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Hi Cora.

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Hi

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Krista.

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Thank you so much for coming back on.

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I'm so excited.

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Thanks for having me back.

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I feel like it's such an honor to be

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on more than once, so super excited.

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I feel like we just had so much fun last

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time we were just talking and it was like,

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old friends hanging out and we read crazy

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stories and just we wanna spill more tea.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I'm excited to spill with you

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or hopefully hear more tea.

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I feel like the stories we

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covered were crazy last time.

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Yes.

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So can't wait.

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Yeah.

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well I'm so excited to have you back on.

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I know I just said that, but I feel like

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last time it just like flew so well.

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and what's new for anyone

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that I did not listen to?

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Last episode When you came on, what's new?

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Who are you?

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Tell us about yourself.

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Yeah, so a lot has changed

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since I was last on.

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I feel like I have a new name,

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new life, which is crazy.

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So I think last time we were together

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I was still in the Bay Area, just

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like kind of having my life implode.

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my divorce was kind of just starting

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and now I'm six months in it.

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I'm living on my own for

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the first time in my life.

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I have two dogs and I think

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we got connected on TikTok.

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So I primarily post on TikTok, which

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is maybe how my audience knows me.

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And I first went viral there for a

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wedding story time that maybe could

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have been featured on this show.

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and maybe it was an omen for the

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marriage working out, but you

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know, to give me a whole new.

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Career and, a lot of great

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relationships like with you, so, yeah.

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yeah.

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It's funny all the stories that get

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sent to me and like, I always wanna do

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like, follow up segments with people

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too, to be like, I feel like yours.

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What had to do more with

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like, bridesmaids, right.

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And like a friend fallout.

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But like, a lot of times when I like

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hear about these crazy, like in-law

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stories that are sent to me, I'm

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like, I wanna follow up with people

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and be like, did the marriage work?

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Sometimes they tell me like, oh, this is

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my ex-husband story, or This is my ex we

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never made it down the aisle or something.

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' cause I'm like, some of these stories

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are so insane where I'm like, how could

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you put up with that for a marriage?

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Knowing your in-laws hate you,

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or a sister-in-law hates you?

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that sounds like hell to me.

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That sounds terrible.

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And I mean, people are sneaky and I

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feel like, yeah, you just never know.

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having those signs before they

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even walk down the aisle, it's

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only gonna progressively get worse.

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So I agree.

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I wanna hear the updates.

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So anyone listening, give

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us the updates your lives.

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I know I've had a couple like

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brides come on and let me

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like, ask them any questions.

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and spill some stuff.

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but it was funny, one time someone came

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on and, she was like, yeah, things are,

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better than like where they left off.

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And then we like hung up where

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we stopped recording and she was

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honestly, like things are like

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getting kind of worse again.

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But like, I don't wanna say

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anything yet because I'm not sure.

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I'm like, oh my gosh.

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what is going on?

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Like there's just, I don't know, people

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deal with a lot of stuff in relationships.

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You never know what's going

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on behind closed doors.

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toe that fine line 'cause I've been

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talking about my divorce publicly, but

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I obviously haven't said the actual

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reasons publicly because you know,

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there's a fine line with creators, but

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BI think it's like, I don't wanna make

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anyone,  I guess like second guess things

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going on in their relationships because

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you just never know what's happening.

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And even like the little tidbits

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I've shared, it is crazy.

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Like the dms I'll get of like, oh

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my gosh, I've been through that too.

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and on paper they look so happy.

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Or I'll get messages from, you know,

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people with all their wedding pictures

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and they look so in love and they

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send me the craziest confessions.

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I'm like, oh my gosh.

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So if you're ever comparing yourself

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to anyone, like you really just

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can't because there's a reason why

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50% of marriages end in divorce.

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You just never know what's going on.

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And I think that's especially important

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for me being 31 now and kind of starting

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my life over, like I want women to see

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my story and see other women that maybe,

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aren't where they thought they'd be in

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life and feel encouraged because it's

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such a beautiful chance to start over.

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And also, like you just never know

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what you're comparing yourself to.

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You're only looking at the most

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glamorized version of people's lives

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online, and sometimes it can be

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really easy to fall into that trap.

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So yeah, it is really crazy

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what that people don't share.

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But when they do share.

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Yes, I know.

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It's like that social media comparison

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game of like, you never really know

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what lives people are living because

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they wanna put up a facade or like,

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they just want things to look pretty.

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times, like people are shocked with like

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celebrity divorces or celebrity breakups

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because they're like, they look so perfect

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and beautiful and like blah, blah blah.

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seeing them as like a celebrity.

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know, we're seeing them in a movie

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or we're seeing them on a red carpet.

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We're not like in their home.

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So we're not, we're only seeing

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what they wanna put out, you know?

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Are we gonna talk about

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Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban?

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I was actually thinking that when I

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first said that, I was like, what?

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Because they're like the og.

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They've together

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a while.

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I know, I don't know when this

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is gonna air, but in real time

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this is like breaking of like

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all the details coming out.

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I can't believe it.

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That's a great example.

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You just never know what's

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going on behind the scenes.

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They seemed so in love

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and dang, I'm shocked.

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I thought nothing would shock me anymore.

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But because I feel like in celebrity

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or Hollywood years, even 10 years, even

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five years sometimes is like in celebrity

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marriages, that's like a long time.

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'cause it just happened so quickly.

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So they were going on 20 years almost.

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so have you heard anything

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else like about it?

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Like details come out.

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There's allegedly the Nashville

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community is saying there's allegedly

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another woman that is involved.

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I don't know how true that is,

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but I guess we'll find out more.

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It seems like day by day, but

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so today as we're filming Nicole

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filed, which is interesting.

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So I think details are to

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come, but I can't believe it.

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It's so sad.

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Yeah, I know it.

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I had to take a double take.

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there was just another celebrity

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divorce, I feel like, where there

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was, oh, not divorce, a breakup.

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Sean White and

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yes.

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I just saw that last week.

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And there's all these cheating

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rumors about like he's like

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dealt with cheating in the past.

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but now all these things are coming out.

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But again, this is all a legend.

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I don't know, a legend, but

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all the players listening.

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couple to me because I remember hearing

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things about him years ago that he

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was kind of like, full of himself.

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stuff, So I've definitely heard some

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interesting stories about him as well.

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What  man Who fumbles Nina Dore,  you

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know, no matter what happened, it's

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like, I know she seems amazing.

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She's so successful.

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Gorgeous, so funny.

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Yeah, that one shocked me too.

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Yeah, it's true.

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Well, and then I just, I saw a post

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of her, she was like on a boat with

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like miles teller and like Zach

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Efron and someone else, and I was

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like, okay, she's good, she's fine.

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You know what I find more interesting

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than the breakups is like the friend

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breakups, and I don't know if there's

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any substance there, but speaking

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of the tellers, and we have Taylor

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Swift's album coming out on Friday.

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What's going on there?

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What happened to Kelly Tellers?

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I don't know.

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They're just like, maybe they are.

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But I've been thinking about that

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because Taylor's obviously engaged.

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Mm-hmm.

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Which was

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another shock.

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I feel like we could just do a top

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five wedding stories on this episode.

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I swear so much is happening.

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But I've been thinking about who

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Taylor Swift bridesmaids would be,

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and they were super close at one

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point and now never see them together.

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And like Yeah.

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I feel like Kelly would always

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post music in her tiktoks.

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Mm-hmm.

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Now, no, he was even

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in one of her music videos.

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Yes.

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Yes, she was.

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Yeah.

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Miles was too.

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So I'm like, what?

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What's the T there?

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That's what I wanna know.

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Yeah, I find that interesting too.

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well, and then the whole, like

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her and Blake Lively aren't

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friends anymore, which is wild.

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But also I feel like, I don't know,

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it's like once they get so big, it's.

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They all have to have these

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really big egos probably.

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And it's just like, don't cross me.

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I don't know, like, and then the lawyers

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get involved and it's messy and I'm sure

296
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there's a lot of like secret friendships

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too that we don't know about because they

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just know the paparazzi's gonna talk or

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media's gonna talk and maybe there's some

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that they wanna preserve to themselves.

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Yeah.

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Protect your peace.

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Yeah, I completely understand that.

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Yeah.

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I feel like the tellers in particular

306
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are really good at like from what

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we see publicly, having those really

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good, substantial relationships.

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And they seem like they're good

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friends, so love that they're

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protecting Nina during this time.

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But yeah, that was a crazy one too.

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Yeah.

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I mean, better, I don't know your opinion

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on this, but I feel like it's better

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to cut it off before the engagement if

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something's going wrong than too late.

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And I think when you are.

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Yeah, just for, not even celebrity wise,

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but normal person wise, it's so hard when

321
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financially you have so much involved

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in a wedding and you're like, oh my

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gosh, I have to see this through, even

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though I don't think it's gonna work.

325
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And yeah, it's kind of sad.

326
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Yeah.

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I've heard so many stories, like some have

328
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been sent to me that are like, they saw

329
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all the red flags during the engagement

330
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and the wedding planning, but then

331
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they felt like they had to keep going.

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not necessarily just

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to like prove a point.

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But they were like, we put money in

335
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already, so like we just have to do it.

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But like the one skit, which again,

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by the time this comes out, I might

338
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be done with this skit, but this one

339
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skit I'm doing right now, it's so long

340
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because of the story that was sent to

341
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me and it's like super toxic in-laws.

342
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Like I'm talking the dad bought wedding

343
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dresses for the bride to try on from

344
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Amazon, and she was like, already

345
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said no, like, I'm going with my mom.

346
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And he's like, but these are

347
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cheaper, they're more affordable.

348
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she's like, I never said I need

349
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your help with a wedding dress.

350
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And then the mom paid for the venue

351
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without talking to them first.

352
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Oh.

353
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So all this stuff, and I'm just

354
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thinking, I'm like, how do you

355
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deal with something like that?

356
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I can't even imagine at

357
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least people keep commenting.

358
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Like, they've gotta cancel the wedding,

359
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they've gotta cancel the wedding, but

360
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in the actual story, they get married.

361
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So I can only imagine what happens after.

362
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You I don't know, we hear all

363
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these stories growing up, it's like

364
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Disney and all these, you know.

365
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Things like that, where

366
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it's the happily ever after.

367
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So we think you get to the marriage and

368
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that's the finish line, but it's like,

369
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no, that's when your life continues or

370
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starts, or there's so much more after

371
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it, and I feel like we're just, yeah.

372
00:11:00,272 --> 00:11:02,852
Oh, like zoned.

373
00:11:03,137 --> 00:11:03,767
Yeah.

374
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Oh my gosh.

375
00:11:05,197 --> 00:11:06,907
I mean, that is scary.

376
00:11:06,907 --> 00:11:08,497
I feel like it just gets

377
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worse too when you have kids.

378
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I'm sure  if they're already poking

379
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the bear and kind of trying to

380
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assert what their boundaries are.

381
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Like once those people become

382
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grandparents, oh my gosh, you're kind of

383
00:11:20,234 --> 00:11:23,527
locked in and Yeah, man, I don't know.

384
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I feel like you marry your

385
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in-laws and that's something

386
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that's not talked about enough.

387
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And yeah, if your spouse is not

388
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setting those boundaries with them,

389
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like, I mean, everyone has different

390
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boundaries, but you kind of have to

391
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gauge your comfortability with that.

392
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And I feel like I hear a lot of

393
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stories of men that don't protect

394
00:11:39,835 --> 00:11:41,425
their wives with their in-laws.

395
00:11:41,425 --> 00:11:42,392
I mean mm-hmm.

396
00:11:42,392 --> 00:11:43,742
We all know some of my lore,

397
00:11:43,907 --> 00:11:47,197
but  crazy what people think

398
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is appropriate and what isn't.

399
00:11:48,997 --> 00:11:49,537
Mm-hmm.

400
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Yeah.

401
00:11:50,357 --> 00:11:52,567
And it's like if you don't put boundaries

402
00:11:52,567 --> 00:11:54,430
in place ahead of time, then they

403
00:11:54,430 --> 00:11:56,229
keep sneaking in or it's, what's that

404
00:11:56,229 --> 00:11:57,873
phrase where it's like if you give

405
00:11:57,873 --> 00:11:59,523
them an inch, they'll take a mile.

406
00:11:59,659 --> 00:12:00,113
Right.

407
00:12:00,113 --> 00:12:01,950
So it's like you say yes to things here

408
00:12:01,950 --> 00:12:03,754
and there, we see it time and time again.

409
00:12:03,754 --> 00:12:03,994
But yeah.

410
00:12:03,994 --> 00:12:05,044
You bring up a good point too.

411
00:12:05,044 --> 00:12:07,444
It's like once babies come, if they

412
00:12:07,444 --> 00:12:09,587
choose to have kids, then that's a

413
00:12:09,587 --> 00:12:11,627
whole, like if they were badgering

414
00:12:11,627 --> 00:12:13,517
wedding planning, just imagine when you

415
00:12:13,517 --> 00:12:16,990
create a life that has their DNA Yeah.

416
00:12:17,020 --> 00:12:17,650
They think they have

417
00:12:17,650 --> 00:12:19,570
a right to that child.

418
00:12:19,990 --> 00:12:20,560
It's wild.

419
00:12:21,370 --> 00:12:21,430
Yeah.

420
00:12:21,817 --> 00:12:23,514
I feel like something I've really learned

421
00:12:23,514 --> 00:12:26,004
just through this last year and through

422
00:12:26,004 --> 00:12:27,924
my own, I guess I'm in like my, not

423
00:12:27,924 --> 00:12:29,634
to sound woowoo, but like my healing

424
00:12:29,634 --> 00:12:31,314
journey, just actively going through a

425
00:12:31,314 --> 00:12:33,551
divorce and I think it's really opened

426
00:12:33,551 --> 00:12:35,577
my eyes  to the fact that a lot of

427
00:12:35,577 --> 00:12:37,767
people wanna be married, but they're not

428
00:12:37,767 --> 00:12:40,197
necessarily ready for what marriage is.

429
00:12:40,197 --> 00:12:43,337
And I think generationally as well,

430
00:12:43,337 --> 00:12:45,227
that can apply to your in-laws, right?

431
00:12:45,227 --> 00:12:47,417
Like how things were done 20, 30,

432
00:12:47,417 --> 00:12:50,777
40 years ago isn't acceptable now.

433
00:12:50,837 --> 00:12:51,407
Right.

434
00:12:51,407 --> 00:12:53,900
And it's about setting the foundation

435
00:12:53,930 --> 00:12:57,027
well because the person that you marry

436
00:12:57,027 --> 00:12:59,667
is going to see your parents die.

437
00:12:59,820 --> 00:13:00,317
They're gonna see the

438
00:13:00,317 --> 00:13:01,907
worst days of your life.

439
00:13:02,007 --> 00:13:03,890
there's like just so many things

440
00:13:03,890 --> 00:13:05,540
that happen, like so many seasons

441
00:13:05,540 --> 00:13:07,010
of life that they're supposed to be.

442
00:13:07,260 --> 00:13:08,927
They're with you for, and it's

443
00:13:08,927 --> 00:13:10,817
kind of crazy that I think a lot of

444
00:13:10,817 --> 00:13:12,647
people just wanna check the box of

445
00:13:12,737 --> 00:13:14,027
saying they're married, so they're

446
00:13:14,027 --> 00:13:15,017
like, oh my God, I don't have to

447
00:13:15,017 --> 00:13:17,237
do this anymore, rather than really

448
00:13:17,237 --> 00:13:19,667
committing to what a marriage is and

449
00:13:19,667 --> 00:13:20,057
mm-hmm.

450
00:13:20,304 --> 00:13:22,044
I mean, yeah, I just, the confessions

451
00:13:22,044 --> 00:13:24,281
I get too, it's like I really

452
00:13:24,443 --> 00:13:25,891
don't wanna tell people what to do

453
00:13:25,891 --> 00:13:27,721
'cause I only see a limited view

454
00:13:27,721 --> 00:13:29,627
of what's happening, but Right.

455
00:13:29,721 --> 00:13:31,221
I would be comfortable with certain

456
00:13:31,221 --> 00:13:33,351
situations that I hear about.

457
00:13:33,507 --> 00:13:33,687
Yeah.

458
00:13:33,687 --> 00:13:35,277
And you bring up a good point about

459
00:13:35,277 --> 00:13:38,400
like what was okay or maybe like people

460
00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:40,560
allowed more and our parents generation

461
00:13:40,560 --> 00:13:42,834
is not okay now I think a lot more of us

462
00:13:42,834 --> 00:13:44,544
are looking for more equal partnership

463
00:13:44,774 --> 00:13:46,884
and if they come from a more traditional

464
00:13:46,884 --> 00:13:48,444
background where it's like, maybe it

465
00:13:48,444 --> 00:13:50,690
was the mom stayed home and the dad went

466
00:13:50,690 --> 00:13:53,654
to work and, she's expected to clean,

467
00:13:53,654 --> 00:13:55,514
you know, do his laundry and do all the

468
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dishes and do all that and cook and maybe.

469
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That's not what their life looks like.

470
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I see that all the time where it's like,

471
00:14:01,875 --> 00:14:04,261
you see people post about well, I work

472
00:14:04,261 --> 00:14:05,761
a full-time job and my husband does,

473
00:14:05,761 --> 00:14:07,631
so like we should split the home stuff.

474
00:14:07,631 --> 00:14:09,220
And that is like a whole thing that

475
00:14:09,433 --> 00:14:10,736
the older generation doesn't get.

476
00:14:10,736 --> 00:14:11,336
'cause they're like, well

477
00:14:11,336 --> 00:14:12,973
no, that's not her job.

478
00:14:12,973 --> 00:14:13,873
Her job is this.

479
00:14:13,873 --> 00:14:14,293
You know?

480
00:14:14,396 --> 00:14:15,111
and that's hard for people

481
00:14:15,111 --> 00:14:16,036
to come to terms with,

482
00:14:16,283 --> 00:14:18,418
and especially with a situation with

483
00:14:18,568 --> 00:14:20,294
maybe in-laws that don't respect your

484
00:14:20,294 --> 00:14:23,264
boundaries, it's like, oh my gosh,

485
00:14:23,264 --> 00:14:25,394
it makes everything amplified when

486
00:14:25,394 --> 00:14:27,721
they're making things 10 times worse by

487
00:14:27,721 --> 00:14:29,371
asserting those opinions if there are

488
00:14:29,371 --> 00:14:31,351
those fractures in your relationship.

489
00:14:31,351 --> 00:14:34,174
So yeah, I can't even imagine.

490
00:14:34,343 --> 00:14:35,978
Glad I'm not dealing with that

491
00:14:35,978 --> 00:14:37,719
right now, but Thinking about

492
00:14:37,719 --> 00:14:39,249
that for the next phase of life?

493
00:14:39,249 --> 00:14:39,879
For sure.

494
00:14:40,209 --> 00:14:41,883
Yes, definitely things

495
00:14:41,913 --> 00:14:43,245
you can look out for.

496
00:14:43,335 --> 00:14:45,142
It's like, I will say, and again,

497
00:14:45,142 --> 00:14:47,432
people change  sometimes unluckily,

498
00:14:47,432 --> 00:14:48,752
like once you get married or like

499
00:14:48,752 --> 00:14:49,982
as you date people and stuff.

500
00:14:49,982 --> 00:14:51,032
I will say my in-laws

501
00:14:51,032 --> 00:14:52,472
have always been amazing.

502
00:14:52,698 --> 00:14:54,712
I met them within a, I wanna say like the

503
00:14:54,712 --> 00:14:56,632
first five days of meeting my husband.

504
00:14:56,868 --> 00:14:57,218
What?

505
00:14:57,625 --> 00:14:58,075
yeah.

506
00:14:58,232 --> 00:14:59,882
he was like so excited and they

507
00:14:59,882 --> 00:15:00,962
were like having like people

508
00:15:00,962 --> 00:15:02,522
over for a barbecue anyway.

509
00:15:02,522 --> 00:15:04,795
And he like brought me there and, I

510
00:15:04,795 --> 00:15:05,905
don't know, I was never used to like

511
00:15:05,905 --> 00:15:07,320
parents like his, like, they were just

512
00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:09,874
so like, interested in like, getting

513
00:15:09,874 --> 00:15:11,854
to know me and they were like so

514
00:15:11,854 --> 00:15:14,037
welcoming and they were like, right

515
00:15:14,037 --> 00:15:15,427
off the bat were just really cool.

516
00:15:15,427 --> 00:15:16,777
I got really lucky.

517
00:15:17,050 --> 00:15:18,627
So when I read these stories,

518
00:15:18,627 --> 00:15:20,129
I'm just like, I don't know.

519
00:15:20,196 --> 00:15:20,886
that's why I can't

520
00:15:20,886 --> 00:15:22,326
comprehend how people like.

521
00:15:22,526 --> 00:15:25,068
Stay with someone with terrible, in-laws.

522
00:15:25,265 --> 00:15:26,546
' I'm not confrontational.

523
00:15:26,546 --> 00:15:27,863
Like I can feel tension

524
00:15:27,863 --> 00:15:28,793
when it's like bad.

525
00:15:28,793 --> 00:15:29,963
I just don't like it.

526
00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:31,546
And so if every time I had to

527
00:15:31,546 --> 00:15:33,122
go like see my in-laws and I

528
00:15:33,122 --> 00:15:34,052
was like, oh, they hate me.

529
00:15:34,052 --> 00:15:35,467
Like,  I couldn't imagine

530
00:15:35,674 --> 00:15:36,587
that would be Yeah.

531
00:15:36,827 --> 00:15:37,597
So uncomfortable.

532
00:15:37,757 --> 00:15:39,734
I feel for his brides and

533
00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:40,347
Right.

534
00:15:40,559 --> 00:15:42,652
It's always the guys that bring nothing

535
00:15:42,652 --> 00:15:45,052
to the table that have the worst parents.

536
00:15:45,052 --> 00:15:46,102
You're like, what?

537
00:15:46,162 --> 00:15:47,795
Like you'll hear these stories

538
00:15:47,885 --> 00:15:48,725
Andre, their whole life.

539
00:15:48,927 --> 00:15:49,262
Yeah.

540
00:15:49,312 --> 00:15:51,115
what did they bring to the relationship?

541
00:15:51,115 --> 00:15:52,375
It sounds like you're doing everything.

542
00:15:53,245 --> 00:15:53,665
Yes.

543
00:15:53,871 --> 00:15:54,739
They did their laundry

544
00:15:54,739 --> 00:15:56,569
till he was 28 or whatever.

545
00:15:58,039 --> 00:15:59,179
Exactly.

546
00:15:59,179 --> 00:16:00,109
Exactly.

547
00:16:00,109 --> 00:16:00,499
Oh my gosh.

548
00:16:00,919 --> 00:16:02,676
I feel like I heard a really good

549
00:16:02,676 --> 00:16:04,386
saying on TikTok where it was like every

550
00:16:04,386 --> 00:16:06,406
relationship, there's a season where

551
00:16:06,406 --> 00:16:08,386
there you have to be like the gardener

552
00:16:08,386 --> 00:16:11,615
or the rose and the roles can change.

553
00:16:11,775 --> 00:16:12,784
And I feel like that's a really

554
00:16:12,784 --> 00:16:14,524
big thing in relationships that

555
00:16:14,524 --> 00:16:16,174
I'm definitely looking forward to.

556
00:16:16,206 --> 00:16:18,107
It's like in some seasons of life,

557
00:16:18,107 --> 00:16:20,544
you're fully the gardener and maybe

558
00:16:20,544 --> 00:16:22,104
someone else needs more support, but

559
00:16:22,104 --> 00:16:24,204
it's the ability to shift those roles

560
00:16:24,204 --> 00:16:26,164
and have the flexibility to shift those

561
00:16:26,164 --> 00:16:27,604
roles that I think is so important.

562
00:16:29,177 --> 00:16:30,337
I think it's possible.

563
00:16:30,337 --> 00:16:31,727
And I just wanna encourage anyone

564
00:16:31,727 --> 00:16:33,587
listening that maybe you've been through

565
00:16:33,733 --> 00:16:36,333
a broken engagement or a divorce.

566
00:16:36,333 --> 00:16:38,713
There's resilience and positivity and so

567
00:16:38,713 --> 00:16:40,270
much growth that happens through that.

568
00:16:40,270 --> 00:16:42,232
And I feel like this has been like

569
00:16:42,232 --> 00:16:43,965
the hardest six months of my life,

570
00:16:43,965 --> 00:16:45,225
and like the loneliest, but it's

571
00:16:45,225 --> 00:16:47,115
also been the most growth, right?

572
00:16:47,115 --> 00:16:47,985
Like, I think

573
00:16:48,143 --> 00:16:49,727
When I was married, I almost felt

574
00:16:49,727 --> 00:16:52,247
like I, it was like six months or six

575
00:16:52,247 --> 00:16:54,349
years of just like, wanting change

576
00:16:54,349 --> 00:16:56,829
and wanting, my life to change should

577
00:16:56,829 --> 00:16:58,839
be different and just feeling stuck.

578
00:16:58,987 --> 00:17:00,352
And in the six months, I feel like

579
00:17:00,352 --> 00:17:02,292
I've grown more than I have in the

580
00:17:02,292 --> 00:17:04,752
last six years, which is insane.

581
00:17:04,752 --> 00:17:08,625
So, can develop and grow and change

582
00:17:08,625 --> 00:17:10,245
and maybe things don't work out, but

583
00:17:10,245 --> 00:17:11,925
there's still lessons out of that and

584
00:17:11,925 --> 00:17:13,785
there's love on the other side of that.

585
00:17:14,216 --> 00:17:16,175
It's great, and I'm surprised,

586
00:17:16,175 --> 00:17:18,088
like I feel like I was really

587
00:17:18,088 --> 00:17:19,558
scared to start dating again.

588
00:17:19,558 --> 00:17:21,778
I'm definitely very lightly looking

589
00:17:21,808 --> 00:17:23,188
like, not like actively seeing

590
00:17:23,188 --> 00:17:24,891
anyone, but I thought people would

591
00:17:24,891 --> 00:17:27,441
judge me so much for being divorced.

592
00:17:27,601 --> 00:17:29,851
And it's literally like doesn't even

593
00:17:29,851 --> 00:17:31,966
phase guys, they're just like, oh, okay.

594
00:17:31,967 --> 00:17:34,715
Like, which I was really surprised by.

595
00:17:34,715 --> 00:17:37,275
So if anyone's like thinking about

596
00:17:37,275 --> 00:17:38,445
it or they're like, oh my God, I

597
00:17:38,445 --> 00:17:39,585
don't know, like I kind of want

598
00:17:39,585 --> 00:17:41,385
a divorce, but I'm too scared.

599
00:17:41,385 --> 00:17:43,211
It's like, it's actually not as

600
00:17:43,211 --> 00:17:44,321
bad as I thought it would be.

601
00:17:44,321 --> 00:17:46,421
On the other side, it's like hard.

602
00:17:46,421 --> 00:17:48,701
But dating wise, I've been

603
00:17:48,701 --> 00:17:49,991
very pleasantly surprise

604
00:17:50,195 --> 00:17:50,521
Good.

605
00:17:50,521 --> 00:17:51,631
I'm sure you're like learning a lot

606
00:17:51,631 --> 00:17:53,191
about yourself too, especially like

607
00:17:53,191 --> 00:17:55,278
first time living alone, and I feel

608
00:17:55,278 --> 00:17:57,421
like a lot of times we like move from

609
00:17:57,421 --> 00:17:58,831
one thing to the next without really

610
00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:00,920
absorbing like, is this making me happy

611
00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:03,653
or do I wanna do something different?

612
00:18:03,713 --> 00:18:04,928
And we just kinda like you said

613
00:18:04,928 --> 00:18:06,368
earlier, like check the boxes.

614
00:18:06,368 --> 00:18:07,971
And so I'm sure you're like really

615
00:18:07,971 --> 00:18:09,351
able to like, ask yourself those

616
00:18:09,351 --> 00:18:11,588
questions and be like, I'm just in

617
00:18:11,588 --> 00:18:13,651
your era of learning about myself

618
00:18:13,651 --> 00:18:16,041
and what actually is important to me?

619
00:18:16,357 --> 00:18:16,778
Yeah.

620
00:18:16,838 --> 00:18:17,348
Yeah.

621
00:18:17,686 --> 00:18:20,476
have a crystal clear definition of what

622
00:18:20,476 --> 00:18:23,833
I want in a partner and I'm just not

623
00:18:23,833 --> 00:18:25,813
gonna settle for anything less than that.

624
00:18:25,813 --> 00:18:28,223
And I think as women we naturally

625
00:18:28,399 --> 00:18:30,053
talk ourselves out of things or we've,

626
00:18:30,053 --> 00:18:32,153
been coached to kind of like settle

627
00:18:32,153 --> 00:18:34,073
for things and it's like we really

628
00:18:34,073 --> 00:18:36,863
don't need to, we're so multifaceted,

629
00:18:36,863 --> 00:18:38,633
we're so successful on our own.

630
00:18:38,954 --> 00:18:41,039
A man should only add value to your life

631
00:18:41,039 --> 00:18:43,259
and should add to your life, period.

632
00:18:43,259 --> 00:18:44,789
He shouldn't detract from be

633
00:18:44,789 --> 00:18:46,289
sucking your life force out.

634
00:18:46,289 --> 00:18:46,739
Right.

635
00:18:46,739 --> 00:18:47,327
And mm-hmm.

636
00:18:47,339 --> 00:18:48,629
Especially when they're the

637
00:18:48,629 --> 00:18:50,039
father of your children.

638
00:18:50,069 --> 00:18:52,229
That's gonna be especially critical

639
00:18:52,259 --> 00:18:53,579
because it's those make or break

640
00:18:53,579 --> 00:18:55,349
moments in life that like you're

641
00:18:55,349 --> 00:18:57,445
really gonna see who they are.

642
00:18:57,592 --> 00:18:59,829
And so yeah, I feel like I'm really

643
00:18:59,829 --> 00:19:01,389
crystal clear on what I want in a

644
00:19:01,389 --> 00:19:03,532
partner and I feel like before I

645
00:19:03,532 --> 00:19:05,032
was like, maybe I want this, maybe

646
00:19:05,032 --> 00:19:06,982
I want that, maybe I'll be flexible.

647
00:19:06,982 --> 00:19:08,152
And I'm like, no, I can

648
00:19:08,152 --> 00:19:09,832
provide that for myself and

649
00:19:09,837 --> 00:19:10,077
mm-hmm.

650
00:19:10,372 --> 00:19:10,522
I

651
00:19:10,522 --> 00:19:12,622
want a man to be welcome addition

652
00:19:12,712 --> 00:19:14,872
to my life, not to provide

653
00:19:15,022 --> 00:19:17,245
something for me, for my life, Yeah.

654
00:19:17,245 --> 00:19:18,985
That alone is such a big lesson

655
00:19:18,985 --> 00:19:21,105
that made it all worth it, I guess.

656
00:19:21,292 --> 00:19:21,505
Yeah.

657
00:19:21,505 --> 00:19:23,695
I feel like all along we were taught, like

658
00:19:23,695 --> 00:19:26,185
growing up to look for the wrong things.

659
00:19:26,420 --> 00:19:28,370
And not, maybe that's a little

660
00:19:28,370 --> 00:19:29,420
general, but you know what I mean?

661
00:19:29,420 --> 00:19:30,597
Like the movies where it's like the

662
00:19:30,597 --> 00:19:31,887
Prince Charming, they're just like

663
00:19:31,887 --> 00:19:34,230
talking about like they look this way,

664
00:19:34,350 --> 00:19:36,110
they, I don't know, whatever it is.

665
00:19:36,110 --> 00:19:38,677
Like they have all this money or they

666
00:19:38,677 --> 00:19:40,297
have this certain job or they have this,

667
00:19:40,297 --> 00:19:41,950
you know, and it's like, but what beneath

668
00:19:41,980 --> 00:19:44,290
the surface, can they actually offer us?

669
00:19:44,290 --> 00:19:45,220
Are they gonna be there when

670
00:19:45,220 --> 00:19:46,630
we need them for something?

671
00:19:46,630 --> 00:19:48,250
Are they going to support us

672
00:19:48,250 --> 00:19:49,840
in our own dreams and goals?

673
00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:51,460
Are they gonna be a good father and

674
00:19:51,460 --> 00:19:53,810
actually want to like be hands on?

675
00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:54,770
Or are they just gonna expect you

676
00:19:54,770 --> 00:19:55,910
to, you know, like those kind of

677
00:19:55,910 --> 00:19:57,350
things are the things we have to like

678
00:19:57,521 --> 00:19:58,425
think about, I think ahead of time.

679
00:19:59,126 --> 00:19:59,246
definitely.

680
00:19:59,246 --> 00:20:00,871
I just had to think like 12 times.

681
00:20:01,271 --> 00:20:03,487
And I think all of those lessons,

682
00:20:03,487 --> 00:20:05,589
which is  like all those stories

683
00:20:05,589 --> 00:20:06,879
that are presented to little

684
00:20:06,879 --> 00:20:09,039
girls is all about how they react.

685
00:20:09,044 --> 00:20:11,569
Mm-hmm to these guys, they're just

686
00:20:11,569 --> 00:20:12,872
put in your lap and it's like,

687
00:20:12,872 --> 00:20:15,422
okay, well that's look a Quasimodo.

688
00:20:15,422 --> 00:20:17,789
Like, Esmeralda was so vain

689
00:20:17,909 --> 00:20:19,799
for not being attracted to him.

690
00:20:19,799 --> 00:20:21,539
And it's like, well, okay, but like

691
00:20:21,539 --> 00:20:23,729
why is it on her to react that way?

692
00:20:23,729 --> 00:20:24,799
Or like, I don't know.

693
00:20:24,799 --> 00:20:25,699
There's just so many stories

694
00:20:25,699 --> 00:20:27,079
like Beauty and the Beast, right?

695
00:20:27,079 --> 00:20:28,979
It's like all about why are we

696
00:20:28,979 --> 00:20:31,439
molding ourselves and pivoting to

697
00:20:31,469 --> 00:20:33,809
what society's expectations are?

698
00:20:33,989 --> 00:20:36,466
It's so strange to me and why it's

699
00:20:36,466 --> 00:20:37,876
always, okay, let's see how she

700
00:20:37,876 --> 00:20:39,649
reacts let's see if she's vain.

701
00:20:39,649 --> 00:20:40,999
Let's see if she's,

702
00:20:41,099 --> 00:20:42,059
gonna put up with this.

703
00:20:42,059 --> 00:20:43,539
And it's like, no, Why is Bell

704
00:20:43,539 --> 00:20:45,022
being, put in a situation where she's

705
00:20:45,022 --> 00:20:47,552
being verbally abused and kidnapped

706
00:20:48,092 --> 00:20:50,876
and now she has to be okay with

707
00:20:50,876 --> 00:20:51,896
spending her life with this person.

708
00:20:51,896 --> 00:20:52,526
It's insane.

709
00:20:52,712 --> 00:20:53,992
She's been pleaser.

710
00:20:53,992 --> 00:20:54,652
It's prelim mess.

711
00:20:55,732 --> 00:20:55,972
Exactly.

712
00:20:55,972 --> 00:20:56,937
Just be the caretaker.

713
00:20:56,942 --> 00:20:57,292
Exactly.

714
00:20:57,832 --> 00:20:59,182
Take care of the guy that like

715
00:20:59,482 --> 00:21:02,452
kidnapped you and fall in love

716
00:21:02,452 --> 00:21:03,957
with him because he had told me.

717
00:21:03,957 --> 00:21:05,017
Nice for you.

718
00:21:05,447 --> 00:21:05,737
Yeah.

719
00:21:06,712 --> 00:21:06,907
Wow.

720
00:21:06,967 --> 00:21:07,347
Oh my God.

721
00:21:07,377 --> 00:21:09,062
Give him the benefit of the doubt.

722
00:21:09,062 --> 00:21:10,022
It's fine.

723
00:21:10,832 --> 00:21:10,892
Yeah.

724
00:21:10,892 --> 00:21:12,392
You're expected to be perfect and

725
00:21:12,392 --> 00:21:14,522
beautiful and smart, poised and

726
00:21:14,522 --> 00:21:16,562
the whole package, but it's okay

727
00:21:16,562 --> 00:21:18,392
if he is literally an abuser.

728
00:21:18,636 --> 00:21:18,866
Right.

729
00:21:18,866 --> 00:21:18,986
Um,

730
00:21:18,986 --> 00:21:19,406
okay.

731
00:21:19,406 --> 00:21:19,526
You know?

732
00:21:20,631 --> 00:21:20,921
Yeah.

733
00:21:20,926 --> 00:21:21,506
Yeah.

734
00:21:21,566 --> 00:21:23,489
I think those, stories do get into

735
00:21:23,489 --> 00:21:25,409
psyche of little girls and you grow

736
00:21:25,409 --> 00:21:26,979
up and you are like, oh my gosh, I'm

737
00:21:26,979 --> 00:21:29,146
so behind 'cause I'm not, married

738
00:21:29,146 --> 00:21:30,856
at 30 and I don't have a kid.

739
00:21:30,856 --> 00:21:31,966
And it's like, oh my gosh.

740
00:21:32,099 --> 00:21:33,179
those things do get to you

741
00:21:33,179 --> 00:21:34,846
later in life, so Yeah.

742
00:21:34,846 --> 00:21:37,216
Silly as it might sound, it does add up.

743
00:21:37,489 --> 00:21:37,906
Yeah.

744
00:21:38,196 --> 00:21:38,566
Yes.

745
00:21:38,566 --> 00:21:40,336
Everyone's got their own timeline.

746
00:21:40,579 --> 00:21:43,296
okay, I added a couple, a new segment

747
00:21:43,446 --> 00:21:45,426
this time, but I know we also wanna talk

748
00:21:45,426 --> 00:21:47,106
really quickly before we get to that.

749
00:21:47,286 --> 00:21:48,326
Let's talk about the new

750
00:21:48,326 --> 00:21:51,366
Bachelorette from Mom talk.

751
00:21:53,291 --> 00:21:55,936
I'm so excited I'll actually be watching.

752
00:21:56,332 --> 00:21:56,572
Yeah.

753
00:21:56,572 --> 00:21:57,352
So what are your thoughts?

754
00:21:57,352 --> 00:21:59,682
Are you a big mom talk, Secret Lives?

755
00:21:59,832 --> 00:22:00,162
Yes.

756
00:22:00,162 --> 00:22:02,142
Secret Lives and Mormon wives a watcher.

757
00:22:02,408 --> 00:22:03,568
I'm huge.

758
00:22:03,755 --> 00:22:05,235
Like I'm their biggest fan.

759
00:22:05,455 --> 00:22:08,312
I will move to Utah and join Mom Talk.

760
00:22:09,812 --> 00:22:10,502
I love that.

761
00:22:10,851 --> 00:22:12,591
that is the only thing that could get me

762
00:22:12,591 --> 00:22:14,181
to watch The Bachelor Bachelorette again.

763
00:22:14,181 --> 00:22:16,614
It was getting so stale and I feel

764
00:22:16,614 --> 00:22:18,984
like a, B, C just never listens when

765
00:22:19,164 --> 00:22:20,964
the audience gives them feedback, so

766
00:22:20,964 --> 00:22:23,484
finally they do something interesting.

767
00:22:23,674 --> 00:22:25,751
What I thought was interesting, a couple

768
00:22:25,751 --> 00:22:27,311
points that people have brought up is

769
00:22:27,311 --> 00:22:29,551
like, there's almost a double standard

770
00:22:29,551 --> 00:22:31,831
with Taylor where she wouldn't have passed

771
00:22:31,831 --> 00:22:33,661
the background check to go on the show.

772
00:22:33,883 --> 00:22:34,423
Right?

773
00:22:34,453 --> 00:22:34,543
Mm-hmm.

774
00:22:34,606 --> 00:22:35,559
And that is a big thing.

775
00:22:35,559 --> 00:22:36,399
Even though the case was

776
00:22:36,399 --> 00:22:37,449
dismissed against her.

777
00:22:37,449 --> 00:22:38,469
And if anyone doesn't know what we're

778
00:22:38,469 --> 00:22:40,419
talking about, like you can look it up.

779
00:22:40,419 --> 00:22:42,429
But that is an interesting point.

780
00:22:42,429 --> 00:22:44,019
Like are they gonna be more flexible

781
00:22:44,019 --> 00:22:46,059
with the contestants because of that?

782
00:22:46,245 --> 00:22:47,729
Another point people brought up is

783
00:22:47,729 --> 00:22:50,189
like, why not one of the other girls?

784
00:22:50,415 --> 00:22:53,033
What about Layla or Miranda?

785
00:22:53,033 --> 00:22:54,473
I feel like they'd be great.

786
00:22:54,629 --> 00:22:55,133
Yeah.

787
00:22:55,163 --> 00:22:56,948
So I don't know, did they

788
00:22:56,948 --> 00:22:57,508
pick the right person?

789
00:22:57,508 --> 00:22:58,583
Is Miranda, did they not?

790
00:22:58,939 --> 00:23:00,166
Is Miranda the blonde that

791
00:23:00,166 --> 00:23:01,156
just joined season two?

792
00:23:01,412 --> 00:23:01,586
Okay.

793
00:23:01,586 --> 00:23:04,796
So I was like die hard, love season one.

794
00:23:04,796 --> 00:23:06,026
I just have not gotten around

795
00:23:06,026 --> 00:23:07,136
to watching season two, which

796
00:23:07,136 --> 00:23:08,096
I feel like has been out.

797
00:23:08,156 --> 00:23:09,026
I'm so behind.

798
00:23:09,026 --> 00:23:10,939
Oh, to my God.

799
00:23:11,389 --> 00:23:12,652
I think I watched the first two

800
00:23:12,652 --> 00:23:14,152
episodes and I was like, okay.

801
00:23:14,368 --> 00:23:16,109
I just like have, I need to find the time.

802
00:23:16,338 --> 00:23:19,334
But I. Loved Taylor season one.

803
00:23:19,558 --> 00:23:20,644
And then some of my friends

804
00:23:20,644 --> 00:23:21,574
say it kinda like changes.

805
00:23:21,574 --> 00:23:22,744
And now I like love Whitney,

806
00:23:22,744 --> 00:23:24,064
but I don't really like see her.

807
00:23:24,064 --> 00:23:25,414
I just see her on social media

808
00:23:25,414 --> 00:23:26,284
and I see her on Dancing With

809
00:23:26,284 --> 00:23:27,911
the Stars when I catch her.

810
00:23:28,541 --> 00:23:30,371
And I just love her like vibe.

811
00:23:30,371 --> 00:23:31,631
I don't know what it is.

812
00:23:31,631 --> 00:23:33,011
I love her vibe now.

813
00:23:33,011 --> 00:23:35,067
I did not season one, so yeah,

814
00:23:35,067 --> 00:23:36,027
that is really interesting.

815
00:23:36,027 --> 00:23:36,207
It's,

816
00:23:36,207 --> 00:23:36,297
you

817
00:23:36,297 --> 00:23:36,597
know what,

818
00:23:36,888 --> 00:23:39,171
it's interesting how interchangeable

819
00:23:39,171 --> 00:23:40,971
the characters are, right, of

820
00:23:40,971 --> 00:23:42,531
like, who's the villain, who's not.

821
00:23:42,591 --> 00:23:43,581
that was the biggest takeaway

822
00:23:43,581 --> 00:23:44,571
I had from season two.

823
00:23:44,571 --> 00:23:46,101
Not to spoil for you, but like,

824
00:23:46,248 --> 00:23:47,441
yeah, it's like you would think

825
00:23:47,441 --> 00:23:49,401
Whitney Clear cut villain and all

826
00:23:49,401 --> 00:23:51,111
of a sudden it's like, oh nevermind.

827
00:23:51,171 --> 00:23:52,221
She's fine.

828
00:23:52,221 --> 00:23:53,930
And yeah, so it's crazy.

829
00:23:53,930 --> 00:23:55,790
We I guess we'll have to see what

830
00:23:55,790 --> 00:23:58,942
happens, but yeah, it's gonna be a good,

831
00:23:59,602 --> 00:24:00,302
you know what I mean?

832
00:24:00,847 --> 00:24:03,007
It's funny because when I first, to

833
00:24:03,007 --> 00:24:05,467
be all honest, when I first saw them

834
00:24:05,467 --> 00:24:07,447
announced Taylor as The Bachelorette

835
00:24:07,447 --> 00:24:09,937
because I saw Alex Cooper's like teaser.

836
00:24:10,213 --> 00:24:12,113
And I saw it and I was like, what?

837
00:24:12,143 --> 00:24:13,253
That's kind of disappointing.

838
00:24:13,283 --> 00:24:14,990
'cause I was like, all these women

839
00:24:14,990 --> 00:24:16,967
that aren't in reality TV yet, that

840
00:24:16,967 --> 00:24:18,767
are like, want the chance, you know?

841
00:24:18,994 --> 00:24:19,780
But then I thought about

842
00:24:19,780 --> 00:24:20,620
it and what you said.

843
00:24:20,620 --> 00:24:22,457
I'm like, I don't watch

844
00:24:22,457 --> 00:24:23,447
Bachelorette anymore.

845
00:24:23,447 --> 00:24:25,157
I have not watched in years because

846
00:24:25,157 --> 00:24:27,613
I was just so like bored of it and

847
00:24:27,613 --> 00:24:29,293
it just didn't make sense for me.

848
00:24:29,612 --> 00:24:30,842
I was like kind of shocked 'cause

849
00:24:30,842 --> 00:24:32,222
I was like, oh, there's so many

850
00:24:32,431 --> 00:24:33,984
women that wanna go on that have

851
00:24:33,984 --> 00:24:36,414
not been in the reality TV world.

852
00:24:36,628 --> 00:24:38,145
So I feel like when they carry

853
00:24:38,145 --> 00:24:39,585
people over from one show to the

854
00:24:39,585 --> 00:24:41,819
other, I'm just like, ah, come on.

855
00:24:41,819 --> 00:24:42,839
Like, there's so many people

856
00:24:42,839 --> 00:24:44,249
out there that want a chance.

857
00:24:44,450 --> 00:24:45,405
But then when I thought about

858
00:24:45,405 --> 00:24:46,455
it, I'm like, I haven't watched

859
00:24:46,455 --> 00:24:48,495
Bachelorette in years, Bachelor or

860
00:24:48,495 --> 00:24:50,192
Bachelorette, I don't even know who

861
00:24:50,192 --> 00:24:52,082
season I watched last, honestly.

862
00:24:52,261 --> 00:24:53,962
And I'm like, it was kind of boring

863
00:24:53,962 --> 00:24:55,282
and it needed a little excitement.

864
00:24:55,424 --> 00:24:58,282
So for TV entertainment purposes

865
00:24:58,312 --> 00:25:01,205
only, not for like morality or

866
00:25:01,205 --> 00:25:03,161
for like, whoever it should be.

867
00:25:03,314 --> 00:25:04,198
I was like, I can see

868
00:25:04,198 --> 00:25:05,278
Taylor being a good choice.

869
00:25:05,278 --> 00:25:07,268
'cause I was like, people are gonna watch.

870
00:25:07,608 --> 00:25:07,818
Mm-hmm.

871
00:25:08,344 --> 00:25:11,165
My problem is I am so cynical that

872
00:25:11,165 --> 00:25:12,695
I just assume anyone who wants to

873
00:25:12,695 --> 00:25:14,495
be a contestant on either of those

874
00:25:14,495 --> 00:25:16,715
shows wants social media fame.

875
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:16,730
Mm-hmm.

876
00:25:17,105 --> 00:25:19,178
Which, nothing wrong with that, right?

877
00:25:19,178 --> 00:25:21,355
Like it's a grind out here.

878
00:25:21,355 --> 00:25:23,619
But that's what I'm really worried

879
00:25:23,619 --> 00:25:26,059
about with Taylor because that's a

880
00:25:26,059 --> 00:25:28,009
big storyline on season two of Secret

881
00:25:28,009 --> 00:25:30,409
Lives of Mormon wives is she is.

882
00:25:30,538 --> 00:25:31,825
When you get down to the nitty

883
00:25:31,825 --> 00:25:33,175
gritty, like she's very pure of

884
00:25:33,175 --> 00:25:34,825
heart and she really doesn't care

885
00:25:34,825 --> 00:25:36,535
about the monetary side of it.

886
00:25:36,681 --> 00:25:38,185
She just enjoys her life.

887
00:25:38,185 --> 00:25:40,345
She enjoys the opportunities that

888
00:25:40,345 --> 00:25:42,235
mom talk has provided, but she's

889
00:25:42,235 --> 00:25:45,302
not, I guess, fame hungry, which is

890
00:25:45,302 --> 00:25:48,439
really refreshing and I worry that

891
00:25:48,574 --> 00:25:50,792
her announcement is going to attract.

892
00:25:50,928 --> 00:25:52,134
The wrong type of guy

893
00:25:52,134 --> 00:25:54,027
that just wants fame.

894
00:25:54,717 --> 00:25:54,837
Mm-hmm.

895
00:25:55,077 --> 00:25:56,457
Because it's already been a huge

896
00:25:56,727 --> 00:25:58,287
issue on the Bachelor franchise.

897
00:25:58,287 --> 00:26:00,550
And I feel like they know  there

898
00:26:00,691 --> 00:26:03,310
is a built in huge following.

899
00:26:03,310 --> 00:26:05,590
And I mean, I've had negative experiences

900
00:26:05,590 --> 00:26:08,540
with Bachelor Bachelorette contestants,

901
00:26:08,540 --> 00:26:10,934
like on social media just being fame

902
00:26:10,934 --> 00:26:13,087
hungry, like people citing in my dms

903
00:26:13,087 --> 00:26:14,977
about collabs and just being super

904
00:26:14,977 --> 00:26:17,602
weird and I have like no following.

905
00:26:17,602 --> 00:26:18,832
So I'm like, as someone with 4

906
00:26:18,832 --> 00:26:20,152
million followers, like you do

907
00:26:20,152 --> 00:26:21,412
need to think of that stuff.

908
00:26:21,412 --> 00:26:23,165
It's like, are these people just

909
00:26:23,165 --> 00:26:25,235
trying to be famous or do they

910
00:26:25,235 --> 00:26:27,455
genuinely want to be with her?

911
00:26:27,604 --> 00:26:28,195
Mm-hmm.

912
00:26:28,547 --> 00:26:30,350
It's a little bit scary to think about.

913
00:26:30,914 --> 00:26:31,149
Yeah.

914
00:26:31,149 --> 00:26:32,745
I was just talking to someone a couple

915
00:26:32,745 --> 00:26:34,485
weeks ago on the podcast about like

916
00:26:34,485 --> 00:26:36,405
reality TV and what it's turned into, and

917
00:26:36,405 --> 00:26:39,272
I feel like a lot of people do go on just

918
00:26:39,272 --> 00:26:41,642
to get that platform and be famous now.

919
00:26:41,804 --> 00:26:43,552
But yeah, I'm sure even more so with

920
00:26:43,552 --> 00:26:45,922
someone that already has a big following,

921
00:26:46,144 --> 00:26:47,795
they're gonna be these guys that are

922
00:26:47,795 --> 00:26:50,375
gonna be desperate for the limelight.

923
00:26:50,605 --> 00:26:52,124
Yeah, I agree.

924
00:26:52,124 --> 00:26:52,784
I agree.

925
00:26:52,784 --> 00:26:55,490
And it's almost ruined reality TV because

926
00:26:55,490 --> 00:26:58,277
people just going on reality tv, it seems

927
00:26:58,277 --> 00:27:00,257
like, to amplify their brands, but then

928
00:27:00,257 --> 00:27:01,847
they're so scared of getting canceled.

929
00:27:01,847 --> 00:27:04,037
They don't act organic on tv.

930
00:27:04,168 --> 00:27:05,077
And I think that's what's been

931
00:27:05,077 --> 00:27:06,547
so refreshing about Taylor

932
00:27:06,547 --> 00:27:07,717
and the secret lives of Mormon

933
00:27:07,717 --> 00:27:10,094
wives girls, is they don't care.

934
00:27:10,308 --> 00:27:12,117
So I really hope that

935
00:27:12,117 --> 00:27:13,407
doesn't happen this season.

936
00:27:13,407 --> 00:27:14,937
I know, I feel like Taylor's

937
00:27:14,937 --> 00:27:17,080
no BS and she's going to see it

938
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:18,834
right away, but I don't know.

939
00:27:18,834 --> 00:27:19,914
I'm kind of scared for her.

940
00:27:20,174 --> 00:27:22,524
Yeah, it'll be interesting for sure.

941
00:27:27,270 --> 00:27:27,660
Okay.

942
00:27:27,881 --> 00:27:29,364
so this next one is red flag

943
00:27:29,364 --> 00:27:31,144
versus green flag, and this is

944
00:27:31,144 --> 00:27:33,634
groomsman bridal party edition.

945
00:27:33,634 --> 00:27:35,514
So just say red flag or green

946
00:27:35,514 --> 00:27:37,134
flag based on the scenario.

947
00:27:37,394 --> 00:27:37,727
Okay.

948
00:27:37,974 --> 00:27:39,397
A bridesmaid gets drunk at the

949
00:27:39,397 --> 00:27:41,197
bachelorette and admits she hooked

950
00:27:41,197 --> 00:27:42,847
up with the groom right before

951
00:27:42,847 --> 00:27:44,347
he started dating the bride.

952
00:27:44,723 --> 00:27:45,623
Oh my God.

953
00:27:47,820 --> 00:27:49,493
Definitely not a green flag.

954
00:27:50,820 --> 00:27:51,450
I don't know.

955
00:27:51,450 --> 00:27:53,310
I mean, keeping that secret.

956
00:27:54,383 --> 00:27:54,833
Shitty and

957
00:27:54,833 --> 00:27:56,843
then neither of them bringing it up again.

958
00:27:57,137 --> 00:27:57,550
Yeah,

959
00:27:57,670 --> 00:27:57,820
oof.

960
00:27:58,943 --> 00:28:00,023
Want orange,

961
00:28:00,203 --> 00:28:00,863
that's for sure.

962
00:28:01,463 --> 00:28:02,877
Yeah, I know.

963
00:28:02,895 --> 00:28:03,525
I'm that person.

964
00:28:03,525 --> 00:28:04,815
I have so many questions because I'm

965
00:28:04,815 --> 00:28:06,045
like, why are you waiting until the

966
00:28:06,045 --> 00:28:09,229
bachelorette party and you never told

967
00:28:09,229 --> 00:28:12,166
your friend like, Hey, by the way this

968
00:28:12,166 --> 00:28:14,126
happened, but I don't know when the right

969
00:28:14,126 --> 00:28:15,806
time would be like if they start dating

970
00:28:15,806 --> 00:28:17,396
and you're like, Hey, just so you know.

971
00:28:17,644 --> 00:28:18,579
But then things are always

972
00:28:18,579 --> 00:28:19,689
would be weird, I feel like.

973
00:28:19,936 --> 00:28:20,146
Mm-hmm.

974
00:28:20,547 --> 00:28:21,019
Yeah.

975
00:28:21,241 --> 00:28:22,643
I guess it's so dependent on

976
00:28:22,643 --> 00:28:24,286
the friend group and their

977
00:28:24,286 --> 00:28:25,396
comfortability, their situation.

978
00:28:25,396 --> 00:28:26,626
I mean, we were literally just talking

979
00:28:26,626 --> 00:28:28,216
about secret lives of Mormon wives,

980
00:28:28,216 --> 00:28:30,106
and that's something actively happening

981
00:28:30,166 --> 00:28:31,996
on secret lives of Mormon wives.

982
00:28:32,181 --> 00:28:32,339
Really.

983
00:28:32,339 --> 00:28:33,029
Layla

984
00:28:33,089 --> 00:28:35,129
dated one brother and dating

985
00:28:35,129 --> 00:28:36,536
another brother, and they're

986
00:28:36,536 --> 00:28:37,976
both totally cool with it.

987
00:28:37,976 --> 00:28:38,846
So.

988
00:28:39,758 --> 00:28:41,553
I guess it depends on what they dated.

989
00:28:41,553 --> 00:28:42,063
The same

990
00:28:42,063 --> 00:28:43,493
brother, they stated the same

991
00:28:43,493 --> 00:28:45,383
brother, or they just dated brothers?

992
00:28:45,717 --> 00:28:47,517
No, Layla is dating.

993
00:28:47,697 --> 00:28:49,283
She's dated the brothers now

994
00:28:49,283 --> 00:28:50,633
she's dating the other brother.

995
00:28:51,473 --> 00:28:51,833
Yeah.

996
00:28:52,163 --> 00:28:53,423
So it's like, that's a weird

997
00:28:53,423 --> 00:28:55,103
situation, but that's weird.

998
00:28:55,463 --> 00:28:55,973
Fine with it.

999
00:28:56,709 --> 00:28:58,018
Yeah, I, I wouldn't be

1000
00:28:58,018 --> 00:28:58,798
comfortable with that.

1001
00:28:59,381 --> 00:29:02,488
I guess it depends, but yeah, I feel

1002
00:29:02,488 --> 00:29:05,311
like your husband or fiance keeping that

1003
00:29:05,311 --> 00:29:07,931
from you and your friend, it's like, why?

1004
00:29:07,931 --> 00:29:08,411
Mm-hmm.

1005
00:29:08,651 --> 00:29:08,921
Very

1006
00:29:08,921 --> 00:29:09,641
curious.

1007
00:29:09,867 --> 00:29:10,378
Yeah.

1008
00:29:10,498 --> 00:29:11,728
That'd be a little, maybe red.

1009
00:29:12,094 --> 00:29:12,321
Yeah.

1010
00:29:12,321 --> 00:29:14,781
And the timing would make me not happy.

1011
00:29:15,027 --> 00:29:15,424
Okay.

1012
00:29:15,641 --> 00:29:16,238
Next one.

1013
00:29:16,268 --> 00:29:18,188
The maid of honor disappears mid

1014
00:29:18,188 --> 00:29:19,958
bachelorette with a random guy

1015
00:29:19,988 --> 00:29:21,938
taking the itinerary decorations

1016
00:29:21,938 --> 00:29:23,708
and matching outfits with her.

1017
00:29:23,891 --> 00:29:25,051
Are these real?

1018
00:29:25,207 --> 00:29:26,004
No, I just make 'em up.

1019
00:29:26,004 --> 00:29:26,124
Like

1020
00:29:26,124 --> 00:29:26,994
these things have happened.

1021
00:29:27,657 --> 00:29:27,789
Okay.

1022
00:29:27,789 --> 00:29:29,049
I was like, oh my God,

1023
00:29:29,289 --> 00:29:30,399
I need more background.

1024
00:29:30,811 --> 00:29:31,651
psychotic.

1025
00:29:31,930 --> 00:29:32,207
Why?

1026
00:29:32,207 --> 00:29:33,587
Like, why red?

1027
00:29:34,057 --> 00:29:35,114
That's super strange.

1028
00:29:35,954 --> 00:29:36,464
I should say.

1029
00:29:36,469 --> 00:29:37,844
Like, why did she steal all this stuff?

1030
00:29:38,540 --> 00:29:39,801
So I should say all of these are

1031
00:29:39,801 --> 00:29:42,531
like inspired by story sent to us,

1032
00:29:42,531 --> 00:29:43,798
but like obviously people don't

1033
00:29:43,798 --> 00:29:45,238
send me like, oh, here, this or

1034
00:29:45,238 --> 00:29:46,875
that, but like, they're inspired.

1035
00:29:46,875 --> 00:29:48,555
Like, someone sent me a story once

1036
00:29:48,555 --> 00:29:49,545
where the maid of honor wanted

1037
00:29:49,545 --> 00:29:50,865
to go meet up with a guy when

1038
00:29:50,865 --> 00:29:52,425
they were at their bachelorette.

1039
00:29:52,659 --> 00:29:53,658
So they are inspired,

1040
00:29:53,658 --> 00:29:55,128
but like very loosely.

1041
00:29:55,463 --> 00:29:55,811
Yeah.

1042
00:29:56,191 --> 00:29:56,341
Okay.

1043
00:29:56,691 --> 00:29:57,651
Only a red flag.

1044
00:29:57,707 --> 00:29:59,406
Like is he having a bachelorette party?

1045
00:29:59,406 --> 00:30:01,401
Why do you need all that stuff right now?

1046
00:30:03,136 --> 00:30:04,092
photos from the groom's

1047
00:30:04,092 --> 00:30:05,562
bachelor party leaked.

1048
00:30:05,758 --> 00:30:07,232
He ended up at a strip club.

1049
00:30:07,232 --> 00:30:09,002
He swore he didn't want to go to

1050
00:30:09,475 --> 00:30:10,105
red.

1051
00:30:10,381 --> 00:30:10,920
Red.

1052
00:30:11,100 --> 00:30:11,550
No.

1053
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:12,990
Unless it's the hangover.

1054
00:30:12,990 --> 00:30:14,280
And he literally is

1055
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:16,410
unconscious in the photos.

1056
00:30:16,590 --> 00:30:17,190
No excuse.

1057
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:17,670
Yes.

1058
00:30:18,864 --> 00:30:20,964
Bridesmaid's phone lights up at 2:00

1059
00:30:20,964 --> 00:30:22,614
AM during the bachelorette and it's

1060
00:30:22,614 --> 00:30:25,388
the groom texting her just to vent a

1061
00:30:27,183 --> 00:30:27,657
What, what?

1062
00:30:28,672 --> 00:30:30,321
I guess if it's sister.

1063
00:30:30,381 --> 00:30:30,651
Sure.

1064
00:30:31,101 --> 00:30:31,311
Right.

1065
00:30:32,151 --> 00:30:33,171
Or his cousin.

1066
00:30:33,171 --> 00:30:35,421
But what, what's wrong with these men?

1067
00:30:35,451 --> 00:30:35,781
No,

1068
00:30:36,384 --> 00:30:37,115
red.

1069
00:30:37,224 --> 00:30:38,305
I'm like, these are so red.

1070
00:30:38,538 --> 00:30:40,228
The groom secretly invited his

1071
00:30:40,228 --> 00:30:42,251
ex to the bachelor party and

1072
00:30:42,251 --> 00:30:43,931
the groomsmen let it slide.

1073
00:30:44,294 --> 00:30:46,830
Red reds of the  No.

1074
00:30:47,895 --> 00:30:47,975
Ew.

1075
00:30:48,660 --> 00:30:50,490
The thing is, I can so see something

1076
00:30:50,490 --> 00:30:52,410
like this happening and no.

1077
00:30:52,689 --> 00:30:53,100
No,

1078
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:53,850
I know.

1079
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:54,930
I'm sure a lot.

1080
00:30:56,220 --> 00:30:56,640
Yeah.

1081
00:30:57,229 --> 00:30:58,967
It's funny too, 'cause like anytime I read

1082
00:30:59,032 --> 00:31:01,182
outlandish things like this, someone will

1083
00:31:01,182 --> 00:31:03,582
comment like, yeah, that happened to me.

1084
00:31:03,642 --> 00:31:04,332
That happened at a

1085
00:31:04,332 --> 00:31:05,622
wedding I was at happened.

1086
00:31:05,773 --> 00:31:07,153
so it's like no matter how outlandish

1087
00:31:07,153 --> 00:31:08,407
it is, like these things happen.

1088
00:31:08,407 --> 00:31:09,367
It's just wild.

1089
00:31:09,626 --> 00:31:11,276
I had one where the mother-in-law

1090
00:31:11,336 --> 00:31:14,129
invited the son's ex to the

1091
00:31:14,129 --> 00:31:15,389
wedding as her plus one.

1092
00:31:15,773 --> 00:31:16,853
She's like, I get a plus one.

1093
00:31:16,853 --> 00:31:17,873
I can invite whoever I want

1094
00:31:19,903 --> 00:31:20,263
i's wild.

1095
00:31:20,547 --> 00:31:22,590
but anyone who would willingly do that

1096
00:31:22,590 --> 00:31:25,110
on either side, the mother-in-law or

1097
00:31:25,211 --> 00:31:27,096
the ex willing to go to the wedding,

1098
00:31:27,096 --> 00:31:29,436
it's just like, how bored are you in

1099
00:31:29,436 --> 00:31:31,853
your life that you have to cause that?

1100
00:31:32,074 --> 00:31:32,596
Yes.

1101
00:31:32,864 --> 00:31:34,053
Insane fear.

1102
00:31:34,371 --> 00:31:35,481
anyone that does that

1103
00:31:35,481 --> 00:31:36,981
knows that's not okay.

1104
00:31:37,041 --> 00:31:38,823
So you want attention, you want

1105
00:31:38,823 --> 00:31:40,443
to make someone feel bad or you

1106
00:31:40,458 --> 00:31:41,943
wanna be a bully or something.

1107
00:31:41,943 --> 00:31:43,317
Like, you can't be like, oh, I

1108
00:31:43,317 --> 00:31:45,124
didn't know that was not acceptable.

1109
00:31:45,124 --> 00:31:45,844
Like, come on.

1110
00:31:45,934 --> 00:31:47,164
You know, that's not okay.

1111
00:31:48,151 --> 00:31:48,901
It's insane.

1112
00:31:49,236 --> 00:31:49,534
Okay.

1113
00:31:49,534 --> 00:31:51,094
I'll do one more and then

1114
00:31:51,094 --> 00:31:51,874
we'll get into the story.

1115
00:31:52,185 --> 00:31:54,578
the groom sister, who's a bridesmaid

1116
00:31:54,578 --> 00:31:57,068
complains nonstop about the cost and

1117
00:31:57,068 --> 00:31:59,228
threatens to drop out every other week.

1118
00:31:59,528 --> 00:32:01,882
I almost turned passive aggressive

1119
00:32:01,882 --> 00:32:03,592
suite in those situations.

1120
00:32:03,592 --> 00:32:05,602
Like a kill 'em with kindness type thing

1121
00:32:05,602 --> 00:32:08,718
because you wanna turn it on them to offer

1122
00:32:08,718 --> 00:32:11,012
them the out that you wanna give them.

1123
00:32:11,012 --> 00:32:11,612
Like you don't want

1124
00:32:11,612 --> 00:32:12,643
them to be a bridesmaid.

1125
00:32:13,185 --> 00:32:15,250
So you say, I understand weddings

1126
00:32:15,250 --> 00:32:16,707
are a huge financial burden.

1127
00:32:17,012 --> 00:32:19,382
If it doesn't work for you, no worries.

1128
00:32:19,494 --> 00:32:21,102
I can take that off your plate.

1129
00:32:21,292 --> 00:32:21,472
Mm-hmm.

1130
00:32:21,712 --> 00:32:22,252
Turn it on them.

1131
00:32:22,810 --> 00:32:25,062
You voiced how uncomfortable you are.

1132
00:32:25,092 --> 00:32:26,861
Like, I wanna be there for you.

1133
00:32:27,041 --> 00:32:28,811
You should just enjoy it as a guest.

1134
00:32:28,811 --> 00:32:29,927
Don't worry about a gift.

1135
00:32:29,927 --> 00:32:31,007
We just wanna have you there.

1136
00:32:31,007 --> 00:32:32,057
But I get it.

1137
00:32:32,155 --> 00:32:32,540
Yeah.

1138
00:32:32,722 --> 00:32:34,067
That's like the perfect way to

1139
00:32:34,072 --> 00:32:35,327
respond to someone like that.

1140
00:32:35,327 --> 00:32:37,025
'cause again, it's like they're

1141
00:32:37,025 --> 00:32:38,315
probably just doing it for attention

1142
00:32:38,315 --> 00:32:40,145
or they're unhappy about something.

1143
00:32:40,205 --> 00:32:41,585
So that's the best way to do it.

1144
00:32:41,585 --> 00:32:43,709
Be like, hey, totally understand.

1145
00:32:43,739 --> 00:32:44,519
If you don't wanna be a

1146
00:32:44,519 --> 00:32:45,719
part of it, that's fine.

1147
00:32:45,877 --> 00:32:46,742
You'll still be there and all

1148
00:32:46,742 --> 00:32:48,152
the wedding photos, whatever.

1149
00:32:48,152 --> 00:32:48,422
Yeah.

1150
00:32:48,701 --> 00:32:49,075
Yeah.

1151
00:32:49,975 --> 00:32:50,155
Perfect.

1152
00:32:50,155 --> 00:32:50,875
That's all you can do.

1153
00:32:51,353 --> 00:32:52,943
It's hard in those situations 'cause

1154
00:32:52,943 --> 00:32:54,893
you also wanna be fair and equitable

1155
00:32:54,893 --> 00:32:56,813
to your other bridesmaid too.

1156
00:32:56,843 --> 00:32:56,933
Mm-hmm.

1157
00:32:57,640 --> 00:32:57,880
So it's

1158
00:32:57,880 --> 00:32:59,230
like, okay, if I'm paying for

1159
00:32:59,230 --> 00:33:01,480
this one person's way, it's like.

1160
00:33:01,622 --> 00:33:03,486
Then I really have to pay for everyone

1161
00:33:03,486 --> 00:33:06,066
else's way too to make it fair.

1162
00:33:06,126 --> 00:33:07,476
So it's kind of hard.

1163
00:33:07,476 --> 00:33:08,286
You can't really cherry

1164
00:33:08,286 --> 00:33:09,576
pick situations like that.

1165
00:33:09,576 --> 00:33:10,896
So you kind of do have to lay

1166
00:33:10,896 --> 00:33:12,336
down the hammer, I feel like.

1167
00:33:12,512 --> 00:33:12,910
Yeah, definitely.

1168
00:33:13,135 --> 00:33:14,030
Even if it's mean,

1169
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:14,630
sorry.

1170
00:33:14,892 --> 00:33:15,333
Yeah.

1171
00:33:15,702 --> 00:33:16,516
Boundaries aren't mean.

1172
00:33:16,516 --> 00:33:17,853
They're just being firm.

1173
00:33:18,153 --> 00:33:18,423
Yeah.

1174
00:33:18,655 --> 00:33:19,073
I love it.

1175
00:33:19,365 --> 00:33:19,575
all right.

1176
00:33:19,575 --> 00:33:21,170
Let's blind react to this

1177
00:33:21,170 --> 00:33:23,210
week's wedding story submission.

1178
00:33:23,300 --> 00:33:25,100
This is a true story that someone

1179
00:33:25,100 --> 00:33:26,510
sent to me, so here we go.

1180
00:33:26,767 --> 00:33:28,497
Feel free to stop me at any point, or

1181
00:33:28,497 --> 00:33:29,607
we'll just kind of react along the way.

1182
00:33:29,877 --> 00:33:30,147
Okay.

1183
00:33:30,417 --> 00:33:32,217
"We knew right away this wedding

1184
00:33:32,217 --> 00:33:33,417
wasn't going to be boring.

1185
00:33:33,650 --> 00:33:34,950
At the top of the aisle, there

1186
00:33:34,950 --> 00:33:36,360
was a big sign that read,

1187
00:33:36,420 --> 00:33:38,100
take a shot and take a seat.

1188
00:33:38,479 --> 00:33:40,484
About seven years ago, my husband and

1189
00:33:40,484 --> 00:33:42,783
I had just moved into our new house.

1190
00:33:42,979 --> 00:33:45,363
On weekends, we picked up part-time jobs

1191
00:33:45,363 --> 00:33:47,813
at a local wedding venue, easy money and

1192
00:33:47,813 --> 00:33:49,373
something for me to do while my husband

1193
00:33:49,373 --> 00:33:50,933
worked shifts at his full-time job.

1194
00:33:51,381 --> 00:33:52,868
At that point, I had already been

1195
00:33:52,868 --> 00:33:54,548
in the wedding industry for a while,

1196
00:33:54,785 --> 00:33:56,645
teaching couples their first dances and

1197
00:33:56,645 --> 00:33:58,775
coordinating a few weddings for friends.

1198
00:33:59,107 --> 00:34:00,357
So working at a venue felt

1199
00:34:00,357 --> 00:34:02,563
pretty natural at this wedding.

1200
00:34:02,783 --> 00:34:04,940
This one is always the story I tell

1201
00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:06,920
because you just can't make this stuff up.

1202
00:34:07,196 --> 00:34:08,383
The day started out like

1203
00:34:08,383 --> 00:34:10,240
any other staff arrived.

1204
00:34:10,300 --> 00:34:12,880
We set up and everything was on schedule.

1205
00:34:13,123 --> 00:34:15,100
The ceremony was supposed to be outside,

1206
00:34:15,130 --> 00:34:17,046
but because of rain we had to move

1207
00:34:17,046 --> 00:34:19,246
it under the covered reception area.

1208
00:34:19,614 --> 00:34:21,897
The guest list was about 120 people,

1209
00:34:22,090 --> 00:34:23,450
pretty standard for that venue.

1210
00:34:23,540 --> 00:34:25,490
As we were setting up, we noticed a big

1211
00:34:25,490 --> 00:34:28,160
bag of Fireball shots next to the sign

1212
00:34:28,439 --> 00:34:30,569
that said, take a shot and take a seat.

1213
00:34:30,922 --> 00:34:32,699
The bride and groom wanted every

1214
00:34:32,699 --> 00:34:34,079
guest to grab one before the

1215
00:34:34,079 --> 00:34:36,209
ceremony began." So this is a party.

1216
00:34:36,489 --> 00:34:38,466
They wanna start the party off early.

1217
00:34:41,346 --> 00:34:43,849
I also love that this is a wedding vendor

1218
00:34:43,849 --> 00:34:45,859
story because we don't get a ton of them.

1219
00:34:46,099 --> 00:34:47,452
It's normally like the bride

1220
00:34:47,452 --> 00:34:49,099
or a bridesmaid So this is like

1221
00:34:49,099 --> 00:34:50,689
a cool different perspective.

1222
00:34:51,016 --> 00:34:52,806
Okay, it says, as we worked,

1223
00:34:52,806 --> 00:34:54,576
one guest caught our attention.

1224
00:34:54,839 --> 00:34:56,566
He wore bright coral pants

1225
00:34:56,566 --> 00:34:58,126
and a loud floral shirt.

1226
00:34:58,346 --> 00:34:59,496
For the sake of the story,

1227
00:34:59,526 --> 00:35:00,816
let's call him Derek.

1228
00:35:01,009 --> 00:35:02,403
Derek showed up nearly two

1229
00:35:02,403 --> 00:35:04,579
hours early and went straight

1230
00:35:04,579 --> 00:35:06,409
to the bar asking for a drink.

1231
00:35:06,686 --> 00:35:09,479
Now the venue policy was no drinks until

1232
00:35:09,479 --> 00:35:12,313
cocktail hour, so we politely told him no.

1233
00:35:12,710 --> 00:35:14,690
But Derek did not like that answer.

1234
00:35:15,023 --> 00:35:17,416
He marched off to find the groom and

1235
00:35:17,416 --> 00:35:19,966
somehow convinced the wedding party to

1236
00:35:19,966 --> 00:35:22,799
give us permission to serve him early.

1237
00:35:23,156 --> 00:35:25,073
Not exactly standard protocol,

1238
00:35:25,233 --> 00:35:26,190
but when the couple says

1239
00:35:26,190 --> 00:35:27,810
yes, you follow their wishes.

1240
00:35:28,059 --> 00:35:29,146
I'm wondering if they've standard

1241
00:35:29,146 --> 00:35:30,886
protocol because of people like this.

1242
00:35:30,886 --> 00:35:31,970
So I'm like, how did that guy

1243
00:35:31,970 --> 00:35:33,500
convince them to change that?

1244
00:35:33,860 --> 00:35:34,730
It's probably not a good idea.

1245
00:35:35,501 --> 00:35:37,320
as a former wedding vendor,

1246
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:39,060
I question that honestly.

1247
00:35:39,090 --> 00:35:41,286
'cause you know those insurance contracts,

1248
00:35:41,417 --> 00:35:43,217
like there's no way if that guy fell down

1249
00:35:43,217 --> 00:35:44,477
the stairs or something, they wouldn't

1250
00:35:44,477 --> 00:35:46,434
be like, well, protocol, it changes.

1251
00:35:46,434 --> 00:35:46,974
Like, no.

1252
00:35:47,454 --> 00:35:48,104
Yeah, I know.

1253
00:35:48,104 --> 00:35:49,874
I'm like, those are in place for a reason.

1254
00:35:51,499 --> 00:35:51,649
Mm-hmm.

1255
00:35:52,089 --> 00:35:53,527
I'm just questioning

1256
00:35:53,527 --> 00:35:55,567
this venue at this point.

1257
00:35:55,627 --> 00:35:58,207
'cause Yeah, with the insurance stuff,

1258
00:35:58,237 --> 00:36:00,307
they're very regimented legally.

1259
00:36:00,521 --> 00:36:02,560
I've certainly never heard of that, but

1260
00:36:02,734 --> 00:36:02,950
yeah.

1261
00:36:02,950 --> 00:36:03,790
What up with this venue?

1262
00:36:03,790 --> 00:36:03,850
Yeah.

1263
00:36:05,170 --> 00:36:05,500
Yeah.

1264
00:36:06,308 --> 00:36:06,513
All right.

1265
00:36:06,513 --> 00:36:08,253
It says by picture time we noticed

1266
00:36:08,253 --> 00:36:10,413
the groom was already intoxicated,

1267
00:36:11,158 --> 00:36:13,013
so now the groom is already drunk.

1268
00:36:13,365 --> 00:36:14,708
So this Derrick guy's drunk.

1269
00:36:14,838 --> 00:36:17,342
The groom is drunk because

1270
00:36:17,342 --> 00:36:18,362
they have shots everywhere.

1271
00:36:18,612 --> 00:36:20,683
The ceremony was at 4:00 PM and

1272
00:36:20,683 --> 00:36:22,307
when guests arrived, sure enough,

1273
00:36:22,307 --> 00:36:23,627
they each grabbed a fireball

1274
00:36:23,627 --> 00:36:25,367
shot before taking their seats.

1275
00:36:25,788 --> 00:36:27,325
The ceremony went on, but the

1276
00:36:27,325 --> 00:36:29,005
bride looked clearly irritated

1277
00:36:29,005 --> 00:36:30,445
that our groom was already drunk.

1278
00:36:30,445 --> 00:36:31,075
Well, yeah.

1279
00:36:31,251 --> 00:36:33,038
I wanna know whose idea it was

1280
00:36:33,038 --> 00:36:34,628
to have the shots at the wedding.

1281
00:36:34,928 --> 00:36:36,701
You know, like, is water What?

1282
00:36:37,074 --> 00:36:38,150
what did you expect?

1283
00:36:38,450 --> 00:36:41,599
Like a, a, a. my gosh.

1284
00:36:41,599 --> 00:36:42,499
That's insane.

1285
00:36:42,734 --> 00:36:43,164
Yeah.

1286
00:36:43,596 --> 00:36:45,276
What a nightmare for a venue.

1287
00:36:46,086 --> 00:36:46,296
Oh my

1288
00:36:46,296 --> 00:36:46,656
gosh.

1289
00:36:46,896 --> 00:36:47,406
Right.

1290
00:36:47,729 --> 00:36:49,019
Afterward, we flipped the

1291
00:36:49,019 --> 00:36:50,339
space for the reception.

1292
00:36:50,339 --> 00:36:53,076
At this point, the bar officially opened.

1293
00:36:53,418 --> 00:36:55,265
Derek made a big deal about how

1294
00:36:55,265 --> 00:36:57,248
he could finally drink now that

1295
00:36:57,248 --> 00:36:59,018
we weren't holding out on him.

1296
00:36:59,258 --> 00:37:01,088
Dinner was served, dances were

1297
00:37:01,088 --> 00:37:02,678
danced, speeches were made.

1298
00:37:02,915 --> 00:37:04,755
And you could already tell the group

1299
00:37:04,755 --> 00:37:07,368
was sloppy, getting sloppy fast.

1300
00:37:08,278 --> 00:37:10,135
See, that's just a problem like I get

1301
00:37:10,135 --> 00:37:11,995
wanting to have a party and have fun,

1302
00:37:12,221 --> 00:37:14,008
but when you already know people have

1303
00:37:14,161 --> 00:37:15,951
drinking problems or can't control

1304
00:37:15,951 --> 00:37:17,391
their liquor, and then you hand out

1305
00:37:17,391 --> 00:37:19,498
shots before the wedding, before

1306
00:37:19,498 --> 00:37:21,568
pictures, it's like people are not

1307
00:37:21,568 --> 00:37:22,978
gonna make it to the end of the night.

1308
00:37:23,944 --> 00:37:24,727
not gonna be good.

1309
00:37:25,044 --> 00:37:27,181
I feel like a lot of venues have no hard

1310
00:37:27,181 --> 00:37:30,369
liquor policies  because of this, right?

1311
00:37:30,369 --> 00:37:32,823
Because accidents happen and people

1312
00:37:32,823 --> 00:37:34,833
get super drunk and there's drama.

1313
00:37:35,256 --> 00:37:36,962
Or at least the venue has to serve it.

1314
00:37:36,962 --> 00:37:37,382
I think.

1315
00:37:37,382 --> 00:37:40,335
So again, questioning this venue a little

1316
00:37:40,335 --> 00:37:42,165
bit, like why are they allowing this?

1317
00:37:43,035 --> 00:37:43,605
Yeah.

1318
00:37:43,852 --> 00:37:44,698
Why are they allowing this?

1319
00:37:44,698 --> 00:37:46,228
And then breaking the rules.

1320
00:37:46,429 --> 00:37:48,388
And again, I really wanna know whose idea

1321
00:37:48,388 --> 00:37:50,382
it was to the shots, because it sounds

1322
00:37:50,382 --> 00:37:52,482
to me like the groom maybe has some

1323
00:37:52,482 --> 00:37:54,372
kind of drinking problem, but like why

1324
00:37:54,372 --> 00:37:56,682
would the bride agree to having shots?

1325
00:37:56,682 --> 00:37:58,392
Or maybe he's like, oh, I'll be fine.

1326
00:37:58,392 --> 00:37:59,172
Like don't worry.

1327
00:37:59,172 --> 00:38:01,992
It's like, mm. Will you, will you be okay?

1328
00:38:01,992 --> 00:38:02,052
Yeah.

1329
00:38:02,677 --> 00:38:03,997
I mean, even my venue,

1330
00:38:04,512 --> 00:38:06,312
I was shocked because we had a

1331
00:38:06,312 --> 00:38:08,592
no heart liquor policy, I think.

1332
00:38:08,592 --> 00:38:09,792
'cause it's like Napa Sonoma.

1333
00:38:09,792 --> 00:38:11,678
I'm not sure if that's the whole area, but

1334
00:38:11,678 --> 00:38:14,898
our venue did and people snuck in canteens

1335
00:38:14,898 --> 00:38:16,458
and they snuck in vodka and stuff.

1336
00:38:16,458 --> 00:38:17,538
And I was like, how much

1337
00:38:17,538 --> 00:38:18,738
are these people drinking?

1338
00:38:19,668 --> 00:38:19,688
My God.

1339
00:38:19,688 --> 00:38:20,658
Like why do they need this?

1340
00:38:20,658 --> 00:38:21,663
Know what I mean?

1341
00:38:21,768 --> 00:38:22,938
And it's something I hear at

1342
00:38:22,938 --> 00:38:25,026
every wedding and it's true.

1343
00:38:25,026 --> 00:38:26,436
It's like you can't rely on

1344
00:38:26,436 --> 00:38:27,786
the fact that people are going

1345
00:38:27,786 --> 00:38:29,346
to be a hundred percent sober.

1346
00:38:29,676 --> 00:38:29,706
Cra.

1347
00:38:29,965 --> 00:38:31,516
It's a huge issue in this country,

1348
00:38:31,516 --> 00:38:34,303
obviously, but it's crazy how

1349
00:38:34,363 --> 00:38:35,623
even on your wedding day you do

1350
00:38:35,623 --> 00:38:36,793
have to think of stuff like that.

1351
00:38:36,793 --> 00:38:38,263
Like all the logistics.

1352
00:38:38,413 --> 00:38:38,863
Yeah.

1353
00:38:39,093 --> 00:38:39,277
I know.

1354
00:38:39,277 --> 00:38:40,477
So you can't control what everyone

1355
00:38:40,477 --> 00:38:41,864
drinks before the wedding.

1356
00:38:41,864 --> 00:38:43,094
You would just hope people that are

1357
00:38:43,094 --> 00:38:44,954
in the wedding, especially your groom,

1358
00:38:44,954 --> 00:38:46,709
is like, okay, I'm gonna wait to

1359
00:38:46,709 --> 00:38:49,229
drink until after to like dancing.

1360
00:38:49,229 --> 00:38:50,805
But yeah, okay.

1361
00:38:51,555 --> 00:38:54,569
Oh my God, I just, okay.

1362
00:38:54,569 --> 00:38:57,245
It says, " then came cake cutting.

1363
00:38:57,480 --> 00:38:59,979
The groom was so intoxicated that

1364
00:38:59,979 --> 00:39:01,749
he couldn't stand on his own."

1365
00:39:07,853 --> 00:39:09,542
marrying this person right now.

1366
00:39:09,780 --> 00:39:11,302
And isn't the cake cutting?

1367
00:39:11,362 --> 00:39:13,222
I mean, I guess it depends on the wedding,

1368
00:39:13,222 --> 00:39:15,922
but before or after the first dance.

1369
00:39:16,282 --> 00:39:18,892
Because was he able to do his first dance?

1370
00:39:19,139 --> 00:39:19,619
I know.

1371
00:39:19,619 --> 00:39:20,789
I feel like it's typically when

1372
00:39:20,789 --> 00:39:22,559
you first walk out, sometimes it's

1373
00:39:22,559 --> 00:39:24,689
right before dances, but either way.

1374
00:39:25,199 --> 00:39:26,471
How he's not gonna be doing that.

1375
00:39:26,746 --> 00:39:26,991
What a

1376
00:39:26,991 --> 00:39:28,071
nightmare.

1377
00:39:28,922 --> 00:39:31,258
"The venue owner had to literally

1378
00:39:31,258 --> 00:39:33,328
hold him upright just to get one

1379
00:39:33,328 --> 00:39:35,698
decent photo and a slice of cake."

1380
00:39:35,876 --> 00:39:38,039
The venue owner is holding him up.

1381
00:39:38,552 --> 00:39:41,442
The bride she broke down crying and

1382
00:39:41,442 --> 00:39:44,652
ran off." I feel so bad for her.

1383
00:39:44,889 --> 00:39:46,659
it makes me wonder too, like what

1384
00:39:46,659 --> 00:39:47,889
signs were there ahead of time?

1385
00:39:47,889 --> 00:39:49,629
Did she know he had some kind of drinking

1386
00:39:49,629 --> 00:39:51,666
problem or like were his groomsmen,

1387
00:39:51,666 --> 00:39:52,986
like the culprits and they were, I

1388
00:39:52,986 --> 00:39:54,366
mean obviously no one can like make

1389
00:39:54,366 --> 00:39:56,362
you, but were they like bringing shots

1390
00:39:56,362 --> 00:39:58,173
in and just pouring, like doubles?

1391
00:39:58,173 --> 00:39:59,726
Like it makes me really wonder.

1392
00:39:59,982 --> 00:40:00,942
that's awful.

1393
00:40:01,184 --> 00:40:03,478
for anyone listening who hasn't worked

1394
00:40:03,478 --> 00:40:05,464
in the wedding industry, like the

1395
00:40:05,494 --> 00:40:08,944
venue is liable if anything happens

1396
00:40:08,944 --> 00:40:11,464
to the couple on site, and especially

1397
00:40:11,464 --> 00:40:13,714
if people are driving drunk, there's

1398
00:40:13,809 --> 00:40:15,681
investigations that go into that stuff.

1399
00:40:15,686 --> 00:40:17,481
And if they can track that happens at the

1400
00:40:17,481 --> 00:40:20,421
venue, the venue can be in huge trouble.

1401
00:40:20,451 --> 00:40:20,961
Right.

1402
00:40:21,152 --> 00:40:24,261
So that is really concerning me.

1403
00:40:24,312 --> 00:40:25,907
Again, third time I'm

1404
00:40:25,907 --> 00:40:27,317
questioning this venue.

1405
00:40:27,377 --> 00:40:29,357
'cause What do you mean the venue holder

1406
00:40:29,417 --> 00:40:31,457
is like owner's holding him upright.

1407
00:40:31,684 --> 00:40:32,747
why are we not calling

1408
00:40:32,747 --> 00:40:34,367
paramedics so we don't get sued?

1409
00:40:34,607 --> 00:40:35,757
Like this is crazy.

1410
00:40:35,997 --> 00:40:36,207
Yeah.

1411
00:40:36,207 --> 00:40:37,407
There is a lot of liability

1412
00:40:37,407 --> 00:40:38,667
that to think about.

1413
00:40:38,727 --> 00:40:40,287
I feel like as a venue.

1414
00:40:40,539 --> 00:40:41,799
Yeah, I don't know.

1415
00:40:42,102 --> 00:40:43,892
It says, "not long after a little

1416
00:40:43,892 --> 00:40:45,872
boy maybe six or seven, walked up

1417
00:40:45,872 --> 00:40:47,882
to the bar and asked for a beer.

1418
00:40:48,129 --> 00:40:48,969
For who?

1419
00:40:49,059 --> 00:40:49,809
We asked.

1420
00:40:49,931 --> 00:40:50,792
For my dad.

1421
00:40:50,792 --> 00:40:53,486
He's the groom." So now he's sending his

1422
00:40:53,486 --> 00:40:57,236
child to the bar to get alcohol for him.

1423
00:40:58,718 --> 00:41:00,343
Why are they still serving?

1424
00:41:01,855 --> 00:41:03,180
Why is the wedding still going on?

1425
00:41:03,180 --> 00:41:04,860
is he just like passed out somewhere.

1426
00:41:04,860 --> 00:41:05,640
This is wild.

1427
00:41:05,895 --> 00:41:07,185
Where is this?

1428
00:41:08,475 --> 00:41:09,615
We need more details.

1429
00:41:09,890 --> 00:41:11,985
We told him we couldn't serve minors.

1430
00:41:12,045 --> 00:41:14,175
The boy walked away, went back to his dad,

1431
00:41:14,328 --> 00:41:17,045
and then the groom stormed over yelling

1432
00:41:17,045 --> 00:41:19,265
that we wouldn't give his son a beer.

1433
00:41:19,477 --> 00:41:21,745
In what world do you live in where

1434
00:41:21,745 --> 00:41:22,975
you can just have your son walk

1435
00:41:22,975 --> 00:41:24,685
to the bar and get a beer for you?

1436
00:41:24,958 --> 00:41:26,847
"We explained we can't serve anyone

1437
00:41:26,847 --> 00:41:28,797
underage, no matter the situation. And

1438
00:41:28,797 --> 00:41:30,570
he said, ' well, he gets beers from

1439
00:41:30,570 --> 00:41:32,837
me at home all the time.' Then grabbed

1440
00:41:32,837 --> 00:41:35,470
his own drink and walked away. All of

1441
00:41:35,470 --> 00:41:37,113
the staff just looked at each other

1442
00:41:37,113 --> 00:41:38,733
like, did that just really happen?"

1443
00:41:39,013 --> 00:41:41,180
This guy sounds real piece of work.

1444
00:41:41,487 --> 00:41:42,662
This poor staff.

1445
00:41:43,245 --> 00:41:44,924
Hopefully this gives people some

1446
00:41:44,924 --> 00:41:46,527
grace for wedding vendors and

1447
00:41:46,527 --> 00:41:48,867
what they go through, because this

1448
00:41:48,867 --> 00:41:51,897
is unfortunately not uncommon.

1449
00:41:52,287 --> 00:41:52,377
Mm-hmm.

1450
00:41:52,885 --> 00:41:53,460
Yikes.

1451
00:41:53,685 --> 00:41:54,145
Oh no.

1452
00:41:55,259 --> 00:41:55,677
Okay.

1453
00:41:55,677 --> 00:41:57,297
Then she goes, and "then there

1454
00:41:57,297 --> 00:41:59,784
was Derek at one point we saw him

1455
00:41:59,784 --> 00:42:01,854
crawling around on the dance floor,

1456
00:42:01,974 --> 00:42:05,544
why his glass eye had popped out."

1457
00:42:06,505 --> 00:42:08,549
So, where do you live?

1458
00:42:08,662 --> 00:42:10,232
Where is this?

1459
00:42:11,905 --> 00:42:13,189
What the hell?

1460
00:42:13,742 --> 00:42:15,622
it says why, why does

1461
00:42:15,622 --> 00:42:17,800
he, I hope this man's

1462
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:18,385
okay.

1463
00:42:19,952 --> 00:42:21,482
He's just drunk, crawling around

1464
00:42:21,482 --> 00:42:23,102
on the floor, looking for his eye.

1465
00:42:23,515 --> 00:42:26,862
God, it says he picked it up, rinsed

1466
00:42:26,862 --> 00:42:28,632
it off, and popped it right back in.

1467
00:42:28,965 --> 00:42:29,465
Um, thank

1468
00:42:29,465 --> 00:42:30,575
You're done with a fireball.

1469
00:42:30,605 --> 00:42:30,965
I love

1470
00:42:31,145 --> 00:42:31,355
it.

1471
00:42:31,555 --> 00:42:31,952
Yeah.

1472
00:42:32,042 --> 00:42:34,248
Priorities are straightforward, man.

1473
00:42:34,248 --> 00:42:34,758
Clearly.

1474
00:42:35,039 --> 00:42:37,902
Later he climbed onto a chair, stroking

1475
00:42:37,902 --> 00:42:39,732
the linens hanging from the ceiling.

1476
00:42:39,882 --> 00:42:42,392
Lantern in one hand, swaying like

1477
00:42:42,392 --> 00:42:44,702
he was in his own private concert.

1478
00:42:44,959 --> 00:42:46,365
Why is no one stopping him?

1479
00:42:46,598 --> 00:42:47,678
Where is his wife?

1480
00:42:47,888 --> 00:42:49,178
She has stormed off.

1481
00:42:49,238 --> 00:42:51,218
Why are we not looking for her?

1482
00:42:52,290 --> 00:42:54,328
This is the Derek guy, the guest.

1483
00:42:55,231 --> 00:42:55,441
Oh.

1484
00:42:55,441 --> 00:42:56,251
Oh my God.

1485
00:42:56,251 --> 00:42:57,421
Wait, I thought

1486
00:42:57,421 --> 00:42:57,511
that,

1487
00:42:57,646 --> 00:42:59,071
okay, that makes sense.

1488
00:42:59,626 --> 00:43:02,518
Who are these people need to be studied?

1489
00:43:02,578 --> 00:43:03,478
Oh my God.

1490
00:43:03,701 --> 00:43:05,771
by the end of the night as he staggered

1491
00:43:05,771 --> 00:43:07,772
out to his car, why are people

1492
00:43:07,772 --> 00:43:09,032
just watching him drive to his car?

1493
00:43:09,240 --> 00:43:10,216
Someone noticed he had

1494
00:43:10,216 --> 00:43:11,896
lost the glass eye again.

1495
00:43:12,053 --> 00:43:13,236
This time in the horse

1496
00:43:13,236 --> 00:43:14,886
pasture next to the venue.

1497
00:43:15,176 --> 00:43:16,849
That sentence is very troubling to

1498
00:43:16,849 --> 00:43:18,319
me because it sounds like he drove

1499
00:43:18,319 --> 00:43:21,272
himself home and presumably with one

1500
00:43:21,272 --> 00:43:23,392
eye drunk in with one eye, with one

1501
00:43:23,392 --> 00:43:25,072
eye drunk.

1502
00:43:25,222 --> 00:43:26,212
You know what?

1503
00:43:26,382 --> 00:43:27,448
this venue needs to be

1504
00:43:27,448 --> 00:43:29,008
shut down immediately.

1505
00:43:29,261 --> 00:43:30,152
Immediately.

1506
00:43:30,152 --> 00:43:30,212
Yeah.

1507
00:43:30,391 --> 00:43:31,568
You guys are, our wedding

1508
00:43:31,628 --> 00:43:32,798
venue is watching this go

1509
00:43:32,798 --> 00:43:34,568
down, not calling the police.

1510
00:43:34,761 --> 00:43:35,015
Yeah.

1511
00:43:35,015 --> 00:43:35,195
What's

1512
00:43:35,195 --> 00:43:35,735
going on?

1513
00:43:36,018 --> 00:43:36,952
Well, these drunk people getting

1514
00:43:36,952 --> 00:43:38,182
into their cars, like, come

1515
00:43:38,182 --> 00:43:39,772
on, what are we doing here?

1516
00:43:40,008 --> 00:43:41,725
she said, the next day, I

1517
00:43:41,725 --> 00:43:43,105
have no idea what happened.

1518
00:43:43,135 --> 00:43:44,665
I never saw Derrick again and

1519
00:43:44,665 --> 00:43:46,345
never saw the couple again either.

1520
00:43:46,521 --> 00:43:48,185
But let's just say when you work

1521
00:43:48,185 --> 00:43:49,655
weddings, you really do see it.

1522
00:43:49,655 --> 00:43:51,035
All the good, the bad, and

1523
00:43:51,035 --> 00:43:52,775
the downright unbelievable.

1524
00:43:52,970 --> 00:43:53,838
And this wedding was

1525
00:43:53,838 --> 00:43:55,668
definitely one for the books.

1526
00:43:55,946 --> 00:43:56,348
I

1527
00:43:58,533 --> 00:43:59,908
big, big problem at weddings.

1528
00:43:59,908 --> 00:44:02,060
But this just sounds like, people

1529
00:44:02,060 --> 00:44:03,890
like this ruin it for everybody else.

1530
00:44:04,096 --> 00:44:06,074
This poor bride ran away crying.

1531
00:44:06,074 --> 00:44:07,544
We don't know what happened to her.

1532
00:44:07,967 --> 00:44:08,597
are her And the groom

1533
00:44:08,597 --> 00:44:10,384
still together beats me.

1534
00:44:10,474 --> 00:44:11,854
I couldn't be with someone after that.

1535
00:44:12,491 --> 00:44:13,241
No.

1536
00:44:13,541 --> 00:44:14,681
Oh my gosh.

1537
00:44:14,951 --> 00:44:15,957
Oh my gosh.

1538
00:44:15,987 --> 00:44:17,397
I have no words.

1539
00:44:17,530 --> 00:44:18,906
I would like an update on

1540
00:44:18,906 --> 00:44:21,396
this one if you can find one.

1541
00:44:22,270 --> 00:44:23,166
Maybe if you're a vendor,

1542
00:44:23,166 --> 00:44:24,996
try to access the records,

1543
00:44:26,795 --> 00:44:27,045
Okay.

1544
00:44:27,045 --> 00:44:27,975
This will be my hope.

1545
00:44:28,275 --> 00:44:29,625
We're gonna read this story.

1546
00:44:29,625 --> 00:44:31,429
The story's gonna come out, the

1547
00:44:31,429 --> 00:44:33,619
bride is gonna hear the story, and

1548
00:44:33,619 --> 00:44:35,749
she's gonna be like, that's about me.

1549
00:44:35,929 --> 00:44:37,872
I need to write my perspective.

1550
00:44:37,872 --> 00:44:39,162
Or maybe a bridesmaid so

1551
00:44:39,162 --> 00:44:40,395
it's not like directly.

1552
00:44:40,395 --> 00:44:41,625
And then we can get a full update.

1553
00:44:42,105 --> 00:44:43,065
So I need a glass.

1554
00:44:43,305 --> 00:44:43,845
Hi.

1555
00:44:43,995 --> 00:44:44,985
Talk to your thing.

1556
00:44:46,629 --> 00:44:47,675
Who could forget the glass

1557
00:44:47,675 --> 00:44:49,445
eye and the horse pasture?

1558
00:44:49,505 --> 00:44:50,195
Wow.

1559
00:44:50,255 --> 00:44:51,245
Yeah, I know.

1560
00:44:52,002 --> 00:44:53,795
I feel like those are some good clues.

1561
00:44:53,962 --> 00:44:55,462
so people that are listening, I mean,

1562
00:44:55,462 --> 00:44:57,352
people find everyone on TikTok, right?

1563
00:44:57,352 --> 00:44:58,582
I mean, they find the Coldplay

1564
00:44:58,582 --> 00:45:02,109
couple, they find, you know.

1565
00:45:03,632 --> 00:45:05,432
People can find the glass eye guy.

1566
00:45:05,632 --> 00:45:06,942
Maybe he will Reach out to John.

1567
00:45:06,942 --> 00:45:07,062
Yes.

1568
00:45:07,632 --> 00:45:08,712
Let us know that, that

1569
00:45:08,712 --> 00:45:10,632
you're alive and well.

1570
00:45:10,905 --> 00:45:14,069
and maybe stop drinking and driving.

1571
00:45:14,295 --> 00:45:14,555
Yeah.

1572
00:45:14,555 --> 00:45:14,645
With

1573
00:45:14,825 --> 00:45:15,755
a glass eye.

1574
00:45:15,755 --> 00:45:17,255
You know, I'm gonna hope

1575
00:45:17,255 --> 00:45:18,930
maybe look out for others, Yeah.

1576
00:45:18,990 --> 00:45:20,610
I'm gonna hope he was just walking to

1577
00:45:20,610 --> 00:45:22,560
his car to get like an overnight bag

1578
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:24,390
and then get in the Uber or something.

1579
00:45:24,573 --> 00:45:26,330
I'm just gonna hope that was me too.

1580
00:45:26,895 --> 00:45:27,185
Yeah.

1581
00:45:28,308 --> 00:45:29,208
You say positive.

1582
00:45:29,948 --> 00:45:30,168
Yes.

1583
00:45:30,710 --> 00:45:31,227
Okay.

1584
00:45:31,443 --> 00:45:33,063
I'm just gonna end with some confessions.

1585
00:45:33,063 --> 00:45:34,413
People always send me some wild

1586
00:45:34,413 --> 00:45:36,750
confessions, so here we go.

1587
00:45:37,050 --> 00:45:39,199
This one says, I I just wanted one

1588
00:45:39,199 --> 00:45:41,059
of my sisters as my maid of honor.

1589
00:45:41,089 --> 00:45:43,039
My mom said all five of my

1590
00:45:43,039 --> 00:45:45,109
siblings had to be in the wedding.

1591
00:45:45,412 --> 00:45:46,552
I mean, I guess it depends on how

1592
00:45:46,552 --> 00:45:48,092
close you are but if it's like,

1593
00:45:48,329 --> 00:45:49,999
but boys and girls and your grooms

1594
00:45:49,999 --> 00:45:51,469
not close to your brothers, how you

1595
00:45:51,469 --> 00:45:53,269
can't really make him have them.

1596
00:45:53,269 --> 00:45:53,599
Right?

1597
00:45:53,834 --> 00:45:56,211
It  on if mom's paying, right?

1598
00:45:56,429 --> 00:45:57,947
I guess unfortunately, if mom's

1599
00:45:58,487 --> 00:46:01,174
paying mom gets a say, but oof.

1600
00:46:01,594 --> 00:46:02,764
Yeah, that's tough.

1601
00:46:03,002 --> 00:46:04,872
I have a bunch of siblings and yeah, I

1602
00:46:04,872 --> 00:46:07,431
think I had two sisters is bridesmaids.

1603
00:46:07,431 --> 00:46:09,741
But yeah, we all vary in ages and

1604
00:46:09,741 --> 00:46:12,261
closeness, so there was no way.

1605
00:46:12,409 --> 00:46:14,811
So yeah, I think something I've really

1606
00:46:14,901 --> 00:46:16,911
learned as I've gotten older is our

1607
00:46:16,911 --> 00:46:19,684
parents' decisions aren't necessarily

1608
00:46:19,832 --> 00:46:21,776
our decisions and that's okay.

1609
00:46:21,776 --> 00:46:23,561
And like if you aren't as close to some

1610
00:46:23,561 --> 00:46:25,581
siblings, It's not your fault, Yeah.

1611
00:46:25,581 --> 00:46:26,721
Especially if there's like huge

1612
00:46:26,721 --> 00:46:28,341
age gaps if you have five siblings.

1613
00:46:28,341 --> 00:46:29,301
I'm assuming so.

1614
00:46:29,444 --> 00:46:29,894
yeah.

1615
00:46:30,229 --> 00:46:30,600
Yeah.

1616
00:46:30,780 --> 00:46:32,800
But don't accept money if you aren't

1617
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:34,450
comfortable with something like that.

1618
00:46:34,450 --> 00:46:35,230
For sure.

1619
00:46:35,364 --> 00:46:36,040
Yes.

1620
00:46:36,241 --> 00:46:38,063
But I also agreed too, or also

1621
00:46:38,063 --> 00:46:39,713
think too, that like money's not

1622
00:46:39,713 --> 00:46:41,363
an indicator of them being able to

1623
00:46:41,363 --> 00:46:43,163
control has to be given as a gift.

1624
00:46:43,384 --> 00:46:45,672
But, to your point too, is like if

1625
00:46:45,672 --> 00:46:47,735
they are making it clear, because

1626
00:46:47,735 --> 00:46:49,415
I'm giving you money, I make these

1627
00:46:49,415 --> 00:46:51,065
decisions, then yeah, we're gonna like,

1628
00:46:51,065 --> 00:46:52,835
no, we don't need your help then, and

1629
00:46:52,835 --> 00:46:54,155
we're gonna just do a small wedding.

1630
00:46:54,481 --> 00:46:57,075
This one says, I found my dream dress

1631
00:46:57,075 --> 00:46:59,805
on Etsy, and my mom said I couldn't get

1632
00:46:59,805 --> 00:47:02,175
it because my back fat would hang out.

1633
00:47:02,594 --> 00:47:03,694
Oh, what?

1634
00:47:05,767 --> 00:47:08,182
Oh, oh my God.

1635
00:47:08,187 --> 00:47:08,542
I'm, I'm so

1636
00:47:08,812 --> 00:47:09,652
sorry.

1637
00:47:09,682 --> 00:47:09,952
Yeah.

1638
00:47:10,162 --> 00:47:12,179
That would be an uninvite for me.

1639
00:47:12,364 --> 00:47:12,955
Like, yeah.

1640
00:47:13,015 --> 00:47:13,795
Someone that's supposed to make you

1641
00:47:13,795 --> 00:47:15,972
feel good and beautiful, and then

1642
00:47:15,972 --> 00:47:17,742
make a comment about your body.

1643
00:47:17,965 --> 00:47:19,315
That's awful.

1644
00:47:19,585 --> 00:47:20,785
Oh my God.

1645
00:47:20,961 --> 00:47:22,092
And you're gonna be thinking about

1646
00:47:22,092 --> 00:47:23,982
that your whole wedding day now too.

1647
00:47:24,372 --> 00:47:25,422
Which is so sad.

1648
00:47:25,422 --> 00:47:27,282
No matter what dress you end up wearing.

1649
00:47:27,372 --> 00:47:27,612
Ugh.

1650
00:47:27,792 --> 00:47:28,122
Yeah.

1651
00:47:28,182 --> 00:47:29,442
What a terrible mom.

1652
00:47:29,682 --> 00:47:30,432
I know.

1653
00:47:30,432 --> 00:47:32,052
Like, why would you make that comment?

1654
00:47:32,052 --> 00:47:33,872
Like, Ugh, I hate that.

1655
00:47:34,192 --> 00:47:35,209
this one says

1656
00:47:35,299 --> 00:47:36,829
my wedding was rushed.

1657
00:47:36,979 --> 00:47:38,149
My dad was dying.

1658
00:47:38,149 --> 00:47:40,276
Mother-in-law told me, wait for

1659
00:47:40,276 --> 00:47:43,186
him to die and plan a proper event.

1660
00:47:43,431 --> 00:47:44,773
That is terrible.

1661
00:47:45,111 --> 00:47:45,680
What.

1662
00:47:46,194 --> 00:47:46,861
Why does the mother, oh

1663
00:47:46,861 --> 00:47:48,511
my God, that's okay to say

1664
00:47:49,501 --> 00:47:50,581
evil family members.

1665
00:47:50,581 --> 00:47:51,841
What is this?

1666
00:47:51,841 --> 00:47:53,371
Oh, that's awful.

1667
00:47:53,575 --> 00:47:54,475
Of course you want your

1668
00:47:54,475 --> 00:47:55,615
dad at your wedding.

1669
00:47:55,615 --> 00:47:55,795
Yeah, that's

1670
00:47:56,750 --> 00:47:56,910
awful.

1671
00:47:57,388 --> 00:47:58,415
Like the fact that she'll have those

1672
00:47:58,415 --> 00:48:00,515
memories and like pictures with him,

1673
00:48:00,515 --> 00:48:02,635
like, oh my gosh, that's terrible.

1674
00:48:02,861 --> 00:48:02,933
Okay.

1675
00:48:03,505 --> 00:48:05,045
let's do one more.

1676
00:48:05,315 --> 00:48:07,055
my stepmom tried to guilt me

1677
00:48:07,055 --> 00:48:09,605
into having my abusive alcoholic

1678
00:48:09,605 --> 00:48:11,735
bio Dad, walk me down the aisle.

1679
00:48:12,028 --> 00:48:13,263
Oh my God.

1680
00:48:13,750 --> 00:48:14,746
I mean I feel like that just goes

1681
00:48:14,746 --> 00:48:17,796
back to like, don't do anything that

1682
00:48:17,796 --> 00:48:19,296
you don't wanna do for your wedding.

1683
00:48:19,536 --> 00:48:20,253
anything especially that

1684
00:48:20,253 --> 00:48:22,293
makes you uncomfortable or

1685
00:48:22,514 --> 00:48:23,843
not happy on your wedding day.

1686
00:48:24,094 --> 00:48:25,936
I walked myself down the aisle

1687
00:48:26,206 --> 00:48:27,916
'cause my dad passed away.

1688
00:48:27,916 --> 00:48:29,806
And yeah, I feel like I had

1689
00:48:29,806 --> 00:48:30,832
a, similar situation where

1690
00:48:30,832 --> 00:48:32,182
people were just giving me.

1691
00:48:32,374 --> 00:48:33,612
Crap about it.

1692
00:48:33,858 --> 00:48:35,942
And I was just like, this is my wedding.

1693
00:48:36,192 --> 00:48:37,542
Why does anyone have to give me away?

1694
00:48:37,542 --> 00:48:40,034
It's such an old fashioned tradition, and

1695
00:48:40,034 --> 00:48:42,948
if you wanna do that, that's fine, but it

1696
00:48:42,948 --> 00:48:45,198
should be representative of what you want.

1697
00:48:45,198 --> 00:48:47,178
Whether that's giving yourself away

1698
00:48:47,178 --> 00:48:49,164
or someone you're equally close

1699
00:48:49,169 --> 00:48:51,804
to even a friend, even sisters.

1700
00:48:51,915 --> 00:48:52,095
Mm-hmm.

1701
00:48:52,395 --> 00:48:54,225
People walk their dogs down the aisle like

1702
00:48:54,225 --> 00:48:56,415
that doesn't have to be the tradition.

1703
00:48:56,475 --> 00:48:57,105
Like no.

1704
00:48:57,165 --> 00:48:57,405
Right.

1705
00:48:57,465 --> 00:48:57,825
Yeah.

1706
00:48:57,825 --> 00:48:59,882
I know I took that sentence

1707
00:48:59,882 --> 00:49:01,202
out of our wedding about like,

1708
00:49:01,262 --> 00:49:02,702
do your parents give you away?

1709
00:49:02,732 --> 00:49:04,662
'cause I was like, I've been out on

1710
00:49:04,662 --> 00:49:06,984
my own, like for years at that point.

1711
00:49:06,984 --> 00:49:08,818
My now husband, but like, we'd

1712
00:49:08,818 --> 00:49:10,618
already been living together for like

1713
00:49:10,768 --> 00:49:12,448
four or five years at that point.

1714
00:49:12,448 --> 00:49:14,698
So I'm like, they're not giving me away.

1715
00:49:14,728 --> 00:49:16,418
I'm my own person out

1716
00:49:16,418 --> 00:49:17,528
in the world already.

1717
00:49:17,558 --> 00:49:18,038
You know?

1718
00:49:18,282 --> 00:49:19,461
So that just felt like a

1719
00:49:19,461 --> 00:49:21,351
weird dated phrase for me.

1720
00:49:21,411 --> 00:49:21,501
Yes.

1721
00:49:21,749 --> 00:49:21,878
Yeah.

1722
00:49:23,048 --> 00:49:24,668
There's a lot of data traditions

1723
00:49:24,668 --> 00:49:25,958
in weddings that I think we need

1724
00:49:25,958 --> 00:49:27,668
to analyze, and if your family's

1725
00:49:27,668 --> 00:49:29,934
giving you crap about it, it's

1726
00:49:29,934 --> 00:49:31,938
like, why do they need to be there?

1727
00:49:31,938 --> 00:49:32,568
You know what I mean?

1728
00:49:32,568 --> 00:49:33,858
Like your family should be making you

1729
00:49:33,858 --> 00:49:35,478
feel good on your wedding day, and

1730
00:49:35,478 --> 00:49:37,098
if they're not and they're causing

1731
00:49:37,098 --> 00:49:38,696
drama, it just seems like a lot.

1732
00:49:38,696 --> 00:49:41,426
I mean, it's just the tale is old as time

1733
00:49:41,486 --> 00:49:43,676
with families causing drama at weddings.

1734
00:49:43,830 --> 00:49:46,060
It's just like analyze your closeness with

1735
00:49:46,060 --> 00:49:48,120
these people and it's good to know for the

1736
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:51,210
next phases of life of like, okay, check.

1737
00:49:51,210 --> 00:49:54,390
I don't need Aunt Susie at this or that

1738
00:49:54,390 --> 00:49:56,370
event because she's gonna cause drama.

1739
00:49:56,370 --> 00:49:58,890
So it's good to know, but it still sucks.

1740
00:49:59,066 --> 00:50:00,686
Yeah, no, for sure.

1741
00:50:00,883 --> 00:50:01,726
That is wild.

1742
00:50:01,933 --> 00:50:03,313
I feel for all these brides and

1743
00:50:03,313 --> 00:50:05,263
grooms and whoever else I have to

1744
00:50:05,263 --> 00:50:06,973
deal with, that kind of stuff because

1745
00:50:06,973 --> 00:50:08,683
it's just, learning boundaries I

1746
00:50:08,683 --> 00:50:11,023
think is like a really big thing.

1747
00:50:11,023 --> 00:50:13,200
And When you realize that having

1748
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:15,200
a boundary is not mean, it's just

1749
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:16,910
making yourself more, I don't

1750
00:50:16,910 --> 00:50:19,036
know, maybe at peace or something.

1751
00:50:19,126 --> 00:50:20,656
I don't know the right term, but like

1752
00:50:20,846 --> 00:50:22,013
it's just taking care of yourself.

1753
00:50:22,013 --> 00:50:23,633
Having boundaries and they're not mean

1754
00:50:23,633 --> 00:50:25,066
because as they're recovering people,

1755
00:50:25,066 --> 00:50:26,416
pleaser, I feel like for the longest time

1756
00:50:26,416 --> 00:50:27,856
I was like, oh, boundaries are so mean.

1757
00:50:27,856 --> 00:50:28,936
I can't have boundaries.

1758
00:50:28,936 --> 00:50:30,223
But like it's healthy.

1759
00:50:30,393 --> 00:50:31,570
Like you need to have boundaries.

1760
00:50:31,813 --> 00:50:33,160
I think the people who push your

1761
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:34,870
boundaries always have the strongest

1762
00:50:34,870 --> 00:50:36,880
boundaries, which I find very

1763
00:50:36,910 --> 00:50:38,950
ironic and something that I've

1764
00:50:38,950 --> 00:50:41,170
learned in the last several months.

1765
00:50:41,170 --> 00:50:43,290
It's like, why can these people have

1766
00:50:43,290 --> 00:50:45,843
the strongest boundaries in the world?

1767
00:50:46,112 --> 00:50:48,422
Or just walk all over me, but then

1768
00:50:48,629 --> 00:50:51,605
when I push back, they act like

1769
00:50:51,605 --> 00:50:53,045
it's the biggest deal in the world.

1770
00:50:53,115 --> 00:50:54,499
It's very interesting.

1771
00:50:54,499 --> 00:50:55,590
That's a's very interesting.

1772
00:50:55,590 --> 00:50:56,815
So start to analyze that,

1773
00:50:57,235 --> 00:50:57,775
those relationships.

1774
00:50:58,712 --> 00:51:00,812
Yeah, it's almost like the opposite where

1775
00:51:00,812 --> 00:51:02,972
they like weaponize the boundary, right?

1776
00:51:02,972 --> 00:51:04,939
Like they are able to have the

1777
00:51:04,939 --> 00:51:06,319
strong boundary, but they don't

1778
00:51:06,319 --> 00:51:08,359
respect the same for other people.

1779
00:51:08,599 --> 00:51:08,919
So that's,

1780
00:51:09,609 --> 00:51:10,119
yeah.

1781
00:51:10,302 --> 00:51:11,965
I'm a big proponent of, you

1782
00:51:11,965 --> 00:51:14,155
need to give the equal energy

1783
00:51:14,155 --> 00:51:15,685
that you're capable of taking.

1784
00:51:15,685 --> 00:51:17,695
And I definitely had some situations

1785
00:51:17,695 --> 00:51:20,532
with my last relationship and like

1786
00:51:20,532 --> 00:51:23,229
in-law stuff where things were, said

1787
00:51:23,229 --> 00:51:25,049
to me that I would never, if I said

1788
00:51:25,049 --> 00:51:27,584
that back, it would be World War iii.

1789
00:51:27,584 --> 00:51:27,914
Right?

1790
00:51:27,914 --> 00:51:28,934
And it's like, why do you think that's

1791
00:51:28,934 --> 00:51:31,124
acceptable to speak to me that way?

1792
00:51:31,124 --> 00:51:33,784
And it's always so interesting you see.

1793
00:51:34,019 --> 00:51:36,087
Adults emotional maturity.

1794
00:51:36,087 --> 00:51:38,067
When you do give it back to them where

1795
00:51:38,067 --> 00:51:40,557
you do question their behavior, you start

1796
00:51:40,557 --> 00:51:42,627
to see a lot of waterworks and a lot

1797
00:51:42,627 --> 00:51:45,704
of triangulation and things like that.

1798
00:51:45,704 --> 00:51:48,614
And I think it's hard with these family

1799
00:51:48,614 --> 00:51:51,864
situations, but they do make you stronger

1800
00:51:51,924 --> 00:51:53,844
on the other side of them, and they

1801
00:51:53,844 --> 00:51:56,334
do force you to have those boundaries,

1802
00:51:56,394 --> 00:51:58,451
even though it sucks to have to have

1803
00:51:58,451 --> 00:52:00,241
them, they're there for a reason.

1804
00:52:00,429 --> 00:52:01,697
That's a buzzword for a reason.

1805
00:52:02,237 --> 00:52:02,387
So

1806
00:52:02,829 --> 00:52:03,981
yeah, boundaries are like

1807
00:52:03,981 --> 00:52:05,241
everywhere now, I feel like.

1808
00:52:05,241 --> 00:52:06,508
And it's just about using them

1809
00:52:06,508 --> 00:52:09,082
in the right way to, you know,

1810
00:52:10,192 --> 00:52:11,752
ah, bridge a gap, I think.

1811
00:52:12,152 --> 00:52:13,652
And your wedding day is the

1812
00:52:13,652 --> 00:52:15,482
right way and the right day.

1813
00:52:15,482 --> 00:52:16,922
So a big proponent, do what

1814
00:52:16,922 --> 00:52:18,452
you want at your wedding.

1815
00:52:18,655 --> 00:52:18,728
Yeah.

1816
00:52:18,728 --> 00:52:20,742
Who cares what anyone says

1817
00:52:20,742 --> 00:52:23,082
online in real life, your family.

1818
00:52:23,082 --> 00:52:24,775
Otherwise it's for you.

1819
00:52:24,865 --> 00:52:25,795
And think about why you're

1820
00:52:25,795 --> 00:52:27,505
doing it for the right reasons.

1821
00:52:27,771 --> 00:52:29,212
Yes, absolutely.

1822
00:52:29,431 --> 00:52:30,065
I love that.

1823
00:52:30,451 --> 00:52:31,355
Well, thank you so much

1824
00:52:31,355 --> 00:52:32,795
for coming back on Cora.

1825
00:52:32,795 --> 00:52:34,085
It was so great hanging out with you.

1826
00:52:34,085 --> 00:52:35,878
Sorry for all the internet issues.

1827
00:52:35,878 --> 00:52:37,408
I don't know what's going on over here.

1828
00:52:37,408 --> 00:52:38,798
I gotta figure that out.

1829
00:52:39,578 --> 00:52:40,553
Thanks for having me

1830
00:52:40,598 --> 00:52:41,228
again.

1831
00:52:41,228 --> 00:52:42,638
Let's do it a third time.

1832
00:52:42,848 --> 00:52:44,568
Yes, you are always welcome back on.

1833
00:52:44,568 --> 00:52:46,068
I've got like so many

1834
00:52:46,068 --> 00:52:47,328
stories that are sent to me.

1835
00:52:47,328 --> 00:52:48,498
So like me, we're just

1836
00:52:48,498 --> 00:52:50,358
constantly rolling them out.

1837
00:52:50,358 --> 00:52:52,518
So anytime you wanna come back on.

1838
00:52:52,653 --> 00:52:53,118
Awesome.

1839
00:52:53,663 --> 00:52:55,403
for anybody that's listening,

1840
00:52:55,403 --> 00:52:56,933
where can they follow you?

1841
00:52:57,198 --> 00:52:58,308
and what kind of content and

1842
00:52:58,308 --> 00:52:59,358
all that good stuff do they see?

1843
00:52:59,715 --> 00:53:02,415
Yeah, you can follow me on TikTok at

1844
00:53:02,415 --> 00:53:05,969
Cora Lakey or my Instagram, Cora  Lakey.

1845
00:53:06,359 --> 00:53:07,479
I think different handles

1846
00:53:07,479 --> 00:53:09,317
since the time I was here.

1847
00:53:09,797 --> 00:53:12,614
And yeah, I talk about my life kind

1848
00:53:12,614 --> 00:53:15,247
of healing from, starting over.

1849
00:53:15,247 --> 00:53:17,451
I'm started over at 30 and kind of

1850
00:53:17,451 --> 00:53:19,221
talking about all the challenges, all

1851
00:53:19,221 --> 00:53:20,871
the changes that I wasn't expecting.

1852
00:53:20,871 --> 00:53:22,371
So it's been a wild ride and

1853
00:53:22,371 --> 00:53:23,541
would love to have you along.

1854
00:53:23,754 --> 00:53:23,931
Awesome.

1855
00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:24,671
Well

1856
00:53:24,671 --> 00:53:25,241
thank you again

1857
00:53:25,241 --> 00:53:26,381
for coming on, Cora.