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Speaker: [00:00:00] Hey, Reagan. Hey, Jessica.

Speaker 2: How's it going?

Speaker: Oh, great. Just about to record a podcast. What? Yeah. Woo. Who this? Idiot?

That's me. Oh, no point proven. Hey friends. Welcome to the Mr. Py, me the Hater podcast. I am your host, the Man Hater,

Speaker 2: and I am your host Chesko. Mr. Pick me who's already been picked.

Speaker: Oh my God.

Speaker 2: The man hater's also named Reagan, by the way, in case you were wondering.

Speaker: Did I not say my name?

Speaker 2: No, you just said man hater and I'm, I'm gonna refer to her as Reagan, just for the record.

I'm not gonna, Hey,

Speaker: man, hater.

Speaker 2: Yeah. I think you're so concerned with me messing up the intro. I haven't messed up the intro for several weeks now. If you go back the last like three weeks, it's not been me, it's been you. An anticipating me messing it up.

Speaker: Okay. But for the millionth time, you always do weird shit.

Right Before we start,

Speaker 2: I don't know what you're talking about. [00:01:00]

Speaker: Last time I was laughing because I was like, be normal. Be like, okay, be normal.

Speaker 2: I was

Speaker: like,

Speaker 2: what the hell? I don't think you understand that. My weird shit is just me being me. That's just I know this. Yeah. So why does it throw you off still? Uh,

Speaker: just a random scream in the mic before we start.

Got me, got me again, by the way,

Speaker 2: to everyone yelling at me to get a new microphone. I finally got like a nice one. So,

Speaker 4: so there we are. Let's see how,

Speaker 2: let's see how it works. We'll see, it's probably not working at all. This is up to your liking. It's, it's absolutely terrible.

Speaker 4: Mm-hmm. And

Speaker 2: we'll see. We'll find out.

It does a cool, it does like a, there's a little light, uh, like crossey, uh, there's a little light on it that like, now I'm gonna knock middle stop noticing. Um, I can't cross my, I normally Can you do it on your own? Like when you Yeah. Oh, there it goes. Yeah. I, I

Speaker: visual.

Speaker 2: Am I doing it? Am I doing it at all?

Speaker: No, you're just staring at me.

Oh. Oh, that's closer. Hey, sorry for everyone who [00:02:00] is listening to the podcast, Jessica making attempts at crossing his is, and it's not succeeding.

Speaker 2: Um,

Speaker: anyways.

Speaker 2: Well, that was a good episode. Uh, I think we're gonna call it a week and

Speaker: call it a week. Um, friends just heads up, I am recovering from being very ill, so if I sound like a frog, it's because I am one.

Speaker 2: So if anything goes wrong with this week's episode, it's 100% Reagan's fault. Mm-hmm. She just admitted it right there.

There we have it

Speaker: for the courts,

Speaker 2: for the courts for let the record show Reagan is taking full fault and ownership of any. We are actually recording this on a different, using a different podcast, uh, software. Yes. This, this, we normally do it over Zoom and so if anything sounds or looks differently this week, that's why.

And hopefully it's for the better. Since, oh, I didn't tell [00:03:00] you this. We, when we started this podcast about like year and a half ago, we, we paid for this same software, well, two years ago, however, and we used it for a couple months and it was, and it was kind of glitching like, and, uh, so we stopped. I just realized when I went to reactivate our, our membership that I've been paying for it the entire time.

Speaker: Classic Jessica,

Speaker 2: A DHD tax is real. And I, I'm actually a little upset 'cause I paid for a service that would go through and look for repeating memberships and it actually helped me get rid of several. This didn't pop up as a repeat membership though,

Speaker 4: I don't know.

Speaker 2: But no, we, we have been paying for this for.

A year and a half of non usage. So, oh my

Speaker: gosh. Riverside and all of your gyms are high fiving right now,

Speaker 2: so if you wanna sponsor us Riverside, you can just pay his, pay me back for the money that I've been giving you without any, [00:04:00] using your service whatsoever.

Speaker: Oh boy.

Speaker 2: What are we gonna talk about today, Reagan?

Speaker: Well, we're gonna talk about a Backstreet Boys parody. That makes me wanna scream.

Speaker 2: And you everybody, is that what it makes you wanna scream?

Speaker: It's a song, not

Speaker 2: your, yeah, it's not those

Speaker: words. It's so much worse.

Speaker 2: Okay. It's

Speaker: about hating being married. Oh.

Speaker 2: Oh. They don't want it that way. Right. They're not looking for the one as a partner.

They want. The Spanish eyes of somebody who don't want you back. Backstreets back. Alright, what's his name? Timmy Bounceback. Timmy Bounceback. That's what it is. And that we're also gonna talk about giving your wife an allowance

Speaker 6: theme song you want Bad advice, man. I'll give it out. Glad I got some good advice for you.

I know you don't. [00:05:00] I know you don't. I got some good advice for you. You don't.

Speaker 2: I know you don't. Shit. For some reason my video keeps freezing and we're not sure if it's actually freezing or if it's the software, but if you're watching this on YouTube, we apologize for any inadvertent freezes that occur. We'll fix it. Fix it next time. I

Speaker: would like the court to notice that it's KO's video that keeps freezing and not mine.

Speaker 2: Yes. Because I would also like the court to notice how beautiful my camera looks on this. This, it's compared to our normal zoom. Maybe that's what we do. Maybe we, in order to get this, this stunning video capture, we have to deal with some freezes. So, uh, first off, before we get into this, I just have a little thing to talk about Backstreet Boys.

I, we, uh, I met, um, I don't want to give away too much. I actually, I know someone who knows the [00:06:00] Backstreet Boys. We'll say that.

Speaker 4: Oh my God.

Speaker 2: Which randomly happened. Uh, one of, one of my followers. Um. It has, has knows a Backstreet Boy. That's all I'm gonna say. I don't want to get, I don't, I don't like so

Speaker: cryptic.

Speaker 2: I know. Anyways, but, uh, she said to me that she can get me tickets and I was like, woo. To, to the one in Vegas. And I was like, oh my God. But they only, I think the shows are over now until, but they're coming back in the winter.

Speaker 4: What?

Speaker 2: They're coming back baby. They're back baby. Uh, so, uh, I am, I'm gonna do everything in humanly possible to, to make it to a Backstreet Boys concert in Vegas.

Speaker: You better get me a ticket also. But you get, you can get your wife a ticket first, but if there's a third one, you better think about me.

Speaker 2: She was more of an NSYNC person though.

Speaker: Well, so was I. So, oh,

Speaker 2: so why am I gonna,

Speaker: you knew that.

Speaker 2: I know, but like, what's the point? Do you act like I remember anything ever.

I love

Speaker: what was my first concert ever. [00:07:00]

Speaker 2: N Sync.

Speaker: Wrong. Backstreet Boys,

Speaker 2: new Kids on the Block.

Speaker: Oh my God. Was I in the womb?

Speaker 2: I, I think my first wo was a Sir Mixa Lot concert, but it might have been En Vogue. I think it was En Vogue.

Speaker: Oh my God, sir. Mixa Lott. That would be insane.

Speaker 2: I went to a Sir Mixa lot concert, but it was Marky Mark and the Funky Bunch was actually the, uh, uh, she's such a shit.

The headliner I went to see, we actually left when Marky Mark was singing. 'cause my mom took me solely because I wanted to Cesar Mixa lot because I loved, uh, baby Got Back so much. So

Speaker: Justin, I have re I have karaoke that song. Oof.

Speaker 2: Oh, I know. I pretty sure I know every single word to it. Still to this day.

I

Speaker: definitely do.

Speaker 2: Yeah. Um, are we gonna, are we gonna actually sing it right now for the audience? And here we are back from singing a perfect rendition of it, but I think for copyright, I think we can't put it in

Speaker: unfortunately for everybody. Actually. Probably could put it in because it would be. Uh, what is it called?

Not a [00:08:00] parody.

Speaker 2: When you do a

Speaker: version of it,

Speaker 2: karaoke. No. Yeah, no. A cover. A cover, yes.

Speaker: Covers have certain, and we aren't using the music. It would just be the words.

Speaker 2: What if one of us was going boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. A little in the middle, but you got much back.

Speaker: I'll tell you what, there have been some YouTubers who sing a song well enough that they get copyright struck. Oh,

Speaker 2: interesting. One of my favorite songs from Sir Mixa lot, a lesser known one called Square Dance Rap.

Speaker: You're making shit up,

Speaker 2: I swear. And it was where his voice was sped up. It sounded like, haha, if you think your partner's fine, grab her Where the sun don't shine.

That's the first lines of the song, sir. Makes a lot. I think there, if we listen to the words of a lot of the music we listen to growing up, all of them, it's way, 'cause people complain that today's music is like, oh, it's so graphic, so vulgar. Did you not listen to the music on the radio? Uh, yeah. And like the,

Speaker: I [00:09:00] I,

Speaker 2: go ahead.

Speaker: I remember Candy Shop in fifth grade. And being like, that's aggressive. Mm-hmm. And then having my then boyfriend say, oh, you should check out the music video. And I was like, ah. Yeah. So graphic. I

Speaker 2: remember someone saying, Hey, listen to uh, pull my hair from the yin yang twins.

Speaker 4: No, no.

Speaker 2: Like, it goes, I remember when it was like I got a 10 inch pole to put it in your hole.

You're like, something like,

Speaker 4: what does this mean? Come out your nose,

Speaker 2: fall all over your clothes. It was bad. It was there. That's what does mean, does this mean? Yeah. And I, I was like, okay. I owned, okay, uh, I owned the VHS of Bel biv DeVos, uh, album.

Speaker 4: You told me. Yeah. It's crazy. Do me

Speaker 2: anyhow. Two live crew.

Speaker 4: Oh my God.

That

Speaker 2: was not good.

Speaker: You know what, let's get to our story, please.

Speaker 2: All right. But I had, I just, I could do a whole concert, a whole episode talking about boy [00:10:00] benzo. 'cause that's, wait, wait. Um, we've talked about Boy Ben already. I know we went on, on a, on a rift about this book. Yes. But if you could see a boy band other than N Sink or Backstreet Boys, which one would you wanna see live?

Like a revival?

Speaker: I don't know. I didn't, those were the two ones. I listened. Who would you pick?

Speaker 2: Well, uh, one of 'em has, I think the lid Syner died, so I can't say that one. But, uh, LFO you wrote LFO? Oh

Speaker: yes, I do remember.

Speaker 2: Which by the way, their al that was a, I stand by. It was a great album. The, the, the song, the, uh, new Kids on the Block and a bunch of hits a bunch.

That one was not. Do you

Speaker: remember the dirty version of that p? The, yeah. Uh, get me Outta Here.

Speaker 2: But that was the worst song on the album. People only know them as that song, but like Girl on TV with Jennifer Love Hewitt, I believe was in the video. I think I failed for the Girl on tv. I remember that. [00:11:00] Um, wish for you on a falling Star wondering where you're, do I ever crush your mind in the Warm Sunshine?

She's from the City of Angels, like Betty Davis. No, no. I'm looking at

Speaker: the boy bands who I would. I don't like any of these

Speaker 4: people.

Speaker 2: I liked, uh, I actually really liked, uh, what an o town.

Speaker: Oh really? The hair, because I want it. Oh, nothing

Speaker 2: at all. God. So good.

Speaker: I see. And I didn't do one direction. That was, I was too old for that.

Speaker 2: No. Yeah, that, that's, uh, those are for the youngins. It's for,

Speaker: those are for the children.

Speaker 2: That's for like older Gen Z

Speaker: and then there's 98 degrees. But Che's a punk.

Speaker 2: Yeah, I know. I like 98 degrees. My uh, back before they were big and it's actually kind of a stupid, it's a such a stupid song, but invisible man.[00:12:00]

It's like a hit so hard as a 12-year-old. That one. No, no. The um, I wish you'd look at me that way. Your beautiful eyes looking deep into mind more than any words could say. But you don't even know I'm alive, baby. To you all. I'm is the invisible man.

Speaker: That was so beautiful.

Speaker 2: Thank I Everyone can tell. Gonna get his

Speaker: copyright struck.

For sure. That just on everyone, how good

Speaker 2: of a singer I am. Some people like when, like there's so many people that are content creators that actually have ama, like Elise Meyers randomly has this amazing voice.

Speaker: Uh, yeah, a lot of them do. Britney bro, you see it all the time. King sing Really well, what?

Speaker 2: Fuck right?

Like, how did this happen? Get outta there. And then there's me,

Speaker: and then there's you who sings exactly how you think.

Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.

Speaker: Mm-hmm. You know, the, the nine, remember the when 98 Degrees? Well, actually it wasn't [00:13:00] 90, it was just Nick Leche when he came out with what's Left of me Soul crushing. And then his now wife was in the music video, but then there was this big controversy because him and Jessica Simpson said they were not gonna make music about their breakup.

And he did it anyways.

Speaker 2: Did it Anyways.

Speaker: Apparently he has quite the temper. He's punched out a paparazzi before.

Speaker 2: Well, I feel bad at the time. I had no idea. Well, Jessica Simpson went, went through for her body and stuff. Like they, she was like so absurdly thin and people were like, oh, she needs to lose some weight.

Like that, that era means where

Speaker: you look back and you're like, you looked great. Yeah. Um, also he was a dick to her. Yeah. On uh, the newlyweds. Mm-hmm. Like, he's so rude and mean to her. You're like, Ew, you're 98 degrees. Get out of here. She's a much bigger star than you get out of here. Yeah.

Speaker 2: There's so many things we look back at where like at the time it was like, yeah, that's a normal, healthy relationship.

I know. And that you're like, oh God, we

Speaker: didn't see a single healthy relationship. We didn't have a chance. [00:14:00]

Speaker 2: Let's, uh, they brought up before I made a video about it a long time ago, but Bridgette Jones diary.

Speaker 5: Mm-hmm.

Speaker 2: How she was, the whole movie's about her being overweight and she has like 135 pounds. Well,

Speaker: it's

Speaker 2: God, I, I mean, I don't, I don't know though.

I don't wanna say the whole movie's about that, but that's like a theme in the huge, it's a theme in the movie, right? It's how they called.

Speaker: It's the same thing in the, uh, love actually. Oh, love actually, Natalie. Mm-hmm. They're like, she's huge. Mm-hmm. And you're like, where? God, what? The Body Society

Speaker 2: sucks.

God, I gotta make an album. I gotta make an album.

Speaker: God help. What would be on that album? Mm-hmm. Okay. Let's get to what we're actually supposed to talk about today. So this is a couple, you know, I love the couples videos. God love it.

Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.

Speaker: Um, and the singing is bad and the lyrics are bad. And everything about it makes me mad.

Ooh. I rhymed.

Speaker 2: Wow.

Speaker: Holy [00:15:00] shit. You,

Speaker 2: you should make a spoken word poetry album.

Speaker: I know. I might do spoken word.

Speaker 2: I actually do have a spoken word album.

Speaker: No.

Speaker 2: Yeah. Back when I was like a touring slam poet.

Speaker: Send me it. I need it.

Speaker 2: It used to be on iTunes for a long time. Can I find

Speaker: it?

Speaker 2: It's not there anymore. You can find my poetry online though.

Like there's, there was a, there, I've been featured on a few podcasts from like, wait years and years ago from,

Speaker: I can't wait.

Speaker 2: You can find it. Oh,

Speaker: I'll find it.

Speaker 2: I'll send, I'll send it to you. I'm a little worried. I'm like, God, I, I don't think I wrote like, you know, this is 20 years ago. So got those. You just have this antiga poem.

It's this word. No, no, no.

Speaker: Lesbians suck. I'm like, oh my god, Jessica,

Speaker 2: if I ever meet a lesbian named Reagan

Speaker: Butcher in the throat,

Speaker 2: whoa. And then she'll say, wow, you are the goat. That's how my poetry went. It was weird Rhymes. It just like really forced rhyming into, I did have one, one poem about that. It was meant to be a critique on how we [00:16:00] view, how we treat homeless people as invisible.

Mm-hmm. But it was about an experience, a true experience of a homeless man masturbating on the bus next to me.

Speaker 4: Not where I thought that was going.

Speaker 2: No. And so I don't, I don't know if that one is, uh, is gonna hold up the test of time, but I, I do remember the purpose of it was like, we treat homeless people.

Terrible.

Speaker 4: That's true.

Speaker 2: Anyways,

Speaker: anyways, we can

Speaker 2: cut that part out if we need to.

Speaker: I was gonna make a joke about, oh, is he the invisible man? Full circle?

Speaker 2: I did not wish he'd look at me at all.

Speaker: Not, not in the midst of it,

Speaker 2: to be fair. It was, it's a true story. And I was a little boy on the bus and I knew what was happening.

Oh, no. Public transportation, living in the city, city life. City life, boys, city life. It's what it is. And so, um, nobody stepped in, which I understand to an extent, but

Speaker: so

Speaker 2: could have used smell here, boys could have used. I was, I [00:17:00] was like five feet away and, and just like frozen in fear looking the other direction.

Anywho,

Speaker: just a little trauma dump from Checo. There we go. Anyways, here's a V Boys parody that I hate.

Speaker 5: Everybody. What?

Speaker 2: Good so far.

Speaker 5: Don't get

everybody. I'm sleeping on the couch tonight. It's a trap run for your life. Oh my God, she's mad again. I'm not

Speaker 7: mad for a thousand. Sign

Speaker 5: the paper now. We're more than friends. I'm always in trouble. Don't know why. No,

Speaker 4: you're in trouble.

Speaker 5: Always got a warning for your single life is fine. Yeah. Is she always aggy?

Yeah. Does she always wanna Yeah. Is she [00:18:00] sexual? No. She took everything from me. Better signup. Now, every

Speaker 6: Why do

Speaker: you

Speaker 6: do that?

Speaker: What, what, what? What if you can't tell from the sound of that they kind of tried to get out of

Speaker 3: being

Speaker: like him being an asshole by having it actually be her dream. Right. So he didn't actually sing that.

That was a dream she had.

Speaker 2: Right. But Reagan, you can't critique this. It's comedy. Oh, you can't say it's, it's, it's anything, any underlying messages, no matter how toxic and it, it's forgiven. It's meant to be funny.

Speaker: They're like, you can laugh at it. It was all a dream. I'm like, oh, that does not take away from anything.

He said,

Speaker 2: if anything, it was her, it was in her head. Reagan. Yeah. She's the problem. She's the real toxic one.

Speaker: The only part that's well written that I thought was like, oh, that's kind of funny, if it wasn't terrible, is like, is is it, is she sexual? And then they're like, no. [00:19:00] Which, that's the only part where they use the lyrics in a funny manner.

The rest of it was just hating women. But even

Speaker 2: that one though, if when you connect it to what these conversations are always around, right. Is really nefarious. Yeah. Because it's always like, uh, how dare she withhold sex from me? How dare she not give me what I want? And it, 'cause that's really what the, 'cause you're right, the, the tie in is funny on the surface.

He uses

Speaker 4: the lyrics. Yeah, yeah. In a, in a funny way.

Speaker 2: But when you actually discuss what these, like, you know, these conversations are always about right. It's like, God, can you believe it? She won't give it up.

Speaker: She's not having sex with me. Huh? Boys must be her fault. Yeah. I was just like, it's, it, it kills me on many levels.

Just we can talk about what it means, like the, the subtext of what is being said. Right. But just on the basis of a parody, it's bad, like the lyric, it doesn't line up like where the lyrics should be. It's just like, how do I hate on my wife?

Speaker 2: I think if you want to, uh, I think [00:20:00] I set the bar pretty low for how bad singing can be.

Speaker: He was auto-tuned to death. Oh. Like, yeah.

Speaker 2: Oh yeah. Mm-hmm.

Speaker: Sir. Cannot hold the tune.

Speaker 2: Yeah. I, um, I, I just, it's not, I think my biggest issue with it, it's like, oh no. Um, a husband who hates being married again because it's so bad. Never heard that joke before. Marriage is the worst. All she ever does is nag. Mm.

What is this? 1990 sitcom for every single joke that's ever made.

Speaker: Yeah. Signed. We signed a paper. Now we're more than friends. She's always nagging. She always wants to fight. She's not sexual. She took everything from me. Better sign a prenup. Really? Well, it's, it's also just like, I, I, I don't understand this.

Mm-hmm. Here's where I'm at. A loss.

Speaker 2: Let me know. Let me hear it. Fill me in.

Speaker: I,

Speaker 2: I, lemme see if I can elucidate on this and help you out here

Speaker: Elucidate. What'd you say? [00:21:00] Do you mean illuminate?

Speaker 2: No, I'm sticking with it. Go ahead.

Speaker: Elucidate.

Speaker 2: Elucidate. Make something clear or explain.

Speaker: I've never heard that word before.

I'm an idiot.

Speaker 2: I'm frozen.

Speaker: I You're frozen. I'm an idiot. Here we are. And here we are. But I

Speaker 2: did use the word correctly. I'm, you made me,

Speaker: I had a fever two days ago. Leave me alone.

Speaker 2: Now let me elucidate something. I was, I even saying, sorry for using my big, my, my big professor words on you. Don't use your

Speaker 4: big words in here.

Speaker 2: Just go, this is not what our podcast is about.

Speaker: I'm wearing plaid. Come on. Any who? I don't understand how women get behind couples content where the joke is how much their husband hates them. I am at a loss.

Speaker 2: It's, it's just, it's like I said, it's just so old. Why, why? It's not funny. Oh, you hate your [00:22:00] wife.

That's not funny.

Speaker: But the thing is like, you know that, that, that type of consent is for men, right. Who hate their wives,

Speaker 2: who actually genuinely hate their wives. Yeah. Yes. And

Speaker: you are participating in that. Mm-hmm. Like obviously we could critique him all day and we do. Right. But I just mean as a woman, like how do you rationalize that in your head?

Mm-hmm. Like, I guess you make money. Mm-hmm. And that's enough, but just like making content where your husband is making a joke at your expense to mm-hmm. Millions of people.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

Speaker: How does that feel? Good.

Speaker 2: I think part of it is when, like, it, if these jokes have been said at, when they're hanging out with friends and everyone's laughing and they're like, oh, well if I don't laugh at this, then I am, I'm a wet blanket.

Right. I have to think this is okay. Like, 'cause it's also, it goes back to a theme we've brought up multiple times in like the Golf Widow episode and things like that where it's like, oh well, okay, well everyone's life, everyone's in a relationship where their, their partner hates them every, [00:23:00] everywhere their partner feels like, and then also it's their way of being like, oh, that it's buying into the gaslighting of like, of like, oh yeah, I guess I do nag a little bit too much.

I guess maybe I should, uh, maybe, maybe I shouldn't complain about him doing, leaving me alone with the kids seven days a week and going golfing for 12 hours on the weekend and not helping out with any of the housework. Yeah. And not doing it. Maybe I am being a little much, 'cause it clearly every, everybody else thinks this is funny.

So that must just be, it's just me being sensitive,

Speaker: I guess. Like maybe it's every, just like a. Universal gaslighting. Everybody's gaslighting each other. Yeah. But I just am like, she's playing into it. She's playing along with it. She's like, I'm a part of the joke. I'm like, mm-hmm. Oh. I mean, maybe it is like I'm a cool

Speaker 2: wife, like

Speaker: I'm a cool girl.

Like I get the joke. I think it's funny.

Speaker 2: I think it's very funny. So I'm the best one,

Speaker: and then I'm like at the end, total cop out to make it a dream. Like if you wanna say that, stand by it, but to be like, yeah. [00:24:00] Oh, it's just her dream. Like now you're trying to appeal to both men and women. Like women would be mad at it happening and men who think it's funny that it did.

Speaker 2: Right. And how dare you. Use this song.

Speaker: That's our biggest grievance.

Speaker 2: How dare you for

Speaker: this Evil?

Speaker 2: Use everybody. Which was their first real big hit. Yeah. Wasn't it? Hold on real quick. I need to look up what their first, uh,

Speaker: I knew you were gonna get stuck on that.

Speaker 2: I'm, I can't, I'm not gonna be able to move past it.

We've got it going on. What made it to the, was their first one on the charts.

Speaker 4: We've got it going on for years.

Speaker 2: Oh, okay. No. Their first hit was the one that, that one's, the first one that charted their first hit was, I'll Never Break your Heart. I'll never

Speaker 4: make you cry. Over. You don't remember that one? Not by that rendition.

Speaker 2: Oh. Then quit playing games with my heart. Oh, that's

Speaker 4: a great one. [00:25:00]

Speaker 2: Yeah. Uh, then everybody was there.

They had other singles in which I'm looking at the big ones. Yeah.

Speaker 4: Quit playing games with, with my heart. Playing games with, with

Speaker 2: my heart. My heart. Sometimes I feel so sad to keep you or something to keep you coming back to me. Just everything. I just stop saying

Speaker 4: please. We're gonna lose viewers off of this.

Speaker 2: No one's still listening at this point.

Speaker 4: I, I have, I have saying like, six socks. I should have known this. This is exactly how this would go. It's gonna

Speaker 2: be, uh, this is actually the whole purpose of this episode is to announce our new double CD coming out. Checo Ruins the hits.

Speaker: Yeah, I back on topic because we should be Oh, okay.

Speaker 2: Fine.

Speaker: I honestly think it's very nefarious that couples do shit like this. Like couples that are [00:26:00] clearly together make money together. Mm-hmm. You have to enjoy each other on some level. I would say probably, um, if your content isn't solely, although I guess, you know, probably a lot of 'em hate each other to be fair.

Mm-hmm. But like to promote this type of content mm-hmm. Knowing that what it is is like getting laughs off of women.

Speaker 3: Right.

Speaker: And like the joke is you hate each other. Like, it's such a weird way to make money. Mm-hmm. And I feel like there's no, nothing good that comes from it. Like women are validated in the sense of they think, oh, this is normal.

Mm-hmm. And men also feel validated, like, oh, hating my wife is normal and, and acceptable. I think acceptable is the main

Speaker 2: right. It plays a role in normalizing really toxic relationships, right? Mm-hmm. Or even, even non marriages, but people staying in stuff and realizing, uh, because they're like, oh no, I guess this is, this is as good as it gets.

Speaker 4: Mm-hmm.

Speaker 2: Right? It's, he doesn't, he's not cheating on me.

Speaker 4: At least. He is not cheating. [00:27:00]

Speaker 2: It's not abusing me like overtly.

Speaker 4: Yeah.

Speaker 2: Just really subtly under the surface abuse, which is like, okay, because everyone's talking about it and laughing about it. It's, it's funny.

Speaker: It's so funny and like, you know, they know it's bad 'cause they added the dream park.

They they know it shitty. They're like, no, it's, I'm just like, Ew, stop it. It's not funny to hate your wife. Like, it's not cute. Like, it's not acceptable. Like, I, I can't imagine if my wife was making like, content about how much she hates me. Like what?

Speaker 2: Yeah. I go back to, I think the most offensive part about this is that it's such an old joke if you're gonna be hateful and like bigoted, not bigoted, but like.

Hateful in some way. If you're gonna be problematic in some way, at least be creative about it. Right. That's, there was, um, Anthony Snick is a, I brought him up before when, when we were talking about Matt Rife, right. And he says really controversial stuff, but he gets away with it often, or he is not, hasn't been quote unquote canceled because he is funny.

It's, he's funny. He is genuinely funny. Like when you do [00:28:00] stu, when you do stuff like this, you're relying not on, uh, it, it's not, not on being funny. You're relying on people recognizing it. Oh, this is familiar. Yes, I know this joke. I know that this is a song and a joke. I know. Now I'm triggered. Now I have to laugh.

Ha, you did a good one. You right. Lemme share this with my friends who also hate their wives. We all hate our wives. Is this fun? Let's all go out to dinner and have a let's have a a, a friend dinner together and we can all laugh about how much we hate each other and about how unhappy we all are. Ha ha

Speaker: ha.

Oh, speaking of tired conversations. Let's talk about your video. I could do that.

Speaker 8: I have an allowance and that's a very loosely used word. If I am gonna go plant shopping and my husband gives me $400, I'm not trying to spend all $400. Right.

Speaker 9: That's why I'm comfortable giving you $400. Right, because you don't spend it like that all the time.

There's almost always a, a bring home.

Speaker 8: [00:29:00] Yes. We walked the, we walked San Jose for the day. Yeah. We hit a couple of little shops, and then we ended up at the Jade Museum. You gave me $300 for the day. I spent half of it. You spent less than half. It was 40. I spent one 40. Yeah. I wanted to spend,

Speaker 9: right. Oh my gosh.

Right. Okay. So here's, here's the reality of that. And when I give you that kind of money to go do an outing Yeah. If you did spend it all, it's not the end of the world. Mm-hmm. If you found something you absolutely had to have and you wanted to blow all that money on, I don't care. I gave it to you to spend.

But knowing that I can give you an a large sum of money to go shopping and do whatever you wanna do for playtime, and knowing that there's gonna be money coming back allows me to, to be like that. Because in my head there's a running total. It's not, I have no idea what the running total is, but I know that if I handed you a thousand dollars, you're not spending the full thousand bucks.

Right. And I view that as your next time I have more to, there's extra. Right. It rolls over. Right. It's exactly. But in my head, that's one of those things too, that I know that if you ever did spend that shit, you're gonna be happy as fuck.

Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.

Speaker 9: Like I, 'cause you don't do [00:30:00] that. I just had to have this thing.

Well, fucking hell yeah, babe. I'm glad you got it right. That's where my head is with that.

Speaker 8: And there's also a trust in that.

Speaker 9: Right.

Speaker 8: It feels good to know that, you know, you say I can spend $500 and I'm not gonna come back home and be like, I spent eight. Right?

Speaker 9: Well, that was a very real concern for me.

Speaker 8: Yeah.

Speaker 9: Um, because I've had people in my life where that's been the thing, you know? And, and for people who are on a budget, that kind of shit can fuck up your entire life.

Speaker 2: I'll say it's not, the visual is not what you'd expect from, uh, from this. I think if, if I was listening to audio, I think, oh, is this like a trad wife kind of situation?

Right. Go ahead and look at,

Speaker: whoa. Talk about a spooky jump scare. Right. I

Speaker 2: was not, and she's, to be clear, she's not mocking how they look. She's like, it's not, these ideals do not normally match the. Faces of people. Okay.

Speaker: There's [00:31:00] a, the man is, he's an older tatted up guy with a big beard.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. Face tattoos. Face

Speaker: tattoos. He's, yeah. And then she is a young, um, tatted up kind of alt looking girl, but there's definitely a big age gap here.

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker: But their whole seemingly podcast is about them as a couple.

Speaker 2: Yeah. And it can I, the number, I mean, actually not the number one thing. There's, I don't wanna rank 'cause there's a lot of terrible things to talk about in this clip. They, they are doing this podcast together. That means I'm assuming they're earning an income from this podcast.

What does she not get money from the, the show they're doing together?

Speaker: The second I heard his voice come in, I was like, uhoh. Mm-hmm. Uh oh. Mm-hmm. Yeah. I mean, exactly. Yeah. Like that would be shared income.

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker: Why does she [00:32:00] need an allowance? And they're like, it's not an allowance 'cause it's a large sum of money.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

Speaker: Um, yeah. But he, he says like, almost explicitly, he expects that you don't spend it all, but you could. But,

Speaker 2: and the only reason I'm comfortable doing this is 'cause I know you won't spend it all

Speaker: because she probably hasn't in the past. Yeah.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. And this is the, the thing I hate Mo because I, I responded with a different video a long time ago about allowance, the idea of an allowance for your partner.

And I actually got some pushback from people that were like, oh no, it's about budget. I'm like, no, no, no. A partnership. You budget together. You can talk about stuff like, my wife and I talk about finances all the time. It's what we have to do, like, about like, oh, can we afford to buy this? Can we afford to fix this other thing?

Can we afford to do X, Y, and Z? That happens all the, that, that's what you do as adults.

Speaker 3: Yes.

Speaker 2: Right. I have been the, the sole income earner for most of our marriages. Like when we got married, she was in graduate school. Right. Uh, and I purposefully, like at, at the time we even talked, we had a discussion about it.[00:33:00]

We purposefully did a single account with no, kind of like separate things on the side because I never ever wanted her to feel like she had to ask me for money.

Speaker 3: Right. I

Speaker 2: never wanted her to feel like she had to. And I know there, um, there, there's another, there's a valid other argument of separate accounts that I don't wanna discount that there's not.

But in, in a situation where you are a sole income, uh, household, where you are a single income household, uh, the idea that I, I never, ever wanted to be in a situation, and also the things my wife wanted to do, uh, and she has done for work, uh, are, it's not high paying things like she's, she's interested in doing jobs that are not really.

Uh, lucrative. Uh, and so I never ever wanted her to feel like, oh, you have to ask me for money. Like any dollar I make is our money. Yeah. Anything that comes into our bank account is money. And it's, and I'm not saying that like, just 'cause Oh, 'cause you're supposed to say things. She's absolutely been the reason why I've been able to grow [00:34:00] online.

Right. She has been absolutely been the reason why I've been able to start making extra money. And it's not like, uh, on the periphery. Right. Right. It's not there. It is literally a core part of, of us being as a family, being able to grow has been the fact that she's, she does what she does like in her life.

Like she has a full part of this.

Speaker: I think that's an important thing to point out is that like, no, it, it's not that they're adding to your life, like your life cannot happen in the way that it does without them. Just like any, like if a guy is a higher up, like a CEO or the primary breadwinner or whatever, like.

You getting to do everything that you do is because you have all this other shit off your plate. Like you could not be a father without your wife at home who is doing the pickup and doing the activities and making sure the homework gets done and making sure that the meals like this is of course in the case of like a traditional kind of setup.

Right,

Speaker 3: right.

Speaker: I prefer when it's like more mixed, but like I'm just saying, there's so many men who would not [00:35:00] be far in their career without their wives, which is why it's so fucked up when a lot of them go for their second wife or whatever and it's like, hey, you wouldn't have had that. Like, well, she didn't bring money in.

It's like she facilitated your lifestyle. She is why you were able to do that.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. And that's why it also annoys me when people, like, when guys complain about like having to pay like, uh, alimony or something like that. Uh, because like literally. You, you're, because like, like let's say, God forbid something were to happen between my wife and I and we were to split up, right?

She absolutely. 'cause not, not only then is she starting her, whatever career she goes into after this, from like 20 years behind where she would've been, uh, would've got the, the money. Like I said, the business that I get to, to now have on my own was, like I said, built as a direct result of being in that relationship with her.

And so she should get half of everything going forward for the fir, you know, for, for maybe forever, right? Because if, if I'm earning [00:36:00] from this thing that we built together, she absolutely should. And also the financial, uh, the fact that she's now behind in whatever career earnings she's gonna have as a result of building this thing is also why she should get money.

And it's, it's stupid to complain about it. 'cause I think they just don't view it's, I mean, it all comes down to the underlying view. They don't value the work. Of what she is doing outside of it. She, they don't value her as a partner. They don't value the person they married as a partner. And if you can't see it that way, then I don't, you probably shouldn't get married to begin with.

Speaker: Yeah. Probably shouldn't get married. I, um, it's interesting, I, so I was just looking into like, these two are absolutely, like both co-hosts, like both 100% dedicated to this podcast. And it's just, it's interesting, like, I think to me it's the idea that you need it to be thought of as an allowance. Mm-hmm.

Like where you can't see it as these are our funds and then I'm gonna spend, I'm gonna spend the idea that I, as the [00:37:00] man give you a number. I'm gonna give you a number that actually you can probably go over and I'm gonna give you a number, but I ho expect that you'll probably go under. So it's almost like the number is completely irrelevant.

Like, so why would we do that rather than just have access

Speaker 2: and just having trust that your, your partner's not going to frivolously throw money at random things that you, they, that there was, you, you, the only way you do this is if you don't respect your partner as an adult.

Speaker: Well, I, it's like a power trip.

Like he's saying it's irrelevant, like it spend whatever you want. So why not then just give her access to money and not call it an allowance. Right. Right. But it's because there's a power trip to it. 'cause

Speaker 2: he wants that power Yeah. Dynamic over it. Yeah. And

Speaker: there, I mean clearly there's an age gap, which as we know

Speaker 2: mm-hmm.

Speaker: Uh, I think has the power dynamic comes into play.

Speaker 2: And, and just 'cause the, going back to like the idea of like fi uh, budgeting as a, as partners, like there [00:38:00] was a, there was definitely a time where my wife and I both said together, we're like, okay, we each can afford. To spend a hundred dollars on like whatever the hell we want this month.

Mm-hmm. That's like, that's what we know we have as like bonus money this month to do. And then we, you know, decide as a, as a partnership to decide, okay, can we buy a new chair? Can we buy a new tv? Can we, whatever it is, you know, any of the bigger purchases, we would decide it together. But it's also, I guarantee you, does he get an allowance?

Speaker 4: Yeah. Right. Exactly. No,

Speaker 2: it's not, it's not like, uh, if, if it's one thing, if, if like, okay, we are both knowing as healthy adults in a equal partnership, we know what we can spend, right? We've decided this together versus I can buy whatever the fuck I want and you can just, uh, take some this little pittance of my money and I want you to make sure that you spend less than it.

So I can see that you're grateful. For me even allowing you to have that much. It's gross.

Speaker: I don't like it. I don't like it. [00:39:00] Mm-hmm. Uh, I

Speaker 2: don't like it.

Speaker: The, the woman in the podcast is 27, 2 years older than his daughter or one of his daughters.

Speaker 2: Well, that checks out. He's like, well, just

Speaker: another kid in allowance.

Speaker 2: Yeah. Women your age, like allowances. Right. This isn't the first time I've heard people talking like this. Mm-hmm. Uh, about it. And they're like, what's easier for me than I don't have to worry about it. I don't have to think about it. I'm like, mm-hmm. Okay. You can do that in a way that's not gross. You can do that in a way that doesn't prey on the power dynamic.

Yeah. Of like, I am bestowing you this money gift A gift for you child. A gift for you child. Yeah. Like literally. It's such a Yeah. And the word allowance.

Speaker: Yeah. That gets me that one. I don't like

Speaker 2: that. Just, it's gotta be, I don't know.

Speaker: I, I feel like wanting to use that term with someone who's meant to be your equal.

Is telling.

Speaker 3: Yeah.

Speaker: Now, could someone use it and not be nefarious? Maybe, but I'm just saying [00:40:00] if two adults need to, and the man more specifically needs to tell his partner in life that she gets an allowance. Mm-hmm. Versus like, this is our budget, you know, this is what we have. It's like, ah. I mean, and maybe we're getting in sugar daddy territory.

Maybe that's kind of at play here, but

Speaker 2: mm-hmm.

Speaker: I have another video we could talk about.

Speaker 2: Okay, let's do it.

Speaker: Did you see, I know you saw this, the woman who got her lunch bag packed by her husband.

Speaker 2: No, I didn't see this. Oh,

Speaker: you didn't see this? It's caused an uproar. No. Well, I wanna talk about the second video.

So I've been

Speaker 2: dealing with, uh, my being an internet scandal this past week. So,

Speaker: ah, yes. I, I caught this right before I caught the fever. So it, I got it. And then I was dead for a couple days, and when I came back to life, there was a second video that made me feel even worse.

Speaker 2: Quick to clarify, I wasn't actually in an internet scandal.

I was on the [00:41:00] periphery of one where I did nothing wrong. Let's go. I don't wanna get into that. That's a whole, that's what they'll say.

Speaker: Jessica, if

Speaker 2: you wanna hear like some of my, uh, uh, uncensored opinions on what the, what happened with that, you can hear our pre-show on Patreon,

Speaker: so I, I might just sum it up because I feel like we don't need to see the whole thing.

Okay. So basically she's like, I forgot my lunch. So my husband packed it for me. She opens up her bag, she pulls out a full bag of Milano cookies. She pulls out like a pretzel bag where there's only crumbs.

Speaker 5: Okay.

Speaker: A full bag of Pringles. None of this is like in like bags. This is all just like, yeah. Uh,

Speaker 2: so like a, so like a standard lunch so far.

Go ahead.

Speaker: A, a ripped open like waffle cookie that barely has cookies in it. What she calls is two day old Chipotle.

Speaker 2: Okay.

Speaker: Um, and then at the very bottom is dog food in a Ziploc bag [00:42:00] that says, because you're my dog, ple. And then it says, please bring home, because basically the dogs will be outta food, but dog is spelt DAWG.

Speaker 2: That makes it funny then.

Speaker: Thank God you clarified.

Speaker 2: I thought he spelled it D-O-G-D-A-W. He's like,

Speaker: because you're my dog. You're my dog. No, you

Speaker 2: my dog.

Speaker: Yeah. Also, these are the whitest of white people I'd like to Course, they're, to clarify, that should be obvious to you

Speaker 2: that, uh, they said, dog, that was the least shocking thing of this entire, uh, explanation.

Well,

Speaker: and she's a teacher, like, ugh. So everybody of course is just like weaponized incompetence. Like Yeah, he doesn't wanna make your lunches clearly. Like, and the thing that got me is with the dog food, like, uh, obviously that's bad enough, but he showed us he has the skill to take. A

Speaker 5: bigger pad, put stuff into it and put it in

Speaker: a Ziploc.[00:43:00]

And even to write a double note, like he put so much time and attention into this joke.

Speaker 2: The joke, yeah. And zero

Speaker: time attention into packing this lunch,

Speaker 2: he spent an hour thinking of the funniest thing, and then he goes, oh, shit, I actually put, I about real food in here too. Uh, okay. Blah, blah, blah, blah.

Speaker: And then like other people online, of course, are like showing the good lunches their husband's make and like, dude, this guy does not like you.

Like he's showing you how little care he has for you. Mm-hmm. That this is how he packs your lunch. And I, I agree. I don't think it shows a ton of care. I think it shows like the joke is more important than the food. And like at their old age, which is, they're younger than me, but like, they're a grown adult.

Well, maybe they're age right? But they're grown adults. So it's like at that age. The food should be more important than like the zinger with the dog food bag.

Speaker 2: Right. Right. Also, if you're a teacher, you need good, a good lunch because it's Yes. It's exhausting. Right? Like it is. It is very tiring.

Speaker: [00:44:00] So the most predictable thing happens

Speaker 2: Uhhuh,

Speaker: which is she's gotta come out and defend her man.

Speaker 2: Of course. Of course she does.

Speaker: Even though the whole video is about like, oh my God, this is a lunch my husband made and like laughing at him and rolling her eyes. Right? Like as soon as she's getting actual heat

Speaker 3: mm-hmm.

Speaker: It's not funny anymore. The haha is not funny.

Speaker 7: It's the lunchbox girl. Okay. The explanation y'all have all been waiting for, it's time to explain what happened this weekend and just, I cannot even process that.

I'm making this video right now. Okay. So a few people, uh, 30 million to be exact and more 'cause it's been posted. Other platforms have seen the video of me. Unpacking the lunch, the dog food that my husband packed me. And most of you, half of you, three-fourths, 75% hated it. You thought it [00:45:00] was horrific, horrible.

And the worst thing that's ever happened to anybody. I'm here to explain it. Okay? Number one, the, the dog food. He spelled it. Yes. His handwriting is horrible. Yeah, it is. You're right. Y'all are so pressed that he called me a dog. He, he did not call me a DOG dog. DOG, like a dog that has a leash. He did not call me that.

DAWG dog as in homie American slang for homie. That's what we call each other. It's a joke. JOKE.

Speaker: Just so y'all know, that's American flying for homie.

Speaker 2: I hate so much that my actual joke was the explanation. I hate, it's

Speaker: not over by the way.

Speaker 2: I, I know, but I, I, I, I'm hoping it's not, uh, but I hate so much [00:46:00] that the thing I just said, mocking the original video

Speaker: Yeah.

Speaker 2: Was used as the genuine explanation.

Speaker: There's already the spin where it's like, y'all think is the worst thing in the world, the worst thing that's ever happened. And it's like, no, nobody's said that. But we do think, literally not, but we do think it's worthy of critique. And then for her to just be like. It's dog, not dog. Like

Speaker 2: girl.

Speaker: I know. Like we're dumb.

Speaker 2: It's I-D-J-U-T. Sorry, I don't wanna muck accents. Maybe take that out.

Speaker: No, I, that was kind of funny. Um, but this idea that like, we're all stupid. You guys are dumb. You didn't get that. It was, it's like, hun, that's that. Like that's not the thing that we have the problem with. Would it be worse if he spelt it dog?

DOG? Yeah. Yeah, it would. But there's more than just that, right? Y'all were also so

Speaker 7: pressed that he put it in my lunchbox. That's why he put it in a bag. [00:47:00] So it didn't get on my food. This was at the bottom because he thought of it last and he tried to hide it under the Chipotle so that it would be a surprise.

Because it was funny. It was a joke. He was trying to make me laugh, which it worked. Him and my sister came up with this idea together. My sister thought it was funny too. Moving on. Second, the, no moving on. No, no. Pause. No.

Speaker 2: Yeah. Hold on. I, I need to just mathematically here, geometry wise, uh, it's just order of operations wise.

You do something last. It goes on top.

Speaker: That's right. In a lunchbox.

Speaker 2: If he, if he, that doesn't even make any, oh, he thought this last, that's why it was on the bottom underneath everything else. That's not how, that's not how it works. I'm sorry. I'm so stuck on that.

Speaker: If she, you know, what, had he packed her lunch like a normal person, maybe she could make that argument.

But this sucker was full of bags. Cans. There was no way. Yeah. Like what was the most important [00:48:00] thing to him? The dog. Mm-hmm. The dog joke. Mm-hmm. Uh, but she's definitely like, the tone is so, and it is classic to this type of clap back from these women is so condescending. It's like you all are idiots. Okay.

Right.

Speaker 2: Well, real quick, I I, I do wanna say like, there is a world that exists, not the dog food bar. I think that's where it, it crosses into it, but there's a world that exists where it could be funny. Like, I'm just, I'm just trying to get in the mindset of somebody that, like, some of that does dumb jokes. I do dumb jokes all the time.

Yeah, you're already there. What do you mean? I know, I know. That's what I'm saying. So like, oh, I have to go so

Speaker: deep into my mind.

Speaker 2: Well, let me, let me try to imagine the world of, of someone who's not me, an intellectual, uh, and how, what kind of jokes they might make to that they make their partner laugh or go fa as one may.

Uh, and I, I. I think I could easily see like, oh yeah, that'll be so funny if I just bring her like a trash bag of like random, fully [00:49:00] packaged food or like a, like a grocery bag of like, here you go. Isn't this funny? And like realizing as I'm doing it, like as I wa it would be one thing I could see myself doing something stupid like this.

Not the dog food. I wanna be clear. I do think that is what makes this, but everything else, I could see myself doing it. And then as I walk out of the car toward the building, I'm like, this was a huge mistake I have turn around. I need to go do something else. This was not, I think it's fresh to poke it.

This was not funny. As funny as it in my mind or in real life as I thought it was gonna be. It's

Speaker: also like, it would be maybe funny if you were teenagers and it was like lunch at school or something. Right. But it's her job. Like she's hungry. That's her lunch. You made like, show me you don't care. Like you can care.

It really to me, like I know I'm overanalyzing what's new, but this,

Speaker 2: on this show,

Speaker: Reagan overanalyzing something. The idea that like he put care in the part that he thought counted, which is mm-hmm. This stupid ass joke versus actually giving his wife a nice lunch. Okay. Right. [00:50:00] Let's let her keep going.

Speaker 7: Y'all are all really upset that it was two day old Chipotle. Well, guess what? Teacher brain deceived me. It was actually a day old. It was from the night before. So not even a day old. I said two as a teacher. One day feels like seven. Oh, thank God she cleared that up.

Speaker 2: Because I would, I was gonna say the thing that I thought that was the worst part of the video was that it was two day old Chipotle

Speaker: a day.

Yes. Two days

Speaker 2: a day. I mean, two days though. Jail. You crossed the line. Divorce. Straight to jail. Right? Jail. Yeah. Absolutely. You could have salmonella. Was it sitting out?

Speaker: It's just like, girl, what are these points? But also like, um, here's the other thing. He could've got you fresh Chipotle. Like that would've been nice.

Yeah. He could've just got you fresh. Like that's. It's, it's not the amount of days, like one to two days. Not that big a difference. My girl. Yeah. Also put it in a fricking Tupperware. Let's keep going. It's not over. Okay.

Speaker 7: He brings me lunch once a week. So all of you saying that this is his way of telling you to never [00:51:00] ask again?

No. He brings me lunch once a week. Normally it's like Chick-fil-A or something like that. First day of school, he bought me a bouquet of candy and a bouquet of flowers. Set up a whole screen that said happy first day of school. All the things, he doesn't hate me guys, but the Chipotle, the reason he packed that is because he wasn't planning on bringing me that lunch that day.

I had asked him to bring me lunch 'cause I had forgotten. And he said, what would you like? I said, Chipotle leftovers and snacks. He packed me Chipotle leftovers and snacks. The reason I recorded is because I knew it was gonna be funny how he packed it. I just knew it was gonna be, the dog food was a sweet surprise that made me laugh.

And so that's all I'm gonna say on that. Um, thank you for the love and the hate. Both does the same for me. Um, love you guys, and I know you're already gonna hate me for even coming out with an explanation because it give, gives you a reason not to hate anymore. Um, but if you're here for the teacher content and the qds, [00:52:00] feel free to stay.

If you are not in, you're only here to hate, uh, peace, love, and happiness. And I hope that you find something to find joy in today and not just hate on someone else's life.

Speaker: Might I just say for the outfit of the day, she's got a lot of bangles on and a t-shirt and then like these cream pants, it's giving like crafty Christian.

Speaker 2: Okay. You know what I mean? As someone, as someone with the least fashion sense in the world, I never know if somebody, if you're saying something nice or bad about her.

Speaker: No, I mean, it's, it, it's a very specific look. Yeah. Um, there's a lot of Bengals. Bengals. We all Bengals in the Lord go hand in hand.

Speaker 2: They do.

It was in, allegedly was in Ephesians letter to the, to the Bengals. I think above and beyond her and her, this specific situation, I think people always fail to recognize and she's failing to [00:53:00] recognize the reason it upsets people is because it is symptomatic of bigger societal issue. Right. It's not like if it was one individual person whose husband was incompetent at.

Making a meal. Preparing a meal. And she was, he brings me lunch once a week. He buys me Chick-fil-A. No, he buys your Chick-fil-A once a week. He doesn't make you lunch

Speaker: also, but, or bring,

Speaker 2: yeah. Also,

Speaker: he should be better than, like, he makes it once a week. That doesn't make me comforted.

Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.

Speaker: Like he can't put stuff in zip locks.

I have a feeling this woman makes a good packed lunch. Those bracelets tell me she knows how to pack a performative lunch. You know what I'm saying? Like that nice kind where things are cut out.

Speaker 2: But it's the same thing as like when like somebody will post a video of like the dad giving all the kids like a bag of chips for breakfast.

Yeah. Or something. And then, and then they'll get, they're like, he was just joking. It was one time. He is normally good at this. And it's like, no. Well no, because we, we know he probably does. We know like normally. Typically we see what happens when, when [00:54:00] moms go on a vacation or if they don't leave step-by-step instructions for every single thing that you should as a parent, regardless of gender, regardless of whatever role you are.

You should know how to make breakfast for your children. You should know how to pack a lunch for your partner. You should know what like what their doctor's name is. Like people, uh, that's always the thing. Well, I don't have time. I work. I'm like, I am working two full-time jobs right now.

Speaker 5: Yeah.

Speaker 2: I know their, I know their teacher's names.

I've met their teachers. I know their doctors. I know what they're allergic to. I make them breakfast myself every single morning so my wife can have some time to get ready on her own. Right. That's what you, that's what you should do as a caring partner. Right. That's not above and beyond. That's not.

There's the whole skit on, or the thing on going around TikTok was like princess treatment or bare minimum. Yes.

Speaker 4: Right. Of,

Speaker 2: of, yeah. That's bare minimum.

Speaker 4: Yeah.

Speaker 2: Not knowing like something they're allergic to, not knowing where to take them if there's an emergency, not knowing. X, Y and Z is something that could actually, like, [00:55:00] genuinely harm them in a, in a lasting manner that you're, that you're, you're relying on your partner for.

And that's what these things, why this is so triggering for so many people. Yeah. It's because of the fact that it's, it's a joke about the real world experience that so many people have to go through with incompetent partners with the, when their partner is another child for them.

Speaker: Well, and it's also like I could write a thesis.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

Speaker: On these women, first of all, it's completely predictable the way that that went because it almost always goes that way. Which every single

Speaker 2: time

Speaker: I have a haha funny about my husband just being the worst. Mm-hmm. And then they're like, what? Where's this coming from? You're like, okay, he's

Speaker 2: amazing. How dare you?

Why are you comment on the thing that I posted?

Speaker: Well, that's the thing online, they like critique their husband, but then when the critique is too harsh and not ha ha they get really heated about it and then they come at everybody else to defend their husband. Right. And like, you see this in the real world too.

Just like you were talking about the real world. Mm-hmm. [00:56:00] That ways that we see like men not living up to what they need to. To be a dad. We see that it, like when women are with bad men, I mean any gender mm-hmm. When they're with their bad men, like they will defend them to the death. Mm-hmm. Like they will say a, a bad thing and then you will say, oh yeah, that is kinda shitty.

They're like, whoa, whoa, whoa. No, but here's 5,000 things he does. Right? Yeah.

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker: And it's just like at a, a, a macro scale when it's with all these followers and all these viewers and like, it's just wild to me, the attitude. That they pull, like her attitude in the second one is nasty. Mm-hmm. Like it is, it's

Speaker 2: making fun of the people that were offended.

Yeah. For her. And that's the thing, the people that were mad were like, you, poor thing. Yeah. We feel for you. This sucks for you. We are defending your life. Or that we, I didn't see the video, but like the people that are angry about it are not mocking her. No. They're saying, oh, this sucks for you. Yeah. Oh man, of course you're going through this.

Wow. What a shitty [00:57:00] thing to do to you. And she's like, how fucking dare you?

Speaker: You're stupid. Here's how you're wrong. Here's why my man is great. It's like, but you're the one who opened this door. Mm-hmm. You're the one who wanted to have this conversation. It's such a strange place for women to be like, I used to think that there would be a.

A way to, to get to those women when I would see these things like Oh. Mm-hmm. Maybe if you said the right comment, if you said the right thing. But what you realize is so many of the women that say these kinds of things are deep into it. Like, they aren't looking to get help. They aren't looking to recognize problems in their relationship.

They wanna find the other women who think it's he, he ha ha ha.

Speaker 3: Right.

Speaker: They wanna find the other men who do that shit. Mm-hmm. Like, they're looking for community within themselves. Mm-hmm. And so I used to like waste time, like trying to talk to these women or like, extend a hand, but like, this is, this is how they feel.

You're gonna get the hand slapped. Right. 'cause they're not looking for that. Yeah. What they're looking for [00:58:00] is like, no, you're supposed to laugh with me. Mm-hmm. And if you judge me, how dare you judge me? You don't know my situation. It's like, yeah, but you opened it up.

Speaker 2: You you posted it. Yeah. You did that.

You,

Speaker: you gave us a window into your life. And if we don't have all the context, you didn't give us the context. Mm-hmm. All we have is all you gave.

Speaker 2: Right.

Speaker: So who's it on?

Speaker 2: That happens so much where somebody would be like, you took this clip outta context. I'm like, I posted what they posted. This is 100% of the video on their page.

Well, you didn't go watch the fool hour long thing on YouTube. I was like, I'm, yeah. I don't wanna fucking watch the,

Speaker: I've had that too. People are like, you don't know them. They're them as content creators. I'm like, you're right. I dunno them, I'm not saying I do, but I'm talking about the effect that this video has.

Like, there was this one where the, I found thought the guy was really disrespectful to his pregnant wife. He like didn't help her get out of the car. He was like, I've gotta go get her now. And then like, she made dinner for them and like I understand it was probably [00:59:00] for the video, like him not helping her with so he could film her.

'cause she was like popping. She was ready to, she was probably close to giving birth at that point. I understand that that was probably to capture how, you know, uncomfortable she is. But at the same time, that wouldn't be me. Like, I don't think you should treat your pregnant wife like that. And people are who you have.

They have a whole series, he treats are great. Normally I'm like, I am talking about this video and the impact this video has and these behaviors have, like, one cannot be expected to understand the full context of a creator, but you can still say, this is a shitty tape. This is a shitty way to treat someone regardless of context.

And I think people need to understand their videos don't exist in a vacuum, and their intent for a video doesn't mean that that's what the impact's gonna be.

Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.

Speaker 2: And I've, I've been the, the quote unquote victim of that myself where I'll do something, I'm like, oh, well clearly I'm, I'm not saying this is good, but then I'll go back and listen to it once again and know, because you have to do that.

You have to hear. Okay, how does this [01:00:00] sound If you were first, is, this is the first video you've ever seen of me, right? How is this gonna sound? And there, every once in a while, I don't take down many videos, but every once in a while I'll be like, all right, yeah, I, okay. I did a shitty job communicating that idea across.

I thought that happen. Like I, mm-hmm. I didn't.

Speaker: I'm like, Ooh, that's coming across wrong. I've used the wrong word before. Sometimes I'm just too mad. I had to take it down. Yeah. I'm like too heated. But like, it really showcases to me where their heads are at and like how deep in they are to, it's like, cool girl picked me culture.

Mm-hmm. Where like the joke is, the joke is at the expense of women. You know what I mean? Like the, we're validating these negative beliefs about women. We're like, think, going back to even the original video, like the Backstreet Boys parody. Mm-hmm. It's like, oh, haha. No, I'm in on the joke. I'm a cool, I'm a cool wife.

Like the girl with the, uh, oh, what is it? What'd she call it? The, [01:01:00] um, uh, allowance. The allowance girl. It's like, I'm cool with it. Like, I like having an allowance and then I

Speaker 2: don't care what it's called, I still get an allowance. I get my, it's great. Get my knee. Yeah. Mm-hmm. And then like,

Speaker: you have this, this woman where it's like, I, no, I think it's funny.

Look how funny I, I think it is. Mm-hmm. Look, you guys are the dumb ones. Watch us make videos now about the dog food bag. 'cause that's so cute and hilarious. Mm-hmm. Rather than taking a second and being like, shit, what is the impact of this? Like, how, mm-hmm. How does this impact other people, other couples?

Who are we bringing in? Like, because at the end of the day. What's your audience? Is it who you want to be? I'm happy with who my audience is. I know you've crafted yours as well, and we weed out things by making sure our beliefs are clear, you know? Mm-hmm. Every so often, you and I both will do these, like, Hey, check if you believe in these things.

Get out. Yeah. You know, but whereas like these people, it's like, okay, you have a community of people who think hilarious to hate on your wife. Be, do stupid things, be mm-hmm. You know, have that weaponized incompetence. That's what that was. I don't care how many times he packs [01:02:00] your lunch. Right. He knows to put the, he put the dog food in a bag.

Mm-hmm. He knows to put things in Ziploc or Tupperwares. He didn't care. He just threw it in there. Like I, it is what it was. And like it's, people didn't think it was funny and you did, and that's okay, but that doesn't mean everybody else is stupid.

Speaker 2: You fucking idiots. Itt

Speaker: you itts, you itts. Don't understand what funny is.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. Well, Reagan,

Speaker: yes.

Speaker 2: I think that was a wild ride of an episode.

Speaker: I need everyone to know that Chico officially has a studio and now he's full radio DJ host.

Speaker 2: Yep. That's the thing. I'm gonna start, I'm gonna start a a radio podcast where I just have, you can't actually hear the music 'cause it'll be centered for copyright.

It just means like

Speaker: the whole thing is you dancing 'cause you got copy, right? Yep.

Speaker 2: And then

Speaker: yeah,

Speaker 2: it's me. I have to be throwing in the little parts of the songs I remember. [01:03:00]

Speaker: Okay friends, thank you so much for joining us for today's episode. As you know, we have the Patreon, so check that out. This week we actually dropped some tea if you wanna hear that. Chico's got some piping hot tea on there and he was piping hot about it.

Speaker 2: And once again, I got in trouble for being an article about. Not being a part of something.

Speaker: Yes. He was featured in an article about a group he was not in.

Speaker 2: Yes. And uh, somehow that connected me enough that people, I got spammed with hate comments this week. Great. Because nobody reads a freaking article.

They just, they just look, they skim stop skimming. Well,

Speaker: the articles literally, like, he wasn't in it. It's like, yeah,

Speaker 2: the article literally my only, why were you in it? Mentioned in it. There's no point in me being mentioned. Anyways, I'm gonna go, go on and run. The only point I mentioned is to say this guy got rejected.

He was not part of this. And everyone's like, I think Chacos a part of this.

Speaker: I'm reading between the lines here. Yeah.

Speaker 2: I got put onto two lists, like on my, like, [01:04:00] of people that were like in the group. I'm like, you're so angry you didn't even read the article. I care so much about this. I'm

Speaker: not even reading it.

Yeah. Well check that out on the, and other than that, please check out our socials and we will see you next week.

Speaker 2: Bye. Love you. Bye. Love

Speaker: you.