1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,195 Today we're focusing all on bridesmaids. 2 00:00:03,373 --> 00:00:04,758 As I should know a thing or two 3 00:00:04,778 --> 00:00:06,098 since I've been a bridesmaid. 4 00:00:06,213 --> 00:00:07,899 Including twice made of honor 5 00:00:08,084 --> 00:00:10,493 almost 10 times and I've seen 6 00:00:10,503 --> 00:00:12,373 and heard it all plus I've gotten 7 00:00:12,383 --> 00:00:13,713 millions of stories from you guys. 8 00:00:13,931 --> 00:00:15,776 So let's kind of walk through what you 9 00:00:15,776 --> 00:00:18,593 can expect for this episode First up 10 00:00:18,593 --> 00:00:20,103 is going to be bridesmaid boot camp. 11 00:00:20,314 --> 00:00:21,713 It's going to be a rapid fire guessing 12 00:00:21,713 --> 00:00:23,503 game to test your wedding knowledge. 13 00:00:23,793 --> 00:00:26,291 we're going to have bridesmaid 14 00:00:26,442 --> 00:00:27,715 confessional, real unfiltered 15 00:00:27,715 --> 00:00:29,738 confessions from the archives. 16 00:00:29,901 --> 00:00:33,001 Next is going to be wedding 911 listener 17 00:00:33,041 --> 00:00:35,921 dilemmas where I dish out my best advice. 18 00:00:36,112 --> 00:00:37,978 So we're going to see just what comes 19 00:00:37,978 --> 00:00:39,738 up when you guys, , want some advice. 20 00:00:39,931 --> 00:00:41,400 the next segment is going to be called 21 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,230 bridezilla court, a wild bridesmaid story 22 00:00:44,260 --> 00:00:46,440 caught straight from the depths of Reddit. 23 00:00:46,642 --> 00:00:47,597 Then we're going to go right 24 00:00:47,607 --> 00:00:49,327 into here comes the roast 25 00:00:49,337 --> 00:00:51,237 spicy takes on wedding trends. 26 00:00:53,757 --> 00:00:54,427 So I'm going to give you guys 27 00:00:54,447 --> 00:00:56,750 my honest take on some of these 28 00:00:56,887 --> 00:00:57,917 crazy things that come up. 29 00:00:58,120 --> 00:00:59,464 And last but not least, what 30 00:00:59,464 --> 00:01:01,224 would one of my episodes be 31 00:01:01,376 --> 00:01:04,087 without a crazy bridesmaid story? 32 00:01:04,276 --> 00:01:05,854 So, nothing quite. 33 00:01:06,060 --> 00:01:07,360 Brings out the drama, like 34 00:01:07,390 --> 00:01:08,610 a real life story, right? 35 00:01:08,786 --> 00:01:09,814 So I've got one from the 36 00:01:09,814 --> 00:01:11,907 archives that, I've not read yet. 37 00:01:11,917 --> 00:01:12,657 So we're going to react 38 00:01:12,657 --> 00:01:13,837 in real time together. 39 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:15,876 grab a drink, settle in and 40 00:01:15,876 --> 00:01:17,046 let's kick off this series with 41 00:01:17,046 --> 00:01:19,076 some major bridesmaid drama. 42 00:01:19,309 --> 00:01:19,673 Okay. 43 00:01:19,859 --> 00:01:22,073 First up is bridesmaid boot camp. 44 00:01:22,259 --> 00:01:23,706 So I'm going to go through these rapid 45 00:01:23,706 --> 00:01:25,943 fire trivia questions and throw some 46 00:01:25,943 --> 00:01:28,056 wedding facts at you, and you just do 47 00:01:28,056 --> 00:01:29,896 your best guess, , as you're listening. 48 00:01:30,094 --> 00:01:32,600 Okay, number one, true or false. 49 00:01:32,690 --> 00:01:34,676 Bridesmaids used to dress like 50 00:01:34,676 --> 00:01:37,396 the bride to confuse evil spirits. 51 00:01:37,748 --> 00:01:39,769 This is True. 52 00:01:39,971 --> 00:01:42,092 In ancient Rome, brides made stress 53 00:01:42,122 --> 00:01:44,102 identically to the bride to ward off 54 00:01:44,234 --> 00:01:47,055 evil spirits and potential kidnappers. 55 00:01:47,300 --> 00:01:49,112 Imagine dealing with that kind of drama. 56 00:01:49,300 --> 00:01:50,752 So it's kind of funny how it's 57 00:01:50,762 --> 00:01:52,512 changed so much over the years. 58 00:01:52,542 --> 00:01:54,092 It used to be like, let's distract 59 00:01:54,092 --> 00:01:56,569 everyone from the actual bride so she 60 00:01:56,569 --> 00:01:58,379 can get married and no one can try to, 61 00:01:58,379 --> 00:02:01,270 like, take her or, throw drama on her day. 62 00:02:01,438 --> 00:02:02,630 Now it's like, don't look 63 00:02:02,660 --> 00:02:04,500 anything like the bride unless 64 00:02:04,500 --> 00:02:06,070 she specifically requests it. 65 00:02:06,351 --> 00:02:08,034 Okay, number two. 66 00:02:08,219 --> 00:02:09,807 What's the most expensive 67 00:02:09,827 --> 00:02:12,187 bridesmaid dress ever recorded? 68 00:02:12,379 --> 00:02:13,757 Okay, so when I saw this question, 69 00:02:13,787 --> 00:02:15,566 I'm like thinking of what I've spent 70 00:02:15,566 --> 00:02:17,896 on bridesmaid dresses Luckily the 71 00:02:18,006 --> 00:02:20,526 most of them I've spent like 99. 72 00:02:20,601 --> 00:02:23,106 I've spent a few that were over 200 But 73 00:02:23,106 --> 00:02:25,626 for the most part I would say around 150 74 00:02:25,626 --> 00:02:29,263 it was like average the most ready for it 75 00:02:32,406 --> 00:02:36,013 6, 800. It was a Vera Wang dress 76 00:02:36,013 --> 00:02:38,233 for a celebrity wedding and no, 77 00:02:38,233 --> 00:02:40,133 the bride did not cover the cost. 78 00:02:40,346 --> 00:02:41,896 Guys, that is insane. 79 00:02:41,896 --> 00:02:43,656 That is like a mortgage that 80 00:02:43,656 --> 00:02:45,556 has twice, triple a mortgage. 81 00:02:45,586 --> 00:02:46,126 I don't even know. 82 00:02:46,126 --> 00:02:49,320 Like that is insane to spend on a dress. 83 00:02:49,340 --> 00:02:50,560 I mean, I guess if it's a celebrity 84 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:52,260 wedding, they have the money to spend. 85 00:02:52,507 --> 00:02:52,906 I don't know. 86 00:02:52,956 --> 00:02:53,416 I don't know. 87 00:02:53,633 --> 00:02:53,986 Okay. 88 00:02:54,193 --> 00:02:56,359 Number three, bridesmaid duties 89 00:02:56,439 --> 00:02:59,619 used to include what unusual task. 90 00:02:59,823 --> 00:03:00,259 Okay. 91 00:03:00,460 --> 00:03:01,719 There's a lot that has 92 00:03:01,719 --> 00:03:02,889 changed over the years. 93 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:04,546 So You might think of 94 00:03:04,546 --> 00:03:05,536 this, but I don't know. 95 00:03:05,624 --> 00:03:07,429 I was kind of shocked by it holding 96 00:03:07,489 --> 00:03:10,732 onto the dowry and guarding the bride 97 00:03:10,772 --> 00:03:12,442 on the way to the groom's house. 98 00:03:12,670 --> 00:03:14,359 So basically the bridesmaids were 99 00:03:14,359 --> 00:03:16,289 the original wedding security team. 100 00:03:16,504 --> 00:03:18,042 The dowry is a transfer of 101 00:03:18,042 --> 00:03:19,692 wealth, property, or money 102 00:03:19,692 --> 00:03:20,842 from the bride's family. 103 00:03:21,031 --> 00:03:21,589 And so. 104 00:03:21,801 --> 00:03:23,081 They would protect this to the 105 00:03:23,081 --> 00:03:24,914 groom or its family as part 106 00:03:24,944 --> 00:03:26,254 of the marriage arrangement. 107 00:03:26,274 --> 00:03:27,294 I'm like, that's like a lot 108 00:03:27,294 --> 00:03:28,784 of pressure on a bridesmaid. 109 00:03:28,974 --> 00:03:31,021 I'm glad that's not the case anymore. 110 00:03:31,031 --> 00:03:32,081 Like, I'm glad we're just there 111 00:03:32,081 --> 00:03:33,691 for fun and support and, you 112 00:03:33,691 --> 00:03:34,661 know, all that good stuff. 113 00:03:34,813 --> 00:03:37,084 Okay, the last one, number four. 114 00:03:37,094 --> 00:03:40,154 In what country is it considered bad luck 115 00:03:40,154 --> 00:03:43,867 for bridesmaids to wear matching dresses? 116 00:03:44,163 --> 00:03:45,614 This is so funny because we used 117 00:03:45,614 --> 00:03:46,744 to do matching dresses all the time 118 00:03:46,744 --> 00:03:48,841 in the U. S. The answer is China. 119 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:50,704 In China, it's believed matching 120 00:03:50,704 --> 00:03:53,125 dresses attract bad energy so 121 00:03:53,125 --> 00:03:55,285 bridesmaids wear different colors. 122 00:03:55,578 --> 00:03:57,492 Okay, I love this because we're 123 00:03:57,492 --> 00:03:58,612 kind of getting away from the 124 00:03:58,612 --> 00:04:00,222 trend of wearing matching dresses. 125 00:04:00,412 --> 00:04:02,692 even like my own wedding, it was, I 126 00:04:02,692 --> 00:04:04,632 had like a specific like family of 127 00:04:04,632 --> 00:04:06,469 colors and then all the bridesmaids 128 00:04:06,469 --> 00:04:07,829 were able to pick out their own style 129 00:04:07,829 --> 00:04:09,660 because I feel like Everyone has 130 00:04:09,660 --> 00:04:11,620 their own style, their own body type. 131 00:04:11,620 --> 00:04:12,390 Like let's not shove 132 00:04:12,390 --> 00:04:14,000 everyone in the same dress. 133 00:04:14,374 --> 00:04:15,867 Okay Next up, we're going to do 134 00:04:15,867 --> 00:04:18,457 some bridesmaid confessionals. 135 00:04:18,641 --> 00:04:19,741 Dun, dun, dun. 136 00:04:19,761 --> 00:04:20,041 Okay. 137 00:04:20,251 --> 00:04:22,148 that's my own, music we got going on here. 138 00:04:22,374 --> 00:04:22,791 Okay. 139 00:04:22,984 --> 00:04:23,668 Here we go. 140 00:04:23,698 --> 00:04:24,438 I'm just going to react to 141 00:04:24,438 --> 00:04:25,308 these in real time, guys. 142 00:04:25,691 --> 00:04:27,881 I said no to being a bridesmaid at 143 00:04:27,881 --> 00:04:29,701 my brother's wedding because I don't 144 00:04:29,751 --> 00:04:32,581 approve of his choice, or him in general. 145 00:04:33,311 --> 00:04:35,628 Okay, so this is a two part thing. 146 00:04:35,628 --> 00:04:36,838 So it's not just that she doesn't 147 00:04:36,838 --> 00:04:39,410 approve of the new guy or girl coming 148 00:04:39,410 --> 00:04:42,070 in, she does not approve of her brother. 149 00:04:42,267 --> 00:04:43,977 I mean, there's a backstory here. 150 00:04:43,977 --> 00:04:45,147 There's some drama here 151 00:04:45,157 --> 00:04:46,707 that I'm very curious about. 152 00:04:46,909 --> 00:04:48,385 My thought is Okay, 153 00:04:48,385 --> 00:04:49,045 well, here's the thing. 154 00:04:49,139 --> 00:04:50,225 Here's where I want to go with this. 155 00:04:50,369 --> 00:04:52,272 There is so much pressure to say yes 156 00:04:52,282 --> 00:04:53,922 to being in a wedding because it's your 157 00:04:53,932 --> 00:04:55,792 brother, sister, whoever's wedding. 158 00:04:55,989 --> 00:04:57,879 And I want to give the free will 159 00:04:57,879 --> 00:04:59,529 to everyone right now, if you don't 160 00:04:59,529 --> 00:05:00,982 know you already have it, but you 161 00:05:00,982 --> 00:05:02,752 can say no to being in a wedding. 162 00:05:02,982 --> 00:05:04,085 I know, it's crazy thought. 163 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:05,712 But here's the thing, like, there's so 164 00:05:05,712 --> 00:05:07,899 much pressure being in a wedding and 165 00:05:07,899 --> 00:05:09,989 if you don't enjoy that or you don't 166 00:05:10,059 --> 00:05:12,112 support the couple, Don't say yes, 167 00:05:12,132 --> 00:05:13,772 because you're going to be miserable. 168 00:05:13,996 --> 00:05:14,936 like lucky for me. 169 00:05:14,936 --> 00:05:16,599 And that's probably why I 170 00:05:16,599 --> 00:05:17,699 talk about weddings and stuff. 171 00:05:17,892 --> 00:05:18,659 I love weddings. 172 00:05:18,719 --> 00:05:20,466 I love being a part of weddings. 173 00:05:20,466 --> 00:05:21,356 there was a time. 174 00:05:21,659 --> 00:05:23,811 I would say late 20s, I was in a 175 00:05:23,811 --> 00:05:25,631 wedding like every single year, if 176 00:05:25,631 --> 00:05:27,571 not a couple a year, and I loved it. 177 00:05:27,631 --> 00:05:28,841 I love being crafty. 178 00:05:28,841 --> 00:05:30,451 I love seeing how I can be useful 179 00:05:30,451 --> 00:05:32,231 and helpful, but it's exhausting. 180 00:05:32,241 --> 00:05:33,261 You're spending a lot of money. 181 00:05:33,261 --> 00:05:34,411 You're spending a lot of time. 182 00:05:34,585 --> 00:05:37,608 That's also pre kids, like, I was married. 183 00:05:37,812 --> 00:05:39,582 So I had a lot more free time. 184 00:05:39,841 --> 00:05:40,922 Now, if I was in a wedding, 185 00:05:41,184 --> 00:05:42,158 It would be a lot harder. 186 00:05:42,357 --> 00:05:44,468 It'd be a lot more Zoom stuff 187 00:05:44,468 --> 00:05:46,118 and, traveling would be a lot more 188 00:05:46,118 --> 00:05:48,832 harder, and so it's okay to say no. 189 00:05:49,062 --> 00:05:50,656 you gotta know your own limits 190 00:05:50,686 --> 00:05:51,746 and what you're interested in. 191 00:05:52,013 --> 00:05:53,588 Okay, next confession. 192 00:05:53,809 --> 00:05:54,586 I said no. 193 00:05:54,755 --> 00:05:55,666 Friend insisted. 194 00:05:55,686 --> 00:05:57,036 I kept saying no. 195 00:05:57,261 --> 00:05:58,759 The bride had a full on 196 00:05:58,789 --> 00:06:01,019 meltdown and wouldn't stop. 197 00:06:01,108 --> 00:06:03,623 I finally said yes to being a bridesmaid 198 00:06:03,817 --> 00:06:07,184 and 2, 000 later is what I spent. 199 00:06:07,224 --> 00:06:08,464 I should have stuck with no. 200 00:06:08,715 --> 00:06:09,221 Here we go. 201 00:06:09,271 --> 00:06:11,001 This is a common theme. 202 00:06:11,230 --> 00:06:13,570 If you have a gut feeling and 203 00:06:13,570 --> 00:06:15,676 want to say no, please say no. 204 00:06:15,882 --> 00:06:17,087 The fact that the bride had a 205 00:06:17,087 --> 00:06:18,157 full on meltdown because you 206 00:06:18,157 --> 00:06:19,717 said no, that's not a bride. 207 00:06:19,915 --> 00:06:20,970 This is someone that just 208 00:06:20,970 --> 00:06:22,210 wants you up there as a number. 209 00:06:22,413 --> 00:06:23,406 Or other bridesmaids, 210 00:06:23,406 --> 00:06:24,716 said no to her already. 211 00:06:24,842 --> 00:06:25,632 And so she's putting the 212 00:06:25,632 --> 00:06:27,082 pressure on you to say yes. 213 00:06:27,115 --> 00:06:28,971 000 later, no. 214 00:06:29,127 --> 00:06:30,835 I'm curious what that was all on. 215 00:06:30,865 --> 00:06:32,625 My guess is we're talking dress, 216 00:06:32,625 --> 00:06:34,698 shoes, hair, makeup, maybe a 217 00:06:34,698 --> 00:06:36,308 bachelorette party, a gift. 218 00:06:36,467 --> 00:06:37,422 Those things add up. 219 00:06:37,543 --> 00:06:38,362 So even if you're like, I 220 00:06:38,362 --> 00:06:39,132 don't want to spend a lot of 221 00:06:39,132 --> 00:06:40,792 money, little things add up. 222 00:06:41,002 --> 00:06:42,322 if the bride really wanted you 223 00:06:42,322 --> 00:06:43,552 to be a part of the wedding and 224 00:06:43,552 --> 00:06:44,973 said like, I'll pay for your 225 00:06:44,993 --> 00:06:46,703 dress or I'll help you with blank. 226 00:06:46,933 --> 00:06:48,843 Then sure, but a no means no. 227 00:06:48,953 --> 00:06:49,983 even if you have the money and 228 00:06:49,983 --> 00:06:50,933 you just don't want to be in 229 00:06:50,933 --> 00:06:52,393 the wedding, that's up to you. 230 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:53,177 That's terrible. 231 00:06:53,410 --> 00:06:55,460 Okay, next confession. 232 00:06:55,688 --> 00:06:57,657 The first time I was a maid of 233 00:06:57,697 --> 00:06:59,767 honor, I was in complete shock. 234 00:06:59,932 --> 00:07:02,160 I had no idea the protocol. 235 00:07:02,355 --> 00:07:03,723 I went into debt. 236 00:07:04,115 --> 00:07:04,863 Wait, what? 237 00:07:05,432 --> 00:07:06,687 You went into debt. 238 00:07:06,922 --> 00:07:09,067 I had no idea I was responsible 239 00:07:09,067 --> 00:07:10,327 for the wedding party dresses. 240 00:07:10,337 --> 00:07:11,617 Whoa, in what wedding? 241 00:07:11,812 --> 00:07:12,803 And gifts for everybody. 242 00:07:13,038 --> 00:07:14,013 You got scammed. 243 00:07:14,208 --> 00:07:15,760 You got scammed. 244 00:07:15,965 --> 00:07:17,990 You should not be paying for 245 00:07:17,990 --> 00:07:20,220 somebody's wedding party dresses 246 00:07:20,413 --> 00:07:21,960 and the gifts as the maid of honor. 247 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:23,627 No, no, absolutely not. 248 00:07:23,827 --> 00:07:25,553 Bridesmaid gifts are from the bride. 249 00:07:25,747 --> 00:07:26,163 That's it. 250 00:07:26,193 --> 00:07:26,893 End of story. 251 00:07:27,087 --> 00:07:28,610 And those aren't even like a guarantee. 252 00:07:28,773 --> 00:07:30,033 Every wedding that I've been in, 253 00:07:30,300 --> 00:07:31,790 There was a different type of gift. 254 00:07:31,983 --> 00:07:33,367 I never expected one from the 255 00:07:33,367 --> 00:07:36,007 bride, but the maid of honor never 256 00:07:36,067 --> 00:07:37,557 bought the gifts It's not the 257 00:07:37,557 --> 00:07:38,707 maid of honor's responsibility. 258 00:07:38,717 --> 00:07:41,497 You got scammed You got used by a 259 00:07:41,497 --> 00:07:42,727 friend whoever you were the maid 260 00:07:42,727 --> 00:07:44,802 of honor for and I am so sorry you 261 00:07:44,802 --> 00:07:46,875 went into debt you guys Oh my gosh. 262 00:07:47,085 --> 00:07:48,312 I feel so bad for this bride. 263 00:07:48,554 --> 00:07:48,955 Here's the thing. 264 00:07:48,965 --> 00:07:51,259 It's hard when you are the first out 265 00:07:51,259 --> 00:07:53,160 of your friend group maybe like the 266 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:55,931 first bride or you're the first maid 267 00:07:55,931 --> 00:07:58,041 of honor or first bridesmaid and it's 268 00:07:58,041 --> 00:07:59,941 hard to ask, like, what's expected? 269 00:07:59,941 --> 00:08:01,096 I don't understand this. 270 00:08:01,096 --> 00:08:02,381 And then you say yes. 271 00:08:02,413 --> 00:08:03,818 And if you come from different 272 00:08:03,828 --> 00:08:05,738 backgrounds or you have different, 273 00:08:05,968 --> 00:08:08,218 finances, financial situations. 274 00:08:08,426 --> 00:08:09,438 It's going to be hard to 275 00:08:09,438 --> 00:08:10,708 afford the same things. 276 00:08:10,889 --> 00:08:12,254 And especially I have found in 277 00:08:12,254 --> 00:08:13,489 your twenties, people are at 278 00:08:13,566 --> 00:08:14,836 just completely different levels. 279 00:08:15,046 --> 00:08:16,686 I was invited to a bachelorette party 280 00:08:16,686 --> 00:08:18,339 once, and I was a bridesmaid and 281 00:08:18,339 --> 00:08:20,073 they wanted to go to, I don't even 282 00:08:20,073 --> 00:08:21,483 remember what it was, maybe Ibiza. 283 00:08:21,661 --> 00:08:23,403 And I was like, you know what? 284 00:08:23,591 --> 00:08:25,356 You guys go and have a great time. 285 00:08:25,578 --> 00:08:27,203 I'm going to sit this one out because 286 00:08:27,203 --> 00:08:28,363 I don't even remember how old I was. 287 00:08:28,604 --> 00:08:29,409 Maybe 27. 288 00:08:29,449 --> 00:08:30,279 I was like, I do not have 289 00:08:30,279 --> 00:08:31,379 the money to go to Ibiza. 290 00:08:31,568 --> 00:08:32,053 I just don't. 291 00:08:32,316 --> 00:08:34,532 and it's gonna be like a long, trip. 292 00:08:34,552 --> 00:08:35,512 I was just like, you know, if I'm 293 00:08:35,512 --> 00:08:36,682 gonna go out of the country, I'm 294 00:08:36,682 --> 00:08:38,815 gonna plan a trip with my now husband. 295 00:08:38,825 --> 00:08:41,256 But, yeah, so We need to know our own 296 00:08:41,256 --> 00:08:43,986 limits and be okay with saying no to 297 00:08:43,986 --> 00:08:46,999 people because it's just if the bride 298 00:08:46,999 --> 00:08:48,609 is expecting you to spend all that 299 00:08:48,609 --> 00:08:51,142 money and cares more about her day 300 00:08:51,142 --> 00:08:54,439 than your own finances and your own, 301 00:08:54,589 --> 00:08:56,286 your friendship, they're not a friend. 302 00:08:56,316 --> 00:08:56,966 They're not a friend. 303 00:08:57,221 --> 00:08:58,251 Okay, this kind of goes 304 00:08:58,251 --> 00:08:59,321 into like both sections. 305 00:08:59,321 --> 00:09:00,021 So we're gonna just gonna 306 00:09:00,021 --> 00:09:01,011 read this as a confession. 307 00:09:01,165 --> 00:09:02,468 I have a situation for you. 308 00:09:02,685 --> 00:09:04,269 My cousin was invited to be a 309 00:09:04,279 --> 00:09:06,269 bridesmaid at her friend's wedding. 310 00:09:06,468 --> 00:09:08,866 At the time, the friend didn't know 311 00:09:08,896 --> 00:09:10,576 what she was doing for the wedding. 312 00:09:10,586 --> 00:09:11,926 So it was just preliminary. 313 00:09:12,125 --> 00:09:13,819 Later, the friend decided it was 314 00:09:13,819 --> 00:09:15,389 going to be a destination wedding. 315 00:09:15,588 --> 00:09:17,926 This significantly increased the cost 316 00:09:17,926 --> 00:09:20,009 of everything to do with the wedding. 317 00:09:20,009 --> 00:09:20,609 Yeah. 318 00:09:20,799 --> 00:09:21,579 Yeah, that one. 319 00:09:21,818 --> 00:09:23,386 My cousin had just bought a 320 00:09:23,386 --> 00:09:24,886 house and could not afford 321 00:09:24,906 --> 00:09:26,146 to be a bridesmaid anymore. 322 00:09:26,358 --> 00:09:28,457 She told her friend, and the girl 323 00:09:28,457 --> 00:09:30,257 said that she could take out a loan. 324 00:09:31,043 --> 00:09:31,134 What? 325 00:09:32,354 --> 00:09:34,990 Take out a loan to be in the wedding? 326 00:09:35,050 --> 00:09:36,330 No, we're not doing that. 327 00:09:36,330 --> 00:09:38,040 We're not taking out loans for people. 328 00:09:38,050 --> 00:09:39,350 That is the worst financial 329 00:09:39,350 --> 00:09:40,520 advice I've ever heard. 330 00:09:40,670 --> 00:09:41,884 I'm not a financial expert, 331 00:09:42,013 --> 00:09:43,327 but I know that's bad advice. 332 00:09:43,547 --> 00:09:45,634 My cousin right, rightly thought that was 333 00:09:45,634 --> 00:09:47,334 ridiculous and they haven't spoken since. 334 00:09:47,543 --> 00:09:47,920 Okay. 335 00:09:47,970 --> 00:09:49,710 This bride, this is a bridezilla. 336 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:50,640 This is a bridezilla. 337 00:09:50,650 --> 00:09:51,380 We're not doing that. 338 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:52,210 We're not telling people to 339 00:09:52,210 --> 00:09:53,840 get loans to be in our wedding. 340 00:09:54,072 --> 00:09:55,522 If someone says I can't, like, if I 341 00:09:55,582 --> 00:09:56,862 really, really, really wanted someone 342 00:09:56,862 --> 00:09:57,852 to be there, like, let's say it 343 00:09:57,852 --> 00:09:59,665 was like a best friend of mine, she 344 00:09:59,665 --> 00:10:01,005 said, Hey, I just bought a house. 345 00:10:01,055 --> 00:10:01,935 I can't afford to be there. 346 00:10:01,935 --> 00:10:02,825 I'd be like, you know what, 347 00:10:02,895 --> 00:10:03,835 let me cover it for you. 348 00:10:03,875 --> 00:10:05,115 Don't worry about any expenses. 349 00:10:05,312 --> 00:10:06,055 If she still said no, I'd 350 00:10:06,055 --> 00:10:06,745 be like, you know what? 351 00:10:07,065 --> 00:10:07,665 support that. 352 00:10:07,725 --> 00:10:08,565 You're still my friend. 353 00:10:08,575 --> 00:10:10,135 Like, let's hang out another time. 354 00:10:10,302 --> 00:10:11,467 This is ridiculous. 355 00:10:11,467 --> 00:10:13,761 We are we're not treating 356 00:10:13,761 --> 00:10:15,471 our friends that way. 357 00:10:15,471 --> 00:10:16,679 That is insane. 358 00:10:16,679 --> 00:10:17,134 Okay. 359 00:10:17,313 --> 00:10:19,260 Segment number three, wedding 911. 360 00:10:19,260 --> 00:10:22,850 I got some listener disasters that we 361 00:10:22,850 --> 00:10:24,756 are going to talk through right now and, 362 00:10:24,793 --> 00:10:26,143 see what kind of advice I give them. 363 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:28,156 And just a little disclaimer here. 364 00:10:28,375 --> 00:10:29,273 I'm no expert. 365 00:10:29,475 --> 00:10:30,910 I don't give the best advice. 366 00:10:30,940 --> 00:10:33,080 I just give advice for what works for me. 367 00:10:33,255 --> 00:10:34,843 And a lot of times my advice might end 368 00:10:34,843 --> 00:10:37,053 with, well, whatever works best for you. 369 00:10:37,323 --> 00:10:39,067 So I'll give some scenarios and, 370 00:10:39,067 --> 00:10:40,961 what I think might be a good idea. 371 00:10:41,041 --> 00:10:42,931 But you know your situation best. 372 00:10:43,133 --> 00:10:44,137 So more power to you. 373 00:10:44,883 --> 00:10:45,347 Here we go. 374 00:10:45,626 --> 00:10:45,971 Help. 375 00:10:46,251 --> 00:10:49,051 The bride just told us we all have to wear 376 00:10:49,101 --> 00:10:52,184 shapewear and lose weight to look uniform. 377 00:10:53,019 --> 00:10:54,889 I'm sorry, in the bridesmaid dresses. 378 00:10:54,889 --> 00:10:56,229 No, I'm already saying no. 379 00:10:56,466 --> 00:10:57,059 I'm fuming. 380 00:10:57,069 --> 00:10:58,269 Do I push back or suck it up? 381 00:10:58,269 --> 00:10:58,809 Suck it up? 382 00:10:58,839 --> 00:11:00,299 No, no, no, no, no, no, 383 00:11:00,299 --> 00:11:01,019 we're not doing that. 384 00:11:01,249 --> 00:11:03,582 I would say thank you for your time. 385 00:11:03,582 --> 00:11:05,213 Thank you for your friendship gonna 386 00:11:05,223 --> 00:11:06,553 have to walk away now because a 387 00:11:06,553 --> 00:11:08,233 friend that cares more about my 388 00:11:08,243 --> 00:11:10,280 body size and my shape and a wedding 389 00:11:10,290 --> 00:11:11,460 dress does Not care about me. 390 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:13,167 There's no sucking it up for someone 391 00:11:13,167 --> 00:11:14,937 like that No, someone that literally 392 00:11:14,937 --> 00:11:18,115 tells you to lose weight I'm anti 393 00:11:18,257 --> 00:11:19,502 losing weight for your wedding. 394 00:11:19,665 --> 00:11:21,635 I'm pro do what makes you feel the 395 00:11:21,635 --> 00:11:23,088 best for your wedding day, but we 396 00:11:23,088 --> 00:11:24,428 don't need to shed for the wedding. 397 00:11:24,602 --> 00:11:26,372 unless that you or yourself are like, 398 00:11:26,372 --> 00:11:27,962 Hey, I'd like to like lose some weight. 399 00:11:28,062 --> 00:11:28,422 Sure. 400 00:11:28,630 --> 00:11:29,408 More power to you. 401 00:11:29,630 --> 00:11:31,035 But no, we're not having people 402 00:11:31,035 --> 00:11:32,445 tell us that we need to lose weight. 403 00:11:32,670 --> 00:11:33,578 We need to love our bodies 404 00:11:33,578 --> 00:11:34,568 the way we love them. 405 00:11:34,783 --> 00:11:35,095 Okay. 406 00:11:35,245 --> 00:11:36,055 Next one. 407 00:11:36,250 --> 00:11:37,668 My best friend is getting married. 408 00:11:37,917 --> 00:11:39,348 And she expects us to chip 409 00:11:39,368 --> 00:11:41,168 in for her dream bachelorette 410 00:11:41,198 --> 00:11:43,288 party weekend in Minocos. 411 00:11:43,553 --> 00:11:45,455 I love her, but I can't afford this. 412 00:11:45,475 --> 00:11:46,795 How do I tell her without 413 00:11:46,795 --> 00:11:47,565 running the friendship? 414 00:11:47,685 --> 00:11:48,155 Okay. 415 00:11:48,387 --> 00:11:49,902 This is easy for me coming 416 00:11:49,902 --> 00:11:51,042 from an outside perspective. 417 00:11:51,072 --> 00:11:52,092 Cause I get it when it's like 418 00:11:52,092 --> 00:11:53,745 your own friend, but your 419 00:11:53,755 --> 00:11:55,465 friend, that's not your friend. 420 00:11:55,683 --> 00:11:56,405 That's not your friend. 421 00:11:56,694 --> 00:11:58,099 She expects you to chip in 422 00:11:58,099 --> 00:11:59,779 for her dream bachelorette. 423 00:12:00,004 --> 00:12:00,634 I get it. 424 00:12:00,634 --> 00:12:02,161 So with all my, friend groups, when I 425 00:12:02,161 --> 00:12:05,007 was a bridesmaid, we would all chip in 426 00:12:05,017 --> 00:12:06,959 for these different bachelorette parties, 427 00:12:06,959 --> 00:12:08,927 split the cost amongst everyone that goes. 428 00:12:08,947 --> 00:12:10,237 Bridesmaids pay a little bit more 429 00:12:10,277 --> 00:12:11,527 because they like pay for the house. 430 00:12:11,527 --> 00:12:13,339 And I feel like every bachelorette 431 00:12:13,349 --> 00:12:15,017 party was a little bit different, but 432 00:12:15,057 --> 00:12:16,657 that's going to be very expensive. 433 00:12:16,657 --> 00:12:19,164 I mean, you're talking a few thousand. 434 00:12:19,434 --> 00:12:20,244 Probably. 435 00:12:20,470 --> 00:12:22,077 And here's the thing, too. 436 00:12:22,311 --> 00:12:24,141 Some brides get so caught up in 437 00:12:24,151 --> 00:12:25,951 the social media aspect of it. 438 00:12:25,951 --> 00:12:27,861 Like, they want to be influencers or they 439 00:12:27,861 --> 00:12:30,071 want to boast about it on social media. 440 00:12:30,071 --> 00:12:32,439 So they want the curated, gift bags. 441 00:12:32,439 --> 00:12:34,159 They want the curated setup. 442 00:12:34,325 --> 00:12:35,399 And that just takes away 443 00:12:35,399 --> 00:12:36,129 from the whole thing. 444 00:12:36,295 --> 00:12:37,345 And this is coming from someone 445 00:12:37,345 --> 00:12:39,942 that loves the creative part of it. 446 00:12:39,972 --> 00:12:41,262 I love putting stuff together. 447 00:12:41,282 --> 00:12:43,465 I love making those cute little gift bags. 448 00:12:43,465 --> 00:12:45,432 But if you make it more about let's 449 00:12:45,452 --> 00:12:47,632 post on social media and go viral, 450 00:12:47,801 --> 00:12:49,205 or let's have people like ooh and 451 00:12:49,235 --> 00:12:51,005 ah over it, that's taking away 452 00:12:51,015 --> 00:12:52,825 from the actual experience of it. 453 00:12:53,008 --> 00:12:54,432 It's supposed to be about celebrating 454 00:12:54,442 --> 00:12:56,205 and like being friends, have a night 455 00:12:56,205 --> 00:12:58,125 away or a weekend away, whatever. 456 00:12:58,319 --> 00:12:59,059 so I would just tell her, 457 00:12:59,059 --> 00:13:00,662 you know, I love you. 458 00:13:00,892 --> 00:13:02,302 But just like you said, I love you. 459 00:13:02,579 --> 00:13:03,712 But I can't afford this. 460 00:13:03,919 --> 00:13:04,505 I want to be there to 461 00:13:04,505 --> 00:13:06,025 support you in any way I can. 462 00:13:06,249 --> 00:13:08,499 but this is a little too much for me. 463 00:13:08,741 --> 00:13:09,964 if you want to do that with your other 464 00:13:09,964 --> 00:13:11,644 bridesmaids and they can all afford it and 465 00:13:11,644 --> 00:13:13,404 are happy with it, then more power to you. 466 00:13:13,404 --> 00:13:14,174 Please do that. 467 00:13:14,309 --> 00:13:15,161 I feel like I'm saying more 468 00:13:15,161 --> 00:13:16,441 power to you a lot this episode. 469 00:13:16,887 --> 00:13:17,936 Please do that, and I would 470 00:13:17,936 --> 00:13:19,646 love to take you out for dinner. 471 00:13:19,736 --> 00:13:20,286 Blah, blah, blah. 472 00:13:20,481 --> 00:13:22,120 Like, for example, at my own bachelorette 473 00:13:22,140 --> 00:13:23,933 party, I gave no expectations. 474 00:13:24,225 --> 00:13:25,619 I said, Hey, here's three cities 475 00:13:25,619 --> 00:13:26,709 I would maybe want to go to 476 00:13:26,896 --> 00:13:28,226 for maybe like a long weekend. 477 00:13:28,453 --> 00:13:30,266 I told all of my bridesmaids, 478 00:13:30,266 --> 00:13:31,469 including my maid of honor. 479 00:13:31,579 --> 00:13:32,746 I said, don't feel like you 480 00:13:32,746 --> 00:13:34,296 have to come, please, please. 481 00:13:34,296 --> 00:13:36,256 There's no pressure to attend anything. 482 00:13:36,625 --> 00:13:38,008 my bridesmaids did not 483 00:13:38,008 --> 00:13:39,128 come and that was fine. 484 00:13:39,347 --> 00:13:39,935 It happens. 485 00:13:39,965 --> 00:13:40,595 It's okay. 486 00:13:40,828 --> 00:13:42,498 one ended up coming to my town and 487 00:13:42,498 --> 00:13:43,348 we just went out to dinner and we 488 00:13:43,348 --> 00:13:44,828 had like a nice day, the two of us. 489 00:13:45,083 --> 00:13:45,792 I didn't expect it. 490 00:13:45,792 --> 00:13:46,122 It was fine. 491 00:13:46,308 --> 00:13:48,937 Okay, so if telling your friend that 492 00:13:48,937 --> 00:13:51,657 ruins your friendship, then she wasn't 493 00:13:51,657 --> 00:13:54,552 a friend to begin with next one our 494 00:13:54,552 --> 00:13:56,802 bridesmaid dresses came in and mine 495 00:13:56,802 --> 00:13:59,032 doesn't fit at all The boutique messed 496 00:13:59,032 --> 00:14:01,046 up my order and now the bride is 497 00:14:01,046 --> 00:14:03,436 telling me I need to pay for a new 498 00:14:03,466 --> 00:14:05,426 one Even though it wasn't my fault. 499 00:14:05,426 --> 00:14:06,056 What do I do? 500 00:14:06,297 --> 00:14:08,102 Okay, if it's in fact the boutique's 501 00:14:08,882 --> 00:14:10,474 fault Like, maybe they, ordered 502 00:14:10,474 --> 00:14:11,934 the wrong size, they messed up your 503 00:14:11,934 --> 00:14:14,581 sizing, they will order you a new one. 504 00:14:14,671 --> 00:14:15,931 I actually was a part of a wedding 505 00:14:15,931 --> 00:14:17,673 once where this happened to a friend 506 00:14:17,673 --> 00:14:19,736 of mine who was a bridesmaid as well. 507 00:14:19,786 --> 00:14:21,241 , they ordered her a size 2 bra. 508 00:14:21,511 --> 00:14:23,351 Big I want to say or I can't remember 509 00:14:23,351 --> 00:14:25,645 the too small or too big And she had 510 00:14:25,645 --> 00:14:27,035 to go back and get them resized and 511 00:14:27,035 --> 00:14:28,195 they were going to order another one 512 00:14:28,236 --> 00:14:30,033 It was a boutique and they did it what 513 00:14:30,033 --> 00:14:31,643 will happen with that is they'll just 514 00:14:31,653 --> 00:14:33,523 put that dress on the rack to sell 515 00:14:33,523 --> 00:14:35,907 at a discounted price I'm, no expert. 516 00:14:35,907 --> 00:14:38,157 I don't know 100 but no You 517 00:14:38,157 --> 00:14:39,217 shouldn't have to pay for a new 518 00:14:39,217 --> 00:14:40,787 one if the boutique messed it up. 519 00:14:40,787 --> 00:14:41,517 So I would call them. 520 00:14:41,763 --> 00:14:44,397 Okay, last one here is, uh, The bride just 521 00:14:44,397 --> 00:14:46,947 sent us a spreadsheet of wedding expenses 522 00:14:46,967 --> 00:14:49,127 and expects each bride to contribute 523 00:14:49,410 --> 00:14:53,176 400 towards her hair, dress, and makeup. 524 00:14:53,216 --> 00:14:54,436 I've never heard of this. 525 00:14:54,436 --> 00:14:56,186 Do people actually do this? 526 00:14:56,450 --> 00:14:58,086 Okay, the only time I heard this 527 00:14:58,086 --> 00:15:00,056 happening is another crazy bridesmaid 528 00:15:00,056 --> 00:15:02,942 story where she was taking money from 529 00:15:02,942 --> 00:15:05,362 them and using it towards her wedding. 530 00:15:05,622 --> 00:15:06,999 So, no, this is not normal. 531 00:15:07,186 --> 00:15:08,186 You should not be paying 532 00:15:08,406 --> 00:15:09,546 anything for the bride. 533 00:15:09,756 --> 00:15:10,719 If anything, the bride should be 534 00:15:10,719 --> 00:15:11,909 paying for your hair and makeup. 535 00:15:12,166 --> 00:15:13,741 So, we're gonna say no to that. 536 00:15:13,957 --> 00:15:16,074 And, again, if she says, well, then 537 00:15:16,074 --> 00:15:16,804 you can't be in the wedding, then 538 00:15:16,804 --> 00:15:18,274 you say, well, have a great day. 539 00:15:18,464 --> 00:15:19,824 I will look at the pictures later. 540 00:15:21,242 --> 00:15:23,344 Okay, segment number four. 541 00:15:23,404 --> 00:15:24,014 Here we go. 542 00:15:24,154 --> 00:15:25,174 Bridezilla court. 543 00:15:25,194 --> 00:15:26,084 You be the judge. 544 00:15:26,289 --> 00:15:27,924 I did some research and I 545 00:15:27,924 --> 00:15:29,474 found a crazy Reddit story. 546 00:15:29,679 --> 00:15:31,036 This kept coming up as 547 00:15:31,036 --> 00:15:32,902 like a very crazy one. 548 00:15:32,912 --> 00:15:33,882 So here we go. 549 00:15:33,902 --> 00:15:34,732 I have not read the whole 550 00:15:34,732 --> 00:15:36,336 thing Let's react you be the 551 00:15:36,336 --> 00:15:37,936 judge who's in the wrong here. 552 00:15:38,359 --> 00:15:40,809 This bride has 16 girls to be 553 00:15:40,859 --> 00:15:43,023 bridesmaids in the year and a half 554 00:15:43,023 --> 00:15:44,503 between the engagement and the 555 00:15:44,503 --> 00:15:47,219 wedding all But six dropped out 556 00:15:47,386 --> 00:15:49,601 Three of them were her sisters. 557 00:15:49,839 --> 00:15:51,934 Wait, so three of the six that 558 00:15:51,934 --> 00:15:53,304 dropped out were her sisters? 559 00:15:53,324 --> 00:15:55,859 Okay, that's That's a bad sign. 560 00:15:56,003 --> 00:15:57,086 What's going on here? 561 00:15:57,276 --> 00:16:00,243 If she has 16 and 6 dropped out, I'm 562 00:16:00,243 --> 00:16:02,424 no math whiz, but that's like 40%. 563 00:16:02,661 --> 00:16:04,931 She insisted on 16 different 564 00:16:04,931 --> 00:16:07,601 shades of blue and 16 unique 565 00:16:07,631 --> 00:16:09,851 dress styles for each bridesmaid. 566 00:16:10,041 --> 00:16:11,674 Then threw a fit when the store 567 00:16:11,674 --> 00:16:13,034 didn't have that many options. 568 00:16:13,064 --> 00:16:14,617 Well, why don't you look first 569 00:16:14,627 --> 00:16:16,387 to see like, hey, does this store 570 00:16:16,397 --> 00:16:18,341 have, dress options and then we're 571 00:16:18,341 --> 00:16:19,811 gonna like bring the bridesmaids in. 572 00:16:19,994 --> 00:16:21,167 That's a lot of shades of blue. 573 00:16:21,337 --> 00:16:22,811 She'd probably want it to look 574 00:16:22,811 --> 00:16:24,298 like, dark to light and like 575 00:16:24,298 --> 00:16:25,588 they're perfectly lined up. 576 00:16:25,588 --> 00:16:26,871 Like that's like very I mean, 577 00:16:26,871 --> 00:16:27,901 that would look very beautiful. 578 00:16:28,118 --> 00:16:30,311 However, it's not really practical. 579 00:16:30,454 --> 00:16:30,814 I don't know. 580 00:16:31,001 --> 00:16:33,554 She demanded that everyone pay for 581 00:16:33,554 --> 00:16:36,334 a week long bachelorette party in 582 00:16:36,364 --> 00:16:39,414 Vegas, including covering her share. 583 00:16:39,618 --> 00:16:40,714 Okay, so here's the thing. 584 00:16:40,784 --> 00:16:41,944 I mentioned how all the 585 00:16:41,944 --> 00:16:43,044 bachelorette parties I've gone 586 00:16:43,044 --> 00:16:44,601 on, we cover for the bride. 587 00:16:44,611 --> 00:16:45,781 That's just what we do. 588 00:16:45,951 --> 00:16:47,844 And I've paid everywhere from 589 00:16:48,031 --> 00:16:49,228 a couple hundred dollars. 590 00:16:49,268 --> 00:16:50,248 Actually, probably the lowest was 591 00:16:50,248 --> 00:16:52,324 like a hundred dollars when I was 20. 592 00:16:52,531 --> 00:16:55,446 And all the way to probably like 593 00:16:55,446 --> 00:16:58,736 1, 500, 2, 000 for like a full like 594 00:16:58,736 --> 00:17:00,373 week long trip that we did one time. 595 00:17:00,591 --> 00:17:03,036 That being said, the bride never, 596 00:17:03,146 --> 00:17:05,209 never said, you have to do this. 597 00:17:05,428 --> 00:17:07,908 The bride even tried to pay for her part. 598 00:17:08,101 --> 00:17:09,251 she did not demand that 599 00:17:09,271 --> 00:17:10,351 everyone had to come. 600 00:17:10,545 --> 00:17:12,475 She did not demand it was a week long. 601 00:17:12,495 --> 00:17:13,885 Like we planned all this stuff 602 00:17:13,885 --> 00:17:14,965 and it's one of my best friends 603 00:17:14,965 --> 00:17:16,621 and all best friends went. 604 00:17:16,621 --> 00:17:17,741 So it was like a girl's trip. 605 00:17:18,047 --> 00:17:18,737 that is insane. 606 00:17:18,963 --> 00:17:20,880 She got angry when bridesmaids opted out. 607 00:17:21,143 --> 00:17:22,153 I was a single mom and 608 00:17:22,153 --> 00:17:23,223 college student at the time. 609 00:17:23,293 --> 00:17:25,623 Her parents gave her 20, 000 610 00:17:25,623 --> 00:17:27,060 budget for the wedding, but 611 00:17:27,060 --> 00:17:29,380 she ended up spending 100, 000. 612 00:17:29,587 --> 00:17:30,990 How do you spend 100, 000 613 00:17:30,990 --> 00:17:31,660 when you don't have it? 614 00:17:31,690 --> 00:17:32,260 I don't know. 615 00:17:32,450 --> 00:17:33,877 Also these days if she's planning 616 00:17:33,877 --> 00:17:35,547 a big fancy wedding, 20, 000 617 00:17:35,587 --> 00:17:37,437 unfortunately does not cover a lot. 618 00:17:37,610 --> 00:17:39,723 it's insane how expensive they are. 619 00:17:39,993 --> 00:17:41,857 She insisted they cover the difference. 620 00:17:41,857 --> 00:17:42,717 Okay, I don't know how this 621 00:17:42,860 --> 00:17:44,980 Parent adult relationship works. 622 00:17:45,182 --> 00:17:46,390 They took out a loan and 623 00:17:46,390 --> 00:17:47,190 they are still paying it off. 624 00:17:48,060 --> 00:17:49,530 Okay, what's with these loans? 625 00:17:49,540 --> 00:17:52,767 So she overspent for the wedding and her 626 00:17:52,787 --> 00:17:55,607 parents took out a loan to pay for it. 627 00:17:55,607 --> 00:17:56,957 See that is terrible. 628 00:17:56,967 --> 00:17:57,877 That's the keeping up the 629 00:17:57,877 --> 00:17:59,157 Joneses things that I hate. 630 00:17:59,353 --> 00:18:01,163 If you cannot afford it, Why are 631 00:18:01,163 --> 00:18:03,227 we having these crazy over the top 632 00:18:03,227 --> 00:18:04,537 weddings if you cannot afford it? 633 00:18:04,743 --> 00:18:06,528 At that point, it's more about the show. 634 00:18:06,568 --> 00:18:09,085 It's more about people's perception of 635 00:18:09,085 --> 00:18:11,865 you and less about the actual marriage. 636 00:18:12,050 --> 00:18:14,418 And I swear, like, so many of these end 637 00:18:14,428 --> 00:18:16,873 up in divorce, like, I know that's, very 638 00:18:16,873 --> 00:18:18,767 generalization, but like, because they 639 00:18:18,767 --> 00:18:21,067 don't focus on the actual, like, hey, 640 00:18:21,067 --> 00:18:22,531 we're stepping into marriage together. 641 00:18:22,723 --> 00:18:23,932 They're like, literally just 642 00:18:23,932 --> 00:18:26,072 making it about this big day. 643 00:18:26,276 --> 00:18:28,118 Like, yes, we want the day to be special 644 00:18:28,118 --> 00:18:30,088 and exciting, and yes, it's gonna be cost 645 00:18:30,088 --> 00:18:32,008 some money, but when you do all this, it's 646 00:18:32,008 --> 00:18:33,658 like, no, that just takes away from it. 647 00:18:33,927 --> 00:18:36,558 Okay, She wanted all the bridesmaids to 648 00:18:36,568 --> 00:18:39,598 have their hair color the same, and even 649 00:18:39,618 --> 00:18:42,098 asked the two blondes to dye their hair? 650 00:18:42,324 --> 00:18:42,992 They declined. 651 00:18:43,042 --> 00:18:44,462 Okay, the second I'm asked at 652 00:18:44,462 --> 00:18:45,452 my hair for a wedding, I'm out. 653 00:18:45,687 --> 00:18:47,108 Despite paying for nothing for 654 00:18:47,108 --> 00:18:48,925 the bridesmaids, traditionally the 655 00:18:48,925 --> 00:18:51,023 bride covers at least one expense, 656 00:18:51,023 --> 00:18:52,928 like dresses or hair and makeup. 657 00:18:53,099 --> 00:18:54,668 She demanded that we purchase 658 00:18:54,668 --> 00:18:57,368 specific shoes, jewelry, dresses, 659 00:18:57,418 --> 00:18:59,068 and cover our own hair and makeup. 660 00:18:59,305 --> 00:19:00,602 So this is the thing too, Like 661 00:19:00,602 --> 00:19:02,875 in my own wedding, I had a makeup 662 00:19:02,875 --> 00:19:04,705 artist and I had a hairstylist. 663 00:19:04,946 --> 00:19:05,742 I said, you guys want hair 664 00:19:05,742 --> 00:19:07,022 and makeup, let me know. 665 00:19:07,190 --> 00:19:08,192 It is not a requirement. 666 00:19:08,222 --> 00:19:09,042 I had some that did their 667 00:19:09,042 --> 00:19:09,882 own hair and makeup. 668 00:19:10,050 --> 00:19:11,452 I had some that just did their own hair. 669 00:19:11,462 --> 00:19:12,652 Some that just did their own makeup. 670 00:19:12,866 --> 00:19:14,319 Whatever they wanted was up to them. 671 00:19:14,359 --> 00:19:16,099 I would never demand something 672 00:19:16,109 --> 00:19:17,489 and then not pay for it myself. 673 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:18,725 Not pay for it for them. 674 00:19:19,189 --> 00:19:19,719 Okay. 675 00:19:19,903 --> 00:19:21,752 On top of that, she required everyone 676 00:19:21,752 --> 00:19:23,022 to stay the entire weekend at the 677 00:19:23,032 --> 00:19:24,472 hotel where she was getting married. 678 00:19:24,492 --> 00:19:25,862 I don't get this required thing. 679 00:19:25,862 --> 00:19:27,639 Like, how is she gonna, make you do that? 680 00:19:27,860 --> 00:19:29,786 In total, the cost excluding 681 00:19:29,796 --> 00:19:31,436 a wedding gift ended up being 682 00:19:31,436 --> 00:19:34,946 over 2, 000 per bridesmaid. 683 00:19:35,140 --> 00:19:36,429 That actually sounds low. 684 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:38,613 When I look at all the things that she 685 00:19:38,613 --> 00:19:40,763 asked for, if you're talking about a week 686 00:19:40,773 --> 00:19:43,016 in Vegas, that's gonna be 2, 000 itself. 687 00:19:43,177 --> 00:19:44,339 Talking about flight, you're talking about 688 00:19:44,339 --> 00:19:46,163 meals, you're talking about hotel, that 689 00:19:46,163 --> 00:19:48,426 alone is gonna be like 1, 500 or 2, 000. 690 00:19:48,593 --> 00:19:51,458 this was a largely poor to middle class 691 00:19:51,488 --> 00:19:53,418 area and most of us are college age. 692 00:19:53,598 --> 00:19:54,972 There is no way in college I 693 00:19:54,972 --> 00:19:55,802 would have been spending that. 694 00:19:56,156 --> 00:19:57,163 The bachelorette parties that I 695 00:19:57,366 --> 00:19:59,346 to in college were one night, we 696 00:19:59,346 --> 00:20:00,916 usually stayed at someone's house or 697 00:20:00,916 --> 00:20:03,086 a cheap hotel, and we went to bars. 698 00:20:03,319 --> 00:20:04,030 That's what we did. 699 00:20:04,220 --> 00:20:05,130 So I would maybe have 700 00:20:05,130 --> 00:20:06,983 spent a hundred dollars. 701 00:20:07,172 --> 00:20:09,008 Maybe two, depending on how crazy. 702 00:20:09,038 --> 00:20:09,798 There's no way I've been 703 00:20:09,798 --> 00:20:10,538 spending that in college. 704 00:20:10,731 --> 00:20:11,784 she also had three separate 705 00:20:11,784 --> 00:20:13,244 engagement parties and bridal showers. 706 00:20:13,264 --> 00:20:16,537 No, no, just, I don't even 707 00:20:16,537 --> 00:20:17,067 know what to say to that. 708 00:20:17,295 --> 00:20:18,991 The final straw for me was that she 709 00:20:18,991 --> 00:20:21,691 demanded to review my toast a month 710 00:20:21,691 --> 00:20:23,644 before the wedding so she could edit it. 711 00:20:23,947 --> 00:20:25,357 So I'm guessing this is a 712 00:20:25,367 --> 00:20:26,577 maid of honor that wrote this. 713 00:20:26,787 --> 00:20:28,553 Then she completely rewrote it herself. 714 00:20:29,464 --> 00:20:31,563 I don't even have anything to say to this 715 00:20:31,731 --> 00:20:33,970 bride, because this is just all terrible. 716 00:20:34,113 --> 00:20:34,953 this is so terrible. 717 00:20:35,174 --> 00:20:36,958 Okay, someone writing a toast or a 718 00:20:36,958 --> 00:20:38,368 speech for your wedding or engagement 719 00:20:38,368 --> 00:20:40,165 party or whatever event is supposed 720 00:20:40,165 --> 00:20:41,735 to be, like, comes from their heart. 721 00:20:41,895 --> 00:20:43,334 They do it to say words 722 00:20:43,334 --> 00:20:44,701 that, mean something to them. 723 00:20:44,944 --> 00:20:46,684 To, like, make you feel good on your day. 724 00:20:46,894 --> 00:20:47,664 If you rewrite it 725 00:20:47,664 --> 00:20:48,984 yourself, what's the point? 726 00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:50,130 literally, what's the point? 727 00:20:50,426 --> 00:20:51,476 Oh, here we go. 728 00:20:51,606 --> 00:20:53,166 At that point, I decided to 729 00:20:53,166 --> 00:20:54,786 skip the wedding altogether 730 00:20:54,826 --> 00:20:56,116 and ended our friendship. 731 00:20:56,356 --> 00:20:58,044 So, that was the straw that 732 00:20:58,044 --> 00:20:59,123 broke the camel's back. 733 00:20:59,330 --> 00:21:01,050 they did end up getting married, 734 00:21:01,090 --> 00:21:03,980 and six plus years later, he 735 00:21:03,980 --> 00:21:05,350 seems absolutely miserable. 736 00:21:05,360 --> 00:21:07,050 So we're looking from afar, it sounds 737 00:21:07,050 --> 00:21:08,580 like they're not friends anymore. 738 00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:10,030 He looks miserable, so 739 00:21:10,129 --> 00:21:11,215 they spent all this money. 740 00:21:11,402 --> 00:21:13,935 so, I'm wondering if she's one 741 00:21:13,935 --> 00:21:15,405 of the six that dropped out. 742 00:21:15,609 --> 00:21:17,969 I, gosh, I have so many questions, but 743 00:21:17,969 --> 00:21:19,945 I'm also like, This girl sounds terrible. 744 00:21:20,172 --> 00:21:22,922 It makes me wonder, like, if they had a 745 00:21:22,922 --> 00:21:25,032 feeling, gut feeling that this bride was 746 00:21:25,032 --> 00:21:26,639 gonna act this way, or if it was one of 747 00:21:26,639 --> 00:21:27,869 those where as soon as she got engaged, 748 00:21:27,889 --> 00:21:29,729 like, a bridezilla just turned on. 749 00:21:29,972 --> 00:21:32,205 I've never experienced this first hand. 750 00:21:32,395 --> 00:21:33,125 All the times I've been a 751 00:21:33,135 --> 00:21:36,055 bridesmaid, I've never, never seen 752 00:21:36,115 --> 00:21:38,489 any of the brides act in this way. 753 00:21:38,702 --> 00:21:39,652 They'd all been friends I'd 754 00:21:39,652 --> 00:21:40,982 been friends with for a while. 755 00:21:41,159 --> 00:21:42,259 Some of the engagements were 756 00:21:42,259 --> 00:21:44,009 long, some were really short. 757 00:21:44,185 --> 00:21:45,475 They were all different, but. 758 00:21:45,745 --> 00:21:47,242 I had never seen bridesmaid 759 00:21:47,242 --> 00:21:48,082 behavior like this. 760 00:21:48,112 --> 00:21:49,902 This is insane. 761 00:21:50,309 --> 00:21:51,589 Yeah, I would have been long gone. 762 00:21:51,789 --> 00:21:52,499 I don't know about you guys. 763 00:21:52,879 --> 00:21:54,852 Alright, segment number five. 764 00:21:54,852 --> 00:21:56,782 Here comes the roast. 765 00:21:56,945 --> 00:21:58,789 These are some savage wedding takes. 766 00:21:58,819 --> 00:21:59,669 I don't know how savage 767 00:21:59,669 --> 00:22:00,845 I'll get, but we'll see. 768 00:22:01,105 --> 00:22:02,392 Alright, here's my opinion. 769 00:22:02,595 --> 00:22:04,382 First things first, asking people to be in 770 00:22:04,382 --> 00:22:05,872 your wedding just because they're family. 771 00:22:05,912 --> 00:22:07,312 Oh, I think I talked about this earlier, 772 00:22:07,312 --> 00:22:09,297 but No, if you're not super close 773 00:22:09,297 --> 00:22:10,724 with someone or you just don't want 774 00:22:10,724 --> 00:22:11,904 them in your wedding You do not have 775 00:22:11,904 --> 00:22:14,067 to ask them because here's the thing. 776 00:22:14,077 --> 00:22:15,667 I hear so many stories where the parents 777 00:22:15,677 --> 00:22:18,320 pressure Siblings to ask, you know, the 778 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:20,880 other sibling to be in the wedding maid 779 00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:23,797 of honor, best man And they purposely 780 00:22:23,797 --> 00:22:25,617 don't ask them because they don't have 781 00:22:25,617 --> 00:22:27,430 that relationship they can't trust 782 00:22:27,430 --> 00:22:29,358 them with certain responsibilities and 783 00:22:29,358 --> 00:22:31,058 then when they give in and they have 784 00:22:31,058 --> 00:22:33,501 them in They are so let down because 785 00:22:33,501 --> 00:22:35,027 they're not giving the speech, they're 786 00:22:35,027 --> 00:22:36,897 forgetting the rings, they're forgetting 787 00:22:36,897 --> 00:22:38,287 their dress, they're not eyeing on the 788 00:22:38,287 --> 00:22:40,587 dress, and I've seen it all before. 789 00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:44,730 I saw one recently where she I was 790 00:22:44,740 --> 00:22:45,940 asked to have her sister in the 791 00:22:45,940 --> 00:22:48,017 wedding, her younger sister, who 792 00:22:48,017 --> 00:22:50,267 had little to no responsibilities. 793 00:22:50,290 --> 00:22:53,760 The sister just complained the whole time. 794 00:22:53,937 --> 00:22:55,401 Showed up with like a wrinkly 795 00:22:55,401 --> 00:22:57,391 dress, couldn't even iron the dress. 796 00:22:57,607 --> 00:22:58,834 And it's just, you gotta 797 00:22:58,834 --> 00:22:59,774 listen to your gut. 798 00:22:59,987 --> 00:23:01,237 I don't think you should have someone in 799 00:23:01,237 --> 00:23:02,737 the wedding just because they're family. 800 00:23:02,738 --> 00:23:03,199 Okay. 801 00:23:03,199 --> 00:23:03,864 This next one. 802 00:23:03,894 --> 00:23:04,854 Ooh, okay. 803 00:23:05,033 --> 00:23:06,908 If you have 10 plus bridesmaids, 804 00:23:06,938 --> 00:23:08,758 you just wanted an audience. 805 00:23:08,758 --> 00:23:09,829 I disagree with this. 806 00:23:09,859 --> 00:23:10,979 I disagree with this. 807 00:23:11,009 --> 00:23:12,599 I'm sure it happens sometimes 808 00:23:12,599 --> 00:23:13,569 where you just ask people 809 00:23:13,569 --> 00:23:14,599 just to have a big wedding. 810 00:23:14,819 --> 00:23:16,626 But I've been in weddings where there 811 00:23:16,626 --> 00:23:18,576 were 12 bridesmaids and let me tell 812 00:23:18,576 --> 00:23:20,626 you the bride had a really close and 813 00:23:20,636 --> 00:23:22,326 great relationship with each person. 814 00:23:22,573 --> 00:23:24,773 It was a big Italian wedding for a couple. 815 00:23:24,783 --> 00:23:25,353 I'm trying to think 816 00:23:25,353 --> 00:23:26,353 actually there's been a few. 817 00:23:26,536 --> 00:23:27,973 Yeah, there was one with ten, 818 00:23:27,973 --> 00:23:29,423 one with eleven, one with twelve. 819 00:23:29,669 --> 00:23:31,526 I had nine bridesmaids, I know. 820 00:23:31,696 --> 00:23:32,496 but there's some different 821 00:23:32,496 --> 00:23:33,536 like points in my life. 822 00:23:33,536 --> 00:23:34,665 So we're talking about college 823 00:23:34,665 --> 00:23:36,585 friends, we're talking about cousins, 824 00:23:36,585 --> 00:23:38,898 siblings, high school friends. 825 00:23:39,202 --> 00:23:41,400 Post high school friends, and then like 826 00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:43,887 I have two sister in laws, so you have to 827 00:23:43,887 --> 00:23:45,377 think about just what makes sense for you. 828 00:23:45,519 --> 00:23:46,587 I've also been in weddings where 829 00:23:46,587 --> 00:23:47,807 there were just three bridesmaids, 830 00:23:47,857 --> 00:23:48,977 and that was awesome too. 831 00:23:49,182 --> 00:23:50,274 I've been to weddings where there's 832 00:23:50,274 --> 00:23:52,534 no bridesmaids, so That's such a 833 00:23:52,534 --> 00:23:54,560 general statement that I have to 834 00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:56,260 disagree with it because I've seen it 835 00:23:56,260 --> 00:23:58,040 firsthand where, like, one of my best 836 00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:02,005 friends, she had, ten, where it was 837 00:24:02,233 --> 00:24:04,455 sister, cousin, four from college, 838 00:24:04,675 --> 00:24:06,382 four from high school, and then a 839 00:24:06,382 --> 00:24:07,712 couple, and then, like, another friend. 840 00:24:07,958 --> 00:24:08,962 I think I'm adding that up right. 841 00:24:09,233 --> 00:24:10,783 yeah, so you just don't really know. 842 00:24:11,227 --> 00:24:12,286 Okay, next one. 843 00:24:12,316 --> 00:24:13,386 Bridesmaids shouldn't be 844 00:24:13,386 --> 00:24:14,776 expected to get full glam. 845 00:24:14,986 --> 00:24:16,546 Yeah, I 100 percent agree with that. 846 00:24:16,787 --> 00:24:18,669 I think, if you expect them to 847 00:24:18,669 --> 00:24:20,382 have you better be paying for it. 848 00:24:20,557 --> 00:24:21,402 If not, no. 849 00:24:21,664 --> 00:24:23,140 but me personally, have them do 850 00:24:23,140 --> 00:24:24,794 what is comfortable for them. 851 00:24:24,824 --> 00:24:25,594 Because if they're not used to 852 00:24:25,594 --> 00:24:26,574 wearing makeup, why make them 853 00:24:26,574 --> 00:24:28,110 wear makeup on your wedding day? 854 00:24:28,110 --> 00:24:28,980 last one. 855 00:24:29,030 --> 00:24:30,090 The maid of honor role 856 00:24:30,090 --> 00:24:31,460 should come with a salary. 857 00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:32,530 Oh my god, it's hilarious. 858 00:24:32,779 --> 00:24:34,886 no, I I mean, it's funny because like. 859 00:24:34,904 --> 00:24:35,920 The first time I was ever in a 860 00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:37,150 wedding, I was a maid of honor, 861 00:24:37,337 --> 00:24:39,010 so I was 20, for my sister. 862 00:24:39,224 --> 00:24:40,130 And the last time I was in a 863 00:24:40,130 --> 00:24:41,690 wedding, I was a matron of honor, 864 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:44,230 and I was 6 or 7 months pregnant. 865 00:24:44,575 --> 00:24:45,975 it was completely different, and I'm also 866 00:24:45,975 --> 00:24:48,665 like, early 30s compared to years old. 867 00:24:48,875 --> 00:24:50,778 So my expectations were different, 868 00:24:51,001 --> 00:24:52,681 the role was different, how much 869 00:24:52,681 --> 00:24:54,361 money I spent was different, right? 870 00:24:54,581 --> 00:24:55,895 But, I don't think either of those 871 00:24:55,905 --> 00:24:58,231 times were the times I spent the 872 00:24:58,231 --> 00:24:59,961 most or did the most for the wedding. 873 00:25:00,198 --> 00:25:00,901 Just because it was different 874 00:25:00,911 --> 00:25:01,871 times in our lives, right? 875 00:25:02,045 --> 00:25:04,535 So I think you can be as involved as 876 00:25:04,535 --> 00:25:06,725 you want to be, and it just depends 877 00:25:06,745 --> 00:25:08,508 on the, bride you're working with. 878 00:25:08,771 --> 00:25:09,931 but I get it. 879 00:25:09,931 --> 00:25:10,481 I get it. 880 00:25:10,675 --> 00:25:11,785 I think there needs to be clear 881 00:25:11,785 --> 00:25:13,655 transparency of what you're expected 882 00:25:13,655 --> 00:25:16,381 of, and then if you cannot perform 883 00:25:16,381 --> 00:25:18,275 what they want, then we gotta say no. 884 00:25:18,545 --> 00:25:18,868 Okay. 885 00:25:19,078 --> 00:25:21,358 Segment number six, the final 886 00:25:21,524 --> 00:25:22,444 segment, which I think you 887 00:25:22,444 --> 00:25:23,754 guys are all waiting for. 888 00:25:23,764 --> 00:25:25,504 You guys love these stories, and I love 889 00:25:25,504 --> 00:25:27,254 them too because it's so fun to react. 890 00:25:27,452 --> 00:25:28,222 live with you guys. 891 00:25:28,666 --> 00:25:28,986 okay. 892 00:25:28,986 --> 00:25:31,116 So this is a final confession 893 00:25:31,156 --> 00:25:32,556 crazy wedding story. 894 00:25:32,737 --> 00:25:34,092 This was a story submission 895 00:25:34,294 --> 00:25:36,371 Someone sent to me It's doozy here. 896 00:25:36,411 --> 00:25:36,861 Okay. 897 00:25:36,981 --> 00:25:37,691 I've not read it. 898 00:25:37,691 --> 00:25:39,658 So let's react together I had a 899 00:25:39,658 --> 00:25:42,008 really good friend Lauren names have 900 00:25:42,008 --> 00:25:44,006 been changed who I asked to be my 901 00:25:44,006 --> 00:25:45,539 bridesmaid And I thought it'd be 902 00:25:45,539 --> 00:25:47,629 great since we got along so well. 903 00:25:47,808 --> 00:25:49,729 I struggled to pick a dress color for 904 00:25:49,729 --> 00:25:51,911 my bridesmaids because they all had 905 00:25:51,911 --> 00:25:53,971 different complexions and hair colors. 906 00:25:54,311 --> 00:25:56,624 Two girls were pale with blonde hair, 907 00:25:56,818 --> 00:25:58,957 one was tan with blonde hair, one was 908 00:25:58,977 --> 00:26:01,217 pale with red hair, one was Hispanic 909 00:26:01,217 --> 00:26:03,221 with darker hair, and black hair. 910 00:26:03,601 --> 00:26:04,661 I finally settled on a 911 00:26:04,661 --> 00:26:06,181 pale mustard yellow dress. 912 00:26:06,581 --> 00:26:08,361 With small floral details 913 00:26:08,574 --> 00:26:09,827 that I really liked. 914 00:26:10,028 --> 00:26:11,557 Since I knew not everyone 915 00:26:11,557 --> 00:26:12,817 would love my choice. 916 00:26:12,917 --> 00:26:14,147 I bought the dresses for 917 00:26:14,147 --> 00:26:15,857 my bridesmaids as a gift. 918 00:26:16,091 --> 00:26:16,424 yeah. 919 00:26:16,424 --> 00:26:16,754 Okay. 920 00:26:16,754 --> 00:26:17,474 I think that's fine. 921 00:26:17,701 --> 00:26:18,088 However. 922 00:26:18,537 --> 00:26:20,563 As soon as Lauren saw a picture 923 00:26:20,573 --> 00:26:23,223 of this dress, she threw a fit. 924 00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,513 I can't imagine throwing a fit when 925 00:26:25,513 --> 00:26:27,907 you are a bridesmaid in a wedding for 926 00:26:27,907 --> 00:26:30,357 someone else, and they buy you the dress. 927 00:26:30,618 --> 00:26:31,567 I'm just like, you know what, 928 00:26:31,567 --> 00:26:33,007 girl, it's your style, whatever. 929 00:26:33,231 --> 00:26:34,443 Yeah, maybe later I'll be like, okay, it 930 00:26:34,443 --> 00:26:36,383 wasn't the best fit for me, but whatever. 931 00:26:36,577 --> 00:26:37,597 she said I was trying to 932 00:26:37,597 --> 00:26:38,767 make her look hideous. 933 00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:40,870 I tried to ignore her complaints 934 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:42,560 since I had already bought the dress 935 00:26:42,753 --> 00:26:43,803 and all she had to do was pick it 936 00:26:43,803 --> 00:26:44,963 up from my house before the wedding. 937 00:26:44,963 --> 00:26:47,360 So I'm wondering how this all worked. 938 00:26:47,513 --> 00:26:49,620 Did they send you their measurements or 939 00:26:49,620 --> 00:26:50,940 did they go somewhere and get measured and 940 00:26:50,940 --> 00:26:52,260 you're like, surprise, here's the dress. 941 00:26:52,483 --> 00:26:53,766 I'm one, like I said earlier, 942 00:26:53,796 --> 00:26:55,436 I'm one for her individuality. 943 00:26:55,637 --> 00:26:57,046 Let's let them pick their own, 944 00:26:57,150 --> 00:26:58,710 style for their body type. 945 00:26:58,930 --> 00:27:00,902 And hard like finding a color that 946 00:27:00,972 --> 00:27:02,892 everyone likes and is gonna look good in. 947 00:27:03,092 --> 00:27:04,002 Mustard yellow. 948 00:27:04,162 --> 00:27:05,321 that's a different color. 949 00:27:05,451 --> 00:27:07,231 I've, can't say I've ever seen it as 950 00:27:07,231 --> 00:27:09,161 a bridesmaid dress, like personally. 951 00:27:09,364 --> 00:27:10,541 so I get it, but hey. 952 00:27:10,856 --> 00:27:12,139 Again, if one of my best friends were 953 00:27:12,139 --> 00:27:13,449 like, Hey, this is the dress I want 954 00:27:13,449 --> 00:27:14,799 you to wear, I'd be like, let's do it. 955 00:27:15,007 --> 00:27:16,547 since I got married in 2020, there 956 00:27:16,547 --> 00:27:18,097 were all kinds of lockdowns and 957 00:27:18,097 --> 00:27:20,003 restrictions, and the number of people 958 00:27:20,003 --> 00:27:21,633 allowed to gather kept changing. 959 00:27:21,846 --> 00:27:23,896 The general consensus was that 960 00:27:23,896 --> 00:27:25,796 groups of fewer than 10 people were 961 00:27:25,796 --> 00:27:27,916 okay as long as no one felt sick. 962 00:27:28,093 --> 00:27:30,146 So my bridal shower was really 963 00:27:30,146 --> 00:27:31,616 just my bridesmaids and me 964 00:27:31,616 --> 00:27:33,899 prepping decorations and finishing 965 00:27:33,899 --> 00:27:35,399 last minute wedding projects. 966 00:27:35,641 --> 00:27:38,206 Side note, we had a very small, 967 00:27:38,346 --> 00:27:39,886 socially distanced ceremony 968 00:27:40,074 --> 00:27:41,793 followed by a drive thru reception. 969 00:27:41,793 --> 00:27:43,723 So it was completely safe, but I 970 00:27:43,723 --> 00:27:45,053 still had decorations to worry about. 971 00:27:45,333 --> 00:27:46,346 Okay, interesting. 972 00:27:46,613 --> 00:27:47,802 all my bridesmaids came 973 00:27:47,802 --> 00:27:49,212 over except Lauren. 974 00:27:49,436 --> 00:27:51,019 I assumed she was just running late, 975 00:27:51,183 --> 00:27:52,845 but as time passed, the rest of us 976 00:27:52,845 --> 00:27:54,355 got caught up in conversations and 977 00:27:54,355 --> 00:27:56,205 before I knew it, three hours had 978 00:27:56,205 --> 00:27:58,085 gone by and she still hadn't shown up. 979 00:27:58,350 --> 00:27:59,979 Okay, how do you, just completely 980 00:28:00,105 --> 00:28:01,275 forget about a bridesmaid? 981 00:28:01,526 --> 00:28:03,428 That's crazy, but I mean, get like 982 00:28:03,428 --> 00:28:04,671 you're just talking other people, but 983 00:28:04,671 --> 00:28:06,211 I feel like things were already rocky 984 00:28:06,211 --> 00:28:07,851 before if you weren't noticing her 985 00:28:07,851 --> 00:28:09,641 there or kind of just slipped your mind. 986 00:28:09,847 --> 00:28:11,118 She's not very important. 987 00:28:11,377 --> 00:28:11,698 I don't know. 988 00:28:11,698 --> 00:28:13,098 I hate to like throw that out 989 00:28:13,098 --> 00:28:14,475 there, but that's the vibe I'm 990 00:28:14,475 --> 00:28:16,355 getting, she still hadn't shown up. 991 00:28:16,355 --> 00:28:17,775 I called her freaking out because I 992 00:28:17,795 --> 00:28:19,105 thought she'd been in a car accident 993 00:28:19,145 --> 00:28:20,445 or something terrible had happened. 994 00:28:20,647 --> 00:28:21,555 She didn't answer and I 995 00:28:21,555 --> 00:28:22,585 was genuinely worried. 996 00:28:22,783 --> 00:28:25,675 Then, 30 minutes later, she pulled 997 00:28:25,715 --> 00:28:29,608 up to my house in a brand new car. 998 00:28:29,608 --> 00:28:29,928 What? 999 00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:33,145 Apparently, she had decided on a whim to 1000 00:28:33,145 --> 00:28:35,858 buy a car that afternoon and didn't bother 1001 00:28:35,858 --> 00:28:37,778 to let me know that she was running late. 1002 00:28:37,970 --> 00:28:39,845 At that point, I was frustrated, but 1003 00:28:39,845 --> 00:28:41,911 my wedding was the next day, so I 1004 00:28:41,931 --> 00:28:43,851 just handed her the bridesmaid dress 1005 00:28:43,891 --> 00:28:45,621 and told her I'd see her tomorrow. 1006 00:28:45,906 --> 00:28:47,496 Yikes, okay. 1007 00:28:47,743 --> 00:28:50,143 so this is the shower, quote unquote, that 1008 00:28:50,153 --> 00:28:51,943 happened the night before the wedding. 1009 00:28:52,173 --> 00:28:53,580 This bridesmaid was already mad 1010 00:28:53,580 --> 00:28:54,950 about the dress color, saying 1011 00:28:54,950 --> 00:28:56,460 it's, she wants her to look bad. 1012 00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:57,793 It sounds like things weren't 1013 00:28:57,793 --> 00:28:59,363 really worked out beforehand. 1014 00:28:59,563 --> 00:29:01,700 She's not showing up to this, thing, 1015 00:29:01,908 --> 00:29:03,756 but then the wedding is the next day. 1016 00:29:04,110 --> 00:29:06,000 I, I don't have hopes for her. 1017 00:29:06,221 --> 00:29:07,336 Okay, here we go. 1018 00:29:07,386 --> 00:29:07,936 I was right. 1019 00:29:08,105 --> 00:29:09,103 Well, she didn't show up 1020 00:29:09,103 --> 00:29:09,983 to the wedding at all. 1021 00:29:10,185 --> 00:29:12,751 It turned out her parents were offended 1022 00:29:12,944 --> 00:29:15,041 that I hadn't invited them to the ceremony 1023 00:29:15,244 --> 00:29:16,901 and didn't want her to go without them. 1024 00:29:16,901 --> 00:29:17,817 What?! 1025 00:29:17,817 --> 00:29:19,348 Okay, I don't know their relationship, 1026 00:29:19,358 --> 00:29:20,758 but I can't imagine any of my 1027 00:29:20,758 --> 00:29:22,668 friend's parents being so mad. 1028 00:29:22,847 --> 00:29:24,891 Like, I invited my friend's parents, yes. 1029 00:29:25,091 --> 00:29:26,731 But I also didn't get married 1030 00:29:26,731 --> 00:29:28,691 in the height of 2020, right? 1031 00:29:28,908 --> 00:29:30,146 and I get, cutting back on 1032 00:29:30,146 --> 00:29:31,576 your guest list, but I can't 1033 00:29:31,596 --> 00:29:33,096 imagine them being so mad. 1034 00:29:33,096 --> 00:29:33,826 They'd be like, you know what? 1035 00:29:33,846 --> 00:29:34,886 You can't go without me. 1036 00:29:34,896 --> 00:29:35,926 She's a bridesmaid! 1037 00:29:36,162 --> 00:29:37,393 She had a commitment. 1038 00:29:37,610 --> 00:29:39,040 I know her parents and I would have 1039 00:29:39,050 --> 00:29:41,501 loved to invite them, distancing 1040 00:29:41,501 --> 00:29:43,201 rules still in place, we had to 1041 00:29:43,201 --> 00:29:44,621 keep the guest list very small. 1042 00:29:44,836 --> 00:29:46,065 Only immediate family 1043 00:29:46,065 --> 00:29:47,005 and the bridal party. 1044 00:29:47,035 --> 00:29:48,405 So she did what she had to do. 1045 00:29:48,610 --> 00:29:50,271 Between her parents being upset 1046 00:29:50,291 --> 00:29:51,451 and her hatred of the bridesmaid 1047 00:29:51,471 --> 00:29:53,075 dress, she decided not to come 1048 00:29:53,075 --> 00:29:54,515 to the wedding or reception. 1049 00:29:54,743 --> 00:29:55,795 Here's my guess. 1050 00:29:56,003 --> 00:29:58,085 The bridesmaid hated the dress. 1051 00:29:58,333 --> 00:29:59,596 Complained to her parents. 1052 00:29:59,636 --> 00:30:01,036 Said, I don't want to go to this wedding. 1053 00:30:01,046 --> 00:30:02,136 This is going to be terrible. 1054 00:30:02,340 --> 00:30:03,800 Found the least opportune 1055 00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:05,560 time to buy this car. 1056 00:30:05,726 --> 00:30:07,530 Made sure it took a little bit longer. 1057 00:30:07,723 --> 00:30:10,163 Just in spite of the bride picking this, 1058 00:30:10,303 --> 00:30:13,053 quote unquote, ugly mustard yellow dress. 1059 00:30:13,230 --> 00:30:15,903 Then, when she, the parents had to have 1060 00:30:15,903 --> 00:30:17,843 known a while back they weren't invited. 1061 00:30:17,843 --> 00:30:18,983 So she keeps bringing this up and 1062 00:30:18,983 --> 00:30:20,153 then she's probably like, wait. 1063 00:30:20,346 --> 00:30:21,686 You know, it's really weird you guys 1064 00:30:21,686 --> 00:30:22,796 weren't invited to this wedding. 1065 00:30:22,796 --> 00:30:23,506 I think she doesn't like 1066 00:30:23,506 --> 00:30:24,406 you guys or something. 1067 00:30:24,675 --> 00:30:25,485 So then the parents are 1068 00:30:25,485 --> 00:30:26,275 like, you know what? 1069 00:30:26,470 --> 00:30:27,525 I don't think you should go. 1070 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:28,945 This doesn't sound like a good friend. 1071 00:30:29,156 --> 00:30:29,825 Because you know what 1072 00:30:29,825 --> 00:30:30,475 that's what people do. 1073 00:30:30,505 --> 00:30:32,025 They turn the story to make themselves 1074 00:30:32,025 --> 00:30:33,965 sound like the hero of the story and 1075 00:30:33,965 --> 00:30:35,285 the other person the villain, right? 1076 00:30:35,460 --> 00:30:37,265 So this bridesmaid is going 1077 00:30:37,265 --> 00:30:38,335 to be telling her parents. 1078 00:30:38,345 --> 00:30:39,925 This is a bridezilla over here. 1079 00:30:40,053 --> 00:30:41,551 She got me this ugly dress. 1080 00:30:41,746 --> 00:30:42,608 You weren't invited. 1081 00:30:42,618 --> 00:30:44,048 She hates you guys, you know? 1082 00:30:44,271 --> 00:30:46,155 So yeah, that's what I'm guessing. 1083 00:30:46,365 --> 00:30:47,738 I've seen her a few times since 1084 00:30:47,738 --> 00:30:49,388 then and we're still friends. 1085 00:30:49,661 --> 00:30:52,018 Okay, alright, I'm sure. 1086 00:30:52,235 --> 00:30:53,635 I still had an amazing wedding 1087 00:30:53,635 --> 00:30:55,158 day, but I really wish she would 1088 00:30:55,158 --> 00:30:56,318 have been there when I got married. 1089 00:30:56,525 --> 00:30:58,871 And I definitely wish I hadn't spent money 1090 00:30:58,891 --> 00:31:01,051 on a bridesmaid dress she probably donated 1091 00:31:01,071 --> 00:31:04,199 to Goodwill without ever wearing, lol. 1092 00:31:04,395 --> 00:31:06,169 Yeah, so that's the thing with 1093 00:31:06,169 --> 00:31:08,224 bridesmaids, it's like, You want 1094 00:31:08,224 --> 00:31:09,984 to include them as much as possible 1095 00:31:09,984 --> 00:31:12,274 to keep them kind of like a part of 1096 00:31:12,274 --> 00:31:13,854 it and have their own personality. 1097 00:31:13,854 --> 00:31:15,164 That's my own personal take, 1098 00:31:15,319 --> 00:31:16,334 but it's a really kind gesture 1099 00:31:16,334 --> 00:31:17,254 to buy all the dresses. 1100 00:31:17,254 --> 00:31:17,594 So. 1101 00:31:17,849 --> 00:31:19,082 There's like this happy medium of 1102 00:31:19,092 --> 00:31:21,222 like you don't want to give them so 1103 00:31:21,222 --> 00:31:23,079 much Space where it's like we're just 1104 00:31:23,079 --> 00:31:24,199 standing around trying to figure out 1105 00:31:24,199 --> 00:31:26,002 the best dress because I've been there 1106 00:31:26,242 --> 00:31:27,452 I've been bridesmaid dress shopping 1107 00:31:27,452 --> 00:31:29,315 where you're literally at the shop for 1108 00:31:29,315 --> 00:31:31,389 like five hours everyone has a different 1109 00:31:31,389 --> 00:31:33,009 opinion everyone's different color 1110 00:31:33,009 --> 00:31:35,844 different style no one's happy by the 1111 00:31:35,844 --> 00:31:37,512 end because it's like you're tired, 1112 00:31:37,522 --> 00:31:38,922 you're hungry, you've been trying on 1113 00:31:38,932 --> 00:31:41,419 the same eight dresses, so the bride 1114 00:31:41,419 --> 00:31:43,219 needs to have an idea of what she likes 1115 00:31:43,229 --> 00:31:44,719 and then kind of throw it out there. 1116 00:31:44,898 --> 00:31:46,959 But again, I'm that bridesmaid where if 1117 00:31:46,969 --> 00:31:49,386 you give me a dress and I, unless it's 1118 00:31:49,386 --> 00:31:52,029 like completely revealing, I'll wear it. 1119 00:31:52,246 --> 00:31:53,282 You give me a dress, I'll wear it. 1120 00:31:53,752 --> 00:31:54,792 Like I'll make it work. 1121 00:31:55,060 --> 00:31:56,572 Okay, that's a crazy story. 1122 00:31:56,796 --> 00:31:59,124 It's funny because I when I was first 1123 00:31:59,124 --> 00:32:00,354 kind of thinking about this episode 1124 00:32:00,354 --> 00:32:01,694 and how I wanted to do these kind of 1125 00:32:01,694 --> 00:32:03,334 patreon episodes I was talking about 1126 00:32:03,334 --> 00:32:05,001 bridesmaids The first thing that came to 1127 00:32:05,001 --> 00:32:07,111 mind is obviously the movie bridesmaids 1128 00:32:07,141 --> 00:32:09,741 cuz that's like an iconic movie, right? 1129 00:32:09,948 --> 00:32:11,647 just think about all of those scenes. 1130 00:32:11,647 --> 00:32:12,537 We're talking about trying 1131 00:32:12,537 --> 00:32:13,537 on bridesmaid dresses. 1132 00:32:13,537 --> 00:32:15,797 I mean think of that scene Everyone has 1133 00:32:15,797 --> 00:32:17,884 different price ranges different body 1134 00:32:17,884 --> 00:32:20,187 types different styles that appeal to them 1135 00:32:20,991 --> 00:32:22,469 that's a scene that keeps popping in my 1136 00:32:22,469 --> 00:32:24,399 mind, like, it's hard to please everybody. 1137 00:32:24,599 --> 00:32:25,809 Talking about all this makes me want to 1138 00:32:25,819 --> 00:32:27,039 watch Bridesmaids because it's like the 1139 00:32:27,039 --> 00:32:28,899 most iconic movie I can think of when it 1140 00:32:28,899 --> 00:32:31,056 comes to the challenges between different 1141 00:32:31,056 --> 00:32:34,269 personalities and people Competing for top 1142 00:32:34,279 --> 00:32:37,078 place as a bridesmaid made of honor was 1143 00:32:37,078 --> 00:32:38,488 gonna do like a deep dive in the movie. 1144 00:32:38,488 --> 00:32:40,088 I was like everybody's seen that movie 1145 00:32:40,108 --> 00:32:41,868 So I'll just reference it as much as 1146 00:32:41,868 --> 00:32:44,215 possible But yeah, I don't know it's 1147 00:32:44,215 --> 00:32:48,290 crazy Alright guys, well, that was a crazy 1148 00:32:48,290 --> 00:32:50,863 first episode, I hope you guys enjoyed me 1149 00:32:50,903 --> 00:32:53,556 blabbing about these crazy confessions, 1150 00:32:53,752 --> 00:32:55,629 crazy bridesmaid stories, and the reddit 1151 00:32:55,649 --> 00:32:57,779 one that, like, is honestly insane. 1152 00:32:57,799 --> 00:32:59,121 The stories, I get sent 1153 00:32:59,141 --> 00:33:00,629 are just Over the top. 1154 00:33:00,819 --> 00:33:02,411 so yeah, thank you guys 1155 00:33:02,441 --> 00:33:03,391 for hanging out with me. 1156 00:33:03,587 --> 00:33:04,811 If you made it to the end, consider 1157 00:33:04,811 --> 00:33:06,931 yourself officially initiated into 1158 00:33:06,931 --> 00:33:08,941 my wedding party inner circle, the 1159 00:33:08,941 --> 00:33:11,168 VIP crew that gets all the juiciest 1160 00:33:11,188 --> 00:33:12,718 drama before everybody else. 1161 00:33:12,937 --> 00:33:14,331 But don't go anywhere just yet 1162 00:33:14,331 --> 00:33:15,862 because next month is going to 1163 00:33:15,882 --> 00:33:18,332 be all about Groomsmen drama. 1164 00:33:18,540 --> 00:33:21,362 Groomsmen confessions, behind the scenes, 1165 00:33:21,627 --> 00:33:23,547 And more tea that you won't wanna miss. 1166 00:33:23,734 --> 00:33:25,177 So trust me, you'll not 1167 00:33:25,327 --> 00:33:26,737 want to miss this one. 1168 00:33:26,954 --> 00:33:28,273 If you love this episode, 1169 00:33:28,273 --> 00:33:29,563 do me a huge favor. 1170 00:33:29,563 --> 00:33:31,320 Tell one friend about this whether it's 1171 00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:33,210 in your group chat, your work bestie, 1172 00:33:33,410 --> 00:33:35,493 or that one friend that's been to way 1173 00:33:35,493 --> 00:33:37,473 too many weddings, just spread the word. 1174 00:33:37,473 --> 00:33:38,163 It really helps. 1175 00:33:38,354 --> 00:33:39,660 Word of mouth is the ultimate 1176 00:33:39,660 --> 00:33:41,135 wedding party tradition, so 1177 00:33:41,135 --> 00:33:41,935 let's keep it going there. 1178 00:33:42,274 --> 00:33:43,123 And hey, if you have a 1179 00:33:43,123 --> 00:33:44,653 wild groomsman story. 1180 00:33:44,824 --> 00:33:46,737 You want to send me for the next 1181 00:33:46,737 --> 00:33:49,077 month's episode, please send it my way. 1182 00:33:49,077 --> 00:33:50,907 You can DM me on social media, 1183 00:33:51,047 --> 00:33:51,743 There's so many ways you can 1184 00:33:51,743 --> 00:33:52,963 send me stories these days. 1185 00:33:52,973 --> 00:33:54,823 So I will find it if you try to send 1186 00:33:54,823 --> 00:33:56,983 it to me, but until next time, keep the 1187 00:33:56,983 --> 00:33:59,957 drama fun and the champagne flowing. 1188 00:34:00,267 --> 00:34:00,640 All right. 1189 00:34:00,740 --> 00:34:01,280 Bye guys.