According to Lao Tzu "Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince

others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts

oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” Lao Tzu compares our minds to a clear mirror,

suggesting that we should strive to keep our minds free from distortions and judgments.

Just as a mirror reflects whatever is placed before it without adding any

personal interpretation, we can practice letting go of self-judgement by cultivating a mind that

observes without labelling or attaching value. One can allow thoughts, emotions, and experiences

to arise and pass through our awareness without getting caught up in the web of self-criticism.

This practice requires developing mindfulness and non-attachment. When self-judgement arises,

we can simply observe it as a passing reflection in the mirror of our mind,

without getting entangled in its storyline. Instead of attaching ourselves to these judgments,

we recognize them as transient and impermanent. In doing so, we create a spaciousness within

ourselves—a space that allows for self-acceptance, compassion,

and understanding. We become more aware of the habitual patterns of self-judgement and gradually

release the grip they have on our well-being. In our modern world, where comparison and

self-evaluation are prevalent, practicing the metaphor of the clear mirror can have

transformative effects. Imagine you're at a social gathering, surrounded by people

who seem accomplished and confident. Instead of falling into the trap of self-judgement,

you bring to mind the image of a clear mirror. You remind yourself that just as the mirror

reflects without adding interpretation, you can observe the qualities and achievements of others

without comparing or devaluing yourself. You cultivate a non-judgmental mindset by

recognizing that everyone has their unique path and strengths. Rather than perceiving

others' successes as a measure of your own worth, you appreciate their achievements and

see them as sources of inspiration or learning. Throughout the gathering, you continue to observe

your thoughts and emotions without attachment or judgement. You allow them to arise and fade away,

without allowing self-critical thoughts to overshadow your experience. By doing so,

you maintain clarity and a sense of inner peace. This way you embrace a mindset of self-acceptance,

cultivating compassion and kindness towards yourself and others. You begin to appreciate

the beauty of your own unique reflection, free from distortions and limitations.