1 00:00:00,022 --> 00:00:01,642 I've heard you guys loud and clear. 2 00:00:01,642 --> 00:00:04,342 You guys want more drama, more stories 3 00:00:04,561 --> 00:00:06,310 and get rid of all the extra stuff. 4 00:00:06,310 --> 00:00:07,517 One thing I will never get rid of though, 5 00:00:07,517 --> 00:00:10,007 is just my random banter because it's just 6 00:00:10,007 --> 00:00:12,129 fun just to add some little commentary, 7 00:00:12,317 --> 00:00:14,853 believe me, we get lots of stories, about 8 00:00:14,853 --> 00:00:17,273 the moms because they do really have such 9 00:00:17,273 --> 00:00:19,553 a vital role when it comes to weddings 10 00:00:19,724 --> 00:00:22,537 and I think it's really important that, 11 00:00:22,653 --> 00:00:24,153 We all understand our role 12 00:00:24,153 --> 00:00:25,383 and we understand like how we 13 00:00:25,383 --> 00:00:27,326 can be helpful not overstep. 14 00:00:27,386 --> 00:00:29,126 I always say this time and time again, 15 00:00:29,156 --> 00:00:31,346 I'm so lucky that my mom and mother-in-law 16 00:00:31,534 --> 00:00:34,056 were both so helpful and respectful. 17 00:00:34,056 --> 00:00:35,436 Like on the wedding day, not like 18 00:00:35,436 --> 00:00:36,756 taking anything away from me. 19 00:00:36,984 --> 00:00:38,759 They knew how important it was to me to 20 00:00:38,759 --> 00:00:41,246 be able to plan, but also I kept them very 21 00:00:41,246 --> 00:00:43,106 involved as much as they wanted to be. 22 00:00:43,353 --> 00:00:44,729 but we have a lot of stories. 23 00:00:44,991 --> 00:00:46,854 about mothers of the bride that did 24 00:00:46,854 --> 00:00:48,444 not really understand their role. 25 00:00:48,624 --> 00:00:50,094 people get pushed to the wayside. 26 00:00:50,094 --> 00:00:51,774 People get told how they're gonna 27 00:00:51,774 --> 00:00:54,508 do things and it causes some chaos. 28 00:00:54,649 --> 00:00:55,458 So, like I said, we're gonna do 29 00:00:55,458 --> 00:00:56,358 things a little bit different. 30 00:00:56,568 --> 00:00:58,541 We're gonna just Keep it fun today. 31 00:00:58,571 --> 00:00:59,501 I mean, not saying it's not 32 00:00:59,501 --> 00:01:00,581 usually fun, but we're just 33 00:01:00,581 --> 00:01:01,991 gonna jump right into the drama. 34 00:01:02,138 --> 00:01:03,488 Let's start with some hot takes. 35 00:01:03,518 --> 00:01:03,878 Okay. 36 00:01:04,101 --> 00:01:05,421 here are some hot takes 37 00:01:05,451 --> 00:01:07,251 around mothers of the bride. 38 00:01:07,429 --> 00:01:09,088 First one says, if she's 39 00:01:09,088 --> 00:01:11,638 paying, she's planning. 40 00:01:11,886 --> 00:01:13,524 Okay, so this is interesting. 41 00:01:13,743 --> 00:01:15,033 I shouldn't say I have mixed feelings 42 00:01:15,033 --> 00:01:16,603 about this because I'm pretty 43 00:01:16,603 --> 00:01:18,133 consistent with my feelings on this. 44 00:01:18,345 --> 00:01:20,394 If you are paying for the wedding 45 00:01:20,394 --> 00:01:22,584 because you want to help as a gift 46 00:01:22,719 --> 00:01:24,961 you can help with as much as the bride 47 00:01:24,961 --> 00:01:26,611 and groom still want you to help with. 48 00:01:26,792 --> 00:01:28,214 It does not mean because you're 49 00:01:28,214 --> 00:01:30,656 paying, you can take control now. 50 00:01:30,746 --> 00:01:32,636 I think it's all about mutual respect. 51 00:01:32,765 --> 00:01:34,702 If there's a good relationship between 52 00:01:34,732 --> 00:01:37,252 the bride, the groom, and the parents. 53 00:01:37,434 --> 00:01:39,096 Then I think absolutely. 54 00:01:39,096 --> 00:01:40,326 Let's help each other out. 55 00:01:40,446 --> 00:01:41,496 You wanna take on this? 56 00:01:41,496 --> 00:01:42,246 I'll take on this. 57 00:01:42,246 --> 00:01:42,816 Absolutely. 58 00:01:42,816 --> 00:01:43,656 Like, let's do it. 59 00:01:43,821 --> 00:01:46,843 However, if it's already kind of a 60 00:01:46,903 --> 00:01:49,159 rocky relationship and you're doing 61 00:01:49,159 --> 00:01:50,329 it to hang something over their 62 00:01:50,329 --> 00:01:52,807 head, then yeah, let's not do that. 63 00:01:53,007 --> 00:01:54,634 because if you're paying just 64 00:01:54,634 --> 00:01:56,440 so you can control things, then. 65 00:01:56,637 --> 00:01:58,682 That altogether is not a great thing, 66 00:01:58,907 --> 00:02:00,935 but we hear about it all the time that, 67 00:02:00,965 --> 00:02:02,825 oh, well, she paid for it so she can 68 00:02:02,825 --> 00:02:04,932 change it, or she can do it this way. 69 00:02:04,932 --> 00:02:06,852 And I just don't agree with that. 70 00:02:06,852 --> 00:02:07,722 But that's a constant 71 00:02:07,722 --> 00:02:08,772 thing that we always see. 72 00:02:08,772 --> 00:02:09,012 Right. 73 00:02:09,230 --> 00:02:09,515 Okay. 74 00:02:09,515 --> 00:02:11,812 Number two, wearing white is 75 00:02:11,812 --> 00:02:14,480 a passive aggressive flex. 76 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:14,975 Yeah. 77 00:02:15,035 --> 00:02:17,105 I mean, again, it depends on the wedding. 78 00:02:17,105 --> 00:02:18,005 There are some weddings where 79 00:02:18,005 --> 00:02:18,935 they're like, I don't care. 80 00:02:18,935 --> 00:02:19,475 We're white. 81 00:02:19,505 --> 00:02:20,405 It's a garden wedding. 82 00:02:20,405 --> 00:02:21,999 We're, Neutrals or whatever. 83 00:02:22,235 --> 00:02:25,425 however, unless specifically stated on the 84 00:02:25,425 --> 00:02:28,335 invitation or told to you by the brighter 85 00:02:28,335 --> 00:02:30,125 groom themselves, don't wear white. 86 00:02:30,349 --> 00:02:33,234 I've heard a lot of stories where a mother 87 00:02:33,234 --> 00:02:34,884 of bride has walked in wearing white, 88 00:02:35,066 --> 00:02:37,874 and you can tell it's just too upstage. 89 00:02:37,964 --> 00:02:39,417 So just putting that out there. 90 00:02:39,667 --> 00:02:41,684 number three, she should walk 91 00:02:41,684 --> 00:02:43,004 in before the bridesmaids. 92 00:02:43,490 --> 00:02:44,349 Yes. 93 00:02:44,436 --> 00:02:46,002 I don't know if I've been to a wedding 94 00:02:46,002 --> 00:02:47,502 where she walks in after the bridesmaids. 95 00:02:47,502 --> 00:02:48,252 That's just kind of like 96 00:02:48,252 --> 00:02:49,632 how it typically goes. 97 00:02:49,830 --> 00:02:51,340 the first few people might change a little 98 00:02:51,340 --> 00:02:53,543 bit, but you typically have the groom. 99 00:02:53,673 --> 00:02:55,693 in a heterosexual wedding, you typically 100 00:02:55,693 --> 00:02:57,763 have the groom walkout first, whether 101 00:02:57,763 --> 00:03:00,403 it's with his parents or by himself. 102 00:03:00,564 --> 00:03:03,143 Then you have, his parents and then you 103 00:03:03,143 --> 00:03:05,220 have, Depending if you want people to 104 00:03:05,220 --> 00:03:06,570 walk on the aisle, sometimes parents 105 00:03:06,570 --> 00:03:08,010 just walk out as part of the guest. 106 00:03:08,153 --> 00:03:09,893 but like in ours, we had my husband 107 00:03:09,893 --> 00:03:11,363 walked down with both of his parents, 108 00:03:11,552 --> 00:03:14,853 then my mom walked with my brother, 109 00:03:15,068 --> 00:03:17,623 and then, I think we did grandparents. 110 00:03:17,852 --> 00:03:19,558 Then bridesmaids were before me. 111 00:03:19,558 --> 00:03:21,268 Bridesmaids and grimmen were before me. 112 00:03:21,298 --> 00:03:23,555 Flower girl, ring bear, all that stuff. 113 00:03:23,750 --> 00:03:27,242 So yes, I think the parents should walk 114 00:03:27,242 --> 00:03:29,438 out before the bridesmaids because you 115 00:03:29,438 --> 00:03:32,708 want your family set first before like 116 00:03:32,798 --> 00:03:34,388 the wedding party starts basically. 117 00:03:34,388 --> 00:03:35,468 They wanna be able to see everything. 118 00:03:35,748 --> 00:03:36,875 Okay, here we go. 119 00:03:37,065 --> 00:03:38,782 Famous mothers of the bride. 120 00:03:38,992 --> 00:03:40,612 Guess that mother of the bride. 121 00:03:40,612 --> 00:03:41,892 Here So I'm gonna read a clue, 122 00:03:41,892 --> 00:03:43,692 I'm gonna pause so you guys can 123 00:03:43,752 --> 00:03:46,708 guess at home who you think it was. 124 00:03:46,872 --> 00:03:47,158 Okay. 125 00:03:47,348 --> 00:03:49,305 She tried to steal the spotlight 126 00:03:49,335 --> 00:03:51,345 by wearing a white dress to her 127 00:03:51,345 --> 00:03:53,445 daughter's wedding then dance with 128 00:03:53,445 --> 00:03:56,295 her ex-husband on the beach in Greece. 129 00:03:56,547 --> 00:03:58,515 Who is that mother of the bride? 130 00:03:58,843 --> 00:04:02,070 That is Meryl Streep and Mama Mia. 131 00:04:02,287 --> 00:04:02,967 Okay. 132 00:04:03,207 --> 00:04:05,920 I have not seen that movie in a long time. 133 00:04:05,950 --> 00:04:08,530 It's probably been since I was in college. 134 00:04:08,753 --> 00:04:10,740 but it's a movie, so it's entertainment. 135 00:04:10,740 --> 00:04:11,790 So don't take any of this. 136 00:04:11,820 --> 00:04:13,417 It's seriously, but there's already a 137 00:04:13,417 --> 00:04:16,097 lot of problematic things with this. 138 00:04:16,380 --> 00:04:17,357 the next one I'm gonna read. 139 00:04:17,618 --> 00:04:19,428 This high society mother of bride 140 00:04:19,428 --> 00:04:20,538 lied to her daughter about her 141 00:04:20,538 --> 00:04:22,375 father's identity times three. 142 00:04:22,612 --> 00:04:24,782 Again, Amanda's mom and mama Mia. 143 00:04:24,935 --> 00:04:25,932 So there's already some 144 00:04:25,932 --> 00:04:27,068 problems, with that. 145 00:04:27,098 --> 00:04:28,088 She wasn't completely 146 00:04:28,088 --> 00:04:29,078 honest with her daughter. 147 00:04:29,268 --> 00:04:31,188 so did she wear a white dress 148 00:04:31,188 --> 00:04:32,628 to upstate her daughter? 149 00:04:32,688 --> 00:04:33,108 I don't know. 150 00:04:33,108 --> 00:04:33,589 Maybe she did. 151 00:04:34,038 --> 00:04:34,468 Who knows. 152 00:04:34,705 --> 00:04:34,898 Okay. 153 00:04:34,898 --> 00:04:35,708 Number three. 154 00:04:35,838 --> 00:04:37,518 she secretly planned her daughter's 155 00:04:37,518 --> 00:04:39,848 entire wedding, didn't tell her, and 156 00:04:39,848 --> 00:04:41,588 then expected her to go along with it, 157 00:04:41,588 --> 00:04:44,798 including picking the venue and the dress. 158 00:04:44,995 --> 00:04:46,662 Who was that mother of the bride? 159 00:04:46,992 --> 00:04:48,698 That is, it's crazy 'cause you 160 00:04:48,698 --> 00:04:49,538 read some of these and you're 161 00:04:49,538 --> 00:04:50,588 like, that would never happen. 162 00:04:50,588 --> 00:04:53,438 But I just, I just read a story 163 00:04:53,648 --> 00:04:54,872 very similar to this that just 164 00:04:54,872 --> 00:04:55,992 happened to someone that is 165 00:04:55,992 --> 00:04:58,362 Jane Fonda and Monster in-law. 166 00:04:58,665 --> 00:04:58,935 okay. 167 00:04:58,935 --> 00:04:59,895 Number four. 168 00:05:00,108 --> 00:05:02,405 She crashed her ex's new wedding 169 00:05:02,405 --> 00:05:04,505 just to stir the pot because no 170 00:05:04,505 --> 00:05:07,475 one upstages her in her own family. 171 00:05:07,758 --> 00:05:09,288 I'm not familiar with this one. 172 00:05:09,498 --> 00:05:11,848 That's Lucille Bluth vibes. 173 00:05:11,908 --> 00:05:14,228 It says, in Arrested Development. 174 00:05:14,415 --> 00:05:14,695 Okay. 175 00:05:14,978 --> 00:05:15,615 There's two more. 176 00:05:15,832 --> 00:05:18,028 This real life celebrity mother of 177 00:05:18,028 --> 00:05:20,488 the bride wore a sheer beaded gown 178 00:05:20,488 --> 00:05:22,318 to her daughter's Italian wedding 179 00:05:22,318 --> 00:05:24,448 and somehow stole the spotlight. 180 00:05:24,739 --> 00:05:26,585 The clue is momager. 181 00:05:26,832 --> 00:05:28,865 Okay, that's Kris Jenner at 182 00:05:28,865 --> 00:05:30,365 Courtney Kardashian's wedding. 183 00:05:30,612 --> 00:05:32,239 I don't follow the 184 00:05:32,239 --> 00:05:33,949 Kardashians very closely. 185 00:05:34,156 --> 00:05:35,692 I used to watch. 186 00:05:35,913 --> 00:05:37,467 What was their, show like on Hulu? 187 00:05:37,467 --> 00:05:39,304 I've seen, I would watch that, 188 00:05:39,304 --> 00:05:40,654 but I didn't grow up watching the 189 00:05:40,654 --> 00:05:42,094 Kardashians, so I think I missed the 190 00:05:42,094 --> 00:05:43,534 whole Courtney Kardashian wedding. 191 00:05:43,763 --> 00:05:47,017 Now I know one of the daughters had 192 00:05:47,017 --> 00:05:49,087 a wedding where they all wore white. 193 00:05:49,319 --> 00:05:51,177 And guys, if you were big Kardashian fans, 194 00:05:51,177 --> 00:05:52,047 you're probably laughing at me 'cause 195 00:05:52,077 --> 00:05:53,510 you're like, what are you talking about? 196 00:05:53,737 --> 00:05:55,480 I think they all just upstage each other. 197 00:05:55,570 --> 00:05:56,410 I think they're all just 198 00:05:56,410 --> 00:05:57,850 really into fashion and. 199 00:05:58,113 --> 00:05:58,495 I don't know. 200 00:05:58,495 --> 00:05:59,665 I think they all just are really 201 00:05:59,665 --> 00:06:01,465 into it and looking good, so 202 00:06:01,465 --> 00:06:02,935 I don't, I doubt she did it to 203 00:06:02,935 --> 00:06:04,642 upstage her, but I could be wrong. 204 00:06:04,866 --> 00:06:06,265 Okay, last one here. 205 00:06:06,436 --> 00:06:09,289 She plays sweet and simple, but she's 206 00:06:09,289 --> 00:06:11,809 the real mastermind behind the scenes. 207 00:06:11,993 --> 00:06:13,835 Calmly steering the chaos of a 208 00:06:13,835 --> 00:06:16,672 massive Greek family and reminding 209 00:06:16,672 --> 00:06:18,202 us that the woman may not be the 210 00:06:18,202 --> 00:06:21,089 head, but she's definitely the neck. 211 00:06:21,270 --> 00:06:23,845 That is Maria Porticos in 212 00:06:23,845 --> 00:06:25,135 my Big Fat Greek wedding. 213 00:06:25,406 --> 00:06:28,062 I love that movie. 214 00:06:28,210 --> 00:06:28,959 So let me tell you a 215 00:06:28,959 --> 00:06:30,429 little funny backstory. 216 00:06:30,626 --> 00:06:33,185 So I was in fifth grade, I 217 00:06:33,185 --> 00:06:34,505 think, when that movie came out. 218 00:06:34,746 --> 00:06:36,005 Not to age myself. 219 00:06:36,250 --> 00:06:38,052 I think I was in fifth grade, and my best 220 00:06:38,052 --> 00:06:39,492 friend and I at the time, we wanted to go 221 00:06:39,492 --> 00:06:42,019 to the movies to go see something, right? 222 00:06:42,196 --> 00:06:43,987 And it was one of those days, I think 223 00:06:43,987 --> 00:06:45,787 it was like either a spring break 224 00:06:45,787 --> 00:06:47,700 or summer, and we were just like old 225 00:06:47,700 --> 00:06:49,170 enough to go to the movies by ourselves. 226 00:06:49,170 --> 00:06:50,550 Like our parents would drop us off so 227 00:06:50,550 --> 00:06:53,440 we could go and, my friend Valerie, 228 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:55,480 she was like, well this movie called 229 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:57,310 My Big Fat Greek Wedding is playing. 230 00:06:57,520 --> 00:06:58,977 And I was like, I don't 231 00:06:58,977 --> 00:07:00,027 even know what that is. 232 00:07:00,027 --> 00:07:01,227 Like, I never heard of it. 233 00:07:01,227 --> 00:07:02,577 And I told my mom, my mom was 234 00:07:02,577 --> 00:07:04,317 like, oh, I think it's for adults. 235 00:07:04,317 --> 00:07:05,547 I don't think you're gonna like it. 236 00:07:05,753 --> 00:07:07,045 it might be just, Out of your 237 00:07:07,045 --> 00:07:08,605 realm of what you would find funny. 238 00:07:08,803 --> 00:07:10,122 And so we're like, whatever, 239 00:07:10,122 --> 00:07:11,382 it's the only movie available. 240 00:07:11,382 --> 00:07:15,102 And so we went and we were cracking up. 241 00:07:15,132 --> 00:07:16,752 We thought it was so funny, 242 00:07:16,752 --> 00:07:18,372 the whole Windex thing. 243 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:20,862 I mean, it's one of those classics and 244 00:07:20,862 --> 00:07:22,752 I've since gone back and watched it. 245 00:07:22,782 --> 00:07:23,862 'cause now I think they have two 246 00:07:23,862 --> 00:07:26,108 or three of 'em and it's so good. 247 00:07:26,158 --> 00:07:27,088 I love the mom. 248 00:07:27,188 --> 00:07:27,728 porta, Collos. 249 00:07:28,005 --> 00:07:31,042 I just think she's so wholesome and sweet. 250 00:07:31,214 --> 00:07:31,605 Yes. 251 00:07:31,605 --> 00:07:33,738 Is there some of that, control? 252 00:07:33,768 --> 00:07:34,578 Of course. 253 00:07:34,578 --> 00:07:35,988 That's more when they're dating though. 254 00:07:36,164 --> 00:07:37,325 But you can tell she just like 255 00:07:37,325 --> 00:07:39,545 so cares for her daughter and she 256 00:07:39,545 --> 00:07:42,485 really, adapts to everything and I 257 00:07:42,485 --> 00:07:44,105 think just, it's such a good movie. 258 00:07:44,135 --> 00:07:46,368 So just a little side spiel. 259 00:07:46,523 --> 00:07:46,845 Okay. 260 00:07:46,845 --> 00:07:48,555 I better get into it guys, because 261 00:07:48,555 --> 00:07:50,175 we've got four stories from the vault. 262 00:07:50,319 --> 00:07:51,065 The first. 263 00:07:51,246 --> 00:07:53,198 They get longer and longer as they go. 264 00:07:53,198 --> 00:07:55,238 The first couple are pretty short. 265 00:07:55,373 --> 00:07:57,317 The last one is The main one. 266 00:07:57,543 --> 00:07:58,830 Again, I've not read these. 267 00:07:58,830 --> 00:08:00,900 We kind of just searched for mother of 268 00:08:00,900 --> 00:08:02,657 the bride and we're gonna see what happens 269 00:08:02,657 --> 00:08:04,277 and we're gonna react in real time here. 270 00:08:04,367 --> 00:08:04,697 Okay? 271 00:08:05,231 --> 00:08:08,231 Number one, my mom stole several 272 00:08:08,231 --> 00:08:10,211 thousand dollars out of our wedding 273 00:08:10,211 --> 00:08:12,621 fund, so the night before I had to 274 00:08:12,621 --> 00:08:15,471 cook all the food and make the decor 275 00:08:15,674 --> 00:08:17,215 because it was the vendor money. 276 00:08:17,384 --> 00:08:18,310 How does that work? 277 00:08:18,310 --> 00:08:20,140 Because typically vendors are gonna 278 00:08:20,140 --> 00:08:22,750 require deposit down and then still come. 279 00:08:22,941 --> 00:08:24,580 So why would then you 280 00:08:24,580 --> 00:08:26,320 have to make all the food? 281 00:08:26,510 --> 00:08:28,430 it says she bought pills with it. 282 00:08:29,416 --> 00:08:31,523 Tried to sell them to the wedding 283 00:08:31,523 --> 00:08:33,456 guests while wearing a cocktail 284 00:08:33,456 --> 00:08:36,053 dress that she was falling out of. 285 00:08:37,410 --> 00:08:39,760 She also kept all my memorabilia, so we 286 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:42,130 literally had nothing from our wedding. 287 00:08:42,313 --> 00:08:43,933 When I asked her why she would do 288 00:08:43,933 --> 00:08:46,013 this, she shrugged and said, well, 289 00:08:46,103 --> 00:08:47,933 you're getting married in my yard. 290 00:08:49,330 --> 00:08:51,316 So this is very like off the 291 00:08:51,316 --> 00:08:53,866 rails, but similar to I'm paying 292 00:08:53,866 --> 00:08:55,246 for it so I can do what I want. 293 00:08:55,396 --> 00:08:57,203 She's obviously not paying for it. 294 00:08:57,406 --> 00:08:58,523 I mean, I don't know what parts she 295 00:08:58,523 --> 00:09:00,323 was kind of paying for, but providing 296 00:09:00,323 --> 00:09:02,183 the yard in her mind, she's like, well. 297 00:09:02,466 --> 00:09:04,105 That means everything that's on this 298 00:09:04,105 --> 00:09:06,356 yard belongs to me, I can control 299 00:09:06,356 --> 00:09:08,790 things still several thousands. 300 00:09:09,027 --> 00:09:10,613 I'm also wondering like, how 301 00:09:10,613 --> 00:09:11,873 did she get access to it? 302 00:09:11,873 --> 00:09:13,073 Was this a bank account? 303 00:09:13,307 --> 00:09:14,800 So many questions you guys. 304 00:09:16,193 --> 00:09:16,660 That's, bad. 305 00:09:16,660 --> 00:09:17,260 That's pretty bad. 306 00:09:17,504 --> 00:09:17,804 Okay. 307 00:09:18,102 --> 00:09:19,929 Story number two, this happened at 308 00:09:19,929 --> 00:09:22,435 my fiance's best friend's wedding. 309 00:09:22,695 --> 00:09:25,642 First, his mom and uncle were very 310 00:09:25,642 --> 00:09:27,682 upset because the groom said there 311 00:09:27,682 --> 00:09:29,542 wasn't going to be any hard liquor 312 00:09:29,742 --> 00:09:32,552 served at the reception only wine 313 00:09:32,552 --> 00:09:34,262 in a couple different kinds of beer. 314 00:09:34,757 --> 00:09:36,832 Oh my gosh, you guys, if you watch 315 00:09:36,832 --> 00:09:39,049 my content, you've seen that one 316 00:09:39,212 --> 00:09:40,572 that I just, not that long ago. 317 00:09:40,572 --> 00:09:42,032 I think it was, Aaron. 318 00:09:42,240 --> 00:09:42,880 I think it was like all 319 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:43,750 names from the office. 320 00:09:43,750 --> 00:09:45,857 It was like Aaron, Pam, gosh, I don't 321 00:09:45,857 --> 00:09:46,967 even remember who else was in it. 322 00:09:47,214 --> 00:09:47,864 Jim. 323 00:09:48,550 --> 00:09:49,749 it was so similar. 324 00:09:49,749 --> 00:09:51,159 It was the sister like that didn't 325 00:09:51,159 --> 00:09:52,449 wanna come because she was like, why 326 00:09:52,449 --> 00:09:53,739 are you not having any hard liquor? 327 00:09:53,936 --> 00:09:54,869 That is crazy. 328 00:09:55,103 --> 00:09:57,069 His mom and uncle actually threatened 329 00:09:57,609 --> 00:10:00,620 not to come, but then they decided to, 330 00:10:00,874 --> 00:10:02,882 they would just have some hard liquor 331 00:10:03,062 --> 00:10:06,364 before the wedding and showed up drunk. 332 00:10:06,563 --> 00:10:08,770 They also snuck hard liquor into the 333 00:10:08,770 --> 00:10:12,130 reception that they kept to themselves, 334 00:10:12,294 --> 00:10:14,700 and also one of the groomsmen was 335 00:10:14,700 --> 00:10:17,907 the grooms girl best friend as the 336 00:10:17,907 --> 00:10:20,790 groom's mom was leaving the reception. 337 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:21,413 Okay. 338 00:10:21,637 --> 00:10:24,092 Drunk as a skunk, she pulled the 339 00:10:24,092 --> 00:10:26,968 girl best friend aside and told 340 00:10:26,968 --> 00:10:29,428 her it should have been you. 341 00:10:29,732 --> 00:10:32,225 Oh no, just reading this, I'm 342 00:10:32,225 --> 00:10:33,485 realizing like, oh, this is 343 00:10:33,485 --> 00:10:35,525 like a girl's mom, but whatever. 344 00:10:35,762 --> 00:10:36,885 there's a lot to say here. 345 00:10:36,885 --> 00:10:38,295 There's a lot to say here. 346 00:10:38,325 --> 00:10:40,222 I mean, first threatening 347 00:10:40,222 --> 00:10:41,452 to not come to the wedding. 348 00:10:41,710 --> 00:10:43,867 This is your son's wedding, right? 349 00:10:43,867 --> 00:10:44,167 Yeah. 350 00:10:44,197 --> 00:10:46,003 The uncle and the mom are, threatening to 351 00:10:46,003 --> 00:10:47,773 not come because there's no hard liquor. 352 00:10:47,893 --> 00:10:48,793 That's a problem. 353 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:49,820 That is a problem. 354 00:10:50,034 --> 00:10:51,377 If you're gonna refuse to not go 355 00:10:51,377 --> 00:10:52,997 celebrate someone as close and 356 00:10:52,997 --> 00:10:55,433 important as your son, that's a problem. 357 00:10:55,604 --> 00:10:57,313 Then she decides to get drunk in 358 00:10:57,313 --> 00:10:59,263 the parking lot or wherever before 359 00:10:59,263 --> 00:11:01,443 the wedding tells the best friend. 360 00:11:01,503 --> 00:11:02,223 Oh my gosh. 361 00:11:02,223 --> 00:11:02,913 Should have been you. 362 00:11:03,127 --> 00:11:04,615 the girl best friend, felt 363 00:11:04,615 --> 00:11:06,385 instantly awkward and talked to 364 00:11:06,385 --> 00:11:08,335 my fiance, who was the best man. 365 00:11:08,585 --> 00:11:09,715 Not sure if she should 366 00:11:09,715 --> 00:11:11,005 tell the groom or not. 367 00:11:11,424 --> 00:11:12,859 In the end, she decided 368 00:11:12,859 --> 00:11:13,939 it was the right thing. 369 00:11:13,939 --> 00:11:15,289 She had to tell him. 370 00:11:15,511 --> 00:11:17,089 Oh my gosh. 371 00:11:17,271 --> 00:11:19,034 See, I think you should avoid 372 00:11:19,034 --> 00:11:20,294 telling the bride and groom 373 00:11:20,551 --> 00:11:22,790 anything until after the wedding. 374 00:11:22,994 --> 00:11:25,280 Let them live in their wedded bliss. 375 00:11:25,460 --> 00:11:27,650 Don't keep telling about the drama. 376 00:11:27,827 --> 00:11:29,274 because there's so many people that 377 00:11:29,274 --> 00:11:30,676 I've had stories send to me that 378 00:11:30,676 --> 00:11:32,516 there were like, our day was amazing. 379 00:11:32,516 --> 00:11:33,416 We had the best time. 380 00:11:33,791 --> 00:11:36,053 Later we found out, or someone 381 00:11:36,053 --> 00:11:37,563 told me this later, and I 382 00:11:37,563 --> 00:11:38,702 just think let's do that. 383 00:11:38,702 --> 00:11:40,721 Let's let them keep the peace. 384 00:11:40,948 --> 00:11:43,214 And just live in their wedded bliss 385 00:11:43,214 --> 00:11:45,439 because I don't know, it'll distract 386 00:11:45,439 --> 00:11:46,819 them from their day if we're just telling 387 00:11:46,819 --> 00:11:48,649 them like every little drama thing. 388 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:50,632 Anyways, it says the groom got in a big 389 00:11:50,632 --> 00:11:52,372 fight with his mom and they ended up not 390 00:11:52,372 --> 00:11:55,372 speaking for something like three months. 391 00:11:55,625 --> 00:11:56,615 Oh my gosh. 392 00:11:57,005 --> 00:11:57,665 That's insane. 393 00:11:57,937 --> 00:11:58,255 Okay, 394 00:11:58,490 --> 00:11:59,005 next one. 395 00:11:59,005 --> 00:12:00,715 I'm breaking this one up so I don't. 396 00:12:00,940 --> 00:12:01,512 Mess it up. 397 00:12:01,737 --> 00:12:02,629 Story number three, 398 00:12:02,887 --> 00:12:04,572 trying to not lose my voice again, 399 00:12:04,789 --> 00:12:06,379 as of the date I'm recording this. 400 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:09,525 I had just lost my voice and I'm starting 401 00:12:09,525 --> 00:12:11,505 to get it back again, but I'm realizing 402 00:12:11,505 --> 00:12:14,469 like I'm doing even more talking. 403 00:12:14,469 --> 00:12:15,759 This week I had three podcasts 404 00:12:15,863 --> 00:12:18,239 episodes to film and filming content, 405 00:12:18,239 --> 00:12:19,289 so I'm really trying to like. 406 00:12:19,503 --> 00:12:20,935 Make sure I'm drinking water, taking 407 00:12:20,935 --> 00:12:22,345 breaks and all that good stuff. 408 00:12:22,581 --> 00:12:24,804 anyways, okay, so my brother married this 409 00:12:24,804 --> 00:12:28,854 girl that literally my whole family hates. 410 00:12:29,136 --> 00:12:31,458 We all tried to talk him out of it because 411 00:12:31,458 --> 00:12:34,891 she and her family are nothing but drama. 412 00:12:35,376 --> 00:12:35,766 hard. 413 00:12:35,766 --> 00:12:37,476 And I know in her mind, and 414 00:12:37,481 --> 00:12:38,869 again, I'm not a part of it, I'm 415 00:12:38,869 --> 00:12:40,219 only reading a story here, but. 416 00:12:40,447 --> 00:12:41,934 In her mind, she's like 417 00:12:41,964 --> 00:12:43,284 helping him by saying that. 418 00:12:43,477 --> 00:12:45,087 But there's some things you just have 419 00:12:45,087 --> 00:12:46,287 to let them figure it out on their 420 00:12:46,287 --> 00:12:47,887 own, because if something were to 421 00:12:47,887 --> 00:12:49,737 happen, you don't want him turning his 422 00:12:49,737 --> 00:12:51,177 back on his family being like, well, 423 00:12:51,177 --> 00:12:52,917 you guys did this, or You guys blamed 424 00:12:52,917 --> 00:12:53,937 them, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 425 00:12:54,133 --> 00:12:55,594 He needs to figure it out on his own, 426 00:12:55,813 --> 00:12:57,331 otherwise it's gonna cause like a 427 00:12:57,331 --> 00:12:59,581 bigger rift between him and his family. 428 00:12:59,827 --> 00:13:01,001 but he wanted to marry her. 429 00:13:01,001 --> 00:13:02,291 So my mom and aunt literally 430 00:13:02,291 --> 00:13:04,121 did everything for the wedding. 431 00:13:04,304 --> 00:13:07,326 Full on DIY, decor and favors 432 00:13:07,386 --> 00:13:09,516 and helped pay for the venue. 433 00:13:09,744 --> 00:13:11,980 I didn't wanna be in the wedding unless 434 00:13:11,980 --> 00:13:13,810 I could stand on my brother's side 435 00:13:13,957 --> 00:13:15,783 with our cousin and older brother. 436 00:13:15,977 --> 00:13:18,406 She told my brother I was being 437 00:13:18,406 --> 00:13:21,392 a selfish b*tch and a baby, and 438 00:13:21,392 --> 00:13:23,192 if I didn't stand with her, I 439 00:13:23,192 --> 00:13:24,422 couldn't be in the wedding at all. 440 00:13:26,290 --> 00:13:26,690 It's hard. 441 00:13:26,954 --> 00:13:29,264 if you already don't like the bride, then 442 00:13:29,264 --> 00:13:31,291 I get not wanting to be in the wedding. 443 00:13:31,509 --> 00:13:33,016 But you'll also at the end of the day have 444 00:13:33,016 --> 00:13:34,944 to realize it's the bride and grooms day. 445 00:13:34,944 --> 00:13:36,471 So if they want bridesmaids 446 00:13:36,471 --> 00:13:37,746 on their side and groomsmen on 447 00:13:37,746 --> 00:13:39,184 the other, that's their thing. 448 00:13:39,396 --> 00:13:41,698 I've seen more and more sides get mixed 449 00:13:41,698 --> 00:13:43,771 up with guys and girls or whatever, but 450 00:13:43,956 --> 00:13:45,756 at the end of the day, it's their choice. 451 00:13:45,957 --> 00:13:46,642 I don't know. 452 00:13:46,907 --> 00:13:47,522 That's hard. 453 00:13:47,582 --> 00:13:48,092 That's hard. 454 00:13:49,317 --> 00:13:50,162 She says, fine. 455 00:13:50,192 --> 00:13:52,202 Wedding day comes, and I was helping my 456 00:13:52,202 --> 00:13:54,002 mom literally set the whole thing up. 457 00:13:54,092 --> 00:13:56,132 We were at the venue all day. 458 00:13:56,350 --> 00:13:58,177 her family was getting their hair 459 00:13:58,177 --> 00:13:59,844 and makeup done, and they never 460 00:13:59,844 --> 00:14:02,514 even asked my mom if she wanted 461 00:14:02,514 --> 00:14:04,164 to come with them to get ready. 462 00:14:04,383 --> 00:14:06,845 Her mom, this is the mother of the bride 463 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:09,802 came to the venue, which was a barn since 464 00:14:09,802 --> 00:14:12,412 they did a fall country casual theme. 465 00:14:12,587 --> 00:14:15,869 She showed up in a full blown sequin 466 00:14:16,139 --> 00:14:19,559 floor length gown with fake eyelashes. 467 00:14:19,777 --> 00:14:21,272 Hey, I'm not knocking fake eyelashes 468 00:14:21,272 --> 00:14:22,622 though, because I had them at my 469 00:14:22,622 --> 00:14:24,267 wedding and I got married in a, 470 00:14:24,547 --> 00:14:25,482 Old Mattress factory. 471 00:14:25,687 --> 00:14:26,707 That's a story for another time. 472 00:14:26,737 --> 00:14:28,024 I mean, it's not really a story, it's 473 00:14:28,024 --> 00:14:29,404 a cool, like rustic looking thing 474 00:14:29,434 --> 00:14:31,187 Anyways, and we all have fake eyelashes, 475 00:14:31,187 --> 00:14:32,827 but you can have 'em done different 476 00:14:32,827 --> 00:14:34,680 ways and hey, if that's what you're 477 00:14:34,884 --> 00:14:36,424 comfortable with, you do, you girl. 478 00:14:36,617 --> 00:14:39,077 But a full blown sequin, floor length 479 00:14:39,077 --> 00:14:41,327 gown is a little over the top for a barn. 480 00:14:41,540 --> 00:14:42,617 That's where you kinda wanna know the 481 00:14:42,617 --> 00:14:44,177 theme, But as a mother of the bride, 482 00:14:44,177 --> 00:14:45,897 you should maybe know it, but I dunno. 483 00:14:46,192 --> 00:14:47,512 it says the woman is 60. 484 00:14:47,756 --> 00:14:49,994 She said the decor that my mom and 485 00:14:50,054 --> 00:14:52,814 aunt made was tacky and looked cheap. 486 00:14:53,044 --> 00:14:53,344 Okay. 487 00:14:53,344 --> 00:14:54,664 No, that's just downright rude 488 00:14:54,920 --> 00:14:56,764 When you didn't help with anything. 489 00:14:57,003 --> 00:14:58,844 You cannot come in and tell them 490 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:00,510 that it looks tacky and cheap. 491 00:15:00,510 --> 00:15:01,530 Like, come on. 492 00:15:01,740 --> 00:15:04,050 There are zero pictures of our parents 493 00:15:04,193 --> 00:15:06,837 with her parents during the reception. 494 00:15:06,897 --> 00:15:09,627 Her father sat outside the entire 495 00:15:09,627 --> 00:15:11,960 night and we honestly never saw him 496 00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:13,580 after the father-daughter dance. 497 00:15:13,700 --> 00:15:16,375 Her mom had invited her friends they 498 00:15:16,375 --> 00:15:18,258 stayed outside all night and her 499 00:15:18,258 --> 00:15:20,778 brother brought weed and was smoking 500 00:15:20,778 --> 00:15:22,830 it with the flower girls right there. 501 00:15:22,950 --> 00:15:25,050 Oh my gosh. 502 00:15:25,277 --> 00:15:26,267 This is a mess. 503 00:15:26,327 --> 00:15:26,717 Okay. 504 00:15:26,937 --> 00:15:28,927 My dad was freaking out that we were 505 00:15:28,927 --> 00:15:30,367 gonna get kicked out of the venue. 506 00:15:30,547 --> 00:15:31,717 Meanwhile, the bride 507 00:15:31,717 --> 00:15:32,947 didn't speak to anyone. 508 00:15:33,170 --> 00:15:35,624 Changed into a t-shirt and jeans was 509 00:15:35,624 --> 00:15:37,664 just on the phone, the entire reception. 510 00:15:37,855 --> 00:15:39,217 Why are they getting married? 511 00:15:39,217 --> 00:15:41,137 It sounds like they don't wanna be getting 512 00:15:41,137 --> 00:15:42,997 married or like someone's pressuring them. 513 00:15:42,997 --> 00:15:44,377 But if like his family doesn't like 514 00:15:44,377 --> 00:15:46,047 her, the families aren't talking, 515 00:15:46,178 --> 00:15:47,888 the bride herself seems unhappy. 516 00:15:47,888 --> 00:15:49,238 Put on a t-shirt and jeans 517 00:15:49,238 --> 00:15:50,798 right after it was on the phone. 518 00:15:50,798 --> 00:15:51,848 Like, what's happening here? 519 00:15:52,049 --> 00:15:53,958 The bride's brother took off his 520 00:15:53,958 --> 00:15:56,448 shirt and was drunk running around 521 00:15:56,821 --> 00:15:59,071 trying to pick a fight with guests. 522 00:15:59,521 --> 00:16:00,571 Oh my gosh. 523 00:16:00,943 --> 00:16:01,921 Oh, this is crazy. 524 00:16:02,122 --> 00:16:03,777 The owner of the venue told my 525 00:16:03,777 --> 00:16:05,397 dad to get him out of there, or 526 00:16:05,397 --> 00:16:07,017 he was going to call the police. 527 00:16:07,185 --> 00:16:08,754 Why is it up to the groom's dad? 528 00:16:09,005 --> 00:16:09,531 That's weird. 529 00:16:09,742 --> 00:16:11,437 My dad found the mother of the bride 530 00:16:11,437 --> 00:16:13,357 and asked her to remove her son. 531 00:16:13,525 --> 00:16:14,947 She told my dad that we were 532 00:16:14,947 --> 00:16:16,720 being judgemental her son 533 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:18,880 was just having a good time. 534 00:16:18,970 --> 00:16:20,200 No. 535 00:16:20,374 --> 00:16:21,250 Oh, this isn't good. 536 00:16:21,500 --> 00:16:23,781 my cousin, who was a groomsman, ended up 537 00:16:23,781 --> 00:16:25,761 having to carry her brother out of the 538 00:16:25,761 --> 00:16:29,157 venue get someone to drive him home, the 539 00:16:29,157 --> 00:16:31,737 mother of the bride yelled at my cousin 540 00:16:31,932 --> 00:16:35,501 for touching her son and making him leave. 541 00:16:35,728 --> 00:16:37,118 That was our family being 542 00:16:37,118 --> 00:16:38,768 rude and the whole wedding 543 00:16:38,768 --> 00:16:41,648 was a disaster because of us. 544 00:16:41,834 --> 00:16:43,325 That just shows you that. 545 00:16:43,541 --> 00:16:44,973 Whoever tells the story is 546 00:16:44,973 --> 00:16:45,843 gonna tell it from, you know, 547 00:16:45,843 --> 00:16:47,163 obviously their perspective. 548 00:16:47,374 --> 00:16:48,998 so this mother of the bride's probably 549 00:16:48,998 --> 00:16:50,938 going around saying like, uh, the family 550 00:16:50,938 --> 00:16:53,698 that my daughter married into is horrible. 551 00:16:53,698 --> 00:16:55,048 They ruined their wedding. 552 00:16:55,244 --> 00:16:56,738 They were so judgmental. 553 00:16:56,788 --> 00:16:57,801 they took my son out. 554 00:16:57,801 --> 00:16:58,851 They grabbed him. 555 00:16:59,071 --> 00:17:00,230 all those things. 556 00:17:00,411 --> 00:17:02,630 When in reality, well, we weren't there. 557 00:17:02,630 --> 00:17:03,620 So we don't know what the real 558 00:17:03,620 --> 00:17:05,583 story is, but according to this. 559 00:17:05,704 --> 00:17:07,813 Sister of the groom, they were just 560 00:17:07,813 --> 00:17:11,067 pretty disruptive and rude and drunk. 561 00:17:11,637 --> 00:17:14,127 So that's what I'm getting from all that. 562 00:17:14,358 --> 00:17:15,030 That's crazy. 563 00:17:15,258 --> 00:17:17,033 That's when like, I really can picture in 564 00:17:17,033 --> 00:17:18,803 my mind, like I picture them at this barn. 565 00:17:19,018 --> 00:17:22,259 I picture them the brides in her little 566 00:17:22,259 --> 00:17:24,869 t-shirt and just like, don't talk to me. 567 00:17:25,076 --> 00:17:26,262 It's just awkward vibes. 568 00:17:26,472 --> 00:17:27,142 Have you guys ever. 569 00:17:27,642 --> 00:17:29,011 Been to a wedding where 570 00:17:29,011 --> 00:17:30,601 there's just awkward vibes. 571 00:17:30,601 --> 00:17:32,547 Like either people just feel 572 00:17:32,547 --> 00:17:34,047 like they shouldn't get married. 573 00:17:34,047 --> 00:17:35,727 There's a lot of chitter chatter. 574 00:17:35,757 --> 00:17:38,111 There's a lot of like tension because 575 00:17:38,111 --> 00:17:39,821 I definitely have, and you know, the 576 00:17:39,821 --> 00:17:42,404 second you walk in, people are not. 577 00:17:42,617 --> 00:17:43,037 I don't know. 578 00:17:43,266 --> 00:17:44,226 seems a little more tense. 579 00:17:44,226 --> 00:17:45,486 You can kind of feel it and like 580 00:17:45,713 --> 00:17:47,046 I've known to be like a little 581 00:17:47,046 --> 00:17:48,816 more like aware of these things. 582 00:17:48,816 --> 00:17:50,256 Like if I go somewhere, like I can 583 00:17:50,256 --> 00:17:51,701 tell like when there's tension, 584 00:17:51,889 --> 00:17:53,175 some people don't notice it, but 585 00:17:53,175 --> 00:17:54,615 like I've been to weddings where I'm 586 00:17:54,615 --> 00:17:56,585 just like, what's the issue here? 587 00:17:56,585 --> 00:17:57,570 Or are they not supposed 588 00:17:57,570 --> 00:17:58,350 to be getting married? 589 00:17:58,537 --> 00:17:59,576 Who got in a fight with who? 590 00:17:59,576 --> 00:18:00,470 Like something's off. 591 00:18:00,680 --> 00:18:01,040 I don't know. 592 00:18:01,340 --> 00:18:01,713 Okay. 593 00:18:02,054 --> 00:18:04,376 And this last one, Ooh, I need more water. 594 00:18:04,544 --> 00:18:06,101 This one's like a long one, so 595 00:18:06,300 --> 00:18:07,928 I need a voice break after this. 596 00:18:08,184 --> 00:18:09,915 Alright, you guys need to share some 597 00:18:09,915 --> 00:18:11,625 more of like your wedding guest stories. 598 00:18:11,625 --> 00:18:12,495 I feel like I haven't been 599 00:18:12,495 --> 00:18:14,145 to a wedding in so long. 600 00:18:14,347 --> 00:18:16,048 Like I said, I don't know, I've said 601 00:18:16,048 --> 00:18:17,758 another podcast, but like my husband and 602 00:18:17,758 --> 00:18:19,378 I used to go to weddings all the time. 603 00:18:19,378 --> 00:18:20,788 We were in weddings all the time. 604 00:18:20,982 --> 00:18:21,871 And then, I don't know if it was just 605 00:18:21,871 --> 00:18:23,521 perfect timing, but after having our 606 00:18:23,521 --> 00:18:25,421 daughter, it seemed like less and less 607 00:18:25,441 --> 00:18:27,360 people in our friend group were, getting 608 00:18:27,360 --> 00:18:28,650 married or they were already married. 609 00:18:28,903 --> 00:18:31,465 We've gone to one since my daughter 610 00:18:31,465 --> 00:18:33,935 has been born and, she was only 611 00:18:33,935 --> 00:18:35,135 three months old at the time. 612 00:18:35,195 --> 00:18:36,979 And so, I feel like we're in that 613 00:18:36,979 --> 00:18:38,829 lull where it's like we probably 614 00:18:38,829 --> 00:18:40,906 won't have a wedding to go to for 615 00:18:40,906 --> 00:18:42,976 a while, so it's nice break, but I 616 00:18:42,976 --> 00:18:44,806 also like going to weddings a lot. 617 00:18:44,806 --> 00:18:46,366 So, I'm gonna be a day of 618 00:18:46,366 --> 00:18:47,626 coordinator for a wedding this 619 00:18:47,626 --> 00:18:49,096 year, actually my birthday weekend. 620 00:18:49,096 --> 00:18:49,996 So that'll be kind of fun. 621 00:18:49,996 --> 00:18:50,626 I'm excited. 622 00:18:50,863 --> 00:18:52,441 So that'll probably be the next wedding 623 00:18:52,441 --> 00:18:54,691 I'll go to, but I won't be a guest. 624 00:18:54,914 --> 00:18:55,994 And then I was day of coordinator. 625 00:18:56,024 --> 00:18:57,134 Okay, now it's all coming back to me. 626 00:18:57,343 --> 00:18:58,487 I was a day of coordinator 627 00:18:58,693 --> 00:19:00,277 last January for a wedding. 628 00:19:00,307 --> 00:19:01,087 That was really fun. 629 00:19:01,250 --> 00:19:02,317 But I'm working, I'm 630 00:19:02,317 --> 00:19:03,547 running around for those. 631 00:19:03,547 --> 00:19:04,667 But any who? 632 00:19:04,886 --> 00:19:05,983 Story number four. 633 00:19:06,043 --> 00:19:06,913 This one's gonna be good. 634 00:19:07,180 --> 00:19:07,477 All right. 635 00:19:07,710 --> 00:19:08,337 She says. 636 00:19:08,603 --> 00:19:09,612 I'm getting married in 637 00:19:09,612 --> 00:19:11,322 late April of next year. 638 00:19:11,553 --> 00:19:13,405 Back in June, I set up two 639 00:19:13,405 --> 00:19:14,695 wedding dress appointments. 640 00:19:14,891 --> 00:19:17,050 My sister who lives across the country, 641 00:19:17,294 --> 00:19:19,367 two of my bridal party, my soon-to-be 642 00:19:19,367 --> 00:19:21,332 mother-in-law and father-in-law, 643 00:19:21,581 --> 00:19:23,896 and my mom and aunt were all 644 00:19:23,896 --> 00:19:25,696 planning to come down and be there. 645 00:19:25,950 --> 00:19:26,975 For context. 646 00:19:27,194 --> 00:19:29,447 My mother had planned an engagement party 647 00:19:29,447 --> 00:19:31,753 for us when my sister visited with my 648 00:19:31,753 --> 00:19:33,973 niece for the first time last September. 649 00:19:34,241 --> 00:19:35,698 It was more of a shared event so 650 00:19:35,698 --> 00:19:37,391 that my sister-in-laws who were 651 00:19:37,391 --> 00:19:39,341 also visiting could meet our family. 652 00:19:39,595 --> 00:19:41,666 My aunt from both sides were also there. 653 00:19:41,909 --> 00:19:43,908 We had to beg my family to take 654 00:19:43,908 --> 00:19:45,498 photos of my fiance and me at 655 00:19:45,498 --> 00:19:47,393 the event, but we laughed it off. 656 00:19:47,603 --> 00:19:48,731 We were still so grateful 657 00:19:48,731 --> 00:19:50,111 they planned something for us. 658 00:19:50,375 --> 00:19:51,733 I sent everyone handwritten 659 00:19:51,733 --> 00:19:52,303 thank you notes. 660 00:19:52,303 --> 00:19:54,331 Afterwards, when I began wedding 661 00:19:54,331 --> 00:19:56,800 planning, my mom started acting oddly. 662 00:19:57,011 --> 00:19:58,713 She never really asked if I needed 663 00:19:58,713 --> 00:20:00,818 help, but instead consistently brought 664 00:20:00,818 --> 00:20:02,804 up things that she didn't like about 665 00:20:02,804 --> 00:20:05,172 other weddings, including my sisters. 666 00:20:05,373 --> 00:20:07,521 This is what we call unhelpful advice. 667 00:20:07,919 --> 00:20:09,479 When all you say is things you don't 668 00:20:09,479 --> 00:20:11,009 like and just start complaining about 669 00:20:11,009 --> 00:20:13,550 things, that's not helpful because. 670 00:20:13,773 --> 00:20:15,526 That only teaches the bride to be 671 00:20:15,526 --> 00:20:17,896 critical of herself and question 672 00:20:17,896 --> 00:20:19,246 everything that she does because 673 00:20:19,246 --> 00:20:20,416 she's like, oh, is mom gonna like it? 674 00:20:20,446 --> 00:20:21,526 Oh, she seems to like hate 675 00:20:21,526 --> 00:20:22,426 a lot of things, right? 676 00:20:22,675 --> 00:20:24,625 she sent me suggestions for things 677 00:20:24,625 --> 00:20:26,485 she wanted to see at our wedding. 678 00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:27,968 When it didn't fit what we had 679 00:20:27,968 --> 00:20:29,948 wanted, I would politely decline, 680 00:20:30,123 --> 00:20:32,208 but always thank her for her input. 681 00:20:32,413 --> 00:20:33,843 As we booked our venue in my 682 00:20:33,843 --> 00:20:36,393 fiance's hometown, his mom kindly 683 00:20:36,393 --> 00:20:38,133 offered to plan the rehearsal dinner 684 00:20:38,133 --> 00:20:40,053 at a small historic inn in town. 685 00:20:40,313 --> 00:20:42,976 The Inn only seated 25 people max. 686 00:20:43,163 --> 00:20:44,976 We were grateful for her help and 687 00:20:44,976 --> 00:20:47,363 loved the venue, but after counting 688 00:20:47,363 --> 00:20:49,570 parents stepparents our wedding 689 00:20:49,570 --> 00:20:51,706 party and their plus ones, which is 690 00:20:51,706 --> 00:20:53,823 traditional, we were already at capacity. 691 00:20:54,127 --> 00:20:56,328 The only extended family invited was my 692 00:20:56,328 --> 00:20:58,701 fiance's uncle, who is our officiant. 693 00:20:58,954 --> 00:21:00,898 A few weeks before everyone came 694 00:21:00,898 --> 00:21:02,831 down for dress fitting, I called 695 00:21:02,831 --> 00:21:05,062 a video chat with my mom sister to 696 00:21:05,062 --> 00:21:06,922 explain that we couldn't invite any 697 00:21:06,922 --> 00:21:08,572 extended families to rehearsal dinner. 698 00:21:08,777 --> 00:21:10,356 My sister said it made sense. 699 00:21:10,416 --> 00:21:11,706 Traditionally only you invite 700 00:21:11,706 --> 00:21:13,056 extended family if there's 701 00:21:13,056 --> 00:21:14,856 room after immediate family. 702 00:21:14,856 --> 00:21:16,196 And the wedding party now, 703 00:21:16,226 --> 00:21:17,272 we'll obviously continue. 704 00:21:17,569 --> 00:21:18,979 I have some different feelings about this. 705 00:21:19,216 --> 00:21:22,682 I am more someone you picture who you 706 00:21:22,682 --> 00:21:24,452 want at your rehearsal dinner first. 707 00:21:24,686 --> 00:21:26,159 Then you try to find well 708 00:21:26,159 --> 00:21:27,089 within your budget, right? 709 00:21:27,301 --> 00:21:28,319 Then you try to find a 710 00:21:28,319 --> 00:21:29,429 venue to support that. 711 00:21:29,624 --> 00:21:31,086 Because I've been to weddings and been 712 00:21:31,086 --> 00:21:32,806 a part of weddings where they're like, 713 00:21:32,866 --> 00:21:34,426 well, we want this venue and we can only 714 00:21:34,426 --> 00:21:36,226 fit 20 people, so now we're down to 20. 715 00:21:36,454 --> 00:21:37,679 And then you have to make cuts of 716 00:21:37,709 --> 00:21:39,239 important people that you want there. 717 00:21:39,454 --> 00:21:40,736 And me, I look at it the other way. 718 00:21:40,766 --> 00:21:42,446 I'm like, people first. 719 00:21:42,621 --> 00:21:45,221 venue second, budget first, obviously you 720 00:21:45,221 --> 00:21:47,307 wanna think of your budget, but I would 721 00:21:47,307 --> 00:21:49,017 never personally, like if I have people 722 00:21:49,017 --> 00:21:51,184 flying in for the wedding, I would never 723 00:21:51,184 --> 00:21:52,504 leave 'em out of the, re rehearsal dinner. 724 00:21:52,731 --> 00:21:53,441 That's just me. 725 00:21:53,501 --> 00:21:54,491 I feel like you should invite 726 00:21:54,491 --> 00:21:57,381 everybody that's flying in or like 727 00:21:57,381 --> 00:21:59,271 immediate family flying in or in 728 00:21:59,271 --> 00:22:01,251 your wedding party, but I know people 729 00:22:01,251 --> 00:22:02,151 have different opinions on that. 730 00:22:02,491 --> 00:22:02,747 Okay. 731 00:22:03,641 --> 00:22:05,771 The, she said her sister had a rehearsal 732 00:22:05,771 --> 00:22:07,871 dinner at a brewery that held 60 733 00:22:07,871 --> 00:22:10,444 people, so she was able to include more. 734 00:22:10,644 --> 00:22:12,797 I explained to my mom that ours just 735 00:22:12,797 --> 00:22:15,014 couldn't accommodate that and even sent 736 00:22:15,014 --> 00:22:17,384 her a wedding etiquette article to help. 737 00:22:17,630 --> 00:22:19,274 My mom didn't have a traditional 738 00:22:19,274 --> 00:22:21,747 wedding and never planned one, so I 739 00:22:21,747 --> 00:22:23,457 thought it might help her understand. 740 00:22:23,947 --> 00:22:25,956 My stepdad reassured me that she 741 00:22:25,956 --> 00:22:28,149 understood and she would explain it 742 00:22:28,149 --> 00:22:30,099 to my aunt and that it would be fine. 743 00:22:30,354 --> 00:22:32,286 Something tells me it won't be fine. 744 00:22:32,937 --> 00:22:34,369 My mom had mentioned that she 745 00:22:34,369 --> 00:22:35,479 wanted to help with the wedding 746 00:22:35,479 --> 00:22:37,526 in some way since my mother-in-law 747 00:22:37,526 --> 00:22:39,236 had offered to help with my dress. 748 00:22:39,236 --> 00:22:41,192 I gave my mom the same opportunity. 749 00:22:41,404 --> 00:22:43,016 I told her my budget and what 750 00:22:43,016 --> 00:22:44,216 the deposit would look like, 751 00:22:44,430 --> 00:22:46,252 both the minimum and the maximum. 752 00:22:46,487 --> 00:22:48,242 And also discussed having lunch 753 00:22:48,242 --> 00:22:50,252 with two of my bridal party members, 754 00:22:50,417 --> 00:22:52,142 which she offered to pay for. 755 00:22:52,334 --> 00:22:54,119 I even sent her the menu and 756 00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:55,679 after confirming everything was 757 00:22:55,679 --> 00:22:57,342 okay, I made the reservation. 758 00:22:57,517 --> 00:23:00,357 Well, somewhere between that call and 759 00:23:00,357 --> 00:23:02,394 everyone arriving for dress shopping, my 760 00:23:02,394 --> 00:23:04,404 mom and aunt had worked each other up. 761 00:23:04,610 --> 00:23:06,691 They thought I was being rude to my 762 00:23:06,691 --> 00:23:08,721 aunt who helped pay for the engagement 763 00:23:08,721 --> 00:23:10,287 party, which I did send a thank 764 00:23:10,287 --> 00:23:12,618 you for, that I was being selfish 765 00:23:12,996 --> 00:23:15,096 asking my mom to pay for things. 766 00:23:15,277 --> 00:23:16,850 My sister knew they were upset, 767 00:23:17,033 --> 00:23:18,703 but they didn't tell me until we 768 00:23:18,703 --> 00:23:20,083 picked her up for the airport. 769 00:23:20,290 --> 00:23:22,620 She did tell her friends and 770 00:23:22,620 --> 00:23:25,050 husband that she expected drama 771 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:26,610 but hoped it wouldn't happen. 772 00:23:26,823 --> 00:23:27,976 So they're all talking about 773 00:23:27,976 --> 00:23:29,536 her behind her back saying like, 774 00:23:29,536 --> 00:23:31,666 this is nasty or this is bad. 775 00:23:31,853 --> 00:23:33,560 There's gonna be drama, you know? 776 00:23:33,650 --> 00:23:34,400 Oh my gosh. 777 00:23:34,593 --> 00:23:35,706 We picked her up at four in 778 00:23:35,706 --> 00:23:37,710 that day and had a three hour 779 00:23:37,740 --> 00:23:40,093 round trip and no time off work. 780 00:23:40,256 --> 00:23:41,980 My fiance and I were exhausted. 781 00:23:42,236 --> 00:23:43,768 That same day my mom and 782 00:23:43,768 --> 00:23:45,088 aunt arrived at our home. 783 00:23:45,300 --> 00:23:47,035 They were apparently upset that I didn't 784 00:23:47,035 --> 00:23:49,225 offer them coffee or food immediately, 785 00:23:49,443 --> 00:23:50,865 which my mom would bring up later. 786 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:52,468 But again, my fiance was at 787 00:23:52,468 --> 00:23:54,645 work and I was running on fumes. 788 00:23:54,843 --> 00:23:57,108 The next day we went dress shopping 789 00:23:57,108 --> 00:23:58,458 and had lunch with two of my bridal 790 00:23:58,458 --> 00:24:00,388 party members and my mother-in-law. 791 00:24:00,573 --> 00:24:02,910 There was an odd tension the whole time. 792 00:24:03,140 --> 00:24:04,676 One of my bridesmaid later told me 793 00:24:04,676 --> 00:24:06,506 she noticed my mom and aunt whispering 794 00:24:06,506 --> 00:24:08,636 about the rehearsal dinner during lunch. 795 00:24:08,876 --> 00:24:09,716 Oh gosh. 796 00:24:09,950 --> 00:24:10,996 At the end of the lunch, my 797 00:24:10,996 --> 00:24:12,346 mom didn't offer to pay for 798 00:24:12,346 --> 00:24:14,026 the other women as discussed. 799 00:24:14,246 --> 00:24:15,093 They kindly paid for 800 00:24:15,093 --> 00:24:16,563 themselves without complaint. 801 00:24:16,810 --> 00:24:18,423 She is some very good storyteller. 802 00:24:18,423 --> 00:24:19,728 She gives a lot of great details. 803 00:24:20,263 --> 00:24:21,955 We moved on to the dress shopping 804 00:24:21,955 --> 00:24:24,053 and found a beautiful gown that 805 00:24:24,053 --> 00:24:26,003 night we had dinner and dessert with 806 00:24:26,003 --> 00:24:28,813 everyone, family in-laws and friends. 807 00:24:28,983 --> 00:24:30,810 As I was helping serve coffee and cake 808 00:24:30,810 --> 00:24:33,622 for 10 people, my mom started yelling 809 00:24:33,622 --> 00:24:36,279 at me front of everyone to get her 810 00:24:36,279 --> 00:24:39,439 coffee without ever offering to help. 811 00:24:39,711 --> 00:24:41,076 Oh my gosh. 812 00:24:41,106 --> 00:24:41,856 Out of nowhere. 813 00:24:42,084 --> 00:24:43,657 I asked her to please be patient. 814 00:24:43,657 --> 00:24:45,067 We were going as fast as we could. 815 00:24:45,304 --> 00:24:46,647 Why can't she get it? 816 00:24:46,884 --> 00:24:48,404 But this was all happening in front 817 00:24:48,404 --> 00:24:50,901 of my friends and my fiance's parents. 818 00:24:50,931 --> 00:24:52,311 It was so embarrassing. 819 00:24:52,567 --> 00:24:54,037 My mother-in-law who lives outta state 820 00:24:54,037 --> 00:24:55,357 and wasn't aware of all the drama, 821 00:24:55,514 --> 00:24:57,737 took this as a moment to ask me a few 822 00:24:57,737 --> 00:24:59,796 rehearsal dinner questions showed us 823 00:24:59,796 --> 00:25:01,536 some pictures she took of the inn. 824 00:25:01,718 --> 00:25:03,222 She was being helpful and including 825 00:25:03,222 --> 00:25:04,992 my mom and aunt in the conversation. 826 00:25:05,215 --> 00:25:06,682 Thankfully, my friends were in the 827 00:25:06,682 --> 00:25:08,469 other room because my mom started 828 00:25:08,469 --> 00:25:10,856 dramatically making faces and 829 00:25:10,856 --> 00:25:12,686 sat beside my aunt who responded. 830 00:25:12,941 --> 00:25:15,041 With only one word answers. 831 00:25:15,201 --> 00:25:16,207 The mood was awful. 832 00:25:16,417 --> 00:25:17,479 So they're feeling some type of 833 00:25:17,479 --> 00:25:19,899 way and just being like cold and 834 00:25:19,899 --> 00:25:21,249 standoffish without actually like 835 00:25:21,249 --> 00:25:22,479 communicating, even though she's 836 00:25:22,479 --> 00:25:24,236 trying to communicate to them, that 837 00:25:24,236 --> 00:25:25,946 just makes things like so much worse. 838 00:25:26,127 --> 00:25:27,689 The next morning at 7:00 AM I 839 00:25:27,689 --> 00:25:29,069 got a text from my mom saying 840 00:25:29,099 --> 00:25:30,479 she wanted to speak privately. 841 00:25:30,875 --> 00:25:32,707 We had a group breakfast planned 842 00:25:32,707 --> 00:25:34,351 with both sides of the family, and 843 00:25:34,351 --> 00:25:35,851 she showed up early to catch me. 844 00:25:36,118 --> 00:25:38,109 In front of the others, she told 845 00:25:38,109 --> 00:25:39,249 me that my aunt's feelings were 846 00:25:39,249 --> 00:25:41,568 hurt, that she wasn't invited, and 847 00:25:41,679 --> 00:25:43,962 that I should quote unquote, do the 848 00:25:43,962 --> 00:25:46,446 right thing by either adding her 849 00:25:46,446 --> 00:25:49,122 or dis inviting my little friends. 850 00:25:49,122 --> 00:25:50,472 She put that in quotes to. 851 00:25:50,682 --> 00:25:51,686 That is insane. 852 00:25:51,686 --> 00:25:53,486 For the record, my wedding party 853 00:25:53,486 --> 00:25:54,926 and I are all in our thirties. 854 00:25:55,169 --> 00:25:56,029 She said I was being 855 00:25:56,029 --> 00:25:57,769 disrespectful and ungrateful. 856 00:25:57,955 --> 00:26:00,029 She claimed my mother-in-law, clearly 857 00:26:00,029 --> 00:26:01,469 expected my aunt to be invited. 858 00:26:01,559 --> 00:26:03,419 She didn't and brought up again how my 859 00:26:03,419 --> 00:26:04,889 aunt helped pay for the engagement party. 860 00:26:05,394 --> 00:26:07,251 I get the hurt feelings and I get 861 00:26:07,251 --> 00:26:08,961 it's uncomfortable and I get, she 862 00:26:08,961 --> 00:26:10,131 probably expected to be there. 863 00:26:10,131 --> 00:26:11,211 I don't know how close she's 864 00:26:11,211 --> 00:26:12,851 with her aunt, but dictating 865 00:26:12,851 --> 00:26:14,081 that you need to be there. 866 00:26:14,285 --> 00:26:16,783 Or saying like, I need to be invited. 867 00:26:16,813 --> 00:26:17,743 Do the right thing. 868 00:26:17,743 --> 00:26:19,243 That's not a right or wrong thing. 869 00:26:19,243 --> 00:26:20,293 Like I said, we all have our 870 00:26:20,293 --> 00:26:22,153 opinions on how we personally 871 00:26:22,153 --> 00:26:23,400 would do it, but like I said, I've 872 00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:24,833 been to weddings where rehearsal 873 00:26:24,833 --> 00:26:26,446 dinner is very small and that's it. 874 00:26:26,645 --> 00:26:27,728 But every family's also different, 875 00:26:27,728 --> 00:26:29,600 different, I personally, if I had 876 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:30,830 an aunt flying in, I would have 877 00:26:30,830 --> 00:26:32,120 them be at the rehearsal dinner. 878 00:26:32,120 --> 00:26:33,140 I do that for my own wedding. 879 00:26:33,352 --> 00:26:34,260 So, I don't know. 880 00:26:34,450 --> 00:26:35,706 I wouldn't say it's the right thing 881 00:26:35,706 --> 00:26:37,942 and, to uninvite little friends because 882 00:26:37,942 --> 00:26:39,322 obviously she wanted them there and 883 00:26:39,322 --> 00:26:40,402 they were part of the wedding party. 884 00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:41,200 Oh my gosh. 885 00:26:41,683 --> 00:26:44,717 She said I made her pay for my dress 886 00:26:44,777 --> 00:26:46,817 and the lunch that the restaurant was 887 00:26:46,817 --> 00:26:49,426 too expensive that I should serve people 888 00:26:49,426 --> 00:26:51,586 better when they come to my house. 889 00:26:51,797 --> 00:26:53,670 I was so hurt and overwhelmed. 890 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,006 I walked out to the deck in tears. 891 00:26:56,140 --> 00:26:58,050 My fiance followed me and told 892 00:26:58,050 --> 00:26:59,633 me what she had said, or, and 893 00:26:59,633 --> 00:27:01,163 I told him what she had said. 894 00:27:01,370 --> 00:27:02,296 He was stunned. 895 00:27:02,517 --> 00:27:04,016 He couldn't believe how cruel 896 00:27:04,016 --> 00:27:05,666 and irrational she was being. 897 00:27:05,877 --> 00:27:07,123 My mom and aunt left 898 00:27:07,123 --> 00:27:08,323 after that with my sister. 899 00:27:08,517 --> 00:27:10,647 I stayed behind with my in-laws and my 900 00:27:10,647 --> 00:27:12,777 mother-in-law helped me while I sobbed. 901 00:27:13,003 --> 00:27:15,627 It was the first time I had ever cried 902 00:27:15,627 --> 00:27:17,597 in front of them, and I was beyond 903 00:27:17,597 --> 00:27:19,607 embarrassed about my family's behavior. 904 00:27:20,023 --> 00:27:22,203 To wrap it up, we went to one last 905 00:27:22,203 --> 00:27:24,453 dinner before my mom and aunt left town. 906 00:27:24,676 --> 00:27:26,490 My fiance paid for that too. 907 00:27:26,700 --> 00:27:28,803 My mom and I didn't speak for a week until 908 00:27:28,803 --> 00:27:30,903 I called her and confronted everything. 909 00:27:31,100 --> 00:27:32,443 I gave her most of the money 910 00:27:32,443 --> 00:27:33,823 back for the dress and the lunch. 911 00:27:34,026 --> 00:27:36,517 She said there was fault on both sides 912 00:27:36,670 --> 00:27:38,460 that I hadn't communicated well enough 913 00:27:38,460 --> 00:27:40,907 and told me I was in your corner 914 00:27:41,086 --> 00:27:42,743 until I read the article you sent. 915 00:27:43,147 --> 00:27:44,633 It said, anyone who pays for 916 00:27:44,633 --> 00:27:45,623 the engagement party should 917 00:27:45,623 --> 00:27:48,257 be invited over other guests. 918 00:27:48,531 --> 00:27:49,580 Oh my gosh. 919 00:27:49,580 --> 00:27:52,347 So even if the article did say that 920 00:27:52,547 --> 00:27:54,233 why is it the one thing she's pulling? 921 00:27:54,233 --> 00:27:56,153 She's literally saying, this is etiquette. 922 00:27:56,153 --> 00:27:57,723 Like this is all who I want 923 00:27:57,723 --> 00:27:59,073 to invite to the party. 924 00:27:59,274 --> 00:28:00,993 She held onto that. 925 00:28:01,437 --> 00:28:02,945 I'm glad they're having like communication 926 00:28:02,945 --> 00:28:04,662 now, but it sounds like the mom 927 00:28:04,662 --> 00:28:06,168 just didn't really wanna hear her, 928 00:28:06,371 --> 00:28:08,022 and I feel like once the aunt came 929 00:28:08,022 --> 00:28:09,552 in and realized she wasn't invited, 930 00:28:09,552 --> 00:28:10,932 that's when she's like, no, no, no. 931 00:28:10,992 --> 00:28:11,952 I need to be invited. 932 00:28:11,952 --> 00:28:12,672 This is not done. 933 00:28:12,702 --> 00:28:13,542 This was not right. 934 00:28:13,729 --> 00:28:15,386 She said, I reread the 935 00:28:15,386 --> 00:28:17,246 article a dozen times. 936 00:28:17,276 --> 00:28:19,940 It never said that I couldn't find 937 00:28:19,940 --> 00:28:21,800 any etiquette source that did. 938 00:28:22,099 --> 00:28:24,173 The mom is literally trying to. 939 00:28:24,866 --> 00:28:26,186 I don't know what the right word is. 940 00:28:26,482 --> 00:28:28,906 Coax her into thinking that that's what 941 00:28:28,906 --> 00:28:31,123 it said, because that's so specific too. 942 00:28:31,299 --> 00:28:32,623 Anyone who pays for the engagement party 943 00:28:32,623 --> 00:28:34,453 should be invited over other guests. 944 00:28:34,453 --> 00:28:35,443 Like what? 945 00:28:35,669 --> 00:28:37,433 I doubt that's a thing because 946 00:28:37,433 --> 00:28:39,443 that's such a specific thing. 947 00:28:39,629 --> 00:28:40,499 that's, I don't believe it. 948 00:28:40,742 --> 00:28:43,232 she said, so am I crazy or did 949 00:28:43,232 --> 00:28:44,942 I make a terrible mistake while 950 00:28:44,942 --> 00:28:46,382 planning my first wedding? 951 00:28:46,591 --> 00:28:47,731 I mean, at the end of the day, 952 00:28:47,954 --> 00:28:49,741 it's your choice what you wanna do. 953 00:28:49,914 --> 00:28:50,665 I don't think there's 954 00:28:50,665 --> 00:28:51,565 anything wrong in it. 955 00:28:51,685 --> 00:28:52,735 Like I said, every bride's 956 00:28:52,735 --> 00:28:53,665 gonna do it differently. 957 00:28:53,901 --> 00:28:55,191 It depends on your relationship with 958 00:28:55,191 --> 00:28:58,015 the person, the budget, location. 959 00:28:58,191 --> 00:28:59,908 you specifically only want that one 960 00:28:59,908 --> 00:29:01,854 location that has room for 25 and 961 00:29:01,854 --> 00:29:02,874 you're like, this is what we're doing, 962 00:29:02,874 --> 00:29:04,344 we added everyone up, that's it. 963 00:29:04,537 --> 00:29:05,947 Then that's your choice. 964 00:29:06,100 --> 00:29:06,804 So you can't really do 965 00:29:06,804 --> 00:29:08,154 anything right or wrong. 966 00:29:08,351 --> 00:29:09,787 again, if it were my wedding, I 967 00:29:09,787 --> 00:29:11,017 would do it a little bit differently. 968 00:29:11,230 --> 00:29:12,947 I would include the aunt, but. 969 00:29:13,167 --> 00:29:14,449 I don't know how big her family is. 970 00:29:14,449 --> 00:29:15,679 Maybe if you include that aunt. 971 00:29:15,679 --> 00:29:17,449 You also then have to include her husband 972 00:29:17,449 --> 00:29:20,199 and her kids and, their other cousins. 973 00:29:20,199 --> 00:29:21,009 And their other aunts. 974 00:29:21,009 --> 00:29:23,085 I don't know if it's just one aunt. 975 00:29:23,295 --> 00:29:24,532 I'd be like, just include the aunt. 976 00:29:24,792 --> 00:29:25,735 The best I got from 977 00:29:25,735 --> 00:29:27,325 her was a half apology. 978 00:29:27,515 --> 00:29:29,165 She later told my sister she 979 00:29:29,165 --> 00:29:30,875 wouldn't be planning anything else 980 00:29:30,875 --> 00:29:32,539 for me like the bridal shower. 981 00:29:32,772 --> 00:29:35,004 Luckily, some of my friends are stepping 982 00:29:35,004 --> 00:29:38,030 in, so I don't miss out on the experience. 983 00:29:38,209 --> 00:29:40,260 But honestly, that weekend, which was 984 00:29:40,260 --> 00:29:41,880 supposed to be joyful and focus on the 985 00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:44,857 wedding, was completely overshadowed. 986 00:29:45,199 --> 00:29:46,234 Oh my gosh. 987 00:29:46,234 --> 00:29:47,789 So that was, crazy. 988 00:29:48,118 --> 00:29:49,588 I feel like it was one of those 989 00:29:49,588 --> 00:29:51,088 where there's a miscommunication, 990 00:29:51,261 --> 00:29:53,728 and people see how it should be their 991 00:29:53,728 --> 00:29:55,707 own way, they're afraid to like. 992 00:29:55,912 --> 00:29:57,775 speak up, but instead of 993 00:29:57,775 --> 00:29:59,225 just communicating, they're 994 00:29:59,225 --> 00:30:00,245 gonna hold a grudge. 995 00:30:00,474 --> 00:30:02,729 So I think the aunt got her all 996 00:30:02,937 --> 00:30:04,459 upset about it And then they 997 00:30:04,459 --> 00:30:07,012 just, completely took it from her. 998 00:30:07,314 --> 00:30:08,149 Oh gosh. 999 00:30:08,335 --> 00:30:08,855 All right guys. 1000 00:30:08,855 --> 00:30:10,505 Well, that was a crazy episode. 1001 00:30:10,505 --> 00:30:12,035 Thanks for hanging out with me but if 1002 00:30:12,035 --> 00:30:14,135 you guys love this episode, do me a 1003 00:30:14,135 --> 00:30:17,079 huge favor and tell a friend about it. 1004 00:30:17,242 --> 00:30:17,992 Share it. 1005 00:30:18,185 --> 00:30:20,022 because, you word of mouth is just the 1006 00:30:20,022 --> 00:30:21,782 best way to get it out, and it's just a 1007 00:30:21,814 --> 00:30:23,509 fun new little segment we're doing here. 1008 00:30:23,722 --> 00:30:25,279 I'd love to hear from you if you 1009 00:30:25,279 --> 00:30:27,539 guys, have an idea for an upcoming 1010 00:30:27,539 --> 00:30:29,632 episode, a new theme, something 1011 00:30:29,632 --> 00:30:31,225 you've seen in, the media. 1012 00:30:31,415 --> 00:30:32,260 Let's talk about it. 1013 00:30:32,460 --> 00:30:34,314 thanks so much for hanging out with me. 1014 00:30:34,540 --> 00:30:36,597 Until next time, keep the drama 1015 00:30:36,597 --> 00:30:38,337 fun and the champagne flowing. 1016 00:30:38,540 --> 00:30:38,867 Bye guys.