Today we're focusing all on bridesmaids.

As I should know a thing or two

since I've been a bridesmaid.

Including twice made of honor

almost 10 times and I've seen

and heard it all plus I've gotten

millions of stories from you guys.

So let's kind of walk through what you

can expect for this episode First up

is going to be bridesmaid boot camp.

It's going to be a rapid fire guessing

game to test your wedding knowledge.

we're going to have bridesmaid

confessional, real unfiltered

confessions from the archives.

Next is going to be wedding 911 listener

dilemmas where I dish out my best advice.

So we're going to see just what comes

up when you guys, , want some advice.

the next segment is going to be called

bridezilla court, a wild bridesmaid story

caught straight from the depths of Reddit.

Then we're going to go right

into here comes the roast

spicy takes on wedding trends.

So I'm going to give you guys

my honest take on some of these

crazy things that come up.

And last but not least, what

would one of my episodes be

without a crazy bridesmaid story?

So, nothing quite.

Brings out the drama, like

a real life story, right?

So I've got one from the

archives that, I've not read yet.

So we're going to react

in real time together.

grab a drink, settle in and

let's kick off this series with

some major bridesmaid drama.

Okay.

First up is bridesmaid boot camp.

So I'm going to go through these rapid

fire trivia questions and throw some

wedding facts at you, and you just do

your best guess, , as you're listening.

Okay, number one, true or false.

Bridesmaids used to dress like

the bride to confuse evil spirits.

This is True.

In ancient Rome, brides made stress

identically to the bride to ward off

evil spirits and potential kidnappers.

Imagine dealing with that kind of drama.

So it's kind of funny how it's

changed so much over the years.

It used to be like, let's distract

everyone from the actual bride so she

can get married and no one can try to,

like, take her or, throw drama on her day.

Now it's like, don't look

anything like the bride unless

she specifically requests it.

Okay, number two.

What's the most expensive

bridesmaid dress ever recorded?

Okay, so when I saw this question,

I'm like thinking of what I've spent

on bridesmaid dresses Luckily the

most of them I've spent like 99.

I've spent a few that were over 200 But

for the most part I would say around 150

it was like average the most ready for it

6, 800. It was a Vera Wang dress

for a celebrity wedding and no,

the bride did not cover the cost.

Guys, that is insane.

That is like a mortgage that

has twice, triple a mortgage.

I don't even know.

Like that is insane to spend on a dress.

I mean, I guess if it's a celebrity

wedding, they have the money to spend.

I don't know.

I don't know.

Okay.

Number three, bridesmaid duties

used to include what unusual task.

Okay.

There's a lot that has

changed over the years.

So You might think of

this, but I don't know.

I was kind of shocked by it holding

onto the dowry and guarding the bride

on the way to the groom's house.

So basically the bridesmaids were

the original wedding security team.

The dowry is a transfer of

wealth, property, or money

from the bride's family.

And so.

They would protect this to the

groom or its family as part

of the marriage arrangement.

I'm like, that's like a lot

of pressure on a bridesmaid.

I'm glad that's not the case anymore.

Like, I'm glad we're just there

for fun and support and, you

know, all that good stuff.

Okay, the last one, number four.

In what country is it considered bad luck

for bridesmaids to wear matching dresses?

This is so funny because we used

to do matching dresses all the time

in the U. S. The answer is China.

In China, it's believed matching

dresses attract bad energy so

bridesmaids wear different colors.

Okay, I love this because we're

kind of getting away from the

trend of wearing matching dresses.

even like my own wedding, it was, I

had like a specific like family of

colors and then all the bridesmaids

were able to pick out their own style

because I feel like Everyone has

their own style, their own body type.

Like let's not shove

everyone in the same dress.

Okay Next up, we're going to do

some bridesmaid confessionals.

Dun, dun, dun.

Okay.

that's my own, music we got going on here.

Okay.

Here we go.

I'm just going to react to

these in real time, guys.

I said no to being a bridesmaid at

my brother's wedding because I don't

approve of his choice, or him in general.

Okay, so this is a two part thing.

So it's not just that she doesn't

approve of the new guy or girl coming

in, she does not approve of her brother.

I mean, there's a backstory here.

There's some drama here

that I'm very curious about.

My thought is Okay,

well, here's the thing.

Here's where I want to go with this.

There is so much pressure to say yes

to being in a wedding because it's your

brother, sister, whoever's wedding.

And I want to give the free will

to everyone right now, if you don't

know you already have it, but you

can say no to being in a wedding.

I know, it's crazy thought.

But here's the thing, like, there's so

much pressure being in a wedding and

if you don't enjoy that or you don't

support the couple, Don't say yes,

because you're going to be miserable.

like lucky for me.

And that's probably why I

talk about weddings and stuff.

I love weddings.

I love being a part of weddings.

there was a time.

I would say late 20s, I was in a

wedding like every single year, if

not a couple a year, and I loved it.

I love being crafty.

I love seeing how I can be useful

and helpful, but it's exhausting.

You're spending a lot of money.

You're spending a lot of time.

That's also pre kids, like, I was married.

So I had a lot more free time.

Now, if I was in a wedding,

It would be a lot harder.

It'd be a lot more Zoom stuff

and, traveling would be a lot more

harder, and so it's okay to say no.

you gotta know your own limits

and what you're interested in.

Okay, next confession.

I said no.

Friend insisted.

I kept saying no.

The bride had a full on

meltdown and wouldn't stop.

I finally said yes to being a bridesmaid

and 2, 000 later is what I spent.

I should have stuck with no.

Here we go.

This is a common theme.

If you have a gut feeling and

want to say no, please say no.

The fact that the bride had a

full on meltdown because you

said no, that's not a bride.

This is someone that just

wants you up there as a number.

Or other bridesmaids,

said no to her already.

And so she's putting the

pressure on you to say yes.

000 later, no.

I'm curious what that was all on.

My guess is we're talking dress,

shoes, hair, makeup, maybe a

bachelorette party, a gift.

Those things add up.

So even if you're like, I

don't want to spend a lot of

money, little things add up.

if the bride really wanted you

to be a part of the wedding and

said like, I'll pay for your

dress or I'll help you with blank.

Then sure, but a no means no.

even if you have the money and

you just don't want to be in

the wedding, that's up to you.

That's terrible.

Okay, next confession.

The first time I was a maid of

honor, I was in complete shock.

I had no idea the protocol.

I went into debt.

Wait, what?

You went into debt.

I had no idea I was responsible

for the wedding party dresses.

Whoa, in what wedding?

And gifts for everybody.

You got scammed.

You got scammed.

You should not be paying for

somebody's wedding party dresses

and the gifts as the maid of honor.

No, no, absolutely not.

Bridesmaid gifts are from the bride.

That's it.

End of story.

And those aren't even like a guarantee.

Every wedding that I've been in,

There was a different type of gift.

I never expected one from the

bride, but the maid of honor never

bought the gifts It's not the

maid of honor's responsibility.

You got scammed You got used by a

friend whoever you were the maid

of honor for and I am so sorry you

went into debt you guys Oh my gosh.

I feel so bad for this bride.

Here's the thing.

It's hard when you are the first out

of your friend group maybe like the

first bride or you're the first maid

of honor or first bridesmaid and it's

hard to ask, like, what's expected?

I don't understand this.

And then you say yes.

And if you come from different

backgrounds or you have different,

finances, financial situations.

It's going to be hard to

afford the same things.

And especially I have found in

your twenties, people are at

just completely different levels.

I was invited to a bachelorette party

once, and I was a bridesmaid and

they wanted to go to, I don't even

remember what it was, maybe Ibiza.

And I was like, you know what?

You guys go and have a great time.

I'm going to sit this one out because

I don't even remember how old I was.

Maybe 27.

I was like, I do not have

the money to go to Ibiza.

I just don't.

and it's gonna be like a long, trip.

I was just like, you know, if I'm

gonna go out of the country, I'm

gonna plan a trip with my now husband.

But, yeah, so We need to know our own

limits and be okay with saying no to

people because it's just if the bride

is expecting you to spend all that

money and cares more about her day

than your own finances and your own,

your friendship, they're not a friend.

They're not a friend.

Okay, this kind of goes

into like both sections.

So we're gonna just gonna

read this as a confession.

I have a situation for you.

My cousin was invited to be a

bridesmaid at her friend's wedding.

At the time, the friend didn't know

what she was doing for the wedding.

So it was just preliminary.

Later, the friend decided it was

going to be a destination wedding.

This significantly increased the cost

of everything to do with the wedding.

Yeah.

Yeah, that one.

My cousin had just bought a

house and could not afford

to be a bridesmaid anymore.

She told her friend, and the girl

said that she could take out a loan.

What?

Take out a loan to be in the wedding?

No, we're not doing that.

We're not taking out loans for people.

That is the worst financial

advice I've ever heard.

I'm not a financial expert,

but I know that's bad advice.

My cousin right, rightly thought that was

ridiculous and they haven't spoken since.

Okay.

This bride, this is a bridezilla.

This is a bridezilla.

We're not doing that.

We're not telling people to

get loans to be in our wedding.

If someone says I can't, like, if I

really, really, really wanted someone

to be there, like, let's say it

was like a best friend of mine, she

said, Hey, I just bought a house.

I can't afford to be there.

I'd be like, you know what,

let me cover it for you.

Don't worry about any expenses.

If she still said no, I'd

be like, you know what?

support that.

You're still my friend.

Like, let's hang out another time.

This is ridiculous.

We are we're not treating

our friends that way.

That is insane.

Okay.

Segment number three, wedding 911.

I got some listener disasters that we

are going to talk through right now and,

see what kind of advice I give them.

And just a little disclaimer here.

I'm no expert.

I don't give the best advice.

I just give advice for what works for me.

And a lot of times my advice might end

with, well, whatever works best for you.

So I'll give some scenarios and,

what I think might be a good idea.

But you know your situation best.

So more power to you.

Here we go.

Help.

The bride just told us we all have to wear

shapewear and lose weight to look uniform.

I'm sorry, in the bridesmaid dresses.

No, I'm already saying no.

I'm fuming.

Do I push back or suck it up?

Suck it up?

No, no, no, no, no, no,

we're not doing that.

I would say thank you for your time.

Thank you for your friendship gonna

have to walk away now because a

friend that cares more about my

body size and my shape and a wedding

dress does Not care about me.

There's no sucking it up for someone

like that No, someone that literally

tells you to lose weight I'm anti

losing weight for your wedding.

I'm pro do what makes you feel the

best for your wedding day, but we

don't need to shed for the wedding.

unless that you or yourself are like,

Hey, I'd like to like lose some weight.

Sure.

More power to you.

But no, we're not having people

tell us that we need to lose weight.

We need to love our bodies

the way we love them.

Okay.

Next one.

My best friend is getting married.

And she expects us to chip

in for her dream bachelorette

party weekend in Minocos.

I love her, but I can't afford this.

How do I tell her without

running the friendship?

Okay.

This is easy for me coming

from an outside perspective.

Cause I get it when it's like

your own friend, but your

friend, that's not your friend.

That's not your friend.

She expects you to chip in

for her dream bachelorette.

I get it.

So with all my, friend groups, when I

was a bridesmaid, we would all chip in

for these different bachelorette parties,

split the cost amongst everyone that goes.

Bridesmaids pay a little bit more

because they like pay for the house.

And I feel like every bachelorette

party was a little bit different, but

that's going to be very expensive.

I mean, you're talking a few thousand.

Probably.

And here's the thing, too.

Some brides get so caught up in

the social media aspect of it.

Like, they want to be influencers or they

want to boast about it on social media.

So they want the curated, gift bags.

They want the curated setup.

And that just takes away

from the whole thing.

And this is coming from someone

that loves the creative part of it.

I love putting stuff together.

I love making those cute little gift bags.

But if you make it more about let's

post on social media and go viral,

or let's have people like ooh and

ah over it, that's taking away

from the actual experience of it.

It's supposed to be about celebrating

and like being friends, have a night

away or a weekend away, whatever.

so I would just tell her,

you know, I love you.

But just like you said, I love you.

But I can't afford this.

I want to be there to

support you in any way I can.

but this is a little too much for me.

if you want to do that with your other

bridesmaids and they can all afford it and

are happy with it, then more power to you.

Please do that.

I feel like I'm saying more

power to you a lot this episode.

Please do that, and I would

love to take you out for dinner.

Blah, blah, blah.

Like, for example, at my own bachelorette

party, I gave no expectations.

I said, Hey, here's three cities

I would maybe want to go to

for maybe like a long weekend.

I told all of my bridesmaids,

including my maid of honor.

I said, don't feel like you

have to come, please, please.

There's no pressure to attend anything.

my bridesmaids did not

come and that was fine.

It happens.

It's okay.

one ended up coming to my town and

we just went out to dinner and we

had like a nice day, the two of us.

I didn't expect it.

It was fine.

Okay, so if telling your friend that

ruins your friendship, then she wasn't

a friend to begin with next one our

bridesmaid dresses came in and mine

doesn't fit at all The boutique messed

up my order and now the bride is

telling me I need to pay for a new

one Even though it wasn't my fault.

What do I do?

Okay, if it's in fact the boutique's

fault Like, maybe they, ordered

the wrong size, they messed up your

sizing, they will order you a new one.

I actually was a part of a wedding

once where this happened to a friend

of mine who was a bridesmaid as well.

, they ordered her a size 2 bra.

Big I want to say or I can't remember

the too small or too big And she had

to go back and get them resized and

they were going to order another one

It was a boutique and they did it what

will happen with that is they'll just

put that dress on the rack to sell

at a discounted price I'm, no expert.

I don't know 100 but no You

shouldn't have to pay for a new

one if the boutique messed it up.

So I would call them.

Okay, last one here is, uh, The bride just

sent us a spreadsheet of wedding expenses

and expects each bride to contribute

400 towards her hair, dress, and makeup.

I've never heard of this.

Do people actually do this?

Okay, the only time I heard this

happening is another crazy bridesmaid

story where she was taking money from

them and using it towards her wedding.

So, no, this is not normal.

You should not be paying

anything for the bride.

If anything, the bride should be

paying for your hair and makeup.

So, we're gonna say no to that.

And, again, if she says, well, then

you can't be in the wedding, then

you say, well, have a great day.

I will look at the pictures later.

Okay, segment number four.

Here we go.

Bridezilla court.

You be the judge.

I did some research and I

found a crazy Reddit story.

This kept coming up as

like a very crazy one.

So here we go.

I have not read the whole

thing Let's react you be the

judge who's in the wrong here.

This bride has 16 girls to be

bridesmaids in the year and a half

between the engagement and the

wedding all But six dropped out

Three of them were her sisters.

Wait, so three of the six that

dropped out were her sisters?

Okay, that's That's a bad sign.

What's going on here?

If she has 16 and 6 dropped out, I'm

no math whiz, but that's like 40%.

She insisted on 16 different

shades of blue and 16 unique

dress styles for each bridesmaid.

Then threw a fit when the store

didn't have that many options.

Well, why don't you look first

to see like, hey, does this store

have, dress options and then we're

gonna like bring the bridesmaids in.

That's a lot of shades of blue.

She'd probably want it to look

like, dark to light and like

they're perfectly lined up.

Like that's like very I mean,

that would look very beautiful.

However, it's not really practical.

I don't know.

She demanded that everyone pay for

a week long bachelorette party in

Vegas, including covering her share.

Okay, so here's the thing.

I mentioned how all the

bachelorette parties I've gone

on, we cover for the bride.

That's just what we do.

And I've paid everywhere from

a couple hundred dollars.

Actually, probably the lowest was

like a hundred dollars when I was 20.

And all the way to probably like

1, 500, 2, 000 for like a full like

week long trip that we did one time.

That being said, the bride never,

never said, you have to do this.

The bride even tried to pay for her part.

she did not demand that

everyone had to come.

She did not demand it was a week long.

Like we planned all this stuff

and it's one of my best friends

and all best friends went.

So it was like a girl's trip.

that is insane.

She got angry when bridesmaids opted out.

I was a single mom and

college student at the time.

Her parents gave her 20, 000

budget for the wedding, but

she ended up spending 100, 000.

How do you spend 100, 000

when you don't have it?

I don't know.

Also these days if she's planning

a big fancy wedding, 20, 000

unfortunately does not cover a lot.

it's insane how expensive they are.

She insisted they cover the difference.

Okay, I don't know how this

Parent adult relationship works.

They took out a loan and

they are still paying it off.

Okay, what's with these loans?

So she overspent for the wedding and her

parents took out a loan to pay for it.

See that is terrible.

That's the keeping up the

Joneses things that I hate.

If you cannot afford it, Why are

we having these crazy over the top

weddings if you cannot afford it?

At that point, it's more about the show.

It's more about people's perception of

you and less about the actual marriage.

And I swear, like, so many of these end

up in divorce, like, I know that's, very

generalization, but like, because they

don't focus on the actual, like, hey,

we're stepping into marriage together.

They're like, literally just

making it about this big day.

Like, yes, we want the day to be special

and exciting, and yes, it's gonna be cost

some money, but when you do all this, it's

like, no, that just takes away from it.

Okay, She wanted all the bridesmaids to

have their hair color the same, and even

asked the two blondes to dye their hair?

They declined.

Okay, the second I'm asked at

my hair for a wedding, I'm out.

Despite paying for nothing for

the bridesmaids, traditionally the

bride covers at least one expense,

like dresses or hair and makeup.

She demanded that we purchase

specific shoes, jewelry, dresses,

and cover our own hair and makeup.

So this is the thing too, Like

in my own wedding, I had a makeup

artist and I had a hairstylist.

I said, you guys want hair

and makeup, let me know.

It is not a requirement.

I had some that did their

own hair and makeup.

I had some that just did their own hair.

Some that just did their own makeup.

Whatever they wanted was up to them.

I would never demand something

and then not pay for it myself.

Not pay for it for them.

Okay.

On top of that, she required everyone

to stay the entire weekend at the

hotel where she was getting married.

I don't get this required thing.

Like, how is she gonna, make you do that?

In total, the cost excluding

a wedding gift ended up being

over 2, 000 per bridesmaid.

That actually sounds low.

When I look at all the things that she

asked for, if you're talking about a week

in Vegas, that's gonna be 2, 000 itself.

Talking about flight, you're talking about

meals, you're talking about hotel, that

alone is gonna be like 1, 500 or 2, 000.

this was a largely poor to middle class

area and most of us are college age.

There is no way in college I

would have been spending that.

The bachelorette parties that I

to in college were one night, we

usually stayed at someone's house or

a cheap hotel, and we went to bars.

That's what we did.

So I would maybe have

spent a hundred dollars.

Maybe two, depending on how crazy.

There's no way I've been

spending that in college.

she also had three separate

engagement parties and bridal showers.

No, no, just, I don't even

know what to say to that.

The final straw for me was that she

demanded to review my toast a month

before the wedding so she could edit it.

So I'm guessing this is a

maid of honor that wrote this.

Then she completely rewrote it herself.

I don't even have anything to say to this

bride, because this is just all terrible.

this is so terrible.

Okay, someone writing a toast or a

speech for your wedding or engagement

party or whatever event is supposed

to be, like, comes from their heart.

They do it to say words

that, mean something to them.

To, like, make you feel good on your day.

If you rewrite it

yourself, what's the point?

literally, what's the point?

Oh, here we go.

At that point, I decided to

skip the wedding altogether

and ended our friendship.

So, that was the straw that

broke the camel's back.

they did end up getting married,

and six plus years later, he

seems absolutely miserable.

So we're looking from afar, it sounds

like they're not friends anymore.

He looks miserable, so

they spent all this money.

so, I'm wondering if she's one

of the six that dropped out.

I, gosh, I have so many questions, but

I'm also like, This girl sounds terrible.

It makes me wonder, like, if they had a

feeling, gut feeling that this bride was

gonna act this way, or if it was one of

those where as soon as she got engaged,

like, a bridezilla just turned on.

I've never experienced this first hand.

All the times I've been a

bridesmaid, I've never, never seen

any of the brides act in this way.

They'd all been friends I'd

been friends with for a while.

Some of the engagements were

long, some were really short.

They were all different, but.

I had never seen bridesmaid

behavior like this.

This is insane.

Yeah, I would have been long gone.

I don't know about you guys.

Alright, segment number five.

Here comes the roast.

These are some savage wedding takes.

I don't know how savage

I'll get, but we'll see.

Alright, here's my opinion.

First things first, asking people to be in

your wedding just because they're family.

Oh, I think I talked about this earlier,

but No, if you're not super close

with someone or you just don't want

them in your wedding You do not have

to ask them because here's the thing.

I hear so many stories where the parents

pressure Siblings to ask, you know, the

other sibling to be in the wedding maid

of honor, best man And they purposely

don't ask them because they don't have

that relationship they can't trust

them with certain responsibilities and

then when they give in and they have

them in They are so let down because

they're not giving the speech, they're

forgetting the rings, they're forgetting

their dress, they're not eyeing on the

dress, and I've seen it all before.

I saw one recently where she I was

asked to have her sister in the

wedding, her younger sister, who

had little to no responsibilities.

The sister just complained the whole time.

Showed up with like a wrinkly

dress, couldn't even iron the dress.

And it's just, you gotta

listen to your gut.

I don't think you should have someone in

the wedding just because they're family.

Okay.

This next one.

Ooh, okay.

If you have 10 plus bridesmaids,

you just wanted an audience.

I disagree with this.

I disagree with this.

I'm sure it happens sometimes

where you just ask people

just to have a big wedding.

But I've been in weddings where there

were 12 bridesmaids and let me tell

you the bride had a really close and

great relationship with each person.

It was a big Italian wedding for a couple.

I'm trying to think

actually there's been a few.

Yeah, there was one with ten,

one with eleven, one with twelve.

I had nine bridesmaids, I know.

but there's some different

like points in my life.

So we're talking about college

friends, we're talking about cousins,

siblings, high school friends.

Post high school friends, and then like

I have two sister in laws, so you have to

think about just what makes sense for you.

I've also been in weddings where

there were just three bridesmaids,

and that was awesome too.

I've been to weddings where there's

no bridesmaids, so That's such a

general statement that I have to

disagree with it because I've seen it

firsthand where, like, one of my best

friends, she had, ten, where it was

sister, cousin, four from college,

four from high school, and then a

couple, and then, like, another friend.

I think I'm adding that up right.

yeah, so you just don't really know.

Okay, next one.

Bridesmaids shouldn't be

expected to get full glam.

Yeah, I 100 percent agree with that.

I think, if you expect them to

have you better be paying for it.

If not, no.

but me personally, have them do

what is comfortable for them.

Because if they're not used to

wearing makeup, why make them

wear makeup on your wedding day?

last one.

The maid of honor role

should come with a salary.

Oh my god, it's hilarious.

no, I I mean, it's funny because like.

The first time I was ever in a

wedding, I was a maid of honor,

so I was 20, for my sister.

And the last time I was in a

wedding, I was a matron of honor,

and I was 6 or 7 months pregnant.

it was completely different, and I'm also

like, early 30s compared to years old.

So my expectations were different,

the role was different, how much

money I spent was different, right?

But, I don't think either of those

times were the times I spent the

most or did the most for the wedding.

Just because it was different

times in our lives, right?

So I think you can be as involved as

you want to be, and it just depends

on the, bride you're working with.

but I get it.

I get it.

I think there needs to be clear

transparency of what you're expected

of, and then if you cannot perform

what they want, then we gotta say no.

Okay.

Segment number six, the final

segment, which I think you

guys are all waiting for.

You guys love these stories, and I love

them too because it's so fun to react.

live with you guys.

okay.

So this is a final confession

crazy wedding story.

This was a story submission

Someone sent to me It's doozy here.

Okay.

I've not read it.

So let's react together I had a

really good friend Lauren names have

been changed who I asked to be my

bridesmaid And I thought it'd be

great since we got along so well.

I struggled to pick a dress color for

my bridesmaids because they all had

different complexions and hair colors.

Two girls were pale with blonde hair,

one was tan with blonde hair, one was

pale with red hair, one was Hispanic

with darker hair, and black hair.

I finally settled on a

pale mustard yellow dress.

With small floral details

that I really liked.

Since I knew not everyone

would love my choice.

I bought the dresses for

my bridesmaids as a gift.

yeah.

Okay.

I think that's fine.

However.

As soon as Lauren saw a picture

of this dress, she threw a fit.

I can't imagine throwing a fit when

you are a bridesmaid in a wedding for

someone else, and they buy you the dress.

I'm just like, you know what,

girl, it's your style, whatever.

Yeah, maybe later I'll be like, okay, it

wasn't the best fit for me, but whatever.

she said I was trying to

make her look hideous.

I tried to ignore her complaints

since I had already bought the dress

and all she had to do was pick it

up from my house before the wedding.

So I'm wondering how this all worked.

Did they send you their measurements or

did they go somewhere and get measured and

you're like, surprise, here's the dress.

I'm one, like I said earlier,

I'm one for her individuality.

Let's let them pick their own,

style for their body type.

And hard like finding a color that

everyone likes and is gonna look good in.

Mustard yellow.

that's a different color.

I've, can't say I've ever seen it as

a bridesmaid dress, like personally.

so I get it, but hey.

Again, if one of my best friends were

like, Hey, this is the dress I want

you to wear, I'd be like, let's do it.

since I got married in 2020, there

were all kinds of lockdowns and

restrictions, and the number of people

allowed to gather kept changing.

The general consensus was that

groups of fewer than 10 people were

okay as long as no one felt sick.

So my bridal shower was really

just my bridesmaids and me

prepping decorations and finishing

last minute wedding projects.

Side note, we had a very small,

socially distanced ceremony

followed by a drive thru reception.

So it was completely safe, but I

still had decorations to worry about.

Okay, interesting.

all my bridesmaids came

over except Lauren.

I assumed she was just running late,

but as time passed, the rest of us

got caught up in conversations and

before I knew it, three hours had

gone by and she still hadn't shown up.

Okay, how do you, just completely

forget about a bridesmaid?

That's crazy, but I mean, get like

you're just talking other people, but

I feel like things were already rocky

before if you weren't noticing her

there or kind of just slipped your mind.

She's not very important.

I don't know.

I hate to like throw that out

there, but that's the vibe I'm

getting, she still hadn't shown up.

I called her freaking out because I

thought she'd been in a car accident

or something terrible had happened.

She didn't answer and I

was genuinely worried.

Then, 30 minutes later, she pulled

up to my house in a brand new car.

What?

Apparently, she had decided on a whim to

buy a car that afternoon and didn't bother

to let me know that she was running late.

At that point, I was frustrated, but

my wedding was the next day, so I

just handed her the bridesmaid dress

and told her I'd see her tomorrow.

Yikes, okay.

so this is the shower, quote unquote, that

happened the night before the wedding.

This bridesmaid was already mad

about the dress color, saying

it's, she wants her to look bad.

It sounds like things weren't

really worked out beforehand.

She's not showing up to this, thing,

but then the wedding is the next day.

I, I don't have hopes for her.

Okay, here we go.

I was right.

Well, she didn't show up

to the wedding at all.

It turned out her parents were offended

that I hadn't invited them to the ceremony

and didn't want her to go without them.

What?!

Okay, I don't know their relationship,

but I can't imagine any of my

friend's parents being so mad.

Like, I invited my friend's parents, yes.

But I also didn't get married

in the height of 2020, right?

and I get, cutting back on

your guest list, but I can't

imagine them being so mad.

They'd be like, you know what?

You can't go without me.

She's a bridesmaid!

She had a commitment.

I know her parents and I would have

loved to invite them, distancing

rules still in place, we had to

keep the guest list very small.

Only immediate family

and the bridal party.

So she did what she had to do.

Between her parents being upset

and her hatred of the bridesmaid

dress, she decided not to come

to the wedding or reception.

Here's my guess.

The bridesmaid hated the dress.

Complained to her parents.

Said, I don't want to go to this wedding.

This is going to be terrible.

Found the least opportune

time to buy this car.

Made sure it took a little bit longer.

Just in spite of the bride picking this,

quote unquote, ugly mustard yellow dress.

Then, when she, the parents had to have

known a while back they weren't invited.

So she keeps bringing this up and

then she's probably like, wait.

You know, it's really weird you guys

weren't invited to this wedding.

I think she doesn't like

you guys or something.

So then the parents are

like, you know what?

I don't think you should go.

This doesn't sound like a good friend.

Because you know what

that's what people do.

They turn the story to make themselves

sound like the hero of the story and

the other person the villain, right?

So this bridesmaid is going

to be telling her parents.

This is a bridezilla over here.

She got me this ugly dress.

You weren't invited.

She hates you guys, you know?

So yeah, that's what I'm guessing.

I've seen her a few times since

then and we're still friends.

Okay, alright, I'm sure.

I still had an amazing wedding

day, but I really wish she would

have been there when I got married.

And I definitely wish I hadn't spent money

on a bridesmaid dress she probably donated

to Goodwill without ever wearing, lol.

Yeah, so that's the thing with

bridesmaids, it's like, You want

to include them as much as possible

to keep them kind of like a part of

it and have their own personality.

That's my own personal take,

but it's a really kind gesture

to buy all the dresses.

So.

There's like this happy medium of

like you don't want to give them so

much Space where it's like we're just

standing around trying to figure out

the best dress because I've been there

I've been bridesmaid dress shopping

where you're literally at the shop for

like five hours everyone has a different

opinion everyone's different color

different style no one's happy by the

end because it's like you're tired,

you're hungry, you've been trying on

the same eight dresses, so the bride

needs to have an idea of what she likes

and then kind of throw it out there.

But again, I'm that bridesmaid where if

you give me a dress and I, unless it's

like completely revealing, I'll wear it.

You give me a dress, I'll wear it.

Like I'll make it work.

Okay, that's a crazy story.

It's funny because I when I was first

kind of thinking about this episode

and how I wanted to do these kind of

patreon episodes I was talking about

bridesmaids The first thing that came to

mind is obviously the movie bridesmaids

cuz that's like an iconic movie, right?

just think about all of those scenes.

We're talking about trying

on bridesmaid dresses.

I mean think of that scene Everyone has

different price ranges different body

types different styles that appeal to them

that's a scene that keeps popping in my

mind, like, it's hard to please everybody.

Talking about all this makes me want to

watch Bridesmaids because it's like the

most iconic movie I can think of when it

comes to the challenges between different

personalities and people Competing for top

place as a bridesmaid made of honor was

gonna do like a deep dive in the movie.

I was like everybody's seen that movie

So I'll just reference it as much as

possible But yeah, I don't know it's

crazy Alright guys, well, that was a crazy

first episode, I hope you guys enjoyed me

blabbing about these crazy confessions,

crazy bridesmaid stories, and the reddit

one that, like, is honestly insane.

The stories, I get sent

are just Over the top.

so yeah, thank you guys

for hanging out with me.

If you made it to the end, consider

yourself officially initiated into

my wedding party inner circle, the

VIP crew that gets all the juiciest

drama before everybody else.

But don't go anywhere just yet

because next month is going to

be all about Groomsmen drama.

Groomsmen confessions, behind the scenes,

And more tea that you won't wanna miss.

So trust me, you'll not

want to miss this one.

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Tell one friend about this whether it's

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It really helps.

Word of mouth is the ultimate

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let's keep it going there.

And hey, if you have a

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You want to send me for the next

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There's so many ways you can

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So I will find it if you try to send

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All right.

Bye guys.