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Hi Mac.

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Thank you for being here.

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Hey, I'm

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excited.

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Yes.

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This is awesome.

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So I had like a last

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minute, like cancellation.

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and I was like reaching out and you

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have a lot of experience doing wedding

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photography and you've got some stories.

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So I was like, this will be fun.

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Let's mix things up.

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And it's always fun to have like wedding

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vendors on because they know the industry.

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Yeah, yeah.

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And I'm

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sure you've seen it all.

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But before we get to all that, can you

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just introduce yourself, who you are,

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what you do, and all that good stuff?

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Yeah.

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I'm McKenna, but my business

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name and what I go by is Mac.

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It's Mac's photography.

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I've been doing photography for

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about three years for the public.

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It's been my full-time job for about a

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year while I'm going through college.

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I'm a social work and psychology major.

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and yeah, I've just got millions of

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stories, not even just from weddings,

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just from general sessions of things going

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wrong and weather and just all the things.

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Oh my gosh.

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So you are a, you said a psychology major.

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social work and psychology.

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Social work and psychology.

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Wow, okay.

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So is that a double major then?

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So you, yeah,

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so I'm from Tennessee, so we have

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like, I don't know if they do it

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in other states, but like I'm at

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a, we call it a community college.

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So for the first two years

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I get my associates there

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and it's practically free.

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Mm. So that's

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where I'm at right now.

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And then I've got one more semester

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there and I'll transfer to university.

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There you go.

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Yeah, I don't know if

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it's like that everywhere.

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if you do like, community college,

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it's a lot more affordable.

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I live, I don't know about free, but

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it's a lot more affordable for sure.

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And I feel like it's like undervalued

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might be the wrong word, like

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it's not talked about as much.

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I feel like there's all this

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pressure to go to a four year

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university right away mm-hmm.

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From high school so many people don't

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know what they wanna do right away.

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And then they spend the first couple years

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at a four year university where they're

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paying so much money and then there's

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just kind of like are, you know, bopping

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around trying to figure it out, which no

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hate to be able to do that either, but

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I'm just I think it's so smart sometimes

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just going to community college and just

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figuring it out the first couple years.

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Well, when I first graduated, I went to

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a different community college and changed

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my major, completely transferred to

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another community college closer to me.

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And it was just nice that I figured that

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out before I was paying a lot of money

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To then

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pay extra, you know what I'm saying?

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I mean, I saw it all the

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time when I was in college.

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Like people just did not know.

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And you switch majors?

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I switched.

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'cause I went in thinking I was

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gonna be an English teacher,

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a high school English teacher.

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That was always what I wanted to do.

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or so, no, I think it was sophomore year

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that I was like, I don't wanna go back

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to high school and I don't wanna teach.

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to go back to high school and teaching.

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so I just switched over to

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same department, but like

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later on I just went a

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Well, that's good too.

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'cause you have your books now,

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so that kind of helped you,

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I'm sure that made your change.

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I always liked the English and the writing

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part of it, that definitely helped.

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frank, I forgot a lot.

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It's just like, it's wild.

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and I feel like a lot of people

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too, it's like whatever you graduate

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in, you don't always go get a

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job in that area, like mm-hmm.

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you might end up like, 'cause how long

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have you been doing photography now?

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for three years.

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three years?

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your business, really taking

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off, you really enjoy it.

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I'm just wanna be a photographer.

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And that's amazing.

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You work for yourself, but you

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just never really know what

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direction your life will take you.

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I have a lot of, my clients and stuff,

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they'll be like, are you gonna do this?

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I was like, I've never stepped it away.

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I'm always gonna do it.

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It'll always hold a

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special place in my heart.

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I love that.

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like newborn photos, it was funny

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someone and she lived close by and it

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turns out she's a therapist nearby.

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therapist has like four kids and then

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she also does newborn photography.

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so yeah, I think that's a fun thing.

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good friend of ours too, he

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is a firefighter and he does

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photography on this side.

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I love that.

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Finding the arts is

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like, I think really fun.

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how did you get into it and like, did you

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and then get into weddings or what was

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your Well, so I live on a family farm.

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fourth generation to have the farm.

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loved like the scenery of it and stuff.

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getting my grandma's little like cannon

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camera and just going around and like

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taking pictures of random places.

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in December, it's a week before Christmas.

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my mom gave me, it was a little

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cannon, like EOS something, some

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kind of little like DSLR camera.

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is something I've always liked and stuff.

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free sessions to like my

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cousins or my friends or things.

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think I wanna do this like.

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to the public for like services.

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January, I think it was January 21st.

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I like had my first session

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that I'd done and I made an

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Instagram and I made a Facebook.

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just grown bigger and bigger and bigger.

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I think it's great too when you're

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a part of a small community.

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'cause like word of mouth

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is your biggest like market.

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taking care of one family and

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then they just tell other people.

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anything because people Oh yeah.

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I know I do, I trust word of mouth

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so much more than anything else.

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connection with somebody too.

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so I'm from a very, very small

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town, like my high school, there's

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one high school, one elementary

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and one middle school in my town.

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So like it's been very nice because

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I was doing photography when I was

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a senior in high school and like I

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took a bunch of the people, like my

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classmates senior pictures and stuff.

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I've like, I've known them

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since preschool pretty much.

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'cause we've all went to school together.

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pictures of their capping gown

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pictures and it was just very special.

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I love that.

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So you got in at like the right time.

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You got the camera and

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you're like, let's do this.

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known photographer in your area.

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There's a few other ones and stuff,

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but like, I love the photography

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industry 'cause there's no jealousy.

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we help each other out.

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I don't have bad blood with any of them.

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Like one of my best friends from

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high school just started the business

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and like, we're always texting each

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other and asking for tips or like

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sharing location spots and stuff.

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It's like I just love 'em all.

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I love that we need more of that because

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I feel like in the big, realm of like,

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I business owners, things you see,

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women are always taught to be like in

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competition of others, and there is so

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much room at the table that we should be

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lifting up other women, especially other

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women business owners to like, help them,

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like follow their passions, like mm-hmm.

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I'll have friends of mine text me and be

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like, how did you get into social media?

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Like, how do you post?

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And I'm just like, here's my tips.

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This is what I did.

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Here's what you should do.

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mm-hmm.

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I'm not gonna be like, I

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don't know, figure it out.

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I just feel like we

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should help each other.

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Like why not?

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Yeah.

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there's so much like hate in the world.

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Like why can't we just

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like help each other?

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I, yeah.

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That's like my thing too.

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It's like me and my boyfriend and stuff,

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we've gotten pictures done by be by

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other photographers before and it's

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like I could have somebody take it with

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my camera, but I don't wanna do that.

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I wanna support other

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photographers and things like that.

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I don't know, I just really like it.

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I feel like there's no bad blood in it.

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Yeah, I love that.

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And also too, it's like you never

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know if like maybe one of them will

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get hired for a wedding and then

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last minute they like can't make it.

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Mm-hmm.

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So they're gonna think of you

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first and be like, Hey Mac, can

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you take over for this wedding?

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'cause I'm sick.

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Mm-hmm.

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You know, whatever.

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Yeah.

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And you can help each other out

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because I feel like I see that

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a lot in the wedding industry.

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Like even when I got married,

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like my makeup artist had a couple

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backups just in case like mm-hmm.

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Something were to happen.

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or if like one's pregnant and then

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like she has her baby early, you know?

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Yeah.

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She'll have like someone kind of replace.

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So I feel like that industry, you have

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to have someone ready just in case.

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Mm-hmm.

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Anything can happen.

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Right.

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Yeah, especially like when busy

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season is, I consider busy season

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from like September to about January.

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'cause it's like the leaves are changing.

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It's very pretty outside.

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People want family photos and

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that's a busy time for weddings

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and just things like that.

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But then it's also like flu time,

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sickness time, allergies, all that things.

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So I was actually a maid of

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honor in a wedding for one

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of my friends, in September.

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And that same weekend I had a photographer

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message me and she's like, can you

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second shoot for me this Saturday?

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Like, my second shooter has gotten sick.

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Oh.

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And I was like, I'm in a wedding.

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Like, believe it or not, like I'm sorry.

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It's just, yeah.

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I feel like we all lean

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on each other a lot.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I feel like you definitely need to.

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So you've been a maid of honor.

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Have you been in any

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other, other weddings?

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Mm-hmm.

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Well, obviously like taking

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pictures, like the photographer

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of a wedding, but I've only ever

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been in one, but it was very fun.

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Oh, cool.

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Well, you're still young, so I feel like

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you're probably about to be at the age

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where more, friends start getting married.

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I remember like.

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my first wedding.

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I was a maid of honor and I think I

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was probably before any of my friends,

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because I was for my older sister.

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But then I feel like there was a few years

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in there where I was like, just nonstop.

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'cause that would, that's when

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people start getting married

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and you're just like, okay.

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Can everyone slow?

393
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Yeah.

394
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Yeah.

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I just remember there was one year my

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husband and I went to five weddings and

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I was like, that's where I'm capped at.

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that's, yeah.

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That's how I'm starting to feel.

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Like my boyfriend, he's a year older than

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me, so like a lot of his friends and like

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fam, like his cousin just got married

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and he was the best man in October.

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And then I was a the maid

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of honor in September.

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So it was like back to back.

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We were both in two weddings and we were

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always like kind of talking about like

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at the end of the nights and stuff, like

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what we were doing for each wedding.

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Like I was writing my speech

412
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and then a month later he was

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writing his speech, you know?

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Oh my gosh.

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And it's like, you don't think

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about like all the different

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events that go on mm-hmm.

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While planning a wedding.

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Like there's a bridal shower if

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there's a bachelorette bachelor party.

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Mm-hmm.

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There's like, you know, if it's

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a more DIY type wedding, all

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the things I have to attend.

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And I just think about all those years.

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Yeah.

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Like being a part of weddings

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where it was just like every

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weekend there'd be something.

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Plus I have a habit, and I don't know

431
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if this is how you are too, but I

432
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have a habit of just like reaching

433
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out to the bride and being like.

434
00:10:05,831 --> 00:10:06,265
What are you doing?

435
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Do you need help with wedding stuff?

436
00:10:07,375 --> 00:10:09,380
Yes, because I just like love helping and

437
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I love like doing like the crafty stuff.

438
00:10:11,335 --> 00:10:11,515
Mm-hmm.

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Which I get is not everyone's cup of tea.

440
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So I just am like, Hey, if you

441
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need extra help, I'm there.

442
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Like, let me know what I can do.

443
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Yeah.

444
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Well that wedding that I was just in

445
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like after the rehearsal dinner that

446
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night, we all made our own bouquet,

447
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so they would all be different and

448
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have like our little touch to 'em.

449
00:10:26,468 --> 00:10:27,186
Oh, I love that.

450
00:10:27,186 --> 00:10:27,246
Yeah.

451
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That's a really good idea.

452
00:10:28,356 --> 00:10:30,156
I love hearing all these new like

453
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trends and ideas for weddings.

454
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Mm-hmm.

455
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I feel like it keeps kind of evolving.

456
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Like when I got married it was a very,

457
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like, I've been at weddings where everyone

458
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wears the same dress color and style.

459
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And then I like, there's more

460
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individuality with dresses now.

461
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Like my wedding, I was like,

462
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pick your own style and then

463
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just in this family of colors.

464
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Yeah.

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And now it's like, pick your own color.

466
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Pick your own dress style.

467
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And I'm like, I love that.

468
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Yeah.

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I'm not great at like.

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The visuals, but I love when I

471
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see it, I'm like, it looks great.

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Well that was my friend.

473
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She was like, I like this

474
00:11:02,011 --> 00:11:03,361
color off of birdie gray.

475
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But she said, just get

476
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it from Birdie Gray.

477
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Get it this color.

478
00:11:05,611 --> 00:11:07,441
But whatever style you like that looks on

479
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your body will compliment you the best.

480
00:11:08,731 --> 00:11:09,634
She's like, I don't care.

481
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she was like, just bring it to rehearsal

482
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dinner and make sure it matches.

483
00:11:12,564 --> 00:11:13,224
I love that.

484
00:11:13,254 --> 00:11:14,274
I did birdie gray too.

485
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Birdie gray was so easy.

486
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Yes.

487
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Like awesome.

488
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I tell everybody that.

489
00:11:17,821 --> 00:11:19,344
I'm like, I was into weddings

490
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where we wore birdie gray and then

491
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my own wedding was birdie gray.

492
00:11:22,289 --> 00:11:22,499
Yeah.

493
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And it just saves the stress

494
00:11:25,084 --> 00:11:27,364
of like going to a bridal shop.

495
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'cause I did that for a lot of weddings.

496
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And when the bride doesn't know

497
00:11:30,202 --> 00:11:31,882
exactly what they want, you're all

498
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coming out with different dresses

499
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that you like for your body type.

500
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And then it's a game of

501
00:11:36,392 --> 00:11:37,807
like voting, like, yeah.

502
00:11:37,807 --> 00:11:38,612
Do you like this better?

503
00:11:38,612 --> 00:11:39,392
Do you like this better?

504
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I like that color.

505
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And like, I've literally been

506
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to ones where like the bride had

507
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no clue, like didn't know what

508
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color or style, which is fine.

509
00:11:45,584 --> 00:11:48,038
But then you're shopping a long day.

510
00:11:48,068 --> 00:11:48,548
Yeah.

511
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But it's exhausting.

512
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Yeah.

513
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Oh.

514
00:11:51,327 --> 00:11:53,463
So when you think back to some of the

515
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weddings you've been a part of or sessions

516
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like, are there any like wild stories

517
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or funny stories that come to mind?

518
00:12:00,677 --> 00:12:02,440
well the first one that I always

519
00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:03,610
think of, and I've told people this

520
00:12:03,610 --> 00:12:06,007
before, I was like a baby photographer.

521
00:12:06,007 --> 00:12:08,947
I had maybe been doing it six months

522
00:12:09,138 --> 00:12:11,267
and my friend, she was like, here,

523
00:12:11,267 --> 00:12:14,263
you can use some of my gear and you

524
00:12:14,263 --> 00:12:15,553
can get used to it and stuff and you

525
00:12:15,553 --> 00:12:16,783
can help me second shoot the sweat.

526
00:12:17,118 --> 00:12:18,538
I was like, yes, that's perfect.

527
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So we, it was like, gosh, maybe

528
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an eight hour day or something.

529
00:12:22,212 --> 00:12:24,042
I was like, my biggest day I had done yet.

530
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And at the end of the

531
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day she had went home.

532
00:12:26,525 --> 00:12:27,845
like, we went our separate ways

533
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and she got home and her card had

534
00:12:30,122 --> 00:12:32,045
corrupted, like her memory card.

535
00:12:32,195 --> 00:12:32,510
Oh no.

536
00:12:32,525 --> 00:12:34,355
So all the pictures she had

537
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was like, from my angle, so.

538
00:12:36,935 --> 00:12:38,195
it was good that she had

539
00:12:38,195 --> 00:12:39,245
my pictures like that.

540
00:12:39,245 --> 00:12:40,535
She had had a second shooter and

541
00:12:40,535 --> 00:12:42,905
stuff, but I just felt so bad.

542
00:12:42,905 --> 00:12:44,588
And then obviously the bride

543
00:12:44,588 --> 00:12:46,338
and groom were not too happy.

544
00:12:46,668 --> 00:12:46,728
Yeah.

545
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I mean they at least

546
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still had some pictures.

547
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Right.

548
00:12:49,158 --> 00:12:50,118
How does that happen?

549
00:12:50,118 --> 00:12:51,888
Like a card getting corrupted?

550
00:12:52,122 --> 00:12:52,632
I really

551
00:12:52,632 --> 00:12:52,992
don't know.

552
00:12:52,992 --> 00:12:54,702
Like I've heard of it happening before and

553
00:12:54,755 --> 00:12:56,615
stuff, and I've researched a little bit,

554
00:12:56,615 --> 00:12:58,265
so it wouldn't happen to me, but like,

555
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I really don't, I'm sure there is a way

556
00:13:00,642 --> 00:13:03,042
to avoid it happening, but I think it's

557
00:13:03,042 --> 00:13:04,715
just sometimes, like, I know I've heard

558
00:13:04,715 --> 00:13:07,308
before, like filling up the memory card,

559
00:13:07,492 --> 00:13:08,672
and then letting some of the pictures

560
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sit in there for a while can cause it.

561
00:13:10,442 --> 00:13:11,522
And there's a few other, like

562
00:13:11,522 --> 00:13:12,842
just your camera in your car

563
00:13:12,842 --> 00:13:14,492
not mixing and stuff like that.

564
00:13:14,678 --> 00:13:16,425
I feel like technology things has

565
00:13:16,425 --> 00:13:18,075
to be like some of the scariest.

566
00:13:18,105 --> 00:13:18,285
Yeah.

567
00:13:18,600 --> 00:13:20,087
Like, do you ever just like hold your

568
00:13:20,087 --> 00:13:22,590
breath after like a wedding, like plug it

569
00:13:22,590 --> 00:13:24,690
in, just like hope everything goes okay.

570
00:13:24,690 --> 00:13:25,455
Because yes, I feel like.

571
00:13:26,007 --> 00:13:26,892
I've talked about it before, but

572
00:13:26,892 --> 00:13:29,112
like to me, photography was like the

573
00:13:29,112 --> 00:13:30,762
most important vendor at my wedding.

574
00:13:30,792 --> 00:13:30,882
Mm-hmm.

575
00:13:31,422 --> 00:13:32,322
Because I feel like you just

576
00:13:32,425 --> 00:13:33,715
look back on those, like

577
00:13:33,715 --> 00:13:34,855
they're just all your memories.

578
00:13:34,855 --> 00:13:36,355
The day goes so fast.

579
00:13:36,533 --> 00:13:36,585
Mm-hmm.

580
00:13:36,825 --> 00:13:38,025
You don't see everything.

581
00:13:38,025 --> 00:13:40,452
And like, I love personally looking back

582
00:13:40,452 --> 00:13:42,012
at cocktail hour because I wasn't there.

583
00:13:42,012 --> 00:13:42,402
Right.

584
00:13:42,432 --> 00:13:43,182
Like, my husband and I

585
00:13:43,182 --> 00:13:44,360
were taking photos mm-hmm.

586
00:13:44,667 --> 00:13:45,882
Get our moments together.

587
00:13:46,125 --> 00:13:47,565
And so I love seeing the cocktail

588
00:13:47,565 --> 00:13:48,795
hour photos of like our family and

589
00:13:48,795 --> 00:13:50,475
friends, like interacting and hanging

590
00:13:50,475 --> 00:13:53,272
out and looking at the details.

591
00:13:53,468 --> 00:13:54,495
And then we had our videographer

592
00:13:54,495 --> 00:13:55,982
take some videos too then.

593
00:13:56,215 --> 00:13:57,478
And I loved that because

594
00:13:57,512 --> 00:13:58,172
couldn't be there.

595
00:13:58,172 --> 00:13:58,532
Right.

596
00:13:58,532 --> 00:13:59,905
And so I feel like it allows

597
00:13:59,905 --> 00:14:00,955
you to feel like you're at

598
00:14:01,182 --> 00:14:02,875
two places at once in a way.

599
00:14:03,215 --> 00:14:04,925
So I feel like that would be kind of

600
00:14:04,925 --> 00:14:07,012
stressful to be like, okay, let's triple

601
00:14:07,012 --> 00:14:09,112
check, make sure everything's okay.

602
00:14:09,112 --> 00:14:10,195
and then something's just happened.

603
00:14:10,195 --> 00:14:10,808
You can't stop

604
00:14:10,808 --> 00:14:12,038
everything from having Oh yeah.

605
00:14:12,365 --> 00:14:14,420
Well, I just done an engagement.

606
00:14:14,540 --> 00:14:16,670
Mm. It was back during the summer,

607
00:14:16,818 --> 00:14:19,233
I feel like maybe May or June.

608
00:14:19,465 --> 00:14:21,273
And, it was at a pretty popular

609
00:14:21,273 --> 00:14:23,193
state park not far from where I live.

610
00:14:23,405 --> 00:14:25,743
And it downpour just became a downpour.

611
00:14:25,743 --> 00:14:27,183
Like all friends and family were there,

612
00:14:27,390 --> 00:14:29,130
they're all in dresses and their hair's

613
00:14:29,130 --> 00:14:30,900
done for pictures and stuff, and downpour.

614
00:14:30,900 --> 00:14:32,277
But like, I feel like that made

615
00:14:32,277 --> 00:14:33,687
it special at the same time.

616
00:14:34,197 --> 00:14:35,097
'cause it's like, you'll always

617
00:14:35,097 --> 00:14:36,382
look back on that, remember?

618
00:14:36,387 --> 00:14:37,257
And I don't know you've ever heard

619
00:14:37,257 --> 00:14:39,173
the saying, but like, wet knots are

620
00:14:39,173 --> 00:14:41,780
harder to untie than, dried knots.

621
00:14:41,780 --> 00:14:42,800
And I kept telling 'em that

622
00:14:42,800 --> 00:14:44,070
day and stuff, and I, I think

623
00:14:44,070 --> 00:14:45,180
it turned out pretty special.

624
00:14:45,420 --> 00:14:47,670
So while the wedding was going on down

625
00:14:47,670 --> 00:14:49,080
port or down, like, were they getting

626
00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:50,700
married inside and it was, it was a

627
00:14:51,065 --> 00:14:52,140
surprise engagement.

628
00:14:52,367 --> 00:14:53,513
Oh, it was a surprising engagement.

629
00:14:53,543 --> 00:14:54,053
Yeah.

630
00:14:54,213 --> 00:14:56,723
So I was there with her family and

631
00:14:56,723 --> 00:14:58,313
they were coming from like where

632
00:14:58,313 --> 00:15:00,510
they live and they were supposed

633
00:15:00,510 --> 00:15:01,980
to be there at a certain time.

634
00:15:01,980 --> 00:15:04,007
And then about a like 15 minutes

635
00:15:04,007 --> 00:15:05,387
maybe before they got there.

636
00:15:05,553 --> 00:15:07,037
Downpour, just a monsoon.

637
00:15:07,037 --> 00:15:08,540
So we're all like hiding in

638
00:15:08,540 --> 00:15:09,770
like my vehicle 'cause she

639
00:15:09,770 --> 00:15:11,000
wouldn't recognize it and stuff.

640
00:15:11,025 --> 00:15:12,710
And we're spraying like that.

641
00:15:12,710 --> 00:15:14,060
It'll settle down for a minute.

642
00:15:14,060 --> 00:15:15,950
But the pictures turned out so good.

643
00:15:16,090 --> 00:15:16,870
Oh, I love that.

644
00:15:17,107 --> 00:15:18,790
I've been seeing that too, more and more.

645
00:15:18,790 --> 00:15:20,620
Like there was this one wedding, I don't

646
00:15:20,620 --> 00:15:23,097
know where it was, where it started

647
00:15:23,127 --> 00:15:24,777
raining and it was not in the forecast,

648
00:15:24,777 --> 00:15:26,667
but they still had like some umbrellas

649
00:15:26,667 --> 00:15:28,297
to kinda like cover some people but

650
00:15:28,297 --> 00:15:30,002
it rained like on the bride and groom.

651
00:15:30,022 --> 00:15:30,442
Mm-hmm.

652
00:15:30,522 --> 00:15:31,507
And they just like owned it.

653
00:15:31,507 --> 00:15:33,167
They just like went into it and it

654
00:15:33,167 --> 00:15:35,477
looked so like romantic because it

655
00:15:35,477 --> 00:15:37,687
was like her hair was wet and like

656
00:15:37,687 --> 00:15:39,067
at the end of the day you can fix

657
00:15:39,067 --> 00:15:40,627
up hair after just blow drying.

658
00:15:40,627 --> 00:15:42,037
I mean maybe on someone that just doesn't

659
00:15:42,037 --> 00:15:43,387
care as much about like hair and stuff.

660
00:15:43,587 --> 00:15:45,453
But the pictures looked fantastic.

661
00:15:45,453 --> 00:15:45,513
Yeah.

662
00:15:45,543 --> 00:15:46,983
They had this full backdrop

663
00:15:47,173 --> 00:15:48,043
and even though it was raining,

664
00:15:48,043 --> 00:15:49,393
it just looked so romantic.

665
00:15:49,393 --> 00:15:51,590
I think of like a nineties romcom where

666
00:15:51,590 --> 00:15:53,060
they kiss in the rain or something.

667
00:15:53,293 --> 00:15:55,807
And I was like, I love that.

668
00:15:55,807 --> 00:15:57,247
I thought it looked so beautiful.

669
00:15:57,277 --> 00:15:58,787
And I'm sure it's like stressful

670
00:15:58,787 --> 00:16:00,240
at first, seeing the rain.

671
00:16:00,780 --> 00:16:02,092
I think if you just kinda like,

672
00:16:02,333 --> 00:16:03,818
don't stress about it or let it just

673
00:16:03,878 --> 00:16:05,048
like roll off your back, I think

674
00:16:05,048 --> 00:16:06,518
everything can kind of turn out pretty.

675
00:16:06,733 --> 00:16:06,878
Yeah.

676
00:16:06,878 --> 00:16:07,688
Well that's what I was telling her.

677
00:16:07,688 --> 00:16:08,855
I was like, you'll look back at

678
00:16:08,855 --> 00:16:11,045
this in 20 years and laugh about it.

679
00:16:11,050 --> 00:16:11,150
Mm-hmm.

680
00:16:11,405 --> 00:16:12,845
Like about how it rained and stuff.

681
00:16:12,845 --> 00:16:15,072
I said, y'all will always remember this.

682
00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:16,755
Yeah, no, for sure.

683
00:16:16,914 --> 00:16:18,378
I think people will remember it too

684
00:16:18,378 --> 00:16:20,555
as like a fun, like, whoa, like, you

685
00:16:20,555 --> 00:16:22,010
know, all these weddings kind of like

686
00:16:22,318 --> 00:16:24,568
bunch together being very similar, but

687
00:16:24,568 --> 00:16:26,368
you'll be like, no, I remember that one.

688
00:16:27,066 --> 00:16:29,423
cause this is how we handled it and

689
00:16:29,633 --> 00:16:32,123
the pictures were amazing and Yeah.

690
00:16:32,183 --> 00:16:33,023
No, I love that.

691
00:16:33,270 --> 00:16:33,630
okay.

692
00:16:33,630 --> 00:16:34,230
That was cool.

693
00:16:34,406 --> 00:16:36,436
Okay, so I wanna do this little segment

694
00:16:36,660 --> 00:16:38,473
kind of from like your point of view.

695
00:16:38,473 --> 00:16:38,653
Okay.

696
00:16:38,793 --> 00:16:40,330
These are different like scenarios

697
00:16:40,330 --> 00:16:42,160
and rate them on a scale of one

698
00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:44,403
to 10, one being not important

699
00:16:44,403 --> 00:16:45,873
and 10 being very important.

700
00:16:46,090 --> 00:16:46,300
Okay.

701
00:16:46,300 --> 00:16:47,320
Feel free to add context

702
00:16:47,320 --> 00:16:48,070
if you'd like as well.

703
00:16:48,380 --> 00:16:48,651
Okay.

704
00:16:48,890 --> 00:16:50,531
So on a scale of one to 10, how

705
00:16:50,531 --> 00:16:53,201
important is capturing candid natural

706
00:16:53,201 --> 00:16:55,421
moments compared to posed shots?

707
00:16:55,931 --> 00:16:55,961
Ooh.

708
00:16:56,833 --> 00:16:58,573
My perspective, I think you

709
00:16:58,573 --> 00:17:00,073
said tens like you need it.

710
00:17:00,223 --> 00:17:00,463
Mm-hmm.

711
00:17:00,763 --> 00:17:02,053
I would say like probably

712
00:17:02,053 --> 00:17:02,833
an eight or nine.

713
00:17:02,833 --> 00:17:04,303
I love the candid photos though.

714
00:17:04,303 --> 00:17:06,523
I think it shows like very true emotion

715
00:17:06,696 --> 00:17:07,920
to it instead of, instead of like your

716
00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:09,600
post ones, like everybody does post

717
00:17:09,600 --> 00:17:11,380
ones, you know, but candid ones not.

718
00:17:11,410 --> 00:17:12,880
Like everybody has candid moments, but

719
00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:14,590
everybody's candid moments are different.

720
00:17:14,595 --> 00:17:14,825
Mm-hmm.

721
00:17:15,205 --> 00:17:15,425
So

722
00:17:15,430 --> 00:17:17,276
I really like capturing those like, for

723
00:17:17,276 --> 00:17:19,436
weddings like cake cutting or surprise

724
00:17:19,436 --> 00:17:21,581
proposals, like your moment of when.

725
00:17:22,206 --> 00:17:24,516
He's asking you to marry him.

726
00:17:24,516 --> 00:17:25,910
Like, I just think that moment

727
00:17:25,910 --> 00:17:27,200
is different for everybody.

728
00:17:27,423 --> 00:17:29,126
Yeah, no, I totally agree.

729
00:17:29,366 --> 00:17:30,870
I was saying this recently when I got

730
00:17:30,870 --> 00:17:33,806
my wedding photos back, I, the post ones

731
00:17:33,806 --> 00:17:35,396
were okay, like, I mean, I like 'em.

732
00:17:35,426 --> 00:17:35,816
They're good.

733
00:17:35,866 --> 00:17:37,306
this is nothing against the photographer.

734
00:17:37,306 --> 00:17:39,233
She did a great job, but the candid

735
00:17:39,233 --> 00:17:40,223
ones were just the ones where

736
00:17:40,223 --> 00:17:42,433
I was like, wow, I love that.

737
00:17:42,583 --> 00:17:43,460
Yeah, because you could see like

738
00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:45,740
emotion, you could see connection.

739
00:17:45,966 --> 00:17:47,163
whereas sometimes I feel awkward or

740
00:17:47,163 --> 00:17:50,153
stiff like posing and it was so great

741
00:17:50,153 --> 00:17:51,413
seeing the candid ones, like I said,

742
00:17:51,413 --> 00:17:52,883
like the happy hour of people just

743
00:17:52,883 --> 00:17:55,290
like interacting and people laughing.

744
00:17:55,290 --> 00:17:56,850
Like one of my favorite photos, my

745
00:17:56,850 --> 00:17:58,500
husband and I, out of all the pose

746
00:17:58,500 --> 00:18:00,433
ones, it's when my, I think it was

747
00:18:00,433 --> 00:18:01,783
our maid of honor was giving a speech

748
00:18:01,783 --> 00:18:04,123
at the time and we're laughing and

749
00:18:04,123 --> 00:18:05,083
we're just sitting at the head table

750
00:18:05,083 --> 00:18:06,673
laughing and I think it's so cute.

751
00:18:06,943 --> 00:18:09,033
yeah, I love the candid ones.

752
00:18:09,213 --> 00:18:10,263
They're just very real.

753
00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:12,050
How confident are you in

754
00:18:12,050 --> 00:18:13,730
matching your photography style

755
00:18:13,730 --> 00:18:15,410
to the couple's overall vision?

756
00:18:15,670 --> 00:18:16,630
I would say about an eight.

757
00:18:16,750 --> 00:18:19,036
Again, that's like, I pride myself in

758
00:18:19,036 --> 00:18:21,736
that is I can do light and airy if you

759
00:18:21,736 --> 00:18:23,986
want to, or I can do like dark and moody.

760
00:18:24,143 --> 00:18:24,410
Mm-hmm.

761
00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:26,390
It just really depends on what you want.

762
00:18:26,390 --> 00:18:27,923
Like my editing is just

763
00:18:27,923 --> 00:18:29,243
not a base of something.

764
00:18:29,243 --> 00:18:30,143
Like I can switch it

765
00:18:30,143 --> 00:18:31,313
up if you'd like me to.

766
00:18:31,516 --> 00:18:32,196
I love that.

767
00:18:32,406 --> 00:18:35,276
Did you hear about the, I'm trying

768
00:18:35,276 --> 00:18:36,446
to think of where I saw this.

769
00:18:36,446 --> 00:18:38,656
It might have been a TikTok drama where

770
00:18:38,816 --> 00:18:40,783
the photographer, sent the photos and

771
00:18:40,783 --> 00:18:42,723
the girl knew exactly what the style was

772
00:18:42,723 --> 00:18:44,990
gonna be, and then complained about the

773
00:18:44,990 --> 00:18:47,030
style and kept asking for raw photos.

774
00:18:47,030 --> 00:18:49,216
And she was like, well, raw, I don't

775
00:18:49,276 --> 00:18:51,556
typically give my clients raw photos.

776
00:18:51,763 --> 00:18:52,460
And it turned to be this

777
00:18:52,460 --> 00:18:54,140
like whole like TikTok drama.

778
00:18:54,140 --> 00:18:55,700
Like what was your, did you see that?

779
00:18:55,815 --> 00:18:56,355
I'm, I

780
00:18:56,355 --> 00:18:57,410
did, I'm pretty sure I know

781
00:18:57,410 --> 00:18:58,070
which one you're talking about.

782
00:18:58,070 --> 00:18:59,633
Like it was like their wedding

783
00:18:59,633 --> 00:19:00,263
thing was like kinda like

784
00:19:00,263 --> 00:19:01,878
that Carnival circusy thing.

785
00:19:01,878 --> 00:19:02,078
Yeah.

786
00:19:02,273 --> 00:19:02,693
Yes.

787
00:19:02,723 --> 00:19:02,933
Okay.

788
00:19:02,933 --> 00:19:03,623
Yes, yes, yes.

789
00:19:03,623 --> 00:19:03,803
And she

790
00:19:03,803 --> 00:19:05,693
tried making the photographer look bad and

791
00:19:05,693 --> 00:19:07,863
I was like, these photos are beautiful.

792
00:19:07,973 --> 00:19:08,553
Like Yeah.

793
00:19:08,553 --> 00:19:09,303
When they actually look at the

794
00:19:09,303 --> 00:19:11,073
whole album that became public.

795
00:19:11,225 --> 00:19:11,381
Yeah.

796
00:19:11,666 --> 00:19:13,046
It looked beautiful.

797
00:19:13,106 --> 00:19:14,306
Like this photographer did

798
00:19:14,306 --> 00:19:15,741
a great job and mm-hmm.

799
00:19:16,016 --> 00:19:17,696
It was so terrible of them to

800
00:19:17,696 --> 00:19:19,286
pull out a few blurry ones and

801
00:19:19,286 --> 00:19:20,456
be like, this is what we got.

802
00:19:20,471 --> 00:19:22,248
And I was like, wait, why

803
00:19:22,248 --> 00:19:23,058
are you trying to trash this

804
00:19:23,088 --> 00:19:23,748
photographer?

805
00:19:23,808 --> 00:19:24,198
Yeah.

806
00:19:24,423 --> 00:19:26,701
I remember vaguely seeing those

807
00:19:26,701 --> 00:19:28,351
pictures and I don't even think

808
00:19:28,351 --> 00:19:29,881
like it was a blurred effect.

809
00:19:29,881 --> 00:19:31,801
It was that girl's editing style and

810
00:19:32,006 --> 00:19:33,978
I know like she added like a haste to

811
00:19:33,978 --> 00:19:35,448
it, or I've even seen, I've never done

812
00:19:35,448 --> 00:19:37,375
this before, but like people will take

813
00:19:37,375 --> 00:19:40,015
like the cream colored pantyhose and put

814
00:19:40,015 --> 00:19:41,695
over their lens and make it like that.

815
00:19:41,695 --> 00:19:42,775
And that's what it looked like to me.

816
00:19:42,775 --> 00:19:43,705
It didn't even look like a

817
00:19:43,855 --> 00:19:45,265
focus problem or anything.

818
00:19:45,295 --> 00:19:45,535
Right.

819
00:19:45,646 --> 00:19:47,455
It was just the editing style.

820
00:19:47,700 --> 00:19:48,493
I remember that.

821
00:19:48,523 --> 00:19:48,793
Yeah.

822
00:19:48,823 --> 00:19:49,243
Yeah.

823
00:19:49,363 --> 00:19:50,083
That was crazy.

824
00:19:50,383 --> 00:19:51,663
Yeah, I know.

825
00:19:51,663 --> 00:19:53,703
And it's like, I always wonder about when

826
00:19:53,703 --> 00:19:55,563
people come on the internet to say stuff.

827
00:19:55,563 --> 00:19:56,733
I'm like, do they not realize

828
00:19:56,733 --> 00:19:58,053
that the one, the vendor's gonna

829
00:19:58,053 --> 00:19:59,856
see it and two, they're gonna

830
00:19:59,856 --> 00:20:01,206
give their side of the story?

831
00:20:01,318 --> 00:20:01,666
Yeah.

832
00:20:01,726 --> 00:20:03,316
So I don't know why.

833
00:20:03,463 --> 00:20:05,185
that girl even like put the photographer's

834
00:20:05,185 --> 00:20:07,105
name out there, like bashing her.

835
00:20:07,360 --> 00:20:07,485
Yeah.

836
00:20:07,665 --> 00:20:09,025
And I felt so bad for the

837
00:20:09,025 --> 00:20:10,435
photographer, but now I think like

838
00:20:10,435 --> 00:20:12,025
everyone was able to see the truth

839
00:20:12,025 --> 00:20:13,735
of like, nope, she did a great job.

840
00:20:13,953 --> 00:20:16,115
Like, she even offered on the phone

841
00:20:16,115 --> 00:20:17,915
be like, I'll give you the raw photos.

842
00:20:18,145 --> 00:20:19,538
but typically that's not.

843
00:20:19,788 --> 00:20:21,048
Included in a photography package?

844
00:20:21,048 --> 00:20:22,848
Well, yeah, that's like in my contract

845
00:20:22,848 --> 00:20:24,498
I have like a bunch of stuff listed, but

846
00:20:24,498 --> 00:20:26,868
one of them is I will not give raw photos

847
00:20:26,868 --> 00:20:28,721
because it's not that I'm not proud of my

848
00:20:28,721 --> 00:20:31,901
work unedited, it's just I don't want like

849
00:20:32,033 --> 00:20:34,441
for you to post the raw photos and tag me,

850
00:20:34,441 --> 00:20:35,911
and then everybody thinks, oh, she just

851
00:20:35,911 --> 00:20:37,501
takes the pictures and gives it to 'em.

852
00:20:37,531 --> 00:20:38,548
Like, yes.

853
00:20:38,608 --> 00:20:40,438
I always say that pictures or are

854
00:20:40,438 --> 00:20:42,058
half of it like taking the pictures.

855
00:20:42,058 --> 00:20:43,228
Editing is a whole like.

856
00:20:43,608 --> 00:20:45,228
Most of my weddings have about

857
00:20:45,228 --> 00:20:47,208
a four to six week turnover.

858
00:20:47,208 --> 00:20:49,278
Just because like editing is a lot of it.

859
00:20:49,278 --> 00:20:50,778
I don't think people realize that.

860
00:20:51,026 --> 00:20:51,545
Yeah.

861
00:20:51,545 --> 00:20:53,135
And like anyone can pick up

862
00:20:53,135 --> 00:20:54,515
a camera and press a button.

863
00:20:54,515 --> 00:20:54,815
Right.

864
00:20:55,083 --> 00:20:56,398
But it's the art behind it.

865
00:20:56,398 --> 00:20:57,761
Like how you angle yourself.

866
00:20:57,761 --> 00:20:59,401
The lighting, the editing

867
00:20:59,401 --> 00:21:00,151
and all that stuff.

868
00:21:00,151 --> 00:21:01,171
Like it is an art.

869
00:21:01,171 --> 00:21:02,695
And I hate when people come on the

870
00:21:02,695 --> 00:21:03,925
internet and act like, it's like,

871
00:21:03,955 --> 00:21:05,005
oh, I could have done a better job.

872
00:21:05,005 --> 00:21:06,205
I'm like, no, you probably couldn't have,

873
00:21:07,093 --> 00:21:08,695
well, one of, she's actually

874
00:21:08,695 --> 00:21:10,015
took my pictures before.

875
00:21:10,195 --> 00:21:12,055
we've talked about it before and it's, she

876
00:21:12,055 --> 00:21:13,915
was talking about like, anybody can pick

877
00:21:13,915 --> 00:21:16,648
up a camera and take pictures and post 'em

878
00:21:16,648 --> 00:21:18,568
and then be like, I'm offering services.

879
00:21:18,568 --> 00:21:19,018
But it's like, you

880
00:21:19,018 --> 00:21:20,098
gotta build yourself up.

881
00:21:20,098 --> 00:21:21,918
And I'm not bashing anybody that's gonna

882
00:21:21,918 --> 00:21:23,328
like start a business or something.

883
00:21:23,500 --> 00:21:24,591
It's just, you gotta build yourself up.

884
00:21:24,621 --> 00:21:25,641
'cause I'm self-taught.

885
00:21:25,776 --> 00:21:25,825
Mm-hmm.

886
00:21:26,065 --> 00:21:26,605
You know, I've never

887
00:21:26,605 --> 00:21:27,865
took classes or anything.

888
00:21:27,865 --> 00:21:29,326
I've had, friends help me out with

889
00:21:29,326 --> 00:21:31,786
advice and stuff, but I also think that

890
00:21:31,976 --> 00:21:34,036
there's building stones before you start

891
00:21:34,126 --> 00:21:36,076
charging people, if doesn't make sense.

892
00:21:36,463 --> 00:21:36,683
No.

893
00:21:36,683 --> 00:21:37,343
Totally.

894
00:21:37,550 --> 00:21:37,923
Yeah.

895
00:21:37,923 --> 00:21:39,213
I feel like you definitely start with

896
00:21:39,213 --> 00:21:40,773
like, you know, family and friends.

897
00:21:41,043 --> 00:21:41,133
Mm-hmm.

898
00:21:41,373 --> 00:21:43,116
And then as you kind of keep growing,

899
00:21:43,116 --> 00:21:44,736
you can like charge a little bit more

900
00:21:44,736 --> 00:21:45,876
and then you charge a little bit more

901
00:21:45,876 --> 00:21:46,866
and then you're like, okay, I've been

902
00:21:46,866 --> 00:21:48,096
doing this for 10 years, so I can

903
00:21:48,096 --> 00:21:49,626
charge this, you know, whatever it is.

904
00:21:49,631 --> 00:21:49,651
Yeah.

905
00:21:49,865 --> 00:21:50,795
yeah, for sure.

906
00:21:50,976 --> 00:21:51,961
I think it's a, about like building

907
00:21:51,961 --> 00:21:53,411
up your portfolio and mm-hmm.

908
00:21:53,821 --> 00:21:54,901
Like I knew a lot of friends that

909
00:21:54,901 --> 00:21:56,191
started off that way, like doing like

910
00:21:56,191 --> 00:21:58,111
baby showers or birthday parties.

911
00:21:58,141 --> 00:21:58,201
Yeah.

912
00:21:58,201 --> 00:22:00,075
Just to like get used to the camera

913
00:22:00,105 --> 00:22:01,425
and like playing around with it.

914
00:22:01,430 --> 00:22:01,470
Mm-hmm.

915
00:22:01,663 --> 00:22:02,741
but yeah, it's like people don't

916
00:22:02,741 --> 00:22:03,971
realize, like, they think, oh,

917
00:22:03,971 --> 00:22:05,351
I'm just paying them to come to

918
00:22:05,351 --> 00:22:06,821
the wedding and take snap photos.

919
00:22:06,821 --> 00:22:07,961
It's like, no, there's

920
00:22:07,961 --> 00:22:09,191
so much more behind it.

921
00:22:09,191 --> 00:22:09,251
Yeah.

922
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:10,445
I'm not a photographer

923
00:22:10,445 --> 00:22:11,645
and I can see all that.

924
00:22:11,783 --> 00:22:12,235
Yeah.

925
00:22:12,486 --> 00:22:12,742
Okay.

926
00:22:12,772 --> 00:22:14,932
How important is storytelling in the

927
00:22:14,932 --> 00:22:16,792
way you photograph on a wedding day?

928
00:22:17,477 --> 00:22:17,777
Ooh.

929
00:22:18,133 --> 00:22:19,954
That's probably like a 10 for me.

930
00:22:20,144 --> 00:22:21,509
I'm given all these such high

931
00:22:21,509 --> 00:22:24,229
scores like that you need them.

932
00:22:24,504 --> 00:22:26,826
But I don't know, it's just like what

933
00:22:26,826 --> 00:22:28,566
I've said earlier, you look back on these

934
00:22:28,566 --> 00:22:30,936
photos for years and years and years, and

935
00:22:30,936 --> 00:22:33,692
you want it to tell your love story, Anna.

936
00:22:33,936 --> 00:22:34,199
Mm-hmm.

937
00:22:34,259 --> 00:22:34,589
Like I've

938
00:22:34,589 --> 00:22:36,917
had, uh, clients before, like you

939
00:22:36,917 --> 00:22:38,387
would like walk in to where their

940
00:22:38,471 --> 00:22:39,807
ceremony would be and they would have

941
00:22:39,807 --> 00:22:41,337
pictures from their relationship.

942
00:22:41,337 --> 00:22:42,567
Like they had been dating for

943
00:22:42,807 --> 00:22:44,291
golly, like 10 years or something.

944
00:22:44,291 --> 00:22:45,221
So there's pictures of them,

945
00:22:45,221 --> 00:22:46,947
literally like in middle school

946
00:22:46,947 --> 00:22:48,447
to up to when they got married.

947
00:22:48,587 --> 00:22:49,917
And I just, want that

948
00:22:49,917 --> 00:22:51,327
to show in your wedding.

949
00:22:51,534 --> 00:22:51,981
Mm-hmm.

950
00:22:52,281 --> 00:22:52,821
Yeah.

951
00:22:52,881 --> 00:22:53,721
No, I love that.

952
00:22:53,901 --> 00:22:54,427
I love that.

953
00:22:54,427 --> 00:22:56,077
Like adding the personality

954
00:22:56,077 --> 00:22:56,587
to their wedding.

955
00:22:56,617 --> 00:22:56,737
Mm-hmm.

956
00:22:57,181 --> 00:22:58,401
especially as a photographer,

957
00:22:58,401 --> 00:22:59,901
I'm sure you see so many weddings

958
00:22:59,901 --> 00:23:02,487
that like repeat the same themes

959
00:23:02,487 --> 00:23:03,574
or colors, which is totally fine.

960
00:23:03,574 --> 00:23:04,714
It's totally gonna happen.

961
00:23:04,934 --> 00:23:05,591
But then adding those

962
00:23:05,591 --> 00:23:06,911
little hinges of like.

963
00:23:07,127 --> 00:23:09,969
Personality and like family tradition

964
00:23:09,969 --> 00:23:11,109
or whatever that looks like for

965
00:23:11,109 --> 00:23:12,729
them, I think is, really awesome.

966
00:23:12,729 --> 00:23:13,599
That's what's gonna make them

967
00:23:13,599 --> 00:23:14,859
like stand out a little bit.

968
00:23:15,052 --> 00:23:15,592
let's see.

969
00:23:15,881 --> 00:23:17,104
how important is it for you to

970
00:23:17,104 --> 00:23:18,244
build a relationship with the

971
00:23:18,244 --> 00:23:19,604
couple before the wedding day?

972
00:23:20,297 --> 00:23:22,091
Ooh, that's very important too.

973
00:23:22,146 --> 00:23:23,834
would also probably say like an

974
00:23:23,834 --> 00:23:25,447
eight or nine, which with my wedding

975
00:23:25,447 --> 00:23:28,927
packages, I offer like a very discounted

976
00:23:28,927 --> 00:23:30,911
engagement sessions before then, and

977
00:23:30,911 --> 00:23:33,197
also about a week, well, within a

978
00:23:33,197 --> 00:23:34,637
month to a week before the wedding,

979
00:23:34,637 --> 00:23:36,047
I get on a Zoom call with them.

980
00:23:36,155 --> 00:23:38,694
We make a schedule or we're communicating

981
00:23:38,694 --> 00:23:40,464
like we, I haven't always got on a Zoom

982
00:23:40,464 --> 00:23:42,174
call, but we also communicate and we

983
00:23:42,174 --> 00:23:44,154
make a schedule before then, because

984
00:23:44,342 --> 00:23:46,244
I've always had a schedule at weddings

985
00:23:46,244 --> 00:23:47,654
that I do, but I've known photographers

986
00:23:47,654 --> 00:23:49,277
not to, and they're like, I don't

987
00:23:49,277 --> 00:23:50,687
know why I never made a schedule.

988
00:23:50,765 --> 00:23:53,384
So I always like to communicate with them

989
00:23:53,488 --> 00:23:54,818
for obviously the engagement session, I

990
00:23:54,848 --> 00:23:57,488
meet them and then making that schedule.

991
00:23:57,488 --> 00:23:58,148
I feel like I build a

992
00:23:58,148 --> 00:23:59,528
relationship with them also.

993
00:23:59,528 --> 00:24:01,745
And also I tell them like, free of

994
00:24:01,745 --> 00:24:04,148
charge, message me, ask like vendors

995
00:24:04,148 --> 00:24:06,098
that I recommend or this or that.

996
00:24:06,098 --> 00:24:06,875
So, yeah.

997
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:07,070
Mm-hmm.

998
00:24:07,205 --> 00:24:08,255
I think it's very important.

999
00:24:08,435 --> 00:24:08,855
Yeah.

1000
00:24:08,855 --> 00:24:09,575
No, I love that.

1001
00:24:09,575 --> 00:24:10,175
I agree.

1002
00:24:10,389 --> 00:24:11,505
I was just saying to someone

1003
00:24:11,505 --> 00:24:13,102
about like, anytime you pick a

1004
00:24:13,102 --> 00:24:14,998
vendor, it should go both ways.

1005
00:24:15,589 --> 00:24:16,385
They should make sure you're a

1006
00:24:16,385 --> 00:24:17,870
good fit for them and mm-hmm.

1007
00:24:18,185 --> 00:24:19,385
You should make sure you

1008
00:24:19,385 --> 00:24:20,695
are a good fit for them.

1009
00:24:20,695 --> 00:24:21,835
Did I say that the same way twice?

1010
00:24:22,063 --> 00:24:22,902
But you know what I mean, like,

1011
00:24:22,902 --> 00:24:23,367
like I know what you mean.

1012
00:24:23,367 --> 00:24:23,527
Yeah.

1013
00:24:23,757 --> 00:24:24,047
Yeah.

1014
00:24:24,052 --> 00:24:25,722
Like I've had calls with brides 'cause I

1015
00:24:25,722 --> 00:24:27,995
do weddings very rarely now when I have

1016
00:24:27,995 --> 00:24:29,525
calls with brides, it's to make sure

1017
00:24:29,525 --> 00:24:31,565
like, Hey, am I gonna fit all your needs?

1018
00:24:31,786 --> 00:24:33,518
or do you need someone that's gonna do

1019
00:24:33,702 --> 00:24:36,245
A, B and C and I only do A and b, you

1020
00:24:36,245 --> 00:24:37,865
know, whatever, whatever that looks like.

1021
00:24:38,045 --> 00:24:40,088
' cause it wouldn't be honest or good of

1022
00:24:40,088 --> 00:24:41,648
me to be like, oh, I can do that when

1023
00:24:41,648 --> 00:24:42,938
it's something I've never done before.

1024
00:24:42,938 --> 00:24:43,538
Or it's something that

1025
00:24:43,538 --> 00:24:44,648
I don't typically do.

1026
00:24:44,898 --> 00:24:45,978
and, you know, vice versa.

1027
00:24:45,978 --> 00:24:46,818
Like, I want her to look at

1028
00:24:46,818 --> 00:24:49,182
me and be like, oh, like she

1029
00:24:49,212 --> 00:24:50,652
can do this, but I really need

1030
00:24:50,652 --> 00:24:52,092
someone to do this whole thing.

1031
00:24:52,092 --> 00:24:52,872
You know, whatever.

1032
00:24:53,172 --> 00:24:54,855
yeah, I think that's, really important.

1033
00:24:54,885 --> 00:24:56,115
Building that relationship.

1034
00:24:56,393 --> 00:24:58,985
Like that was our photographer built

1035
00:24:58,985 --> 00:25:00,995
out our whole day of timeline too.

1036
00:25:00,995 --> 00:25:02,135
And it was so great.

1037
00:25:02,135 --> 00:25:04,538
Like we'd only met her via Zoom before

1038
00:25:04,538 --> 00:25:06,945
the actual, Wedding day, but because

1039
00:25:06,945 --> 00:25:09,015
of how attentive she was in emails and

1040
00:25:09,015 --> 00:25:10,868
the Zoom calls, and we had like a two

1041
00:25:10,868 --> 00:25:12,608
hour call with her kind of going over

1042
00:25:12,668 --> 00:25:15,088
the day timeline, which I had never

1043
00:25:15,088 --> 00:25:16,702
had anyone do before at any wedding.

1044
00:25:16,702 --> 00:25:17,992
Like a photographer at least.

1045
00:25:18,252 --> 00:25:19,792
And I was like, that, was so nice.

1046
00:25:19,792 --> 00:25:20,722
And she even like, encouraged

1047
00:25:20,722 --> 00:25:21,682
me to eat during the day.

1048
00:25:21,712 --> 00:25:23,182
'cause like when you're busy doing

1049
00:25:23,182 --> 00:25:24,142
stuff, you kind of forget to eat.

1050
00:25:24,142 --> 00:25:25,708
And she was like, Krista, go eat.

1051
00:25:25,708 --> 00:25:26,368
This is your time.

1052
00:25:26,368 --> 00:25:26,818
Don't forget.

1053
00:25:26,818 --> 00:25:26,878
Yeah.

1054
00:25:26,878 --> 00:25:27,388
And I'm like, okay.

1055
00:25:27,952 --> 00:25:30,128
So, yeah, that's so important,

1056
00:25:30,128 --> 00:25:31,388
building that relationship

1057
00:25:31,568 --> 00:25:32,885
with your client for sure.

1058
00:25:33,125 --> 00:25:33,292
all right.

1059
00:25:33,292 --> 00:25:34,042
And so we were just kind of

1060
00:25:34,042 --> 00:25:35,062
talking about this, this last one

1061
00:25:35,062 --> 00:25:36,292
talks about building timelines.

1062
00:25:36,292 --> 00:25:38,142
So you are pretty involved with building

1063
00:25:38,142 --> 00:25:39,792
your couple's timeline for their wedding.

1064
00:25:39,983 --> 00:25:41,775
I like to have like, even just like

1065
00:25:41,775 --> 00:25:44,098
general sessions, I always like, if

1066
00:25:44,098 --> 00:25:45,508
it's like a family session and it's

1067
00:25:45,508 --> 00:25:47,308
like a big family, like grandparents,

1068
00:25:47,308 --> 00:25:49,301
grandkids, they're like a big family.

1069
00:25:49,301 --> 00:25:50,381
I even like to be like,

1070
00:25:50,411 --> 00:25:51,251
okay, we're gonna start with.

1071
00:25:51,616 --> 00:25:53,559
Full family shots and then this family,

1072
00:25:53,559 --> 00:25:55,419
this family, the grandkids will get one.

1073
00:25:55,573 --> 00:25:57,533
Like, I don't know, I guess in some

1074
00:25:57,533 --> 00:25:59,273
aspects of my life I'm very Type A,

1075
00:25:59,273 --> 00:26:00,623
but in other aspects I'm very type

1076
00:26:00,623 --> 00:26:02,183
B. But when it comes to photography,

1077
00:26:02,183 --> 00:26:03,953
I feel like I'm definitely type A,

1078
00:26:03,953 --> 00:26:05,549
like making sure all my batteries are

1079
00:26:05,549 --> 00:26:07,619
charged before sessions and all kinds

1080
00:26:07,619 --> 00:26:08,819
of stuff, which I'm kind of going away

1081
00:26:08,819 --> 00:26:10,559
from the question, but yes, I like a

1082
00:26:10,559 --> 00:26:12,629
schedule with really any of my sessions.

1083
00:26:12,766 --> 00:26:14,773
Yeah, no, that's so important.

1084
00:26:14,963 --> 00:26:16,793
especially I feel like wedding vendors

1085
00:26:16,793 --> 00:26:19,129
need to be like that, that shows good

1086
00:26:19,129 --> 00:26:20,719
organization, but it also shows that you

1087
00:26:20,719 --> 00:26:22,249
care about the couple and you want them

1088
00:26:22,249 --> 00:26:24,289
to have a good experience, or the family,

1089
00:26:24,523 --> 00:26:26,003
you want them to have a good experience.

1090
00:26:26,003 --> 00:26:27,953
'cause I feel like so many times, like.

1091
00:26:28,131 --> 00:26:30,001
we hear these horror stories.

1092
00:26:30,031 --> 00:26:31,591
Maybe it's a vendor, maybe it's

1093
00:26:31,591 --> 00:26:33,064
who know whoever it's on and it's

1094
00:26:33,064 --> 00:26:34,594
like they just didn't care enough.

1095
00:26:34,748 --> 00:26:36,008
they're like, I'm gonna do things my

1096
00:26:36,008 --> 00:26:37,861
way when it's like, it should be a mix.

1097
00:26:37,861 --> 00:26:39,511
Like, yes, this is what I do typically

1098
00:26:39,511 --> 00:26:41,621
as a vendor, but okay, this is what

1099
00:26:41,621 --> 00:26:42,761
you're looking for on your day.

1100
00:26:42,761 --> 00:26:43,511
Okay, let's kind of mm-hmm.

1101
00:26:43,781 --> 00:26:45,071
Interweave them or whatever.

1102
00:26:45,326 --> 00:26:45,518
Yeah.

1103
00:26:45,518 --> 00:26:47,378
That's what a lot with like some

1104
00:26:47,378 --> 00:26:48,758
of my wedding couples before, which

1105
00:26:48,758 --> 00:26:50,688
I've done a lot more elopements

1106
00:26:50,688 --> 00:26:52,608
than I have weddings, I will say.

1107
00:26:52,638 --> 00:26:54,204
But like still, I'm like, okay, these

1108
00:26:54,204 --> 00:26:56,004
are the pictures that we're going to get.

1109
00:26:56,163 --> 00:26:57,608
You make 'em into a timeline,

1110
00:26:57,608 --> 00:26:59,468
send it to me, and then I'll make

1111
00:26:59,468 --> 00:27:01,028
whatever edits I feel like I need

1112
00:27:01,028 --> 00:27:02,671
to make and we'll both approve it.

1113
00:27:02,873 --> 00:27:04,081
Yeah, I love that.

1114
00:27:04,290 --> 00:27:06,451
So with elopements, do you ever

1115
00:27:06,451 --> 00:27:08,844
like hear of like family drama

1116
00:27:08,844 --> 00:27:09,894
or people getting mad about

1117
00:27:09,894 --> 00:27:10,224
them?

1118
00:27:10,540 --> 00:27:11,644
No, not really.

1119
00:27:11,644 --> 00:27:12,994
So my elopements, I guess.

1120
00:27:13,323 --> 00:27:14,539
I guess mine are more considered

1121
00:27:14,539 --> 00:27:16,219
like a micro wedding, but my

1122
00:27:16,219 --> 00:27:18,559
elopements is up to 25 guests.

1123
00:27:18,769 --> 00:27:19,369
Okay.

1124
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:21,566
So like I have had elopements before

1125
00:27:21,566 --> 00:27:24,833
where it's just like the couple and then

1126
00:27:24,833 --> 00:27:26,903
whoever is marrying them and that's it.

1127
00:27:27,176 --> 00:27:29,253
But I think I've only had one of those,

1128
00:27:29,253 --> 00:27:31,053
but most of my elopements it's like

1129
00:27:31,276 --> 00:27:32,836
immediate family like mom, dad, and

1130
00:27:32,836 --> 00:27:34,726
siblings are there for both sides.

1131
00:27:34,939 --> 00:27:35,719
Oh, that's cool.

1132
00:27:35,913 --> 00:27:37,383
are they like overseas

1133
00:27:37,383 --> 00:27:38,703
or do you fly to any

1134
00:27:38,703 --> 00:27:40,683
or, well, what helps me out is with

1135
00:27:40,683 --> 00:27:43,803
my location is I'm probably an hour's

1136
00:27:43,803 --> 00:27:46,293
drive between like six state parks.

1137
00:27:46,510 --> 00:27:48,820
So like a lot of my, like on my Instagram

1138
00:27:48,820 --> 00:27:51,496
and Facebook, I'll tag that location and

1139
00:27:51,496 --> 00:27:52,966
a lot of people find me through that or

1140
00:27:52,966 --> 00:27:54,826
I'll put the hashtag of the location and

1141
00:27:54,826 --> 00:27:56,326
a lot of people find me through that.

1142
00:27:56,530 --> 00:27:57,250
Okay.

1143
00:27:57,250 --> 00:27:58,330
That's cool that you can have all

1144
00:27:58,330 --> 00:27:59,680
these like beautiful different

1145
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:01,000
like settings and mm-hmm.

1146
00:28:01,330 --> 00:28:03,250
Be really aware of like what's near you.

1147
00:28:03,446 --> 00:28:03,650
Yeah.

1148
00:28:03,650 --> 00:28:05,600
Like engagement photo shoots as well.

1149
00:28:06,045 --> 00:28:06,795
That's awesome.

1150
00:28:06,953 --> 00:28:08,375
Yeah, I was just asking because like

1151
00:28:08,375 --> 00:28:10,235
I hear of like different stories where

1152
00:28:10,235 --> 00:28:12,341
families get like they wanna be a part of

1153
00:28:12,341 --> 00:28:13,871
it, but like maybe the couple just wants

1154
00:28:13,871 --> 00:28:16,151
to like run off and get engage and not

1155
00:28:16,151 --> 00:28:17,735
include, not, I shouldn't say not include

1156
00:28:17,735 --> 00:28:19,025
anyone, but they just want it to be them.

1157
00:28:19,173 --> 00:28:20,835
So I was just curious if like you're

1158
00:28:20,835 --> 00:28:23,355
ever brought into that drama or anything?

1159
00:28:23,595 --> 00:28:24,015
Yeah.

1160
00:28:24,165 --> 00:28:25,635
Oh, I've always said too, like when

1161
00:28:25,635 --> 00:28:27,611
I get married one day I wanna do a

1162
00:28:27,611 --> 00:28:29,291
small wedding, like immediate family.

1163
00:28:29,291 --> 00:28:30,521
Like I don't wanna have a big thing

1164
00:28:30,521 --> 00:28:31,721
and that's just my personal preference.

1165
00:28:31,721 --> 00:28:32,771
There's nothing wrong with a big

1166
00:28:32,771 --> 00:28:34,241
wedding, but I've always said that too.

1167
00:28:34,271 --> 00:28:34,901
Like I just want

1168
00:28:34,901 --> 00:28:35,921
something small.

1169
00:28:36,096 --> 00:28:36,841
Yes.

1170
00:28:36,993 --> 00:28:37,225
Yeah.

1171
00:28:37,225 --> 00:28:38,455
I think it's so important to know

1172
00:28:38,455 --> 00:28:40,431
like what you want and like get

1173
00:28:40,431 --> 00:28:41,691
on that same page as your partner.

1174
00:28:41,721 --> 00:28:43,138
'cause I feel like so many

1175
00:28:43,138 --> 00:28:44,728
people can come in and be like,

1176
00:28:44,906 --> 00:28:46,258
no, you need that big wedding.

1177
00:28:46,263 --> 00:28:46,466
Mm-hmm.

1178
00:28:46,598 --> 00:28:47,488
What if you regret it?

1179
00:28:47,488 --> 00:28:49,931
And it's like, but I'll regret more

1180
00:28:49,961 --> 00:28:52,691
doing what you want and not what I want.

1181
00:28:52,896 --> 00:28:52,933
Yeah.

1182
00:28:52,933 --> 00:28:53,888
Because I feel like that's what

1183
00:28:53,888 --> 00:28:55,568
I see the most is like brides

1184
00:28:55,628 --> 00:28:57,995
that regret are typically because

1185
00:28:57,995 --> 00:28:59,795
someone else came in and took over

1186
00:28:59,795 --> 00:29:01,205
or told 'em they had to do it away.

1187
00:29:01,205 --> 00:29:01,865
They didn't want.

1188
00:29:02,033 --> 00:29:03,500
Yeah, well one of my really good

1189
00:29:03,500 --> 00:29:04,670
childhood friends, she just got

1190
00:29:04,670 --> 00:29:07,002
married this, past summer and what

1191
00:29:07,050 --> 00:29:10,527
she done is it was called an I do BBQ.

1192
00:29:10,620 --> 00:29:12,353
So like a month before they got married,

1193
00:29:12,353 --> 00:29:14,063
they had this big, they had rented

1194
00:29:14,063 --> 00:29:16,050
out a venue, but it was like a big

1195
00:29:16,050 --> 00:29:18,420
barbecue and it was just all their

1196
00:29:18,420 --> 00:29:20,010
loved ones, their friends, their family.

1197
00:29:20,227 --> 00:29:21,677
And then about a month later,

1198
00:29:21,677 --> 00:29:23,450
they got married in like a

1199
00:29:23,450 --> 00:29:25,040
small, tiny micro wedding.

1200
00:29:25,220 --> 00:29:26,780
Mm. I love that.

1201
00:29:26,780 --> 00:29:26,840
Yeah.

1202
00:29:27,090 --> 00:29:28,517
That's like what my cousin did.

1203
00:29:28,517 --> 00:29:30,483
She, I'm trying to think of the order.

1204
00:29:30,543 --> 00:29:30,843
Yeah.

1205
00:29:30,843 --> 00:29:33,007
So she did a big party, I wanna say

1206
00:29:33,007 --> 00:29:34,803
it was like at a public park ' cause

1207
00:29:34,803 --> 00:29:36,183
she worked for it at the time.

1208
00:29:36,445 --> 00:29:38,267
Public park had like food

1209
00:29:38,267 --> 00:29:39,647
trucks and all that stuff.

1210
00:29:39,652 --> 00:29:39,712
Mm-hmm.

1211
00:29:39,797 --> 00:29:41,957
All our family like flew in from all over.

1212
00:29:42,182 --> 00:29:44,817
And then like a month later, maybe her

1213
00:29:44,817 --> 00:29:46,977
and her husband got married in Ireland.

1214
00:29:47,237 --> 00:29:48,407
Mm. And all they, they brought

1215
00:29:48,407 --> 00:29:50,387
her mom and then my uncle who

1216
00:29:50,645 --> 00:29:52,250
married them and did the ceremony.

1217
00:29:52,250 --> 00:29:52,705
Um, so.

1218
00:29:53,458 --> 00:29:54,748
I thought that was a really cool way

1219
00:29:54,748 --> 00:29:56,218
of like, still involving everyone

1220
00:29:56,218 --> 00:29:57,505
in the wedding, but then they gotta

1221
00:29:57,505 --> 00:29:59,282
do what they wanted, in Ireland.

1222
00:29:59,525 --> 00:30:00,785
and I didn't feel like,

1223
00:30:01,015 --> 00:30:02,155
I missed out on it.

1224
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:02,170
Yeah.

1225
00:30:02,170 --> 00:30:03,415
Because it was most beautiful photos.

1226
00:30:03,415 --> 00:30:06,038
She had the most amazing setup

1227
00:30:06,068 --> 00:30:08,148
and, yeah, it was cool to see.

1228
00:30:08,418 --> 00:30:08,722
Okay.

1229
00:30:08,975 --> 00:30:11,112
Let's get into this week's

1230
00:30:11,342 --> 00:30:13,242
wedding story submission.

1231
00:30:13,465 --> 00:30:14,125
I'm excited.

1232
00:30:14,215 --> 00:30:14,980
There we go.

1233
00:30:15,325 --> 00:30:16,152
I never really know what

1234
00:30:16,152 --> 00:30:16,962
we're gonna get here.

1235
00:30:17,982 --> 00:30:18,312
Okay.

1236
00:30:18,582 --> 00:30:20,678
I was very lucky that in the lead up

1237
00:30:20,678 --> 00:30:22,898
to my wedding, there wasn't much drama,

1238
00:30:23,145 --> 00:30:25,545
but of course there's always something.

1239
00:30:25,822 --> 00:30:27,015
On the morning of the wedding,

1240
00:30:27,219 --> 00:30:28,932
the forecast called for warm,

1241
00:30:28,962 --> 00:30:30,282
sunny, beautiful weather.

1242
00:30:30,465 --> 00:30:32,312
perfect for an outdoor ceremony.

1243
00:30:32,549 --> 00:30:33,835
When I arrived at the salon for

1244
00:30:33,835 --> 00:30:35,395
hair and makeup, it looked exactly

1245
00:30:35,395 --> 00:30:36,955
like the ideal day we'd hoped for.

1246
00:30:37,222 --> 00:30:38,772
About halfway through getting my hair

1247
00:30:38,772 --> 00:30:41,212
done, we suddenly heard a loud bang.

1248
00:30:41,375 --> 00:30:42,589
We looked outside to see

1249
00:30:42,589 --> 00:30:44,705
torrential downpour, sheets of

1250
00:30:44,705 --> 00:30:46,469
rain and thunder and lightning.

1251
00:30:46,734 --> 00:30:48,099
It was like what we're just talking about.

1252
00:30:51,289 --> 00:30:52,102
I can picture it.

1253
00:30:52,422 --> 00:30:53,925
My weather app still claimed

1254
00:30:53,925 --> 00:30:55,155
it was sunny and clear.

1255
00:30:55,185 --> 00:30:56,985
That's the worst when it's like the

1256
00:30:56,985 --> 00:30:58,475
weather has not caught up on the

1257
00:30:58,475 --> 00:31:00,335
apps and you're like, I'm looking.

1258
00:31:00,365 --> 00:31:01,445
It's not matching.

1259
00:31:03,265 --> 00:31:04,314
Until it didn't.

1260
00:31:04,505 --> 00:31:06,040
What was supposed to be a perfect

1261
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:07,870
day, instantly turned into a flash

1262
00:31:07,870 --> 00:31:10,060
flooding and a massive thunderstorm.

1263
00:31:10,262 --> 00:31:11,827
Trying to get from the salon

1264
00:31:11,887 --> 00:31:13,837
to the car was a disaster.

1265
00:31:14,062 --> 00:31:15,707
Our umbrella flipped inside out,

1266
00:31:15,737 --> 00:31:17,567
soaking me and my sister and my

1267
00:31:17,567 --> 00:31:19,727
four bridesmaids from head to toe

1268
00:31:19,975 --> 00:31:21,660
right after getting their hair done.

1269
00:31:22,909 --> 00:31:24,105
I would be distraught.

1270
00:31:24,504 --> 00:31:26,155
Nobody talk to me for an hour.

1271
00:31:26,185 --> 00:31:28,015
Give me some time to just cope.

1272
00:31:28,370 --> 00:31:29,455
Yes, I know.

1273
00:31:29,455 --> 00:31:30,175
That's the thing too.

1274
00:31:30,175 --> 00:31:30,985
It's like we were talking about

1275
00:31:30,985 --> 00:31:32,708
earlier, like I'm, seeing all

1276
00:31:32,708 --> 00:31:33,818
these weddings where it rains.

1277
00:31:33,818 --> 00:31:34,958
I'm like, oh, it's so romantic,

1278
00:31:35,155 --> 00:31:37,208
but I'd be lying if I didn't say.

1279
00:31:37,732 --> 00:31:39,670
First it would take me a little bit to Oh,

1280
00:31:39,700 --> 00:31:41,290
me too, me too.

1281
00:31:41,470 --> 00:31:43,960
Especially a bit like snuck up,

1282
00:31:43,990 --> 00:31:45,880
like how it did on her like perfect

1283
00:31:45,910 --> 00:31:47,560
forecast that morning and then

1284
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:48,700
just flash flooding happened.

1285
00:31:48,812 --> 00:31:49,815
I would be like, everybody

1286
00:31:49,933 --> 00:31:51,073
just gimme 30 minutes.

1287
00:31:51,073 --> 00:31:52,033
Leave me in this room.

1288
00:31:52,127 --> 00:31:54,647
I need time to decompress, maybe pray.

1289
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:55,280
Yes.

1290
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:56,240
You know, just gimme

1291
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:56,780
a second.

1292
00:31:57,077 --> 00:31:58,843
I know like weather is one of those

1293
00:31:58,843 --> 00:32:00,823
things you can just never predict.

1294
00:32:00,823 --> 00:32:02,713
You never know what it's gonna be like.

1295
00:32:02,923 --> 00:32:03,883
And if this tells you anything

1296
00:32:03,883 --> 00:32:05,143
about like my, I shouldn't say

1297
00:32:05,143 --> 00:32:06,733
fear of like weather changing.

1298
00:32:06,933 --> 00:32:08,853
the venue that I got married at had an

1299
00:32:08,913 --> 00:32:11,427
outdoor area and indoor and so it was

1300
00:32:11,427 --> 00:32:13,490
like, I knew I always had a backup plan.

1301
00:32:13,550 --> 00:32:13,700
Yeah.

1302
00:32:13,700 --> 00:32:14,810
We got married in March, so we were

1303
00:32:14,810 --> 00:32:16,550
like pretty sure it's gonna be indoor.

1304
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:18,880
And even like the front area

1305
00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:20,477
was where the bridal suite was.

1306
00:32:20,703 --> 00:32:21,575
So we got our hair and makeup done.

1307
00:32:22,695 --> 00:32:23,745
So I never had to even like

1308
00:32:23,745 --> 00:32:25,622
step foot outside because I was

1309
00:32:25,622 --> 00:32:27,422
just like, you just never know.

1310
00:32:27,593 --> 00:32:29,525
And we had every single weather that day.

1311
00:32:29,525 --> 00:32:31,115
Like when I woke up, it was sunny

1312
00:32:31,170 --> 00:32:32,652
and kind of chilly, like forties.

1313
00:32:32,833 --> 00:32:35,762
Then it ended up, I think it rained

1314
00:32:35,762 --> 00:32:37,142
a little before the ceremony.

1315
00:32:37,430 --> 00:32:38,882
Then it ended up snowing

1316
00:32:39,002 --> 00:32:40,502
later on at night.

1317
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:42,842
So like we had every kind of weather.

1318
00:32:42,842 --> 00:32:44,358
So I was like, okay, well as long

1319
00:32:44,358 --> 00:32:45,348
as we don't have to go outside.

1320
00:32:45,408 --> 00:32:45,978
But my

1321
00:32:45,978 --> 00:32:47,418
parents, they got married in March

1322
00:32:47,418 --> 00:32:48,708
too, and they said like the day

1323
00:32:48,708 --> 00:32:50,298
of their wedding, it was just

1324
00:32:50,298 --> 00:32:51,888
like a little bit of everything.

1325
00:32:51,888 --> 00:32:53,598
Cold, hot, windy.

1326
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:55,818
I think it might've like sprinkled too.

1327
00:32:56,032 --> 00:32:57,112
And now like every year

1328
00:32:57,112 --> 00:32:58,162
on their anniversary.

1329
00:32:58,333 --> 00:32:59,678
Like, you never know if we're gonna

1330
00:32:59,678 --> 00:33:01,298
have snow, if we're gonna have rain,

1331
00:33:01,328 --> 00:33:02,618
if it's gonna be in the seventies.

1332
00:33:02,618 --> 00:33:03,435
Like we just don't know.

1333
00:33:03,810 --> 00:33:04,660
Yeah, I know.

1334
00:33:04,665 --> 00:33:05,678
It's so wild.

1335
00:33:05,867 --> 00:33:08,523
Yeah, because our, one year anniversary,

1336
00:33:08,690 --> 00:33:09,900
my daughter was born a little

1337
00:33:09,900 --> 00:33:11,370
before our one year anniversary,

1338
00:33:11,523 --> 00:33:13,183
so I'll never forget that week.

1339
00:33:13,293 --> 00:33:14,853
it was like three feet of snow

1340
00:33:14,853 --> 00:33:17,323
outside when the day before it was

1341
00:33:17,323 --> 00:33:19,063
like raining in like 50 degrees.

1342
00:33:19,123 --> 00:33:19,333
So

1343
00:33:19,333 --> 00:33:19,843
that happened.

1344
00:33:19,911 --> 00:33:21,351
They went to the Great Smoky

1345
00:33:21,351 --> 00:33:22,761
Mountains National Park.

1346
00:33:22,851 --> 00:33:23,841
I don't know if you know where that's at.

1347
00:33:23,841 --> 00:33:24,171
Yes.

1348
00:33:24,268 --> 00:33:25,456
for their anniversary one year.

1349
00:33:25,456 --> 00:33:26,891
And they said like, they got down

1350
00:33:26,891 --> 00:33:28,541
there and it was nice and warm.

1351
00:33:28,541 --> 00:33:30,671
It was like 60 seventies maybe.

1352
00:33:30,858 --> 00:33:32,554
They went to bed that night at the hotel.

1353
00:33:32,554 --> 00:33:33,934
Woke up the next morning and it

1354
00:33:33,934 --> 00:33:35,044
was like half a foot of snow.

1355
00:33:35,278 --> 00:33:36,634
And they were just like, I think

1356
00:33:36,634 --> 00:33:38,044
they may have planned to go hiking

1357
00:33:38,044 --> 00:33:39,004
that day or something, but they

1358
00:33:39,004 --> 00:33:40,281
were like, we're kind of stuck.

1359
00:33:40,678 --> 00:33:41,994
Oh my gosh.

1360
00:33:42,054 --> 00:33:42,684
I hate that.

1361
00:33:42,744 --> 00:33:44,064
So hard to plan for that.

1362
00:33:44,301 --> 00:33:46,498
okay, so she says, so she got soaked

1363
00:33:46,498 --> 00:33:48,298
head to toe, her bridesmaids and her

1364
00:33:48,298 --> 00:33:50,268
sister on the drive to the venue.

1365
00:33:50,268 --> 00:33:53,311
We passed similar cars, stuck in flood

1366
00:33:53,311 --> 00:33:55,794
water, and the roads completely closed

1367
00:33:55,794 --> 00:33:57,714
because the rivers had overflowed.

1368
00:33:57,898 --> 00:33:59,384
So this is like a storm.

1369
00:33:59,384 --> 00:33:59,394
Storm.

1370
00:33:59,444 --> 00:34:00,134
This is bad.

1371
00:34:00,374 --> 00:34:01,344
Ah, really bad.

1372
00:34:01,344 --> 00:34:02,454
I wonder where this was.

1373
00:34:02,688 --> 00:34:04,541
We got to the venue later than planned

1374
00:34:04,571 --> 00:34:06,221
only to learn that my soon-to-be

1375
00:34:06,221 --> 00:34:08,614
husband and groomsmen weren't there yet.

1376
00:34:08,824 --> 00:34:10,398
I went straight to the bridal suite to try

1377
00:34:10,398 --> 00:34:12,381
to fix my hair and makeup when the, oh,

1378
00:34:12,381 --> 00:34:13,821
she had already had her makeup done too.

1379
00:34:14,078 --> 00:34:15,438
While my maid of honor called

1380
00:34:15,438 --> 00:34:16,578
to find out where they were.

1381
00:34:16,831 --> 00:34:18,124
They were still in the hotel and

1382
00:34:18,124 --> 00:34:20,344
had no idea about the weather.

1383
00:34:20,681 --> 00:34:22,958
They tried calling for a taxi, but it took

1384
00:34:22,958 --> 00:34:25,658
20 minutes before one finally showed up.

1385
00:34:25,871 --> 00:34:27,271
They made it to the venue only

1386
00:34:27,271 --> 00:34:28,591
about five minutes before the

1387
00:34:28,591 --> 00:34:30,811
ceremony was supposed to begin.

1388
00:34:31,188 --> 00:34:32,178
Oh my gosh.

1389
00:34:32,178 --> 00:34:32,358
That's.

1390
00:34:33,088 --> 00:34:33,628
Oh my gosh.

1391
00:34:33,633 --> 00:34:33,833
I would be, I would

1392
00:34:33,833 --> 00:34:34,528
be, that's one of those

1393
00:34:34,528 --> 00:34:36,238
times it's like, do you just

1394
00:34:36,238 --> 00:34:38,218
push your timeline back an hour?

1395
00:34:38,218 --> 00:34:39,898
Because you gotta think if they're running

1396
00:34:39,898 --> 00:34:41,548
late, all their guests, you're probably

1397
00:34:41,548 --> 00:34:43,424
running late and then that's messing

1398
00:34:43,424 --> 00:34:45,224
with your caterer, your photographer.

1399
00:34:45,344 --> 00:34:47,561
you as a bride or groom, it's,

1400
00:34:47,798 --> 00:34:49,582
Ooh, that's a messy situation.

1401
00:34:49,872 --> 00:34:50,659
Yeah, I know.

1402
00:34:50,659 --> 00:34:51,469
It's like one of those like

1403
00:34:51,469 --> 00:34:52,909
quick calls of like, okay, can

1404
00:34:52,909 --> 00:34:54,679
we push this back a little bit?

1405
00:34:54,679 --> 00:34:55,769
And yeah.

1406
00:34:55,972 --> 00:34:56,909
Because I feel like, yeah, if the

1407
00:34:56,909 --> 00:34:58,919
groomsmen who are like important in the

1408
00:34:58,919 --> 00:35:01,746
wedding, the groom aren't there, maybe

1409
00:35:01,746 --> 00:35:03,789
we can like push it back just slightly.

1410
00:35:03,794 --> 00:35:03,864
Yeah.

1411
00:35:04,392 --> 00:35:04,689
Yeah.

1412
00:35:05,004 --> 00:35:06,864
Surprisingly, the ceremony only

1413
00:35:06,864 --> 00:35:08,937
started five minutes late, but even

1414
00:35:08,937 --> 00:35:10,737
then things didn't go smoothly.

1415
00:35:10,972 --> 00:35:13,264
The officiant accidentally said,

1416
00:35:13,264 --> 00:35:14,842
my maid-of-honor's name instead

1417
00:35:14,842 --> 00:35:16,744
of my partner's during the vows.

1418
00:35:21,322 --> 00:35:22,771
I always cringe when I hear

1419
00:35:22,771 --> 00:35:23,881
stories like this, like that.

1420
00:35:23,881 --> 00:35:25,784
They say like the wrong name.

1421
00:35:25,784 --> 00:35:25,844
Yeah.

1422
00:35:25,844 --> 00:35:27,134
Or they pronounce it wrong.

1423
00:35:27,134 --> 00:35:28,484
I feel like it's a officiants

1424
00:35:28,514 --> 00:35:30,831
job to triple check names

1425
00:35:30,831 --> 00:35:32,301
and how to pronounce them.

1426
00:35:32,496 --> 00:35:32,674
Mm-hmm.

1427
00:35:32,944 --> 00:35:34,324
And this sounds to me like maybe

1428
00:35:34,324 --> 00:35:35,464
the officiant didn't know them

1429
00:35:35,464 --> 00:35:37,264
personally or meet with them before.

1430
00:35:37,506 --> 00:35:37,797
Yeah,

1431
00:35:37,947 --> 00:35:40,134
because like we met our officiant,

1432
00:35:40,134 --> 00:35:42,204
like at least on Zoom multiple times

1433
00:35:42,204 --> 00:35:44,354
before I spoke to her on the phone.

1434
00:35:44,629 --> 00:35:45,739
she knew our names.

1435
00:35:45,844 --> 00:35:46,669
Yeah, yeah.

1436
00:35:46,789 --> 00:35:48,379
But oh my gosh.

1437
00:35:48,637 --> 00:35:50,461
And while signing the marriage license,

1438
00:35:50,461 --> 00:35:53,401
my brother-in-law signed the wrong spot.

1439
00:35:53,671 --> 00:35:55,654
Thankfully, someone caught it or our

1440
00:35:55,654 --> 00:35:57,124
certificate would've been a void.

1441
00:35:57,514 --> 00:35:58,114
Oh my gosh.

1442
00:35:58,204 --> 00:35:59,674
After the ceremony, the storm

1443
00:35:59,674 --> 00:36:01,054
finally passed, so we were

1444
00:36:01,054 --> 00:36:02,434
able to take photos outside.

1445
00:36:02,727 --> 00:36:03,847
This actually turned out to be a

1446
00:36:03,847 --> 00:36:05,917
blessing because the post storm sky

1447
00:36:06,161 --> 00:36:07,981
and the slightly damp surroundings

1448
00:36:08,077 --> 00:36:10,061
created the most beautiful backdrop.

1449
00:36:10,277 --> 00:36:10,797
I love that.

1450
00:36:11,041 --> 00:36:11,331
Yeah.

1451
00:36:11,511 --> 00:36:13,011
The dress did get a little muddy,

1452
00:36:13,011 --> 00:36:15,194
but nothing major dinner, dancing and

1453
00:36:15,194 --> 00:36:16,874
the reception were going perfectly,

1454
00:36:16,874 --> 00:36:18,284
aside from my brother and one of the

1455
00:36:18,284 --> 00:36:20,107
bridesmaids accidentally eating my

1456
00:36:20,107 --> 00:36:22,537
dinner when I was busy greening guests,

1457
00:36:22,854 --> 00:36:24,354
still I was having the time of my life.

1458
00:36:24,354 --> 00:36:25,674
How do you accidentally eat someone

1459
00:36:25,944 --> 00:36:26,334
else at dinner?

1460
00:36:26,334 --> 00:36:27,260
Yeah, that's like when I'm a

1461
00:36:27,260 --> 00:36:28,550
photographer or when I was in that

1462
00:36:28,550 --> 00:36:30,600
wedding, in September, I'm always

1463
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:32,676
like, make the bride and groom a plate.

1464
00:36:32,870 --> 00:36:34,755
Set it at their chair, like put

1465
00:36:34,755 --> 00:36:35,985
a napkin over it or something

1466
00:36:35,985 --> 00:36:37,215
so nobody will touch it.

1467
00:36:37,305 --> 00:36:38,775
Yeah, because they need to eat.

1468
00:36:38,805 --> 00:36:40,125
I mean, they've been probably

1469
00:36:40,125 --> 00:36:42,105
stressed out all day.

1470
00:36:42,105 --> 00:36:43,000
They need to eat something.

1471
00:36:43,430 --> 00:36:45,075
I know the amount of weddings I

1472
00:36:45,075 --> 00:36:46,545
heard where people were like, I was

1473
00:36:46,545 --> 00:36:47,835
too stressed or like running around.

1474
00:36:47,835 --> 00:36:48,495
I never ate.

1475
00:36:48,525 --> 00:36:49,702
And I'm like, what?

1476
00:36:49,702 --> 00:36:49,942
Like

1477
00:36:49,942 --> 00:36:51,814
you need to eat in my camera bag.

1478
00:36:51,814 --> 00:36:53,554
I keep little granola bars and I think

1479
00:36:53,554 --> 00:36:55,084
I maybe have like some gummy packs

1480
00:36:55,084 --> 00:36:56,674
or something because if I do shoot a

1481
00:36:56,674 --> 00:36:58,787
wedding or something, or like even if

1482
00:36:58,787 --> 00:37:00,317
I travel somewhere to take pictures,

1483
00:37:00,317 --> 00:37:01,847
I like to have little snacks for me

1484
00:37:01,847 --> 00:37:03,758
or  people I'm taking pictures of.

1485
00:37:03,935 --> 00:37:04,555
Yeah.

1486
00:37:04,555 --> 00:37:05,485
Have you ever had, sorry,

1487
00:37:05,485 --> 00:37:06,625
this is like a side question.

1488
00:37:06,835 --> 00:37:08,798
Have you ever had a, like a wedding that

1489
00:37:08,798 --> 00:37:10,765
you've been to where they like don't set

1490
00:37:10,765 --> 00:37:12,835
aside time for you to eat dinner as well?

1491
00:37:13,071 --> 00:37:14,328
I almost all of them set

1492
00:37:14,328 --> 00:37:15,528
aside a time for me to eat.

1493
00:37:15,558 --> 00:37:16,848
'cause it's in my contract that

1494
00:37:16,848 --> 00:37:18,378
I have like 30 minutes to eat.

1495
00:37:18,535 --> 00:37:20,615
But usually the wedding gets so crazy that

1496
00:37:20,615 --> 00:37:22,685
my 30 minutes turns into like 10 minutes.

1497
00:37:23,150 --> 00:37:23,240
Right.

1498
00:37:23,385 --> 00:37:25,290
Just because like there's so many moments

1499
00:37:25,290 --> 00:37:26,803
that like, even though literally just

1500
00:37:26,803 --> 00:37:29,023
30 minutes I have set aside to eat,

1501
00:37:29,218 --> 00:37:30,566
there's stuff going on during that.

1502
00:37:30,566 --> 00:37:31,646
So usually I just make a plate,

1503
00:37:31,646 --> 00:37:32,786
scarf it down real fast, and

1504
00:37:32,786 --> 00:37:33,926
then I'm back to taking pictures.

1505
00:37:33,926 --> 00:37:35,556
So even though in my contract it's

1506
00:37:35,556 --> 00:37:37,176
30 minutes, it's usually I take about

1507
00:37:37,176 --> 00:37:39,173
10 just to eat something real fast.

1508
00:37:39,263 --> 00:37:39,323
Yeah.

1509
00:37:39,323 --> 00:37:40,253
It's hard to like sit and

1510
00:37:40,253 --> 00:37:41,723
allow yourself to like sit when

1511
00:37:41,723 --> 00:37:42,773
other things are like Yeah.

1512
00:37:43,013 --> 00:37:43,883
Going on around you.

1513
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:45,030
no, I totally get that.

1514
00:37:45,030 --> 00:37:47,317
I heard like horror stories from vendors.

1515
00:37:47,536 --> 00:37:48,671
I was actually, when I was a day

1516
00:37:48,671 --> 00:37:49,841
of coordinator at a wedding not too

1517
00:37:49,841 --> 00:37:51,811
long ago, I was sitting at the table

1518
00:37:51,811 --> 00:37:53,311
with a photographer and videographer

1519
00:37:53,311 --> 00:37:55,841
and dj, and the one photographer was

1520
00:37:55,841 --> 00:37:57,641
talking about this wedding she went

1521
00:37:57,641 --> 00:38:00,311
to where they treated her like scum.

1522
00:38:00,341 --> 00:38:01,767
They were like, I was not allowed

1523
00:38:01,767 --> 00:38:03,971
to be sat in the same room

1524
00:38:04,193 --> 00:38:05,821
as the guests and the bride.

1525
00:38:05,926 --> 00:38:08,107
They shoved me in a room, no chairs,

1526
00:38:08,107 --> 00:38:09,607
no tables, and had me sit on the

1527
00:38:09,607 --> 00:38:11,824
floor and I got like a leftover plate.

1528
00:38:12,117 --> 00:38:13,497
You said that was the photographer?

1529
00:38:13,643 --> 00:38:14,701
The photographer was telling

1530
00:38:14,701 --> 00:38:15,837
me this and she's like, I got

1531
00:38:15,837 --> 00:38:17,381
treated horribly at this wedding.

1532
00:38:17,381 --> 00:38:18,911
I couldn't wait to go home.

1533
00:38:19,139 --> 00:38:20,754
I was like, that's awful.

1534
00:38:20,929 --> 00:38:22,941
And I've heard this like drama on

1535
00:38:23,061 --> 00:38:24,624
social media where it's like, I

1536
00:38:24,624 --> 00:38:25,614
don't know if it was another vendor

1537
00:38:25,614 --> 00:38:26,604
talking about it, but she was like,

1538
00:38:26,604 --> 00:38:28,337
I was at a wedding once where they

1539
00:38:28,337 --> 00:38:30,047
did not wanna pay for me to eat.

1540
00:38:30,107 --> 00:38:32,707
And I said, if you don't like allow

1541
00:38:32,707 --> 00:38:34,297
me to sit down and get like a little

1542
00:38:34,297 --> 00:38:36,174
tiny break, I'm gonna have to leave.

1543
00:38:36,399 --> 00:38:37,181
They're like, well, you can leave

1544
00:38:37,181 --> 00:38:38,441
and get something and come back.

1545
00:38:38,633 --> 00:38:39,258
so they were like.

1546
00:38:39,808 --> 00:38:40,318
I don't know.

1547
00:38:40,318 --> 00:38:42,238
I don't get that of like, yeah,

1548
00:38:42,298 --> 00:38:44,188
well even your fir, like you said

1549
00:38:44,188 --> 00:38:45,531
that photographer was telling you

1550
00:38:45,531 --> 00:38:47,361
like they put her in a back room.

1551
00:38:47,361 --> 00:38:48,621
It's not even like that.

1552
00:38:48,621 --> 00:38:49,461
She was gonna mess up the

1553
00:38:49,461 --> 00:38:50,751
aesthetic of the pictures 'cause

1554
00:38:50,751 --> 00:38:52,581
she's literally the photographer.

1555
00:38:52,581 --> 00:38:53,631
Like, exactly.

1556
00:38:53,631 --> 00:38:54,711
That makes no sense to me.

1557
00:38:54,711 --> 00:38:55,551
That is crazy.

1558
00:38:55,695 --> 00:38:55,821
I

1559
00:38:55,881 --> 00:38:58,321
know, and like my photographer

1560
00:38:58,321 --> 00:38:59,861
had I typically, 'cause I had a

1561
00:38:59,861 --> 00:39:01,061
buffet at my wedding and she's

1562
00:39:01,061 --> 00:39:02,641
like, I'll go up, know, with the

1563
00:39:02,641 --> 00:39:04,111
other vendors like right after you.

1564
00:39:04,271 --> 00:39:05,081
she's like, 'cause you don't want

1565
00:39:05,081 --> 00:39:06,311
photos of you eating anyways.

1566
00:39:06,311 --> 00:39:07,001
And I'm like, yeah.

1567
00:39:07,195 --> 00:39:08,515
so like I'll eat while you eat

1568
00:39:08,789 --> 00:39:09,909
and then when you're done by that

1569
00:39:09,909 --> 00:39:11,079
point it'll be speeches and I'll be

1570
00:39:11,079 --> 00:39:12,519
like ready to take pictures again.

1571
00:39:12,519 --> 00:39:13,969
I was like, that makes perfect sense.

1572
00:39:14,199 --> 00:39:14,319
Yeah.

1573
00:39:14,319 --> 00:39:15,368
And I literally kept telling her,

1574
00:39:15,368 --> 00:39:16,718
I was like, and take your time.

1575
00:39:16,989 --> 00:39:18,549
I'm not gonna be like on you or

1576
00:39:18,549 --> 00:39:20,019
crazy like, oh you're eating more.

1577
00:39:20,019 --> 00:39:20,758
Like please eat.

1578
00:39:20,934 --> 00:39:22,164
yeah, that's what it's here for.

1579
00:39:22,164 --> 00:39:23,261
And like I wanted my

1580
00:39:23,261 --> 00:39:24,611
vendors to feel as like.

1581
00:39:24,943 --> 00:39:27,064
A part of the day as like anyone

1582
00:39:27,064 --> 00:39:28,494
else, like when we had breakfast

1583
00:39:28,494 --> 00:39:29,514
delivered in the morning, I was like,

1584
00:39:29,514 --> 00:39:31,501
here, grab coffee, grab a sandwich.

1585
00:39:31,501 --> 00:39:33,001
Like whatever you want, because

1586
00:39:33,216 --> 00:39:34,388
they're there to make your day.

1587
00:39:34,388 --> 00:39:34,868
Beautiful.

1588
00:39:34,868 --> 00:39:36,368
Why treat them like they're like

1589
00:39:36,596 --> 00:39:38,768
horrible people or Yeah, like scum.

1590
00:39:38,828 --> 00:39:39,638
Like I don't, yeah,

1591
00:39:39,839 --> 00:39:41,394
well like even some weddings that

1592
00:39:41,394 --> 00:39:42,654
I've done, like if I know the

1593
00:39:42,654 --> 00:39:43,944
caterers, I've worked with 'em before.

1594
00:39:43,944 --> 00:39:44,874
I'm like, can y'all make me a

1595
00:39:44,874 --> 00:39:46,374
plate and just set it to the side?

1596
00:39:46,374 --> 00:39:48,114
Or like, I've done some weddings like

1597
00:39:48,293 --> 00:39:50,431
where I've known like the family and

1598
00:39:50,431 --> 00:39:51,751
like the bridesmaids and the groomsmen.

1599
00:39:51,751 --> 00:39:53,338
Like my whole life actually I've done

1600
00:39:53,338 --> 00:39:55,498
that this summer, is my cousin was one

1601
00:39:55,498 --> 00:39:56,998
of the bridesmaids and I was like, can

1602
00:39:56,998 --> 00:39:58,288
you make me a plate when you go up there

1603
00:39:58,288 --> 00:39:59,758
and just set it to the side somewhere?

1604
00:39:59,758 --> 00:40:01,048
And she's like, yeah, I'll like you one.

1605
00:40:01,214 --> 00:40:01,754
Yeah.

1606
00:40:01,754 --> 00:40:02,444
I love that.

1607
00:40:02,683 --> 00:40:05,651
Okay, so this says, so we're back at,

1608
00:40:05,751 --> 00:40:07,551
dinner, dancing and reception went

1609
00:40:07,551 --> 00:40:09,561
perfectly until they ate her food, right?

1610
00:40:09,736 --> 00:40:10,631
Still I was having the

1611
00:40:10,631 --> 00:40:11,591
best time of my life.

1612
00:40:11,909 --> 00:40:13,974
As the sun began to set, our photographers

1613
00:40:13,974 --> 00:40:15,804
took us outside for sunset photos.

1614
00:40:16,046 --> 00:40:17,796
We also planned to take sparkler photos

1615
00:40:17,796 --> 00:40:19,479
once it got dark, but right as we

1616
00:40:19,479 --> 00:40:21,429
set up, the wind picked up sharply.

1617
00:40:21,679 --> 00:40:23,539
The sky turned green and

1618
00:40:23,539 --> 00:40:25,309
the downpour returned.

1619
00:40:26,124 --> 00:40:26,344
Oh,

1620
00:40:27,799 --> 00:40:29,299
like when the inside stuff's happening,

1621
00:40:29,299 --> 00:40:30,559
we're gonna have great weather.

1622
00:40:31,519 --> 00:40:31,559
I know.

1623
00:40:31,559 --> 00:40:31,624
And if you just

1624
00:40:31,789 --> 00:40:33,496
don't wanna go outside, it's just

1625
00:40:33,496 --> 00:40:34,846
like, no, don't come outside.

1626
00:40:35,689 --> 00:40:36,609
But I was like, at first I was

1627
00:40:36,609 --> 00:40:37,779
like, Ooh, the sky turned green.

1628
00:40:37,779 --> 00:40:38,289
That could be, yeah.

1629
00:40:38,289 --> 00:40:38,709
I was like,

1630
00:40:39,099 --> 00:40:39,879
maybe that'll look good.

1631
00:40:40,299 --> 00:40:40,839
Yeah.

1632
00:40:41,133 --> 00:40:42,399
Later we found out that a

1633
00:40:42,399 --> 00:40:44,289
tornado had touched down less

1634
00:40:44,289 --> 00:40:46,329
than a kilometer from the venue.

1635
00:40:46,556 --> 00:40:47,473
People say, rain on your

1636
00:40:47,473 --> 00:40:48,703
wedding day is good luck.

1637
00:40:48,826 --> 00:40:50,246
But what does a tornado mean?

1638
00:40:50,519 --> 00:40:52,406
To this day, we joke about the terrible

1639
00:40:52,406 --> 00:40:54,316
storms that they're our favorite

1640
00:40:54,316 --> 00:40:55,906
part because they remind us of our

1641
00:40:55,906 --> 00:40:57,226
wedding like we were talking about.

1642
00:40:57,453 --> 00:40:58,916
And the chaos didn't end there.

1643
00:40:58,916 --> 00:41:00,206
After the wedding, we learned

1644
00:41:00,206 --> 00:41:01,286
that one of the groomsmen.

1645
00:41:01,609 --> 00:41:03,083
Got two of the three

1646
00:41:03,083 --> 00:41:04,763
underage guests drunk.

1647
00:41:04,966 --> 00:41:06,233
My 90-year-old grandfather

1648
00:41:06,233 --> 00:41:07,733
took a wrong turn and ended up

1649
00:41:07,733 --> 00:41:09,683
driving across the venues lawn.

1650
00:41:10,633 --> 00:41:11,053
Oh no.

1651
00:41:11,053 --> 00:41:12,703
Why is the 90-year-old grandfather

1652
00:41:12,703 --> 00:41:13,933
driving after the wedding?

1653
00:41:14,023 --> 00:41:14,113
Yeah.

1654
00:41:14,143 --> 00:41:14,443
That

1655
00:41:14,579 --> 00:41:15,523
he needs a caretaker.

1656
00:41:15,523 --> 00:41:16,693
Somebody the least driving.

1657
00:41:16,813 --> 00:41:17,473
Yes.

1658
00:41:17,503 --> 00:41:18,163
let's take care of

1659
00:41:18,163 --> 00:41:18,744
Grandpa.

1660
00:41:18,968 --> 00:41:20,408
and several guests who had been cut

1661
00:41:20,408 --> 00:41:22,238
off by the bartender decided to go

1662
00:41:22,238 --> 00:41:24,261
upstairs and crash another wedding.

1663
00:41:24,766 --> 00:41:24,916
Oh.

1664
00:41:24,916 --> 00:41:26,056
So there's multiple weddings

1665
00:41:26,056 --> 00:41:27,106
going on at this venue?

1666
00:41:27,431 --> 00:41:27,551
I

1667
00:41:27,551 --> 00:41:29,266
have never heard that.

1668
00:41:29,266 --> 00:41:30,931
Like multiple weddings at the

1669
00:41:30,931 --> 00:41:32,491
same day, at the same venue.

1670
00:41:32,611 --> 00:41:33,481
I've never heard that.

1671
00:41:33,961 --> 00:41:34,711
I'm trying to think.

1672
00:41:34,711 --> 00:41:36,711
I've been to one, really big one in

1673
00:41:36,711 --> 00:41:39,721
the city in Chicago and I wanna say

1674
00:41:39,721 --> 00:41:41,221
it was, oh yeah, it was connected

1675
00:41:41,221 --> 00:41:43,051
to a hotel and they had like two

1676
00:41:43,051 --> 00:41:44,431
or three weddings at the same time.

1677
00:41:44,583 --> 00:41:45,261
But it was huge.

1678
00:41:45,261 --> 00:41:46,071
So you didn't even know

1679
00:41:46,071 --> 00:41:47,091
the other one was going on.

1680
00:41:47,311 --> 00:41:47,904
but.

1681
00:41:48,123 --> 00:41:49,636
To where it's like easily accessible.

1682
00:41:49,906 --> 00:41:50,116
Yeah.

1683
00:41:50,116 --> 00:41:50,686
I go to go upstairs

1684
00:41:50,686 --> 00:41:51,946
and crash their wedding.

1685
00:41:51,946 --> 00:41:53,146
Like it's like are y'all

1686
00:41:53,146 --> 00:41:54,646
mingling on accident?

1687
00:41:54,646 --> 00:41:56,339
Like it makes me think too, like

1688
00:41:56,599 --> 00:41:57,869
is there multiple bathrooms?

1689
00:41:57,869 --> 00:41:59,159
Is there a bathroom on each floor?

1690
00:41:59,159 --> 00:41:59,909
Are y'all having to go

1691
00:41:59,909 --> 00:42:00,899
up and down the steps?

1692
00:42:00,899 --> 00:42:01,199
Yeah.

1693
00:42:01,229 --> 00:42:02,489
I have never heard of that though.

1694
00:42:02,739 --> 00:42:03,146
Yeah.

1695
00:42:03,146 --> 00:42:03,866
Learn something new every day.

1696
00:42:03,956 --> 00:42:04,016
Yeah.

1697
00:42:05,353 --> 00:42:06,043
Oh my gosh.

1698
00:42:06,309 --> 00:42:08,021
Despite everything, we're still happily

1699
00:42:08,021 --> 00:42:09,756
married and about to celebrate our

1700
00:42:09,876 --> 00:42:12,036
eight year anniversary with two kids.

1701
00:42:12,246 --> 00:42:13,336
You can't control the weather

1702
00:42:13,336 --> 00:42:15,183
or the random drama but it sure

1703
00:42:15,183 --> 00:42:17,403
makes for an unforgettable story.

1704
00:42:17,669 --> 00:42:18,719
I love that.

1705
00:42:18,779 --> 00:42:19,709
I know too.

1706
00:42:20,186 --> 00:42:21,403
No, that was a really good story.

1707
00:42:21,403 --> 00:42:23,623
I feel like for especially having you as a

1708
00:42:23,623 --> 00:42:25,603
photographer come on and like react to it.

1709
00:42:25,603 --> 00:42:26,413
'cause it has to do with

1710
00:42:26,413 --> 00:42:27,373
like photos and stuff.

1711
00:42:27,613 --> 00:42:28,393
Like what do you think you

1712
00:42:28,393 --> 00:42:29,533
would do in that situation if

1713
00:42:29,533 --> 00:42:30,823
it just started down pouring?

1714
00:42:30,823 --> 00:42:30,853
Uh,

1715
00:42:32,109 --> 00:42:33,816
I know like most venues

1716
00:42:33,816 --> 00:42:35,274
that I've like shot at.

1717
00:42:36,008 --> 00:42:37,598
Done weddings or like even like

1718
00:42:37,598 --> 00:42:39,741
content days or anything, have

1719
00:42:39,741 --> 00:42:42,801
some type of like, either it's just

1720
00:42:42,801 --> 00:42:44,164
like almost like a garage type.

1721
00:42:44,164 --> 00:42:45,304
It's just got a roof on it.

1722
00:42:45,304 --> 00:42:46,444
That way you can still let the nitro

1723
00:42:46,444 --> 00:42:48,244
lighting in or we can even go inside

1724
00:42:48,244 --> 00:42:50,084
to like the groom suite or the

1725
00:42:50,144 --> 00:42:52,514
bride suite and we can make it good.

1726
00:42:52,581 --> 00:42:54,054
I've got the external flash

1727
00:42:54,054 --> 00:42:55,224
on my camera and stuff.

1728
00:42:55,429 --> 00:42:56,959
you are gonna have good pictures

1729
00:42:57,109 --> 00:42:58,219
is what I'm trying to get at.

1730
00:42:58,219 --> 00:42:59,839
It might not go exactly how you

1731
00:43:00,064 --> 00:43:02,039
planned, but I mean, does any wedding

1732
00:43:02,039 --> 00:43:04,276
have no drama and nothing happened?

1733
00:43:04,649 --> 00:43:05,699
I feel like No, exactly.

1734
00:43:05,984 --> 00:43:06,314
I know.

1735
00:43:06,314 --> 00:43:07,634
I was just saying, I'm like.

1736
00:43:07,883 --> 00:43:09,178
Someone told me before I got married,

1737
00:43:09,178 --> 00:43:10,558
they're like, something's gonna go wrong.

1738
00:43:10,756 --> 00:43:11,571
It might be big, it might be

1739
00:43:11,571 --> 00:43:13,344
small, but something will go wrong.

1740
00:43:13,344 --> 00:43:14,771
And you just have to like deal with it.

1741
00:43:14,771 --> 00:43:15,821
Like at least I think someone

1742
00:43:15,821 --> 00:43:16,961
said like, three little things

1743
00:43:16,961 --> 00:43:17,741
will go wrong, whatever.

1744
00:43:17,746 --> 00:43:17,976
Mm-hmm.

1745
00:43:18,253 --> 00:43:19,324
So I went into the day being

1746
00:43:19,324 --> 00:43:20,493
like, something's gonna go wrong.

1747
00:43:20,613 --> 00:43:21,453
It is what it is.

1748
00:43:21,673 --> 00:43:22,806
And someone like little things

1749
00:43:22,806 --> 00:43:24,216
happen, which I can't even, I'm

1750
00:43:24,216 --> 00:43:25,146
sure if I really thought about it,

1751
00:43:25,146 --> 00:43:26,196
I could think of something, but

1752
00:43:26,196 --> 00:43:28,226
like there was nothing so major that

1753
00:43:28,226 --> 00:43:29,876
I was like, oh, it ruined my day.

1754
00:43:30,029 --> 00:43:30,283
Yeah.

1755
00:43:30,313 --> 00:43:31,453
And I think it allows you to also

1756
00:43:31,453 --> 00:43:33,009
be like, you know what, nothing

1757
00:43:33,009 --> 00:43:34,269
is a hundred percent perfect.

1758
00:43:34,476 --> 00:43:35,566
It's not gonna be like,

1759
00:43:35,746 --> 00:43:37,126
sunshine and rainbows all day.

1760
00:43:37,186 --> 00:43:37,916
There are some things that are

1761
00:43:37,916 --> 00:43:39,273
gonna be like, oh, that was, that

1762
00:43:39,273 --> 00:43:40,896
sucks that happened, but whatever.

1763
00:43:41,109 --> 00:43:42,840
So I think her attitude says everything.

1764
00:43:43,023 --> 00:43:44,043
she was like, you know what?

1765
00:43:44,043 --> 00:43:44,643
It is what it is.

1766
00:43:44,643 --> 00:43:45,933
I'm gonna fix up my hair and makeup.

1767
00:43:46,109 --> 00:43:47,493
I'm still marrying the love of my life.

1768
00:43:47,566 --> 00:43:47,603
Yeah.

1769
00:43:47,603 --> 00:43:48,773
We're gonna have a beautiful day.

1770
00:43:48,989 --> 00:43:49,970
And now they look back on it

1771
00:43:49,970 --> 00:43:51,080
and they're like, that's pretty

1772
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:52,280
funny that that happened.

1773
00:43:52,463 --> 00:43:52,543
Yeah.

1774
00:43:52,543 --> 00:43:53,893
And we're gonna have these funny photos

1775
00:43:53,893 --> 00:43:55,483
of like, maybe our hair was a mess.

1776
00:43:55,659 --> 00:43:57,000
Maybe there was some tears shed

1777
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:58,080
that she didn't talk about.

1778
00:43:58,269 --> 00:43:59,073
But at the end of the day.

1779
00:43:59,553 --> 00:44:00,380
It was an awesome day.

1780
00:44:00,633 --> 00:44:00,857
Yeah.

1781
00:44:00,857 --> 00:44:02,087
Well, bouncing off like what you

1782
00:44:02,087 --> 00:44:03,897
said, I feel like you want your

1783
00:44:03,897 --> 00:44:05,847
weight, obviously to go as good as

1784
00:44:05,847 --> 00:44:07,947
it can go and like how you wanted it.

1785
00:44:07,947 --> 00:44:09,837
But like you said, it's about you and

1786
00:44:09,837 --> 00:44:11,157
your groom and the love that y'all

1787
00:44:11,157 --> 00:44:13,077
share and that you're continuing it.

1788
00:44:13,299 --> 00:44:15,407
Like if it rains, if this happens, if

1789
00:44:15,407 --> 00:44:17,203
that happens, it's about y'all too.

1790
00:44:17,203 --> 00:44:17,863
You know what I mean?

1791
00:44:18,083 --> 00:44:18,397
Yeah,

1792
00:44:18,727 --> 00:44:19,870
I feel like a lot of these stories, like

1793
00:44:19,870 --> 00:44:21,850
people get hung up this is not saying

1794
00:44:21,850 --> 00:44:23,577
like the big drama with like family.

1795
00:44:23,577 --> 00:44:25,407
I get that's, that's a lot to deal

1796
00:44:25,407 --> 00:44:26,877
with and it's very complicated.

1797
00:44:27,129 --> 00:44:28,517
But some of the drama that I read

1798
00:44:28,517 --> 00:44:30,293
about people get hung up on little

1799
00:44:30,293 --> 00:44:32,003
things in Let it ruin their day.

1800
00:44:32,219 --> 00:44:33,943
And it's like, it really does

1801
00:44:33,943 --> 00:44:35,757
come down to like your attitude.

1802
00:44:35,757 --> 00:44:37,977
Like focus on what's the goal of the day?

1803
00:44:38,083 --> 00:44:39,247
Are you surrounded by family and

1804
00:44:39,247 --> 00:44:41,107
friends that you love, that love you

1805
00:44:41,289 --> 00:44:42,757
and support you and your partner?

1806
00:44:42,966 --> 00:44:44,943
Are you, happy that someone was

1807
00:44:44,943 --> 00:44:46,323
able to fly and like focus on

1808
00:44:46,323 --> 00:44:47,583
the things that you are like.

1809
00:44:47,799 --> 00:44:48,997
Happy about in the day.

1810
00:44:49,002 --> 00:44:49,152
Mm-hmm.

1811
00:44:49,439 --> 00:44:50,780
And then the little things, won't

1812
00:44:50,780 --> 00:44:52,130
matter if you're like a little behind in

1813
00:44:52,130 --> 00:44:53,780
schedule or maybe someone couldn't make

1814
00:44:53,780 --> 00:44:56,410
it to the rehearsal or, whatever it is.

1815
00:44:56,410 --> 00:44:58,390
It's like, it really does come

1816
00:44:58,390 --> 00:44:59,903
down to like, some of that

1817
00:44:59,903 --> 00:45:00,953
stuff just doesn't matter.

1818
00:45:01,180 --> 00:45:02,421
Like of course, if there's someone

1819
00:45:02,421 --> 00:45:04,311
being disruptive and being rude

1820
00:45:04,416 --> 00:45:05,991
and trying to ruin your day, then

1821
00:45:05,991 --> 00:45:07,551
like, yeah, let's deal with that.

1822
00:45:07,581 --> 00:45:07,671
Yeah.

1823
00:45:07,671 --> 00:45:09,987
But for the most part, little things

1824
00:45:09,987 --> 00:45:12,564
I think we can like just let it brush

1825
00:45:12,564 --> 00:45:13,914
off and focus on what's important.

1826
00:45:14,371 --> 00:45:14,881
I agree.

1827
00:45:15,187 --> 00:45:16,744
I loved that story.

1828
00:45:17,031 --> 00:45:17,531
Okay.

1829
00:45:17,681 --> 00:45:18,761
I always like to end these

1830
00:45:18,761 --> 00:45:20,291
with confessions that

1831
00:45:20,291 --> 00:45:22,301
people send me on Instagram.

1832
00:45:22,564 --> 00:45:25,374
So this is for DIY weddings edition.

1833
00:45:25,374 --> 00:45:27,474
Have you been a part of any DIY weddings?

1834
00:45:27,714 --> 00:45:29,774
I'd say the one that I was kind of, or

1835
00:45:29,774 --> 00:45:33,014
I was the maid of honor was kind of DIY.

1836
00:45:33,044 --> 00:45:34,774
Like she bought a lot of her

1837
00:45:34,774 --> 00:45:36,937
stuff at like, I guess like.

1838
00:45:37,529 --> 00:45:38,777
I don't know what you would call 'em.

1839
00:45:38,777 --> 00:45:40,497
Like she got a lot of her flowers and

1840
00:45:40,497 --> 00:45:42,354
things from like Ollie's and Hobby

1841
00:45:42,354 --> 00:45:44,154
Lobby and she found a lot of stuff

1842
00:45:44,154 --> 00:45:46,014
at like TJ Maxx and things like that.

1843
00:45:46,212 --> 00:45:47,421
a lot of her decor and

1844
00:45:47,421 --> 00:45:49,011
stuff she done on her own.

1845
00:45:49,242 --> 00:45:49,924
I love that.

1846
00:45:50,014 --> 00:45:51,604
So I would say yes.

1847
00:45:51,694 --> 00:45:52,684
I mean, not all of it,

1848
00:45:52,684 --> 00:45:53,764
but yes, some of it.

1849
00:45:53,956 --> 00:45:54,417
Yeah.

1850
00:45:54,629 --> 00:45:55,394
And I was just saying this too,

1851
00:45:55,394 --> 00:45:57,554
like I feel like if you enjoy doing

1852
00:45:57,554 --> 00:45:59,474
that, by all means you should do it.

1853
00:45:59,751 --> 00:46:01,057
cause like I made a lot of my own

1854
00:46:01,057 --> 00:46:03,157
signs 'cause I love that stuff.

1855
00:46:03,457 --> 00:46:03,517
Yeah.

1856
00:46:03,517 --> 00:46:05,477
Like, I love, like using cricket, I

1857
00:46:05,477 --> 00:46:08,121
remember like handwriting, like our

1858
00:46:08,377 --> 00:46:11,027
table assignments, you know, and that

1859
00:46:11,027 --> 00:46:12,407
was like fun for me to be able to see.

1860
00:46:12,407 --> 00:46:13,337
And then I like painted the

1861
00:46:13,337 --> 00:46:14,844
backs of 'em, but I feel like

1862
00:46:14,844 --> 00:46:16,524
some people do it to save money.

1863
00:46:16,764 --> 00:46:19,437
And then ultimately the time that's spent,

1864
00:46:19,437 --> 00:46:20,937
and then it's something they don't enjoy.

1865
00:46:20,937 --> 00:46:22,917
It just becomes like a stressor.

1866
00:46:23,121 --> 00:46:23,174
Yeah.

1867
00:46:23,174 --> 00:46:24,134
So I feel like it's good to like,

1868
00:46:24,134 --> 00:46:25,424
know yourself in those moments

1869
00:46:25,424 --> 00:46:26,984
of being like, do I enjoy this?

1870
00:46:27,107 --> 00:46:27,301
Yeah.

1871
00:46:27,301 --> 00:46:28,741
Is it actually gonna save me money?

1872
00:46:28,954 --> 00:46:30,474
Is it gonna make me more stressed?

1873
00:46:30,581 --> 00:46:33,034
Do I have to pull in all family members

1874
00:46:33,034 --> 00:46:35,134
and bridesmaids and groomsmen to help me?

1875
00:46:35,164 --> 00:46:36,514
Or can I do a lot of it

1876
00:46:36,514 --> 00:46:38,284
myself or with another person?

1877
00:46:38,494 --> 00:46:39,221
cause I've been a part of those

1878
00:46:39,221 --> 00:46:40,541
too, where they just then expect

1879
00:46:40,601 --> 00:46:42,101
all family and friends to come in.

1880
00:46:42,347 --> 00:46:43,267
it's a big ask.

1881
00:46:43,407 --> 00:46:44,277
so you would just hope you

1882
00:46:44,277 --> 00:46:45,387
have like supportive family and

1883
00:46:45,387 --> 00:46:47,217
friends that also enjoy doing it.

1884
00:46:47,517 --> 00:46:47,697
Yeah.

1885
00:46:48,051 --> 00:46:48,351
Okay.

1886
00:46:48,624 --> 00:46:51,937
So this says, made all the food

1887
00:46:51,967 --> 00:46:55,707
the day before, 19 days after my

1888
00:46:55,707 --> 00:46:58,221
c-section, only for most people

1889
00:46:58,221 --> 00:47:00,441
not to turn up to the reception.

1890
00:47:04,427 --> 00:47:05,700
you have a, child, right?

1891
00:47:06,591 --> 00:47:08,122
I feel like you might be able to answer

1892
00:47:08,122 --> 00:47:10,437
this better because like 19 days,

1893
00:47:10,437 --> 00:47:12,211
like you're still, you're postpartum

1894
00:47:12,281 --> 00:47:13,571
that's literally what you are.

1895
00:47:13,571 --> 00:47:15,251
And to do all that and

1896
00:47:15,251 --> 00:47:16,301
then nobody show up.

1897
00:47:17,967 --> 00:47:18,987
one of my really good friends will

1898
00:47:18,987 --> 00:47:19,917
actually, the one I was talking about

1899
00:47:19,917 --> 00:47:21,687
earlier that just got into photography,

1900
00:47:21,910 --> 00:47:24,094
she had a baby and she had a C-section.

1901
00:47:24,257 --> 00:47:25,544
And like, I remember going and

1902
00:47:25,544 --> 00:47:27,254
seeing her like 19 days after

1903
00:47:27,254 --> 00:47:28,544
and I just couldn't imagine like

1904
00:47:28,544 --> 00:47:30,374
getting up and cooking just food.

1905
00:47:30,434 --> 00:47:31,698
Like I could not imagine it.

1906
00:47:31,698 --> 00:47:32,234
No.

1907
00:47:32,474 --> 00:47:34,187
And c-section is, the recovery

1908
00:47:34,187 --> 00:47:35,567
is so much harder I didn't have a

1909
00:47:35,567 --> 00:47:37,027
c-section, but I had friends that

1910
00:47:37,027 --> 00:47:39,207
had C-sections and you are I wanna

1911
00:47:39,207 --> 00:47:41,987
say six weeks is your full recovery.

1912
00:47:42,617 --> 00:47:43,957
they're cutting like you have a

1913
00:47:43,957 --> 00:47:46,894
dinner plate sized cut in you.

1914
00:47:47,264 --> 00:47:48,574
And so you're not supposed

1915
00:47:48,574 --> 00:47:49,834
to be up and down, you're not

1916
00:47:49,834 --> 00:47:51,544
supposed to be lifting stuff.

1917
00:47:51,611 --> 00:47:52,654
And so the fact that she

1918
00:47:52,654 --> 00:47:54,454
made all the food before.

1919
00:47:55,262 --> 00:47:56,582
That's just wild.

1920
00:47:56,747 --> 00:47:57,886
She's like superwoman.

1921
00:47:58,104 --> 00:47:58,734
Literally.

1922
00:47:59,544 --> 00:47:59,981
Literally.

1923
00:48:00,334 --> 00:48:01,259
It makes me want Or two.

1924
00:48:01,259 --> 00:48:02,816
Like who said they were coming

1925
00:48:02,816 --> 00:48:03,866
and then just didn't show up?

1926
00:48:03,871 --> 00:48:04,466
Is this Yeah,

1927
00:48:04,622 --> 00:48:06,452
I'm obviously, I'm sure if she's cooking

1928
00:48:06,452 --> 00:48:08,822
and she's, was it, 16 days postpartum?

1929
00:48:09,071 --> 00:48:11,409
19. 19. Like I'm sure it wasn't her

1930
00:48:11,409 --> 00:48:13,666
wedding, but like as the bride, I would

1931
00:48:13,666 --> 00:48:16,382
probably be mad too if they RSVP'd and

1932
00:48:16,382 --> 00:48:18,976
I bought all this food and then somebody

1933
00:48:18,976 --> 00:48:20,506
that I'm very close with cooked all

1934
00:48:20,506 --> 00:48:21,856
of it and then you just don't show up.

1935
00:48:22,034 --> 00:48:22,449
Yeah.

1936
00:48:22,509 --> 00:48:22,779
I don't know.

1937
00:48:22,779 --> 00:48:23,589
You bring up a good point.

1938
00:48:23,589 --> 00:48:26,089
'cause I read it as she was, the

1939
00:48:26,089 --> 00:48:27,559
bride, but you're probably right.

1940
00:48:27,559 --> 00:48:28,219
She might have just been

1941
00:48:28,219 --> 00:48:29,629
a bridesmaid or been Yeah.

1942
00:48:29,839 --> 00:48:31,189
part of the wedding in some way.

1943
00:48:31,279 --> 00:48:31,349
Mm-hmm.

1944
00:48:31,609 --> 00:48:34,442
And I'm like, who's asking a postpartum

1945
00:48:34,442 --> 00:48:36,242
mom that just had a C-section?

1946
00:48:36,509 --> 00:48:37,832
Unless she offered, I

1947
00:48:37,832 --> 00:48:38,852
guess that's different.

1948
00:48:39,212 --> 00:48:40,112
one of my friends had

1949
00:48:40,112 --> 00:48:41,522
a C-section and like.

1950
00:48:41,792 --> 00:48:42,779
I needed something done.

1951
00:48:42,779 --> 00:48:44,009
I don't think I would ask them or

1952
00:48:44,189 --> 00:48:45,299
I'd be like, don't worry about it.

1953
00:48:45,389 --> 00:48:45,899
Yeah.

1954
00:48:45,899 --> 00:48:46,829
Like, we're not gonna have

1955
00:48:46,829 --> 00:48:48,629
you up and cooking for this.

1956
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:48,959
Yeah.

1957
00:48:49,386 --> 00:48:51,216
this one says, distant friends

1958
00:48:51,216 --> 00:48:53,076
started treating my family who

1959
00:48:53,076 --> 00:48:55,446
were helping set up as workers.

1960
00:48:56,152 --> 00:48:56,242
Ooh.

1961
00:48:56,642 --> 00:48:57,752
I feel like I'd have to say

1962
00:48:57,752 --> 00:48:59,999
something to that friend and just

1963
00:48:59,999 --> 00:49:02,009
be like, Hey, like just chill out.

1964
00:49:02,202 --> 00:49:03,012
just go with the flow,

1965
00:49:03,012 --> 00:49:04,632
it's gonna go how it goes.

1966
00:49:04,632 --> 00:49:06,222
Like if you need their help, ask,

1967
00:49:06,222 --> 00:49:07,692
but don't be bossing them around.

1968
00:49:07,812 --> 00:49:08,322
Yeah.

1969
00:49:08,322 --> 00:49:09,972
I've seen this happen at a wedding

1970
00:49:09,972 --> 00:49:11,202
and it's really disappointing

1971
00:49:11,202 --> 00:49:13,462
because the people that offer to

1972
00:49:13,462 --> 00:49:14,842
help do to other kindness of their

1973
00:49:14,842 --> 00:49:16,192
hearts, they don't have to be there.

1974
00:49:16,192 --> 00:49:17,572
It's not their kids' wedding.

1975
00:49:17,812 --> 00:49:19,149
And then when they're not properly

1976
00:49:19,149 --> 00:49:21,039
like thanked or like treated like

1977
00:49:21,099 --> 00:49:23,769
family or like treated like guests,

1978
00:49:23,986 --> 00:49:25,442
that's hard because they're like,

1979
00:49:25,442 --> 00:49:27,312
why did I go outta my way to help

1980
00:49:27,432 --> 00:49:28,842
when I'm not actually gonna be like.

1981
00:49:29,086 --> 00:49:29,776
Respected.

1982
00:49:29,836 --> 00:49:30,376
I don't know.

1983
00:49:30,556 --> 00:49:31,936
Or like Yeah, highly treated.

1984
00:49:32,099 --> 00:49:33,386
It's that like wait staff thing,

1985
00:49:33,386 --> 00:49:34,766
like if someone treats wait staff

1986
00:49:34,766 --> 00:49:36,876
poorly because they're a server.

1987
00:49:37,076 --> 00:49:37,171
Mm-hmm.

1988
00:49:37,251 --> 00:49:38,996
That's like a big red flag in my book.

1989
00:49:39,056 --> 00:49:40,892
Like, doesn't matter anyone's

1990
00:49:40,892 --> 00:49:42,572
job or position you treat Yeah.

1991
00:49:42,572 --> 00:49:43,472
'em with kindness.

1992
00:49:43,572 --> 00:49:45,372
that was my first job, was a waitress.

1993
00:49:45,432 --> 00:49:47,362
And it was just crazy the way

1994
00:49:47,362 --> 00:49:48,742
that people would treat me.

1995
00:49:48,772 --> 00:49:50,609
And I was like, I'm literally like, I

1996
00:49:50,609 --> 00:49:52,259
would never do anything, but I'm handling

1997
00:49:52,259 --> 00:49:54,472
your food and you're treating me like

1998
00:49:54,689 --> 00:49:56,142
I'm nobody like, you know what I mean?

1999
00:49:56,172 --> 00:49:57,162
It was just crazy.

2000
00:49:57,449 --> 00:49:58,019
Oh yeah.

2001
00:49:58,159 --> 00:50:00,656
My first job ever, I was a hostess

2002
00:50:00,889 --> 00:50:02,876
and since then, I mean I done,

2003
00:50:02,906 --> 00:50:04,916
serving cocktail server and

2004
00:50:04,916 --> 00:50:07,432
bartender, but the hostess, oh my

2005
00:50:07,432 --> 00:50:08,992
gosh, people were so mean to me.

2006
00:50:08,992 --> 00:50:10,132
I was 16 years old.

2007
00:50:10,162 --> 00:50:12,066
And I had people like, come

2008
00:50:12,066 --> 00:50:13,926
get into my face and tell me.

2009
00:50:13,926 --> 00:50:15,346
I was like, purposely not

2010
00:50:15,346 --> 00:50:16,606
seating them like we were.

2011
00:50:16,636 --> 00:50:18,286
I worked at a busy Irish pub

2012
00:50:18,486 --> 00:50:19,536
and people would get into my

2013
00:50:19,536 --> 00:50:21,546
face, they would scream at me.

2014
00:50:21,714 --> 00:50:23,804
And I was like, I have a busy restaurant.

2015
00:50:23,924 --> 00:50:24,374
I don't know.

2016
00:50:24,374 --> 00:50:25,964
and servers too would yell at me.

2017
00:50:26,024 --> 00:50:26,714
They'd be like, you didn't

2018
00:50:26,714 --> 00:50:27,764
seat someone in my section?

2019
00:50:27,764 --> 00:50:28,154
I'm like,

2020
00:50:28,724 --> 00:50:30,097
I'm trying to go through the rotation.

2021
00:50:30,127 --> 00:50:30,577
Yeah.

2022
00:50:31,177 --> 00:50:32,287
Well, like I would have like

2023
00:50:32,481 --> 00:50:34,811
50-year-old men and women like

2024
00:50:35,011 --> 00:50:37,677
chew me out and I'm like, I'm 16.

2025
00:50:37,814 --> 00:50:40,007
Like, I'm sorry, just cut me some slack.

2026
00:50:40,007 --> 00:50:40,667
Please.

2027
00:50:40,887 --> 00:50:41,337
Yes.

2028
00:50:41,541 --> 00:50:43,141
I always like to let people know,

2029
00:50:43,271 --> 00:50:45,091
if I go to a restaurant, like I'm

2030
00:50:45,091 --> 00:50:46,531
not one that's gonna yell at you.

2031
00:50:46,531 --> 00:50:47,697
Like, my husband and I have both

2032
00:50:47,697 --> 00:50:49,137
worked in the restaurant industry

2033
00:50:49,341 --> 00:50:50,984
and if something takes long and they

2034
00:50:50,984 --> 00:50:52,034
come up, they're like, I'm so sorry.

2035
00:50:52,034 --> 00:50:53,051
I'm like, you are good.

2036
00:50:53,081 --> 00:50:54,251
You take your time.

2037
00:50:54,478 --> 00:50:55,941
You don't ever have to apologize to me.

2038
00:50:55,941 --> 00:50:56,631
I get it.

2039
00:50:56,691 --> 00:50:58,011
Or if at a coffee shop I've

2040
00:50:58,011 --> 00:50:59,444
had them be like, I'm sorry.

2041
00:50:59,444 --> 00:51:00,164
I'll get you in a minute.

2042
00:51:00,664 --> 00:51:01,461
You take your time.

2043
00:51:01,581 --> 00:51:03,927
Like seriously, we're not on fire.

2044
00:51:03,987 --> 00:51:05,741
We're not gonna decom bust

2045
00:51:05,741 --> 00:51:07,181
if you don't come to us soon.

2046
00:51:07,417 --> 00:51:08,197
You're safe here.

2047
00:51:08,481 --> 00:51:08,854
Yeah.

2048
00:51:09,117 --> 00:51:10,134
all right, we'll do one more.

2049
00:51:10,411 --> 00:51:12,271
My mom made her own dress.

2050
00:51:12,331 --> 00:51:14,581
The colors and the pattern were hideous.

2051
00:51:14,581 --> 00:51:16,381
I almost made her change.

2052
00:51:16,699 --> 00:51:18,261
Ooh, it's very DIY.

2053
00:51:18,569 --> 00:51:18,854
Yeah.

2054
00:51:20,691 --> 00:51:23,221
That's your mom and like, oh my.

2055
00:51:23,281 --> 00:51:25,021
Oh, I don't know what I would do.

2056
00:51:25,206 --> 00:51:26,551
I guess I would have to know the

2057
00:51:26,736 --> 00:51:28,674
relationship that you had with your mom

2058
00:51:28,674 --> 00:51:30,237
because like my relationship with my

2059
00:51:30,237 --> 00:51:32,481
mom, I'd just be blunt and be like, you

2060
00:51:32,481 --> 00:51:34,281
gotta change the pattern or something.

2061
00:51:34,744 --> 00:51:36,484
But like, I can see some people

2062
00:51:36,514 --> 00:51:38,457
just being like, oh, it's okay.

2063
00:51:38,659 --> 00:51:39,637
But yeah.

2064
00:51:39,924 --> 00:51:40,374
I don't know.

2065
00:51:41,004 --> 00:51:42,864
I feel like if you didn't see

2066
00:51:42,864 --> 00:51:44,544
it until the day of, there's

2067
00:51:44,544 --> 00:51:45,984
like not a whole lot you can do.

2068
00:51:45,984 --> 00:51:46,044
Yeah.

2069
00:51:46,562 --> 00:51:47,917
If she showed you before, like,

2070
00:51:47,917 --> 00:51:49,417
this is the pattern I'm gonna use,

2071
00:51:49,417 --> 00:51:51,007
and you're like, oh, maybe let's

2072
00:51:51,007 --> 00:51:52,387
try finding a pattern together.

2073
00:51:52,387 --> 00:51:53,617
Like you could really watch her,

2074
00:51:53,876 --> 00:51:54,934
but if she just comes out on the

2075
00:51:54,934 --> 00:51:56,314
day and like, I made this and you

2076
00:51:56,314 --> 00:51:58,229
didn't realize, kind of stuck.

2077
00:51:58,559 --> 00:51:59,819
Yeah, that is true.

2078
00:51:59,849 --> 00:52:00,929
Oh, I don't know what I would do, Dan.

2079
00:52:01,319 --> 00:52:02,309
And if, and if she's someone too that

2080
00:52:02,309 --> 00:52:03,569
like has her own style and makes her

2081
00:52:03,569 --> 00:52:05,396
own clothing, it's kind of one of those

2082
00:52:05,396 --> 00:52:07,196
things and you have a good relationship.

2083
00:52:07,387 --> 00:52:07,999
It's kinda those things.

2084
00:52:07,999 --> 00:52:09,289
I'd be like, you can look back on

2085
00:52:09,289 --> 00:52:10,939
photos and be like, that's my mom.

2086
00:52:10,969 --> 00:52:11,359
Yeah, yeah.

2087
00:52:11,359 --> 00:52:13,619
You know, like, I just read a story where

2088
00:52:13,619 --> 00:52:16,759
it was like the grandparents, like were

2089
00:52:16,759 --> 00:52:19,202
motorcycle riders and they came directly

2090
00:52:19,202 --> 00:52:21,032
from their motorcycle trip to the wedding

2091
00:52:21,184 --> 00:52:23,872
covered in denim and like leather.

2092
00:52:24,086 --> 00:52:24,606
And they're like, they didn't

2093
00:52:24,606 --> 00:52:25,716
bring clothes to change into.

2094
00:52:25,716 --> 00:52:26,206
I was kind of like.

2095
00:52:26,691 --> 00:52:28,179
That's your grandma grandpa style?

2096
00:52:28,359 --> 00:52:28,419
Yeah.

2097
00:52:28,449 --> 00:52:29,919
You just gotta let them own it.

2098
00:52:29,919 --> 00:52:31,299
I mean, yeah, it might suck for

2099
00:52:31,299 --> 00:52:33,159
some photos, but that's their vibe.

2100
00:52:33,246 --> 00:52:34,491
I have aunts and uncles that

2101
00:52:34,491 --> 00:52:36,471
like wear tie dye and I'm like,

2102
00:52:36,501 --> 00:52:38,271
that was always their vibe.

2103
00:52:38,271 --> 00:52:40,014
And I'm just like, I don't think

2104
00:52:40,044 --> 00:52:42,084
I would be like, go change.

2105
00:52:42,144 --> 00:52:42,414
Yeah.

2106
00:52:42,697 --> 00:52:43,191
I don't know.

2107
00:52:43,454 --> 00:52:44,007
Teach their own.

2108
00:52:45,681 --> 00:52:45,967
All right.

2109
00:52:45,967 --> 00:52:47,797
Well thank you so much for coming on you.

2110
00:52:47,797 --> 00:52:50,701
It was so great meeting you and I know it

2111
00:52:50,701 --> 00:52:52,561
was kinda like a last minute thing, but

2112
00:52:52,711 --> 00:52:53,821
I feel like I need to do stuff like this

2113
00:52:53,821 --> 00:52:55,651
more often because this was like so fun.

2114
00:52:55,666 --> 00:52:55,956
Yeah,

2115
00:52:56,789 --> 00:52:58,659
so I'm not much of a music listener.

2116
00:52:58,659 --> 00:53:00,996
I love podcasts and yours is one

2117
00:53:00,996 --> 00:53:02,526
of mine that's in my rotation.

2118
00:53:02,746 --> 00:53:03,526
Oh, yay.

2119
00:53:03,531 --> 00:53:03,971
I love that.

2120
00:53:03,971 --> 00:53:04,211
Yeah.

2121
00:53:04,211 --> 00:53:04,771
And I, so

2122
00:53:04,771 --> 00:53:06,226
I was so excited 'cause

2123
00:53:06,226 --> 00:53:07,642
like my boyfriend, like.

2124
00:53:08,036 --> 00:53:10,042
my phone always connects to his CarPlay

2125
00:53:10,042 --> 00:53:11,512
in his truck, and I'm listening to

2126
00:53:11,512 --> 00:53:12,592
your podcast sometimes, and I was

2127
00:53:12,592 --> 00:53:14,019
like, do you know this podcast?

2128
00:53:14,019 --> 00:53:15,189
I like, I'm going on it.

2129
00:53:16,694 --> 00:53:17,379
I love it.

2130
00:53:17,646 --> 00:53:18,106
Yay.

2131
00:53:18,136 --> 00:53:18,976
That's awesome.

2132
00:53:19,212 --> 00:53:19,359
Yeah.

2133
00:53:19,359 --> 00:53:20,889
No, I'm so glad this worked out.

2134
00:53:20,889 --> 00:53:22,149
And like I said too, having like a

2135
00:53:22,149 --> 00:53:24,899
photographer on, you're like, well in

2136
00:53:24,899 --> 00:53:27,449
the industry and so it's cool just to

2137
00:53:27,449 --> 00:53:29,339
like hear your perspective as well.

2138
00:53:29,512 --> 00:53:29,762
Yeah.

2139
00:53:30,016 --> 00:53:31,606
so no, this was awesome.

2140
00:53:31,606 --> 00:53:32,926
I'm glad it, glad it worked out.

2141
00:53:33,132 --> 00:53:34,889
And where, can everyone follow you?

2142
00:53:34,889 --> 00:53:36,509
What's your business name

2143
00:53:36,509 --> 00:53:37,319
and all that good stuff?

2144
00:53:37,646 --> 00:53:39,929
So my business name's Max Photography.

2145
00:53:40,056 --> 00:53:41,832
my Instagram is underscore

2146
00:53:41,832 --> 00:53:44,352
underscore max photography.

2147
00:53:44,522 --> 00:53:45,629
And then my Facebook is

2148
00:53:45,629 --> 00:53:46,829
just max photography.

2149
00:53:47,069 --> 00:53:47,436
Awesome.

2150
00:53:47,436 --> 00:53:47,976
And then I don't have

2151
00:53:47,976 --> 00:53:49,176
a TikTok or anything.

2152
00:53:49,176 --> 00:53:50,196
I have a personal one.

2153
00:53:50,201 --> 00:53:51,336
I need, I probably need to get on that.

2154
00:53:52,049 --> 00:53:52,382
Yes.

2155
00:53:52,382 --> 00:53:54,182
You gotta start making some TikTok

2156
00:53:54,272 --> 00:53:55,772
content for your photography.

2157
00:53:55,802 --> 00:53:57,722
'cause Yes, I need to showcase your

2158
00:53:57,722 --> 00:53:59,462
portfolio and I feel like that's the

2159
00:53:59,462 --> 00:54:01,772
best spot to go viral and all that stuff.

2160
00:54:01,832 --> 00:54:02,192
Yeah.

2161
00:54:03,237 --> 00:54:03,627
So much for.