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Hey guys, welcome to this

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episode of Here Comes The Drama.

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I'm your host, Krista Ennis, and

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it's actually my birthday today.

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and so I wanted to do something

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special for this birthday episode,

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and that is share one of my all

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time favorite Patreon episodes.

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Called the mother of the groom files.

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You guys are always asking me to

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share more stories and more content,

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and this was a wild episode with

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a wild story, so I thought I would

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give back to you guys this week.

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But first, just a couple

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of fun announcements.

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We're gonna start with a podcast review.

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This is from Monica.

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Daniel, it says, I don't ever

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listen to podcasts, but when I

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saw your Facebook post that you

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started, one, I had to start.

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Your skits are like crack.

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You want more and more and more.

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LOL.

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Thank you so much for the kind review.

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Now one more extra bonus for this week

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is in case you missed it, my new book

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an audio book, and I'm so, so excited.

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and so it's now officially out.

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There's also an exclusive author's

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the episode, and I'm going to

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Side note.

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August has just been a wild month already.

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I can hardly keep up.

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I can't believe it's already, by the time

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I feel like if anyone else is feeling

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that way, I'm right there with you.

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anyways, I wanna remind you guys that

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can easily find it at the bottom.

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we are doing a $75 Amazon gift

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some smaller prizes as well.

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Alright, so like I said, we are

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going to, Give you a special

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look at a Patreon episode.

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This was my all time favorite one,

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the mother of the groom files.

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This was a wild episode where I read,

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oh gosh, we do some hot takes and I

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gave you my takes on these mother of

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groom situations that were sent to me.

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a mother of the groom, 9 1 1 advice call.

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So someone sent me in something

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that happened to them and

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they're trying to deal with the.

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And then I read a couple of stories and

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one is probably top 10 wildest mother

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of the groom stories I've ever read.

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So we're gonna go ahead and

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play that whole episode for you

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and I hope you guys enjoy it.

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And don't forget to stick around to

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the very end of the episode for the

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first chapter of, here Comes the Drama.

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today I've got two crazy ones

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and of course I've not read them,

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we got some good ones for you.

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But I'll react, along with you.

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So let's get started.

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let's go right into the hot takes.

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All right, The mother of the groom should

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have a special role, but it doesn't

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need to mirror the mother of the brides.

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This is gonna depend in a

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relationship with each of them.

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a part of, I should say most of

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them, they had a unique role.

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but a lot of times both moms were there

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doing everything together, or just being

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a part of, the bride getting ready.

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I. so of course you're gonna have

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your special moment with your own mom

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versus your partner's mom, but I really

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feel like they have similar roles

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because it's both their kids' weddings.

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I'm very anti, it's the

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bride and groom's day, or.

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The bride and bride's day.

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The groom and groom's day.

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it's the couple's day.

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So I feel like it's really important that

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depending on your relationship, whoever

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wants to be involved is involved the

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same way we're not leaving anybody out.

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on how your relationship is.

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It's okay if the mother of the groom

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doesn't help with the planning.

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the bride gets so mad at the mother of

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the groom for not being involved, but.

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not necessarily their wheelhouse.

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there was one I read not that long ago

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where the bride was mad because she gave

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a task to the mother of the groom and

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it was basically to book the Airbnb for

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their wedding event and it was gonna

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be hosted in the backyard or something.

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she kept saying like, oh, she

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was taking so long to do it.

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closer and closer, all the ones

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that I had really liked were booked.

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put that in the hands of someone else.

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for that because she might have never

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had this kind of responsibility before.

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this was just kind of put on her lap.

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of the groom to want to be involved.

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and I think that's perfectly okay.

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number three, mother-in-laws

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giving input on the guest list

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should only happen early, not the

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month before invitations go out.

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tips anytime, I'm sure, again,

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depending on your relationship.

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But yeah, we are not asking for.

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And like guest list a month

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before, that's just too much.

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there was another mother-in-law story

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where they asked her way in advance

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to send a guest list and she kept

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refusing because she didn't like that

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they were only gonna invite 100 people.

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like, no, I'm not sending you a list.

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I'm not sending you a list.

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then they went the extra mile and were

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looking in her address book to get.

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invite and I'm just like, if it's

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gonna be that difficult, why even try?

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I think everybody, if you're gonna

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have your parents' friends be invited,

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reach out to them early enough, give

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them a deadline and be very clear.

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I'm gonna do a couple more we've got

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a long story for you guys and I don't

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want, it to be like a two hour episode.

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I'm sure you guys wouldn't

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complain, but Okay.

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A neutral colored dress is

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totally fine as long as it's

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cleared with the couple first.

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Uh, it's so hard because some of these

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things are gonna be really individual.

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neutral is totally fine.

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what's wrong with neutral colored?

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but I think you can do other

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neutral colors in general.

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ask the bride groom, but.

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I would never assume that white is okay.

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Number five, it's not rude to set

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boundaries with your future mother-in-law.

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It's healthy.

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That goes with for anybody, even people

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that you have a great relationship with.

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Boundaries are so good, I think so many

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times we think boundaries are a way of

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like shutting people out or being mean,

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especially if you're a people pleaser.

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It's not like boundaries can be like, I

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turn my phone off at 7:00 PM and I spend

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time with just my family right here.

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I don't answer the phone even for my

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best friend, my boss, whoever it is.

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And I think that's so important

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because so many times, like we

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think we can be at everyone's beck

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and call and that we're gonna be

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mean if we say no or don't answer.

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But no, you gotta have boundaries.

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Last one.

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The best thing a mother of the groom

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can ask is, how can I support you

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instead of assuming what's helpful.

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Yeah, I think that's great.

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If you are in a wedding, if you are a

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mother of the groom, if you are the mother

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of the bride, if you're a father, like

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whatever your relationship is to them,

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how can I support you is a great way.

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Instead of just jumping in and

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saying, I'm taking this task from

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you because nobody likes that.

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Next section.

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We are gonna do some confessions.

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I have a couple of confessions here

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that people sent me, and then the last

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one's gonna be more of like a 9 1 1.

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What do I do in this situation?

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told my son she could help him

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come up with an escape plan.

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What if the day of he gets cold feet?

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So I'm guessing the son

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then told his partner.

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It was like, my mom told me this.

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That's insane.

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That's insane.

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we wanna encourage the couple.

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I mean, unless it's completely toxic

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and, it's a bad relationship, which

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even then, like you gotta make sure

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like you really are protecting your son.

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Otherwise, I'm not saying anything.

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I said this a while back in an episode.

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This girl was talking about

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her whole family didn't like

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the partner of her brother.

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Right?

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And they wanted to say something so bad.

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And I was like, you can't, you can't

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say something if you just don't like

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somebody, because if something blows up,

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it's gonna go back into your face, right?

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If you say like, oh, I don't like

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her, she's not right for you.

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It's gonna come back to bite you.

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It's better to just be supportive.

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of course if there's certain things

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that they say that's going to,

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that are just like, down or rude,

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put you down, that kind of thing.

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But if it's just like, I don't

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like them because of the way they

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talk, I don't like them because

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they don't seem right for you.

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I'm just protecting you.

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Like, no, we don't need to say that.

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Okay.

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Two.

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My bridal shower, my mother-in-law

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gave me a cookbook and said,

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you'll need this more than anyone.

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No.

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Okay.

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As someone that I am very

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insecure with my cooking.

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Like I enjoy doing it

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when there's no pressure.

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I like cooking for my family, but I

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feel like I'm surrounded by so many

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cooks that are like really good at

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what they do, that I'm just like,

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I just second guess everything.

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that'd be a little insulting.

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my husband and I buy cookbooks

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all the time 'cause we like

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try new recipes and stuff.

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But to specifically say to someone,

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'cause you need this more than anybody.

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That's just a, we call that

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a backhanded compliment.

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Actually, I'm not, that's

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not even a compliment.

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That's just backhanded.

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okay.

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My mother-in-law kept calling it her son's

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wedding and didn't mention my name once

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in the entire engagement announcement.

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Ooh, okay.

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I catch myself when I'm like talking

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about someone's story or reading someone's

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story, I'll say like, bride this, and

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I'm like, no, I need to stop doing that.

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The couple's day, the couple's

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wedding, it's so ingrained

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in us to talk a certain way.

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Right.

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But I feel like society says

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like it's the bride's day.

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So when you say it's like your

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son's day and your leaving out his

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partner, that's intentional, right?

354
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Yeah, that's pretty hard.

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I had someone on my podcast,

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Janelle Riedel, was on my podcast

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a couple weeks back, and she, well,

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by the time this comes out, it'll

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be probably like two months back.

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But, she had a very similar story sent to

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her where there was a, birth announcement.

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So this woman was saying her and her

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partner, her and her husband decided

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they did not want their babies.

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Face put anywhere, like on social

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media or anything like that, they

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made this very clear to the parents.

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They go to the parents' house to go

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visit them when the baby was like

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a newborn and sitting right on the

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table, there was a newspaper clipping

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where they had a birth announcement.

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The grandparents put in a birth

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announcement in the newspaper.

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Not once did they mention

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the daughter-in-law's name.

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It was just proud grandparents

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of said the baby's name and

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then said their son's name.

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That was it.

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So that is intentional, you are

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purposely leaving someone out when

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it took two people to make that baby.

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So I don't know.

385
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that's making a statement for sure.

386
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okay.

387
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Here is the 9 1 1 confession.

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she's kind of more of

389
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like asking for help.

390
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Right.

391
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Okay.

392
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My mother-in-law just told me she bought a

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white dress to wear to our wedding because

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it's the only color she looks good in.

395
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I've gotten similar ones before.

396
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I told her I wasn't comfortable

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with that and she said I was being

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territorial and should be honored

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that she's making an effort at all.

400
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My fiance is trying to stay neutral.

401
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The wedding is in three weeks.

402
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What do I do?

403
00:12:12,605 --> 00:12:13,585
first things first.

404
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I'm only talking about this general

405
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situation right here because I don't want

406
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people coming back and being like, oh

407
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my gosh, I can't believe you care about

408
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people wearing white at your wedding.

409
00:12:22,565 --> 00:12:25,012
I personally, I wouldn't care again.

410
00:12:25,242 --> 00:12:26,970
It depends on the relationship because

411
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if you already have a rocky relationship

412
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and someone's like, I'm wearing white to

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your wedding, I'm getting a full gown.

414
00:12:32,804 --> 00:12:34,364
Again, back to the intentional.

415
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It's intentional and they want you

416
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to feel a certain way, So my guess is

417
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if she says, oh, I only look good in

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white, so I'm wearing a white dress

419
00:12:42,475 --> 00:12:44,269
to your wedding, it's because there's

420
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already some kind of rift there, right?

421
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First things first, the fiance

422
00:12:47,599 --> 00:12:48,979
staying neutral is not okay.

423
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He needs to make a choice

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of who he's backing up.

425
00:12:52,231 --> 00:12:54,380
if he's choosing to marry you, he

426
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should be backing you up, right?

427
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He needs to be the one to,

428
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communicate to his mother that

429
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this is not appropriate or okay.

430
00:13:02,283 --> 00:13:03,523
Now again, I'm speaking for this

431
00:13:03,523 --> 00:13:04,873
couple because she has made it

432
00:13:04,873 --> 00:13:06,523
clear she is not okay with it.

433
00:13:06,773 --> 00:13:08,270
If you're okay with white at

434
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your wedding, this is not.

435
00:13:09,722 --> 00:13:10,814
Relating to you, right?

436
00:13:11,053 --> 00:13:12,916
So he needs to be the one to communicate

437
00:13:12,916 --> 00:13:16,438
to his mom, Hey Sophie, whatever her

438
00:13:16,438 --> 00:13:18,828
name is, has said she's not okay with it.

439
00:13:18,828 --> 00:13:20,148
And I would actually rather

440
00:13:20,148 --> 00:13:21,618
her be the only one in white as

441
00:13:21,618 --> 00:13:24,214
well, really make it more what he

442
00:13:24,214 --> 00:13:28,104
thinks and be that bridge, right?

443
00:13:28,351 --> 00:13:30,271
Because if he's trying to stay neutral.

444
00:13:30,466 --> 00:13:31,331
It's gonna make them

445
00:13:31,331 --> 00:13:32,591
bash even more, right?

446
00:13:32,591 --> 00:13:33,461
Because they're both gonna

447
00:13:33,461 --> 00:13:35,051
try to get him on their side.

448
00:13:35,262 --> 00:13:36,198
So he needs to make a

449
00:13:36,198 --> 00:13:37,248
clear standing point.

450
00:13:37,542 --> 00:13:39,021
Being the wedding is only in three

451
00:13:39,021 --> 00:13:40,701
weeks, so she's gonna try to like push

452
00:13:40,701 --> 00:13:42,811
back and push back and say like, oh,

453
00:13:42,811 --> 00:13:44,461
well there's no time to get a new dress.

454
00:13:44,461 --> 00:13:46,111
Oh, I can's, the only dress I have.

455
00:13:46,338 --> 00:13:46,848
There's time.

456
00:13:46,989 --> 00:13:47,435
There's time.

457
00:13:47,712 --> 00:13:49,152
you've made it very clear that

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you're not comfortable with it, so.

459
00:13:51,572 --> 00:13:53,615
All you can do is communicate and

460
00:13:53,615 --> 00:13:55,205
you need to let your partner know

461
00:13:55,205 --> 00:13:56,675
that he needs to communicate to her.

462
00:13:56,955 --> 00:13:58,892
that being said, if she still

463
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chooses to show up that day

464
00:14:00,572 --> 00:14:02,575
in a white dress, you can.

465
00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:03,815
There's different things you can do.

466
00:14:03,815 --> 00:14:05,768
Talk to your vendors ahead of time,

467
00:14:05,833 --> 00:14:07,123
maybe your photographer and say

468
00:14:07,123 --> 00:14:09,163
like, Hey, my mother-in-law has told

469
00:14:09,163 --> 00:14:10,093
me he's gonna wear a white dress.

470
00:14:10,378 --> 00:14:11,009
What do we do?

471
00:14:11,331 --> 00:14:13,439
They might be able to situate her.

472
00:14:13,499 --> 00:14:15,299
I mean, it's hard because she's the mom,

473
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so she's gonna be in the front pictures.

474
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They might be able to like move her.

475
00:14:18,613 --> 00:14:19,273
So someone's like

476
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standing in front of her.

477
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I know this happened in one

478
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of the stories sent to me.

479
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She said the photographer worked with her

480
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and like, it was like an aunt though, and

481
00:14:26,535 --> 00:14:28,138
they put someone directly in front of her.

482
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So you couldn't really tell.

483
00:14:29,518 --> 00:14:30,605
and then you have to decide how

484
00:14:30,605 --> 00:14:32,651
important it is to you and it's hard.

485
00:14:33,138 --> 00:14:35,238
This is where you are like, you know what?

486
00:14:35,474 --> 00:14:37,425
We've dealt with so much with her already.

487
00:14:37,638 --> 00:14:38,465
This is it for me.

488
00:14:38,495 --> 00:14:38,975
I'm done.

489
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I'm done dealing with it.

490
00:14:39,995 --> 00:14:41,285
Then you have to make that decision

491
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and tell your partner and try

492
00:14:42,455 --> 00:14:43,415
to get him on the same page.

493
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If this is one little blip in

494
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the day and there's been no

495
00:14:46,445 --> 00:14:48,461
other issues, Just let it go.

496
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Everyone's gonna know you're the

497
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bride and everyone's gonna look at

498
00:14:50,921 --> 00:14:52,601
her and be like, that's ridiculous.

499
00:14:52,691 --> 00:14:54,261
So you kinda have to decide and

500
00:14:54,261 --> 00:14:56,121
make a decision on your own and with

501
00:14:56,240 --> 00:14:57,840
your partner to be like, how big

502
00:14:57,840 --> 00:14:59,040
of a deal do we wanna make this?

503
00:14:59,278 --> 00:15:00,283
Not saying you're the one making

504
00:15:00,283 --> 00:15:01,717
a big deal, but like, do you

505
00:15:01,717 --> 00:15:03,487
wanna escalate it or just drop it?

506
00:15:03,927 --> 00:15:04,167
Okay.

507
00:15:04,501 --> 00:15:06,197
So you guys listening at home,

508
00:15:06,571 --> 00:15:07,217
what would you do?

509
00:15:07,531 --> 00:15:08,315
Let her wear it.

510
00:15:08,664 --> 00:15:10,518
And again, she would outshine nobody.

511
00:15:10,518 --> 00:15:10,818
Right?

512
00:15:11,131 --> 00:15:13,412
Would you ban her from photos?

513
00:15:13,651 --> 00:15:14,968
Would you ask the photographer

514
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to gray scale her dress or like

515
00:15:16,798 --> 00:15:19,262
move her somehow or politely

516
00:15:19,262 --> 00:15:20,912
ask her to sit the wedding out.

517
00:15:21,204 --> 00:15:23,192
These are like four different,

518
00:15:23,192 --> 00:15:24,242
complete different things.

519
00:15:24,461 --> 00:15:26,698
Me, if I were in her situation where you

520
00:15:26,698 --> 00:15:29,098
already communicated and it was an issue.

521
00:15:29,371 --> 00:15:30,612
I think I would just let her wear

522
00:15:30,612 --> 00:15:32,228
it, not I wouldn't shine anybody.

523
00:15:32,228 --> 00:15:33,398
And then I would probably be like,

524
00:15:33,398 --> 00:15:35,138
okay, photographer, what can we do here?

525
00:15:35,301 --> 00:15:35,765
And then I would just

526
00:15:35,765 --> 00:15:36,785
like not worry about it.

527
00:15:37,068 --> 00:15:38,588
But again, I'm not in that situation.

528
00:15:38,588 --> 00:15:39,638
It's very hard when you already

529
00:15:39,638 --> 00:15:41,508
have like a bad relationship.

530
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Right.

531
00:15:42,074 --> 00:15:43,282
Okay, here we go.

532
00:15:43,363 --> 00:15:45,607
lemme get a drink of my energy drink here.

533
00:15:45,607 --> 00:15:48,037
It's just to warm up my vocals because.

534
00:15:48,413 --> 00:15:49,838
I'm telling you guys, these allergies

535
00:15:49,838 --> 00:15:51,638
are just like making my throat scratchy.

536
00:15:51,934 --> 00:15:53,004
Okay, here we go.

537
00:15:53,270 --> 00:15:55,231
Mother of the groom confessions.

538
00:15:55,550 --> 00:15:56,911
These are stories from the vault.

539
00:15:57,320 --> 00:15:58,871
So someone sent me these stories, okay?

540
00:15:59,167 --> 00:16:00,794
It's finally my turn to share.

541
00:16:01,107 --> 00:16:02,894
My husband and I had a set wedding

542
00:16:02,894 --> 00:16:04,484
date that was really meaningful to

543
00:16:04,484 --> 00:16:06,811
us, it also worked well with one of

544
00:16:06,811 --> 00:16:08,641
our closest friend's work schedules.

545
00:16:08,919 --> 00:16:11,165
His mom had found a venue she thought

546
00:16:11,165 --> 00:16:13,325
would be perfect, but it wasn't

547
00:16:13,325 --> 00:16:15,125
available on the date we'd chosen.

548
00:16:15,505 --> 00:16:16,921
She asked me what I thought about it,

549
00:16:16,981 --> 00:16:19,258
and if we'd consider switching dates.

550
00:16:19,535 --> 00:16:20,900
I told her it was a beautiful

551
00:16:20,900 --> 00:16:22,730
venue, but I wanted to keep looking.

552
00:16:22,985 --> 00:16:25,463
We really wanted that specific date and I

553
00:16:25,463 --> 00:16:27,803
was also considering something outdoors.

554
00:16:28,019 --> 00:16:29,520
Then I went to work.

555
00:16:29,779 --> 00:16:31,336
When I got home, my husband was

556
00:16:31,336 --> 00:16:32,806
buzzing with excitement saying

557
00:16:32,806 --> 00:16:34,876
how thrilled he was that we had

558
00:16:34,876 --> 00:16:36,976
a venue and locked in our date.

559
00:16:37,290 --> 00:16:37,950
What?

560
00:16:38,579 --> 00:16:40,723
I was totally confused.

561
00:16:40,942 --> 00:16:43,012
Turns out my mother-in-law had

562
00:16:43,012 --> 00:16:45,052
gone ahead and booked the venue

563
00:16:45,112 --> 00:16:47,272
anyway without waiting for our

564
00:16:47,272 --> 00:16:50,442
answer, just assuming she knew best.

565
00:16:50,701 --> 00:16:52,179
You are kidding me.

566
00:16:52,631 --> 00:16:53,819
I take back everything I said

567
00:16:53,819 --> 00:16:55,169
about reading crazy stories.

568
00:16:55,169 --> 00:16:56,519
This is the craziest mother of

569
00:16:56,519 --> 00:16:57,749
the groom story I've ever read.

570
00:16:58,081 --> 00:17:00,072
Why would you take that

571
00:17:00,072 --> 00:17:01,062
into your own hands?

572
00:17:01,122 --> 00:17:02,985
And then I'm also wondering, I know that's

573
00:17:02,985 --> 00:17:04,275
probably gonna come up, but I'm also

574
00:17:04,275 --> 00:17:06,989
wondering why the fiance heard it from his

575
00:17:06,989 --> 00:17:09,269
mom and was like, okay, this is awesome.

576
00:17:09,269 --> 00:17:09,779
This is cool.

577
00:17:09,911 --> 00:17:11,812
Wouldn't he go to his like fiance

578
00:17:11,812 --> 00:17:14,779
first and be like, Hey, this is weird.

579
00:17:14,779 --> 00:17:15,889
Did you talk to my mom?

580
00:17:16,428 --> 00:17:18,079
But he's like excited for it.

581
00:17:18,109 --> 00:17:18,649
Come on.

582
00:17:20,055 --> 00:17:22,355
Okay, because we had agreed that his

583
00:17:22,355 --> 00:17:23,765
family would be covering the costs

584
00:17:23,765 --> 00:17:26,032
for the venue, I felt cornered.

585
00:17:26,284 --> 00:17:28,079
I ended up going along with a change

586
00:17:28,079 --> 00:17:29,309
and just tried to make it work.

587
00:17:29,608 --> 00:17:30,772
No.

588
00:17:30,832 --> 00:17:31,732
Oh my gosh.

589
00:17:31,732 --> 00:17:34,409
I feel terrible for her because here's

590
00:17:34,409 --> 00:17:37,442
the thing, like, oh, I feel so bad

591
00:17:37,442 --> 00:17:38,852
for her because it's like the husband

592
00:17:38,852 --> 00:17:41,223
comes in or partner comes in he's like.

593
00:17:41,470 --> 00:17:42,610
Oh, this is so great.

594
00:17:42,610 --> 00:17:43,420
We got this venue.

595
00:17:43,420 --> 00:17:44,860
So then she sees his excitement

596
00:17:45,148 --> 00:17:46,753
after already talking to the mom,

597
00:17:46,933 --> 00:17:48,701
the mother-in-law, and now she feels

598
00:17:48,701 --> 00:17:50,081
like she has to say yes because

599
00:17:50,081 --> 00:17:51,341
they're paying for the venue.

600
00:17:51,566 --> 00:17:54,256
in reality she already told the mom

601
00:17:54,436 --> 00:17:55,996
like, no, I'm gonna keep looking.

602
00:17:55,996 --> 00:17:57,106
And she was like, you know what?

603
00:17:57,406 --> 00:17:57,886
Screw you.

604
00:17:57,886 --> 00:17:59,026
I'm gonna do what I want anyways.

605
00:17:59,342 --> 00:18:00,392
no, it's not your wedding.

606
00:18:00,689 --> 00:18:01,204
Oh my gosh.

607
00:18:01,571 --> 00:18:03,431
A few weeks later, I was talking about

608
00:18:03,431 --> 00:18:05,361
wedding dress in SPO during a family

609
00:18:05,361 --> 00:18:07,507
dinner with his side of the family.

610
00:18:07,682 --> 00:18:08,977
That's when my father-in-law

611
00:18:09,007 --> 00:18:11,701
decided it was his job to take

612
00:18:11,701 --> 00:18:14,194
charge of my wedding dress, even

613
00:18:14,194 --> 00:18:15,754
though my family was paying for it.

614
00:18:16,019 --> 00:18:16,166
Okay.

615
00:18:16,882 --> 00:18:20,384
In general, it's weird that the family

616
00:18:20,384 --> 00:18:22,214
thinks that they have control over her

617
00:18:22,214 --> 00:18:24,691
wedding dress, but the father-in-law.

618
00:18:24,952 --> 00:18:26,811
I wouldn't trust my own father

619
00:18:26,871 --> 00:18:28,071
to pick out my wedding dress.

620
00:18:28,266 --> 00:18:29,951
I wouldn't trust my husband to pick out

621
00:18:29,951 --> 00:18:31,647
my wedding dress and he is got great

622
00:18:31,647 --> 00:18:33,417
style, but so it's nothing against that.

623
00:18:33,417 --> 00:18:34,484
It's just that's such a

624
00:18:34,484 --> 00:18:36,434
personal, personal thing.

625
00:18:36,699 --> 00:18:37,627
Oh my gosh.

626
00:18:37,889 --> 00:18:40,334
He insisted I buy it on

627
00:18:40,424 --> 00:18:42,734
Amazon to save money.

628
00:18:43,012 --> 00:18:44,484
But I had no problem spending

629
00:18:44,484 --> 00:18:47,034
$900 plus on my husband's suit.

630
00:18:47,262 --> 00:18:48,291
That seems like a lot of money.

631
00:18:48,526 --> 00:18:50,391
We spent, gosh, I think under

632
00:18:50,391 --> 00:18:52,131
300 from my husband's suit.

633
00:18:52,442 --> 00:18:53,852
this isn't sponsored or anything, but we

634
00:18:53,852 --> 00:18:56,192
used Modern Groom and it was like so easy.

635
00:18:56,192 --> 00:18:57,512
They sent it to us at home.

636
00:18:57,729 --> 00:18:58,472
My husband and I are very

637
00:18:58,472 --> 00:18:59,762
like, let's check the boxes.

638
00:18:59,762 --> 00:19:00,482
Like we.

639
00:19:00,832 --> 00:19:02,057
I don't need to go somewhere and see

640
00:19:02,057 --> 00:19:03,707
10 suits and see which one looks best.

641
00:19:03,707 --> 00:19:05,117
We pretty much were like, let's look at

642
00:19:05,117 --> 00:19:07,994
them online and do it like, I don't know.

643
00:19:08,132 --> 00:19:08,974
I know everybody's different.

644
00:19:08,974 --> 00:19:11,037
That was just us, $900 plus

645
00:19:11,037 --> 00:19:12,537
for a suit, but he wanted her

646
00:19:12,537 --> 00:19:14,187
to order her dress on Amazon.

647
00:19:14,482 --> 00:19:16,042
I politely told him I'd figure

648
00:19:16,042 --> 00:19:17,272
the dress out with my mom.

649
00:19:17,557 --> 00:19:20,882
He went ahead and ordered several dresses

650
00:19:21,011 --> 00:19:23,757
anyway was furious when I told him I'd

651
00:19:23,757 --> 00:19:25,257
already made a decision with my mom.

652
00:19:25,545 --> 00:19:26,581
Ew, I'm sorry.

653
00:19:26,581 --> 00:19:28,081
That is gross behavior.

654
00:19:28,081 --> 00:19:30,281
They are to completely like pulling

655
00:19:30,281 --> 00:19:32,471
her out of her own wedding situation.

656
00:19:32,715 --> 00:19:35,021
I need to talk to this person and get her

657
00:19:35,021 --> 00:19:37,691
on the podcast because this is like what?

658
00:19:38,018 --> 00:19:39,621
That moment pretty much set the tone

659
00:19:39,621 --> 00:19:40,911
for the rest of the wedding planning.

660
00:19:41,155 --> 00:19:41,707
Tense.

661
00:19:41,985 --> 00:19:42,237
Okay.

662
00:19:42,237 --> 00:19:45,021
So again, where's the fiance in all this?

663
00:19:45,021 --> 00:19:46,431
Why is he not backing her up and be

664
00:19:46,431 --> 00:19:48,201
like, dad, that's fricking weird.

665
00:19:48,452 --> 00:19:50,137
Why are you ordering wedding

666
00:19:50,137 --> 00:19:53,567
dresses for my fiance on Amazon?

667
00:19:53,858 --> 00:19:54,267
What?

668
00:19:54,508 --> 00:19:55,888
he should be standing in here

669
00:19:56,042 --> 00:19:57,398
saying like, no, this isn't okay.

670
00:19:57,836 --> 00:19:58,732
I'm getting heated guys.

671
00:19:58,986 --> 00:19:59,355
Okay.

672
00:19:59,582 --> 00:20:00,842
My mother-in-law wanted to

673
00:20:00,842 --> 00:20:02,792
plan every little detail.

674
00:20:02,983 --> 00:20:05,308
She constantly reminded me that I

675
00:20:05,308 --> 00:20:07,435
hadn't been married before, almost

676
00:20:07,435 --> 00:20:09,055
as if it was her way of justifying

677
00:20:09,266 --> 00:20:10,988
why she needed to take over.

678
00:20:11,503 --> 00:20:13,568
Oh, I'm so mad for her.

679
00:20:13,872 --> 00:20:15,792
Any bride, I mean I should say,

680
00:20:15,792 --> 00:20:17,532
majority of brides haven't been

681
00:20:17,532 --> 00:20:19,192
through that before, and even

682
00:20:19,192 --> 00:20:20,632
if they've been married before.

683
00:20:20,910 --> 00:20:22,772
Typically I see like they do a different

684
00:20:22,772 --> 00:20:24,542
style, like they do something different.

685
00:20:24,542 --> 00:20:24,812
Right.

686
00:20:25,020 --> 00:20:27,018
But it's like even if she had been

687
00:20:27,018 --> 00:20:28,612
married before, I feel like this

688
00:20:28,612 --> 00:20:29,812
mother-in-law would've come in and

689
00:20:29,812 --> 00:20:31,132
been like, no, we need to do it my way.

690
00:20:31,430 --> 00:20:32,338
Like, why is that any

691
00:20:32,338 --> 00:20:34,415
constellation to be able to go in?

692
00:20:34,547 --> 00:20:36,005
She's probably been married 30

693
00:20:36,005 --> 00:20:37,355
years, so things have changed

694
00:20:37,355 --> 00:20:38,315
a lot since she got married.

695
00:20:38,315 --> 00:20:40,325
So she's trying to like redo her wedding

696
00:20:40,593 --> 00:20:42,812
through her son and daughter-in-law.

697
00:20:42,812 --> 00:20:44,312
It's like, no, no, no, no.

698
00:20:44,623 --> 00:20:46,655
She kept pushing for her daughter,

699
00:20:46,685 --> 00:20:48,825
my sister-in-law, who I'm not close

700
00:20:48,825 --> 00:20:50,475
with to be one of the bridesmaids.

701
00:20:50,713 --> 00:20:52,708
Apparently she wasn't a bridesmaid

702
00:20:52,708 --> 00:20:54,298
in her other sister-in-law's

703
00:20:54,298 --> 00:20:56,428
wedding five years ago, and my

704
00:20:56,428 --> 00:20:58,528
mother-in-law wanted to fix that.

705
00:20:59,038 --> 00:20:59,848
Oh my gosh.

706
00:20:59,848 --> 00:21:02,502
This family, I explained kindly that I

707
00:21:02,502 --> 00:21:05,058
had a specific vision and that anyone

708
00:21:05,058 --> 00:21:06,828
who wanted to wear a specific color

709
00:21:06,828 --> 00:21:08,298
to the wedding was welcome to wear

710
00:21:08,298 --> 00:21:10,112
dark green, but it wasn't required.

711
00:21:10,383 --> 00:21:11,952
Later I got a message from my

712
00:21:11,952 --> 00:21:13,362
sister-in-law, double checking

713
00:21:13,362 --> 00:21:15,068
the color she'd been told by my

714
00:21:15,068 --> 00:21:17,032
mother-in-law, and it was the exact

715
00:21:17,032 --> 00:21:19,792
color of my bridesmaid dresses.

716
00:21:20,206 --> 00:21:21,495
Why am I not surprised?

717
00:21:21,870 --> 00:21:22,272
Oh my gosh.

718
00:21:22,563 --> 00:21:23,955
I talked to her directly.

719
00:21:24,146 --> 00:21:25,908
She was super understanding, and from

720
00:21:25,908 --> 00:21:28,898
then on she came to me to confirm details.

721
00:21:29,156 --> 00:21:30,465
Oh my gosh.

722
00:21:30,645 --> 00:21:31,545
This mom was just like,

723
00:21:31,545 --> 00:21:32,632
Nope, it's my wedding.

724
00:21:32,632 --> 00:21:33,562
Now I'm gonna do what I want.

725
00:21:33,805 --> 00:21:35,905
But the craziest thing, it happened

726
00:21:35,905 --> 00:21:37,255
a couple months before the wedding

727
00:21:37,255 --> 00:21:38,815
when we were sending out invites.

728
00:21:39,026 --> 00:21:41,292
I had a few friends come over to help

729
00:21:41,412 --> 00:21:43,932
address envelopes and had previously asked

730
00:21:43,932 --> 00:21:46,178
my mother-in-law for all of her addresses

731
00:21:46,413 --> 00:21:49,145
the day of, she told me to just drop off

732
00:21:49,145 --> 00:21:51,275
the invites and send them out herself.

733
00:21:51,532 --> 00:21:53,052
No, I'm calling it now.

734
00:21:53,082 --> 00:21:54,252
I dunno what's gonna happen.

735
00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:55,635
Do not do that.

736
00:21:55,933 --> 00:21:56,853
Do not do that.

737
00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:58,253
Someone that's already

738
00:21:58,426 --> 00:22:00,000
ignoring your every wish.

739
00:22:00,216 --> 00:22:02,503
your, every vision for the

740
00:22:02,503 --> 00:22:04,213
wedding is not gonna follow

741
00:22:04,213 --> 00:22:05,773
through with that simple task.

742
00:22:06,053 --> 00:22:06,870
No.

743
00:22:06,870 --> 00:22:07,320
Okay.

744
00:22:07,350 --> 00:22:08,700
I don't like the next sentence.

745
00:22:08,980 --> 00:22:10,293
I was rushing to work, so I

746
00:22:10,293 --> 00:22:12,222
dropped them off and said I'd come

747
00:22:12,222 --> 00:22:14,412
pick up whatever was left later.

748
00:22:14,755 --> 00:22:17,295
No, But Why do we need the mother-in-law

749
00:22:17,295 --> 00:22:19,335
to send them out herself if they're

750
00:22:19,335 --> 00:22:20,955
already labeled and everything?

751
00:22:21,295 --> 00:22:21,355
Ugh.

752
00:22:21,821 --> 00:22:22,995
Biggest mistake she says.

753
00:22:23,291 --> 00:22:24,768
After she mailed the invitations,

754
00:22:24,768 --> 00:22:26,405
she casually mentioned we

755
00:22:26,405 --> 00:22:27,965
might need to do a reprint.

756
00:22:28,081 --> 00:22:29,065
I was confused.

757
00:22:29,065 --> 00:22:30,805
I had like 59 extras.

758
00:22:31,015 --> 00:22:33,635
Why would we need more later that week?

759
00:22:33,635 --> 00:22:35,315
While checking over the shared guest

760
00:22:35,315 --> 00:22:37,792
list spreadsheet, which I finalized eight

761
00:22:37,792 --> 00:22:39,762
months ago and shared with both sets of

762
00:22:39,762 --> 00:22:42,585
parents and my husband, I found the issue.

763
00:22:42,852 --> 00:22:46,048
She sent out over 100 extra

764
00:22:46,048 --> 00:22:48,002
invitations about a month and

765
00:22:48,002 --> 00:22:49,082
a half before the wedding.

766
00:22:49,334 --> 00:22:52,760
My like planner self is getting

767
00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,030
so bent outta shape right now.

768
00:22:55,030 --> 00:22:57,060
This is not, oh my gosh.

769
00:22:57,296 --> 00:22:59,110
We need like a mean bridesmaid

770
00:22:59,110 --> 00:23:00,310
for every one of these nice

771
00:23:00,310 --> 00:23:02,620
brides because this is not okay.

772
00:23:02,856 --> 00:23:04,786
And again, where is the husband?

773
00:23:04,786 --> 00:23:06,196
Where is the fiance?

774
00:23:06,460 --> 00:23:08,170
Also you don't need to share.

775
00:23:08,376 --> 00:23:09,773
Your guest list with everyone.

776
00:23:10,033 --> 00:23:11,850
I had no reason to be like protective of

777
00:23:11,850 --> 00:23:13,557
my stuff, but like I don't need to send my

778
00:23:13,557 --> 00:23:15,447
guest list to every single person, so just

779
00:23:15,447 --> 00:23:17,157
my husband and I had it like, why does

780
00:23:17,157 --> 00:23:18,657
everyone need to see every single person?

781
00:23:18,914 --> 00:23:20,094
We reached out to all the parents

782
00:23:20,094 --> 00:23:21,264
and they sent us their list, and

783
00:23:21,264 --> 00:23:22,434
I took care of everything else.

784
00:23:22,694 --> 00:23:23,614
Again, if someone's already showing

785
00:23:23,614 --> 00:23:26,014
you not to trust them, don't trust

786
00:23:26,014 --> 00:23:27,874
them with a new and important task.

787
00:23:28,126 --> 00:23:28,382
Okay.

788
00:23:28,382 --> 00:23:29,642
She says, my family was providing

789
00:23:29,642 --> 00:23:31,592
the food, so I was beyond frustrated.

790
00:23:31,802 --> 00:23:33,342
I had always said they could invite

791
00:23:33,342 --> 00:23:35,345
as many people as they wanted, but it

792
00:23:35,345 --> 00:23:37,475
needed to be finalized months in advance.

793
00:23:37,729 --> 00:23:39,215
I asked my husband if he recognized

794
00:23:39,215 --> 00:23:41,815
the names he didn't or they were

795
00:23:41,815 --> 00:23:43,465
distant cousins that he specifically

796
00:23:43,465 --> 00:23:44,455
said he didn't want there.

797
00:23:44,870 --> 00:23:47,143
the worst part, because the invites

798
00:23:47,143 --> 00:23:49,536
were already sent, I had no way to

799
00:23:49,536 --> 00:23:51,396
contact these people and uninvite them.

800
00:23:52,056 --> 00:23:53,106
I'm exhausted.

801
00:23:53,256 --> 00:23:55,086
I am exhausted for this bride.

802
00:23:55,348 --> 00:23:57,230
I cannot believe that this happened.

803
00:23:57,290 --> 00:23:58,460
I am so sorry.

804
00:23:58,776 --> 00:23:59,796
couple more things that

805
00:23:59,796 --> 00:24:01,236
happened behind my back too.

806
00:24:01,523 --> 00:24:03,375
She tried to gather baby photos of me,

807
00:24:03,375 --> 00:24:04,700
even though I specifically said I did

808
00:24:04,700 --> 00:24:06,740
not want a slideshow or a wedding video.

809
00:24:07,082 --> 00:24:08,851
She tried to invite her own guest

810
00:24:08,851 --> 00:24:10,141
list to a bridal shower that

811
00:24:10,141 --> 00:24:11,701
was being hosted by my aunt.

812
00:24:11,761 --> 00:24:12,811
Why am I not surprised?

813
00:24:12,871 --> 00:24:14,011
She did a hundred extra

814
00:24:14,011 --> 00:24:14,881
people to the wedding?

815
00:24:15,099 --> 00:24:16,478
I didn't know what happened with this.

816
00:24:16,538 --> 00:24:17,108
Okay, let's see.

817
00:24:17,409 --> 00:24:18,388
Then came the wedding day.

818
00:24:18,625 --> 00:24:19,548
People showed up late.

819
00:24:19,833 --> 00:24:21,748
Two of my husband's groomsmen arrived

820
00:24:21,748 --> 00:24:22,768
an hour and a half after they were

821
00:24:22,768 --> 00:24:24,951
supposed to, and 30 minutes after

822
00:24:24,951 --> 00:24:26,751
the ceremony was scheduled to start.

823
00:24:27,091 --> 00:24:27,518
What?

824
00:24:27,861 --> 00:24:28,491
Oh my gosh.

825
00:24:28,491 --> 00:24:29,271
People need to be

826
00:24:29,331 --> 00:24:30,464
reminded a hundred times.

827
00:24:30,464 --> 00:24:31,527
Some people need to be

828
00:24:31,527 --> 00:24:32,427
reminded a hundred times.

829
00:24:32,686 --> 00:24:34,140
Luckily we have no one late

830
00:24:34,140 --> 00:24:35,460
for our wedding, but I hear

831
00:24:35,460 --> 00:24:36,630
it happen all the time.

832
00:24:36,937 --> 00:24:38,350
we asked everyone to arrive

833
00:24:38,380 --> 00:24:39,910
an hour early for photos.

834
00:24:40,030 --> 00:24:41,470
Even my in-laws showed up 30

835
00:24:41,470 --> 00:24:43,240
minutes late, adding to the chaos.

836
00:24:43,500 --> 00:24:45,100
Luckily, once the ceremony started,

837
00:24:45,100 --> 00:24:46,630
everything turned out beautifully,

838
00:24:46,837 --> 00:24:49,073
but the lead up absolute hell.

839
00:24:49,321 --> 00:24:51,061
I need to know how this ended.

840
00:24:51,061 --> 00:24:51,871
I need to reach out to

841
00:24:51,871 --> 00:24:53,581
her and ask her what?

842
00:24:53,815 --> 00:24:55,916
The heck happened after this.

843
00:24:55,916 --> 00:24:57,271
Like, what is going on here?

844
00:24:57,271 --> 00:24:59,521
Because this is literally insane.

845
00:24:59,791 --> 00:25:00,694
The fact that a hundred

846
00:25:00,694 --> 00:25:01,564
x people were invited.

847
00:25:01,564 --> 00:25:03,168
I need to know, like, did you need

848
00:25:03,168 --> 00:25:04,894
a bigger venue, a bigger room?

849
00:25:05,063 --> 00:25:06,524
How much was the cost, like.

850
00:25:06,746 --> 00:25:07,674
It was probably one of those where

851
00:25:07,674 --> 00:25:08,798
she was like, the mother-in-law

852
00:25:08,798 --> 00:25:10,148
was like, we're paying for it.

853
00:25:10,148 --> 00:25:12,158
So if I wanna invite more people, I can.

854
00:25:12,158 --> 00:25:13,088
It's my party now.

855
00:25:13,484 --> 00:25:14,354
that's where I'm like, don't

856
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:15,684
accept money from people.

857
00:25:15,684 --> 00:25:16,977
They're gonna hold strings over your

858
00:25:16,977 --> 00:25:18,850
head and dangle it like a carrot.

859
00:25:18,850 --> 00:25:19,120
Right.

860
00:25:19,360 --> 00:25:21,367
if people want to help as a gift

861
00:25:21,638 --> 00:25:22,820
and you respect them and they

862
00:25:22,820 --> 00:25:24,770
respect you, then yes, let's do it.

863
00:25:24,770 --> 00:25:26,060
If they wanna help, that's great.

864
00:25:26,315 --> 00:25:27,708
If you already have a weird relationship,

865
00:25:27,708 --> 00:25:29,148
if they're trying to control things,

866
00:25:29,353 --> 00:25:30,955
no, we're not gonna ask for that.

867
00:25:30,955 --> 00:25:32,245
We're not gonna accept the help.

868
00:25:32,508 --> 00:25:33,852
again, where's the fiance?

869
00:25:33,912 --> 00:25:35,472
Where's the fiance in all of this?

870
00:25:35,472 --> 00:25:37,488
And why is he just on the Back

871
00:25:37,488 --> 00:25:38,898
burner or behind the scenes

872
00:25:38,898 --> 00:25:40,248
when his mom's taking the lead.

873
00:25:40,505 --> 00:25:41,598
your wedding was hijacked.

874
00:25:41,628 --> 00:25:43,008
They, they took it from you.

875
00:25:43,008 --> 00:25:44,748
And I feel like those are the

876
00:25:44,748 --> 00:25:46,068
kind of weddings where people are

877
00:25:46,068 --> 00:25:47,835
most unhappy when they look back.

878
00:25:48,048 --> 00:25:49,658
I'm glad she's able to say, you know what?

879
00:25:49,658 --> 00:25:50,918
Everything turned out beautifully.

880
00:25:51,198 --> 00:25:52,418
Maybe it's just me, but I

881
00:25:52,418 --> 00:25:54,188
would not be so, I wouldn't be

882
00:25:54,188 --> 00:25:55,748
so like, cheerful about that.

883
00:25:55,748 --> 00:25:56,991
I'd be like, you know what, this

884
00:25:56,991 --> 00:25:59,295
was my, time to do my thing and

885
00:25:59,295 --> 00:26:01,035
it was taken from me, so I dunno.

886
00:26:01,370 --> 00:26:01,790
Oh my gosh.

887
00:26:01,790 --> 00:26:02,750
I feel like my blood pressure

888
00:26:02,750 --> 00:26:03,560
is up from that story.

889
00:26:03,590 --> 00:26:05,006
All right, I got one more short,

890
00:26:05,006 --> 00:26:07,113
one short-ish, so let's get into it.

891
00:26:07,498 --> 00:26:07,826
All right.

892
00:26:08,095 --> 00:26:09,630
We almost canceled the wedding.

893
00:26:09,864 --> 00:26:10,854
Everyone in our families

894
00:26:10,854 --> 00:26:11,964
was horrible to us.

895
00:26:12,170 --> 00:26:13,734
My mom made a huge deal about

896
00:26:13,734 --> 00:26:15,144
my dad coming with his wife.

897
00:26:15,234 --> 00:26:16,494
They've been married for 10 years.

898
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:18,461
My mother-in-law was against the whole

899
00:26:18,461 --> 00:26:20,488
thing because in her view, you're

900
00:26:20,488 --> 00:26:22,558
supposed to date for exactly five years

901
00:26:22,558 --> 00:26:24,628
first and already have bought a house.

902
00:26:25,824 --> 00:26:27,440
Where do people come up with these things.

903
00:26:27,637 --> 00:26:29,067
Some people get married after six months.

904
00:26:29,067 --> 00:26:30,387
Some people get married after six years.

905
00:26:30,392 --> 00:26:32,446
Some people get married for 20 years

906
00:26:32,566 --> 00:26:33,909
some people already have kids first.

907
00:26:34,346 --> 00:26:35,789
why does it matter to you?

908
00:26:36,056 --> 00:26:37,454
If two people decide together,

909
00:26:37,454 --> 00:26:38,594
Hey, let's get married.

910
00:26:38,896 --> 00:26:41,516
Just let them, I can't imagine

911
00:26:41,516 --> 00:26:43,421
being so like stuck in my ways.

912
00:26:43,639 --> 00:26:46,211
We were 33 and 36 and we

913
00:26:46,211 --> 00:26:47,391
didn't see the need to wait.

914
00:26:47,749 --> 00:26:49,286
She didn't approve of my red

915
00:26:49,526 --> 00:26:51,149
inexpensive wedding shoes or my

916
00:26:51,149 --> 00:26:53,429
pre-ordered dress from Ali Express.

917
00:26:53,633 --> 00:26:54,353
She didn't like that.

918
00:26:54,353 --> 00:26:57,443
My venue only held 100 people, that

919
00:26:57,443 --> 00:26:59,530
we invited only close friends and

920
00:26:59,530 --> 00:27:01,930
immediate family, and that her cousins

921
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:03,727
weren't invited, that we didn't

922
00:27:03,727 --> 00:27:05,440
have a formal dinner, and that we

923
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,090
skipped a dance floor altogether.

924
00:27:07,313 --> 00:27:08,850
What that sounds like to me is that

925
00:27:08,850 --> 00:27:10,693
it's just two people that were ready to

926
00:27:10,693 --> 00:27:12,193
get married and knew exactly what they

927
00:27:12,193 --> 00:27:13,238
wanted, and I think that's amazing.

928
00:27:13,647 --> 00:27:14,885
All weddings don't have to be the same.

929
00:27:15,173 --> 00:27:16,632
All weddings don't have to have a dance

930
00:27:16,632 --> 00:27:20,155
floor or an open bar or a formal dinner.

931
00:27:20,275 --> 00:27:21,948
Do what makes sense for you if you just

932
00:27:21,948 --> 00:27:24,202
wanna party and have some cake, invite

933
00:27:24,202 --> 00:27:26,175
your favorite people more power to you.

934
00:27:26,470 --> 00:27:27,030
I don't get why.

935
00:27:27,033 --> 00:27:28,930
people get so like uptight about it.

936
00:27:29,222 --> 00:27:30,907
We hosted a five hour gathering with

937
00:27:30,907 --> 00:27:32,797
an open bar and buffet full of food.

938
00:27:32,857 --> 00:27:34,207
What more could you ask for?

939
00:27:34,365 --> 00:27:35,267
You got a full buffet of

940
00:27:35,267 --> 00:27:36,467
food and you got an open bar.

941
00:27:36,933 --> 00:27:38,057
that would make me happy.

942
00:27:38,190 --> 00:27:39,380
you don't really need much else.

943
00:27:39,380 --> 00:27:39,680
Right.

944
00:27:39,925 --> 00:27:41,087
She even hated that.

945
00:27:41,087 --> 00:27:42,107
My husband made my

946
00:27:42,107 --> 00:27:43,217
wedding bouquet himself.

947
00:27:43,452 --> 00:27:44,897
He crafted it as a final gift.

948
00:27:44,927 --> 00:27:46,097
I think that's amazing.

949
00:27:46,127 --> 00:27:46,217
Wow.

950
00:27:46,718 --> 00:27:48,577
I received before walking down the aisle.

951
00:27:48,795 --> 00:27:50,000
He made it as a gift.

952
00:27:50,060 --> 00:27:51,170
I received walk before

953
00:27:51,170 --> 00:27:52,070
walking down the aisle.

954
00:27:52,288 --> 00:27:53,610
One of his close friends handed

955
00:27:53,610 --> 00:27:55,080
it to me right before I entered.

956
00:27:55,473 --> 00:27:55,773
love that.

957
00:27:55,773 --> 00:27:56,733
I've never heard of that before.

958
00:27:57,034 --> 00:27:58,177
I actually laughed the whole way

959
00:27:58,177 --> 00:27:59,797
down the aisle because my mom didn't

960
00:27:59,797 --> 00:28:01,537
make it to the church on time.

961
00:28:02,197 --> 00:28:03,690
Where is this Poor girl's family.

962
00:28:03,958 --> 00:28:05,943
My mother-in-law shushed me for laughing.

963
00:28:06,215 --> 00:28:07,147
She had already screamed at

964
00:28:07,147 --> 00:28:08,557
my husband the night before.

965
00:28:08,855 --> 00:28:10,350
My mom wasn't at the church

966
00:28:10,350 --> 00:28:11,970
because she wasn't ready.

967
00:28:12,335 --> 00:28:13,715
Oh my gosh.

968
00:28:13,745 --> 00:28:15,005
I had gone to her house to have

969
00:28:15,005 --> 00:28:16,872
my makeup and hair done, but I was

970
00:28:16,872 --> 00:28:18,792
left alone while she and my younger

971
00:28:18,792 --> 00:28:20,668
sister disappeared to another part

972
00:28:20,668 --> 00:28:22,468
of the house to get themselves ready.

973
00:28:22,722 --> 00:28:24,875
My older sister stayed with me for a bit,

974
00:28:24,995 --> 00:28:26,855
even though she was pregnant with twins.

975
00:28:27,082 --> 00:28:28,572
She eventually left for the church.

976
00:28:28,916 --> 00:28:30,012
Oh my gosh.

977
00:28:30,299 --> 00:28:31,548
I just don't understand.

978
00:28:31,548 --> 00:28:32,988
People just can't be there for someone

979
00:28:32,988 --> 00:28:35,227
else let them shine on their day.

980
00:28:35,227 --> 00:28:36,487
It's so disappointing to hear these

981
00:28:36,487 --> 00:28:37,717
stories where they're like, yeah,

982
00:28:37,717 --> 00:28:39,894
I was alone, or My mom didn't come,

983
00:28:39,894 --> 00:28:41,884
or My maid of honor was late, or

984
00:28:41,884 --> 00:28:42,784
The groomsman never showed up.

985
00:28:42,784 --> 00:28:43,871
It's like, come on.

986
00:28:43,871 --> 00:28:44,771
It's not that hard.

987
00:28:44,771 --> 00:28:46,817
Be on time or be where you need to be

988
00:28:46,817 --> 00:28:48,467
for people that you really care about.

989
00:28:48,717 --> 00:28:50,694
It was so sad that even the photographer

990
00:28:50,694 --> 00:28:52,914
left quietly without saying anything.

991
00:28:53,171 --> 00:28:54,421
I was ready to go, but my mom

992
00:28:54,421 --> 00:28:56,297
still wasn't, and she told me to

993
00:28:56,297 --> 00:28:58,154
wait because she needed more time.

994
00:28:58,184 --> 00:29:00,371
I said, not my problem, and left.

995
00:29:00,611 --> 00:29:01,971
She arrived 15 minutes later.

996
00:29:02,421 --> 00:29:02,676
Okay.

997
00:29:03,058 --> 00:29:03,784
That's crazy that the

998
00:29:03,784 --> 00:29:05,074
photographer left really though.

999
00:29:05,074 --> 00:29:07,058
'cause that has a contract tied to it.

1000
00:29:07,058 --> 00:29:07,538
You shouldn't just

1001
00:29:07,591 --> 00:29:08,911
leave your photographer.

1002
00:29:09,214 --> 00:29:10,344
My mother-in-law invited her

1003
00:29:10,344 --> 00:29:11,844
cousins to the church anyway.

1004
00:29:12,317 --> 00:29:14,667
One of my husband's female cousins wore a

1005
00:29:14,667 --> 00:29:17,434
white dress another white dress debacle.

1006
00:29:17,664 --> 00:29:19,027
I went out to the terrace with one

1007
00:29:19,027 --> 00:29:20,587
of my best friends for a cigarette,

1008
00:29:20,971 --> 00:29:23,101
one of my husband's other cousins

1009
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:24,687
followed me to see what I was

1010
00:29:24,687 --> 00:29:27,627
doing and didn't leave until I did.

1011
00:29:27,910 --> 00:29:28,431
Weird.

1012
00:29:28,737 --> 00:29:29,073
Later.

1013
00:29:29,073 --> 00:29:31,547
One of my husband's brothers told me

1014
00:29:31,547 --> 00:29:33,527
that now I was a part of the family.

1015
00:29:33,807 --> 00:29:36,463
He hated me and then punched my

1016
00:29:36,643 --> 00:29:38,083
sister's husband in the face.

1017
00:29:38,877 --> 00:29:39,370
What?

1018
00:29:39,727 --> 00:29:41,063
Okay, this is weird.

1019
00:29:41,401 --> 00:29:43,555
So there's family drama, and with

1020
00:29:43,555 --> 00:29:45,160
all of that, I was still so happy.

1021
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:46,720
I honestly didn't care, but I

1022
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:48,430
cut them all off after that.

1023
00:29:48,741 --> 00:29:50,145
I don't know how people move forward

1024
00:29:50,145 --> 00:29:52,618
after these crazy events take place.

1025
00:29:52,917 --> 00:29:54,327
I could not stand to be like

1026
00:29:54,327 --> 00:29:56,087
at a holiday with someone that

1027
00:29:56,087 --> 00:29:57,077
treated my family like that.

1028
00:29:57,300 --> 00:29:58,444
Sounds like she cut them off, but

1029
00:29:58,444 --> 00:29:59,657
like that's hard 'cause it's your

1030
00:29:59,657 --> 00:30:01,846
husband's family and if you have

1031
00:30:01,846 --> 00:30:04,466
kids together or if you move, or all

1032
00:30:04,466 --> 00:30:06,026
these other big life events like.

1033
00:30:06,345 --> 00:30:07,563
Where's the family now?

1034
00:30:07,796 --> 00:30:08,580
so that's terrible.

1035
00:30:08,580 --> 00:30:09,900
I'm props to you for having good

1036
00:30:09,900 --> 00:30:12,546
boundaries and all that, but gosh, both

1037
00:30:12,546 --> 00:30:15,185
these stories are wild, wild, wild.

1038
00:30:15,185 --> 00:30:16,175
You guys know, we have a lot of

1039
00:30:16,175 --> 00:30:18,239
mother-in-law stories, and again, not all

1040
00:30:18,239 --> 00:30:20,539
mothers, but these stories right here,

1041
00:30:20,817 --> 00:30:22,697
were sent by two different, couples.

1042
00:30:22,697 --> 00:30:23,867
We get a lot of them just because

1043
00:30:23,867 --> 00:30:25,277
I think a lot of brides follow

1044
00:30:25,277 --> 00:30:27,544
me, but I do my best to go through

1045
00:30:27,544 --> 00:30:29,821
different quote unquote problem.

1046
00:30:30,119 --> 00:30:31,032
People, right.

1047
00:30:31,032 --> 00:30:33,222
So, we just get a lot of mother of

1048
00:30:33,222 --> 00:30:36,236
the groom stories, but I promise

1049
00:30:36,236 --> 00:30:38,246
you there are crazy stories

1050
00:30:38,246 --> 00:30:40,372
about every member I've seen.

1051
00:30:40,649 --> 00:30:41,147
Oh my gosh.

1052
00:30:41,147 --> 00:30:41,627
I think I need get my

1053
00:30:41,627 --> 00:30:42,557
blood pressure checked.

1054
00:30:42,557 --> 00:30:44,267
That's that first story

1055
00:30:44,267 --> 00:30:45,797
was wild, you guys.

1056
00:30:45,857 --> 00:30:46,967
Oh my gosh.

1057
00:30:47,117 --> 00:30:47,657
Okay.

1058
00:30:47,963 --> 00:30:49,223
Well that was a wild ride.

1059
00:31:06,864 --> 00:31:07,314
All right guys.

1060
00:31:07,314 --> 00:31:09,024
I hope you enjoyed that special.

1061
00:31:09,024 --> 00:31:10,584
Look at a Patreon episode

1062
00:31:10,773 --> 00:31:11,757
at full disclosure.

1063
00:31:11,757 --> 00:31:13,947
We are currently pause on Patreon

1064
00:31:13,947 --> 00:31:15,837
right now, so if you're looking to sign

1065
00:31:15,837 --> 00:31:17,487
up, don't, 'cause it won't be there.

1066
00:31:17,674 --> 00:31:19,948
to be completely transparent, I just don't

1067
00:31:19,948 --> 00:31:22,225
have the bandwidth right now, so I just

1068
00:31:22,225 --> 00:31:24,265
didn't feel like it was right for me to.

1069
00:31:24,526 --> 00:31:25,780
Keep creating content over there

1070
00:31:25,780 --> 00:31:26,800
when I just didn't feel like I

1071
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:28,243
could give all of myself to it.

1072
00:31:28,507 --> 00:31:30,267
So I'm putting more into the skits,

1073
00:31:30,267 --> 00:31:31,947
more into my book, and then more into,

1074
00:31:31,947 --> 00:31:33,627
of course, these podcast episodes here.

1075
00:31:33,837 --> 00:31:35,323
So I hope you guys enjoyed it again,

1076
00:31:35,323 --> 00:31:36,463
that was such a fun episode for

1077
00:31:36,463 --> 00:31:38,017
me to put together, and I'm glad

1078
00:31:38,047 --> 00:31:39,877
more of you guys can listen to it.

1079
00:31:40,163 --> 00:31:41,853
Now as promised, here's the

1080
00:31:41,853 --> 00:31:43,503
first chapter of my audiobook.

1081
00:31:43,563 --> 00:31:44,493
Here comes the drama.

1082
00:31:44,673 --> 00:31:45,153
Enjoy.

1083
00:31:47,441 --> 00:31:53,051
Part one, chapter one, Kate

1084
00:31:53,201 --> 00:31:54,551
can't believe her ears.

1085
00:31:55,091 --> 00:31:56,561
She picks up her glass of wine,

1086
00:31:56,591 --> 00:31:58,451
throws back what's left, then

1087
00:31:58,451 --> 00:32:00,011
stands up and storms out of the

1088
00:32:00,011 --> 00:32:01,301
living room with a loud huff.

1089
00:32:02,351 --> 00:32:03,761
Her daughter Jenny, watches her

1090
00:32:03,761 --> 00:32:06,281
leave in pure confusion, then glances

1091
00:32:06,281 --> 00:32:07,751
at everyone else before quickly

1092
00:32:07,751 --> 00:32:09,491
jumping off the couch to follow her.

1093
00:32:10,391 --> 00:32:11,801
Mom, are you okay?

1094
00:32:12,551 --> 00:32:15,191
She yells after her hurrying closer.

1095
00:32:15,761 --> 00:32:17,501
She notices a drop of red wine has

1096
00:32:17,501 --> 00:32:19,121
stained her mom's white blouse.

1097
00:32:20,231 --> 00:32:20,561
Ugh.

1098
00:32:21,161 --> 00:32:22,811
I just know she's doing this

1099
00:32:22,811 --> 00:32:24,521
to get my son away from me.

1100
00:32:25,571 --> 00:32:27,641
Kate charges into the next room looking

1101
00:32:27,641 --> 00:32:30,011
unsteady, like she's about to burst.

1102
00:32:30,911 --> 00:32:33,851
What are you talking about, Jenny?

1103
00:32:33,851 --> 00:32:36,491
Quickly, interjects Sloan isn't

1104
00:32:36,491 --> 00:32:37,781
taking anyone away from you.

1105
00:32:39,206 --> 00:32:40,976
Her eyes drift toward the window

1106
00:32:41,066 --> 00:32:43,106
where snow has just started falling.

1107
00:32:43,766 --> 00:32:46,856
At first it was light and quiet, barely

1108
00:32:46,856 --> 00:32:49,466
noticeable, but now it's beginning to

1109
00:32:49,466 --> 00:32:51,926
fall in thick clumps, sticking to the

1110
00:32:51,926 --> 00:32:54,026
glass, like something trying to get in.

1111
00:32:55,166 --> 00:32:57,296
Kate pushes up her round brown glasses

1112
00:32:57,296 --> 00:32:59,201
as a be of sweat drips from her forehead.

1113
00:33:00,506 --> 00:33:02,456
Did you not just hear them?

1114
00:33:03,116 --> 00:33:05,186
They come waltzing in here on

1115
00:33:05,186 --> 00:33:07,556
Thanksgiving to tell us they're

1116
00:33:07,556 --> 00:33:09,986
not going to be here on Christmas.

1117
00:33:11,696 --> 00:33:13,736
Her voice trembles with a mix of hurt

1118
00:33:13,736 --> 00:33:17,306
and disbelief For a moment, she questions

1119
00:33:17,306 --> 00:33:20,456
whether or not she's overreacting, but the

1120
00:33:20,456 --> 00:33:22,466
thought vanishes as quickly as it came.

1121
00:33:23,246 --> 00:33:24,836
Her stance is firm now.

1122
00:33:25,166 --> 00:33:26,636
There's no going back.

1123
00:33:27,896 --> 00:33:30,296
Jenny looks at her mother dumbfounded.

1124
00:33:31,136 --> 00:33:32,666
She takes a deep breath to save

1125
00:33:32,666 --> 00:33:34,076
herself from calling out her mother's

1126
00:33:34,076 --> 00:33:36,266
ridiculousness right here, right now.

1127
00:33:37,316 --> 00:33:40,046
Yeah, they planned a vacation together.

1128
00:33:40,706 --> 00:33:42,806
I think it's perfectly acceptable.

1129
00:33:44,216 --> 00:33:45,776
She runs a hand through her long,

1130
00:33:45,776 --> 00:33:48,176
dirty blonde hair, exhaling sharply.

1131
00:33:49,046 --> 00:33:50,726
You can't tell them not to

1132
00:33:50,726 --> 00:33:52,406
go on vacation together.

1133
00:33:53,966 --> 00:33:55,436
The snow was falling harder Now.

1134
00:33:56,381 --> 00:33:58,271
Piling on the windowsill in soft,

1135
00:33:58,271 --> 00:34:00,311
heavy heaps, like the weight of

1136
00:34:00,311 --> 00:34:02,231
everything left unsaid in the room.

1137
00:34:03,281 --> 00:34:06,311
But on Christmas, there are

1138
00:34:06,311 --> 00:34:08,981
364 other days of the year.

1139
00:34:09,491 --> 00:34:11,801
Why'd they have to pick Christmas?

1140
00:34:13,181 --> 00:34:15,191
Kate's voice gets louder each time

1141
00:34:15,191 --> 00:34:17,471
she talks and there is clear panic

1142
00:34:17,471 --> 00:34:19,601
in her voice like she's been robbed.

1143
00:34:20,771 --> 00:34:22,691
My guess is because they wanted

1144
00:34:22,691 --> 00:34:24,281
to spend the holidays together.

1145
00:34:25,256 --> 00:34:26,966
Jenny sarcastically replies,

1146
00:34:27,776 --> 00:34:29,636
this isn't some weird thing for a

1147
00:34:29,636 --> 00:34:31,196
boyfriend to do with his girlfriend.

1148
00:34:32,636 --> 00:34:34,436
Kate rolls her eyes before putting her

1149
00:34:34,436 --> 00:34:36,116
head down and her hands and mumbling.

1150
00:34:37,196 --> 00:34:38,666
You just watch Jenny.

1151
00:34:39,296 --> 00:34:41,006
This is how it all starts.

1152
00:34:41,456 --> 00:34:43,166
Then soon they're just not going

1153
00:34:43,166 --> 00:34:44,726
to show up for certain holidays.

1154
00:34:46,256 --> 00:34:48,956
She looks up staring off as if she just

1155
00:34:48,956 --> 00:34:50,996
had an epiphany hearing her own words.

1156
00:34:52,581 --> 00:34:52,801
Mom.

1157
00:34:53,861 --> 00:34:55,511
You should be happy that Ferris

1158
00:34:55,511 --> 00:34:56,861
found someone he loves and

1159
00:34:56,861 --> 00:34:58,451
wants to spend his time with.

1160
00:34:59,561 --> 00:35:01,091
Jenny says, resting a

1161
00:35:01,091 --> 00:35:02,351
hand on her mom's back.

1162
00:35:03,341 --> 00:35:05,171
Now can we go back out there,

1163
00:35:05,321 --> 00:35:06,941
put on a happy face, and enjoy

1164
00:35:06,941 --> 00:35:08,051
the rest of Thanksgiving?

1165
00:35:08,801 --> 00:35:10,061
She raises both point of

1166
00:35:10,061 --> 00:35:11,261
fingers to the corners of her

1167
00:35:11,261 --> 00:35:13,301
mouth, exaggerating a smile.

1168
00:35:14,201 --> 00:35:16,901
After a long pause, Kate pulls a tissue

1169
00:35:16,901 --> 00:35:18,641
out of her pocket and dabs her face.

1170
00:35:19,181 --> 00:35:21,311
Although Jenny didn't see any tears.

1171
00:35:22,751 --> 00:35:23,381
Fine.

1172
00:35:24,551 --> 00:35:26,471
Kate stands tall, touches

1173
00:35:26,471 --> 00:35:27,791
up her short brown hair, and

1174
00:35:27,791 --> 00:35:30,431
forces a painful, wide smile.

1175
00:35:31,481 --> 00:35:34,271
How's this great?

1176
00:35:35,201 --> 00:35:36,701
Jenny gives her a swift thumbs

1177
00:35:36,701 --> 00:35:37,961
up and gestures for her mother

1178
00:35:37,961 --> 00:35:39,311
to follow her back out into the

1179
00:35:39,311 --> 00:35:40,751
living room where the others are.

1180
00:35:41,891 --> 00:35:43,571
GI is the first to step back

1181
00:35:43,571 --> 00:35:44,951
into her parents' living room.

1182
00:35:45,446 --> 00:35:47,126
Where she spots her brother, Ferris at

1183
00:35:47,126 --> 00:35:49,496
the fridge, grabbing two beers, one for

1184
00:35:49,496 --> 00:35:51,446
their dad, Ted, and one for himself.

1185
00:35:52,106 --> 00:35:53,876
The room is warm with the scent

1186
00:35:53,876 --> 00:35:55,946
of Thanksgiving leftovers, and

1187
00:35:55,946 --> 00:35:57,626
the muffled hum of conversation

1188
00:35:57,626 --> 00:35:59,186
drifts in from the dining room.

1189
00:36:00,446 --> 00:36:01,616
You need more wine, babe.

1190
00:36:02,576 --> 00:36:04,346
Ferris calls out over his shoulder.

1191
00:36:04,766 --> 00:36:06,686
His voice casual but affectionate.

1192
00:36:07,706 --> 00:36:09,746
His short, faintly golden hair with

1193
00:36:09,746 --> 00:36:11,756
brown undertones is slightly tussled.

1194
00:36:12,311 --> 00:36:14,051
A few strands falling in his face

1195
00:36:14,051 --> 00:36:15,341
as he reaches for the fridge.

1196
00:36:16,361 --> 00:36:18,731
Sloan is curled up on the couch, legs

1197
00:36:18,731 --> 00:36:20,951
crossed, swirling the last bit of red

1198
00:36:20,951 --> 00:36:24,461
wine in her glass, her long, almost black

1199
00:36:24,461 --> 00:36:27,311
hair drapes over one shoulder, catching

1200
00:36:27,311 --> 00:36:29,201
the warm glow of the Christmas lights.

1201
00:36:30,071 --> 00:36:32,021
She's wearing a soft knit sweater, dress

1202
00:36:32,021 --> 00:36:34,181
in a deep burgundy, paired with thick

1203
00:36:34,181 --> 00:36:37,301
socks, comfortable yet casually stylish

1204
00:36:37,301 --> 00:36:39,371
in a way that almost seems natural to her.

1205
00:36:40,541 --> 00:36:41,501
She looks over at him

1206
00:36:41,501 --> 00:36:42,401
with a small knowing.

1207
00:36:42,401 --> 00:36:43,031
Smile.

1208
00:36:44,591 --> 00:36:46,691
No, I still have some left.

1209
00:36:46,841 --> 00:36:49,061
Thanks, Sloane.

1210
00:36:49,061 --> 00:36:50,861
Smirks and turns just a

1211
00:36:50,861 --> 00:36:51,941
little as she notices.

1212
00:36:51,941 --> 00:36:53,171
Jenny walking back in.

1213
00:36:54,311 --> 00:36:56,561
Oh hey, everything okay?

1214
00:36:58,001 --> 00:36:59,261
Her eyes flick between Jenny

1215
00:36:59,501 --> 00:37:01,511
and Kate searching for any

1216
00:37:01,511 --> 00:37:02,951
sign of what just happened.

1217
00:37:03,821 --> 00:37:05,921
She knew Kate was upset about the trip.

1218
00:37:06,581 --> 00:37:08,651
But sometimes it was easier to pretend she

1219
00:37:08,651 --> 00:37:10,931
didn't notice than to invite more drama.

1220
00:37:12,251 --> 00:37:12,761
Yeah.

1221
00:37:12,821 --> 00:37:13,751
Sorry about that.

1222
00:37:14,591 --> 00:37:16,931
Jenny says quickly, my mom

1223
00:37:16,931 --> 00:37:18,371
thought she ate something bad.

1224
00:37:19,301 --> 00:37:21,131
Her voice is light, but there's a

1225
00:37:21,131 --> 00:37:22,811
flicker of something else beneath it

1226
00:37:23,891 --> 00:37:26,831
before Sloan can press GI shifts gears.

1227
00:37:27,761 --> 00:37:30,371
So anyway, tell us more about your trip.

1228
00:37:30,821 --> 00:37:31,646
Where are you guys going?

1229
00:37:33,206 --> 00:37:34,916
She walks right up to Sloan and sits

1230
00:37:34,916 --> 00:37:36,536
down at the chair across from her.

1231
00:37:37,886 --> 00:37:40,256
Kate Reenters the room lingering near

1232
00:37:40,256 --> 00:37:43,076
the doorway, arms crossed displeasure,

1233
00:37:43,076 --> 00:37:44,966
practically radiating off her.

1234
00:37:46,556 --> 00:37:48,116
We're going to Santa Monica.

1235
00:37:49,226 --> 00:37:51,536
Sloan replies quietly combing

1236
00:37:51,596 --> 00:37:52,946
her hair behind her ear.

1237
00:37:53,906 --> 00:37:55,226
I've never been before.

1238
00:37:56,036 --> 00:37:58,136
Ferris knows I hate the snow,

1239
00:37:58,586 --> 00:38:00,146
so he planned for a warm

1240
00:38:00,146 --> 00:38:01,381
vacation to get us out of here.

1241
00:38:02,261 --> 00:38:04,691
It was all his idea, so he'll

1242
00:38:04,691 --> 00:38:06,011
have more of the details.

1243
00:38:07,361 --> 00:38:09,461
She looks over at Ferris now

1244
00:38:09,461 --> 00:38:11,021
seated next to her on the couch,

1245
00:38:12,281 --> 00:38:14,051
Ferris hands, beer to his dad.

1246
00:38:14,291 --> 00:38:15,071
Then takes a sip of

1247
00:38:15,071 --> 00:38:16,331
his own and leans back.

1248
00:38:17,231 --> 00:38:19,571
Yeah, I mean, I don't have too much

1249
00:38:19,571 --> 00:38:21,461
planned yet, but I thought we'd

1250
00:38:21,461 --> 00:38:23,411
escape the dreaded Milwaukee winter

1251
00:38:23,411 --> 00:38:25,031
and soak up some sun for once.

1252
00:38:26,471 --> 00:38:28,901
He nods toward the window where thick

1253
00:38:28,961 --> 00:38:30,896
clumps of snow swirl in the wind.

1254
00:38:31,601 --> 00:38:33,701
Before reaching over and gently taking

1255
00:38:33,701 --> 00:38:37,061
Sloan's hand Sloan glances down at

1256
00:38:37,061 --> 00:38:39,941
their intertwined fingers, a soft smile

1257
00:38:39,941 --> 00:38:42,161
forming as warmth blooms in her chest.

1258
00:38:43,391 --> 00:38:45,281
But even in the comfort of this moment,

1259
00:38:45,581 --> 00:38:48,431
she can feel Kate's disapproval lingering

1260
00:38:48,431 --> 00:38:50,861
like a heavy cloud that refuses to pass.

1261
00:38:52,001 --> 00:38:53,381
That sounds amazing.

1262
00:38:54,281 --> 00:38:55,541
Jenny jumps in quickly.

1263
00:38:56,171 --> 00:38:57,056
What do you think, mom?

1264
00:38:57,646 --> 00:38:58,776
Doesn't that sound fun?

1265
00:39:00,761 --> 00:39:02,381
Her voice is too chipper.

1266
00:39:02,951 --> 00:39:04,391
Eyes flicking toward Kate with the

1267
00:39:04,391 --> 00:39:05,831
hope that a simple question might

1268
00:39:05,831 --> 00:39:07,421
smooth over the crack in the room.

1269
00:39:08,681 --> 00:39:10,421
Ted shifts slightly in his chair.

1270
00:39:10,901 --> 00:39:12,641
His gaze fixed on his wife.

1271
00:39:13,481 --> 00:39:15,161
He raises his eyebrows just enough

1272
00:39:15,161 --> 00:39:18,101
to signal, go easy, try to be happy,

1273
00:39:19,061 --> 00:39:21,311
but it's clear he's bracing himself

1274
00:39:22,151 --> 00:39:23,876
after almost 30 years of marriage.

1275
00:39:24,041 --> 00:39:27,251
He knows her moods, her tells he knows

1276
00:39:27,251 --> 00:39:28,841
exactly where this could be headed.

1277
00:39:29,981 --> 00:39:34,031
When Kate answers, yeah, it sounds great.

1278
00:39:34,961 --> 00:39:36,461
With a snap of sarcasm.

1279
00:39:36,911 --> 00:39:39,401
Ted Exhales just barely

1280
00:39:40,391 --> 00:39:41,471
for a split second.

1281
00:39:41,471 --> 00:39:43,511
It seems like that might be the end of

1282
00:39:43,511 --> 00:39:46,631
it, but then he catches the sudden shift.

1283
00:39:46,631 --> 00:39:47,591
In her expression.

1284
00:39:48,221 --> 00:39:50,771
She gasps his shoulders, stiffen.

1285
00:39:51,816 --> 00:39:53,261
Here it comes.

1286
00:39:54,911 --> 00:39:56,591
Maybe we should all go.

1287
00:39:57,851 --> 00:39:59,651
Her somber mood instantly

1288
00:39:59,651 --> 00:40:02,171
flips to excitement making her

1289
00:40:02,171 --> 00:40:03,521
way to the front of the room.

1290
00:40:04,211 --> 00:40:06,911
Sloan tenses, every instinct

1291
00:40:06,911 --> 00:40:08,231
screams at her to shut the

1292
00:40:08,231 --> 00:40:10,571
idea down, but she hesitates.

1293
00:40:11,321 --> 00:40:12,521
It's not her place.

1294
00:40:13,451 --> 00:40:15,521
Kate has always been dismissive of her.

1295
00:40:16,361 --> 00:40:18,041
Why would this moment be any different?

1296
00:40:19,241 --> 00:40:22,121
Funny mom, Ferris cuts in

1297
00:40:22,391 --> 00:40:24,281
forcing a chuckle, but there's

1298
00:40:24,281 --> 00:40:25,931
an edge of unease in his voice.

1299
00:40:26,741 --> 00:40:28,151
No, I'm serious.

1300
00:40:28,511 --> 00:40:29,681
Wouldn't it be great?

1301
00:40:30,791 --> 00:40:32,471
Kate stands as if she's launching

1302
00:40:32,471 --> 00:40:34,361
into a full blown presentation.

1303
00:40:35,081 --> 00:40:36,491
She turns to her husband,

1304
00:40:36,731 --> 00:40:38,411
eyes bright with enthusiasm.

1305
00:40:39,491 --> 00:40:41,501
Ted, shouldn't we go?

1306
00:40:43,061 --> 00:40:43,451
Ted?

1307
00:40:43,451 --> 00:40:44,561
Takes a deep breath.

1308
00:40:46,421 --> 00:40:46,541
Kate.

1309
00:40:47,231 --> 00:40:50,111
We can go to Santa Monica any other time.

1310
00:40:50,801 --> 00:40:52,691
I don't think we need to hijack our

1311
00:40:52,691 --> 00:40:54,881
son's vacation with his girlfriend.

1312
00:40:56,096 --> 00:40:58,316
He runs a hand across his forehead as

1313
00:40:58,316 --> 00:41:00,146
if trying to smooth out the wrinkles.

1314
00:41:00,146 --> 00:41:01,736
He's certain are forming.

1315
00:41:02,816 --> 00:41:04,286
Oh, come on.

1316
00:41:04,796 --> 00:41:06,866
It'll be so much fun to spend

1317
00:41:06,866 --> 00:41:08,786
Christmas together in California.

1318
00:41:09,926 --> 00:41:11,606
Kate is starting to act like this

1319
00:41:11,606 --> 00:41:13,436
is the best idea she's ever had.

1320
00:41:14,426 --> 00:41:16,811
She turns back towards Ferris, gesturing

1321
00:41:16,916 --> 00:41:18,746
to the Christmas tree already up in the

1322
00:41:18,746 --> 00:41:20,996
living room, decorated with ornaments,

1323
00:41:20,996 --> 00:41:22,976
with brief reminders of their childhood.

1324
00:41:23,936 --> 00:41:26,186
You know how much Christmas means to me.

1325
00:41:27,716 --> 00:41:29,516
Ferris opens his mouth like he's about

1326
00:41:29,516 --> 00:41:32,216
to say something when a defeated look

1327
00:41:32,216 --> 00:41:34,676
appears on his face, and he stops.

1328
00:41:35,726 --> 00:41:36,926
He knows his mom.

1329
00:41:37,796 --> 00:41:40,046
She doesn't take hearing no very

1330
00:41:40,046 --> 00:41:42,926
well, and it would turn into a huge

1331
00:41:42,926 --> 00:41:44,906
ordeal if he tries to push back Now.

1332
00:41:46,076 --> 00:41:47,456
He tries to figure out a way to

1333
00:41:47,456 --> 00:41:49,586
get her to back off a bit and

1334
00:41:49,586 --> 00:41:51,116
decides to change the subject.

1335
00:41:51,656 --> 00:41:53,216
Leaning forward and peeking around

1336
00:41:53,216 --> 00:41:54,746
Sloan to catch his dad's eye.

1337
00:41:55,886 --> 00:41:56,276
Wow.

1338
00:41:56,276 --> 00:41:58,526
Dad, I am so full.

1339
00:41:59,036 --> 00:42:01,136
That Turkey you made was fantastic.

1340
00:42:01,406 --> 00:42:02,846
Way better than last year's.

1341
00:42:04,256 --> 00:42:06,506
Ted Beams about to respond.

1342
00:42:06,746 --> 00:42:08,036
When Kate jumps in.

1343
00:42:08,756 --> 00:42:11,096
It was, you really know how to make

1344
00:42:11,096 --> 00:42:12,716
the holidays special around here.

1345
00:42:13,466 --> 00:42:14,126
All of you.

1346
00:42:15,626 --> 00:42:17,486
Her smile is a little too bright

1347
00:42:17,546 --> 00:42:19,076
as she claps her hands together.

1348
00:42:19,856 --> 00:42:21,806
Now, who wants dessert?

1349
00:42:22,706 --> 00:42:24,866
She asks already pivoting

1350
00:42:24,866 --> 00:42:25,676
toward the kitchen.

1351
00:42:26,726 --> 00:42:27,806
That sounds great.

1352
00:42:28,226 --> 00:42:29,066
I'll help you.

1353
00:42:30,326 --> 00:42:32,426
Jenny says, as she shakes her head

1354
00:42:32,456 --> 00:42:34,286
behind her mom and disappointment,

1355
00:42:35,276 --> 00:42:37,226
as Kate and Jenny disappear into the

1356
00:42:37,226 --> 00:42:40,406
kitchen, Ted leans in lowering his

1357
00:42:40,406 --> 00:42:42,536
voice for only Ferris and Sloan to hear.

1358
00:42:43,706 --> 00:42:44,096
Hey.

1359
00:42:44,876 --> 00:42:47,546
He says, offering a warm smile.

1360
00:42:48,566 --> 00:42:50,306
I think the trip sounds perfect.

1361
00:42:50,876 --> 00:42:52,016
You too deserve it.

1362
00:42:53,456 --> 00:42:55,916
He pauses his eyes flicking toward the

1363
00:42:55,916 --> 00:42:59,216
kitchen, and you know how your mother is.

1364
00:42:59,876 --> 00:43:01,916
She just needs a minute to adjust.

1365
00:43:02,726 --> 00:43:04,556
Don't let it ruin your plans.

1366
00:43:06,206 --> 00:43:07,646
Ferris puts his arm around

1367
00:43:07,646 --> 00:43:10,226
Sloan gently pulling her closer.

1368
00:43:11,366 --> 00:43:12,746
There was no doubt in his mind.

1369
00:43:13,316 --> 00:43:14,936
Sloan didn't want his mom on

1370
00:43:14,936 --> 00:43:16,676
their couple's vacation and he

1371
00:43:16,676 --> 00:43:18,056
wasn't going to let it happen.

1372
00:43:18,836 --> 00:43:20,486
It wasn't unusual for his mom to

1373
00:43:20,486 --> 00:43:22,346
try to control new situations.

1374
00:43:22,916 --> 00:43:24,596
In the past, he might've let

1375
00:43:24,596 --> 00:43:27,026
it slide, but not this time.

1376
00:43:27,806 --> 00:43:29,006
Sloan was different.

1377
00:43:29,846 --> 00:43:31,316
She was his person.

1378
00:43:32,186 --> 00:43:34,346
She was articulate, compassionate

1379
00:43:34,376 --> 00:43:36,686
and beautiful, but not in a

1380
00:43:36,686 --> 00:43:38,276
way that banked for attention.

1381
00:43:39,056 --> 00:43:40,466
More like the kind of beauty

1382
00:43:40,466 --> 00:43:41,966
that you noticed slowly.

1383
00:43:42,551 --> 00:43:43,901
Then couldn't unsee.

1384
00:43:45,041 --> 00:43:46,301
Ferris used to tell his mom

1385
00:43:46,301 --> 00:43:48,731
everything back when he was a kid.

1386
00:43:48,731 --> 00:43:51,221
It had felt natural, easy even.

1387
00:43:51,881 --> 00:43:53,291
She always knew what to say.

1388
00:43:53,501 --> 00:43:54,521
Always had a plan.

1389
00:43:55,571 --> 00:43:56,681
But then he remembered the

1390
00:43:56,681 --> 00:43:57,911
summer after seventh grade.

1391
00:43:59,036 --> 00:44:01,736
He had been obsessed with skateboarding,

1392
00:44:02,126 --> 00:44:04,226
saving up every dollar from mowing

1393
00:44:04,226 --> 00:44:06,146
lawns to buy his first board.

1394
00:44:06,716 --> 00:44:08,816
He and his best friend Ben, would spend

1395
00:44:08,816 --> 00:44:11,366
hours practicing tricks, wiping out on

1396
00:44:11,366 --> 00:44:13,616
the pavement, laughing at their bruises

1397
00:44:14,696 --> 00:44:17,186
until Kate decided it was dangerous.

1398
00:44:18,896 --> 00:44:20,726
He's a bad influence.

1399
00:44:21,656 --> 00:44:23,816
She had told him one night, arms

1400
00:44:23,816 --> 00:44:26,456
crossed, lips pressed into a thin line.

1401
00:44:27,356 --> 00:44:29,936
Always pushing you to do reckless things.

1402
00:44:30,506 --> 00:44:32,006
You'll break an arm Ferris,

1403
00:44:32,606 --> 00:44:33,566
and what about school?

1404
00:44:34,136 --> 00:44:35,186
You need to focus.

1405
00:44:36,716 --> 00:44:40,286
He had argued, of course he had, but

1406
00:44:40,286 --> 00:44:43,376
then came the nagging, the disappointed

1407
00:44:43,376 --> 00:44:46,376
size, the gentle, but firm reminders

1408
00:44:46,376 --> 00:44:48,356
of all the things she had done for him.

1409
00:44:49,496 --> 00:44:51,506
I'm only trying to protect

1410
00:44:51,506 --> 00:44:55,106
you, and so he quit.

1411
00:44:56,396 --> 00:44:58,346
He told Ben he was too busy and that his

1412
00:44:58,346 --> 00:45:00,176
mom needed his help around the house.

1413
00:45:01,256 --> 00:45:04,076
It wasn't true, but it was easier than

1414
00:45:04,076 --> 00:45:06,146
fighting about it or living with guilt.

1415
00:45:07,616 --> 00:45:10,916
Now, years later, Ferris knew better.

1416
00:45:11,606 --> 00:45:13,706
He saw the pattern, the way she

1417
00:45:13,706 --> 00:45:14,996
packaged control as concern.

1418
00:45:16,736 --> 00:45:18,446
It wasn't just about skateboarding

1419
00:45:18,446 --> 00:45:20,426
or friends or even his career.

1420
00:45:21,221 --> 00:45:23,981
It was everything, every choice,

1421
00:45:24,371 --> 00:45:27,641
every step he took, which is why he

1422
00:45:27,641 --> 00:45:29,441
barely told her anything anymore.

1423
00:45:30,371 --> 00:45:32,051
They enjoyed their dessert together.

1424
00:45:32,531 --> 00:45:34,481
Moving past the idea of them all,

1425
00:45:34,481 --> 00:45:36,341
going to Santa Monica for Christmas.

1426
00:45:37,391 --> 00:45:39,071
Ferris did his best to get his mom

1427
00:45:39,071 --> 00:45:40,661
talking about her new book club with

1428
00:45:40,661 --> 00:45:43,301
the neighbor Ladies after dessert,

1429
00:45:44,021 --> 00:45:45,941
he and Sloane start inching their way

1430
00:45:45,941 --> 00:45:48,071
to the door, getting on their shoes

1431
00:45:48,071 --> 00:45:49,601
and coats so they can head home.

1432
00:45:50,756 --> 00:45:52,946
Oh, leaving so soon.

1433
00:45:54,086 --> 00:45:55,766
Kate's voice carries a hint of

1434
00:45:55,766 --> 00:45:58,046
surprise, though it's clear she's more

1435
00:45:58,046 --> 00:45:59,516
focused on keeping them there than

1436
00:45:59,516 --> 00:46:01,556
acknowledging how difficult she could be.

1437
00:46:02,726 --> 00:46:04,706
Sloan turns and smiles at Kate

1438
00:46:05,216 --> 00:46:06,536
trying to keep things light.

1439
00:46:07,616 --> 00:46:09,146
Yeah, it's getting light.

1440
00:46:09,956 --> 00:46:11,726
I'm hoping to call my mom on the

1441
00:46:11,726 --> 00:46:13,136
way home since we didn't get to

1442
00:46:13,136 --> 00:46:14,726
see her this year for Thanksgiving.

1443
00:46:16,346 --> 00:46:18,416
Kate ignores Sloan's comment

1444
00:46:18,416 --> 00:46:19,886
and turns towards Ferris.

1445
00:46:20,756 --> 00:46:21,926
Well, bye guys.

1446
00:46:22,316 --> 00:46:23,786
It was so great having you guys

1447
00:46:23,786 --> 00:46:25,436
here for Thanksgiving, as you

1448
00:46:25,436 --> 00:46:27,206
should be for all holidays.

1449
00:46:28,526 --> 00:46:31,586
Kate accentuates the all to make

1450
00:46:31,586 --> 00:46:33,746
sure they remember where she stands.

1451
00:46:35,156 --> 00:46:37,616
Ferris forces a smile before

1452
00:46:37,616 --> 00:46:39,116
placing his hand on Sloan's

1453
00:46:39,116 --> 00:46:40,496
back as they turn to leave.

1454
00:46:41,501 --> 00:46:43,031
I'll meet you in the car in just a sec.

1455
00:46:43,451 --> 00:46:45,341
I forgot to grab some pie to take home.

1456
00:46:46,571 --> 00:46:47,711
Oh yeah, sure.

1457
00:46:47,921 --> 00:46:48,611
Bye Kate.

1458
00:46:48,641 --> 00:46:49,241
Bye, Ted.

1459
00:46:49,601 --> 00:46:50,921
Thanks again for having us.

1460
00:46:51,011 --> 00:46:53,231
The food was delicious.

1461
00:46:54,161 --> 00:46:56,501
Sloan says, wrapping her scarf around

1462
00:46:56,501 --> 00:46:58,211
her neck as she stepped out of the house.

1463
00:47:00,596 --> 00:47:03,251
Okay, so there's pumpkin

1464
00:47:03,311 --> 00:47:04,481
and apple pie left.

1465
00:47:04,691 --> 00:47:05,591
Which did you want?

1466
00:47:06,251 --> 00:47:07,541
You know what, I'll go

1467
00:47:07,541 --> 00:47:08,566
grab you some of each.

1468
00:47:09,836 --> 00:47:12,026
Kate says as she hurs into the kitchen.

1469
00:47:12,956 --> 00:47:16,106
Um, I'll have some apple, but

1470
00:47:16,106 --> 00:47:18,236
actually I don't really need any pie.

1471
00:47:19,406 --> 00:47:21,686
Ferris says, checking to make sure

1472
00:47:21,686 --> 00:47:23,546
Sloan hasn't walked back into the house.

1473
00:47:24,656 --> 00:47:26,156
He looks directly at his mom.

1474
00:47:27,356 --> 00:47:28,646
Can I talk to you for a second?

1475
00:47:30,026 --> 00:47:30,716
Sure.

1476
00:47:30,716 --> 00:47:31,586
Of course.

1477
00:47:32,096 --> 00:47:34,136
Look, I'm really excited

1478
00:47:34,136 --> 00:47:35,276
for this vacation.

1479
00:47:35,936 --> 00:47:37,586
I'm going to start planning tonight.

1480
00:47:38,546 --> 00:47:41,096
Kate interrupts a little too quickly.

1481
00:47:42,056 --> 00:47:44,366
Ted easing his way back into the living

1482
00:47:44,366 --> 00:47:46,616
room, props his legs up in the recliner.

1483
00:47:47,546 --> 00:47:49,856
His eyes are tired and it's clear

1484
00:47:49,856 --> 00:47:51,236
he's had enough for the night.

1485
00:47:52,016 --> 00:47:53,606
He knows exactly how his wife

1486
00:47:53,606 --> 00:47:55,706
can be, so he shuts down,

1487
00:47:56,096 --> 00:47:57,836
retreating into his own space.

1488
00:47:58,886 --> 00:48:01,586
No, mom, you can't come.

1489
00:48:02,666 --> 00:48:05,576
Ferris says his tone firmer this time.

1490
00:48:06,791 --> 00:48:07,691
What do you mean?

1491
00:48:08,321 --> 00:48:08,831
Why?

1492
00:48:09,731 --> 00:48:10,301
Oh wait.

1493
00:48:10,751 --> 00:48:12,281
You're breaking up with Sloan, aren't you?

1494
00:48:12,851 --> 00:48:14,561
I knew something was off tonight.

1495
00:48:15,491 --> 00:48:15,821
What?

1496
00:48:16,331 --> 00:48:18,671
No, nothing was off with us tonight.

1497
00:48:19,691 --> 00:48:21,761
I'd really like this trip to just be Sloan

1498
00:48:21,761 --> 00:48:23,981
and me so we can have some time alone.

1499
00:48:24,971 --> 00:48:26,051
A long time.

1500
00:48:26,966 --> 00:48:27,776
Kate Scoffs.

1501
00:48:28,406 --> 00:48:30,956
What do you need alone time for?

1502
00:48:31,346 --> 00:48:33,326
You already live together.

1503
00:48:33,866 --> 00:48:35,876
I hardly see you anymore.

1504
00:48:37,196 --> 00:48:38,666
She pauses before adding.

1505
00:48:39,476 --> 00:48:42,596
I wouldn't want to intrude, but

1506
00:48:42,596 --> 00:48:45,296
maybe I could just stay nearby.

1507
00:48:45,806 --> 00:48:48,566
Dad and I will get our own hotel room.

1508
00:48:48,776 --> 00:48:51,236
We'll have our own time, but we

1509
00:48:51,236 --> 00:48:52,661
can meet up for dinners and stuff.

1510
00:48:54,506 --> 00:48:55,736
She continues rummaging

1511
00:48:55,736 --> 00:48:57,026
through the kitchen cabinets.

1512
00:48:57,326 --> 00:48:58,796
Searching for a container bag

1513
00:48:58,796 --> 00:49:00,356
big enough for the leftover pie.

1514
00:49:01,256 --> 00:49:03,026
No, I'm sorry.

1515
00:49:03,626 --> 00:49:05,336
I love you, but this

1516
00:49:05,336 --> 00:49:06,686
trip is for Sloan in me.

1517
00:49:07,346 --> 00:49:08,966
I need you to respect that

1518
00:49:09,896 --> 00:49:13,016
Ferris states for a moment.

1519
00:49:13,016 --> 00:49:14,546
Kate wonders if she's being too

1520
00:49:14,546 --> 00:49:16,736
harsh, if maybe she's giving

1521
00:49:16,736 --> 00:49:18,236
him a reason to pull away.

1522
00:49:19,121 --> 00:49:20,291
But the thought is bleeding.

1523
00:49:20,651 --> 00:49:22,421
She quickly reminds herself of everything

1524
00:49:22,421 --> 00:49:23,921
she's done for him over the years.

1525
00:49:24,581 --> 00:49:25,751
He still needs her.

1526
00:49:26,261 --> 00:49:28,361
Well, what if something happens?

1527
00:49:28,811 --> 00:49:30,041
I could help you plan it.

1528
00:49:30,581 --> 00:49:31,571
It's already planned and

1529
00:49:31,571 --> 00:49:34,211
paid for Ferris Exhales.

1530
00:49:34,961 --> 00:49:37,391
But look, I need to tell you why.

1531
00:49:37,391 --> 00:49:39,101
It just needs to be the two of us.

1532
00:49:40,211 --> 00:49:40,871
Okay?

1533
00:49:42,131 --> 00:49:44,111
Kate stops what she's doing and stands

1534
00:49:44,111 --> 00:49:46,781
there wide-eyed, staring at her son.

1535
00:49:47,816 --> 00:49:49,556
Actually, I kind of want to

1536
00:49:49,556 --> 00:49:51,146
tell Dad too really quickly.

1537
00:49:51,716 --> 00:49:55,526
Hey dad, can you come in here, Ted Hurries

1538
00:49:55,526 --> 00:49:57,146
over from the other room to join them.

1539
00:49:57,956 --> 00:50:00,356
So really quick, I want to talk

1540
00:50:00,356 --> 00:50:01,916
to you and mom to let you know why

1541
00:50:01,916 --> 00:50:03,656
I want to take Sloan on vacation.

1542
00:50:03,716 --> 00:50:04,706
Just the two of us.

1543
00:50:05,576 --> 00:50:08,036
Oh man, I think I know

1544
00:50:08,036 --> 00:50:09,176
where this is going.

1545
00:50:10,226 --> 00:50:12,566
Ted says, with a big smile on his face.

1546
00:50:13,586 --> 00:50:15,176
Ferris looks over at his mom.

1547
00:50:15,701 --> 00:50:17,741
Who looks like she's just seen a ghost.

1548
00:50:18,941 --> 00:50:21,341
I actually plan on surprising Sloan and

1549
00:50:21,341 --> 00:50:24,551
proposing the first night we're there, the

1550
00:50:24,551 --> 00:50:27,611
room goes silent and Ferris looks at both

1551
00:50:27,611 --> 00:50:29,591
of his parents for any kind of approval.

1552
00:50:30,551 --> 00:50:32,921
Ted looks at Kate waiting for

1553
00:50:32,921 --> 00:50:36,761
her reaction, proposing what?

1554
00:50:38,021 --> 00:50:39,491
She responds slowly.

1555
00:50:40,031 --> 00:50:42,551
Her voice tinged with uncertainty as

1556
00:50:42,551 --> 00:50:44,291
she tries to piece it all together.

1557
00:50:44,981 --> 00:50:46,691
She knew exactly what he meant,

1558
00:50:47,381 --> 00:50:49,001
but if he saw how confused she

1559
00:50:49,001 --> 00:50:50,741
was, maybe he would take it as a

1560
00:50:50,741 --> 00:50:52,541
sign that the timing wasn't right.

1561
00:50:53,711 --> 00:50:54,611
Come on, Kate.

1562
00:50:55,511 --> 00:50:56,711
Ted finally jumps in.

1563
00:50:57,671 --> 00:51:00,676
Oh my gosh, Ferris, this is so exciting.

1564
00:51:02,081 --> 00:51:03,191
He walks up and wraps

1565
00:51:03,191 --> 00:51:04,421
his arms around his son.

1566
00:51:04,931 --> 00:51:06,551
Giving him a strong, reassuring

1567
00:51:06,551 --> 00:51:08,441
pat on the back, the silent

1568
00:51:08,441 --> 00:51:10,241
gesture filled with unspoken.

1569
00:51:10,241 --> 00:51:11,351
Congratulations.

1570
00:51:12,401 --> 00:51:15,101
Kate just stands there staring at

1571
00:51:15,101 --> 00:51:18,071
the two of them, vowing her naivety.

1572
00:51:20,291 --> 00:51:23,591
Marriage Mom Ferris says, is he loosened

1573
00:51:23,591 --> 00:51:25,421
his dad's grip on him and turns.

1574
00:51:26,201 --> 00:51:27,701
What else am I going to propose?

1575
00:51:28,766 --> 00:51:32,456
What, but you hardly know her.

1576
00:51:33,116 --> 00:51:35,216
Are you sure she's the right one for you?

1577
00:51:36,506 --> 00:51:37,766
She starts shuffling around the

1578
00:51:37,766 --> 00:51:39,956
kitchen, cleaning up items from dinner,

1579
00:51:40,226 --> 00:51:41,906
forgetting about the pie completely.

1580
00:51:42,746 --> 00:51:45,086
Ted is caught in the middle looking

1581
00:51:45,086 --> 00:51:47,006
around like he's praying for an out.

1582
00:51:48,566 --> 00:51:49,916
I don't consider two and

1583
00:51:49,916 --> 00:51:50,906
a half years together.

1584
00:51:50,936 --> 00:51:52,406
Hardly knowing each other.

1585
00:51:53,126 --> 00:51:55,256
Yes, I know she's the right one for me.

1586
00:51:56,756 --> 00:51:58,616
Ferris's voice is tight as he peers

1587
00:51:58,616 --> 00:51:59,966
out the window behind him to make

1588
00:51:59,966 --> 00:52:01,646
sure Sloan is okay in the car.

1589
00:52:02,726 --> 00:52:03,806
His mom isn't backing

1590
00:52:03,806 --> 00:52:06,836
down, but you are so young.

1591
00:52:07,466 --> 00:52:10,076
Maybe just give it some more time.

1592
00:52:11,276 --> 00:52:13,376
Ted can't hold his tongue anymore.

1593
00:52:14,276 --> 00:52:16,736
I think what your mom is trying to say is

1594
00:52:16,736 --> 00:52:20,636
congratulations, right to Kate, he says.

1595
00:52:21,236 --> 00:52:23,066
Looking over at her, giving her

1596
00:52:23,066 --> 00:52:25,046
every opportunity to change her tune.

1597
00:52:25,886 --> 00:52:27,566
Congratulations.

1598
00:52:28,106 --> 00:52:29,516
It hasn't even happened yet.

1599
00:52:30,446 --> 00:52:31,946
He is just telling us

1600
00:52:31,946 --> 00:52:33,566
his hypothetical plan.

1601
00:52:34,316 --> 00:52:36,476
He still has to really think about it.

1602
00:52:37,556 --> 00:52:38,396
She smiles.

1603
00:52:39,476 --> 00:52:41,306
I don't think you realize how big

1604
00:52:41,306 --> 00:52:43,406
of a decision this truly is for her.

1605
00:52:44,696 --> 00:52:47,666
She says Condescendingly putting her hand

1606
00:52:47,666 --> 00:52:49,556
on the counter to reach out and touches.

1607
00:52:50,516 --> 00:52:52,106
Ferris pulls his hand back and

1608
00:52:52,106 --> 00:52:53,246
moves away from the counter.

1609
00:52:54,656 --> 00:52:56,696
Okay, well I can see where

1610
00:52:56,696 --> 00:52:57,986
this conversation is going.

1611
00:52:59,186 --> 00:53:00,386
He takes a moment to take a

1612
00:53:00,386 --> 00:53:01,736
breath and gather himself.

1613
00:53:02,696 --> 00:53:04,376
Thank you Dad for the congratulations.

1614
00:53:04,946 --> 00:53:06,596
Sloan's waiting in the car, so I

1615
00:53:06,596 --> 00:53:09,506
gotta get going, but um, thanks.

1616
00:53:09,506 --> 00:53:12,596
I guess he hurries past his

1617
00:53:12,596 --> 00:53:14,516
parents and out the door before he

1618
00:53:14,516 --> 00:53:17,606
realizes he forgot the pie Shit.