Today we're focusing all on bridesmaids.
As I should know a thing or two
since I've been a bridesmaid.
Including twice made of honor
almost 10 times and I've seen
and heard it all plus I've gotten
millions of stories from you guys.
So let's kind of walk through what you
can expect for this episode First up
is going to be bridesmaid boot camp.
It's going to be a rapid fire guessing
game to test your wedding knowledge.
we're going to have bridesmaid
confessional, real unfiltered
confessions from the archives.
Next is going to be wedding 911 listener
dilemmas where I dish out my best advice.
So we're going to see just what comes
up when you guys, , want some advice.
the next segment is going to be called
bridezilla court, a wild bridesmaid story
caught straight from the depths of Reddit.
Then we're going to go right
into here comes the roast
spicy takes on wedding trends.
So I'm going to give you guys
my honest take on some of these
crazy things that come up.
And last but not least, what
would one of my episodes be
without a crazy bridesmaid story?
So, nothing quite.
Brings out the drama, like
a real life story, right?
So I've got one from the
archives that, I've not read yet.
So we're going to react
in real time together.
grab a drink, settle in and
let's kick off this series with
some major bridesmaid drama.
Okay.
First up is bridesmaid boot camp.
So I'm going to go through these rapid
fire trivia questions and throw some
wedding facts at you, and you just do
your best guess, , as you're listening.
Okay, number one, true or false.
Bridesmaids used to dress like
the bride to confuse evil spirits.
This is True.
In ancient Rome, brides made stress
identically to the bride to ward off
evil spirits and potential kidnappers.
Imagine dealing with that kind of drama.
So it's kind of funny how it's
changed so much over the years.
It used to be like, let's distract
everyone from the actual bride so she
can get married and no one can try to,
like, take her or, throw drama on her day.
Now it's like, don't look
anything like the bride unless
she specifically requests it.
Okay, number two.
What's the most expensive
bridesmaid dress ever recorded?
Okay, so when I saw this question,
I'm like thinking of what I've spent
on bridesmaid dresses Luckily the
most of them I've spent like 99.
I've spent a few that were over 200 But
for the most part I would say around 150
it was like average the most ready for it
6, 800. It was a Vera Wang dress
for a celebrity wedding and no,
the bride did not cover the cost.
Guys, that is insane.
That is like a mortgage that
has twice, triple a mortgage.
I don't even know.
Like that is insane to spend on a dress.
I mean, I guess if it's a celebrity
wedding, they have the money to spend.
I don't know.
Okay.
Number three, bridesmaid duties
used to include what unusual task.
Okay.
There's a lot that has
changed over the years.
So You might think of
this, but I don't know.
I was kind of shocked by it holding
onto the dowry and guarding the bride
on the way to the groom's house.
So basically the bridesmaids were
the original wedding security team.
The dowry is a transfer of
wealth, property, or money
from the bride's family.
And so.
They would protect this to the
groom or its family as part
of the marriage arrangement.
I'm like, that's like a lot
of pressure on a bridesmaid.
I'm glad that's not the case anymore.
Like, I'm glad we're just there
for fun and support and, you
know, all that good stuff.
Okay, the last one, number four.
In what country is it considered bad luck
for bridesmaids to wear matching dresses?
This is so funny because we used
to do matching dresses all the time
in the U. S. The answer is China.
In China, it's believed matching
dresses attract bad energy so
bridesmaids wear different colors.
Okay, I love this because we're
kind of getting away from the
trend of wearing matching dresses.
even like my own wedding, it was, I
had like a specific like family of
colors and then all the bridesmaids
were able to pick out their own style
because I feel like Everyone has
their own style, their own body type.
Like let's not shove
everyone in the same dress.
Okay Next up, we're going to do
some bridesmaid confessionals.
Dun, dun, dun.
Okay.
that's my own, music we got going on here.
Okay.
Here we go.
I'm just going to react to
these in real time, guys.
I said no to being a bridesmaid at
my brother's wedding because I don't
approve of his choice, or him in general.
Okay, so this is a two part thing.
So it's not just that she doesn't
approve of the new guy or girl coming
in, she does not approve of her brother.
I mean, there's a backstory here.
There's some drama here
that I'm very curious about.
My thought is Okay,
well, here's the thing.
Here's where I want to go with this.
There is so much pressure to say yes
to being in a wedding because it's your
brother, sister, whoever's wedding.
And I want to give the free will
to everyone right now, if you don't
know you already have it, but you
can say no to being in a wedding.
I know, it's crazy thought.
But here's the thing, like, there's so
much pressure being in a wedding and
if you don't enjoy that or you don't
support the couple, Don't say yes,
because you're going to be miserable.
like lucky for me.
And that's probably why I
talk about weddings and stuff.
I love weddings.
I love being a part of weddings.
there was a time.
I would say late 20s, I was in a
wedding like every single year, if
not a couple a year, and I loved it.
I love being crafty.
I love seeing how I can be useful
and helpful, but it's exhausting.
You're spending a lot of money.
You're spending a lot of time.
That's also pre kids, like, I was married.
So I had a lot more free time.
Now, if I was in a wedding,
It would be a lot harder.
It'd be a lot more Zoom stuff
and, traveling would be a lot more
harder, and so it's okay to say no.
you gotta know your own limits
and what you're interested in.
Okay, next confession.
I said no.
Friend insisted.
I kept saying no.
The bride had a full on
meltdown and wouldn't stop.
I finally said yes to being a bridesmaid
and 2, 000 later is what I spent.
I should have stuck with no.
Here we go.
This is a common theme.
If you have a gut feeling and
want to say no, please say no.
The fact that the bride had a
full on meltdown because you
said no, that's not a bride.
This is someone that just
wants you up there as a number.
Or other bridesmaids,
said no to her already.
And so she's putting the
pressure on you to say yes.
000 later, no.
I'm curious what that was all on.
My guess is we're talking dress,
shoes, hair, makeup, maybe a
bachelorette party, a gift.
Those things add up.
So even if you're like, I
don't want to spend a lot of
money, little things add up.
if the bride really wanted you
to be a part of the wedding and
said like, I'll pay for your
dress or I'll help you with blank.
Then sure, but a no means no.
even if you have the money and
you just don't want to be in
the wedding, that's up to you.
That's terrible.
Okay, next confession.
The first time I was a maid of
honor, I was in complete shock.
I had no idea the protocol.
I went into debt.
Wait, what?
You went into debt.
I had no idea I was responsible
for the wedding party dresses.
Whoa, in what wedding?
And gifts for everybody.
You got scammed.
You should not be paying for
somebody's wedding party dresses
and the gifts as the maid of honor.
No, no, absolutely not.
Bridesmaid gifts are from the bride.
That's it.
End of story.
And those aren't even like a guarantee.
Every wedding that I've been in,
There was a different type of gift.
I never expected one from the
bride, but the maid of honor never
bought the gifts It's not the
maid of honor's responsibility.
You got scammed You got used by a
friend whoever you were the maid
of honor for and I am so sorry you
went into debt you guys Oh my gosh.
I feel so bad for this bride.
Here's the thing.
It's hard when you are the first out
of your friend group maybe like the
first bride or you're the first maid
of honor or first bridesmaid and it's
hard to ask, like, what's expected?
I don't understand this.
And then you say yes.
And if you come from different
backgrounds or you have different,
finances, financial situations.
It's going to be hard to
afford the same things.
And especially I have found in
your twenties, people are at
just completely different levels.
I was invited to a bachelorette party
once, and I was a bridesmaid and
they wanted to go to, I don't even
remember what it was, maybe Ibiza.
And I was like, you know what?
You guys go and have a great time.
I'm going to sit this one out because
I don't even remember how old I was.
Maybe 27.
I was like, I do not have
the money to go to Ibiza.
I just don't.
and it's gonna be like a long, trip.
I was just like, you know, if I'm
gonna go out of the country, I'm
gonna plan a trip with my now husband.
But, yeah, so We need to know our own
limits and be okay with saying no to
people because it's just if the bride
is expecting you to spend all that
money and cares more about her day
than your own finances and your own,
your friendship, they're not a friend.
They're not a friend.
Okay, this kind of goes
into like both sections.
So we're gonna just gonna
read this as a confession.
I have a situation for you.
My cousin was invited to be a
bridesmaid at her friend's wedding.
At the time, the friend didn't know
what she was doing for the wedding.
So it was just preliminary.
Later, the friend decided it was
going to be a destination wedding.
This significantly increased the cost
of everything to do with the wedding.
Yeah.
Yeah, that one.
My cousin had just bought a
house and could not afford
to be a bridesmaid anymore.
She told her friend, and the girl
said that she could take out a loan.
What?
Take out a loan to be in the wedding?
No, we're not doing that.
We're not taking out loans for people.
That is the worst financial
advice I've ever heard.
I'm not a financial expert,
but I know that's bad advice.
My cousin right, rightly thought that was
ridiculous and they haven't spoken since.
Okay.
This bride, this is a bridezilla.
This is a bridezilla.
We're not doing that.
We're not telling people to
get loans to be in our wedding.
If someone says I can't, like, if I
really, really, really wanted someone
to be there, like, let's say it
was like a best friend of mine, she
said, Hey, I just bought a house.
I can't afford to be there.
I'd be like, you know what,
let me cover it for you.
Don't worry about any expenses.
If she still said no, I'd
be like, you know what?
support that.
You're still my friend.
Like, let's hang out another time.
This is ridiculous.
We are we're not treating
our friends that way.
That is insane.
Okay.
Segment number three, wedding 911.
I got some listener disasters that we
are going to talk through right now and,
see what kind of advice I give them.
And just a little disclaimer here.
I'm no expert.
I don't give the best advice.
I just give advice for what works for me.
And a lot of times my advice might end
with, well, whatever works best for you.
So I'll give some scenarios and,
what I think might be a good idea.
But you know your situation best.
So more power to you.
Here we go.
Help.
The bride just told us we all have to wear
shapewear and lose weight to look uniform.
I'm sorry, in the bridesmaid dresses.
No, I'm already saying no.
I'm fuming.
Do I push back or suck it up?
Suck it up?
No, no, no, no, no, no,
we're not doing that.
I would say thank you for your time.
Thank you for your friendship gonna
have to walk away now because a
friend that cares more about my
body size and my shape and a wedding
dress does Not care about me.
There's no sucking it up for someone
like that No, someone that literally
tells you to lose weight I'm anti
losing weight for your wedding.
I'm pro do what makes you feel the
best for your wedding day, but we
don't need to shed for the wedding.
unless that you or yourself are like,
Hey, I'd like to like lose some weight.
Sure.
More power to you.
But no, we're not having people
tell us that we need to lose weight.
We need to love our bodies
the way we love them.
Okay.
Next one.
My best friend is getting married.
And she expects us to chip
in for her dream bachelorette
party weekend in Minocos.
I love her, but I can't afford this.
How do I tell her without
running the friendship?
Okay.
This is easy for me coming
from an outside perspective.
Cause I get it when it's like
your own friend, but your
friend, that's not your friend.
That's not your friend.
She expects you to chip in
for her dream bachelorette.
I get it.
So with all my, friend groups, when I
was a bridesmaid, we would all chip in
for these different bachelorette parties,
split the cost amongst everyone that goes.
Bridesmaids pay a little bit more
because they like pay for the house.
And I feel like every bachelorette
party was a little bit different, but
that's going to be very expensive.
I mean, you're talking a few thousand.
Probably.
And here's the thing, too.
Some brides get so caught up in
the social media aspect of it.
Like, they want to be influencers or they
want to boast about it on social media.
So they want the curated, gift bags.
They want the curated setup.
And that just takes away
from the whole thing.
And this is coming from someone
that loves the creative part of it.
I love putting stuff together.
I love making those cute little gift bags.
But if you make it more about let's
post on social media and go viral,
or let's have people like ooh and
ah over it, that's taking away
from the actual experience of it.
It's supposed to be about celebrating
and like being friends, have a night
away or a weekend away, whatever.
so I would just tell her,
you know, I love you.
But just like you said, I love you.
But I can't afford this.
I want to be there to
support you in any way I can.
but this is a little too much for me.
if you want to do that with your other
bridesmaids and they can all afford it and
are happy with it, then more power to you.
Please do that.
I feel like I'm saying more
power to you a lot this episode.
Please do that, and I would
love to take you out for dinner.
Blah, blah, blah.
Like, for example, at my own bachelorette
party, I gave no expectations.
I said, Hey, here's three cities
I would maybe want to go to
for maybe like a long weekend.
I told all of my bridesmaids,
including my maid of honor.
I said, don't feel like you
have to come, please, please.
There's no pressure to attend anything.
my bridesmaids did not
come and that was fine.
It happens.
It's okay.
one ended up coming to my town and
we just went out to dinner and we
had like a nice day, the two of us.
I didn't expect it.
It was fine.
Okay, so if telling your friend that
ruins your friendship, then she wasn't
a friend to begin with next one our
bridesmaid dresses came in and mine
doesn't fit at all The boutique messed
up my order and now the bride is
telling me I need to pay for a new
one Even though it wasn't my fault.
What do I do?
Okay, if it's in fact the boutique's
fault Like, maybe they, ordered
the wrong size, they messed up your
sizing, they will order you a new one.
I actually was a part of a wedding
once where this happened to a friend
of mine who was a bridesmaid as well.
, they ordered her a size 2 bra.
Big I want to say or I can't remember
the too small or too big And she had
to go back and get them resized and
they were going to order another one
It was a boutique and they did it what
will happen with that is they'll just
put that dress on the rack to sell
at a discounted price I'm, no expert.
I don't know 100 but no You
shouldn't have to pay for a new
one if the boutique messed it up.
So I would call them.
Okay, last one here is, uh, The bride just
sent us a spreadsheet of wedding expenses
and expects each bride to contribute
400 towards her hair, dress, and makeup.
I've never heard of this.
Do people actually do this?
Okay, the only time I heard this
happening is another crazy bridesmaid
story where she was taking money from
them and using it towards her wedding.
So, no, this is not normal.
You should not be paying
anything for the bride.
If anything, the bride should be
paying for your hair and makeup.
So, we're gonna say no to that.
And, again, if she says, well, then
you can't be in the wedding, then
you say, well, have a great day.
I will look at the pictures later.
Okay, segment number four.
Here we go.
Bridezilla court.
You be the judge.
I did some research and I
found a crazy Reddit story.
This kept coming up as
like a very crazy one.
So here we go.
I have not read the whole
thing Let's react you be the
judge who's in the wrong here.
This bride has 16 girls to be
bridesmaids in the year and a half
between the engagement and the
wedding all But six dropped out
Three of them were her sisters.
Wait, so three of the six that
dropped out were her sisters?
Okay, that's That's a bad sign.
What's going on here?
If she has 16 and 6 dropped out, I'm
no math whiz, but that's like 40%.
She insisted on 16 different
shades of blue and 16 unique
dress styles for each bridesmaid.
Then threw a fit when the store
didn't have that many options.
Well, why don't you look first
to see like, hey, does this store
have, dress options and then we're
gonna like bring the bridesmaids in.
That's a lot of shades of blue.
She'd probably want it to look
like, dark to light and like
they're perfectly lined up.
Like that's like very I mean,
that would look very beautiful.
However, it's not really practical.
I don't know.
She demanded that everyone pay for
a week long bachelorette party in
Vegas, including covering her share.
Okay, so here's the thing.
I mentioned how all the
bachelorette parties I've gone
on, we cover for the bride.
That's just what we do.
And I've paid everywhere from
a couple hundred dollars.
Actually, probably the lowest was
like a hundred dollars when I was 20.
And all the way to probably like
1, 500, 2, 000 for like a full like
week long trip that we did one time.
That being said, the bride never,
never said, you have to do this.
The bride even tried to pay for her part.
she did not demand that
everyone had to come.
She did not demand it was a week long.
Like we planned all this stuff
and it's one of my best friends
and all best friends went.
So it was like a girl's trip.
that is insane.
She got angry when bridesmaids opted out.
I was a single mom and
college student at the time.
Her parents gave her 20, 000
budget for the wedding, but
she ended up spending 100, 000.
How do you spend 100, 000
when you don't have it?
I don't know.
Also these days if she's planning
a big fancy wedding, 20, 000
unfortunately does not cover a lot.
it's insane how expensive they are.
She insisted they cover the difference.
Okay, I don't know how this
Parent adult relationship works.
They took out a loan and
they are still paying it off.
Okay, what's with these loans?
So she overspent for the wedding and her
parents took out a loan to pay for it.
See that is terrible.
That's the keeping up the
Joneses things that I hate.
If you cannot afford it, Why are
we having these crazy over the top
weddings if you cannot afford it?
At that point, it's more about the show.
It's more about people's perception of
you and less about the actual marriage.
And I swear, like, so many of these end
up in divorce, like, I know that's, very
generalization, but like, because they
don't focus on the actual, like, hey,
we're stepping into marriage together.
They're like, literally just
making it about this big day.
Like, yes, we want the day to be special
and exciting, and yes, it's gonna be cost
some money, but when you do all this, it's
like, no, that just takes away from it.
Okay, She wanted all the bridesmaids to
have their hair color the same, and even
asked the two blondes to dye their hair?
They declined.
Okay, the second I'm asked at
my hair for a wedding, I'm out.
Despite paying for nothing for
the bridesmaids, traditionally the
bride covers at least one expense,
like dresses or hair and makeup.
She demanded that we purchase
specific shoes, jewelry, dresses,
and cover our own hair and makeup.
So this is the thing too, Like
in my own wedding, I had a makeup
artist and I had a hairstylist.
I said, you guys want hair
and makeup, let me know.
It is not a requirement.
I had some that did their
own hair and makeup.
I had some that just did their own hair.
Some that just did their own makeup.
Whatever they wanted was up to them.
I would never demand something
and then not pay for it myself.
Not pay for it for them.
Okay.
On top of that, she required everyone
to stay the entire weekend at the
hotel where she was getting married.
I don't get this required thing.
Like, how is she gonna, make you do that?
In total, the cost excluding
a wedding gift ended up being
over 2, 000 per bridesmaid.
That actually sounds low.
When I look at all the things that she
asked for, if you're talking about a week
in Vegas, that's gonna be 2, 000 itself.
Talking about flight, you're talking about
meals, you're talking about hotel, that
alone is gonna be like 1, 500 or 2, 000.
this was a largely poor to middle class
area and most of us are college age.
There is no way in college I
would have been spending that.
The bachelorette parties that I
to in college were one night, we
usually stayed at someone's house or
a cheap hotel, and we went to bars.
That's what we did.
So I would maybe have
spent a hundred dollars.
Maybe two, depending on how crazy.
There's no way I've been
spending that in college.
she also had three separate
engagement parties and bridal showers.
No, no, just, I don't even
know what to say to that.
The final straw for me was that she
demanded to review my toast a month
before the wedding so she could edit it.
So I'm guessing this is a
maid of honor that wrote this.
Then she completely rewrote it herself.
I don't even have anything to say to this
bride, because this is just all terrible.
this is so terrible.
Okay, someone writing a toast or a
speech for your wedding or engagement
party or whatever event is supposed
to be, like, comes from their heart.
They do it to say words
that, mean something to them.
To, like, make you feel good on your day.
If you rewrite it
yourself, what's the point?
literally, what's the point?
Oh, here we go.
At that point, I decided to
skip the wedding altogether
and ended our friendship.
So, that was the straw that
broke the camel's back.
they did end up getting married,
and six plus years later, he
seems absolutely miserable.
So we're looking from afar, it sounds
like they're not friends anymore.
He looks miserable, so
they spent all this money.
so, I'm wondering if she's one
of the six that dropped out.
I, gosh, I have so many questions, but
I'm also like, This girl sounds terrible.
It makes me wonder, like, if they had a
feeling, gut feeling that this bride was
gonna act this way, or if it was one of
those where as soon as she got engaged,
like, a bridezilla just turned on.
I've never experienced this first hand.
All the times I've been a
bridesmaid, I've never, never seen
any of the brides act in this way.
They'd all been friends I'd
been friends with for a while.
Some of the engagements were
long, some were really short.
They were all different, but.
I had never seen bridesmaid
behavior like this.
This is insane.
Yeah, I would have been long gone.
I don't know about you guys.
Alright, segment number five.
Here comes the roast.
These are some savage wedding takes.
I don't know how savage
I'll get, but we'll see.
Alright, here's my opinion.
First things first, asking people to be in
your wedding just because they're family.
Oh, I think I talked about this earlier,
but No, if you're not super close
with someone or you just don't want
them in your wedding You do not have
to ask them because here's the thing.
I hear so many stories where the parents
pressure Siblings to ask, you know, the
other sibling to be in the wedding maid
of honor, best man And they purposely
don't ask them because they don't have
that relationship they can't trust
them with certain responsibilities and
then when they give in and they have
them in They are so let down because
they're not giving the speech, they're
forgetting the rings, they're forgetting
their dress, they're not eyeing on the
dress, and I've seen it all before.
I saw one recently where she I was
asked to have her sister in the
wedding, her younger sister, who
had little to no responsibilities.
The sister just complained the whole time.
Showed up with like a wrinkly
dress, couldn't even iron the dress.
And it's just, you gotta
listen to your gut.
I don't think you should have someone in
the wedding just because they're family.
Okay.
This next one.
Ooh, okay.
If you have 10 plus bridesmaids,
you just wanted an audience.
I disagree with this.
I'm sure it happens sometimes
where you just ask people
just to have a big wedding.
But I've been in weddings where there
were 12 bridesmaids and let me tell
you the bride had a really close and
great relationship with each person.
It was a big Italian wedding for a couple.
I'm trying to think
actually there's been a few.
Yeah, there was one with ten,
one with eleven, one with twelve.
I had nine bridesmaids, I know.
but there's some different
like points in my life.
So we're talking about college
friends, we're talking about cousins,
siblings, high school friends.
Post high school friends, and then like
I have two sister in laws, so you have to
think about just what makes sense for you.
I've also been in weddings where
there were just three bridesmaids,
and that was awesome too.
I've been to weddings where there's
no bridesmaids, so That's such a
general statement that I have to
disagree with it because I've seen it
firsthand where, like, one of my best
friends, she had, ten, where it was
sister, cousin, four from college,
four from high school, and then a
couple, and then, like, another friend.
I think I'm adding that up right.
yeah, so you just don't really know.
Okay, next one.
Bridesmaids shouldn't be
expected to get full glam.
Yeah, I 100 percent agree with that.
I think, if you expect them to
have you better be paying for it.
If not, no.
but me personally, have them do
what is comfortable for them.
Because if they're not used to
wearing makeup, why make them
wear makeup on your wedding day?
last one.
The maid of honor role
should come with a salary.
Oh my god, it's hilarious.
no, I I mean, it's funny because like.
The first time I was ever in a
wedding, I was a maid of honor,
so I was 20, for my sister.
And the last time I was in a
wedding, I was a matron of honor,
and I was 6 or 7 months pregnant.
it was completely different, and I'm also
like, early 30s compared to years old.
So my expectations were different,
the role was different, how much
money I spent was different, right?
But, I don't think either of those
times were the times I spent the
most or did the most for the wedding.
Just because it was different
times in our lives, right?
So I think you can be as involved as
you want to be, and it just depends
on the, bride you're working with.
but I get it.
I get it.
I think there needs to be clear
transparency of what you're expected
of, and then if you cannot perform
what they want, then we gotta say no.
Okay.
Segment number six, the final
segment, which I think you
guys are all waiting for.
You guys love these stories, and I love
them too because it's so fun to react.
live with you guys.
okay.
So this is a final confession
crazy wedding story.
This was a story submission
Someone sent to me It's doozy here.
Okay.
I've not read it.
So let's react together I had a
really good friend Lauren names have
been changed who I asked to be my
bridesmaid And I thought it'd be
great since we got along so well.
I struggled to pick a dress color for
my bridesmaids because they all had
different complexions and hair colors.
Two girls were pale with blonde hair,
one was tan with blonde hair, one was
pale with red hair, one was Hispanic
with darker hair, and black hair.
I finally settled on a
pale mustard yellow dress.
With small floral details
that I really liked.
Since I knew not everyone
would love my choice.
I bought the dresses for
my bridesmaids as a gift.
yeah.
Okay.
I think that's fine.
However.
As soon as Lauren saw a picture
of this dress, she threw a fit.
I can't imagine throwing a fit when
you are a bridesmaid in a wedding for
someone else, and they buy you the dress.
I'm just like, you know what,
girl, it's your style, whatever.
Yeah, maybe later I'll be like, okay, it
wasn't the best fit for me, but whatever.
she said I was trying to
make her look hideous.
I tried to ignore her complaints
since I had already bought the dress
and all she had to do was pick it
up from my house before the wedding.
So I'm wondering how this all worked.
Did they send you their measurements or
did they go somewhere and get measured and
you're like, surprise, here's the dress.
I'm one, like I said earlier,
I'm one for her individuality.
Let's let them pick their own,
style for their body type.
And hard like finding a color that
everyone likes and is gonna look good in.
Mustard yellow.
that's a different color.
I've, can't say I've ever seen it as
a bridesmaid dress, like personally.
so I get it, but hey.
Again, if one of my best friends were
like, Hey, this is the dress I want
you to wear, I'd be like, let's do it.
since I got married in 2020, there
were all kinds of lockdowns and
restrictions, and the number of people
allowed to gather kept changing.
The general consensus was that
groups of fewer than 10 people were
okay as long as no one felt sick.
So my bridal shower was really
just my bridesmaids and me
prepping decorations and finishing
last minute wedding projects.
Side note, we had a very small,
socially distanced ceremony
followed by a drive thru reception.
So it was completely safe, but I
still had decorations to worry about.
Okay, interesting.
all my bridesmaids came
over except Lauren.
I assumed she was just running late,
but as time passed, the rest of us
got caught up in conversations and
before I knew it, three hours had
gone by and she still hadn't shown up.
Okay, how do you, just completely
forget about a bridesmaid?
That's crazy, but I mean, get like
you're just talking other people, but
I feel like things were already rocky
before if you weren't noticing her
there or kind of just slipped your mind.
She's not very important.
I don't know.
I hate to like throw that out
there, but that's the vibe I'm
getting, she still hadn't shown up.
I called her freaking out because I
thought she'd been in a car accident
or something terrible had happened.
She didn't answer and I
was genuinely worried.
Then, 30 minutes later, she pulled
up to my house in a brand new car.
What?
Apparently, she had decided on a whim to
buy a car that afternoon and didn't bother
to let me know that she was running late.
At that point, I was frustrated, but
my wedding was the next day, so I
just handed her the bridesmaid dress
and told her I'd see her tomorrow.
Yikes, okay.
so this is the shower, quote unquote, that
happened the night before the wedding.
This bridesmaid was already mad
about the dress color, saying
it's, she wants her to look bad.
It sounds like things weren't
really worked out beforehand.
She's not showing up to this, thing,
but then the wedding is the next day.
I, I don't have hopes for her.
Okay, here we go.
I was right.
Well, she didn't show up
to the wedding at all.
It turned out her parents were offended
that I hadn't invited them to the ceremony
and didn't want her to go without them.
What?!
Okay, I don't know their relationship,
but I can't imagine any of my
friend's parents being so mad.
Like, I invited my friend's parents, yes.
But I also didn't get married
in the height of 2020, right?
and I get, cutting back on
your guest list, but I can't
imagine them being so mad.
They'd be like, you know what?
You can't go without me.
She's a bridesmaid!
She had a commitment.
I know her parents and I would have
loved to invite them, distancing
rules still in place, we had to
keep the guest list very small.
Only immediate family
and the bridal party.
So she did what she had to do.
Between her parents being upset
and her hatred of the bridesmaid
dress, she decided not to come
to the wedding or reception.
Here's my guess.
The bridesmaid hated the dress.
Complained to her parents.
Said, I don't want to go to this wedding.
This is going to be terrible.
Found the least opportune
time to buy this car.
Made sure it took a little bit longer.
Just in spite of the bride picking this,
quote unquote, ugly mustard yellow dress.
Then, when she, the parents had to have
known a while back they weren't invited.
So she keeps bringing this up and
then she's probably like, wait.
You know, it's really weird you guys
weren't invited to this wedding.
I think she doesn't like
you guys or something.
So then the parents are
like, you know what?
I don't think you should go.
This doesn't sound like a good friend.
Because you know what
that's what people do.
They turn the story to make themselves
sound like the hero of the story and
the other person the villain, right?
So this bridesmaid is going
to be telling her parents.
This is a bridezilla over here.
She got me this ugly dress.
You weren't invited.
She hates you guys, you know?
So yeah, that's what I'm guessing.
I've seen her a few times since
then and we're still friends.
Okay, alright, I'm sure.
I still had an amazing wedding
day, but I really wish she would
have been there when I got married.
And I definitely wish I hadn't spent money
on a bridesmaid dress she probably donated
to Goodwill without ever wearing, lol.
Yeah, so that's the thing with
bridesmaids, it's like, You want
to include them as much as possible
to keep them kind of like a part of
it and have their own personality.
That's my own personal take,
but it's a really kind gesture
to buy all the dresses.
So.
There's like this happy medium of
like you don't want to give them so
much Space where it's like we're just
standing around trying to figure out
the best dress because I've been there
I've been bridesmaid dress shopping
where you're literally at the shop for
like five hours everyone has a different
opinion everyone's different color
different style no one's happy by the
end because it's like you're tired,
you're hungry, you've been trying on
the same eight dresses, so the bride
needs to have an idea of what she likes
and then kind of throw it out there.
But again, I'm that bridesmaid where if
you give me a dress and I, unless it's
like completely revealing, I'll wear it.
You give me a dress, I'll wear it.
Like I'll make it work.
Okay, that's a crazy story.
It's funny because I when I was first
kind of thinking about this episode
and how I wanted to do these kind of
patreon episodes I was talking about
bridesmaids The first thing that came to
mind is obviously the movie bridesmaids
cuz that's like an iconic movie, right?
just think about all of those scenes.
We're talking about trying
on bridesmaid dresses.
I mean think of that scene Everyone has
different price ranges different body
types different styles that appeal to them
that's a scene that keeps popping in my
mind, like, it's hard to please everybody.
Talking about all this makes me want to
watch Bridesmaids because it's like the
most iconic movie I can think of when it
comes to the challenges between different
personalities and people Competing for top
place as a bridesmaid made of honor was
gonna do like a deep dive in the movie.
I was like everybody's seen that movie
So I'll just reference it as much as
possible But yeah, I don't know it's
crazy Alright guys, well, that was a crazy
first episode, I hope you guys enjoyed me
blabbing about these crazy confessions,
crazy bridesmaid stories, and the reddit
one that, like, is honestly insane.
The stories, I get sent
are just Over the top.
so yeah, thank you guys
for hanging out with me.
If you made it to the end, consider
yourself officially initiated into
my wedding party inner circle, the
VIP crew that gets all the juiciest
drama before everybody else.
But don't go anywhere just yet
because next month is going to
be all about Groomsmen drama.
Groomsmen confessions, behind the scenes,
And more tea that you won't wanna miss.
So trust me, you'll not
want to miss this one.
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Tell one friend about this whether it's
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It really helps.
Word of mouth is the ultimate
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let's keep it going there.
And hey, if you have a
wild groomsman story.
You want to send me for the next
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You can DM me on social media,
There's so many ways you can
send me stories these days.
So I will find it if you try to send
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drama fun and the champagne flowing.
All right.
Bye guys.