1 00:00:00,112 --> 00:00:00,502 Hey guys. 2 00:00:00,502 --> 00:00:01,762 Welcome back to another episode 3 00:00:01,762 --> 00:00:02,662 of, here Comes The Drama. 4 00:00:02,662 --> 00:00:03,592 I'm your host, Krista 5 00:00:03,592 --> 00:00:05,413 Ennis, and I'm exhausted. 6 00:00:05,500 --> 00:00:06,593 How are you doing today? 7 00:00:07,067 --> 00:00:10,215 I am just feeling so like, I don't 8 00:00:10,215 --> 00:00:12,885 know, there's just so much going on. 9 00:00:13,053 --> 00:00:14,792 I don't know where August went. 10 00:00:14,967 --> 00:00:16,063 It's here and gone. 11 00:00:16,227 --> 00:00:17,607 by the time this comes out, it'll be 12 00:00:17,607 --> 00:00:19,887 early October, but I'm filming it or 13 00:00:19,887 --> 00:00:21,687 recording this right now in September. 14 00:00:21,687 --> 00:00:22,767 And I feel like I blinked 15 00:00:22,767 --> 00:00:23,907 and this year is like. 16 00:00:24,067 --> 00:00:25,686 Three quarters of the way over. 17 00:00:25,929 --> 00:00:27,682 I'm so grateful to be doing what I'm 18 00:00:27,682 --> 00:00:30,172 doing, but it's also very like nonstop. 19 00:00:30,518 --> 00:00:31,928 Sometimes I need to take a step back and 20 00:00:31,928 --> 00:00:33,682 just like take a deep breath because I 21 00:00:33,682 --> 00:00:35,272 feel like I'm just like on this constant 22 00:00:35,272 --> 00:00:37,712 like hamster wheel of running around, 23 00:00:37,712 --> 00:00:39,332 checking things off the box, being 24 00:00:39,332 --> 00:00:41,252 a mom, being a wife, being a friend. 25 00:00:41,252 --> 00:00:42,629 And it's just, it's a lot. 26 00:00:42,812 --> 00:00:44,852 and I'm sure you moms or parents with 27 00:00:44,852 --> 00:00:46,442 kids going back to school are feeling it. 28 00:00:46,442 --> 00:00:49,322 Mine's too young for that yet, so I'm not 29 00:00:49,322 --> 00:00:50,972 doing the back to school thing quite yet. 30 00:00:50,972 --> 00:00:53,845 But, it's just wild how the older you get. 31 00:00:54,032 --> 00:00:55,417 The years just seem to go 32 00:00:55,417 --> 00:00:57,637 quicker and quicker and quicker. 33 00:00:57,877 --> 00:01:00,204 and with the current climate, I just 34 00:01:00,204 --> 00:01:03,184 feel like the news is suppressing. 35 00:01:03,184 --> 00:01:05,434 It's a little sad and I hope I can 36 00:01:05,434 --> 00:01:06,754 just bring some entertainment to 37 00:01:06,754 --> 00:01:08,910 you guys with, everything going on. 38 00:01:08,910 --> 00:01:09,734 Um, I don't know. 39 00:01:09,950 --> 00:01:11,140 it's a lot and I just have to 40 00:01:11,140 --> 00:01:13,880 remind myself to be grateful for. 41 00:01:14,104 --> 00:01:15,899 What I'm able to do, being able to do 42 00:01:15,899 --> 00:01:17,669 this from home and be able to create, 43 00:01:17,815 --> 00:01:19,075 a lot of people don't have that. 44 00:01:19,075 --> 00:01:21,902 And so, I don't take it for granted. 45 00:01:21,902 --> 00:01:23,102 So I'm just wanna say I'm 46 00:01:23,102 --> 00:01:24,482 grateful for you guys listening. 47 00:01:24,482 --> 00:01:25,922 I know I'm going off on a little tangent. 48 00:01:26,129 --> 00:01:27,662 I've got a lot of feelings this week. 49 00:01:27,882 --> 00:01:28,422 there's a lot. 50 00:01:28,542 --> 00:01:29,262 There's a lot going on. 51 00:01:29,807 --> 00:01:30,977 So -we are gonna do 52 00:01:30,977 --> 00:01:32,267 things a little different. 53 00:01:32,420 --> 00:01:33,590 I dunno, I say that, but I feel 54 00:01:33,590 --> 00:01:34,670 like it's always a little different 55 00:01:34,670 --> 00:01:36,020 'cause we always have new stories. 56 00:01:36,220 --> 00:01:37,180 we've got two stories at 57 00:01:37,180 --> 00:01:38,230 the end for you today. 58 00:01:38,450 --> 00:01:40,700 We're gonna do unpopular opinions, 59 00:01:40,894 --> 00:01:42,544 which you guys send me on social media. 60 00:01:42,787 --> 00:01:43,710 We're gonna do some this 61 00:01:43,710 --> 00:01:45,437 or that, some hot takes. 62 00:01:45,670 --> 00:01:47,454 And of course at the very, very 63 00:01:47,454 --> 00:01:49,224 end we got some confessions for 64 00:01:49,224 --> 00:01:50,664 you and we got some good ones. 65 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:52,740 We haven't shared these for a while. 66 00:01:52,740 --> 00:01:53,430 I mean, we share them 67 00:01:53,430 --> 00:01:55,017 on Instagram, stories. 68 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:56,730 But we've even shared 'em on a podcast in 69 00:01:56,730 --> 00:01:58,530 a while, so you guys are in for a treat. 70 00:01:58,590 --> 00:01:59,700 Gosh, there were so many. 71 00:01:59,920 --> 00:02:00,254 Okay. 72 00:02:00,494 --> 00:02:02,144 Starting things off, I just wanna 73 00:02:02,144 --> 00:02:04,574 read a little, review of the podcast. 74 00:02:04,774 --> 00:02:06,844 It says, as someone in the wedding 75 00:02:06,874 --> 00:02:09,457 industry, bridal assistant, I enjoy 76 00:02:09,457 --> 00:02:10,987 watching your videos and I can't 77 00:02:10,987 --> 00:02:12,697 wait to hear the rest of the stories. 78 00:02:12,894 --> 00:02:13,490 That's from. 79 00:02:13,535 --> 00:02:15,245 Songbird for life. 80 00:02:15,410 --> 00:02:17,369 So thank you so much Songbird 81 00:02:17,429 --> 00:02:18,749 for leaving that review. 82 00:02:18,937 --> 00:02:20,249 And again, if you guys enjoy 83 00:02:20,249 --> 00:02:22,435 this podcast, please share it 84 00:02:22,435 --> 00:02:24,025 with a friend or leave a review. 85 00:02:24,025 --> 00:02:25,645 It really helps more people hear the 86 00:02:25,645 --> 00:02:28,105 podcast and just means so much to me. 87 00:02:28,105 --> 00:02:28,165 Um. 88 00:02:28,387 --> 00:02:30,237 I wanna share just something really fun. 89 00:02:30,237 --> 00:02:31,497 I know like a lot of times on 90 00:02:31,497 --> 00:02:32,787 my social media accounts and 91 00:02:32,787 --> 00:02:34,817 on the podcast, I do skits. 92 00:02:34,847 --> 00:02:36,077 So a lot of it is about other 93 00:02:36,077 --> 00:02:37,157 people's stories and stuff. 94 00:02:37,157 --> 00:02:39,534 But as many of you guys know, I do very, 95 00:02:39,534 --> 00:02:41,334 very part-time day of coordinating. 96 00:02:41,334 --> 00:02:43,074 Like, I'm talking like I did one 97 00:02:43,074 --> 00:02:44,874 this year and I did one last year. 98 00:02:45,085 --> 00:02:46,137 I'm talking to a bride 99 00:02:46,137 --> 00:02:47,757 right now for one next year. 100 00:02:48,004 --> 00:02:49,214 I just don't have the time to do it. 101 00:02:49,719 --> 00:02:51,360 love it so much. 102 00:02:51,390 --> 00:02:52,530 I love it so much. 103 00:02:52,749 --> 00:02:54,717 I just had the honor of doing one. 104 00:02:54,944 --> 00:02:57,007 it's been two weeks now. 105 00:02:57,127 --> 00:02:59,490 but she was just a dream of a 106 00:02:59,490 --> 00:03:02,130 bride to work with, just so kind, 107 00:03:02,344 --> 00:03:03,887 knew what she wanted, but also was 108 00:03:03,887 --> 00:03:06,460 very like open to hearing ideas. 109 00:03:06,627 --> 00:03:08,840 we brainstormed through a lot of stuff. 110 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:10,720 just reminds me of like why 111 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:11,770 I love weddings so much. 112 00:03:11,970 --> 00:03:13,800 like I said, I don't do a, a ton anymore, 113 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:15,750 but it's fun to just get back out there. 114 00:03:15,947 --> 00:03:17,857 I just did like some partial planning 115 00:03:17,857 --> 00:03:19,717 with her, so we met like every few months 116 00:03:19,717 --> 00:03:20,977 and then we did day of coordinating. 117 00:03:20,977 --> 00:03:22,393 So I basically just ran 118 00:03:22,393 --> 00:03:23,683 around like, you know what? 119 00:03:23,683 --> 00:03:24,493 You tell me what you need. 120 00:03:24,633 --> 00:03:25,413 I got you. 121 00:03:25,610 --> 00:03:27,320 we did the rehearsal together, 122 00:03:27,535 --> 00:03:29,180 but I wanted to share instead of 123 00:03:29,180 --> 00:03:30,470 like me just blabbing, I wanted 124 00:03:30,470 --> 00:03:32,180 to share some interesting things. 125 00:03:32,378 --> 00:03:34,502 That they did not do, or traditional 126 00:03:34,502 --> 00:03:35,762 things that they did not do that 127 00:03:35,762 --> 00:03:37,742 I thought was so awesome the way 128 00:03:37,742 --> 00:03:39,122 they did it, or just I should say 129 00:03:39,122 --> 00:03:40,057 non-traditional things they did. 130 00:03:40,545 --> 00:03:41,878 I thought was really awesome. 131 00:03:42,058 --> 00:03:43,888 And a reminder to anyone listening that 132 00:03:43,918 --> 00:03:45,898 you don't ever have to stick within the 133 00:03:45,898 --> 00:03:47,978 guidelines of what your parents tell you 134 00:03:47,978 --> 00:03:50,358 or what you see in the media or whatever. 135 00:03:50,358 --> 00:03:51,858 You can do things your own way, and 136 00:03:51,858 --> 00:03:53,718 I loved this about their wedding. 137 00:03:53,953 --> 00:03:55,168 Okay, so here's some things 138 00:03:55,168 --> 00:03:56,758 that I thought was really cool. 139 00:03:57,032 --> 00:03:59,372 They had no maid of honor or best man. 140 00:03:59,562 --> 00:04:01,488 they had a wedding party, but it 141 00:04:01,488 --> 00:04:03,588 was very, like everyone was equal. 142 00:04:03,752 --> 00:04:05,642 They had a few different speeches, 143 00:04:05,642 --> 00:04:06,962 but it wasn't like who you would 144 00:04:06,962 --> 00:04:08,582 think it was just kind of like 145 00:04:08,745 --> 00:04:10,342 different people on each side. 146 00:04:10,372 --> 00:04:12,292 Some had asked, some were told, 147 00:04:12,485 --> 00:04:13,672 so I thought that was really cool. 148 00:04:13,882 --> 00:04:15,615 There were no readings in the wedding, the 149 00:04:15,615 --> 00:04:18,218 wedding itself's, why I led the, ceremony. 150 00:04:18,268 --> 00:04:19,828 and I just kinda like organized 151 00:04:19,828 --> 00:04:20,848 where everyone stood and all that. 152 00:04:21,068 --> 00:04:21,882 it was really quick. 153 00:04:22,062 --> 00:04:24,522 I wanna say it was 15 minutes max. 154 00:04:24,522 --> 00:04:26,172 They wanted a really quick ceremony. 155 00:04:26,172 --> 00:04:26,382 It was. 156 00:04:26,692 --> 00:04:27,378 Beautiful. 157 00:04:27,378 --> 00:04:29,009 Honestly, like out of like Taylor Swift's 158 00:04:29,058 --> 00:04:31,168 music video or something so beautiful. 159 00:04:31,335 --> 00:04:32,028 they did no readings, 160 00:04:32,028 --> 00:04:33,018 so it was really quick. 161 00:04:33,188 --> 00:04:35,438 she had her stepdad officiate and 162 00:04:35,438 --> 00:04:37,321 I thought he did such a great job. 163 00:04:37,321 --> 00:04:38,921 He was so nervous. 164 00:04:38,921 --> 00:04:39,521 He had never done it 165 00:04:39,521 --> 00:04:41,351 before, but he did so great. 166 00:04:41,351 --> 00:04:42,521 He was so personable. 167 00:04:42,856 --> 00:04:43,740 And I thought it was a really 168 00:04:43,740 --> 00:04:45,750 great way to include her stepdad. 169 00:04:45,780 --> 00:04:46,980 And then she did her daddy daughter 170 00:04:46,980 --> 00:04:49,116 dance, and then both her parents walked 171 00:04:49,116 --> 00:04:50,596 her down the aisle and then both the 172 00:04:50,596 --> 00:04:52,216 groom's parents walked him down the aisle. 173 00:04:52,216 --> 00:04:53,206 So I thought it was a great way to 174 00:04:53,206 --> 00:04:56,410 include all parents, in that, They also 175 00:04:56,410 --> 00:04:59,220 had, flower petals on this seat instead 176 00:04:59,220 --> 00:05:01,200 of just the flower girls having them, 177 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:02,550 everyone could throw them at the end. 178 00:05:02,550 --> 00:05:03,090 So I thought that was 179 00:05:03,090 --> 00:05:04,470 really, really awesome. 180 00:05:04,700 --> 00:05:05,740 They had no cake. 181 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:07,070 A lot of people are gonna be like, what? 182 00:05:07,070 --> 00:05:08,780 But I love that someone that's 183 00:05:08,780 --> 00:05:10,817 like not a big cake person, I just 184 00:05:10,817 --> 00:05:12,077 love the little sweetss and treats. 185 00:05:12,137 --> 00:05:13,217 They just did a dessert table, 186 00:05:13,217 --> 00:05:14,447 so they did no cake cutting. 187 00:05:14,687 --> 00:05:15,424 and so that was great. 188 00:05:15,484 --> 00:05:17,727 So it's just a reminder that no matter 189 00:05:17,727 --> 00:05:18,837 what it is, even if you're like, I'm 190 00:05:18,837 --> 00:05:20,097 already married or I don't plan on getting 191 00:05:20,097 --> 00:05:21,910 married, whatever kind of event or just 192 00:05:21,940 --> 00:05:24,152 thing in your life, go outside the lines. 193 00:05:24,152 --> 00:05:25,982 do what makes sense for you. 194 00:05:26,189 --> 00:05:27,932 say goodbye to Tradition. 195 00:05:28,122 --> 00:05:29,394 Yeah, she was such a dream to 196 00:05:29,394 --> 00:05:31,534 work with and everyone in the 197 00:05:31,534 --> 00:05:33,454 wedding party was just so kind. 198 00:05:33,514 --> 00:05:34,924 And yeah, it just reminds 199 00:05:34,924 --> 00:05:35,764 me of why I love doing it. 200 00:05:35,764 --> 00:05:37,136 So, I get like a little like, 201 00:05:37,136 --> 00:05:38,353 anxious before weddings. 202 00:05:38,383 --> 00:05:39,413 'cause I'm like such 203 00:05:39,413 --> 00:05:40,463 an introverted person. 204 00:05:40,463 --> 00:05:42,103 I work from home, but when you 205 00:05:42,133 --> 00:05:43,939 put me in that spot, I got it. 206 00:05:44,129 --> 00:05:45,183 How can I help you? 207 00:05:45,353 --> 00:05:47,349 Where can I go to, what can I do for you? 208 00:05:47,349 --> 00:05:48,453 Like, I got you. 209 00:05:48,739 --> 00:05:50,849 So, yeah, I don't really like advertise 210 00:05:50,849 --> 00:05:52,438 that I do it much just because like, 211 00:05:52,442 --> 00:05:54,362 I don't have much time for them, but 212 00:05:54,362 --> 00:05:56,342 when I do them, they're so much fun. 213 00:05:56,558 --> 00:05:59,485 Anyways, okay, into our first 214 00:05:59,485 --> 00:06:01,165 segment, unpopular Opinions. 215 00:06:01,335 --> 00:06:02,862 These are ones that you guys sent to me 216 00:06:02,922 --> 00:06:06,045 on social media, so let's talk about it. 217 00:06:06,045 --> 00:06:07,965 These ones have to do with engagement 218 00:06:07,965 --> 00:06:09,255 rings, so let's talk about it. 219 00:06:09,502 --> 00:06:10,559 The first one says the 220 00:06:10,559 --> 00:06:12,119 bigger the stone, the better. 221 00:06:12,339 --> 00:06:13,899 no, it's actually about the commitment. 222 00:06:14,052 --> 00:06:14,355 Yeah. 223 00:06:14,355 --> 00:06:16,789 100%. I mean, they're saying, 224 00:06:16,819 --> 00:06:18,129 okay, I guess you can't see. 225 00:06:18,129 --> 00:06:19,692 They have quotes around the 226 00:06:19,692 --> 00:06:20,832 bigger the stone the better. 227 00:06:21,049 --> 00:06:21,969 No, it's absolutely not. 228 00:06:22,519 --> 00:06:23,472 The bigger the stone the better. 229 00:06:23,472 --> 00:06:24,672 So I'm agreeing with this person. 230 00:06:24,905 --> 00:06:26,355 Yeah, I feel like people get 231 00:06:26,355 --> 00:06:27,915 so caught up in the ring. 232 00:06:27,915 --> 00:06:28,305 Yes. 233 00:06:28,365 --> 00:06:29,716 I I love my engagement ring. 234 00:06:29,932 --> 00:06:31,256 My husband and I though like 235 00:06:31,286 --> 00:06:32,786 talked about it ahead of time, 236 00:06:32,786 --> 00:06:34,346 like I was very involved in that. 237 00:06:34,552 --> 00:06:35,922 I know it's different for everybody, 238 00:06:36,152 --> 00:06:37,986 but there's this idea of like, you 239 00:06:37,986 --> 00:06:40,196 have to spend this amount, you have 240 00:06:40,196 --> 00:06:42,026 to do this if you truly love them. 241 00:06:42,026 --> 00:06:43,736 And it's like, no, there are like 242 00:06:43,736 --> 00:06:45,566 millionaires and billionaires that get 243 00:06:45,566 --> 00:06:47,906 married multiple times that like spend. 244 00:06:48,152 --> 00:06:49,862 and a crazy amount of money 245 00:06:50,042 --> 00:06:51,392 on these rings, that does not 246 00:06:51,392 --> 00:06:53,312 mean they love the person more. 247 00:06:53,534 --> 00:06:54,959 If all you can afford is a 248 00:06:54,959 --> 00:06:57,805 very basic ring, do that also 249 00:06:57,805 --> 00:06:59,125 fit into their personality? 250 00:06:59,125 --> 00:07:02,035 If they're not a big jewelry wear or 251 00:07:02,247 --> 00:07:04,619 don't, like big stones, don't do that. 252 00:07:04,882 --> 00:07:05,394 so yeah. 253 00:07:05,625 --> 00:07:07,139 this person says, I don't 254 00:07:07,139 --> 00:07:09,622 like the big marry me sign. 255 00:07:09,682 --> 00:07:10,672 It's overdone. 256 00:07:10,868 --> 00:07:12,715 I've never seen it personally. 257 00:07:12,715 --> 00:07:13,855 I see them a lot of times on like 258 00:07:13,885 --> 00:07:16,555 Instagram or social media and to me 259 00:07:16,555 --> 00:07:20,012 that's like the Instagram proposal, right? 260 00:07:20,168 --> 00:07:21,458 that you want everything to look good. 261 00:07:21,458 --> 00:07:22,808 It's a big flashing lights. 262 00:07:22,973 --> 00:07:23,925 Some people love that. 263 00:07:23,925 --> 00:07:25,725 Some people want that public proposal. 264 00:07:26,143 --> 00:07:26,735 Teach their own. 265 00:07:26,958 --> 00:07:28,220 this person says, I think 266 00:07:28,220 --> 00:07:30,320 proposals are best kept private. 267 00:07:30,500 --> 00:07:32,150 Keep it intimate for the 268 00:07:32,150 --> 00:07:34,227 couple, me personally, yes. 269 00:07:34,377 --> 00:07:35,967 I own, I've talked to this before. 270 00:07:35,967 --> 00:07:37,947 I had, four other friends there, 271 00:07:37,977 --> 00:07:39,207 so I had, it was two other 272 00:07:39,207 --> 00:07:40,407 couples that were with us. 273 00:07:40,589 --> 00:07:41,394 Had no idea what was 274 00:07:41,394 --> 00:07:42,774 gonna happen that night. 275 00:07:42,989 --> 00:07:43,587 I knew it was probably 276 00:07:43,587 --> 00:07:44,994 happening soon, but, 277 00:07:45,650 --> 00:07:47,000 No idea what was happening that night. 278 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:48,260 I loved how intimate it was. 279 00:07:48,260 --> 00:07:49,730 It was a friend's backyard. 280 00:07:49,930 --> 00:07:51,067 We were all hanging out. 281 00:07:51,267 --> 00:07:53,217 I would not have been comfortable. 282 00:07:53,217 --> 00:07:54,187 I mean, I dunno. 283 00:07:54,187 --> 00:07:55,837 I say that now in like hindsight. 284 00:07:56,034 --> 00:07:56,827 I don't think I would've 285 00:07:56,827 --> 00:07:58,330 wanted a big proposal. 286 00:07:58,330 --> 00:07:59,530 I've been a part of big 287 00:07:59,620 --> 00:08:01,424 proposals or big parties. 288 00:08:01,665 --> 00:08:02,894 Everyone's got their own vibe. 289 00:08:02,894 --> 00:08:04,664 It's just important to know your person 290 00:08:04,664 --> 00:08:05,834 and know what they're comfortable 291 00:08:05,834 --> 00:08:08,134 with, and that goes for either partner. 292 00:08:08,380 --> 00:08:11,922 Because let's say the bride really wants 293 00:08:11,922 --> 00:08:14,442 this big moment and it's in public space, 294 00:08:14,667 --> 00:08:16,542 but if the groom's not comfortable with 295 00:08:16,542 --> 00:08:17,832 that, like maybe he's more private, 296 00:08:17,832 --> 00:08:20,199 he'd rather confess his love for her 297 00:08:20,394 --> 00:08:22,475 or ask her to marry him in a private 298 00:08:22,475 --> 00:08:24,192 place, then you have to like be able 299 00:08:24,192 --> 00:08:26,205 to work together some way somehow. 300 00:08:26,495 --> 00:08:28,415 this one says it shouldn't be a total 301 00:08:28,415 --> 00:08:30,665 surprise, total incomplete surprise. 302 00:08:30,725 --> 00:08:32,585 I a hundred percent agree with this. 303 00:08:32,767 --> 00:08:35,482 I feel like movies growing up and 304 00:08:35,512 --> 00:08:37,402 the way it was presented growing up 305 00:08:37,402 --> 00:08:39,652 was like, okay, when your partner 306 00:08:39,652 --> 00:08:41,879 loves you, they're gonna propose to 307 00:08:41,879 --> 00:08:43,949 you and it's gonna be outta nowhere. 308 00:08:44,197 --> 00:08:45,714 That sounds like a nightmare. 309 00:08:45,774 --> 00:08:48,624 If you've never talked about marriage 310 00:08:48,820 --> 00:08:50,450 or never talked about the next step with 311 00:08:50,450 --> 00:08:52,690 your partner, I don't think you should 312 00:08:52,690 --> 00:08:55,000 be proposing or getting proposed to. 313 00:08:55,257 --> 00:08:56,577 You need to have that discussion 314 00:08:56,577 --> 00:08:58,174 because I've seen stories where 315 00:08:58,174 --> 00:08:59,254 people get proposed when they're 316 00:08:59,254 --> 00:09:01,504 like, oh, we are not there yet. 317 00:09:01,534 --> 00:09:02,877 Or they're like, I don't 318 00:09:02,877 --> 00:09:03,867 want to get married. 319 00:09:04,089 --> 00:09:05,707 So yeah, I don't think it should 320 00:09:05,707 --> 00:09:07,547 be a complete surprise, Maybe how 321 00:09:07,547 --> 00:09:09,047 it happens or when it happens. 322 00:09:09,047 --> 00:09:09,497 Yes. 323 00:09:09,527 --> 00:09:11,117 I love the surprise element of the 324 00:09:11,117 --> 00:09:13,524 actual proposal, but to never talk 325 00:09:13,524 --> 00:09:15,234 about getting married together or 326 00:09:15,234 --> 00:09:17,280 like moving in together and then 327 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:18,480 you're just like, I bought this ring. 328 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:19,994 It's like, pump the brakes a little bit. 329 00:09:19,994 --> 00:09:21,664 Let's have the conversation first. 330 00:09:21,694 --> 00:09:24,100 Okay, next up, this or that. 331 00:09:24,334 --> 00:09:26,670 Pick aside wedding drama debates. 332 00:09:26,670 --> 00:09:27,120 Here we go. 333 00:09:27,364 --> 00:09:29,095 A band that kills the vibe by 334 00:09:29,095 --> 00:09:31,195 skipping your first dance song. 335 00:09:31,457 --> 00:09:34,512 Or a DJ who keeps people dancing, 336 00:09:34,512 --> 00:09:36,789 but plays cheesy tracks all night. 337 00:09:37,022 --> 00:09:38,289 If I'm picking one or the other, 338 00:09:38,289 --> 00:09:40,272 I'm gonna go for a cheesy, cheesy 339 00:09:40,272 --> 00:09:42,012 dj because if people are dancing 340 00:09:42,012 --> 00:09:43,002 all night, they're obviously 341 00:09:43,002 --> 00:09:44,712 enjoying it in some way or another. 342 00:09:44,712 --> 00:09:46,982 And I am all about it, like I've 343 00:09:46,982 --> 00:09:48,212 talked about this before, but like. 344 00:09:48,445 --> 00:09:49,180 My family. 345 00:09:49,180 --> 00:09:50,710 We've always been the one that's like 346 00:09:50,890 --> 00:09:52,810 on the dance floor all night long. 347 00:09:52,810 --> 00:09:54,250 Same with my husband's family. 348 00:09:54,492 --> 00:09:55,450 That was one of the things, like 349 00:09:55,450 --> 00:09:56,590 we'd go to weddings together and I 350 00:09:56,590 --> 00:09:59,077 was like, okay, we vibe because we 351 00:09:59,077 --> 00:10:01,057 are on the dance floor all night. 352 00:10:01,266 --> 00:10:02,617 We're not sitting at our table. 353 00:10:02,617 --> 00:10:05,130 We are on our feet hanging out, dancing. 354 00:10:05,287 --> 00:10:05,800 I love it. 355 00:10:06,025 --> 00:10:06,595 okay, next one. 356 00:10:06,625 --> 00:10:09,025 Blow the budget on incredible food. 357 00:10:09,025 --> 00:10:10,991 Everyone raves about or skip 358 00:10:10,991 --> 00:10:12,341 the fancy food and have a 359 00:10:12,371 --> 00:10:14,171 Pinterest perfect reception. 360 00:10:14,575 --> 00:10:16,288 I'm gonna go incredible food. 361 00:10:16,408 --> 00:10:17,578 I don't care about Pinterest. 362 00:10:17,578 --> 00:10:18,148 Perfect. 363 00:10:18,403 --> 00:10:20,959 I don't, endless awkward 364 00:10:20,959 --> 00:10:23,179 speeches or no speeches at all. 365 00:10:23,182 --> 00:10:23,842 and offended. 366 00:10:23,842 --> 00:10:25,659 Friends, why are the friends offended? 367 00:10:25,659 --> 00:10:27,741 Because they weren't asked for a speech. 368 00:10:27,971 --> 00:10:29,238 I would say no speeches at all. 369 00:10:29,238 --> 00:10:29,598 Sorry. 370 00:10:29,598 --> 00:10:30,858 Two of the offended friends. 371 00:10:31,118 --> 00:10:31,893 If you're offended. 372 00:10:31,983 --> 00:10:32,343 Sorry. 373 00:10:32,683 --> 00:10:34,341 I don't know why I would never be offended 374 00:10:34,341 --> 00:10:35,901 if someone didn't ask me to give a speech. 375 00:10:36,141 --> 00:10:37,328 I would actually understand 376 00:10:37,928 --> 00:10:39,128 if someone didn't ask me. 377 00:10:39,158 --> 00:10:40,238 'cause I blab a lot. 378 00:10:40,501 --> 00:10:41,331 but I think I'd be okay 379 00:10:41,331 --> 00:10:41,961 if someone asked me. 380 00:10:42,218 --> 00:10:43,171 side story. 381 00:10:43,468 --> 00:10:44,668 Endless awkward speeches. 382 00:10:44,835 --> 00:10:46,338 I've told that story so many times, but 383 00:10:46,578 --> 00:10:48,202 I was at a wedding once where they just 384 00:10:48,202 --> 00:10:50,302 kept passing around the microphone. 385 00:10:50,302 --> 00:10:51,292 Nothing was planned. 386 00:10:51,518 --> 00:10:53,755 Everyone just kept going off on a whim. 387 00:10:54,008 --> 00:10:54,645 It was awkward. 388 00:10:54,885 --> 00:10:55,665 Nobody wants that. 389 00:10:56,293 --> 00:10:59,483 A 12 person party full of drama 390 00:10:59,646 --> 00:11:01,830 or the guilt of leaving people out 391 00:11:01,830 --> 00:11:04,020 with only one or two by your side. 392 00:11:04,243 --> 00:11:05,870 see the way that one's worded is 393 00:11:05,870 --> 00:11:08,030 like one's better than the other. 394 00:11:08,266 --> 00:11:09,090 Actually, no, they're 395 00:11:09,090 --> 00:11:10,380 both worded bad, I guess. 396 00:11:10,620 --> 00:11:11,750 I'm gonna go with the guilt 397 00:11:11,750 --> 00:11:12,680 of leaving people out with 398 00:11:12,680 --> 00:11:13,970 only one or two by your side. 399 00:11:14,193 --> 00:11:16,066 And the reason I say it, and I'm 400 00:11:16,066 --> 00:11:17,986 someone that had nine bridesmaids, okay? 401 00:11:17,986 --> 00:11:19,066 I dunno if I've ever talked about that 402 00:11:19,066 --> 00:11:21,346 before and I don't regret it for a second. 403 00:11:21,376 --> 00:11:22,996 I loved it. 404 00:11:23,213 --> 00:11:24,616 But also my wedding party, 405 00:11:24,646 --> 00:11:26,656 everyone got along very well. 406 00:11:26,860 --> 00:11:27,660 They all know each other. 407 00:11:27,660 --> 00:11:28,800 I mean, they're from different groups. 408 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:31,173 Kind of like I had cousin friends 409 00:11:31,173 --> 00:11:33,380 from high school, sisters-in-law. 410 00:11:33,596 --> 00:11:35,926 Other friends and then my sister. 411 00:11:36,133 --> 00:11:37,840 So different groups, but they all kind 412 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:39,040 of knew each other, but everyone got 413 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:41,320 along great, so we didn't have any drama. 414 00:11:41,546 --> 00:11:43,526 so yeah, that's hard though when you do 415 00:11:43,526 --> 00:11:45,056 have a really big group and there's like 416 00:11:45,056 --> 00:11:47,516 a lot of drama going on, leave me out of 417 00:11:47,516 --> 00:11:49,346 it, especially at my age now, I'm just 418 00:11:49,346 --> 00:11:51,506 like, if I were to do all over again, 419 00:11:51,506 --> 00:11:52,826 I would probably just have a couple 420 00:11:52,826 --> 00:11:54,726 people stand up with me and then have 421 00:11:54,726 --> 00:11:56,466 the rest, like just wear a similar color. 422 00:11:56,466 --> 00:11:57,726 I actually just saw a wedding like that 423 00:11:57,726 --> 00:11:58,926 and I think that was really beautiful. 424 00:11:59,203 --> 00:12:02,293 kids melting down mid vows or family 425 00:12:02,293 --> 00:12:05,623 drama for years after banning kids? 426 00:12:05,816 --> 00:12:08,636 Ooh, that's a spicy one. 427 00:12:08,953 --> 00:12:10,466 It depends on who the kid is. 428 00:12:10,666 --> 00:12:12,020 cause couldn't imagine getting 429 00:12:12,020 --> 00:12:12,860 married without my nieces 430 00:12:12,860 --> 00:12:14,510 and nephews at our wedding. 431 00:12:14,783 --> 00:12:16,533 So if one of them had a meltdown. 432 00:12:16,810 --> 00:12:17,736 I would just be glad they 433 00:12:17,736 --> 00:12:18,876 were there, honestly. 434 00:12:19,066 --> 00:12:20,533 But if it was someone, 'cause I 435 00:12:20,533 --> 00:12:21,733 don't think we'd have family drama. 436 00:12:21,733 --> 00:12:22,963 See, I read, this is the problem 437 00:12:22,963 --> 00:12:24,853 with me and Rapid Fire, I read 438 00:12:24,853 --> 00:12:25,813 into them too much because I'm 439 00:12:25,813 --> 00:12:26,983 like, wait, that wouldn't happen. 440 00:12:27,213 --> 00:12:29,216 So if I'm just going straight off the 441 00:12:29,216 --> 00:12:31,483 bat, I would just say a kid melting down 442 00:12:31,693 --> 00:12:33,680 because it'd be someone important to me. 443 00:12:33,973 --> 00:12:35,253 Plus it's like 20 seconds long. 444 00:12:35,493 --> 00:12:35,813 Okay. 445 00:12:36,020 --> 00:12:38,400 A dreamy destination wedding and judgment 446 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:41,430 from family or a giant hometown wedding. 447 00:12:41,570 --> 00:12:43,073 You didn't even want a 448 00:12:43,073 --> 00:12:44,693 dreamy destination wedding. 449 00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:47,570 It's funny 'cause I feel like. 450 00:12:47,956 --> 00:12:49,643 My opinion has changed so much since 451 00:12:49,643 --> 00:12:51,253 getting married, and I've only been 452 00:12:51,253 --> 00:12:54,163 married three and a half years now. 453 00:12:54,390 --> 00:12:55,563 but like I always say, I almost, 454 00:12:55,563 --> 00:12:56,643 I'm one of the last ones, so 455 00:12:56,643 --> 00:12:58,113 we knew exactly what we wanted. 456 00:12:58,113 --> 00:12:59,976 We'd been to so many weddings, but 457 00:13:00,036 --> 00:13:02,760 if I were to get married now or years 458 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:04,997 from now, like, or redo it, I'd go 459 00:13:04,997 --> 00:13:06,952 destination all the way small group. 460 00:13:07,579 --> 00:13:09,075 I already did the whole fun 461 00:13:09,075 --> 00:13:10,665 planning of a wedding, you know? 462 00:13:10,665 --> 00:13:11,835 And so I'm like the thought of doing 463 00:13:11,835 --> 00:13:13,265 that again, I'm just like, I don't know. 464 00:13:13,265 --> 00:13:14,285 I don't need to do it for myself. 465 00:13:14,285 --> 00:13:15,515 Love doing it for other people. 466 00:13:15,575 --> 00:13:16,325 But yeah. 467 00:13:24,249 --> 00:13:26,499 Okay, let's get into the stories 'cause 468 00:13:26,499 --> 00:13:29,109 they are long, so I wanna make sure I have 469 00:13:29,109 --> 00:13:30,909 enough time without having to carry over 470 00:13:30,909 --> 00:13:33,179 to another, I got two crazy stories here. 471 00:13:33,239 --> 00:13:33,959 Let's go. 472 00:13:34,199 --> 00:13:34,529 Okay. 473 00:13:34,786 --> 00:13:37,182 My older sister was married first, but 474 00:13:37,182 --> 00:13:39,342 her marriage only lasted two months. 475 00:13:39,562 --> 00:13:41,212 While she was divorcing her husband, 476 00:13:41,212 --> 00:13:43,312 I had just met the man of my dreams. 477 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:45,642 We got engaged eight months after 478 00:13:45,642 --> 00:13:47,202 dating and planning our wedding 479 00:13:47,202 --> 00:13:49,399 for five months later, since he 480 00:13:49,399 --> 00:13:51,439 was set to deploy soon after. 481 00:13:51,692 --> 00:13:53,047 My mom was adamant that my 482 00:13:53,047 --> 00:13:54,736 sister be my maid of honor this 483 00:13:54,736 --> 00:13:55,936 is her saying it in quotes. 484 00:13:56,134 --> 00:13:57,959 You only have one sister. 485 00:13:57,959 --> 00:14:00,239 And I always wished I had but didn't, 486 00:14:00,456 --> 00:14:01,916 even though my sister and I weren't 487 00:14:01,916 --> 00:14:04,362 very close, I had two lifelong best 488 00:14:04,362 --> 00:14:06,282 friends who felt more like sisters. 489 00:14:06,549 --> 00:14:07,566 I went along with it. 490 00:14:07,656 --> 00:14:08,526 Oh no. 491 00:14:08,526 --> 00:14:10,126 Okay, so full disclosure. 492 00:14:10,419 --> 00:14:12,637 I had my best friend, Yvette, who has 493 00:14:12,697 --> 00:14:14,437 been on the podcast, be my maid of 494 00:14:14,437 --> 00:14:16,717 honor, and my sister was a bridesmaid. 495 00:14:16,936 --> 00:14:17,904 She was not offended. 496 00:14:17,964 --> 00:14:19,044 She was actually just very 497 00:14:19,044 --> 00:14:20,214 happy to be a bridesmaid. 498 00:14:20,434 --> 00:14:22,084 I was my sister's maid of honor, but she 499 00:14:22,084 --> 00:14:25,124 also got married Oh my gosh, 14 years ago. 500 00:14:25,347 --> 00:14:27,664 So I was like super young. 501 00:14:27,844 --> 00:14:29,871 We were both really young, and 502 00:14:29,871 --> 00:14:31,041 so things were just different. 503 00:14:31,221 --> 00:14:33,464 But yeah, I knew right off the bat 504 00:14:33,494 --> 00:14:34,784 that I wanted my friend Yvette, 505 00:14:34,784 --> 00:14:36,611 to be my maid of honor plus. 506 00:14:36,781 --> 00:14:38,191 You also have to look at, like when 507 00:14:38,191 --> 00:14:39,711 someone's, your maid of honor, they're 508 00:14:39,711 --> 00:14:41,331 getting other responsibilities too, 509 00:14:41,361 --> 00:14:42,381 depending on, different things. 510 00:14:42,381 --> 00:14:44,731 But your bachelorette party, maybe you're 511 00:14:44,731 --> 00:14:47,751 helping with the shower being your person. 512 00:14:47,751 --> 00:14:48,171 Right. 513 00:14:48,201 --> 00:14:49,401 And I talked to my friend 514 00:14:49,401 --> 00:14:50,691 about all the time. 515 00:14:50,881 --> 00:14:52,161 We'd been to so many different events 516 00:14:52,161 --> 00:14:54,321 together, and it just was more fitting. 517 00:14:54,544 --> 00:14:55,654 My sister was not offended. 518 00:14:55,781 --> 00:14:57,251 She was happy to be a part of the wedding. 519 00:14:57,611 --> 00:14:59,834 So I talked about this before. 520 00:14:59,924 --> 00:15:02,654 I am not a fan of when parents or 521 00:15:02,654 --> 00:15:05,071 people try to convince the brighter 522 00:15:05,071 --> 00:15:07,291 groom to have someone be in the wedding 523 00:15:07,291 --> 00:15:09,091 or be a certain place in the wedding. 524 00:15:09,349 --> 00:15:10,637 So she went along with it when 525 00:15:10,637 --> 00:15:12,497 it came time for my bridal shower 526 00:15:12,497 --> 00:15:14,037 and bachelorette party, which were 527 00:15:14,037 --> 00:15:15,947 scheduled the same weekend since I was 528 00:15:15,947 --> 00:15:17,717 finishing grad school in another state. 529 00:15:17,747 --> 00:15:18,887 That sounds stressful. 530 00:15:19,096 --> 00:15:20,931 My sister refused to help. 531 00:15:21,122 --> 00:15:21,934 For months. 532 00:15:21,934 --> 00:15:23,399 Every time I asked, she brushed 533 00:15:23,399 --> 00:15:25,602 me off with, we have time. 534 00:15:25,632 --> 00:15:27,072 It's too early to plan, 535 00:15:27,222 --> 00:15:28,152 so she's not a planner. 536 00:15:28,399 --> 00:15:29,489 In the end, my mom and I 537 00:15:29,489 --> 00:15:31,019 organized everything ourselves. 538 00:15:31,239 --> 00:15:32,929 A week before the events, my sister 539 00:15:32,929 --> 00:15:34,969 suddenly started asking questions 540 00:15:34,969 --> 00:15:36,439 and got mad that everything had 541 00:15:36,439 --> 00:15:37,879 already been handled without her. 542 00:15:38,152 --> 00:15:40,182 My mom even called me asking me to 543 00:15:40,182 --> 00:15:41,622 find something to include her in. 544 00:15:41,872 --> 00:15:43,652 So you're doing more work because 545 00:15:43,652 --> 00:15:45,062 she couldn't be bothered before. 546 00:15:45,559 --> 00:15:47,361 so I reminded her that I had been 547 00:15:47,361 --> 00:15:49,101 trying for two months, but my 548 00:15:49,101 --> 00:15:50,601 sister hadn't lifted a finger. 549 00:15:50,859 --> 00:15:52,244 When I flew back home to go 550 00:15:52,244 --> 00:15:53,324 wedding dress shopping with 551 00:15:53,324 --> 00:15:54,841 everyone, she didn't show up. 552 00:15:55,059 --> 00:15:56,454 Later, she demanded a different 553 00:15:56,454 --> 00:15:58,344 dress from the other bridesmaids 554 00:15:58,512 --> 00:15:59,918 because it was special. 555 00:16:00,149 --> 00:16:02,533 I wanted them all to match, but of course 556 00:16:02,533 --> 00:16:04,633 my parents called me saying she was hurt. 557 00:16:05,906 --> 00:16:07,463 Is this an older or younger sister? 558 00:16:07,493 --> 00:16:07,913 Older. 559 00:16:07,943 --> 00:16:08,243 Okay. 560 00:16:08,243 --> 00:16:09,323 The older sister did this. 561 00:16:09,586 --> 00:16:09,799 Okay. 562 00:16:10,079 --> 00:16:11,503 My shower, she had narrowed 563 00:16:11,503 --> 00:16:13,333 her outfit down to two dresses. 564 00:16:13,496 --> 00:16:15,153 I told her which one I preferred 565 00:16:15,153 --> 00:16:17,073 because the other was two bridal. 566 00:16:17,306 --> 00:16:18,956 She showed up in the white dress 567 00:16:18,956 --> 00:16:21,619 anyway, with black accents, perfectly 568 00:16:21,619 --> 00:16:23,449 matching my invitations and decor. 569 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:25,408 In the photos she positioned herself 570 00:16:25,408 --> 00:16:26,915 in the middle so much that you 571 00:16:26,915 --> 00:16:28,535 would barely know I was the bride. 572 00:16:28,837 --> 00:16:30,368 So like there's no like necessary 573 00:16:30,368 --> 00:16:32,642 rule that at showers and stuff, the 574 00:16:32,642 --> 00:16:34,922 bride has to be the only one in white. 575 00:16:35,127 --> 00:16:36,582 But I feel like all the ones I've 576 00:16:36,582 --> 00:16:39,432 gone to, it's pretty common courtesy. 577 00:16:39,592 --> 00:16:41,212 I would never show up to a shower 578 00:16:41,212 --> 00:16:42,772 or a bachelorette wearing all white. 579 00:16:42,972 --> 00:16:45,598 Especially if you ask them their opinion. 580 00:16:45,822 --> 00:16:47,802 This sounds to me like the sister 581 00:16:47,928 --> 00:16:49,712 was a little salty about the fact 582 00:16:49,712 --> 00:16:51,152 that she was going through a divorce. 583 00:16:51,152 --> 00:16:52,172 It wasn't working. 584 00:16:52,378 --> 00:16:53,505 and then her sister's moving 585 00:16:53,505 --> 00:16:54,645 really fast with this wedding. 586 00:16:54,645 --> 00:16:56,408 So she's like, I'm gonna be involved 587 00:16:56,408 --> 00:16:57,698 where I want to be involved. 588 00:16:57,828 --> 00:16:58,743 and that's unfortunate that she 589 00:16:58,743 --> 00:16:59,748 can't just be happy for her. 590 00:16:59,972 --> 00:17:01,557 With all the drama building, my fiancé 591 00:17:01,557 --> 00:17:03,293 and I secretly decided to elope what? 592 00:17:04,159 --> 00:17:05,908 S I'm sorry for that sound 593 00:17:05,908 --> 00:17:07,078 that just came outta my mouth. 594 00:17:07,319 --> 00:17:08,804 That just came outta nowhere. 595 00:17:09,029 --> 00:17:10,764 We got married privately, just 596 00:17:10,764 --> 00:17:11,994 the two of us, but kept it a 597 00:17:11,994 --> 00:17:14,514 secret until after the big day. 598 00:17:14,893 --> 00:17:16,686 I love when that happens. 599 00:17:17,656 --> 00:17:18,383 I love that. 600 00:17:19,318 --> 00:17:21,739 Honestly, it saved me so much stress. 601 00:17:21,988 --> 00:17:23,633 You go girl. 602 00:17:23,894 --> 00:17:25,094 The night before the wedding, 603 00:17:25,154 --> 00:17:26,924 a massive blizzard hit. 604 00:17:27,074 --> 00:17:28,898 I was running around collecting 605 00:17:28,898 --> 00:17:31,111 last minute deliveries and arrived 606 00:17:31,111 --> 00:17:32,641 a little late to my rehearsal. 607 00:17:32,831 --> 00:17:34,384 Sure enough, my sister 608 00:17:34,384 --> 00:17:36,154 showed up in a white gown. 609 00:17:36,341 --> 00:17:37,898 You guys, this is wild. 610 00:17:37,928 --> 00:17:39,938 I've never read a story where the sister 611 00:17:39,938 --> 00:17:41,438 is like showing up in these gowns. 612 00:17:41,438 --> 00:17:42,878 It's usually the mom or mother-in-law 613 00:17:42,878 --> 00:17:43,898 or an aunt or something. 614 00:17:44,204 --> 00:17:45,054 That's wild. 615 00:17:45,084 --> 00:17:46,044 'cause she knows better. 616 00:17:46,044 --> 00:17:47,034 She's been a bride. 617 00:17:47,034 --> 00:17:47,604 She knows better. 618 00:17:48,104 --> 00:17:49,926 It makes me wonder how her wedding was. 619 00:17:49,926 --> 00:17:51,126 If she was like this at her 620 00:17:51,126 --> 00:17:53,559 wedding or someone did it to 621 00:17:53,559 --> 00:17:54,979 her, like what's the deal here? 622 00:17:55,267 --> 00:17:57,236 At that point, I didn't even care. 623 00:17:57,487 --> 00:17:58,949 I went through a rehearsal in 624 00:17:58,949 --> 00:18:00,359 jeans and snow booth before 625 00:18:00,359 --> 00:18:01,199 changing from the dinner. 626 00:18:01,259 --> 00:18:03,773 You go, girl, I love this bride. 627 00:18:04,027 --> 00:18:05,836 The morning of the wedding, all of us, 628 00:18:05,836 --> 00:18:08,326 my fight bridesmaids, my sister, my mom 629 00:18:08,326 --> 00:18:09,976 and my mother-in-law went to the salon. 630 00:18:10,267 --> 00:18:11,968 My sister went first for hair 631 00:18:11,968 --> 00:18:13,605 and threw a fit because her 632 00:18:13,605 --> 00:18:14,625 hair didn't match the picture. 633 00:18:14,625 --> 00:18:16,351 She brought, she soaked in the corner 634 00:18:16,351 --> 00:18:18,395 with her arms crossed like a toddler. 635 00:18:18,647 --> 00:18:19,271 I added that. 636 00:18:19,505 --> 00:18:21,405 while the stylist kept checking in as 637 00:18:21,405 --> 00:18:23,655 we were leaving, she suddenly sighed. 638 00:18:23,655 --> 00:18:24,225 Fine. 639 00:18:24,431 --> 00:18:26,441 I guess someone can fix my hair. 640 00:18:26,701 --> 00:18:28,771 I told my mom we needed to go since 641 00:18:28,771 --> 00:18:30,541 the florist was delivering flowers 642 00:18:30,724 --> 00:18:31,911 and the photographer was minutes 643 00:18:31,911 --> 00:18:34,221 away, but she insisted Your sister 644 00:18:34,221 --> 00:18:35,271 needs to be happy with her hair. 645 00:18:35,500 --> 00:18:37,444 What is with this mom constantly 646 00:18:37,444 --> 00:18:38,974 like defending the older sister 647 00:18:38,974 --> 00:18:40,264 for acting like a toddler? 648 00:18:40,324 --> 00:18:43,064 My guess is this is why she acts this way, 649 00:18:43,154 --> 00:18:44,354 is because the parents are always like, 650 00:18:44,354 --> 00:18:45,974 no, like, let's go out for your sister. 651 00:18:45,974 --> 00:18:47,347 Like, what is the deal here? 652 00:18:47,553 --> 00:18:49,104 Why is the younger sister acting like. 653 00:18:49,576 --> 00:18:51,317 So much more mature in this scenario. 654 00:18:51,553 --> 00:18:54,191 45 minutes later, this is wild. 655 00:18:54,390 --> 00:18:56,431 My sister finally approved her look 656 00:18:56,431 --> 00:18:58,651 and acted like nothing had happened. 657 00:18:58,883 --> 00:19:00,521 On the way back, she demanded. 658 00:19:00,521 --> 00:19:03,191 We stopped at CVS for an allergy medicine. 659 00:19:03,406 --> 00:19:04,637 I tried to say no, but 660 00:19:04,637 --> 00:19:06,167 my mom cut me off again. 661 00:19:06,172 --> 00:19:07,187 Here we go with the mom. 662 00:19:07,466 --> 00:19:08,767 You know, this is hard for her 663 00:19:08,767 --> 00:19:10,177 since she just had her wedding. 664 00:19:10,430 --> 00:19:11,174 Let's do what we can to 665 00:19:11,174 --> 00:19:12,284 make her comfortable. 666 00:19:12,470 --> 00:19:12,667 No. 667 00:19:13,430 --> 00:19:14,677 This is the bride's day. 668 00:19:14,727 --> 00:19:15,785 We don't need to make it comfortable 669 00:19:15,785 --> 00:19:17,705 for the sister this whole time. 670 00:19:17,924 --> 00:19:19,532 For context, her wedding had been 671 00:19:19,532 --> 00:19:21,635 over, for a year at this point. 672 00:19:21,898 --> 00:19:24,305 By the time we got home, the florist had 673 00:19:24,305 --> 00:19:26,475 already left taking the bouquet to the 674 00:19:26,475 --> 00:19:29,152 reception, but leaving behind the VAEs 675 00:19:29,152 --> 00:19:31,342 for the bridesmaids table arrangements. 676 00:19:31,632 --> 00:19:32,592 Oh my gosh. 677 00:19:32,835 --> 00:19:34,812 The photographer was also waiting on us. 678 00:19:35,259 --> 00:19:36,447 During picture as my sister 679 00:19:36,447 --> 00:19:38,487 shoved her way to be next to me. 680 00:19:38,487 --> 00:19:41,364 In nearly every shot, nearly every shot 681 00:19:41,595 --> 00:19:43,797 loudly, declaring I'm the maid of honor. 682 00:19:44,007 --> 00:19:44,817 This is my spot. 683 00:19:46,031 --> 00:19:46,781 That's wild. 684 00:19:46,781 --> 00:19:48,161 I've been the maid of honor twice, and I 685 00:19:48,161 --> 00:19:49,631 was just like, I don't care where I stand. 686 00:19:49,811 --> 00:19:50,891 I'll stand where you guys want me to. 687 00:19:51,201 --> 00:19:53,991 I had to specifically request individual 688 00:19:53,991 --> 00:19:56,021 photos with each bridesmaid just so 689 00:19:56,021 --> 00:19:57,941 they wouldn't all be dominated by her. 690 00:19:58,121 --> 00:19:58,841 Oh my gosh. 691 00:19:59,025 --> 00:20:00,448 It's hard when it's a sibling 'cause it's 692 00:20:00,448 --> 00:20:02,481 like you can't just like cut them out. 693 00:20:02,541 --> 00:20:03,741 Especially the mom is like 694 00:20:03,834 --> 00:20:05,037 waiting on her hand and foot. 695 00:20:05,337 --> 00:20:06,624 Afterwards she demanded to know 696 00:20:06,624 --> 00:20:07,974 why she didn't sign the marriage 697 00:20:07,974 --> 00:20:10,044 license and accused wait. 698 00:20:10,104 --> 00:20:10,554 What? 699 00:20:10,554 --> 00:20:11,484 She didn't manage to know why she 700 00:20:11,484 --> 00:20:12,774 wasn't like the witness on the marriage 701 00:20:12,774 --> 00:20:15,134 license and accused another bridesmaid 702 00:20:15,134 --> 00:20:17,264 of doing it when in reality no one had. 703 00:20:17,467 --> 00:20:20,089 We were already legally married at 704 00:20:20,089 --> 00:20:21,979 the reception she pouted when one of 705 00:20:21,979 --> 00:20:24,109 my best friends gave a speech rolling 706 00:20:24,109 --> 00:20:25,669 her eyes and smirking through it. 707 00:20:25,917 --> 00:20:27,946 My mom kept excusing her behavior 708 00:20:27,946 --> 00:20:30,066 as a hard time for my sister, but 709 00:20:30,066 --> 00:20:32,596 really this is just who she is and 710 00:20:32,596 --> 00:20:34,666 my parents chose to not see it. 711 00:20:34,917 --> 00:20:36,602 That is so wild. 712 00:20:36,602 --> 00:20:38,455 Like I am so sorry because. 713 00:20:38,674 --> 00:20:40,524 This is gonna never change. 714 00:20:40,554 --> 00:20:42,354 These parents are gonna constantly 715 00:20:42,597 --> 00:20:44,170 excuse her behavior saying, oh, 716 00:20:44,170 --> 00:20:45,100 she's just going through a hard time. 717 00:20:45,100 --> 00:20:46,297 It's like, no, everyone's 718 00:20:46,297 --> 00:20:46,957 going through a hard time. 719 00:20:46,957 --> 00:20:48,037 From time to time. 720 00:20:48,037 --> 00:20:49,507 Everyone's stressed from time to time. 721 00:20:49,659 --> 00:20:51,796 It does not give you the right to treat 722 00:20:51,796 --> 00:20:53,956 people a certain way, or especially 723 00:20:53,956 --> 00:20:55,126 during your sister's wedding. 724 00:20:55,226 --> 00:20:57,116 be happy for someone other than yourself. 725 00:20:57,289 --> 00:20:58,509 so I'm guessing they didn't ask 726 00:20:58,509 --> 00:20:59,919 the sister to give a speech either. 727 00:21:00,475 --> 00:21:02,149 A few years later she remarried. 728 00:21:02,312 --> 00:21:03,766 Wait, before I get to that, I was gonna 729 00:21:03,766 --> 00:21:06,143 say, I wish she would've said that moment. 730 00:21:06,143 --> 00:21:07,223 It's 'cause we're already married. 731 00:21:07,223 --> 00:21:07,913 Like I feel like I would've 732 00:21:07,913 --> 00:21:08,783 done that in my skit. 733 00:21:08,783 --> 00:21:09,593 Be like, it's 'cause 734 00:21:09,593 --> 00:21:10,283 we're already married. 735 00:21:10,283 --> 00:21:11,543 But I guess she didn't tell her. 736 00:21:11,573 --> 00:21:11,813 Okay. 737 00:21:12,085 --> 00:21:13,983 A few years later she remarried. 738 00:21:14,215 --> 00:21:16,436 She got engaged when I was seven months 739 00:21:16,436 --> 00:21:18,505 pregnant and announced they'd be getting 740 00:21:18,505 --> 00:21:20,605 married in Hawaii in just two months. 741 00:21:20,792 --> 00:21:22,389 She told me I had to be there 742 00:21:22,595 --> 00:21:23,500 at nine months pregnant. 743 00:21:24,090 --> 00:21:24,963 You're gonna demand that 744 00:21:24,963 --> 00:21:25,803 your sister's there. 745 00:21:25,863 --> 00:21:26,403 Yeah, right. 746 00:21:26,682 --> 00:21:27,630 I wished her well, but 747 00:21:27,630 --> 00:21:29,100 explained it wasn't possible. 748 00:21:29,287 --> 00:21:30,637 I'd be two weeks past my due 749 00:21:30,637 --> 00:21:31,747 date and couldn't travel. 750 00:21:31,979 --> 00:21:34,177 I ended up giving birth a week late. 751 00:21:34,420 --> 00:21:36,027 She was furious and didn't 752 00:21:36,027 --> 00:21:36,867 speak to me for a month. 753 00:21:36,867 --> 00:21:39,177 This girl is so immature. 754 00:21:39,393 --> 00:21:41,177 So immature, and the 755 00:21:41,177 --> 00:21:43,103 parents are allowing it. 756 00:21:43,343 --> 00:21:44,020 I mean, I don't know how 757 00:21:44,020 --> 00:21:45,567 old they are now, but. 758 00:21:45,763 --> 00:21:47,208 She's never going to be 759 00:21:47,208 --> 00:21:48,888 responsible for her own actions. 760 00:21:48,888 --> 00:21:49,878 If the parents are constantly 761 00:21:49,878 --> 00:21:51,018 giving her excuses. 762 00:21:51,246 --> 00:21:53,288 Here's the kicker, she's a doctor. 763 00:21:53,483 --> 00:21:55,305 She knew perfectly well that 764 00:21:55,305 --> 00:21:57,375 traveling then was impossible for me. 765 00:21:57,610 --> 00:21:59,532 So if she's a doctor, she's gotta be 766 00:21:59,532 --> 00:22:02,645 at least what, mid to late twenties. 767 00:22:02,910 --> 00:22:04,858 How long are you in medical school for? 768 00:22:05,056 --> 00:22:06,628 Isn't it like eight years or something? 769 00:22:06,658 --> 00:22:07,708 12 years, 10 years? 770 00:22:07,946 --> 00:22:08,461 I don't know. 771 00:22:08,726 --> 00:22:10,015 I'm not a doctor, so I don't know. 772 00:22:10,105 --> 00:22:12,751 But that is wild to me, this whole 773 00:22:12,751 --> 00:22:15,349 story is wild to me it's more wild. 774 00:22:15,349 --> 00:22:17,292 Like I'm currently in this, well, by the 775 00:22:17,292 --> 00:22:18,372 time this comes out, I'll probably be 776 00:22:18,372 --> 00:22:20,517 done with it, but the Tina and me ski. 777 00:22:20,965 --> 00:22:23,150 Was based on a true story that someone 778 00:22:23,150 --> 00:22:25,234 sent me, very based like, or very 779 00:22:25,234 --> 00:22:27,034 inspired, loosely inspired, like 780 00:22:27,034 --> 00:22:29,537 the first episode where they really, 781 00:22:29,690 --> 00:22:31,970 idolized one sister over the other. 782 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:33,830 They did everything for this one 783 00:22:33,830 --> 00:22:35,210 engagement and not the other. 784 00:22:35,210 --> 00:22:36,140 They got mad. 785 00:22:36,140 --> 00:22:36,830 I don't know, all these 786 00:22:36,830 --> 00:22:37,610 crazy things, right? 787 00:22:37,820 --> 00:22:39,250 And people are commenting like, parents 788 00:22:39,250 --> 00:22:40,690 are really like this, this is terrible. 789 00:22:40,690 --> 00:22:41,530 And I'm like, I read this 790 00:22:41,530 --> 00:22:42,430 story and I'm like, yep. 791 00:22:42,684 --> 00:22:43,275 They are. 792 00:22:43,365 --> 00:22:46,345 That is to just like put one on a pedestal 793 00:22:46,345 --> 00:22:47,995 and the other one's just like, no, like 794 00:22:47,995 --> 00:22:49,495 your sister's going through a hard time. 795 00:22:49,780 --> 00:22:50,149 I dunno. 796 00:22:50,239 --> 00:22:50,809 That's wild. 797 00:22:51,064 --> 00:22:53,429 All right guys, we got one more story. 798 00:22:53,707 --> 00:22:55,082 We got so much more fun in our way. 799 00:22:55,112 --> 00:22:58,365 Okay, let's go story number two. 800 00:22:58,955 --> 00:23:00,536 About a year after meeting my now 801 00:23:00,536 --> 00:23:02,546 husband, I went to one of his dance 802 00:23:02,546 --> 00:23:04,848 performances where I met a dozen 803 00:23:04,848 --> 00:23:06,288 of his friends for the first time. 804 00:23:06,543 --> 00:23:08,555 One girl in particular, let's call 805 00:23:08,555 --> 00:23:10,768 her Sabrina, immediately stood out. 806 00:23:11,037 --> 00:23:12,565 These are all changed names. 807 00:23:12,817 --> 00:23:14,562 She was loud, obnoxious, and 808 00:23:14,562 --> 00:23:15,912 constantly gossiping about 809 00:23:15,912 --> 00:23:17,202 people she didn't even know. 810 00:23:17,778 --> 00:23:19,033 When we entered the theater, 811 00:23:19,208 --> 00:23:20,776 she insisted on sitting right 812 00:23:20,776 --> 00:23:21,736 in the middle of our group. 813 00:23:21,974 --> 00:23:23,293 It wasn't the best seat, but 814 00:23:23,293 --> 00:23:24,583 it was the one that guaranteed 815 00:23:24,583 --> 00:23:25,963 she'd be the center of attention. 816 00:23:26,251 --> 00:23:27,371 She didn't say a single word to 817 00:23:27,371 --> 00:23:29,578 me, and anytime someone asked me 818 00:23:29,578 --> 00:23:31,414 a question, she talked over me. 819 00:23:31,624 --> 00:23:33,364 My first impression not good. 820 00:23:33,631 --> 00:23:34,664 Yeah, I would say not good either. 821 00:23:34,861 --> 00:23:36,121 I've met people like that before. 822 00:23:36,386 --> 00:23:37,871 They don't like when a new girl is 823 00:23:37,871 --> 00:23:39,944 brought into the mix because they're 824 00:23:40,064 --> 00:23:41,414 not the center of attention anymore. 825 00:23:41,723 --> 00:23:43,218 fast forward a couple of years. 826 00:23:43,218 --> 00:23:44,358 We all went on a weekend 827 00:23:44,358 --> 00:23:45,798 trip, about 20 people. 828 00:23:46,180 --> 00:23:47,923 The friend group plus partners. 829 00:23:48,046 --> 00:23:49,073 I hadn't seen Sabrina 830 00:23:49,073 --> 00:23:50,123 since that first meeting. 831 00:23:50,213 --> 00:23:50,783 Oh wow. 832 00:23:50,783 --> 00:23:51,683 A couple years later. 833 00:23:51,893 --> 00:23:52,173 Wow. 834 00:23:52,383 --> 00:23:52,743 Okay. 835 00:23:52,990 --> 00:23:54,793 And she was exactly as I remembered, 836 00:23:54,973 --> 00:23:56,353 always needing the spotlight. 837 00:23:56,590 --> 00:23:58,740 That night we played a game where you had 838 00:23:58,740 --> 00:24:01,080 to catch the liars on the opposing team. 839 00:24:01,310 --> 00:24:02,546 There were special roles and 840 00:24:02,546 --> 00:24:04,350 coincidentally, I ended up 841 00:24:04,350 --> 00:24:05,430 paired with my boyfriend. 842 00:24:05,690 --> 00:24:07,070 He had a power that let him 843 00:24:07,070 --> 00:24:08,870 check someone's card each round. 844 00:24:09,147 --> 00:24:11,303 And he announced, I saw Sabrina's card. 845 00:24:11,363 --> 00:24:12,208 She's a liar. 846 00:24:12,613 --> 00:24:14,028 When the voting came out, I 847 00:24:14,028 --> 00:24:16,078 said, I'm voting against her 848 00:24:16,078 --> 00:24:17,788 because my partner saw her card. 849 00:24:18,030 --> 00:24:19,262 Without missing a beat, 850 00:24:19,262 --> 00:24:20,372 Sabrina snapped back. 851 00:24:20,462 --> 00:24:21,602 Oh, so you believe him? 852 00:24:21,817 --> 00:24:23,477 like when he tells you he loves 853 00:24:23,477 --> 00:24:25,406 you Ooh, this girl's, wow. 854 00:24:25,406 --> 00:24:26,186 She must have like a 855 00:24:26,186 --> 00:24:27,236 crush on him or something. 856 00:24:27,513 --> 00:24:29,483 I was boiling inside, but I managed 857 00:24:29,483 --> 00:24:30,683 to smile and say, you know what? 858 00:24:30,896 --> 00:24:32,559 Nevermind now I'm voting against 859 00:24:32,559 --> 00:24:33,849 you because you made it personal. 860 00:24:33,909 --> 00:24:35,069 Oh, I love it. 861 00:24:35,456 --> 00:24:35,953 Okay. 862 00:24:36,316 --> 00:24:37,543 The room went silent. 863 00:24:37,779 --> 00:24:39,309 Everyone voted against her, and she 864 00:24:39,309 --> 00:24:42,406 was eliminated loudly, angry about it. 865 00:24:42,406 --> 00:24:44,216 Of course, I went straight to bed, 866 00:24:44,216 --> 00:24:45,746 furious that neither my partner 867 00:24:45,746 --> 00:24:47,366 nor anyone else defended me. 868 00:24:47,756 --> 00:24:49,140 The next morning she approached 869 00:24:49,140 --> 00:24:50,880 me with a half-hearted apology. 870 00:24:51,140 --> 00:24:52,640 So my boyfriend said, I was 871 00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:53,840 really mean to you yesterday. 872 00:24:54,043 --> 00:24:55,390 I don't know when, but Sorry. 873 00:24:55,646 --> 00:24:57,063 No, that's not an apology. 874 00:24:57,153 --> 00:24:57,663 Sorry. 875 00:24:58,020 --> 00:24:59,205 After that, I avoided 876 00:24:59,205 --> 00:25:00,765 her as much as possible. 877 00:25:00,906 --> 00:25:02,758 I skipped the group gatherings and the 878 00:25:02,758 --> 00:25:05,398 one time I tried to go, I caught COVID, 879 00:25:05,643 --> 00:25:07,648 so I took it as a sign that my body 880 00:25:07,648 --> 00:25:09,178 really did not want me to be there. 881 00:25:09,903 --> 00:25:10,445 I would too. 882 00:25:10,813 --> 00:25:12,415 I'd be like, okay, thanks, universe. 883 00:25:12,670 --> 00:25:14,385 When my husband and I got engaged, 884 00:25:14,385 --> 00:25:17,015 I made it clear I would never force 885 00:25:17,015 --> 00:25:18,965 him to cut Sabrina out since they'd 886 00:25:18,965 --> 00:25:20,255 been friends since kindergarten. 887 00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:21,931 That is really nice. 888 00:25:22,170 --> 00:25:24,783 Maybe a little nicer than me, and I'm a 889 00:25:24,783 --> 00:25:27,343 pretty nice person, but if someone were 890 00:25:27,343 --> 00:25:31,123 to consistently not be very nice to me and 891 00:25:31,123 --> 00:25:33,163 put me down or put my relationship down, 892 00:25:33,366 --> 00:25:35,143 I would not give 'em the same courtesy. 893 00:25:35,340 --> 00:25:36,220 I just saw a thing on 894 00:25:36,220 --> 00:25:37,120 social media the other day. 895 00:25:37,413 --> 00:25:38,330 I hope I don't butcher this, but 896 00:25:38,330 --> 00:25:40,323 it says, stop being considerate for 897 00:25:40,323 --> 00:25:41,823 people that don't even consider you. 898 00:25:42,063 --> 00:25:43,818 So there's a little reminder to everybody 899 00:25:43,818 --> 00:25:45,853 out there, especially as people pleasers, 900 00:25:45,853 --> 00:25:47,806 we want to consider people, or if 901 00:25:47,806 --> 00:25:48,736 they hurt our feelings, we're just 902 00:25:48,736 --> 00:25:50,199 like, oh, maybe they didn't mean it. 903 00:25:50,199 --> 00:25:51,136 No, stop. 904 00:25:51,226 --> 00:25:51,976 Stop being considerate. 905 00:25:51,976 --> 00:25:53,086 A people that didn't consider 906 00:25:53,086 --> 00:25:54,842 you, she couldn't even apologize. 907 00:25:55,067 --> 00:25:56,797 anyways, so she said she wouldn't force 908 00:25:56,797 --> 00:25:58,117 him to cut her out because they were 909 00:25:58,117 --> 00:26:00,147 friends since kindergarten, but he 910 00:26:00,147 --> 00:26:02,187 shouldn't expect me to interact with her. 911 00:26:02,372 --> 00:26:04,151 I even joked that she'd pull 912 00:26:04,151 --> 00:26:06,011 something dramatic at the wedding, 913 00:26:06,236 --> 00:26:08,317 like wear white or have her boyfriend 914 00:26:08,317 --> 00:26:09,744 propose in the middle of it. 915 00:26:10,002 --> 00:26:12,396 My wedding dress was a true princess 916 00:26:12,396 --> 00:26:14,276 gown, layers of pink and white 917 00:26:14,276 --> 00:26:16,569 tool green lace shaped like leaves. 918 00:26:16,979 --> 00:26:18,659 I wanna see this dress sounds beautiful. 919 00:26:18,839 --> 00:26:19,506 And glittering. 920 00:26:19,506 --> 00:26:20,676 Floral details. 921 00:26:21,023 --> 00:26:22,320 On our wedding website and 922 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:24,300 invitations, we clearly stated, 923 00:26:24,523 --> 00:26:26,150 white is reserved for the bride. 924 00:26:27,900 --> 00:26:27,910 okay. 925 00:26:27,910 --> 00:26:29,557 I've never seen it like that. 926 00:26:29,850 --> 00:26:31,390 but I love that you're just upfront. 927 00:26:31,627 --> 00:26:32,620 Put it right on the invitation. 928 00:26:32,930 --> 00:26:34,254 I wasn't worried about anyone 929 00:26:34,254 --> 00:26:35,544 confusing me with someone else, 930 00:26:35,544 --> 00:26:36,654 but I didn't want photos where 931 00:26:36,654 --> 00:26:38,064 the attention could be stolen. 932 00:26:38,284 --> 00:26:39,007 Makes sense. 933 00:26:39,260 --> 00:26:40,690 So the big day arrives. 934 00:26:42,047 --> 00:26:44,260 We do our first look full of excitement. 935 00:26:44,487 --> 00:26:45,440 Then go to greet our 936 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:46,880 guest before the ceremony. 937 00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:49,990 Who's the very first person I see Sabrina. 938 00:26:50,227 --> 00:26:51,227 And what is she wearing? 939 00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,240 A long flowy white gown. 940 00:26:54,932 --> 00:26:56,552 What is with both of these stories, 941 00:26:56,667 --> 00:26:59,315 having people not in the wedding or 942 00:26:59,315 --> 00:27:02,075 the bride wearing a white dress, and 943 00:27:02,075 --> 00:27:04,415 not just a white dress, a white gown, 944 00:27:05,870 --> 00:27:07,435 that is wild. 945 00:27:07,435 --> 00:27:09,265 This is someone asking for a fight or 946 00:27:09,355 --> 00:27:10,825 asking for the detention be stolen. 947 00:27:11,134 --> 00:27:12,964 I wonder how long she was 948 00:27:12,964 --> 00:27:13,744 with her boyfriend for? 949 00:27:13,744 --> 00:27:14,764 Maybe it was something where she was 950 00:27:14,764 --> 00:27:16,594 mad that she wasn't proposed to first. 951 00:27:16,844 --> 00:27:18,425 Ooh, this is wild, you guys. 952 00:27:18,570 --> 00:27:18,930 Okay. 953 00:27:19,124 --> 00:27:20,070 I said wild. 954 00:27:20,070 --> 00:27:21,535 We should do a, tracker of 955 00:27:21,535 --> 00:27:22,795 how many times I say wild. 956 00:27:23,038 --> 00:27:23,975 I've noticed more and more 957 00:27:23,975 --> 00:27:25,399 I say it like all the time. 958 00:27:25,718 --> 00:27:27,342 The best part, my husband 959 00:27:27,342 --> 00:27:29,802 finally saw her for what she is. 960 00:27:29,922 --> 00:27:31,722 He apologized profusely to me 961 00:27:31,722 --> 00:27:33,785 and the photographers without me 962 00:27:33,785 --> 00:27:35,495 even asking, cropped her out of 963 00:27:35,495 --> 00:27:37,235 all the photos whenever possible. 964 00:27:37,454 --> 00:27:39,135 There's only one group shot of the 965 00:27:39,135 --> 00:27:41,085 friends and my husband without me, 966 00:27:41,301 --> 00:27:42,718 where she actually looks like the bride. 967 00:27:42,958 --> 00:27:44,801 We decided the best way to quote 968 00:27:44,801 --> 00:27:46,841 unquote punish her was silence. 969 00:27:47,068 --> 00:27:48,111 No confrontation. 970 00:27:48,341 --> 00:27:49,091 No drama. 971 00:27:49,358 --> 00:27:51,528 Just be ignored when all she wanted 972 00:27:51,528 --> 00:27:52,968 was to be the center of attention. 973 00:27:53,221 --> 00:27:54,338 And honestly, that was the 974 00:27:54,338 --> 00:27:55,838 sweetest justice of all. 975 00:27:56,098 --> 00:27:57,838 I love that. 976 00:27:57,868 --> 00:27:58,258 Okay. 977 00:27:58,464 --> 00:28:00,131 I said one time in, I 978 00:28:00,131 --> 00:28:01,301 think it was a podcast. 979 00:28:01,578 --> 00:28:03,168 The mother-in-law was gonna wear white, 980 00:28:03,168 --> 00:28:05,021 like told her daughter-in-law that I 981 00:28:05,021 --> 00:28:06,071 bought a white dress for your wedding. 982 00:28:06,071 --> 00:28:07,451 'cause it's the only color I look good in. 983 00:28:07,624 --> 00:28:09,221 And my response was, one of the 984 00:28:09,391 --> 00:28:10,764 things you could do is just ignore it. 985 00:28:10,988 --> 00:28:11,661 And so many people in the 986 00:28:11,661 --> 00:28:12,891 comments were like, ignore it. 987 00:28:12,921 --> 00:28:14,091 Oh, I'm not ignoring it. 988 00:28:14,304 --> 00:28:15,651 Oh, that's exactly, that you're 989 00:28:15,651 --> 00:28:16,911 giving her what she wants. 990 00:28:17,513 --> 00:28:19,539 Someone, this made such a good point. 991 00:28:19,539 --> 00:28:21,086 Someone like this is 992 00:28:21,086 --> 00:28:22,306 wanting to stir the pot. 993 00:28:22,563 --> 00:28:23,923 They wanna cause a scene. 994 00:28:24,109 --> 00:28:25,663 They want people to notice them. 995 00:28:25,823 --> 00:28:28,413 They want the bride to feel inferior. 996 00:28:28,659 --> 00:28:30,533 And if you don't feed into 997 00:28:30,533 --> 00:28:31,853 it, you don't say anything. 998 00:28:31,853 --> 00:28:34,083 You don't acknowledge it or have other 999 00:28:34,083 --> 00:28:36,093 people look or point or say anything. 1000 00:28:36,326 --> 00:28:37,733 You're not giving them what they want. 1001 00:28:37,979 --> 00:28:38,848 They're actually gonna leave 1002 00:28:38,848 --> 00:28:40,798 mad because no one noticed. 1003 00:28:40,858 --> 00:28:41,548 I love that. 1004 00:28:41,728 --> 00:28:42,418 I love that. 1005 00:28:42,606 --> 00:28:43,391 And then only post 1006 00:28:43,391 --> 00:28:44,231 photos that she's not in. 1007 00:28:44,406 --> 00:28:44,644 Okay. 1008 00:28:44,674 --> 00:28:45,424 I'm getting petty now, 1009 00:28:45,424 --> 00:28:46,511 but actually is it petty? 1010 00:28:46,511 --> 00:28:47,531 No, she was petty first. 1011 00:28:47,881 --> 00:28:49,449 I can't believe how both stories 1012 00:28:49,449 --> 00:28:50,799 had someone showing up in white. 1013 00:28:51,049 --> 00:28:52,046 These need be skits. 1014 00:28:52,226 --> 00:28:52,796 Oh my gosh. 1015 00:28:52,796 --> 00:28:54,020 You guys, If you're listening 1016 00:28:54,020 --> 00:28:54,920 to this whole thing, I need 1017 00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:56,524 to know all your thoughts. 1018 00:28:56,524 --> 00:28:57,927 Go to YouTube, go to 1019 00:28:57,927 --> 00:28:59,697 Instagram, go to TikTok. 1020 00:28:59,757 --> 00:29:01,707 Comment your thoughts after you listen 1021 00:29:01,707 --> 00:29:03,984 to this because these are just crazy. 1022 00:29:03,984 --> 00:29:04,854 These are crazy. 1023 00:29:05,037 --> 00:29:05,794 See, I had a different word. 1024 00:29:06,034 --> 00:29:06,400 Okay. 1025 00:29:06,587 --> 00:29:08,384 As promised, I'm gonna end this episode. 1026 00:29:08,384 --> 00:29:09,704 Sorry, I'm fidgeting with my hair so much. 1027 00:29:09,704 --> 00:29:11,087 If you're watching this, I'm gonna end 1028 00:29:11,087 --> 00:29:12,887 these episode with some confessions. 1029 00:29:12,887 --> 00:29:13,637 These are pretty wild. 1030 00:29:13,829 --> 00:29:13,937 Okay. 1031 00:29:14,399 --> 00:29:14,712 Here we go. 1032 00:29:14,712 --> 00:29:16,142 At the end, mother-in-law 1033 00:29:16,142 --> 00:29:17,912 wore white and black to our 1034 00:29:17,912 --> 00:29:20,849 wedding with a huge black hat. 1035 00:29:21,125 --> 00:29:21,559 The white. 1036 00:29:21,559 --> 00:29:22,759 I have more of a problem with. 1037 00:29:22,809 --> 00:29:24,165 I remember reading a story years 1038 00:29:24,165 --> 00:29:26,769 ago, where the mother-in-law wore 1039 00:29:26,769 --> 00:29:28,449 black to the wedding, like all black. 1040 00:29:28,689 --> 00:29:29,874 And I was like, oh my gosh. 1041 00:29:29,874 --> 00:29:31,194 Like they're dressed to a funeral. 1042 00:29:31,194 --> 00:29:31,870 Like their son's being 1043 00:29:31,870 --> 00:29:32,650 taken away from them. 1044 00:29:32,650 --> 00:29:33,040 Right. 1045 00:29:33,265 --> 00:29:33,950 But I was thinking about it. 1046 00:29:33,950 --> 00:29:35,390 I'm like, I've worn black 1047 00:29:35,390 --> 00:29:36,950 to formal weddings before, 1048 00:29:36,980 --> 00:29:38,630 like a formal black dress. 1049 00:29:38,630 --> 00:29:40,730 I've worn black jumpsuits to weddings 1050 00:29:40,730 --> 00:29:42,990 before, so I don't think black is 1051 00:29:42,990 --> 00:29:45,060 actually considered that bad, but it's 1052 00:29:45,060 --> 00:29:47,570 where she wore our huge black hat and 1053 00:29:47,570 --> 00:29:49,910 then a white and black dress because we 1054 00:29:49,910 --> 00:29:51,626 don't know the style of the dress, but. 1055 00:29:52,178 --> 00:29:53,631 Also, if someone's saying this, like a 1056 00:29:53,631 --> 00:29:55,671 bride's saying this, my guess is there's 1057 00:29:55,671 --> 00:29:57,621 some kind of issue already between them. 1058 00:29:57,911 --> 00:29:58,841 Because again, if you have a good 1059 00:29:58,841 --> 00:30:00,161 relationship with someone and they showed 1060 00:30:00,161 --> 00:30:01,331 up like that, you'd be like, oh, cool. 1061 00:30:01,331 --> 00:30:02,051 Pretty dress. 1062 00:30:02,321 --> 00:30:03,378 But if it's someone that's 1063 00:30:03,378 --> 00:30:05,701 already got an issue with you, 1064 00:30:05,731 --> 00:30:07,265 then they're making a statement. 1065 00:30:07,485 --> 00:30:07,815 Okay. 1066 00:30:08,081 --> 00:30:10,781 My cousin was my sister's photographer. 1067 00:30:10,958 --> 00:30:12,898 He didn't give her the pictures for 1068 00:30:12,898 --> 00:30:15,088 two years and they turned out awful. 1069 00:30:15,301 --> 00:30:15,618 Yeah. 1070 00:30:15,851 --> 00:30:18,641 No, we don't do family for vendors. 1071 00:30:18,641 --> 00:30:19,301 We just don't. 1072 00:30:19,548 --> 00:30:22,161 If they insist you say, I want you 1073 00:30:22,161 --> 00:30:23,848 there as a guest, I already have a 1074 00:30:23,848 --> 00:30:26,298 photographer because I've heard so many 1075 00:30:26,298 --> 00:30:28,308 horror stories about people choosing 1076 00:30:28,481 --> 00:30:30,091 photographers for their wedding. 1077 00:30:30,265 --> 00:30:31,875 that's a family member and I wouldn't 1078 00:30:31,875 --> 00:30:33,995 count like officiant from my day of 1079 00:30:33,995 --> 00:30:35,605 coordinating story earlier because I 1080 00:30:35,605 --> 00:30:36,925 think that's a more personal thing. 1081 00:30:37,178 --> 00:30:38,376 They can just do it and be done. 1082 00:30:38,376 --> 00:30:38,646 Right. 1083 00:30:38,838 --> 00:30:40,063 But a photographer, you need 1084 00:30:40,063 --> 00:30:41,443 someone that's really devoted 1085 00:30:41,443 --> 00:30:42,983 as fully a photographer. 1086 00:30:42,983 --> 00:30:44,483 Like that's their profession, 1087 00:30:44,708 --> 00:30:46,273 not just like a little side gig. 1088 00:30:46,498 --> 00:30:47,643 Someone that's gonna take a few photos 1089 00:30:47,643 --> 00:30:49,645 on their iPhone, or just starting out. 1090 00:30:49,936 --> 00:30:50,112 Okay. 1091 00:30:50,112 --> 00:30:51,357 This one's like a three part one. 1092 00:30:51,916 --> 00:30:53,857 She said, my fiance's best 1093 00:30:53,857 --> 00:30:55,567 man peer pressured him into 1094 00:30:55,567 --> 00:30:57,457 asking him to be the best man. 1095 00:30:57,706 --> 00:30:59,967 Anytime he did anything for my fiance, 1096 00:31:00,117 --> 00:31:01,557 unrelated to the wedding, he said, 1097 00:31:01,774 --> 00:31:03,844 this is best man's shit right here. 1098 00:31:04,077 --> 00:31:05,224 You better ask me. 1099 00:31:05,444 --> 00:31:06,944 We get married in nine months. 1100 00:31:07,181 --> 00:31:08,017 That's awkward. 1101 00:31:08,367 --> 00:31:09,064 I mean. 1102 00:31:09,317 --> 00:31:10,097 I don't know. 1103 00:31:10,097 --> 00:31:11,387 I don't know how to respond to that. 1104 00:31:11,387 --> 00:31:13,034 I feel like, yeah, maybe they can 1105 00:31:13,034 --> 00:31:14,264 make subtle hints that they wanna be 1106 00:31:14,264 --> 00:31:16,844 your best man, but it's up to you. 1107 00:31:16,874 --> 00:31:18,074 You have the power. 1108 00:31:18,287 --> 00:31:19,251 You could ultimately have the 1109 00:31:19,251 --> 00:31:20,481 power if they're your friend. 1110 00:31:20,481 --> 00:31:20,991 Sure. 1111 00:31:21,244 --> 00:31:22,801 But if they keep just making comments 1112 00:31:22,801 --> 00:31:23,947 like that, you are like, oh, I 1113 00:31:23,947 --> 00:31:25,087 already have someone else planned. 1114 00:31:25,347 --> 00:31:26,565 This one's weird. 1115 00:31:26,595 --> 00:31:26,955 Okay. 1116 00:31:27,155 --> 00:31:29,249 Best friend's mother-in-law 1117 00:31:29,309 --> 00:31:32,369 asked for a mother, son renewal. 1118 00:31:32,595 --> 00:31:34,370 Vows on their wedding. 1119 00:31:34,755 --> 00:31:36,280 Mother-in-law had it. 1120 00:31:36,545 --> 00:31:38,007 Best friend divorced him. 1121 00:31:38,262 --> 00:31:40,447 Wait, the mom wanted to renew 1122 00:31:40,447 --> 00:31:42,667 vows on their wedding day. 1123 00:31:42,892 --> 00:31:44,242 I need more context to this. 1124 00:31:44,242 --> 00:31:45,142 This is wild. 1125 00:31:45,424 --> 00:31:46,392 This is so wild. 1126 00:31:47,254 --> 00:31:48,219 I need more words. 1127 00:31:48,369 --> 00:31:49,749 Help me come up with more words. 1128 00:31:49,944 --> 00:31:50,695 I say amazing. 1129 00:31:50,695 --> 00:31:52,345 And I say wild and I say crazy a ton. 1130 00:31:52,540 --> 00:31:53,845 Help me come up with more words. 1131 00:31:54,032 --> 00:31:55,472 maybe help me out and 1132 00:31:55,472 --> 00:31:57,535 just comment on YouTube. 1133 00:31:57,757 --> 00:31:58,955 Just use some different words so 1134 00:31:58,955 --> 00:32:00,635 I can get them in my vocabulary. 1135 00:32:00,824 --> 00:32:02,219 ' cause when I find what, I just 1136 00:32:02,219 --> 00:32:03,509 stick to that and that's what 1137 00:32:03,509 --> 00:32:04,739 we're using for the next month. 1138 00:32:04,952 --> 00:32:06,322 so yeah, I don't get it. 1139 00:32:06,537 --> 00:32:08,697 she wanted vow renewals with her son, 1140 00:32:08,727 --> 00:32:10,790 just like to prove that she's the mom. 1141 00:32:11,045 --> 00:32:11,852 I don't understand. 1142 00:32:12,129 --> 00:32:12,559 All right. 1143 00:32:12,815 --> 00:32:13,609 Oh, last one. 1144 00:32:13,839 --> 00:32:15,802 my sister slash maid of honor 1145 00:32:15,802 --> 00:32:17,932 got drunk before the ceremony. 1146 00:32:18,132 --> 00:32:20,170 She was a shit show half the day. 1147 00:32:20,570 --> 00:32:20,833 Yeah. 1148 00:32:21,170 --> 00:32:23,060 Alcohol can be a big problem at weddings. 1149 00:32:23,293 --> 00:32:23,603 I'm sure. 1150 00:32:23,603 --> 00:32:25,193 We've got tons of alcohol stories 1151 00:32:25,193 --> 00:32:26,273 that people have sent me in. 1152 00:32:26,493 --> 00:32:27,563 I've seen it a few times. 1153 00:32:27,593 --> 00:32:29,573 Few times I've seen it lots of times. 1154 00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:31,655 You get the people that are like fun 1155 00:32:31,685 --> 00:32:33,635 and drunk or buzz at the weddings 1156 00:32:33,635 --> 00:32:34,715 and like they're just dancing. 1157 00:32:34,715 --> 00:32:35,285 Like, yeah. 1158 00:32:35,517 --> 00:32:36,995 If you know you cannot handle 1159 00:32:36,995 --> 00:32:38,562 your liquor, hold off till the 1160 00:32:38,562 --> 00:32:40,542 reception, till your duties are done. 1161 00:32:40,753 --> 00:32:43,361 If you have any slight question about it. 1162 00:32:43,599 --> 00:32:45,421 Although anyone that's gonna like 1163 00:32:45,619 --> 00:32:47,114 not think they have a problem. 1164 00:32:47,353 --> 00:32:49,424 Is not going to be like, I'm gonna wait. 1165 00:32:49,424 --> 00:32:50,804 They're gonna be like, I can be fun. 1166 00:32:51,049 --> 00:32:52,278 So yeah, that kind of sucks 1167 00:32:52,278 --> 00:32:53,118 when it happens like that. 1168 00:32:53,466 --> 00:32:54,228 Alright guys, well that's 1169 00:32:54,228 --> 00:32:55,308 all I have this week. 1170 00:32:55,308 --> 00:32:56,058 Don't forget to send me your 1171 00:32:56,058 --> 00:32:59,491 confessions on social media on Mondays. 1172 00:32:59,491 --> 00:33:01,951 We do unpopular opinions On Fridays, 1173 00:33:01,951 --> 00:33:04,078 we do, your confessions, so hold 1174 00:33:04,078 --> 00:33:05,338 onto those cool confessions. 1175 00:33:05,338 --> 00:33:07,151 Sometimes we have different themes, 1176 00:33:07,151 --> 00:33:08,981 but otherwise I can't wait to read 'em. 1177 00:33:09,329 --> 00:33:10,649 Of course, always send me your 1178 00:33:10,649 --> 00:33:11,999 wedding story submissions. 1179 00:33:12,159 --> 00:33:15,033 They can be wedding proposal, engagement, 1180 00:33:15,033 --> 00:33:17,473 dating, friendship, whatever stories we're 1181 00:33:17,473 --> 00:33:19,933 gonna open our horizons a little bit. 1182 00:33:20,159 --> 00:33:21,333 feel free to tell me your stories. 1183 00:33:21,573 --> 00:33:22,986 and I think that's all I got for you guys. 1184 00:33:23,121 --> 00:33:24,476 Thank you so much for hanging out with me. 1185 00:33:24,688 --> 00:33:26,946 Don't forget, you can now order my book. 1186 00:33:26,946 --> 00:33:28,356 Here comes the Drama Affairs and 1187 00:33:28,356 --> 00:33:31,126 Sloan story, wherever you get books. 1188 00:33:31,381 --> 00:33:32,328 And when I say wherever, 1189 00:33:32,328 --> 00:33:33,438 it's not really wherever. 1190 00:33:33,438 --> 00:33:35,238 It's like Amazon, Cobo, 1191 00:33:35,341 --> 00:33:37,238 Barnes and Noble IngramSpark. 1192 00:33:37,448 --> 00:33:37,698 Yeah. 1193 00:33:37,981 --> 00:33:39,154 and don't forget to tag me on 1194 00:33:39,154 --> 00:33:40,684 social media if you have read it. 1195 00:33:40,931 --> 00:33:42,011 and you tagged me at party 1196 00:33:42,011 --> 00:33:43,781 planning by Krista for a chance 1197 00:33:43,781 --> 00:33:45,101 to be featured on my page. 1198 00:33:45,161 --> 00:33:47,411 I had a total like brain fart just now. 1199 00:33:47,411 --> 00:33:49,031 I was like, what am I talking about? 1200 00:33:49,031 --> 00:33:49,781 Where am I? 1201 00:33:50,001 --> 00:33:51,231 this is how my brain has been. 1202 00:33:51,514 --> 00:33:52,334 I just love you guys. 1203 00:33:52,334 --> 00:33:54,704 I'm so grateful for this podcast. 1204 00:33:54,704 --> 00:33:56,864 I'm so grateful for you guys and for, 1205 00:33:57,084 --> 00:33:58,854 the ability to be able to do this. 1206 00:33:58,854 --> 00:34:01,181 So thank you so much and 1207 00:34:01,241 --> 00:34:02,351 I'll see you guys next time. 1208 00:34:02,411 --> 00:34:02,801 Bye now.