<v Speaker 1>Jar you Katy and Josh six one hundred.

<v Speaker 2>Josh, if you've been eating so many reces, you've been

<v Speaker 2>out running a lot yesterday or yeah, within the past month.

<v Speaker 3>Actually yeah, well yeah, I love running. It's so funny.

<v Speaker 1>I played baseball growing up my whole life and I

<v Speaker 1>ran ninety feet that was about it. And I hated

<v Speaker 1>running so much. And then one of my best friends

<v Speaker 1>he wanted to run a marathon, and I was like, well,

<v Speaker 1>I wonder how far I could run. I've not run

<v Speaker 1>a marathon. I don't think I ever want to do that.

<v Speaker 1>But I have a little trail that I run every

<v Speaker 1>day and I love it. It's about three miles exactly.

<v Speaker 1>And yes, two days ago, I was running on my

<v Speaker 1>little trail and I had my headphones in, but it

<v Speaker 1>sounded like someone was trying to get my attention and

<v Speaker 1>they were The path goes along just the road, and

<v Speaker 1>so I took one headphone out and I looked to

<v Speaker 1>my right and I was one hundred percent getting cat called,

<v Speaker 1>and this lady looked at me and she was like,

<v Speaker 1>you look great, and like whistled at me like literally

<v Speaker 1>did the oh exactly, And I was like, what is happening?

<v Speaker 1>First of all, because that does not happen to me,

<v Speaker 1>and I would assume most men very often, it's not

<v Speaker 1>a common occurrence. It made my day, Like I'm not

<v Speaker 1>gonna lie. It made me feel really good about myself.

<v Speaker 3>I'm not show I'm not dressed to the nines or anything.

<v Speaker 1>Going out on a run on my path, I wear

<v Speaker 1>baggy shorts and a T shirt, so I'm not like

<v Speaker 1>feeling or looking. I wasn't feeling my best, but I'm

<v Speaker 1>not looking my best either, And to get noticed like

<v Speaker 1>it felt pretty good. So I was thinking the rest

<v Speaker 1>of my run as I was, you know, huffing and puffing.

<v Speaker 1>Why do girls commonly complain about that? Because for me

<v Speaker 1>it felt really good, to the point where I talked

<v Speaker 1>about it with you guys the next day. I was like,

<v Speaker 1>you got a cat call? Feeling pretty good? And I

<v Speaker 1>get like, there are some creepy gross men out there.

<v Speaker 1>I understand that, yeah, but it always feels good to

<v Speaker 1>be noticed. It always feels good to be like, I'm

<v Speaker 1>looking pretty sexy today, like even at my worst in

<v Speaker 1>a run.

<v Speaker 2>Was it just a cat call or was there an

<v Speaker 2>owl with it too?

<v Speaker 4>Like?

<v Speaker 3>Ow, she said, you look really good. I didn't get

<v Speaker 3>the cow was sold.

<v Speaker 1>I got my attention like out the window, and she

<v Speaker 1>was a passenger and got my attention out of the window

<v Speaker 1>and say you.

<v Speaker 3>Look so good, and I was like, oh my god,

<v Speaker 3>thank you. I've literally I've been on a high for

<v Speaker 3>like two days. I've been thinking about him, like.

<v Speaker 5>Okay, and I understand that totally.

<v Speaker 2>Buck.

<v Speaker 6>Can I just throw a little wrench in here and

<v Speaker 6>just ask you when that happened, did you feel safe?

<v Speaker 5>Did you ever feel unsafe in that moment?

<v Speaker 3>Well, she was in a car, so if you tried

<v Speaker 3>to hit me with it, no.

<v Speaker 6>But I'm just saying now, yeah, as a woman, when

<v Speaker 6>a man does that, immediately you want to run faster,

<v Speaker 6>even if it's a car. It makes you at least

<v Speaker 6>for me, and I can't say every woman, but immediately

<v Speaker 6>I would feel unsafe. Yesterday I was running and a

<v Speaker 6>woman actually said to me, you're doing a great.

<v Speaker 2>Wow.

<v Speaker 6>I'm walking this and you're running it. That made me

<v Speaker 6>feel good. That gave me a little encouragement, didn't he

<v Speaker 6>with No. But when a man has done that to

<v Speaker 6>me before, I get uneasy. I automatically think something's gonna happen,

<v Speaker 6>Like you think it's okay to say something to me

<v Speaker 6>about my looks or my appearance. Now automatically, I think

<v Speaker 6>something's gonna happen. That may again that it's a compliment specifically.

<v Speaker 5>I know, but I'm by myself, like I'm running.

<v Speaker 1>But even in the daytime, like I get the whole

<v Speaker 1>back alley in Denver.

<v Speaker 6>I do, and so I'm by myself, and so a meeting,

<v Speaker 6>I wouldn't say at that point when you're out running

<v Speaker 6>at night with your head light on and everything, that's creepy.

<v Speaker 5>Yeah, don't tell me.

<v Speaker 6>I'm just saying like for me personally, if a man

<v Speaker 6>is about to say that to me, I would feel unsafe.

<v Speaker 3>Let me ask you, this person.

<v Speaker 2>I can see how that would be.

<v Speaker 1>I think how you would feel that for ninety nine

<v Speaker 1>and I'm not speaking I'm asking you.

<v Speaker 3>This is a question.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so I'm not speaking for you, but I would

<v Speaker 1>think for ninety nine percent of the women, though it depends.

<v Speaker 1>If that was a hot dude for you, a really

<v Speaker 1>good looking guy that was like, you're running these hills,

<v Speaker 1>look at you go, you would not feel unsafe.

<v Speaker 3>You would would little.

<v Speaker 6>No, I would a little feel unsafe just because I'm

<v Speaker 6>by myself. I know that, Like I m like protection instincts,

<v Speaker 6>can they do easy? And so like I just want

<v Speaker 6>to keep myself safe and so me personally.

<v Speaker 3>Twenty months dr I spell hot dude, but his arm.

<v Speaker 6>I'm always like thinking, I'm already out of breath, I'm

<v Speaker 6>already vulnerable. If this person wanted to, they could probably

<v Speaker 6>just push me over exactly like and so like that

<v Speaker 6>that's really well, I'm just saying.

<v Speaker 2>When you ask why, really ugly, when you.

<v Speaker 6>Ask why women get a little in their head about

<v Speaker 6>it or they aren't welcoming to these comments, it's because

<v Speaker 6>we don't feel safe all the time by ourselves out there.

<v Speaker 1>What if it's not by yourself, Like there's been groups

<v Speaker 1>of girls all the time. I think of like downtown Nashville,

<v Speaker 1>there's group and they get they like, there's not one

<v Speaker 1>part of you that feels good about this, Like, hey,

<v Speaker 1>they know they have me out of everybody.

<v Speaker 2>Let's take the running aspect out of it, even yeah, yeah, yeah,

<v Speaker 2>you just get cat called.

<v Speaker 3>I mean I don't like it.

<v Speaker 6>I don't like it, and it's not like maybe I

<v Speaker 6>might be like, oh I still got it, but immediately

<v Speaker 6>I'm on guard.

<v Speaker 5>Let's put it that way.

<v Speaker 6>If a guy specifically says I look good, immediately I'm

<v Speaker 6>on guard. But I know it is different with a woman,

<v Speaker 6>Like if a woman says that to me, which women

<v Speaker 6>give compliments quite often, I don't ever.

<v Speaker 5>Feel unsafe there.

<v Speaker 6>And I know maybe that's not the right way to

<v Speaker 6>approach it, but I'm just trying to be honest.

<v Speaker 2>There's so many messages coming in. I'm almost sented to

<v Speaker 2>bump this tattoo thing.

<v Speaker 5>No, honestly, I are fired up on the fired up,

<v Speaker 5>I mean, do.

<v Speaker 2>You want to bump this tattoo thing? We got to

<v Speaker 2>get into a break, but if people want to call,

<v Speaker 2>we can continue with this.

<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, A lot of ladies are actually on your side, Katie,

<v Speaker 2>which is surprising to me.

<v Speaker 5>It is to you because you don't.

<v Speaker 2>But I understand where you're Yeah, but I have a

<v Speaker 2>wife who was running marathons for years and would go

<v Speaker 2>out and run. I understand where you're coming from.

<v Speaker 6>Them.

<v Speaker 2>I'm not naive used to creepy men and people out running.

<v Speaker 2>She's got a she's got this weird take too that

<v Speaker 2>we can maybe dive into. She doesn't like men who

<v Speaker 2>are outside running with their shirts off.

<v Speaker 3>Nicknackt time with that one. I was not sure.

<v Speaker 2>She just had this conversation with her the other day

<v Speaker 2>we were walking and a dude went running by with

<v Speaker 2>his shirt off. She's like, what is it about men

<v Speaker 2>outside with their shirts off running? She's like, that just

<v Speaker 2>kind of grosses me out. She's like, it's so weird

<v Speaker 2>to me. But that might be a whole nother topic.

<v Speaker 2>But if you guys want to continue with this, I

<v Speaker 2>can bump the tattoo topic to next week.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

<v Speaker 7>I like it.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we're getting.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it depends if everybody that's texting in right now

<v Speaker 2>wants to call in and sound off about cat calls?

<v Speaker 2>Are you for them? Are you against them? Do they

<v Speaker 2>make you feel uncomfortable? Are guys allowed to do it?

<v Speaker 2>Our ladies allowed to do it? Whatever you want to say,

<v Speaker 2>It's Friday. Whatever. We want to talk to our listeners. Hi, Amy, Hi, Hi,

<v Speaker 2>what are your thoughts on getting cat called?

<v Speaker 4>So?

<v Speaker 8>I do think that like there's differences, right, So, like

<v Speaker 8>the cat calling was like Josh got a compliment. He

<v Speaker 8>was being hyped up, and like he was like essentially

<v Speaker 8>like they were saying, good job, you know, you got

<v Speaker 8>to keep going kind of thing. And that's fine when

<v Speaker 8>you're on a run. And even if a man of

<v Speaker 8>saying that, it's like you're doing a great job, Like

<v Speaker 8>I would feel good about that. But if they're commenting

<v Speaker 8>on my body or the way I look or anything

<v Speaker 8>like that, that would make me uncomfortable because I'm not

<v Speaker 8>in any way, like, I'm not trying to get complimented.

<v Speaker 8>Right now, it feels kind of rude and gross.

<v Speaker 2>Did they say good job as they drove by or what?

<v Speaker 2>Did they Actually?

<v Speaker 1>No, she whistled at me, and she was like, you

<v Speaker 1>look so good. There's nothing about like keep running or

<v Speaker 1>anything like. She was like, physically, you look good, you look.

<v Speaker 2>Hot, So are you okay with that? I?

<v Speaker 8>I mean, I don't know, not really. If I was

<v Speaker 8>on a run, I would feel really uncomfortable because that's

<v Speaker 8>not my goal with that run, you know.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, But when you say I was trying to have it,

<v Speaker 1>you were saying you weren't trying to get you know, like,

<v Speaker 1>if I'm on a run, I'm not trying to get compliments. Well,

<v Speaker 1>if you're not trying, you're in your most natural state,

<v Speaker 1>you know, and someone gives you a compliment, wouldn't that

<v Speaker 1>make you feel like for me, I guess, okay, maybe

<v Speaker 1>I just thought really really innocently about this, but it

<v Speaker 1>did make me feel good. I was thinking about it

<v Speaker 1>two days later, you know.

<v Speaker 8>Yeah, no, and I love that.

<v Speaker 9>That's so awesome.

<v Speaker 8>It's just a little different for women because like again,

<v Speaker 8>it's like we're really sexualized a lot of the time,

<v Speaker 8>and it just it feels gross.

<v Speaker 5>Thank you. That's the perfect way to put it.

<v Speaker 6>Everything about us is sexualized. So when we're running trying

<v Speaker 6>to take care of our bodies, like.

<v Speaker 2>Miss me with that right, Yeah, exactly, go Amy.

<v Speaker 8>I'm honestly, if I'm dressed up in going downtown and

<v Speaker 8>someone called me, it's a little different because I am

<v Speaker 8>driving a fish for compliments, maybe I'd be more like

<v Speaker 8>I'd be like, oh, thanks, that feels good. But running

<v Speaker 8>now that's griss Amy.

<v Speaker 2>Thank you for sounding off this morning. We appreciate you.

<v Speaker 2>Thank you, Thanks Amy, And I will say I get this, Katie.

<v Speaker 2>I know you were coming at me a little bit,

<v Speaker 2>but I get it. And again, you know, I've got

<v Speaker 2>a wife that goes out and goes on her walks

<v Speaker 2>and runs, and the very first thing I say to

<v Speaker 2>her and the very last thing before she walks out

<v Speaker 2>the door is be aware of your surroundings. Yeah, be

<v Speaker 2>aware of what's around you, and don't run with headphones in,

<v Speaker 2>is what I tell her, because you never know what's arounding.

<v Speaker 2>And I make her make sure she's got, you know,

<v Speaker 2>some pepper sprint stuff on her too, honestly. So I

<v Speaker 2>get it. I understand where you're coming from.

<v Speaker 6>And I love what Amy made about how we really

<v Speaker 6>are sexualized in every aspect of our life. And so

<v Speaker 6>it's it's it's hard to like wrap your mind around that,

<v Speaker 6>but women really do have to deal with that every

<v Speaker 6>single day, you know.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And it's a bummer because if it is truly innocent,

<v Speaker 2>you know that somebody, you caught somebody's eye while you're

<v Speaker 2>out and they're like whoo, you know they And if

<v Speaker 2>it's completely innocent, it's too bad that it gets taken

<v Speaker 2>in such a negative light, in negative fashion, because it

<v Speaker 2>could truly just be someone like damn, I'm attracted right now,

<v Speaker 2>you know. And we'll see where this goes. Here's a

<v Speaker 2>Nicoll Hi in a call.

<v Speaker 9>Hi guys, good morning, No, how are you well?

<v Speaker 2>We're super dude.

<v Speaker 10>I know.

<v Speaker 9>I just want to say I fully agree with Amy

<v Speaker 9>Katie one hundred percent. And I think it's unfortunate because

<v Speaker 9>women are so sexualized, and it's unfortunate for men because,

<v Speaker 9>like you're saying, if you want to give a genuine compliment,

<v Speaker 9>you know, I appreciate that. Maybe that's your desire, but

<v Speaker 9>I will say, as a person in the dating world,

<v Speaker 9>you're not why to us and giving us nice compliments.

<v Speaker 9>Usually most of the time we might just be getting

<v Speaker 9>yelled at, and that is not the way to approach it.

<v Speaker 9>So definitely turn that energy into the all calmly walk

<v Speaker 9>up to you in a social setting and give you

<v Speaker 9>a calm compliment about it. So, yeah, exactly, And the

<v Speaker 9>woo woo you look hot driving by is not really

<v Speaker 9>a compliment. But I do find it funny because I

<v Speaker 9>lived in Mexico years ago when I was in college,

<v Speaker 9>and we lived with moms and homestays and we were

<v Speaker 9>all very sort of appalled at the amount we were

<v Speaker 9>getting cat called. It was just really constant and really incessant.

<v Speaker 9>And we were talking to the moms about it and

<v Speaker 9>they said, you know, yeah, maybe that's annoying, and it

<v Speaker 9>definitely is cultural here, but when it stops happening, that's

<v Speaker 9>a bummer. And so it does. There is some of

<v Speaker 9>that aspect of it makes you feel good when and

<v Speaker 9>then you maybe notice that more when it stops. So

<v Speaker 9>I'm I'm I don't know. I'm pro communication and healthy ways. Yeah,

<v Speaker 9>maybe a cat call is not the best.

<v Speaker 2>You're so mature.

<v Speaker 6>You make such a good point though with the when

<v Speaker 6>it stops.

<v Speaker 5>It's a noticeable thing for a woman, and.

<v Speaker 9>I tried to appreciate it more.

<v Speaker 5>Yeah, you make a.

<v Speaker 6>Good point where it's like we definitely need to have

<v Speaker 6>a good balance of you know, like this is a

<v Speaker 6>good thing to a point, to a point.

<v Speaker 9>Yeah, but you don't want to feel unsafe and on

<v Speaker 9>a run a person driving by. I do think that

<v Speaker 9>makes us feel unsafe. I want to run. It has

<v Speaker 9>its time and place. Yeah, exactly, But maybe that's a

<v Speaker 9>good motivator.

<v Speaker 2>I think I'm with you. Like, even if it was me,

<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, what is this weirdo doing? You're they

<v Speaker 2>going to turn around and come after me?

<v Speaker 9>Yeah?

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I didn't.

<v Speaker 10>Cool.

<v Speaker 2>Hey, thank you for the very enthusiastic call. We appreciate you.

<v Speaker 9>Yeah, great, morning guys.

<v Speaker 2>You as well. Uh here's guy is guy a guy?

<v Speaker 10>Yeah?

<v Speaker 7>Oh?

<v Speaker 10>Here we go? Okay, good morning. I want to say

<v Speaker 10>I agree with Amy and k I want to say

<v Speaker 10>they did uncover. So when you said balance, that's what

<v Speaker 10>life is all about. Balance, and I agree with Amy,

<v Speaker 10>and I want to add, you know, know your audience.

<v Speaker 10>I teach my kids know your audience. There's times of

<v Speaker 10>talk a certain way, and then there's certain people you

<v Speaker 10>don't want to turk a certain way around. And on

<v Speaker 10>that note, like yeah, you know, if you see a

<v Speaker 10>girl dressed up with a bunch of makeup and you know,

<v Speaker 10>look clearly looking for it's obvious when someone's looking for attention,

<v Speaker 10>you know what I mean. It's feel free to be

<v Speaker 10>appropriate and nicely start a conversation or you know, hey,

<v Speaker 10>wait till she stops, you know, and start with high

<v Speaker 10>not start.

<v Speaker 2>With hi, Hi, I'm guy, I'm friendly, Hello, Hello, I

<v Speaker 2>am I am not a dressed from a.

<v Speaker 10>From a guy's point of view, you know, it is

<v Speaker 10>so hard to strike up a conversation with a girl.

<v Speaker 10>You know, how are we supposed to approach her female

<v Speaker 10>a lot of times without making them so uncomfortable. A

<v Speaker 10>lot of us are conquer about it nowadays. You know,

<v Speaker 10>we're not just blowing it off, but we still you

<v Speaker 10>know what I mean, Like you first noticed someone. You

<v Speaker 10>don't notice someone's personality right off the back. You notice

<v Speaker 10>the way someone looks, you know, prehistoric times or whatever.

<v Speaker 10>You know.

<v Speaker 11>What I mean.

<v Speaker 3>You know, like, guy, no, I agree with you.

<v Speaker 1>And I wanted to say, like, these days, there are

<v Speaker 1>so many females that complain about not being approached anymore.

<v Speaker 1>They're like, guys are such woses. They don't come up

<v Speaker 1>to us, they don't talk to us anymore. And it's

<v Speaker 1>because of the entire conversation that we have just had.

<v Speaker 1>There are good men out in this world that don't

<v Speaker 1>want to just sexualize a woman. There are good men

<v Speaker 1>that see a beautiful woman or like, this may be

<v Speaker 1>the only chance I get, and we are scared bleepless

<v Speaker 1>because we can't do that anymore because they are so

<v Speaker 1>on guard and put us at like a disadvantage of

<v Speaker 1>being able to even approach a woman.

<v Speaker 2>And I was thinking about this too, because it's like

<v Speaker 2>if you're out running and you see a beautiful woman

<v Speaker 2>and you're like, what if I never see her again,

<v Speaker 2>now's my chance to shoot my.

<v Speaker 3>Shot, you know, and you're actually not a creep?

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so how does that work?

<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I'm sorry, but that's probably not the time to

<v Speaker 6>shoot your shot. And you're just gonna have to take

<v Speaker 6>that l on the way out.

<v Speaker 3>So follow her on the runs here.

<v Speaker 2>To the grocery store.

<v Speaker 6>Man, that makes us feel uncomfortable, and you just have

<v Speaker 6>to hope that you'll see her against something.

<v Speaker 3>I don't like wild, I don't like that, audience, don't

<v Speaker 3>like it.

<v Speaker 10>That's also knowing the audience, you know what I mean. Like,

<v Speaker 10>obviously it's Kadi's running and not dressed up, you know,

<v Speaker 10>with everything all hanging out, and you know.

<v Speaker 2>Not like she's at work.

<v Speaker 10>Big old hoop, big old hoopery.

<v Speaker 3>My god, you know what I like.

<v Speaker 2>I'm just saying, you are so far off, Fie. She'd

<v Speaker 2>be in a Nuggets jersey and a pair of Vans, dude.

<v Speaker 2>But guys, we're gonna move. We got a ton of calls. Guy,

<v Speaker 2>thank you so much for sounding off. Here's Laura, Hi, Laura, Hi,

<v Speaker 2>how are you all? We're super dupes? What are your

<v Speaker 2>thoughts on this?

<v Speaker 1>So?

<v Speaker 11>I think that the part that will maybe make it

<v Speaker 11>click a little bit for like Josh is I still

<v Speaker 11>remember the first time I got Kat called I was ten.

<v Speaker 2>I hate it.

<v Speaker 11>Discuss like it starts really early, so it has like

<v Speaker 11>bad connotations, you know, for you. And then also like

<v Speaker 11>there is an element of like the sheer volume because

<v Speaker 11>like a lot of guys are great guys and they

<v Speaker 11>don't want to like bother you and be gross. But

<v Speaker 11>there's also like every single time I have to go

<v Speaker 11>pay cash for gas, like they won't just let me

<v Speaker 11>be like here's twenty dollars on pump five and walk away.

<v Speaker 11>They have to be like, oh, you're so beautiful. Like

<v Speaker 11>it's always weird, and I never like going into a

<v Speaker 11>gas station because it's always like that and it's gross.

<v Speaker 11>So like when you have to deal with that constantly,

<v Speaker 11>almost it's just like, Okay, well, the guy who says

<v Speaker 11>something on my run might be super nice and might

<v Speaker 11>just be wanting to stripe up a conversation, but you've

<v Speaker 11>already had to deal with so much of that stuff

<v Speaker 11>that week that you're just like.

<v Speaker 2>Leave me over it.

<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, no, you're right, you're right.

<v Speaker 6>It's just the fact that it happens so much in

<v Speaker 6>all of those situations. Like you said, Laura, it's not

<v Speaker 6>just on the runs. It's not just at the grocery store,

<v Speaker 6>it's at the gas station. It's you know, when you're

<v Speaker 6>checking your mail. It really is, like you they think

<v Speaker 6>when a guy and the sexualization of women or is

<v Speaker 6>it just.

<v Speaker 2>Guys shooting their shot? Is it just single guys? And

<v Speaker 2>I'm just I'm not on either side here. Does it

<v Speaker 2>just single guys just saying, Hey, I'm trying to find

<v Speaker 2>a mate, I'm gonna be nice to this lady when

<v Speaker 2>she comes in and gives her a compliment? Is that

<v Speaker 2>all it is?

<v Speaker 3>And you just don't like it.

<v Speaker 11>But at the same time, it's like I have a

<v Speaker 11>ring on. I get people who compliment me, like on

<v Speaker 11>my ring and then they'll be like, oh, yeah, your

<v Speaker 11>guy is such a lucky guy.

<v Speaker 9>Blah blah blah.

<v Speaker 2>I'm not on that side.

<v Speaker 3>No no, no, no, no, no, that's wrong.

<v Speaker 11>Like if someone says something to me as I'm just running,

<v Speaker 11>like maybe they didn't see it, or maybe I wasn't

<v Speaker 11>wearing it because like I was running and like on

<v Speaker 11>a path and like, you know, that's probably not a

<v Speaker 11>weird interaction there. But my guard is going to be

<v Speaker 11>up because it's like this has been happening to me

<v Speaker 11>my whole life, and so much of it ends up

<v Speaker 11>being like creepy and weird. So I just don't think

<v Speaker 11>it matters if the guy is attractive or not. I

<v Speaker 11>don't really think it fully matters. Like the situation, you're

<v Speaker 11>just so over it by the time you hit like

<v Speaker 11>twenty five that it's just never going to be a

<v Speaker 11>great idea. Get to shoot your shot there.

<v Speaker 2>Because where I've never heard this before. This is the

<v Speaker 2>eye opening to me. Not on the run, Laura, thank

<v Speaker 2>you for the great call.

<v Speaker 4>Laura by yeah, bye bye.

<v Speaker 2>I almost said you look pretty today, but no, don't I.

<v Speaker 3>Know the time?

<v Speaker 2>And sorry, I'm sorry. Melissa, Hi, So you got young?

<v Speaker 12>Is my daughter? My other daughter just drop rof at school.

<v Speaker 12>She loves hearing you. She goes ix one hundred.

<v Speaker 2>Well that listen absolutely, So what are your thoughts on this, Melissa?

<v Speaker 12>Context, Time and place guys Like if I'm out working out,

<v Speaker 12>leave me alone. I don't, I know, shoot your shot,

<v Speaker 12>but just mind your own like I'm I'm clearly not

<v Speaker 12>in the mood.

<v Speaker 10>I'm not.

<v Speaker 12>There's a time and place like I agree with you

<v Speaker 12>guys earlier, like if I'm out downtown looking hot, got

<v Speaker 12>the big hoopy ear rings.

<v Speaker 1>Like have you seen some of the outfits that women

<v Speaker 1>wear to the gym now, I mean truly, like I.

<v Speaker 12>Know, I know, but it's I don't know. It's about

<v Speaker 12>being comfortable and you know, they know they look good.

<v Speaker 12>You don't need to be.

<v Speaker 2>For guys who are visually attracted to that. I mean again,

<v Speaker 2>that is a situation where we're like, I might never

<v Speaker 2>see you at the gym again, I'm gonna come up

<v Speaker 2>and talk to you, give you a compliment. See where

<v Speaker 2>it goes.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you would you feel would you feel less guarded

<v Speaker 1>if someone were to walk up to you at any

<v Speaker 1>any place, time and place you'd say, you know whatever,

<v Speaker 1>I'm not interested and they respectfully say hey, thank you,

<v Speaker 1>have a nice night. I mean, is that like, that's

<v Speaker 1>still not a bad interaction, right if they were respectful, No,

<v Speaker 1>it's not about it.

<v Speaker 12>No, if they are respectful and stuff like, that's not

<v Speaker 12>about an interaction. But guys should get it that most

<v Speaker 12>females take it the wrong way. Like, no matter which

<v Speaker 12>way this conversation goes, most females take it the wrong way.

<v Speaker 1>Well, it's because of historical bad interactions with men. It

<v Speaker 1>goes right back on to us, like, I'm not you.

<v Speaker 12>Guys could have the best intentions in the world, no

<v Speaker 12>matter what how this conversation ends, most females take it

<v Speaker 12>the wrong That's why.

<v Speaker 3>We don't have nice things.

<v Speaker 2>I have a nice thing. I've had for twenty this

<v Speaker 2>is what I'm getting.

<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna get married, like this is what I'm I just.

<v Speaker 6>Want to point out, like the whole workout until I

<v Speaker 6>approach them thing. Now, chances are when you work out,

<v Speaker 6>you do a lot of the same things. You're in

<v Speaker 6>the same place. Your chances of seeing this person it's

<v Speaker 6>probably increased more than.

<v Speaker 5>They will never see you again.

<v Speaker 6>So maybe just start laying the tracks for what you

<v Speaker 6>want to happen when you see them the first time,

<v Speaker 6>a little wave. When you see them the second time,

<v Speaker 6>maybe a nod, and then the third or fortune. I'm

<v Speaker 6>just saying, maybe then it's a time to hey, I've

<v Speaker 6>noticed you working out here. You know, maybe would you

<v Speaker 6>want to go get a cup of coffee sometime and

<v Speaker 6>blah blah blah.

<v Speaker 5>You know, that's a good way to approach it.

<v Speaker 6>Multiple times seeing the person don't be your first interaction,

<v Speaker 6>be like nice butt?

<v Speaker 2>Does that work the same way if you're running the

<v Speaker 2>same lake every time. If you're out running you see

<v Speaker 2>a person three or times.

<v Speaker 3>Right, I think?

<v Speaker 2>So where else would be a good place to approach?

<v Speaker 2>I mean, Melissa, you said there's a time and a place,

<v Speaker 2>and you gave the one example of just being downtown

<v Speaker 2>at the club.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

<v Speaker 12>I'm like, I'm not mean people. I want to be

<v Speaker 12>at a bar meeting people like a.

<v Speaker 2>Guy that's not going to bars and that's not his scene.

<v Speaker 2>Where else can target you? Melissa comfortable?

<v Speaker 12>I don't know?

<v Speaker 9>This is this is Colorado? What do we all do?

<v Speaker 1>HIKEI okay, you're a trail You did not just say

<v Speaker 1>that on a trailing.

<v Speaker 3>This is I want to say so many things. Okay,

<v Speaker 3>all right, really alone on a trail in.

<v Speaker 6>The woods me when I hike? Okay, but like second

<v Speaker 6>third day, we can go hiking.

<v Speaker 2>You guys keep giving the examples of just meet us downtown.

<v Speaker 2>We're all dressed up looking good. But if you're not

<v Speaker 2>a guy who does that, where else is it okay

<v Speaker 2>for us to approach you?

<v Speaker 4>Well?

<v Speaker 5>Where else do you?

<v Speaker 3>I mean?

<v Speaker 9>But that's there you go.

<v Speaker 6>That is the world nowadays. And on the Cereal Island

<v Speaker 6>say hi, you can thank gen Z for that.

<v Speaker 12>I'm out looking for Cereal. I guess I'm I don't

<v Speaker 12>want to be a pros.

<v Speaker 2>This is why the birth rates are in the toilet

<v Speaker 2>right now.

<v Speaker 3>The world is ending. The world is ending.

<v Speaker 2>Nobody is getting together because I can't come up to

<v Speaker 2>you and say, oh my god, I love forot loops too.

<v Speaker 2>What's your name?

<v Speaker 12>If you clearly were looking at my sy.

<v Speaker 2>Delicious just like you, Meli. We are running short on time.

<v Speaker 2>We can maybe do what foot lines are so full,

<v Speaker 2>but again, thank you for shut off. Hey, thank you

<v Speaker 2>for calling the show.

<v Speaker 5>Oh my gosh, are.

<v Speaker 2>We at on time?

<v Speaker 6>Oh?

<v Speaker 2>We have full lines. Here's Vanessa. Hi, Vanessa, Hi, good morning.

<v Speaker 2>We might make you our last call. We'll see how

<v Speaker 2>it goes.

<v Speaker 7>What are your thoughts, Well, honestly, it just depends on

<v Speaker 7>what everybody else said, time and approach when it comes

<v Speaker 7>to being cat called in downtown. I am unfortunately a victim,

<v Speaker 7>and it's happens at work, and I am a coffee tech.

<v Speaker 7>I don't I'm not asking for anything, so.

<v Speaker 1>Okay, I just feel like the whole I'm not asking

<v Speaker 1>for things though, like it's a pleasant surprise, like I

<v Speaker 1>wasn't asking for anything on the run, and honestly, like

<v Speaker 1>I'll be honest, I get like this is not an

<v Speaker 1>uncommon occurrence for me. Women have approached me a lot,

<v Speaker 1>whether I'm interested or not. I'm still flattered the same way,

<v Speaker 1>like this is the only reason you wanted to do

<v Speaker 1>this topic. I'm meanings like this never happens to men.

<v Speaker 3>This has happened.

<v Speaker 1>I've had I've had like gay men come up to me,

<v Speaker 1>and I've had women come up to me, and I'm

<v Speaker 1>still flattered the exact same way.

<v Speaker 3>I don't feel threatened.

<v Speaker 1>Maybe that is because I'm a man, But that being said,

<v Speaker 1>like i still take it as a really nice compliment.

<v Speaker 1>It feels good to me being noticed by whoever. I

<v Speaker 1>don't care.

<v Speaker 3>And you know jiu jitsu, so you know you could

<v Speaker 3>I can bend them into a pretzel.

<v Speaker 2>Yes, Vanessa, thank you for the call. Let's do one more, Debbie.

<v Speaker 2>You will get the final word on this this morning. Hi, Debbie, good.

<v Speaker 4>Morning, go morning. It's a compliment. It is a compliment.

<v Speaker 4>So if someone wants to call out me, I'm going

<v Speaker 4>to smile and have a really good day. And let

<v Speaker 4>me tell you that doesn't happen often because when I

<v Speaker 4>go to work, my husband says I look homeless.

<v Speaker 2>Oh my god.

<v Speaker 4>I walk dogs for work. And dogs don't care if

<v Speaker 4>I've combed my hair or if I'm wearing they don't care.

<v Speaker 3>We're going to talk to your.

<v Speaker 4>Hiking with someone or being called it on a trail?

<v Speaker 4>Oh no, no, no, right.

<v Speaker 2>I thought that was you leave me alone.

<v Speaker 4>But if I'm walking, if I'm running down the street,

<v Speaker 4>which also I'm old, I'm not going to run, but

<v Speaker 4>I do walk. No, thank you so much for giving

<v Speaker 4>me a compliment. I appreciate it.

<v Speaker 2>You're the first woman on the phone line to call

<v Speaker 2>in and say this. Nobody on the text line has

<v Speaker 2>said this and reading them. True, you look like a hobo,

<v Speaker 2>but you still want to be.

<v Speaker 1>Like but see you also know if you do look

<v Speaker 1>like that and someone gives you a compliment, there being

<v Speaker 1>genuine right, really all right?

<v Speaker 4>You know what if you look your worst and you

<v Speaker 4>get a compliment, think how you're gonna get it when

<v Speaker 4>you look your.

<v Speaker 2>Debbie's gonna get pregnant. Hell, Debbie, let's hop the first

<v Speaker 2>train and get out of this town together. Let's believe man,

<v Speaker 2>Let's leave get out of here. Thank you for ending

<v Speaker 2>this on a laugh with us. Debbie, have a good

<v Speaker 2>day your donkeys for us.

<v Speaker 3>All right?

<v Speaker 2>Where we ending on this. We didn't solve anything.

<v Speaker 5>No, we didn't.

<v Speaker 6>But I think it's understandable to say that men and

<v Speaker 6>women have different perspectives.

<v Speaker 1>I love that, and it's okay we think differently. I mean,

<v Speaker 1>we're both wired differently, and I think that's the beauty

<v Speaker 1>of it. I mean, and I do feel bad. I mean,

<v Speaker 1>I really do feel bad for women who have to

<v Speaker 1>go through that and be an unsafe situations. That is

<v Speaker 1>not a laughing matter, So I feel bad for that.

<v Speaker 2>But I still think that's the bottom line. Yeah, all

<v Speaker 2>these weird dudes out there knocking for everybody for josh

<v Speaker 2>I know, I want to get married Joshua to get married,

<v Speaker 2>so and you're ruining it for him, sad, Quit being weird,

<v Speaker 2>pervert creepers dudes, knock it off, Thank you very much,