<v Speaker 1>Jarney, Katy and Josh six one hundred. This time around,

<v Speaker 1>Teresa rode in.

<v Speaker 2>She goes, I have a show, wants to know Sigma

<v Speaker 2>for you guys, I'm at my absolute wits end. I

<v Speaker 2>call my mother in law the monster in law because

<v Speaker 2>she's earned that title. Every time she comes over, whether

<v Speaker 2>it's for a quick visit or to babysit or just

<v Speaker 2>drop something off, she shows up with bags and bags

<v Speaker 2>of gifts for my kids. She's like, they're not even thoughtful,

<v Speaker 2>meaningful gifts. It's just junk from the dollar store. It's

<v Speaker 2>so weird, she says. She goes, it's not just the

<v Speaker 2>gifts too. She's over the top affectionate with them, constantly hugging, kissing,

<v Speaker 2>and making comments like Grandma loves you the most out

<v Speaker 2>of anyone.

<v Speaker 1>Oh what.

<v Speaker 2>She even tells them that mommy's rules don't matter when

<v Speaker 2>Grandma's here. She completely ignores us. As parents. We try

<v Speaker 2>not to give our kids a soda or sweets, but

<v Speaker 2>somehow every single visit ends with her cracking open a

<v Speaker 2>can of coke and sneaking it to them. If I

<v Speaker 2>say something, she rolls her eyes and makes comments like, well,

<v Speaker 2>back in my day.

<v Speaker 1>Kids, were allowed to be kids.

<v Speaker 3>Now.

<v Speaker 2>I've asked my husband to step in and talk to her,

<v Speaker 2>and he did, but she says, let's just say he

<v Speaker 2>wasn't exactly forceful, and nothing has changed.

<v Speaker 1>So here's where I'm stuck. JKJ.

<v Speaker 2>Do I put my foot down and confront her and

<v Speaker 2>risk causing a family scene? Or do I just let

<v Speaker 2>her go and accept that Grandma is going to be

<v Speaker 2>in her monster way for a few hours every time

<v Speaker 2>she's around. I'd love to know how do other people

<v Speaker 2>deal with their over indulgent mother in law's Am I

<v Speaker 2>being too sensitive?

<v Speaker 1>Or is this something worth standing up for? Love the show?

<v Speaker 1>You guys are the bomb digity, she wrote, and that

<v Speaker 1>is Teresa.

<v Speaker 2>So what do you think about the monster in law

<v Speaker 2>ignoring all the rules, bringing gifts over all the time,

<v Speaker 2>like being overly affectionate with the kids, like like she's

<v Speaker 2>the best one there her quote, Grandma loves you the

<v Speaker 2>most out of anyone.

<v Speaker 1>What do you think Teresa should do about this?

<v Speaker 2>Phone lines are wide open three O three six' nine

<v Speaker 2>one one mix three oh three six' nine one sixteen.

<v Speaker 2>Forty nine if you want to, sound off give us.

<v Speaker 2>A jingle what do you guys think about, THIS situation.

<v Speaker 4>I kind of feel like grandparents always want to have

<v Speaker 4>that like special relationship with, their GRANDKIDS and i kind

<v Speaker 4>of sensed it, With mine not that they were like

<v Speaker 4>trying to undermine my parents, or anything but that like

<v Speaker 4>almost they were competing with, each other like my dad's

<v Speaker 4>parents and my, mom's parents. You KNOW and i, feel

<v Speaker 4>like ESPECIALLY because i was one of the. First grandkids

<v Speaker 4>my sister was the first grandkid for both of, them

<v Speaker 4>obviously AND then i was the. Second one so for,

<v Speaker 4>us especially they were fighting. Over us they wanted to

<v Speaker 4>see us all, the, time, this that and the. Other

<v Speaker 4>thing so in, A way i can, see THIS but

<v Speaker 4>i Think this teresa's mother and mother in law has

<v Speaker 4>completely taken it to a whole. Different level that's.

<v Speaker 1>Like unhealthy THE uh i see the phone.

<v Speaker 2>Lines ringing if you guys get placed, on hold. Hank

<v Speaker 2>tight josh is gonna run back there into the other

<v Speaker 2>studio and get, your calls so.

<v Speaker 1>Hang tight the overly affectionate is weird, to me like

<v Speaker 1>the hanging on.

<v Speaker 2>The children it Sounds like katie like hugging him and

<v Speaker 2>kissing him and squeezing them and then like Looking at

<v Speaker 2>Mom like i'm the favorite that's weird. TO me i

<v Speaker 2>WILL say i can completely relate to the first part of,

<v Speaker 2>this email where maybe my mother. In law let's just

<v Speaker 2>hypothetically when she, comes over a lot of times she'll

<v Speaker 2>come with bags of stuff for, the kids like out. Of,

<v Speaker 2>nowhere yeah Just a wednesday afternoon she shows up, With gifts.

<v Speaker 1>And is that kind of The useless not it's all like.

<v Speaker 5>Meaningful gifts.

<v Speaker 1>She's probably still. In, bed uh, he's like can say this?

<v Speaker 3>Or?

<v Speaker 2>Not, Yeah yeah and a lot OF times i feel

<v Speaker 2>like she's just kind of like get crap out of

<v Speaker 2>her house and bringing it over to. Our house but

<v Speaker 2>like we've had, to, say like you gotta stop bringing. Gifts,

<v Speaker 2>over yeah the kids. Have enough we don't need to spoil.

<v Speaker 2>Them anymore like it is so unnecessary to be bringing

<v Speaker 2>gifts over every time you. Show, up yeah there's, no

<v Speaker 2>holiday it's not, a birthday because then they're gonna start

<v Speaker 2>to grow to know that Every time grandma's, coming over

<v Speaker 2>we get a bag full of.

<v Speaker 5>Crass exactly that's what they're gonna thank you healthy to

<v Speaker 5>think that it's not good.

<v Speaker 2>At, all okay if you guys want to, sound, off

<v Speaker 2>boy full lines are blown UP three o three six

<v Speaker 2>nine one one mix three oh three six nine one sixteen.

<v Speaker 1>Forty nine here's?

<v Speaker 4>Is?

<v Speaker 1>It, Lena Yes. Hi lina so what do you Think

<v Speaker 1>about teresa's monster in law and? Her, situation okay SO it.

<v Speaker 6>I her she's stopped just to plond her and let.

<v Speaker 6>Her know and the, Reason is i'm gonna tell a really.

<v Speaker 6>Quick story my husband passed AWAY. From covid the, year

<v Speaker 6>later they took ME to core and they wanted to

<v Speaker 6>take my ton away. From me so and The reason

<v Speaker 6>i'm killing to story is stop hurt right now in

<v Speaker 6>a kind way because, if not she's gonna think the

<v Speaker 6>bather in monster in law is gonna think that she

<v Speaker 6>is the boss and. She's not bit parents are racing

<v Speaker 6>their kids their way and is The way i'm raising mine.

<v Speaker 6>As well, those sweets, no gifts all, the time money things. Like, That,

<v Speaker 6>no no she needs to. Stop it i'm. With her

<v Speaker 6>and the husband needs to talk to.

<v Speaker 2>His, mother yeah there is that he needs to step

<v Speaker 2>up a little bit more.

<v Speaker 1>In court on. THAT line i love, your line like

<v Speaker 1>she's not.

<v Speaker 2>The boss that is like that's the bottom line, right,

<v Speaker 2>There right she's not. The boss you're not the boss of, My,

<v Speaker 2>kids lena, great call. Very wise we are truly sorry for.

<v Speaker 2>Your loss thank you for. Opening up we appreciate you

<v Speaker 2>have a. Good day that's a that's a great call,

<v Speaker 2>Right there like that sums, it up like if you

<v Speaker 2>need to get your mother in, law's kitchen use that line.

<v Speaker 5>Right well and boundaries are so IMPORTANT and i think

<v Speaker 5>that's what that call really stressed is when you are,

<v Speaker 5>the parent you are just that you get to parent

<v Speaker 5>your child and nobody gets to be, above that even.

<v Speaker 1>If It is grandma's a favorite though e'srandma.

<v Speaker 2>Yea Favorite, Hi, Lisa, hi hi thanks for sounding off

<v Speaker 2>for show Wants.

<v Speaker 1>To know did You hear? TERESA'S email, i.

<v Speaker 7>Did and i've been in the. Same situation my my

<v Speaker 7>POSITION is i did confront them and it was a big,

<v Speaker 7>blow up and in particular. About soda so it it has.

<v Speaker 7>Been tumultuous but, then again you as a parent do

<v Speaker 7>depend on them when they get older and you need

<v Speaker 7>them to pick them up in school or they need

<v Speaker 7>rides and, you know we've we've since gone aren't through

<v Speaker 7>the ups and? Downs TOGETHER and i guess, that's. Family

<v Speaker 7>right sometimes you can't you can pick. Your spouse but

<v Speaker 7>you can't pick. The family but as family you depend on.

<v Speaker 7>Each other ever since this whole soda, blow up his

<v Speaker 7>father got sick and can't drink. Soda anymore AND now

<v Speaker 7>i go, back to oh remember that TIME.

<v Speaker 1>When I got i got two questions, For.

<v Speaker 5>You lisa.

<v Speaker 2>Two.

<v Speaker 1>Questions okay first, of all what brand of soda are we?

<v Speaker 1>Talking about.

<v Speaker 4>What were?

<v Speaker 1>They, DRINKING well.

<v Speaker 7>I mean i'm thinking like Anywhere From mountain Dude to

<v Speaker 7>doctor pepperack not even.

<v Speaker 2>Solid choices can't Say that i'd, be mad not mad

<v Speaker 2>AMOUNT of dp two, Solid, Choices.

<v Speaker 1>Lisa, okay second all joking aside seconds. The home, That's

<v Speaker 1>right i'm just goofing, With. You lisa, second thing did

<v Speaker 1>the blow up need? To happen did it? Change anything

<v Speaker 1>did you? Get results for.

<v Speaker 7>The, most part my kids and my my in laws

<v Speaker 7>didn't have to close of a relationship for.

<v Speaker 1>A, Short okay so the bottom line it?

<v Speaker 8>Did it?

<v Speaker 1>Did it did?

<v Speaker 5>It?

<v Speaker 1>Help uh?

<v Speaker 9>Not.

<v Speaker 1>REALLY lisa i need to get you a glass mountain.

<v Speaker 1>Dew immediately you.

<v Speaker 3>Got it you.

<v Speaker 7>Got it in, some situations you gotta suck. It, up

<v Speaker 7>now there are stillar boundaries going back to, The, BOUNDARY.

<v Speaker 1>Lisa i, GOT okay i love you. TO pieces i

<v Speaker 1>got a bunch of callers to.

<v Speaker 2>Get to so, bottom line do you want her to

<v Speaker 2>speak up and say say something to the mother in

<v Speaker 2>law needs to, be said.

<v Speaker 3>Be careful what.

<v Speaker 1>You, say okay, all right.

<v Speaker 4>THAT'S true i would agree. With that you don't want

<v Speaker 4>to destroy that relationship if there's. ANY there, i mean you,

<v Speaker 4>really don't but.

<v Speaker 1>Sometimes you just got to.

<v Speaker 2>Say STUFF you u, the kids so to quit bringing

<v Speaker 2>presents over every time you.

<v Speaker 4>Show up that's your husband's. Though too you're gonna that's

<v Speaker 4>a fight you don't want to, go down and.

<v Speaker 5>You're gonna rely on that family at. SOME point i

<v Speaker 5>like how she, Said, that like what if you need

<v Speaker 5>someone to pick up the kiddos, from school you don't

<v Speaker 5>want me. AROUND them i give, them soda.

<v Speaker 2>But they'll pick the kids up with a bucket full

<v Speaker 2>of toys and then they'll go home and eat cookies.

<v Speaker 1>And, soda like you don't want.

<v Speaker 2>That either you find, somebody else find somebody else to

<v Speaker 2>pick up, your kids?

<v Speaker 5>Is?

<v Speaker 2>It, Uh, Laila, Lilah, Laila, Leila, Hi laila welcome to.

<v Speaker 1>The show what do You think teresa should do with

<v Speaker 1>her monster.

<v Speaker 3>In law this is. So crazy it makes me realize

<v Speaker 3>HOW blessed i am for the mother in LAVE that.

<v Speaker 3>I have, AND also i think you need to set

<v Speaker 3>boundaries since the beginning with you. In laws it is,

<v Speaker 3>your house.

<v Speaker 9>Your rules that.

<v Speaker 3>Was my vagina who got destroyed with those three.

<v Speaker 1>Little kids well that, escalated quickly didn't.

<v Speaker 3>It me, i'm sorry all right now.

<v Speaker 1>We're all thinking about your. Whu ha but.

<v Speaker 3>That's okay.

<v Speaker 9>It's good.

<v Speaker 5>He's good he.

<v Speaker 1>Bounces back i'm sure it bounces. Right back it's. All Good.

<v Speaker 2>Good god it is crazy that we were.

<v Speaker 3>Not Ready i'm i'm trying to keep.

<v Speaker 1>A curse i'm still thinking.

<v Speaker 2>About it i'm still thinking.

<v Speaker 1>ABOUT it i don't.

<v Speaker 4>Want to we're all good, now, though right, Everything's fine

<v Speaker 4>just go back.

<v Speaker 3>To them but it, is no it's, my house. MY

<v Speaker 3>rules i will even, her son imagine, MY kids i

<v Speaker 3>mean old.

<v Speaker 1>Her son that's a good lie. Right there you've got

<v Speaker 1>a lot of.

<v Speaker 6>GOOD life i.

<v Speaker 3>Like that.

<v Speaker 1>You can call whenever. You want.

<v Speaker 3>My kids were going to be so proud of me

<v Speaker 3>if THEY knew i was talking to.

<v Speaker 2>You guys what, You, said well thank you for listening

<v Speaker 2>every day on the way.

<v Speaker 1>To school it's.

<v Speaker 5>Very, nice hey.

<v Speaker 1>You mentioned you got a great mother. In law give

<v Speaker 1>her a. Shout, out, yeah yes.

<v Speaker 3>SHE'S amazing i love. My mother she's like my. Second

<v Speaker 3>mom sometimes she takes better calls me than my. Own

<v Speaker 3>Mother so i'm. Very blessed what's?

<v Speaker 9>Her?

<v Speaker 1>Name carol Good, old Carol, Good.

<v Speaker 2>Carol layla thank you for all the laughs, this morning

<v Speaker 2>and good luck to you and your huha.

<v Speaker 3>Is awesome good.

<v Speaker 1>For, You hi i'm gonna let you GO because i

<v Speaker 1>don't know what else you're.

<v Speaker 2>Gonna say have A good day's my. Favorite, Call, hey

<v Speaker 2>ry we're doing?

<v Speaker 1>Super noopes how are? YOU doing i am.

<v Speaker 9>Doing fantastic oh.

<v Speaker 2>That's great so what do you want to say for

<v Speaker 2>show wants? To Know in teresa's over indulgent mother.

<v Speaker 9>IN law i think that the thing is is if

<v Speaker 9>you aren't willing to set, the boundary because your kids

<v Speaker 9>know what your, rules are your kids, see that and

<v Speaker 9>if you aren't willing to set the boundaries your kids learn,

<v Speaker 9>from you then when they need to set boundaries, as

<v Speaker 9>adults what are they going? To think what are they

<v Speaker 9>going to do? With that or when they need to

<v Speaker 9>set boundaries with people that are pushing. Pushing them you

<v Speaker 9>have to be able to teach, your kids show them

<v Speaker 9>by example and let. Them know and then, you know

<v Speaker 9>if you're not setting these boundaries and you're showing that

<v Speaker 9>your mother in law is willing to, push these then

<v Speaker 9>when they, GET older, i mean are they going to

<v Speaker 9>listen to you when, you, say hey don't speak that

<v Speaker 9>at night. Or whatnot, you know they're not going to

<v Speaker 9>want to respect you because they've learned when they were

<v Speaker 9>kids that they don't need to because you're not going to.

<v Speaker 2>Enforce, that well think about it in, their career like

<v Speaker 2>if they have a supervisor telling them they can't, do things,

<v Speaker 2>they're LIKE whatever, i AM who, I am i'm going

<v Speaker 2>to do.

<v Speaker 1>IT anyway i mean that's not good.

<v Speaker 9>Exactly exactly and the thing is with kids is there

<v Speaker 9>when they're so young, and impressionable and it isn't even

<v Speaker 9>about like don't. Drink soda episoda is bad because soda,

<v Speaker 9>is bad but like respecting one the people who are,

<v Speaker 9>YOU know i don't want to say like, above them,

<v Speaker 9>but authorities.

<v Speaker 1>Your elder.

<v Speaker 9>Yeah exactly it'll get them farther, in life and it'll

<v Speaker 9>teach them discipline and it'll teach them to respect. Their

<v Speaker 9>PARENTS and i, think that, you know part of it

<v Speaker 9>is the. Dad's responsibility it's, his mom, you know if

<v Speaker 9>you're willing to stand up for you and what you

<v Speaker 9>believe in then and and also rules that you. BOTH said,

<v Speaker 9>i mean it's not like he's not like part of the,

<v Speaker 9>rule setting like his mom is also disrespecting, his, Boundary

<v Speaker 9>right and.

<v Speaker 2>That's okay this is a great, call again very wise

<v Speaker 2>comments here. ON hell i do have one quick question for.

<v Speaker 2>You though if you were really forced to drink, a

<v Speaker 2>soda which one would?

<v Speaker 3>You?

<v Speaker 9>Choose, oh no see. This question i'm gonna have a

<v Speaker 9>harder Time.

<v Speaker 2>Answer ron if your mother in law was over there

<v Speaker 2>force feeding, your soda which one would?

<v Speaker 5>You want it's a, roof, beer right, come, on classic it's.

<v Speaker 9>Definitely like a roof aer float specifically about the. Ice cream.

<v Speaker 9>JUST don't i won't even.

<v Speaker 1>Bother, all right yea, solid, choice, ride solid. Solid choice.

<v Speaker 2>So, much oh thank you for giving us, a call

<v Speaker 2>and you have a great day.

<v Speaker 1>You, too, okay bye, all right we'll do. One More Here's. Nancy, Pants, Hi,

<v Speaker 1>nancy hi how are? You well we're. Super dupes you

<v Speaker 1>get the very last word on. This situation, come on

<v Speaker 1>it's all up to.

<v Speaker 8>You, now, WELL honestly i think she should let. It

<v Speaker 8>go it sounds like grandma loves, the kids and you,

<v Speaker 8>know what be appreciative that you have grandparents who dote.

<v Speaker 8>On you and she's, not meddling, you know in, the

<v Speaker 8>marriage per se and and doing. Other things and it's

<v Speaker 8>really it sounds like it's about. The kids and, YOU

<v Speaker 8>know i, don't know is this and Everybody loves raymond

<v Speaker 8>situation where grandma lives next door and she's around, every,

<v Speaker 8>day yes or is it like they, see grandma, you

<v Speaker 8>know once a week or every. OTHER week, i mean

<v Speaker 8>let her spoil the kids a, little bit like that's, their,

<v Speaker 8>relationship right and let them. Do that my kids are twelve.

<v Speaker 8>And sixteen like my sixteen year old's. Checked out he

<v Speaker 8>doesn't see. Anyone anymore like the time is just so

<v Speaker 8>little and it's. SO precious I think i think, let them,

<v Speaker 8>you know be, best eason do their things so and develop.

<v Speaker 8>Their relationship this.

<v Speaker 1>Is the only call we've had. LIKE this i kind of.

<v Speaker 1>Like this everyone else's.

<v Speaker 2>Like getting mom's kitchen and, YOU'RE like i just enjoy having. Grandma,

<v Speaker 2>AROUND yeah i kind of like it because you were.

<v Speaker 4>So Short, like nancy you're so correct that those years

<v Speaker 4>that you, are like, you know in love with being with,

<v Speaker 4>your grandparents it is a really.

<v Speaker 1>Short, time yeah.

<v Speaker 8>Well this, time, Right right and she's not meddling in. The,

<v Speaker 8>MARRIAGE well i, don't know but as long as, you

<v Speaker 8>know it's just not like, you know other things, going

<v Speaker 8>on and it's really about, the kids like what's.

<v Speaker 2>The problem in a, way though she is because this

<v Speaker 2>might be causing a rift in, the marriage, you know

<v Speaker 2>because they could be arguing, about this, you know her

<v Speaker 2>actions and he's not doing enough and now. YOU'RE overreacting,

<v Speaker 2>i mean it, really shouldulge.

<v Speaker 8>THAT'S true i just think it seems like it's central

<v Speaker 8>around the kids and she really, loves them right and, Ring,

<v Speaker 8>crapover yeah my parents. Do that they bring a bunch

<v Speaker 8>of junk from their house over and then the minute,

<v Speaker 8>THEY leave i just throw.

<v Speaker 1>It away you're just like me with my mother goes

<v Speaker 1>in a good. Will pile, i'm, like oh that's going to?

<v Speaker 6>Good, will.

<v Speaker 5>Yeah, Exactly, well NANCY something i think that needs to

<v Speaker 5>be pointed out too is the, older generation like maybe

<v Speaker 5>they didn't have grandparents who doted on them.

<v Speaker 1>Like that so that's the exactly.

<v Speaker 5>You know this IS like i want to do what

<v Speaker 5>my grandparents didn't do. FOR me i want to show

<v Speaker 5>THESE kids i love them unconditionally and give THEM everything i,

<v Speaker 5>never got, You KNOW and i think that there's some

<v Speaker 5>of that in this.

<v Speaker 3>AS well i.

<v Speaker 8>TOTALLY agree, i mean my dad's the. Same way he

<v Speaker 8>didn't grow up with MUCH and. I do he brings

<v Speaker 8>just a bunch of junk from his house over to

<v Speaker 8>my house whenever they, come visit and it's because he,

<v Speaker 8>loves them and it's because he didn't have stuff, growing

<v Speaker 8>up and he wants to. Give me AND like, i

<v Speaker 8>said they leave AND then i just go throw.

<v Speaker 2>It, away nancy you're getting forced to drink one soda

<v Speaker 2>from your mother.

<v Speaker 1>In law which one are? YOU choosing.

<v Speaker 3>I would.

<v Speaker 8>CHOOSE pepsi i don't, drink soda, so like WHEN if

<v Speaker 8>i do get, A chance i just want a nice

<v Speaker 8>cold pepsi out of like.

<v Speaker 9>The mountain not.

<v Speaker 2>Too shabby it's a, good call, The, Best nancy thanks

<v Speaker 2>for sounding off.

<v Speaker 1>For, show once have a. Great.

<v Speaker 8>DAY bye i.

<v Speaker 1>Liked all, of those every single call.

<v Speaker 4>That happened, I'm like i'm. With you that's a. Great,

<v Speaker 4>IDEA yeah i.

<v Speaker 2>COULDN'T tell i like the the one one woman, who said,

<v Speaker 2>you know maybe talk to the husband and let the

<v Speaker 2>husband confront her a little.

<v Speaker 1>Bit more maybe.

<v Speaker 2>Start, there yeah since it is, his, mom like let

<v Speaker 2>him take this on for a little bit and then

<v Speaker 2>just kind of go.

<v Speaker 4>From there you're the only one that's a. HUSBAND here, i,

<v Speaker 4>mean like you have. To side you have to side with, the,

<v Speaker 4>wife right you have to. Stay, long yeah you have to,

<v Speaker 4>happy wife. Happy life you cannot side with, the mother

<v Speaker 4>so you.

<v Speaker 1>Have to but you.

<v Speaker 5>Were there times where you sided with your mom Though Over,

<v Speaker 5>nick knack well look.

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