Hey guys.
Welcome back to another episode
of, here Comes The Drama.
I'm your host, Krista
Ennis, and I'm exhausted.
How are you doing today?
I am just feeling so like, I don't
know, there's just so much going on.
I don't know where August went.
It's here and gone.
by the time this comes out, it'll be
early October, but I'm filming it or
recording this right now in September.
And I feel like I blinked
and this year is like.
Three quarters of the way over.
I'm so grateful to be doing what I'm
doing, but it's also very like nonstop.
Sometimes I need to take a step back and
just like take a deep breath because I
feel like I'm just like on this constant
like hamster wheel of running around,
checking things off the box, being
a mom, being a wife, being a friend.
And it's just, it's a lot.
and I'm sure you moms or parents with
kids going back to school are feeling it.
Mine's too young for that yet, so I'm not
doing the back to school thing quite yet.
But, it's just wild how the older you get.
The years just seem to go
quicker and quicker and quicker.
and with the current climate, I just
feel like the news is suppressing.
It's a little sad and I hope I can
just bring some entertainment to
you guys with, everything going on.
Um, I don't know.
it's a lot and I just have to
remind myself to be grateful for.
What I'm able to do, being able to do
this from home and be able to create,
a lot of people don't have that.
And so, I don't take it for granted.
So I'm just wanna say I'm
grateful for you guys listening.
I know I'm going off on a little tangent.
I've got a lot of feelings this week.
there's a lot.
There's a lot going on.
So -we are gonna do
things a little different.
I dunno, I say that, but I feel
like it's always a little different
'cause we always have new stories.
we've got two stories at
the end for you today.
We're gonna do unpopular opinions,
which you guys send me on social media.
We're gonna do some this
or that, some hot takes.
And of course at the very, very
end we got some confessions for
you and we got some good ones.
We haven't shared these for a while.
I mean, we share them
on Instagram, stories.
But we've even shared 'em on a podcast in
a while, so you guys are in for a treat.
Gosh, there were so many.
Okay.
Starting things off, I just wanna
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Um.
I wanna share just something really fun.
I know like a lot of times on
my social media accounts and
on the podcast, I do skits.
So a lot of it is about other
people's stories and stuff.
But as many of you guys know, I do very,
very part-time day of coordinating.
Like, I'm talking like I did one
this year and I did one last year.
I'm talking to a bride
right now for one next year.
I just don't have the time to do it.
love it so much.
I love it so much.
I just had the honor of doing one.
it's been two weeks now.
but she was just a dream of a
bride to work with, just so kind,
knew what she wanted, but also was
very like open to hearing ideas.
we brainstormed through a lot of stuff.
just reminds me of like why
I love weddings so much.
like I said, I don't do a, a ton anymore,
but it's fun to just get back out there.
I just did like some partial planning
with her, so we met like every few months
and then we did day of coordinating.
So I basically just ran
around like, you know what?
You tell me what you need.
I got you.
we did the rehearsal together,
but I wanted to share instead of
like me just blabbing, I wanted
to share some interesting things.
That they did not do, or traditional
things that they did not do that
I thought was so awesome the way
they did it, or just I should say
non-traditional things they did.
I thought was really awesome.
And a reminder to anyone listening that
you don't ever have to stick within the
guidelines of what your parents tell you
or what you see in the media or whatever.
You can do things your own way, and
I loved this about their wedding.
Okay, so here's some things
that I thought was really cool.
They had no maid of honor or best man.
they had a wedding party, but it
was very, like everyone was equal.
They had a few different speeches,
but it wasn't like who you would
think it was just kind of like
different people on each side.
Some had asked, some were told,
so I thought that was really cool.
There were no readings in the wedding, the
wedding itself's, why I led the, ceremony.
and I just kinda like organized
where everyone stood and all that.
it was really quick.
I wanna say it was 15 minutes max.
They wanted a really quick ceremony.
It was.
Beautiful.
Honestly, like out of like Taylor Swift's
music video or something so beautiful.
they did no readings,
so it was really quick.
she had her stepdad officiate and
I thought he did such a great job.
He was so nervous.
He had never done it
before, but he did so great.
He was so personable.
And I thought it was a really
great way to include her stepdad.
And then she did her daddy daughter
dance, and then both her parents walked
her down the aisle and then both the
groom's parents walked him down the aisle.
So I thought it was a great way to
include all parents, in that, They also
had, flower petals on this seat instead
of just the flower girls having them,
everyone could throw them at the end.
So I thought that was
really, really awesome.
They had no cake.
A lot of people are gonna be like, what?
But I love that someone that's
like not a big cake person, I just
love the little sweetss and treats.
They just did a dessert table,
so they did no cake cutting.
and so that was great.
So it's just a reminder that no matter
what it is, even if you're like, I'm
already married or I don't plan on getting
married, whatever kind of event or just
thing in your life, go outside the lines.
do what makes sense for you.
say goodbye to Tradition.
Yeah, she was such a dream to
work with and everyone in the
wedding party was just so kind.
And yeah, it just reminds
me of why I love doing it.
So, I get like a little like,
anxious before weddings.
'cause I'm like such
an introverted person.
I work from home, but when you
put me in that spot, I got it.
How can I help you?
Where can I go to, what can I do for you?
Like, I got you.
So, yeah, I don't really like advertise
that I do it much just because like,
I don't have much time for them, but
when I do them, they're so much fun.
Anyways, okay, into our first
segment, unpopular Opinions.
These are ones that you guys sent to me
on social media, so let's talk about it.
These ones have to do with engagement
rings, so let's talk about it.
The first one says the
bigger the stone, the better.
no, it's actually about the commitment.
Yeah.
100%. I mean, they're saying,
okay, I guess you can't see.
They have quotes around the
bigger the stone the better.
No, it's absolutely not.
The bigger the stone the better.
So I'm agreeing with this person.
Yeah, I feel like people get
so caught up in the ring.
Yes.
I I love my engagement ring.
My husband and I though like
talked about it ahead of time,
like I was very involved in that.
I know it's different for everybody,
but there's this idea of like, you
have to spend this amount, you have
to do this if you truly love them.
And it's like, no, there are like
millionaires and billionaires that get
married multiple times that like spend.
and a crazy amount of money
on these rings, that does not
mean they love the person more.
If all you can afford is a
very basic ring, do that also
fit into their personality?
If they're not a big jewelry wear or
don't, like big stones, don't do that.
so yeah.
this person says, I don't
like the big marry me sign.
It's overdone.
I've never seen it personally.
I see them a lot of times on like
Instagram or social media and to me
that's like the Instagram proposal, right?
that you want everything to look good.
It's a big flashing lights.
Some people love that.
Some people want that public proposal.
Teach their own.
this person says, I think
proposals are best kept private.
Keep it intimate for the
couple, me personally, yes.
I own, I've talked to this before.
I had, four other friends there,
so I had, it was two other
couples that were with us.
Had no idea what was
gonna happen that night.
I knew it was probably
happening soon, but,
No idea what was happening that night.
I loved how intimate it was.
It was a friend's backyard.
We were all hanging out.
I would not have been comfortable.
I mean, I dunno.
I say that now in like hindsight.
I don't think I would've
wanted a big proposal.
I've been a part of big
proposals or big parties.
Everyone's got their own vibe.
It's just important to know your person
and know what they're comfortable
with, and that goes for either partner.
Because let's say the bride really wants
this big moment and it's in public space,
but if the groom's not comfortable with
that, like maybe he's more private,
he'd rather confess his love for her
or ask her to marry him in a private
place, then you have to like be able
to work together some way somehow.
this one says it shouldn't be a total
surprise, total incomplete surprise.
I a hundred percent agree with this.
I feel like movies growing up and
the way it was presented growing up
was like, okay, when your partner
loves you, they're gonna propose to
you and it's gonna be outta nowhere.
That sounds like a nightmare.
If you've never talked about marriage
or never talked about the next step with
your partner, I don't think you should
be proposing or getting proposed to.
You need to have that discussion
because I've seen stories where
people get proposed when they're
like, oh, we are not there yet.
Or they're like, I don't
want to get married.
So yeah, I don't think it should
be a complete surprise, Maybe how
it happens or when it happens.
Yes.
I love the surprise element of the
actual proposal, but to never talk
about getting married together or
like moving in together and then
you're just like, I bought this ring.
It's like, pump the brakes a little bit.
Let's have the conversation first.
Okay, next up, this or that.
Pick aside wedding drama debates.
Here we go.
A band that kills the vibe by
skipping your first dance song.
Or a DJ who keeps people dancing,
but plays cheesy tracks all night.
If I'm picking one or the other,
I'm gonna go for a cheesy, cheesy
dj because if people are dancing
all night, they're obviously
enjoying it in some way or another.
And I am all about it, like I've
talked about this before, but like.
My family.
We've always been the one that's like
on the dance floor all night long.
Same with my husband's family.
That was one of the things, like
we'd go to weddings together and I
was like, okay, we vibe because we
are on the dance floor all night.
We're not sitting at our table.
We are on our feet hanging out, dancing.
I love it.
okay, next one.
Blow the budget on incredible food.
Everyone raves about or skip
the fancy food and have a
Pinterest perfect reception.
I'm gonna go incredible food.
I don't care about Pinterest.
Perfect.
I don't, endless awkward
speeches or no speeches at all.
and offended.
Friends, why are the friends offended?
Because they weren't asked for a speech.
I would say no speeches at all.
Sorry.
Two of the offended friends.
If you're offended.
Sorry.
I don't know why I would never be offended
if someone didn't ask me to give a speech.
I would actually understand
if someone didn't ask me.
'cause I blab a lot.
but I think I'd be okay
if someone asked me.
side story.
Endless awkward speeches.
I've told that story so many times, but
I was at a wedding once where they just
kept passing around the microphone.
Nothing was planned.
Everyone just kept going off on a whim.
It was awkward.
Nobody wants that.
A 12 person party full of drama
or the guilt of leaving people out
with only one or two by your side.
see the way that one's worded is
like one's better than the other.
Actually, no, they're
both worded bad, I guess.
I'm gonna go with the guilt
of leaving people out with
only one or two by your side.
And the reason I say it, and I'm
someone that had nine bridesmaids, okay?
I dunno if I've ever talked about that
before and I don't regret it for a second.
I loved it.
But also my wedding party,
everyone got along very well.
They all know each other.
I mean, they're from different groups.
Kind of like I had cousin friends
from high school, sisters-in-law.
Other friends and then my sister.
So different groups, but they all kind
of knew each other, but everyone got
along great, so we didn't have any drama.
so yeah, that's hard though when you do
have a really big group and there's like
a lot of drama going on, leave me out of
it, especially at my age now, I'm just
like, if I were to do all over again,
I would probably just have a couple
people stand up with me and then have
the rest, like just wear a similar color.
I actually just saw a wedding like that
and I think that was really beautiful.
kids melting down mid vows or family
drama for years after banning kids?
Ooh, that's a spicy one.
It depends on who the kid is.
cause couldn't imagine getting
married without my nieces
and nephews at our wedding.
So if one of them had a meltdown.
I would just be glad they
were there, honestly.
But if it was someone, 'cause I
don't think we'd have family drama.
See, I read, this is the problem
with me and Rapid Fire, I read
into them too much because I'm
like, wait, that wouldn't happen.
So if I'm just going straight off the
bat, I would just say a kid melting down
because it'd be someone important to me.
Plus it's like 20 seconds long.
Okay.
A dreamy destination wedding and judgment
from family or a giant hometown wedding.
You didn't even want a
dreamy destination wedding.
It's funny 'cause I feel like.
My opinion has changed so much since
getting married, and I've only been
married three and a half years now.
but like I always say, I almost,
I'm one of the last ones, so
we knew exactly what we wanted.
We'd been to so many weddings, but
if I were to get married now or years
from now, like, or redo it, I'd go
destination all the way small group.
I already did the whole fun
planning of a wedding, you know?
And so I'm like the thought of doing
that again, I'm just like, I don't know.
I don't need to do it for myself.
Love doing it for other people.
But yeah.
Okay, let's get into the stories 'cause
they are long, so I wanna make sure I have
enough time without having to carry over
to another, I got two crazy stories here.
Let's go.
Okay.
My older sister was married first, but
her marriage only lasted two months.
While she was divorcing her husband,
I had just met the man of my dreams.
We got engaged eight months after
dating and planning our wedding
for five months later, since he
was set to deploy soon after.
My mom was adamant that my
sister be my maid of honor this
is her saying it in quotes.
You only have one sister.
And I always wished I had but didn't,
even though my sister and I weren't
very close, I had two lifelong best
friends who felt more like sisters.
I went along with it.
Oh no.
Okay, so full disclosure.
I had my best friend, Yvette, who has
been on the podcast, be my maid of
honor, and my sister was a bridesmaid.
She was not offended.
She was actually just very
happy to be a bridesmaid.
I was my sister's maid of honor, but she
also got married Oh my gosh, 14 years ago.
So I was like super young.
We were both really young, and
so things were just different.
But yeah, I knew right off the bat
that I wanted my friend Yvette,
to be my maid of honor plus.
You also have to look at, like when
someone's, your maid of honor, they're
getting other responsibilities too,
depending on, different things.
But your bachelorette party, maybe you're
helping with the shower being your person.
Right.
And I talked to my friend
about all the time.
We'd been to so many different events
together, and it just was more fitting.
My sister was not offended.
She was happy to be a part of the wedding.
So I talked about this before.
I am not a fan of when parents or
people try to convince the brighter
groom to have someone be in the wedding
or be a certain place in the wedding.
So she went along with it when
it came time for my bridal shower
and bachelorette party, which were
scheduled the same weekend since I was
finishing grad school in another state.
That sounds stressful.
My sister refused to help.
For months.
Every time I asked, she brushed
me off with, we have time.
It's too early to plan,
so she's not a planner.
In the end, my mom and I
organized everything ourselves.
A week before the events, my sister
suddenly started asking questions
and got mad that everything had
already been handled without her.
My mom even called me asking me to
find something to include her in.
So you're doing more work because
she couldn't be bothered before.
so I reminded her that I had been
trying for two months, but my
sister hadn't lifted a finger.
When I flew back home to go
wedding dress shopping with
everyone, she didn't show up.
Later, she demanded a different
dress from the other bridesmaids
because it was special.
I wanted them all to match, but of course
my parents called me saying she was hurt.
Is this an older or younger sister?
Older.
Okay.
The older sister did this.
Okay.
My shower, she had narrowed
her outfit down to two dresses.
I told her which one I preferred
because the other was two bridal.
She showed up in the white dress
anyway, with black accents, perfectly
matching my invitations and decor.
In the photos she positioned herself
in the middle so much that you
would barely know I was the bride.
So like there's no like necessary
rule that at showers and stuff, the
bride has to be the only one in white.
But I feel like all the ones I've
gone to, it's pretty common courtesy.
I would never show up to a shower
or a bachelorette wearing all white.
Especially if you ask them their opinion.
This sounds to me like the sister
was a little salty about the fact
that she was going through a divorce.
It wasn't working.
and then her sister's moving
really fast with this wedding.
So she's like, I'm gonna be involved
where I want to be involved.
and that's unfortunate that she
can't just be happy for her.
With all the drama building, my fiancé
and I secretly decided to elope what?
S I'm sorry for that sound
that just came outta my mouth.
That just came outta nowhere.
We got married privately, just
the two of us, but kept it a
secret until after the big day.
I love when that happens.
I love that.
Honestly, it saved me so much stress.
You go girl.
The night before the wedding,
a massive blizzard hit.
I was running around collecting
last minute deliveries and arrived
a little late to my rehearsal.
Sure enough, my sister
showed up in a white gown.
You guys, this is wild.
I've never read a story where the sister
is like showing up in these gowns.
It's usually the mom or mother-in-law
or an aunt or something.
That's wild.
'cause she knows better.
She's been a bride.
She knows better.
It makes me wonder how her wedding was.
If she was like this at her
wedding or someone did it to
her, like what's the deal here?
At that point, I didn't even care.
I went through a rehearsal in
jeans and snow booth before
changing from the dinner.
You go, girl, I love this bride.
The morning of the wedding, all of us,
my fight bridesmaids, my sister, my mom
and my mother-in-law went to the salon.
My sister went first for hair
and threw a fit because her
hair didn't match the picture.
She brought, she soaked in the corner
with her arms crossed like a toddler.
I added that.
while the stylist kept checking in as
we were leaving, she suddenly sighed.
Fine.
I guess someone can fix my hair.
I told my mom we needed to go since
the florist was delivering flowers
and the photographer was minutes
away, but she insisted Your sister
needs to be happy with her hair.
What is with this mom constantly
like defending the older sister
for acting like a toddler?
My guess is this is why she acts this way,
is because the parents are always like,
no, like, let's go out for your sister.
Like, what is the deal here?
Why is the younger sister acting like.
So much more mature in this scenario.
45 minutes later, this is wild.
My sister finally approved her look
and acted like nothing had happened.
On the way back, she demanded.
We stopped at CVS for an allergy medicine.
I tried to say no, but
my mom cut me off again.
Here we go with the mom.
You know, this is hard for her
since she just had her wedding.
Let's do what we can to
make her comfortable.
No.
This is the bride's day.
We don't need to make it comfortable
for the sister this whole time.
For context, her wedding had been
over, for a year at this point.
By the time we got home, the florist had
already left taking the bouquet to the
reception, but leaving behind the VAEs
for the bridesmaids table arrangements.
Oh my gosh.
The photographer was also waiting on us.
During picture as my sister
shoved her way to be next to me.
In nearly every shot, nearly every shot
loudly, declaring I'm the maid of honor.
This is my spot.
That's wild.
I've been the maid of honor twice, and I
was just like, I don't care where I stand.
I'll stand where you guys want me to.
I had to specifically request individual
photos with each bridesmaid just so
they wouldn't all be dominated by her.
Oh my gosh.
It's hard when it's a sibling 'cause it's
like you can't just like cut them out.
Especially the mom is like
waiting on her hand and foot.
Afterwards she demanded to know
why she didn't sign the marriage
license and accused wait.
What?
She didn't manage to know why she
wasn't like the witness on the marriage
license and accused another bridesmaid
of doing it when in reality no one had.
We were already legally married at
the reception she pouted when one of
my best friends gave a speech rolling
her eyes and smirking through it.
My mom kept excusing her behavior
as a hard time for my sister, but
really this is just who she is and
my parents chose to not see it.
That is so wild.
Like I am so sorry because.
This is gonna never change.
These parents are gonna constantly
excuse her behavior saying, oh,
she's just going through a hard time.
It's like, no, everyone's
going through a hard time.
From time to time.
Everyone's stressed from time to time.
It does not give you the right to treat
people a certain way, or especially
during your sister's wedding.
be happy for someone other than yourself.
so I'm guessing they didn't ask
the sister to give a speech either.
A few years later she remarried.
Wait, before I get to that, I was gonna
say, I wish she would've said that moment.
It's 'cause we're already married.
Like I feel like I would've
done that in my skit.
Be like, it's 'cause
we're already married.
But I guess she didn't tell her.
Okay.
A few years later she remarried.
She got engaged when I was seven months
pregnant and announced they'd be getting
married in Hawaii in just two months.
She told me I had to be there
at nine months pregnant.
You're gonna demand that
your sister's there.
Yeah, right.
I wished her well, but
explained it wasn't possible.
I'd be two weeks past my due
date and couldn't travel.
I ended up giving birth a week late.
She was furious and didn't
speak to me for a month.
This girl is so immature.
So immature, and the
parents are allowing it.
I mean, I don't know how
old they are now, but.
She's never going to be
responsible for her own actions.
If the parents are constantly
giving her excuses.
Here's the kicker, she's a doctor.
She knew perfectly well that
traveling then was impossible for me.
So if she's a doctor, she's gotta be
at least what, mid to late twenties.
How long are you in medical school for?
Isn't it like eight years or something?
12 years, 10 years?
I don't know.
I'm not a doctor, so I don't know.
But that is wild to me, this whole
story is wild to me it's more wild.
Like I'm currently in this, well, by the
time this comes out, I'll probably be
done with it, but the Tina and me ski.
Was based on a true story that someone
sent me, very based like, or very
inspired, loosely inspired, like
the first episode where they really,
idolized one sister over the other.
They did everything for this one
engagement and not the other.
They got mad.
I don't know, all these
crazy things, right?
And people are commenting like, parents
are really like this, this is terrible.
And I'm like, I read this
story and I'm like, yep.
They are.
That is to just like put one on a pedestal
and the other one's just like, no, like
your sister's going through a hard time.
I dunno.
That's wild.
All right guys, we got one more story.
We got so much more fun in our way.
Okay, let's go story number two.
About a year after meeting my now
husband, I went to one of his dance
performances where I met a dozen
of his friends for the first time.
One girl in particular, let's call
her Sabrina, immediately stood out.
These are all changed names.
She was loud, obnoxious, and
constantly gossiping about
people she didn't even know.
When we entered the theater,
she insisted on sitting right
in the middle of our group.
It wasn't the best seat, but
it was the one that guaranteed
she'd be the center of attention.
She didn't say a single word to
me, and anytime someone asked me
a question, she talked over me.
My first impression not good.
Yeah, I would say not good either.
I've met people like that before.
They don't like when a new girl is
brought into the mix because they're
not the center of attention anymore.
fast forward a couple of years.
We all went on a weekend
trip, about 20 people.
The friend group plus partners.
I hadn't seen Sabrina
since that first meeting.
Oh wow.
A couple years later.
Wow.
Okay.
And she was exactly as I remembered,
always needing the spotlight.
That night we played a game where you had
to catch the liars on the opposing team.
There were special roles and
coincidentally, I ended up
paired with my boyfriend.
He had a power that let him
check someone's card each round.
And he announced, I saw Sabrina's card.
She's a liar.
When the voting came out, I
said, I'm voting against her
because my partner saw her card.
Without missing a beat,
Sabrina snapped back.
Oh, so you believe him?
like when he tells you he loves
you Ooh, this girl's, wow.
She must have like a
crush on him or something.
I was boiling inside, but I managed
to smile and say, you know what?
Nevermind now I'm voting against
you because you made it personal.
Oh, I love it.
Okay.
The room went silent.
Everyone voted against her, and she
was eliminated loudly, angry about it.
Of course, I went straight to bed,
furious that neither my partner
nor anyone else defended me.
The next morning she approached
me with a half-hearted apology.
So my boyfriend said, I was
really mean to you yesterday.
I don't know when, but Sorry.
No, that's not an apology.
Sorry.
After that, I avoided
her as much as possible.
I skipped the group gatherings and the
one time I tried to go, I caught COVID,
so I took it as a sign that my body
really did not want me to be there.
I would too.
I'd be like, okay, thanks, universe.
When my husband and I got engaged,
I made it clear I would never force
him to cut Sabrina out since they'd
been friends since kindergarten.
That is really nice.
Maybe a little nicer than me, and I'm a
pretty nice person, but if someone were
to consistently not be very nice to me and
put me down or put my relationship down,
I would not give 'em the same courtesy.
I just saw a thing on
social media the other day.
I hope I don't butcher this, but
it says, stop being considerate for
people that don't even consider you.
So there's a little reminder to everybody
out there, especially as people pleasers,
we want to consider people, or if
they hurt our feelings, we're just
like, oh, maybe they didn't mean it.
No, stop.
Stop being considerate.
A people that didn't consider
you, she couldn't even apologize.
anyways, so she said she wouldn't force
him to cut her out because they were
friends since kindergarten, but he
shouldn't expect me to interact with her.
I even joked that she'd pull
something dramatic at the wedding,
like wear white or have her boyfriend
propose in the middle of it.
My wedding dress was a true princess
gown, layers of pink and white
tool green lace shaped like leaves.
I wanna see this dress sounds beautiful.
And glittering.
Floral details.
On our wedding website and
invitations, we clearly stated,
white is reserved for the bride.
okay.
I've never seen it like that.
but I love that you're just upfront.
Put it right on the invitation.
I wasn't worried about anyone
confusing me with someone else,
but I didn't want photos where
the attention could be stolen.
Makes sense.
So the big day arrives.
We do our first look full of excitement.
Then go to greet our
guest before the ceremony.
Who's the very first person I see Sabrina.
And what is she wearing?
A long flowy white gown.
What is with both of these stories,
having people not in the wedding or
the bride wearing a white dress, and
not just a white dress, a white gown,
that is wild.
This is someone asking for a fight or
asking for the detention be stolen.
I wonder how long she was
with her boyfriend for?
Maybe it was something where she was
mad that she wasn't proposed to first.
Ooh, this is wild, you guys.
Okay.
I said wild.
We should do a, tracker of
how many times I say wild.
I've noticed more and more
I say it like all the time.
The best part, my husband
finally saw her for what she is.
He apologized profusely to me
and the photographers without me
even asking, cropped her out of
all the photos whenever possible.
There's only one group shot of the
friends and my husband without me,
where she actually looks like the bride.
We decided the best way to quote
unquote punish her was silence.
No confrontation.
No drama.
Just be ignored when all she wanted
was to be the center of attention.
And honestly, that was the
sweetest justice of all.
I love that.
Okay.
I said one time in, I
think it was a podcast.
The mother-in-law was gonna wear white,
like told her daughter-in-law that I
bought a white dress for your wedding.
'cause it's the only color I look good in.
And my response was, one of the
things you could do is just ignore it.
And so many people in the
comments were like, ignore it.
Oh, I'm not ignoring it.
Oh, that's exactly, that you're
giving her what she wants.
Someone, this made such a good point.
Someone like this is
wanting to stir the pot.
They wanna cause a scene.
They want people to notice them.
They want the bride to feel inferior.
And if you don't feed into
it, you don't say anything.
You don't acknowledge it or have other
people look or point or say anything.
You're not giving them what they want.
They're actually gonna leave
mad because no one noticed.
I love that.
And then only post
photos that she's not in.
Okay.
I'm getting petty now,
but actually is it petty?
No, she was petty first.
I can't believe how both stories
had someone showing up in white.
These need be skits.
Oh my gosh.
You guys, If you're listening
to this whole thing, I need
to know all your thoughts.
Go to YouTube, go to
Instagram, go to TikTok.
Comment your thoughts after you listen
to this because these are just crazy.
These are crazy.
See, I had a different word.
Okay.
As promised, I'm gonna end this episode.
Sorry, I'm fidgeting with my hair so much.
If you're watching this, I'm gonna end
these episode with some confessions.
These are pretty wild.
Okay.
Here we go.
At the end, mother-in-law
wore white and black to our
wedding with a huge black hat.
The white.
I have more of a problem with.
I remember reading a story years
ago, where the mother-in-law wore
black to the wedding, like all black.
And I was like, oh my gosh.
Like they're dressed to a funeral.
Like their son's being
taken away from them.
Right.
But I was thinking about it.
I'm like, I've worn black
to formal weddings before,
like a formal black dress.
I've worn black jumpsuits to weddings
before, so I don't think black is
actually considered that bad, but it's
where she wore our huge black hat and
then a white and black dress because we
don't know the style of the dress, but.
Also, if someone's saying this, like a
bride's saying this, my guess is there's
some kind of issue already between them.
Because again, if you have a good
relationship with someone and they showed
up like that, you'd be like, oh, cool.
Pretty dress.
But if it's someone that's
already got an issue with you,
then they're making a statement.
Okay.
My cousin was my sister's photographer.
He didn't give her the pictures for
two years and they turned out awful.
Yeah.
No, we don't do family for vendors.
We just don't.
If they insist you say, I want you
there as a guest, I already have a
photographer because I've heard so many
horror stories about people choosing
photographers for their wedding.
that's a family member and I wouldn't
count like officiant from my day of
coordinating story earlier because I
think that's a more personal thing.
They can just do it and be done.
Right.
But a photographer, you need
someone that's really devoted
as fully a photographer.
Like that's their profession,
not just like a little side gig.
Someone that's gonna take a few photos
on their iPhone, or just starting out.
Okay.
This one's like a three part one.
She said, my fiance's best
man peer pressured him into
asking him to be the best man.
Anytime he did anything for my fiance,
unrelated to the wedding, he said,
this is best man's shit right here.
You better ask me.
We get married in nine months.
That's awkward.
I mean.
I don't know.
I don't know how to respond to that.
I feel like, yeah, maybe they can
make subtle hints that they wanna be
your best man, but it's up to you.
You have the power.
You could ultimately have the
power if they're your friend.
Sure.
But if they keep just making comments
like that, you are like, oh, I
already have someone else planned.
This one's weird.
Okay.
Best friend's mother-in-law
asked for a mother, son renewal.
Vows on their wedding.
Mother-in-law had it.
Best friend divorced him.
Wait, the mom wanted to renew
vows on their wedding day.
I need more context to this.
This is wild.
This is so wild.
I need more words.
Help me come up with more words.
I say amazing.
And I say wild and I say crazy a ton.
Help me come up with more words.
maybe help me out and
just comment on YouTube.
Just use some different words so
I can get them in my vocabulary.
' cause when I find what, I just
stick to that and that's what
we're using for the next month.
so yeah, I don't get it.
she wanted vow renewals with her son,
just like to prove that she's the mom.
I don't understand.
All right.
Oh, last one.
my sister slash maid of honor
got drunk before the ceremony.
She was a shit show half the day.
Yeah.
Alcohol can be a big problem at weddings.
I'm sure.
We've got tons of alcohol stories
that people have sent me in.
I've seen it a few times.
Few times I've seen it lots of times.
You get the people that are like fun
and drunk or buzz at the weddings
and like they're just dancing.
Like, yeah.
If you know you cannot handle
your liquor, hold off till the
reception, till your duties are done.
If you have any slight question about it.
Although anyone that's gonna like
not think they have a problem.
Is not going to be like, I'm gonna wait.
They're gonna be like, I can be fun.
So yeah, that kind of sucks
when it happens like that.
Alright guys, well that's
all I have this week.
Don't forget to send me your
confessions on social media on Mondays.
We do unpopular opinions On Fridays,
we do, your confessions, so hold
onto those cool confessions.
Sometimes we have different themes,
but otherwise I can't wait to read 'em.
Of course, always send me your
wedding story submissions.
They can be wedding proposal, engagement,
dating, friendship, whatever stories we're
gonna open our horizons a little bit.
feel free to tell me your stories.
and I think that's all I got for you guys.
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this is how my brain has been.
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