Hey guys, welcome to this

episode of Here Comes The Drama.

I'm your host, Krista Ennis, and

it's actually my birthday today.

and so I wanted to do something

special for this birthday episode,

and that is share one of my all

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Called the mother of the groom files.

You guys are always asking me to

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Alright, so like I said, we are

going to, Give you a special

look at a Patreon episode.

This was my all time favorite one,

the mother of the groom files.

This was a wild episode where I read,

oh gosh, we do some hot takes and I

gave you my takes on these mother of

groom situations that were sent to me.

a mother of the groom, 9 1 1 advice call.

So someone sent me in something

that happened to them and

they're trying to deal with the.

Situation.

And then I read a couple of stories and

one is probably top 10 wildest mother

of the groom stories I've ever read.

So we're gonna go ahead and

play that whole episode for you

and I hope you guys enjoy it.

And don't forget to stick around to

the very end of the episode for the

first chapter of, here Comes the Drama.

today I've got two crazy ones

and of course I've not read them,

we got some good ones for you.

But I'll react, along with you.

So let's get started.

let's go right into the hot takes.

All right, The mother of the groom should

have a special role, but it doesn't

need to mirror the mother of the brides.

This is gonna depend in a

relationship with each of them.

I mean, I do think.

In all the weddings I've been

a part of, I should say most of

them, they had a unique role.

but a lot of times both moms were there

doing everything together, or just being

a part of, the bride getting ready.

Right.

I. so of course you're gonna have

your special moment with your own mom

versus your partner's mom, but I really

feel like they have similar roles

because it's both their kids' weddings.

I'm very anti, it's the

bride and groom's day, or.

The bride and bride's day.

The groom and groom's day.

it's the couple's day.

Right.

So I feel like it's really important that

depending on your relationship, whoever

wants to be involved is involved the

same way we're not leaving anybody out.

Of course, that's, again, depending

on how your relationship is.

okay.

Two.

It's okay if the mother of the groom

doesn't help with the planning.

Support.

Doesn't always mean involvement 100%.

I think sometimes I see stories where

the bride gets so mad at the mother of

the groom for not being involved, but.

They don't have to be, and that's

not necessarily their wheelhouse.

there was one I read not that long ago

where the bride was mad because she gave

a task to the mother of the groom and

it was basically to book the Airbnb for

their wedding event and it was gonna

be hosted in the backyard or something.

she kept saying like, oh, she

was taking so long to do it.

And by the time, know, it was getting

closer and closer, all the ones

that I had really liked were booked.

And I was like.

If I were the bride, I would never just

put that in the hands of someone else.

And I don't blame the mother of groom

for that because she might have never

had this kind of responsibility before.

She might not be into planning and then

this was just kind of put on her lap.

Maybe she's never booked an Airbnb.

so when it comes to things like that,

I don't think it's up to the mother

of the groom to want to be involved.

She can support you guys in other ways

and I think that's perfectly okay.

number three, mother-in-laws

giving input on the guest list

should only happen early, not the

month before invitations go out.

So they could give input or

tips anytime, I'm sure, again,

depending on your relationship.

But yeah, we are not asking for.

And like guest list a month

before, that's just too much.

there was another mother-in-law story

where they asked her way in advance

to send a guest list and she kept

refusing because she didn't like that

they were only gonna invite 100 people.

So she kept pushing back and saying

like, no, I'm not sending you a list.

I'm not sending you a list.

then they went the extra mile and were

looking in her address book to get.

Her friend's addresses to send an

invite and I'm just like, if it's

gonna be that difficult, why even try?

yes.

I think everybody, if you're gonna

have your parents' friends be invited,

reach out to them early enough, give

them a deadline and be very clear.

okay.

I'm gonna do a couple more we've got

a long story for you guys and I don't

want, it to be like a two hour episode.

I'm sure you guys wouldn't

complain, but Okay.

A neutral colored dress is

totally fine as long as it's

cleared with the couple first.

Uh, it's so hard because some of these

things are gonna be really individual.

Some people might be

like, no, absolutely not.

For me personally, I think

neutral is totally fine.

what's wrong with neutral colored?

Yes, maybe avoid white.

but I think you can do other

neutral colors in general.

I think if you're not sure,

ask the bride groom, but.

I would never assume that white is okay.

Right.

Number five, it's not rude to set

boundaries with your future mother-in-law.

It's healthy.

That goes with for anybody, even people

that you have a great relationship with.

Boundaries are so good, I think so many

times we think boundaries are a way of

like shutting people out or being mean,

especially if you're a people pleaser.

It's not like boundaries can be like, I

turn my phone off at 7:00 PM and I spend

time with just my family right here.

I don't answer the phone even for my

best friend, my boss, whoever it is.

And I think that's so important

because so many times, like we

think we can be at everyone's beck

and call and that we're gonna be

mean if we say no or don't answer.

But no, you gotta have boundaries.

Last one.

The best thing a mother of the groom

can ask is, how can I support you

instead of assuming what's helpful.

Yeah, I think that's great.

If you are in a wedding, if you are a

mother of the groom, if you are the mother

of the bride, if you're a father, like

whatever your relationship is to them,

how can I support you is a great way.

Instead of just jumping in and

saying, I'm taking this task from

you because nobody likes that.

Okay.

Next section.

We are gonna do some confessions.

I have a couple of confessions here

that people sent me, and then the last

one's gonna be more of like a 9 1 1.

What do I do in this situation?

Okay, first one, mother-in-law

told my son she could help him

come up with an escape plan.

What if the day of he gets cold feet?

So I'm guessing the son

then told his partner.

It was like, my mom told me this.

That's insane.

That's insane.

we wanna encourage the couple.

I mean, unless it's completely toxic

and, it's a bad relationship, which

even then, like you gotta make sure

like you really are protecting your son.

Otherwise, I'm not saying anything.

I said this a while back in an episode.

This girl was talking about

her whole family didn't like

the partner of her brother.

Right?

And they wanted to say something so bad.

And I was like, you can't, you can't

say something if you just don't like

somebody, because if something blows up,

it's gonna go back into your face, right?

If you say like, oh, I don't like

her, she's not right for you.

It's gonna come back to bite you.

It's better to just be supportive.

of course if there's certain things

that they say that's going to,

that are just like, down or rude,

put you down, that kind of thing.

But if it's just like, I don't

like them because of the way they

talk, I don't like them because

they don't seem right for you.

I'm just protecting you.

Like, no, we don't need to say that.

Okay.

Two.

My bridal shower, my mother-in-law

gave me a cookbook and said,

you'll need this more than anyone.

No.

Okay.

As someone that I am very

insecure with my cooking.

Like I enjoy doing it

when there's no pressure.

I like cooking for my family, but I

feel like I'm surrounded by so many

cooks that are like really good at

what they do, that I'm just like,

I just second guess everything.

that'd be a little insulting.

my husband and I buy cookbooks

all the time 'cause we like

try new recipes and stuff.

But to specifically say to someone,

'cause you need this more than anybody.

That's just a, we call that

a backhanded compliment.

Actually, I'm not, that's

not even a compliment.

That's just backhanded.

okay.

My mother-in-law kept calling it her son's

wedding and didn't mention my name once

in the entire engagement announcement.

Ooh, okay.

I catch myself when I'm like talking

about someone's story or reading someone's

story, I'll say like, bride this, and

I'm like, no, I need to stop doing that.

The couple's day, the couple's

wedding, it's so ingrained

in us to talk a certain way.

Right.

But I feel like society says

like it's the bride's day.

So when you say it's like your

son's day and your leaving out his

partner, that's intentional, right?

Yeah, that's pretty hard.

I had someone on my podcast,

Janelle Riedel, was on my podcast

a couple weeks back, and she, well,

by the time this comes out, it'll

be probably like two months back.

But, she had a very similar story sent to

her where there was a, birth announcement.

So this woman was saying her and her

partner, her and her husband decided

they did not want their babies.

Face put anywhere, like on social

media or anything like that, they

made this very clear to the parents.

They go to the parents' house to go

visit them when the baby was like

a newborn and sitting right on the

table, there was a newspaper clipping

where they had a birth announcement.

The grandparents put in a birth

announcement in the newspaper.

Not once did they mention

the daughter-in-law's name.

It was just proud grandparents

of said the baby's name and

then said their son's name.

That was it.

So that is intentional, you are

purposely leaving someone out when

it took two people to make that baby.

So I don't know.

that's making a statement for sure.

okay.

Here is the 9 1 1 confession.

she's kind of more of

like asking for help.

Right.

Okay.

My mother-in-law just told me she bought a

white dress to wear to our wedding because

it's the only color she looks good in.

I've gotten similar ones before.

I told her I wasn't comfortable

with that and she said I was being

territorial and should be honored

that she's making an effort at all.

My fiance is trying to stay neutral.

The wedding is in three weeks.

What do I do?

first things first.

I'm only talking about this general

situation right here because I don't want

people coming back and being like, oh

my gosh, I can't believe you care about

people wearing white at your wedding.

I personally, I wouldn't care again.

It depends on the relationship because

if you already have a rocky relationship

and someone's like, I'm wearing white to

your wedding, I'm getting a full gown.

Again, back to the intentional.

It's intentional and they want you

to feel a certain way, So my guess is

if she says, oh, I only look good in

white, so I'm wearing a white dress

to your wedding, it's because there's

already some kind of rift there, right?

First things first, the fiance

staying neutral is not okay.

He needs to make a choice

of who he's backing up.

if he's choosing to marry you, he

should be backing you up, right?

He needs to be the one to,

communicate to his mother that

this is not appropriate or okay.

Now again, I'm speaking for this

couple because she has made it

clear she is not okay with it.

If you're okay with white at

your wedding, this is not.

Relating to you, right?

So he needs to be the one to communicate

to his mom, Hey Sophie, whatever her

name is, has said she's not okay with it.

And I would actually rather

her be the only one in white as

well, really make it more what he

thinks and be that bridge, right?

Because if he's trying to stay neutral.

It's gonna make them

bash even more, right?

Because they're both gonna

try to get him on their side.

So he needs to make a

clear standing point.

Being the wedding is only in three

weeks, so she's gonna try to like push

back and push back and say like, oh,

well there's no time to get a new dress.

Oh, I can's, the only dress I have.

There's time.

There's time.

you've made it very clear that

you're not comfortable with it, so.

All you can do is communicate and

you need to let your partner know

that he needs to communicate to her.

that being said, if she still

chooses to show up that day

in a white dress, you can.

There's different things you can do.

Talk to your vendors ahead of time,

maybe your photographer and say

like, Hey, my mother-in-law has told

me he's gonna wear a white dress.

What do we do?

They might be able to situate her.

I mean, it's hard because she's the mom,

so she's gonna be in the front pictures.

They might be able to like move her.

So someone's like

standing in front of her.

I know this happened in one

of the stories sent to me.

She said the photographer worked with her

and like, it was like an aunt though, and

they put someone directly in front of her.

So you couldn't really tell.

and then you have to decide how

important it is to you and it's hard.

This is where you are like, you know what?

We've dealt with so much with her already.

This is it for me.

I'm done.

I'm done dealing with it.

Then you have to make that decision

and tell your partner and try

to get him on the same page.

If this is one little blip in

the day and there's been no

other issues, Just let it go.

Everyone's gonna know you're the

bride and everyone's gonna look at

her and be like, that's ridiculous.

So you kinda have to decide and

make a decision on your own and with

your partner to be like, how big

of a deal do we wanna make this?

Not saying you're the one making

a big deal, but like, do you

wanna escalate it or just drop it?

Okay.

So you guys listening at home,

what would you do?

Let her wear it.

And again, she would outshine nobody.

Right?

Would you ban her from photos?

Would you ask the photographer

to gray scale her dress or like

move her somehow or politely

ask her to sit the wedding out.

These are like four different,

complete different things.

Me, if I were in her situation where you

already communicated and it was an issue.

I think I would just let her wear

it, not I wouldn't shine anybody.

And then I would probably be like,

okay, photographer, what can we do here?

And then I would just

like not worry about it.

But again, I'm not in that situation.

It's very hard when you already

have like a bad relationship.

Right.

Okay, here we go.

lemme get a drink of my energy drink here.

It's just to warm up my vocals because.

I'm telling you guys, these allergies

are just like making my throat scratchy.

Okay, here we go.

Mother of the groom confessions.

These are stories from the vault.

So someone sent me these stories, okay?

It's finally my turn to share.

My husband and I had a set wedding

date that was really meaningful to

us, it also worked well with one of

our closest friend's work schedules.

His mom had found a venue she thought

would be perfect, but it wasn't

available on the date we'd chosen.

She asked me what I thought about it,

and if we'd consider switching dates.

I told her it was a beautiful

venue, but I wanted to keep looking.

We really wanted that specific date and I

was also considering something outdoors.

Then I went to work.

When I got home, my husband was

buzzing with excitement saying

how thrilled he was that we had

a venue and locked in our date.

What?

I was totally confused.

Turns out my mother-in-law had

gone ahead and booked the venue

anyway without waiting for our

answer, just assuming she knew best.

You are kidding me.

I take back everything I said

about reading crazy stories.

This is the craziest mother of

the groom story I've ever read.

Why would you take that

into your own hands?

And then I'm also wondering, I know that's

probably gonna come up, but I'm also

wondering why the fiance heard it from his

mom and was like, okay, this is awesome.

This is cool.

Wouldn't he go to his like fiance

first and be like, Hey, this is weird.

Did you talk to my mom?

But he's like excited for it.

Come on.

Okay, because we had agreed that his

family would be covering the costs

for the venue, I felt cornered.

I ended up going along with a change

and just tried to make it work.

No.

Oh my gosh.

I feel terrible for her because here's

the thing, like, oh, I feel so bad

for her because it's like the husband

comes in or partner comes in he's like.

Oh, this is so great.

We got this venue.

So then she sees his excitement

after already talking to the mom,

the mother-in-law, and now she feels

like she has to say yes because

they're paying for the venue.

in reality she already told the mom

like, no, I'm gonna keep looking.

And she was like, you know what?

Screw you.

I'm gonna do what I want anyways.

no, it's not your wedding.

Oh my gosh.

A few weeks later, I was talking about

wedding dress in SPO during a family

dinner with his side of the family.

That's when my father-in-law

decided it was his job to take

charge of my wedding dress, even

though my family was paying for it.

Okay.

In general, it's weird that the family

thinks that they have control over her

wedding dress, but the father-in-law.

I wouldn't trust my own father

to pick out my wedding dress.

I wouldn't trust my husband to pick out

my wedding dress and he is got great

style, but so it's nothing against that.

It's just that's such a

personal, personal thing.

Oh my gosh.

He insisted I buy it on

Amazon to save money.

But I had no problem spending

$900 plus on my husband's suit.

That seems like a lot of money.

We spent, gosh, I think under

300 from my husband's suit.

this isn't sponsored or anything, but we

used Modern Groom and it was like so easy.

They sent it to us at home.

My husband and I are very

like, let's check the boxes.

Like we.

I don't need to go somewhere and see

10 suits and see which one looks best.

We pretty much were like, let's look at

them online and do it like, I don't know.

I know everybody's different.

That was just us, $900 plus

for a suit, but he wanted her

to order her dress on Amazon.

I politely told him I'd figure

the dress out with my mom.

He went ahead and ordered several dresses

anyway was furious when I told him I'd

already made a decision with my mom.

Ew, I'm sorry.

That is gross behavior.

They are to completely like pulling

her out of her own wedding situation.

I need to talk to this person and get her

on the podcast because this is like what?

That moment pretty much set the tone

for the rest of the wedding planning.

Tense.

Okay.

So again, where's the fiance in all this?

Why is he not backing her up and be

like, dad, that's fricking weird.

Why are you ordering wedding

dresses for my fiance on Amazon?

What?

he should be standing in here

saying like, no, this isn't okay.

I'm getting heated guys.

Okay.

My mother-in-law wanted to

plan every little detail.

She constantly reminded me that I

hadn't been married before, almost

as if it was her way of justifying

why she needed to take over.

Oh, I'm so mad for her.

Any bride, I mean I should say,

majority of brides haven't been

through that before, and even

if they've been married before.

Typically I see like they do a different

style, like they do something different.

Right.

But it's like even if she had been

married before, I feel like this

mother-in-law would've come in and

been like, no, we need to do it my way.

Like, why is that any

constellation to be able to go in?

She's probably been married 30

years, so things have changed

a lot since she got married.

So she's trying to like redo her wedding

through her son and daughter-in-law.

It's like, no, no, no, no.

She kept pushing for her daughter,

my sister-in-law, who I'm not close

with to be one of the bridesmaids.

Apparently she wasn't a bridesmaid

in her other sister-in-law's

wedding five years ago, and my

mother-in-law wanted to fix that.

Oh my gosh.

This family, I explained kindly that I

had a specific vision and that anyone

who wanted to wear a specific color

to the wedding was welcome to wear

dark green, but it wasn't required.

Later I got a message from my

sister-in-law, double checking

the color she'd been told by my

mother-in-law, and it was the exact

color of my bridesmaid dresses.

Why am I not surprised?

Oh my gosh.

I talked to her directly.

She was super understanding, and from

then on she came to me to confirm details.

Oh my gosh.

This mom was just like,

Nope, it's my wedding.

Now I'm gonna do what I want.

But the craziest thing, it happened

a couple months before the wedding

when we were sending out invites.

I had a few friends come over to help

address envelopes and had previously asked

my mother-in-law for all of her addresses

the day of, she told me to just drop off

the invites and send them out herself.

No, I'm calling it now.

I dunno what's gonna happen.

Do not do that.

Do not do that.

Someone that's already

ignoring your every wish.

your, every vision for the

wedding is not gonna follow

through with that simple task.

No.

Okay.

I don't like the next sentence.

I was rushing to work, so I

dropped them off and said I'd come

pick up whatever was left later.

No, But Why do we need the mother-in-law

to send them out herself if they're

already labeled and everything?

Ugh.

Biggest mistake she says.

After she mailed the invitations,

she casually mentioned we

might need to do a reprint.

I was confused.

I had like 59 extras.

Why would we need more later that week?

While checking over the shared guest

list spreadsheet, which I finalized eight

months ago and shared with both sets of

parents and my husband, I found the issue.

She sent out over 100 extra

invitations about a month and

a half before the wedding.

My like planner self is getting

so bent outta shape right now.

This is not, oh my gosh.

We need like a mean bridesmaid

for every one of these nice

brides because this is not okay.

And again, where is the husband?

Where is the fiance?

Also you don't need to share.

Your guest list with everyone.

I had no reason to be like protective of

my stuff, but like I don't need to send my

guest list to every single person, so just

my husband and I had it like, why does

everyone need to see every single person?

We reached out to all the parents

and they sent us their list, and

I took care of everything else.

Again, if someone's already showing

you not to trust them, don't trust

them with a new and important task.

Okay.

She says, my family was providing

the food, so I was beyond frustrated.

I had always said they could invite

as many people as they wanted, but it

needed to be finalized months in advance.

I asked my husband if he recognized

the names he didn't or they were

distant cousins that he specifically

said he didn't want there.

the worst part, because the invites

were already sent, I had no way to

contact these people and uninvite them.

I'm exhausted.

I am exhausted for this bride.

I cannot believe that this happened.

I am so sorry.

couple more things that

happened behind my back too.

She tried to gather baby photos of me,

even though I specifically said I did

not want a slideshow or a wedding video.

She tried to invite her own guest

list to a bridal shower that

was being hosted by my aunt.

Why am I not surprised?

She did a hundred extra

people to the wedding?

I didn't know what happened with this.

Okay, let's see.

Then came the wedding day.

People showed up late.

Two of my husband's groomsmen arrived

an hour and a half after they were

supposed to, and 30 minutes after

the ceremony was scheduled to start.

What?

Oh my gosh.

People need to be

reminded a hundred times.

Some people need to be

reminded a hundred times.

Luckily we have no one late

for our wedding, but I hear

it happen all the time.

we asked everyone to arrive

an hour early for photos.

Even my in-laws showed up 30

minutes late, adding to the chaos.

Luckily, once the ceremony started,

everything turned out beautifully,

but the lead up absolute hell.

I need to know how this ended.

I need to reach out to

her and ask her what?

The heck happened after this.

Like, what is going on here?

Because this is literally insane.

The fact that a hundred

x people were invited.

I need to know, like, did you need

a bigger venue, a bigger room?

How much was the cost, like.

It was probably one of those where

she was like, the mother-in-law

was like, we're paying for it.

So if I wanna invite more people, I can.

It's my party now.

that's where I'm like, don't

accept money from people.

They're gonna hold strings over your

head and dangle it like a carrot.

Right.

if people want to help as a gift

and you respect them and they

respect you, then yes, let's do it.

If they wanna help, that's great.

If you already have a weird relationship,

if they're trying to control things,

no, we're not gonna ask for that.

We're not gonna accept the help.

again, where's the fiance?

Where's the fiance in all of this?

And why is he just on the Back

burner or behind the scenes

when his mom's taking the lead.

your wedding was hijacked.

They, they took it from you.

And I feel like those are the

kind of weddings where people are

most unhappy when they look back.

I'm glad she's able to say, you know what?

Everything turned out beautifully.

Maybe it's just me, but I

would not be so, I wouldn't be

so like, cheerful about that.

I'd be like, you know what, this

was my, time to do my thing and

it was taken from me, so I dunno.

Oh my gosh.

I feel like my blood pressure

is up from that story.

All right, I got one more short,

one short-ish, so let's get into it.

All right.

We almost canceled the wedding.

Everyone in our families

was horrible to us.

My mom made a huge deal about

my dad coming with his wife.

They've been married for 10 years.

My mother-in-law was against the whole

thing because in her view, you're

supposed to date for exactly five years

first and already have bought a house.

Where do people come up with these things.

Some people get married after six months.

Some people get married after six years.

Some people get married for 20 years

some people already have kids first.

why does it matter to you?

If two people decide together,

Hey, let's get married.

Just let them, I can't imagine

being so like stuck in my ways.

We were 33 and 36 and we

didn't see the need to wait.

She didn't approve of my red

inexpensive wedding shoes or my

pre-ordered dress from Ali Express.

She didn't like that.

My venue only held 100 people, that

we invited only close friends and

immediate family, and that her cousins

weren't invited, that we didn't

have a formal dinner, and that we

skipped a dance floor altogether.

What that sounds like to me is that

it's just two people that were ready to

get married and knew exactly what they

wanted, and I think that's amazing.

All weddings don't have to be the same.

All weddings don't have to have a dance

floor or an open bar or a formal dinner.

Do what makes sense for you if you just

wanna party and have some cake, invite

your favorite people more power to you.

I don't get why.

people get so like uptight about it.

We hosted a five hour gathering with

an open bar and buffet full of food.

What more could you ask for?

You got a full buffet of

food and you got an open bar.

that would make me happy.

you don't really need much else.

Right.

She even hated that.

My husband made my

wedding bouquet himself.

He crafted it as a final gift.

I think that's amazing.

Wow.

I received before walking down the aisle.

He made it as a gift.

I received walk before

walking down the aisle.

One of his close friends handed

it to me right before I entered.

love that.

I've never heard of that before.

I actually laughed the whole way

down the aisle because my mom didn't

make it to the church on time.

Where is this Poor girl's family.

My mother-in-law shushed me for laughing.

She had already screamed at

my husband the night before.

My mom wasn't at the church

because she wasn't ready.

Oh my gosh.

I had gone to her house to have

my makeup and hair done, but I was

left alone while she and my younger

sister disappeared to another part

of the house to get themselves ready.

My older sister stayed with me for a bit,

even though she was pregnant with twins.

She eventually left for the church.

Oh my gosh.

I just don't understand.

People just can't be there for someone

else let them shine on their day.

It's so disappointing to hear these

stories where they're like, yeah,

I was alone, or My mom didn't come,

or My maid of honor was late, or

The groomsman never showed up.

It's like, come on.

It's not that hard.

Be on time or be where you need to be

for people that you really care about.

It was so sad that even the photographer

left quietly without saying anything.

I was ready to go, but my mom

still wasn't, and she told me to

wait because she needed more time.

I said, not my problem, and left.

She arrived 15 minutes later.

Okay.

That's crazy that the

photographer left really though.

'cause that has a contract tied to it.

You shouldn't just

leave your photographer.

My mother-in-law invited her

cousins to the church anyway.

One of my husband's female cousins wore a

white dress another white dress debacle.

I went out to the terrace with one

of my best friends for a cigarette,

one of my husband's other cousins

followed me to see what I was

doing and didn't leave until I did.

Weird.

Later.

One of my husband's brothers told me

that now I was a part of the family.

He hated me and then punched my

sister's husband in the face.

What?

Okay, this is weird.

So there's family drama, and with

all of that, I was still so happy.

I honestly didn't care, but I

cut them all off after that.

I don't know how people move forward

after these crazy events take place.

I could not stand to be like

at a holiday with someone that

treated my family like that.

Sounds like she cut them off, but

like that's hard 'cause it's your

husband's family and if you have

kids together or if you move, or all

these other big life events like.

Where's the family now?

so that's terrible.

I'm props to you for having good

boundaries and all that, but gosh, both

these stories are wild, wild, wild.

You guys know, we have a lot of

mother-in-law stories, and again, not all

mothers, but these stories right here,

were sent by two different, couples.

We get a lot of them just because

I think a lot of brides follow

me, but I do my best to go through

different quote unquote problem.

People, right.

So, we just get a lot of mother of

the groom stories, but I promise

you there are crazy stories

about every member I've seen.

Oh my gosh.

I think I need get my

blood pressure checked.

That's that first story

was wild, you guys.

Oh my gosh.

Okay.

Well that was a wild ride.

All right guys.

I hope you enjoyed that special.

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We are currently pause on Patreon

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to be completely transparent, I just don't

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Keep creating content over there

when I just didn't feel like I

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So I'm putting more into the skits,

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me to put together, and I'm glad

more of you guys can listen to it.

Now as promised, here's the

first chapter of my audiobook.

Here comes the drama.

Enjoy.

Part one, chapter one, Kate

can't believe her ears.

She picks up her glass of wine,

throws back what's left, then

stands up and storms out of the

living room with a loud huff.

Her daughter Jenny, watches her

leave in pure confusion, then glances

at everyone else before quickly

jumping off the couch to follow her.

Mom, are you okay?

She yells after her hurrying closer.

She notices a drop of red wine has

stained her mom's white blouse.

Ugh.

I just know she's doing this

to get my son away from me.

Kate charges into the next room looking

unsteady, like she's about to burst.

What are you talking about, Jenny?

Quickly, interjects Sloan isn't

taking anyone away from you.

Her eyes drift toward the window

where snow has just started falling.

At first it was light and quiet, barely

noticeable, but now it's beginning to

fall in thick clumps, sticking to the

glass, like something trying to get in.

Kate pushes up her round brown glasses

as a be of sweat drips from her forehead.

Did you not just hear them?

They come waltzing in here on

Thanksgiving to tell us they're

not going to be here on Christmas.

Her voice trembles with a mix of hurt

and disbelief For a moment, she questions

whether or not she's overreacting, but the

thought vanishes as quickly as it came.

Her stance is firm now.

There's no going back.

Jenny looks at her mother dumbfounded.

She takes a deep breath to save

herself from calling out her mother's

ridiculousness right here, right now.

Yeah, they planned a vacation together.

I think it's perfectly acceptable.

She runs a hand through her long,

dirty blonde hair, exhaling sharply.

You can't tell them not to

go on vacation together.

The snow was falling harder Now.

Piling on the windowsill in soft,

heavy heaps, like the weight of

everything left unsaid in the room.

But on Christmas, there are

364 other days of the year.

Why'd they have to pick Christmas?

Kate's voice gets louder each time

she talks and there is clear panic

in her voice like she's been robbed.

My guess is because they wanted

to spend the holidays together.

Jenny sarcastically replies,

this isn't some weird thing for a

boyfriend to do with his girlfriend.

Kate rolls her eyes before putting her

head down and her hands and mumbling.

You just watch Jenny.

This is how it all starts.

Then soon they're just not going

to show up for certain holidays.

She looks up staring off as if she just

had an epiphany hearing her own words.

Mom.

You should be happy that Ferris

found someone he loves and

wants to spend his time with.

Jenny says, resting a

hand on her mom's back.

Now can we go back out there,

put on a happy face, and enjoy

the rest of Thanksgiving?

She raises both point of

fingers to the corners of her

mouth, exaggerating a smile.

After a long pause, Kate pulls a tissue

out of her pocket and dabs her face.

Although Jenny didn't see any tears.

Fine.

Kate stands tall, touches

up her short brown hair, and

forces a painful, wide smile.

How's this great?

Jenny gives her a swift thumbs

up and gestures for her mother

to follow her back out into the

living room where the others are.

GI is the first to step back

into her parents' living room.

Where she spots her brother, Ferris at

the fridge, grabbing two beers, one for

their dad, Ted, and one for himself.

The room is warm with the scent

of Thanksgiving leftovers, and

the muffled hum of conversation

drifts in from the dining room.

You need more wine, babe.

Ferris calls out over his shoulder.

His voice casual but affectionate.

His short, faintly golden hair with

brown undertones is slightly tussled.

A few strands falling in his face

as he reaches for the fridge.

Sloan is curled up on the couch, legs

crossed, swirling the last bit of red

wine in her glass, her long, almost black

hair drapes over one shoulder, catching

the warm glow of the Christmas lights.

She's wearing a soft knit sweater, dress

in a deep burgundy, paired with thick

socks, comfortable yet casually stylish

in a way that almost seems natural to her.

She looks over at him

with a small knowing.

Smile.

No, I still have some left.

Thanks, Sloane.

Smirks and turns just a

little as she notices.

Jenny walking back in.

Oh hey, everything okay?

Her eyes flick between Jenny

and Kate searching for any

sign of what just happened.

She knew Kate was upset about the trip.

But sometimes it was easier to pretend she

didn't notice than to invite more drama.

Yeah.

Sorry about that.

Jenny says quickly, my mom

thought she ate something bad.

Her voice is light, but there's a

flicker of something else beneath it

before Sloan can press GI shifts gears.

So anyway, tell us more about your trip.

Where are you guys going?

She walks right up to Sloan and sits

down at the chair across from her.

Kate Reenters the room lingering near

the doorway, arms crossed displeasure,

practically radiating off her.

We're going to Santa Monica.

Sloan replies quietly combing

her hair behind her ear.

I've never been before.

Ferris knows I hate the snow,

so he planned for a warm

vacation to get us out of here.

It was all his idea, so he'll

have more of the details.

She looks over at Ferris now

seated next to her on the couch,

Ferris hands, beer to his dad.

Then takes a sip of

his own and leans back.

Yeah, I mean, I don't have too much

planned yet, but I thought we'd

escape the dreaded Milwaukee winter

and soak up some sun for once.

He nods toward the window where thick

clumps of snow swirl in the wind.

Before reaching over and gently taking

Sloan's hand Sloan glances down at

their intertwined fingers, a soft smile

forming as warmth blooms in her chest.

But even in the comfort of this moment,

she can feel Kate's disapproval lingering

like a heavy cloud that refuses to pass.

That sounds amazing.

Jenny jumps in quickly.

What do you think, mom?

Doesn't that sound fun?

Her voice is too chipper.

Eyes flicking toward Kate with the

hope that a simple question might

smooth over the crack in the room.

Ted shifts slightly in his chair.

His gaze fixed on his wife.

He raises his eyebrows just enough

to signal, go easy, try to be happy,

but it's clear he's bracing himself

after almost 30 years of marriage.

He knows her moods, her tells he knows

exactly where this could be headed.

When Kate answers, yeah, it sounds great.

With a snap of sarcasm.

Ted Exhales just barely

for a split second.

It seems like that might be the end of

it, but then he catches the sudden shift.

In her expression.

She gasps his shoulders, stiffen.

Here it comes.

Maybe we should all go.

Her somber mood instantly

flips to excitement making her

way to the front of the room.

Sloan tenses, every instinct

screams at her to shut the

idea down, but she hesitates.

It's not her place.

Kate has always been dismissive of her.

Why would this moment be any different?

Funny mom, Ferris cuts in

forcing a chuckle, but there's

an edge of unease in his voice.

No, I'm serious.

Wouldn't it be great?

Kate stands as if she's launching

into a full blown presentation.

She turns to her husband,

eyes bright with enthusiasm.

Ted, shouldn't we go?

Ted?

Takes a deep breath.

Kate.

We can go to Santa Monica any other time.

I don't think we need to hijack our

son's vacation with his girlfriend.

He runs a hand across his forehead as

if trying to smooth out the wrinkles.

He's certain are forming.

Oh, come on.

It'll be so much fun to spend

Christmas together in California.

Kate is starting to act like this

is the best idea she's ever had.

She turns back towards Ferris, gesturing

to the Christmas tree already up in the

living room, decorated with ornaments,

with brief reminders of their childhood.

You know how much Christmas means to me.

Ferris opens his mouth like he's about

to say something when a defeated look

appears on his face, and he stops.

He knows his mom.

She doesn't take hearing no very

well, and it would turn into a huge

ordeal if he tries to push back Now.

He tries to figure out a way to

get her to back off a bit and

decides to change the subject.

Leaning forward and peeking around

Sloan to catch his dad's eye.

Wow.

Dad, I am so full.

That Turkey you made was fantastic.

Way better than last year's.

Ted Beams about to respond.

When Kate jumps in.

It was, you really know how to make

the holidays special around here.

All of you.

Her smile is a little too bright

as she claps her hands together.

Now, who wants dessert?

She asks already pivoting

toward the kitchen.

That sounds great.

I'll help you.

Jenny says, as she shakes her head

behind her mom and disappointment,

as Kate and Jenny disappear into the

kitchen, Ted leans in lowering his

voice for only Ferris and Sloan to hear.

Hey.

He says, offering a warm smile.

I think the trip sounds perfect.

You too deserve it.

He pauses his eyes flicking toward the

kitchen, and you know how your mother is.

She just needs a minute to adjust.

Don't let it ruin your plans.

Ferris puts his arm around

Sloan gently pulling her closer.

There was no doubt in his mind.

Sloan didn't want his mom on

their couple's vacation and he

wasn't going to let it happen.

It wasn't unusual for his mom to

try to control new situations.

In the past, he might've let

it slide, but not this time.

Sloan was different.

She was his person.

She was articulate, compassionate

and beautiful, but not in a

way that banked for attention.

More like the kind of beauty

that you noticed slowly.

Then couldn't unsee.

Ferris used to tell his mom

everything back when he was a kid.

It had felt natural, easy even.

She always knew what to say.

Always had a plan.

But then he remembered the

summer after seventh grade.

He had been obsessed with skateboarding,

saving up every dollar from mowing

lawns to buy his first board.

He and his best friend Ben, would spend

hours practicing tricks, wiping out on

the pavement, laughing at their bruises

until Kate decided it was dangerous.

He's a bad influence.

She had told him one night, arms

crossed, lips pressed into a thin line.

Always pushing you to do reckless things.

You'll break an arm Ferris,

and what about school?

You need to focus.

He had argued, of course he had, but

then came the nagging, the disappointed

size, the gentle, but firm reminders

of all the things she had done for him.

I'm only trying to protect

you, and so he quit.

He told Ben he was too busy and that his

mom needed his help around the house.

It wasn't true, but it was easier than

fighting about it or living with guilt.

Now, years later, Ferris knew better.

He saw the pattern, the way she

packaged control as concern.

It wasn't just about skateboarding

or friends or even his career.

It was everything, every choice,

every step he took, which is why he

barely told her anything anymore.

They enjoyed their dessert together.

Moving past the idea of them all,

going to Santa Monica for Christmas.

Ferris did his best to get his mom

talking about her new book club with

the neighbor Ladies after dessert,

he and Sloane start inching their way

to the door, getting on their shoes

and coats so they can head home.

Oh, leaving so soon.

Kate's voice carries a hint of

surprise, though it's clear she's more

focused on keeping them there than

acknowledging how difficult she could be.

Sloan turns and smiles at Kate

trying to keep things light.

Yeah, it's getting light.

I'm hoping to call my mom on the

way home since we didn't get to

see her this year for Thanksgiving.

Kate ignores Sloan's comment

and turns towards Ferris.

Well, bye guys.

It was so great having you guys

here for Thanksgiving, as you

should be for all holidays.

Kate accentuates the all to make

sure they remember where she stands.

Ferris forces a smile before

placing his hand on Sloan's

back as they turn to leave.

I'll meet you in the car in just a sec.

I forgot to grab some pie to take home.

Oh yeah, sure.

Bye Kate.

Bye, Ted.

Thanks again for having us.

The food was delicious.

Sloan says, wrapping her scarf around

her neck as she stepped out of the house.

Okay, so there's pumpkin

and apple pie left.

Which did you want?

You know what, I'll go

grab you some of each.

Kate says as she hurs into the kitchen.

Um, I'll have some apple, but

actually I don't really need any pie.

Ferris says, checking to make sure

Sloan hasn't walked back into the house.

He looks directly at his mom.

Can I talk to you for a second?

Sure.

Of course.

Look, I'm really excited

for this vacation.

I'm going to start planning tonight.

Kate interrupts a little too quickly.

Ted easing his way back into the living

room, props his legs up in the recliner.

His eyes are tired and it's clear

he's had enough for the night.

He knows exactly how his wife

can be, so he shuts down,

retreating into his own space.

No, mom, you can't come.

Ferris says his tone firmer this time.

What do you mean?

Why?

Oh wait.

You're breaking up with Sloan, aren't you?

I knew something was off tonight.

What?

No, nothing was off with us tonight.

I'd really like this trip to just be Sloan

and me so we can have some time alone.

A long time.

Kate Scoffs.

What do you need alone time for?

You already live together.

I hardly see you anymore.

She pauses before adding.

I wouldn't want to intrude, but

maybe I could just stay nearby.

Dad and I will get our own hotel room.

We'll have our own time, but we

can meet up for dinners and stuff.

She continues rummaging

through the kitchen cabinets.

Searching for a container bag

big enough for the leftover pie.

No, I'm sorry.

I love you, but this

trip is for Sloan in me.

I need you to respect that

Ferris states for a moment.

Kate wonders if she's being too

harsh, if maybe she's giving

him a reason to pull away.

But the thought is bleeding.

She quickly reminds herself of everything

she's done for him over the years.

He still needs her.

Well, what if something happens?

I could help you plan it.

It's already planned and

paid for Ferris Exhales.

But look, I need to tell you why.

It just needs to be the two of us.

Okay?

Kate stops what she's doing and stands

there wide-eyed, staring at her son.

Actually, I kind of want to

tell Dad too really quickly.

Hey dad, can you come in here, Ted Hurries

over from the other room to join them.

So really quick, I want to talk

to you and mom to let you know why

I want to take Sloan on vacation.

Just the two of us.

Oh man, I think I know

where this is going.

Ted says, with a big smile on his face.

Ferris looks over at his mom.

Who looks like she's just seen a ghost.

I actually plan on surprising Sloan and

proposing the first night we're there, the

room goes silent and Ferris looks at both

of his parents for any kind of approval.

Ted looks at Kate waiting for

her reaction, proposing what?

She responds slowly.

Her voice tinged with uncertainty as

she tries to piece it all together.

She knew exactly what he meant,

but if he saw how confused she

was, maybe he would take it as a

sign that the timing wasn't right.

Come on, Kate.

Ted finally jumps in.

Oh my gosh, Ferris, this is so exciting.

He walks up and wraps

his arms around his son.

Giving him a strong, reassuring

pat on the back, the silent

gesture filled with unspoken.

Congratulations.

Kate just stands there staring at

the two of them, vowing her naivety.

Marriage Mom Ferris says, is he loosened

his dad's grip on him and turns.

What else am I going to propose?

What, but you hardly know her.

Are you sure she's the right one for you?

She starts shuffling around the

kitchen, cleaning up items from dinner,

forgetting about the pie completely.

Ted is caught in the middle looking

around like he's praying for an out.

I don't consider two and

a half years together.

Hardly knowing each other.

Yes, I know she's the right one for me.

Ferris's voice is tight as he peers

out the window behind him to make

sure Sloan is okay in the car.

His mom isn't backing

down, but you are so young.

Maybe just give it some more time.

Ted can't hold his tongue anymore.

I think what your mom is trying to say is

congratulations, right to Kate, he says.

Looking over at her, giving her

every opportunity to change her tune.

Congratulations.

It hasn't even happened yet.

He is just telling us

his hypothetical plan.

He still has to really think about it.

She smiles.

I don't think you realize how big

of a decision this truly is for her.

She says Condescendingly putting her hand

on the counter to reach out and touches.

Ferris pulls his hand back and

moves away from the counter.

Okay, well I can see where

this conversation is going.

He takes a moment to take a

breath and gather himself.

Thank you Dad for the congratulations.

Sloan's waiting in the car, so I

gotta get going, but um, thanks.

I guess he hurries past his

parents and out the door before he

realizes he forgot the pie Shit.