Hi guys.

Welcome back to another episode

of Here Comes The Drama.

I'm your host, Christa Innis, and I am so

excited to dive into another episode with

some crazy stories that were sent to me.

stories from the vault as we'll call them.

As always, if I have not said it on here

in a while, if you want more stories

from the vault, you can always join

my email newsletter and every single

week I send out emails on a Thursday.

we share more stories

that people send to me.

I give you links of all the latest,

Stories and skits that I've sent out,

and then also our latest YouTube video

just to make sure it's all in one place.

And you never miss a crazy story

because we've got lots of them.

I'm gonna do things a

little bit different today.

I always like to mix it up so it

seems a little unique and fun.

although the stories are

always unique and fun, so.

More can you ask for, so today

I'm gonna do, a little book

two teaser or sneak peek.

we're gonna have a little

this or that, a rapid fire.

And then I've got not one, but two wild

stories that, someone has sent over to me.

So we're gonna react to those together.

starting off, I just wanna

read a review of the podcast.

so this one says, Christa has always made

her guests seem like friends of hers.

It's nice to listen to such

fun topics, even if sometimes

crazy, most of the time crazy.

I hope she'll have on

Suzanne Lambert soon.

I had Suzanne Lambert on and I adore her.

I think she's fantastic.

she was cracking me up before and after

recording and of course during recording,

but she was, I wanna say episode seven.

I don't even know.

I'll find out and we'll, we'll link in

the show notes, but, she was wonderful.

thank you for that kind review.

Of course, as always, if you guys love

the podcast, please leave me a review.

it just helps more people find it and,

I will of course share them as well.

It just really helps.

like I said, people really

understand the podcast and be able

to find it when they're looking

for something fun to listen to.

so that's always a fun to read.

Okay.

Like I said.

We're gonna jump into book two Teaser.

if this is your first time hearing

that I'm gonna work on, or I am

working on book number two of

the, here comes the drama series.

Well, surprise.

I'm working on book number two.

the title is TBD, I'm working on a few

different options right now, and, if you

are on my newsletter, email, newsletter

list, very soon you'll be able to

vote on which one you like the best.

So make sure you get on that so you

can be on the insider, scoop there

and see what we're working with.

But book two has been challenging,

fun, but also exciting.

I would like to say I'm getting a

little more creative with, Character

development and what can happen.

I'm not sticking as closely

to the storyline and the skits

that you guys saw previously.

Of course it does loosely follow it.

but there was a lot, like, I was

trying to explain this to someone.

It's like, think of the skit as

the rough, rough draft, right?

Like I put those together, but

sometimes things just come out on

a whim and later I'm like, oh, I

wish it happened like this instead.

So when I sit down to write, I'm able to

actually like analyze like, oh, this makes

sense, or should I take this scene out?

Should I add this scene in?

So we're getting a little, little,

I dunno if raunchy is the right

word, but we're getting a little

more in depth in some relationships.

We're adding a little more detail,

and I'm changing the course

of some things that happen.

So it's been a lot of fun.

I do wanna say though, if you've not read

the first book, and you plan to, you might

not wanna listen to this, it's not gonna

reveal too much, but if you watch the

skits, it might have some revealed in it.

so I'm gonna leave that up to you.

It could spoil some small

things, but nothing crazy.

So here's a little, teaser

from the first part.

Again, this is before anything's

been edited, sent to my editor.

This is super, super rough, but

I wanted to share it with you

guys as a little insider bonus.

So here we go.

Chapter one, the late afternoon sun spills

across the private deck, casting a golden

haze over the edge of the infinity pool.

Slowly leaves back in her lounge chair,

her legs stretched out, sunglasses

slipping slightly down her nose.

Suddenly Ferris emerges from the

villa with sunglasses perched on his

head, wearing black swim trunks and

holding two glasses of champagne.

My beautiful wife.

The champagne you ordered,

Ferris says, with a wink leaning

forward to hand, one to Sloan.

She laughs and sits up

reaching for the glass.

I could get used to this.

The sun, the fresh air, no drama.

She gestures up to the sky as

if to thank the sun directly.

Ferris gently settles into the

lounge chair besides her and takes

a deep breath, soaking it all in.

She turns to face him and lifts her

glass to clink his to married life.

I'm so ready for this next chapter.

She leans in to give him a quick

peck on the cheek to married life.

Ferris echoes smirking at

her before taking a long sip.

He lets out an audible satisfied.

Ah, before adding, tell you what,

if I could just sit at a resort like

this with you by my side and a drink

in my hand for the rest of my life.

I think I could die.

Happy slow now reclining

again, mumbles you Sure?

We didn't actually die from the

wedding stress and this is heaven.

She laughs.

Ferris chuckles.

Come to think of it, the end was kind

of a blur, an out of body experience.

He thinks back to the moment

He made a clear divide between

his new wife and his mother.

Proud of the way he stood his ground.

Hoping Sloan never second

guesses where she stands again.

He glances over at her admiring how

she glows so naturally in the sunlight.

He can hardly keep his hands off of her.

Setting down his champagne glass.

He moves to sit on her chair, gently cups

her face and leans in for a soft kiss.

She lifts her head to meet

him, kissing him back.

Her hands, exploring his warm body.

He slides fully onto the lounge

chair silently praying it's

strong enough to hold them both.

His fingers trail from her collarbone

down to the curbs of her body.

Then there's a knock at the door.

They pause looking at each other, then

toward the villa without saying a word.

They silently agree to ignore it

and return to where they left off.

Ferris reaches for the

string on Sloan Swim top.

Another knock louder this

time, he sits up annoyed.

Next time I'm putting the do

not disturb sign on her door.

He walks to the door and

pierce through the peephole.

A bellhop stands there holding something.

Ferris opens the door, the bellhop smiles

holding out a card for the newlyweds.

A little spa treatment.

Ferris hesitates before taking the card.

Oh, thank you.

Who's it from?

The call was anonymous, the bellhop

says his smile a little too practiced.

they just wanted to send you a

little treat before you head home.

Ferris furrows, his brows.

Thanks.

He repeats watching.

As the bellhop walks away, he stands

there for a beat, peering around

the front of the village, nothing.

Eventually he shakes it off and heads

back inside, shutting the door behind him.

Who is that Sloan ass when

he returns to the deck?

Ferris opens the envelope

and scans the card.

Here's to making sure you

relax on your honeymoon.

Something tells me

you're going to need it.

His stomach tightens.

The words could be innocent

or something else entirely.

He slides the card into his

pocket and forces a smile,

just a little spa surprise.

He says, let's not waste it.

She snatches the card from his

hands, her fingers brushing

His in a lingering touch.

She opens it reading the message quickly

before setting it down on the table.

Her gaze meets his and something unspoken

passes between them without a word.

She wraps her arms around

his waist, pulling him closer

as she leans down to kiss.

The kiss deepens slow in searching and

he lifts her effortlessly feeling her

legs wrap around him as she clings to

him guiding him towards the bedroom.

Their bodies move together.

The space between them vanishing as they

cross into the next room where the world

outside seems miles and miles away.

Chapter two, I'm only gonna do a

few more paragraphs of this one,

cause I don't wanna give too much.

Okay.

Back in Milwaukee, tensions are running

high after the humiliation of having

wine spilled on her at the wedding.

Kate had stormed out of the venue

hoping Ted, her husband would follow

her in support, but instead he

remained inside happily celebrating

the couple, mingling with his friends

and family as if nothing had happened.

She waited a whole hour sitting alone

in her car before realizing that no

one was coming after her this time.

How could her family be so

cruel, so unforgiving after

everything she had done for them.

She couldn't believe that they were all

inside the venue dancing and enjoying

themselves while she sat outside alone.

Finally, she decided to go back inside.

Maybe that way someone would

feel guilty and see how horribly

her family had treated her.

She slowly walked back into the venue

head slumped down, dragged her feet.

She walked in and it was like no

one even noticed she was missing.

She spotted Ferris and Sloan

across the room lost in the moment

as they shared a slow dance.

He dipped her gracefully and the

crowd formed a wide circle around

them offering silent shears.

As Sloane made her way up to Ferris, he

grazed her jaw and leaned in for a kiss.

Off to the side.

Kate noticed Jenny standing proudly

with her drink in her hand, but

it was the sight of Cal. His arm

draped more than friendly around her

shoulder that caught her off guard.

Kate stood frozen, staring in

disgust, uncertain of what to do next.

She began to walk forward.

Her steps slow and deliberate.

Just then a tap on her shoulder.

Kate quickly turned around to see the

wedding planner, Yvette, and a man she

didn't recognize dressed in a suit.

Kate, I'm sorry, but we're gonna have

to ask you to leave Yvette politely

said, trying not to cause a scene.

Okay.

I'm gonna stop there because as you guys

can hear, I am not a trained speaker.

I am not.

A voice actor.

So many people still are like, oh,

I wish you would read the next book.

I like the audio book, but I wish

it was your voice 'cause they're

just used to me in the skit.

But that should show

you guys it is so hard.

I don't know, like, I dunno if I

just overthink, but it's hard to

like enunciate things the right way

or pronounce things the right way,

especially when you're just reading it

for someone, knowing it's being recorded.

So I know I messed up a little bit

while reading that, but, It was also

good for me because like I said,

I'm a little behind on this one.

and, I need to send it to an editor soon.

I'm on currently on chapter 36 or seven.

This one's gonna be a lot longer.

There's a lot more detail, like I said.

so I'm looking at maybe

closer to a 300 page book.

We'll see.

I don't know how many chapters yet.

Anyways, I hope you guys

enjoyed that little sneak peek.

I do tend to send little sneak

peeks, in the newsletter here and

there just of random paragraphs.

Sometimes I'll post 'em

on social media as well.

But, I'm just, really excited

to get it out to you guys.

I know some, many of you guys read

through the first one so quickly, so

hopefully I can get this out to you guys.

Pretty soon.

Okay, next up we are

gonna do the this or that.

Pick aside wedding drama debates.

As I read these off, I want

you guys to also like say out

loud what you would rather do.

I think it's always interesting

to hear differences of opinion.

Okay.

Rapid fire.

Your DJ cancels last minute, or your

photographer ghost you the day of.

yeah, we're gonna go with

DJ canceling last minute.

I know I've done similar ones before,

so hopefully I'm not repeating them.

some of these, I know that one sounds

kind of familiar, but you know what I

feel like with DJs, again, DJs are great,

but we all have Spotify on our phone.

Most of us do.

So photographer.

Nothing can replace a

professional photographer.

iPhones are great.

Photos are getting better on phones, but I

would rather have someone be able to focus

on taking photos and not think about it.

mother-in-law wears white, or Best

Man gives an inappropriate speech.

At my own wedding, I would say.

mean, how inappropriate are we talking?

I don't know.

Like I'd probably say

mother-in-law wears white.

I mean for me, that doesn't

really bother me If I would look

at some of these other stories.

They already have some issues then.

Yeah.

That's, a problem.

venue runs out of food or open

bar closes two hours early.

If I have to pick, it's gonna be open

Bar closes two hours early because you

do not want the venue to run out of food

if you're not feeding all your guests.

That is a problem.

And I've heard horror stories

of venues running out of food.

I dunno how that happens.

that's bad to leave a wedding hungry.

Dealing with a crying baby

during your vows or a drunk

uncle during your first dance.

I think a drunk uncle

during your first dance.

I think that's probably way more common.

And at that point, hopefully the

music is loud enough and there's a big

enough circle where you don't really

notice it unless he is like so drunk.

He's like walking onto the dance

floor and like bothering you guys.

But either way, I think, the vows are

definitely a more intimate moment where

you probably don't want the distractions.

Okay.

a bridesmaid, drops out the night

before, or a groomsman shows

up late and tipsy, eh, I'd say

groomsman shows up late and tipsy.

A bridesmaid dropping

out the night before we.

Unless there was like an emergency that

would be kind of crappy, that wouldn't

feel too good if the groomsmen's a

little tipsy when he shows up, whatever.

I mean, we had some drunk grooms

men, they handled it fine.

Okay.

Rain on your outdoor ceremony

or blistering heat with no ac.

Rain on your outdoor ceremony.

I think it could actually

be really pretty.

there's something about when there's

overcast, like if we're talking

a little rain, it's overcast.

The photos actually look really pretty

and you've got your girls there.

You've got, maybe your hairstylist has

already left, but if you've got your

girls, just a little hairspray, whatever.

I think it's fine.

Okay.

Discover a guest live

streamed your ceremony without

permission or see your wedding.

Hashtag hijacked by strangers.

I did not have a wedding hashtag.

I don't even know if

that's a thing anymore.

I'm sorry.

If people are still doing that, they

might be, I think that's one of those

trends that are kind of dying out, so.

If someone wants to use it, that's fine.

I remember when we first got

engaged, I don't even know.

I remember kind of thinking about

hashtags 'cause my last name's in it.

So I feel like you can do a lot with that.

But then I was like, I don't

know if people do this anymore.

caterer forgets the cake or florist

delivers the wrong color scheme.

I know I said rapid fire and

I'm explaining all my answers.

If there's no other dessert,

you can't forget the cake.

If there's no other dessert, Floris

delivers the wrong color scheme.

I'm gonna go with that because

I mean, if they're still pretty.

I'm not someone that is a

big, like flower person.

I had fake flowers at my wedding.

I was not about to

spend $5,000 on flowers.

that's just me.

so yeah, if they came and they were like

slightly the wrong color, I don't know.

I don't think there's a color

I would hate or anything.

Seating chart disaster exes were

seated together or your boss

was seated at the kids' table.

That's pretty funny.

I would say.

X is seated together in my writing

era right now, and I'm like, Ooh,

that sounds like a good story.

Like I'm like, Ooh, two X's

are seated at a table together

and then maybe they hit it off.

yeah, that's just where my mind's going.

Kids table is kind of just

humorous for me, honestly.

Okay, last one.

Have to wear the world's itst wedding

shoes or smile through an off key

karaoke performance dedicated to you.

Oh, I don't want a dedicated

karaoke performance.

I just don't want that at all.

But itchy wedding shoes, I don't

think I've ever had itchy shoes.

those both sound really terrible.

okay, you guys need to tell me.

What would you guys pick?

I think I would go with, if we're

talking like a one minute karaoke

performance, let's just go with that.

I'm not wearing itchy shoes.

Okay, let's get to the moment

you guys are all waiting for.

Let's react to these crazy stories.

like I said, we've got two,

so let's see what we got.

This story actually went viral a few years

ago on Reddit when another bridesmaid

posted it on an, am I the asshole Red?

She told her side, which I'll

share with her permission,

but I never got to share mine.

It's definitely a brides list story.

Okay.

So when I first glanced at this, I

thought she was saying this was a popular

Reddit, story, which it kind of is,

but she was also a bridesmaid at this

wedding, so she's kind of telling her own

perspective of it, of a Bridezilla story.

Okay.

This is wild, and I bet you guys

are gonna love this because.

We don't get a ton of Bridezilla stories.

Most of the stories that are sent

to me are from brides themselves.

So we get every other perspective.

And people are all the time, like,

well, brides aren't perfect either.

There's Bridezillas.

Yes.

We all know there's tons of Bridezillas.

Hence why the name started.

Right.

so I'm excited for this

I'm wearing my white today.

Okay, here we go.

The bride started off by telling us

that if we got engaged or pregnant

before her wedding, we were out.

I would just jump ship right then.

No, that's not a friend.

You can't get engaged or pregnant

When she's And the wedding.

Wait, the wedding was

more than two years away.

So she expects in that two years for

you to pause your own life, bow down

to her and do whatever she wants

in those two years, no, I'm out.

we're not even talking

like a quick engagement.

We're talking two years away.

You can't get engaged and

you can't get pregnant.

No, I'm not pausing.

I've always said this.

I would not pause my own life or

relationship for somebody else.

I had a lot of friends that, like when

other friends were getting married and

stuff, they're like, well I'm gonna wait

to try to have kids till after because I

don't wanna be pregnant at their wedding.

And for me, I was like,

your timing is your timing.

if you would rather like be able

to party at a wedding, that's fine.

But for me, I was like, I

wanna do it when I'm ready.

And sure enough, like.

I was a pregnant maid of

honor at one of my friend's

weddings, and it was really fun.

It was fine, like my feet hurt a lot more.

My body was a lot more sore by

the end of the night, but I was

not about to pause because another

friend was getting married.

Okay.

She told us that we were expected to pay

for everything except the wedding itself.

I understand when someone doesn't have

a lot of money, but I'm talking about

her meals on the bachelorette trip.

We also pay for the trip itself.

All of her drinks were

in clubs with entry fees.

She also expected us to cover, and

even her Ubers, I get helping with the

party, but every single meal, drink and

ride, she didn't even want to split it.

She just didn't want to pay.

Okay.

So here's the thing with

bachelorette parties, and I think

communication is really important.

Most every bachelorette party I've

been on and I've been on a lot,

I've never took the time to sit

down and count them, but I would say

I've been to at least nine or 10.

Yeah, because I've been to Bachelorettes

for every wedding I've been in and then

my own, and I'm sure I've been to some.

I wasn't in, we've always just split

the bride's cost amongst everybody.

but that's always been

kind of communicated.

Like I said, with all our friend group, we

kind of just know that's what is expected.

but when you kind of come in

with that entitled behavior,

that's where there's a problem.

cause many of the brides

still would buy like rounds of

drinks or they would just like.

Bring gift bags for everybody.

You know, there's different ways of

like giving back to your bridesmaids.

this doesn't sit well with me because

she's coming in very rude and entitled.

this is does not sound like a

wedding I would be a part of.

okay.

She had a long list of rules for how

we were supposed to look at both the

bachelorette party and the wedding.

For the wedding.

She picked out our dresses, which

were pricey, and we had to get her

approval on our hair, nails, and shoes.

when the dresses came in.

More than a year in advance.

Why are we getting

dresses a year in advance?

most people like get engaged

a year before their wedding.

Right.

You don't need your dress

that much in advance.

Plus your body can change so much

through different things, right?

Unless this bride's like you can't

gain weight, you can't lose weight,

you need to stay the way you are.

this would not surprise me

from this kind of bride.

some of mine didn't get theirs until

like maybe two months before the wedding.

'Cause you have to think about it.

Like you get sized for it,

you buy it, it gets to you.

' cause we did all ours online.

Then you have to get

it like altered, right?

So if you're, shorten

it, you fix up anyway.

And I mean, most of the weddings I was

in, like, we were just if you wanna

get your hair done, I'm thinking.

I've had some that were more

specific, like they'd be like,

oh, I want updo for everybody.

I'm personally not a fan of an updo.

Everyone's different.

And then for nails, everyone was just

like, do what you want with your nails.

Some had like preferences for shoes,

they'd be like, oh, we want gold shoes.

We want just wear tan shoes.

Just wear black shoes.

But I don't think I've had any that

were like, you have to wear these shoes.

One wedding, I was in one of the first

weddings I was in I think the problem

is, I don't if problem's the right word.

We were just so young.

So we all went to get bridesmaid dresses

together and we were literally just

walking around the store and like,

how, when do you think about this?

What do you think about this?

And then we all picked the

same like silver shoes and they

were the most painful shoes.

so we all just matched, but I

think that's kind of, we're kind of

veering away from that outlook now.

Okay.

so when the dresses came in more than

a year in advance, she demanded that

we all do a mock try-on video on our

own time and send it to her right away.

This is when people are more.

Care more about the overall look and

how everything's like perfect than

the actual like marriage or wedding.

At one point I temporarily

withdrew because she was too much.

I wasn't the only one, but I was one

of the few who ended up going back.

I wonder why.

Within days of her engagement,

she started creating group chats,

multiple ones, some with just

bridesmaids, some with bridesmaids

and groomsmen, and on different

platforms like Facebook and Snapchat.

Yeah, I'm already overwhelmed.

That's too much for me.

She expected us to check them constantly.

Okay.

Full disclosure, when I'm in a

bridesmaid group chat, I silence it.

you need, boundaries.

I love a group chat as much

as the next person, and I'll

be in there when I can be.

But if I'm in a group chat with,

let's say, 10 other girls, you'll

never have time for anything else.

If all you're doing is reading

this thing, I turn off alerts

and I check it when I can.

And that's how it should be for everybody.

Or if it's too much for you,

just get out of it and find

out the most important things.

the wedding was years away.

When she wasn't sending us long

essays of rules, she was asking

our opinions on wedding details.

Then getting mad when we didn't

answer, why are we in this wedding?

Why are these people in this wedding?

This girl sounds terrible to be around.

It was like she expected

us to plan it out for her.

She was making demands daily, but while

she worked from home, most of us didn't.

I didn't have the time to constantly

check chats for her new rules.

She thrived on attention.

So getting married was basically

her dream come true, though

not for the usual reasons.

The.

I'm not surprised someone like this

caring more about control and having all

eyes on her is not gonna be as excited

about the marriage or what's coming next.

They're more excited about the overall

appeal, having a reason to post

photos on social media, having people

come at, oh, you look so beautiful.

Oh your the most beautiful bride.

They are not thinking about

like, oh, I'm getting married.

Oh, I'm signing a contract

essentially to live and be married

with this person for my life.

Hopefully.

this is wild.

Okay.

Eventually she demanded that we all

meet for a dress fitting fine, but the

wedding was still over a year away.

She told us we had to order the dresses

by August, 2020, even though the

wedding wasn't until September, 2022.

What, what kind of dress are you ordering?

even custom made bride dresses.

Why can I not think of a word?

a bridal gown.

I ordered mine 10 months before.

My wedding was not custom.

It was not custom.

We're talking like a $1,200 dress.

Not custom, but I'm thinking like a year

is probably fine for that kind of stuff.

Like, I don't know.

Correct me if I'm wrong,

but this sounds wild to me.

Like I said, bridesmaids I

think ordered their dresses like

six months before the wedding.

if we did not order by then or we

couldn't attend the fitting, which she

gave us a little notice for, we were out.

I need to know how many other bridesmaids

there were and who all dropped out because

there's like at least three points already

that I would've been out of this wedding.

By this point, I had

started ignoring the chats.

I figured she'd text if it was important.

She never did.

She only used Snapchat.

Who uses Snapchat?

if you're only listening,

I just made a face.

I don't use Snapchat.

And to me, the last time I

used it was like college maybe.

Right?

Post college to me.

it was only for like instant

things you want people to see.

Not like, for a constant, like

things disappeared, don't they?

Oh gosh.

she could see if we read the messages.

If someone didn't reply, she would

literally tag the person until they

replied almost as if to shame them.

Oh my God, this is wild.

also as someone like now, like it's

probably more since I've become

a mom, but like I'll read text

messages sometimes and I'm like,

oh, okay, I can't reply right now.

And I try to remember later.

Half the time.

I remember later, half the time,

I'll remember like three days

later I'll be like, oh crap, I

need to reply to that person.

But sometimes people just

read it and they forget.

Or if they don't have anything

to say, and that's okay.

Our phones like in social media and

like the technology now makes it feel

like if someone texts us or calls us or

emails us, we have to reply right away.

And so we just always feel

like go, go, go, go, go.

I have to reply.

And it's like no boundaries, like

People do not deserve access to us 24 7.

We deserve to shut off from the

world as much as we want to.

that's just too much.

I get it.

It was her wedding and she was excited,

but the demands were unreasonable, When I

skipped the fitting, she shamed me in the

group chat and got others to do the same.

Got others to do the same.

Who is shaming her then?

What the heck?

This is so weird.

Who would stay friends

with someone like this?

That moment caused my many

bridesmaids to drop out.

She got replacements, but most of

'em eventually dropped out too.

Replacements.

the viral Reddit story came from

another bridesmaid's perspective.

In short, the bride who was a photographer

made backhanded comments about her

body after she had a baby, basically

telling her to lose the weight.

I knew it.

I knew this kind of person would

shame, someone for a weight gain.

Telling her to lose the weight

for the wedding, which your body,

anyone knows anyone that's had a

child or just as you get older,

it's so much harder to lose weight.

And it's not even that, it's

your body just changes, your body

handles food, exercise, Sitting

down, just your body changes.

So even if you don't gain weight,

sometimes you go up in sizes or sometimes

you gain weight and you go down and

like it's just every body is different.

how in the year of 2025 do we still

have to explain that every body's

different, metabolism's different,

how we absorb food is different.

Like I'm no health expert.

I can just see like we

need to accept people.

Like that's wild.

I would never make comments about

a friend's weight and say, you

need to lose your baby weight.

What the heck?

This wasn't out of character.

The bride often made comments like

that and later tried to act innocent.

She thrived on putting others

down to make herself feel better.

Even before the wedding, I

had my own horror stories.

She copied everything I did.

At first, I thought it was cute,

like a best friend thing, until

I realized it wasn't I got a pet.

Then she got one only take of it up later.

She later copied my car, my purchases, my

style, and even my hobbies, worst of all.

But when I became pregnant at 20

unexpectedly and in a difficult situation,

she spent my entire pregnancy reminding me

how glad she was that she wasn't pregnant.

Why?

Why are you still friends with this girl?

She does not like you.

She does not like anybody.

She sounds like someone that's very

unhappy, so she has to constantly put

people down around her and someone

that's gonna make fun of you or put

you down when you're pregnant or your

body changes, or when you're going

through a sad moment in your life,

she's not gonna be there for you.

Oh my gosh, this is wild.

Okay.

So later, after visiting me at 37

weeks, she suddenly started saying

she wished she was pregnant too.

And within a month she was trying.

Soon after she ended up pregnant as well.

So these girls are really young.

I'm trying to wait.

Is this all before the wedding?

I'm so confused.

Okay.

It says, before the

wedding, this all happened.

So she was pregnant at 20 before

the wedding, so I don't know how

many years later this was it.

And so the bride and

herself have children.

Okay.

Fast forward, she eventually apologized

and I was back in the wedding.

Things went smoothly though she still

micromanaged for the bachelorette party.

She wanted us to buy three new

approved outfits for going out.

No, like I've talked about before, I've

been to many bachelorette parties where

there's like themes and I love it.

I love a good theme.

Sometimes they're hard to find,

but we go to thrift store.

Sometimes we buy stuff on Amazon.

You know, whatever.

You can find like.

No one would be like, you have to buy

a new outfit, or we switched outfits.

no one would be like, you have to go

buy a new outfit, I need to approve it.

no.

and she kept reminding us to

not look hotter than the bride.

I work out regularly and was

the slimmest in the group.

So she often made outfit suggestions

that she knew wouldn't flatter me.

She wanted all the attention.

During nights out, if men came up to

talk to me or the other bridesmaids, she

would immediately jump in, announce that

she was the bride, and start bragging.

Oh my gosh.

The wedding itself.

you know what the most shocking thing

about all this is, is that she still has

bridesmaids and friends at the end of

this, because this is just so wild to me.

I've never personally been in a situation

like this where a bride was like terrible.

So.

you would never know how you

would truly, truly act unless

you were in that position.

But on the outside, there's like

eight different moments now where

I'd be like, yeah, I'm gone.

Yeah, I'm gone.

Yeah.

I'm not in this like that is wild.

To me, that is the most shocking part

of this whole thing, is that she still

had friends stick by her side and stand

up by her side during the ceremony.

it says afterwards she was

angry that we didn't talk to her

enough or try harder to see her.

Later she announced another

pregnancy, even though doctors

had warned her, she was high risk.

Thankfully, she and the baby

were fine, but the due date

was the same as my birthday.

She repeated the date to me without

even realizing it, and when I said I was

honored, she was triggered and actually.

Arranged to be induced early.

This girl will never be happy.

Our friendship officially ended

when she shamed us all for

forgetting her wedding anniversary.

Okay?

you can know your friend's wedding

anniversaries, but like as we get older,

there's so many things to remember, right?

It's like birthdays, anniversaries,

kids' birthdays, Your own

personal life things, right?

Your own, family, husbands

birthday, your own anniversary,

your own kids work, stuff.

I mean, there's so many things I

would never expect any of my friends

to wish me a happy anniversary.

I'm more shocked when people

say happy anniversary.

I'm like, oh, I guess

it is my anniversary.

What do you know?

That is wild.

she says, I know this is long

and all over the place, but

there's just so much to unpack.

I. Girl, I feel for you not, I hope this

doesn't come off that I'm like shaming

her for staying friends with her, so long.

Because it's hard when you are

really invested in a friendship or

you've known someone a really long

time and maybe she flipped or maybe

you're just used to being that.

girl, that friend that's

always there, right?

I know I have before where you're

just like, yeah, I'm there for you.

I got this for you.

I got this.

And then finally, years later, or as

you get older, you can look in the

mirror and be like, why did I do that?

This girl never did anything for me.

Or all she did was talk bad about me.

Why was I still willing

to do all these things?

So I'm just responding to

this as who I am right now.

But if this happened, you know, when they

were in their early twenties, if this

happened when I was in my early twenties.

Maybe some of the stuff I'd

be like, okay, it's fine.

She's my friend.

It's okay.

But this girl is a straight up bully.

And I'm glad as the years went on, more

and more bridesmaids in her wedding, were

like, okay, this is not normal behavior.

I am not gonna be

friends with this person.

Wow.

Well thank you for sharing that.

I think we need to find the actual

like Reddit story now and read the

other bridesmaids perspective and,

If there's more as you're unpacking

this, feel free to send more.

All right, guys, I got one more story.

when I first started reading the beginning

of story number one, I thought it was

a Reddit story, so I was like, okay,

well we need to have a submission too.

So we're gonna have two submissions today.

All right, here we go.

We had a pretty dramatic situation

at a family wedding that might

make for an interesting story.

My youngest brother is very

narcissistic and controlling.

He always thinks he's the center of

attention at every family gathering.

He makes everyone miserable and

demands that we constantly consider

how things are impacting him.

When my oldest niece got married,

she did not include either my

daughter or her other cousin, my

brother's daughter, as attendance.

Both girls were pretty disappointed.

Later, when his youngest daughter was

chosen as a flower girl, my brother and

his wife insisted they couldn't possibly

pay for a dress or anything related to it.

My parents ended up footing

the bill for her entire outfit.

Okay.

I'm trying to get like the

family tree in my head.

So her youngest brother's narcissistic,

her oldest niece got married.

Did not include her daughter

or her brother's daughter.

Then his youngest daughter

was chosen as a flower girl.

Got it.

It's hard when just one kid

is invited to a wedding.

That's what's kind of weird.

and it's hard for kids to understand

like, oh, we want you as a flower girl.

You're invited, but no one else's.

It happens though, fortunately.

Okay, fast forward to my daughter's

wedding three years later.

She felt terrible for her cousin

who had been left out before, so

she made her one of the bridesmaids.

Once again, my brother complained

that he couldn't pay for anything, so

my husband and I covered the cost of

her bridesmaid dress a tie for him.

Outfits for both his wife

and other daughter since they

were guest book at attendants.

Wow.

You paid for the whole family,

to get dressed for your wedding.

they took it full advantage of the food,

enjoyed the entertainment, but didn't lift

a finger to help with set up our cleanup.

Yeah.

A couple of years later, his

oldest daughter, the one who was a

bridesmaid, was now getting married.

There was a lot of talk about what

kind of wedding they were planning.

Keep in mind.

This brother has never hosted

us, never paid for a meal, and

always brings the cheapest things

possible to family gatherings.

But now he was going to host a full buffet

dinner and margarita bar for this wedding,

and naturally we were all excited.

The invitations went out and

only my parents were invited.

None of the other immediate

family received an invitation,

including my daughter who had

been a bridesmaid for her cousin.

Wait, so that's weird.

he didn't invite his own siblings

to the wedding, and she didn't

invite her cousins to the wedding.

Okay.

I asked when we could.

Expect our invitations and was told we

had to make selections because there were

just too many friends we wanted to invite.

There's not room for you guys at the

church, so you're not a priority.

I added that.

This of course, was after I

had been invited repeatedly

to multiple wedding showers.

Multiple.

How many wedding showers are there?

Hosted by different family members

and reminded about the importance of

being generous with my gift giving.

Okay.

There's a lot to unpack there.

First of all, if you are getting

invited to a shower, you should also

be getting an invite to the wedding.

I personally think it's very rude to

invite someone to the shower that you

do not plan inviting to the wedding.

A couple of exceptions would be.

If, let's say it's a really, really

small wedding, like destination or

you eloped, or, a micro wedding.

So pretty much no one's getting invited.

Then you do like a work shower,

like your work team, throws a

surprise then sure, that's fine.

But other than that, for the most

part, if you are having a shower,

everyone should be invited.

I. If you're not inviting

everybody, don't have a shower.

That simple.

second part of that is who is this family

member that's reminding you about the

importance of generous gift giving?

That is wild.

That is wild.

Needless to say, we were very hurt.

The one time my brother was going

to pay for dinner, we weren't even

invited, but oh well, we decided to

make other plans for that weekend.

When the wedding weekend arrived, it

became clear that most of her so-called

work friends weren't even going to

show up on her side of the church.

There were only about six

family members in attendance.

The night before the wedding,

my brother called me demanding

to know why I wasn't coming.

What as though he hadn't told

me I wasn't invited, I calmly

explained that we knew we weren't

invited and had made other plans.

He became irate, accusing me of being

mean to his daughter, saying I didn't

care that she wouldn't have enough people

on our side and insisting it would look

bad that her own family wasn't there.

So this is someone that wants you there.

When they need you and when

they don't, they don't want to

even think of you or see you.

And because he realized that friends

weren't coming, friends that he thought

he could count on weren't coming, they're

like, oh look, that's when we rely

on family, our generous gift givers.

That is wild.

She says, we still didn't go.

And sure enough, her side of

the church was two thirds empty.

That's when people lean more

into the looks of it all again.

Again, you know, they're like,

oh, we have to say no to family

'cause they have to forgive us.

Right?

That's the thing you hear too, is

like, blood is thicker than water.

That all those phrases, they're

like, oh, the family has to forgive

us, so we're gonna put them on

the bottom of the totem pole.

But it's very clear here that

they probably should have

just invited family, but.

That is wild.

Family dynamics are crazy

around these kind of events.

So true colors came out and now

you know not to bend over backwards

for someone like that or help out

someone like that because it sounds

like he was just trying to use you.

All right guys.

Well, that is all I have for this week.

That is a pretty wild

couple of stories there.

Hope you guys enjoyed

the Bridezilla story.

I know many of you guys

have asked for one.

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Stories about things that

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