Hi guys.
Welcome back to another episode
of, here Comes The Drama.
I'm your host Christa, or if you
can see me right now, Jules, if
you can't see me, I am wearing
the outfit from the I don't crew.
the character Jewels.
So that's the problem sometimes
with, between these skits is
then I associate these shirts
with different characters and.
I like, every time I like pick
it up, I'm like, oh, that's that
one character from that skit.
That's how I feel about
the Ferris and Sloan shirt.
Like I've barely worn it outside of
that skit now, because I feel like if
I wear it somewhere, it feels like I'm,
I don't know, secretly like promoting
the book and I'm not trying to, it's
funny how I just connect it anyways.
What a way to start the episode.
kind of just jump in right in like that.
Welcome back for another episode
of some crazy stories that we are
gonna get into in just a minute.
Try to switch things up because I
like to keep things interesting.
We're gonna start off this week with we're
gonna call them wedding 9 1 1 Situations
that people have sent me as a new segment.
And, from time to time people
send me, on social media some
things they're going through.
Maybe they're in a wedding,
maybe it's a friend situation.
And I'm no expert, but I'm just gonna
give you my own personal advice,
from the hot seat here, I guess.
So if you wanna send me any of your
own wedding 9 1 1, you can email
me at hello@christainnis.com and
use the subject line wedding 9 1 1.
So let's dive into these.
This first one says, "My bride friend
just announced she wants the bridal
party to chip in to cover her honeymoon.
What?
As a gift on top of dresses,
travel, and the shower.
This feels like too much.
I just wanna be supportive, but I
also don't wanna go broke." Yeah,
that's pretty, it's pretty normal.
" How do I set a boundary without
causing a fallout?" Okay.
I feel like we've talked about this
a lot of times before on the podcast.
If a friend is asking you to do too much,
like having you pay for the honeymoon
is not a normal thing for a bridesmaid.
You should not have to pay
anything for the wedding.
Yes.
You know, if you wanna go to
a bachelorette party, sure.
Depending on the person.
Sometimes the dress you'll pay for shoes.
But those should be
communicated ahead of time.
The honeymoon you are not even a part
of this is the new bride in groom.
This is their trip to
handle and take care of.
If they can't afford it,
they shouldn't go on one.
Now if they do one of those like honeymoon
funds and you wanna chip in on that, sure.
If you give 'em a gift of the wedding
and they use part of that, sure.
But it should not be a standard.
It should not be like you have
to as a bridesmaid, pay for this
if she doesn't understand and.
She tells you like, this
is what you have to do.
I'd say, okay, well I'm gonna set
this one out and if she says, don't
come to my wedding, then you say,
all right, well we had a good run.
again, it's always easier from the
outside, but that is a ridiculous
request for someone to have.
Okay.
Next.
Dress drama.
"The bride picked a bridesmaid dress
color that looks terrible on me.
It completely washes me out.
I asked if I could wear the same
dress in a slightly different
shade, but she said no, because she
wants perfectly matching pictures.
Do I just suck it up for one
day or is it fair to Pushback.
Okay.
It's gonna ultimately depend
on your relationship and how
important this person is to you?
Me, personally, I would just suck it up.
I've worn so many
dresses that wash me out.
I'm a very pale person.
I don't do spray tan.
I don't do tanning anymore.
So I'm pale.
I've had to wear dresses that were like.
Really, really light pink.
I've had to wear dresses that
were like a taupe and they end
up looking, they look fine.
Like once you get your hair
and makeup done, it works.
It's fine.
I would never tell a bride to
pick a different bridesmaid dress.
That's me personally.
if you're not super close, maybe
just be like, this isn't for me.
But if you agreed to be in their
wedding because you care about
them and they care about you.
I'd say just suck it up for a day.
If you're gonna match all the
other girls, it's gonna look fine.
it'll be great.
I think dress color is one thing
where like I'd be like, suck it up.
If it's a style, maybe that makes
you uncomfortable, maybe it's like a
backless dress or really low cutting
or form fitting, and you're like,
I don't like that for my body, then
that's something I think I could push
back a little more on and be like,
"Hey, I'm not comfortable in that
dress." A color?
I don't know.
Tell me what you guys think, but
for me, I wouldn't push back.
Okay.
Like I said, we're gonna start
doing these from time to time, so
if you have a dilemma or something
that you want addressed, email me.
hello@kristaennis.com and use
the subject line wedding 9 1 1.
You can also use my same Google
form and just select, there's
a different option there.
You can, filter it through.
\ I do get dms on social media.
It's just like, it's so hard because
they're not filtered through.
So if I read it and I'm like, it's
a busy day and I don't forget to
unmark it or mark it up, then I
lose the story and then it's gone.
I'll be like, oh my gosh.
Someone sent me a really good
story and I just completely forget.
So if I see one in there, I'll send
you guys the link and I'll be like,
"Hey, this is a great story. Can you
just send it to me in the Google form?"
Okay.
Next up, this next segment
is going to be called.
Red flag versus green
flag wedding edition.
So we've been doing the hot
takes lately on the rapid fire.
So this is like a new
kind of style of that.
" Bride asked bridesmaids to dye their
hair for the wedding." That's a red flag.
No, we don't need to do that.
This is quick, quick, quick, quick.
" Mother-in-law insists on wearing
white because it's her son's day
too." No red flag. "Couple charges?
Yes.
For drinks at a cash bar?"
Well, a cash bar is charge.
So are we just saying,
is it cash bar, red flag?
I wouldn't say that's a red flag.
It's not my favorite flag,
but I wouldn't say it's red.
It's not a green flag though.
Okay.
"A groom's friend proposes
during the reception." Red flag.
" Couple doesn't allow plus ones unless
you're engaged or married." I get it,
but I'm gonna lean more towards red
flag because an engagement or marriage
does not determine the relationship.
I could see maybe like if you're
like long-term relationships,
you've been together over a year.
But you could be together
for a week and get engaged.
So I just, I'm not someone that's like,
engagement means they're like solid.
I mean, marriage doesn't
always mean that either.
So yeah, I would say that's a red flag.
"Bridesmaid drops out a week
before the wedding because of
cost that's a green flag I think.
I don't know if should
be a green or a red flag.
It's not a red flag because if she
cannot afford something, like maybe
just too many things are adding up.
She felt empowered enough or strong
enough to be able to drop out.
I think that's a green flag.
Hopefully it doesn't affect the
bride and they're just, they can
move on past it and they're okay.
but.
I wouldn't say that's a red flag at all.
If someone came to me and they're
like, I can't afford to be in your
wedding, I would be like, what can
I do to keep you in the wedding?
Let's nix this.
How can I help with this?
I just want you to be a part of it.
I don't care about the cost.
" Couple has a phone free ceremony and
locks up guest phones." That's a red flag.
Phone free ceremony.
Yes, absolutely.
Put the phones away.
They have professional photographers.
Just don't have it out.
Please, listen.
But locking up a guest phone is a red
flag because here's the thing, as a
mom, and just in case of emergency,
I feel like people should be able
to have their phones on them.
That just sounds to me like you
don't trust someone that's coming
to your wedding you are like,
we're locking up everybody's phone.
Like, no, let's not do that.
" Parents of the bride invite extra guests
without telling the couple." Red flag.
" Best man roasts the bride in his speech."
Red flag, unless he's equally roasting.
Yeah, that's a red flag.
And you're like, good friends.
" Couple serves fast food like Taco
Bell or Chick-fil-A as a late
night snack." That's a green flag.
I love when I'm at a wedding and
they have a late night snack and it's
like Wendy's or Pizza or Taco Bell.
I went to one one time and it was in
this really cool, like old, I don't
even remember what it was, not a museum.
I just remember the structure was so cool.
Like there was up the stairs and then
like the different like rooms or the
different, I'm describing this so poorly.
It was in Ohio.
The different rooms were like
had different things in it.
So like one room would have a late
night snack, one would have dancing,
then there was dancing downstairs.
It was just like a cool old building.
And I remember them mentioning a late
night snack and I kept trying to find
where it was and I ended up missing it.
And I was like, what was
the late night snack?
And they were like, it was curly
fries and like Wendy's frosties.
And I was like, oh, that sounds amazing.
Right now I'm all for late snack.
Whoever came up with it
and started doing that.
Thank you.
I remember the first wedding
I was at that had one.
I was like, what?
What's happening right now?
What are, why are we
getting late night food?
Okay.
I don't always finish my dinner.
Like, it depends on what's going on,
but like, there's so much going on that
day, so I just get hungry later on.
So late night snacks good.
One more thing I forgot
to mention earlier.
If you guys didn't know, I now post
these all on YouTube and I know like
I'm not one to sit and watch a full
video on YouTube that's like, over.
10 minutes.
But it's a great place
to go for discussion.
So if I ever like, bring something up in
the conversation here, or you wanna give
some feedback on something, or you have
a question about something or you wanna
like add more to the discussion, please
go to YouTube and comment, because I
feel like there's so many times when I'm
listening to podcasts that I'm like, where
can I like say my thoughts on the matter?
And like talk to other people about it.
So please do that.
I love seeing the discourse.
I pop in the comments all the time
to see what's going on, and I love
seeing what you guys have to say.
All right, guys, we've got two stories
today, so let's get into them before I
ble too much, because these are wild.
Okay.
Story #1.
" My fiancé and I had been together
for four years when he proposed.
Since my dad passed away, he moved in with
me less than a year into our relationship.
So we were serious about building
a life together from the start.
My relationship with his mom was okay.
At first, we're just different people.
Personality wise, she's loud and
extroverted, and I'm more introverted
and struggle with loud environments.
About a year before he proposed,
she kept making more passive
aggressive comments towards me.
I brought this up to my fiancé and when
things got worse, he asked her about it.
Her only explanation was that I was
rude because I looked at my phone while
playing a 1980s Trivial Pursuit game.
She insisted we play.
Wait, what?
She got mad 'cause you
looked at your phone.
She forced me to join so the teams
would be even I hadn't wanted to play.
So during the long turns,
I scrolled social media and
did some online shopping."
So she considers that rude.
That's like a generational
thing too, though.
Like the judgment for being on the phone.
I know it's hard sometimes, like
you pick up your phone, you wanna
like scroll social media, different
generations see that as rude.
I personally don't like when I'm
somewhere with someone and they
start picking up their phone.
I'm like, excuse me, I'll
keep talking when you're done.
it's kind of awkward, but if there's a
big group of people and you just pick up
your phone here and there and look at it.
Sure.
Again, I'm not criticizing this person.
I'm just saying personally, if I
was playing and I kept noticing
someone look at their phone,
I'd be like, am I boring you?
" Most of her comments revolved around
me making him do things that we
already had mutually agreed on.
At first, I just ignored it.
When he proposed, we were so excited
to start planning because of my dad's
passing, I had some inheritance money.
We decided, I used part of it
for the wedding, so it'd feel
like my dad was helping pay and
we cover the rest ourselves.
We never asked anyone for money, nor did
we share this detail with our families.
We toured a local event center.
With my mom and his parents.
The venue handled tables, chairs,
linens, food, and bartending,
a perfect low stress package.
We signed the contract and put down
a deposit." I love, lemme just say,
I love when a venue is like, we're
gonna do this, this, this, and this.
You don't have to like go to
a hundred different vendors.
" A few weeks later, my fiance came
home after visiting his parents.
His mom had told him, just so you know,
we're not putting any money down for
the wedding, so don't expect us to."
Don't you love that, like
aggressive, coming at you?
Like I have seen this happen so
many times in these stories, where
people just go after somebody.
And it's wild because it's like.
They're thinking, they're expecting
them to give them money and it's like
they haven't said one thing about that.
" He explained that we're paying
for everything ourselves and had
never asked them for anything.
His dad chimed in saying they
just wanted him to be aware.
Weird, but we shrugged it off.
Okay.
I later found a bridal expo
and thought it would be a great
chance to explore vendors.
Since my maid of honor lived outta
state, I invited my mom and my two
other bridesmaids, my fiance and
his mom to help her feel included."
See, this is where I'm always like.
I feel bad for these
brides 'cause I get it.
That's gotta be really uncomfortable.
'cause you're like, I
want her to feel included.
This is a special time.
But if she's already making weird
comments to you and about the wedding,
I don't have high hopes for her coming
to your dress shopping, that's all.
Okay.
"We drove into cars, my bridesmaids
road with my mom. I went with
my fiance and his mom." Wait.
Oh, this is a bridal expo.
Okay, got it.
I don't know why I was thinking
it was like a dress fitting.
Okay.
" On the way she started grilling him about
who he planned to invite from his side.
When he mentioned a cousin he
recently connected with, she snapped.
You can't invite him.
Take him off the list.
I told my fiancé he should be
able to fight who he wants.
But to appease his mom, he agreed
to leave the cousin out." they
already said straight up, they're
not helping with anything.
They're not paying for anything,
so they cannot dictate who
you're inviting to the wedding.
And if you are close to someone,
you should be able to invite them.
that's ridiculous.
At the expo, she immediately
grew annoyed at how slow we were
moving through the crowded rows.
She kept rushing ahead, arms
crossed, waiting against the walls.
My fiancé went to stand with her so
she wouldn't be alone, which forced my
bridesmaids to drag him back whenever
I was mid-conversation with vendors."
because then she's making it all about
her, so now they're not even focusing on
their wedding and the vendors, she's just
being Annoyed We found some promising
vendors, silk flowers, rentals, and hair
and makeup team. When I mentioned these,
she loudly criticized them. ' I don't
know why people wear makeup anyway, I
didn't at my wedding, and it was such
a waste of money to hire someone.'"
This is someone that's just gonna find
something negative about everything.
Either she doesn't support their
marriage or their relationship, she's
unhappy with her own wedding, or she's
just unhappy with her life in general.
So she's gonna critique every
single thing that she does.
" For context, I have eczema and acne,
so I rarely wear more than concealer
and foundation for my wedding.
I wanted to feel extra special." As
you should, girl. " She also dismissed
the silk flowers as cheap. Even
after my fiance reminded her, she
hadn't seen the particular booth we
liked." Just making judgements again.
" On the way to lunch afterwards,
she called his younger brother and
bribed him with a free meal to join.
The moment he arrived, she focused
entirely on him ignoring my
bridesmaids and any vendor talk."
So she's like just shutting them out.
This is such common
behavior in these stories.
I see.
both with shutting out the
wedding planning, critiquing
anything that they don't like.
It is making the bride feel bad or awkward
about ever bringing up the wedding.
And then on the other side of things,
the sibling picking favorites.
I just read another story about
this last week where it was sisters
and they were picking favorites and
then the famous me and Tina skit,
and now it's doing the same thing.
Oh, own invite brother to our lunch.
And I'm just gonna completely
ignore you guys now.
" Months later, I scheduled
wedding dress shopping for when
my sister would be in town.
I texted his mom and my mom the details.
His mom replied that she added it to her
calendar, so I didn't send a reminder.
The day arrived and after our family
vacation." I know this going and I'm
trying not to laugh. " My bridesmaid's
mom and I headed to the boutique soon
after my fiance called his dad, told
him his mom had skipped it to take
his brother's graduation pictures.
My fiance gently scolded me for
not reminding her, even though she
said she had it on her calendar."
That hurt.
Yeah, she's an adult.
it's also the relationship thing.
for example, like I told my mom and my
mother-in-law like, Hey, this is the date.
For dress shopping?
Are you guys both free?
They both were.
They put it on their calendar, but
I talked to them multiple times
before then, so it would come up.
My mother-in-law would call me
like we would talk about it.
Same with my mom.
so like it would come up in
conversation, but if it's somebody I
don't talk to a lot, they are adults.
if she said, Hey, I put it
in my calendar, trust that.
If she had a question
about it, she can ask.
For her to then be like, oh, I'm taking
your brother's graduation photos.
Mm, I don't know.
I think it was on purpose.
"We ended up finding the dress I dunno
why I said it like that, the dress at the
first shop, but kept a second appointment
just in case. To our shock, his mom showed
up at the second boutique, even though
she previously said she wasn't coming." So
she knew .She either knew or the fiance,
because I'm wondering if he scolded
the bride later or if he like called
her and was like, my mom's not there.
You needed to call her,
blah, blah, blah, blah.
So maybe he gave the address
and was like, you need to go.
But to me it sounds like the mom just
didn't wanna go to the first appointment.
she immediately criticized
the gowns as cheap and called
my favorite one plain." Ew.
I don't like that at all.
Again, she's being so rude
during this whole engagement,
stop inviting her to things.
" My bridal party was furious."
I wonder if anyone like stood
up for her and said something.
'cause I feel like my friends would
not be able to bite their tongue.
Again, I've talked about before.
I have an amazing mother-in-law.
She would never, but I'm just trying
to picture like if there was a
scenario where one of my, or one of my
friend's mother-in-laws said something,
I think we would say something.
I don't think we could just stand
there and be like, watch it happen.
That would be terrible.
" My bridal party was furious Afterwards,
she declined our dinner invitation,
telling my fiance later she wasn't invited
at all." Of course, she's gonna be the
victim. " My sister planned my bridal
shower and we invited his mom's friends
too. Only one RSVP." Yes, which upset her.
" A week before the shower, my
fiance told me his mom complained.
I had excluded her from planning.
I reminded him that my sister
was handling everything.
When he relayed that to his
mom, she suddenly claimed she
was too busy to help anyway."
This is that victim mentality.
They're gonna find something
wrong or find like a way to
whine or cry about everything.
she's putting her, son, the fiance
in the middle of everything,
saying like, oh, they didn't
include me when they actually did.
And then when he says that, he's
like, oh, I'm way too busy for that.
Come on.
" On the day she and her mother sat in their
car until five minutes before the party.
During the shower, she
kept mostly to herself.
Her gift to me was a Yelp printout
for a quirky nail boutique
specializing in anime designs.
Interesting, sweet in theory, but not
at all practical since we were leaving
for our honeymoon the next day." This
is wild. " Later, she scheduled a nail
appointment for just the two of us
without asking me. Then backed out saying
she'd bring a friend instead." What?
So she gets you a nail gift
certificate for your bridal shower?
Then she says, here, I booked a nail
appointment for us, and now she can't go.
This woman is wild.
I don't know how people deal with this.
" His parents agreed to pay for
the rehearsal dinner, but his
mom still complained about
the officiant not attending.
He was never supposed to per contract."
I don't think they typically do. " At
the restaurant, she boasted about the
very expensive cookies she brought on
the wedding day things escalated. She
barged into the bridal suite demanding
the photographer document a gift from
the groom, which delayed our timeline."
I am shaking my head if you're listening.
" Later, she wandered around
with her own DSLR camera." No.
Why?
Why does she think she's
a photographer now?
" Taking photos during our first dance
and other moments, even though we had
professionals hired." And you don't
wanna do that either because your flash
can throw out the other photographer's
flash. You could be in the background,
you could be in the way, like leave it
to the professionals. " Our photographer
cropped her out whenever possible, but
the videographer couldn't avoid her."
Also, doesn't she wanna like interact
with people while she had a camera?
" She also camped out at her reception table
with plastic water bottles and spent much
of the night at the photo booth with her
friends rather than celebrating with us.
The next day, I logged into
Facebook to see that she'd already
posted dozens of wedding photos.
Most of them were herself.
Out of nearly 50 pictures,
I appeared in about seven."
I am laughing 'cause this
is just so ridiculous.
you're telling me she makes this
big stink about the whole wedding.
Has to make the whole thing about her.
Then on the wedding day, instead of
actually just enjoying it and being
present, she's carrying around this
huge DSLR camera, taking all these
photos as if she's a second hired
photographer, and then posting it
all to Facebook without the bride.
It's wild.
Oh my gosh.
" Looking back, his mom's need for attention
overshadowed so many parts of the process.
My fiance often excused it, wanting
to keep her happy, but it left me
feeling excluded and disrespected
at multiple points." I've said
this before and I'll say it again.
If it comes to the point where your
mom is making you choose between the
two and you can't choose your new wife.
You're more concerned about making
her happy than you've already lost.
You're already not choosing your
wife, so why are you marrying her?
I don't get that, the mom
wants this battle to happen.
She wants to like see that her
son is still loyal to her, but
at the end of the day, like he
chose to marry this new person.
That's terrible.
" The wedding itself was beautiful,
but her behavior is something I will
never forget." I'm so sorry to this
bride and it sucks when you like.
Those are the memories then that
you have of your wedding day,
and I'm sure it hasn't gotten
better now that they're married.
I'm sure it has not gotten better.
This mother-in-law is going to
still be doing things to be passive
aggressive, to be rude, to put her down.
All because the girl was scrolling
on her phone during game night.
these needs to be researched
in a lab somewhere.
I don't know, like I don't know
where this comes from that they get
so up in arms or so offended when
their son finds someone to marry.
I don't know where this comes from.
We need another therapist to
come on here and talk about it.
Okay, next one.
Oh gosh.
Okay.
Three weddings, one family drama.
This story actually
involves three weddings.
"I grew up in the same neighborhood
as this family and was close
friends with the youngest daughter.
She and her older sister split
their time between their dad and
stepmom's house and their mom's.
The stepmom also had two kids
from a previous relationship,
so it was a blended household.
about a year and a half ago, the
older sister got engaged around the
same time it came out that their
dad was cheating on the stepmom,
which led to a nasty divorce." Okay.
The stepmom and her kids all cut him
off, and so did the older sister.
" The younger sister was the only one
still trying to keep some peace, and
that's the one that's friends with
the op." A lot of characters here.
And this is why, sorry, this is a
side note, but this is why like when
I do skits and people are like, I need
the next part, I need the next part.
I'm like, I don't wanna complicate it too
much by adding all these other characters.
'Cause I did that before and
people were like, who's who?
Who's that?
It's hard in these skits and this is
why I need to read this one first.
Okay.
"Originally, the dad was invited to the
older sister's wedding, but he threw a
fit when he found out the stepmom might
be there and demanded to bring his new
partner instead." God, hopefully it
wasn't the one that he cheated with.
I mean, it's awkward either way
'cause it was a nasty divorce.
But if he is like, Hey,
this is the mistress.
Like what are we doing here?
" When the bride told him his new partner
wasn't welcome, he refused to attend."
So you're choosing this new partner
over your stepdaughter's wedding.
" She finally uninvited him altogether
at the wedding, their mom walked.
The bride down the aisle, and
both the younger sister and the
former stepsister were bridesmaids.
Afterward, the dad had the audacity to
send the bride a venmo request asking
for reimbursement for the venue deposit.
He contributed she ignored it."
This dad is something else.
We need a skit about that because I feel
like too many times, like these skits
are focused on moms and mothers in-law.
I'm sorry guys.
I am really sorry for that because
I don't mean it to be that way.
I just get, most of the stories are
about moms and I don't mean for it.
So I need a dad story.
We need to skit about this because
this is a really shitty thing to do.
Really shitty thing to do.
He ultimately chose his new
girlfriend over his wife and kids.
I get the divorce was nasty, but
you need to put your kids first.
He is like, pay me back for the venue.
I'm it's not her fault.
You didn't show up.
" A month later, the dad married
the woman he cheated with.
The divorce papers from the second
marriage were finalized only 24
hours before his wedding." So it
was the woman he cheated with that
he wanted to bring to the wedding.
Can you imagine the audacity to not
even see how badly you screwed up?
You ripped apart your family by
cheating on your, wife, of how many
years and then wanting to bring
her to your daughter's wedding.
Actually, stepdaughter's wedding.
What?
This guy's lost his mind.
The only guests were two of her kids.
The younger daughter wasn't invited,
which upset her, but her dad brushed
it off by saying she lived too
far away about four hours and he
didn't think she could make it.
Okay.
Wedding #3.
" Just this past weekend was
the younger sister's wedding.
I was in the bridal party along with her
fiance's sister, her biological sister.
Two new stepsisters from the dad's
third marriage and a cousin." Okay.
So we're talking, oh wow.
This is like a nice, okay, that
like biological sister, the
peacekeeper, we'll call her.
I don't have names for her.
So really nice to include
her dad's mistress kids.
I mean, I guess this his new wife
now, but that's wild to include them.
Okay.
" The bride had invited her former stepmom
and step siblings, but they weren't a part
of the bridal party." So she included,
and unless I'm understanding incorrectly,
she included the new stepsisters from the
dad's third marriage, but not the former.
Step siblings who she's
known a lot longer.
Okay.
I guess it's all about relationship and
you choose who you want in your wedding.
It's ultimately up to
you, but that's wild.
Okay.
"Her mom and her mom's
partner were also there.
Her biological sister serving as maid of
honor, still wasn't speaking to their dad.
It was out of question, the most
awkward wedding I've ever attended.
The dad walked the bride down the
aisle, but the former stepmom and
step-siblings weren't included in
photos and left after cocktail hour.
I later heard this was prearranged.
The bride wouldn't be
upset." Oh, that sucks.
That's really sad.
" During family photos, the
division was almost comical.
Bride and groom were in the center
mom with her partner and their
son, and the older sister with her
husband on one side, dad and his
new wife and her kids on the other.
The older sister was treated as part
of mom's side, and there were no
photos of both sisters with their dad.
He and the older sister still
don't speak to this day and they
didn't speak the entire day.
The dad's new wife seemed to be
scrambling to play catch up socially,
meeting extended family for the
first time, while also trying to
coexist with his ex-wife's families."
I wanna hear our story, I want her to
send in what happened here, if my head,
it feels like scrambled eggs right now
from all of this, I can only imagine.
What actually happened and, and you guys
listening like, are, am I too confused?
Are you guys confused?
There are so many people here.
Okay.
" She ends with the bride, looked
happy at the end of it all, which
is the most important thing.
But from the outside, the balancing
act of divorce, parents, ex
stepparents, half siblings and
new partners made it painfully
awkward to witness." I hate that.
I hate when you hear about these
messy divorces and the parents
then make it more about themselves.
It sounds like the, ex like
stepmother, sounded like she was
willing to like, make it work, but
the dad just, sounds terrible.
I've been in multiple weddings
where there's children of
divorce and they make it work.
They're still hugging, they're friends.
They get along, they, and it's not
like they're hanging out outside of it.
They just make it work for the sake
of their kids in a beautiful day.
It's not that hard to
brush it aside for one day.
It's not about you, it's
about the bride and groom.
And that's it.
The couple getting married.
All right, guys.
Well, those were two
completely wild stories.
Thanks for listening, and
hopefully, I mean, we might
need a family tree after this.
I don't know, but this was wild.
All right, let's end this episode
with some confessions that you guys
sent me over on Instagram again.
Every single Friday we ask you
guys to send us your confessions.
They have to do.
All kinds of things.
Engagements, dating, uh,
relationships, weddings,
proposals, honeymoons, you name it.
So send them to us.
Okay.
This first one says.
" My mother-in-law would invite his
ex over or go on vacation with
her after we got engaged." Oh, no.
This is the one that needs
to let go of the past.
This, I would, I don't think
I would do well with that.
I don't think most people would.
I need to know now.
Where are you guys?
Are you guys engaged still?
Are you married?
Does his ex still come around?
What is his relationship with the ex?
What is his relationship with his mom?
Is, is he like setting up a boundary?
Because that's weird to me
that the mother-in-law's
going on vacation with her.
That's, very inappropriate to me.
Okay.
Mother-in-law started a group chat
telling everyone we were engaged,
but didn't include me, only my groom.
Was that intentional or
was that like an accident?
Because there's been times where like
my husband's included in a group chat or
I am and the other isn't included, and
you talk to them later and they either
are like, oh, I didn't mean to do that.
Or, it was for a different reason.
Or, I don't know, like, maybe it's not
that deep, but maybe it is that deep.
I don't know.
It is weird to not include the
bride in a text about her wedding.
That's like the one where the
mother-in-law posted photos.
I think it was from their engagement
and then, purposely like, what was it?
She, I think either cropped out the bride.
No, she cropped out the bride and
then only tagged the son in the
photos, so that was intentional.
Okay.
This last one says, I knew he was going to
propose, but he still doesn't know that.
Married for four years
with two kids." Okay.
Why was I, okay, tell me why I read that.
Like he doesn't know that I've been
married for four years with two kids.
I've been reading too many like crazy
confessions that I was literally
thought she was confessing to us a
deep, dark secret that she's been
married for four years with two kids.
Okay.
She knew that he was going to propose,
like she, somehow the secret was out.
She knew that he was gonna propose and
she's not telling him four years later
with two kids, all right, I got you.
I got you.
That's not that wild.
I think that probably happens a lot.
You want them to feel good
about their surprise, so
you're not gonna say anything.
like I've talked about before, I knew
like we were gonna get engaged soon.
I didn't know when it was gonna
happen, so I was completely
surprised when it did happen.
But I wasn't like, whoa, we've
never talked about marriage before.
This is weird.
So I knew it was kind of coming.
yeah.
Well, thanks guys.
Those were some pretty wild stories today.
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And you guys, I think I just had
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I've been like, I feel like I've
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I think we all feel that.
I don't know what's going on, but
there's just so much going on right now
that my brain sometimes is just like,
I completely just had a brain pause.
I don't even know what you
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