Tallgirl6234: Welcome to sense, sensibility, and chaos. Where we overthink every decision. So you don't have to. But let's be honest. You probably will.

BusySomethings: I'm busy the human version of an overflowing to do list. Constantly debating every option before inevitably picking the 1st one I saw.

WellReadHead: I'm well read, fully capable of deep research, and the perfect copy shop order. Copy shop. Yes, yes, we're we're making photocopies. Let me do that again.

WellReadHead: I'm well-read, fully capable of deep research, and the perfect coffee shop order.

Tallgirl6234: An I'm tall girl who makes a choice in 5 seconds or not at all. What is the worst that could happen.

BusySomethings: If choosing a movie takes longer than watching one. This episode is for you.

WellReadHead: So settle in and let's unravel the chaos of decision making.

Tallgirl6234: On today's episode. We're talking about the absolute exhaustion that comes with making choices, big ones, small ones, and the ones that somehow leave us, questioning our entire existence. Let's get into it.

Tallgirl6234: Little do.

BusySomethings: Also, I'd like to say that I laughed at Red so hard that my back popped. Text.

BusySomethings: Just let's put that out there. So a little bonus moment.

Tallgirl6234: You guys didn't edit these because I put like 6 seconds into it. And I'm like, surely they'll edit it. And I'm like they they left it exactly as it was.

WellReadHead: Here to serve.

BusySomethings: All right. So let's talk about some simple decision. Why, I should say why simple decisions. Feel impossible.

WellReadHead: Yeah, so there's actually psychology behind this. Um, it has to do with the levels of stress that you're feeling. So, if.

BusySomethings: All the stress.

WellReadHead: Yes, if you are highly stressed, person, the inability to make a decision that is. Simple, or that is non urgent.

WellReadHead: Actually goes away, you and you focus all of your decision making capabilities on the things that are. Of urgency or importance.

WellReadHead: As opposed to like. What movie do you want to watch. What do we want to order for dinner?

WellReadHead: Everybody's been there right where you ask your partner. What are we gonna have for dinner tonight? And they're like, I don't know. What do you want? You're like? I don't know. What do you want? And it just goes round and round that way.

BusySomethings: Yeah, I've learned to change that because I saw that.

WellReadHead: So, yeah.

BusySomethings: You would say, I don't care. And inevitably they're going to pick something I want.

BusySomethings: Nothing to do with, or I didn't realize I didn't want. So now I'm at the point where usually I will say I am open to.

BusySomethings: To to. Let's say we're doing dinner. I am open to dinner options. Except for burgers. Um.

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BusySomethings: Sushi, and. Anything that's like soup.

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BusySomethings: Like, you know. No ramen, or anything of that nature. But or I'll do the opposite, where I'll say.

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BusySomethings: Um. I'm I would be interested in. Excuse me, I would be interested in.

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BusySomethings: Burgers pizza. Or some form of Asian.

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BusySomethings: Do any of those. Um interest you.

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BusySomethings: And go that way because you're right. We can get into this whole circle of never picking. Well, what do you want? No, what do you want? But I want what you want. No.

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BusySomethings: I don't time for that. I'm hungry.

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WellReadHead: Mhm.

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Tallgirl6234: See on Youtube or something. It was a couple that they took one of those kid toys with an arrow, and they like pull a string, and it spins.

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BusySomethings: I saw that.

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Tallgirl6234: And they put like restaurants like, if we can't decide, we pull the string, and I'm like.

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BusySomethings: Brilliant.

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Tallgirl6234: This. This is genius like I don't care where we go. I will find something on the menu that I can eat. I'm not picky.

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Tallgirl6234: So I'd rather you pick the restaurant, because I will say like. You're reading off your list of no's, and I'm like I was torn between sushi or Udon for dinner tonight.

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BusySomethings: I meant for the situation.

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Tallgirl6234: I know, but it's like I'd rather you pick the restaurant you're happier with, and I will find something on the menu I can deal with. I'm less picky about it, because I'll eat more.

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Tallgirl6234: Weird and varied and random things. So I'm not stuck to like 3 restaurants. I can find happiness almost anywhere that doesn't involve Mayo.

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BusySomethings: I mean for me. It's it's anywhere that I could vary the level of spiciness, not seasoned or spiced. Just how spicy like.

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BusySomethings: Pepper hot, because.

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Tallgirl6234: I will say, and I have written this sometimes like. It's it's the choice of the person who makes the food. You and my mom share that white girl palate.

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Tallgirl6234: I have written in it like. No spice, whitest of white girls, with Mayo and raisin on white bread, sandwich level.

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BusySomethings: How dare you.

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Tallgirl6234: And then like it inevitably comes, and even I taste it, and I'm like this is spicy for me, like, why are you.

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BusySomethings: I.

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Tallgirl6234: Those people made a decision to ignore my very humorous and detailed like. My mom looks at a peppercorn, and her tongue starts to tingle, whereas I would like to just lick the ghost. Pepper 24, 7.

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Tallgirl6234: I don't know how I came from her. I am the end result of entire multiple generations of no spice. I got.

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BusySomethings: Got it.

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Tallgirl6234: All of it.

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BusySomethings: I'm still offended. You think in me of the white girl variety that will be putting raisins and Mayo, and anything like that. 1st of all. No, I am not a raisin fan in general. I can eat them if they're in like a cookie or something. I prefer them not to be.

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BusySomethings: And second of all.

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Tallgirl6234: I love braising.

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BusySomethings: You heinous witch, I season the hell out of my stuff. I am not that kind. That's why I said. Spicy, not seasoned because you've all seen my spice cabinet. And we know that both of all 3 of us will go wherever to find the appropriate seasonings for whatever cuisine we're cooking. So.

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BusySomethings: Fight your hateful tongue.

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Tallgirl6234: I'm sorry. And how do you feel about that? Substance referred to as.

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Tallgirl6234: Mayonnaise.

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BusySomethings: I don't mind mayonnaise. Okay, go heave somewhere else.

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BusySomethings: Um.

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Tallgirl6234: Yeah, I make choices every day. I make the right choices every day I avoid that moisture making substance.

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BusySomethings: That's fine. But I have an issue with you referring to me that kind of a white person who doesn't like mayonnaise, who will do mayonnaise and raisins. I hope your pillows are warm on all sides tonight. All your pillows.

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Tallgirl6234: Okay.

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BusySomethings: You pillow. Princess. You have pillows everywhere. I don't even know, you see, like that was a real rough. I got you.

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Tallgirl6234: Somebody drop raisins off at your house in bulk by accident may Costco misdeliver this year's raisin supply to your front door.

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BusySomethings: When you get an order of spam and mayonnaise.

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WellReadHead: Goodness.

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BusySomethings: Don't ask who did it. I'm gonna be. I'm gonna literally bring it myself.

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Tallgirl6234: Oh no! Oh no! I'll also be. I'll be reciprocating and kind.

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BusySomethings: Oh! That's let it start.

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WellReadHead: Meanwhile I'm just sitting here like I would love some sushi with spicy Mayo.

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BusySomethings: So. No, no! As long as I can alter.

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Tallgirl6234: This is one of our friends. We definitely balance.

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BusySomethings: Alter the level of spicy. And I don't eat raw meat like sushi, or like.

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BusySomethings: Stuff of that nature. Usually I can get around with everything else pretty much.

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Tallgirl6234: Are you trying. Like oysters. Tartare.

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BusySomethings: Mhm, I don't.

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Tallgirl6234: Like nothing wrong.

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BusySomethings: No, no, no! I've tried.

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Tallgirl6234: Did you try?

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BusySomethings: I'm better with that. But raw oysters, sushi!

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WellReadHead: I think there's good. You acids.

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BusySomethings: Nay.

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Tallgirl6234: I mean, it's not really cooked. It's chemically altered. I'll argue that point, but it's wrong.

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BusySomethings: Yeah, I know.

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WellReadHead: It's it's still a cooking process. Scientifically speaking, it's a cooking process.

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BusySomethings: And read, question.

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WellReadHead: Mhm.

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BusySomethings: Scientifically, speaking.

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Tallgirl6234: Don't even. I don't even know fully what you're about to say. But I'm like, don't even.

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BusySomethings: When you make a mayonnaise. Oh, I will go there with the mayonnaise, because my understanding, our our tall friend here.

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BusySomethings: The the egg. Isn't it cooked.

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WellReadHead: Yes, it is cooked through the. The actual process. Yes.

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Tallgirl6234: It doesn't. I wasn't arguing that the reason I didn't like Mayo is because I thought it was raw egg. I was arguing because it's an unnecessary invention.

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BusySomethings: You said that.

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Tallgirl6234: Pint flavor. Elsewhere people. Elsewhere, not inside the mayonnaise jar. It's.

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BusySomethings: Yeah.

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Tallgirl6234: Oh!

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BusySomethings: Oh, I love annoying you!

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Tallgirl6234: I would rather peel gum off the underside of the desk that wasn't mine. That is.

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BusySomethings: Uh our.

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Tallgirl6234: That's a choice I make every day of the average 35,000 decisions we make in a day consistently check off every day. 1st decision of the day. No mayonnaise.

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BusySomethings: Alright I mean.

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Tallgirl6234: 1,000 34,999 to go.

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BusySomethings: That's a lot.

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Tallgirl6234: That is a lot, I mean, I guess some of them are like more subconscious, unconscious.

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BusySomethings: I was just gonna ask, are they like, should I breathe.

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Tallgirl6234: I'm choosing not to like bring violence to the office today. Kind of stuff like.

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BusySomethings: How do we? How do they calculate that like. What? What constitutes to the making decision? Is it including.

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BusySomethings: Like your body, choosing to breathe.

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Tallgirl6234: I feel like this is somebody who also threw out there like 10,000 steps a day is whatever human being needs to be, a physically fit adult like.

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BusySomethings: Hmm.

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Tallgirl6234: I feel like this is like true, but also untrue, because you make choices all the time while I put the cap back on the toothpaste. If it's every little thing like, Oh, I'm not gonna hit this car, this car, this car or this car like 35.

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BusySomethings: Choice.

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Tallgirl6234: 1,000 non hit cars between me and my New York City commute.

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BusySomethings: Yeah. Fair, fair.

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Tallgirl6234: I'm done making decisions for the day.

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BusySomethings: Okay.

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Tallgirl6234: Although I wonder if you can sit there with a counter and really drive people crazy like I'm deciding. Oh, I'm deciding something right now.

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Tallgirl6234: Oh, bet you bet you don't know that I'm making decisions right, left and center.

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BusySomethings: I? Well, no. But what about if you're making a decision in your mind that you're not physically acting out.

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BusySomethings: Like, if if you're driving right now.

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WellReadHead: That's different.

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BusySomethings: But you're physically thinking of something else in your mind that has nothing to do with you driving. Does that count?

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Tallgirl6234: You can ask.

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WellReadHead: Yeah, it's an unconscious decision, but it's still a decision.

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BusySomethings: All right. I'm just. Fair enough.

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WellReadHead: Or not unconscious. It's conscious, but. It's not physical. It's not a physical thing.

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BusySomethings: So I think you know decisions. You you have to talk about decision, fatigue. And I think that.

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BusySomethings: Um. Modern life. There's just so much everywhere.

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BusySomethings: All the time. It's.

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WellReadHead: Yeah, absolutely. Are.

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BusySomethings: We have.

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WellReadHead: Too many too many choices.

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BusySomethings: Mhm, we have TV social media.

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Tallgirl6234: So.

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BusySomethings: Apps. Email phone text.

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Tallgirl6234: Clothing.

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BusySomethings: Everything. And and listen. It's good to have options. It is.

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WellReadHead: Whether you want to get out of bed.

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BusySomethings: But I think this is why so many people nowadays feel the fatigue of picking.

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Tallgirl6234: I think it's why, like Kim Kardashian's house makes me so nervous because it is like an empty cavern of nothingness like. Nothing is out, everything is organized, everything has a bin.

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Tallgirl6234: I think that is like for some people. It. It needs to be that way because everything else is chaotic. So therefore your house should have like.

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Tallgirl6234: The minimal amount of things. So you don't have to make choices. I have 2 sets of pajamas, one's in the washer, and one is clean. Therefore it's not really a choice. I wear the one that isn't in the washing machine.

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WellReadHead: Yeah, and there's something to be said for that, too, like people like Albert Einstein or Carl Jung, who had one outfit. And they were.

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WellReadHead: Multiples of that single outfit like white button down shirt. Brown tie, khaki pants and sneakers, and they have.

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WellReadHead: Multiple pairs of those things. So that every day they get.

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WellReadHead: Up. They wear the same thing. They don't have to make any kind of decision regarding that, and it leaves the brain open for more important. Decisions.

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WellReadHead: I'm not saying it's the right way for everybody. But there is something to be said for that. That kind of.

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Tallgirl6234: But who's the chick who made the one single drop of blood? And I can tell whether or not you have cancer? Um!

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BusySomethings: Simplicity.

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WellReadHead: Elizabeth.

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Tallgirl6234: Theranos, or something. It was. She tried that. She tried doing the like. You know. I wear one outfit.

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WellReadHead: Mhm.

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Tallgirl6234: Because she was a woman. People were like, absolutely not like, you know. Yeah, it's great for guys in tech who can do it. But you know, if you're just Bob, the accountant. And you show up to the office every day in the same outfit.

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Tallgirl6234: Which I do prefer kind of like the European setting of people have work outfits and home outfits. So you do go to work for a week in the same outfit. Nobody feels differently about it. In the Us. Like you can't repeat an outfit, and you definitely can't wear the same dress to like. We put it on ourselves like.

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Tallgirl6234: Isn't that the dress you wore to Amy's wedding.

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WellReadHead: Yep.

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Tallgirl6234: Like, okay, yeah, that that necklace is different. But that's that's the Amy wedding dress, right? And it's like, Are we kidding.

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BusySomethings: Oh, meanwhile I will flat out. Say, yeah, I wore this to my. Cousin's wedding, you know, like oh, I had this from before, like.

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BusySomethings: If I'm not motivated, or need to buy a new outfit for a wedding, and I have something that's perfectly acceptable. I am not gonna care.

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BusySomethings: I just I have bigger things.

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Tallgirl6234: I think I like the choices. I mean, there are ones like I, Netflix, and I do not agree, because there's just too many, and I don't trust people's reviews so like. I'm judging, based on the cover, like, how good was your cover? Art.

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Tallgirl6234: That I get finicky on, but like I like where we live, because we do have. You know. At least 15 ethnic food choices for dinner.

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Tallgirl6234: Whereas your friend who lives out in the country is like we have a pizza place. We have a Chinese place, and I'm like we have a Greek Ethiopian Fusion restaurant like on the Off chance. It wasn't enough for us to have within 50 miles. We have to have at least 50 ethnic restaurants.

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WellReadHead: Okay.

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BusySomethings: Oh, more than that! Oh, more, I mean, what was the place? We went to read? Um! The Peruvian.

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BusySomethings: Japanese.

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Tallgirl6234: Oh, that sounds good!

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WellReadHead: Oh, yeah, that was really good.

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BusySomethings: Because and what we learned was that. I mean from this is the.

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BusySomethings: Like anything else. Immigration, you know. Was it Japanese or Chinese? I can't remember.

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WellReadHead: Japanese.

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BusySomethings: Japanese influx to Peru. And there are cuisines, you know, and this restaurant just was a fusion of that. But it wasn't outside of the norm. You might think like, Oh, that's an odd combo! But it comes from the history of Peru so like.

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BusySomethings: Then I fold out a Peruvian pinterest hole. Of looking for recipes.

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BusySomethings: I know big shock um. But yeah, I think we have a lot of options.

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BusySomethings: And for for dinner, but I think also with like, when you were mentioned about. Netflix. I don't know about you guys where I'll see something, or whatever streaming service or reading a book. And you're like, Oh, I want to do that.

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BusySomethings: But then the energy to actually. Like. I save it to my list. I want to read it later, but then sometimes the energy to have to.

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BusySomethings: And next, maybe this goes more to energy than decision. Put the effort in to watch the new show.

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BusySomethings: Or that movie I wanted.

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WellReadHead: Yeah, to emotionally invest in something.

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BusySomethings: Or to read the book.

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WellReadHead: Yeah, that I I think that does go back to the stress level. Um if you're.

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WellReadHead: Stuck on making. The decision to emotionally invest in something your stress level is going to dictate how much you have to invest.

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WellReadHead: In that particular item. So if you're. Sitting there stressed out and all get out for some other reason.

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WellReadHead: Um, yeah, I would like to watch this. But. Not right this second. So it goes in the.

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WellReadHead: Add to watch later, you know.

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BusySomethings: Yeah, I think that's also, despite all the lovely varieties that we do have. For cuisines and whatnot. There are times when it is going to be a bowl of cereal.

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BusySomethings: Or it is going to be a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

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WellReadHead: Mhm.

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BusySomethings: Why? Because that is all I can muster the energy to care. Make a decision about.

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WellReadHead: Yeah, yeah.

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BusySomethings: Or a grilled cheese sandwich. And man. Does that feel like a good grilled cheese sandwich? Are you kidding me.

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BusySomethings: You could add maybe bacon to it. If you have it. But you get it perfectly crisp.

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BusySomethings: I'm happy.

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Tallgirl6234: Vegetables on the side, and a pickle. Because.

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BusySomethings: Well, I mean, we know you and your pickles. We know. That's true.

00:35:50.000 --> 00:35:52.000
WellReadHead: He and Pecos.

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BusySomethings: Um.

00:35:56.000 --> 00:36:04.000
Tallgirl6234: And I think we all have stress, whatever it's like. Flip a coin kind of thing like there are moments where you're like. Honestly, whatever the outcome is like.

00:36:04.000 --> 00:36:14.000
Tallgirl6234: Choose right or left whatever like. At this point I am so stressed out that either option is going to be fine, so like flip a coin just to get past this moment.

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WellReadHead: I also think that there's something to. Be said for the lack.

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WellReadHead: Of choice. Like if we didn't have 15 different streaming apps to watch.

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WellReadHead: Something, on. We would be more apt to actually make a choice about what it is we're going to watch.

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BusySomethings: Yeah.

00:36:44.000 --> 00:36:52.000
WellReadHead: So if I you know, if I didn't have to. Search through Macs and Netflix and Hulu, and.

00:36:54.000 --> 00:37:04.000
WellReadHead: Amc. And and and I'd be more likely to find something that I wanted to watch because I didn't have to scroll through all these different choices that I didn't want to make. To begin with.

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BusySomethings: That's fair.

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Tallgirl6234: I say that people like keep the office friends, Gilmore girls kind of like on, repeat Golden Girl like they just they watch them over and over and over again, so like they find a comfort show. So they don't have to choose anything else.

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WellReadHead: Mhm.

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Tallgirl6234: And that's why people get so upset when, like Netflix pulls a show, because they're like no.

00:37:26.000 --> 00:37:28.000
WellReadHead: Oh, yeah, I mean.

00:37:26.000 --> 00:37:34.000
BusySomethings: I think it. Also, there's also. Not only having to pick the show, but when you're saying comfort, because you know how it's going to end.

00:37:34.000 --> 00:37:37.000
BusySomethings: You know.

00:37:34.000 --> 00:37:38.000
WellReadHead: You don't have to totally pay attention to it. You can.

00:37:37.000 --> 00:37:43.000
BusySomethings: Right. It could be background, back. It could be background, noise.

00:37:43.000 --> 00:37:45.000
BusySomethings: And it could just be playing.

00:37:43.000 --> 00:37:45.000
WellReadHead: Mhm.

00:37:46.000 --> 00:37:58.000
BusySomethings: And if you have to do like where you're, maybe you're cleaning up your house, and you could just have it on. And you know what's going to happen. You don't have to invest more energy. You already know the outcome. It's going to be. Whatever insert emotional.

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BusySomethings: Ending you, you know you think it's going to be dramatic. It's going to be sad. It's going to be happy. It's whatever. Whatever you're looking for in that moment.

00:38:07.000 --> 00:38:12.000
BusySomethings: Excuse me, you know it's going to be that, and deliver. So you don't have to.

00:38:13.000 --> 00:38:20.000
BusySomethings: And also I think there's um. So, you know, this past week or so I've had a moment like I've been in my.

00:38:20.000 --> 00:38:26.000
BusySomethings: My British period. Drama. Um feels so it was, you know.

00:38:27.000 --> 00:38:39.000
BusySomethings: Um Jane Eyre. It was a pride and prejudice. It was stuff of that nature, because. I didn't want to. I wasn't feeling well, so I didn't have the extra energy to exert.

00:38:39.000 --> 00:38:48.000
BusySomethings: Into doing, learning a new show, and then being disappointed if I didn't like it. Um. So I think that sometimes is, you know, I don't wanna.

00:38:48.000 --> 00:38:53.000
BusySomethings: My energy is limited, or my time is limited. To begin with. I don't want to waste it and be disappointed.

00:38:53.000 --> 00:38:58.000
BusySomethings: So life does that enough? I don't need my shows to do that to me as well.

00:38:58.000 --> 00:39:04.000
Tallgirl6234: You not finish a season like? Can you watch 3 episodes and just be like out.

00:39:04.000 --> 00:39:06.000
BusySomethings: Oh, yeah, if I don't like something. Yeah.

00:39:04.000 --> 00:39:09.000
WellReadHead: Yeah. Okay.

00:39:08.000 --> 00:39:23.000
Tallgirl6234: See, I will get to the end of the season. I might not watch it for forever, but, like. American TV shows tend to go like 10 seasons, and by season 3. I'm like this, this is starting to get really bad. I'll finish season 3, and I just won't watch the rest. But.

00:39:23.000 --> 00:39:30.000
Tallgirl6234: I can't stop halfway like I need you to. I need you to put a bow on the end of it. I can't just like.

00:39:30.000 --> 00:39:37.000
Tallgirl6234: 2 of the worst books I've ever read in my life, like I. I regretted every page I read, but I made it to the end of the book, because I just.

00:39:38.000 --> 00:39:40.000
Tallgirl6234: I couldn't.

00:39:39.000 --> 00:39:42.000
WellReadHead: Especially with books. I will stop.

00:39:43.000 --> 00:39:51.000
BusySomethings: It depends on like. If either one of you recommended that you really need to read this book or watch this series, or something of that nature. You will like this.

00:39:43.000 --> 00:39:45.000
WellReadHead: I will stop!

00:39:51.000 --> 00:39:58.000
BusySomethings: And I'm a couple pages in a couple episodes in. And I am doubting your sanity and our friendship.

00:39:58.000 --> 00:40:06.000
BusySomethings: I might question you and say. But why are you making me? What have I done? What what offense am I paying for here?

00:40:06.000 --> 00:40:17.000
BusySomethings: And then you're like, Yeah, it's a slow start or give it a time. But the the end or the middle it picks up. Okay. Then I will do it. But there have been times when I try and start a show, and I'm trying to expand.

00:40:17.000 --> 00:40:25.000
BusySomethings: Expand, my horizon. You know I and then I go through phases like for a while. I was going through a lot of foreign shows.

00:40:25.000 --> 00:40:41.000
BusySomethings: Because I wanted to. I enjoyed reading the subtitles and hearing the different languages, because I like to hear the accents, to get familiar with what countries and and how the languages sound. So I was into a whole bunch of like I had a Swedish thing going. I had a.

00:40:41.000 --> 00:40:48.000
BusySomethings: Finnish, maybe I don't know. And then, like Korean, so. Indian. I was watching all sorts of different things.

00:40:48.000 --> 00:40:53.000
BusySomethings: But sometimes I just. Can't get into it, not because of any of the bad, just.

00:40:53.000 --> 00:41:00.000
BusySomethings: Like any show. I just couldn't get into it. So if I really can't get into it, then I'm just gonna say, sorry you're not it. And just.

00:41:00.000 --> 00:41:02.000
BusySomethings: Move on!

00:41:02.000 --> 00:41:07.000
WellReadHead: I think a perfect example of that, with something that we've all read is Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine.

00:41:08.000 --> 00:41:10.000
Tallgirl6234: Oh!

00:41:09.000 --> 00:41:17.000
WellReadHead: You guys wanted nothing to do with it, and I'm sitting there in my fields bawling the entire time. Couldn't wait to turn the next page.

00:41:11.000 --> 00:41:13.000
BusySomethings: Oh!

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Tallgirl6234: I made it through that book because of audiobook, and I'm not even gonna lie like if somebody.

00:41:22.000 --> 00:41:24.000
BusySomethings: I could not.

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Tallgirl6234: To me, I never would have made the end. We are all so lucky that there was an audio book. This was like Pre Chat, Gbt, so I couldn't have gotten it read to me. But like.

00:41:34.000 --> 00:41:41.000
Tallgirl6234: Yeah, I we had a conversation about it, and I was like my. God! Just move on!

00:41:41.000 --> 00:41:51.000
BusySomethings: Yeah, and we we different perspectives. I did get at something out of the experience. Um! But I could not finish that book.

00:41:51.000 --> 00:41:55.000
BusySomethings: I was I when we were doing the book chat, and we were the book, the.

00:41:52.000 --> 00:41:54.000
Tallgirl6234: Also.

00:41:56.000 --> 00:42:01.000
BusySomethings: What the hell is that thing called a um book? Club? And I was like Nope.

00:42:01.000 --> 00:42:03.000
BusySomethings: Couldn't finish it. I just.

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Tallgirl6234: I think that's why it's great, because we bring those other perspectives. Because a book club of people just like me, we all would have been like this is the worst thing ever. But then, you know well, read brings it to the group like this is my everyday existence, and it's like, Oh.

00:42:17.000 --> 00:42:19.000
BusySomethings: Right.

00:42:17.000 --> 00:42:24.000
Tallgirl6234: Oh, so this, this is actually. Your everyday existence frustrates the crap out of me.

00:42:20.000 --> 00:42:22.000
BusySomethings: Relatable.

00:42:24.000 --> 00:42:29.000
WellReadHead: I I expect nothing else to be perfectly honest with you.

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Tallgirl6234: Also like, I think you judge yourself way more harshly, like, I think, like. I did finish it because I was like, because you were so emphatic like, this is me. And I'm like.

00:42:33.000 --> 00:42:35.000
WellReadHead: You know.

00:42:38.000 --> 00:42:50.000
Tallgirl6234: This is not how I see you like. Yes, there's parts of you I don't know. And yes, there's probably parts of you that you don't express fully, but it's like. I think she's also being incredibly harsh on herself, because, like.

00:42:51.000 --> 00:42:53.000
Tallgirl6234: No.

00:42:52.000 --> 00:43:00.000
BusySomethings: No, I agree with that where I, on the other hand. Haddom, when she expressed why the book meant so much to her.

00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:04.000
BusySomethings: And how she related to it. I just had a meltdown.

00:43:05.000 --> 00:43:07.000
Tallgirl6234: Hold down!

00:43:06.000 --> 00:43:10.000
BusySomethings: I had a meltdown. Of. Why don't I have.

00:43:11.000 --> 00:43:13.000
WellReadHead: Why aren't I mentally ill?

00:43:13.000 --> 00:43:19.000
BusySomethings: Why don't I have depression? And why can't I connect? Because to me.

00:43:20.000 --> 00:43:23.000
Tallgirl6234: Why isn't depression a choice for me?

00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:39.000
BusySomethings: Um because I and it. And you know Red will tell you it was more because I wanted to be able to connect and understand what you go through. And but she just sat there laughing at me, she said, are you literally crying because you don't have.

00:43:39.000 --> 00:43:50.000
BusySomethings: Depression and anxiety. That you're upset. I'm like, I I want to understand how I could be there for you, and if I don't have the things to understand.

00:43:51.000 --> 00:43:53.000
BusySomethings: So, yeah, there.

00:43:51.000 --> 00:43:58.000
WellReadHead: Well, we talked about it, talked about that in one of our last episodes. You know the intrusive thoughts and the whatever.

00:44:00.000 --> 00:44:04.000
WellReadHead: Tall was concerned that she wouldn't be able to be there for you in the moment.

00:44:04.000 --> 00:44:06.000
BusySomethings: Right.

00:44:05.000 --> 00:44:12.000
WellReadHead: It's it's a beautiful thing. When you have 3 people with such varied perspectives, and you all.

00:44:12.000 --> 00:44:20.000
WellReadHead: Center on the same media to find out. What the different reactions are, because.

00:44:20.000 --> 00:44:32.000
WellReadHead: They can bring you closer, even if you guys didn't like the book. And I love the book. The reaction to why I love the book.

00:44:32.000 --> 00:44:41.000
WellReadHead: Ended up making us all rethink our perspectives on the other people. In our lives. And you know, that's that's.

00:44:39.000 --> 00:44:41.000
BusySomethings: Yes.

00:44:41.000 --> 00:44:56.000
WellReadHead: When you do make a decision to actually sit down and read something, or or watch something that changes your perspective. Uh, when you do emotionally invest in that, you know, it's it's a really amazing thing to come out on the other side with a different.

00:44:56.000 --> 00:45:00.000
WellReadHead: Look at something that you hadn't thought about before.

00:45:02.000 --> 00:45:10.000
BusySomethings: Fair, very fair. Um. So let's when we're making decisions.

00:45:10.000 --> 00:45:12.000
WellReadHead: Hmm.

00:45:12.000 --> 00:45:14.000
BusySomethings: Individually.

00:45:14.000 --> 00:45:16.000
WellReadHead: Mhm.

00:45:14.000 --> 00:45:17.000
BusySomethings: How do we think we each approach this.

00:45:20.000 --> 00:45:22.000
Tallgirl6234: Differently.

00:45:21.000 --> 00:45:23.000
WellReadHead: Very differently.

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BusySomethings: Well, obviously.

00:45:22.000 --> 00:45:24.000
Tallgirl6234: Very very differently.

00:45:24.000 --> 00:45:33.000
BusySomethings: I'm asking the. That was a question for you to give the input. So the audience could understand. I know very differently. They don't know. Can you please.

00:45:33.000 --> 00:45:41.000
Tallgirl6234: I jump off into the pool into the freezing cold pool. As long as there's water in the pool I tend to jump in it, and it's like.

00:45:34.000 --> 00:45:37.000
BusySomethings: Pretend like you're you know what's going on.

00:45:41.000 --> 00:45:56.000
Tallgirl6234: The biggest decisions, the ones that will affect my life the most I'm like. Let's do it cool. The smaller ones like, Oh, did I, Miss stitch this cross stitch? Should I undo this? Those are the ones that will hold me up for 3 days like this. Microscopic thing isn't perfect.

00:45:57.000 --> 00:45:59.000
Tallgirl6234: Should I stop my life for this.

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BusySomethings: See.

00:45:59.000 --> 00:46:04.000
Tallgirl6234: This thing that will fundamentally change everything about me for the rest of my life cools.

00:46:05.000 --> 00:46:10.000
BusySomethings: See, and I don't see that about you. So what? Give me an example?

00:46:10.000 --> 00:46:14.000
BusySomethings: Of where you feel the big thing. You just jumped into.

00:46:14.000 --> 00:46:23.000
Tallgirl6234: Okay. So for the Toronto House. We're gonna put a dining room table on that back sun porch to turn it into like a dining room, because the kitchen's kind of small.

00:46:24.000 --> 00:46:32.000
Tallgirl6234: But. I've been looking for over a year and a half at 3 different websites, at 3 different tables.

00:46:31.000 --> 00:46:33.000
WellReadHead: For the perfect dining room, table.

00:46:35.000 --> 00:46:56.000
Tallgirl6234: Like the biggest fear is one of these tables is going to sell out, and that perfect table is the table that I won't have had worse if I walk into somebody's house, and it is the perfect table, and I sit down on it, and it's the perfect table. And for the rest of my life. I will just dead stare this other dining room table. Possibly set it on fire for just existing.

00:46:56.000 --> 00:47:00.000
Tallgirl6234: It's been a year and a half. For a dining room table.

00:47:01.000 --> 00:47:08.000
Tallgirl6234: But could I buy a mountain house in Alaska in under 10 min because it has a pool. Yes.

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Tallgirl6234: But yeah, it's been a year and a half on a dining room table.

00:47:14.000 --> 00:47:16.000
WellReadHead: That's fair.

00:47:16.000 --> 00:47:19.000
Tallgirl6234: Because what if it isn't the perfect dining room table.

00:47:16.000 --> 00:47:18.000
WellReadHead: That's.

00:47:19.000 --> 00:47:40.000
Tallgirl6234: Or what if you sit in the chairs? And they're the most uncomfortable thing ever, and because they're all on websites, but none of them have a showroom. It's not like I can sit in them, so I have to use my mental imagination. If a 22 inch wide seat is fundamentally better than a 21 inch wide, seat. It's been a year and a half.

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Tallgirl6234: It will probably be another 4 years before I commit to a dining room table.

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BusySomethings: Okay.

00:47:47.000 --> 00:47:49.000
WellReadHead: I mean sure.

00:47:47.000 --> 00:47:49.000
Tallgirl6234: Yeah.

00:47:50.000 --> 00:48:02.000
WellReadHead: When it comes to something that you're gonna sit in every day or sit at every day and utilize every day like, Yeah. Making sure that it's the thing that you want it to be can be.

00:48:04.000 --> 00:48:08.000
WellReadHead: A difficult decision. Be a difficult decision.

00:48:08.000 --> 00:48:11.000
BusySomethings: All right, Red, what is your approach to things? Do you think.

00:48:12.000 --> 00:48:19.000
WellReadHead: I tend to be. I look at things from all angles, and then.

00:48:19.000 --> 00:48:29.000
WellReadHead: Once I determine the best angle for my. Energy. I am full speed ahead and damn the torpedoes.

00:48:29.000 --> 00:48:37.000
WellReadHead: Um, yeah, I just I. We'll sit down and and think something through.

00:48:38.000 --> 00:48:43.000
WellReadHead: To all of its ends, its various. And sundry ends, and then.

00:48:43.000 --> 00:48:48.000
WellReadHead: Pick. What I think is is the best scenario out of this. The the myriad of.

WellReadHead: Positions that I may have on something.

BusySomethings: I think for me. Excuse me, I do a lot of.

BusySomethings: I will do the research.

WellReadHead: Yeah, you will.

BusySomethings: At. There will be the research. I will do the deep dive.

BusySomethings: But then I will. What might hold me up. Depending on what the decision is, and who is involved.

WellReadHead: Mhm.

BusySomethings: Because if I need. I might know the answer and know what the next 5 steps need to be.

BusySomethings: But if I need to account for. Family member or friends and and their input on something.

BusySomethings: Um, that's going to. Hold me back sometimes, because it's not when I recognize it's not just on my timetable.

BusySomethings: Or what I need. Um, for an example. When I moved into my house. Um!

BusySomethings: My brother moved in with me when I for the 1st couple years. Um.

BusySomethings: And my mother was also moving out of where she had been so. His stuff ended up in my garage. I had stuff in the garage. My mother ended up.

BusySomethings: Stuff that she couldn't take where ended up in my garage. And it has been there. And I keep saying, guys, I'd like to park my car.

BusySomethings: In the garage, please, and we all talk about this, and we say, Yes, yes, yes, but then, inevitably, or I'm like, All right. Great. We're finally doing this cool. And I know those steps and things are going into storage units, and it's not mine, and then something will come up.

BusySomethings: That they're dealing with, like, you know that they're having their professional lives. And so I will pull back.

BusySomethings: Because yes, I can go do the things. And I could just move what needs to be done.

BusySomethings: But if I need to ask them for their input or. You know. Are you keeping this throwing this out kind of thing? And it's in the midst of their.

BusySomethings: Whatever you know, their busy season, or something of that nature. I don't want to have to put them in that position.

BusySomethings: Where I am imposing on them, even though their stuff is in my house. In my garage. I'm going to view it as.

BusySomethings: This is a group effort. And I don't want to impose on their mental time and space.

BusySomethings: When it is a nice to have for me. I'm not dying, my, you know, like my life is continuing completely fine without my car in the garage. But that's an example. So. Big shock, big shock. If you've been listening. Emotions are going to come into place here.

Tallgirl6234: Honestly, I would have given them a deadline, and on that deadline their stuff would have been in 2 separate storage containers, paid up for 3 months each, and I would have just handed them a key and been like, and my problem is now solved. But this is how we come at it.

Tallgirl6234: Very much differently.

WellReadHead: Yeah.

BusySomethings: Yes, that yes. Um.

Tallgirl6234: Like you're mad at me, but also my car is in the garage, so I can kind of live with you, being mad at me.

BusySomethings: Yeah. And and some of the yeah, there are times when there are absolutely little things. Um like that to me is because that's a big thing that would require not only even if I want to do that, that requires my time and effort. Then.

BusySomethings: And for them to move their stuff at this point. I'm like. No, that's your stuff. You need to handle that.

BusySomethings: And I don't want to waste my time anymore physically doing it. Um. So I come.

BusySomethings: And I will put that mental energy that I'm frustration just away, because. I have other things to worry about, and I'm sure at some point I'll just.

BusySomethings: Finally get to a point of like, okay. Here's a plan. Sit down. Here's a printout.

BusySomethings: Here are the deadlines. This is what I've already done. This is how I've worked it out. And this is what your um! Your marching orders are so.

BusySomethings: I'm sure we know that's coming. It's the plan is written in my head. We know this. The 3 of us all know this. Um, but that decision will be made when I've had enough.

BusySomethings: And we'll need to. And it, and it matters enough for me to enforce it.

Tallgirl6234: I mean, some decisions are like, this is what I want. This is what I decide. But it might not actually be action for the next 3 and a half years for.

BusySomethings: Right.

Tallgirl6234: A myriad of reasons.

BusySomethings: At the table. And uh.

BusySomethings: Do you ever think that when you're making decisions, it's based on. Just making what's good enough for right now.

BusySomethings: Versus what actually is probably the best. Decision for you overall.

Tallgirl6234: Look, am I hungry? And are the 2 closest places like fried chicken, or like fried dough balls? I mean, like, I'm probably gonna choose one of the 2. Is it the healthiest long term decision to go eat something fried tonight for dinner, so I can get back to the office to do something? No. Um, but it's just one of those like. In the moment it was the faster of the 2 solutions. And that was okay. Ish.

Tallgirl6234: The long term ones I will stress, but it comes down to a place of comfort like. Me moving your stuff out of my garage is probably going to piss you off, and it's probably going to put a strain on our relationship for a while, but I'm weighing my happiness over yours. And in that moment, like, Okay, I'm good because my happiness.

Tallgirl6234: Ranks higher than your happiness, and I've realized that that's more important to me than. Worst possible like I will do. Worst possible outcome is, we stop being friends over this.

Tallgirl6234: Okay, okay, not you guys, not you. Before. Wow. Um, wow! But like.

Tallgirl6234: Can I deal with the worst possible outcome? Can I deal with it? Yeah. Okay, then, I'm going to make this decision because just stressing, and he hawing about it for the next 6 years. Is going to give me ajita like no other. My life goal is to like, reduce the ajita that I don't intentionally give myself on other topics.

WellReadHead: I think that's something that you're better at than we are. Uh is prioritizing yourself and your own.

WellReadHead: Needs and and wants and comforts over other people's. Um, and that comes down to.

WellReadHead: How we were raised.

Tallgirl6234: I mean, it's not always the best, because you guys also have the balance of like you consider everybody. And I'm like you factor in, but it's more like a 75, 25.

WellReadHead: Yeah, it's more along the lines of again the being the eldest daughter, and having. Um.

BusySomethings: The families that we do.

Tallgirl6234: I was. Gonna say, you make parent decisions like you put everybody kind of above you.

WellReadHead: Having. Yeah.

BusySomethings: Oh yes! It is almost painful, sometimes.

BusySomethings: When you 2 will, when you know you might say to either one of us like. But this is about you, your decision. It's like, Oh, this hurts.

BusySomethings: I don't like.

Tallgirl6234: Easy from the outside to be like, Get this job, do this thing, pay this bill, go here, date them, do this.

WellReadHead: Yeah.

Tallgirl6234: Super easy to look at other people's lives and be like this. This and this will fix it all like. Just stop dating terrible people, and we could fix all your problems in 3 days.

Tallgirl6234: But like, when it comes to yourself, it's also a little bit harder, because you're stressing it. And you're stressing the 99 angles and outcomes, where, you know, with fresh eyes and a distance of 50 yards, it's so like, oh, this is nothing.

BusySomethings: Right. And and our decisions like you're saying, you know, affect.

WellReadHead: Hmm.

BusySomethings: Also have 5, 1020, depending on what the.

Tallgirl6234: Hmm.

BusySomethings: Decision is that we're talking about. People. And with that.

BusySomethings: The relationships and the personalities and their stress levels. And sometimes.

BusySomethings: Not make a decision at this moment. Is sometimes. And and I'll I've said to you guys, there have been times when I've made decisions.

BusySomethings: And is it what I want? No. Is it where. How I want to handle things. No.

BusySomethings: But it is easier for me to just handle my stress. Then the additional people who are involved in that decision.

BusySomethings: And what stress it's going to bring and how they're going to react, and how they're going to be. And because of the proximity. Now, if it's someone who lives across the country, who I never see.

BusySomethings: Uh, you know, that's easier to make a difference, you know, to make a decision on if it's someone who is in a 20 mile radius. That I see frequently enough where I'm going to have to hear about it.

BusySomethings: Then, yeah, the decision becomes. In the long term. What is better dealing? Am I able to deal with the stress of this decision?

BusySomethings: Not being made. Is that easier for me versus the stress of decision being made. And the outcome and fallout that come with that.

BusySomethings: And again it comes down to mostly people.

Tallgirl6234: No. Like when I overanalyze, and I get way too deep into the weeds. I tend to make the choice that I don't want.

Tallgirl6234: And then it can work out. Sometimes it works out. The gut. Things have worked out better long term overall for me. So it's like.

Tallgirl6234: You know, like the snap decision has actually always worked out best, inevitably the ones where I sit down. And I'm like, Oh, let's plot all these points. I usually sway myself into the right decision, which is generally like.

Tallgirl6234: But this isn't what I want. Like. Should I have become a lawyer so I could have a more stable career? Yes, but like I would hate every moment of my existence. If I was a lawyer like.

Tallgirl6234: Would it have been the right career, choice. Yeah, you know, you can work until like lawyers, accountants work until they die. Essentially like.

Tallgirl6234: Or you know, like, oh, I could have become a teacher like I can't stand kids most days, but.

WellReadHead: Yeah.

Tallgirl6234: Not all kids. I love a lot of them, but like in a school environment where you don't get a choice in your classroom. I wouldn't last very long.

Tallgirl6234: But like would it have been a more sensible career choice to get something with a pension. Or something that I can work until the day I die with. Yes. But did I choose what I choose? Yeah. And I'm infinitely happier for that, but it was more.

Tallgirl6234: A snap decision than a like a intentional career. Choice. Like if they had given you a list. You know, sophomore year of high school, and been like, look at this list and choose your future like.

Tallgirl6234: I would have been like. No, I'll drop out now, like if this is the end. I'll just drop out now, like I don't want to do this.

BusySomethings: And it's funny that you say about the lawyers, because. Since I was born.

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BusySomethings: Um. I've had people in my life like great uncles, cousins, whoever. Have forever said to you, why don't you become? You should become an attorney.

BusySomethings: You should have been a lawyer because of. How I like to.

WellReadHead: Debate.

BusySomethings: I was, gonna say, engage in heated conversation. But debate's a nice way of saying that.

WellReadHead: Yeah.

Tallgirl6234: He's just working on becoming a control freak. So like, let's let's ease her into. Debating.

BusySomethings: Um. So I you know. It's funny that people have always said like you should have been a lawyer. You should.

BusySomethings: No, just because you are good at something. Does not mean it is the path that you should be on.

BusySomethings: I enjoy. People say this also about baking and cooking. Why don't you run a bakery. I enjoy that because it is something I enjoy cooking and baking for both myself and people in my life, and as a love language, but it is a different love language of people who choose to be chefs, and I have multiple people in my life who were trained professional chefs. That was their decision to make.

BusySomethings: And it's it hits a different. Um happiness for them than what it does for me.

BusySomethings: So I think that you know how. We both have that the decision. But.

BusySomethings: One of us went. Yep, I want to make this a career choice. And the other's like. No, this is just something I do. Listen. If I ever hit Lotto.

BusySomethings: And I have all my big bills taken care of, and I am, and free to be what I want. Sure maybe I would do something like that.

BusySomethings: I don't know if I would. I don't know. Um.

BusySomethings: But.

Tallgirl6234: Maybe a pop up every once in a while, but if I do, I want to get up at 4 am. To make the dough. No.

BusySomethings: Yeah, okay, that that I could do like. Like the farmers markets around here that what I would do that's fun.

Tallgirl6234: Huh!

BusySomethings: Do a couple of times during the year, and someone sure. But I think that's kind of the same thing with decision, just because you are good at something.

BusySomethings: Doesn't mean that is the path for you.

Tallgirl6234: I mean, I like to argue, but I hate rules. Like, why, going into an industry that is all about rules or making them like, no, I wanna bend them. As to.

Tallgirl6234: I would end up a mob lawyer like. Just bending the rule into, and the interpreter the most creative, like.

BusySomethings: But you are so.

Tallgirl6234: But.

BusySomethings: It like you are so like authority. Like law, like you get so like.

BusySomethings: Need we remind you, going into Canada. And the Border patrol. How you freak out.

Tallgirl6234: No, no, I would wrap my own clients out as soon as the gavel got hit. It's like Judge so guilty. By the way, 3 bodies. Under the West Side highway. You'll you'll see them in duffel bags.

BusySomethings: So that's why I'm like I don't know about the.

Tallgirl6234: But also, like you care way too much about your clients, you would start to cry like when the guilty verdict came in. You'd be like. But you can't. This is gonna destroy their lives forever.

BusySomethings: No, actually, the odd thing is as emotional as I am when it comes to. If you did something wrong.

BusySomethings: I'm of the Burnham kind of mentality.

Tallgirl6234: Oh, no, you'd be a plaintiff's attorney. You would never do the other way.

BusySomethings: Probably, but I would, but I would still like if there's something like if you. You know, contaminated the water.

BusySomethings: And it affected a whole area and all that, like I would. I would want to take you and nail you to the cross.

Tallgirl6234: We'd make you drink your water, I'd feed you a lot of salt and make you drink your water, and we never make it to court. I'm not saying I would, for legal reason.

BusySomethings: Hypothetically, allegedly.

Tallgirl6234: Just a theory. Bold. Yeah, yeah, that.

BusySomethings: For legal purposes.

Tallgirl6234: There's a snap decision on how to. I have no problem deciding how terrible people should end up.

WellReadHead: Correct.

BusySomethings: Correct.

Tallgirl6234: We should never put me in charge of thumbs up thumbs down.

WellReadHead: No gladiatorial.

BusySomethings: Like from 7 up.

WellReadHead: Arenas for you.

Tallgirl6234: I should never be a dictator leader. People like oh, you should run for office, I'm like no, I shouldn't.

BusySomethings: No.

Tallgirl6234: You don't want to see what happens if I ever got into like. Do you want to see what my debate speech would look like?

BusySomethings: I? No, I have no desire to deal with all that none.

Tallgirl6234: This would be how I actually get arrested. Your mother.

Tallgirl6234: Followed by a fist or 2.

BusySomethings: Oh, let's be honest. If if you were in a public office, and your mother did not like what you were doing, tall girl. That would be what would be controlling, making your decisions.

BusySomethings: Your mother be like. Listen. Do we? I think we need to talk about what you said in that meeting the other day. You weren't nice in your tone.

Tallgirl6234: Yeah, I need you to send an apology letter.

BusySomethings: I need you to write, and I'm going to write one as well, because I'm ashamed that the child I raised spoke in such a tone.

Tallgirl6234: And again given our current political climate. I I feel like Mom would give me a few exceptions.

BusySomethings: She might, she might, but.

WellReadHead: Yeah.

BusySomethings: Um.

Tallgirl6234: If I was to run in Canada, maybe I would stand a chance.

BusySomethings: But we know your mother. She's. A wonderful woman, and.

BusySomethings: Would expect you to be of a certain level.

Tallgirl6234: You know, what would Mom do is generally like. Yeah, she she would make the right and polite choice. The yeah.

BusySomethings: Do you ever find yourself making. A group of decisions.

BusySomethings: All at once, just to get it done with. And or make your life easier, like.

BusySomethings: Or you know, I know we've talked about avoiding to make decisions because of the hassle. But do you ever do a whole things to set yourself up to just be done with.

Tallgirl6234: I don't think so. Like. I don't. I don't let things pile up that I would then sit there like I will like if there's a pile of court like, I keep electrical cords for things, because I'm convinced that you know, like.

Tallgirl6234: The charger for my speak and spell might like come back into popularity, and I might need that. So like, I will sit down and eventually have this like, keep or toss kind of stuff. But like, I don't let life decisions. Like it's there. It needs to be removed either yes or no, like I don't let them stack up. I think it would just add exponentially to my stress to not deal with it.

Tallgirl6234: I would be more stressed out that I hadn't made. Like, sat down to make a decision. Then, like making the decisions, good or bad.

WellReadHead: Yeah, I I think I've. It's a rare situation where I'm.

WellReadHead: Putting together a group of different decisions in. In order to to make my life a little bit easier. Or what have you.

WellReadHead: Um. Mostly because I I deal with things as they come up.

WellReadHead: So, if if I have to. If there's a point where there are like 6 or 7 different decisions to be made, and they all involve the same sort of.

WellReadHead: Topic, maybe. But it's a rare thing.

Tallgirl6234: Also like I haven't ever moved to like. I'm gonna move to Indiana and become an international spy and paint my new dining room like robin's egg blue like I I've never run into that kind of a.

BusySomethings: Those are some interesting, like. Decisions at all.

WellReadHead: Hmm.

Tallgirl6234: I want to become an international spy.

BusySomethings: Listen, Carmen Carmen! San Diego, I you can go do that.

WellReadHead: International Manner Minister.

Tallgirl6234: Just like the air. Miles alone.

BusySomethings: Go get them, tiger. I I support this. I mean, it might be a bit hard.

Tallgirl6234: I'll never be able to talk about it. So how do you know I'm not in Indiana, and that I'm not an intern.

BusySomethings: Ah dun dun dun. You could be.

Tallgirl6234: I.

WellReadHead: She probably is.

Tallgirl6234: We're not together in a room. You have no idea where I am.

BusySomethings: Oh, my God! The decision of it all. Where is she?

WellReadHead: Where in the world is.

BusySomethings: Tall girl.

Tallgirl6234: Hmm.

BusySomethings: I was just gonna say, if only I had an acapella group to sing about this damn.

Tallgirl6234: You definitely call some of our friends.

BusySomethings: I mean, let's be honest. We.

Tallgirl6234: If we just added to them to the zoom, I think spontaneously they would be down for those.

WellReadHead: Oh, 100%.

BusySomethings: Yeah.

Tallgirl6234: You guys have got under 30 seconds to come up with a variation of Carmen, San Diego for our podcast go.

BusySomethings: Yeah, to be like, all right. They break it down and.

BusySomethings: Figure that out quickly.

Tallgirl6234: You decision, Batch, though, like I don't feel like you also. About the house, maybe, but like I don't see you as a.

Tallgirl6234: Batcher.

BusySomethings: No, I think sometimes like, if I am looking to make a change in a schedule. Or habit.

BusySomethings: And let's say. Let me think um. Let's say I'm I'm.

BusySomethings: I don't like the way I've been. My cleaning habits have been, or like the time when I focus on. Doing chores around the house.

BusySomethings: You know, like the laundry and stuff like that. So maybe I will sit there. But all right. What is holding me up.

BusySomethings: That I'm not getting it done the way I want to. So I will try, and maybe I'll sit down and be like, well, if I do this, I hit this.

BusySomethings: Wall, and then I could try and like troubleshoot. So maybe I'll come up with a couple simple decisions that all at once based on troubleshooting a specific.

BusySomethings: Task or situation. I'm trying to correct. But no, I don't think so. I tend to be.

BusySomethings: When it comes up we deal with it. Now again, whether or not I enforce it, or in in.

BusySomethings: Gauge in making the decision. That's different sometimes. That's delayed.

BusySomethings: And sometimes let's be honest, they're decisions. We we want to make, that we will never be able to make. There are things we would the decision, if if we had the the complete.

WellReadHead: Okay.

BusySomethings: No problems of it. Okay, don't look at me like that. You don't mean tell me that if we each were given the chance. To tell a parent.

BusySomethings: Without any repercussions, without upsetting their their sacred little souls. You. You had the decision, and you could tell them anything and everything they've ever done to annoy you.

BusySomethings: Without frustrating them or making them upset. You would do that. You wouldn't admin.

Tallgirl6234: I don't think there's anything I've I mean. My mom knows about the great battle of Twine, so. I I think we've kind of voiced all those things to be.

BusySomethings: I mean. And and okay, I'm saying, parents, it could be. Whoever.

Tallgirl6234: The great blind bars were really in like cathartic emotional situation for us. Um!

BusySomethings: I mean, there are decisions I would love to make.

Tallgirl6234: Like, okay, as a teenager. I'm sure I would have loved to tell my mom off. In every kind of variation and way, but.

Tallgirl6234: I think, as a teenager, you're just ready to battle the world because it should be your way or no way. And then, like as an adult.

BusySomethings: Or a former boss. That you would love.

Tallgirl6234: Oh!

BusySomethings: To tell them any and all things that really went through your mind.

Tallgirl6234: Like I wouldn't get anything.

BusySomethings: But.

Tallgirl6234: Long term value of backtracking to somebody I haven't talked to in 6 years to tell them that they're a bald, petty sob is like. I'm wasting energy on you that I don't want to expend like.

BusySomethings: Well, that's what I'm saying. I'm saying that there are times when there are decisions we would. Love, to make.

Tallgirl6234: Job and shove it. Yeah, I'd make that choice every day. But.

BusySomethings: But. But we don't because of.

BusySomethings: One reason or another. So there are decisions we still make. We just don't enforce.

Tallgirl6234: I choose to not be violent every day. Um.

WellReadHead: I choose to drink coffee, so I'm not violent every day.

Tallgirl6234: Yeah, like, you know, I I make the choice to become caffeinated. So you guys don't cry on the way to work, like, you know. You're welcome.

BusySomethings: And, conversely, I don't drink the caffeine so that I don't cry. From the pain of the headaches and the migraines.

Tallgirl6234: Uh no like I mean, look, I choose to be nice. I definitely have it in me to be terrible. I choose to be nice because long term like. I don't want to be mean, but that's a me choice. It's I really don't care how you feel. I care about how I will feel later.

Tallgirl6234: I'm being honest.

BusySomethings: That's fair.

Tallgirl6234: Okay, so.

WellReadHead: No, again, you're better at that than we are.

Tallgirl6234: Okay. But here's the question. Like, did you ever read when we were little? Those adventure books like Choose your own adventure.

BusySomethings: Yeah.

WellReadHead: Yeah.

Tallgirl6234: Did you actually like those? Because, like. I was like, I don't. I don't want to have to make choices like.

Tallgirl6234: Write a good book from beginning to end. Why, why must I. Oh, what will happen if I go? So? I have to read this book 18,000 times.

Tallgirl6234: I just know. Write a good book all the way through. I don't want to have to make choices in the middle.

BusySomethings: Maybe. Maybe that was the beginning of decision, fatigue.

Tallgirl6234: Probably.

BusySomethings: That's where it began. And reading, son of a biscuit.

WellReadHead: Choose your own adventure book.

Tallgirl6234: You've walked into the kitchen. Will you make breakfast or not like. What point is this?

BusySomethings: How does this fix my life.

Tallgirl6234: Why don't you tell me whether or not the character makes breakfast.

WellReadHead: Because the character is you.

BusySomethings: You are the character, tall girl. It's all about you.

Tallgirl6234: It really is. My decision is not to be the main character.

WellReadHead: This is a very healthy way to look at it. Lack of main character syndrome right here.

Tallgirl6234: Okay. Cool.

WellReadHead: On this podcast.

Tallgirl6234: People are so much more interesting than I am. They just don't talk about it like I think that's the defining difference, like I'll run my mouth. But I'm not actually all that interesting. Other people are freaking, fascinating, but mute.

BusySomethings: And that is their decision.

Tallgirl6234: It's why I talk to so many people, because when you talk to the quiet people. Oh, my God!

Tallgirl6234: The things they will tell you. It's like. Wow! And yet you choose to stay quiet, whereas I will flap my lips endlessly for almost no purpose whatsoever.

BusySomethings: We like the talking that comes out of you.

Tallgirl6234: It makes you feel more sane. You're welcome.

BusySomethings: I don't know about that. I don't think I ever feel sane. Oh, my God!

BusySomethings: That is, please don't put that crown upon my head.

WellReadHead: I felt same as him.

BusySomethings: That is, that is a heavy burden.

Tallgirl6234: The people like. Oh, I've got my act together. I'm like you make me so nervous. If you tell me you're a hot mess, I'm like we can be friends if you're like. My life is ordered and structured, and never has any interruptions like uh-uh! No.

Tallgirl6234: Danger will Robinson run.

BusySomethings: Is there anything else with our decision making that we feel.

Tallgirl6234: Well, I mean, we decided to do this. Podcast. So really, I don't know if any of us should be handing out advice on decision making.

WellReadHead: Yeah.

BusySomethings: That is fair. That is fair.

Tallgirl6234: Oh!

WellReadHead: I think we're good.

BusySomethings: All right. Well, then, that's going to be a wrap on today's episode of sense, sensibility, and chaos. Join us next week, where our topic will be navigating awkward situations.

WellReadHead: If you enjoyed this, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, or at least tell a friend who loves a good conversation, and even better debates.

Tallgirl6234: You can find us at sense sensibility, chaos Tiktok as long as it lasts, Youtube, blue sky and your favorite podcast platforms, where we will be continuing the conversation, sharing extra thoughts, and probably spiraling into more chaos.

BusySomethings: Because, honestly, what's life without a little bit of that.

WellReadHead: See you next time.

Tallgirl6234: Until then stay sensible. Or, not.