Hi Antoinette.

Thank you for coming on.

Hi.

Excited to have, thank you for having me.

I was gonna say, excited to have you.

Oh my gosh.

Thank you.

I have been so guilty of

saying stuff like that.

I remember years ago going to

like the movie theater and you

order like food or something, and

they're like, enjoy your movie.

And you're like, thanks, you too.

Yeah, right.

It's just like you're on

autopilot a lot of times.

You're like, oh, you too.

Oh, you too.

Yeah.

Oh my gosh.

It literally happens all the time.

I'm just like, yeah.

And it's funny now, like my daughter's

too, but there's times where I'm like,

oh, I don't even, I'll ask a question.

She just goes, good.

And I'm like, well, that's like

if someone says, how are you?

But it's just like, it's funny.

Anyways, thank you for coming on.

I'm excited to have you here.

I know we were talking before that

I just, I found you on TikTok.

I love your content,

your banter, if you will.

and I think that's just

perfect for this, podcast.

so you are a labor and delivery

nurse by day and you banter

about pop culture at night.

I mean, I don't know if

it's necessarily at night.

Tell us a little more about yourself.

You, and, I'd love to hear more.

I am a day nurse.

'cause you know, there are some

people who only do night shifts.

I'm a day girly.

Okay.

I can't do the night shift stuff.

So I am a labor and delivery nurse by

day, but we do like 12 hour shifts,

so I'm not working every day, so it's

basically like three to four days a week

that I am a labor and delivery nurse.

And then basically at night or the days

I have off, I do, Or if I have a break

or more of my breaks if I try to fit it

in there, then I'll do my TikTok stuff,

which, I actually only started a year ago.

my fiance was like, I loved watching

reality tv, and then I was always

searching for other people's

takes and stuff, and then also

like calling my friends and being

like, oh my God, da da da dah.

And then also telling him because he

also watches with me now, so like, then

I'm like, oh my God, blah, blah, blah.

And he's like, well, I mean,

you're always searching for it.

You're always watching people's takes.

Like, why don't you do your own?

And I was like, mm-hmm.

Okay.

Like, yeah, why not?

So.

Yes.

Yeah.

And then it, the really fun.

What was, what was the first show

or thing in pop culture that either

really took off or the first content

you made about, do you remember?

So the first content I made about

was actually Love Island season six.

Oh, okay.

Yeah.

it honestly like, really, 'cause I

was getting really revved up because

I felt like people were like really

misunderstanding Serena and being

like, oh, she doesn't like Cordell.

And I was like, I think she does, I think

she's just like really protecting herself.

I was like feeling fired up about

it and I was like, okay, fine,

I'm gonna do it on this one.

but I feel like the season it

wasn't Love Island that I think

really spearheaded things.

for me, like, I think I got a lot of

exposure during The Love Is Blind DC

Ooh, I'm trying, yeah.

I, I watched Love Is Blind.

Trying to remember who was on that one.

Lier.

Uh, we call him.

is it Tyler?

I feel like I'm not, I only

call him Lier, because he lied.

Oh my God.

He like had those three children and it

was like, there was all this drama about

like, how he had these two children,

but he called them sper donors and

then his fiance believed him and then

his baby mama came out to be like, no.

the first one was a sperm donor

situation, but the other two were not.

we made those ourselves.

Wow.

Yeah.

I must have stopped right

before that season 'cause they

don't look familiar to me.

I like religiously watched it in the

beginning I think I watched the first

three seasons and then I just like shot.

There's like, oh my God,

there's a new season.

Wait, there's a new season.

It was wild.

There's so many, I think there's

like two seasons a year, but

it feels like there's three.

Like I feel like there's

always one coming out.

There's always, yeah.

Because I think if you like sleep

on it for a little bit, all of

a sudden there's another one.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Netflix is really on their

zoom with it, honestly.

Yeah.

And the first one came out in 2020.

Right.

Because I feel like I

remember being locked down.

And I was like, I'm about

to binge watch this show.

I care what it is.

It was that in Tiger King that

I was like, what's going my.

Oh my God.

Yes.

Oh my God.

I forgot about that.

That was so good.

That was wild.

My husband and I were

just like, what is this?

That was insane.

Oh, that was good tea.

That was good tv.

And we weren't doing anything

like we were locked in.

We were living for, yeah, we

were living for like, like.

You said, like any morsel.

Yes.

Yeah.

Oh my gosh.

the pods.

' Because I feel like the

pods were because of COVID.

I don't know, maybe it

was written before that.

I don't know.

But those, I dunno, man.

I feel like it really took off because

of everyone was at home just watching TV

and then they're like, what's this show?

Okay, I guess we'll watch it.

And then it just blew you up on so.

And then blew up.

And then Lauren and Cameron, I mean

they're still like the, what's it called?

Yes.

I love them.

and now you know, Lauren's pregnant,

so that's just so beautiful.

Honestly, they're just

so that I love them.

Yeah, from the beginning.

and I always feel like the first

season, they're the most real because

they're not in it all for the tv.

'Cause they don't know how

big the show's gonna be.

They're like, well let's try it out.

But seasons after, I feel

like people just sign up.

'cause they're like, oh, I'm

gonna get social media famous.

A hundred percent.

And we're like really seeing that

now, I think it was Love is blind.

You really want them to be genuine

because like, you're gonna get married.

and I think some of these other

ones, dating ones, it's like, it

doesn't necessarily fully have

to be genuine, but like, do think

a lot of them, like love island.

you know, people wanna be influencers,

but at the same time they're pretty

young and you're not thinking of

marriage or just thinking of dating.

So they could actually end up

liking each other and dating.

but like with Love is Blind.

I do think people are like, they wanna

be influencers, but then it's like

you end up having to think about are

you willing to get engaged and married

to somebody just to be an influencer?

That's pretty big.

That's wild.

Yeah.

The concept is wild to me.

when they were like moving them

into these apartments together, I

was like, you don't know this guy.

Like

what are you doing?

Nothing about them.

You don't just what they

told you on the other side.

Just like what we found about life.

Like, you know, nothing.

Mm-hmm.

Like whatever they decide to tell you.

And I do think there's a

lot of people who like.

In these later seasons into finding

out some really messed up stuff.

Really?

And one of the girls, I think

on UK Sabrina, she was like, he

didn't even have his own place.

Like he was living with roommates

and then he like wasn't even

willing to go, like they were

living in different parts of the uk.

He wasn't even willing to go see her.

Oh.

But like, he couldn't even afford to, so

she didn't even know that like, oh wait,

you actually really aren't in a place.

I mean, it's one thing if you like

start dating someone and you know,

they're like financial status, but like,

I really do think they should check.

I was like, are you even in a place

to be married, to put somebody first

to even financially support yourself.

in a good well, or like, not,

there's anything wrong with having

roommates, but you know what I mean?

this guy I think was like 37 and like

she, I think he didn't really give all

those details, which I think a lot of

people would assume at three seven,

like, okay, you might not have everything

together, but you probably financially

are.

A little more.

A little bit more

established.

Established, yeah.

Yeah.

I think, or at least Communicate about

like, Hey, I had some financial issues,

or This is what's going on here.

Because there was that other guy,

I don't know what season this was,

maybe two or three, where they got

like towards the end and it came out.

He had all this debt and there was

something like he was lying about,

I can't remember their names, I

can't remember their names, but

I know what you're talking about.

We weren't like parody a lot.

Social media.

I know what you're talking about.

Wait, shoot.

I don't remember.

Yeah, I dunno means there, but

yeah, but there's that too.

And it's like if you get

married, your dad is their dad.

that can really mess somebody stuff up.

Yeah.

That was, oh, one of the

first couples, Barnett.

Yeah.

Amber and Barnett.

Amber, yeah.

Mm-hmm.

that was something like, she was

like, Hey, I have a lot of debt,

and they like moved in together.

he had a house already, but I think he

like sold it to help pay for the debt.

I mean, as far as I know, they're

still together, so, I mean.

Yeah.

And they have a kid and they were like.

Oh, I didn't know that.

Yeah.

They were child and everything

but she was upfront about it.

Yeah, they, she, she was upset

about it, so like, or married.

So it's one of those things

where it's like, if you know

all that stuff and you're still

willing, then that's, one thing.

Like she was upfront about it.

He was still willing.

So it's like, okay, cool.

that's on you,

Yeah.

the reality TV is just wild to me.

I used to watch Bachelor pretty regularly

too, and then I kind of just like,

then Bachelor in Paradise was like

fun 'cause they all come together.

Yeah.

But I've kind of slowly stopped

watching because I feel like they

always just go on to be like,

influencers and I'm just I don't know.

I can't really get into it anymore.

just.

Yeah.

I honestly have never, I mean, I

keep trying mostly for content.

Like, every time it comes out

I'm like, okay, I'm gonna try

and I just can't get into it.

you'll probably see me make one post

and then just nothing else because

I'm like, I just can't get into it.

I feel like it's so overly produced

too, and it just feels so fake.

You found 20 men or 20 women that

are interested in this one person.

Mm-hmm.

Not saying that they couldn't

all necessarily, but like it's

not like they met this person.

They were like, oh, the 20 people

met this person, or you had them

meet like a hundred people and

these are the 20 that were like, I'm

actually interested in this person.

Like, you just found

20 people or whatever.

I was like, it just doesn't feel organic

and then it's just vying for one person.

It just feels weird, honestly.

Totally.

I love dating shows, but that one,

that's just one I can't get into.

no, and you make it such a good

point because, it brings me back,

'cause again, I haven't watched

probably in like five plus seasons.

But it's like, they're like, he's

my dream guy, she's my dream girl.

And I'm like, you would've said that

about any person they brought on as

a bachelor and bachelorette Right.

And unbeknownst to you, last

season they were a nobody.

You know what I'm saying?

Like, they came on as

like a random person too.

It's like exactly.

I dunno.

I was like, you literally know

nothing about these people.

most of 'em don't even get like,

really a lot of screen time.

So it's like you just saw like a

couple dates with whoever they were

with on last season, and then now

you're like, that's your dream person.

You don't know anything about them, and

I feel like we also saw that with Jen,

like obviously all those men basically

didn't even know it was gonna be Jen.

They thought it was gonna be, what's

her name, that other girl that was

like really famous on Joey's season.

They all thought it was gonna be a. a

different bachelorette, and that set

her up for complete failure, honestly.

and then, ugh, that scammer Devin,

like that was whole, I like tried

to, but I was like, I mostly was

scrolling, watching things because I

was like, I keep up with it, but I'm

like, I can't watch a whole episode.

I literally can't.

Yeah, I know every once in I went.

You're like two hours long too.

I'm like, ah, Jesus.

I know it's, well, there'll be

like three hour season finale

and I'm like, who's got the time?

But why?

And most of it's not even needed.

I was like, okay, this really

could have been cut down.

Literally.

Like, there's just like a lot of

different montages with music.

It's just so gimmicky.

Yeah.

It's literally them picking out rings,

walking down the street through tears

in their eyes, picking out their dress.

And I'm like, Ugh, come on.

She's like, speed it up.

Speed it up.

Please.

We can do this all in 10 minutes.

Let's just tell us who she picked.

Yes, I know.

It's wild.

Props with anyone that goes on.

that's just not, yeah.

my cup of tea.

That's why I like Bachelor

in Paradise better.

So I have a confession.

I've never watched Love Island.

Oh, it's everywhere.

But this last season makes me wanna watch

because the viral like sounds and stuff.

Yeah.

But maybe I should try it.

I've had people tell me to watch it.

I think you should.

I think I would watch, like,

watch season six of USA.

I think season five and season

six of USA are really good.

the uk I also think season five of

UK is really, really, really good.

Okay.

It started in uk so there's

like a lot more seasons.

even Love Island Australia,

I can't remember what season.

It wasn't the latest one I

think, or it was the one before

last was really, really good.

So I do, I really love, love Island.

I feel like it's just.

Like, you know, people are on

there to be influencers, but it's

also just like a dating show.

mean, they're all dating shows,

but you know what I mean?

But it's also just like,

people being there.

They get to meet each other,

they get to, and like, there are

definitely, you're gonna, like,

a lot of them are good looking.

You're gonna like somebody,

you know what I mean?

and then there's just more like

organic drama as well as they

don't allow them to get drunk.

each day they get like maybe

this amount of alcohol.

That's it.

Okay.

I like that.

Um, so it also feels not, so you're

not as worried about some of the,

you know what I'm talking about?

possible things that can happen if people

are like inebriated, like, you know,

that they're making decisions sober.

especially if there's anything like

sexual that goes on, Especially because

with that, you know, you do end up

in there, they do end up sleeping in

the same bed as the guy, as a couple

that they choose and all that stuff.

So, and they do seem to have, like,

even though I feel like this season in

the USA, they did not do very good job

of like really doing background checks.

There's a lot of racial stuff coming out.

I did think that about someone.

Yeah.

So they really haven't like, done

good background checks on people, but

like in general, I do think they have

some pretty cool things in place, like

consent wise, there's just a light

that they have in the back of the bed.

Like, so if things start happening,

both people have to press it to be

like, I consent to what's happening.

And if it's not pressed, then production

gets involved in like no stuff.

Oh, okay.

That's a good step.

Because I remember hearing years ago, like

bachelor, something happened on one of

the shows and they like limit them now to

certain alcohol too, because people would

be like getting inebriated and saying

stuff or doing inappropriate things.

that was a bachelor in Paradise thing too.

I remember.

They were like, oh, we're

only allowed to have like.

Two drinks an hour or

one drink an hour maybe.

Oh, wow.

Because yeah, you see, yeah.

With them it's literally

one glass and that's it.

Wow.

there's a whole usually scenes at night

where like there, or sometimes at night

where you'll see a scene where they like,

are all going up to this table and it's

just like, there's drinks sitting out

already with like a little umbrella.

And that's their serving of

their alcohol, who they get.

Okay.

Well that's, I know.

I was like, I just think it's like,

it makes you feel a little bit

better, but not that there's not any,

some type of like, oh my God, these

like crappy men on here, whatever.

Right, right.

But I was like, well, now

you know that this person's.

Crappy sober.

Okay.

Like they, they're just.

He got no excuse.

No, no.

I know.

It's crappy.

It's not a drunk child.

This is who this person is.

Okay.

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

I think that sounds better too

when there's like multiple, couple

possibilities and not just one guy

and a million girls and vice versa.

and I feel like it also gives like

the bachelor, bachelorette or whatever

type of show it is when there's just

one guy fending for all these women.

It gives them like this like false

sense of like, oh, I'm the hottest

guy in the room at all times.

And it's like, you're the only guy, like

they would find a rock hot next to you.

You know what I'm saying?

Honestly though, the only this is working

is 'cause a, scarcity mindset that is

literally fabricated for this show.

Yeah.

If you were in any other situation,

there would be plenty of other options.

you are literally the only

option that they've given.

Yes.

So they are, they have to fight

for you to stay on the show.

Like, remember that?

Yes.

Like this is like, remember that

they're fighting to stay the show.

Okay.

Yeah.

They're deprived of any other men, so

they're like, well, this is my dream.

Yeah.

this is my dream man

because he's only man.

Oh my God, that's so funny.

yeah, I feel like we would just think too,

too logically about that to be on, a show.

Okay.

So.

A little more back about your content.

you were always talking about your own

banter and couldn't really find anyone

that talked about it the way you did.

So when did you kind of start seeing

it, take off and do you remember

like the first video that really like

blew up and you said you talked about

Love Island, but was there one type

of content that you're like, this

is it, people are really connecting

or resonating with what I'm saying?

Love Island, I started, I do really

feel like it was like love is Blind that

season and I think even for me Too, I was

around then, like I started last August.

Mm-hmm.

Like around last august for season

six and then We're still posting and

stuff, but it wasn't really like, I

think last October was when That Love

Is Blind came out October, November.

and that's also when I felt like

I was also taking it more like,

okay, I'm gonna post every day.

I'm gonna like, really cover this

whole season, cause I didn't even fully

cover the whole season of Love Island.

season six.

So with the elevens blind season seven, I

was like, okay, I'm gonna post every day.

I'm gonna like, you know, and

so I was like also being more

intentional about posting.

And so I don't remember what Post

went, but it, I do remember all of a

sudden, like my views started going up.

And then also I went from like,

I feel like a thousand to like

10,000, within that between like

end of October and November.

like blew up.

and I felt like then people were

really like also sending me things

like, oh, I need to know your take.

I need to, and so I got

started getting more of that,

being like, did you see this?

Did you see that?

and people writing those type of

comments, or getting tagged in other

people's videos, for certain stuff.

So it was definitely that, started

to get a little bit more known and a

little bit more, settled in like my

like niche or my niche and my persona,

Yeah.

So do you have any shows that

you, like currently watch that you

wish more people knew about so you

could like commentate on them more?

Or are you mainly in the

reality love dating show type?

I mean, I watch a lot of

different tv honestly.

So like, I mostly comment on reality tv.

Yeah.

and mostly like the, yeah.

The loved ones.

I try to get into the gaming ones.

Like I tried to get into big Brother.

I don't really understand it,

there seems to be so much going

on, so I tried this and it, failed.

I don't know, it didn't work out

for me, but I'm gonna try again.

Another, because I really,

everyone watches Big Brother.

I'm like, I really wanna understand it.

okay.

But let me answer your question.

Special Forces.

Special Forces.

I haven't watched that.

No.

I feel like you would like it.

It's like reality, but it's so like.

It's intense.

Okay, so it's reality stars put

on a competition show, so they're

competing to win special forces.

And like they've had people like,

Hannah Brown or Nick Vile, or, I'm

trying to think of other people.

They're bachelors, but like

other, like, celebrities.

so the woman that dated like

Travis Kelsey, Kayla, Nicole.

so like, people like that are big,

celebrities, athletes, reality TV

stars, and they compete and it's

like really tough competition.

They work with actual people from

special forces and it's like intense.

It's good though 'cause you get

the drama, but you also get, like,

you see them Trying their best

to like win at this competition.

Yeah.

Ooh, okay.

I will have to check that out.

I mean, like, I love anything

with drama, honestly.

Yeah.

I mean, also, like a lot of times on

my content, I do random TikTok drama.

I think there's also a lot stuff there

that like randomly gets flown up I

did the Louis Vuitton chocolate Yes.

Drama.

and the girl with the, dermatology

thing that happened, that was like not

washing her face, not doing anything.

Her

Yes.

Whatever happened with that, was that out?

Um, she got a deal with Sarah V and

started washing her face, basically.

I could not tell if this

was like what's it called?

Where they try to get people mad.

What's it called?

Rage bait.

Yeah.

I couldn't tell if it was rage bait.

I couldn't, I couldn't either.

Part of me feels like it was but then

they also found like an old post,

like a year ago of her having done

the same thing, like, but from Reddit.

So I don't know.

But Sarah v got involved and like got

her to put moisturizer on, and then

it started falling off, which I'm

like, yeah, because you're putting,

like yeah, it's gonna fall off.

you have literally not touched

your face and you're building

up dirt and old skin cells.

that's what's gonna happen.

so like I also do stuff like that

my stuff is like, I have a DD, it's

a little bit a DD too, where I'm

like, whatever I'm interested in.

Right.

Whatever.

I'm interested in that moment.

but it is definitely more like reality TV

drama and then, like TikTok type of drama.

Yeah.

But I am interested in, like right

now I'm watching Huntington Wives on

Netflix, I was thinking about like.

Yes,

I just heard about this.

How is it?

It's so good.

Yeah.

It's so, so, so good.

And like sometimes I will, for

me it's not always for views.

So like, maybe I won't

get a lot of views on it.

'cause like, that's not

necessarily my main base.

But like, even severance, I did a lot of

posts on that because I love that show.

Okay.

And I just wanted to talk, talk about it.

I was like, somebody will, I was

like, I just wanna talk about it.

So people will come across it.

And yeah, some people will

come across it, but like, yeah.

So I do watch other things and so I,

guess sometimes I do wish that, like,

I think it's hard with the algorithm

from, or whatever, but it would be

easier for people to find me that

if I'm like doing stuff outside of

the, like, reality tv, TikTok, drama,

when I am making those contents.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's hard to know like what's

gonna like, take off or what people

are gonna like, resonate with.

Yeah.

But that like TikTok drama

stuff, man, it goes fast.

It's like you gotta like hop on it

fast because before you know it, if

I don't, scroll for a couple days.

'cause sometimes like there's like

weeks where I just post and I'm like, I

don't have time to scroll or whatever.

Yeah.

Scroll.

I'm like, wait, what's this drama with

so-and-so, what does she do to her?

And I'm like, okay, I have to

find out who these people are.

It's wild.

Yes, yes.

And some people are really, really on it.

some people it's a

little bit easier to do.

I know like there's some people

I follow where it's like,

this is their full-time job.

So like they can scroll most of the day.

And then like, for me it's not so

like, I can't, I'll have some people

write and be like, I want your ticket.

I was like, I missed it.

I'm sorry.

I was like, I literally do

not have time right now.

whatever was my schedule at that

time, I'm like, I don't have

time to even comment on this.

Like, I'm so sorry.

Like, I'm catching babies.

Like

. You were out there quite literally

saving lives I know when you first told

me you're a labor and delivery nurse to

her, I was like, how do you do it all?

I was like, you were

literally an angel on earth.

Oh my gosh.

I'm not sleeping very much.

Yeah.

Oh my gosh.

I always knew nurses were amazing people.

My grandma was an ER nurse.

Oh.

And so I'm like, I always heard

about like, working in the ER and

everything, but then it's like

once I had my baby and I was like.

These nurses are just incredible.

Like, you guys are just amazing.

this is totally side note and

everything, but like how did you get

into labor and delivery and like, I mean

? Well, yeah.

I mean, so my first nursing job

was actually as a transplant nurse.

So I worked, inpatient for people on a

unit that just did, what was it called?

Kidneys, livers, and pancreatic, some

lung transplants, things like that.

but when I was in nursing school

we did our labor rounds, I had like

One shift where we like actually

got to be in like the labor unit.

We did a lot on Mother, baby.

I was like, oh, this is really fun.

Like, I thought I would, like really

enjoy it, but I was also a little bit

scared because, some stats stuff can

happen too, like losses and things.

And I'm a very empathetic person.

I'm one of those people, like, I will

cry at movies, thinking about certain

things will start to make me cry honestly.

Like I fox in the hound.

Even just thinking about them talk

will make me cry like you did.

So I, like really empathize

very well with people.

I was a little bit nervous, so like

when I went to go get my first nursing

job, I was like, I actually did apply

for labor, but then I turned it down

because I was like, I don't know if I

can handle it if something happened.

but then I kept thinking about

it and I kept thinking about it.

so then I was like, okay,

I just need to do it.

So then I stayed in the same hospital, but

I just ended up applying and like, but it

was basically 'cause I just kept thinking

about it and I was like, I'm just.

I'm really interested.

Like, I was like, obviously

I should just do it then.

and so then, know, it

has been really good.

Obviously when sad things happened,

it says still really like, touch me.

but I am able to deal with it.

but like, everybody, there's, it just is

something that happens, but there's just

so many beautiful moments that happen.

it's so many, like being able to be

there for women when they're going

through this, or be there for mothers,

not everyone identifies as women,

but like, being there for mothers

when they're going through this, um.

It just feels so beautiful I really

love being able to support that process,

being able to support the baby and like

just being there for that whole thing.

So.

Yeah.

Oh, I love that.

No, I love hearing like how people

got into nursing and stuff and like

their department because, I used

to work for a mom and baby burn,

and so like, I would talk to like,

nurses and doulas and oh, you know,

just people in the field and stuff.

So I'm always just so curious about it.

I love, that kind of stuff.

Yeah.

Just a little, side

note, but yeah, why not?

I love that.

Okay.

Let's get into the wedding portion of.

Okay.

I'm excited.

I didn't know.

I love drama.

I was let as.

Yes, we live for the drama here.

It's a good, uh, mental break from

the world and all that, but, okay.

So starting off, do you have

any like wild wedding stories or

wedding stories that come to mind

when you, first think of weddings?

Okay.

it's not necessarily wild, but when

it's about me, and it was something I

was like younger, so I don't even know

why I was doing this, but like it was

during My oldest sister's wedding, and

when it was the throwing the bouquet

part, we're all like vying for it.

And then it ends up being, I look up and

it's actually me and I'm like pulling,

like, pulling, like trying to get this.

And I think I just locked in.

I was like, I don't even know why.

I'm like, how old was I?

Even like, I feel like like 17.

I was like, I'm next.

What was I doing?

but I was like, I'm fighting for this.

And then I look up and it was actually my

other sister, and everybody else was gone.

Do you guys actually pull poll at this?

Yes, we were pulling at this.

I just feel like we locked in.

I don't even know what I was thinking,

but I was like, I'm getting this.

I got very competitive at the,

but we both did apparently.

my other sister were sometimes I

actually dating somebody, and she

was a little bit older so like,

you know, like made more sense.

It just made more sense.

But it's so funny to like watch the

video 'cause it's just like everybody

else has gone and just watching us like

literally pull for this thing and then

like we, I look up and I was like, oh.

And I let it go.

I was like, oh.

I was like, so sorry.

Something just came over me.

I'm sorry.

Yeah.

I was like, I dunno what's going on.

Like, like the sister thing.

We'll just let them

Yeah.

Figure it out.

Yeah.

Gosh.

I've been to weddings where people get

pretty like, vicious over like the bouquet

toss or like push people out the way.

And I'm like, yeah guys,

it's gonna be okay.

It's, it's gonna be fine.

It's gonna be fine.

but sometimes it's just a

competitive nature, you know?

That takes over.

I can't tell you what I was thinking.

I don't think I was, I think, I think

I just had it and I was like, it would.

You're like, okay, you can take it.

Yeah.

I was like, oh, ooh.

My bad dresser.

It's so funny 'cause I remember

going to weddings in like my early

twenties, so I don't even know if I

was with my now husband yet, but like,

I'd be at weddings and like I was in

that mind frame where I was like, I

don't wanna get married for a while.

And the bouquet would come and I would

just look at it and just step back.

Yeah.

I'm like, someone else take it.

There's been a few weddings

like that where like no one

grabs it and I'm like, oh man.

We're all just like.

Yeah.

Like everyone's like,

oh, don't, don't jinx me.

Yeah.

Like we're not

Times have changed.

Yeah, exactly.

We're waiting a little longer these days.

that's so funny.

oh my gosh.

I love that because, it's one of those

things where like people are either

like so into the bouquet toss and garter

toss and other people are like, no.

I always ask my audience what

are your unpopular opinions?

And I would say like, I. Most of the time

one of those come up as like, don't do it.

people are like, don't do the garter toss.

It's weird.

Don't do the bouquet toss.

It's starts fights.

And I'm just like, it's interesting how,

the dynamic has kind of changed on those.

Yeah.

I think it can start, right?

But also I think it's one of those

things where like, it's very easy

to like get dangerous really quickly

because people are like jumping

and like, there could be an elbow.

Like, it's not even like you're trying

to do, but it's like, for my own, I

don't think I probably would do it.

I don't know if anyone that's coming

would fight over it, but like, I also

just don't want any accidents to happen

over, like just throwing this thing.

I know didn't do them at my

wedding and I was just telling

someone while back, but I was like,

honestly, I am not very Athletic.

Yeah.

So I could see myself throwing the

bouquet, hitting someone in the

face, separation, breaking something.

So I'm like, not just

not throwing anything.

But it might not even

go where everybody is.

How embarrassing would that be?

I throw it.

I don't.

Exactly and I don't want be embarrassed.

Yeah.

I'm like, let's just take that away.

yeah.

I love that.

Okay.

Here are some hot takes that people

have sent in and we can just kind

of share our opinions on them.

Okay.

this says.

If you need a content day during your

wedding week, you're not planning a

marriage, you're producing a mini series.

So they're saying, like,

I've heard of this more, more

and more now with weddings.

people are so concerned with the overall

look that they'll plan out content

during their video or during their day.

Like they'll film stuff or do like,

tiktoks have a TikTok section.

I've never been a part of one

that does that, but yeah, either

this person must have seen it.

So they're saying if you're

planning con, then you're, what?

What's that last part they said?

You're not thinking about

planning a marriage, you're more

about producing, like producing

something like a mini series.

Hmm.

You know what I feel like

I have two ideas about it.

I can see how like, yes, I feel

like that could be true for a

lot of people where it's like,

if you're so focused on that and.

Also like doing different con, I mean,

I think financially too, like how

much money are you putting into this?

Are you thinking about your life later?

All that stuff.

But then I also can think

like, hey, but maybe somebody

is they really like tiktoks.

that's kinda like their thing.

They're like, they're always

doing like content stuff.

So then why wouldn't they have that

to be a part of their wedding too?

Because it's representing them.

Yeah.

Um, and if this is how you envisioned

it, I don't think that's a big deal.

as long as it's not like, oh my

God, like this, okay, you guys

don't do this TikTok, right.

Blah, blah, blah.

But if it's like, if it's just

for fun and you're like, I want my

day to be full of like different

times that I can capture the day

I think if the other parties are

okay with it and it's like your

day and you like, tell people

we're gonna do this, it's fine.

did you see the TikTok drama

talking about TikTok drama?

She was a makeup artist that

was hired for a wedding.

there were photographers there,

but she had her own plans for

tiktoks to be filmed during the day.

So like, literally they were done

with makeup and she is going around

doing, having the bridesmaids

and bride do tiktoks while they

have like another timeline.

Wait, wait, wait.

This is the ma and she was like, involved.

Yes, I know exactly what

you're talking about.

And then she caught in her car saying

they treated her horribly kicking.

Yeah.

Honestly, this is one of my

things that also blew up for me.

Really?

Like in the way, in the

really beginning for me.

Yes.

I know exactly.

Oh my God, I remember this just of it.

She was unhinged.

Yeah, she was unhinged.

Like even in the first look, she was there

and in the photos making it all about her.

Yes.

And the brides were crying.

She's like, okay guys.

Okay.

Like, that's too much crying.

I was like, why aren't you still here?

Yeah.

She stayed the whole day.

and then yeah, she kept

making them do tiktoks.

Then when it was time for like the

after party for the reception, she

was still trying to get tiktoks.

Yes.

I, and then they tried to kick her.

Yeah.

Then they tried to kick her

out and then she was like, she

left and then she came back.

She was like, no, you know what?

I'm not gonna let them bully me.

And she went back.

I was like, yes.

I was like, no.

It was crazy.

I was like, I don't understand why you're

not getting it, she was like, oh my

God, we were having such a good time.

We were kiking.

And I was like, not for

you to stay the whole day.

No's not for you to stay the whole day.

Yeah.

I didn't make any said, oh, the groomsmen?

Or, she said someone invited her and they

were probably just being like friendly.

Like,

Oh, like in, no,

Basically like, the bride, I

think kept being like, oh, okay.

Oh, okay.

Like, and I think she like, just was

just very kind, and like maybe just

didn't wanna like do any confrontation.

But then it wasn't until like

the groom later at the reception.

Was like, okay.

No.

'cause he was tired.

he didn't actually agree to any of

the things that the bride Right.

You know what I mean?

had said yes to and then

the bride was like, no, no.

Like he's just upset.

It's okay.

But then she left and it's like, why

didn't you take the hint from the groom?

she's like, well you know what,

my bride, that's what she said.

She's like, my bride wants me there.

It's like, no, she doesn't.

Okay.

But also it's the groom's wedding too.

And he asked you to leave?

Yeah.

And leave how awkward that is.

Like she's probably just like, the bride's

probably just trying to enjoy her day.

Doesn't wanna start.

cause in our minds, you know, it's

like, oh, I don't wanna start drama.

But it's like, no, she's

literally crossing all the

boundaries at the wedding.

All the boundaries.

She's the makeup artist.

She's hired, she did her job.

And I feel like she was even like

drinking or something during makeup.

Yes.

Showing her drinking.

All these things.

And then what kills me is then like.

She makes this video bashing the bride

and groom showing all their video

footage before they even posted to

make herself look like the victim.

And I'm like, no.

Oh my God.

I knew it.

So left for her.

Like no one would have even known

about it if she didn't make that video.

the bride and groom, because they

aren't even social media people.

no one even known about it.

Mm-hmm.

She could have just have ruined this

wedding and nobody would've known.

Yeah.

But then she went online.

I know she made this whole series blasted

them, put their videos, their faces.

Oh my God.

That was crazy.

Even like the bridesmaids were getting

in the comments and being like, oh

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

Like this is not okay.

And then somebody else, like

there was another MUA that had

worked with her in the past and

she's like, oh no, she's unhinged.

She's unhinged.

Like, oh yeah.

So much came out about that woman.

Yeah, that's wild when you're putting

your content in front of your client, Yes.

That's the thing that like, obviously

like I love social media, I love like

the connections and stuff, but you

have to always put like your job first.

There's so many people that are

like, oh, I wanna create content.

And it's like, well this is

not the place or the time.

Like as a makeup artist Yeah.

Do their before and after and

be like, Hey, can I post this?

But you have to always check

in with your client first.

They might not wanna be posted

and they might not want you

hanging out all day and.

Yeah.

But she kept being like, well, they

agreed to content, but they didn't agree

to like every single content that you I

think she probably thought you were just

doing the look content that a lot of like

people do where it's like, okay, they did

the before and then they do the after.

I didn't think, she didn't think

you were gonna be following her

around all day trying to get her.

It was like, I can't remember.

I can like hear the song in

my head, but I can't think of.

can't say it all, but there was like,

I can remember the TikTok thing that

she was trying to make and she was

just trying to go throughout the day.

you were never even a part of the grooms

party, but then you involved them.

'Cause you're like,

well I need the grooms.

And I was like, that's when

you know you've gone too far.

Does it, does the content fit with

the service that you're doing?

Right.

I think you have to think about that.

And does it fit within the timeframe

of the service that you're doing

or are you going beyond that?

if it's something where like, I

don't, things are taking long,

maybe you won't get your content.

but exactly what you said,

the service should come first.

Yeah.

And then the content, but someone

agreeing to make tiktoks with you

doesn't mean they're agreeing to

like literally every single thing

that you came up under the sun.

Yeah, no.

100%. Yeah.

Oh my gosh.

I can't believe that.

Just came back like that.

That was one of those where like, I think

I took a few days off and I came back

on and like I got a couple messages.

Someone tagged me, they're like, Christa,

can you please make a skit about this?

I didn't.

I think I just kind of talked about it.

'cause I was like, it's so fresh.

I don't know, like this is kind of wild.

yeah, I watched all the videos

and I was like, oh my gosh, this

is an unhinged, seriously insane.

Yeah.

okay.

This last hot take says reality TV.

Weddings have convinced people that

bridal parties are unpaid extras.

Oh.

interesting reality.

Tv.

Bachelor parties, they said weddings.

Oh, our unpaid extras.

Is this more like, I think they

were saying that people are taking

advantage of the bridal party basically.

But I feel like people have

been doing that for like,

even before reality TV stuff.

Yeah.

I don't actually reality tv.

Yeah.

I think it's just some people do

take advantage of the bridal party.

I think some people don't realize

that like, yeah, of course, like

these people wanna be here for you.

you can't just ask

endless amount of things.

you can't also just ask people to

like put all their money into your

wedding or into like the bridesmaids

dress or whatever the makeup that

they have to do or, what have you.

also like that whole year is

not literally about you to.

Everybody else in your life.

it's about you for you and

your spouse, but like everybody

else's life is still going on.

I mean, like, I have things to do.

We got things to do, but I do know

that I feel like there's a lot of

people who are like, you're not

really supporting me right now.

I feel like you're doing enough

for the way I was like, what

are you talking about, dude?

I have a life.

Like I will help you, but like,

I'm not making a full-time job out

of helping you for your wedding.

Right.

The world doesn't stop because

you're getting married.

Yeah.

I've seen wild stories where brides

get mad because their bridesmaids are

pregnant or their bridesmaids also

get engaged and it's like you don't

get claims to the whole there, there.

I mean like I had two, pregnant

bridesmaids and I was like, don't feel

like you have to come to anything.

Your baby and your health comes first.

Like yeah, I mean life happens.

let's say like you had a destination

wedding and one of the people got

pregnant, if it's that time for

me, my life for me that I wanna get

pregnant, I'm not gonna like be like,

oh no, we gotta hold off a year.

Yeah.

'cause so and so's, just in case,

that's not what's gonna happen.

And I think that's absolutely

crazy when people do that.

I think like, literally you

need to get your head checked.

That's not cool.

Yeah.

Like that.

Like you're, way too self-centered.

But I think a lot of times there are

probably signs about that person.

yeah.

You know, before the wedding there

were probably signs about the person

that they were pretty selfish.

and then it just went to like, kind of the

nth degree when they felt like they had

an excuse to be their most selfish shelf.

Yes.

Like they hear it like,

oh, it's your bride's day.

So they're like, yep.

The court.

Yes, exactly.

They're like, okay, well now

I get to be exact you know.

Here's my notebook.

Yes.

Oh my God, that's so true.

Because yeah, you hear

it time and time again.

It's like, oh, it's a bride's day.

It's your moment.

So then they're like, I've

been waiting for this.

Yes.

Yeah.

But it's not, that's the funny part.

It's your day.

It's your day.

Not your year.

Not your year, your day.

Yeah.

And we gotta have, respect people's

life and their boundaries too.

Yes.

A hundred percent.

Before we get to this week's wild

wedding story that we'll react to,

we'll do a little quick rapid fire.

How does that sound?

Okay.

In addition, okay.

Would you rather deal with

a jealous bridesmaid or an

attention hogging groomsman?

I guess an attention hogging groom

has been, I guess, a little bit.

for me personally, I feel like I

would be a lot easier to talk to that

person and be like, tone it down.

Yeah.

Like cause I would not have a

problem be like, I love you so

much, but you gotta tone it down.

You're doing too much.

Yeah.

Versus somebody who is jealous.

I don't know if I would know that

they're being jealous or if they're like,

kind of being stink face or whatever.

Or like, eat subconsciously or

consciously sabotaging things.

So I feel like I wouldn't

want that type of negativity.

Yep.

On my day.

That's a great point.

Yeah.

would you rather your wedding TikTok flop?

So like if something bad happened at your

wedding or your honeymoon get leaked?

so either the TikTok I have be

like a flop, like someone said,

let, like my wedding was a flop.

if you had like a wedding TikTok,

maybe you like, posted about your

wedding as a TikTok and it didn't

do well, is how I'm reading it.

or videos from your honeymoon or

photos from your honeymoon get leaked.

I don't know.

Like Oh, like your,

was like, what type of leak?

I was like, what we, I was like, I

was like, what are we talking about?

I'm nervous I didn't write these.

I guess I wouldn't mind

having a TikTok flop.

I probably would think it was funny.

Yeah, it's 'cause it'd be

more for me anyways if I.

Yeah.

Just in case.

There could be lots of

different meanings for the leak.

I'd rather have nothing leaked,

just to be clear.

just in case nothing leaked.

I know, I feel like the word

leaked just sounds celebrity leak.

Like Yeah.

Oh, there, this got leach.

okay.

Would you rather have your wedding

go viral for the wrong reasons?

Or have no one shared at all?

No one shared at all.

Yeah, same.

Would you rather find out your

fiance applied to a reality dating

show after your engagement or

that your proposal was filmed for

a pilot episode you didn't know?

These are wild.

What the, is this, I guess,

the film for a pilot?

I didn't know because like what

the actual fuck if you just, sorry.

With the actual flip, if you just, I

didn't know if you could curse something.

I was like, it's all good.

Okay.

If you just, like, you got

engaged to me and then you

just applied to a dating show?

Dude, there's been people on

Bachelor that has come out, like

they have girlfriends at home.

This happens the thing is why I'm sure,

well, cheaters, I feel like, just don't

think about this, but they're like, yeah,

you don't think it's ever gonna come out.

Exactly.

You don't thinking at home,

like clicking and being like

thank you.

Recognize

the

internet Are you new?

Are you new to the world now?

Like the internet is like, especially

with TikTok, information moves by fast.

People are detectives.

Okay.

If you're on there, they're gonna

find you and everything about you.

So.

people always think like,

oh, I can just hide it.

No, you can't.

No.

It's no one else has been able to.

Someone's always watching,

especially nowadays.

Oh my gosh, Coldplay concert.

Yes, exactly.

Exactly.

Someone's always watching.

Yes.

And the funny, if they had just not

ducked, if they had just not ducked,

that wouldn't have been a thing.

Yes.

Seriously.

No one would've even

thought twice about it.

But the funny thing is, someone,

do you see the behind the scenes,

someone was behind them and realized

later, like they had videos of

them kissing before that happened.

Oh, they were like

literally behind the couple.

Yeah.

I didn't see that.

Ah.

Yeah.

So I'm like, oh my God.

But like literally, they would've just

been like, oh, it's a cute couple.

Yeah.

Never would've thought anything

about if they weren't like, whoa.

Yeah, exactly.

it wouldn't, the smelling front.

Oh my gosh.

Yeah.

It wouldn't have been a thing.

All right, last one.

Would you rather have your wedding

edited by Netflix or produced by Bravo?

Ooh.

Edited by Netflix or produced

by Bravo, I guess edited by

Netflix, produced by Bravo.

Ooh.

I don't know, dude, that's kind

of like, I like Netflix shows, so

let's just say edit it by Netflix.

Yeah.

I like it.

All right, let's get into this

week's wedding story submission.

Are So as always, I have not read

this, this will be a blind reaction.

Let's just see how we go.

Feel free to stop me if you want.

otherwise we'll, just as you know,

I might have questions.

I'll let you know.

Yeah.

all names have been

changed, so here we go.

This story starts about

two and a half years ago.

Around six months before I got engaged.

I was on a pontoon boat with my friends,

their boyfriends, and my now fiancé Ryan.

One of my friends, Brooke, asked Ryan if

he had any plans to propose in the future.

At that point, we'd been together

for a little over a year, so

it was still fairly early.

But we had already talked about marriage,

so it wasn't a totally random question.

Ryan told Brooke and my other friend

Erica, that he actually planned

on proposing in August, which was

about two months from when they

were having this conversation.

I was on the other side of

the pontoon boat and had no

idea this was even happening.

Next thing I know, I look over and

see Erica sulking in the corner

of the boat, glued to her phone

and refusing to talk to anyone.

We were only about an hour into

a six hour rental, so things

weren't off to a great start.

I asked Brooke if she knew why Erica

was upset, and she told me that when

the topic of proposals came up, Erica

made a comment to her boyfriend who

was also on the boat, and they'd been

together for three years at the time.

Asking when he was going to propose and

he replied with something dismissive

like, don't hold your breath.

Which upset her.

then starts the comparison, Yeah.

for the rest of the rental,

Erica sulked and barely spoke.

After we got off the boat, she

immediately returned to her hotel.

Instead of joining the group for

dinner the next day, she texted

me asking why I didn't make more

of an effort to comfort her.

I explained that it wasn't fair for

her to expect me to come spend my

entire birthday consoling her over

something I had no control over.

Fast forward six months, Ryan

and I get engaged on a beach.

Brooke was there because she helped

Ryan plan and execute the proposal.

Afterward, Ryan and I FaceTimed

friends and family to share the news.

When I FaceTimed Erica to

show her the ring, gosh.

The first thing she said to me was, Ew.

He let you have red

nails for your proposal.

Jealousy.

Not a pretty.

What the, oh my God.

That's not a friend.

This is kind of ironic.

'cause yesterday I did like a, different

kind of video and I was like, pretending

to be, I said, your best friend of

me just found out you're engaged.

Oh, I think I saw that.

I saw that.

I said something like that.

I'm like, oh, I didn't

know you liked that.

Kind of, you know?

Yes.

That's literally that kind of comment,

like why would you say that to someone?

That is so rude.

and I feel like jealousy

is a normal emotion.

like, people are like, oh, we, I was

like, I don't think you should like down

people for having feelings of jealousy.

It just is like information for you.

it's not necessarily that you

dislike the person or whatever.

It's like there's something going

on with you You're looking for.

Do you what I mean?

And that person has, it

doesn't necessarily mean that's

not something you can have.

it's information.

That's how I think of it more.

It's information.

And if you don't actually take

in that information, then I think

jealousy can get out of hand.

Obviously this person,

jealousy got out of hand.

Yes.

'cause for her to be outwardly so

rude and dismissive to her friend

during such a beautiful moment.

And the fact that she also thinks

of you so much that she calls

you during that beautiful moment.

And that's the first thing you

say is like, what the fuck?

Yeah.

you need to internally look.

Yeah.

yeah, you're letting that jealousy

take over you when it's like, yeah.

You could have like feelings

of being like, oh, I wish that

was me first, or that yeah.

Kind of sucks, but I wouldn't

be really happy for my friend

because she's my friend.

Yeah, a hundred percent.

it says I was in such a good

mood that I brushed it off.

Okay, good.

At least it didn't ruin the moment.

she gave me a half-hearted

congratulations.

And we moved on later.

Our families had planned a

small celebration at our house.

Erica and her boyfriend came out

but barely said anything to me

and left about an hour later.

I tried to give her the benefit of

the doubt, assuming she might be

having an off day, despite everything.

I still asked her to be

one of my bridesmaids.

There we go.

That gut feeling like she's

already showing signs.

when I started organizing hangout so the

bridesmaid could get to know each other,

Erica always made excuses not to come.

Her reasons ranged from anticipating

she'd be too tired or needing to attend a

half birthday party for a six month old.

What's a half birthday?

Oh, a six month old, like half birthday.

I get it.

to simply not liking who does.

Six and a half?

No, I was like, wait, what?

to simply not liking the location.

Weird.

Not going to your friend to hang out

'cause you don't like the location.

Okay.

While planning the bachelorette trip,

I mentioned feeling sad that one of my

bridesmaids Tessa wouldn't be able to

make it because she lives in Arizona.

Erica responded, I'm so jealous of

Tessa living in another state gets

her out of so many of these events.

Okay.

Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.

Okay.

Yeah.

I wanna be here.

Okay.

Yeah.

Honestly, if it was

me, I'd be like, girly.

What's going on?

Yeah.

Like what is happening here?

Like you've been saying, I've

been letting it go, but you've

been saying way too many things.

We need to talk.

Yeah.

Like, 'cause that's just rude.

Like, that's just rude.

You don't have to come, don't

do me any flipping favors.

Okay.

Okay.

Like, don't do me any, this what.

You're gonna ruin it being there.

I'd rather.

Yeah.

You are ruining it.

Like you're ruining everything.

You're making me feel bad.

Like you're, putting in digs, like

trying to make me feel bad about myself.

Yeah.

That's, oh gosh.

She's like putting all

the signs out there.

Yeah.

okay.

She says I wish I had a solid

excuse not to come to the

bachelorette trip, that was her end.

That's it.

Yeah.

That's your excuse.

Like don't come friend.

You don't need, I'd be like,

you don't even need one.

You're uninvited.

done.

Done.

Oh my gosh.

That is, I would literally

be like, don't you?

I would literally say that most

likely I'd be like, you don't

even need one you're uninvited.

If someone's gonna be that mopey and like.

Oh yeah, I wish I had a solid excuse.

And you're saying that to me.

Yeah,

Yeah.

No.

There you go.

Bye.

Yeah.

Yeah.

that's your excuse right?

There you have it.

okay.

She goes frustrated.

I said, if you don't wanna

come, then you should stay home.

Okay, good.

She replied that she would

def look bad if she didn't go.

So you look bad by saying this,

you already, what do you mean You

obviously don't care about looking bad?

'Cause you look bad right now.

Yeah.

How can you really care about

looking bad if you say that?

it's more about everybody

else, what everyone else thinks

versus your best friend or one.

Yeah.

You don't care about me or what

I think because you're saying

all this Yeah, to my face.

Like, you're being rude

and mean to my face.

it's not about me.

It's like, okay, what other

people would it look bad for then?

Yeah, exactly.

Oh my gosh.

while shopping for bridesmaid

dresses, Erica told me she struggles

when people get married before her.

Really?

Did they?

Right.

Not also, why are we telling her

this at bridesmaid dress shopping

again, like a wedding event for her.

Don't go if you're

gonna make it about you.

Like honestly, at this

point, this is where the

introspection we need to come in.

And it'd be like, I'm in a weird place.

I can literally, I don't know

why, but I can literally not

be happy for you right now.

Mm-hmm.

I want to be, I know I should

be, but I'm in a bad place.

honestly, I should just be like.

I can't do this and cut

it out, like mm-hmm.

not a lot of people are like

self-aware like that, where it's

like, I'm just not able to do this.

Yeah.

If it's gonna bother you that much and

every little thing you're gonna bring

up how you're not married yet, or you're

not engaged yet, that's a problem.

Yeah.

You're gonna be rude to your friend.

It's, this is supposedly your friend.

Yeah.

Like, you're gonna be rude to

them, put them down, make them

feel bad about all the events that

are happening around this wedding.

then just see yourself out,

be a friend and don't go.

Right.

Like that would be the

way you're being a friend.

If like I'm literally not able to control

myself at this point because I'm so

jealous that I need to not be involved.

Yeah.

100%. she goes, especially when

they haven't been with their

partners as long as she has.

Oh my gosh.

Doesn't matter.

Erica.

Get over it.

Yeah.

Okay.

Dump your partner and get a new one.

Then.

I don't know, if the issue is

that, then maybe you should

like not be with your partner.

If they, obviously, obviously I don't

think she should be with her partner.

If her partner said something along the

lines of like, oh, what's it called?

Don't hold your breath.

Don't hold your breath.

You shouldn't be with that.

You shouldn't be with that person.

Yeah.

Like you're more mad at him, I think.

Yeah.

You're not mad at your friend

and you're letting him dictate

how you feel about your friend,

which you should be happy for her.

I think you need to turn

the anger maybe to him.

Yes.

You guys are on different timelines.

Yes.

Yeah.

I mean, but also like why even if

you're on different timelines, why

would that be your answer to somebody

asking about when we're getting married?

Yeah.

Don't hold your breath.

Your breath.

You obviously don't like me.

if that's your answer, that's rude.

Yeah.

It's one thing to be like, I'm not ready.

Gonna be like, don't hold your breath.

Okay.

you don't like me.

Then like, you always like, you don't

care about me or my feelings, Yeah.

The fact that he was so quick to

be like, don't hold your breath.

Not like, don't worry,

we're gonna get married.

I've got something planned.

Or just like, I need another year.

You know, whatever.

Or can we talk about it later?

Like, can we talk like not

on this boat when Yeah.

Not on this boat.

might not be happy with my answer.

Let's talk about it in private.

Might ruin your whole day.

Yeah, exactly right.

Ruins everybody's day

and year, apparently.

Yes.

Oh my gosh.

she said she felt she should

be getting married before me.

Oh, now it's clear before me.

Because of the length

of her own relationship.

Length does not dictate any of that.

It does not ever.

It really doesn't ever.

Oh my gosh.

It really doesn't.

I wanted to suggest that she

stepped down as a bridesmaid, but

I avoided the confrontation because

I knew it would end our friendship.

Well, maybe, but this is

not ending your friend.

This should have ended your friendship.

Yeah.

This should have ended your friendship.

I think this girl's being way too

much of a pushover because like, this

should have ended your friendship.

Why are you worried about ending?

how is this not ending it?

Mm-hmm.

all the signs are there from the outside.

I'm like, these signs are so

big and red that I'm like you.

Yeah.

As red.

Those nails that you got proposed.

Yeah,

exactly.

They are, flashing at me.

Yes.

for the bachelorette trip, a joint

bachelor and bachelorette weekend.

Erica texted me the week before saying

her boyfriend couldn't take time off work.

So they probably would come late.

Okay.

I thought she was gonna say,

so they probably wouldn't come.

And I was gonna be like, whoa, whoa, whoa.

Wait.

Despite multiple bridesmaids

offering to drive her so she

could come on time, she refused.

that's weird.

If it's one of my best friends, I'd be

like, sorry, you have to work a boyfriend.

I'm going without you like, yeah.

What, what, I'm sorry.

I'm not wasting my time.

she and her boyfriend finally

arrived Friday night just as we

were heading to the karaoke bar.

At the bar they stood apart from

everyone else repeatedly asked

when we were leaving and complained

about how much they disliked it.

Why did you come?

They both did?

Apparently.

what?

What was the point of coming then?

you just like ob you want

to ruin people's time.

Mm-hmm.

You're just miserable, unhappy people.

Yeah.

you're being miserable and you're

trying to make everyone else miserable.

I'm one of those people where like, I

feel like I give so much grace where

I'm like, you know, if somebody's in a

bad place, and Maybe you are miserable.

Okay.

But like, are you spreading your misery?

That's what I'm really asking.

are you spreading your misery?

And that's what's happening here.

And I feel like that's

so like, get it together.

There's really no reason for you to go to

event and just ruin somebody else's time.

Go home.

Yeah, go home.

Because, yeah, no one feels bad for you.

don't go there to like ruin their day.

they're enjoying their time.

So just like.

Yeah.

This would also be a festivity and

you would literally be like, Ugh.

Can we go home?

Yeah, go.

No, yeah, you can.

Yeah, please.

You literally can, you drove here by

yourself because you didn't come with us.

' Cause you're waiting for your boyfriend

so you can, you literally can't go.

Yeah.

Literally.

Please.

Do you already want

the excuse to not come?

This is not an escape room.

You can escape.

Okay.

Yeah.

You're way out.

Oh my gosh.

This is wild.

the next morning Erica claimed she

had a panic attack and decided to

leave saying she wasn't having fun.

Okay.

Yeah.

Neither were we.

We could tell.

Yeah.

You could tell.

It's not a surprise.

You made it very clear.

Yeah.

Like it's not a surprise, girly.

A month after the trip, Erica got engaged.

Hmm.

Okay.

Good for maybe, I hope, you know what?

I hope her attitude changes now.

I hope she's very happy now.

Yeah.

Now she's gonna be, wait, I didn't read

the rest, but I'm just gonna guess it's

gonna be all about her and her wedding now

and then maybe they kept married first.

Oh my God.

I bet she's gonna be

like, oh, you know what?

If this was my wedding, I

wouldn't have done that.

Yes.

A lot of that, like, oh, you know what?

I would've never picked that color.

Oh, you know what?

I kind of feel like that's a little

techy, but like, it's good for you.

Oh my God.

I hate Erica.

What?

Yes.

God.

Erica, you're the worse.

Yeah.

a month after the trip, so Erica

got engaged and started texting me

questions about wedding planning.

she's so excited now.

look at her.

Things most bridesmaids would

already know, like what wedding

website I use and where my venue was.

On the day of my bridal shower, Erica

showed up with her mom both wearing white.

Because she's engaged, so

it's now her wedding here.

I literally can't,

Erica is just the worse.

Erica is the worst.

She can't help herself.

matching, outfits, like wearing

a sash bride and mother of bride.

She's like, well, I'm, also, engaged.

We're all engaged together.

Yeah.

Oh my God,

God.

she asked the other bridesmaids how

long the shower would last complained

about having to stay for the opening

of gifts and spent most of the time

talking about her own wedding plans.

you called it,

I feel like I've just seen so many

stories like this where I'm just

like that type of person that's so

upset and jealous and has to be rude.

The second then they get engaged.

It's me, me, me, me, me.

Oh, you had your, yes, that's it.

But it's like she doesn't

have her time yet.

She's still like.

She never had her time.

You were rude the whole time.

Like and then after now

you're still being rude.

See?

Are you just a rude person?

Like that.

Just who?

Yeah.

I was like, were there signs?

You know what, I'm sorry.

I feel like I was like, were there signs

already that Erica was not a good friend

I wanna hear about

before

all of this.

Yeah.

some pre-engagement stories about Erica.

Tell me the truth.

Yeah.

I was like, let's get the truth.

Have you, as his friend, needed

to be gone for a long time?

Probably.

My, guess is, yeah.

Yeah.

and this just brought

it all out even more.

when I walked over to her table,

her mom interrupted me to show Erica

something so cute for her wedding.

About 45 minutes into the shower,

Erica's mom came up to me and

said Erica wasn't feeling well.

I know I have to say that in that voice.

Yeah.

No, I love it.

Come say goodbye.

Oh.

At your shower.

You need to go outside

and say goodbye to Erica.

No, Erica can come inside.

Yeah.

Or, tell her I say bye.

She can just do the old Irish goodbye.

See ya.

I went outside and Erica apologized,

later texted me that she's always

getting sick at events related to me.

Oh my God.

You said it weird.

There must be some jealousy in the air.

Yeah.

Right, right.

I right.

Stick with jealousy.

You're literally getting

sick by your own jealousy.

Your own jealousy is making you sick.

Eating you up inside.

Alive.

Like, like your body

knows terrible therapy.

Immediately, please.

Like, yeah.

Can you seek some inner peace?

all right.

The next day, my sister texted Erica and

asked if she'd be getting sick on the

wedding day too, and whether she saw,

I love the sister.

The sister is awesome.

The sister was like, I'm done with this.

Yeah.

Like, I'll be her

backbone for a little bit.

I got, yeah.

Whether she felt capable

of handling the pressure.

Erica got defensive and sent me

a long series of messages about

feeling disrespected before I

could respond she blocked me.

The audacity!

And all the other

bridesmaids on social media.

' cause she was called out for her bs.

She felt disrespected?

She, Erica felt disrespect?

Wow.

Wow.

That is wild.

She did them a favor though.

Yeah.

Like somebody needed to like, thank

you for excusing yourself out then.

Mm-hmm.

And she, she literally went

through, just blocked everybody.

Okay.

Nobody wanted you ready.

That's someone that expects

you just to like, go to their

beck and call at all times.

No one says no to me.

And so I think because the

sister came in and was like, yo,

you're not being a good person.

Are you gonna be there or not?

Tell me now because

Yeah, exactly.

Not dealing with this.

I'm glad the sister said something.

'cause it was like someone had to be like,

we've already seen the pattern for a year.

Are you gonna do this on

the actual important day?

Mm-hmm.

If so, like, and I love that.

Are you gonna be able to handle it?

'cause Yeah.

can you handle it?

You've proven not to be able to.

So yeah.

Can you get yourself together before then?

Mm-hmm.

And she pretty much, she

answered, no, she's not.

I mean by all of her actions were a No.

That was the answer.

Yeah.

Oh my gosh.

She blocked everybody off.

That is wild.

Oh so childish.

I kind of like.

Very loosely relate to this.

years ago I had a very

shady kind of friend.

The end of, yeah, shady is probably

the wrong word, just a friend

where like I was always like people

pleasing, bending over backwards for.

And many times, like last minute

cancellations, like if she was

gonna help me with something, like

feeling sick, that kind of stuff.

And my sister texted her one day when

she was supposed to come to something and

canceled like the morning of, or She like

stopped responding to me and my sister

was like, Christa's always bending over

backwards for you, blah, blah, blah.

And it was like the same thing.

She was rude back to my sister and

then texted me like a whole thing.

And I was just like, I'm done.

done.

Sorry.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Like you can't take accountability.

Yeah.

Yeah.

all right.

Last paragraph here says,

looking back, I should have never

asked her to be a bridesmaid.

She has always been selfish and viewed

our friendship as a competition.

There you go.

Mm.

I was trying to hold on to a one-sided

friendship, but in the end she took

the first opportunity to bow out.

Wow.

They hung on by a thread

there for a while.

Yeah, yeah, and everyone, but I

mean, that's what we're wondering.

We're wondering, like, it seems like

Erica probably has always been a problem,

and, but she just confirmed that.

Yeah.

and that happens.

I mean, I've been, in a friendship

like that too, where like,

it was definitely one sided.

I was definitely like doing everything.

And they definitely were like

selfish, but there's like something,

I don't know what it is, but you

were like, attached to that person.

I felt attached to them.

and sometimes it can be hard to

like let people go, even if they're

like, not really bringing anything.

Mm-hmm.

A hundred percent.

Um, yeah.

Yeah.

So.

And I feel like too, it's like, you think

of like good times with that person.

Yeah.

And you're like, oh, they're

good to me during that.

Or like, this was a good time.

I don't wanna just like be the mean

person and say like, I'm done with

you, but also like, you matter too.

And it's like, yeah.

And their friendships just have

a timeline and they're just.

Done at a certain point.

And that's.

Yeah.

And this was the one, I mean, I

secretly wish for this girl that like

it had been earlier, so her whole,

all the events weren't like so tainted

with Erica's drama, But at least

her wedding wasn't tainted with it.

Yeah.

Yeah.

She was long out by that point.

Yeah, right.

Oh my gosh.

Well that was a wild story.

Well, thank you so much for coming

on and yeah, entering with me

and reacting to this wild story.

I had so much fun hanging out with you.

I feel like we could talk for hours just

because I do too, so much to chat about.

can you again, just tell everyone where

they can follow you and find your content

and then anything fun you're working on?

Yeah.

you can find me on TikTok

at Miss Razzle Dazzle.

I've been trying to change it, but

it won't change on TikTok, so Miss

Razzle dazzle, and then on Instagram

at bits of banter with Antoinette

and then YouTube at bits of banter.

I love it.

now my next thing is Perfect

Match and Love is Blind uk so I'll

be reacting to those two shows.

Okay.

I gotta watch at least one of those.

Yes, yes.

I Dating Show World.

Yes.

Awesome.

Well thank you so much.

Thank you.