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Hi guys.

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Welcome back to another episode

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of Here Comes The Drama.

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I'm your host, Christa Innis, and I am so

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excited to dive into another episode with

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some crazy stories that were sent to me.

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stories from the vault as we'll call them.

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As always, if I have not said it on here

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in a while, if you want more stories

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from the vault, you can always join

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my email newsletter and every single

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week I send out emails on a Thursday.

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we share more stories

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that people send to me.

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I give you links of all the latest,

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Stories and skits that I've sent out,

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and then also our latest YouTube video

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just to make sure it's all in one place.

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And you never miss a crazy story

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because we've got lots of them.

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I'm gonna do things a

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little bit different today.

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I always like to mix it up so it

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seems a little unique and fun.

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although the stories are

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always unique and fun, so.

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More can you ask for, so today

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I'm gonna do, a little book

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two teaser or sneak peek.

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we're gonna have a little

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this or that, a rapid fire.

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And then I've got not one, but two wild

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stories that, someone has sent over to me.

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So we're gonna react to those together.

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starting off, I just wanna

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read a review of the podcast.

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so this one says, Christa has always made

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her guests seem like friends of hers.

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It's nice to listen to such

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fun topics, even if sometimes

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crazy, most of the time crazy.

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I hope she'll have on

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Suzanne Lambert soon.

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I had Suzanne Lambert on and I adore her.

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I think she's fantastic.

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she was cracking me up before and after

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recording and of course during recording,

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but she was, I wanna say episode seven.

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I don't even know.

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I'll find out and we'll, we'll link in

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the show notes, but, she was wonderful.

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thank you for that kind review.

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Of course, as always, if you guys love

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the podcast, please leave me a review.

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it just helps more people find it and,

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I will of course share them as well.

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It just really helps.

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like I said, people really

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understand the podcast and be able

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to find it when they're looking

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for something fun to listen to.

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so that's always a fun to read.

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Okay.

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Like I said.

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We're gonna jump into book two Teaser.

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if this is your first time hearing

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that I'm gonna work on, or I am

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working on book number two of

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the, here comes the drama series.

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Well, surprise.

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I'm working on book number two.

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the title is TBD, I'm working on a few

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different options right now, and, if you

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are on my newsletter, email, newsletter

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list, very soon you'll be able to

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vote on which one you like the best.

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So make sure you get on that so you

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can be on the insider, scoop there

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and see what we're working with.

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But book two has been challenging,

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fun, but also exciting.

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I would like to say I'm getting a

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little more creative with, Character

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development and what can happen.

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I'm not sticking as closely

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to the storyline and the skits

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that you guys saw previously.

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Of course it does loosely follow it.

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but there was a lot, like, I was

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trying to explain this to someone.

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It's like, think of the skit as

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the rough, rough draft, right?

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Like I put those together, but

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sometimes things just come out on

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a whim and later I'm like, oh, I

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wish it happened like this instead.

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So when I sit down to write, I'm able to

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actually like analyze like, oh, this makes

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sense, or should I take this scene out?

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So we're getting a little, little,

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I dunno if raunchy is the right

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word, but we're getting a little

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more in depth in some relationships.

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We're adding a little more detail,

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and I'm changing the course

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of some things that happen.

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So it's been a lot of fun.

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I do wanna say though, if you've not read

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the first book, and you plan to, you might

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not wanna listen to this, it's not gonna

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reveal too much, but if you watch the

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skits, it might have some revealed in it.

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so I'm gonna leave that up to you.

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It could spoil some small

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things, but nothing crazy.

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So here's a little, teaser

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from the first part.

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Again, this is before anything's

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been edited, sent to my editor.

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This is super, super rough, but

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I wanted to share it with you

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guys as a little insider bonus.

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So here we go.

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Chapter one, the late afternoon sun spills

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across the private deck, casting a golden

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haze over the edge of the infinity pool.

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Slowly leaves back in her lounge chair,

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her legs stretched out, sunglasses

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slipping slightly down her nose.

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Suddenly Ferris emerges from the

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villa with sunglasses perched on his

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head, wearing black swim trunks and

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holding two glasses of champagne.

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My beautiful wife.

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The champagne you ordered,

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Ferris says, with a wink leaning

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forward to hand, one to Sloan.

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She laughs and sits up

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reaching for the glass.

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I could get used to this.

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The sun, the fresh air, no drama.

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She gestures up to the sky as

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if to thank the sun directly.

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Ferris gently settles into the

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lounge chair besides her and takes

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a deep breath, soaking it all in.

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She turns to face him and lifts her

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glass to clink his to married life.

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I'm so ready for this next chapter.

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She leans in to give him a quick

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peck on the cheek to married life.

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Ferris echoes smirking at

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her before taking a long sip.

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He lets out an audible satisfied.

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Ah, before adding, tell you what,

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if I could just sit at a resort like

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this with you by my side and a drink

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in my hand for the rest of my life.

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I think I could die.

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Happy slow now reclining

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again, mumbles you Sure?

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We didn't actually die from the

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wedding stress and this is heaven.

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She laughs.

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Ferris chuckles.

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Come to think of it, the end was kind

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of a blur, an out of body experience.

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He thinks back to the moment

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He made a clear divide between

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his new wife and his mother.

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Proud of the way he stood his ground.

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Hoping Sloan never second

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guesses where she stands again.

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He glances over at her admiring how

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she glows so naturally in the sunlight.

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He can hardly keep his hands off of her.

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Setting down his champagne glass.

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He moves to sit on her chair, gently cups

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her face and leans in for a soft kiss.

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She lifts her head to meet

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him, kissing him back.

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Her hands, exploring his warm body.

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He slides fully onto the lounge

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chair silently praying it's

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strong enough to hold them both.

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His fingers trail from her collarbone

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down to the curbs of her body.

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Then there's a knock at the door.

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They pause looking at each other, then

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toward the villa without saying a word.

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They silently agree to ignore it

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and return to where they left off.

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Ferris reaches for the

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string on Sloan Swim top.

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Another knock louder this

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time, he sits up annoyed.

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Next time I'm putting the do

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not disturb sign on her door.

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He walks to the door and

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pierce through the peephole.

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A bellhop stands there holding something.

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Ferris opens the door, the bellhop smiles

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holding out a card for the newlyweds.

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A little spa treatment.

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Ferris hesitates before taking the card.

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Oh, thank you.

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Who's it from?

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The call was anonymous, the bellhop

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says his smile a little too practiced.

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they just wanted to send you a

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little treat before you head home.

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Ferris furrows, his brows.

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Thanks.

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He repeats watching.

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As the bellhop walks away, he stands

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there for a beat, peering around

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the front of the village, nothing.

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Eventually he shakes it off and heads

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back inside, shutting the door behind him.

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Who is that Sloan ass when

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he returns to the deck?

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Ferris opens the envelope

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and scans the card.

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Here's to making sure you

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relax on your honeymoon.

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Something tells me

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you're going to need it.

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His stomach tightens.

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The words could be innocent

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or something else entirely.

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He slides the card into his

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pocket and forces a smile,

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just a little spa surprise.

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He says, let's not waste it.

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She snatches the card from his

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hands, her fingers brushing

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His in a lingering touch.

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She opens it reading the message quickly

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before setting it down on the table.

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Her gaze meets his and something unspoken

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passes between them without a word.

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She wraps her arms around

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his waist, pulling him closer

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as she leans down to kiss.

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The kiss deepens slow in searching and

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he lifts her effortlessly feeling her

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legs wrap around him as she clings to

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him guiding him towards the bedroom.

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Their bodies move together.

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The space between them vanishing as they

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cross into the next room where the world

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outside seems miles and miles away.

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Chapter two, I'm only gonna do a

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few more paragraphs of this one,

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cause I don't wanna give too much.

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Okay.

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Back in Milwaukee, tensions are running

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high after the humiliation of having

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wine spilled on her at the wedding.

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Kate had stormed out of the venue

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hoping Ted, her husband would follow

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her in support, but instead he

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remained inside happily celebrating

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the couple, mingling with his friends

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and family as if nothing had happened.

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She waited a whole hour sitting alone

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in her car before realizing that no

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one was coming after her this time.

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How could her family be so

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cruel, so unforgiving after

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everything she had done for them.

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She couldn't believe that they were all

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inside the venue dancing and enjoying

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themselves while she sat outside alone.

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Finally, she decided to go back inside.

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Maybe that way someone would

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feel guilty and see how horribly

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her family had treated her.

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She slowly walked back into the venue

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head slumped down, dragged her feet.

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She walked in and it was like no

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one even noticed she was missing.

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She spotted Ferris and Sloan

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across the room lost in the moment

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as they shared a slow dance.

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He dipped her gracefully and the

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crowd formed a wide circle around

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them offering silent shears.

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As Sloane made her way up to Ferris, he

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grazed her jaw and leaned in for a kiss.

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Off to the side.

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Kate noticed Jenny standing proudly

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with her drink in her hand, but

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it was  the sight of Cal. His arm

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draped more than friendly around her

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shoulder that caught her off guard.

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Kate stood frozen, staring in

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disgust, uncertain of what to do next.

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She began to walk forward.

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Her steps slow and deliberate.

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Just then a tap on her shoulder.

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Kate quickly turned around to see the

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wedding planner, Yvette, and a man she

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didn't recognize dressed in a suit.

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Kate, I'm sorry, but we're gonna have

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to ask you to leave Yvette politely

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said, trying not to cause a scene.

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Okay.

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I'm gonna stop there because as you guys

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can hear, I am not a trained speaker.

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I am not.

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A voice actor.

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So many people still are like, oh,

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I wish you would read the next book.

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I like the audio book, but I wish

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it was your voice 'cause they're

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just used to me in the skit.

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But that should show

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you guys it is so hard.

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I don't know, like, I dunno if I

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just overthink, but it's hard to

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like enunciate things the right way

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or pronounce things the right way,

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especially when you're just reading it

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for someone, knowing it's being recorded.

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So I know I messed up a little bit

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while reading that, but, It was also

329
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good for me because like I said,

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I'm a little behind on this one.

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and, I need to send it to an editor soon.

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I'm on currently on chapter 36 or seven.

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This one's gonna be a lot longer.

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There's a lot more detail, like I said.

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so I'm looking at maybe

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closer to a 300 page book.

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We'll see.

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I don't know how many chapters yet.

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Anyways, I hope you guys

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enjoyed that little sneak peek.

341
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I do tend to send little sneak

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peeks, in the newsletter here and

343
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there just of random paragraphs.

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Sometimes I'll post 'em

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on social media as well.

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But, I'm just, really excited

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to get it out to you guys.

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I know some, many of you guys read

349
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through the first one so quickly, so

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hopefully I can get this out to you guys.

351
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Pretty soon.

352
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Okay, next up we are

353
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gonna do the this or that.

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Pick aside wedding drama debates.

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As I read these off, I want

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you guys to also like say out

357
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loud what you would rather do.

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I think it's always interesting

359
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to hear differences of opinion.

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Okay.

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Rapid fire.

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Your DJ cancels last minute, or your

363
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photographer ghost you the day of.

364
00:11:14,906 --> 00:11:16,106
yeah, we're gonna go with

365
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DJ canceling last minute.

366
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I know I've done similar ones before,

367
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so hopefully I'm not repeating them.

368
00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:23,786
some of these, I know that one sounds

369
00:11:23,786 --> 00:11:25,239
kind of familiar, but you know what I

370
00:11:25,239 --> 00:11:27,949
feel like with DJs, again, DJs are great,

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but we all have Spotify on our phone.

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Most of us do.

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So photographer.

374
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Nothing can replace a

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professional photographer.

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00:11:36,109 --> 00:11:37,092
iPhones are great.

377
00:11:37,196 --> 00:11:39,386
Photos are getting better on phones, but I

378
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would rather have someone be able to focus

379
00:11:41,276 --> 00:11:42,896
on taking photos and not think about it.

380
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mother-in-law wears white, or Best

381
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Man gives an inappropriate speech.

382
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At my own wedding, I would say.

383
00:11:50,556 --> 00:11:52,172
mean, how inappropriate are we talking?

384
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I don't know.

385
00:11:52,952 --> 00:11:54,192
Like I'd probably say

386
00:11:54,192 --> 00:11:55,632
mother-in-law wears white.

387
00:11:55,722 --> 00:11:57,054
I mean for me, that doesn't

388
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really bother me If I would look

389
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at some of these other stories.

390
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They already have some issues then.

391
00:12:02,122 --> 00:12:02,452
Yeah.

392
00:12:02,452 --> 00:12:03,262
That's, a problem.

393
00:12:03,571 --> 00:12:05,641
venue runs out of food or open

394
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bar closes two hours early.

395
00:12:07,825 --> 00:12:09,714
If I have to pick, it's gonna be open

396
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Bar closes two hours early because you

397
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do not want the venue to run out of food

398
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if you're not feeding all your guests.

399
00:12:15,677 --> 00:12:16,787
That is a problem.

400
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And I've heard horror stories

401
00:12:18,377 --> 00:12:19,667
of venues running out of food.

402
00:12:19,935 --> 00:12:21,451
I dunno how that happens.

403
00:12:21,701 --> 00:12:24,255
that's bad to leave a wedding hungry.

404
00:12:24,565 --> 00:12:25,780
Dealing with a crying baby

405
00:12:25,780 --> 00:12:27,723
during your vows or a drunk

406
00:12:27,753 --> 00:12:29,463
uncle during your first dance.

407
00:12:29,728 --> 00:12:31,133
I think a drunk uncle

408
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during your first dance.

409
00:12:32,363 --> 00:12:34,403
I think that's probably way more common.

410
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And at that point, hopefully the

411
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music is loud enough and there's a big

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enough circle where you don't really

413
00:12:38,553 --> 00:12:40,440
notice it unless he is like so drunk.

414
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He's like walking onto the dance

415
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floor and like bothering you guys.

416
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But either way, I think, the vows are

417
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definitely a more intimate moment where

418
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you probably don't want the distractions.

419
00:12:50,856 --> 00:12:51,181
Okay.

420
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a bridesmaid, drops out the night

421
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before, or a groomsman shows

422
00:12:55,851 --> 00:12:59,265
up late and tipsy, eh, I'd say

423
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groomsman shows up late and tipsy.

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A bridesmaid dropping

425
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out the night before we.

426
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Unless there was like an emergency that

427
00:13:04,903 --> 00:13:06,800
would be kind of crappy, that wouldn't

428
00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:08,336
feel too good if the groomsmen's a

429
00:13:08,336 --> 00:13:10,166
little tipsy when he shows up, whatever.

430
00:13:10,166 --> 00:13:11,850
I mean, we had some drunk grooms

431
00:13:11,870 --> 00:13:13,106
men, they handled it fine.

432
00:13:14,326 --> 00:13:14,566
Okay.

433
00:13:14,566 --> 00:13:16,576
Rain on your outdoor ceremony

434
00:13:16,606 --> 00:13:18,886
or blistering heat with no ac.

435
00:13:19,151 --> 00:13:20,666
Rain on your outdoor ceremony.

436
00:13:20,746 --> 00:13:22,546
I think it could actually

437
00:13:22,546 --> 00:13:23,326
be really pretty.

438
00:13:23,603 --> 00:13:24,866
there's something about when there's

439
00:13:24,866 --> 00:13:26,503
overcast, like if we're talking

440
00:13:26,503 --> 00:13:28,563
a little rain, it's overcast.

441
00:13:28,711 --> 00:13:30,883
The photos actually look really pretty

442
00:13:30,883 --> 00:13:32,823
and you've got your girls there.

443
00:13:32,883 --> 00:13:34,773
You've got, maybe your hairstylist has

444
00:13:34,773 --> 00:13:36,323
already left, but if you've got your

445
00:13:36,323 --> 00:13:38,726
girls, just a little hairspray, whatever.

446
00:13:39,021 --> 00:13:39,636
I think it's fine.

447
00:13:39,906 --> 00:13:40,270
Okay.

448
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Discover a guest live

449
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streamed your ceremony without

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permission or see your wedding.

451
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Hashtag hijacked by strangers.

452
00:13:47,758 --> 00:13:49,393
I did not have a wedding hashtag.

453
00:13:49,453 --> 00:13:50,443
I don't even know if

454
00:13:50,443 --> 00:13:51,493
that's a thing anymore.

455
00:13:51,493 --> 00:13:51,793
I'm sorry.

456
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If people are still doing that, they

457
00:13:52,993 --> 00:13:54,436
might be, I think that's one of those

458
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trends that are kind of dying out, so.

459
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If someone wants to use it, that's fine.

460
00:13:58,198 --> 00:13:59,080
I remember when we first got

461
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engaged, I don't even know.

462
00:14:01,171 --> 00:14:02,270
I remember kind of thinking about

463
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hashtags 'cause my last name's in it.

464
00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:05,360
So I feel like you can do a lot with that.

465
00:14:05,611 --> 00:14:06,766
But then I was like, I don't

466
00:14:06,766 --> 00:14:08,026
know if people do this anymore.

467
00:14:08,507 --> 00:14:11,034
caterer forgets the cake or florist

468
00:14:11,034 --> 00:14:13,074
delivers the wrong color scheme.

469
00:14:13,375 --> 00:14:14,394
I know I said rapid fire and

470
00:14:14,394 --> 00:14:15,804
I'm explaining all my answers.

471
00:14:16,654 --> 00:14:17,890
If there's no other dessert,

472
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you can't forget the cake.

473
00:14:19,370 --> 00:14:20,907
If there's no other dessert, Floris

474
00:14:20,907 --> 00:14:22,707
delivers the wrong color scheme.

475
00:14:22,990 --> 00:14:24,722
I'm gonna go with that because

476
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I mean, if they're still pretty.

477
00:14:26,514 --> 00:14:27,604
I'm not someone that is a

478
00:14:27,604 --> 00:14:28,984
big, like flower person.

479
00:14:28,984 --> 00:14:30,514
I had fake flowers at my wedding.

480
00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:31,490
I was not about to

481
00:14:31,490 --> 00:14:33,230
spend $5,000 on flowers.

482
00:14:33,467 --> 00:14:34,137
that's just me.

483
00:14:34,404 --> 00:14:35,874
so yeah, if they came and they were like

484
00:14:35,874 --> 00:14:37,660
slightly the wrong color, I don't know.

485
00:14:37,690 --> 00:14:38,680
I don't think there's a color

486
00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:39,670
I would hate or anything.

487
00:14:39,954 --> 00:14:42,114
Seating chart disaster exes were

488
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seated together or your boss

489
00:14:43,614 --> 00:14:45,054
was seated at the kids' table.

490
00:14:45,934 --> 00:14:46,664
That's pretty funny.

491
00:14:46,944 --> 00:14:48,054
I would say.

492
00:14:48,532 --> 00:14:52,225
X is seated together in my writing

493
00:14:52,525 --> 00:14:54,332
era right now, and I'm like, Ooh,

494
00:14:54,332 --> 00:14:55,592
that sounds like a good story.

495
00:14:55,832 --> 00:14:57,395
Like I'm like, Ooh, two X's

496
00:14:57,395 --> 00:14:58,595
are seated at a table together

497
00:14:58,762 --> 00:14:59,992
and then maybe they hit it off.

498
00:15:00,249 --> 00:15:01,755
yeah, that's just where my mind's going.

499
00:15:02,372 --> 00:15:03,392
Kids table is kind of just

500
00:15:03,392 --> 00:15:05,132
humorous for me, honestly.

501
00:15:05,345 --> 00:15:06,215
Okay, last one.

502
00:15:06,215 --> 00:15:08,465
Have to wear the world's itst wedding

503
00:15:08,465 --> 00:15:10,955
shoes or smile through an off key

504
00:15:10,955 --> 00:15:13,145
karaoke performance dedicated to you.

505
00:15:13,415 --> 00:15:15,065
Oh, I don't want a dedicated

506
00:15:15,215 --> 00:15:16,565
karaoke performance.

507
00:15:16,565 --> 00:15:18,215
I just don't want that at all.

508
00:15:18,482 --> 00:15:20,632
But itchy wedding shoes, I don't

509
00:15:20,632 --> 00:15:22,342
think I've ever had itchy shoes.

510
00:15:22,605 --> 00:15:23,989
those both sound really terrible.

511
00:15:24,607 --> 00:15:25,717
okay, you guys need to tell me.

512
00:15:25,837 --> 00:15:26,767
What would you guys pick?

513
00:15:27,042 --> 00:15:28,964
I think I would go with, if we're

514
00:15:28,964 --> 00:15:30,674
talking like a one minute karaoke

515
00:15:30,674 --> 00:15:32,264
performance, let's just go with that.

516
00:15:32,294 --> 00:15:33,524
I'm not wearing itchy shoes.

517
00:15:37,302 --> 00:15:39,290
Okay, let's get to the moment

518
00:15:39,290 --> 00:15:40,460
you guys are all waiting for.

519
00:15:40,550 --> 00:15:42,140
Let's react to these crazy stories.

520
00:15:42,380 --> 00:15:43,785
like I said, we've got two,

521
00:15:44,051 --> 00:15:45,549
so let's see what we got.

522
00:15:45,841 --> 00:15:48,219
This story actually went viral a few years

523
00:15:48,219 --> 00:15:51,002
ago on Reddit when another bridesmaid

524
00:15:51,002 --> 00:15:53,412
posted it on an, am I the asshole Red?

525
00:15:54,382 --> 00:15:56,292
She told her side, which I'll

526
00:15:56,292 --> 00:15:57,522
share with her permission,

527
00:15:57,792 --> 00:16:00,042
but I never got to share mine.

528
00:16:00,302 --> 00:16:02,089
It's definitely a brides list story.

529
00:16:02,312 --> 00:16:02,829
Okay.

530
00:16:02,859 --> 00:16:04,179
So when I first glanced at this, I

531
00:16:04,179 --> 00:16:06,009
thought she was saying this was a popular

532
00:16:06,009 --> 00:16:08,579
Reddit, story, which it kind of is,

533
00:16:08,579 --> 00:16:11,309
but she was also a bridesmaid at this

534
00:16:11,309 --> 00:16:13,549
wedding, so she's kind of telling her own

535
00:16:13,549 --> 00:16:15,912
perspective of it, of a Bridezilla story.

536
00:16:15,942 --> 00:16:16,242
Okay.

537
00:16:16,242 --> 00:16:17,682
This is wild, and I bet you guys

538
00:16:17,682 --> 00:16:19,242
are gonna love this because.

539
00:16:19,848 --> 00:16:21,577
We don't get a ton of Bridezilla stories.

540
00:16:21,577 --> 00:16:22,687
Most of the stories that are sent

541
00:16:22,687 --> 00:16:24,847
to me are from brides themselves.

542
00:16:25,045 --> 00:16:26,777
So we get every other perspective.

543
00:16:26,965 --> 00:16:28,091
And people are all the time, like,

544
00:16:28,121 --> 00:16:29,441
well, brides aren't perfect either.

545
00:16:29,441 --> 00:16:30,251
There's Bridezillas.

546
00:16:30,492 --> 00:16:30,937
Yes.

547
00:16:30,967 --> 00:16:32,887
We all know there's tons of Bridezillas.

548
00:16:33,118 --> 00:16:34,547
Hence why the name started.

549
00:16:34,547 --> 00:16:34,817
Right.

550
00:16:35,034 --> 00:16:35,934
so I'm excited for this

551
00:16:36,151 --> 00:16:37,171
I'm wearing my white today.

552
00:16:37,201 --> 00:16:37,951
Okay, here we go.

553
00:16:38,824 --> 00:16:40,701
The bride started off by telling us

554
00:16:40,701 --> 00:16:42,921
that if we got engaged or pregnant

555
00:16:43,141 --> 00:16:45,497
before her wedding, we were out.

556
00:16:46,814 --> 00:16:48,821
I would just jump ship right then.

557
00:16:49,017 --> 00:16:50,667
No, that's not a friend.

558
00:16:50,697 --> 00:16:52,557
You can't get engaged or pregnant

559
00:16:52,563 --> 00:16:54,227
When she's And the wedding.

560
00:16:54,227 --> 00:16:55,363
Wait, the wedding was

561
00:16:55,363 --> 00:16:56,323
more than two years away.

562
00:16:56,323 --> 00:16:59,120
So she expects in that two years for

563
00:16:59,120 --> 00:17:01,807
you to pause your own life, bow down

564
00:17:01,807 --> 00:17:03,487
to her and do whatever she wants

565
00:17:03,487 --> 00:17:04,777
in those two years, no, I'm out.

566
00:17:05,017 --> 00:17:05,887
we're not even talking

567
00:17:05,887 --> 00:17:06,907
like a quick engagement.

568
00:17:06,907 --> 00:17:08,557
We're talking two years away.

569
00:17:08,817 --> 00:17:09,993
You can't get engaged and

570
00:17:09,993 --> 00:17:10,893
you can't get pregnant.

571
00:17:11,093 --> 00:17:12,428
No, I'm not pausing.

572
00:17:12,428 --> 00:17:13,013
I've always said this.

573
00:17:13,013 --> 00:17:15,265
I would not pause my own life or

574
00:17:15,265 --> 00:17:16,855
relationship for somebody else.

575
00:17:17,153 --> 00:17:18,773
I had a lot of friends that, like when

576
00:17:18,773 --> 00:17:20,063
other friends were getting married and

577
00:17:20,063 --> 00:17:21,423
stuff, they're like, well I'm gonna wait

578
00:17:21,443 --> 00:17:23,916
to try to have kids till after because I

579
00:17:23,916 --> 00:17:25,176
don't wanna be pregnant at their wedding.

580
00:17:25,353 --> 00:17:26,479
And for me, I was like,

581
00:17:26,723 --> 00:17:28,253
your timing is your timing.

582
00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:29,435
if you would rather like be able

583
00:17:29,435 --> 00:17:30,995
to party at a wedding, that's fine.

584
00:17:31,172 --> 00:17:32,615
But for me, I was like, I

585
00:17:32,615 --> 00:17:33,815
wanna do it when I'm ready.

586
00:17:34,012 --> 00:17:34,968
And sure enough, like.

587
00:17:35,235 --> 00:17:36,322
I was a pregnant maid of

588
00:17:36,322 --> 00:17:37,432
honor at one of my friend's

589
00:17:37,432 --> 00:17:39,012
weddings, and it was really fun.

590
00:17:39,012 --> 00:17:40,632
It was fine, like my feet hurt a lot more.

591
00:17:40,632 --> 00:17:41,892
My body was a lot more sore by

592
00:17:41,892 --> 00:17:43,325
the end of the night, but I was

593
00:17:43,325 --> 00:17:45,552
not about to pause because another

594
00:17:45,552 --> 00:17:46,302
friend was getting married.

595
00:17:46,565 --> 00:17:46,575
Okay.

596
00:17:47,142 --> 00:17:49,277
She told us that we were expected to pay

597
00:17:49,277 --> 00:17:52,533
for everything except the wedding itself.

598
00:17:52,832 --> 00:17:54,686
I understand when someone doesn't have

599
00:17:54,686 --> 00:17:56,780
a lot of money, but I'm talking about

600
00:17:56,780 --> 00:17:58,730
her meals on the bachelorette trip.

601
00:17:58,932 --> 00:18:00,830
We also pay for the trip itself.

602
00:18:01,022 --> 00:18:02,323
All of her drinks were

603
00:18:02,323 --> 00:18:03,913
in clubs with entry fees.

604
00:18:04,065 --> 00:18:06,167
She also expected us to cover, and

605
00:18:06,227 --> 00:18:08,693
even her Ubers, I get helping with the

606
00:18:08,693 --> 00:18:10,853
party, but every single meal, drink and

607
00:18:10,853 --> 00:18:13,487
ride, she didn't even want to split it.

608
00:18:13,752 --> 00:18:15,000
She just didn't want to pay.

609
00:18:15,318 --> 00:18:15,513
Okay.

610
00:18:15,513 --> 00:18:16,893
So here's the thing with

611
00:18:16,893 --> 00:18:18,273
bachelorette parties, and I think

612
00:18:18,303 --> 00:18:20,523
communication is really important.

613
00:18:20,768 --> 00:18:22,973
Most every bachelorette party I've

614
00:18:22,973 --> 00:18:24,413
been on and I've been on a lot,

615
00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:26,103
I've never took the time to sit

616
00:18:26,103 --> 00:18:27,833
down and count them, but I would say

617
00:18:27,833 --> 00:18:30,480
I've been to at least nine or 10.

618
00:18:30,717 --> 00:18:32,440
Yeah, because I've been to Bachelorettes

619
00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:34,540
for every wedding I've been in and then

620
00:18:34,540 --> 00:18:36,550
my own, and I'm sure I've been to some.

621
00:18:36,770 --> 00:18:39,835
I wasn't in, we've always just split

622
00:18:39,895 --> 00:18:41,905
the bride's cost amongst everybody.

623
00:18:42,193 --> 00:18:43,093
but that's always been

624
00:18:43,093 --> 00:18:44,233
kind of communicated.

625
00:18:44,473 --> 00:18:45,943
Like I said, with all our friend group, we

626
00:18:45,943 --> 00:18:48,343
kind of just know that's what is expected.

627
00:18:48,580 --> 00:18:50,305
but when you kind of come in

628
00:18:50,305 --> 00:18:52,075
with that entitled behavior,

629
00:18:52,311 --> 00:18:54,068
that's where there's a problem.

630
00:18:54,325 --> 00:18:55,465
cause many of the brides

631
00:18:55,465 --> 00:18:56,875
still would buy like rounds of

632
00:18:56,875 --> 00:18:58,662
drinks or they would just like.

633
00:18:58,968 --> 00:19:00,270
Bring gift bags for everybody.

634
00:19:00,270 --> 00:19:01,440
You know, there's different ways of

635
00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:04,383
like giving back to your bridesmaids.

636
00:19:04,637 --> 00:19:06,093
this doesn't sit well with me because

637
00:19:06,093 --> 00:19:08,163
she's coming in very rude and entitled.

638
00:19:08,413 --> 00:19:09,442
this is does not sound like a

639
00:19:09,442 --> 00:19:10,522
wedding I would be a part of.

640
00:19:10,768 --> 00:19:11,018
okay.

641
00:19:11,322 --> 00:19:13,538
She had a long list of rules for how

642
00:19:13,538 --> 00:19:15,368
we were supposed to look at both the

643
00:19:15,368 --> 00:19:17,318
bachelorette party and the wedding.

644
00:19:17,645 --> 00:19:18,455
For the wedding.

645
00:19:18,455 --> 00:19:20,742
She picked out our dresses, which

646
00:19:20,742 --> 00:19:22,912
were pricey, and we had to get her

647
00:19:22,912 --> 00:19:26,618
approval on our hair, nails, and shoes.

648
00:19:28,267 --> 00:19:29,522
when the dresses came in.

649
00:19:29,582 --> 00:19:31,472
More than a year in advance.

650
00:19:31,655 --> 00:19:32,212
Why are we getting

651
00:19:32,212 --> 00:19:34,072
dresses a year in advance?

652
00:19:34,291 --> 00:19:36,091
most people like get engaged

653
00:19:36,091 --> 00:19:36,901
a year before their wedding.

654
00:19:36,901 --> 00:19:36,911
Right.

655
00:19:37,424 --> 00:19:38,544
You don't need your dress

656
00:19:38,604 --> 00:19:39,534
that much in advance.

657
00:19:39,534 --> 00:19:41,064
Plus your body can change so much

658
00:19:41,064 --> 00:19:42,084
through different things, right?

659
00:19:42,114 --> 00:19:43,801
Unless this bride's like you can't

660
00:19:43,891 --> 00:19:45,301
gain weight, you can't lose weight,

661
00:19:45,301 --> 00:19:46,621
you need to stay the way you are.

662
00:19:46,901 --> 00:19:47,951
this would not surprise me

663
00:19:47,951 --> 00:19:48,671
from this kind of bride.

664
00:19:48,947 --> 00:19:50,237
some of mine didn't get theirs until

665
00:19:50,237 --> 00:19:51,617
like maybe two months before the wedding.

666
00:19:51,647 --> 00:19:52,517
'Cause you have to think about it.

667
00:19:52,517 --> 00:19:54,207
Like you get sized for it,

668
00:19:54,207 --> 00:19:56,157
you buy it, it gets to you.

669
00:19:56,277 --> 00:19:57,477
' cause we did all ours online.

670
00:19:57,714 --> 00:19:58,104
Then you have to get

671
00:19:58,104 --> 00:19:59,544
it like altered, right?

672
00:19:59,574 --> 00:20:00,544
So if you're, shorten

673
00:20:00,544 --> 00:20:01,864
it, you fix up anyway.

674
00:20:02,154 --> 00:20:03,921
And I mean, most of the weddings I was

675
00:20:03,921 --> 00:20:05,601
in, like, we were just if you wanna

676
00:20:05,601 --> 00:20:07,361
get your hair done, I'm thinking.

677
00:20:07,641 --> 00:20:08,579
I've had some that were more

678
00:20:08,579 --> 00:20:09,469
specific, like they'd be like,

679
00:20:09,499 --> 00:20:11,029
oh, I want updo for everybody.

680
00:20:11,242 --> 00:20:12,986
I'm personally not a fan of an updo.

681
00:20:13,296 --> 00:20:14,069
Everyone's different.

682
00:20:14,309 --> 00:20:16,036
And then for nails, everyone was just

683
00:20:16,036 --> 00:20:17,326
like, do what you want with your nails.

684
00:20:17,586 --> 00:20:20,066
Some had like preferences for shoes,

685
00:20:20,066 --> 00:20:22,166
they'd be like, oh, we want gold shoes.

686
00:20:22,361 --> 00:20:24,486
We want just wear tan shoes.

687
00:20:24,486 --> 00:20:25,656
Just wear black shoes.

688
00:20:25,919 --> 00:20:27,489
But I don't think I've had any that

689
00:20:27,489 --> 00:20:28,989
were like, you have to wear these shoes.

690
00:20:29,169 --> 00:20:30,876
One wedding, I was in one of the first

691
00:20:30,876 --> 00:20:32,666
weddings I was in I think the problem

692
00:20:32,666 --> 00:20:34,146
is, I don't if problem's the right word.

693
00:20:34,146 --> 00:20:35,166
We were just so young.

694
00:20:35,441 --> 00:20:36,959
So we all went to get bridesmaid dresses

695
00:20:36,959 --> 00:20:38,369
together and we were literally just

696
00:20:38,369 --> 00:20:39,449
walking around the store and like,

697
00:20:39,599 --> 00:20:40,799
how, when do you think about this?

698
00:20:40,799 --> 00:20:41,699
What do you think about this?

699
00:20:41,932 --> 00:20:43,512
And then we all picked the

700
00:20:43,512 --> 00:20:46,259
same like silver shoes and they

701
00:20:46,259 --> 00:20:47,999
were the most painful shoes.

702
00:20:49,132 --> 00:20:50,722
so we all just matched, but I

703
00:20:50,722 --> 00:20:51,592
think that's kind of, we're kind of

704
00:20:51,592 --> 00:20:52,882
veering away from that outlook now.

705
00:20:53,132 --> 00:20:53,532
Okay.

706
00:20:53,772 --> 00:20:55,002
so when the dresses came in more than

707
00:20:55,002 --> 00:20:56,742
a year in advance, she demanded that

708
00:20:56,742 --> 00:21:00,136
we all do a mock try-on video on our

709
00:21:00,136 --> 00:21:02,446
own time and send it to her right away.

710
00:21:02,927 --> 00:21:04,366
This is when people are more.

711
00:21:04,669 --> 00:21:06,756
Care more about the overall look and

712
00:21:06,812 --> 00:21:08,372
how everything's like perfect than

713
00:21:08,372 --> 00:21:10,376
the actual like marriage or wedding.

714
00:21:10,650 --> 00:21:12,260
At one point I temporarily

715
00:21:12,260 --> 00:21:14,330
withdrew because she was too much.

716
00:21:14,553 --> 00:21:17,220
I wasn't the only one, but I was one

717
00:21:17,220 --> 00:21:19,380
of the few who ended up going back.

718
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:20,890
I wonder why.

719
00:21:21,056 --> 00:21:22,726
Within days of her engagement,

720
00:21:22,726 --> 00:21:24,376
she started creating group chats,

721
00:21:24,376 --> 00:21:26,536
multiple ones, some with just

722
00:21:26,536 --> 00:21:28,180
bridesmaids, some with bridesmaids

723
00:21:28,210 --> 00:21:29,780
and groomsmen, and on different

724
00:21:29,780 --> 00:21:31,790
platforms like Facebook and Snapchat.

725
00:21:31,820 --> 00:21:33,050
Yeah, I'm already overwhelmed.

726
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:34,010
That's too much for me.

727
00:21:34,230 --> 00:21:36,443
She expected us to check them constantly.

728
00:21:36,736 --> 00:21:36,970
Okay.

729
00:21:36,970 --> 00:21:38,470
Full disclosure, when I'm in a

730
00:21:38,470 --> 00:21:40,510
bridesmaid group chat, I silence it.

731
00:21:40,746 --> 00:21:42,286
you need, boundaries.

732
00:21:42,523 --> 00:21:44,290
I love a group chat as much

733
00:21:44,290 --> 00:21:45,670
as the next person, and I'll

734
00:21:45,670 --> 00:21:47,110
be in there when I can be.

735
00:21:47,300 --> 00:21:48,896
But if I'm in a group chat with,

736
00:21:48,896 --> 00:21:50,910
let's say, 10 other girls, you'll

737
00:21:50,910 --> 00:21:52,320
never have time for anything else.

738
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:53,310
If all you're doing is reading

739
00:21:53,310 --> 00:21:55,130
this thing, I turn off alerts

740
00:21:55,220 --> 00:21:56,443
and I check it when I can.

741
00:21:56,623 --> 00:21:58,033
And that's how it should be for everybody.

742
00:21:58,296 --> 00:21:59,476
Or if it's too much for you,

743
00:21:59,506 --> 00:22:01,096
just get out of it and find

744
00:22:01,096 --> 00:22:02,446
out the most important things.

745
00:22:02,750 --> 00:22:04,433
the wedding was years away.

746
00:22:04,686 --> 00:22:06,360
When she wasn't sending us long

747
00:22:06,360 --> 00:22:08,686
essays of rules, she was asking

748
00:22:08,686 --> 00:22:10,726
our opinions on wedding details.

749
00:22:10,756 --> 00:22:12,106
Then getting mad when we didn't

750
00:22:12,106 --> 00:22:13,746
answer, why are we in this wedding?

751
00:22:14,033 --> 00:22:15,460
Why are these people in this wedding?

752
00:22:15,490 --> 00:22:17,380
This girl sounds terrible to be around.

753
00:22:17,696 --> 00:22:18,646
It was like she expected

754
00:22:18,646 --> 00:22:19,596
us to plan it out for her.

755
00:22:20,183 --> 00:22:22,296
She was making demands daily, but while

756
00:22:22,296 --> 00:22:23,886
she worked from home, most of us didn't.

757
00:22:24,286 --> 00:22:25,680
I didn't have the time to constantly

758
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,330
check chats for her new rules.

759
00:22:27,503 --> 00:22:29,223
She thrived on attention.

760
00:22:29,453 --> 00:22:31,000
So getting married was basically

761
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:32,960
her dream come true, though

762
00:22:32,990 --> 00:22:34,850
not for the usual reasons.

763
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:34,940
The.

764
00:22:35,036 --> 00:22:37,308
I'm not surprised someone like this

765
00:22:37,308 --> 00:22:39,768
caring more about control and having all

766
00:22:39,768 --> 00:22:43,251
eyes on her is not gonna be as excited

767
00:22:43,251 --> 00:22:45,381
about the marriage or what's coming next.

768
00:22:45,543 --> 00:22:46,828
They're more excited about the overall

769
00:22:46,828 --> 00:22:48,695
appeal, having a reason to post

770
00:22:48,695 --> 00:22:50,345
photos on social media, having people

771
00:22:50,345 --> 00:22:51,755
come at, oh, you look so beautiful.

772
00:22:51,755 --> 00:22:53,291
Oh your the most beautiful bride.

773
00:22:53,675 --> 00:22:55,223
They are not thinking about

774
00:22:55,223 --> 00:22:56,903
like, oh, I'm getting married.

775
00:22:57,115 --> 00:22:58,983
Oh, I'm signing a contract

776
00:22:59,013 --> 00:23:00,573
essentially to live and be married

777
00:23:00,573 --> 00:23:02,251
with this person for my life.

778
00:23:02,251 --> 00:23:02,851
Hopefully.

779
00:23:03,118 --> 00:23:03,748
this is wild.

780
00:23:03,913 --> 00:23:04,430
Okay.

781
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:06,553
Eventually she demanded that we all

782
00:23:06,583 --> 00:23:09,200
meet for a dress fitting fine, but the

783
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:11,510
wedding was still over a year away.

784
00:23:11,730 --> 00:23:13,463
She told us we had to order the dresses

785
00:23:13,463 --> 00:23:15,640
by August, 2020, even though the

786
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,610
wedding wasn't until September, 2022.

787
00:23:19,255 --> 00:23:21,746
What, what kind of dress are you ordering?

788
00:23:21,933 --> 00:23:24,741
even custom made bride dresses.

789
00:23:24,831 --> 00:23:26,211
Why can I not think of a word?

790
00:23:26,549 --> 00:23:27,454
a bridal gown.

791
00:23:27,728 --> 00:23:30,138
I ordered mine 10 months before.

792
00:23:30,138 --> 00:23:31,398
My wedding was not custom.

793
00:23:31,548 --> 00:23:32,338
It was not custom.

794
00:23:32,578 --> 00:23:34,551
We're talking like a $1,200 dress.

795
00:23:34,788 --> 00:23:37,558
Not custom, but I'm thinking like a year

796
00:23:37,558 --> 00:23:39,718
is probably fine for that kind of stuff.

797
00:23:39,718 --> 00:23:40,738
Like, I don't know.

798
00:23:41,018 --> 00:23:41,874
Correct me if I'm wrong,

799
00:23:41,874 --> 00:23:43,434
but this sounds wild to me.

800
00:23:43,698 --> 00:23:44,824
Like I said, bridesmaids I

801
00:23:44,824 --> 00:23:46,024
think ordered their dresses like

802
00:23:46,024 --> 00:23:47,164
six months before the wedding.

803
00:23:47,434 --> 00:23:49,591
if we did not order by then or we

804
00:23:49,591 --> 00:23:51,448
couldn't attend the fitting, which she

805
00:23:51,448 --> 00:23:53,188
gave us a little notice for, we were out.

806
00:23:53,431 --> 00:23:55,174
I need to know how many other bridesmaids

807
00:23:55,174 --> 00:23:57,638
there were and who all dropped out because

808
00:23:57,638 --> 00:23:59,258
there's like at least three points already

809
00:23:59,258 --> 00:24:00,578
that I would've been out of this wedding.

810
00:24:00,844 --> 00:24:02,158
By this point, I had

811
00:24:02,158 --> 00:24:03,508
started ignoring the chats.

812
00:24:03,568 --> 00:24:05,608
I figured she'd text if it was important.

813
00:24:05,668 --> 00:24:06,418
She never did.

814
00:24:06,671 --> 00:24:07,924
She only used Snapchat.

815
00:24:08,214 --> 00:24:09,324
Who uses Snapchat?

816
00:24:09,564 --> 00:24:10,254
if you're only listening,

817
00:24:10,254 --> 00:24:10,974
I just made a face.

818
00:24:11,208 --> 00:24:12,318
I don't use Snapchat.

819
00:24:12,658 --> 00:24:14,101
And to me, the last time I

820
00:24:14,101 --> 00:24:15,601
used it was like college maybe.

821
00:24:15,601 --> 00:24:15,841
Right?

822
00:24:15,841 --> 00:24:17,358
Post college to me.

823
00:24:17,438 --> 00:24:19,088
it was only for like instant

824
00:24:19,088 --> 00:24:20,168
things you want people to see.

825
00:24:20,168 --> 00:24:21,661
Not like, for a constant, like

826
00:24:21,661 --> 00:24:22,801
things disappeared, don't they?

827
00:24:23,094 --> 00:24:23,694
Oh gosh.

828
00:24:23,968 --> 00:24:25,438
she could see if we read the messages.

829
00:24:25,906 --> 00:24:27,441
If someone didn't reply, she would

830
00:24:27,441 --> 00:24:28,761
literally tag the person until they

831
00:24:28,761 --> 00:24:31,011
replied almost as if to shame them.

832
00:24:31,259 --> 00:24:33,868
Oh my God, this is wild.

833
00:24:34,178 --> 00:24:36,600
also as someone like now, like it's

834
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:37,650
probably more since I've become

835
00:24:37,650 --> 00:24:39,030
a mom, but like I'll read text

836
00:24:39,030 --> 00:24:40,377
messages sometimes and I'm like,

837
00:24:40,377 --> 00:24:41,337
oh, okay, I can't reply right now.

838
00:24:41,337 --> 00:24:42,597
And I try to remember later.

839
00:24:42,898 --> 00:24:43,498
Half the time.

840
00:24:43,498 --> 00:24:44,668
I remember later, half the time,

841
00:24:44,668 --> 00:24:45,538
I'll remember like three days

842
00:24:45,538 --> 00:24:46,798
later I'll be like, oh crap, I

843
00:24:46,798 --> 00:24:47,938
need to reply to that person.

844
00:24:48,150 --> 00:24:49,337
But sometimes people just

845
00:24:49,337 --> 00:24:50,357
read it and they forget.

846
00:24:50,417 --> 00:24:51,167
Or if they don't have anything

847
00:24:51,167 --> 00:24:52,787
to say, and that's okay.

848
00:24:53,088 --> 00:24:54,833
Our phones like in social media and

849
00:24:54,833 --> 00:24:56,393
like the technology now makes it feel

850
00:24:56,393 --> 00:24:58,930
like if someone texts us or calls us or

851
00:24:59,182 --> 00:25:01,050
emails us, we have to reply right away.

852
00:25:01,050 --> 00:25:01,950
And so we just always feel

853
00:25:01,950 --> 00:25:03,090
like go, go, go, go, go.

854
00:25:03,090 --> 00:25:03,870
I have to reply.

855
00:25:03,870 --> 00:25:05,910
And it's like no boundaries, like

856
00:25:06,108 --> 00:25:09,067
People do not deserve access to us 24 7.

857
00:25:09,353 --> 00:25:11,785
We deserve to shut off from the

858
00:25:11,785 --> 00:25:13,735
world as much as we want to.

859
00:25:14,022 --> 00:25:14,982
that's just too much.

860
00:25:15,349 --> 00:25:15,765
I get it.

861
00:25:15,780 --> 00:25:17,385
It was her wedding and she was excited,

862
00:25:17,385 --> 00:25:19,550
but the demands were unreasonable, When I

863
00:25:19,550 --> 00:25:21,230
skipped the fitting, she shamed me in the

864
00:25:21,230 --> 00:25:23,070
group chat and got others to do the same.

865
00:25:23,217 --> 00:25:24,463
Got others to do the same.

866
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:26,143
Who is shaming her then?

867
00:25:26,293 --> 00:25:27,073
What the heck?

868
00:25:27,103 --> 00:25:28,033
This is so weird.

869
00:25:28,033 --> 00:25:28,857
Who would stay friends

870
00:25:28,857 --> 00:25:29,877
with someone like this?

871
00:25:30,090 --> 00:25:31,463
That moment caused my many

872
00:25:31,463 --> 00:25:32,633
bridesmaids to drop out.

873
00:25:32,693 --> 00:25:34,163
She got replacements, but most of

874
00:25:34,163 --> 00:25:35,253
'em eventually dropped out too.

875
00:25:35,253 --> 00:25:36,183
Replacements.

876
00:25:37,390 --> 00:25:38,910
the viral Reddit story came from

877
00:25:38,910 --> 00:25:40,860
another bridesmaid's perspective.

878
00:25:41,152 --> 00:25:43,830
In short, the bride who was a photographer

879
00:25:44,002 --> 00:25:46,290
made backhanded comments about her

880
00:25:46,290 --> 00:25:48,887
body after she had a baby, basically

881
00:25:48,887 --> 00:25:50,267
telling her to lose the weight.

882
00:25:50,526 --> 00:25:51,063
I knew it.

883
00:25:51,063 --> 00:25:52,233
I knew this kind of person would

884
00:25:52,233 --> 00:25:53,433
shame, someone for a weight gain.

885
00:25:53,756 --> 00:25:54,513
Telling her to lose the weight

886
00:25:54,513 --> 00:25:56,457
for the wedding, which your body,

887
00:25:56,457 --> 00:25:57,977
anyone knows anyone that's had a

888
00:25:57,977 --> 00:25:59,987
child or just as you get older,

889
00:26:00,255 --> 00:26:01,743
it's so much harder to lose weight.

890
00:26:01,743 --> 00:26:02,943
And it's not even that, it's

891
00:26:03,212 --> 00:26:05,100
your body just changes, your body

892
00:26:05,100 --> 00:26:07,728
handles food, exercise, Sitting

893
00:26:07,728 --> 00:26:09,845
down, just your body changes.

894
00:26:10,109 --> 00:26:11,520
So even if you don't gain weight,

895
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:13,590
sometimes you go up in sizes or sometimes

896
00:26:13,590 --> 00:26:15,407
you gain weight and you go down and

897
00:26:15,407 --> 00:26:17,305
like it's just every body is different.

898
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:20,170
how in the year of 2025 do we still

899
00:26:20,170 --> 00:26:21,530
have to explain that every body's

900
00:26:21,550 --> 00:26:23,150
different, metabolism's different,

901
00:26:23,167 --> 00:26:24,867
how we absorb food is different.

902
00:26:24,867 --> 00:26:26,299
Like I'm no health expert.

903
00:26:26,329 --> 00:26:27,792
I can just see like we

904
00:26:27,792 --> 00:26:28,872
need to accept people.

905
00:26:28,872 --> 00:26:29,798
Like that's wild.

906
00:26:29,798 --> 00:26:31,358
I would never make comments about

907
00:26:31,606 --> 00:26:33,082
a friend's weight and say, you

908
00:26:33,082 --> 00:26:34,132
need to lose your baby weight.

909
00:26:34,568 --> 00:26:35,048
What the heck?

910
00:26:35,352 --> 00:26:36,652
This wasn't out of character.

911
00:26:36,682 --> 00:26:38,362
The bride often made comments like

912
00:26:38,362 --> 00:26:40,968
that and later tried to act innocent.

913
00:26:40,968 --> 00:26:42,528
She thrived on putting others

914
00:26:42,528 --> 00:26:43,968
down to make herself feel better.

915
00:26:44,162 --> 00:26:45,158
Even before the wedding, I

916
00:26:45,158 --> 00:26:46,358
had my own horror stories.

917
00:26:46,466 --> 00:26:48,178
She copied everything I did.

918
00:26:48,399 --> 00:26:49,725
At first, I thought it was cute,

919
00:26:49,755 --> 00:26:51,388
like a best friend thing, until

920
00:26:51,388 --> 00:26:53,472
I realized it wasn't I got a pet.

921
00:26:53,689 --> 00:26:55,885
Then she got one only take of it up later.

922
00:26:56,149 --> 00:26:59,090
She later copied my car, my purchases, my

923
00:26:59,090 --> 00:27:01,680
style, and even my hobbies, worst of all.

924
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,270
But when I became pregnant at 20

925
00:27:03,300 --> 00:27:05,640
unexpectedly and in a difficult situation,

926
00:27:05,866 --> 00:27:08,467
she spent my entire pregnancy reminding me

927
00:27:08,467 --> 00:27:11,407
how glad she was that she wasn't pregnant.

928
00:27:11,681 --> 00:27:12,483
Why?

929
00:27:12,744 --> 00:27:14,837
Why are you still friends with this girl?

930
00:27:15,134 --> 00:27:16,508
She does not like you.

931
00:27:16,757 --> 00:27:18,452
She does not like anybody.

932
00:27:18,452 --> 00:27:19,892
She sounds like someone that's very

933
00:27:19,892 --> 00:27:21,542
unhappy, so she has to constantly put

934
00:27:21,542 --> 00:27:23,512
people down around her and someone

935
00:27:23,512 --> 00:27:25,098
that's gonna make fun of you or put

936
00:27:25,098 --> 00:27:26,508
you down when you're pregnant or your

937
00:27:26,508 --> 00:27:28,535
body changes, or when you're going

938
00:27:28,535 --> 00:27:30,875
through a sad moment in your life,

939
00:27:30,965 --> 00:27:32,135
she's not gonna be there for you.

940
00:27:32,557 --> 00:27:33,987
Oh my gosh, this is wild.

941
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:34,390
Okay.

942
00:27:34,390 --> 00:27:36,520
So later, after visiting me at 37

943
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:37,990
weeks, she suddenly started saying

944
00:27:37,990 --> 00:27:39,460
she wished she was pregnant too.

945
00:27:39,693 --> 00:27:42,130
And within a month she was trying.

946
00:27:42,437 --> 00:27:45,010
Soon after she ended up pregnant as well.

947
00:27:45,223 --> 00:27:47,600
So these girls are really young.

948
00:27:47,690 --> 00:27:48,830
I'm trying to wait.

949
00:27:49,133 --> 00:27:50,660
Is this all before the wedding?

950
00:27:51,057 --> 00:27:52,285
I'm so confused.

951
00:27:52,285 --> 00:27:52,615
Okay.

952
00:27:52,833 --> 00:27:53,672
It says, before the

953
00:27:53,672 --> 00:27:55,172
wedding, this all happened.

954
00:27:55,172 --> 00:27:57,452
So she was pregnant at 20 before

955
00:27:57,452 --> 00:27:58,472
the wedding, so I don't know how

956
00:27:58,472 --> 00:27:59,972
many years later this was it.

957
00:28:00,247 --> 00:28:01,175
And so the bride and

958
00:28:01,175 --> 00:28:02,818
herself have children.

959
00:28:03,270 --> 00:28:03,660
Okay.

960
00:28:03,830 --> 00:28:05,940
Fast forward, she eventually apologized

961
00:28:05,940 --> 00:28:06,990
and I was back in the wedding.

962
00:28:07,260 --> 00:28:09,200
Things went smoothly though she still

963
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:11,030
micromanaged for the bachelorette party.

964
00:28:11,030 --> 00:28:14,153
She wanted us to buy three new

965
00:28:14,183 --> 00:28:15,773
approved outfits for going out.

966
00:28:15,833 --> 00:28:17,623
No, like I've talked about before, I've

967
00:28:17,623 --> 00:28:18,883
been to many bachelorette parties where

968
00:28:18,883 --> 00:28:20,472
there's like themes and I love it.

969
00:28:20,777 --> 00:28:21,557
I love a good theme.

970
00:28:21,853 --> 00:28:22,940
Sometimes they're hard to find,

971
00:28:22,940 --> 00:28:24,270
but we go to thrift store.

972
00:28:24,270 --> 00:28:26,340
Sometimes we buy stuff on Amazon.

973
00:28:26,370 --> 00:28:26,880
You know, whatever.

974
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:28,020
You can find like.

975
00:28:28,020 --> 00:28:29,150
No one would be like, you have to buy

976
00:28:29,150 --> 00:28:31,070
a new outfit, or we switched outfits.

977
00:28:31,337 --> 00:28:32,517
no one would be like, you have to go

978
00:28:32,517 --> 00:28:34,490
buy a new outfit, I need to approve it.

979
00:28:34,610 --> 00:28:34,970
no.

980
00:28:35,223 --> 00:28:36,763
and she kept reminding us to

981
00:28:36,763 --> 00:28:38,503
not look hotter than the bride.

982
00:28:38,777 --> 00:28:40,157
I work out regularly and was

983
00:28:40,157 --> 00:28:41,237
the slimmest in the group.

984
00:28:41,237 --> 00:28:43,187
So she often made outfit suggestions

985
00:28:43,457 --> 00:28:45,063
that she knew wouldn't flatter me.

986
00:28:45,293 --> 00:28:46,737
She wanted all the attention.

987
00:28:46,980 --> 00:28:48,810
During nights out, if men came up to

988
00:28:48,810 --> 00:28:50,833
talk to me or the other bridesmaids, she

989
00:28:50,833 --> 00:28:52,573
would immediately jump in, announce that

990
00:28:52,573 --> 00:28:54,403
she was the bride, and start bragging.

991
00:28:54,463 --> 00:28:55,633
Oh my gosh.

992
00:28:55,924 --> 00:28:56,870
The wedding itself.

993
00:28:57,112 --> 00:28:58,642
you know what the most shocking thing

994
00:28:58,642 --> 00:29:01,269
about all this is, is that she still has

995
00:29:01,269 --> 00:29:02,799
bridesmaids and friends at the end of

996
00:29:02,799 --> 00:29:05,332
this, because this is just so wild to me.

997
00:29:05,648 --> 00:29:07,148
I've never personally been in a situation

998
00:29:07,148 --> 00:29:09,552
like this where a bride was like terrible.

999
00:29:09,831 --> 00:29:09,898
So.

1000
00:29:10,544 --> 00:29:11,694
you would never know how you

1001
00:29:11,694 --> 00:29:13,074
would truly, truly act unless

1002
00:29:13,074 --> 00:29:13,974
you were in that position.

1003
00:29:14,232 --> 00:29:16,148
But on the outside, there's like

1004
00:29:16,238 --> 00:29:17,558
eight different moments now where

1005
00:29:17,558 --> 00:29:18,698
I'd be like, yeah, I'm gone.

1006
00:29:18,788 --> 00:29:19,628
Yeah, I'm gone.

1007
00:29:19,852 --> 00:29:20,081
Yeah.

1008
00:29:20,081 --> 00:29:22,304
I'm not in this like that is wild.

1009
00:29:22,304 --> 00:29:24,014
To me, that is the most shocking part

1010
00:29:24,014 --> 00:29:25,724
of this whole thing, is that she still

1011
00:29:25,724 --> 00:29:27,434
had friends stick by her side and stand

1012
00:29:27,434 --> 00:29:29,431
up by her side during the ceremony.

1013
00:29:29,833 --> 00:29:30,883
it says afterwards she was

1014
00:29:30,883 --> 00:29:32,113
angry that we didn't talk to her

1015
00:29:32,113 --> 00:29:33,943
enough or try harder to see her.

1016
00:29:34,163 --> 00:29:35,453
Later she announced another

1017
00:29:35,453 --> 00:29:37,293
pregnancy, even though doctors

1018
00:29:37,293 --> 00:29:39,003
had warned her, she was high risk.

1019
00:29:39,229 --> 00:29:40,349
Thankfully, she and the baby

1020
00:29:40,349 --> 00:29:41,879
were fine, but the due date

1021
00:29:41,879 --> 00:29:43,349
was the same as my birthday.

1022
00:29:43,573 --> 00:29:45,766
She repeated the date to me without

1023
00:29:45,766 --> 00:29:47,856
even realizing it, and when I said I was

1024
00:29:47,856 --> 00:29:49,918
honored, she was triggered and actually.

1025
00:29:50,436 --> 00:29:52,731
Arranged to be induced early.

1026
00:29:52,973 --> 00:29:54,358
This girl will never be happy.

1027
00:29:54,786 --> 00:29:56,248
Our friendship officially ended

1028
00:29:56,248 --> 00:29:57,448
when she shamed us all for

1029
00:29:57,448 --> 00:29:59,188
forgetting her wedding anniversary.

1030
00:29:59,504 --> 00:30:00,404
Okay?

1031
00:30:02,456 --> 00:30:03,664
you can know your friend's wedding

1032
00:30:03,664 --> 00:30:05,673
anniversaries, but like as we get older,

1033
00:30:05,673 --> 00:30:07,113
there's so many things to remember, right?

1034
00:30:07,113 --> 00:30:09,603
It's like birthdays, anniversaries,

1035
00:30:09,633 --> 00:30:11,539
kids' birthdays, Your own

1036
00:30:11,539 --> 00:30:12,709
personal life things, right?

1037
00:30:12,709 --> 00:30:14,599
Your own, family, husbands

1038
00:30:14,599 --> 00:30:15,829
birthday, your own anniversary,

1039
00:30:15,829 --> 00:30:17,419
your own kids work, stuff.

1040
00:30:17,449 --> 00:30:18,859
I mean, there's so many things I

1041
00:30:18,859 --> 00:30:20,029
would never expect any of my friends

1042
00:30:20,029 --> 00:30:21,469
to wish me a happy anniversary.

1043
00:30:21,654 --> 00:30:22,643
I'm more shocked when people

1044
00:30:22,643 --> 00:30:23,483
say happy anniversary.

1045
00:30:23,483 --> 00:30:24,496
I'm like, oh, I guess

1046
00:30:24,496 --> 00:30:25,486
it is my anniversary.

1047
00:30:25,696 --> 00:30:26,236
What do you know?

1048
00:30:26,571 --> 00:30:27,243
That is wild.

1049
00:30:27,356 --> 00:30:28,466
she says, I know this is long

1050
00:30:28,466 --> 00:30:29,516
and all over the place, but

1051
00:30:29,516 --> 00:30:31,016
there's just so much to unpack.

1052
00:30:31,016 --> 00:30:33,889
I. Girl, I feel for you not, I hope this

1053
00:30:33,889 --> 00:30:35,329
doesn't come off that I'm like shaming

1054
00:30:35,329 --> 00:30:37,001
her for staying friends with her, so long.

1055
00:30:37,001 --> 00:30:39,028
Because it's hard when you are

1056
00:30:39,028 --> 00:30:40,691
really invested in a friendship or

1057
00:30:40,691 --> 00:30:41,981
you've known someone a really long

1058
00:30:41,981 --> 00:30:45,294
time and maybe she flipped or maybe

1059
00:30:45,294 --> 00:30:46,194
you're just used to being that.

1060
00:30:46,448 --> 00:30:47,378
girl, that friend that's

1061
00:30:47,378 --> 00:30:48,308
always there, right?

1062
00:30:48,578 --> 00:30:50,265
I know I have before where you're

1063
00:30:50,265 --> 00:30:51,705
just like, yeah, I'm there for you.

1064
00:30:51,705 --> 00:30:52,635
I got this for you.

1065
00:30:52,635 --> 00:30:53,085
I got this.

1066
00:30:53,085 --> 00:30:54,945
And then finally, years later, or as

1067
00:30:54,945 --> 00:30:56,541
you get older, you can look in the

1068
00:30:56,541 --> 00:30:58,718
mirror and be like, why did I do that?

1069
00:30:59,021 --> 00:31:00,491
This girl never did anything for me.

1070
00:31:00,491 --> 00:31:02,261
Or all she did was talk bad about me.

1071
00:31:02,510 --> 00:31:03,555
Why was I still willing

1072
00:31:03,555 --> 00:31:04,515
to do all these things?

1073
00:31:04,746 --> 00:31:06,135
So I'm just responding to

1074
00:31:06,135 --> 00:31:07,905
this as who I am right now.

1075
00:31:07,905 --> 00:31:09,741
But if this happened, you know, when they

1076
00:31:09,741 --> 00:31:11,121
were in their early twenties, if this

1077
00:31:11,121 --> 00:31:12,711
happened when I was in my early twenties.

1078
00:31:12,996 --> 00:31:14,288
Maybe some of the stuff I'd

1079
00:31:14,288 --> 00:31:15,578
be like, okay, it's fine.

1080
00:31:15,578 --> 00:31:16,358
She's my friend.

1081
00:31:16,358 --> 00:31:16,778
It's okay.

1082
00:31:16,778 --> 00:31:18,968
But this girl is a straight up bully.

1083
00:31:19,256 --> 00:31:22,418
And I'm glad as the years went on, more

1084
00:31:22,418 --> 00:31:23,951
and more bridesmaids in her wedding, were

1085
00:31:23,951 --> 00:31:25,931
like, okay, this is not normal behavior.

1086
00:31:26,122 --> 00:31:26,867
I am not gonna be

1087
00:31:26,867 --> 00:31:27,677
friends with this person.

1088
00:31:28,042 --> 00:31:28,387
Wow.

1089
00:31:28,567 --> 00:31:29,697
Well thank you for sharing that.

1090
00:31:29,697 --> 00:31:31,197
I think we need to find the actual

1091
00:31:31,197 --> 00:31:32,727
like Reddit story now and read the

1092
00:31:32,727 --> 00:31:34,954
other bridesmaids perspective and,

1093
00:31:35,161 --> 00:31:36,391
If there's more as you're unpacking

1094
00:31:36,391 --> 00:31:37,671
this, feel free to send more.

1095
00:31:37,969 --> 00:31:40,057
All right, guys, I got one more story.

1096
00:31:40,287 --> 00:31:41,487
when I first started reading the beginning

1097
00:31:41,487 --> 00:31:43,221
of story number one, I thought it was

1098
00:31:43,221 --> 00:31:44,301
a Reddit story, so I was like, okay,

1099
00:31:44,301 --> 00:31:45,561
well we need to have a submission too.

1100
00:31:45,591 --> 00:31:47,324
So we're gonna have two submissions today.

1101
00:31:47,569 --> 00:31:48,497
All right, here we go.

1102
00:31:48,828 --> 00:31:50,562
We had a pretty dramatic situation

1103
00:31:50,562 --> 00:31:52,102
at a family wedding that might

1104
00:31:52,102 --> 00:31:53,452
make for an interesting story.

1105
00:31:53,749 --> 00:31:54,947
My youngest brother is very

1106
00:31:54,947 --> 00:31:56,897
narcissistic and controlling.

1107
00:31:57,116 --> 00:31:58,557
He always thinks he's the center of

1108
00:31:58,557 --> 00:32:00,867
attention at every family gathering.

1109
00:32:01,073 --> 00:32:02,753
He makes everyone miserable and

1110
00:32:02,753 --> 00:32:04,613
demands that we constantly consider

1111
00:32:04,816 --> 00:32:06,557
how things are impacting him.

1112
00:32:06,849 --> 00:32:08,370
When my oldest niece got married,

1113
00:32:08,669 --> 00:32:10,160
she did not include either my

1114
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:13,160
daughter or her other cousin, my

1115
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:14,920
brother's daughter, as attendance.

1116
00:32:15,173 --> 00:32:16,747
Both girls were pretty disappointed.

1117
00:32:17,049 --> 00:32:18,947
Later, when his youngest daughter was

1118
00:32:18,947 --> 00:32:21,623
chosen as a flower girl, my brother and

1119
00:32:21,623 --> 00:32:23,843
his wife insisted they couldn't possibly

1120
00:32:23,843 --> 00:32:26,253
pay for a dress or anything related to it.

1121
00:32:26,482 --> 00:32:27,627
My parents ended up footing

1122
00:32:27,627 --> 00:32:29,157
the bill for her entire outfit.

1123
00:32:29,419 --> 00:32:29,787
Okay.

1124
00:32:29,993 --> 00:32:30,813
I'm trying to get like the

1125
00:32:30,813 --> 00:32:32,013
family tree in my head.

1126
00:32:32,326 --> 00:32:34,666
So her youngest brother's narcissistic,

1127
00:32:34,973 --> 00:32:37,069
her oldest niece got married.

1128
00:32:37,559 --> 00:32:39,799
Did not include her daughter

1129
00:32:40,029 --> 00:32:41,073
or her brother's daughter.

1130
00:32:41,273 --> 00:32:43,316
Then his youngest daughter

1131
00:32:43,586 --> 00:32:45,363
was chosen as a flower girl.

1132
00:32:45,669 --> 00:32:46,016
Got it.

1133
00:32:46,233 --> 00:32:48,519
It's hard when just one kid

1134
00:32:48,524 --> 00:32:49,659
is invited to a wedding.

1135
00:32:49,719 --> 00:32:51,069
That's what's kind of weird.

1136
00:32:51,299 --> 00:32:52,689
and it's hard for kids to understand

1137
00:32:52,689 --> 00:32:53,799
like, oh, we want you as a flower girl.

1138
00:32:53,919 --> 00:32:55,359
You're invited, but no one else's.

1139
00:32:55,639 --> 00:32:57,166
It happens though, fortunately.

1140
00:32:57,456 --> 00:32:59,363
Okay, fast forward to my daughter's

1141
00:32:59,363 --> 00:33:00,773
wedding three years later.

1142
00:33:01,049 --> 00:33:02,823
She felt terrible for her cousin

1143
00:33:02,823 --> 00:33:04,616
who had been left out before, so

1144
00:33:04,616 --> 00:33:06,716
she made her one of the bridesmaids.

1145
00:33:07,023 --> 00:33:08,823
Once again, my brother complained

1146
00:33:08,966 --> 00:33:11,243
that he couldn't pay for anything, so

1147
00:33:11,243 --> 00:33:13,253
my husband and I covered the cost of

1148
00:33:13,253 --> 00:33:15,356
her bridesmaid dress a tie for him.

1149
00:33:15,863 --> 00:33:17,243
Outfits for both his wife

1150
00:33:17,529 --> 00:33:19,133
and other daughter since they

1151
00:33:19,133 --> 00:33:20,693
were guest book at attendants.

1152
00:33:21,026 --> 00:33:21,636
Wow.

1153
00:33:21,636 --> 00:33:23,429
You paid for the whole family,

1154
00:33:23,514 --> 00:33:24,958
to get dressed for your wedding.

1155
00:33:25,264 --> 00:33:27,621
they took it full advantage of the food,

1156
00:33:27,621 --> 00:33:29,721
enjoyed the entertainment, but didn't lift

1157
00:33:29,721 --> 00:33:32,091
a finger to help with set up our cleanup.

1158
00:33:32,571 --> 00:33:32,961
Yeah.

1159
00:33:33,294 --> 00:33:35,025
A couple of years later, his

1160
00:33:35,025 --> 00:33:36,933
oldest daughter, the one who was a

1161
00:33:36,933 --> 00:33:38,613
bridesmaid, was now getting married.

1162
00:33:38,903 --> 00:33:40,530
There was a lot of talk about what

1163
00:33:40,530 --> 00:33:42,060
kind of wedding they were planning.

1164
00:33:42,390 --> 00:33:43,290
Keep in mind.

1165
00:33:43,693 --> 00:33:45,643
This brother has never hosted

1166
00:33:45,643 --> 00:33:48,121
us, never paid for a meal, and

1167
00:33:48,121 --> 00:33:49,681
always brings the cheapest things

1168
00:33:49,681 --> 00:33:51,541
possible to family gatherings.

1169
00:33:51,788 --> 00:33:54,706
But now he was going to host a full buffet

1170
00:33:54,706 --> 00:33:57,166
dinner and margarita bar for this wedding,

1171
00:33:57,508 --> 00:33:59,574
and naturally we were all excited.

1172
00:33:59,939 --> 00:34:01,470
The invitations went out and

1173
00:34:01,620 --> 00:34:03,930
only my parents were invited.

1174
00:34:04,331 --> 00:34:05,804
None of the other immediate

1175
00:34:05,804 --> 00:34:07,844
family received an invitation,

1176
00:34:07,964 --> 00:34:09,764
including my daughter who had

1177
00:34:09,764 --> 00:34:10,874
been a bridesmaid for her cousin.

1178
00:34:11,675 --> 00:34:14,991
Wait, so that's weird.

1179
00:34:15,358 --> 00:34:17,218
he didn't invite his own siblings

1180
00:34:17,312 --> 00:34:19,315
to the wedding, and she didn't

1181
00:34:19,315 --> 00:34:21,355
invite her cousins to the wedding.

1182
00:34:21,667 --> 00:34:21,913
Okay.

1183
00:34:22,397 --> 00:34:23,292
I asked when we could.

1184
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:26,465
Expect our invitations and was told we

1185
00:34:26,465 --> 00:34:28,592
had to make selections because there were

1186
00:34:28,592 --> 00:34:30,812
just too many friends we wanted to invite.

1187
00:34:31,087 --> 00:34:32,892
There's not room for you guys at the

1188
00:34:32,892 --> 00:34:34,805
church, so you're not a priority.

1189
00:34:35,110 --> 00:34:35,788
I added that.

1190
00:34:36,060 --> 00:34:37,905
This of course, was after I

1191
00:34:37,905 --> 00:34:40,101
had been invited repeatedly

1192
00:34:40,568 --> 00:34:41,948
to multiple wedding showers.

1193
00:34:41,948 --> 00:34:42,908
Multiple.

1194
00:34:43,023 --> 00:34:44,280
How many wedding showers are there?

1195
00:34:44,923 --> 00:34:46,533
Hosted by different family members

1196
00:34:46,533 --> 00:34:48,123
and reminded about the importance of

1197
00:34:48,123 --> 00:34:50,133
being generous with my gift giving.

1198
00:34:50,433 --> 00:34:50,796
Okay.

1199
00:34:51,023 --> 00:34:52,220
There's a lot to unpack there.

1200
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:53,756
First of all, if you are getting

1201
00:34:53,756 --> 00:34:55,406
invited to a shower, you should also

1202
00:34:55,406 --> 00:34:57,296
be getting an invite to the wedding.

1203
00:34:57,553 --> 00:35:00,476
I personally think it's very rude to

1204
00:35:00,536 --> 00:35:02,006
invite someone to the shower that you

1205
00:35:02,006 --> 00:35:04,046
do not plan inviting to the wedding.

1206
00:35:04,386 --> 00:35:06,006
A couple of exceptions would be.

1207
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:09,306
If, let's say it's a really, really

1208
00:35:09,306 --> 00:35:11,976
small wedding, like destination or

1209
00:35:12,230 --> 00:35:14,983
you eloped, or, a micro wedding.

1210
00:35:15,373 --> 00:35:17,083
So pretty much no one's getting invited.

1211
00:35:17,336 --> 00:35:19,846
Then you do like a work shower,

1212
00:35:19,846 --> 00:35:21,850
like your work team, throws a

1213
00:35:21,850 --> 00:35:24,160
surprise then sure, that's fine.

1214
00:35:24,518 --> 00:35:26,053
But other than that, for the most

1215
00:35:26,053 --> 00:35:27,793
part, if you are having a shower,

1216
00:35:27,913 --> 00:35:29,233
everyone should be invited.

1217
00:35:29,238 --> 00:35:30,183
I. If you're not inviting

1218
00:35:30,183 --> 00:35:31,623
everybody, don't have a shower.

1219
00:35:31,921 --> 00:35:32,466
That simple.

1220
00:35:32,796 --> 00:35:36,243
second part of that is who is this family

1221
00:35:36,243 --> 00:35:37,563
member that's reminding you about the

1222
00:35:37,563 --> 00:35:39,393
importance of generous gift giving?

1223
00:35:39,681 --> 00:35:40,776
That is wild.

1224
00:35:40,866 --> 00:35:41,646
That is wild.

1225
00:35:41,898 --> 00:35:43,673
Needless to say, we were very hurt.

1226
00:35:43,945 --> 00:35:45,596
The one time my brother was going

1227
00:35:45,806 --> 00:35:47,636
to pay for dinner, we weren't even

1228
00:35:47,636 --> 00:35:49,836
invited, but oh well, we decided to

1229
00:35:49,836 --> 00:35:50,941
make other plans for that weekend.

1230
00:35:51,610 --> 00:35:53,243
When the wedding weekend arrived, it

1231
00:35:53,243 --> 00:35:55,433
became clear that most of her so-called

1232
00:35:55,433 --> 00:35:58,013
work friends weren't even going to

1233
00:35:58,013 --> 00:36:00,486
show up on her side of the church.

1234
00:36:00,516 --> 00:36:02,076
There were only about six

1235
00:36:02,106 --> 00:36:03,666
family members in attendance.

1236
00:36:03,924 --> 00:36:05,136
The night before the wedding,

1237
00:36:05,367 --> 00:36:07,100
my brother called me demanding

1238
00:36:07,100 --> 00:36:08,515
to know why I wasn't coming.

1239
00:36:09,197 --> 00:36:11,765
What as though he hadn't told

1240
00:36:11,765 --> 00:36:13,961
me I wasn't invited, I calmly

1241
00:36:13,961 --> 00:36:15,941
explained that we knew we weren't

1242
00:36:15,941 --> 00:36:17,951
invited and had made other plans.

1243
00:36:18,111 --> 00:36:21,021
He became irate, accusing me of being

1244
00:36:21,021 --> 00:36:23,088
mean to his daughter, saying I didn't

1245
00:36:23,088 --> 00:36:24,618
care that she wouldn't have enough people

1246
00:36:24,618 --> 00:36:26,508
on our side and insisting it would look

1247
00:36:26,513 --> 00:36:29,058
bad that her own family wasn't there.

1248
00:36:29,279 --> 00:36:31,760
So this is someone that wants you there.

1249
00:36:32,329 --> 00:36:34,563
When they need you and when

1250
00:36:34,563 --> 00:36:35,913
they don't, they don't want to

1251
00:36:35,913 --> 00:36:37,353
even think of you or see you.

1252
00:36:37,612 --> 00:36:39,520
And because he realized that friends

1253
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:41,170
weren't coming, friends that he thought

1254
00:36:41,170 --> 00:36:42,820
he could count on weren't coming, they're

1255
00:36:42,820 --> 00:36:44,346
like, oh look, that's when we rely

1256
00:36:44,346 --> 00:36:46,790
on family, our generous gift givers.

1257
00:36:47,390 --> 00:36:48,200
That is wild.

1258
00:36:48,455 --> 00:36:50,066
She says, we still didn't go.

1259
00:36:50,066 --> 00:36:51,506
And sure enough, her side of

1260
00:36:51,506 --> 00:36:53,396
the church was two thirds empty.

1261
00:36:53,671 --> 00:36:55,127
That's when people lean more

1262
00:36:55,127 --> 00:36:57,527
into the looks of it all again.

1263
00:36:57,557 --> 00:36:58,697
Again, you know, they're like,

1264
00:36:58,817 --> 00:37:00,537
oh, we have to say no to family

1265
00:37:00,567 --> 00:37:02,007
'cause they have to forgive us.

1266
00:37:02,007 --> 00:37:02,307
Right?

1267
00:37:02,554 --> 00:37:03,807
That's the thing you hear too, is

1268
00:37:03,807 --> 00:37:05,554
like, blood is thicker than water.

1269
00:37:05,554 --> 00:37:06,634
That all those phrases, they're

1270
00:37:06,634 --> 00:37:08,284
like, oh, the family has to forgive

1271
00:37:08,314 --> 00:37:10,161
us, so we're gonna put them on

1272
00:37:10,161 --> 00:37:11,301
the bottom of the totem pole.

1273
00:37:11,624 --> 00:37:13,691
But it's very clear here that

1274
00:37:13,861 --> 00:37:14,831
they probably should have

1275
00:37:14,831 --> 00:37:16,721
just invited family, but.

1276
00:37:16,994 --> 00:37:17,554
That is wild.

1277
00:37:17,554 --> 00:37:18,994
Family dynamics are crazy

1278
00:37:18,994 --> 00:37:20,374
around these kind of events.

1279
00:37:20,374 --> 00:37:22,924
So true colors came out and now

1280
00:37:22,924 --> 00:37:24,874
you know not to bend over backwards

1281
00:37:24,874 --> 00:37:26,434
for someone like that or help out

1282
00:37:26,434 --> 00:37:28,244
someone like that because it sounds

1283
00:37:28,244 --> 00:37:29,774
like he was just trying to use you.

1284
00:37:30,131 --> 00:37:30,641
All right guys.

1285
00:37:30,731 --> 00:37:32,981
Well, that is all I have for this week.

1286
00:37:32,981 --> 00:37:34,331
That is a pretty wild

1287
00:37:34,584 --> 00:37:35,634
couple of stories there.

1288
00:37:35,896 --> 00:37:36,556
Hope you guys enjoyed

1289
00:37:36,556 --> 00:37:37,456
the Bridezilla story.

1290
00:37:37,456 --> 00:37:38,116
I know many of you guys

1291
00:37:38,116 --> 00:37:39,196
have asked for one.

1292
00:37:39,451 --> 00:37:40,981
as always, you can submit.

1293
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,479
Stories to me, big or small, I

1294
00:37:43,479 --> 00:37:45,249
get full on novel sent to me.

1295
00:37:45,249 --> 00:37:46,826
I get tiny little,

1296
00:37:47,012 --> 00:37:47,792
Stories about things that

1297
00:37:47,792 --> 00:37:48,842
happen, and then people also

1298
00:37:48,842 --> 00:37:50,252
send me questions about advice.

1299
00:37:50,252 --> 00:37:51,242
So if you guys ever have any of

1300
00:37:51,242 --> 00:37:53,719
those, you can DM me on social media.

1301
00:37:53,945 --> 00:37:55,602
You can submit it at the link,

1302
00:37:55,652 --> 00:37:56,852
in the show notes as well.

1303
00:37:57,092 --> 00:37:58,189
All right, guys, well, thank

1304
00:37:58,189 --> 00:37:59,149
you so much for joining me.

1305
00:37:59,399 --> 00:38:01,199
don't forget that my brand new book,

1306
00:38:01,389 --> 00:38:02,482
I don't know how long I can call

1307
00:38:02,482 --> 00:38:04,102
it brand new for, but I'm excited.

1308
00:38:04,652 --> 00:38:05,792
here comes the drama of Ferris

1309
00:38:05,792 --> 00:38:07,292
and Stone Story is out now.

1310
00:38:07,517 --> 00:38:08,986
We also have the audio book out

1311
00:38:08,986 --> 00:38:10,636
now, which I'm so excited about.

1312
00:38:10,861 --> 00:38:11,661
I know I'm not the voice

1313
00:38:11,661 --> 00:38:13,511
actor, but she is amazing.

1314
00:38:13,511 --> 00:38:15,191
Her name's Shiloh James, and she

1315
00:38:15,191 --> 00:38:16,691
just did a, such a great job.

1316
00:38:16,907 --> 00:38:18,417
and don't forget to tag me on social

1317
00:38:18,417 --> 00:38:20,631
media at Party Planning by Christa for

1318
00:38:20,631 --> 00:38:22,401
a chance to be featured on my page.

1319
00:38:22,431 --> 00:38:25,297
I love seeing your guys' dms, reposts

1320
00:38:25,327 --> 00:38:27,174
and videos, all about the book.

1321
00:38:27,174 --> 00:38:28,614
It's been so much fun to read.

1322
00:38:28,844 --> 00:38:30,591
and of course, leave a review.

1323
00:38:30,876 --> 00:38:32,406
It just helps more people see

1324
00:38:32,406 --> 00:38:33,999
it, and I love seeing them.

1325
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:34,929
all right guys.

1326
00:38:35,199 --> 00:38:35,949
Thanks for hanging out with

1327
00:38:35,949 --> 00:38:37,929
me and I'll see you next time.

1328
00:38:38,169 --> 00:38:38,529
Bye now.