Hi guys.
Welcome back to another episode
of Here Comes The Drama.
I'm your host, Krista Ennis,
and it is officially 2026,
which is wild to think about.
I feel like every year goes faster
and faster the older I get, and
especially with being a mom now.
Well.
Almost going on three years.
I feel like it goes even faster.
And it's unfair they always say time is
a thief and I didn't really believe it.
And then I got older and I had
my daughter and I'm like, oh my
gosh, where does the time go?
So I feel like even more so, I've become
more of a planner because I'm like, if
I don't plan things, like I lose track
of time and it just gets taken from me.
It's like the beginning of the
summer, my husband and I had all
these plans for our daughter.
Like, we're like, okay, we wanna
go take her to the beach, we
wanna take her to this museum.
And we're like, oh, we have so much time.
And then all of a sudden you realize,
you're like, I have a week left.
and so I feel like I've become more of
a planner, which is great in some ways.
But one of the things I really struggle
with is then being fully present, because
you're always thinking of the next thing.
And I don't know if that comes with
like the mental load of motherhood
or parenthood, but it's like I'm
always thinking about what's next.
Like I plan things out when it
comes to my social media content.
I plan things out when it comes
to, family activities, what we're
doing in the next week, and it
just makes everything move so fast.
So.
My goal for this year, and maybe
you guys can relate to this or
not, but my goal for this year is
to find more pockets of presence.
And I'm kind of like talking
through it as I'm figuring it out,
but just those moments of quiet to
just be still and really like soak
in everything that's happening.
And I think I brought this up before
where it's like, we tend to dwell
when things aren't going great and we
just wanna get through them, right?
But when things are going well, we
don't take a moment to just like soak
it in and be like, wow, this is awesome.
Or Wow, how am I feeling about this?
so I feel like it's good just
to account our emotions and
how we're feeling about things.
I feel like a therapist right now.
these are the things that go
through my head is just kinda
like bounces all over the place.
anyway, I had notes for today, but I'm
just kinda like going off on a whim.
I kind of talked about last
week how I'm not really a New
Year's resolution type person.
I love goals and I love, the idea
of a resolution, but I don't think
it has to be necessarily in the new
year, I think everyone has their.
Personal best times to set goals,
whether that's your birthday month,
the new year or, the next week.
You some people just have to like
do what works best for 'em, right?
I'm someone that always sets weekly
goals, monthly goals, and I just.
I'm always, like I said, always
thinking about the next thing.
But there's something fun and
exciting about a fresh year.
I'm gonna get a little boo
here, so just bear with me.
But I just love the idea of like a
clean slate, trying something new,
setting a goal of like, something that's
kind of wild and being like, oh, you
know, I've never done this before.
Let's try it this year.
Maybe I'll fail.
Maybe I'll love it.
Maybe I'll hate it.
You know?
I think like when we're really
young, we're encouraged to try
all these different things.
And then we get to a point, and
maybe it's like teenage years or
young adulthood, like twenties,
where we're like, this is who I am.
I just have to check the boxes.
I can't all of a sudden be that person
because I'm a poser then, we get
all these ideas in our head of like,
we can't go a different direction.
Right?
when I was like 25.
Gosh, I don't even remember the age.
I wanna say like maybe 26, 27.
I was at this really toxic job I was just
looking for an out, like the beginning.
I was just running through the emotions
I'd wake up at like the last minute that
I had to, to rush around and get ready.
I was always late for work.
I hated being there.
So like miserable there.
The boss was so toxic.
I would come home crying every day.
It was just awful, right?
I was like, there's gotta be more,
like there's gotta be something else.
I know this is not what I'm meant to do.
And it started by like finding some,
like more like encouraging podcasts.
then I read a book called Better
Than Before, and this book I
had had on my shelf for so long.
It's not like a promoted
thing or anything.
I'm just trying to share some
encouragement in the new year.
I had this book on my shelf for so
long, I was like, I just wanna read it.
I wanna read this book.
And I kept finding excuses
to not read this book.
And I would always just tell
people, oh, I'm not a reader.
I'm not a reader.
I only, read here and there, right?
And one day I was like,
I'm gonna read this book.
This is my goal to read this book.
I'm gonna read it.
And it started off talking about how
this guy wanted to wake up earlier and
he just started slowly, like waking up
15 minute increments earlier and earlier.
And I started doing that and then before
I knew it, this is gonna sound crazy
to a lot of people out there, but I
would just wake up at five 30 for joy.
it completely changed my days
and again, this is a while ago.
I don't do that now, so I'm not trying
to say like, and be like me 'cause
I don't, do that completely anymore.
But I would wake up five 30
or six and I would just read.
And having that control in the
morning made me realize like, I
can do so much more with my time.
That brings me joy.
And I think it's really important
to listen to that voice.
'cause I think so many times we
just move through the motions we
don't really ask ourselves do I do
something to bring my joy today?
What do I feel today?
And if your whole day is spent,
struggling or unhappy, we just go
through the motions and we're never
actually fulfilling something in us.
I know that was like a long spiel, so
I hope I didn't lose you guys on that.
But what I'm trying to say is I'm
just gonna encourage you, if there's
something that's been weighing on you or
something you're like, I wanna try that.
Or, when I was 10 years
old, I love drawing.
I don't draw anymore.
Pick it up and just try it.
buy an adult coloring
book, get some markers.
you don't to spend a lot of money.
You can spend $2 at the, Dollar store.
You know, find something that brings
you joy this year and it sounds
kind of crazy and woo woo, but.
Even finding 30 minute pockets out of
the day to just do something that brings
you joy can completely change your day.
Again, I know that was like a long spiel
and not how I normally start these,
I'm recording this before the new year,
but I'm just feeling very hopeful and
excited about the new year, and if I
can spread a little encouragement to
those out there that are struggling
or just feel a little hopeless, I know
there's a lot of things that aren't
great in the world right now and.
on our political climate and all that.
not to get into politics, but you know,
there's a lot that's not great and
there's a lot of change I wish to see.
but I think if we can, find joy in
like little pockets of our day, I
think it will make a difference.
And then we can kind of reach out
and fill other people's cups too.
Anyway, that was a long spiel.
I'm sorry guys.
I hope that was okay.
so I hope that.
That helped someone out there.
before I get to today's episode,
just for a little quick reminder to
do my new year giveaway, I'm giving
away four $50 Amazon gift cards.
All you have to do is share a photo
of yourself listening to the podcast,
a screenshot of your phone listening,
a screenshot of your review, and
then tag me on social media tag hey
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So I will select four winners.
The winners will be announced
February 12th episode.
All right.
Next up we are going
to do wedding dilemmas.
You guys sent me these in.
so let's see what we got here.
Okay, this first one says, "my fiance's
aunt told me that our registry is
rude because we included higher price
items. She said, it makes us look
greedy. I'm embarrassed, but also
annoyed 'cause it's a registry, not a
demand list." Here's the thing about
registries that I find so interesting.
People have so many opinions about them.
I remember talking to friends years
before I was even engaged and.
the thing they say to do is put
anything and everything on there.
There are gonna be some people
that can only afford or want
to spend under 50 bucks.
There are gonna be some people
that have a higher price point and
they want to buy something really
nice for a couple hundred bucks.
There's no expectations.
I've never looked at someone's registry
and been offended by it because I'm like,
I know either that's outta my price range,
or they'll get that from their parents or.
I'd rather get them blank, you so if she's
gonna, I think it's kind of rude for her
to tell you that your registry is rude.
She doesn't need to, pay for that.
I think it's maybe her feeling a
little offended, or, I don't know,
maybe she didn't have a registry.
So she just thinks in
general they're selfish.
I also find it's interesting, and
this is like a hill I will die on.
I think it's interesting when people get
so mad about like the honeymoon registry,
because I'm like, whether I put plates or
bedsheets or, a new couch on my registry.
That money or however you spend
that money is coming to me.
So if I decide to return those sheets
and I use those $50 towards dinner
on my honeymoon, why does it matter?
and I think it was Suzanne Lambert that
was in the podcast that was like, and if
you care about that person, it shouldn't
matter what they use the money for.
People still get up in arms in it.
I posted a thing recently about
honeymoons and someone was like, I'm
not paying for someone's honeymoon.
it's like, you're not paying for it.
if it's a honeymoon registry, it's
usually alongside of a wedding registry.
So it's not like you're buying them
a wedding gift and a honeymoon thing.
you can pick and choose.
like a lot of my friends already
lived with their partners, had all
the pots and pans and all that stuff.
So they didn't need extra pots and
pans that they weren't going to use.
Right?
So for those people I was like,
oh, I would love to buy you
dinner and drinks on the beach.
I would love to buy you your plane ticket.
You know, whatever that was.
that was kind of a, a cool thing.
Maybe it's just 'cause it's like
a newer thing, but whatever.
I wanna let your fiance's
aunt's comments get to you.
Just let him roll off.
Be like, you know what, aunt
Susie, thank you for your feedback.
you don't need to get us anything.
It's not a big deal.
We just kind of wanna put a
couple different price ranges
on there and if you wanna get us
something you can, but no pressure.
Okay, next one.
Oh gosh, "my friend offered to do
our wedding photos as a gift. But
her work is not good. I don't know
how to decline without hurting her
feelings or ruining the friendship."
I have talked about this so many
times, and this is something
I'm so passionate about.
It doesn't matter if her work is good
or not, because either way, I wouldn't
mention that to her, her quality of work.
Right.
I would just say, especially if it's gonna
be someone you want there as a guest.
Say thank you so much for offering.
I really, really appreciate it.
However, I just want you there as a guest.
I want you there fully immersed in the
guest experience, hanging out with us
on the dance floor, taking advantage
of the open bar, being with us for
photos, whatever that looks like.
Instead of it, if she keeps pushing, just.
You gotta repeat and just
say, Hey, you know what?
We actually already found a photographer.
If someone like that is offended that
you found a different photographer,
they're not in it for the right reasons
anyway, because they're either looking
for more business like they wanna
be paid or they want other people
to notice their business and that's
not really a good friend anyways.
So, just be clear and upfront.
It doesn't matter again
if it works good or not.
I personally think like
a vendor like that.
If they're your friend, you
want them there as a guest.
Right.
Obviously there's some vendors,
like for instance, I had my
sister-in-law make our cake.
That's something where like,
she was still a bridesmaid.
So she was a bridesmaid.
She could make the cake and she
didn't need to like be a part
of the cake the whole time.
You know what I mean?
Like a DJ or a photographer,
a videographer.
Those kind of vendors, they need
to be their job the whole night.
So this friend, if she's a photographer,
she's not gonna be able to actually
hang out, enjoy the wedding.
So just really accentuate how much
you want her there as a guest,
and you her to be in photos.
You wanna hang out with her and
just say, it's just not possible
to have her as a photographer.
But thank you.
Okay.
All right, onto the next segment.
Would you rather, here we go.
These are completely random.
I have not read any of
these, so here we go.
" Would you rather deal with a pushy
mother-in-law or a bridesmaid who
thinks she's the bride?" Oh gosh.
I'm very lucky.
I'm very lucky that I never had
to deal with either of these.
I've heard stories of.
Nightmares on both sides.
So I'm trying to think of
like the worst scenario.
If I had to deal with either of these.
Gosh, I think I'm gonna say a
bridesmaid who thinks she's the bride.
I don't know.
I might go back on that just
because like at the end of the day.
Something's not working with a
bridesmaid, you can just like kick
'em out of the wedding, right?
A mother-in-law is still your fiance's
mom or your partner's mom, right?
you can kick them out of coming
to the wedding, but there's
still that blood relationship.
So if a bridesmaid is going to be
terrible and do all those things, you
can just be like, thanks, but no thanks.
Mother-in-law has a little
more, pull in the game, I guess.
" Would you rather have someone wear
white to your wedding or someone give
an unapproved speech?" Um, wear white.
I've talked about this before.
White does not bother me in the slightest.
Yes, for like family photos, it's
nice to like stand out, but like
everyone knows you're the bride like.
I don't know.
That does not bother me really.
yeah, I don't wanna Unapprove speech.
Sorry.
" Would you rather have a wedding crasher
or a vendor who shows up an hour late?"
Depends on who the wedding crasher is.
If it's like at the end of the night
and we're all just dancing, having
fun and it's like funny, like older
ladies, I'd be like, yeah, come on in.
Sure.
If it's like an ex of someone,
someone that we purposely didn't
invite because of like toxic
behavior, I would not want that.
I'm so bad at these 'cause I
think about things too, like
analytically and logically.
Or a vendor who shows up an hour late,
gosh, I'm gonna go with, ' cause I'm such
a timely person, I'd be like stressed.
I think I'm gonna go with a
vendor that shows up an hour late.
No, I'd be stressed.
I wanna go with a wedding crusher.
Yeah, let's go with wedding crusher.
Okay.
" Would you rather have a bridesmaid
dropout last minute or add
herself back in last minute?" How
would she add herself back in?
Uh, we don't just add ourselves back in.
That sounds like something
that's really pushy.
So I'm gonna go with a bridesmaid
dropping out last minute.
Honestly, I don't see the big deal.
yeah, I'd be sad.
Like if I'm thinking about my
own wedding, if one of my friends
did that, I'd be like, oh my
gosh, why are you dropping out?
I'm so sad.
But when I read stories about it,
it's not, it's more of the like,
emotional part of it that's sad, right?
If you like think about them
on your day, that's what's sad.
But if we're just thinking about people.
If one person can't make it, all of a
sudden the wedding's still gonna go fine.
it's still gonna flow, you're
gonna get everything you need.
so it's more of the
emotional aspect of it.
So that would be really sad to deal
with, especially if it's a close friend.
But, if it was for a right
reason, I would go with that.
Dunno what that means, add
herself back in last minute.
Just like she drops out.
Then is like, surprise.
I'm actually still here.
Then it.
Sounds more like an issue.
All right.
"Would you rather your maid of honor
forget the rings or forget the speech?"
Oh, I think I would say forget the
rings, because while the rings are
more meaningful, I think in the whole
thing, you can forget something like.
The day of, right.
and it would hopefully just be for the
ceremony so someone could like, maybe
bring them, if someone's forgetting
a speech, that means they completely
forgot the whole time to even write
one or do one or spend any time on it.
And that shows me that more
so that they just don't care.
Yeah.
Okay.
"Would you rather spend extra
on the venue or extra on the
photographer?" photographer.
you cannot beat a good photographer.
obviously, like all in all, I think our
venue costs a little more, but like we
had, I don't know if I've talked about
this before, but we got married in an
old mattress factory and it was just
completely like, rustic is the wrong word.
It was not rustic.
I can't even think of what it's called,
but it was just such a cool vibe.
And I didn't need like
a really fancy venue.
that was not like number one on my list.
I just want good photos.
And if you could have a good photographer,
you can get good photos almost anywhere.
that's what I wanted.
I just wanted a good vibe.
Good photos.
Yeah.
" Would you rather cut your guest list
by 20 people or cut your decor budget
in half?" Decor budget in half.
I'm all about the people.
I did have like, I don't know, I guess
you'd call it medium sized wedding.
I think I had 140 people, which years ago.
I was like, oh, I'll have like 250 people.
And then the older you get
just more people dwindle away.
Right.
But when it came time for planning
the wedding, if that's what I was
assigned between, I would cut decor
budget, because at the end of the
day, if you're in a cool place.
You don't need a ton.
the place we got married, like down the
street, had a lot of stuff you could
rent, so we rented some stuff from there.
They also had candles that
we could rent from them.
then I made a lot of stuff, so I didn't
really spend a lot on decor anyways.
I even used my friend made
handmade bouquets with fake flowers
and she let us use all those.
So I spent like nothing on decor.
" Would you rather splurge on
the honeymoon or splurge on the
dress?" Honeymoon all the way.
I talked about this before too.
My dress was under $1,500.
I think it was, I think,
wanna say it was like 1200.
I didn't even look at the price tag.
So I went because it was like
a direct kind of bridal shop.
And plus, because my venue was
connected to it, I got like an
extra 20% off discount or something.
And don't get me wrong, I love the dress,
but I was not a bride that went to like
five bridal shops to find the dress.
I went to one bridal shop.
I tried on five or six dresses,
and I knew that first day.
I was like, this is my favorite.
Let's go with it.
I don't need to try on a million things.
I just kind of was like this is good.
This is good.
yeah.
For me, I would rather
splurge on a honeymoon.
My honeymoon was definitely
more than the dress.
" Would you rather DIY all decor
or have zero decor at all?"
I personally would rather DIY.
Like I said, I did a
lot of my own wedding.
All the signs, my friend did
the bouquets, all the decor.
I kind of thought of myself I've
been a part of a lot of DIY weddings.
You need a little something.
I've seen them go overboard, so
it's not necessarily go to go
crazy, but, yeah, I would do DIY.
All right, last one.
" Would you rather a surprise, honeymoon
plan by your partner or plan every
detail yourself?" You guys know me?
I'm a planner.
I am okay with surprises, but it makes me
feel itchy, like I need to get in there.
I need know what's going,
need to know what's going on.
so I would rather plan
all the details myself.
Luckily for us though, like we
planned it together, I used sandals.
again, this is not sponsored, this is
just, they were the most budget friendly.
we were looked at Hawaii
and it was so expensive.
Sandals at least we were able to like.
Pick the location.
We looked at all the different ones
to see like what was most affordable.
it was nice.
It was all inclusive, so with the
price you paid include all the food.
All the drinks, and I think we even were
able to include flights in all that.
So that was really nice
to be able to do that.
And then, we could plan
stuff when we got there.
So we didn't have like a strict
itinerary, but when we got there,
we could pick extra excursions and
I would do it a hundred times over.
It was so much fun.
Okay, now to the real, real story here.
This week's story submission, " I
was a bridesmaid in a wedding that
came together in just one week.
The couple had originally had planned
a private ceremony, and when some
people found out, they created so much
drama that the couple felt pressured
to plan a full wedding in seven days."
No, that is ultimate people pleaser, like,
okay, we'll just do it in seven days.
Like I was a part of a DIY wedding where
they had a three month engagement and
I thought that was really hard to do.
Like it was fast and seven days.
I'm like, what did you
do in those seven days?
'cause that's a lot.
" They also had to change venues because one
church refused to host due to the drama.
So we had an all intensity of a year long
engagement squeezed into a single week.
because of the chaos, the wedding
party changed several times before
the big day." How long is this week?
This seems like an impossibly long week.
" The maid-of-honor let's call
her, Emily, had been the bride's
best friend since fifth grade.
But she had always been jealous
of the bride's relationship.
For years, she tried to sabotage them,
creating tension, trying to break them
up, and constantly forcing the bride
to choose between her and the groom."
So why are we making
her the maid of honor?
When I see like Frida, all these
friendships, I'm like, Why?
Unless from this bridesmaid perspective,
she could always see it and then
the bride was just kind of blind
to it, which happens of course.
Okay.
" On the wedding day, Emily confronted the
bridesmaids, including me, and called us
all fake friends while we were trying to
get hair and makeup done." What? Okay,
so this is the maid of honor. " She
was furious because she learned that I
confided some of her private struggles,
including her addiction issues and
another crush she had to the bride."
Whoa.
" I only did this because I cared about
her and believed she needed help.
I had suffered a stroke the month
before and couldn't do much myself,
so I turned to the bride hoping we
could figure out how to support her."
Okay, so here's where I'm gonna disagree.
I mean, of course, I don't know
how severe or what's going on
with this person's addiction.
I'm not a therapist or
an addictions counselor.
So this is just my own perspective
as I'm learning this story right now.
Little, disclaimer, but one of the
number one things I say is I don't
wanna say bother, but do not get the
bride involved in drama right before
her wedding not saying like someone's
addiction issues is drama necessarily.
But if that person confided in you
and is telling you something, the best
time to tell the bride is probably
not right before her wedding like
especially knowing there's already
drama happening around this wedding.
There's already like a lot of stress.
It's happening in a week.
Again, how long is this week?
There's a lot happening right?
I would be waiting until after the wedding
and be like, 'Hey, by the way, blank
came to me, or I guess we know her name's
Emily, or her changed name is Emily came
to me and said, this is what's going on.
I'm very concerned.
The timing seems a little like
sketchy to me, and don't wanna
come on this, like, I don't know.
I don't wanna be.
Put down this person
that sent in the story.
But the timing seems a little weird,
especially if, you know, things
are already kind of like iffy.
This could set someone off like this.
" The other bridesmaid knew none of
this, and I wasn't about to share
Emily's personal business in front
of everyone we genuinely cared for."
I do believe you cared for her.
I do believe this person cared for
her, but it's just the timing thing.
we need to make sure, like the
bride's not brought into like
crazy drama, Right before right.
" Emily then took off with two
bridesmaids and disappeared for hours.
They did the bare minimum for the
wedding and then left to eat out, never
bringing back anything for the bride
who hadn't eaten and was stuck doing
tests Emily should have been doing.
Whatever Emily told the other
bridesmaids must have been bad because
one of them, someone I had been close
to, barely speaks to me to this day.
The other bridesmaid who left with
her, stayed friends with us afterward,
though, she told us that she caught
Emily shoplifting items for the wedding
and not small items, expensive ones.
I later learned that the $2,000 veil Emily
gave the bride was stolen." That's wild.
Okay.
" Even though Emily had access to
plenty of money, a wealthy friend
had loaned her cash for the wedding.
She still shoplifted." Well, I
mean, if she's going through a
serious addiction, we don't know.
I mean.
I don't know the whole story, so
I don't wanna judge this person.
Again, I don't have background in this,
so this seems like a very serious matter.
I'm also like, why is this made of honor?
Why is it put on the made of honor to
buy all these things for the wedding?
why should it matter that a
friend loaned her cash for the
wedding if I was in a wedding?
And I was told, okay, it's in a week.
You have to pay for all these things.
and if I couldn't afford
it, I would step down.
the fact that like a friend had to loan
her all this money, that's a little odd.
going back to being at a seven day
planning of this wedding, I would be like,
okay, we're gonna keep it really simple.
We're not spending money
on pointless things.
Not saying veil's pointless, but
like it sounds like they're spending
a lot of money on stuff and like
putting all these things together.
Like keep it stupid simple.
If you're having a one week planning time.
" Emily heavily controlled what she
thought everyone should wear throwing
fits anytime She didn't get her way and
celebrating when she did, I found a $65
dress that was more appropriate for the
church ceremony compared to the $200 one
she demanded I wear." Why is the maid of
honor controlling what dresses they wear?
also, again, they're getting
married in seven days.
Why are we spending all this time
finding this super expensive dress?
Let's just find one.
All the girls can wear
and be done with it.
But again, this should be
the bride controlling this.
" She was furious when I asked to return it.
She pressured the bride into choosing a
dress she never actually wanted." Okay.
At some point we have to take
responsibilities for ourselves though,
like, How is this made of honor
pressuring the bride, and the bridesmaids?
" She says not the bride, not the groom.
The bride still says she wished she
could redo her entire wedding because
of how much Emily influenced and
manipulated everything." We need to
get rid of this person. "The bride
was an hour and a half late to her
own wedding because she had to hammer
tent stakes and do heavy setup work.
Test the maid of honor, should
have helped." With this is
again where, and I talked about
this on my episode with Bethy.
This is when like there's an overlap of
like paid work help in your wedding party.
We cannot assume that just because
someone's in your wedding party that they
are going to do all the work for setup.
You are then hiring your
friends for unpaid labor.
And some people like myself,
I love doing that stuff.
I love being involved.
Like if I'm in your wedding, expect me to
help you with something, I will do that.
But it should not be an expectation.
The expectation of a bridesmaid is
that they get the dress that you
want, they stand up by your side,
and they're there at the wedding day.
Like honest to God.
That should be the minimum, like
that should be their expectation.
The fact that you're expecting your
maid of honor to get your tent set up.
You have to hammer in tent
stakes and do the heavy setup?
No, like can we get someone else?
Do that.
Where are the groomsmen?
Let's get the groomsmen in there.
" I tried to help after my stroke.
I was extremely slow and weak.
Emily also insisted the groom choose
a best man she wasn't close to because
she had a crush on him and wanted
to walk down the aisle with him.
Shockingly, both men agreed."
how does this woman have such
an impact on all these people
to change their whole wedding?
Who's the best man?
Who's walking down with who,
what dresses we're wearing?
Like at some point we
need to say like, no.
Or if you say like,
yeah, fine, we'll do it.
I Don't know.
I don't know guys We gotta take a
little responsibility on both sides.
" Before the reception,
Emily disappeared entirely.
The bride and I panicked knowing
her history of destructive behavior.
Eventually we found Emily had gone
to another gathering to see the guy
she was crushing on." I thought the
guy she crushed on was a groomsman.
" She confronted him about his
feelings he wasn't interested.
To make things worse, the guy I had a
crush on and usher also ended up at that
gathering." Where's this other gathering?
I thought they were all
at a wedding together.
" Emily spent time with him too, this wasn't
the first time she had gone behind my back
to flirt with him or hang out with him.
She didn't actually want him.
She just liked the drama." I think
you guys all liked the drama.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry, but why lie?
She told you like this in confidence
and then you went and told the bride,
I'm just confused by this little event.
" Before the wedding, Emily had lice
and I caught it from her." This is
the longest week I've ever heard of.
Why are all these things
happening this week?
" I managed to treat it before the wedding
and showed up lice free only to discover
afterward that I had caught it again.
Emily hadn't treated at
all." Guys, this is a mess.
This is like why so is
Emily girl had lice.
They're just like going around.
Are you friends with Emily?
Because I feel like the way you're
talking about her, she's not your friend.
Is she friends with the bride more?
How'd you guys get lice
if you're not friends?
Did this happen in the
prior week to the wedding?
Despite all this, the wedding
day still turned out beautiful.
It's amazing what can be accomplished in
a week with determination and love The
bride and I became best friends afterward.
She told me many times she wished she'd
chosen me as her maid of honor instead.
As for Emily, I hope one day she
gets the help she clearly needs."
Okay.
I mean, I know I shared
a lot of my thoughts, but
There's a lot of things here.
One is a communication error, like why
is this Emily girl, the maid of honor,
when she's done all these horrible things
apparently, and it seems like there's a
lot of bad talk about her behind her back.
So there's that one, two, I'm confused,
like, okay, when you decide to have
a quick engagement, you can't just
assume all these people are gonna
do things for your day, right?
Yes, if you have a crafty family, if
you have people there, that can help.
But why is it again, the maid of
honors duty to set up tents for you?
That's not her job.
Get a bunch of the guys, hire
some people to help set up.
but I don't think she's
completely wrong for that.
Again, we are talking.
the bride decided.
That they were gonna throw
together a wedding in one week.
Why should everyone stop
everything they're doing?
They probably all have jobs.
They probably all have families.
Why should they have to stop
everything they're doing to
put together your wedding?
That's where I just don't agree with it.
Like, I'm like a very do
it yourself kind of person.
I could never imagine being like, okay, in
one week from now I'm gonna do this thing
and have all my friends are gonna help me.
this is my wedding day.
You know, like it that seems a little
bridezilla to expect all your friends
to just set up a wedding for you.
the little drama here about like telling.
The bride about her crush and
her addiction again, did it need
to happen before the wedding?
I don't think so.
I think we need to keep the bride
out of the wedding drama as much
as possible if we're really trying
to stay focused on like making
this day as beautiful as possible.
Keep the bride outta the drama.
Let's get all hands together.
Why am I not hearing about family members,
the groom, groomsmen, anyone else helping?
It seems like Emily is just
to blame this Emily girl.
She didn't do this.
She was supposed to do this.
She didn't do let's slow down.
We always knew.
She was jealous of the
relationship, that's what she says.
She was jealous of the relationship.
Tried to sabotage them, create tension.
try to get them to break up.
Forcing the bride to
choose between him and her.
So there's already issues there.
So now we're gonna push her in and be
like, Hey, you need to put together
this wedding, not her problem.
This might be a hot take,
but it's not her problem.
This should be the bride and groom
putting everything together, and
then if people offer to help and
wanna come in, they can help.
It is not the maid of honor, best
man, groomsmen or bridesmaid's
responsibility to make this happen.
If they want to, they can.
If they wanna ask, they can,
it's not anyone's responsibility.
We're talking seven days.
God, like I said, I've been a part of
like really quick engagements, really
quick DIY weddings, and even then it took
multiple weeks to get everything together.
So I can only imagine the stress
that this put on everyone.
And I feel like this was just kind
of calling out like some toxicity
between the friends, right?
No one really seems innocent in this.
I don't know.
You guys have to let
me know what you think.
Sometimes I get like, I have to
look at it from all sides, so I'm
not trying to call it this person.
I just have to look for it from all sides.
And I feel like this is very
like putting Emily down.
We know she's got some issues.
We know there's some different things
going on, so let's not Put that huge
level of responsibility on someone
when we know they can't hold up to it.
Or like I said, if you're like, I
need this person as my maid of honor,
we're getting married in seven days.
Keep it stupid simple.
We found a place, set up some chairs,
have an arch, have someone read your
vows, have a party, go to a bar.
You can do things really simply.
And yeah, that's what I think you guys
tell me what you guys think about this.
'cause the idea that your wedding
party is hired, labor is just,
no, it's just old news to me.
Again, there's a lot of people out
there that really do like doing that
stuff, and I think that's great.
I enjoy doing it.
But not everyone's like that.
Not everyone has the time.
If you've got kids, a spouse,
a job, a full-time job, like.
You have to remember,
that's their priority.
Your wedding day is not their priority.
So we need to give a little more grace
and understanding for things like that.
Alright, that's what we got today.
let's end with some confessions here.
I don't know why I said here like that.
All right.
" I ended up looking like a zombie on my
wedding day due to stress." you know what?
I think that's one of those things.
I heard so many people talk about
wedding stress before I got married
and while I was, yeah, I was a
little stressed here and there.
I knew of people that like couldn't
eat towards the end that had lost so
much weight because they were just so
stressed about getting things checked off.
that would be in tears multiple times
because of different things it's hard.
There's a lot of pressure.
There's a lot of external
pressures, family pressures.
people that got married during COVID
right, or were engaged during COVID,
I heard of venues getting canceled.
I heard of family members
not being able to come in.
just different things like that, like
stressors that you can't plan for.
So it's really important to just
understand, and I'm not trying
to belittle wedding days or
anything 'cause they're amazing.
But remember, it's just a day.
As long as you have your close friends
and family there, it's gonna be beautiful.
You gotta remember that it's not
gonna be a hundred percent perfect.
and stress.
stress can kill you, right?
We all let stress get to us
depending on different things.
We all stress about different things.
I've heard of brides being so
stressed that their wedding day
comes they can't even enjoy it.
' cause their body is just so tense
still from all the stress buildup.
Like I said, they don't eat.
They don't sleep, and it's just like their
day's there and then it's over and they
get like a wedding hangover, not like an
alcohol hangover, a wedding hangover where
they're sad because the day came and went
and they didn't actually fully enjoy it.
Or they had all these months of stress
and planning and then it was just gone.
Right.
So it's sad when that happens.
okay.
" Made my own centerpieces.
Half of them fell apart when the guest
touched 'em." That's hard with DIY stuff.
It happens, but at the end of the day,
as long as you get a couple photos
of them, you just have to, it's one
of those things you have to let go.
" I let my sister be the dj.
Our first dance had a short ad
in the middle of the song." What?
Okay, I wanna know what platform
puts ads in the middle of a song.
It's the price you pay.
I mean you, if it's probably free.
that's the gamble you take.
you have someone that's
not a licensed business.
Be a vendor you give and take.
Right?
I'm sure everyone was
able to laugh it off.
All right.
" Tried to sew my own veil and it
ended up looking like a mosquito
netting." Yeah, know your talents.
Know your strengths, know your weaknesses.
Know where it's better to pay
someone to do it or ask for help.
Alright, last one.
"I DIYed my bouquet. It wilted before
the ceremony even started." yeah, again,
it's like you gotta know there's certain
things that you have to know, like.
What's gonna work and what won't.
There's certain things you gotta
be willing to negotiate on.
Like where are your strengths
and where are we gonna be?
Like, I'm gonna hire for that.
Like I said, never thought I would
have fake flowers, but my friends fake
flowers at her wedding looked beautiful
and she got married six months before
me and she's like, do you want these?
And I was like, $4,000
or flowers from her.
I'll take those.
So I did that.
Okay.
That's all I've got for this week.
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