Hi guys.

Welcome back to another episode

of, here Comes The Drama.

I'm your host Christa, or if you

can see me right now, Jules, if

you can't see me, I am wearing

the outfit from the I don't crew.

the character Jewels.

So that's the problem sometimes

with, between these skits is

then I associate these shirts

with different characters and.

I like, every time I like pick

it up, I'm like, oh, that's that

one character from that skit.

That's how I feel about

the Ferris and Sloan shirt.

Like I've barely worn it outside of

that skit now, because I feel like if

I wear it somewhere, it feels like I'm,

I don't know, secretly like promoting

the book and I'm not trying to, it's

funny how I just connect it anyways.

What a way to start the episode.

kind of just jump in right in like that.

Welcome back for another episode

of some crazy stories that we are

gonna get into in just a minute.

Try to switch things up because I

like to keep things interesting.

We're gonna start off this week with we're

gonna call them wedding 9 1 1 Situations

that people have sent me as a new segment.

And, from time to time people

send me, on social media some

things they're going through.

Maybe they're in a wedding,

maybe it's a friend situation.

And I'm no expert, but I'm just gonna

give you my own personal advice,

from the hot seat here, I guess.

So if you wanna send me any of your

own wedding 9 1 1, you can email

me at hello@christainnis.com and

use the subject line wedding 9 1 1.

So let's dive into these.

This first one says, "My bride friend

just announced she wants the bridal

party to chip in to cover her honeymoon.

What?

As a gift on top of dresses,

travel, and the shower.

This feels like too much.

I just wanna be supportive, but I

also don't wanna go broke." Yeah,

that's pretty, it's pretty normal.

" How do I set a boundary without

causing a fallout?" Okay.

I feel like we've talked about this

a lot of times before on the podcast.

If a friend is asking you to do too much,

like having you pay for the honeymoon

is not a normal thing for a bridesmaid.

You should not have to pay

anything for the wedding.

Yes.

You know, if you wanna go to

a bachelorette party, sure.

Depending on the person.

Sometimes the dress you'll pay for shoes.

But those should be

communicated ahead of time.

The honeymoon you are not even a part

of this is the new bride in groom.

This is their trip to

handle and take care of.

If they can't afford it,

they shouldn't go on one.

Now if they do one of those like honeymoon

funds and you wanna chip in on that, sure.

If you give 'em a gift of the wedding

and they use part of that, sure.

But it should not be a standard.

It should not be like you have

to as a bridesmaid, pay for this

if she doesn't understand and.

She tells you like, this

is what you have to do.

I'd say, okay, well I'm gonna set

this one out and if she says, don't

come to my wedding, then you say,

all right, well we had a good run.

again, it's always easier from the

outside, but that is a ridiculous

request for someone to have.

Okay.

Next.

Dress drama.

"The bride picked a bridesmaid dress

color that looks terrible on me.

It completely washes me out.

I asked if I could wear the same

dress in a slightly different

shade, but she said no, because she

wants perfectly matching pictures.

Do I just suck it up for one

day or is it fair to Pushback.

Okay.

It's gonna ultimately depend

on your relationship and how

important this person is to you?

Me, personally, I would just suck it up.

I've worn so many

dresses that wash me out.

I'm a very pale person.

I don't do spray tan.

I don't do tanning anymore.

So I'm pale.

I've had to wear dresses that were like.

Really, really light pink.

I've had to wear dresses that

were like a taupe and they end

up looking, they look fine.

Like once you get your hair

and makeup done, it works.

It's fine.

I would never tell a bride to

pick a different bridesmaid dress.

That's me personally.

if you're not super close, maybe

just be like, this isn't for me.

But if you agreed to be in their

wedding because you care about

them and they care about you.

I'd say just suck it up for a day.

If you're gonna match all the

other girls, it's gonna look fine.

it'll be great.

I think dress color is one thing

where like I'd be like, suck it up.

If it's a style, maybe that makes

you uncomfortable, maybe it's like a

backless dress or really low cutting

or form fitting, and you're like,

I don't like that for my body, then

that's something I think I could push

back a little more on and be like,

"Hey, I'm not comfortable in that

dress." A color?

I don't know.

Tell me what you guys think, but

for me, I wouldn't push back.

Okay.

Like I said, we're gonna start

doing these from time to time, so

if you have a dilemma or something

that you want addressed, email me.

hello@kristaennis.com and use

the subject line wedding 9 1 1.

You can also use my same Google

form and just select, there's

a different option there.

You can, filter it through.

\ I do get dms on social media.

It's just like, it's so hard because

they're not filtered through.

So if I read it and I'm like, it's

a busy day and I don't forget to

unmark it or mark it up, then I

lose the story and then it's gone.

I'll be like, oh my gosh.

Someone sent me a really good

story and I just completely forget.

So if I see one in there, I'll send

you guys the link and I'll be like,

"Hey, this is a great story. Can you

just send it to me in the Google form?"

Okay.

Next up, this next segment

is going to be called.

Red flag versus green

flag wedding edition.

So we've been doing the hot

takes lately on the rapid fire.

So this is like a new

kind of style of that.

" Bride asked bridesmaids to dye their

hair for the wedding." That's a red flag.

No, we don't need to do that.

This is quick, quick, quick, quick.

" Mother-in-law insists on wearing

white because it's her son's day

too." No red flag. "Couple charges?

Yes.

For drinks at a cash bar?"

Well, a cash bar is charge.

So are we just saying,

is it cash bar, red flag?

I wouldn't say that's a red flag.

It's not my favorite flag,

but I wouldn't say it's red.

It's not a green flag though.

Okay.

"A groom's friend proposes

during the reception." Red flag.

" Couple doesn't allow plus ones unless

you're engaged or married." I get it,

but I'm gonna lean more towards red

flag because an engagement or marriage

does not determine the relationship.

I could see maybe like if you're

like long-term relationships,

you've been together over a year.

But you could be together

for a week and get engaged.

So I just, I'm not someone that's like,

engagement means they're like solid.

I mean, marriage doesn't

always mean that either.

So yeah, I would say that's a red flag.

"Bridesmaid drops out a week

before the wedding because of

cost that's a green flag I think.

I don't know if should

be a green or a red flag.

It's not a red flag because if she

cannot afford something, like maybe

just too many things are adding up.

She felt empowered enough or strong

enough to be able to drop out.

I think that's a green flag.

Hopefully it doesn't affect the

bride and they're just, they can

move on past it and they're okay.

but.

I wouldn't say that's a red flag at all.

If someone came to me and they're

like, I can't afford to be in your

wedding, I would be like, what can

I do to keep you in the wedding?

Let's nix this.

How can I help with this?

I just want you to be a part of it.

I don't care about the cost.

" Couple has a phone free ceremony and

locks up guest phones." That's a red flag.

Phone free ceremony.

Yes, absolutely.

Put the phones away.

They have professional photographers.

Just don't have it out.

Please, listen.

But locking up a guest phone is a red

flag because here's the thing, as a

mom, and just in case of emergency,

I feel like people should be able

to have their phones on them.

That just sounds to me like you

don't trust someone that's coming

to your wedding you are like,

we're locking up everybody's phone.

Like, no, let's not do that.

" Parents of the bride invite extra guests

without telling the couple." Red flag.

" Best man roasts the bride in his speech."

Red flag, unless he's equally roasting.

Yeah, that's a red flag.

And you're like, good friends.

" Couple serves fast food like Taco

Bell or Chick-fil-A as a late

night snack." That's a green flag.

I love when I'm at a wedding and

they have a late night snack and it's

like Wendy's or Pizza or Taco Bell.

I went to one one time and it was in

this really cool, like old, I don't

even remember what it was, not a museum.

I just remember the structure was so cool.

Like there was up the stairs and then

like the different like rooms or the

different, I'm describing this so poorly.

It was in Ohio.

The different rooms were like

had different things in it.

So like one room would have a late

night snack, one would have dancing,

then there was dancing downstairs.

It was just like a cool old building.

And I remember them mentioning a late

night snack and I kept trying to find

where it was and I ended up missing it.

And I was like, what was

the late night snack?

And they were like, it was curly

fries and like Wendy's frosties.

And I was like, oh, that sounds amazing.

Right now I'm all for late snack.

Whoever came up with it

and started doing that.

Thank you.

I remember the first wedding

I was at that had one.

I was like, what?

What's happening right now?

What are, why are we

getting late night food?

Okay.

I don't always finish my dinner.

Like, it depends on what's going on,

but like, there's so much going on that

day, so I just get hungry later on.

So late night snacks good.

One more thing I forgot

to mention earlier.

If you guys didn't know, I now post

these all on YouTube and I know like

I'm not one to sit and watch a full

video on YouTube that's like, over.

10 minutes.

But it's a great place

to go for discussion.

So if I ever like, bring something up in

the conversation here, or you wanna give

some feedback on something, or you have

a question about something or you wanna

like add more to the discussion, please

go to YouTube and comment, because I

feel like there's so many times when I'm

listening to podcasts that I'm like, where

can I like say my thoughts on the matter?

And like talk to other people about it.

So please do that.

I love seeing the discourse.

I pop in the comments all the time

to see what's going on, and I love

seeing what you guys have to say.

All right, guys, we've got two stories

today, so let's get into them before I

ble too much, because these are wild.

Okay.

Story #1.

" My fiancé and I had been together

for four years when he proposed.

Since my dad passed away, he moved in with

me less than a year into our relationship.

So we were serious about building

a life together from the start.

My relationship with his mom was okay.

At first, we're just different people.

Personality wise, she's loud and

extroverted, and I'm more introverted

and struggle with loud environments.

About a year before he proposed,

she kept making more passive

aggressive comments towards me.

I brought this up to my fiancé and when

things got worse, he asked her about it.

Her only explanation was that I was

rude because I looked at my phone while

playing a 1980s Trivial Pursuit game.

She insisted we play.

Wait, what?

She got mad 'cause you

looked at your phone.

She forced me to join so the teams

would be even I hadn't wanted to play.

So during the long turns,

I scrolled social media and

did some online shopping."

So she considers that rude.

That's like a generational

thing too, though.

Like the judgment for being on the phone.

I know it's hard sometimes, like

you pick up your phone, you wanna

like scroll social media, different

generations see that as rude.

I personally don't like when I'm

somewhere with someone and they

start picking up their phone.

I'm like, excuse me, I'll

keep talking when you're done.

it's kind of awkward, but if there's a

big group of people and you just pick up

your phone here and there and look at it.

Sure.

Again, I'm not criticizing this person.

I'm just saying personally, if I

was playing and I kept noticing

someone look at their phone,

I'd be like, am I boring you?

" Most of her comments revolved around

me making him do things that we

already had mutually agreed on.

At first, I just ignored it.

When he proposed, we were so excited

to start planning because of my dad's

passing, I had some inheritance money.

We decided, I used part of it

for the wedding, so it'd feel

like my dad was helping pay and

we cover the rest ourselves.

We never asked anyone for money, nor did

we share this detail with our families.

We toured a local event center.

With my mom and his parents.

The venue handled tables, chairs,

linens, food, and bartending,

a perfect low stress package.

We signed the contract and put down

a deposit." I love, lemme just say,

I love when a venue is like, we're

gonna do this, this, this, and this.

You don't have to like go to

a hundred different vendors.

" A few weeks later, my fiance came

home after visiting his parents.

His mom had told him, just so you know,

we're not putting any money down for

the wedding, so don't expect us to."

Don't you love that, like

aggressive, coming at you?

Like I have seen this happen so

many times in these stories, where

people just go after somebody.

And it's wild because it's like.

They're thinking, they're expecting

them to give them money and it's like

they haven't said one thing about that.

" He explained that we're paying

for everything ourselves and had

never asked them for anything.

His dad chimed in saying they

just wanted him to be aware.

Weird, but we shrugged it off.

Okay.

I later found a bridal expo

and thought it would be a great

chance to explore vendors.

Since my maid of honor lived outta

state, I invited my mom and my two

other bridesmaids, my fiance and

his mom to help her feel included."

See, this is where I'm always like.

I feel bad for these

brides 'cause I get it.

That's gotta be really uncomfortable.

'cause you're like, I

want her to feel included.

This is a special time.

But if she's already making weird

comments to you and about the wedding,

I don't have high hopes for her coming

to your dress shopping, that's all.

Okay.

"We drove into cars, my bridesmaids

road with my mom. I went with

my fiance and his mom." Wait.

Oh, this is a bridal expo.

Okay, got it.

I don't know why I was thinking

it was like a dress fitting.

Okay.

" On the way she started grilling him about

who he planned to invite from his side.

When he mentioned a cousin he

recently connected with, she snapped.

You can't invite him.

Take him off the list.

I told my fiancé he should be

able to fight who he wants.

But to appease his mom, he agreed

to leave the cousin out." they

already said straight up, they're

not helping with anything.

They're not paying for anything,

so they cannot dictate who

you're inviting to the wedding.

And if you are close to someone,

you should be able to invite them.

that's ridiculous.

At the expo, she immediately

grew annoyed at how slow we were

moving through the crowded rows.

She kept rushing ahead, arms

crossed, waiting against the walls.

My fiancé went to stand with her so

she wouldn't be alone, which forced my

bridesmaids to drag him back whenever

I was mid-conversation with vendors."

because then she's making it all about

her, so now they're not even focusing on

their wedding and the vendors, she's just

being Annoyed We found some promising

vendors, silk flowers, rentals, and hair

and makeup team. When I mentioned these,

she loudly criticized them. ' I don't

know why people wear makeup anyway, I

didn't at my wedding, and it was such

a waste of money to hire someone.'"

This is someone that's just gonna find

something negative about everything.

Either she doesn't support their

marriage or their relationship, she's

unhappy with her own wedding, or she's

just unhappy with her life in general.

So she's gonna critique every

single thing that she does.

" For context, I have eczema and acne,

so I rarely wear more than concealer

and foundation for my wedding.

I wanted to feel extra special." As

you should, girl. " She also dismissed

the silk flowers as cheap. Even

after my fiance reminded her, she

hadn't seen the particular booth we

liked." Just making judgements again.

" On the way to lunch afterwards,

she called his younger brother and

bribed him with a free meal to join.

The moment he arrived, she focused

entirely on him ignoring my

bridesmaids and any vendor talk."

So she's like just shutting them out.

This is such common

behavior in these stories.

I see.

both with shutting out the

wedding planning, critiquing

anything that they don't like.

It is making the bride feel bad or awkward

about ever bringing up the wedding.

And then on the other side of things,

the sibling picking favorites.

I just read another story about

this last week where it was sisters

and they were picking favorites and

then the famous me and Tina skit,

and now it's doing the same thing.

Oh, own invite brother to our lunch.

And I'm just gonna completely

ignore you guys now.

" Months later, I scheduled

wedding dress shopping for when

my sister would be in town.

I texted his mom and my mom the details.

His mom replied that she added it to her

calendar, so I didn't send a reminder.

The day arrived and after our family

vacation." I know this going and I'm

trying not to laugh. " My bridesmaid's

mom and I headed to the boutique soon

after my fiance called his dad, told

him his mom had skipped it to take

his brother's graduation pictures.

My fiance gently scolded me for

not reminding her, even though she

said she had it on her calendar."

That hurt.

Yeah, she's an adult.

it's also the relationship thing.

for example, like I told my mom and my

mother-in-law like, Hey, this is the date.

For dress shopping?

Are you guys both free?

They both were.

They put it on their calendar, but

I talked to them multiple times

before then, so it would come up.

My mother-in-law would call me

like we would talk about it.

Same with my mom.

so like it would come up in

conversation, but if it's somebody I

don't talk to a lot, they are adults.

if she said, Hey, I put it

in my calendar, trust that.

If she had a question

about it, she can ask.

For her to then be like, oh, I'm taking

your brother's graduation photos.

Mm, I don't know.

I think it was on purpose.

"We ended up finding the dress I dunno

why I said it like that, the dress at the

first shop, but kept a second appointment

just in case. To our shock, his mom showed

up at the second boutique, even though

she previously said she wasn't coming." So

she knew .She either knew or the fiance,

because I'm wondering if he scolded

the bride later or if he like called

her and was like, my mom's not there.

You needed to call her,

blah, blah, blah, blah.

So maybe he gave the address

and was like, you need to go.

But to me it sounds like the mom just

didn't wanna go to the first appointment.

she immediately criticized

the gowns as cheap and called

my favorite one plain." Ew.

I don't like that at all.

Again, she's being so rude

during this whole engagement,

stop inviting her to things.

" My bridal party was furious."

I wonder if anyone like stood

up for her and said something.

'cause I feel like my friends would

not be able to bite their tongue.

Again, I've talked about before.

I have an amazing mother-in-law.

She would never, but I'm just trying

to picture like if there was a

scenario where one of my, or one of my

friend's mother-in-laws said something,

I think we would say something.

I don't think we could just stand

there and be like, watch it happen.

That would be terrible.

" My bridal party was furious Afterwards,

she declined our dinner invitation,

telling my fiance later she wasn't invited

at all." Of course, she's gonna be the

victim. " My sister planned my bridal

shower and we invited his mom's friends

too. Only one RSVP." Yes, which upset her.

" A week before the shower, my

fiance told me his mom complained.

I had excluded her from planning.

I reminded him that my sister

was handling everything.

When he relayed that to his

mom, she suddenly claimed she

was too busy to help anyway."

This is that victim mentality.

They're gonna find something

wrong or find like a way to

whine or cry about everything.

she's putting her, son, the fiance

in the middle of everything,

saying like, oh, they didn't

include me when they actually did.

And then when he says that, he's

like, oh, I'm way too busy for that.

Come on.

" On the day she and her mother sat in their

car until five minutes before the party.

During the shower, she

kept mostly to herself.

Her gift to me was a Yelp printout

for a quirky nail boutique

specializing in anime designs.

Interesting, sweet in theory, but not

at all practical since we were leaving

for our honeymoon the next day." This

is wild. " Later, she scheduled a nail

appointment for just the two of us

without asking me. Then backed out saying

she'd bring a friend instead." What?

So she gets you a nail gift

certificate for your bridal shower?

Then she says, here, I booked a nail

appointment for us, and now she can't go.

This woman is wild.

I don't know how people deal with this.

" His parents agreed to pay for

the rehearsal dinner, but his

mom still complained about

the officiant not attending.

He was never supposed to per contract."

I don't think they typically do. " At

the restaurant, she boasted about the

very expensive cookies she brought on

the wedding day things escalated. She

barged into the bridal suite demanding

the photographer document a gift from

the groom, which delayed our timeline."

I am shaking my head if you're listening.

" Later, she wandered around

with her own DSLR camera." No.

Why?

Why does she think she's

a photographer now?

" Taking photos during our first dance

and other moments, even though we had

professionals hired." And you don't

wanna do that either because your flash

can throw out the other photographer's

flash. You could be in the background,

you could be in the way, like leave it

to the professionals. " Our photographer

cropped her out whenever possible, but

the videographer couldn't avoid her."

Also, doesn't she wanna like interact

with people while she had a camera?

" She also camped out at her reception table

with plastic water bottles and spent much

of the night at the photo booth with her

friends rather than celebrating with us.

The next day, I logged into

Facebook to see that she'd already

posted dozens of wedding photos.

Most of them were herself.

Out of nearly 50 pictures,

I appeared in about seven."

I am laughing 'cause this

is just so ridiculous.

you're telling me she makes this

big stink about the whole wedding.

Has to make the whole thing about her.

Then on the wedding day, instead of

actually just enjoying it and being

present, she's carrying around this

huge DSLR camera, taking all these

photos as if she's a second hired

photographer, and then posting it

all to Facebook without the bride.

It's wild.

Oh my gosh.

" Looking back, his mom's need for attention

overshadowed so many parts of the process.

My fiance often excused it, wanting

to keep her happy, but it left me

feeling excluded and disrespected

at multiple points." I've said

this before and I'll say it again.

If it comes to the point where your

mom is making you choose between the

two and you can't choose your new wife.

You're more concerned about making

her happy than you've already lost.

You're already not choosing your

wife, so why are you marrying her?

I don't get that, the mom

wants this battle to happen.

She wants to like see that her

son is still loyal to her, but

at the end of the day, like he

chose to marry this new person.

That's terrible.

" The wedding itself was beautiful,

but her behavior is something I will

never forget." I'm so sorry to this

bride and it sucks when you like.

Those are the memories then that

you have of your wedding day,

and I'm sure it hasn't gotten

better now that they're married.

I'm sure it has not gotten better.

This mother-in-law is going to

still be doing things to be passive

aggressive, to be rude, to put her down.

All because the girl was scrolling

on her phone during game night.

these needs to be researched

in a lab somewhere.

I don't know, like I don't know

where this comes from that they get

so up in arms or so offended when

their son finds someone to marry.

I don't know where this comes from.

We need another therapist to

come on here and talk about it.

Okay, next one.

Oh gosh.

Okay.

Three weddings, one family drama.

This story actually

involves three weddings.

"I grew up in the same neighborhood

as this family and was close

friends with the youngest daughter.

She and her older sister split

their time between their dad and

stepmom's house and their mom's.

The stepmom also had two kids

from a previous relationship,

so it was a blended household.

about a year and a half ago, the

older sister got engaged around the

same time it came out that their

dad was cheating on the stepmom,

which led to a nasty divorce." Okay.

The stepmom and her kids all cut him

off, and so did the older sister.

" The younger sister was the only one

still trying to keep some peace, and

that's the one that's friends with

the op." A lot of characters here.

And this is why, sorry, this is a

side note, but this is why like when

I do skits and people are like, I need

the next part, I need the next part.

I'm like, I don't wanna complicate it too

much by adding all these other characters.

'Cause I did that before and

people were like, who's who?

Who's that?

It's hard in these skits and this is

why I need to read this one first.

Okay.

"Originally, the dad was invited to the

older sister's wedding, but he threw a

fit when he found out the stepmom might

be there and demanded to bring his new

partner instead." God, hopefully it

wasn't the one that he cheated with.

I mean, it's awkward either way

'cause it was a nasty divorce.

But if he is like, Hey,

this is the mistress.

Like what are we doing here?

" When the bride told him his new partner

wasn't welcome, he refused to attend."

So you're choosing this new partner

over your stepdaughter's wedding.

" She finally uninvited him altogether

at the wedding, their mom walked.

The bride down the aisle, and

both the younger sister and the

former stepsister were bridesmaids.

Afterward, the dad had the audacity to

send the bride a venmo request asking

for reimbursement for the venue deposit.

He contributed she ignored it."

This dad is something else.

We need a skit about that because I feel

like too many times, like these skits

are focused on moms and mothers in-law.

I'm sorry guys.

I am really sorry for that because

I don't mean it to be that way.

I just get, most of the stories are

about moms and I don't mean for it.

So I need a dad story.

We need to skit about this because

this is a really shitty thing to do.

Really shitty thing to do.

He ultimately chose his new

girlfriend over his wife and kids.

I get the divorce was nasty, but

you need to put your kids first.

He is like, pay me back for the venue.

I'm it's not her fault.

You didn't show up.

" A month later, the dad married

the woman he cheated with.

The divorce papers from the second

marriage were finalized only 24

hours before his wedding." So it

was the woman he cheated with that

he wanted to bring to the wedding.

Can you imagine the audacity to not

even see how badly you screwed up?

You ripped apart your family by

cheating on your, wife, of how many

years and then wanting to bring

her to your daughter's wedding.

Actually, stepdaughter's wedding.

What?

This guy's lost his mind.

The only guests were two of her kids.

The younger daughter wasn't invited,

which upset her, but her dad brushed

it off by saying she lived too

far away about four hours and he

didn't think she could make it.

Okay.

Wedding #3.

" Just this past weekend was

the younger sister's wedding.

I was in the bridal party along with her

fiance's sister, her biological sister.

Two new stepsisters from the dad's

third marriage and a cousin." Okay.

So we're talking, oh wow.

This is like a nice, okay, that

like biological sister, the

peacekeeper, we'll call her.

I don't have names for her.

So really nice to include

her dad's mistress kids.

I mean, I guess this his new wife

now, but that's wild to include them.

Okay.

" The bride had invited her former stepmom

and step siblings, but they weren't a part

of the bridal party." So she included,

and unless I'm understanding incorrectly,

she included the new stepsisters from the

dad's third marriage, but not the former.

Step siblings who she's

known a lot longer.

Okay.

I guess it's all about relationship and

you choose who you want in your wedding.

It's ultimately up to

you, but that's wild.

Okay.

"Her mom and her mom's

partner were also there.

Her biological sister serving as maid of

honor, still wasn't speaking to their dad.

It was out of question, the most

awkward wedding I've ever attended.

The dad walked the bride down the

aisle, but the former stepmom and

step-siblings weren't included in

photos and left after cocktail hour.

I later heard this was prearranged.

The bride wouldn't be

upset." Oh, that sucks.

That's really sad.

" During family photos, the

division was almost comical.

Bride and groom were in the center

mom with her partner and their

son, and the older sister with her

husband on one side, dad and his

new wife and her kids on the other.

The older sister was treated as part

of mom's side, and there were no

photos of both sisters with their dad.

He and the older sister still

don't speak to this day and they

didn't speak the entire day.

The dad's new wife seemed to be

scrambling to play catch up socially,

meeting extended family for the

first time, while also trying to

coexist with his ex-wife's families."

I wanna hear our story, I want her to

send in what happened here, if my head,

it feels like scrambled eggs right now

from all of this, I can only imagine.

What actually happened and, and you guys

listening like, are, am I too confused?

Are you guys confused?

There are so many people here.

Okay.

" She ends with the bride, looked

happy at the end of it all, which

is the most important thing.

But from the outside, the balancing

act of divorce, parents, ex

stepparents, half siblings and

new partners made it painfully

awkward to witness." I hate that.

I hate when you hear about these

messy divorces and the parents

then make it more about themselves.

It sounds like the, ex like

stepmother, sounded like she was

willing to like, make it work, but

the dad just, sounds terrible.

I've been in multiple weddings

where there's children of

divorce and they make it work.

They're still hugging, they're friends.

They get along, they, and it's not

like they're hanging out outside of it.

They just make it work for the sake

of their kids in a beautiful day.

It's not that hard to

brush it aside for one day.

It's not about you, it's

about the bride and groom.

And that's it.

The couple getting married.

All right, guys.

Well, those were two

completely wild stories.

Thanks for listening, and

hopefully, I mean, we might

need a family tree after this.

I don't know, but this was wild.

All right, let's end this episode

with some confessions that you guys

sent me over on Instagram again.

Every single Friday we ask you

guys to send us your confessions.

They have to do.

All kinds of things.

Engagements, dating, uh,

relationships, weddings,

proposals, honeymoons, you name it.

So send them to us.

Okay.

This first one says.

" My mother-in-law would invite his

ex over or go on vacation with

her after we got engaged." Oh, no.

This is the one that needs

to let go of the past.

This, I would, I don't think

I would do well with that.

I don't think most people would.

I need to know now.

Where are you guys?

Are you guys engaged still?

Are you married?

Does his ex still come around?

What is his relationship with the ex?

What is his relationship with his mom?

Is, is he like setting up a boundary?

Because that's weird to me

that the mother-in-law's

going on vacation with her.

That's, very inappropriate to me.

Okay.

Mother-in-law started a group chat

telling everyone we were engaged,

but didn't include me, only my groom.

Was that intentional or

was that like an accident?

Because there's been times where like

my husband's included in a group chat or

I am and the other isn't included, and

you talk to them later and they either

are like, oh, I didn't mean to do that.

Or, it was for a different reason.

Or, I don't know, like, maybe it's not

that deep, but maybe it is that deep.

I don't know.

It is weird to not include the

bride in a text about her wedding.

That's like the one where the

mother-in-law posted photos.

I think it was from their engagement

and then, purposely like, what was it?

She, I think either cropped out the bride.

No, she cropped out the bride and

then only tagged the son in the

photos, so that was intentional.

Okay.

This last one says, I knew he was going to

propose, but he still doesn't know that.

Married for four years

with two kids." Okay.

Why was I, okay, tell me why I read that.

Like he doesn't know that I've been

married for four years with two kids.

I've been reading too many like crazy

confessions that I was literally

thought she was confessing to us a

deep, dark secret that she's been

married for four years with two kids.

Okay.

She knew that he was going to propose,

like she, somehow the secret was out.

She knew that he was gonna propose and

she's not telling him four years later

with two kids, all right, I got you.

I got you.

That's not that wild.

I think that probably happens a lot.

You want them to feel good

about their surprise, so

you're not gonna say anything.

like I've talked about before, I knew

like we were gonna get engaged soon.

I didn't know when it was gonna

happen, so I was completely

surprised when it did happen.

But I wasn't like, whoa, we've

never talked about marriage before.

This is weird.

So I knew it was kind of coming.

yeah.

Well, thanks guys.

Those were some pretty wild stories today.

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So thank you guys for listening.

And you guys, I think I just had

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I've been like, I feel like I've

been pulled in so many directions.

I think we all feel that.

I don't know what's going on, but

there's just so much going on right now

that my brain sometimes is just like,

I completely just had a brain pause.

I don't even know what you

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