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Siddhartha Gautama, commonly known as the Buddha, 
was a spiritual teacher and a philosopher. The  

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title "Buddha" means "the awakened one" or 
"the enlightened one." His teachings form  

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the foundation of Buddhism, a profound 
and influential philosophy and religion. 

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Central to Buddhist teachings are 
the "Three Marks of Existence," which  

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illuminate the nature of life and the human 
experience. The Three Marks of Existence are - 

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Anicca, which means impermanence. This 
teaches us that everything in the world  

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is in a constant state of change and flux.
Dukkha, meaning Suffering. This acknowledges  

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that life inherently involves 
suffering and dissatisfaction. 

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And finally Anatta, which is Non-Self, challenging 
the concept of a fixed, unchanging self or soul.  

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Anatta means that there is no permanent self. 
To put it simply, it means that you are always  

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changing, just like everything else in the world.
According to Buddhism, our "self" is made up of  

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five things, which they call "The Five 
Aggregates of clinging." These are: 

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our physical body, our form,
how we feel about things, our feelings, 

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how we see and understand 
the world, our perception, 

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our consciousness, which is our awareness, 

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and our thoughts and emotions, 
our mental formations.

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But none of these things on 
their own represent our true,  

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unchanging self because they all change over time.
So, "anattā" doesn't mean "no self" but rather "no  

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permanent self." It reminds us that nothing in 
life stays the same forever, including ourselves. 

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Understanding this concept of "non-self" 
can help us let go of things and move  

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on in life. It can make us feel free and 
independent. So here are six ways that you  

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can use the idea of "non-self" to help you 
move on in life from the wisdom of buddha.

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1. Live In The Present
Buddha says “Do not dwell  

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in the past, do not dream of the future, 
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Imagine you have a favorite toy. 
You really like playing with it,  

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but it's not going to stay the same forever. 
Just like how your toy changes and gets old,  

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everything in life changes. What 
happened in the past is done and gone,  

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the future hasn't happened yet, and even the 
present moment doesn't last forever. Buddhism  

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teaches that people who understand this idea of 
things changing are ready to let go of the past  

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and not worry too much about the future. 
They focus on what's happening right now. 

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A lot of us spend time feeling sad about the past 
or worried about the future. We wish things were  

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different or we try to control what's going 
to happen next. But even if we don't think  

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about the past or future too much, we might not be 
truly living in the present. We might daydream or  

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think about things that aren't real. So, what's 
real? According to this principle of Anatta,  

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things change all the time, including who we are. 
Our sense of who we are is made up of many small,  

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changing parts. When we think too much 
about the past or dream about the future,  

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we're focusing on things that aren't 
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Let's look at regrets, for example. We often 
spend time thinking about mistakes we made in  

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the past and feel bad about them. But according 
to this idea, the "you" who made those mistakes  

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has changed since then. You've learned and 
grown. There's no need to be hard on yourself  

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for the things you did a long time ago. The same 
goes for wishing things were like they used to  

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be. That's just a daydream because people and 
situations change. If you tried to go back to  

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how things were before, it wouldn't work out 
because you're not the same anymore. Thinking  

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too much about these daydreams or unrealistic 
plans takes away from the real life you have  

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now. It's like spending all your time thinking 
about imaginary things instead of enjoying  

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what's really happening, here in the present.
And what about the future? It's good to plan  

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for it, but sometimes we worry too much. We 
plan every detail, like exactly what job we'll  

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have or what our house will be like. But life 
doesn't always go exactly as planned. Plus,  

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we change as people and the world changes too. 
So, those super specific plans might not work out. 

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Remember that you're not exactly who you were 
in the past, and you won't be exactly the same  

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in the future either. This helps you think 
more realistically. Will the things you're  

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sad about now still matter in the future? 
Probably not. Will your future self want the  

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same things as you do now? Maybe not. Instead 
of getting caught up in the past or future,  

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ask yourself what you want and what makes you 
happy right now. This way, you can let go of  

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what's already happened and what might happen, and 
focus on what's happening right in front of you.

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2. Embrace Change
According to Buddha  

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“Everything that has a beginning has an ending. 
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One of the most important pieces of 
wisdom found in anattā is the benefit  

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of learning to let things go, which is one 
of the most important steps in moving on.  

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When you consider yourself not a fixed 
entity but rather something to grow,  

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evolve, and to keep experiencing, you will 
find that changes in your life are not  

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as disastrous or disrupting as they once 
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Many people find it difficult to deal with 
changes in their lives. It can be tough when  

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things don't go the way we want them to. Even 
when we decided to make changes ourselves,  

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it can still be unsettling and take time to 
get used to. Some people dislike change so  

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much that they try to avoid it completely. For 
most of us, too many changes happening all at  

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once can be bothersome. However, change can 
actually be really beneficial for us and is a  

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crucial part of our lives. Most importantly, 
we can't escape it – it's bound to happen.

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If we were to take the concept of anattā into 
account with every single thing we do and think,  

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we would be intimately aware of the fleeting 
nature of everything. Our biggest problem with  

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change is that it takes away what we had wanted to 
keep(going a bit fast and unclear (7:10); whether  

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it is a job, a person, a house, a neighborhood, 
a certain item, or a relationship. We cling to  

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what we think makes us happy or improves our 
life - and it’s that act of clinging that  

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makes us so very unprepared for its loss.
Think of a child who can’t sleep without  

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their favorite night light. While the 
light may be wonderful and comforting,  

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by sleeping with it every single night the child 
is setting themselves up for failure were it to  

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ever break down. If however the child was told 
that the light might someday break down and that  

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they should practice sleeping without it, they’d 
be prepared and thus not inconsolable when this  

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warning eventually does come true. And so it is 
with most things in life. Ask yourself - What  

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do you depend on and can’t imagine your life 
without? Think of its impermanent nature and,  

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however awful it may seem, imagine your life 
without it. What would your life be like? and  

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How would you move on? It’s not only important 
to be prepared for losses brought on by change,  

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but it’s also important to embrace them.
However awful As counterintuitive as it may seem,  

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some things shine brighter through their 
fleeting nature. Sometimes a relationship  

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ends when its has reached its peak, or a house is 
sold before there have been any negative memories  

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made inside. Instead of mourning the loss of 
such things, one can also be thankful for how  

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pure and joyful the memories of these things will 
always remain. Change is beautiful. Be thankful  

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for what was and prepare for that which will 
come. Only then can you move on from anything.

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3. Be Grateful
In the words of  

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Buddha “Let us rise up and be thankful. For if we 
didn’t learn a lot at least we learned a little,  

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and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we 
didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least  

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we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.”
Buddhism teaches that people should focus on  

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being good and not think only about themselves. 
Buddhists are not selfish. They find happiness  

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in being happy for what they already have and not 
always wanting more. Sometimes, we act selfishly  

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because we think we deserve things, like rewards, 
because we're nice or helpful. But thinking like  

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this can make us feel disappointed because we 
might not always get what we think we deserve. 

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Also, we can't always trust our own feelings 
about what we deserve or what will make us  

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happy. It's like our own subconscious is 
tricking ourselves. Buddhism teaches us  

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that there's no fixed "self." This means that 
our feelings and desires change all the time,  

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so it's hard to say we truly deserve 
something. How can we want something  

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so much when our future self might not even 
want it anymore? It’s like filling up your  

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third plate at the all-you-can-eat buffet - 
You think you want it right now, but there’s  

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a very strong chance that in just a few minutes’ 
time much of what you took will end up wasted. 

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So, how can we want less and be happier? 
Well, it's as simple as being thankful for  

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what we already have. When we're thankful, we 
start to feel good about the things we have,  

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even the small things. This helps us not feel sad 
about things we lose or things we can't have and  

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instead helps us focus on what's good now and what 
will be good in the future. When we're thankful  

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for what we have now, it's easier to let go of 
things and move on to the next thing in life.

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4. `Increase Your Confidence
Buddha considers that “We  

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are shaped by our thoughts; we become 
what we think. When the mind is pure,  

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joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”
One of the best ways to avoid lingering in the  

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past is to be confident. If one is confident, 
they don’t feel the need to cling to things;  

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when they have themselves, they have enough. 
Many people think that in order to be confident,  

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you must know yourself and what you have to offer 
intimately. However, with the concept of anattā,  

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there’s no constant ‘self’ to know. So how could 
anattā make us anything but self-conscious?  

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People have a tendency to forget that we are all 
works in progress. Our flaws aren’t permanent;  

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we can grow out of them or work on ourselves. An 
inability to acknowledge this, which many people  

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have, is detrimental to our ability to improve.
What many get wrong, is that a tight view of  

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who you are is more like a cage than anything 
else. In a strict definition, there’s no room  

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for growth. If you describe yourself as ‘kind,’ 
you imply that you are already kind, and there  

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is nothing you have to do for that status. But 
by keeping yourself undefined, and realizing  

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you change all the time, you have to be kind again 
and again in order to consider yourself to be so. 

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Moreover, when you define yourself with 
bad traits, it becomes way harder to quit  

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bad habits. If you are generally considered 
to be ‘lazy’ or ‘impulsive,’ for example,  

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and you start identifying your ‘self’ with 
such traits, you’ll have no motivation to  

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change your habits. How could you be less lazy 
or impulsive if that’s ‘just who you are’? How  

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are you expected to move on from who you are?
Instead, nobody just ‘is.’ As anattā makes clear,  

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we are different people from who we used to be, 
and we will be different people from who we are  

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now in the future. All the ways that we consider 
ourselves to be can be put to question day after  

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day. Do you want to be kind? Well, what are you 
going to do today to achieve that title? How  

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will you behave kindly? And do you wish that you 
weren’t lazy? Well, you don’t have to be! How can  

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you act today in order not to deserve that label?
Now, the idea isn’t to deny your flaws or wave  

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away your insecurities. They are there, and 
you can feel them - that much is certain. The  

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idea is to not let them define you and not 
to act accordingly. According to Buddhism,  

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insecurities are unavoidable. But our 
paralyzing fear when we encounter them is. 

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Insecurities make one feel inadequate, broken, 
and irredeemable - when, in fact, we are all the  

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very opposite. There is so much room for growth if 
we allow ourselves to grow instead of cower. So,  

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we should instead embrace our insecurities. 
We should get to know them, analyze them,  

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and with that knowledge, work on them!
Anattā gives you complete freedom to be  

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as you want to be through action and growth. As 
a result, you will find that you have complete  

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control over who you are and want to be. Instead 
of ‘working with what you got,’ as many put it,  

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you can create yourself. Anything about your 
personality that you are self-conscious about,  

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you can change - starting now! The confidence, 
then, should come from your complete freedom  

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to shape yourself. And with the freedom to 
shape yourself, comes the idea that you are  

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not dependent on anything; you can move through 
this world freely, and move on from anything.

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5. Forgive
To quote Buddha  

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“Forgive others not because they deserve 
forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” 

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One of the hardest human practices, some might 
say, is the practice of forgiving others. It’s  

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also one of the biggest reasons people find 
they cannot move on from some past happening;  

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because they hold grudges. Buddhism is famous for 
offering gentle lessons on kindness, compassion,  

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and forgiveness. But how could they teach us to 
forgive those that have wronged us, when doing so  

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feels so painful and unnatural? If forgiveness 
is seen as a gift, then why gift it to people  

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who you feel don’t deserve it? Buddhism, however, 
flips this idea of forgiveness on its head. It’s  

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wrong to think of forgiveness as something you 
do for the person you’re forgiving; instead, you  

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should see it as something you do for yourself.
Forgiving others is the hardest to do when you  

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care a lot about what you are supposed to 
be forgiving them for - if you didn’t care,  

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forgiving them wouldn’t be that hard. So when you 
don’t forgive people for what they have done to  

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you, you implicitly state that this wrongdoing is 
something that still haunts you. In other words:  

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you are tied to the past. Without the ability to 
forgive, we wallow in past hurt and pain. . It  

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occupies us with what we cannot change and 
prevents us from moving on and growing. A  

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Buddhist story describes two men meeting, one of 
which had been wrongfully imprisoned for years.  

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The other man asks him if he’s forgiven his 
captors since becoming free. The man says no,  

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never. The former man then says, ‘Then you 
are not free at all, but still imprisoned.’ 

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Think back to the concept of anattā: 
of our ever-changing self. This goes  

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for others as well. The person we blame for 
our pain is no longer there, and instead,  

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some new version of them has appeared. They were 
- and still are - as incomplete as we ourselves  

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are. They have more to learn and need more room to 
grow. The person we are mad at isn’t a bad person,  

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but simply a fluid person who did something 
bad once. We can’t view them as who they were  

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forever. Just as we are insecure and make our 
mistakes, so too others. And so everyone is  

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forever reshaping themselves into something else.
Thus, clinging onto our blame is like living in  

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a fantasy; we are obsessed with someone who no 
longer exists, with a situation that is long over.  

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Forgiveness is the way to move on. This doesn’t 
mean that you render the actions you forgive as  

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harmless or justified. Forgiveness isn’t saying 
that it is okay to have someone treat you like  

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that. Rather, forgiveness can acknowledge how 
bad something was without wallowing in it. 

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One of the ways you can practice forgiving others 
is by meditating on those who wronged you. While  

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you are meditating, imagine a version of 
yourself as one holding onto the grudge,  

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and another version of yourself that’s free from 
that grudge, happy and forgiving. Ask yourself  

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what version you would like to be. If you chose 
the second, then imagine the person who hurt you.  

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Try to see their perspective. Why did they hurt 
you? Did they do it intentionally? Why would they  

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want to do that? Hurting somebody is rarely, if 
ever, just for the sake of hurting. Really try  

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to understand that, and try to understand the 
person in question. When you find that you can  

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see why they behaved the way they did, then you 
can overcome it. End the meditation with being  

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thankful. Thank them for giving you this wonderful 
opportunity to grow. Because they hurt you and  

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you overcame it, you’ve learned something new.
Forgiveness isn’t weak or naive - it’s brave.  

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It requires you to let go of the past and move 
on, and that requires effort and guts. Moreover,  

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when you learn to forgive others, it becomes 
easier to forgive yourself as well. Forgiveness  

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is like a muscle you train: the more you 
use it, the more effortless it becomes.  

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Forgiving is essential to moving on, and moving 
on is essential to our growth and improvement.

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6. Be Compassionate
In our final quote  

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from Buddha for this video, he says “In 
compassion lies the world's true strength.” 

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To add to the point of forgiveness, there’s 
a crucial point to be made about compassion  

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in general. Compassion in Buddhism, is also 
called karuṇā. Karuṇā is, literally said,  

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the wish to free others from pain and suffering. 
You have to be able to notice others suffering,  

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and be willing to help them recover 
from it. Contrary to popular belief,  

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it’s not enough to just recognize the 
suffering of others, or to empathize;  

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you must want to help, too. True 
compassion is taking action. 

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All of us have probably been compassionate or 
kind a few times but it’s not nearly as much as  

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we could do, and also not close to what one should 
practice according to Buddhism. All Too often,  

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we are too preoccupied with our own 
troubles to notice those of others,  

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and when we do we feel too busy to be of help. So 
how could one be more compassionate? Try to think  

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of every human being not just as a passenger 
or stranger, but as someone’s child, parent,  

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or friend. Try to think of what you would like 
to happen if you were in another person’s shoes. 

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One of the best ways to learn how to do this is to 
meditate and use mindfulness. Mindful meditation  

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should help you let go of what preoccupies you and 
look beyond. It urges one to see the big picture,  

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think objectively, and let go of biases. 
For example, take a few minutes every day  

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to sit down and think: did I see anyone 
in need? Could I have helped them? If so,  

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how? Have I been kind today? And how can I be 
kinder towards others tomorrow? Is there something  

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that prevents me from acting compassionate? And 
can I change that? Have I judged other people  

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today and why? What would I feel if I let go of 
my judgment? These questions might seem simple  

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and obvious, but very few actually take time 
to consciously think about such things in their  

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day-to-day life. And Doing so could do wonders.
Karuṇā is, aside from absolutely necessary for  

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us as a species to survive, one of the greatest 
motivations to ever exist. You can always relieve  

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someone’s suffering or help someone through a 
tough time. Even when you have nothing else, you  

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have the ability to be there for somebody. Even 
those who are going through a deep depression,  

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can benefit a lot by helping others when 
someone needs them. It’s easier to forget  

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your own pain when confronted by that of 
someone else, and it also becomes easier  

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to be compassionate towards your own pain after 
you’ve been compassionate to another. The more  

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compassion you practice having for others, the 
more self-compassion you will develop as well. 

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