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<v Speaker 2>Jake says, guys, I could use some advice. This situation's

<v Speaker 2>been bugging me A while back. I loaned a close

<v Speaker 2>friend a decent chunk of money, like a couple grand oh,

<v Speaker 2>because she was going through some really tough times. I

<v Speaker 2>didn't think twice about it. She promised that she would

<v Speaker 2>pay me back when things get better, and I wanted

<v Speaker 2>to help. Well. Fast forward about a year and somehow,

<v Speaker 2>a weird twist of fate, that same friend ended up

<v Speaker 2>becoming my girlfriend. Oh. He wrote, smooth right, a smooth JAYZ.

<v Speaker 2>He goes on to say, as fun as that sounds,

<v Speaker 2>it's now my turn to be in a pickle. With

<v Speaker 2>some unexpected medical costs, and I need to be paid

<v Speaker 2>back like soon. The money she owes me would be

<v Speaker 2>a huge help. Right now, let me say that she's

<v Speaker 2>doing way better financially these days. I think she makes

<v Speaker 2>more than I do. What makes it sting a little

<v Speaker 2>bit more is that I see her showing off new

<v Speaker 2>outfits and little splurges while I'm still in the hole.

<v Speaker 2>I don't want to be that guy who ruins a

<v Speaker 2>good thing by bringing up money, but it's hard not

<v Speaker 2>to feel like I'm kind of being taken advantage of now.

<v Speaker 2>And to make it even more confusing, she once joked

<v Speaker 2>guess I already paid you back with love and kind

<v Speaker 2>of laughed at all. I can't tell if that was

<v Speaker 2>a joke or just how she actually sees it, So JKJ,

<v Speaker 2>here's my dilemma. Do I bring it up and ask

<v Speaker 2>for the money back? Or does being a in a

<v Speaker 2>community or does being in a committed relationship mean that

<v Speaker 2>the money is officially gone? He goes and ps, the

<v Speaker 2>lovin is really good. I'd love to hear your take,

<v Speaker 2>and that is from Jake, if you want to sound off.

<v Speaker 2>Three ozho three six nine one one mix three oh

<v Speaker 2>three six nine one, sixteen forty nine. All right, should

<v Speaker 2>we give her a name? Jake and.

<v Speaker 3>Sammy?

<v Speaker 2>Sammy of course, because it sounds like sandwich. Alright, so

<v Speaker 2>Jake and Sammy. Jake gave Sammy two thousand dollars. She

<v Speaker 2>was in a pickle. Uh, then they started dating, which

<v Speaker 2>is crazy. Now he's in a pickle and would like

<v Speaker 2>that money back. She asked for it. I wish she

<v Speaker 2>had loaned her two thousand pickles?

<v Speaker 3>Boy?

<v Speaker 2>Is that this is a unique situation? It is because truly,

<v Speaker 2>I feel like a lot of people have loaned out money,

<v Speaker 2>right and and uh, now to be dating the person

<v Speaker 2>that you gave the money to, Yeah, what are you

<v Speaker 2>do in that situation?

<v Speaker 1>I mean, immediately you My initial reaction is you can't

<v Speaker 1>ask for it back if you which, by the way, ps,

<v Speaker 1>the lovin's good, I know, if you want that love

<v Speaker 1>and to continue with her, you can't ask for it back.

<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's it's his money. It's yeah, But what's

<v Speaker 1>the saying lend without thinking you'll ever get it back

<v Speaker 1>or something like that, especially to a friend who's now

<v Speaker 1>more than a friend.

<v Speaker 3>And if she's made that comment of well, I guess

<v Speaker 3>I already paid you back with it, then it's crossed

<v Speaker 3>her mind.

<v Speaker 2>Oh totally.

<v Speaker 3>She's thought about what she's gonna do, and she's not

<v Speaker 3>gonna She's.

<v Speaker 2>Being passive about it.

<v Speaker 1>She's saying like, hey, I'm not paying you back, I'm

<v Speaker 1>literally giving you something else.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like that's just the way. But if she cares

<v Speaker 2>about him, and she sees that he's in this medical

<v Speaker 2>dilemma right now and he needs to pay some bills,

<v Speaker 2>like that's a horrible thing too to be like, ok it,

<v Speaker 2>get it paid, well, I don't know if i'd want

<v Speaker 2>to be with a person like that.

<v Speaker 3>Maybe he does need to then have the conversation with

<v Speaker 3>with her with that kind of context, like, Hey, I

<v Speaker 3>just had this huge bill come across and I don't

<v Speaker 3>know how I'm gonna pay it. You know, I know

<v Speaker 3>that you're in a much better place now, and is

<v Speaker 3>there any way that you can help me with this

<v Speaker 3>since I helped you when you were struggling. Like, if

<v Speaker 3>he wants to put it like that, I think that's

<v Speaker 3>a good way to approach it. But to come up

<v Speaker 3>to her and say, hey, you still owe me this money? Yeah,

<v Speaker 3>And I don't think because that's the thing, I truly

<v Speaker 3>feel like she thinks that they're past it. Because if

<v Speaker 3>she's like flaunting outfits, I just remember, like the few

<v Speaker 3>times I've owed people money, I don't want to show

<v Speaker 3>them any wealth until I pay.

<v Speaker 2>It back, like I keep it on the unt.

<v Speaker 3>I'm like eating Ramen noodles in front of them, so

<v Speaker 3>they think I'm really strange, right, you know what I mean?

<v Speaker 3>Like I don't want them to think I'm in any

<v Speaker 3>kind of situation that's better off because they need to know, right,

<v Speaker 3>Like that's the why I look at it. So if

<v Speaker 3>she's flaunting outfits in front of him, she thinks it's fine.

<v Speaker 2>Uh, phone line is are ringing. Josh's gonna snag these

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<v Speaker 2>sound off about Jake's dilemma here for show wants to know.

<v Speaker 2>Here's the thing though, as a dude, how do you

<v Speaker 2>know that it's not like a TJ Max outfit or

<v Speaker 2>a Marshall's outfit, or you know, maybe she's using her

<v Speaker 2>Cole's cash Katie, Yeah, like to him, I mean, some

<v Speaker 2>guys are oblivious to what things cost and what, you know,

<v Speaker 2>what his fancy wardrobe. She could literally just be picking

<v Speaker 2>stuff up at Coles or whatever and looking really good

<v Speaker 2>and he's thinking that she's going to Lulu Limon too.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well, I think we do stuff in general, you know.

<v Speaker 3>I think it just like again, if she owed him

<v Speaker 3>money and felt bad about owing him money, she wouldn't

<v Speaker 3>be flaunting new things.

<v Speaker 4>Whether they be from TJ max or Nordstrum.

<v Speaker 2>Right shop shopping shopping at ross. Yeah, hy LEXI, good morning, Hi,

<v Speaker 2>good morning, good morning to you. So did you hear

<v Speaker 2>about Jake and his girlfriend?

<v Speaker 5>I did hot take. I do think he should ask

<v Speaker 5>him ask her for it back. I think she agreed

<v Speaker 5>to pay him back when she was in a better place,

<v Speaker 5>and I don't think the relationship really has to do

<v Speaker 5>with that.

<v Speaker 2>Is the better place the relationship.

<v Speaker 6>I guess every relationship is gonna have to talk about

<v Speaker 6>financials at some point, and and they're, yeah, they're gonna

<v Speaker 6>have one to start with because they had a financial

<v Speaker 6>conversation going on.

<v Speaker 5>Before there was even a relationship. So they're gonna have

<v Speaker 5>to talk about it. And I do think, you know,

<v Speaker 5>maybe he left it on the table a little too long.

<v Speaker 5>It seems like it's kind of been, you know, put

<v Speaker 5>under the rug for a while. But I think ultimately

<v Speaker 5>they're gonna have to talk about it.

<v Speaker 2>I think this dude is just really, really worried that

<v Speaker 2>he's not going to get in any boody anymore. And

<v Speaker 2>I think that is the biggest biggest concern I'm seeing

<v Speaker 2>on this, especially when he ends the note by saying, ps,

<v Speaker 2>the love's really good. Like his biggest concern, I don't

<v Speaker 2>think is the money. It's missing out on a little

<v Speaker 2>sexy time with Sammy, making a sandwich with Sammy, if

<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean. Yeah, LEXI thank you for

<v Speaker 2>the call. We appreciate you. Whu's Annabelle. Good morning, Annabelle,

<v Speaker 2>Good morning to you.

<v Speaker 7>How are you.

<v Speaker 2>Well, we're super dupes. So what do you think about

<v Speaker 2>Jake's situation?

<v Speaker 7>Well, I think he should. He should talk to her

<v Speaker 7>about it and just ask for it help, like you know,

<v Speaker 7>one of your hostsis. He could go by saying hey, baby,

<v Speaker 7>you know or whatever, Yeah, hey baby, hey, I need help.

<v Speaker 7>You know, I'm I'm kind of you know on that.

<v Speaker 2>Well, if it's for medical stuff, I mean I'm dying. Yeah,

<v Speaker 2>I need money.

<v Speaker 7>I'm dying if that woman, he should be able to

<v Speaker 7>understand it's vice versa, you.

<v Speaker 2>Know, yeah, be like compassionate. You know you the guy

<v Speaker 2>is cash.

<v Speaker 7>Back, because that's what's wrong with this world is no communication.

<v Speaker 7>And communication is a good thing in the relationship.

<v Speaker 4>You are so right now, yeah, with everything, with everything.

<v Speaker 2>So you're on team talk to her instead of just

<v Speaker 2>let it go.

<v Speaker 7>Yes, yes, I think he should talk to her about it.

<v Speaker 7>I mean, I don't know if that doesn't that sounds

<v Speaker 7>like asking about it. But it's only a good way,

<v Speaker 7>you know.

<v Speaker 2>And how did you want him to start it off?

<v Speaker 8>Hey hey bababy, Well, you know whatever, whatever he.

<v Speaker 7>Has to do.

<v Speaker 2>I just wanted to hear you say hey baby again

<v Speaker 2>that you know, can you say it? Go hey, go

<v Speaker 2>go hey their baby? Ye you know what, Annabel, Annabel,

<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna let you go until he said it,

<v Speaker 2>say hey their baby.

<v Speaker 7>Oh, hey, their baby. I like that a lot. I mean,

<v Speaker 7>I mean, I'm sixty one years old, and I know

<v Speaker 7>I just think, you.

<v Speaker 2>Know, that's all right. I'm into cougars. It's all good.

<v Speaker 7>No communication.

<v Speaker 8>I just did.

<v Speaker 2>I said, I'm into cougars. We can hang out Annabelle,

<v Speaker 2>I'm not a but I love you. Thank you for

<v Speaker 2>having some fun with us. We're gonna We're gonna let

<v Speaker 2>you go. I got you on camp talk, talk it

<v Speaker 2>out communications. If you're getting a thrown on, hold, hang tight,

<v Speaker 2>we're gonna get to you. Here's right, Raie. Hi, Riley, Hi, Hi,

<v Speaker 2>Now I was expecting good morning, Good morning.

<v Speaker 9>I've got a lot of energy. I just got off work.

<v Speaker 2>So can you hey, do me a favor? Go, heyjare Baby, Hey,

<v Speaker 2>jair Baby. Yeah, I'm into it somehow into it. Yeah,

<v Speaker 2>we'll make this a thing for the rest of the day. Riley,

<v Speaker 2>what are your thoughts.

<v Speaker 9>I'm definitely team talk about it, especially if she if

<v Speaker 9>she feels that she's in a better financial situation than

<v Speaker 9>she was currently. Yeah, And what does it mean for

<v Speaker 9>your relationship too? Like, if you're going to get married,

<v Speaker 9>what your wife's not going to give you a couple

<v Speaker 9>thousand dollars that she's got lying around, Yeah, because you

<v Speaker 9>need it for bills? Like, how does that set off

<v Speaker 9>the whole relationship?

<v Speaker 2>Well, it's a lot like marriage, because you're I'm terrified

<v Speaker 2>at my wife and he's already terrified of his Girlfriend's

<v Speaker 2>quite similar to marriage.

<v Speaker 3>You make a really good point, Riley, when it comes

<v Speaker 3>to your maturity level, and you know a mature adult

<v Speaker 3>would address this situation like, yes, clearly you need the

<v Speaker 3>two thousand dollars back that you loan me. How many

<v Speaker 3>of us can be in a situation where we don't

<v Speaker 3>ask for two thousand dollars back? You know?

<v Speaker 9>So?

<v Speaker 4>I think you're.

<v Speaker 3>Right, like this is a good measure of where they're

<v Speaker 3>at in their relationship, whether or not she's even willing.

<v Speaker 2>To have conversation your barometers. Yeah, yeah, Riley, thank you

<v Speaker 2>for your feedback. I have you under team talk about it.

<v Speaker 9>Thanks to talk about it. Yeah, baby, kisses.

<v Speaker 2>Riley, have a good day, bye, Grace.

<v Speaker 8>Good morning, good morning.

<v Speaker 2>Can you before we start go hey, Jair Baby.

<v Speaker 9>Hey, jair baby, perfect, what would you want to say about?

<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

<v Speaker 2>I like this, Jake, what do you want to say about? Jake?

<v Speaker 8>I'm I'm gonna be honest, Like, if you're in a

<v Speaker 8>committed relationship and you feel like, hey, this girl's my

<v Speaker 8>writer or die, I know she'll be there for me,

<v Speaker 8>don't even bring up Hey Yomi two thousand obviously right,

<v Speaker 8>but just be like honest, like, hey, I'm gonna be

<v Speaker 8>honest with you. Now that we've been together for some time,

<v Speaker 8>how about we like talk about what we can do

<v Speaker 8>for each other.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and can I put you on a payment plan

<v Speaker 2>so you can start repaying? Because literally he could be

<v Speaker 2>the die in the writer or die situation because it

<v Speaker 2>is for medical bills, he could be the die party.

<v Speaker 8>Yes, any man or any female that wants to be

<v Speaker 8>with some money, they will see them as like they're

<v Speaker 8>Bonnie or Clyde. Right, so it's like this person will

<v Speaker 8>always be there for me. I can rely on them

<v Speaker 8>and don't ever have to feel like do I even

<v Speaker 8>have to ask this question? Like don't even start with like, hey,

<v Speaker 8>you on me with two thousand, because obviously it's going

<v Speaker 8>to be a fight, but like be honest, you know, like, hey,

<v Speaker 8>I think we're at a state where we could be

<v Speaker 8>honest with each other kind of tell each other, Hey,

<v Speaker 8>can you help me out with something? Because I really

<v Speaker 8>need the help and I feel like maybe you can

<v Speaker 8>help me.

<v Speaker 3>Now I like that a lot, right, Like that's a

<v Speaker 3>totally separate situation. Right, you're not really bringing the last

<v Speaker 3>situation into the new one, but you are saying, Hey,

<v Speaker 3>we're in a committed relationship, and I would like if

<v Speaker 3>you would help me in my time and.

<v Speaker 2>Need and when you still please sleep with me?

<v Speaker 9>Ye?

<v Speaker 2>Can I still get a little booty? Actually know what

<v Speaker 2>I'm saying.

<v Speaker 8>And I feel like I'm gonna be honest with you

<v Speaker 8>as a woman. I feel like that insecurity is not

<v Speaker 8>so much bad anymore. It's more like a turn on, Like,

<v Speaker 8>oh my god, this guy's like really secure about HTUF

<v Speaker 8>and he's only here talking about me, talking to me

<v Speaker 8>about like all these adults off like great, this is awesome.

<v Speaker 2>Open open communication is sexy. Open communication is sexy, isn't it?

<v Speaker 2>Grace tell me you love me, Grace, I can read.

<v Speaker 8>I have a husband.

<v Speaker 5>I'm sorry.

<v Speaker 4>It's sad.

<v Speaker 2>I understand, Grace.

<v Speaker 4>Now he's sad. Now we gotta deal with Jerb.

<v Speaker 8>I love all three of you guys.

<v Speaker 2>Have a foursome all right, Grace, have a good day.

<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for calling. We got to get

<v Speaker 2>to one more because we're pastime. Hi, Laura Hi, I

<v Speaker 2>agree with the last. Laura, Laura, Laura, Laura tell me

<v Speaker 2>say hey, good morning, Jair baby.

<v Speaker 10>Good morning your baby, thank you now.

<v Speaker 2>Please please continue?

<v Speaker 4>Is being a baby this morning?

<v Speaker 2>I just like the way it sounds.

<v Speaker 10>I agree with the last caller. I think it's time

<v Speaker 10>instead of feeling like someone owes him something to make

<v Speaker 10>himself a little vulnerable and say, hey, I'm having some

<v Speaker 10>issues now, can you be generous with me? It has

<v Speaker 10>nothing to do with being paid back or being owed something.

<v Speaker 10>You're in a relationship, so you can. You can go

<v Speaker 10>there and say.

<v Speaker 2>That, and damn it, it was my money money originally.

<v Speaker 4>Yeah, dang it.

<v Speaker 10>You can't just tit for tat and count in a relationship.

<v Speaker 10>That's not what he's about sometimes somebody else.

<v Speaker 2>But it was your money, was your money.

<v Speaker 1>To begin with, and you weren't in a relationship when

<v Speaker 1>that happened, though you were.

<v Speaker 3>But I like where you're going with this Laura too,

<v Speaker 3>because if she helps him in his time of need,

<v Speaker 3>this could make their relationship get stronger, their bond grow

<v Speaker 3>more if she comes not necessarily to his rescue but

<v Speaker 3>to help him.

<v Speaker 7>Right.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it really it can really blossom. Laura, Can I borrow?

<v Speaker 2>Can I borrow fifteen hundred bucks from you?

<v Speaker 7>No?

<v Speaker 10>Absolutely, not on buying clothes. Then you know there's a problem.

<v Speaker 2>So it's good to know exactly Laura's own business here is.

<v Speaker 4>I like her take though you're fighting you did.

<v Speaker 2>You are to the point.

<v Speaker 9>Yeah, I love it.

<v Speaker 2>Thank you for calling in and making our morning, Laura,

<v Speaker 2>see you later. Heay, bye bye.

<v Speaker 4>All right, there's had a great call this morning.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

<v Speaker 2>I think basically talk it out one right. I don't

<v Speaker 2>think anyone was like, let it go.

<v Speaker 8>No.

<v Speaker 3>I think it's definitely don't bring it up, but have

<v Speaker 3>a conversation about the future, like.

<v Speaker 2>What what you need to do is you need to

<v Speaker 2>do it when you're doing sweet sweet lovey by moment.

<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, you

<v Speaker 2>owe me money. Oh my god, I'm still out two

<v Speaker 2>thousand dollars. Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god.

<v Speaker 4>Make it stop, keep going, Magus stop.

<v Speaker 2>Okay,