Hey guys.

Welcome back to another episode

of, here Comes The Drama.

I'm your host, Krista

Ennis, and I'm exhausted.

How are you doing today?

I am just feeling so like, I don't

know, there's just so much going on.

I don't know where August went.

It's here and gone.

by the time this comes out, it'll be

early October, but I'm filming it or

recording this right now in September.

And I feel like I blinked

and this year is like.

Three quarters of the way over.

I'm so grateful to be doing what I'm

doing, but it's also very like nonstop.

Sometimes I need to take a step back and

just like take a deep breath because I

feel like I'm just like on this constant

like hamster wheel of running around,

checking things off the box, being

a mom, being a wife, being a friend.

And it's just, it's a lot.

and I'm sure you moms or parents with

kids going back to school are feeling it.

Mine's too young for that yet, so I'm not

doing the back to school thing quite yet.

But, it's just wild how the older you get.

The years just seem to go

quicker and quicker and quicker.

and with the current climate, I just

feel like the news is suppressing.

It's a little sad and I hope I can

just bring some entertainment to

you guys with, everything going on.

Um, I don't know.

it's a lot and I just have to

remind myself to be grateful for.

What I'm able to do, being able to do

this from home and be able to create,

a lot of people don't have that.

And so, I don't take it for granted.

So I'm just wanna say I'm

grateful for you guys listening.

I know I'm going off on a little tangent.

I've got a lot of feelings this week.

there's a lot.

There's a lot going on.

So -we are gonna do

things a little different.

I dunno, I say that, but I feel

like it's always a little different

'cause we always have new stories.

we've got two stories at

the end for you today.

We're gonna do unpopular opinions,

which you guys send me on social media.

We're gonna do some this

or that, some hot takes.

And of course at the very, very

end we got some confessions for

you and we got some good ones.

We haven't shared these for a while.

I mean, we share them

on Instagram, stories.

But we've even shared 'em on a podcast in

a while, so you guys are in for a treat.

Gosh, there were so many.

Okay.

Starting things off, I just wanna

read a little, review of the podcast.

It says, as someone in the wedding

industry, bridal assistant, I enjoy

watching your videos and I can't

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That's from.

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Um.

I wanna share just something really fun.

I know like a lot of times on

my social media accounts and

on the podcast, I do skits.

So a lot of it is about other

people's stories and stuff.

But as many of you guys know, I do very,

very part-time day of coordinating.

Like, I'm talking like I did one

this year and I did one last year.

I'm talking to a bride

right now for one next year.

I just don't have the time to do it.

love it so much.

I love it so much.

I just had the honor of doing one.

it's been two weeks now.

but she was just a dream of a

bride to work with, just so kind,

knew what she wanted, but also was

very like open to hearing ideas.

we brainstormed through a lot of stuff.

just reminds me of like why

I love weddings so much.

like I said, I don't do a, a ton anymore,

but it's fun to just get back out there.

I just did like some partial planning

with her, so we met like every few months

and then we did day of coordinating.

So I basically just ran

around like, you know what?

You tell me what you need.

I got you.

we did the rehearsal together,

but I wanted to share instead of

like me just blabbing, I wanted

to share some interesting things.

That they did not do, or traditional

things that they did not do that

I thought was so awesome the way

they did it, or just I should say

non-traditional things they did.

I thought was really awesome.

And a reminder to anyone listening that

you don't ever have to stick within the

guidelines of what your parents tell you

or what you see in the media or whatever.

You can do things your own way, and

I loved this about their wedding.

Okay, so here's some things

that I thought was really cool.

They had no maid of honor or best man.

they had a wedding party, but it

was very, like everyone was equal.

They had a few different speeches,

but it wasn't like who you would

think it was just kind of like

different people on each side.

Some had asked, some were told,

so I thought that was really cool.

There were no readings in the wedding, the

wedding itself's, why I led the, ceremony.

and I just kinda like organized

where everyone stood and all that.

it was really quick.

I wanna say it was 15 minutes max.

They wanted a really quick ceremony.

It was.

Beautiful.

Honestly, like out of like Taylor Swift's

music video or something so beautiful.

they did no readings,

so it was really quick.

she had her stepdad officiate and

I thought he did such a great job.

He was so nervous.

He had never done it

before, but he did so great.

He was so personable.

And I thought it was a really

great way to include her stepdad.

And then she did her daddy daughter

dance, and then both her parents walked

her down the aisle and then both the

groom's parents walked him down the aisle.

So I thought it was a great way to

include all parents, in that, They also

had, flower petals on this seat instead

of just the flower girls having them,

everyone could throw them at the end.

So I thought that was

really, really awesome.

They had no cake.

A lot of people are gonna be like, what?

But I love that someone that's

like not a big cake person, I just

love the little sweetss and treats.

They just did a dessert table,

so they did no cake cutting.

and so that was great.

So it's just a reminder that no matter

what it is, even if you're like, I'm

already married or I don't plan on getting

married, whatever kind of event or just

thing in your life, go outside the lines.

do what makes sense for you.

say goodbye to Tradition.

Yeah, she was such a dream to

work with and everyone in the

wedding party was just so kind.

And yeah, it just reminds

me of why I love doing it.

So, I get like a little like,

anxious before weddings.

'cause I'm like such

an introverted person.

I work from home, but when you

put me in that spot, I got it.

How can I help you?

Where can I go to, what can I do for you?

Like, I got you.

So, yeah, I don't really like advertise

that I do it much just because like,

I don't have much time for them, but

when I do them, they're so much fun.

Anyways, okay, into our first

segment, unpopular Opinions.

These are ones that you guys sent to me

on social media, so let's talk about it.

These ones have to do with engagement

rings, so let's talk about it.

The first one says the

bigger the stone, the better.

no, it's actually about the commitment.

Yeah.

100%. I mean, they're saying,

okay, I guess you can't see.

They have quotes around the

bigger the stone the better.

No, it's absolutely not.

The bigger the stone the better.

So I'm agreeing with this person.

Yeah, I feel like people get

so caught up in the ring.

Yes.

I I love my engagement ring.

My husband and I though like

talked about it ahead of time,

like I was very involved in that.

I know it's different for everybody,

but there's this idea of like, you

have to spend this amount, you have

to do this if you truly love them.

And it's like, no, there are like

millionaires and billionaires that get

married multiple times that like spend.

and a crazy amount of money

on these rings, that does not

mean they love the person more.

If all you can afford is a

very basic ring, do that also

fit into their personality?

If they're not a big jewelry wear or

don't, like big stones, don't do that.

so yeah.

this person says, I don't

like the big marry me sign.

It's overdone.

I've never seen it personally.

I see them a lot of times on like

Instagram or social media and to me

that's like the Instagram proposal, right?

that you want everything to look good.

It's a big flashing lights.

Some people love that.

Some people want that public proposal.

Teach their own.

this person says, I think

proposals are best kept private.

Keep it intimate for the

couple, me personally, yes.

I own, I've talked to this before.

I had, four other friends there,

so I had, it was two other

couples that were with us.

Had no idea what was

gonna happen that night.

I knew it was probably

happening soon, but,

No idea what was happening that night.

I loved how intimate it was.

It was a friend's backyard.

We were all hanging out.

I would not have been comfortable.

I mean, I dunno.

I say that now in like hindsight.

I don't think I would've

wanted a big proposal.

I've been a part of big

proposals or big parties.

Everyone's got their own vibe.

It's just important to know your person

and know what they're comfortable

with, and that goes for either partner.

Because let's say the bride really wants

this big moment and it's in public space,

but if the groom's not comfortable with

that, like maybe he's more private,

he'd rather confess his love for her

or ask her to marry him in a private

place, then you have to like be able

to work together some way somehow.

this one says it shouldn't be a total

surprise, total incomplete surprise.

I a hundred percent agree with this.

I feel like movies growing up and

the way it was presented growing up

was like, okay, when your partner

loves you, they're gonna propose to

you and it's gonna be outta nowhere.

That sounds like a nightmare.

If you've never talked about marriage

or never talked about the next step with

your partner, I don't think you should

be proposing or getting proposed to.

You need to have that discussion

because I've seen stories where

people get proposed when they're

like, oh, we are not there yet.

Or they're like, I don't

want to get married.

So yeah, I don't think it should

be a complete surprise, Maybe how

it happens or when it happens.

Yes.

I love the surprise element of the

actual proposal, but to never talk

about getting married together or

like moving in together and then

you're just like, I bought this ring.

It's like, pump the brakes a little bit.

Let's have the conversation first.

Okay, next up, this or that.

Pick aside wedding drama debates.

Here we go.

A band that kills the vibe by

skipping your first dance song.

Or a DJ who keeps people dancing,

but plays cheesy tracks all night.

If I'm picking one or the other,

I'm gonna go for a cheesy, cheesy

dj because if people are dancing

all night, they're obviously

enjoying it in some way or another.

And I am all about it, like I've

talked about this before, but like.

My family.

We've always been the one that's like

on the dance floor all night long.

Same with my husband's family.

That was one of the things, like

we'd go to weddings together and I

was like, okay, we vibe because we

are on the dance floor all night.

We're not sitting at our table.

We are on our feet hanging out, dancing.

I love it.

okay, next one.

Blow the budget on incredible food.

Everyone raves about or skip

the fancy food and have a

Pinterest perfect reception.

I'm gonna go incredible food.

I don't care about Pinterest.

Perfect.

I don't, endless awkward

speeches or no speeches at all.

and offended.

Friends, why are the friends offended?

Because they weren't asked for a speech.

I would say no speeches at all.

Sorry.

Two of the offended friends.

If you're offended.

Sorry.

I don't know why I would never be offended

if someone didn't ask me to give a speech.

I would actually understand

if someone didn't ask me.

'cause I blab a lot.

but I think I'd be okay

if someone asked me.

side story.

Endless awkward speeches.

I've told that story so many times, but

I was at a wedding once where they just

kept passing around the microphone.

Nothing was planned.

Everyone just kept going off on a whim.

It was awkward.

Nobody wants that.

A 12 person party full of drama

or the guilt of leaving people out

with only one or two by your side.

see the way that one's worded is

like one's better than the other.

Actually, no, they're

both worded bad, I guess.

I'm gonna go with the guilt

of leaving people out with

only one or two by your side.

And the reason I say it, and I'm

someone that had nine bridesmaids, okay?

I dunno if I've ever talked about that

before and I don't regret it for a second.

I loved it.

But also my wedding party,

everyone got along very well.

They all know each other.

I mean, they're from different groups.

Kind of like I had cousin friends

from high school, sisters-in-law.

Other friends and then my sister.

So different groups, but they all kind

of knew each other, but everyone got

along great, so we didn't have any drama.

so yeah, that's hard though when you do

have a really big group and there's like

a lot of drama going on, leave me out of

it, especially at my age now, I'm just

like, if I were to do all over again,

I would probably just have a couple

people stand up with me and then have

the rest, like just wear a similar color.

I actually just saw a wedding like that

and I think that was really beautiful.

kids melting down mid vows or family

drama for years after banning kids?

Ooh, that's a spicy one.

It depends on who the kid is.

cause couldn't imagine getting

married without my nieces

and nephews at our wedding.

So if one of them had a meltdown.

I would just be glad they

were there, honestly.

But if it was someone, 'cause I

don't think we'd have family drama.

See, I read, this is the problem

with me and Rapid Fire, I read

into them too much because I'm

like, wait, that wouldn't happen.

So if I'm just going straight off the

bat, I would just say a kid melting down

because it'd be someone important to me.

Plus it's like 20 seconds long.

Okay.

A dreamy destination wedding and judgment

from family or a giant hometown wedding.

You didn't even want a

dreamy destination wedding.

It's funny 'cause I feel like.

My opinion has changed so much since

getting married, and I've only been

married three and a half years now.

but like I always say, I almost,

I'm one of the last ones, so

we knew exactly what we wanted.

We'd been to so many weddings, but

if I were to get married now or years

from now, like, or redo it, I'd go

destination all the way small group.

I already did the whole fun

planning of a wedding, you know?

And so I'm like the thought of doing

that again, I'm just like, I don't know.

I don't need to do it for myself.

Love doing it for other people.

But yeah.

Okay, let's get into the stories 'cause

they are long, so I wanna make sure I have

enough time without having to carry over

to another, I got two crazy stories here.

Let's go.

Okay.

My older sister was married first, but

her marriage only lasted two months.

While she was divorcing her husband,

I had just met the man of my dreams.

We got engaged eight months after

dating and planning our wedding

for five months later, since he

was set to deploy soon after.

My mom was adamant that my

sister be my maid of honor this

is her saying it in quotes.

You only have one sister.

And I always wished I had but didn't,

even though my sister and I weren't

very close, I had two lifelong best

friends who felt more like sisters.

I went along with it.

Oh no.

Okay, so full disclosure.

I had my best friend, Yvette, who has

been on the podcast, be my maid of

honor, and my sister was a bridesmaid.

She was not offended.

She was actually just very

happy to be a bridesmaid.

I was my sister's maid of honor, but she

also got married Oh my gosh, 14 years ago.

So I was like super young.

We were both really young, and

so things were just different.

But yeah, I knew right off the bat

that I wanted my friend Yvette,

to be my maid of honor plus.

You also have to look at, like when

someone's, your maid of honor, they're

getting other responsibilities too,

depending on, different things.

But your bachelorette party, maybe you're

helping with the shower being your person.

Right.

And I talked to my friend

about all the time.

We'd been to so many different events

together, and it just was more fitting.

My sister was not offended.

She was happy to be a part of the wedding.

So I talked about this before.

I am not a fan of when parents or

people try to convince the brighter

groom to have someone be in the wedding

or be a certain place in the wedding.

So she went along with it when

it came time for my bridal shower

and bachelorette party, which were

scheduled the same weekend since I was

finishing grad school in another state.

That sounds stressful.

My sister refused to help.

For months.

Every time I asked, she brushed

me off with, we have time.

It's too early to plan,

so she's not a planner.

In the end, my mom and I

organized everything ourselves.

A week before the events, my sister

suddenly started asking questions

and got mad that everything had

already been handled without her.

My mom even called me asking me to

find something to include her in.

So you're doing more work because

she couldn't be bothered before.

so I reminded her that I had been

trying for two months, but my

sister hadn't lifted a finger.

When I flew back home to go

wedding dress shopping with

everyone, she didn't show up.

Later, she demanded a different

dress from the other bridesmaids

because it was special.

I wanted them all to match, but of course

my parents called me saying she was hurt.

Is this an older or younger sister?

Older.

Okay.

The older sister did this.

Okay.

My shower, she had narrowed

her outfit down to two dresses.

I told her which one I preferred

because the other was two bridal.

She showed up in the white dress

anyway, with black accents, perfectly

matching my invitations and decor.

In the photos she positioned herself

in the middle so much that you

would barely know I was the bride.

So like there's no like necessary

rule that at showers and stuff, the

bride has to be the only one in white.

But I feel like all the ones I've

gone to, it's pretty common courtesy.

I would never show up to a shower

or a bachelorette wearing all white.

Especially if you ask them their opinion.

This sounds to me like the sister

was a little salty about the fact

that she was going through a divorce.

It wasn't working.

and then her sister's moving

really fast with this wedding.

So she's like, I'm gonna be involved

where I want to be involved.

and that's unfortunate that she

can't just be happy for her.

With all the drama building, my fiancé

and I secretly decided to elope what?

S I'm sorry for that sound

that just came outta my mouth.

That just came outta nowhere.

We got married privately, just

the two of us, but kept it a

secret until after the big day.

I love when that happens.

I love that.

Honestly, it saved me so much stress.

You go girl.

The night before the wedding,

a massive blizzard hit.

I was running around collecting

last minute deliveries and arrived

a little late to my rehearsal.

Sure enough, my sister

showed up in a white gown.

You guys, this is wild.

I've never read a story where the sister

is like showing up in these gowns.

It's usually the mom or mother-in-law

or an aunt or something.

That's wild.

'cause she knows better.

She's been a bride.

She knows better.

It makes me wonder how her wedding was.

If she was like this at her

wedding or someone did it to

her, like what's the deal here?

At that point, I didn't even care.

I went through a rehearsal in

jeans and snow booth before

changing from the dinner.

You go, girl, I love this bride.

The morning of the wedding, all of us,

my fight bridesmaids, my sister, my mom

and my mother-in-law went to the salon.

My sister went first for hair

and threw a fit because her

hair didn't match the picture.

She brought, she soaked in the corner

with her arms crossed like a toddler.

I added that.

while the stylist kept checking in as

we were leaving, she suddenly sighed.

Fine.

I guess someone can fix my hair.

I told my mom we needed to go since

the florist was delivering flowers

and the photographer was minutes

away, but she insisted Your sister

needs to be happy with her hair.

What is with this mom constantly

like defending the older sister

for acting like a toddler?

My guess is this is why she acts this way,

is because the parents are always like,

no, like, let's go out for your sister.

Like, what is the deal here?

Why is the younger sister acting like.

So much more mature in this scenario.

45 minutes later, this is wild.

My sister finally approved her look

and acted like nothing had happened.

On the way back, she demanded.

We stopped at CVS for an allergy medicine.

I tried to say no, but

my mom cut me off again.

Here we go with the mom.

You know, this is hard for her

since she just had her wedding.

Let's do what we can to

make her comfortable.

No.

This is the bride's day.

We don't need to make it comfortable

for the sister this whole time.

For context, her wedding had been

over, for a year at this point.

By the time we got home, the florist had

already left taking the bouquet to the

reception, but leaving behind the VAEs

for the bridesmaids table arrangements.

Oh my gosh.

The photographer was also waiting on us.

During picture as my sister

shoved her way to be next to me.

In nearly every shot, nearly every shot

loudly, declaring I'm the maid of honor.

This is my spot.

That's wild.

I've been the maid of honor twice, and I

was just like, I don't care where I stand.

I'll stand where you guys want me to.

I had to specifically request individual

photos with each bridesmaid just so

they wouldn't all be dominated by her.

Oh my gosh.

It's hard when it's a sibling 'cause it's

like you can't just like cut them out.

Especially the mom is like

waiting on her hand and foot.

Afterwards she demanded to know

why she didn't sign the marriage

license and accused wait.

What?

She didn't manage to know why she

wasn't like the witness on the marriage

license and accused another bridesmaid

of doing it when in reality no one had.

We were already legally married at

the reception she pouted when one of

my best friends gave a speech rolling

her eyes and smirking through it.

My mom kept excusing her behavior

as a hard time for my sister, but

really this is just who she is and

my parents chose to not see it.

That is so wild.

Like I am so sorry because.

This is gonna never change.

These parents are gonna constantly

excuse her behavior saying, oh,

she's just going through a hard time.

It's like, no, everyone's

going through a hard time.

From time to time.

Everyone's stressed from time to time.

It does not give you the right to treat

people a certain way, or especially

during your sister's wedding.

be happy for someone other than yourself.

so I'm guessing they didn't ask

the sister to give a speech either.

A few years later she remarried.

Wait, before I get to that, I was gonna

say, I wish she would've said that moment.

It's 'cause we're already married.

Like I feel like I would've

done that in my skit.

Be like, it's 'cause

we're already married.

But I guess she didn't tell her.

Okay.

A few years later she remarried.

She got engaged when I was seven months

pregnant and announced they'd be getting

married in Hawaii in just two months.

She told me I had to be there

at nine months pregnant.

You're gonna demand that

your sister's there.

Yeah, right.

I wished her well, but

explained it wasn't possible.

I'd be two weeks past my due

date and couldn't travel.

I ended up giving birth a week late.

She was furious and didn't

speak to me for a month.

This girl is so immature.

So immature, and the

parents are allowing it.

I mean, I don't know how

old they are now, but.

She's never going to be

responsible for her own actions.

If the parents are constantly

giving her excuses.

Here's the kicker, she's a doctor.

She knew perfectly well that

traveling then was impossible for me.

So if she's a doctor, she's gotta be

at least what, mid to late twenties.

How long are you in medical school for?

Isn't it like eight years or something?

12 years, 10 years?

I don't know.

I'm not a doctor, so I don't know.

But that is wild to me, this whole

story is wild to me it's more wild.

Like I'm currently in this, well, by the

time this comes out, I'll probably be

done with it, but the Tina and me ski.

Was based on a true story that someone

sent me, very based like, or very

inspired, loosely inspired, like

the first episode where they really,

idolized one sister over the other.

They did everything for this one

engagement and not the other.

They got mad.

I don't know, all these

crazy things, right?

And people are commenting like, parents

are really like this, this is terrible.

And I'm like, I read this

story and I'm like, yep.

They are.

That is to just like put one on a pedestal

and the other one's just like, no, like

your sister's going through a hard time.

I dunno.

That's wild.

All right guys, we got one more story.

We got so much more fun in our way.

Okay, let's go story number two.

About a year after meeting my now

husband, I went to one of his dance

performances where I met a dozen

of his friends for the first time.

One girl in particular, let's call

her Sabrina, immediately stood out.

These are all changed names.

She was loud, obnoxious, and

constantly gossiping about

people she didn't even know.

When we entered the theater,

she insisted on sitting right

in the middle of our group.

It wasn't the best seat, but

it was the one that guaranteed

she'd be the center of attention.

She didn't say a single word to

me, and anytime someone asked me

a question, she talked over me.

My first impression not good.

Yeah, I would say not good either.

I've met people like that before.

They don't like when a new girl is

brought into the mix because they're

not the center of attention anymore.

fast forward a couple of years.

We all went on a weekend

trip, about 20 people.

The friend group plus partners.

I hadn't seen Sabrina

since that first meeting.

Oh wow.

A couple years later.

Wow.

Okay.

And she was exactly as I remembered,

always needing the spotlight.

That night we played a game where you had

to catch the liars on the opposing team.

There were special roles and

coincidentally, I ended up

paired with my boyfriend.

He had a power that let him

check someone's card each round.

And he announced, I saw Sabrina's card.

She's a liar.

When the voting came out, I

said, I'm voting against her

because my partner saw her card.

Without missing a beat,

Sabrina snapped back.

Oh, so you believe him?

like when he tells you he loves

you Ooh, this girl's, wow.

She must have like a

crush on him or something.

I was boiling inside, but I managed

to smile and say, you know what?

Nevermind now I'm voting against

you because you made it personal.

Oh, I love it.

Okay.

The room went silent.

Everyone voted against her, and she

was eliminated loudly, angry about it.

Of course, I went straight to bed,

furious that neither my partner

nor anyone else defended me.

The next morning she approached

me with a half-hearted apology.

So my boyfriend said, I was

really mean to you yesterday.

I don't know when, but Sorry.

No, that's not an apology.

Sorry.

After that, I avoided

her as much as possible.

I skipped the group gatherings and the

one time I tried to go, I caught COVID,

so I took it as a sign that my body

really did not want me to be there.

I would too.

I'd be like, okay, thanks, universe.

When my husband and I got engaged,

I made it clear I would never force

him to cut Sabrina out since they'd

been friends since kindergarten.

That is really nice.

Maybe a little nicer than me, and I'm a

pretty nice person, but if someone were

to consistently not be very nice to me and

put me down or put my relationship down,

I would not give 'em the same courtesy.

I just saw a thing on

social media the other day.

I hope I don't butcher this, but

it says, stop being considerate for

people that don't even consider you.

So there's a little reminder to everybody

out there, especially as people pleasers,

we want to consider people, or if

they hurt our feelings, we're just

like, oh, maybe they didn't mean it.

No, stop.

Stop being considerate.

A people that didn't consider

you, she couldn't even apologize.

anyways, so she said she wouldn't force

him to cut her out because they were

friends since kindergarten, but he

shouldn't expect me to interact with her.

I even joked that she'd pull

something dramatic at the wedding,

like wear white or have her boyfriend

propose in the middle of it.

My wedding dress was a true princess

gown, layers of pink and white

tool green lace shaped like leaves.

I wanna see this dress sounds beautiful.

And glittering.

Floral details.

On our wedding website and

invitations, we clearly stated,

white is reserved for the bride.

okay.

I've never seen it like that.

but I love that you're just upfront.

Put it right on the invitation.

I wasn't worried about anyone

confusing me with someone else,

but I didn't want photos where

the attention could be stolen.

Makes sense.

So the big day arrives.

We do our first look full of excitement.

Then go to greet our

guest before the ceremony.

Who's the very first person I see Sabrina.

And what is she wearing?

A long flowy white gown.

What is with both of these stories,

having people not in the wedding or

the bride wearing a white dress, and

not just a white dress, a white gown,

that is wild.

This is someone asking for a fight or

asking for the detention be stolen.

I wonder how long she was

with her boyfriend for?

Maybe it was something where she was

mad that she wasn't proposed to first.

Ooh, this is wild, you guys.

Okay.

I said wild.

We should do a, tracker of

how many times I say wild.

I've noticed more and more

I say it like all the time.

The best part, my husband

finally saw her for what she is.

He apologized profusely to me

and the photographers without me

even asking, cropped her out of

all the photos whenever possible.

There's only one group shot of the

friends and my husband without me,

where she actually looks like the bride.

We decided the best way to quote

unquote punish her was silence.

No confrontation.

No drama.

Just be ignored when all she wanted

was to be the center of attention.

And honestly, that was the

sweetest justice of all.

I love that.

Okay.

I said one time in, I

think it was a podcast.

The mother-in-law was gonna wear white,

like told her daughter-in-law that I

bought a white dress for your wedding.

'cause it's the only color I look good in.

And my response was, one of the

things you could do is just ignore it.

And so many people in the

comments were like, ignore it.

Oh, I'm not ignoring it.

Oh, that's exactly, that you're

giving her what she wants.

Someone, this made such a good point.

Someone like this is

wanting to stir the pot.

They wanna cause a scene.

They want people to notice them.

They want the bride to feel inferior.

And if you don't feed into

it, you don't say anything.

You don't acknowledge it or have other

people look or point or say anything.

You're not giving them what they want.

They're actually gonna leave

mad because no one noticed.

I love that.

I love that.

And then only post

photos that she's not in.

Okay.

I'm getting petty now,

but actually is it petty?

No, she was petty first.

I can't believe how both stories

had someone showing up in white.

These need be skits.

Oh my gosh.

You guys, If you're listening

to this whole thing, I need

to know all your thoughts.

Go to YouTube, go to

Instagram, go to TikTok.

Comment your thoughts after you listen

to this because these are just crazy.

These are crazy.

See, I had a different word.

Okay.

As promised, I'm gonna end this episode.

Sorry, I'm fidgeting with my hair so much.

If you're watching this, I'm gonna end

these episode with some confessions.

These are pretty wild.

Okay.

Here we go.

At the end, mother-in-law

wore white and black to our

wedding with a huge black hat.

The white.

I have more of a problem with.

I remember reading a story years

ago, where the mother-in-law wore

black to the wedding, like all black.

And I was like, oh my gosh.

Like they're dressed to a funeral.

Like their son's being

taken away from them.

Right.

But I was thinking about it.

I'm like, I've worn black

to formal weddings before,

like a formal black dress.

I've worn black jumpsuits to weddings

before, so I don't think black is

actually considered that bad, but it's

where she wore our huge black hat and

then a white and black dress because we

don't know the style of the dress, but.

Also, if someone's saying this, like a

bride's saying this, my guess is there's

some kind of issue already between them.

Because again, if you have a good

relationship with someone and they showed

up like that, you'd be like, oh, cool.

Pretty dress.

But if it's someone that's

already got an issue with you,

then they're making a statement.

Okay.

My cousin was my sister's photographer.

He didn't give her the pictures for

two years and they turned out awful.

Yeah.

No, we don't do family for vendors.

We just don't.

If they insist you say, I want you

there as a guest, I already have a

photographer because I've heard so many

horror stories about people choosing

photographers for their wedding.

that's a family member and I wouldn't

count like officiant from my day of

coordinating story earlier because I

think that's a more personal thing.

They can just do it and be done.

Right.

But a photographer, you need

someone that's really devoted

as fully a photographer.

Like that's their profession,

not just like a little side gig.

Someone that's gonna take a few photos

on their iPhone, or just starting out.

Okay.

This one's like a three part one.

She said, my fiance's best

man peer pressured him into

asking him to be the best man.

Anytime he did anything for my fiance,

unrelated to the wedding, he said,

this is best man's shit right here.

You better ask me.

We get married in nine months.

That's awkward.

I mean.

I don't know.

I don't know how to respond to that.

I feel like, yeah, maybe they can

make subtle hints that they wanna be

your best man, but it's up to you.

You have the power.

You could ultimately have the

power if they're your friend.

Sure.

But if they keep just making comments

like that, you are like, oh, I

already have someone else planned.

This one's weird.

Okay.

Best friend's mother-in-law

asked for a mother, son renewal.

Vows on their wedding.

Mother-in-law had it.

Best friend divorced him.

Wait, the mom wanted to renew

vows on their wedding day.

I need more context to this.

This is wild.

This is so wild.

I need more words.

Help me come up with more words.

I say amazing.

And I say wild and I say crazy a ton.

Help me come up with more words.

maybe help me out and

just comment on YouTube.

Just use some different words so

I can get them in my vocabulary.

' cause when I find what, I just

stick to that and that's what

we're using for the next month.

so yeah, I don't get it.

she wanted vow renewals with her son,

just like to prove that she's the mom.

I don't understand.

All right.

Oh, last one.

my sister slash maid of honor

got drunk before the ceremony.

She was a shit show half the day.

Yeah.

Alcohol can be a big problem at weddings.

I'm sure.

We've got tons of alcohol stories

that people have sent me in.

I've seen it a few times.

Few times I've seen it lots of times.

You get the people that are like fun

and drunk or buzz at the weddings

and like they're just dancing.

Like, yeah.

If you know you cannot handle

your liquor, hold off till the

reception, till your duties are done.

If you have any slight question about it.

Although anyone that's gonna like

not think they have a problem.

Is not going to be like, I'm gonna wait.

They're gonna be like, I can be fun.

So yeah, that kind of sucks

when it happens like that.

Alright guys, well that's

all I have this week.

Don't forget to send me your

confessions on social media on Mondays.

We do unpopular opinions On Fridays,

we do, your confessions, so hold

onto those cool confessions.

Sometimes we have different themes,

but otherwise I can't wait to read 'em.

Of course, always send me your

wedding story submissions.

They can be wedding proposal, engagement,

dating, friendship, whatever stories we're

gonna open our horizons a little bit.

feel free to tell me your stories.

and I think that's all I got for you guys.

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this is how my brain has been.

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