I've heard you guys loud and clear.
You guys want more drama, more stories
and get rid of all the extra stuff.
One thing I will never get rid of though,
is just my random banter because it's just
fun just to add some little commentary,
believe me, we get lots of stories, about
the moms because they do really have such
a vital role when it comes to weddings
and I think it's really important that,
We all understand our role
and we understand like how we
can be helpful not overstep.
I always say this time and time again,
I'm so lucky that my mom and mother-in-law
were both so helpful and respectful.
Like on the wedding day, not like
taking anything away from me.
They knew how important it was to me to
be able to plan, but also I kept them very
involved as much as they wanted to be.
but we have a lot of stories.
about mothers of the bride that did
not really understand their role.
people get pushed to the wayside.
People get told how they're gonna
do things and it causes some chaos.
So, like I said, we're gonna do
things a little bit different.
We're gonna just Keep it fun today.
I mean, not saying it's not
usually fun, but we're just
gonna jump right into the drama.
Let's start with some hot takes.
Okay.
here are some hot takes
around mothers of the bride.
First one says, if she's
paying, she's planning.
Okay, so this is interesting.
I shouldn't say I have mixed feelings
about this because I'm pretty
consistent with my feelings on this.
If you are paying for the wedding
because you want to help as a gift
you can help with as much as the bride
and groom still want you to help with.
It does not mean because you're
paying, you can take control now.
I think it's all about mutual respect.
If there's a good relationship between
the bride, the groom, and the parents.
Then I think absolutely.
Let's help each other out.
You wanna take on this?
I'll take on this.
Absolutely.
Like, let's do it.
However, if it's already kind of a
rocky relationship and you're doing
it to hang something over their
head, then yeah, let's not do that.
because if you're paying just
so you can control things, then.
That altogether is not a great thing,
but we hear about it all the time that,
oh, well, she paid for it so she can
change it, or she can do it this way.
And I just don't agree with that.
But that's a constant
thing that we always see.
Right.
Okay.
Number two, wearing white is
a passive aggressive flex.
Yeah.
I mean, again, it depends on the wedding.
There are some weddings where
they're like, I don't care.
We're white.
It's a garden wedding.
We're, Neutrals or whatever.
however, unless specifically stated on the
invitation or told to you by the brighter
groom themselves, don't wear white.
I've heard a lot of stories where a mother
of bride has walked in wearing white,
and you can tell it's just too upstage.
So just putting that out there.
number three, she should walk
in before the bridesmaids.
Yes.
I don't know if I've been to a wedding
where she walks in after the bridesmaids.
That's just kind of like
how it typically goes.
the first few people might change a little
bit, but you typically have the groom.
in a heterosexual wedding, you typically
have the groom walkout first, whether
it's with his parents or by himself.
Then you have, his parents and then you
have, Depending if you want people to
walk on the aisle, sometimes parents
just walk out as part of the guest.
but like in ours, we had my husband
walked down with both of his parents,
then my mom walked with my brother,
and then, I think we did grandparents.
Then bridesmaids were before me.
Bridesmaids and grimmen were before me.
Flower girl, ring bear, all that stuff.
So yes, I think the parents should walk
out before the bridesmaids because you
want your family set first before like
the wedding party starts basically.
They wanna be able to see everything.
Okay, here we go.
Famous mothers of the bride.
Guess that mother of the bride.
Here So I'm gonna read a clue,
I'm gonna pause so you guys can
guess at home who you think it was.
Okay.
She tried to steal the spotlight
by wearing a white dress to her
daughter's wedding then dance with
her ex-husband on the beach in Greece.
Who is that mother of the bride?
That is Meryl Streep and Mama Mia.
Okay.
I have not seen that movie in a long time.
It's probably been since I was in college.
but it's a movie, so it's entertainment.
So don't take any of this.
It's seriously, but there's already a
lot of problematic things with this.
the next one I'm gonna read.
This high society mother of bride
lied to her daughter about her
father's identity times three.
Again, Amanda's mom and mama Mia.
So there's already some
problems, with that.
She wasn't completely
honest with her daughter.
so did she wear a white dress
to upstate her daughter?
I don't know.
Maybe she did.
Who knows.
Okay.
Number three.
she secretly planned her daughter's
entire wedding, didn't tell her, and
then expected her to go along with it,
including picking the venue and the dress.
Who was that mother of the bride?
That is, it's crazy 'cause you
read some of these and you're
like, that would never happen.
But I just, I just read a story
very similar to this that just
happened to someone that is
Jane Fonda and Monster in-law.
okay.
Number four.
She crashed her ex's new wedding
just to stir the pot because no
one upstages her in her own family.
I'm not familiar with this one.
That's Lucille Bluth vibes.
It says, in Arrested Development.
Okay.
There's two more.
This real life celebrity mother of
the bride wore a sheer beaded gown
to her daughter's Italian wedding
and somehow stole the spotlight.
The clue is momager.
Okay, that's Kris Jenner at
Courtney Kardashian's wedding.
I don't follow the
Kardashians very closely.
I used to watch.
What was their, show like on Hulu?
I've seen, I would watch that,
but I didn't grow up watching the
Kardashians, so I think I missed the
whole Courtney Kardashian wedding.
Now I know one of the daughters had
a wedding where they all wore white.
And guys, if you were big Kardashian fans,
you're probably laughing at me 'cause
you're like, what are you talking about?
I think they all just upstage each other.
I think they're all just
really into fashion and.
I don't know.
I think they all just are really
into it and looking good, so
I don't, I doubt she did it to
upstage her, but I could be wrong.
Okay, last one here.
She plays sweet and simple, but she's
the real mastermind behind the scenes.
Calmly steering the chaos of a
massive Greek family and reminding
us that the woman may not be the
head, but she's definitely the neck.
That is Maria Porticos in
my Big Fat Greek wedding.
I love that movie.
So let me tell you a
little funny backstory.
So I was in fifth grade, I
think, when that movie came out.
Not to age myself.
I think I was in fifth grade, and my best
friend and I at the time, we wanted to go
to the movies to go see something, right?
And it was one of those days, I think
it was like either a spring break
or summer, and we were just like old
enough to go to the movies by ourselves.
Like our parents would drop us off so
we could go and, my friend Valerie,
she was like, well this movie called
My Big Fat Greek Wedding is playing.
And I was like, I don't
even know what that is.
Like, I never heard of it.
And I told my mom, my mom was
like, oh, I think it's for adults.
I don't think you're gonna like it.
it might be just, Out of your
realm of what you would find funny.
And so we're like, whatever,
it's the only movie available.
And so we went and we were cracking up.
We thought it was so funny,
the whole Windex thing.
I mean, it's one of those classics and
I've since gone back and watched it.
'cause now I think they have two
or three of 'em and it's so good.
I love the mom.
porta, Collos.
I just think she's so wholesome and sweet.
Yes.
Is there some of that, control?
Of course.
That's more when they're dating though.
But you can tell she just like
so cares for her daughter and she
really, adapts to everything and I
think just, it's such a good movie.
So just a little side spiel.
Okay.
I better get into it guys, because
we've got four stories from the vault.
The first.
They get longer and longer as they go.
The first couple are pretty short.
The last one is The main one.
Again, I've not read these.
We kind of just searched for mother of
the bride and we're gonna see what happens
and we're gonna react in real time here.
Okay?
Number one, my mom stole several
thousand dollars out of our wedding
fund, so the night before I had to
cook all the food and make the decor
because it was the vendor money.
How does that work?
Because typically vendors are gonna
require deposit down and then still come.
So why would then you
have to make all the food?
it says she bought pills with it.
Tried to sell them to the wedding
guests while wearing a cocktail
dress that she was falling out of.
She also kept all my memorabilia, so we
literally had nothing from our wedding.
When I asked her why she would do
this, she shrugged and said, well,
you're getting married in my yard.
So this is very like off the
rails, but similar to I'm paying
for it so I can do what I want.
She's obviously not paying for it.
I mean, I don't know what parts she
was kind of paying for, but providing
the yard in her mind, she's like, well.
That means everything that's on this
yard belongs to me, I can control
things still several thousands.
I'm also wondering like, how
did she get access to it?
Was this a bank account?
So many questions you guys.
That's, bad.
That's pretty bad.
Okay.
Story number two, this happened at
my fiance's best friend's wedding.
First, his mom and uncle were very
upset because the groom said there
wasn't going to be any hard liquor
served at the reception only wine
in a couple different kinds of beer.
Oh my gosh, you guys, if you watch
my content, you've seen that one
that I just, not that long ago.
I think it was, Aaron.
I think it was like all
names from the office.
It was like Aaron, Pam, gosh, I don't
even remember who else was in it.
Jim.
it was so similar.
It was the sister like that didn't
wanna come because she was like, why
are you not having any hard liquor?
That is crazy.
His mom and uncle actually threatened
not to come, but then they decided to,
they would just have some hard liquor
before the wedding and showed up drunk.
They also snuck hard liquor into the
reception that they kept to themselves,
and also one of the groomsmen was
the grooms girl best friend as the
groom's mom was leaving the reception.
Okay.
Drunk as a skunk, she pulled the
girl best friend aside and told
her it should have been you.
Oh no, just reading this, I'm
realizing like, oh, this is
like a girl's mom, but whatever.
there's a lot to say here.
There's a lot to say here.
I mean, first threatening
to not come to the wedding.
This is your son's wedding, right?
Yeah.
The uncle and the mom are, threatening to
not come because there's no hard liquor.
That's a problem.
That is a problem.
If you're gonna refuse to not go
celebrate someone as close and
important as your son, that's a problem.
Then she decides to get drunk in
the parking lot or wherever before
the wedding tells the best friend.
Oh my gosh.
Should have been you.
the girl best friend, felt
instantly awkward and talked to
my fiance, who was the best man.
Not sure if she should
tell the groom or not.
In the end, she decided
it was the right thing.
She had to tell him.
Oh my gosh.
See, I think you should avoid
telling the bride and groom
anything until after the wedding.
Let them live in their wedded bliss.
Don't keep telling about the drama.
because there's so many people that
I've had stories send to me that
there were like, our day was amazing.
We had the best time.
Later we found out, or someone
told me this later, and I
just think let's do that.
Let's let them keep the peace.
And just live in their wedded bliss
because I don't know, it'll distract
them from their day if we're just telling
them like every little drama thing.
Anyways, it says the groom got in a big
fight with his mom and they ended up not
speaking for something like three months.
Oh my gosh.
That's insane.
Okay,
next one.
I'm breaking this one up so I don't.
Mess it up.
Story number three,
trying to not lose my voice again,
as of the date I'm recording this.
I had just lost my voice and I'm starting
to get it back again, but I'm realizing
like I'm doing even more talking.
This week I had three podcasts
episodes to film and filming content,
so I'm really trying to like.
Make sure I'm drinking water, taking
breaks and all that good stuff.
anyways, okay, so my brother married this
girl that literally my whole family hates.
We all tried to talk him out of it because
she and her family are nothing but drama.
hard.
And I know in her mind, and
again, I'm not a part of it, I'm
only reading a story here, but.
In her mind, she's like
helping him by saying that.
But there's some things you just have
to let them figure it out on their
own, because if something were to
happen, you don't want him turning his
back on his family being like, well,
you guys did this, or You guys blamed
them, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
He needs to figure it out on his own,
otherwise it's gonna cause like a
bigger rift between him and his family.
but he wanted to marry her.
So my mom and aunt literally
did everything for the wedding.
Full on DIY, decor and favors
and helped pay for the venue.
I didn't wanna be in the wedding unless
I could stand on my brother's side
with our cousin and older brother.
She told my brother I was being
a selfish b*tch and a baby, and
if I didn't stand with her, I
couldn't be in the wedding at all.
It's hard.
if you already don't like the bride, then
I get not wanting to be in the wedding.
But you'll also at the end of the day have
to realize it's the bride and grooms day.
So if they want bridesmaids
on their side and groomsmen on
the other, that's their thing.
I've seen more and more sides get mixed
up with guys and girls or whatever, but
at the end of the day, it's their choice.
I don't know.
That's hard.
She says, fine.
Wedding day comes, and I was helping my
mom literally set the whole thing up.
We were at the venue all day.
her family was getting their hair
and makeup done, and they never
even asked my mom if she wanted
to come with them to get ready.
Her mom, this is the mother of the bride
came to the venue, which was a barn since
they did a fall country casual theme.
She showed up in a full blown sequin
floor length gown with fake eyelashes.
Hey, I'm not knocking fake eyelashes
though, because I had them at my
wedding and I got married in a,
Old Mattress factory.
That's a story for another time.
I mean, it's not really a story, it's
a cool, like rustic looking thing
Anyways, and we all have fake eyelashes,
but you can have 'em done different
ways and hey, if that's what you're
comfortable with, you do, you girl.
But a full blown sequin, floor length
gown is a little over the top for a barn.
That's where you kinda wanna know the
theme, But as a mother of the bride,
you should maybe know it, but I dunno.
it says the woman is 60.
She said the decor that my mom and
aunt made was tacky and looked cheap.
Okay.
No, that's just downright rude
When you didn't help with anything.
You cannot come in and tell them
that it looks tacky and cheap.
Like, come on.
There are zero pictures of our parents
with her parents during the reception.
Her father sat outside the entire
night and we honestly never saw him
after the father-daughter dance.
Her mom had invited her friends they
stayed outside all night and her
brother brought weed and was smoking
it with the flower girls right there.
Oh my gosh.
This is a mess.
Okay.
My dad was freaking out that we were
gonna get kicked out of the venue.
Meanwhile, the bride
didn't speak to anyone.
Changed into a t-shirt and jeans was
just on the phone, the entire reception.
Why are they getting married?
It sounds like they don't wanna be getting
married or like someone's pressuring them.
But if like his family doesn't like
her, the families aren't talking,
the bride herself seems unhappy.
Put on a t-shirt and jeans
right after it was on the phone.
Like, what's happening here?
The bride's brother took off his
shirt and was drunk running around
trying to pick a fight with guests.
Oh my gosh.
Oh, this is crazy.
The owner of the venue told my
dad to get him out of there, or
he was going to call the police.
Why is it up to the groom's dad?
That's weird.
My dad found the mother of the bride
and asked her to remove her son.
She told my dad that we were
being judgemental her son
was just having a good time.
No.
Oh, this isn't good.
my cousin, who was a groomsman, ended up
having to carry her brother out of the
venue get someone to drive him home, the
mother of the bride yelled at my cousin
for touching her son and making him leave.
That was our family being
rude and the whole wedding
was a disaster because of us.
That just shows you that.
Whoever tells the story is
gonna tell it from, you know,
obviously their perspective.
so this mother of the bride's probably
going around saying like, uh, the family
that my daughter married into is horrible.
They ruined their wedding.
They were so judgmental.
they took my son out.
They grabbed him.
all those things.
When in reality, well, we weren't there.
So we don't know what the real
story is, but according to this.
Sister of the groom, they were just
pretty disruptive and rude and drunk.
So that's what I'm getting from all that.
That's crazy.
That's when like, I really can picture in
my mind, like I picture them at this barn.
I picture them the brides in her little
t-shirt and just like, don't talk to me.
It's just awkward vibes.
Have you guys ever.
Been to a wedding where
there's just awkward vibes.
Like either people just feel
like they shouldn't get married.
There's a lot of chitter chatter.
There's a lot of like tension because
I definitely have, and you know, the
second you walk in, people are not.
I don't know.
seems a little more tense.
You can kind of feel it and like
I've known to be like a little
more like aware of these things.
Like if I go somewhere, like I can
tell like when there's tension,
some people don't notice it, but
like I've been to weddings where I'm
just like, what's the issue here?
Or are they not supposed
to be getting married?
Who got in a fight with who?
Like something's off.
I don't know.
Okay.
And this last one, Ooh, I need more water.
This one's like a long one, so
I need a voice break after this.
Alright, you guys need to share some
more of like your wedding guest stories.
I feel like I haven't been
to a wedding in so long.
Like I said, I don't know, I've said
another podcast, but like my husband and
I used to go to weddings all the time.
We were in weddings all the time.
And then, I don't know if it was just
perfect timing, but after having our
daughter, it seemed like less and less
people in our friend group were, getting
married or they were already married.
We've gone to one since my daughter
has been born and, she was only
three months old at the time.
And so, I feel like we're in that
lull where it's like we probably
won't have a wedding to go to for
a while, so it's nice break, but I
also like going to weddings a lot.
So, I'm gonna be a day of
coordinator for a wedding this
year, actually my birthday weekend.
So that'll be kind of fun.
I'm excited.
So that'll probably be the next wedding
I'll go to, but I won't be a guest.
And then I was day of coordinator.
Okay, now it's all coming back to me.
I was a day of coordinator
last January for a wedding.
That was really fun.
But I'm working, I'm
running around for those.
But any who?
Story number four.
This one's gonna be good.
All right.
She says.
I'm getting married in
late April of next year.
Back in June, I set up two
wedding dress appointments.
My sister who lives across the country,
two of my bridal party, my soon-to-be
mother-in-law and father-in-law,
and my mom and aunt were all
planning to come down and be there.
For context.
My mother had planned an engagement party
for us when my sister visited with my
niece for the first time last September.
It was more of a shared event so
that my sister-in-laws who were
also visiting could meet our family.
My aunt from both sides were also there.
We had to beg my family to take
photos of my fiance and me at
the event, but we laughed it off.
We were still so grateful
they planned something for us.
I sent everyone handwritten
thank you notes.
Afterwards, when I began wedding
planning, my mom started acting oddly.
She never really asked if I needed
help, but instead consistently brought
up things that she didn't like about
other weddings, including my sisters.
This is what we call unhelpful advice.
When all you say is things you don't
like and just start complaining about
things, that's not helpful because.
That only teaches the bride to be
critical of herself and question
everything that she does because
she's like, oh, is mom gonna like it?
Oh, she seems to like hate
a lot of things, right?
she sent me suggestions for things
she wanted to see at our wedding.
When it didn't fit what we had
wanted, I would politely decline,
but always thank her for her input.
As we booked our venue in my
fiance's hometown, his mom kindly
offered to plan the rehearsal dinner
at a small historic inn in town.
The Inn only seated 25 people max.
We were grateful for her help and
loved the venue, but after counting
parents stepparents our wedding
party and their plus ones, which is
traditional, we were already at capacity.
The only extended family invited was my
fiance's uncle, who is our officiant.
A few weeks before everyone came
down for dress fitting, I called
a video chat with my mom sister to
explain that we couldn't invite any
extended families to rehearsal dinner.
My sister said it made sense.
Traditionally only you invite
extended family if there's
room after immediate family.
And the wedding party now,
we'll obviously continue.
I have some different feelings about this.
I am more someone you picture who you
want at your rehearsal dinner first.
Then you try to find well
within your budget, right?
Then you try to find a
venue to support that.
Because I've been to weddings and been
a part of weddings where they're like,
well, we want this venue and we can only
fit 20 people, so now we're down to 20.
And then you have to make cuts of
important people that you want there.
And me, I look at it the other way.
I'm like, people first.
venue second, budget first, obviously you
wanna think of your budget, but I would
never personally, like if I have people
flying in for the wedding, I would never
leave 'em out of the, re rehearsal dinner.
That's just me.
I feel like you should invite
everybody that's flying in or like
immediate family flying in or in
your wedding party, but I know people
have different opinions on that.
Okay.
The, she said her sister had a rehearsal
dinner at a brewery that held 60
people, so she was able to include more.
I explained to my mom that ours just
couldn't accommodate that and even sent
her a wedding etiquette article to help.
My mom didn't have a traditional
wedding and never planned one, so I
thought it might help her understand.
My stepdad reassured me that she
understood and she would explain it
to my aunt and that it would be fine.
Something tells me it won't be fine.
My mom had mentioned that she
wanted to help with the wedding
in some way since my mother-in-law
had offered to help with my dress.
I gave my mom the same opportunity.
I told her my budget and what
the deposit would look like,
both the minimum and the maximum.
And also discussed having lunch
with two of my bridal party members,
which she offered to pay for.
I even sent her the menu and
after confirming everything was
okay, I made the reservation.
Well, somewhere between that call and
everyone arriving for dress shopping, my
mom and aunt had worked each other up.
They thought I was being rude to my
aunt who helped pay for the engagement
party, which I did send a thank
you for, that I was being selfish
asking my mom to pay for things.
My sister knew they were upset,
but they didn't tell me until we
picked her up for the airport.
She did tell her friends and
husband that she expected drama
but hoped it wouldn't happen.
So they're all talking about
her behind her back saying like,
this is nasty or this is bad.
There's gonna be drama, you know?
Oh my gosh.
We picked her up at four in
that day and had a three hour
round trip and no time off work.
My fiance and I were exhausted.
That same day my mom and
aunt arrived at our home.
They were apparently upset that I didn't
offer them coffee or food immediately,
which my mom would bring up later.
But again, my fiance was at
work and I was running on fumes.
The next day we went dress shopping
and had lunch with two of my bridal
party members and my mother-in-law.
There was an odd tension the whole time.
One of my bridesmaid later told me
she noticed my mom and aunt whispering
about the rehearsal dinner during lunch.
Oh gosh.
At the end of the lunch, my
mom didn't offer to pay for
the other women as discussed.
They kindly paid for
themselves without complaint.
She is some very good storyteller.
She gives a lot of great details.
We moved on to the dress shopping
and found a beautiful gown that
night we had dinner and dessert with
everyone, family in-laws and friends.
As I was helping serve coffee and cake
for 10 people, my mom started yelling
at me front of everyone to get her
coffee without ever offering to help.
Oh my gosh.
Out of nowhere.
I asked her to please be patient.
We were going as fast as we could.
Why can't she get it?
But this was all happening in front
of my friends and my fiance's parents.
It was so embarrassing.
My mother-in-law who lives outta state
and wasn't aware of all the drama,
took this as a moment to ask me a few
rehearsal dinner questions showed us
some pictures she took of the inn.
She was being helpful and including
my mom and aunt in the conversation.
Thankfully, my friends were in the
other room because my mom started
dramatically making faces and
sat beside my aunt who responded.
With only one word answers.
The mood was awful.
So they're feeling some type of
way and just being like cold and
standoffish without actually like
communicating, even though she's
trying to communicate to them, that
just makes things like so much worse.
The next morning at 7:00 AM I
got a text from my mom saying
she wanted to speak privately.
We had a group breakfast planned
with both sides of the family, and
she showed up early to catch me.
In front of the others, she told
me that my aunt's feelings were
hurt, that she wasn't invited, and
that I should quote unquote, do the
right thing by either adding her
or dis inviting my little friends.
She put that in quotes to.
That is insane.
For the record, my wedding party
and I are all in our thirties.
She said I was being
disrespectful and ungrateful.
She claimed my mother-in-law, clearly
expected my aunt to be invited.
She didn't and brought up again how my
aunt helped pay for the engagement party.
I get the hurt feelings and I get
it's uncomfortable and I get, she
probably expected to be there.
I don't know how close she's
with her aunt, but dictating
that you need to be there.
Or saying like, I need to be invited.
Do the right thing.
That's not a right or wrong thing.
Like I said, we all have our
opinions on how we personally
would do it, but like I said, I've
been to weddings where rehearsal
dinner is very small and that's it.
But every family's also different,
different, I personally, if I had
an aunt flying in, I would have
them be at the rehearsal dinner.
I do that for my own wedding.
So, I don't know.
I wouldn't say it's the right thing
and, to uninvite little friends because
obviously she wanted them there and
they were part of the wedding party.
Oh my gosh.
She said I made her pay for my dress
and the lunch that the restaurant was
too expensive that I should serve people
better when they come to my house.
I was so hurt and overwhelmed.
I walked out to the deck in tears.
My fiance followed me and told
me what she had said, or, and
I told him what she had said.
He was stunned.
He couldn't believe how cruel
and irrational she was being.
My mom and aunt left
after that with my sister.
I stayed behind with my in-laws and my
mother-in-law helped me while I sobbed.
It was the first time I had ever cried
in front of them, and I was beyond
embarrassed about my family's behavior.
To wrap it up, we went to one last
dinner before my mom and aunt left town.
My fiance paid for that too.
My mom and I didn't speak for a week until
I called her and confronted everything.
I gave her most of the money
back for the dress and the lunch.
She said there was fault on both sides
that I hadn't communicated well enough
and told me I was in your corner
until I read the article you sent.
It said, anyone who pays for
the engagement party should
be invited over other guests.
Oh my gosh.
So even if the article did say that
why is it the one thing she's pulling?
She's literally saying, this is etiquette.
Like this is all who I want
to invite to the party.
She held onto that.
I'm glad they're having like communication
now, but it sounds like the mom
just didn't really wanna hear her,
and I feel like once the aunt came
in and realized she wasn't invited,
that's when she's like, no, no, no.
I need to be invited.
This is not done.
This was not right.
She said, I reread the
article a dozen times.
It never said that I couldn't find
any etiquette source that did.
The mom is literally trying to.
I don't know what the right word is.
Coax her into thinking that that's what
it said, because that's so specific too.
Anyone who pays for the engagement party
should be invited over other guests.
Like what?
I doubt that's a thing because
that's such a specific thing.
that's, I don't believe it.
she said, so am I crazy or did
I make a terrible mistake while
planning my first wedding?
I mean, at the end of the day,
it's your choice what you wanna do.
I don't think there's
anything wrong in it.
Like I said, every bride's
gonna do it differently.
It depends on your relationship with
the person, the budget, location.
you specifically only want that one
location that has room for 25 and
you're like, this is what we're doing,
we added everyone up, that's it.
Then that's your choice.
So you can't really do
anything right or wrong.
again, if it were my wedding, I
would do it a little bit differently.
I would include the aunt, but.
I don't know how big her family is.
Maybe if you include that aunt.
You also then have to include her husband
and her kids and, their other cousins.
And their other aunts.
I don't know if it's just one aunt.
I'd be like, just include the aunt.
The best I got from
her was a half apology.
She later told my sister she
wouldn't be planning anything else
for me like the bridal shower.
Luckily, some of my friends are stepping
in, so I don't miss out on the experience.
But honestly, that weekend, which was
supposed to be joyful and focus on the
wedding, was completely overshadowed.
Oh my gosh.
So that was, crazy.
I feel like it was one of those
where there's a miscommunication,
and people see how it should be their
own way, they're afraid to like.
speak up, but instead of
just communicating, they're
gonna hold a grudge.
So I think the aunt got her all
upset about it And then they
just, completely took it from her.
Oh gosh.
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