1 00:00:00,078 --> 00:00:00,438 Hi guys. 2 00:00:00,438 --> 00:00:01,698 Welcome back to another episode 3 00:00:01,698 --> 00:00:02,628 of, here Comes The Drama. 4 00:00:02,628 --> 00:00:04,398 I'm your host Christa, or if you 5 00:00:04,398 --> 00:00:06,538 can see me right now, Jules, if 6 00:00:06,538 --> 00:00:08,068 you can't see me, I am wearing 7 00:00:08,068 --> 00:00:10,391 the outfit from the I don't crew. 8 00:00:10,518 --> 00:00:11,508 the character Jewels. 9 00:00:11,568 --> 00:00:13,671 So that's the problem sometimes 10 00:00:13,671 --> 00:00:15,531 with, between these skits is 11 00:00:15,586 --> 00:00:17,648 then I associate these shirts 12 00:00:17,648 --> 00:00:19,481 with different characters and. 13 00:00:19,685 --> 00:00:22,033 I like, every time I like pick 14 00:00:22,033 --> 00:00:23,143 it up, I'm like, oh, that's that 15 00:00:23,143 --> 00:00:24,373 one character from that skit. 16 00:00:24,608 --> 00:00:25,349 That's how I feel about 17 00:00:25,349 --> 00:00:26,459 the Ferris and Sloan shirt. 18 00:00:26,549 --> 00:00:29,086 Like I've barely worn it outside of 19 00:00:29,086 --> 00:00:30,766 that skit now, because I feel like if 20 00:00:30,766 --> 00:00:32,836 I wear it somewhere, it feels like I'm, 21 00:00:33,058 --> 00:00:34,473 I don't know, secretly like promoting 22 00:00:34,473 --> 00:00:37,009 the book and I'm not trying to, it's 23 00:00:37,009 --> 00:00:38,933 funny how I just connect it anyways. 24 00:00:38,933 --> 00:00:40,463 What a way to start the episode. 25 00:00:40,553 --> 00:00:42,556 kind of just jump in right in like that. 26 00:00:42,823 --> 00:00:45,123 Welcome back for another episode 27 00:00:45,123 --> 00:00:47,073 of some crazy stories that we are 28 00:00:47,073 --> 00:00:48,453 gonna get into in just a minute. 29 00:00:48,679 --> 00:00:50,663 Try to switch things up because I 30 00:00:50,663 --> 00:00:52,253 like to keep things interesting. 31 00:00:52,479 --> 00:00:54,793 We're gonna start off this week with we're 32 00:00:54,793 --> 00:00:57,689 gonna call them wedding 9 1 1 Situations 33 00:00:57,689 --> 00:00:59,946 that people have sent me as a new segment. 34 00:01:00,091 --> 00:01:01,966 And, from time to time people 35 00:01:01,966 --> 00:01:03,886 send me, on social media some 36 00:01:04,069 --> 00:01:04,916 things they're going through. 37 00:01:05,366 --> 00:01:06,386 Maybe they're in a wedding, 38 00:01:06,386 --> 00:01:07,976 maybe it's a friend situation. 39 00:01:08,216 --> 00:01:09,639 And I'm no expert, but I'm just gonna 40 00:01:09,639 --> 00:01:11,769 give you my own personal advice, 41 00:01:11,966 --> 00:01:13,526 from the hot seat here, I guess. 42 00:01:13,526 --> 00:01:15,179 So if you wanna send me any of your 43 00:01:15,179 --> 00:01:17,206 own wedding 9 1 1, you can email 44 00:01:17,206 --> 00:01:19,366 me at hello@christainnis.com and 45 00:01:19,366 --> 00:01:21,856 use the subject line wedding 9 1 1. 46 00:01:22,053 --> 00:01:23,843 So let's dive into these. 47 00:01:24,353 --> 00:01:26,943 This first one says, "My bride friend 48 00:01:26,973 --> 00:01:28,863 just announced she wants the bridal 49 00:01:28,863 --> 00:01:32,096 party to chip in to cover her honeymoon. 50 00:01:32,323 --> 00:01:32,696 What? 51 00:01:33,213 --> 00:01:35,464 As a gift on top of dresses, 52 00:01:35,524 --> 00:01:36,784 travel, and the shower. 53 00:01:36,784 --> 00:01:38,254 This feels like too much. 54 00:01:38,466 --> 00:01:40,364 I just wanna be supportive, but I 55 00:01:40,364 --> 00:01:42,191 also don't wanna go broke." Yeah, 56 00:01:42,278 --> 00:01:43,771 that's pretty, it's pretty normal. 57 00:01:44,049 --> 00:01:45,351 " How do I set a boundary without 58 00:01:45,351 --> 00:01:47,171 causing a fallout?" Okay. 59 00:01:47,433 --> 00:01:48,418 I feel like we've talked about this 60 00:01:48,418 --> 00:01:50,578 a lot of times before on the podcast. 61 00:01:50,859 --> 00:01:54,609 If a friend is asking you to do too much, 62 00:01:54,773 --> 00:01:57,136 like having you pay for the honeymoon 63 00:01:57,166 --> 00:01:59,566 is not a normal thing for a bridesmaid. 64 00:01:59,843 --> 00:02:01,146 You should not have to pay 65 00:02:01,349 --> 00:02:02,563 anything for the wedding. 66 00:02:02,819 --> 00:02:03,243 Yes. 67 00:02:03,243 --> 00:02:03,873 You know, if you wanna go to 68 00:02:03,873 --> 00:02:04,983 a bachelorette party, sure. 69 00:02:05,476 --> 00:02:06,776 Depending on the person. 70 00:02:06,776 --> 00:02:09,086 Sometimes the dress you'll pay for shoes. 71 00:02:09,286 --> 00:02:10,203 But those should be 72 00:02:10,203 --> 00:02:11,883 communicated ahead of time. 73 00:02:12,088 --> 00:02:14,043 The honeymoon you are not even a part 74 00:02:14,043 --> 00:02:16,203 of this is the new bride in groom. 75 00:02:16,263 --> 00:02:17,343 This is their trip to 76 00:02:17,343 --> 00:02:18,963 handle and take care of. 77 00:02:19,181 --> 00:02:20,183 If they can't afford it, 78 00:02:20,183 --> 00:02:21,203 they shouldn't go on one. 79 00:02:21,454 --> 00:02:23,964 Now if they do one of those like honeymoon 80 00:02:23,964 --> 00:02:26,364 funds and you wanna chip in on that, sure. 81 00:02:26,554 --> 00:02:27,678 If you give 'em a gift of the wedding 82 00:02:27,678 --> 00:02:29,208 and they use part of that, sure. 83 00:02:29,431 --> 00:02:31,701 But it should not be a standard. 84 00:02:31,701 --> 00:02:33,341 It should not be like you have 85 00:02:33,341 --> 00:02:35,171 to as a bridesmaid, pay for this 86 00:02:35,361 --> 00:02:37,671 if she doesn't understand and. 87 00:02:38,034 --> 00:02:39,561 She tells you like, this 88 00:02:39,561 --> 00:02:40,881 is what you have to do. 89 00:02:41,001 --> 00:02:42,458 I'd say, okay, well I'm gonna set 90 00:02:42,458 --> 00:02:43,658 this one out and if she says, don't 91 00:02:43,658 --> 00:02:44,678 come to my wedding, then you say, 92 00:02:44,881 --> 00:02:46,228 all right, well we had a good run. 93 00:02:46,471 --> 00:02:47,408 again, it's always easier from the 94 00:02:47,408 --> 00:02:49,178 outside, but that is a ridiculous 95 00:02:49,178 --> 00:02:50,558 request for someone to have. 96 00:02:50,641 --> 00:02:50,974 Okay. 97 00:02:51,168 --> 00:02:51,754 Next. 98 00:02:52,814 --> 00:02:53,654 Dress drama. 99 00:02:53,684 --> 00:02:55,595 "The bride picked a bridesmaid dress 100 00:02:55,595 --> 00:02:57,665 color that looks terrible on me. 101 00:02:57,929 --> 00:02:59,699 It completely washes me out. 102 00:02:59,939 --> 00:03:01,375 I asked if I could wear the same 103 00:03:01,375 --> 00:03:02,515 dress in a slightly different 104 00:03:02,515 --> 00:03:04,835 shade, but she said no, because she 105 00:03:04,835 --> 00:03:06,905 wants perfectly matching pictures. 106 00:03:07,129 --> 00:03:08,392 Do I just suck it up for one 107 00:03:08,392 --> 00:03:09,932 day or is it fair to Pushback. 108 00:03:10,193 --> 00:03:10,203 Okay. 109 00:03:10,906 --> 00:03:12,394 It's gonna ultimately depend 110 00:03:12,466 --> 00:03:14,688 on your relationship and how 111 00:03:14,688 --> 00:03:16,128 important this person is to you? 112 00:03:16,363 --> 00:03:18,141 Me, personally, I would just suck it up. 113 00:03:18,171 --> 00:03:19,341 I've worn so many 114 00:03:19,341 --> 00:03:21,021 dresses that wash me out. 115 00:03:21,051 --> 00:03:22,611 I'm a very pale person. 116 00:03:22,853 --> 00:03:23,908 I don't do spray tan. 117 00:03:23,908 --> 00:03:25,558 I don't do tanning anymore. 118 00:03:25,844 --> 00:03:26,384 So I'm pale. 119 00:03:26,643 --> 00:03:28,701 I've had to wear dresses that were like. 120 00:03:28,944 --> 00:03:30,444 Really, really light pink. 121 00:03:30,583 --> 00:03:31,718 I've had to wear dresses that 122 00:03:31,718 --> 00:03:33,194 were like a taupe and they end 123 00:03:33,194 --> 00:03:34,664 up looking, they look fine. 124 00:03:34,694 --> 00:03:35,504 Like once you get your hair 125 00:03:35,504 --> 00:03:36,374 and makeup done, it works. 126 00:03:36,374 --> 00:03:36,884 It's fine. 127 00:03:37,090 --> 00:03:38,634 I would never tell a bride to 128 00:03:38,754 --> 00:03:40,254 pick a different bridesmaid dress. 129 00:03:40,344 --> 00:03:41,604 That's me personally. 130 00:03:41,828 --> 00:03:43,601 if you're not super close, maybe 131 00:03:43,601 --> 00:03:45,221 just be like, this isn't for me. 132 00:03:45,446 --> 00:03:46,554 But if you agreed to be in their 133 00:03:46,554 --> 00:03:48,024 wedding because you care about 134 00:03:48,024 --> 00:03:49,104 them and they care about you. 135 00:03:49,618 --> 00:03:51,248 I'd say just suck it up for a day. 136 00:03:51,338 --> 00:03:52,161 If you're gonna match all the 137 00:03:52,161 --> 00:03:53,991 other girls, it's gonna look fine. 138 00:03:54,024 --> 00:03:54,714 it'll be great. 139 00:03:54,964 --> 00:03:57,434 I think dress color is one thing 140 00:03:57,434 --> 00:03:58,874 where like I'd be like, suck it up. 141 00:03:59,074 --> 00:04:00,664 If it's a style, maybe that makes 142 00:04:00,664 --> 00:04:02,314 you uncomfortable, maybe it's like a 143 00:04:02,314 --> 00:04:04,594 backless dress or really low cutting 144 00:04:04,818 --> 00:04:06,014 or form fitting, and you're like, 145 00:04:06,044 --> 00:04:08,208 I don't like that for my body, then 146 00:04:08,208 --> 00:04:09,468 that's something I think I could push 147 00:04:09,468 --> 00:04:10,668 back a little more on and be like, 148 00:04:10,668 --> 00:04:12,108 "Hey, I'm not comfortable in that 149 00:04:12,108 --> 00:04:13,444 dress." A color? 150 00:04:13,731 --> 00:04:14,271 I don't know. 151 00:04:14,568 --> 00:04:15,558 Tell me what you guys think, but 152 00:04:15,558 --> 00:04:17,454 for me, I wouldn't push back. 153 00:04:17,716 --> 00:04:17,918 Okay. 154 00:04:17,918 --> 00:04:19,088 Like I said, we're gonna start 155 00:04:19,088 --> 00:04:20,618 doing these from time to time, so 156 00:04:20,618 --> 00:04:23,108 if you have a dilemma or something 157 00:04:23,108 --> 00:04:25,771 that you want addressed, email me. 158 00:04:25,771 --> 00:04:27,751 hello@kristaennis.com and use 159 00:04:27,751 --> 00:04:29,521 the subject line wedding 9 1 1. 160 00:04:29,728 --> 00:04:31,311 You can also use my same Google 161 00:04:31,311 --> 00:04:32,764 form and just select, there's 162 00:04:32,764 --> 00:04:33,694 a different option there. 163 00:04:33,754 --> 00:04:35,184 You can, filter it through. 164 00:04:35,378 --> 00:04:37,134 \ I do get dms on social media. 165 00:04:37,134 --> 00:04:38,694 It's just like, it's so hard because 166 00:04:38,694 --> 00:04:40,153 they're not filtered through. 167 00:04:40,391 --> 00:04:42,229 So if I read it and I'm like, it's 168 00:04:42,229 --> 00:04:43,699 a busy day and I don't forget to 169 00:04:43,699 --> 00:04:46,093 unmark it or mark it up, then I 170 00:04:46,093 --> 00:04:47,323 lose the story and then it's gone. 171 00:04:47,323 --> 00:04:48,283 I'll be like, oh my gosh. 172 00:04:48,283 --> 00:04:49,213 Someone sent me a really good 173 00:04:49,213 --> 00:04:50,563 story and I just completely forget. 174 00:04:50,563 --> 00:04:52,409 So if I see one in there, I'll send 175 00:04:52,409 --> 00:04:53,309 you guys the link and I'll be like, 176 00:04:53,309 --> 00:04:54,719 "Hey, this is a great story. Can you 177 00:04:54,719 --> 00:04:56,339 just send it to me in the Google form?" 178 00:04:56,681 --> 00:04:57,039 Okay. 179 00:04:57,258 --> 00:04:59,566 Next up, this next segment 180 00:04:59,566 --> 00:05:00,676 is going to be called. 181 00:05:00,921 --> 00:05:02,413 Red flag versus green 182 00:05:02,413 --> 00:05:03,883 flag wedding edition. 183 00:05:04,054 --> 00:05:05,189 So we've been doing the hot 184 00:05:05,189 --> 00:05:07,199 takes lately on the rapid fire. 185 00:05:07,199 --> 00:05:08,369 So this is like a new 186 00:05:08,399 --> 00:05:09,419 kind of style of that. 187 00:05:09,718 --> 00:05:12,116 " Bride asked bridesmaids to dye their 188 00:05:12,116 --> 00:05:13,826 hair for the wedding." That's a red flag. 189 00:05:13,856 --> 00:05:15,026 No, we don't need to do that. 190 00:05:15,314 --> 00:05:16,779 This is quick, quick, quick, quick. 191 00:05:17,004 --> 00:05:18,829 " Mother-in-law insists on wearing 192 00:05:18,829 --> 00:05:21,199 white because it's her son's day 193 00:05:21,199 --> 00:05:24,238 too." No red flag. "Couple charges? 194 00:05:24,298 --> 00:05:24,838 Yes. 195 00:05:24,868 --> 00:05:26,398 For drinks at a cash bar?" 196 00:05:26,598 --> 00:05:28,854 Well, a cash bar is charge. 197 00:05:29,011 --> 00:05:30,611 So are we just saying, 198 00:05:30,611 --> 00:05:32,601 is it cash bar, red flag? 199 00:05:32,838 --> 00:05:34,348 I wouldn't say that's a red flag. 200 00:05:34,571 --> 00:05:35,918 It's not my favorite flag, 201 00:05:36,131 --> 00:05:37,354 but I wouldn't say it's red. 202 00:05:37,581 --> 00:05:38,698 It's not a green flag though. 203 00:05:40,061 --> 00:05:40,434 Okay. 204 00:05:40,714 --> 00:05:42,524 "A groom's friend proposes 205 00:05:42,524 --> 00:05:44,114 during the reception." Red flag. 206 00:05:44,404 --> 00:05:46,771 " Couple doesn't allow plus ones unless 207 00:05:46,771 --> 00:05:48,981 you're engaged or married." I get it, 208 00:05:48,981 --> 00:05:51,051 but I'm gonna lean more towards red 209 00:05:51,051 --> 00:05:54,181 flag because an engagement or marriage 210 00:05:54,181 --> 00:05:56,131 does not determine the relationship. 211 00:05:56,274 --> 00:05:57,624 I could see maybe like if you're 212 00:05:57,624 --> 00:05:59,878 like long-term relationships, 213 00:05:59,908 --> 00:06:01,003 you've been together over a year. 214 00:06:01,528 --> 00:06:02,873 But you could be together 215 00:06:02,873 --> 00:06:04,283 for a week and get engaged. 216 00:06:04,283 --> 00:06:06,896 So I just, I'm not someone that's like, 217 00:06:07,016 --> 00:06:09,596 engagement means they're like solid. 218 00:06:09,793 --> 00:06:10,609 I mean, marriage doesn't 219 00:06:10,609 --> 00:06:11,449 always mean that either. 220 00:06:11,449 --> 00:06:13,453 So yeah, I would say that's a red flag. 221 00:06:13,748 --> 00:06:15,579 "Bridesmaid drops out a week 222 00:06:15,579 --> 00:06:17,536 before the wedding because of 223 00:06:17,536 --> 00:06:19,651 cost that's a green flag I think. 224 00:06:20,229 --> 00:06:20,818 I don't know if should 225 00:06:20,818 --> 00:06:21,928 be a green or a red flag. 226 00:06:22,038 --> 00:06:24,971 It's not a red flag because if she 227 00:06:24,971 --> 00:06:26,531 cannot afford something, like maybe 228 00:06:26,591 --> 00:06:27,911 just too many things are adding up. 229 00:06:28,131 --> 00:06:30,814 She felt empowered enough or strong 230 00:06:30,814 --> 00:06:32,014 enough to be able to drop out. 231 00:06:32,014 --> 00:06:33,304 I think that's a green flag. 232 00:06:33,521 --> 00:06:34,754 Hopefully it doesn't affect the 233 00:06:34,754 --> 00:06:36,074 bride and they're just, they can 234 00:06:36,074 --> 00:06:38,084 move on past it and they're okay. 235 00:06:38,324 --> 00:06:38,964 but. 236 00:06:39,743 --> 00:06:41,183 I wouldn't say that's a red flag at all. 237 00:06:41,374 --> 00:06:42,366 If someone came to me and they're 238 00:06:42,366 --> 00:06:43,266 like, I can't afford to be in your 239 00:06:43,266 --> 00:06:44,766 wedding, I would be like, what can 240 00:06:44,766 --> 00:06:46,056 I do to keep you in the wedding? 241 00:06:46,291 --> 00:06:47,329 Let's nix this. 242 00:06:47,329 --> 00:06:48,589 How can I help with this? 243 00:06:48,805 --> 00:06:49,765 I just want you to be a part of it. 244 00:06:49,765 --> 00:06:50,875 I don't care about the cost. 245 00:06:51,164 --> 00:06:53,915 " Couple has a phone free ceremony and 246 00:06:53,945 --> 00:06:57,542 locks up guest phones." That's a red flag. 247 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:58,772 Phone free ceremony. 248 00:06:58,772 --> 00:07:00,062 Yes, absolutely. 249 00:07:00,092 --> 00:07:01,292 Put the phones away. 250 00:07:01,424 --> 00:07:03,119 They have professional photographers. 251 00:07:03,274 --> 00:07:04,625 Just don't have it out. 252 00:07:04,775 --> 00:07:06,035 Please, listen. 253 00:07:06,284 --> 00:07:08,305 But locking up a guest phone is a red 254 00:07:08,305 --> 00:07:10,872 flag because here's the thing, as a 255 00:07:10,872 --> 00:07:13,372 mom, and just in case of emergency, 256 00:07:13,372 --> 00:07:14,812 I feel like people should be able 257 00:07:14,812 --> 00:07:16,222 to have their phones on them. 258 00:07:16,444 --> 00:07:17,657 That just sounds to me like you 259 00:07:17,657 --> 00:07:19,007 don't trust someone that's coming 260 00:07:19,007 --> 00:07:20,069 to your wedding you are like, 261 00:07:20,069 --> 00:07:21,509 we're locking up everybody's phone. 262 00:07:21,509 --> 00:07:22,589 Like, no, let's not do that. 263 00:07:22,848 --> 00:07:25,213 " Parents of the bride invite extra guests 264 00:07:25,213 --> 00:07:26,953 without telling the couple." Red flag. 265 00:07:27,207 --> 00:07:29,507 " Best man roasts the bride in his speech." 266 00:07:29,567 --> 00:07:31,963 Red flag, unless he's equally roasting. 267 00:07:32,343 --> 00:07:33,090 Yeah, that's a red flag. 268 00:07:33,367 --> 00:07:34,340 And you're like, good friends. 269 00:07:34,593 --> 00:07:36,960 " Couple serves fast food like Taco 270 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:38,160 Bell or Chick-fil-A as a late 271 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:39,672 night snack." That's a green flag. 272 00:07:40,183 --> 00:07:41,670 I love when I'm at a wedding and 273 00:07:41,670 --> 00:07:42,690 they have a late night snack and it's 274 00:07:42,690 --> 00:07:45,180 like Wendy's or Pizza or Taco Bell. 275 00:07:45,390 --> 00:07:47,573 I went to one one time and it was in 276 00:07:47,573 --> 00:07:49,978 this really cool, like old, I don't 277 00:07:49,978 --> 00:07:51,783 even remember what it was, not a museum. 278 00:07:52,060 --> 00:07:53,527 I just remember the structure was so cool. 279 00:07:53,527 --> 00:07:55,237 Like there was up the stairs and then 280 00:07:55,237 --> 00:07:57,067 like the different like rooms or the 281 00:07:57,067 --> 00:08:00,137 different, I'm describing this so poorly. 282 00:08:00,167 --> 00:08:01,397 It was in Ohio. 283 00:08:01,618 --> 00:08:02,980 The different rooms were like 284 00:08:03,422 --> 00:08:04,270 had different things in it. 285 00:08:04,270 --> 00:08:05,230 So like one room would have a late 286 00:08:05,230 --> 00:08:07,263 night snack, one would have dancing, 287 00:08:07,392 --> 00:08:09,207 then there was dancing downstairs. 288 00:08:09,387 --> 00:08:10,797 It was just like a cool old building. 289 00:08:11,017 --> 00:08:12,487 And I remember them mentioning a late 290 00:08:12,487 --> 00:08:14,603 night snack and I kept trying to find 291 00:08:14,603 --> 00:08:16,763 where it was and I ended up missing it. 292 00:08:16,963 --> 00:08:17,923 And I was like, what was 293 00:08:17,923 --> 00:08:18,733 the late night snack? 294 00:08:18,733 --> 00:08:20,383 And they were like, it was curly 295 00:08:20,383 --> 00:08:22,273 fries and like Wendy's frosties. 296 00:08:22,273 --> 00:08:25,217 And I was like, oh, that sounds amazing. 297 00:08:25,217 --> 00:08:27,077 Right now I'm all for late snack. 298 00:08:27,167 --> 00:08:28,187 Whoever came up with it 299 00:08:28,187 --> 00:08:29,057 and started doing that. 300 00:08:29,357 --> 00:08:29,987 Thank you. 301 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:31,153 I remember the first wedding 302 00:08:31,153 --> 00:08:32,113 I was at that had one. 303 00:08:32,113 --> 00:08:32,923 I was like, what? 304 00:08:33,263 --> 00:08:34,287 What's happening right now? 305 00:08:34,287 --> 00:08:34,917 What are, why are we 306 00:08:34,917 --> 00:08:36,057 getting late night food? 307 00:08:36,057 --> 00:08:36,507 Okay. 308 00:08:36,770 --> 00:08:39,038 I don't always finish my dinner. 309 00:08:39,038 --> 00:08:40,208 Like, it depends on what's going on, 310 00:08:40,208 --> 00:08:41,804 but like, there's so much going on that 311 00:08:41,804 --> 00:08:44,004 day, so I just get hungry later on. 312 00:08:44,004 --> 00:08:45,357 So late night snacks good. 313 00:08:45,659 --> 00:08:46,522 One more thing I forgot 314 00:08:46,522 --> 00:08:47,482 to mention earlier. 315 00:08:47,712 --> 00:08:49,649 If you guys didn't know, I now post 316 00:08:49,649 --> 00:08:52,992 these all on YouTube and I know like 317 00:08:53,255 --> 00:08:55,312 I'm not one to sit and watch a full 318 00:08:55,312 --> 00:08:57,266 video on YouTube that's like, over. 319 00:08:57,852 --> 00:08:58,602 10 minutes. 320 00:08:58,866 --> 00:08:59,776 But it's a great place 321 00:08:59,776 --> 00:09:00,856 to go for discussion. 322 00:09:00,856 --> 00:09:03,196 So if I ever like, bring something up in 323 00:09:03,196 --> 00:09:05,649 the conversation here, or you wanna give 324 00:09:05,649 --> 00:09:07,689 some feedback on something, or you have 325 00:09:07,689 --> 00:09:09,722 a question about something or you wanna 326 00:09:09,722 --> 00:09:12,372 like add more to the discussion, please 327 00:09:12,372 --> 00:09:14,779 go to YouTube and comment, because I 328 00:09:14,779 --> 00:09:15,619 feel like there's so many times when I'm 329 00:09:15,619 --> 00:09:17,449 listening to podcasts that I'm like, where 330 00:09:17,449 --> 00:09:19,299 can I like say my thoughts on the matter? 331 00:09:19,299 --> 00:09:21,129 And like talk to other people about it. 332 00:09:21,129 --> 00:09:22,299 So please do that. 333 00:09:22,299 --> 00:09:23,649 I love seeing the discourse. 334 00:09:23,649 --> 00:09:25,389 I pop in the comments all the time 335 00:09:25,564 --> 00:09:27,339 to see what's going on, and I love 336 00:09:27,339 --> 00:09:28,899 seeing what you guys have to say. 337 00:09:29,207 --> 00:09:31,586 All right, guys, we've got two stories 338 00:09:31,586 --> 00:09:34,586 today, so let's get into them before I 339 00:09:34,837 --> 00:09:36,659 ble too much, because these are wild. 340 00:09:36,897 --> 00:09:37,186 Okay. 341 00:09:37,306 --> 00:09:37,976 Story #1. 342 00:09:38,227 --> 00:09:39,856 " My fiancé and I had been together 343 00:09:39,856 --> 00:09:41,866 for four years when he proposed. 344 00:09:42,077 --> 00:09:44,534 Since my dad passed away, he moved in with 345 00:09:44,534 --> 00:09:46,904 me less than a year into our relationship. 346 00:09:47,134 --> 00:09:49,007 So we were serious about building 347 00:09:49,007 --> 00:09:50,177 a life together from the start. 348 00:09:50,477 --> 00:09:52,581 My relationship with his mom was okay. 349 00:09:52,581 --> 00:09:54,501 At first, we're just different people. 350 00:09:54,501 --> 00:09:56,841 Personality wise, she's loud and 351 00:09:56,841 --> 00:09:58,551 extroverted, and I'm more introverted 352 00:09:58,551 --> 00:10:00,291 and struggle with loud environments. 353 00:10:00,521 --> 00:10:02,424 About a year before he proposed, 354 00:10:02,584 --> 00:10:04,304 she kept making more passive 355 00:10:04,304 --> 00:10:05,954 aggressive comments towards me. 356 00:10:07,514 --> 00:10:09,249 I brought this up to my fiancé and when 357 00:10:09,249 --> 00:10:11,586 things got worse, he asked her about it. 358 00:10:11,824 --> 00:10:13,927 Her only explanation was that I was 359 00:10:13,927 --> 00:10:16,594 rude because I looked at my phone while 360 00:10:16,594 --> 00:10:19,474 playing a 1980s Trivial Pursuit game. 361 00:10:19,626 --> 00:10:21,454 She insisted we play. 362 00:10:21,824 --> 00:10:22,984 Wait, what? 363 00:10:22,984 --> 00:10:23,704 She got mad 'cause you 364 00:10:23,704 --> 00:10:24,544 looked at your phone. 365 00:10:24,789 --> 00:10:26,854 She forced me to join so the teams 366 00:10:26,854 --> 00:10:29,227 would be even I hadn't wanted to play. 367 00:10:29,287 --> 00:10:31,081 So during the long turns, 368 00:10:31,081 --> 00:10:32,491 I scrolled social media and 369 00:10:32,491 --> 00:10:33,961 did some online shopping." 370 00:10:35,269 --> 00:10:36,251 So she considers that rude. 371 00:10:36,422 --> 00:10:37,361 That's like a generational 372 00:10:37,361 --> 00:10:38,051 thing too, though. 373 00:10:38,051 --> 00:10:40,227 Like the judgment for being on the phone. 374 00:10:40,496 --> 00:10:41,921 I know it's hard sometimes, like 375 00:10:42,136 --> 00:10:42,987 you pick up your phone, you wanna 376 00:10:42,987 --> 00:10:44,744 like scroll social media, different 377 00:10:44,744 --> 00:10:46,124 generations see that as rude. 378 00:10:46,279 --> 00:10:47,764 I personally don't like when I'm 379 00:10:47,791 --> 00:10:49,281 somewhere with someone and they 380 00:10:49,281 --> 00:10:50,301 start picking up their phone. 381 00:10:50,301 --> 00:10:51,977 I'm like, excuse me, I'll 382 00:10:51,977 --> 00:10:53,157 keep talking when you're done. 383 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:55,128 it's kind of awkward, but if there's a 384 00:10:55,128 --> 00:10:56,568 big group of people and you just pick up 385 00:10:56,568 --> 00:10:57,978 your phone here and there and look at it. 386 00:10:58,219 --> 00:10:58,738 Sure. 387 00:10:58,798 --> 00:11:01,118 Again, I'm not criticizing this person. 388 00:11:01,118 --> 00:11:02,858 I'm just saying personally, if I 389 00:11:02,858 --> 00:11:04,635 was playing and I kept noticing 390 00:11:04,635 --> 00:11:05,355 someone look at their phone, 391 00:11:05,355 --> 00:11:06,855 I'd be like, am I boring you? 392 00:11:07,782 --> 00:11:09,385 " Most of her comments revolved around 393 00:11:09,385 --> 00:11:11,155 me making him do things that we 394 00:11:11,155 --> 00:11:12,715 already had mutually agreed on. 395 00:11:12,935 --> 00:11:14,345 At first, I just ignored it. 396 00:11:14,589 --> 00:11:16,773 When he proposed, we were so excited 397 00:11:16,773 --> 00:11:18,852 to start planning because of my dad's 398 00:11:18,852 --> 00:11:21,239 passing, I had some inheritance money. 399 00:11:21,452 --> 00:11:22,936 We decided, I used part of it 400 00:11:22,936 --> 00:11:24,249 for the wedding, so it'd feel 401 00:11:24,249 --> 00:11:25,932 like my dad was helping pay and 402 00:11:25,932 --> 00:11:27,582 we cover the rest ourselves. 403 00:11:27,802 --> 00:11:30,132 We never asked anyone for money, nor did 404 00:11:30,132 --> 00:11:32,082 we share this detail with our families. 405 00:11:32,319 --> 00:11:33,852 We toured a local event center. 406 00:11:34,556 --> 00:11:36,126 With my mom and his parents. 407 00:11:36,316 --> 00:11:38,216 The venue handled tables, chairs, 408 00:11:38,216 --> 00:11:40,309 linens, food, and bartending, 409 00:11:40,596 --> 00:11:42,479 a perfect low stress package. 410 00:11:42,666 --> 00:11:44,126 We signed the contract and put down 411 00:11:44,126 --> 00:11:45,812 a deposit." I love, lemme just say, 412 00:11:45,812 --> 00:11:47,354 I love when a venue is like, we're 413 00:11:47,354 --> 00:11:48,524 gonna do this, this, this, and this. 414 00:11:48,524 --> 00:11:49,274 You don't have to like go to 415 00:11:49,274 --> 00:11:50,414 a hundred different vendors. 416 00:11:50,701 --> 00:11:52,129 " A few weeks later, my fiance came 417 00:11:52,129 --> 00:11:53,659 home after visiting his parents. 418 00:11:53,891 --> 00:11:55,869 His mom had told him, just so you know, 419 00:11:55,869 --> 00:11:57,429 we're not putting any money down for 420 00:11:57,429 --> 00:11:59,499 the wedding, so don't expect us to." 421 00:11:59,788 --> 00:12:01,056 Don't you love that, like 422 00:12:01,146 --> 00:12:02,913 aggressive, coming at you? 423 00:12:02,913 --> 00:12:05,359 Like I have seen this happen so 424 00:12:05,359 --> 00:12:07,286 many times in these stories, where 425 00:12:07,286 --> 00:12:09,418 people just go after somebody. 426 00:12:09,638 --> 00:12:10,700 And it's wild because it's like. 427 00:12:11,193 --> 00:12:12,223 They're thinking, they're expecting 428 00:12:12,223 --> 00:12:13,363 them to give them money and it's like 429 00:12:13,363 --> 00:12:15,133 they haven't said one thing about that. 430 00:12:15,408 --> 00:12:16,760 " He explained that we're paying 431 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:17,990 for everything ourselves and had 432 00:12:17,990 --> 00:12:19,460 never asked them for anything. 433 00:12:19,662 --> 00:12:21,497 His dad chimed in saying they 434 00:12:21,497 --> 00:12:23,747 just wanted him to be aware. 435 00:12:23,902 --> 00:12:25,573 Weird, but we shrugged it off. 436 00:12:25,827 --> 00:12:25,917 Okay. 437 00:12:26,488 --> 00:12:28,090 I later found a bridal expo 438 00:12:28,090 --> 00:12:29,020 and thought it would be a great 439 00:12:29,020 --> 00:12:30,430 chance to explore vendors. 440 00:12:30,802 --> 00:12:32,467 Since my maid of honor lived outta 441 00:12:32,467 --> 00:12:34,477 state, I invited my mom and my two 442 00:12:34,477 --> 00:12:36,322 other bridesmaids, my fiance and 443 00:12:36,322 --> 00:12:38,294 his mom to help her feel included." 444 00:12:38,526 --> 00:12:39,991 See, this is where I'm always like. 445 00:12:40,397 --> 00:12:41,327 I feel bad for these 446 00:12:41,327 --> 00:12:42,167 brides 'cause I get it. 447 00:12:42,167 --> 00:12:43,427 That's gotta be really uncomfortable. 448 00:12:43,457 --> 00:12:43,937 'cause you're like, I 449 00:12:43,937 --> 00:12:45,047 want her to feel included. 450 00:12:45,047 --> 00:12:46,157 This is a special time. 451 00:12:46,386 --> 00:12:48,319 But if she's already making weird 452 00:12:48,319 --> 00:12:50,509 comments to you and about the wedding, 453 00:12:50,742 --> 00:12:52,810 I don't have high hopes for her coming 454 00:12:52,810 --> 00:12:54,697 to your dress shopping, that's all. 455 00:12:55,010 --> 00:12:55,310 Okay. 456 00:12:55,370 --> 00:12:57,830 "We drove into cars, my bridesmaids 457 00:12:57,860 --> 00:12:59,643 road with my mom. I went with 458 00:12:59,643 --> 00:13:02,127 my fiance and his mom." Wait. 459 00:13:02,547 --> 00:13:03,687 Oh, this is a bridal expo. 460 00:13:03,687 --> 00:13:04,324 Okay, got it. 461 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:05,969 I don't know why I was thinking 462 00:13:06,221 --> 00:13:08,339 it was like a dress fitting. 463 00:13:08,369 --> 00:13:08,528 Okay. 464 00:13:08,528 --> 00:13:11,170 " On the way she started grilling him about 465 00:13:11,170 --> 00:13:12,943 who he planned to invite from his side. 466 00:13:13,195 --> 00:13:15,183 When he mentioned a cousin he 467 00:13:15,183 --> 00:13:17,253 recently connected with, she snapped. 468 00:13:17,403 --> 00:13:18,693 You can't invite him. 469 00:13:18,813 --> 00:13:19,923 Take him off the list. 470 00:13:20,175 --> 00:13:21,886 I told my fiancé he should be 471 00:13:21,886 --> 00:13:23,570 able to fight who he wants. 472 00:13:23,820 --> 00:13:25,645 But to appease his mom, he agreed 473 00:13:25,780 --> 00:13:27,090 to leave the cousin out." they 474 00:13:27,090 --> 00:13:28,170 already said straight up, they're 475 00:13:28,170 --> 00:13:29,460 not helping with anything. 476 00:13:29,460 --> 00:13:30,600 They're not paying for anything, 477 00:13:30,806 --> 00:13:32,650 so they cannot dictate who 478 00:13:32,680 --> 00:13:34,153 you're inviting to the wedding. 479 00:13:34,426 --> 00:13:35,870 And if you are close to someone, 480 00:13:36,076 --> 00:13:37,106 you should be able to invite them. 481 00:13:37,246 --> 00:13:38,086 that's ridiculous. 482 00:13:39,392 --> 00:13:41,126 At the expo, she immediately 483 00:13:41,166 --> 00:13:43,186 grew annoyed at how slow we were 484 00:13:43,186 --> 00:13:44,902 moving through the crowded rows. 485 00:13:45,049 --> 00:13:46,749 She kept rushing ahead, arms 486 00:13:46,749 --> 00:13:48,669 crossed, waiting against the walls. 487 00:13:48,942 --> 00:13:51,506 My fiancé went to stand with her so 488 00:13:51,506 --> 00:13:53,702 she wouldn't be alone, which forced my 489 00:13:53,702 --> 00:13:55,929 bridesmaids to drag him back whenever 490 00:13:55,929 --> 00:13:57,699 I was mid-conversation with vendors." 491 00:13:58,172 --> 00:13:59,972 because then she's making it all about 492 00:13:59,972 --> 00:14:01,862 her, so now they're not even focusing on 493 00:14:01,862 --> 00:14:03,512 their wedding and the vendors, she's just 494 00:14:03,512 --> 00:14:05,489 being Annoyed We found some promising 495 00:14:05,489 --> 00:14:08,159 vendors, silk flowers, rentals, and hair 496 00:14:08,159 --> 00:14:09,983 and makeup team. When I mentioned these, 497 00:14:09,983 --> 00:14:12,076 she loudly criticized them. ' I don't 498 00:14:12,076 --> 00:14:14,133 know why people wear makeup anyway, I 499 00:14:14,133 --> 00:14:15,593 didn't at my wedding, and it was such 500 00:14:15,593 --> 00:14:16,983 a waste of money to hire someone.'" 501 00:14:17,528 --> 00:14:18,836 This is someone that's just gonna find 502 00:14:18,836 --> 00:14:20,576 something negative about everything. 503 00:14:20,801 --> 00:14:22,244 Either she doesn't support their 504 00:14:22,244 --> 00:14:24,260 marriage or their relationship, she's 505 00:14:24,260 --> 00:14:25,850 unhappy with her own wedding, or she's 506 00:14:25,850 --> 00:14:27,560 just unhappy with her life in general. 507 00:14:27,560 --> 00:14:28,730 So she's gonna critique every 508 00:14:28,730 --> 00:14:29,480 single thing that she does. 509 00:14:30,248 --> 00:14:32,688 " For context, I have eczema and acne, 510 00:14:32,895 --> 00:14:35,318 so I rarely wear more than concealer 511 00:14:35,318 --> 00:14:37,185 and foundation for my wedding. 512 00:14:37,185 --> 00:14:39,195 I wanted to feel extra special." As 513 00:14:39,195 --> 00:14:41,251 you should, girl. " She also dismissed 514 00:14:41,251 --> 00:14:43,201 the silk flowers as cheap. Even 515 00:14:43,201 --> 00:14:45,568 after my fiance reminded her, she 516 00:14:45,568 --> 00:14:47,278 hadn't seen the particular booth we 517 00:14:47,278 --> 00:14:49,498 liked." Just making judgements again. 518 00:14:49,738 --> 00:14:51,251 " On the way to lunch afterwards, 519 00:14:51,251 --> 00:14:52,751 she called his younger brother and 520 00:14:52,751 --> 00:14:54,881 bribed him with a free meal to join. 521 00:14:55,141 --> 00:14:56,955 The moment he arrived, she focused 522 00:14:56,955 --> 00:14:59,221 entirely on him ignoring my 523 00:14:59,221 --> 00:15:01,291 bridesmaids and any vendor talk." 524 00:15:01,321 --> 00:15:03,061 So she's like just shutting them out. 525 00:15:03,238 --> 00:15:04,948 This is such common 526 00:15:04,948 --> 00:15:06,178 behavior in these stories. 527 00:15:06,178 --> 00:15:06,688 I see. 528 00:15:06,941 --> 00:15:08,785 both with shutting out the 529 00:15:08,785 --> 00:15:10,295 wedding planning, critiquing 530 00:15:10,295 --> 00:15:11,135 anything that they don't like. 531 00:15:11,851 --> 00:15:13,676 It is making the bride feel bad or awkward 532 00:15:13,676 --> 00:15:15,116 about ever bringing up the wedding. 533 00:15:15,308 --> 00:15:16,590 And then on the other side of things, 534 00:15:16,590 --> 00:15:18,633 the sibling picking favorites. 535 00:15:18,633 --> 00:15:19,983 I just read another story about 536 00:15:19,983 --> 00:15:21,846 this last week where it was sisters 537 00:15:21,846 --> 00:15:23,473 and they were picking favorites and 538 00:15:23,473 --> 00:15:25,333 then the famous me and Tina skit, 539 00:15:25,518 --> 00:15:27,023 and now it's doing the same thing. 540 00:15:27,255 --> 00:15:29,525 Oh, own invite brother to our lunch. 541 00:15:29,770 --> 00:15:31,120 And I'm just gonna completely 542 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:32,200 ignore you guys now. 543 00:15:32,502 --> 00:15:33,860 " Months later, I scheduled 544 00:15:33,860 --> 00:15:35,090 wedding dress shopping for when 545 00:15:35,090 --> 00:15:36,350 my sister would be in town. 546 00:15:36,552 --> 00:15:39,093 I texted his mom and my mom the details. 547 00:15:39,315 --> 00:15:41,207 His mom replied that she added it to her 548 00:15:41,207 --> 00:15:43,423 calendar, so I didn't send a reminder. 549 00:15:43,916 --> 00:15:46,631 The day arrived and after our family 550 00:15:46,631 --> 00:15:48,701 vacation." I know this going and I'm 551 00:15:48,701 --> 00:15:50,544 trying not to laugh. " My bridesmaid's 552 00:15:50,574 --> 00:15:53,248 mom and I headed to the boutique soon 553 00:15:53,248 --> 00:15:55,968 after my fiance called his dad, told 554 00:15:55,968 --> 00:15:58,386 him his mom had skipped it to take 555 00:15:58,386 --> 00:16:00,666 his brother's graduation pictures. 556 00:16:00,911 --> 00:16:03,240 My fiance gently scolded me for 557 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:05,486 not reminding her, even though she 558 00:16:05,486 --> 00:16:07,316 said she had it on her calendar." 559 00:16:07,525 --> 00:16:08,350 That hurt. 560 00:16:08,595 --> 00:16:10,056 Yeah, she's an adult. 561 00:16:10,288 --> 00:16:11,750 it's also the relationship thing. 562 00:16:11,895 --> 00:16:14,265 for example, like I told my mom and my 563 00:16:14,265 --> 00:16:16,065 mother-in-law like, Hey, this is the date. 564 00:16:16,421 --> 00:16:17,665 For dress shopping? 565 00:16:17,665 --> 00:16:18,565 Are you guys both free? 566 00:16:18,565 --> 00:16:19,345 They both were. 567 00:16:19,530 --> 00:16:20,988 They put it on their calendar, but 568 00:16:20,988 --> 00:16:22,548 I talked to them multiple times 569 00:16:22,548 --> 00:16:24,048 before then, so it would come up. 570 00:16:24,210 --> 00:16:25,555 My mother-in-law would call me 571 00:16:25,555 --> 00:16:26,845 like we would talk about it. 572 00:16:27,063 --> 00:16:28,068 Same with my mom. 573 00:16:28,298 --> 00:16:29,468 so like it would come up in 574 00:16:29,468 --> 00:16:31,205 conversation, but if it's somebody I 575 00:16:31,205 --> 00:16:33,531 don't talk to a lot, they are adults. 576 00:16:33,726 --> 00:16:34,990 if she said, Hey, I put it 577 00:16:34,990 --> 00:16:36,726 in my calendar, trust that. 578 00:16:36,895 --> 00:16:37,750 If she had a question 579 00:16:37,750 --> 00:16:39,010 about it, she can ask. 580 00:16:39,748 --> 00:16:41,668 For her to then be like, oh, I'm taking 581 00:16:41,848 --> 00:16:43,318 your brother's graduation photos. 582 00:16:43,485 --> 00:16:44,608 Mm, I don't know. 583 00:16:44,608 --> 00:16:45,538 I think it was on purpose. 584 00:16:56,475 --> 00:16:58,673 "We ended up finding the dress I dunno 585 00:16:58,673 --> 00:17:00,638 why I said it like that, the dress at the 586 00:17:00,638 --> 00:17:03,038 first shop, but kept a second appointment 587 00:17:03,038 --> 00:17:06,666 just in case. To our shock, his mom showed 588 00:17:06,666 --> 00:17:08,899 up at the second boutique, even though 589 00:17:08,899 --> 00:17:12,317 she previously said she wasn't coming." So 590 00:17:12,377 --> 00:17:16,127 she knew .She either knew or the fiance, 591 00:17:16,446 --> 00:17:17,736 because I'm wondering if he scolded 592 00:17:17,974 --> 00:17:20,046 the bride later or if he like called 593 00:17:20,046 --> 00:17:22,079 her and was like, my mom's not there. 594 00:17:22,079 --> 00:17:23,129 You needed to call her, 595 00:17:23,129 --> 00:17:23,969 blah, blah, blah, blah. 596 00:17:24,167 --> 00:17:25,746 So maybe he gave the address 597 00:17:25,746 --> 00:17:26,766 and was like, you need to go. 598 00:17:26,947 --> 00:17:29,056 But to me it sounds like the mom just 599 00:17:29,056 --> 00:17:30,226 didn't wanna go to the first appointment. 600 00:17:30,494 --> 00:17:31,674 she immediately criticized 601 00:17:31,674 --> 00:17:33,504 the gowns as cheap and called 602 00:17:33,504 --> 00:17:35,064 my favorite one plain." Ew. 603 00:17:35,934 --> 00:17:37,614 I don't like that at all. 604 00:17:37,841 --> 00:17:40,011 Again, she's being so rude 605 00:17:40,011 --> 00:17:41,601 during this whole engagement, 606 00:17:41,824 --> 00:17:43,314 stop inviting her to things. 607 00:17:43,571 --> 00:17:45,317 " My bridal party was furious." 608 00:17:45,531 --> 00:17:46,651 I wonder if anyone like stood 609 00:17:46,651 --> 00:17:48,031 up for her and said something. 610 00:17:48,121 --> 00:17:50,364 'cause I feel like my friends would 611 00:17:50,364 --> 00:17:51,534 not be able to bite their tongue. 612 00:17:51,797 --> 00:17:52,979 Again, I've talked about before. 613 00:17:53,009 --> 00:17:54,449 I have an amazing mother-in-law. 614 00:17:54,449 --> 00:17:56,272 She would never, but I'm just trying 615 00:17:56,272 --> 00:17:57,442 to picture like if there was a 616 00:17:57,442 --> 00:18:00,109 scenario where one of my, or one of my 617 00:18:00,109 --> 00:18:02,352 friend's mother-in-laws said something, 618 00:18:02,442 --> 00:18:04,332 I think we would say something. 619 00:18:04,594 --> 00:18:05,602 I don't think we could just stand 620 00:18:05,602 --> 00:18:07,546 there and be like, watch it happen. 621 00:18:07,546 --> 00:18:08,266 That would be terrible. 622 00:18:08,557 --> 00:18:10,466 " My bridal party was furious Afterwards, 623 00:18:10,466 --> 00:18:12,326 she declined our dinner invitation, 624 00:18:12,561 --> 00:18:15,032 telling my fiance later she wasn't invited 625 00:18:15,032 --> 00:18:16,712 at all." Of course, she's gonna be the 626 00:18:16,712 --> 00:18:18,905 victim. " My sister planned my bridal 627 00:18:18,905 --> 00:18:21,095 shower and we invited his mom's friends 628 00:18:21,095 --> 00:18:25,116 too. Only one RSVP." Yes, which upset her. 629 00:18:25,398 --> 00:18:26,893 " A week before the shower, my 630 00:18:26,893 --> 00:18:29,433 fiance told me his mom complained. 631 00:18:29,463 --> 00:18:31,263 I had excluded her from planning. 632 00:18:31,685 --> 00:18:33,455 I reminded him that my sister 633 00:18:33,455 --> 00:18:34,955 was handling everything. 634 00:18:35,225 --> 00:18:36,498 When he relayed that to his 635 00:18:36,498 --> 00:18:38,058 mom, she suddenly claimed she 636 00:18:38,058 --> 00:18:39,738 was too busy to help anyway." 637 00:18:40,127 --> 00:18:41,647 This is that victim mentality. 638 00:18:41,877 --> 00:18:42,830 They're gonna find something 639 00:18:42,830 --> 00:18:45,320 wrong or find like a way to 640 00:18:45,540 --> 00:18:47,950 whine or cry about everything. 641 00:18:48,314 --> 00:18:50,454 she's putting her, son, the fiance 642 00:18:50,454 --> 00:18:51,624 in the middle of everything, 643 00:18:51,624 --> 00:18:52,830 saying like, oh, they didn't 644 00:18:52,830 --> 00:18:54,390 include me when they actually did. 645 00:18:54,537 --> 00:18:56,060 And then when he says that, he's 646 00:18:56,060 --> 00:18:57,970 like, oh, I'm way too busy for that. 647 00:18:58,177 --> 00:18:58,864 Come on. 648 00:18:59,107 --> 00:19:01,207 " On the day she and her mother sat in their 649 00:19:01,207 --> 00:19:03,307 car until five minutes before the party. 650 00:19:03,554 --> 00:19:04,580 During the shower, she 651 00:19:04,580 --> 00:19:05,840 kept mostly to herself. 652 00:19:06,219 --> 00:19:08,739 Her gift to me was a Yelp printout 653 00:19:08,739 --> 00:19:10,389 for a quirky nail boutique 654 00:19:10,389 --> 00:19:12,609 specializing in anime designs. 655 00:19:12,876 --> 00:19:15,772 Interesting, sweet in theory, but not 656 00:19:15,772 --> 00:19:17,422 at all practical since we were leaving 657 00:19:17,422 --> 00:19:20,956 for our honeymoon the next day." This 658 00:19:20,956 --> 00:19:23,129 is wild. " Later, she scheduled a nail 659 00:19:23,129 --> 00:19:24,629 appointment for just the two of us 660 00:19:24,629 --> 00:19:27,562 without asking me. Then backed out saying 661 00:19:27,592 --> 00:19:30,429 she'd bring a friend instead." What? 662 00:19:30,646 --> 00:19:31,839 So she gets you a nail gift 663 00:19:31,839 --> 00:19:34,066 certificate for your bridal shower? 664 00:19:34,309 --> 00:19:36,769 Then she says, here, I booked a nail 665 00:19:36,769 --> 00:19:39,022 appointment for us, and now she can't go. 666 00:19:39,622 --> 00:19:40,802 This woman is wild. 667 00:19:40,999 --> 00:19:42,259 I don't know how people deal with this. 668 00:19:42,479 --> 00:19:43,787 " His parents agreed to pay for 669 00:19:43,787 --> 00:19:45,144 the rehearsal dinner, but his 670 00:19:45,144 --> 00:19:46,404 mom still complained about 671 00:19:46,404 --> 00:19:47,904 the officiant not attending. 672 00:19:48,109 --> 00:19:50,087 He was never supposed to per contract." 673 00:19:50,479 --> 00:19:51,941 I don't think they typically do. " At 674 00:19:51,941 --> 00:19:53,921 the restaurant, she boasted about the 675 00:19:53,921 --> 00:19:56,718 very expensive cookies she brought on 676 00:19:56,718 --> 00:19:59,698 the wedding day things escalated. She 677 00:19:59,698 --> 00:20:01,955 barged into the bridal suite demanding 678 00:20:01,955 --> 00:20:04,085 the photographer document a gift from 679 00:20:04,085 --> 00:20:06,605 the groom, which delayed our timeline." 680 00:20:08,243 --> 00:20:09,806 I am shaking my head if you're listening. 681 00:20:10,213 --> 00:20:11,773 " Later, she wandered around 682 00:20:11,803 --> 00:20:14,503 with her own DSLR camera." No. 683 00:20:14,803 --> 00:20:15,283 Why? 684 00:20:15,283 --> 00:20:16,063 Why does she think she's 685 00:20:16,063 --> 00:20:17,083 a photographer now? 686 00:20:17,367 --> 00:20:19,097 " Taking photos during our first dance 687 00:20:19,097 --> 00:20:20,890 and other moments, even though we had 688 00:20:20,890 --> 00:20:22,337 professionals hired." And you don't 689 00:20:22,337 --> 00:20:23,717 wanna do that either because your flash 690 00:20:23,717 --> 00:20:25,037 can throw out the other photographer's 691 00:20:25,037 --> 00:20:26,860 flash. You could be in the background, 692 00:20:26,860 --> 00:20:28,848 you could be in the way, like leave it 693 00:20:28,848 --> 00:20:30,685 to the professionals. " Our photographer 694 00:20:30,685 --> 00:20:32,718 cropped her out whenever possible, but 695 00:20:32,718 --> 00:20:34,608 the videographer couldn't avoid her." 696 00:20:34,857 --> 00:20:36,495 Also, doesn't she wanna like interact 697 00:20:36,495 --> 00:20:37,965 with people while she had a camera? 698 00:20:38,220 --> 00:20:40,772 " She also camped out at her reception table 699 00:20:40,772 --> 00:20:42,602 with plastic water bottles and spent much 700 00:20:42,602 --> 00:20:44,608 of the night at the photo booth with her 701 00:20:44,608 --> 00:20:46,798 friends rather than celebrating with us. 702 00:20:47,179 --> 00:20:48,420 The next day, I logged into 703 00:20:48,420 --> 00:20:49,980 Facebook to see that she'd already 704 00:20:49,980 --> 00:20:52,367 posted dozens of wedding photos. 705 00:20:52,367 --> 00:20:53,837 Most of them were herself. 706 00:20:54,175 --> 00:20:56,052 Out of nearly 50 pictures, 707 00:20:56,259 --> 00:20:58,149 I appeared in about seven." 708 00:21:00,572 --> 00:21:01,399 I am laughing 'cause this 709 00:21:01,399 --> 00:21:03,469 is just so ridiculous. 710 00:21:03,762 --> 00:21:06,512 you're telling me she makes this 711 00:21:06,512 --> 00:21:08,522 big stink about the whole wedding. 712 00:21:08,745 --> 00:21:10,349 Has to make the whole thing about her. 713 00:21:10,969 --> 00:21:12,730 Then on the wedding day, instead of 714 00:21:12,730 --> 00:21:14,260 actually just enjoying it and being 715 00:21:14,260 --> 00:21:16,075 present, she's carrying around this 716 00:21:16,075 --> 00:21:18,801 huge DSLR camera, taking all these 717 00:21:18,801 --> 00:21:20,451 photos as if she's a second hired 718 00:21:20,451 --> 00:21:22,261 photographer, and then posting it 719 00:21:22,261 --> 00:21:24,181 all to Facebook without the bride. 720 00:21:25,621 --> 00:21:26,161 It's wild. 721 00:21:26,410 --> 00:21:27,140 Oh my gosh. 722 00:21:27,223 --> 00:21:29,626 " Looking back, his mom's need for attention 723 00:21:29,626 --> 00:21:32,506 overshadowed so many parts of the process. 724 00:21:32,696 --> 00:21:35,103 My fiance often excused it, wanting 725 00:21:35,103 --> 00:21:36,970 to keep her happy, but it left me 726 00:21:36,970 --> 00:21:38,590 feeling excluded and disrespected 727 00:21:38,590 --> 00:21:40,161 at multiple points." I've said 728 00:21:40,161 --> 00:21:41,751 this before and I'll say it again. 729 00:21:41,928 --> 00:21:43,838 If it comes to the point where your 730 00:21:43,838 --> 00:21:46,118 mom is making you choose between the 731 00:21:46,118 --> 00:21:49,094 two and you can't choose your new wife. 732 00:21:49,241 --> 00:21:50,524 You're more concerned about making 733 00:21:50,524 --> 00:21:52,654 her happy than you've already lost. 734 00:21:52,866 --> 00:21:54,873 You're already not choosing your 735 00:21:54,873 --> 00:21:56,673 wife, so why are you marrying her? 736 00:21:57,170 --> 00:21:59,129 I don't get that, the mom 737 00:21:59,129 --> 00:22:00,969 wants this battle to happen. 738 00:22:00,969 --> 00:22:02,610 She wants to like see that her 739 00:22:02,610 --> 00:22:04,140 son is still loyal to her, but 740 00:22:04,140 --> 00:22:05,700 at the end of the day, like he 741 00:22:05,730 --> 00:22:08,027 chose to marry this new person. 742 00:22:08,737 --> 00:22:09,247 That's terrible. 743 00:22:09,620 --> 00:22:10,933 " The wedding itself was beautiful, 744 00:22:10,933 --> 00:22:12,823 but her behavior is something I will 745 00:22:12,913 --> 00:22:15,777 never forget." I'm so sorry to this 746 00:22:15,777 --> 00:22:17,400 bride and it sucks when you like. 747 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:18,930 Those are the memories then that 748 00:22:18,930 --> 00:22:20,400 you have of your wedding day, 749 00:22:20,650 --> 00:22:21,670 and I'm sure it hasn't gotten 750 00:22:21,670 --> 00:22:22,960 better now that they're married. 751 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:24,520 I'm sure it has not gotten better. 752 00:22:24,750 --> 00:22:26,527 This mother-in-law is going to 753 00:22:26,527 --> 00:22:29,017 still be doing things to be passive 754 00:22:29,017 --> 00:22:30,907 aggressive, to be rude, to put her down. 755 00:22:31,050 --> 00:22:32,867 All because the girl was scrolling 756 00:22:32,867 --> 00:22:34,037 on her phone during game night. 757 00:22:34,394 --> 00:22:35,602 these needs to be researched 758 00:22:35,602 --> 00:22:36,562 in a lab somewhere. 759 00:22:36,562 --> 00:22:37,852 I don't know, like I don't know 760 00:22:37,852 --> 00:22:39,745 where this comes from that they get 761 00:22:39,745 --> 00:22:42,805 so up in arms or so offended when 762 00:22:42,805 --> 00:22:44,605 their son finds someone to marry. 763 00:22:44,665 --> 00:22:46,045 I don't know where this comes from. 764 00:22:46,364 --> 00:22:47,432 We need another therapist to 765 00:22:47,432 --> 00:22:48,482 come on here and talk about it. 766 00:22:48,777 --> 00:22:50,108 Okay, next one. 767 00:22:50,390 --> 00:22:51,112 Oh gosh. 768 00:22:51,142 --> 00:22:51,412 Okay. 769 00:22:51,472 --> 00:22:54,142 Three weddings, one family drama. 770 00:22:54,325 --> 00:22:55,399 This story actually 771 00:22:55,399 --> 00:22:56,809 involves three weddings. 772 00:22:56,809 --> 00:22:58,219 "I grew up in the same neighborhood 773 00:22:58,219 --> 00:22:59,569 as this family and was close 774 00:22:59,569 --> 00:23:00,769 friends with the youngest daughter. 775 00:23:01,246 --> 00:23:03,120 She and her older sister split 776 00:23:03,120 --> 00:23:05,304 their time between their dad and 777 00:23:05,304 --> 00:23:07,842 stepmom's house and their mom's. 778 00:23:08,318 --> 00:23:10,159 The stepmom also had two kids 779 00:23:10,159 --> 00:23:11,479 from a previous relationship, 780 00:23:11,479 --> 00:23:12,799 so it was a blended household. 781 00:23:13,094 --> 00:23:14,654 about a year and a half ago, the 782 00:23:14,654 --> 00:23:16,818 older sister got engaged around the 783 00:23:16,818 --> 00:23:18,788 same time it came out that their 784 00:23:18,788 --> 00:23:20,918 dad was cheating on the stepmom, 785 00:23:21,113 --> 00:23:24,153 which led to a nasty divorce." Okay. 786 00:23:24,420 --> 00:23:26,720 The stepmom and her kids all cut him 787 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:28,610 off, and so did the older sister. 788 00:23:29,045 --> 00:23:30,889 " The younger sister was the only one 789 00:23:30,889 --> 00:23:32,790 still trying to keep some peace, and 790 00:23:32,790 --> 00:23:34,020 that's the one that's friends with 791 00:23:34,020 --> 00:23:36,460 the op." A lot of characters here. 792 00:23:36,650 --> 00:23:37,970 And this is why, sorry, this is a 793 00:23:37,970 --> 00:23:39,560 side note, but this is why like when 794 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:41,386 I do skits and people are like, I need 795 00:23:41,386 --> 00:23:42,376 the next part, I need the next part. 796 00:23:42,376 --> 00:23:44,890 I'm like, I don't wanna complicate it too 797 00:23:44,890 --> 00:23:46,420 much by adding all these other characters. 798 00:23:46,450 --> 00:23:47,620 'Cause I did that before and 799 00:23:47,620 --> 00:23:48,640 people were like, who's who? 800 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:49,330 Who's that? 801 00:23:49,766 --> 00:23:52,576 It's hard in these skits and this is 802 00:23:52,576 --> 00:23:54,226 why I need to read this one first. 803 00:23:54,506 --> 00:23:54,919 Okay. 804 00:23:55,169 --> 00:23:56,929 "Originally, the dad was invited to the 805 00:23:56,929 --> 00:23:59,144 older sister's wedding, but he threw a 806 00:23:59,144 --> 00:24:01,244 fit when he found out the stepmom might 807 00:24:01,244 --> 00:24:03,600 be there and demanded to bring his new 808 00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:05,294 partner instead." God, hopefully it 809 00:24:05,294 --> 00:24:06,439 wasn't the one that he cheated with. 810 00:24:06,994 --> 00:24:08,450 I mean, it's awkward either way 811 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:09,800 'cause it was a nasty divorce. 812 00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:10,670 But if he is like, Hey, 813 00:24:10,670 --> 00:24:11,600 this is the mistress. 814 00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:12,860 Like what are we doing here? 815 00:24:13,084 --> 00:24:14,740 " When the bride told him his new partner 816 00:24:14,740 --> 00:24:16,600 wasn't welcome, he refused to attend." 817 00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:17,890 So you're choosing this new partner 818 00:24:17,890 --> 00:24:19,092 over your stepdaughter's wedding. 819 00:24:19,388 --> 00:24:21,682 " She finally uninvited him altogether 820 00:24:22,005 --> 00:24:23,415 at the wedding, their mom walked. 821 00:24:23,490 --> 00:24:25,137 The bride down the aisle, and 822 00:24:25,137 --> 00:24:26,637 both the younger sister and the 823 00:24:26,637 --> 00:24:28,797 former stepsister were bridesmaids. 824 00:24:29,257 --> 00:24:31,531 Afterward, the dad had the audacity to 825 00:24:31,531 --> 00:24:34,334 send the bride a venmo request asking 826 00:24:34,334 --> 00:24:37,034 for reimbursement for the venue deposit. 827 00:24:37,234 --> 00:24:38,714 He contributed she ignored it." 828 00:24:38,834 --> 00:24:40,785 This dad is something else. 829 00:24:40,785 --> 00:24:42,435 We need a skit about that because I feel 830 00:24:42,435 --> 00:24:44,115 like too many times, like these skits 831 00:24:44,115 --> 00:24:45,735 are focused on moms and mothers in-law. 832 00:24:45,955 --> 00:24:46,718 I'm sorry guys. 833 00:24:46,718 --> 00:24:48,703 I am really sorry for that because 834 00:24:48,863 --> 00:24:50,066 I don't mean it to be that way. 835 00:24:50,266 --> 00:24:51,983 I just get, most of the stories are 836 00:24:52,043 --> 00:24:54,386 about moms and I don't mean for it. 837 00:24:54,614 --> 00:24:55,870 So I need a dad story. 838 00:24:56,020 --> 00:24:57,580 We need to skit about this because 839 00:24:57,801 --> 00:25:00,021 this is a really shitty thing to do. 840 00:25:00,245 --> 00:25:01,431 Really shitty thing to do. 841 00:25:01,685 --> 00:25:03,141 He ultimately chose his new 842 00:25:03,141 --> 00:25:05,788 girlfriend over his wife and kids. 843 00:25:06,002 --> 00:25:08,034 I get the divorce was nasty, but 844 00:25:08,034 --> 00:25:09,324 you need to put your kids first. 845 00:25:09,609 --> 00:25:11,511 He is like, pay me back for the venue. 846 00:25:11,661 --> 00:25:12,721 I'm it's not her fault. 847 00:25:12,721 --> 00:25:13,291 You didn't show up. 848 00:25:13,796 --> 00:25:15,991 " A month later, the dad married 849 00:25:15,991 --> 00:25:17,551 the woman he cheated with. 850 00:25:18,749 --> 00:25:20,673 The divorce papers from the second 851 00:25:20,673 --> 00:25:22,683 marriage were finalized only 24 852 00:25:22,683 --> 00:25:24,093 hours before his wedding." So it 853 00:25:24,123 --> 00:25:25,443 was the woman he cheated with that 854 00:25:25,443 --> 00:25:26,613 he wanted to bring to the wedding. 855 00:25:26,613 --> 00:25:29,443 Can you imagine the audacity to not 856 00:25:29,443 --> 00:25:31,843 even see how badly you screwed up? 857 00:25:32,052 --> 00:25:34,256 You ripped apart your family by 858 00:25:34,256 --> 00:25:36,414 cheating on your, wife, of how many 859 00:25:36,414 --> 00:25:38,487 years and then wanting to bring 860 00:25:38,487 --> 00:25:40,377 her to your daughter's wedding. 861 00:25:40,502 --> 00:25:41,960 Actually, stepdaughter's wedding. 862 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:42,690 What? 863 00:25:43,042 --> 00:25:43,990 This guy's lost his mind. 864 00:25:44,259 --> 00:25:46,582 The only guests were two of her kids. 865 00:25:46,889 --> 00:25:48,322 The younger daughter wasn't invited, 866 00:25:48,322 --> 00:25:50,282 which upset her, but her dad brushed 867 00:25:50,282 --> 00:25:51,872 it off by saying she lived too 868 00:25:51,872 --> 00:25:54,449 far away about four hours and he 869 00:25:54,449 --> 00:25:55,284 didn't think she could make it. 870 00:25:55,839 --> 00:25:56,226 Okay. 871 00:25:56,286 --> 00:25:57,216 Wedding #3. 872 00:25:57,399 --> 00:25:58,649 " Just this past weekend was 873 00:25:58,649 --> 00:25:59,849 the younger sister's wedding. 874 00:26:00,216 --> 00:26:02,222 I was in the bridal party along with her 875 00:26:02,222 --> 00:26:04,916 fiance's sister, her biological sister. 876 00:26:05,414 --> 00:26:07,785 Two new stepsisters from the dad's 877 00:26:07,785 --> 00:26:10,442 third marriage and a cousin." Okay. 878 00:26:10,669 --> 00:26:13,012 So we're talking, oh wow. 879 00:26:13,012 --> 00:26:15,332 This is like a nice, okay, that 880 00:26:15,332 --> 00:26:17,629 like biological sister, the 881 00:26:17,689 --> 00:26:18,919 peacekeeper, we'll call her. 882 00:26:19,039 --> 00:26:19,999 I don't have names for her. 883 00:26:19,999 --> 00:26:21,719 So really nice to include 884 00:26:21,719 --> 00:26:24,839 her dad's mistress kids. 885 00:26:25,059 --> 00:26:26,265 I mean, I guess this his new wife 886 00:26:26,265 --> 00:26:28,549 now, but that's wild to include them. 887 00:26:28,759 --> 00:26:29,149 Okay. 888 00:26:29,415 --> 00:26:31,602 " The bride had invited her former stepmom 889 00:26:32,081 --> 00:26:34,296 and step siblings, but they weren't a part 890 00:26:34,296 --> 00:26:37,021 of the bridal party." So she included, 891 00:26:37,021 --> 00:26:39,342 and unless I'm understanding incorrectly, 892 00:26:39,592 --> 00:26:42,979 she included the new stepsisters from the 893 00:26:42,979 --> 00:26:46,312 dad's third marriage, but not the former. 894 00:26:46,724 --> 00:26:48,004 Step siblings who she's 895 00:26:48,004 --> 00:26:49,474 known a lot longer. 896 00:26:49,714 --> 00:26:50,031 Okay. 897 00:26:50,031 --> 00:26:51,321 I guess it's all about relationship and 898 00:26:51,567 --> 00:26:52,751 you choose who you want in your wedding. 899 00:26:52,751 --> 00:26:53,501 It's ultimately up to 900 00:26:53,501 --> 00:26:54,581 you, but that's wild. 901 00:26:54,938 --> 00:26:55,358 Okay. 902 00:26:55,418 --> 00:26:57,428 "Her mom and her mom's 903 00:26:57,428 --> 00:26:59,198 partner were also there. 904 00:26:59,617 --> 00:27:01,850 Her biological sister serving as maid of 905 00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,680 honor, still wasn't speaking to their dad. 906 00:27:05,175 --> 00:27:07,088 It was out of question, the most 907 00:27:07,118 --> 00:27:09,088 awkward wedding I've ever attended. 908 00:27:09,348 --> 00:27:10,690 The dad walked the bride down the 909 00:27:10,690 --> 00:27:12,686 aisle, but the former stepmom and 910 00:27:12,686 --> 00:27:14,126 step-siblings weren't included in 911 00:27:14,126 --> 00:27:16,540 photos and left after cocktail hour. 912 00:27:16,958 --> 00:27:19,033 I later heard this was prearranged. 913 00:27:19,063 --> 00:27:19,993 The bride wouldn't be 914 00:27:19,993 --> 00:27:22,095 upset." Oh, that sucks. 915 00:27:22,095 --> 00:27:22,755 That's really sad. 916 00:27:23,016 --> 00:27:24,118 " During family photos, the 917 00:27:24,118 --> 00:27:25,918 division was almost comical. 918 00:27:26,144 --> 00:27:27,499 Bride and groom were in the center 919 00:27:27,701 --> 00:27:29,166 mom with her partner and their 920 00:27:29,166 --> 00:27:31,499 son, and the older sister with her 921 00:27:31,499 --> 00:27:33,689 husband on one side, dad and his 922 00:27:33,689 --> 00:27:36,355 new wife and her kids on the other. 923 00:27:36,852 --> 00:27:38,681 The older sister was treated as part 924 00:27:38,681 --> 00:27:40,685 of mom's side, and there were no 925 00:27:40,685 --> 00:27:42,275 photos of both sisters with their dad. 926 00:27:42,679 --> 00:27:43,851 He and the older sister still 927 00:27:43,851 --> 00:27:45,817 don't speak to this day and they 928 00:27:45,817 --> 00:27:46,927 didn't speak the entire day. 929 00:27:47,450 --> 00:27:49,176 The dad's new wife seemed to be 930 00:27:49,176 --> 00:27:51,246 scrambling to play catch up socially, 931 00:27:51,306 --> 00:27:52,686 meeting extended family for the 932 00:27:52,686 --> 00:27:54,216 first time, while also trying to 933 00:27:54,216 --> 00:27:56,887 coexist with his ex-wife's families." 934 00:27:57,857 --> 00:28:00,951 I wanna hear our story, I want her to 935 00:28:00,951 --> 00:28:04,074 send in what happened here, if my head, 936 00:28:04,074 --> 00:28:05,604 it feels like scrambled eggs right now 937 00:28:05,604 --> 00:28:07,852 from all of this, I can only imagine. 938 00:28:08,795 --> 00:28:11,004 What actually happened and, and you guys 939 00:28:11,004 --> 00:28:13,741 listening like, are, am I too confused? 940 00:28:13,741 --> 00:28:14,791 Are you guys confused? 941 00:28:14,851 --> 00:28:15,761 There are so many people here. 942 00:28:16,259 --> 00:28:16,561 Okay. 943 00:28:16,842 --> 00:28:18,077 " She ends with the bride, looked 944 00:28:18,077 --> 00:28:19,367 happy at the end of it all, which 945 00:28:19,367 --> 00:28:20,537 is the most important thing. 946 00:28:20,742 --> 00:28:22,207 But from the outside, the balancing 947 00:28:22,207 --> 00:28:23,797 act of divorce, parents, ex 948 00:28:23,797 --> 00:28:25,687 stepparents, half siblings and 949 00:28:25,687 --> 00:28:27,547 new partners made it painfully 950 00:28:27,547 --> 00:28:29,793 awkward to witness." I hate that. 951 00:28:29,793 --> 00:28:31,454 I hate when you hear about these 952 00:28:31,454 --> 00:28:32,864 messy divorces and the parents 953 00:28:32,864 --> 00:28:34,184 then make it more about themselves. 954 00:28:34,385 --> 00:28:36,407 It sounds like the, ex like 955 00:28:36,407 --> 00:28:38,246 stepmother, sounded like she was 956 00:28:38,246 --> 00:28:39,566 willing to like, make it work, but 957 00:28:39,566 --> 00:28:41,876 the dad just, sounds terrible. 958 00:28:42,285 --> 00:28:43,405 I've been in multiple weddings 959 00:28:43,405 --> 00:28:44,695 where there's children of 960 00:28:44,695 --> 00:28:47,015 divorce and they make it work. 961 00:28:47,222 --> 00:28:48,872 They're still hugging, they're friends. 962 00:28:48,872 --> 00:28:50,285 They get along, they, and it's not 963 00:28:50,285 --> 00:28:51,635 like they're hanging out outside of it. 964 00:28:51,635 --> 00:28:53,465 They just make it work for the sake 965 00:28:53,465 --> 00:28:55,115 of their kids in a beautiful day. 966 00:28:55,402 --> 00:28:56,335 It's not that hard to 967 00:28:56,365 --> 00:28:58,188 brush it aside for one day. 968 00:28:58,188 --> 00:28:59,238 It's not about you, it's 969 00:28:59,238 --> 00:29:00,715 about the bride and groom. 970 00:29:01,010 --> 00:29:01,460 And that's it. 971 00:29:01,742 --> 00:29:02,577 The couple getting married. 972 00:29:02,873 --> 00:29:03,293 All right, guys. 973 00:29:03,293 --> 00:29:04,553 Well, those were two 974 00:29:04,583 --> 00:29:05,813 completely wild stories. 975 00:29:06,230 --> 00:29:07,631 Thanks for listening, and 976 00:29:07,631 --> 00:29:09,041 hopefully, I mean, we might 977 00:29:09,041 --> 00:29:10,211 need a family tree after this. 978 00:29:10,211 --> 00:29:12,161 I don't know, but this was wild. 979 00:29:12,417 --> 00:29:14,471 All right, let's end this episode 980 00:29:14,471 --> 00:29:16,331 with some confessions that you guys 981 00:29:16,331 --> 00:29:18,484 sent me over on Instagram again. 982 00:29:18,484 --> 00:29:21,761 Every single Friday we ask you 983 00:29:21,761 --> 00:29:23,621 guys to send us your confessions. 984 00:29:23,963 --> 00:29:24,477 They have to do. 985 00:29:24,910 --> 00:29:25,836 All kinds of things. 986 00:29:25,836 --> 00:29:27,949 Engagements, dating, uh, 987 00:29:27,949 --> 00:29:29,729 relationships, weddings, 988 00:29:29,729 --> 00:29:32,602 proposals, honeymoons, you name it. 989 00:29:32,867 --> 00:29:33,835 So send them to us. 990 00:29:34,074 --> 00:29:34,389 Okay. 991 00:29:34,389 --> 00:29:35,469 This first one says. 992 00:29:35,687 --> 00:29:37,335 " My mother-in-law would invite his 993 00:29:37,395 --> 00:29:39,315 ex over or go on vacation with 994 00:29:39,315 --> 00:29:41,825 her after we got engaged." Oh, no. 995 00:29:41,825 --> 00:29:42,425 This is the one that needs 996 00:29:42,425 --> 00:29:44,225 to let go of the past. 997 00:29:44,444 --> 00:29:45,735 This, I would, I don't think 998 00:29:45,735 --> 00:29:46,995 I would do well with that. 999 00:29:47,179 --> 00:29:48,349 I don't think most people would. 1000 00:29:48,597 --> 00:29:49,812 I need to know now. 1001 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:50,974 Where are you guys? 1002 00:29:51,124 --> 00:29:52,174 Are you guys engaged still? 1003 00:29:52,174 --> 00:29:52,984 Are you married? 1004 00:29:53,217 --> 00:29:54,807 Does his ex still come around? 1005 00:29:55,065 --> 00:29:56,795 What is his relationship with the ex? 1006 00:29:57,071 --> 00:29:58,955 What is his relationship with his mom? 1007 00:29:58,985 --> 00:30:01,213 Is, is he like setting up a boundary? 1008 00:30:01,417 --> 00:30:02,363 Because that's weird to me 1009 00:30:02,363 --> 00:30:03,023 that the mother-in-law's 1010 00:30:03,023 --> 00:30:04,463 going on vacation with her. 1011 00:30:04,918 --> 00:30:06,240 That's, very inappropriate to me. 1012 00:30:06,580 --> 00:30:06,880 Okay. 1013 00:30:07,067 --> 00:30:09,204 Mother-in-law started a group chat 1014 00:30:09,264 --> 00:30:11,124 telling everyone we were engaged, 1015 00:30:11,124 --> 00:30:14,073 but didn't include me, only my groom. 1016 00:30:14,413 --> 00:30:15,626 Was that intentional or 1017 00:30:15,626 --> 00:30:17,306 was that like an accident? 1018 00:30:17,610 --> 00:30:18,834 Because there's been times where like 1019 00:30:19,100 --> 00:30:20,804 my husband's included in a group chat or 1020 00:30:20,804 --> 00:30:23,204 I am and the other isn't included, and 1021 00:30:23,459 --> 00:30:24,689 you talk to them later and they either 1022 00:30:24,689 --> 00:30:26,249 are like, oh, I didn't mean to do that. 1023 00:30:26,249 --> 00:30:28,482 Or, it was for a different reason. 1024 00:30:28,482 --> 00:30:30,049 Or, I don't know, like, maybe it's not 1025 00:30:30,049 --> 00:30:31,922 that deep, but maybe it is that deep. 1026 00:30:32,159 --> 00:30:32,566 I don't know. 1027 00:30:32,869 --> 00:30:34,107 It is weird to not include the 1028 00:30:34,107 --> 00:30:36,864 bride in a text about her wedding. 1029 00:30:37,212 --> 00:30:38,796 That's like the one where the 1030 00:30:38,796 --> 00:30:40,836 mother-in-law posted photos. 1031 00:30:41,214 --> 00:30:43,224 I think it was from their engagement 1032 00:30:43,566 --> 00:30:46,091 and then, purposely like, what was it? 1033 00:30:46,211 --> 00:30:49,374 She, I think either cropped out the bride. 1034 00:30:49,952 --> 00:30:52,197 No, she cropped out the bride and 1035 00:30:52,197 --> 00:30:53,877 then only tagged the son in the 1036 00:30:53,877 --> 00:30:56,144 photos, so that was intentional. 1037 00:30:56,673 --> 00:30:56,941 Okay. 1038 00:30:56,941 --> 00:30:59,255 This last one says, I knew he was going to 1039 00:30:59,255 --> 00:31:02,028 propose, but he still doesn't know that. 1040 00:31:02,261 --> 00:31:03,915 Married for four years 1041 00:31:03,915 --> 00:31:06,046 with two kids." Okay. 1042 00:31:06,046 --> 00:31:09,616 Why was I, okay, tell me why I read that. 1043 00:31:09,616 --> 00:31:11,520 Like he doesn't know that I've been 1044 00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:13,170 married for four years with two kids. 1045 00:31:14,038 --> 00:31:15,676 I've been reading too many like crazy 1046 00:31:15,676 --> 00:31:17,296 confessions that I was literally 1047 00:31:17,296 --> 00:31:18,656 thought she was confessing to us a 1048 00:31:18,656 --> 00:31:20,289 deep, dark secret that she's been 1049 00:31:20,289 --> 00:31:21,154 married for four years with two kids. 1050 00:31:21,184 --> 00:31:21,474 Okay. 1051 00:31:22,014 --> 00:31:24,284 She knew that he was going to propose, 1052 00:31:24,284 --> 00:31:26,461 like she, somehow the secret was out. 1053 00:31:26,491 --> 00:31:28,880 She knew that he was gonna propose and 1054 00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:30,080 she's not telling him four years later 1055 00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:32,126 with two kids, all right, I got you. 1056 00:31:32,199 --> 00:31:32,786 I got you. 1057 00:31:33,079 --> 00:31:33,993 That's not that wild. 1058 00:31:33,993 --> 00:31:35,313 I think that probably happens a lot. 1059 00:31:35,313 --> 00:31:36,093 You want them to feel good 1060 00:31:36,093 --> 00:31:37,533 about their surprise, so 1061 00:31:37,533 --> 00:31:38,673 you're not gonna say anything. 1062 00:31:38,903 --> 00:31:40,479 like I've talked about before, I knew 1063 00:31:40,479 --> 00:31:41,949 like we were gonna get engaged soon. 1064 00:31:41,949 --> 00:31:42,699 I didn't know when it was gonna 1065 00:31:42,699 --> 00:31:44,049 happen, so I was completely 1066 00:31:44,049 --> 00:31:45,609 surprised when it did happen. 1067 00:31:45,968 --> 00:31:48,111 But I wasn't like, whoa, we've 1068 00:31:48,111 --> 00:31:49,311 never talked about marriage before. 1069 00:31:49,311 --> 00:31:49,911 This is weird. 1070 00:31:50,262 --> 00:31:51,595 So I knew it was kind of coming. 1071 00:31:51,915 --> 00:31:52,305 yeah. 1072 00:31:52,335 --> 00:31:53,355 Well, thanks guys. 1073 00:31:53,355 --> 00:31:55,875 Those were some pretty wild stories today. 1074 00:31:56,106 --> 00:31:58,208 As always, if you want more content 1075 00:31:58,208 --> 00:32:00,004 or more crazy stories, join my 1076 00:32:00,004 --> 00:32:02,037 email newsletter We send out emails 1077 00:32:02,037 --> 00:32:03,734 every single Thursday and we like 1078 00:32:03,734 --> 00:32:05,024 to call them stories from the Vault. 1079 00:32:05,024 --> 00:32:06,344 So you'll get some other stories 1080 00:32:06,344 --> 00:32:08,324 that we don't share anywhere else. 1081 00:32:08,354 --> 00:32:09,734 'cause I get so many 1082 00:32:09,734 --> 00:32:11,254 stories, every single week. 1083 00:32:11,254 --> 00:32:13,539 Like now there's probably 400 plus. 1084 00:32:13,734 --> 00:32:14,597 I don't even know, I haven't looked 1085 00:32:14,597 --> 00:32:15,917 at the full doc in a long time. 1086 00:32:16,177 --> 00:32:20,027 stories and situations and segments and 1087 00:32:20,027 --> 00:32:21,707 questions that have been sent to me, 1088 00:32:21,963 --> 00:32:23,143 we're just working on their way out. 1089 00:32:23,173 --> 00:32:24,593 So, lots of different. 1090 00:32:24,858 --> 00:32:26,278 Ways and places that I'm 1091 00:32:26,278 --> 00:32:27,178 sharing them right now. 1092 00:32:27,474 --> 00:32:28,738 So thank you guys for listening. 1093 00:32:28,981 --> 00:32:31,012 And you guys, I think I just had 1094 00:32:31,012 --> 00:32:32,798 like a complete, like brain burst. 1095 00:32:33,046 --> 00:32:34,131 I've been like, I feel like I've 1096 00:32:34,131 --> 00:32:36,241 been pulled in so many directions. 1097 00:32:36,901 --> 00:32:38,161 I think we all feel that. 1098 00:32:38,313 --> 00:32:39,672 I don't know what's going on, but 1099 00:32:39,672 --> 00:32:41,262 there's just so much going on right now 1100 00:32:41,491 --> 00:32:43,042 that my brain sometimes is just like, 1101 00:32:43,042 --> 00:32:46,026 I completely just had a brain pause. 1102 00:32:46,026 --> 00:32:46,506 I don't even know what you 1103 00:32:46,506 --> 00:32:47,611 wanna call it, All right guys. 1104 00:32:47,611 --> 00:32:48,991 That's all I have this week. 1105 00:32:49,141 --> 00:32:50,371 Thanks for hanging out with me. 1106 00:32:50,570 --> 00:32:51,264 Don't forget, you now 1107 00:32:51,264 --> 00:32:52,824 order my brand new book. 1108 00:32:52,824 --> 00:32:54,474 I guess it's not brand new anymore, 1109 00:32:54,504 --> 00:32:55,704 but you could order my book. 1110 00:32:55,704 --> 00:32:56,424 Here comes the Drama 1111 00:32:56,424 --> 00:32:57,654 Affairs and Sloan story. 1112 00:32:57,821 --> 00:33:00,188 Amazon Cobo, Barnes and Noble, 1113 00:33:00,188 --> 00:33:02,138 Ingram Spark and many other places. 1114 00:33:02,138 --> 00:33:03,728 The details are in the show notes. 1115 00:33:03,936 --> 00:33:05,802 I'm currently working on book number two, 1116 00:33:05,802 --> 00:33:07,392 so that's been a 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