 
all those bad traits you'll start to realize just

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how many upsides they have and in turn you can 
show this friend how to balance all these traits

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and only give into them when it's useful to listen 
to these pieces of advice and put them to good use

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you need to acquire wisdom that's hidden in every 
single part of yourself even the parts that seem

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bad in order to befriend Your Shadow you have 
to look past the discomfort of your bad traits

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and consider them truly and objectively once 
you know it's what's been holding you back you

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can actually use it to go forward so your friend 
gives you advice okay sometimes it will be bad

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advice but sometimes it'll be really really good 
advice advice that you'll only know if you accept

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your Shadow into your life number three your dark 
side can help you be unique in the words of Yung

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becoming conscious of your Shadow is the essential 
condition for any kind of self- knowledge getting

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to know your Shadow means getting to know a 
whole new side of yourself and this can also

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help you become your most authentic unique 
self repressing the shadow asks for a lot of

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pretending you have to pretend not to be lazy not 
to be scared not to be insecure and more people

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who ignore their Shadow the hardest are often the 
most inauthentic people because they're too busy

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trying to become what they think others want them 
to be rather than actually being themselves and

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worse they're in denial of their actual selves 
the shadow often houses the traits that are most

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unique to us because being different scares us we 
want to be like everybody else so we've convinced

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others and ourselves that we are but having shoved 
away all those traits that are unique and unusual

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it's impossible to embrace your uniqueness so 
getting to know your Shadow and seeing it as a

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friend giving you advice is the way to become your 
most unique full and authentic self listening to

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your Shadow's advice can help you come to Creative 
Solutions that you'd never have thought of without

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being conscious of your Shadow Solutions ideas and 
actions that are unique to you knowing your Shadow

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is vital for being proud of yourself and acting as 
such for example if you accept the fact that you

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were greedy you might suddenly realize you're 
great at advocating for yourself and what you

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deserve all the things you know about yourself 
thanks to your Shadow and all the things you

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now do better they all come together to make you a 
unique person moreover when your shadows conscious

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you'll face your deepest secret desires hopes and 
dreams you'll find that you have aspirations you

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had no idea of before befriend ing the Shadow 
and that you have personal goals in life that

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had been hidden to you before that moment living 
authentically looks different for every single

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person that's what makes it so authentic so living 
according to the shadow means breaking free from

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the norm and embracing your own ideas and plans 
discuss your life plans with your shadows ask

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your Shadow for advice and proposals and learn 
who you truly uniquely are by befriending your

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Shadow you can embrace your true self number four 
your dark side can fight you in our final quote

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from Carl Yung for this video he says beware of 
unearned wisdom like with any friend sometimes

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you and your Shadow will fight first and foremost 
when you don't acknowledge Your Shadow it will

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harm you this has already been discussed but it's 
important to reiterate that getting to know your

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Shadow is a continuing effort exploring the shadow 
is never fully over just like any friendship your

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relationship with your Shadow requires constant 
work and effort and neglecting it results in

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fights so what does fighting with your shadow look 
like an uncared for shadow will Express itself

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in New numerous ways unhelpful gut feelings 
outbursts unfair judgment towards others and

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self-consciousness this has also been discussed 
but even after you've accepted and integrated

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Your Shadow it can still trick you the advice 
Your Shadow friend gives you can be wrong the

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feelings you feel as a result of your Shadow can 
be deceptive and everything can become too much so

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sometimes our shadow Parts get the upper hand in 
an unhelpful way we get destructive instincts or a

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bad feeling your Shadow can tell you to get angry 
in a situation where it would be an overreaction

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or to relax when you should be putting the work in 
or to go against the norm when it simply isn't the

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time it's your job not to just listen to your 
Shadow blindly but fight it every now and then

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engage in discussions with it befriending your 
shadow requires patience all the time patience

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for yourself and patience when making decisions 
the shadow gets the most chance to destruct

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when you don't give yourself time to actually 
converse with it so fighting with your Shadow

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doesn't mean you should start ignoring whatever 
intuitions you have don't go back to repressing

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parts of yourself instead carefully consider 
and interrogate your instincts and feelings

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in determining the legitimacy of whatever your 
Shadow advises you your rational thinking is of

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importance is what your Shadow telling you making 
logical sense what are the upsides and downsides

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to it does something feel right or not and why 
what is it about this option that makes you feel

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hesitant reflect on your decisions often Again 
by journaling drawing meditating mind mapping

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or anything don't make a decision unless you 
understand why you're making this decision

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confronting Your Shadow often is what truly gives 
it its helpful power make sure to fight it every

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now and then not out of anger or distrust but 
in order to make sure you remain sharp and get

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the best possible use out of your Shadow if you 
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