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Hi guys.

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Welcome back to another episode

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of Here Comes The Drama.

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I'm your host, Krista Ennis,

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and it is officially 2026,

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which is wild to think about.

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I feel like every year goes faster

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and faster the older I get, and

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especially with being a mom now.

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Well.

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Almost going on three years.

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I feel like it goes even faster.

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And it's unfair they always say time is

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a thief and I didn't really believe it.

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And then I got older and I had

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my daughter and I'm like, oh my

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gosh, where does the time go?

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So I feel like even more so, I've become

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more of a planner because I'm like, if

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I don't plan things, like I lose track

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of time and it just gets taken from me.

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It's like the beginning of the

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summer, my husband and I had all

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these plans for our daughter.

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Like, we're like, okay, we wanna

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go take her to the beach, we

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wanna take her to this museum.

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And we're like, oh, we have so much time.

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And then all of a sudden you realize,

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you're like, I have a week left.

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and so I feel like I've become more of

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a planner, which is great in some ways.

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But one of the things I really struggle

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with is then being fully present, because

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you're always thinking of the next thing.

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And I don't know if that comes with

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like the mental load of motherhood

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or parenthood, but it's like I'm

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always thinking about what's next.

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Like I plan things out when it

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comes to my social media content.

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I plan things out when it comes

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to, family activities, what we're

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doing in the next week, and it

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just makes everything move so fast.

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So.

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My goal for this year, and maybe

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you guys can relate to this or

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not, but my goal for this year is

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to find more pockets of presence.

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And I'm kind of like talking

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through it as I'm figuring it out,

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but just those moments of quiet to

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just be still and really like soak

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in everything that's happening.

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And I think I brought this up before

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where it's like, we tend to dwell

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when things aren't going great and we

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just wanna get through them, right?

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But when things are going well, we

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don't take a moment to just like soak

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it in and be like, wow, this is awesome.

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Or Wow, how am I feeling about this?

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so I feel like it's good just

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to account our emotions and

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how we're feeling about things.

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I feel like a therapist right now.

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these are the things that go

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through my head is just kinda

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like bounces all over the place.

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anyway, I had notes for today, but I'm

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just kinda like going off on a whim.

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I kind of talked about last

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week how I'm not really a New

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Year's resolution type person.

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I love goals and I love, the idea

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of a resolution, but I don't think

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it has to be necessarily in the new

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year, I think everyone has their.

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Personal best times to set goals,

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whether that's your birthday month,

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the new year or, the next week.

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You some people just have to like

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do what works best for 'em, right?

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I'm someone that always sets weekly

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goals, monthly goals, and I just.

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I'm always, like I said, always

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thinking about the next thing.

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But there's something fun and

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exciting about a fresh year.

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I'm gonna get a little boo

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here, so just bear with me.

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But I just love the idea of like a

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clean slate, trying something new,

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setting a goal of like, something that's

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kind of wild and being like, oh, you

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know, I've never done this before.

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Let's try it this year.

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Maybe I'll fail.

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Maybe I'll love it.

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Maybe I'll hate it.

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I think like when we're really

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young, we're encouraged to try

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all these different things.

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maybe it's like teenage years or

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young adulthood, like twenties,

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where we're like, this is who I am.

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I just have to check the boxes.

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I can't all of a sudden be that person

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because I'm a poser then, we get

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all these ideas in our head of like,

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we can't go a different direction.

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when I was like 25.

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Gosh, I don't even remember the age.

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I wanna say like maybe 26, 27.

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I was at this really toxic job I was just

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looking for an out, like the beginning.

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I was just running through the emotions

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I'd wake up at like the last minute that

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I had to, to rush around and get ready.

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I was always late for work.

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I hated being there.

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The boss was so toxic.

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I would come home crying every day.

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It was just awful, right?

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I was like, there's gotta be more,

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like there's gotta be something else.

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I know this is not what I'm meant to do.

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And it started by like finding some,

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like more like encouraging podcasts.

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then I read a book called Better

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Than Before, and this book I

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had had on my shelf for so long.

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It's not like a promoted

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thing or anything.

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I'm just trying to share some

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encouragement in the new year.

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I had this book on my shelf for so

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long, I was like, I just wanna read it.

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I wanna read this book.

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to not read this book.

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people, oh, I'm not a reader.

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I'm not a reader.

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I only, read here and there, right?

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I'm gonna read this book.

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This is my goal to read this book.

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I'm gonna read it.

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And it started off talking about how

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this guy wanted to wake up earlier and

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he just started slowly, like waking up

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15 minute increments earlier and earlier.

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And I started doing that and then before

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I knew it, this is gonna sound crazy

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to a lot of people out there, but I

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would just wake up at five 30 for joy.

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it completely changed my days

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and again, this is a while ago.

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I don't do that now, so I'm not trying

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to say like, and be like me 'cause

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I don't, do that completely anymore.

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But I would wake up five 30

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or six and I would just read.

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And having that control in the

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morning made me realize like, I

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can do so much more with my time.

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That brings me joy.

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And I think it's really important

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to listen to that voice.

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'cause I think so many times we

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just move through the motions we

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don't really ask ourselves do I do

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something to bring my joy today?

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What do I feel today?

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And if your whole day is spent,

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struggling or unhappy, we just go

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through the motions and we're never

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actually fulfilling something in us.

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I know that was like a long spiel, so

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I hope I didn't lose you guys on that.

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But what I'm trying to say is I'm

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just gonna encourage you, if there's

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something that's been weighing on you or

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something you're like, I wanna try that.

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Or, when I was 10 years

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old, I love drawing.

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I don't draw anymore.

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Pick it up and just try it.

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buy an adult coloring

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book, get some markers.

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you don't to spend a lot of money.

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You can spend $2 at the, Dollar store.

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You know, find something that brings

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you joy this year and it sounds

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kind of crazy and woo woo, but.

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Even finding 30 minute pockets out of

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the day to just do something that brings

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you joy can completely change your day.

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Again, I know that was like a long spiel

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and not how I normally start these,

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I'm recording this before the new year,

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but I'm just feeling very hopeful and

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excited about the new year, and if I

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can spread a little encouragement to

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those out there that are struggling

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or just feel a little hopeless, I know

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there's a lot of things that aren't

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great in the world right now and.

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on our political climate and all that.

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not to get into politics, but you know,

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there's a lot that's not great and

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there's a lot of change I wish to see.

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but I think if we can, find joy in

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like little pockets of our day, I

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think it will make a difference.

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And then we can kind of reach out

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and fill other people's cups too.

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Anyway, that was a long spiel.

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I'm sorry guys.

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I hope that was okay.

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so I hope that.

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That helped someone out there.

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before I get to today's episode,

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just for a little quick reminder to

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do my new year giveaway, I'm giving

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away four $50 Amazon gift cards.

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All you have to do is share a photo

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of yourself listening to the podcast,

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a screenshot of your phone listening,

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a screenshot of your review, and

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then tag me on social media tag hey

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christainnis Ennis, and that's it.

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So I will select four winners.

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The winners will be announced

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February 12th episode.

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All right.

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Next up we are going

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to do wedding dilemmas.

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You guys sent me these in.

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so let's see what we got here.

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Okay, this first one says, "my fiance's

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aunt told me that our registry is

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rude because we included higher price

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items. She said, it makes us look

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greedy. I'm embarrassed, but also

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annoyed 'cause it's a registry, not a

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demand list." Here's the thing about

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registries that I find so interesting.

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People have so many opinions about them.

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I remember talking to friends years

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before I was even engaged and.

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the thing they say to do is put

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anything and everything on there.

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There are gonna be some people

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that can only afford or want

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to spend under 50 bucks.

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There are gonna be some people

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that have a higher price point and

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they want to buy something really

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nice for a couple hundred bucks.

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There's no expectations.

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I've never looked at someone's registry

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and been offended by it because I'm like,

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I know either that's outta my price range,

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or they'll get that from their parents or.

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I'd rather get them blank, you so if she's

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gonna, I think it's kind of rude for her

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to tell you that your registry is rude.

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She doesn't need to, pay for that.

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I think it's maybe her feeling a

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little offended, or, I don't know,

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maybe she didn't have a registry.

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So she just thinks in

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general they're selfish.

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I also find it's interesting, and

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this is like a hill I will die on.

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I think it's interesting when people get

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so mad about like the honeymoon registry,

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because I'm like, whether I put plates or

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bedsheets or, a new couch on my registry.

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That money or however you spend

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that money is coming to me.

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So if I decide to return those sheets

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and I use those $50 towards dinner

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on my honeymoon, why does it matter?

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and I think it was Suzanne Lambert that

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was in the podcast that was like, and if

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you care about that person, it shouldn't

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matter what they use the money for.

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People still get up in arms in it.

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I posted a thing recently about

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honeymoons and someone was like, I'm

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not paying for someone's honeymoon.

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it's like, you're not paying for it.

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if it's a honeymoon registry, it's

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usually alongside of a wedding registry.

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So it's not like you're buying them

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a wedding gift and a honeymoon thing.

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you can pick and choose.

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like a lot of my friends already

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lived with their partners, had all

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the pots and pans and all that stuff.

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So they didn't need extra pots and

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pans that they weren't going to use.

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Right?

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So for those people I was like,

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oh, I would love to buy you

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dinner and drinks on the beach.

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I would love to buy you your plane ticket.

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You know, whatever that was.

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that was kind of a, a cool thing.

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Maybe it's just 'cause it's like

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a newer thing, but whatever.

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I wanna let your fiance's

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aunt's comments get to you.

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Just let him roll off.

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Be like, you know what, aunt

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Susie, thank you for your feedback.

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you don't need to get us anything.

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It's not a big deal.

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We just kind of wanna put a

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couple different price ranges

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on there and if you wanna get us

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something you can, but no pressure.

331
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Okay, next one.

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Oh gosh, "my friend offered to do

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our wedding photos as a gift. But

334
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her work is not good. I don't know

335
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how to decline without hurting her

336
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feelings or ruining the friendship."

337
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I have talked about this so many

338
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times, and this is something

339
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I'm so passionate about.

340
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It doesn't matter if her work is good

341
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or not, because either way, I wouldn't

342
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mention that to her, her quality of work.

343
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Right.

344
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I would just say, especially if it's gonna

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be someone you want there as a guest.

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Say thank you so much for offering.

347
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I really, really appreciate it.

348
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However, I just want you there as a guest.

349
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I want you there fully immersed in the

350
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guest experience, hanging out with us

351
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on the dance floor, taking advantage

352
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of the open bar, being with us for

353
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photos, whatever that looks like.

354
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Instead of it, if she keeps pushing, just.

355
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You gotta repeat and just

356
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say, Hey, you know what?

357
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We actually already found a photographer.

358
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If someone like that is offended that

359
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you found a different photographer,

360
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they're not in it for the right reasons

361
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anyway, because they're either looking

362
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for more business like they wanna

363
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be paid or they want other people

364
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to notice their business and that's

365
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not really a good friend anyways.

366
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So, just be clear and upfront.

367
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It doesn't matter again

368
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if it works good or not.

369
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I personally think like

370
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a vendor like that.

371
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If they're your friend, you

372
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want them there as a guest.

373
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Right.

374
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Obviously there's some vendors,

375
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like for instance, I had my

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sister-in-law make our cake.

377
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That's something where like,

378
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she was still a bridesmaid.

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So she was a bridesmaid.

380
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She could make the cake and she

381
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didn't need to like be a part

382
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of the cake the whole time.

383
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You know what I mean?

384
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Like a DJ or a photographer,

385
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a videographer.

386
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Those kind of vendors, they need

387
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to be their job the whole night.

388
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So this friend, if she's a photographer,

389
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she's not gonna be able to actually

390
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hang out, enjoy the wedding.

391
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So just really accentuate how much

392
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you want her there as a guest,

393
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and you her to be in photos.

394
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You wanna hang out with her and

395
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just say, it's just not possible

396
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to have her as a photographer.

397
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But thank you.

398
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Okay.

399
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All right, onto the next segment.

400
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Would you rather, here we go.

401
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These are completely random.

402
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I have not read any of

403
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these, so here we go.

404
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" Would you rather deal with a pushy

405
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mother-in-law or a bridesmaid who

406
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thinks she's the bride?" Oh gosh.

407
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I'm very lucky.

408
00:12:02,004 --> 00:12:03,684
I'm very lucky that I never had

409
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to deal with either of these.

410
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I've heard stories of.

411
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Nightmares on both sides.

412
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So I'm trying to think of

413
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like the worst scenario.

414
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If I had to deal with either of these.

415
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Gosh, I think I'm gonna say a

416
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bridesmaid who thinks she's the bride.

417
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I don't know.

418
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I might go back on that just

419
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because like at the end of the day.

420
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Something's not working with a

421
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bridesmaid, you can just like kick

422
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'em out of the wedding, right?

423
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A mother-in-law is still your fiance's

424
00:12:29,817 --> 00:12:32,127
mom or your partner's mom, right?

425
00:12:32,361 --> 00:12:33,501
you can kick them out of coming

426
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to the wedding, but there's

427
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still that blood relationship.

428
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So if a bridesmaid is going to be

429
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terrible and do all those things, you

430
00:12:39,574 --> 00:12:41,614
can just be like, thanks, but no thanks.

431
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Mother-in-law has a little

432
00:12:42,814 --> 00:12:44,634
more, pull in the game, I guess.

433
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" Would you rather have someone wear

434
00:12:46,326 --> 00:12:48,399
white to your wedding or someone give

435
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an unapproved speech?" Um, wear white.

436
00:12:50,422 --> 00:12:51,382
I've talked about this before.

437
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White does not bother me in the slightest.

438
00:12:53,999 --> 00:12:56,039
Yes, for like family photos, it's

439
00:12:56,039 --> 00:12:57,996
nice to like stand out, but like

440
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everyone knows you're the bride like.

441
00:12:59,494 --> 00:13:00,064
I don't know.

442
00:13:00,264 --> 00:13:01,434
That does not bother me really.

443
00:13:01,717 --> 00:13:03,547
yeah, I don't wanna Unapprove speech.

444
00:13:03,667 --> 00:13:04,267
Sorry.

445
00:13:04,461 --> 00:13:06,681
" Would you rather have a wedding crasher

446
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or a vendor who shows up an hour late?"

447
00:13:09,844 --> 00:13:11,434
Depends on who the wedding crasher is.

448
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If it's like at the end of the night

449
00:13:14,302 --> 00:13:15,742
and we're all just dancing, having

450
00:13:15,742 --> 00:13:17,686
fun and it's like funny, like older

451
00:13:17,686 --> 00:13:19,726
ladies, I'd be like, yeah, come on in.

452
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Sure.

453
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If it's like an ex of someone,

454
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someone that we purposely didn't

455
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invite because of like toxic

456
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behavior, I would not want that.

457
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I'm so bad at these 'cause I

458
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think about things too, like

459
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analytically and logically.

460
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Or a vendor who shows up an hour late,

461
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gosh, I'm gonna go with, ' cause I'm such

462
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a timely person, I'd be like stressed.

463
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I think I'm gonna go with a

464
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vendor that shows up an hour late.

465
00:13:44,684 --> 00:13:45,704
No, I'd be stressed.

466
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I wanna go with a wedding crusher.

467
00:13:47,114 --> 00:13:48,284
Yeah, let's go with wedding crusher.

468
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Okay.

469
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" Would you rather have a bridesmaid

470
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dropout last minute or add

471
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herself back in last minute?" How

472
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would she add herself back in?

473
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Uh, we don't just add ourselves back in.

474
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That sounds like something

475
00:14:01,051 --> 00:14:02,071
that's really pushy.

476
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So I'm gonna go with a bridesmaid

477
00:14:03,301 --> 00:14:04,321
dropping out last minute.

478
00:14:04,527 --> 00:14:06,057
Honestly, I don't see the big deal.

479
00:14:06,157 --> 00:14:06,847
yeah, I'd be sad.

480
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Like if I'm thinking about my

481
00:14:07,567 --> 00:14:08,647
own wedding, if one of my friends

482
00:14:08,647 --> 00:14:09,577
did that, I'd be like, oh my

483
00:14:09,577 --> 00:14:10,627
gosh, why are you dropping out?

484
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I'm so sad.

485
00:14:11,344 --> 00:14:13,084
But when I read stories about it,

486
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it's not, it's more of the like,

487
00:14:15,164 --> 00:14:17,204
emotional part of it that's sad, right?

488
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If you like think about them

489
00:14:18,164 --> 00:14:19,954
on your day, that's what's sad.

490
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But if we're just thinking about people.

491
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If one person can't make it, all of a

492
00:14:23,889 --> 00:14:26,389
sudden the wedding's still gonna go fine.

493
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it's still gonna flow, you're

494
00:14:28,136 --> 00:14:29,516
gonna get everything you need.

495
00:14:29,762 --> 00:14:30,302
so it's more of the

496
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emotional aspect of it.

497
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So that would be really sad to deal

498
00:14:32,942 --> 00:14:34,682
with, especially if it's a close friend.

499
00:14:34,859 --> 00:14:36,039
But, if it was for a right

500
00:14:36,039 --> 00:14:37,469
reason, I would go with that.

501
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Dunno what that means, add

502
00:14:38,689 --> 00:14:40,039
herself back in last minute.

503
00:14:40,039 --> 00:14:41,246
Just like  she drops out.

504
00:14:41,246 --> 00:14:42,506
Then is like, surprise.

505
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I'm actually still here.

506
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Then it.

507
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Sounds more like an issue.

508
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All right.

509
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"Would you rather your maid of honor

510
00:14:47,902 --> 00:14:50,572
forget the rings or forget the speech?"

511
00:14:50,632 --> 00:14:54,172
Oh, I think I would say forget the

512
00:14:54,172 --> 00:14:56,632
rings, because while the rings are

513
00:14:56,632 --> 00:14:58,582
more meaningful, I think in the whole

514
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thing, you can forget something like.

515
00:15:01,665 --> 00:15:02,702
The day of, right.

516
00:15:03,068 --> 00:15:04,538
and it would hopefully just be for the

517
00:15:04,538 --> 00:15:06,135
ceremony so someone could like, maybe

518
00:15:06,135 --> 00:15:07,875
bring them, if someone's forgetting

519
00:15:07,875 --> 00:15:09,705
a speech, that means they completely

520
00:15:09,705 --> 00:15:11,325
forgot the whole time to even write

521
00:15:11,325 --> 00:15:13,665
one or do one or spend any time on it.

522
00:15:13,832 --> 00:15:14,942
And that shows me that more

523
00:15:14,942 --> 00:15:16,022
so that they just don't care.

524
00:15:16,385 --> 00:15:16,655
Yeah.

525
00:15:16,865 --> 00:15:17,075
Okay.

526
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"Would you rather spend extra

527
00:15:18,665 --> 00:15:20,135
on the venue or extra on the

528
00:15:20,135 --> 00:15:22,028
photographer?" photographer.

529
00:15:22,098 --> 00:15:24,648
you cannot beat a good photographer.

530
00:15:24,935 --> 00:15:26,555
obviously, like all in all, I think our

531
00:15:26,555 --> 00:15:29,822
venue costs a little more, but like we

532
00:15:29,822 --> 00:15:31,328
had, I don't know if I've talked about

533
00:15:31,328 --> 00:15:33,338
this before, but we got married in an

534
00:15:33,455 --> 00:15:35,918
old mattress factory and it was just

535
00:15:35,918 --> 00:15:38,238
completely like, rustic is the wrong word.

536
00:15:38,268 --> 00:15:39,228
It was not rustic.

537
00:15:39,358 --> 00:15:40,588
I can't even think of what it's called,

538
00:15:40,895 --> 00:15:43,055
but it was just such a cool vibe.

539
00:15:43,327 --> 00:15:44,557
And I didn't need like

540
00:15:44,557 --> 00:15:45,667
a really fancy venue.

541
00:15:45,887 --> 00:15:47,927
that was not like number one on my list.

542
00:15:48,150 --> 00:15:49,410
I just want good photos.

543
00:15:49,410 --> 00:15:50,980
And if you could have a good photographer,

544
00:15:50,980 --> 00:15:52,970
you can get good photos almost anywhere.

545
00:15:53,387 --> 00:15:54,197
that's what I wanted.

546
00:15:54,197 --> 00:15:55,457
I just wanted a good vibe.

547
00:15:55,620 --> 00:15:56,700
Good photos.

548
00:15:56,730 --> 00:15:57,060
Yeah.

549
00:15:57,260 --> 00:15:58,730
" Would you rather cut your guest list

550
00:15:58,730 --> 00:16:01,610
by 20 people or cut your decor budget

551
00:16:01,610 --> 00:16:03,992
in half?" Decor budget in half.

552
00:16:03,992 --> 00:16:05,162
I'm all about the people.

553
00:16:05,355 --> 00:16:06,825
I did have like, I don't know, I guess

554
00:16:06,825 --> 00:16:08,205
you'd call it medium sized wedding.

555
00:16:08,205 --> 00:16:11,228
I think I had 140 people, which years ago.

556
00:16:11,228 --> 00:16:13,208
I was like, oh, I'll have like 250 people.

557
00:16:13,208 --> 00:16:14,018
And then the older you get

558
00:16:14,018 --> 00:16:15,442
just more people dwindle away.

559
00:16:15,442 --> 00:16:15,772
Right.

560
00:16:15,885 --> 00:16:17,928
But when it came time for planning

561
00:16:17,958 --> 00:16:19,445
the wedding, if that's what I was

562
00:16:19,445 --> 00:16:21,385
assigned between, I would cut decor

563
00:16:21,385 --> 00:16:22,705
budget, because at the end of the

564
00:16:22,705 --> 00:16:24,865
day, if you're in a cool place.

565
00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:25,900
You don't need a ton.

566
00:16:26,217 --> 00:16:27,837
the place we got married, like down the

567
00:16:27,837 --> 00:16:28,977
street, had a lot of stuff you could

568
00:16:28,977 --> 00:16:30,807
rent, so we rented some stuff from there.

569
00:16:30,940 --> 00:16:32,290
They also had candles that

570
00:16:32,290 --> 00:16:33,490
we could rent from them.

571
00:16:33,877 --> 00:16:36,187
then I made a lot of stuff, so I didn't

572
00:16:36,187 --> 00:16:37,780
really spend a lot on decor anyways.

573
00:16:38,010 --> 00:16:40,020
I even used my friend made

574
00:16:40,020 --> 00:16:43,260
handmade bouquets with fake flowers

575
00:16:43,547 --> 00:16:44,597
and she let us use all those.

576
00:16:44,597 --> 00:16:46,397
So I spent like nothing on decor.

577
00:16:46,675 --> 00:16:48,055
" Would you rather splurge on

578
00:16:48,055 --> 00:16:49,615
the honeymoon or splurge on the

579
00:16:49,615 --> 00:16:52,345
dress?" Honeymoon all the way.

580
00:16:52,672 --> 00:16:54,262
I talked about this before too.

581
00:16:54,292 --> 00:16:57,172
My dress was under $1,500.

582
00:16:57,592 --> 00:16:57,842
I think it was, I think,

583
00:16:57,842 --> 00:16:59,272
wanna say it was like 1200.

584
00:16:59,418 --> 00:17:01,128
I didn't even look at the price tag.

585
00:17:01,128 --> 00:17:02,178
So I went because it was like

586
00:17:02,178 --> 00:17:04,412
a direct kind of bridal shop.

587
00:17:04,412 --> 00:17:06,302
And plus, because my venue was

588
00:17:06,452 --> 00:17:08,275
connected to it, I got like an

589
00:17:08,275 --> 00:17:10,525
extra 20% off discount or something.

590
00:17:10,715 --> 00:17:13,068
And don't get me wrong, I love the dress,

591
00:17:13,068 --> 00:17:14,628
but I was not a bride that went to like

592
00:17:14,628 --> 00:17:16,728
five bridal shops to find the dress.

593
00:17:16,915 --> 00:17:18,235
I went to one bridal shop.

594
00:17:18,235 --> 00:17:19,885
I tried on five or six dresses,

595
00:17:20,195 --> 00:17:21,395
and I knew that first day.

596
00:17:21,515 --> 00:17:22,445
I was like, this is my favorite.

597
00:17:22,445 --> 00:17:23,135
Let's go with it.

598
00:17:23,392 --> 00:17:25,402
I don't need to try on a million things.

599
00:17:25,402 --> 00:17:27,418
I just kind of was like this is good.

600
00:17:27,778 --> 00:17:28,258
This is good.

601
00:17:29,125 --> 00:17:29,425
yeah.

602
00:17:29,425 --> 00:17:30,972
For me, I would rather

603
00:17:30,972 --> 00:17:32,142
splurge on a honeymoon.

604
00:17:32,452 --> 00:17:33,502
My honeymoon was definitely

605
00:17:33,502 --> 00:17:34,252
more than the dress.

606
00:17:34,690 --> 00:17:36,760
" Would you rather DIY all decor

607
00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:38,350
or have zero decor at all?"

608
00:17:38,523 --> 00:17:40,743
I personally would rather DIY.

609
00:17:40,773 --> 00:17:41,793
Like I said, I did a

610
00:17:41,793 --> 00:17:43,127
lot of my own wedding.

611
00:17:43,127 --> 00:17:44,827
All the signs, my friend did

612
00:17:44,827 --> 00:17:47,063
the bouquets, all the decor.

613
00:17:47,063 --> 00:17:48,677
I kind of thought of myself I've

614
00:17:48,677 --> 00:17:50,597
been a part of a lot of DIY weddings.

615
00:17:50,790 --> 00:17:52,080
You need a little something.

616
00:17:52,398 --> 00:17:54,585
I've seen them go overboard, so

617
00:17:54,585 --> 00:17:55,875
it's not necessarily go to go

618
00:17:55,875 --> 00:17:58,075
crazy, but, yeah, I would do DIY.

619
00:17:58,298 --> 00:17:59,138
All right, last one.

620
00:17:59,415 --> 00:18:01,658
" Would you rather a surprise, honeymoon

621
00:18:01,658 --> 00:18:04,382
plan by your partner or plan every

622
00:18:04,382 --> 00:18:07,028
detail yourself?" You guys know me?

623
00:18:07,028 --> 00:18:08,288
I'm a planner.

624
00:18:08,492 --> 00:18:11,162
I am okay with surprises, but it makes me

625
00:18:11,162 --> 00:18:13,172
feel itchy, like I need to get in there.

626
00:18:13,172 --> 00:18:13,892
I need know what's going,

627
00:18:13,952 --> 00:18:15,632
need to know what's going on.

628
00:18:15,845 --> 00:18:17,435
so I would rather plan

629
00:18:17,435 --> 00:18:18,605
all the details myself.

630
00:18:18,825 --> 00:18:20,295
Luckily for us though, like we

631
00:18:20,295 --> 00:18:22,545
planned it together, I used sandals.

632
00:18:22,645 --> 00:18:24,175
again, this is not sponsored, this is

633
00:18:24,175 --> 00:18:26,305
just, they were the most budget friendly.

634
00:18:26,572 --> 00:18:27,562
we were looked at Hawaii

635
00:18:27,562 --> 00:18:29,152
and it was so expensive.

636
00:18:29,385 --> 00:18:31,512
Sandals at least we were able to like.

637
00:18:31,784 --> 00:18:32,924
Pick the location.

638
00:18:32,924 --> 00:18:34,094
We looked at all the different ones

639
00:18:34,094 --> 00:18:35,624
to see like what was most affordable.

640
00:18:35,900 --> 00:18:36,200
it was nice.

641
00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:37,550
It was all inclusive, so with the

642
00:18:37,550 --> 00:18:39,560
price you paid include all the food.

643
00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:41,764
All the drinks, and I think we even were

644
00:18:41,764 --> 00:18:43,504
able to include flights in all that.

645
00:18:43,504 --> 00:18:44,464
So that was really nice

646
00:18:44,464 --> 00:18:45,244
to be able to do that.

647
00:18:45,444 --> 00:18:46,854
And then, we could plan

648
00:18:46,854 --> 00:18:47,724
stuff when we got there.

649
00:18:47,724 --> 00:18:48,864
So we didn't have like a strict

650
00:18:48,864 --> 00:18:50,184
itinerary, but when we got there,

651
00:18:50,184 --> 00:18:52,314
we could pick extra excursions and

652
00:18:52,314 --> 00:18:53,454
I would do it a hundred times over.

653
00:18:53,454 --> 00:18:54,534
It was so much fun.

654
00:18:54,694 --> 00:18:57,120
Okay, now to the real, real story here.

655
00:18:57,435 --> 00:18:59,329
This week's story submission, " I

656
00:18:59,329 --> 00:19:01,405
was a bridesmaid in a wedding that

657
00:19:01,405 --> 00:19:04,315
came together in just one week.

658
00:19:04,542 --> 00:19:06,882
The couple had originally had planned

659
00:19:07,106 --> 00:19:09,395
a private ceremony, and when some

660
00:19:09,395 --> 00:19:12,015
people found out, they created so much

661
00:19:12,015 --> 00:19:14,272
drama that the couple felt pressured

662
00:19:14,272 --> 00:19:18,339
to plan a full wedding in seven days."

663
00:19:18,544 --> 00:19:21,835
No, that is ultimate people pleaser, like,

664
00:19:21,835 --> 00:19:23,365
okay, we'll just do it in seven days.

665
00:19:23,365 --> 00:19:25,555
Like I was a part of a DIY wedding where

666
00:19:25,565 --> 00:19:27,755
they had a three month engagement and

667
00:19:27,755 --> 00:19:29,871
I thought that was really hard to do.

668
00:19:29,871 --> 00:19:32,771
Like it was fast and seven days.

669
00:19:32,771 --> 00:19:33,821
I'm like, what did you

670
00:19:33,821 --> 00:19:35,261
do in those seven days?

671
00:19:35,291 --> 00:19:36,101
'cause that's a lot.

672
00:19:36,341 --> 00:19:38,651
" They also had to change venues because one

673
00:19:38,651 --> 00:19:41,788
church refused to host due to the drama.

674
00:19:41,994 --> 00:19:44,994
So we had an all intensity of a year long

675
00:19:44,994 --> 00:19:47,004
engagement squeezed into a single week.

676
00:19:47,344 --> 00:19:49,094
because of the chaos, the wedding

677
00:19:49,094 --> 00:19:50,984
party changed several times before

678
00:19:50,984 --> 00:19:52,854
the big day." How long is this week?

679
00:19:52,854 --> 00:19:55,434
This seems like an impossibly long week.

680
00:19:55,716 --> 00:19:56,908
" The maid-of-honor let's call

681
00:19:56,908 --> 00:19:58,785
her, Emily, had been the bride's

682
00:19:58,785 --> 00:20:00,585
best friend since fifth grade.

683
00:20:00,768 --> 00:20:02,028
But she had always been jealous

684
00:20:02,028 --> 00:20:03,378
of the bride's relationship.

685
00:20:03,591 --> 00:20:05,691
For years, she tried to sabotage them,

686
00:20:05,915 --> 00:20:07,745
creating tension, trying to break them

687
00:20:07,745 --> 00:20:09,838
up, and constantly forcing the bride

688
00:20:09,838 --> 00:20:11,958
to choose between her and the groom."

689
00:20:12,235 --> 00:20:13,165
So why are we making

690
00:20:13,165 --> 00:20:14,245
her the maid of honor?

691
00:20:14,441 --> 00:20:16,151
When I see like Frida, all these

692
00:20:16,151 --> 00:20:17,618
friendships, I'm like, Why?

693
00:20:17,771 --> 00:20:19,907
Unless from this bridesmaid perspective,

694
00:20:19,907 --> 00:20:21,137
she could always see it and then

695
00:20:21,137 --> 00:20:22,427
the bride was just kind of blind

696
00:20:22,427 --> 00:20:24,019
to it, which happens of course.

697
00:20:24,308 --> 00:20:24,638
Okay.

698
00:20:25,008 --> 00:20:27,178
" On the wedding day, Emily confronted the

699
00:20:27,178 --> 00:20:29,461
bridesmaids, including me, and called us

700
00:20:29,461 --> 00:20:32,028
all fake friends while we were trying to

701
00:20:32,028 --> 00:20:34,554
get hair and makeup done." What? Okay,

702
00:20:34,554 --> 00:20:36,324
so this is the maid of honor. " She

703
00:20:36,324 --> 00:20:38,214
was furious because she learned that I

704
00:20:38,214 --> 00:20:40,841
confided some of her private struggles,

705
00:20:41,018 --> 00:20:43,168
including her addiction issues and

706
00:20:43,168 --> 00:20:45,531
another crush she had to the bride."

707
00:20:45,838 --> 00:20:46,408
Whoa.

708
00:20:46,572 --> 00:20:48,582
" I only did this because I cared about

709
00:20:48,582 --> 00:20:50,592
her and believed she needed help.

710
00:20:50,765 --> 00:20:52,565
I had suffered a stroke the month

711
00:20:52,565 --> 00:20:54,951
before and couldn't do much myself,

712
00:20:54,978 --> 00:20:56,949
so I turned to the bride hoping we

713
00:20:56,949 --> 00:20:58,689
could figure out how to support her."

714
00:20:58,912 --> 00:21:01,102
Okay, so here's where I'm gonna disagree.

715
00:21:01,369 --> 00:21:02,809
I mean, of course, I don't know

716
00:21:02,809 --> 00:21:04,909
how severe or what's going on

717
00:21:04,909 --> 00:21:05,959
with this person's addiction.

718
00:21:05,959 --> 00:21:07,604
I'm not a therapist or

719
00:21:07,604 --> 00:21:08,774
an addictions counselor.

720
00:21:08,970 --> 00:21:11,430
So this is just my own perspective

721
00:21:11,460 --> 00:21:12,810
as I'm learning this story right now.

722
00:21:12,980 --> 00:21:15,294
Little, disclaimer, but one of the

723
00:21:15,294 --> 00:21:17,586
number one things I say is I don't

724
00:21:17,586 --> 00:21:19,356
wanna say bother, but do not get the

725
00:21:19,356 --> 00:21:21,726
bride involved in drama right before

726
00:21:21,726 --> 00:21:23,969
her wedding not saying like someone's

727
00:21:23,969 --> 00:21:25,769
addiction issues is drama necessarily.

728
00:21:25,769 --> 00:21:28,303
But if that person confided in you

729
00:21:28,506 --> 00:21:30,763
and is telling you something, the best

730
00:21:30,763 --> 00:21:32,443
time to tell the bride is probably

731
00:21:32,443 --> 00:21:34,013
not right before her wedding like

732
00:21:34,013 --> 00:21:35,587
especially knowing there's already

733
00:21:35,587 --> 00:21:37,027
drama happening around this wedding.

734
00:21:37,027 --> 00:21:38,887
There's already like a lot of stress.

735
00:21:38,887 --> 00:21:39,877
It's happening in a week.

736
00:21:39,877 --> 00:21:41,167
Again, how long is this week?

737
00:21:41,227 --> 00:21:42,367
There's a lot happening right?

738
00:21:42,642 --> 00:21:44,412
I would be waiting until after the wedding

739
00:21:44,442 --> 00:21:46,729
and be like, 'Hey, by the way, blank

740
00:21:46,729 --> 00:21:48,379
came to me, or I guess we know her name's

741
00:21:48,379 --> 00:21:51,052
Emily, or her changed name is Emily came

742
00:21:51,052 --> 00:21:53,152
to me and said, this is what's going on.

743
00:21:53,339 --> 00:21:54,349
I'm very concerned.

744
00:21:54,535 --> 00:21:56,065
The timing seems a little like

745
00:21:56,065 --> 00:21:57,787
sketchy to me, and don't wanna

746
00:21:57,787 --> 00:21:59,547
come on this, like, I don't know.

747
00:21:59,727 --> 00:22:00,387
I don't wanna be.

748
00:22:00,587 --> 00:22:01,547
Put down this person

749
00:22:01,547 --> 00:22:02,537
that sent in the story.

750
00:22:02,537 --> 00:22:04,390
But the timing seems a little weird,

751
00:22:04,390 --> 00:22:05,380
especially if, you know, things

752
00:22:05,380 --> 00:22:06,850
are already kind of like iffy.

753
00:22:07,104 --> 00:22:09,467
This could set someone off like this.

754
00:22:09,740 --> 00:22:11,420
" The other bridesmaid knew none of

755
00:22:11,420 --> 00:22:13,040
this, and I wasn't about to share

756
00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:14,540
Emily's personal business in front

757
00:22:14,540 --> 00:22:16,310
of everyone we genuinely cared for."

758
00:22:16,588 --> 00:22:18,208
I do believe you cared for her.

759
00:22:18,208 --> 00:22:19,708
I do believe this person cared for

760
00:22:19,708 --> 00:22:22,111
her, but it's just the timing thing.

761
00:22:22,452 --> 00:22:24,732
we need to make sure, like the

762
00:22:24,732 --> 00:22:26,232
bride's not brought into like

763
00:22:26,232 --> 00:22:27,849
crazy drama, Right before right.

764
00:22:28,139 --> 00:22:29,459
" Emily then took off with two

765
00:22:29,459 --> 00:22:31,709
bridesmaids and disappeared for hours.

766
00:22:31,886 --> 00:22:33,326
They did the bare minimum for the

767
00:22:33,326 --> 00:22:35,796
wedding and then left to eat out, never

768
00:22:35,796 --> 00:22:37,746
bringing back anything for the bride

769
00:22:37,846 --> 00:22:39,706
who hadn't eaten and was stuck doing

770
00:22:39,706 --> 00:22:41,116
tests Emily should have been doing.

771
00:22:41,664 --> 00:22:42,954
Whatever Emily told the other

772
00:22:42,954 --> 00:22:44,844
bridesmaids must have been bad because

773
00:22:44,844 --> 00:22:47,143
one of them, someone I had been close

774
00:22:47,143 --> 00:22:49,273
to, barely speaks to me to this day.

775
00:22:49,587 --> 00:22:51,057
The other bridesmaid who left with

776
00:22:51,057 --> 00:22:53,213
her, stayed friends with us afterward,

777
00:22:53,370 --> 00:22:55,050
though, she told us that she caught

778
00:22:55,050 --> 00:22:57,270
Emily shoplifting items for the wedding

779
00:22:57,463 --> 00:22:59,863
and not small items, expensive ones.

780
00:23:00,120 --> 00:23:03,141
I later learned that the $2,000 veil Emily

781
00:23:03,141 --> 00:23:06,337
gave the bride was stolen." That's wild.

782
00:23:06,367 --> 00:23:06,847
Okay.

783
00:23:07,101 --> 00:23:08,691
" Even though Emily had access to

784
00:23:08,691 --> 00:23:10,191
plenty of money, a wealthy friend

785
00:23:10,191 --> 00:23:11,721
had loaned her cash for the wedding.

786
00:23:11,887 --> 00:23:14,839
She still shoplifted." Well, I

787
00:23:14,839 --> 00:23:15,649
mean, if she's going through a

788
00:23:15,649 --> 00:23:16,969
serious addiction, we don't know.

789
00:23:17,029 --> 00:23:17,149
I mean.

790
00:23:18,815 --> 00:23:20,135
I don't know the whole story, so

791
00:23:20,135 --> 00:23:21,725
I don't wanna judge this person.

792
00:23:21,725 --> 00:23:23,735
Again, I don't have background in this,

793
00:23:23,735 --> 00:23:25,715
so this seems like a very serious matter.

794
00:23:26,145 --> 00:23:29,565
I'm also like, why is this made of honor?

795
00:23:29,879 --> 00:23:31,439
Why is it put on the made of honor to

796
00:23:31,439 --> 00:23:32,939
buy all these things for the wedding?

797
00:23:33,212 --> 00:23:34,322
why should it matter that a

798
00:23:34,322 --> 00:23:35,972
friend loaned her cash for the

799
00:23:35,972 --> 00:23:37,869
wedding if I was in a wedding?

800
00:23:38,140 --> 00:23:40,120
And I was told, okay, it's in a week.

801
00:23:40,120 --> 00:23:41,800
You have to pay for all these things.

802
00:23:41,994 --> 00:23:43,044
and if I couldn't afford

803
00:23:43,044 --> 00:23:44,154
it, I would step down.

804
00:23:44,387 --> 00:23:46,794
the fact that like a friend had to loan

805
00:23:46,794 --> 00:23:49,215
her all this money, that's a little odd.

806
00:23:50,013 --> 00:23:52,323
going back to being at a seven day

807
00:23:52,803 --> 00:23:54,857
planning of this wedding, I would be like,

808
00:23:54,887 --> 00:23:56,987
okay, we're gonna keep it really simple.

809
00:23:57,170 --> 00:23:58,220
We're not spending money

810
00:23:58,220 --> 00:23:59,265
on pointless things.

811
00:23:59,265 --> 00:24:00,525
Not saying veil's pointless, but

812
00:24:00,525 --> 00:24:01,938
like it sounds like they're spending

813
00:24:01,938 --> 00:24:03,506
a lot of money on stuff and like

814
00:24:03,690 --> 00:24:04,710
putting all these things together.

815
00:24:04,710 --> 00:24:06,803
Like keep it stupid simple.

816
00:24:06,923 --> 00:24:09,228
If you're having a one week planning time.

817
00:24:09,685 --> 00:24:11,455
" Emily heavily controlled what she

818
00:24:11,455 --> 00:24:13,165
thought everyone should wear throwing

819
00:24:13,165 --> 00:24:15,175
fits anytime She didn't get her way and

820
00:24:15,175 --> 00:24:18,275
celebrating when she did, I found a $65

821
00:24:18,275 --> 00:24:20,555
dress that was more appropriate for the

822
00:24:20,555 --> 00:24:23,451
church ceremony compared to the $200 one

823
00:24:23,451 --> 00:24:25,541
she demanded I wear." Why is the maid of

824
00:24:25,541 --> 00:24:27,401
honor controlling what dresses they wear?

825
00:24:27,706 --> 00:24:29,399
also, again, they're getting

826
00:24:29,399 --> 00:24:31,139
married in seven days.

827
00:24:31,293 --> 00:24:33,003
Why are we spending all this time

828
00:24:33,003 --> 00:24:34,893
finding this super expensive dress?

829
00:24:34,953 --> 00:24:35,973
Let's just find one.

830
00:24:36,149 --> 00:24:36,989
Let's just find one.

831
00:24:37,223 --> 00:24:38,273
All the girls can wear

832
00:24:38,273 --> 00:24:39,023
and be done with it.

833
00:24:39,448 --> 00:24:40,138
But again, this should be

834
00:24:40,138 --> 00:24:41,685
the bride controlling this.

835
00:24:41,931 --> 00:24:43,941
" She was furious when I asked to return it.

836
00:24:44,291 --> 00:24:46,151
She pressured the bride into choosing a

837
00:24:46,151 --> 00:24:48,796
dress she never actually wanted." Okay.

838
00:24:48,796 --> 00:24:49,786
At some point we have to take

839
00:24:49,786 --> 00:24:51,466
responsibilities for ourselves though,

840
00:24:51,466 --> 00:24:53,236
like, How is this made of honor

841
00:24:53,236 --> 00:24:55,586
pressuring the bride, and the bridesmaids?

842
00:24:55,783 --> 00:24:57,583
" She says not the bride, not the groom.

843
00:24:57,790 --> 00:24:59,500
The bride still says she wished she

844
00:24:59,500 --> 00:25:01,330
could redo her entire wedding because

845
00:25:01,330 --> 00:25:03,040
of how much Emily influenced and

846
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:05,013
manipulated everything." We need to

847
00:25:05,013 --> 00:25:07,153
get rid of this person. "The bride

848
00:25:07,153 --> 00:25:08,503
was an hour and a half late to her

849
00:25:08,533 --> 00:25:10,613
own wedding because she had to hammer

850
00:25:10,613 --> 00:25:13,015
tent stakes and do heavy setup work.

851
00:25:13,301 --> 00:25:14,471
Test the maid of honor, should

852
00:25:14,471 --> 00:25:15,818
have helped." With this is

853
00:25:15,818 --> 00:25:18,090
again where, and I talked about

854
00:25:18,090 --> 00:25:19,470
this on my episode with Bethy.

855
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:21,650
This is when like there's an overlap of

856
00:25:21,650 --> 00:25:24,536
like paid work help in your wedding party.

857
00:25:24,793 --> 00:25:26,623
We cannot assume that just because

858
00:25:26,623 --> 00:25:28,436
someone's in your wedding party that they

859
00:25:28,436 --> 00:25:30,686
are going to do all the work for setup.

860
00:25:31,009 --> 00:25:32,623
You are then hiring your

861
00:25:32,623 --> 00:25:34,543
friends for unpaid labor.

862
00:25:34,723 --> 00:25:36,193
And some people like myself,

863
00:25:36,253 --> 00:25:37,483
I love doing that stuff.

864
00:25:37,483 --> 00:25:38,653
I love being involved.

865
00:25:38,653 --> 00:25:40,573
Like if I'm in your wedding, expect me to

866
00:25:40,573 --> 00:25:42,403
help you with something, I will do that.

867
00:25:42,589 --> 00:25:44,329
But it should not be an expectation.

868
00:25:44,433 --> 00:25:46,873
The expectation of a bridesmaid is

869
00:25:46,873 --> 00:25:48,073
that they get the dress that you

870
00:25:48,073 --> 00:25:49,959
want, they stand up by your side,

871
00:25:50,143 --> 00:25:51,163
and they're there at the wedding day.

872
00:25:51,163 --> 00:25:52,663
Like honest to God.

873
00:25:52,663 --> 00:25:54,073
That should be the minimum, like

874
00:25:54,073 --> 00:25:55,393
that should be their expectation.

875
00:25:55,643 --> 00:25:57,623
The fact that you're expecting your

876
00:25:57,623 --> 00:26:00,476
maid of honor to get your tent set up.

877
00:26:00,683 --> 00:26:01,733
You have to hammer in tent

878
00:26:01,733 --> 00:26:03,413
stakes and do the heavy setup?

879
00:26:03,673 --> 00:26:05,179
No, like can we get someone else?

880
00:26:05,179 --> 00:26:05,359
Do that.

881
00:26:05,389 --> 00:26:06,259
Where are the groomsmen?

882
00:26:06,319 --> 00:26:07,429
Let's get the groomsmen in there.

883
00:26:07,823 --> 00:26:09,383
" I tried to help after my stroke.

884
00:26:09,383 --> 00:26:10,973
I was extremely slow and weak.

885
00:26:11,271 --> 00:26:13,161
Emily also insisted the groom choose

886
00:26:13,161 --> 00:26:15,671
a best man she wasn't close to because

887
00:26:15,671 --> 00:26:17,591
she had a crush on him and wanted

888
00:26:17,767 --> 00:26:19,507
to walk down the aisle with him.

889
00:26:19,754 --> 00:26:21,594
Shockingly, both men agreed."

890
00:26:22,869 --> 00:26:24,579
how does this woman have such

891
00:26:24,579 --> 00:26:26,109
an impact on all these people

892
00:26:26,109 --> 00:26:27,429
to change their whole wedding?

893
00:26:27,546 --> 00:26:28,606
Who's the best man?

894
00:26:28,606 --> 00:26:29,806
Who's walking down with who,

895
00:26:29,806 --> 00:26:30,946
what dresses we're wearing?

896
00:26:30,946 --> 00:26:32,612
Like at some point we

897
00:26:32,612 --> 00:26:34,282
need to say like, no.

898
00:26:34,439 --> 00:26:35,699
Or if you say like,

899
00:26:35,909 --> 00:26:37,202
yeah, fine, we'll do it.

900
00:26:37,332 --> 00:26:37,712
I Don't know.

901
00:26:37,782 --> 00:26:39,542
I don't know guys We gotta take a

902
00:26:39,542 --> 00:26:41,222
little responsibility on both sides.

903
00:26:41,569 --> 00:26:42,647
" Before the reception,

904
00:26:42,707 --> 00:26:44,357
Emily disappeared entirely.

905
00:26:44,537 --> 00:26:46,187
The bride and I panicked knowing

906
00:26:46,187 --> 00:26:48,047
her history of destructive behavior.

907
00:26:48,264 --> 00:26:50,094
Eventually we found Emily had gone

908
00:26:50,094 --> 00:26:52,341
to another gathering to see the guy

909
00:26:52,341 --> 00:26:54,021
she was crushing on." I thought the

910
00:26:54,021 --> 00:26:55,987
guy she crushed on was a groomsman.

911
00:26:56,643 --> 00:26:58,323
" She confronted him about his

912
00:26:58,323 --> 00:27:00,290
feelings he wasn't interested.

913
00:27:00,723 --> 00:27:02,553
To make things worse, the guy I had a

914
00:27:02,553 --> 00:27:05,330
crush on and usher also ended up at that

915
00:27:05,330 --> 00:27:07,343
gathering." Where's this other gathering?

916
00:27:07,343 --> 00:27:07,875
I thought they were all

917
00:27:07,875 --> 00:27:08,873
at a wedding together.

918
00:27:09,016 --> 00:27:11,880
" Emily spent time with him too, this wasn't

919
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:13,920
the first time she had gone behind my back

920
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:15,540
to flirt with him or hang out with him.

921
00:27:15,818 --> 00:27:17,288
She didn't actually want him.

922
00:27:17,288 --> 00:27:20,155
She just liked the drama." I think

923
00:27:20,155 --> 00:27:21,325
you guys all liked the drama.

924
00:27:21,505 --> 00:27:22,582
I'm sorry.

925
00:27:22,582 --> 00:27:25,782
I'm sorry, but why lie?

926
00:27:25,926 --> 00:27:28,146
She told you like this in confidence

927
00:27:28,146 --> 00:27:29,706
and then you went and told the bride,

928
00:27:29,999 --> 00:27:31,679
I'm just confused by this little event.

929
00:27:32,051 --> 00:27:34,547
" Before the wedding, Emily had lice

930
00:27:34,567 --> 00:27:36,771
and I caught it from her." This is

931
00:27:36,771 --> 00:27:39,041
the longest week I've ever heard of.

932
00:27:40,052 --> 00:27:40,952
Why are all these things

933
00:27:40,952 --> 00:27:42,452
happening this week?

934
00:27:42,682 --> 00:27:44,452
" I managed to treat it before the wedding

935
00:27:44,452 --> 00:27:47,206
and showed up lice free only to discover

936
00:27:47,206 --> 00:27:49,576
afterward that I had caught it again.

937
00:27:49,816 --> 00:27:52,006
Emily hadn't treated at

938
00:27:52,426 --> 00:27:55,658
all." Guys, this is a mess.

939
00:27:55,658 --> 00:27:58,164
This is like why so is

940
00:27:58,164 --> 00:27:59,934
Emily girl had lice.

941
00:28:00,231 --> 00:28:01,611
They're just like going around.

942
00:28:01,811 --> 00:28:03,161
Are you friends with Emily?

943
00:28:03,191 --> 00:28:04,001
Because I feel like the way you're

944
00:28:04,001 --> 00:28:05,681
talking about her, she's not your friend.

945
00:28:05,711 --> 00:28:07,511
Is she friends with the bride more?

946
00:28:07,711 --> 00:28:08,651
How'd you guys get lice

947
00:28:08,671 --> 00:28:09,691
if you're not friends?

948
00:28:09,814 --> 00:28:11,191
Did this happen in the

949
00:28:11,191 --> 00:28:12,511
prior week to the wedding?

950
00:28:12,711 --> 00:28:14,091
Despite all this, the wedding

951
00:28:14,091 --> 00:28:15,381
day still turned out beautiful.

952
00:28:15,381 --> 00:28:16,821
It's amazing what can be accomplished in

953
00:28:16,821 --> 00:28:18,761
a week with determination and love The

954
00:28:18,761 --> 00:28:20,771
bride and I became best friends afterward.

955
00:28:20,771 --> 00:28:22,211
She told me many times she wished she'd

956
00:28:22,211 --> 00:28:24,461
chosen me as her maid of honor instead.

957
00:28:24,681 --> 00:28:26,781
As for Emily, I hope one day she

958
00:28:26,781 --> 00:28:28,821
gets the help she clearly needs."

959
00:28:29,285 --> 00:28:29,575
Okay.

960
00:28:29,805 --> 00:28:30,560
I mean, I know I shared

961
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:32,453
a lot of my thoughts, but

962
00:28:32,553 --> 00:28:33,483
There's a lot of things here.

963
00:28:33,513 --> 00:28:36,317
One is a communication error, like why

964
00:28:36,317 --> 00:28:38,027
is this Emily girl, the maid of honor,

965
00:28:38,027 --> 00:28:39,527
when she's done all these horrible things

966
00:28:39,527 --> 00:28:41,377
apparently, and it seems like there's a

967
00:28:41,377 --> 00:28:43,627
lot of bad talk about her behind her back.

968
00:28:43,884 --> 00:28:46,498
So there's that one, two, I'm confused,

969
00:28:46,498 --> 00:28:49,341
like, okay, when you decide to have

970
00:28:49,341 --> 00:28:51,161
a quick engagement, you can't just

971
00:28:51,161 --> 00:28:52,391
assume all these people are gonna

972
00:28:52,391 --> 00:28:54,311
do things for your day, right?

973
00:28:54,523 --> 00:28:56,293
Yes, if you have a crafty family, if

974
00:28:56,293 --> 00:28:57,375
you have people there, that can help.

975
00:28:57,568 --> 00:28:59,068
But why is it again, the maid of

976
00:28:59,068 --> 00:29:02,098
honors duty to set up tents for you?

977
00:29:02,098 --> 00:29:03,178
That's not her job.

978
00:29:03,352 --> 00:29:05,298
Get a bunch of the guys, hire

979
00:29:05,298 --> 00:29:06,528
some people to help set up.

980
00:29:06,818 --> 00:29:07,658
but I don't think she's

981
00:29:07,658 --> 00:29:10,025
completely wrong for that.

982
00:29:10,322 --> 00:29:11,670
Again, we are talking.

983
00:29:11,700 --> 00:29:12,780
the bride decided.

984
00:29:12,995 --> 00:29:13,925
That they were gonna throw

985
00:29:13,925 --> 00:29:15,935
together a wedding in one week.

986
00:29:16,195 --> 00:29:17,905
Why should everyone stop

987
00:29:17,905 --> 00:29:18,775
everything they're doing?

988
00:29:18,775 --> 00:29:19,975
They probably all have jobs.

989
00:29:19,975 --> 00:29:21,235
They probably all have families.

990
00:29:21,462 --> 00:29:23,412
Why should they have to stop

991
00:29:23,412 --> 00:29:24,432
everything they're doing to

992
00:29:24,432 --> 00:29:25,939
put together your wedding?

993
00:29:26,182 --> 00:29:27,742
That's where I just don't agree with it.

994
00:29:27,742 --> 00:29:28,999
Like, I'm like a very do

995
00:29:28,999 --> 00:29:30,349
it yourself kind of person.

996
00:29:30,592 --> 00:29:32,602
I could never imagine being like, okay, in

997
00:29:32,602 --> 00:29:34,102
one week from now I'm gonna do this thing

998
00:29:34,102 --> 00:29:35,732
and have all my friends are gonna help me.

999
00:29:36,069 --> 00:29:37,239
this is my wedding day.

1000
00:29:37,239 --> 00:29:38,485
You know, like it that seems a little

1001
00:29:38,485 --> 00:29:40,915
bridezilla to expect all your friends

1002
00:29:40,915 --> 00:29:42,535
to just set up a wedding for you.

1003
00:29:42,772 --> 00:29:45,195
the little drama here about like telling.

1004
00:29:45,557 --> 00:29:47,807
The bride about her crush and

1005
00:29:47,807 --> 00:29:50,070
her addiction again, did it need

1006
00:29:50,070 --> 00:29:51,420
to happen before the wedding?

1007
00:29:51,711 --> 00:29:52,530
I don't think so.

1008
00:29:52,792 --> 00:29:54,397
I think we need to keep the bride

1009
00:29:54,397 --> 00:29:55,777
out of the wedding drama as much

1010
00:29:55,777 --> 00:29:57,634
as possible if we're really trying

1011
00:29:57,634 --> 00:29:59,344
to stay focused on like making

1012
00:29:59,344 --> 00:30:01,024
this day as beautiful as possible.

1013
00:30:01,127 --> 00:30:02,357
Keep the bride outta the drama.

1014
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:03,950
Let's get all hands together.

1015
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,437
Why am I not hearing about family members,

1016
00:30:06,584 --> 00:30:08,864
the groom, groomsmen, anyone else helping?

1017
00:30:08,864 --> 00:30:10,110
It seems like Emily is just

1018
00:30:10,110 --> 00:30:11,340
to blame this Emily girl.

1019
00:30:11,504 --> 00:30:12,194
She didn't do this.

1020
00:30:12,194 --> 00:30:12,854
She was supposed to do this.

1021
00:30:12,854 --> 00:30:14,930
She didn't do let's slow down.

1022
00:30:15,124 --> 00:30:16,234
We always knew.

1023
00:30:16,507 --> 00:30:17,197
She was jealous of the

1024
00:30:17,197 --> 00:30:18,707
relationship, that's what she says.

1025
00:30:18,707 --> 00:30:19,997
She was jealous of the relationship.

1026
00:30:20,137 --> 00:30:21,877
Tried to sabotage them, create tension.

1027
00:30:21,899 --> 00:30:23,159
try to get them to break up.

1028
00:30:23,405 --> 00:30:24,095
Forcing the bride to

1029
00:30:24,095 --> 00:30:25,175
choose between him and her.

1030
00:30:25,175 --> 00:30:26,615
So there's already issues there.

1031
00:30:26,832 --> 00:30:28,662
So now we're gonna push her in and be

1032
00:30:28,662 --> 00:30:30,292
like, Hey, you need to put together

1033
00:30:30,292 --> 00:30:31,902
this wedding, not her problem.

1034
00:30:32,110 --> 00:30:33,070
This might be a hot take,

1035
00:30:33,070 --> 00:30:34,300
but it's not her problem.

1036
00:30:34,580 --> 00:30:36,110
This should be the bride and groom

1037
00:30:36,140 --> 00:30:38,127
putting everything together, and

1038
00:30:38,127 --> 00:30:39,597
then if people offer to help and

1039
00:30:39,597 --> 00:30:41,320
wanna come in, they can help.

1040
00:30:41,514 --> 00:30:44,024
It is not the maid of honor, best

1041
00:30:44,024 --> 00:30:46,220
man, groomsmen or bridesmaid's

1042
00:30:46,250 --> 00:30:48,140
responsibility to make this happen.

1043
00:30:48,397 --> 00:30:49,957
If they want to, they can.

1044
00:30:50,130 --> 00:30:52,177
If they wanna ask, they can,

1045
00:30:52,424 --> 00:30:53,594
it's not anyone's responsibility.

1046
00:30:54,059 --> 00:30:55,559
We're talking seven days.

1047
00:30:55,709 --> 00:30:57,442
God, like I said, I've been a part of

1048
00:30:57,442 --> 00:30:59,152
like really quick engagements, really

1049
00:30:59,152 --> 00:31:02,089
quick DIY weddings, and even then it took

1050
00:31:02,202 --> 00:31:04,002
multiple weeks to get everything together.

1051
00:31:04,002 --> 00:31:06,102
So I can only imagine the stress

1052
00:31:06,319 --> 00:31:07,639
that this put on everyone.

1053
00:31:07,845 --> 00:31:09,959
And I feel like this was just kind

1054
00:31:09,959 --> 00:31:12,399
of calling out like some toxicity

1055
00:31:12,399 --> 00:31:13,569
between the friends, right?

1056
00:31:13,807 --> 00:31:15,514
No one really seems innocent in this.

1057
00:31:15,594 --> 00:31:15,924
I don't know.

1058
00:31:15,924 --> 00:31:16,434
You guys have to let

1059
00:31:16,434 --> 00:31:17,124
me know what you think.

1060
00:31:17,124 --> 00:31:18,607
Sometimes I get like, I have to

1061
00:31:18,607 --> 00:31:20,137
look at it from all sides, so I'm

1062
00:31:20,137 --> 00:31:21,547
not trying to call it this person.

1063
00:31:21,764 --> 00:31:23,624
I just have to look for it from all sides.

1064
00:31:23,654 --> 00:31:25,184
And I feel like this is very

1065
00:31:25,184 --> 00:31:26,934
like putting Emily down.

1066
00:31:27,154 --> 00:31:28,624
We know she's got some issues.

1067
00:31:28,624 --> 00:31:29,914
We know there's some different things

1068
00:31:29,914 --> 00:31:32,725
going on, so let's not Put that huge

1069
00:31:32,725 --> 00:31:34,555
level of responsibility on someone

1070
00:31:34,555 --> 00:31:36,565
when we know they can't hold up to it.

1071
00:31:36,732 --> 00:31:38,352
Or like I said, if you're like, I

1072
00:31:38,352 --> 00:31:39,822
need this person as my maid of honor,

1073
00:31:40,059 --> 00:31:41,169
we're getting married in seven days.

1074
00:31:41,372 --> 00:31:42,512
Keep it stupid simple.

1075
00:31:42,662 --> 00:31:44,762
We found a place, set up some chairs,

1076
00:31:44,949 --> 00:31:46,722
have an arch, have someone read your

1077
00:31:46,722 --> 00:31:49,089
vows, have a party, go to a bar.

1078
00:31:49,509 --> 00:31:51,219
You can do things really simply.

1079
00:31:51,389 --> 00:31:52,709
And yeah, that's what I think you guys

1080
00:31:52,709 --> 00:31:54,089
tell me what you guys think about this.

1081
00:31:54,089 --> 00:31:56,412
'cause the idea that your wedding

1082
00:31:56,412 --> 00:31:58,869
party is hired, labor is just,

1083
00:31:58,929 --> 00:32:00,579
no, it's just old news to me.

1084
00:32:00,822 --> 00:32:02,022
Again, there's a lot of people out

1085
00:32:02,022 --> 00:32:03,822
there that really do like doing that

1086
00:32:03,822 --> 00:32:05,322
stuff, and I think that's great.

1087
00:32:05,382 --> 00:32:06,492
I enjoy doing it.

1088
00:32:06,605 --> 00:32:07,655
But not everyone's like that.

1089
00:32:07,655 --> 00:32:08,915
Not everyone has the time.

1090
00:32:09,095 --> 00:32:11,369
If you've got kids, a spouse,

1091
00:32:11,602 --> 00:32:13,732
a job, a full-time job, like.

1092
00:32:13,910 --> 00:32:14,960
You have to remember,

1093
00:32:14,990 --> 00:32:16,250
that's their priority.

1094
00:32:16,250 --> 00:32:18,500
Your wedding day is not their priority.

1095
00:32:18,704 --> 00:32:20,204
So we need to give a little more grace

1096
00:32:20,204 --> 00:32:21,794
and understanding for things like that.

1097
00:32:22,104 --> 00:32:23,904
Alright, that's what we got today.

1098
00:32:24,237 --> 00:32:26,787
let's end with some confessions here.

1099
00:32:26,994 --> 00:32:29,064
I don't know why I said here like that.

1100
00:32:29,337 --> 00:32:29,967
All right.

1101
00:32:30,287 --> 00:32:32,507
" I ended up looking like a zombie on my

1102
00:32:32,507 --> 00:32:35,807
wedding day due to stress." you know what?

1103
00:32:35,985 --> 00:32:37,065
I think that's one of those things.

1104
00:32:37,065 --> 00:32:39,105
I heard so many people talk about

1105
00:32:39,105 --> 00:32:40,665
wedding stress before I got married

1106
00:32:40,892 --> 00:32:42,332
and while I was, yeah, I was a

1107
00:32:42,332 --> 00:32:43,592
little stressed here and there.

1108
00:32:43,739 --> 00:32:46,205
I knew of people that like couldn't

1109
00:32:46,235 --> 00:32:48,385
eat towards the end that had lost so

1110
00:32:48,385 --> 00:32:50,102
much weight because they were just so

1111
00:32:50,102 --> 00:32:51,842
stressed about getting things checked off.

1112
00:32:52,025 --> 00:32:53,945
that would be in tears multiple times

1113
00:32:53,945 --> 00:32:55,900
because of different things it's hard.

1114
00:32:55,900 --> 00:32:56,950
There's a lot of pressure.

1115
00:32:56,950 --> 00:32:58,060
There's a lot of external

1116
00:32:58,060 --> 00:32:59,680
pressures, family pressures.

1117
00:32:59,857 --> 00:33:01,237
people that got married during COVID

1118
00:33:01,237 --> 00:33:02,977
right, or were engaged during COVID,

1119
00:33:03,007 --> 00:33:04,987
I heard of venues getting canceled.

1120
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:06,700
I heard of family members

1121
00:33:06,700 --> 00:33:07,990
not being able to come in.

1122
00:33:08,234 --> 00:33:09,494
just different things like that, like

1123
00:33:09,570 --> 00:33:11,160
stressors that you can't plan for.

1124
00:33:11,317 --> 00:33:14,274
So it's really important to just

1125
00:33:14,390 --> 00:33:15,937
understand, and I'm not trying

1126
00:33:15,937 --> 00:33:17,470
to belittle wedding days or

1127
00:33:17,470 --> 00:33:19,047
anything 'cause they're amazing.

1128
00:33:19,107 --> 00:33:20,597
But remember, it's just a day.

1129
00:33:20,820 --> 00:33:23,364
As long as you have your close friends

1130
00:33:23,364 --> 00:33:25,454
and family there, it's gonna be beautiful.

1131
00:33:25,594 --> 00:33:27,500
You gotta remember that it's not

1132
00:33:27,500 --> 00:33:28,880
gonna be a hundred percent perfect.

1133
00:33:29,180 --> 00:33:29,870
and stress.

1134
00:33:30,140 --> 00:33:31,310
stress can kill you, right?

1135
00:33:31,517 --> 00:33:32,995
We all let stress get to us

1136
00:33:33,030 --> 00:33:33,915
depending on different things.

1137
00:33:33,915 --> 00:33:35,490
We all stress about different things.

1138
00:33:35,804 --> 00:33:37,394
I've heard of brides being so

1139
00:33:37,394 --> 00:33:38,534
stressed that their wedding day

1140
00:33:38,534 --> 00:33:40,570
comes they can't even enjoy it.

1141
00:33:40,814 --> 00:33:43,151
' cause their body is just so tense

1142
00:33:43,151 --> 00:33:44,831
still from all the stress buildup.

1143
00:33:45,011 --> 00:33:46,184
Like I said, they don't eat.

1144
00:33:46,184 --> 00:33:47,924
They don't sleep, and it's just like their

1145
00:33:47,924 --> 00:33:49,988
day's there and then it's over and they

1146
00:33:49,988 --> 00:33:52,028
get like a wedding hangover, not like an

1147
00:33:52,028 --> 00:33:54,148
alcohol hangover, a wedding hangover where

1148
00:33:54,148 --> 00:33:56,901
they're sad because the day came and went

1149
00:33:56,961 --> 00:33:58,551
and they didn't actually fully enjoy it.

1150
00:33:58,751 --> 00:34:00,431
Or they had all these months of stress

1151
00:34:00,431 --> 00:34:01,931
and planning and then it was just gone.

1152
00:34:01,931 --> 00:34:02,261
Right.

1153
00:34:02,499 --> 00:34:04,133
So it's sad when that happens.

1154
00:34:04,339 --> 00:34:04,609
okay.

1155
00:34:04,899 --> 00:34:07,149
" Made my own centerpieces.

1156
00:34:07,149 --> 00:34:09,099
Half of them fell apart when the guest

1157
00:34:09,099 --> 00:34:11,329
touched 'em." That's hard with DIY stuff.

1158
00:34:11,553 --> 00:34:13,319
It happens, but at the end of the day,

1159
00:34:13,319 --> 00:34:14,399
as long as you get a couple photos

1160
00:34:14,399 --> 00:34:15,779
of them, you just have to, it's one

1161
00:34:15,779 --> 00:34:16,419
of those things you have to let go.

1162
00:34:17,019 --> 00:34:19,269
" I let my sister be the dj.

1163
00:34:19,469 --> 00:34:21,569
Our first dance had a short ad

1164
00:34:21,569 --> 00:34:24,269
in the middle of the song." What?

1165
00:34:24,479 --> 00:34:27,366
Okay, I wanna know what platform

1166
00:34:27,366 --> 00:34:29,166
puts ads in the middle of a song.

1167
00:34:29,413 --> 00:34:30,373
It's the price you pay.

1168
00:34:30,373 --> 00:34:31,936
I mean you, if it's probably free.

1169
00:34:32,216 --> 00:34:33,386
that's the gamble you take.

1170
00:34:33,386 --> 00:34:35,123
you have someone that's

1171
00:34:35,123 --> 00:34:37,396
not a licensed business.

1172
00:34:37,626 --> 00:34:39,243
Be a vendor you give and take.

1173
00:34:39,243 --> 00:34:39,543
Right?

1174
00:34:39,603 --> 00:34:40,263
I'm sure everyone was

1175
00:34:40,263 --> 00:34:41,013
able to laugh it off.

1176
00:34:41,258 --> 00:34:41,823
All right.

1177
00:34:41,969 --> 00:34:43,859
" Tried to sew my own veil and it

1178
00:34:43,859 --> 00:34:45,839
ended up looking like a mosquito

1179
00:34:45,839 --> 00:34:48,468
netting." Yeah, know your talents.

1180
00:34:48,468 --> 00:34:50,178
Know your strengths, know your weaknesses.

1181
00:34:50,178 --> 00:34:51,998
Know where it's better to pay

1182
00:34:51,998 --> 00:34:53,678
someone to do it or ask for help.

1183
00:34:54,021 --> 00:34:55,131
Alright, last one.

1184
00:34:55,131 --> 00:34:57,861
"I DIYed my bouquet. It wilted before

1185
00:34:57,861 --> 00:35:01,651
the ceremony even started." yeah, again,

1186
00:35:01,651 --> 00:35:03,764
it's like you gotta know there's certain

1187
00:35:03,764 --> 00:35:05,889
things that you have to know, like.

1188
00:35:06,491 --> 00:35:08,471
What's gonna work and what won't.

1189
00:35:08,471 --> 00:35:09,281
There's certain things you gotta

1190
00:35:09,281 --> 00:35:10,661
be willing to negotiate on.

1191
00:35:10,661 --> 00:35:12,271
Like where are your strengths

1192
00:35:12,558 --> 00:35:13,458
and where are we gonna be?

1193
00:35:13,458 --> 00:35:15,108
Like, I'm gonna hire for that.

1194
00:35:15,298 --> 00:35:16,711
Like I said, never thought I would

1195
00:35:16,711 --> 00:35:19,271
have fake flowers, but my friends fake

1196
00:35:19,271 --> 00:35:20,921
flowers at her wedding looked beautiful

1197
00:35:21,041 --> 00:35:22,271
and she got married six months before

1198
00:35:22,271 --> 00:35:24,191
me and she's like, do you want these?

1199
00:35:24,191 --> 00:35:26,374
And I was like, $4,000

1200
00:35:26,434 --> 00:35:28,458
or flowers from her.

1201
00:35:28,673 --> 00:35:29,573
I'll take those.

1202
00:35:29,823 --> 00:35:30,723
So I did that.

1203
00:35:31,053 --> 00:35:31,533
Okay.

1204
00:35:31,533 --> 00:35:34,053
That's all I've got for this week.

1205
00:35:34,053 --> 00:35:35,596
Thanks for joining me on.

1206
00:35:35,596 --> 00:35:36,676
Here comes the drama.

1207
00:35:36,776 --> 00:35:38,786
lots of exciting things coming this year.

1208
00:35:39,149 --> 00:35:41,339
So many exciting episodes coming

1209
00:35:41,339 --> 00:35:43,359
up and things with the book.

1210
00:35:43,559 --> 00:35:45,219
I know I sound like a broken record,

1211
00:35:45,219 --> 00:35:46,719
but here comes a drama affairs and

1212
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,399
Sloan story has been out since June

1213
00:35:49,459 --> 00:35:51,649
and there's been so many great reviews.

1214
00:35:51,649 --> 00:35:52,899
So if you guys had a

1215
00:35:52,899 --> 00:35:53,829
chance to read the book.

1216
00:35:54,103 --> 00:35:55,606
It would really help me out if you

1217
00:35:55,606 --> 00:35:57,289
share it on social media, leave

1218
00:35:57,289 --> 00:35:59,409
a review, share it with a friend,

1219
00:35:59,519 --> 00:36:01,139
ask your library to order it,

1220
00:36:01,139 --> 00:36:02,489
whatever that looks like for you.

1221
00:36:02,489 --> 00:36:03,916
It just helps more people

1222
00:36:03,916 --> 00:36:05,236
get their hands on the book.

1223
00:36:05,236 --> 00:36:06,736
It's just been so much fun to

1224
00:36:06,736 --> 00:36:07,786
read and I still can't believe.

1225
00:36:08,161 --> 00:36:09,331
I wrote a book, it's Wild.

1226
00:36:09,554 --> 00:36:10,484
and I wrote book number

1227
00:36:10,544 --> 00:36:12,991
two, more details on that.

1228
00:36:12,991 --> 00:36:14,311
That's been a lot of fun to write.

1229
00:36:14,391 --> 00:36:15,981
I will keep you guys posted on

1230
00:36:15,981 --> 00:36:18,051
when that will become available.

1231
00:36:18,374 --> 00:36:20,174
Manifesting some big things for this

1232
00:36:20,174 --> 00:36:22,784
year and I hope you guys are as well.

1233
00:36:23,001 --> 00:36:26,103
Again, don't forget to enter the 2026.

1234
00:36:26,784 --> 00:36:29,004
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1235
00:36:29,004 --> 00:36:30,084
I announced last week.

1236
00:36:30,164 --> 00:36:31,844
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1237
00:36:31,844 --> 00:36:33,951
on social media about the podcast.

1238
00:36:33,951 --> 00:36:35,391
Gimme a screenshot of the podcast.

1239
00:36:35,391 --> 00:36:36,891
It can be a screenshot of you listening.

1240
00:36:37,051 --> 00:36:39,121
Tag me at Hey Krista Ennis,

1241
00:36:39,294 --> 00:36:40,824
and we'll select four winners,

1242
00:36:40,824 --> 00:36:42,324
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1243
00:36:42,474 --> 00:36:43,964
All right guys, that's all I've got.

1244
00:36:43,964 --> 00:36:44,624
Thanks for hanging out with

1245
00:36:44,624 --> 00:36:46,004
me and I'll see you next time.

1246
00:36:46,094 --> 00:36:46,484
Bye now.