Hi guys.

Welcome back to another episode

of Here Comes The Drama.

I'm your host, Krista Ennis,

and it is officially 2026,

which is wild to think about.

I feel like every year goes faster

and faster the older I get, and

especially with being a mom now.

Well.

Almost going on three years.

I feel like it goes even faster.

And it's unfair they always say time is

a thief and I didn't really believe it.

And then I got older and I had

my daughter and I'm like, oh my

gosh, where does the time go?

So I feel like even more so, I've become

more of a planner because I'm like, if

I don't plan things, like I lose track

of time and it just gets taken from me.

It's like the beginning of the

summer, my husband and I had all

these plans for our daughter.

Like, we're like, okay, we wanna

go take her to the beach, we

wanna take her to this museum.

And we're like, oh, we have so much time.

And then all of a sudden you realize,

you're like, I have a week left.

and so I feel like I've become more of

a planner, which is great in some ways.

But one of the things I really struggle

with is then being fully present, because

you're always thinking of the next thing.

And I don't know if that comes with

like the mental load of motherhood

or parenthood, but it's like I'm

always thinking about what's next.

Like I plan things out when it

comes to my social media content.

I plan things out when it comes

to, family activities, what we're

doing in the next week, and it

just makes everything move so fast.

So.

My goal for this year, and maybe

you guys can relate to this or

not, but my goal for this year is

to find more pockets of presence.

And I'm kind of like talking

through it as I'm figuring it out,

but just those moments of quiet to

just be still and really like soak

in everything that's happening.

And I think I brought this up before

where it's like, we tend to dwell

when things aren't going great and we

just wanna get through them, right?

But when things are going well, we

don't take a moment to just like soak

it in and be like, wow, this is awesome.

Or Wow, how am I feeling about this?

so I feel like it's good just

to account our emotions and

how we're feeling about things.

I feel like a therapist right now.

these are the things that go

through my head is just kinda

like bounces all over the place.

anyway, I had notes for today, but I'm

just kinda like going off on a whim.

I kind of talked about last

week how I'm not really a New

Year's resolution type person.

I love goals and I love, the idea

of a resolution, but I don't think

it has to be necessarily in the new

year, I think everyone has their.

Personal best times to set goals,

whether that's your birthday month,

the new year or, the next week.

You some people just have to like

do what works best for 'em, right?

I'm someone that always sets weekly

goals, monthly goals, and I just.

I'm always, like I said, always

thinking about the next thing.

But there's something fun and

exciting about a fresh year.

I'm gonna get a little boo

here, so just bear with me.

But I just love the idea of like a

clean slate, trying something new,

setting a goal of like, something that's

kind of wild and being like, oh, you

know, I've never done this before.

Let's try it this year.

Maybe I'll fail.

Maybe I'll love it.

Maybe I'll hate it.

You know?

I think like when we're really

young, we're encouraged to try

all these different things.

And then we get to a point, and

maybe it's like teenage years or

young adulthood, like twenties,

where we're like, this is who I am.

I just have to check the boxes.

I can't all of a sudden be that person

because I'm a poser then, we get

all these ideas in our head of like,

we can't go a different direction.

Right?

when I was like 25.

Gosh, I don't even remember the age.

I wanna say like maybe 26, 27.

I was at this really toxic job I was just

looking for an out, like the beginning.

I was just running through the emotions

I'd wake up at like the last minute that

I had to, to rush around and get ready.

I was always late for work.

I hated being there.

So like miserable there.

The boss was so toxic.

I would come home crying every day.

It was just awful, right?

I was like, there's gotta be more,

like there's gotta be something else.

I know this is not what I'm meant to do.

And it started by like finding some,

like more like encouraging podcasts.

then I read a book called Better

Than Before, and this book I

had had on my shelf for so long.

It's not like a promoted

thing or anything.

I'm just trying to share some

encouragement in the new year.

I had this book on my shelf for so

long, I was like, I just wanna read it.

I wanna read this book.

And I kept finding excuses

to not read this book.

And I would always just tell

people, oh, I'm not a reader.

I'm not a reader.

I only, read here and there, right?

And one day I was like,

I'm gonna read this book.

This is my goal to read this book.

I'm gonna read it.

And it started off talking about how

this guy wanted to wake up earlier and

he just started slowly, like waking up

15 minute increments earlier and earlier.

And I started doing that and then before

I knew it, this is gonna sound crazy

to a lot of people out there, but I

would just wake up at five 30 for joy.

it completely changed my days

and again, this is a while ago.

I don't do that now, so I'm not trying

to say like, and be like me 'cause

I don't, do that completely anymore.

But I would wake up five 30

or six and I would just read.

And having that control in the

morning made me realize like, I

can do so much more with my time.

That brings me joy.

And I think it's really important

to listen to that voice.

'cause I think so many times we

just move through the motions we

don't really ask ourselves do I do

something to bring my joy today?

What do I feel today?

And if your whole day is spent,

struggling or unhappy, we just go

through the motions and we're never

actually fulfilling something in us.

I know that was like a long spiel, so

I hope I didn't lose you guys on that.

But what I'm trying to say is I'm

just gonna encourage you, if there's

something that's been weighing on you or

something you're like, I wanna try that.

Or, when I was 10 years

old, I love drawing.

I don't draw anymore.

Pick it up and just try it.

buy an adult coloring

book, get some markers.

you don't to spend a lot of money.

You can spend $2 at the, Dollar store.

You know, find something that brings

you joy this year and it sounds

kind of crazy and woo woo, but.

Even finding 30 minute pockets out of

the day to just do something that brings

you joy can completely change your day.

Again, I know that was like a long spiel

and not how I normally start these,

I'm recording this before the new year,

but I'm just feeling very hopeful and

excited about the new year, and if I

can spread a little encouragement to

those out there that are struggling

or just feel a little hopeless, I know

there's a lot of things that aren't

great in the world right now and.

on our political climate and all that.

not to get into politics, but you know,

there's a lot that's not great and

there's a lot of change I wish to see.

but I think if we can, find joy in

like little pockets of our day, I

think it will make a difference.

And then we can kind of reach out

and fill other people's cups too.

Anyway, that was a long spiel.

I'm sorry guys.

I hope that was okay.

so I hope that.

That helped someone out there.

before I get to today's episode,

just for a little quick reminder to

do my new year giveaway, I'm giving

away four $50 Amazon gift cards.

All you have to do is share a photo

of yourself listening to the podcast,

a screenshot of your phone listening,

a screenshot of your review, and

then tag me on social media tag hey

christainnis Ennis, and that's it.

So I will select four winners.

The winners will be announced

February 12th episode.

All right.

Next up we are going

to do wedding dilemmas.

You guys sent me these in.

so let's see what we got here.

Okay, this first one says, "my fiance's

aunt told me that our registry is

rude because we included higher price

items. She said, it makes us look

greedy. I'm embarrassed, but also

annoyed 'cause it's a registry, not a

demand list." Here's the thing about

registries that I find so interesting.

People have so many opinions about them.

I remember talking to friends years

before I was even engaged and.

the thing they say to do is put

anything and everything on there.

There are gonna be some people

that can only afford or want

to spend under 50 bucks.

There are gonna be some people

that have a higher price point and

they want to buy something really

nice for a couple hundred bucks.

There's no expectations.

I've never looked at someone's registry

and been offended by it because I'm like,

I know either that's outta my price range,

or they'll get that from their parents or.

I'd rather get them blank, you so if she's

gonna, I think it's kind of rude for her

to tell you that your registry is rude.

She doesn't need to, pay for that.

I think it's maybe her feeling a

little offended, or, I don't know,

maybe she didn't have a registry.

So she just thinks in

general they're selfish.

I also find it's interesting, and

this is like a hill I will die on.

I think it's interesting when people get

so mad about like the honeymoon registry,

because I'm like, whether I put plates or

bedsheets or, a new couch on my registry.

That money or however you spend

that money is coming to me.

So if I decide to return those sheets

and I use those $50 towards dinner

on my honeymoon, why does it matter?

and I think it was Suzanne Lambert that

was in the podcast that was like, and if

you care about that person, it shouldn't

matter what they use the money for.

People still get up in arms in it.

I posted a thing recently about

honeymoons and someone was like, I'm

not paying for someone's honeymoon.

it's like, you're not paying for it.

if it's a honeymoon registry, it's

usually alongside of a wedding registry.

So it's not like you're buying them

a wedding gift and a honeymoon thing.

you can pick and choose.

like a lot of my friends already

lived with their partners, had all

the pots and pans and all that stuff.

So they didn't need extra pots and

pans that they weren't going to use.

Right?

So for those people I was like,

oh, I would love to buy you

dinner and drinks on the beach.

I would love to buy you your plane ticket.

You know, whatever that was.

that was kind of a, a cool thing.

Maybe it's just 'cause it's like

a newer thing, but whatever.

I wanna let your fiance's

aunt's comments get to you.

Just let him roll off.

Be like, you know what, aunt

Susie, thank you for your feedback.

you don't need to get us anything.

It's not a big deal.

We just kind of wanna put a

couple different price ranges

on there and if you wanna get us

something you can, but no pressure.

Okay, next one.

Oh gosh, "my friend offered to do

our wedding photos as a gift. But

her work is not good. I don't know

how to decline without hurting her

feelings or ruining the friendship."

I have talked about this so many

times, and this is something

I'm so passionate about.

It doesn't matter if her work is good

or not, because either way, I wouldn't

mention that to her, her quality of work.

Right.

I would just say, especially if it's gonna

be someone you want there as a guest.

Say thank you so much for offering.

I really, really appreciate it.

However, I just want you there as a guest.

I want you there fully immersed in the

guest experience, hanging out with us

on the dance floor, taking advantage

of the open bar, being with us for

photos, whatever that looks like.

Instead of it, if she keeps pushing, just.

You gotta repeat and just

say, Hey, you know what?

We actually already found a photographer.

If someone like that is offended that

you found a different photographer,

they're not in it for the right reasons

anyway, because they're either looking

for more business like they wanna

be paid or they want other people

to notice their business and that's

not really a good friend anyways.

So, just be clear and upfront.

It doesn't matter again

if it works good or not.

I personally think like

a vendor like that.

If they're your friend, you

want them there as a guest.

Right.

Obviously there's some vendors,

like for instance, I had my

sister-in-law make our cake.

That's something where like,

she was still a bridesmaid.

So she was a bridesmaid.

She could make the cake and she

didn't need to like be a part

of the cake the whole time.

You know what I mean?

Like a DJ or a photographer,

a videographer.

Those kind of vendors, they need

to be their job the whole night.

So this friend, if she's a photographer,

she's not gonna be able to actually

hang out, enjoy the wedding.

So just really accentuate how much

you want her there as a guest,

and you her to be in photos.

You wanna hang out with her and

just say, it's just not possible

to have her as a photographer.

But thank you.

Okay.

All right, onto the next segment.

Would you rather, here we go.

These are completely random.

I have not read any of

these, so here we go.

" Would you rather deal with a pushy

mother-in-law or a bridesmaid who

thinks she's the bride?" Oh gosh.

I'm very lucky.

I'm very lucky that I never had

to deal with either of these.

I've heard stories of.

Nightmares on both sides.

So I'm trying to think of

like the worst scenario.

If I had to deal with either of these.

Gosh, I think I'm gonna say a

bridesmaid who thinks she's the bride.

I don't know.

I might go back on that just

because like at the end of the day.

Something's not working with a

bridesmaid, you can just like kick

'em out of the wedding, right?

A mother-in-law is still your fiance's

mom or your partner's mom, right?

you can kick them out of coming

to the wedding, but there's

still that blood relationship.

So if a bridesmaid is going to be

terrible and do all those things, you

can just be like, thanks, but no thanks.

Mother-in-law has a little

more, pull in the game, I guess.

" Would you rather have someone wear

white to your wedding or someone give

an unapproved speech?" Um, wear white.

I've talked about this before.

White does not bother me in the slightest.

Yes, for like family photos, it's

nice to like stand out, but like

everyone knows you're the bride like.

I don't know.

That does not bother me really.

yeah, I don't wanna Unapprove speech.

Sorry.

" Would you rather have a wedding crasher

or a vendor who shows up an hour late?"

Depends on who the wedding crasher is.

If it's like at the end of the night

and we're all just dancing, having

fun and it's like funny, like older

ladies, I'd be like, yeah, come on in.

Sure.

If it's like an ex of someone,

someone that we purposely didn't

invite because of like toxic

behavior, I would not want that.

I'm so bad at these 'cause I

think about things too, like

analytically and logically.

Or a vendor who shows up an hour late,

gosh, I'm gonna go with, ' cause I'm such

a timely person, I'd be like stressed.

I think I'm gonna go with a

vendor that shows up an hour late.

No, I'd be stressed.

I wanna go with a wedding crusher.

Yeah, let's go with wedding crusher.

Okay.

" Would you rather have a bridesmaid

dropout last minute or add

herself back in last minute?" How

would she add herself back in?

Uh, we don't just add ourselves back in.

That sounds like something

that's really pushy.

So I'm gonna go with a bridesmaid

dropping out last minute.

Honestly, I don't see the big deal.

yeah, I'd be sad.

Like if I'm thinking about my

own wedding, if one of my friends

did that, I'd be like, oh my

gosh, why are you dropping out?

I'm so sad.

But when I read stories about it,

it's not, it's more of the like,

emotional part of it that's sad, right?

If you like think about them

on your day, that's what's sad.

But if we're just thinking about people.

If one person can't make it, all of a

sudden the wedding's still gonna go fine.

it's still gonna flow, you're

gonna get everything you need.

so it's more of the

emotional aspect of it.

So that would be really sad to deal

with, especially if it's a close friend.

But, if it was for a right

reason, I would go with that.

Dunno what that means, add

herself back in last minute.

Just like she drops out.

Then is like, surprise.

I'm actually still here.

Then it.

Sounds more like an issue.

All right.

"Would you rather your maid of honor

forget the rings or forget the speech?"

Oh, I think I would say forget the

rings, because while the rings are

more meaningful, I think in the whole

thing, you can forget something like.

The day of, right.

and it would hopefully just be for the

ceremony so someone could like, maybe

bring them, if someone's forgetting

a speech, that means they completely

forgot the whole time to even write

one or do one or spend any time on it.

And that shows me that more

so that they just don't care.

Yeah.

Okay.

"Would you rather spend extra

on the venue or extra on the

photographer?" photographer.

you cannot beat a good photographer.

obviously, like all in all, I think our

venue costs a little more, but like we

had, I don't know if I've talked about

this before, but we got married in an

old mattress factory and it was just

completely like, rustic is the wrong word.

It was not rustic.

I can't even think of what it's called,

but it was just such a cool vibe.

And I didn't need like

a really fancy venue.

that was not like number one on my list.

I just want good photos.

And if you could have a good photographer,

you can get good photos almost anywhere.

that's what I wanted.

I just wanted a good vibe.

Good photos.

Yeah.

" Would you rather cut your guest list

by 20 people or cut your decor budget

in half?" Decor budget in half.

I'm all about the people.

I did have like, I don't know, I guess

you'd call it medium sized wedding.

I think I had 140 people, which years ago.

I was like, oh, I'll have like 250 people.

And then the older you get

just more people dwindle away.

Right.

But when it came time for planning

the wedding, if that's what I was

assigned between, I would cut decor

budget, because at the end of the

day, if you're in a cool place.

You don't need a ton.

the place we got married, like down the

street, had a lot of stuff you could

rent, so we rented some stuff from there.

They also had candles that

we could rent from them.

then I made a lot of stuff, so I didn't

really spend a lot on decor anyways.

I even used my friend made

handmade bouquets with fake flowers

and she let us use all those.

So I spent like nothing on decor.

" Would you rather splurge on

the honeymoon or splurge on the

dress?" Honeymoon all the way.

I talked about this before too.

My dress was under $1,500.

I think it was, I think,

wanna say it was like 1200.

I didn't even look at the price tag.

So I went because it was like

a direct kind of bridal shop.

And plus, because my venue was

connected to it, I got like an

extra 20% off discount or something.

And don't get me wrong, I love the dress,

but I was not a bride that went to like

five bridal shops to find the dress.

I went to one bridal shop.

I tried on five or six dresses,

and I knew that first day.

I was like, this is my favorite.

Let's go with it.

I don't need to try on a million things.

I just kind of was like this is good.

This is good.

yeah.

For me, I would rather

splurge on a honeymoon.

My honeymoon was definitely

more than the dress.

" Would you rather DIY all decor

or have zero decor at all?"

I personally would rather DIY.

Like I said, I did a

lot of my own wedding.

All the signs, my friend did

the bouquets, all the decor.

I kind of thought of myself I've

been a part of a lot of DIY weddings.

You need a little something.

I've seen them go overboard, so

it's not necessarily go to go

crazy, but, yeah, I would do DIY.

All right, last one.

" Would you rather a surprise, honeymoon

plan by your partner or plan every

detail yourself?" You guys know me?

I'm a planner.

I am okay with surprises, but it makes me

feel itchy, like I need to get in there.

I need know what's going,

need to know what's going on.

so I would rather plan

all the details myself.

Luckily for us though, like we

planned it together, I used sandals.

again, this is not sponsored, this is

just, they were the most budget friendly.

we were looked at Hawaii

and it was so expensive.

Sandals at least we were able to like.

Pick the location.

We looked at all the different ones

to see like what was most affordable.

it was nice.

It was all inclusive, so with the

price you paid include all the food.

All the drinks, and I think we even were

able to include flights in all that.

So that was really nice

to be able to do that.

And then, we could plan

stuff when we got there.

So we didn't have like a strict

itinerary, but when we got there,

we could pick extra excursions and

I would do it a hundred times over.

It was so much fun.

Okay, now to the real, real story here.

This week's story submission, " I

was a bridesmaid in a wedding that

came together in just one week.

The couple had originally had planned

a private ceremony, and when some

people found out, they created so much

drama that the couple felt pressured

to plan a full wedding in seven days."

No, that is ultimate people pleaser, like,

okay, we'll just do it in seven days.

Like I was a part of a DIY wedding where

they had a three month engagement and

I thought that was really hard to do.

Like it was fast and seven days.

I'm like, what did you

do in those seven days?

'cause that's a lot.

" They also had to change venues because one

church refused to host due to the drama.

So we had an all intensity of a year long

engagement squeezed into a single week.

because of the chaos, the wedding

party changed several times before

the big day." How long is this week?

This seems like an impossibly long week.

" The maid-of-honor let's call

her, Emily, had been the bride's

best friend since fifth grade.

But she had always been jealous

of the bride's relationship.

For years, she tried to sabotage them,

creating tension, trying to break them

up, and constantly forcing the bride

to choose between her and the groom."

So why are we making

her the maid of honor?

When I see like Frida, all these

friendships, I'm like, Why?

Unless from this bridesmaid perspective,

she could always see it and then

the bride was just kind of blind

to it, which happens of course.

Okay.

" On the wedding day, Emily confronted the

bridesmaids, including me, and called us

all fake friends while we were trying to

get hair and makeup done." What? Okay,

so this is the maid of honor. " She

was furious because she learned that I

confided some of her private struggles,

including her addiction issues and

another crush she had to the bride."

Whoa.

" I only did this because I cared about

her and believed she needed help.

I had suffered a stroke the month

before and couldn't do much myself,

so I turned to the bride hoping we

could figure out how to support her."

Okay, so here's where I'm gonna disagree.

I mean, of course, I don't know

how severe or what's going on

with this person's addiction.

I'm not a therapist or

an addictions counselor.

So this is just my own perspective

as I'm learning this story right now.

Little, disclaimer, but one of the

number one things I say is I don't

wanna say bother, but do not get the

bride involved in drama right before

her wedding not saying like someone's

addiction issues is drama necessarily.

But if that person confided in you

and is telling you something, the best

time to tell the bride is probably

not right before her wedding like

especially knowing there's already

drama happening around this wedding.

There's already like a lot of stress.

It's happening in a week.

Again, how long is this week?

There's a lot happening right?

I would be waiting until after the wedding

and be like, 'Hey, by the way, blank

came to me, or I guess we know her name's

Emily, or her changed name is Emily came

to me and said, this is what's going on.

I'm very concerned.

The timing seems a little like

sketchy to me, and don't wanna

come on this, like, I don't know.

I don't wanna be.

Put down this person

that sent in the story.

But the timing seems a little weird,

especially if, you know, things

are already kind of like iffy.

This could set someone off like this.

" The other bridesmaid knew none of

this, and I wasn't about to share

Emily's personal business in front

of everyone we genuinely cared for."

I do believe you cared for her.

I do believe this person cared for

her, but it's just the timing thing.

we need to make sure, like the

bride's not brought into like

crazy drama, Right before right.

" Emily then took off with two

bridesmaids and disappeared for hours.

They did the bare minimum for the

wedding and then left to eat out, never

bringing back anything for the bride

who hadn't eaten and was stuck doing

tests Emily should have been doing.

Whatever Emily told the other

bridesmaids must have been bad because

one of them, someone I had been close

to, barely speaks to me to this day.

The other bridesmaid who left with

her, stayed friends with us afterward,

though, she told us that she caught

Emily shoplifting items for the wedding

and not small items, expensive ones.

I later learned that the $2,000 veil Emily

gave the bride was stolen." That's wild.

Okay.

" Even though Emily had access to

plenty of money, a wealthy friend

had loaned her cash for the wedding.

She still shoplifted." Well, I

mean, if she's going through a

serious addiction, we don't know.

I mean.

I don't know the whole story, so

I don't wanna judge this person.

Again, I don't have background in this,

so this seems like a very serious matter.

I'm also like, why is this made of honor?

Why is it put on the made of honor to

buy all these things for the wedding?

why should it matter that a

friend loaned her cash for the

wedding if I was in a wedding?

And I was told, okay, it's in a week.

You have to pay for all these things.

and if I couldn't afford

it, I would step down.

the fact that like a friend had to loan

her all this money, that's a little odd.

going back to being at a seven day

planning of this wedding, I would be like,

okay, we're gonna keep it really simple.

We're not spending money

on pointless things.

Not saying veil's pointless, but

like it sounds like they're spending

a lot of money on stuff and like

putting all these things together.

Like keep it stupid simple.

If you're having a one week planning time.

" Emily heavily controlled what she

thought everyone should wear throwing

fits anytime She didn't get her way and

celebrating when she did, I found a $65

dress that was more appropriate for the

church ceremony compared to the $200 one

she demanded I wear." Why is the maid of

honor controlling what dresses they wear?

also, again, they're getting

married in seven days.

Why are we spending all this time

finding this super expensive dress?

Let's just find one.

Let's just find one.

All the girls can wear

and be done with it.

But again, this should be

the bride controlling this.

" She was furious when I asked to return it.

She pressured the bride into choosing a

dress she never actually wanted." Okay.

At some point we have to take

responsibilities for ourselves though,

like, How is this made of honor

pressuring the bride, and the bridesmaids?

" She says not the bride, not the groom.

The bride still says she wished she

could redo her entire wedding because

of how much Emily influenced and

manipulated everything." We need to

get rid of this person. "The bride

was an hour and a half late to her

own wedding because she had to hammer

tent stakes and do heavy setup work.

Test the maid of honor, should

have helped." With this is

again where, and I talked about

this on my episode with Bethy.

This is when like there's an overlap of

like paid work help in your wedding party.

We cannot assume that just because

someone's in your wedding party that they

are going to do all the work for setup.

You are then hiring your

friends for unpaid labor.

And some people like myself,

I love doing that stuff.

I love being involved.

Like if I'm in your wedding, expect me to

help you with something, I will do that.

But it should not be an expectation.

The expectation of a bridesmaid is

that they get the dress that you

want, they stand up by your side,

and they're there at the wedding day.

Like honest to God.

That should be the minimum, like

that should be their expectation.

The fact that you're expecting your

maid of honor to get your tent set up.

You have to hammer in tent

stakes and do the heavy setup?

No, like can we get someone else?

Do that.

Where are the groomsmen?

Let's get the groomsmen in there.

" I tried to help after my stroke.

I was extremely slow and weak.

Emily also insisted the groom choose

a best man she wasn't close to because

she had a crush on him and wanted

to walk down the aisle with him.

Shockingly, both men agreed."

how does this woman have such

an impact on all these people

to change their whole wedding?

Who's the best man?

Who's walking down with who,

what dresses we're wearing?

Like at some point we

need to say like, no.

Or if you say like,

yeah, fine, we'll do it.

I Don't know.

I don't know guys We gotta take a

little responsibility on both sides.

" Before the reception,

Emily disappeared entirely.

The bride and I panicked knowing

her history of destructive behavior.

Eventually we found Emily had gone

to another gathering to see the guy

she was crushing on." I thought the

guy she crushed on was a groomsman.

" She confronted him about his

feelings he wasn't interested.

To make things worse, the guy I had a

crush on and usher also ended up at that

gathering." Where's this other gathering?

I thought they were all

at a wedding together.

" Emily spent time with him too, this wasn't

the first time she had gone behind my back

to flirt with him or hang out with him.

She didn't actually want him.

She just liked the drama." I think

you guys all liked the drama.

I'm sorry.

I'm sorry, but why lie?

She told you like this in confidence

and then you went and told the bride,

I'm just confused by this little event.

" Before the wedding, Emily had lice

and I caught it from her." This is

the longest week I've ever heard of.

Why are all these things

happening this week?

" I managed to treat it before the wedding

and showed up lice free only to discover

afterward that I had caught it again.

Emily hadn't treated at

all." Guys, this is a mess.

This is like why so is

Emily girl had lice.

They're just like going around.

Are you friends with Emily?

Because I feel like the way you're

talking about her, she's not your friend.

Is she friends with the bride more?

How'd you guys get lice

if you're not friends?

Did this happen in the

prior week to the wedding?

Despite all this, the wedding

day still turned out beautiful.

It's amazing what can be accomplished in

a week with determination and love The

bride and I became best friends afterward.

She told me many times she wished she'd

chosen me as her maid of honor instead.

As for Emily, I hope one day she

gets the help she clearly needs."

Okay.

I mean, I know I shared

a lot of my thoughts, but

There's a lot of things here.

One is a communication error, like why

is this Emily girl, the maid of honor,

when she's done all these horrible things

apparently, and it seems like there's a

lot of bad talk about her behind her back.

So there's that one, two, I'm confused,

like, okay, when you decide to have

a quick engagement, you can't just

assume all these people are gonna

do things for your day, right?

Yes, if you have a crafty family, if

you have people there, that can help.

But why is it again, the maid of

honors duty to set up tents for you?

That's not her job.

Get a bunch of the guys, hire

some people to help set up.

but I don't think she's

completely wrong for that.

Again, we are talking.

the bride decided.

That they were gonna throw

together a wedding in one week.

Why should everyone stop

everything they're doing?

They probably all have jobs.

They probably all have families.

Why should they have to stop

everything they're doing to

put together your wedding?

That's where I just don't agree with it.

Like, I'm like a very do

it yourself kind of person.

I could never imagine being like, okay, in

one week from now I'm gonna do this thing

and have all my friends are gonna help me.

this is my wedding day.

You know, like it that seems a little

bridezilla to expect all your friends

to just set up a wedding for you.

the little drama here about like telling.

The bride about her crush and

her addiction again, did it need

to happen before the wedding?

I don't think so.

I think we need to keep the bride

out of the wedding drama as much

as possible if we're really trying

to stay focused on like making

this day as beautiful as possible.

Keep the bride outta the drama.

Let's get all hands together.

Why am I not hearing about family members,

the groom, groomsmen, anyone else helping?

It seems like Emily is just

to blame this Emily girl.

She didn't do this.

She was supposed to do this.

She didn't do let's slow down.

We always knew.

She was jealous of the

relationship, that's what she says.

She was jealous of the relationship.

Tried to sabotage them, create tension.

try to get them to break up.

Forcing the bride to

choose between him and her.

So there's already issues there.

So now we're gonna push her in and be

like, Hey, you need to put together

this wedding, not her problem.

This might be a hot take,

but it's not her problem.

This should be the bride and groom

putting everything together, and

then if people offer to help and

wanna come in, they can help.

It is not the maid of honor, best

man, groomsmen or bridesmaid's

responsibility to make this happen.

If they want to, they can.

If they wanna ask, they can,

it's not anyone's responsibility.

We're talking seven days.

God, like I said, I've been a part of

like really quick engagements, really

quick DIY weddings, and even then it took

multiple weeks to get everything together.

So I can only imagine the stress

that this put on everyone.

And I feel like this was just kind

of calling out like some toxicity

between the friends, right?

No one really seems innocent in this.

I don't know.

You guys have to let

me know what you think.

Sometimes I get like, I have to

look at it from all sides, so I'm

not trying to call it this person.

I just have to look for it from all sides.

And I feel like this is very

like putting Emily down.

We know she's got some issues.

We know there's some different things

going on, so let's not Put that huge

level of responsibility on someone

when we know they can't hold up to it.

Or like I said, if you're like, I

need this person as my maid of honor,

we're getting married in seven days.

Keep it stupid simple.

We found a place, set up some chairs,

have an arch, have someone read your

vows, have a party, go to a bar.

You can do things really simply.

And yeah, that's what I think you guys

tell me what you guys think about this.

'cause the idea that your wedding

party is hired, labor is just,

no, it's just old news to me.

Again, there's a lot of people out

there that really do like doing that

stuff, and I think that's great.

I enjoy doing it.

But not everyone's like that.

Not everyone has the time.

If you've got kids, a spouse,

a job, a full-time job, like.

You have to remember,

that's their priority.

Your wedding day is not their priority.

So we need to give a little more grace

and understanding for things like that.

Alright, that's what we got today.

let's end with some confessions here.

I don't know why I said here like that.

All right.

" I ended up looking like a zombie on my

wedding day due to stress." you know what?

I think that's one of those things.

I heard so many people talk about

wedding stress before I got married

and while I was, yeah, I was a

little stressed here and there.

I knew of people that like couldn't

eat towards the end that had lost so

much weight because they were just so

stressed about getting things checked off.

that would be in tears multiple times

because of different things it's hard.

There's a lot of pressure.

There's a lot of external

pressures, family pressures.

people that got married during COVID

right, or were engaged during COVID,

I heard of venues getting canceled.

I heard of family members

not being able to come in.

just different things like that, like

stressors that you can't plan for.

So it's really important to just

understand, and I'm not trying

to belittle wedding days or

anything 'cause they're amazing.

But remember, it's just a day.

As long as you have your close friends

and family there, it's gonna be beautiful.

You gotta remember that it's not

gonna be a hundred percent perfect.

and stress.

stress can kill you, right?

We all let stress get to us

depending on different things.

We all stress about different things.

I've heard of brides being so

stressed that their wedding day

comes they can't even enjoy it.

' cause their body is just so tense

still from all the stress buildup.

Like I said, they don't eat.

They don't sleep, and it's just like their

day's there and then it's over and they

get like a wedding hangover, not like an

alcohol hangover, a wedding hangover where

they're sad because the day came and went

and they didn't actually fully enjoy it.

Or they had all these months of stress

and planning and then it was just gone.

Right.

So it's sad when that happens.

okay.

" Made my own centerpieces.

Half of them fell apart when the guest

touched 'em." That's hard with DIY stuff.

It happens, but at the end of the day,

as long as you get a couple photos

of them, you just have to, it's one

of those things you have to let go.

" I let my sister be the dj.

Our first dance had a short ad

in the middle of the song." What?

Okay, I wanna know what platform

puts ads in the middle of a song.

It's the price you pay.

I mean you, if it's probably free.

that's the gamble you take.

you have someone that's

not a licensed business.

Be a vendor you give and take.

Right?

I'm sure everyone was

able to laugh it off.

All right.

" Tried to sew my own veil and it

ended up looking like a mosquito

netting." Yeah, know your talents.

Know your strengths, know your weaknesses.

Know where it's better to pay

someone to do it or ask for help.

Alright, last one.

"I DIYed my bouquet. It wilted before

the ceremony even started." yeah, again,

it's like you gotta know there's certain

things that you have to know, like.

What's gonna work and what won't.

There's certain things you gotta

be willing to negotiate on.

Like where are your strengths

and where are we gonna be?

Like, I'm gonna hire for that.

Like I said, never thought I would

have fake flowers, but my friends fake

flowers at her wedding looked beautiful

and she got married six months before

me and she's like, do you want these?

And I was like, $4,000

or flowers from her.

I'll take those.

So I did that.

Okay.

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