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Hi, Sarah.

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Hi Christa.

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Thank you so much for coming on.

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I know we've been like chatting
before recording, but I'm just

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so excited to finally meet you.

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I think I was telling you, so many people
had tagged you in my comment saying, you

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need to have Sarah Wiseman on the show.

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I love her stories.

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And so I thought, what better
way to connect and have you on?

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Oh my goodness.

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How exciting.

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I know I love you and your skits.

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Oh my gosh.

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And we are like, so f familiar or
similar, with the wedding stuff,

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so I'm so honored to be on your
podcast, so thank you for having me.

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Of

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course.

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No, I, love like watching skits
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how I kind of got into it too.

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We were just talking about how
we love telling stories and.

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Even before like making skits, like
if I was telling someone a story,

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I was like such a detail person.

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Or maybe the details didn't matter,
but I'd be like, the sky was blue and

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that girl was wearing a pink shirt.

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And then like people would be
like, okay, get to the point.

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But like, it's just part of storytelling.

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I feel like that's how you are too.

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Yep, exactly.

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I'm like and then there's this
detail, oh wait, I have to back up.

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And there's more details
that I forgot about.

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So let me do that real quick.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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So how did you start doing
this like skit kind of content?

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Like how did you start getting into it?

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What was your first skit,
all that good stuff?

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Well, I started off in TikTok,
you know, with the TikTok dances

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and just having fun with that.

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I was trying to leave my job to be like,
become a content creator and an author.

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'cause I really loved to write
and I've always loved to write.

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And so, February, 2024, I published
my first book, the Invisible Spring.

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and I was trying really hard to
promote it and get it out there.

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it's about like how my husband
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intertwined with each other.

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Oh.

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So I was like, let's
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I didn't do schizo at first.

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At first, I was just kind of
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doing little bits here and there.

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And then I started to do a little bit of,
Skits, quote unquote, like where I would

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just kind of like talk back and forth,
not really get full on into the acting.

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And then one day I got kind of
overwhelmed with everything and

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I was also planning my wedding

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I decided, to have a child-free wedding.

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And, we had someone, like talk to us
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wedding and they said that they had a
wonderful time, but she said that, the

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bride at that wedding was getting a lot
of complaints, from people because they

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were like, I wanna bring my children.

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And so I was like.

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It would be really fun to just like,
let loose and do a skit about this.

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So I did a skit about a child free
wedding, and then it like just

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took off like the drama of it.

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Like one lady's like, I'm
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Like I threw that in there and then that
one just took off and I'm like, okay.

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And then I started to do ones
with like bridesmaids and like a

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couple going on their honeymoon
and just big plot twists, where it

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was just like, what just happened?

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And then it just took off from there.

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And I've been doing skits ever since.

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I love

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that.

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I feel like it's like the skit
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like it allows people to like see
it from an outside perspective.

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And at first I was like, when I did
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more I dunno, anger or whatever.

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But then like, I've gotten so many
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you've helped me like address the
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how to talk to my mother-in-law.

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And I'm like, oh, okay.

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I'm glad it's doing something.

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But it's interesting that you
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about a child free wedding.

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'cause I think mine was too,
it's such a controversial topic.

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Yes.

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and I've never understood why people
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as a mom of a toddler Now, if my
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an invite, I would not be offended.

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And if they were like child free,
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It's fine.

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I know you don't want my toddler
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Things are breakable.

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I understand.

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Yes.

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So I don't get where
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I agree.

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It was more for me, the reason
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was just like the safety of it.

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Like we were an outside wedding.

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There was gonna be like
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And I didn't want like the kids to,
get into any trouble per se, I guess.

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and I also wanted, like, my friends always
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I just would love to just drop my kids off
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And then I was like, is if
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yeah, that's

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exactly what I'll do.

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I feel like that's the thing too.

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It's like knowing your friends and
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Because that was the same for me.

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Like, I was one of the last ones to
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They all had kids and they I knew
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no, we're getting a babysitter,
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grandpa watch them or whatever.

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that's how like all of our
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We had like immediate.

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Like nieces and nephews at the
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cousins kids at the wedding.

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But most weddings I'd been to, it wasn't
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And that's, I dunno, here and
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most part I didn't see that.

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So I just was like, for us, we
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so we have seven at the time.

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Yeah, seven nieces and nephews.

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And so I invited all of them ' cause
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and then I left it up to the parents.

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Like my sister didn't bring
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it's just they won't have fun.

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They'll be fine out.

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but I left it up to, the parents.

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But other than that I was like,
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I think that is like becoming more
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and also I've seen where the kids
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they go home or the couple like,
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during the reception part of it too.

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So I see, I see that happening
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I love that idea.

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I've been hearing that more and more
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another room where you can get like a
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I think if I knew, friends of mine
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with a babysitter, I think I would,
I've tried something like that, or

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if my venue could have done that.

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But again, it was like, I feel like
it's also like how you, I don't know

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how you handled the situation too,
because I think a lot of it, I'm sure

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like the skit you did too, it's like
the entitlement of like, well I'm gonna

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bring my kids anyway ' cause it's wild.

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I personally didn't have to deal
with that, but those stories happen

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all the time where people are like,
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This is my child.

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I'm bringing them.

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And like, I'd be mortified
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doesn't belong necessarily.

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You are absolutely

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right.

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it's not  actual no kids' rule.

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It's the entitlement.

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It's like these people that think that
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So it's more of the entitlement.

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Like if you were to message me and
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bring my infant, or I really need
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be able to come, I would probably be
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understand like you have these needs,
but like people who just are like.

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I'm just gonna show up with
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I'm gonna do what I want.

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that's off.

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that bugs me.

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grinds my gears.

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And I feel like it goes both ways too
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like, let's say the bride and groom says
child free wedding, and then someone

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in the wedding or a guest says, well,
I can't make it then, but best wishes.

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Like, they're so respectful about it.

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And then the bride and groom get mad
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someone can't still get a babysitter.

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So that's also the entitlement of the
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should stop for their wedding day.

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And it's like if you can't get
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decline, still send a gift or you
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that and that's gonna be okay.

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Yes, a hundred percent.

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Like you said, I see it on both
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realize that everybody else has lies.

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Their wedding isn't like the
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so.

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Yeah, I know.

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So you said that kind of
blew up that first skit?

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Yes.

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So then do you get people sending you
in stories or do you kind of just think

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of things you've seen or what kind of
has mostly inspired the stories you do?

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so I do get people who do
try to message me stories.

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I've done a couple of those,
but I don't do them often.

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just because, I feel like I would
really have to like hop on a phone

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call with them sometimes and like
really get like the actual details.

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'cause I'm like, I did the first
one that was sent in to me.

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And I'm like, but she didn't tell
me exactly how this happened.

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How do I interpret this?

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I hope I don't interpret
it wrong kind of thing.

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so I've done that a couple times, but
mostly it's just me, having inspiration

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from like, what people have said to me.

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sometimes I go on Reddit
and get ideas from Reddit.

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Like I'll take like a Reddit thread.

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they'll say like, what happened?

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And then I'm like, wow, that's crazy.

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But like, what could make
this even more crazier?

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Like, what could be even a
bigger plot twist than that?

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So I'll take like, inspiration
from those types of things.

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Yeah, I love that.

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It's funny you say that about
when people send you in stories.

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Mm-hmm.

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there was a wild story one time, I'm
trying to think which one it was.

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I think it was the one where either
it was like a surprise wedding

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for the bride, the groom and the
bride's mom planned the wedding.

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And she was like, it was like scary,
like, honestly, like how weird it went.

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But all these people are commenting
like, there's no way this happened.

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This couldn't have happened.

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someone literally commented
like, do you fact check this?

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And I'm like, what do you want me,
how do you want me to fact check?

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Do you want me to call
all their family members?

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I was like, you can take
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internet with a grain of assault.

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I get a story sent to me and I always say.

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either I come up with it myself
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And I'm like, I'll just take
parts of it and I mix it all up.

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You know, I put it in a
B blender and I mix it.

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' cause I'm like, I only
get part of the story.

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And even if I get a really detailed story,
I'm only getting it for one perspective.

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yes.

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As I don't agree with the person that send
it to me either, which is really awkward.

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that's very awkward.

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I know what you mean though,
because I'm like, yeah, because

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a, a couple of podcast episodes
actually, we'll see when we get to

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ours, but I've read the story with the
person and we're both like, oh no, this

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person's like in the wrong, like mm-hmm.

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Oh no.

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Like,

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yeah.

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Huh.

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And then you have to kind of
figure out how to like, twist it

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and show like both sides and Yeah.

255
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Yeah, no, That's kind of also one of the
reasons why I don't do a lot of people

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who send me stories, is because like if I
do end up changing it and like it offends

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them because I don't agree with it,
then I don't even wanna get into that or

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like, offending them in any way I guess.

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So yeah,

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this is unbiased.

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I'm just taking what I can see.

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Yes, exactly.

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Like around like if a bride sent
it to me, I might make it from

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the groom's perspective and mix.

265
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Oh yeah.

266
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okay.

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Do you have any wild stories of your own?

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Like either something you've
seen or heard or something that

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maybe you've made into a skit?

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I don't know, but yeah.

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I have my own story that
is based on my own wedding.

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And it's a little bit of a long one,
but basically, what happened was my

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dad didn't show up to my wedding.

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Okay.

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Yeah.

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So, we'll go back to when I got engaged.

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I got engaged in August of 2023, and then
right after that my father announced to

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us that he, was diagnosed with cancer.

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Okay.

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And, at that point, he announced that
in October, I think it was so August?

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Yeah, it was a co it was like
a month and a half after.

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So in October he announced by this
time, I had been with my fiancé for

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a long period of time before that,
so we kind of already had like what

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we wanted to do with a wedding.

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So our plan was to go on a destination
wedding, like a cruise wedding to Bermuda.

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we had our heart set on it.

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All of our friends were on board.

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and so we sent out the invitations.

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He got diagnosed.

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he was still excited about it.

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he was a little nervous 'cause
he doesn't like to travel very

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much, but he was still excited.

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one day I get to their house and, we
previously had a cruise plan, but we

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had to cancel it because my dad's job
and, my stepmom, we'll call her Elle

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she commented to me, she's like, oh,
you're going to Bermuda for your wedding.

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I really wish we could go back to Alaska.

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like the other cruise was planned for.

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And I was like, oh, yeah, but this
is what, Bernard, my fiancé well

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now my husband and I really want.

300
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and then that was just, I
like, kept that in my mind.

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I'm like, oh, that's weird.

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couple months go by.

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We needed to finalize the
bookings for the cruise.

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And all of a sudden my dad calls me
up and says that he's not going to

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be able to make it to the wedding.

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And I'm like, I need my
dad there for my wedding.

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I need my father to
walk me down the aisle.

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so husband or my fiance at the
time, husband now, I'll just call

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him my husband from now on out.

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Yeah.

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But, he and I decided we were gonna
cancel the cruise and we were gonna do

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an at-home wedding and we were gonna
use the cruise as our, honeymoon.

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Yeah.

314
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So when your dad first said, I'm not going
to the wedding, what was his reasoning?

315
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Was it 'cause of the cancer?

316
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Was this like he just didn't
wanna trouble or what?

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at first he said like, this
cancer is taking a lot outta me.

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I don't know what's gonna happen, but I
can't travel 'cause of my immune system.

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That's why I was like,
we need to cancel it.

320
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It's not my dad's fault
that he can't make it.

321
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I want my dad there.

322
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Mm-hmm.

323
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And so, we canceled it and
we began planning, back home.

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fast forward to like, a couple
months before my wedding,

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so this was May of 2024.

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And my stepmom, my dad and I
and my sister were out for ice

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cream to celebrate my birthday.

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And she, my stepmother stands up and is
like, I have an announcement to make,

329
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or we have an announcement to make
and we're like, oh, what's going on?

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We're going on a cruise.

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Stop it.

332
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Yeah.

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my sister.

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Immediately, sna like, breaks her
neck, looks at me and is like.

335
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looking at me to make sure I'm okay.

336
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I held my composure and I just like
nodded and I was like, oh, And like they

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explained what the cruise was about.

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My dad was like looking down
the entire time like he knew

339
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not even like, wanting to talk.

340
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Yeah.

341
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He knew

342
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he must stop.

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So I just like that really hurt.

344
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I let it go.

345
00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:03,399
Other things started.

346
00:14:03,579 --> 00:14:06,489
Sorry to cut in, when she made that
like kind of snide comment about I

347
00:14:06,489 --> 00:14:09,549
wish we were gonna Alaska, they went
home that night and she's like, I can't

348
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believe they're going on a cruise.

349
00:14:11,149 --> 00:14:13,159
We need to go on our cruise first.

350
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Or like, made some kind of comment.

351
00:14:14,976 --> 00:14:18,666
she probably could have, I'm not
gonna say like, I definitely think

352
00:14:18,666 --> 00:14:20,676
she did that or what, but Right.

353
00:14:20,676 --> 00:14:25,546
She is the type of person, she's the
type of person to do that, unfortunately.

354
00:14:25,606 --> 00:14:27,226
Which it's really sad, but Yes.

355
00:14:27,226 --> 00:14:27,556
Went along.

356
00:14:28,244 --> 00:14:32,114
yeah, my dad does not have a
backbone around her at all.

357
00:14:32,214 --> 00:14:36,041
oh, and when he and her got married,
there was some issues way back then.

358
00:14:36,131 --> 00:14:37,631
There was some issues with us too.

359
00:14:37,631 --> 00:14:41,351
We like, kind of fell back, because
he married her so fast, like within

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two months of knowing each other.

361
00:14:43,361 --> 00:14:43,511
Oh, wow.

362
00:14:43,511 --> 00:14:43,631
Yeah.

363
00:14:43,631 --> 00:14:45,101
That's a whole nother story.

364
00:14:45,221 --> 00:14:45,701
Oh, girl.

365
00:14:45,761 --> 00:14:46,121
Wow.

366
00:14:46,151 --> 00:14:46,571
Okay.

367
00:14:46,721 --> 00:14:47,081
Yeah.

368
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So, there were some issues with that.

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like during that time, I was young at
that time I was in my early twenties.

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Maybe I was even 19 at the time, but I
was like, I'm not gonna deal with this.

371
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And I moved out Over the years, we got
our relationship back and going again.

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00:15:03,114 --> 00:15:06,354
I started to have more of a
better relationship with Elle,

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my stepmom and feeling that, and
then it came to my wedding and

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then this stuff started happening.

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And so yes, it does make me
question whether or not she

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would do something like that.

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She is very capable of doing

378
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that.

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Um, and

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when was their

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crew supposed to be scheduled?

382
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For?

383
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Like when your original
one was or like late?

384
00:15:23,658 --> 00:15:24,018
Yeah,

385
00:15:24,018 --> 00:15:28,927
like, yeah, around the same time or
like a little bit later than our maybe.

386
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Oh, ours was in, late
September, early October.

387
00:15:32,031 --> 00:15:34,170
I wanna say it was like
around then or November.

388
00:15:34,323 --> 00:15:34,503
Okay.

389
00:15:34,503 --> 00:15:35,947
So it was around the same time.

390
00:15:36,097 --> 00:15:36,277
Yeah.

391
00:15:36,277 --> 00:15:39,157
Did you take everything in you in
that moment to not say something?

392
00:15:39,323 --> 00:15:39,863
Oh yeah.

393
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And I'm like.

394
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I like, couldn't process it at that time.

395
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when she told me.

396
00:15:44,270 --> 00:15:46,420
'cause I'm like thinking like,
what's the big announcement?

397
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Because she just before that said that
she had like a little announcement

398
00:15:49,900 --> 00:15:53,260
and she said that she got a new job
when we were at the ice cream place.

399
00:15:53,476 --> 00:15:57,406
it was actually, at that time where
my sister said something like, oh,

400
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hey Sarah, just, like her skits
are doing really great on TikTok.

401
00:16:02,180 --> 00:16:04,610
She has like 50,000 followers.

402
00:16:04,670 --> 00:16:06,800
And like my dad was like, what?

403
00:16:07,042 --> 00:16:07,792
that's crazy.

404
00:16:07,792 --> 00:16:11,325
And then that's when she was like,
I have an announcement to make.

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00:16:11,577 --> 00:16:13,035
And she like, cut in.

406
00:16:13,155 --> 00:16:14,895
And So you have your moment.

407
00:16:15,082 --> 00:16:15,472
Yeah.

408
00:16:15,712 --> 00:16:16,402
Yeah, exactly.

409
00:16:16,402 --> 00:16:19,159
Like she's the type of person
that just needs like the

410
00:16:19,159 --> 00:16:21,259
attention on her all the time.

411
00:16:21,522 --> 00:16:22,752
it's very frustrating.

412
00:16:22,802 --> 00:16:24,332
to skip forward a little bit.

413
00:16:24,332 --> 00:16:26,852
Like other things started
happening after that.

414
00:16:26,902 --> 00:16:29,062
my dad was retiring from his job.

415
00:16:29,062 --> 00:16:31,462
They hosted like a
surprise retirement party.

416
00:16:31,694 --> 00:16:36,965
He got wind that I was gonna be there,
and that caused a huge argument because

417
00:16:36,965 --> 00:16:42,045
he's like, L wasn't invited and you are,
do you know how that would make it look?

418
00:16:42,045 --> 00:16:44,355
I'm like, dad, I'm your
biological daughter.

419
00:16:44,559 --> 00:16:46,659
I'm like, and it was a retirement party.

420
00:16:46,839 --> 00:16:49,539
He and uninvited me from
his retirement party.

421
00:16:49,894 --> 00:16:50,404
Yeah.

422
00:16:50,521 --> 00:16:50,881
Yeah.

423
00:16:50,881 --> 00:16:50,941
So

424
00:16:51,271 --> 00:16:53,581
is he hosting it or is
it his work hosting it?

425
00:16:54,001 --> 00:16:54,901
It's at his work.

426
00:16:54,901 --> 00:16:57,891
he like worked for, a
big highway department.

427
00:16:58,034 --> 00:17:01,874
they paved roads and stuff and so they
always like threw retirement parties

428
00:17:01,874 --> 00:17:03,284
there and they invited the family.

429
00:17:03,498 --> 00:17:05,628
we found out later what actually happened.

430
00:17:05,688 --> 00:17:10,238
We found out that, Elle was invited,
but she didn't wanna go because she

431
00:17:10,238 --> 00:17:15,678
had, with my dad's secretary, she
worked with her previously they did

432
00:17:15,678 --> 00:17:17,458
not get along, so, oh, I wonder why.

433
00:17:18,138 --> 00:17:18,558
Yeah,

434
00:17:18,858 --> 00:17:19,098
so

435
00:17:19,098 --> 00:17:19,543
she wanna go.

436
00:17:19,543 --> 00:17:20,538
She was mad

437
00:17:20,538 --> 00:17:20,748
her,

438
00:17:21,108 --> 00:17:22,458
so she didn't want to go.

439
00:17:22,458 --> 00:17:23,778
She wasn't invited, didn't want to go.

440
00:17:24,402 --> 00:17:26,711
And because of that, they didn't
want you guys going either.

441
00:17:26,878 --> 00:17:27,178
Right.

442
00:17:27,403 --> 00:17:28,123
My dad was

443
00:17:28,123 --> 00:17:28,423
like,

444
00:17:28,530 --> 00:17:30,810
I can't let you go because it'll look bad.

445
00:17:30,856 --> 00:17:32,696
And I'm like, how is it gonna look bad?

446
00:17:32,696 --> 00:17:34,466
I'm not like another woman.

447
00:17:34,466 --> 00:17:35,486
I'm your daughter.

448
00:17:35,516 --> 00:17:37,436
like, I'm not the other
woman or something like that.

449
00:17:37,436 --> 00:17:38,246
I'm your daughter.

450
00:17:38,403 --> 00:17:41,066
so that happened almost two
months before my wedding.

451
00:17:41,223 --> 00:17:43,953
I always usually let things
side, but that really hurt.

452
00:17:43,953 --> 00:17:45,393
So me and him had a talk.

453
00:17:45,496 --> 00:17:48,316
I called him up two days after that
happened and I was like, now that you've

454
00:17:48,316 --> 00:17:52,306
had time to process everything, what
you did was wrong, that was wrong.

455
00:17:52,366 --> 00:17:55,759
I told him like how I felt and then that's
when I brought up like wedding stuff.

456
00:17:55,759 --> 00:17:59,996
Like she's acting this way, dad, she
not gonna let you take pictures with me?

457
00:17:59,996 --> 00:18:03,056
Because she's not in them like,
what's gonna happen at the wedding?

458
00:18:03,056 --> 00:18:05,406
I started to bring that up
and he's like, it should be

459
00:18:05,406 --> 00:18:07,146
fine, and all this other stuff.

460
00:18:07,146 --> 00:18:08,406
I'm like, it should be fine.

461
00:18:08,536 --> 00:18:12,256
No, it's going to be fine, because nothing
is maliciously like happening here.

462
00:18:12,393 --> 00:18:13,863
I don't have malicious intent.

463
00:18:13,863 --> 00:18:15,393
I'm not trying to cut her out.

464
00:18:15,529 --> 00:18:19,159
Meanwhile, I invited all of her
friends to come to the wedding because

465
00:18:19,333 --> 00:18:22,186
she is so like, jealous of my mom.

466
00:18:22,299 --> 00:18:26,796
And by the way, my mom has dementia
and doesn't even know what day it is.

467
00:18:26,846 --> 00:18:31,610
her personality is there, but like she
doesn't have the mental capacity to

468
00:18:31,610 --> 00:18:34,026
understand really like what is going on.

469
00:18:34,026 --> 00:18:36,996
So she would never try to make
anybody feel uncomfortable.

470
00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:37,220
Yeah.

471
00:18:37,220 --> 00:18:41,030
She just like cracks jokes and stuff
'cause you know, of the dementia.

472
00:18:41,030 --> 00:18:45,608
So, but my stepmom still has,
a lot of jealousy towards

473
00:18:45,608 --> 00:18:47,708
my mother and other people.

474
00:18:47,891 --> 00:18:48,071
Wow.

475
00:18:48,101 --> 00:18:49,991
So like, that's why I
got into it with him.

476
00:18:49,991 --> 00:18:53,051
'cause I was like, if this is gonna
happen at my wedding, we need to

477
00:18:53,051 --> 00:18:54,881
like nip this in the bud right away.

478
00:18:54,976 --> 00:18:56,971
So, yeah, we were good.

479
00:18:57,184 --> 00:18:59,764
my rest of my family, his own
brothers were like, I can't

480
00:18:59,764 --> 00:19:00,964
believe he uninvited you.

481
00:19:01,006 --> 00:19:02,068
Like, this is crazy.

482
00:19:02,214 --> 00:19:05,424
so fast forward to the rehearsal dinner.

483
00:19:05,608 --> 00:19:10,148
I hadn't really heard much
from El or my dad, before then.

484
00:19:10,148 --> 00:19:14,034
I did text Elle like a couple weeks
before the wedding asking her what

485
00:19:14,034 --> 00:19:16,554
song she wanted to like walk out to.

486
00:19:16,834 --> 00:19:21,184
And she like, you're gonna never walk
down in part of the ceremony or like, in

487
00:19:21,184 --> 00:19:25,294
the reception when they're like, and the
father of the bride and the stepmother,

488
00:19:25,314 --> 00:19:26,711
asked, I wanted to include her.

489
00:19:26,864 --> 00:19:30,508
I wanted her to like, pick the
song and like, I wanted her to

490
00:19:30,508 --> 00:19:32,098
be included in that process.

491
00:19:32,241 --> 00:19:32,331
Mm-hmm.

492
00:19:32,331 --> 00:19:32,391
Yeah.

493
00:19:32,391 --> 00:19:38,131
So, she picked her song and then fast
forward to the rehearsal, I'm setting up.

494
00:19:38,204 --> 00:19:39,614
everything's like chaotic.

495
00:19:39,674 --> 00:19:41,861
My dad and El get there.

496
00:19:41,951 --> 00:19:46,056
I asked him to bring the generator
like a couple days before I forgot

497
00:19:46,056 --> 00:19:49,236
this part, but on the phone when
I asked him that, he like, forgot

498
00:19:49,236 --> 00:19:50,736
that my wedding was that weekend.

499
00:19:51,013 --> 00:19:51,583
for what?

500
00:19:51,783 --> 00:19:53,669
I was like, can I borrow the generator?

501
00:19:53,746 --> 00:19:55,786
because I need it to power.

502
00:19:55,816 --> 00:19:57,646
I think it was like the
DJ booth or something.

503
00:19:57,956 --> 00:20:00,596
he was like, oh yeah, I'm
not busy this weekend.

504
00:20:00,596 --> 00:20:01,556
I can get it over to you.

505
00:20:01,556 --> 00:20:03,326
And I'm like, of course
you're not busy this weekend.

506
00:20:03,326 --> 00:20:03,806
It's my wedding.

507
00:20:03,806 --> 00:20:05,096
He's like, oh, oh yeah.

508
00:20:05,186 --> 00:20:07,253
And I'm like, okay.

509
00:20:07,451 --> 00:20:08,149
That was weird.

510
00:20:08,339 --> 00:20:09,299
so that happened.

511
00:20:09,299 --> 00:20:13,129
Then the rehearsal, he comes in with
the generator with Al. I'm like, hi dad.

512
00:20:13,129 --> 00:20:18,303
Hi Al. They like, are stone cold,
don't even move a muscle in their face.

513
00:20:18,376 --> 00:20:19,396
And they're just like.

514
00:20:19,421 --> 00:20:20,891
This the whole time.

515
00:20:21,148 --> 00:20:21,358
Yeah.

516
00:20:21,358 --> 00:20:23,908
Like just mad, just like
something, I don't know.

517
00:20:23,908 --> 00:20:25,048
At that point I didn't know.

518
00:20:25,191 --> 00:20:28,041
And so I'm like, oh, thank you
for bringing the generator.

519
00:20:28,214 --> 00:20:29,324
can you put it over there?

520
00:20:29,324 --> 00:20:33,791
And then they walked away and then like
people could tell that what happened.

521
00:20:33,821 --> 00:20:35,741
And so they came up to me and
they're like, are you okay?

522
00:20:35,741 --> 00:20:36,791
Like, what just happened there?

523
00:20:36,791 --> 00:20:37,661
And I'm like, I don't know.

524
00:20:37,751 --> 00:20:39,341
I don't have time to
deal with that right now.

525
00:20:39,341 --> 00:20:40,841
I have so many things to set up.

526
00:20:40,921 --> 00:20:43,621
we eat and then we decide
to do the actual rehearsal.

527
00:20:43,621 --> 00:20:47,494
'cause we rented like a property from
our friends, like overlooking a lake.

528
00:20:47,578 --> 00:20:49,078
we just had our own timeline.

529
00:20:49,168 --> 00:20:50,818
So we just like set up a tent.

530
00:20:50,978 --> 00:20:53,982
We had like dinner and then
we did whatever the rehearsal.

531
00:20:54,239 --> 00:20:59,290
So we're getting ready to go, walk down
the aisle and practice all of that.

532
00:20:59,438 --> 00:21:02,685
I'm like ready to start walking
down the aisle and then all of

533
00:21:02,685 --> 00:21:05,535
a sudden I'm like looking and my
dad's like nowhere to be found.

534
00:21:05,658 --> 00:21:09,768
And then I like turn and look and he's
way back there, like across like the tent.

535
00:21:09,768 --> 00:21:11,868
He's just sitting with el by themselves.

536
00:21:12,023 --> 00:21:14,198
And I'm like, are you gonna
walk me down the aisle?

537
00:21:14,295 --> 00:21:16,875
And he like, was like, yeah, yeah.

538
00:21:16,875 --> 00:21:20,771
And he like runs up, walks me down the
aisle and then we practice it again.

539
00:21:20,861 --> 00:21:24,011
he's like very hesitant
to come stand next to me.

540
00:21:24,106 --> 00:21:28,191
And when I asked him to stand like
near like the rest of the bridal

541
00:21:28,191 --> 00:21:30,651
party, my mom was there as well.

542
00:21:30,780 --> 00:21:34,808
He like said no and like ran back down
the other end of the aisle to stand

543
00:21:34,808 --> 00:21:37,125
next to Al. So like he's scared of being

544
00:21:37,125 --> 00:21:38,835
like within six inches of your mom?

545
00:21:39,105 --> 00:21:39,495
Yeah.

546
00:21:39,598 --> 00:21:39,988
Yeah.

547
00:21:40,198 --> 00:21:41,428
Oh my gosh.

548
00:21:41,878 --> 00:21:42,238
Right.

549
00:21:42,538 --> 00:21:45,628
so it sounds like him and Ella been
married for a while or together

550
00:21:45,628 --> 00:21:46,978
for a while now at this point.

551
00:21:46,978 --> 00:21:47,038
Yeah.

552
00:21:47,265 --> 00:21:50,958
it's like some new fling and
your mom and him, no, why

553
00:21:50,958 --> 00:21:52,368
can't you just be like adults?

554
00:21:52,368 --> 00:21:52,728
Right.

555
00:21:52,908 --> 00:21:53,538
Exactly.

556
00:21:53,538 --> 00:21:53,868
Right.

557
00:21:53,868 --> 00:21:54,138
Yeah.

558
00:21:54,248 --> 00:21:56,438
No, they were married for,
at this point, 12 years.

559
00:21:56,438 --> 00:21:59,738
So they had, yeah, plenty
of, plenty of time together.

560
00:21:59,738 --> 00:21:59,948
Yeah.

561
00:21:59,948 --> 00:22:04,228
I'm just, yeah, it just, every time I tell
this story, I'm just like, yeah, I know.

562
00:22:04,228 --> 00:22:05,458
I'm like, yeah, I know.

563
00:22:05,458 --> 00:22:06,118
It's cool.

564
00:22:06,118 --> 00:22:07,378
Cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs.

565
00:22:07,648 --> 00:22:08,848
so that happens.

566
00:22:08,848 --> 00:22:09,499
I we wrap it up.

567
00:22:09,961 --> 00:22:12,794
I'm just overwhelmed by
like, what's going on?

568
00:22:12,794 --> 00:22:14,794
I'm like, I don't feel good about this.

569
00:22:14,794 --> 00:22:15,574
Like, I don't feel good.

570
00:22:15,574 --> 00:22:18,694
the photographer was there 'cause
she wanted to practice and she came

571
00:22:18,694 --> 00:22:21,564
up to me and she's like, just to let
you know, you need to work on your

572
00:22:21,564 --> 00:22:23,424
smile, like to walk down the aisle.

573
00:22:23,454 --> 00:22:25,254
'cause look at these
photos, you look miserable.

574
00:22:25,401 --> 00:22:28,194
And my dad's in the photo and
he's not enjoying his time.

575
00:22:28,194 --> 00:22:30,144
And I'm like, oh my gosh, you're so right.

576
00:22:30,324 --> 00:22:35,721
so I start packing things up, l
and my dad LB lines it to the car.

577
00:22:35,871 --> 00:22:40,908
My dad comes up to me and he's like, l
supposed to be walking down the aisle?

578
00:22:41,081 --> 00:22:42,868
And I'm like, she's not dad.

579
00:22:42,868 --> 00:22:44,008
We just practiced it.

580
00:22:44,008 --> 00:22:46,648
If she was walking down the
aisle, we would've practiced

581
00:22:46,648 --> 00:22:47,758
her walking down the aisle.

582
00:22:47,818 --> 00:22:48,088
Yeah.

583
00:22:48,238 --> 00:22:49,048
And he's like.

584
00:22:49,133 --> 00:22:52,383
Oh, well, I thought she would
be walking down the aisle

585
00:22:52,539 --> 00:22:53,829
or something to that effect.

586
00:22:54,069 --> 00:23:00,203
And before I could answer, my uncle, his
own brother came up and my dad turned

587
00:23:00,203 --> 00:23:03,499
and saw him, and then he was like,
well, anyway, I'll see you tomorrow.

588
00:23:03,559 --> 00:23:06,224
And then he like, oh, before
I did that, I gave him a gift.

589
00:23:06,224 --> 00:23:07,999
Like I was like, this is
for El and this is for you.

590
00:23:07,999 --> 00:23:11,629
I just got like a little plaque for her
that said thank you for being my stepmom.

591
00:23:11,796 --> 00:23:14,459
And for him I had like a little
t-shirt made that said Father

592
00:23:14,459 --> 00:23:18,253
of the bride, and I gave him the
gift to give to her in the car.

593
00:23:18,286 --> 00:23:21,953
And then my uncle comes up and
then he walks away and then say the

594
00:23:21,953 --> 00:23:23,603
same thing in front of his brother.

595
00:23:23,646 --> 00:23:24,096
Yeah.

596
00:23:24,133 --> 00:23:24,493
Yeah.

597
00:23:24,523 --> 00:23:24,973
Weird.

598
00:23:25,003 --> 00:23:29,066
And my uncle, whose name's Matt,
he came up to me and he's like.

599
00:23:29,236 --> 00:23:30,766
Did I hear that correctly?

600
00:23:30,833 --> 00:23:31,793
And I was like, what?

601
00:23:31,793 --> 00:23:33,773
That L's supposed to be
walking down the aisle?

602
00:23:33,849 --> 00:23:35,079
And he's like, yeah.

603
00:23:35,199 --> 00:23:37,119
And I was like, yep, you sure did.

604
00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:39,099
And he's like, that's a bit ridiculous.

605
00:23:39,099 --> 00:23:39,969
And I'm like, I know.

606
00:23:40,173 --> 00:23:42,783
and he's like, you gave her a
gift and she didn't even come

607
00:23:42,783 --> 00:23:44,493
up to you and accept it herself.

608
00:23:44,493 --> 00:23:47,223
And I was like, yeah, I guess
you're right about that.

609
00:23:47,223 --> 00:23:49,173
I'm like my mind's a
million times right now.

610
00:23:49,173 --> 00:23:52,333
Like everything I have to still do
for the wedding, this happening.

611
00:23:52,526 --> 00:23:53,996
all of like, what's going off,

612
00:23:54,061 --> 00:23:54,571
So, yeah.

613
00:23:54,601 --> 00:23:58,168
So what wedding do you go to where
the stepmom, let alone, even like,

614
00:23:58,168 --> 00:24:01,828
the moms don't typically walk
down the aisle, so why get so up

615
00:24:01,828 --> 00:24:03,538
in arms, like offended by that?

616
00:24:03,741 --> 00:24:04,191
I know.

617
00:24:04,291 --> 00:24:06,361
it was mind blowing to me.

618
00:24:06,451 --> 00:24:07,291
Like, I'm like, what?

619
00:24:07,454 --> 00:24:09,758
so fast forward to that night.

620
00:24:09,788 --> 00:24:12,608
We get back, we stayed at a,
like a lake house to get ready.

621
00:24:12,658 --> 00:24:13,888
so we spent the night there.

622
00:24:13,918 --> 00:24:16,878
Me and my bridesmaids, my
bridesmaids all had like an

623
00:24:16,878 --> 00:24:18,408
intervention with me that night.

624
00:24:18,438 --> 00:24:22,448
They were like, Sarah, you
need to stand up for yourself.

625
00:24:22,568 --> 00:24:24,968
you need to stop just
like letting things go.

626
00:24:25,394 --> 00:24:27,071
Tomorrow is your wedding day.

627
00:24:27,268 --> 00:24:30,388
Do you wanna be miserable
walking down the aisle?

628
00:24:30,454 --> 00:24:33,274
and they were all like, it's
so unacceptable the way your

629
00:24:33,274 --> 00:24:35,134
dad and Al treated you tonight.

630
00:24:35,164 --> 00:24:36,294
Like, it's not you.

631
00:24:36,294 --> 00:24:36,954
It's them.

632
00:24:36,954 --> 00:24:39,244
Like, they were like trying to
convince me that I wasn't crazy.

633
00:24:39,439 --> 00:24:41,033
And I was like, yeah, yeah, know.

634
00:24:41,177 --> 00:24:45,527
we made the decision together to
not have my dad walk me down the

635
00:24:45,527 --> 00:24:48,707
aisle and I was gonna have my
Uncle Matt walk me down the aisle.

636
00:24:48,737 --> 00:24:48,767
Okay.

637
00:24:48,877 --> 00:24:51,287
and my uncle Matt has been there for me.

638
00:24:51,287 --> 00:24:52,757
Like, he's like my dad.

639
00:24:52,797 --> 00:24:55,050
I wish my dad was Uncle Matt.

640
00:24:55,055 --> 00:24:55,375
Mm-hmm.

641
00:24:55,530 --> 00:24:57,300
He doesn't have any kids of his own.

642
00:24:57,423 --> 00:25:02,253
And him and I have like this bond that has
just been like so strong since I was born.

643
00:25:02,397 --> 00:25:05,347
And so he was the one when
like, my dad wouldn't be able to

644
00:25:05,347 --> 00:25:06,637
show up to my sporting events.

645
00:25:06,637 --> 00:25:08,017
Like, he was always there.

646
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:11,830
I owned a food truck for like five
years and he showed up to every

647
00:25:11,830 --> 00:25:13,810
single food truck event that I did.

648
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,507
he's really like, the best person ever.

649
00:25:16,717 --> 00:25:16,927
Yeah.

650
00:25:16,957 --> 00:25:21,153
And we almost lost him to COVID a
couple years before and I didn't

651
00:25:21,153 --> 00:25:22,833
think that he was gonna make it.

652
00:25:22,833 --> 00:25:24,033
And so I was like.

653
00:25:24,125 --> 00:25:24,695
You know what?

654
00:25:24,695 --> 00:25:27,095
He's here, he is like a miracle.

655
00:25:27,338 --> 00:25:27,968
And you know what?

656
00:25:27,968 --> 00:25:31,065
I'm gonna have him walk me down the
aisle because I think that's like what

657
00:25:31,065 --> 00:25:32,835
God is telling me to do at this point.

658
00:25:32,835 --> 00:25:33,195
Like mm-hmm.

659
00:25:33,282 --> 00:25:37,258
this is   So the next morning,
we have to go and quickly set up

660
00:25:37,262 --> 00:25:39,072
the little place cards and stuff.

661
00:25:39,212 --> 00:25:44,462
And my bridesmaid, her name in my
book about this is Taylor, but she's

662
00:25:44,462 --> 00:25:46,248
my best friend and her name's Amanda.

663
00:25:46,485 --> 00:25:50,538
She absolutely was like, I will
send a text message to your dad so

664
00:25:50,538 --> 00:25:51,678
you don't have to worry about it.

665
00:25:51,708 --> 00:25:52,608
Whoa.

666
00:25:52,662 --> 00:25:53,030
Yeah.

667
00:25:53,262 --> 00:25:57,138
So she writes, she writes up
a text message, and then she's

668
00:25:57,138 --> 00:25:58,458
like, does this sound good?

669
00:25:58,488 --> 00:25:59,178
And I was like, yeah.

670
00:25:59,178 --> 00:26:02,688
So she basically said like, Hey, she
pretended to be me in the text message.

671
00:26:02,688 --> 00:26:06,105
She was like, Hey, I just wanna
let you know I love you, dad.

672
00:26:06,165 --> 00:26:08,788
This is like nothing personal against you.

673
00:26:08,788 --> 00:26:09,958
I love you so much.

674
00:26:10,245 --> 00:26:13,318
But, unfortunately with everything
that happened yesterday, I've

675
00:26:13,318 --> 00:26:16,978
decided to, make the decision to have
Uncle Matt walk me down the aisle.

676
00:26:17,118 --> 00:26:21,258
I just, I forget what exactly else
was in that note or in that message,

677
00:26:21,258 --> 00:26:25,425
but basically it was like, I love
you and, I still want you there,

678
00:26:25,485 --> 00:26:29,715
and, I just am doing this so that
I can have a great day tomorrow.

679
00:26:29,882 --> 00:26:32,832
So she crafts up that message
and we send it to together.

680
00:26:33,267 --> 00:26:37,521
And then I'm in the chair getting my hair
done and my dad calls me or I say hello.

681
00:26:37,521 --> 00:26:39,204
And he's like, what do you mean?

682
00:26:39,338 --> 00:26:41,141
And I'm like, yeah, dad.

683
00:26:41,331 --> 00:26:42,354
what happened yesterday?

684
00:26:42,354 --> 00:26:45,151
Like I can't be in that
same mindset for my wedding.

685
00:26:45,181 --> 00:26:46,921
This is supposed to be
the best day of my life.

686
00:26:47,044 --> 00:26:49,384
And that definitely didn't
feel like it yesterday.

687
00:26:49,684 --> 00:26:52,298
And so he just went off.

688
00:26:52,388 --> 00:26:56,278
He was like, well, the reason that
I was me and El were like that

689
00:26:56,278 --> 00:27:00,568
yesterday is because we found out
that you and your sister hate El.

690
00:27:00,958 --> 00:27:03,308
And I was like, what?

691
00:27:03,468 --> 00:27:04,248
What?

692
00:27:04,358 --> 00:27:09,301
And then lo and behold, her
biological daughter, Elle's biological

693
00:27:09,301 --> 00:27:12,238
daughter, who was my stepsister, she.

694
00:27:12,399 --> 00:27:19,263
Got into, an argument with El and
she told El that she's self-centered,

695
00:27:19,263 --> 00:27:21,723
always has to have the attention on her.

696
00:27:21,903 --> 00:27:26,179
She like, basically called her out on
everything and then said, everybody

697
00:27:26,179 --> 00:27:31,689
wants your toxic behavior to change,
including Sarah and Katie, who's

698
00:27:31,689 --> 00:27:33,493
my sister, my biological sister.

699
00:27:33,626 --> 00:27:37,796
And so they heard that and they like
took it to the next level and said

700
00:27:37,796 --> 00:27:39,819
like, oh, you guys hate l That's

701
00:27:39,819 --> 00:27:43,913
so well 'cause it's like if someone
heard that like out of nowhere mm-hmm.

702
00:27:44,153 --> 00:27:46,923
Don't you think they'd be like, I
need to talk to them, or like, I need

703
00:27:46,923 --> 00:27:48,363
to like look forward or something.

704
00:27:48,363 --> 00:27:52,593
Not like, be like, well we heard you
hate her, so we're just not gonna show up

705
00:27:52,816 --> 00:27:54,616
we're gonna glare at you the whole time.

706
00:27:54,616 --> 00:27:55,236
Like Right.

707
00:27:55,236 --> 00:27:57,973
It seems so like juvenile to me, right?

708
00:27:58,109 --> 00:27:58,649
Yes.

709
00:27:58,709 --> 00:27:59,189
Yes.

710
00:27:59,369 --> 00:28:00,299
at that point.

711
00:28:00,523 --> 00:28:03,506
I realized when they said that,
I'm like, that's why the last

712
00:28:03,506 --> 00:28:06,259
couple of months have been weird.

713
00:28:06,319 --> 00:28:08,599
And also they have like
barely reached out to me.

714
00:28:08,599 --> 00:28:10,723
So I'm like, oh, okay.

715
00:28:10,959 --> 00:28:14,973
so then the whole phone call is
just him yelling at me and him like

716
00:28:14,973 --> 00:28:19,730
bringing up like everything from the
past, just like saying like basically

717
00:28:19,730 --> 00:28:21,260
how much of a bad person I am.

718
00:28:21,423 --> 00:28:22,383
that was crazy.

719
00:28:22,503 --> 00:28:22,563
Wow.

720
00:28:22,690 --> 00:28:22,970
Yeah.

721
00:28:22,970 --> 00:28:26,953
And just like listening to my dad,
taking stories out of hindsight

722
00:28:26,953 --> 00:28:29,563
and then like reversing them
and basically creating lies.

723
00:28:29,563 --> 00:28:32,300
It was just, sitting there on your
wedding day, like listening to this.

724
00:28:32,300 --> 00:28:35,840
My like, bridesmaids were all in front
of me with me on speaker phone talking

725
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,937
to 'em and they were like, like that.

726
00:28:38,110 --> 00:28:38,200
Oh.

727
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:40,373
And then, Al gets on her phone,

728
00:28:40,373 --> 00:28:40,423
probably has on her phone.

729
00:28:40,587 --> 00:28:41,367
She gets on the phone.

730
00:28:41,603 --> 00:28:42,023
Yeah.

731
00:28:42,223 --> 00:28:42,523
Yeah.

732
00:28:42,762 --> 00:28:45,792
She gets on the phone 'cause he's
like, I think you should talk to her.

733
00:28:45,938 --> 00:28:46,868
And then on your wedding

734
00:28:47,048 --> 00:28:47,258
day,

735
00:28:47,598 --> 00:28:49,038
oh my God, yeah, this is me.

736
00:28:49,038 --> 00:28:49,908
I'm getting my hair done.

737
00:28:49,908 --> 00:28:51,948
The poor hairstylist is in the back.

738
00:28:51,948 --> 00:28:53,182
Like, trying to be cool.

739
00:28:53,212 --> 00:28:55,312
I like had to apologize
to her a million times.

740
00:28:55,312 --> 00:28:56,332
I felt so bad.

741
00:28:56,332 --> 00:28:57,142
I'm like, oh my gosh.

742
00:28:57,355 --> 00:29:02,272
and so Al gets on the phone and
she starts yelling at me and saying

743
00:29:02,272 --> 00:29:04,042
like, oh, I heard what I heard.

744
00:29:04,042 --> 00:29:06,672
And then I'm like, okay, it's not true.

745
00:29:06,672 --> 00:29:08,655
Like, I've never said that I hated you.

746
00:29:08,812 --> 00:29:11,902
You and I both know we've had our
difficulties in the past, meaning like

747
00:29:11,902 --> 00:29:15,112
when they first got married and I like
moved out 'cause I couldn't deal with it.

748
00:29:15,328 --> 00:29:17,958
you and I both had our difficulties
in the past, but I thought like

749
00:29:17,958 --> 00:29:19,248
resolved that kind of thing.

750
00:29:19,498 --> 00:29:24,208
so yeah, I kind of told her that and
then she like went off on me some more

751
00:29:24,375 --> 00:29:28,082
and then my bridesmaid, Amanda came up.

752
00:29:28,263 --> 00:29:33,397
And was like, Sarah, you are not dealing
with this anymore on your wedding day.

753
00:29:33,561 --> 00:29:37,857
And she grabs the phone from me and she
goes in the other room and she says,

754
00:29:37,887 --> 00:29:40,903
you can hear her saying L, hello, L.

755
00:29:40,903 --> 00:29:42,943
And L's still talking like she can't hear.

756
00:29:43,093 --> 00:29:44,293
So she's just going off.

757
00:29:44,383 --> 00:29:45,313
She's just going off.

758
00:29:45,313 --> 00:29:45,613
Yeah.

759
00:29:45,730 --> 00:29:49,375
And she finally, you hear Amanda
go up and then like silence.

760
00:29:49,375 --> 00:29:53,022
And then she's like, Sarah's gonna
walk down the aisle with Matt.

761
00:29:53,165 --> 00:29:59,505
If you have a problem with it, then too
bad you can show up or don't show up.

762
00:29:59,715 --> 00:30:00,975
I don't care.

763
00:30:01,065 --> 00:30:05,598
And then like you hear El hang up and
then Oh, and then you hear, you hear

764
00:30:05,598 --> 00:30:07,908
Amanda just like, that's right bitch.

765
00:30:08,033 --> 00:30:11,672
And then she's like, and
she's like, she's so funny.

766
00:30:11,672 --> 00:30:14,282
She's just like, yeah, and that's
what I thought or whatever.

767
00:30:14,372 --> 00:30:16,742
And then I'm sitting there like shaking.

768
00:30:16,742 --> 00:30:18,842
'cause I'm like, what just happened?

769
00:30:18,847 --> 00:30:18,857
Yeah.

770
00:30:19,090 --> 00:30:20,800
all of my sister's crying.

771
00:30:20,860 --> 00:30:24,383
All of my bridesmaids are I'm like,
feeling so bad for my bridesmaids too.

772
00:30:24,413 --> 00:30:27,562
'cause I'm like, could probably
come from normal families.

773
00:30:27,562 --> 00:30:30,742
Like, you know, they've never seen
this, like in my mind at that time.

774
00:30:30,742 --> 00:30:31,792
I'm like, oh my gosh.

775
00:30:31,882 --> 00:30:34,766
So, He ended up not showing up.

776
00:30:34,886 --> 00:30:38,852
He texted him and my, husband
Bernard were very close.

777
00:30:38,957 --> 00:30:40,457
they would do stuff together all the time.

778
00:30:40,457 --> 00:30:45,494
And he texted Bernard before our wedding
and said, Hey, I'm sorry I can't make it.

779
00:30:45,571 --> 00:30:47,131
And Bernard thought it was a joke.

780
00:30:47,131 --> 00:30:48,811
So like, when we're doing
our first look, but he

781
00:30:48,811 --> 00:30:50,041
doesn't know what's going on.

782
00:30:50,131 --> 00:30:50,371
Yeah.

783
00:30:50,371 --> 00:30:51,751
He doesn't know what's going on.

784
00:30:51,901 --> 00:30:52,321
Oh my.

785
00:30:52,321 --> 00:30:56,801
And so Bernard is like, your dad
is like really bad at dad jokes.

786
00:30:56,981 --> 00:30:59,621
and I'm like, oh no, that's not a joke.

787
00:30:59,771 --> 00:31:01,181
And then he was like, what?

788
00:31:01,181 --> 00:31:01,761
And I'm like, yeah.

789
00:31:02,388 --> 00:31:03,438
He's not coming.

790
00:31:03,618 --> 00:31:04,428
he's not coming.

791
00:31:04,604 --> 00:31:05,474
he didn't show up.

792
00:31:05,504 --> 00:31:09,477
And, none of her, friends, like I
had a whole table not show up because

793
00:31:09,477 --> 00:31:12,627
all of, she like told all of her
friends not to show up to the wedding.

794
00:31:12,740 --> 00:31:15,957
Her friend, her best
friend's son was our dj.

795
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:17,164
and he showed up.

796
00:31:17,357 --> 00:31:21,634
but because he knows l and he
came up to me and he is like, I'm

797
00:31:21,634 --> 00:31:23,224
really sorry what you went through.

798
00:31:23,254 --> 00:31:24,964
My mom told me what happened.

799
00:31:25,214 --> 00:31:29,054
he's like telling the story of way that
she heard it, which was not accurate,

800
00:31:29,197 --> 00:31:31,454
but he's like, I know wasn't it.

801
00:31:31,484 --> 00:31:34,294
'cause he's like, El did the
same thing at my wedding.

802
00:31:34,444 --> 00:31:35,374
he told me that like.

803
00:31:35,528 --> 00:31:39,412
He like, I guess like yelled at his
wife at the wedding or something.

804
00:31:39,412 --> 00:31:39,982
I don't know.

805
00:31:39,982 --> 00:31:41,842
But like at the time I was like, what?

806
00:31:41,842 --> 00:31:44,422
Like, I'm like sitting there at
dinner when the DJ comes up to

807
00:31:44,422 --> 00:31:45,901
me and I'm like, she did what?

808
00:31:46,351 --> 00:31:48,317
So it kind of made me feel better though.

809
00:31:48,347 --> 00:31:51,234
'cause I was like, oh my gosh, at
least I'm not the only one, like that

810
00:31:51,234 --> 00:31:53,784
sees her side like her true side.

811
00:31:53,814 --> 00:31:58,354
Because for a while, I would like my whole
family, like my sister and my uncles and

812
00:31:58,354 --> 00:32:04,767
I were not separated, but like I would
be on like my dad and ELs side side.

813
00:32:04,917 --> 00:32:07,753
I don't wanna say like that, but like,
basically I would go over there for

814
00:32:07,753 --> 00:32:11,083
holidays and then I would show up later
to the rest of the family's holiday.

815
00:32:11,083 --> 00:32:13,660
'cause they didn't have holidays
together 'cause they didn't get along.

816
00:32:13,752 --> 00:32:17,205
And so I'm like, was like the middle
ground and like they were trying to

817
00:32:17,205 --> 00:32:21,165
tell me like all the things that like
weren't acceptable by my dad and El.

818
00:32:21,165 --> 00:32:23,205
And then finally like, I
was like, you know what?

819
00:32:23,435 --> 00:32:24,665
I see what they're saying now.

820
00:32:25,362 --> 00:32:26,472
I see what's going on.

821
00:32:26,472 --> 00:32:28,002
This is very toxic behavior.

822
00:32:28,002 --> 00:32:31,398
And after that I realized
that's very narcissistic.

823
00:32:31,398 --> 00:32:35,088
I didn't really know Narciss, like
I've heard the term narcissist before

824
00:32:35,088 --> 00:32:39,402
and I've like seen like in like
relationships, like where the guy is like

825
00:32:39,402 --> 00:32:41,472
a narcissist to the girl, like girlfriend.

826
00:32:41,605 --> 00:32:44,668
But I've never seen it like
parent, like parent wise.

827
00:32:44,852 --> 00:32:47,432
And I am like, oh, well, nope, that's it.

828
00:32:47,882 --> 00:32:48,302
You know?

829
00:32:48,422 --> 00:32:48,692
Yeah.

830
00:32:48,692 --> 00:32:53,478
And the fact that she instantly made it
like victim mode where like you said,

831
00:32:53,478 --> 00:32:55,038
you don't like me, so you're terrible.

832
00:32:55,038 --> 00:32:55,878
Not like.

833
00:32:56,027 --> 00:32:58,607
Not understanding that like
maybe someone doesn't like you

834
00:32:58,607 --> 00:33:00,377
because of how you treat them.

835
00:33:00,377 --> 00:33:00,467
Yes.

836
00:33:00,617 --> 00:33:03,510
Like she can't look inward to
be like, how have I treated 'em?

837
00:33:03,510 --> 00:33:03,600
Yes.

838
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:07,250
And then for your dad to just go along
with it and just be like, well, she

839
00:33:07,250 --> 00:33:09,230
said so I'm just gonna go with her.

840
00:33:09,230 --> 00:33:11,947
It's like, this is your daughter
and your daughter's wedding.

841
00:33:12,247 --> 00:33:12,607
Yeah.

842
00:33:12,727 --> 00:33:13,237
I know.

843
00:33:13,237 --> 00:33:17,947
And I am convinced, he's like brainwashed,
I guess is the best word for it.

844
00:33:18,037 --> 00:33:21,626
my husband always says too, like, he's the
one that has to live with her every day.

845
00:33:21,686 --> 00:33:25,660
And unfortunately, he's
probably picking his battles.

846
00:33:25,660 --> 00:33:29,726
Like, is he gonna go against his wife
that he has to deal with every day?

847
00:33:29,853 --> 00:33:31,436
Who knows what she's capable of?

848
00:33:31,611 --> 00:33:31,650
Yeah.

849
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:35,730
Or is he gonna like side with his daughter
who like, doesn't see him like that

850
00:33:35,730 --> 00:33:40,766
often, And so it's really sad to say
it like that, but he like had a point.

851
00:33:40,766 --> 00:33:42,326
I was like, yeah, that's, that's true.

852
00:33:42,386 --> 00:33:45,190
I guess, but not, yeah,
it's not either way.

853
00:33:45,190 --> 00:33:45,250
Yeah.

854
00:33:45,580 --> 00:33:46,090
Yeah.

855
00:33:46,090 --> 00:33:46,180
It's

856
00:33:46,180 --> 00:33:46,630
not great.

857
00:33:46,630 --> 00:33:47,740
It's not okay either way.

858
00:33:47,740 --> 00:33:48,520
It's right.

859
00:33:48,700 --> 00:33:48,940
Yeah.

860
00:33:48,940 --> 00:33:53,370
I feel like it's like, on the outside,
it's, it's easier for, not easy, but like

861
00:33:53,370 --> 00:33:57,255
for us to look at it and be like, all
right, I guess, that's the situation,

862
00:33:57,255 --> 00:33:59,665
but, if my, partner was telling me, uh.

863
00:33:59,665 --> 00:34:03,055
That about my daughter or like,
you know, I'd be like, excuse me.

864
00:34:03,055 --> 00:34:03,475
You know?

865
00:34:03,475 --> 00:34:03,535
Yeah.

866
00:34:03,565 --> 00:34:05,015
Like, yeah, I don't know.

867
00:34:05,015 --> 00:34:08,144
I always, I always wonder about stories
like that because I'm like, it breaks my

868
00:34:08,144 --> 00:34:11,874
heart when they like get, like you said,
brainwashed by someone and it's like, what

869
00:34:11,874 --> 00:34:15,500
does she have that's so great that like,
you can't see everybody else in front of

870
00:34:15,500 --> 00:34:17,603
you saying she's the problem over here.

871
00:34:17,836 --> 00:34:19,126
Yeah, exactly.

872
00:34:19,295 --> 00:34:23,039
I really don't know what it is other
than the fact that like, when they

873
00:34:23,039 --> 00:34:26,609
first got together, like when my dad
and her first got together, things were

874
00:34:26,609 --> 00:34:30,055
a little rough because like, my dad
was actually in the middle of dating

875
00:34:30,055 --> 00:34:34,434
someone who had cancer and she was
like stage four he didn't want to like.

876
00:34:34,829 --> 00:34:36,599
I guess he was like a coward in that way.

877
00:34:36,599 --> 00:34:38,489
Like he didn't wanna
break it off with her.

878
00:34:38,701 --> 00:34:41,724
there's so many little stories to
that that's like a whole nother hour.

879
00:34:41,724 --> 00:34:45,416
But basically I guess Elle had
trust issues coming into that

880
00:34:45,416 --> 00:34:48,746
relationship because they got married
so fast and she didn't realize

881
00:34:48,746 --> 00:34:50,516
like everything that was going on.

882
00:34:50,689 --> 00:34:55,562
And so what I think is happening is
that like he married her legally and

883
00:34:55,615 --> 00:34:58,211
realized how like kind of crazy she is.

884
00:34:58,507 --> 00:35:01,987
possibly is scared that like she'll
take everything from him if he like

885
00:35:01,987 --> 00:35:03,697
divorces her and stuff like that.

886
00:35:03,697 --> 00:35:04,583
I've thought about that.

887
00:35:04,636 --> 00:35:07,889
me and my uncles talk about like
things like that, but I don't know.

888
00:35:07,925 --> 00:35:11,557
I don't know why my dad,
is like that at all.

889
00:35:11,837 --> 00:35:12,167
Yeah.

890
00:35:12,404 --> 00:35:12,524
Yeah.

891
00:35:12,524 --> 00:35:16,864
I guess we never really fully know or
always know the full story, but Yeah.

892
00:35:16,869 --> 00:35:16,989
Yeah.

893
00:35:17,045 --> 00:35:17,375
Wow.

894
00:35:17,435 --> 00:35:17,795
Yeah.

895
00:35:18,005 --> 00:35:22,745
So that kind of inspired your first
book or not inspired, that's partially

896
00:35:22,745 --> 00:35:24,455
in your book, invisible string.

897
00:35:24,855 --> 00:35:26,385
so there's two parts to it.

898
00:35:26,385 --> 00:35:29,085
So this one that I showed
earlier is my first book.

899
00:35:29,085 --> 00:35:32,965
This is the one like about like how my
husband and I met each other and how

900
00:35:32,965 --> 00:35:36,431
like we've always been connected since
we were little and we didn't know it.

901
00:35:36,588 --> 00:35:38,358
so this is more of like a feel good book.

902
00:35:38,388 --> 00:35:42,491
The second book I don't have in here, it's
the invisible string too, and that's where

903
00:35:42,491 --> 00:35:44,351
all the drama happens with my wedding.

904
00:35:44,351 --> 00:35:44,801
So.

905
00:35:44,981 --> 00:35:45,221
Okay.

906
00:35:45,231 --> 00:35:48,891
and this book, I start, it's like my
journal entries and I start talking

907
00:35:48,891 --> 00:35:52,435
about wedding planning in this book
and then it carries on to the second

908
00:35:52,435 --> 00:35:54,265
book where my actual wedding happens.

909
00:35:54,265 --> 00:35:56,155
And it's like all the drama from that.

910
00:35:56,155 --> 00:36:00,125
So you can see like into my mind,
my journal entries are in there

911
00:36:00,125 --> 00:36:02,151
of like when it happened and yeah.

912
00:36:02,151 --> 00:36:04,371
And unfortunately my dad still hasn't.

913
00:36:04,566 --> 00:36:05,856
Talk to any of us.

914
00:36:05,856 --> 00:36:07,986
Like he cut off contact with me.

915
00:36:07,986 --> 00:36:11,482
My sister, my uncles,
he cut off everybody.

916
00:36:11,837 --> 00:36:13,453
And I've wrote him letters.

917
00:36:13,507 --> 00:36:15,097
I've done a lot of healing.

918
00:36:15,340 --> 00:36:17,803
I've debated the no
contact thing for a while.

919
00:36:17,803 --> 00:36:19,313
And then, decided, you know what?

920
00:36:19,313 --> 00:36:23,350
I, I think talking is always
the best Communication's, always

921
00:36:23,350 --> 00:36:24,916
the best communication is key.

922
00:36:24,916 --> 00:36:27,406
We wouldn't be here, we wouldn't
be in this predicament if they

923
00:36:27,406 --> 00:36:30,286
just communicated with me and
asked me like, did you say that?

924
00:36:30,286 --> 00:36:31,436
Or like, whatever.

925
00:36:31,436 --> 00:36:31,526
Right?

926
00:36:31,643 --> 00:36:34,013
So I was like, you know
what, I'm gonna do that.

927
00:36:34,013 --> 00:36:37,425
She wrote a letter, didn't hear back,
have called him, haven't heard back.

928
00:36:37,765 --> 00:36:39,805
I'm just like kind of on
my own healing journey.

929
00:36:39,905 --> 00:36:43,288
I've been really in my healing
journey this past year, but now

930
00:36:43,288 --> 00:36:47,015
it's like getting to the point where
it's like, all right, I'm good now.

931
00:36:47,129 --> 00:36:50,279
you know what, I'm no contact
from his side, I guess.

932
00:36:50,279 --> 00:36:51,989
And, it's his loss at this point.

933
00:36:52,252 --> 00:36:52,702
Yeah.

934
00:36:52,702 --> 00:36:52,722
You know?

935
00:36:52,906 --> 00:36:53,236
Yeah.

936
00:36:53,236 --> 00:36:54,076
So true.

937
00:36:54,076 --> 00:36:58,156
and it sounds like at least you have, your
uncle Matt and your sister and you know,

938
00:36:58,156 --> 00:37:01,919
and you, people around you that support
you and love you and not saying any of

939
00:37:01,919 --> 00:37:05,939
that's gonna fill a void or whatever, but
I'm sure it's like helping with the peace

940
00:37:05,939 --> 00:37:10,246
of like, okay, I have Uncle Matt who's
been a father figure my whole life and

941
00:37:10,251 --> 00:37:10,491
Yeah.

942
00:37:10,966 --> 00:37:15,536
And it really is your dad's loss because
that's just, it's disappointing on so many

943
00:37:15,536 --> 00:37:20,832
levels that someone can be brainwashed so
easily and forget their family like that.

944
00:37:20,892 --> 00:37:21,192
Yeah.

945
00:37:21,372 --> 00:37:21,762
Yeah.

946
00:37:21,929 --> 00:37:25,919
And what is really like a positive
experience out of this is that by

947
00:37:25,919 --> 00:37:29,669
sharing my story, and I did a whole
skit on my book, I turned both of my

948
00:37:29,669 --> 00:37:31,979
books into skits, like long form skits.

949
00:37:32,156 --> 00:37:36,362
What's really positive about it is like
how many other people who have gone

950
00:37:36,362 --> 00:37:41,879
through the same thing and they are like,
you really, made light of something that

951
00:37:41,879 --> 00:37:46,722
I didn't even know that was like, that
was like an option that I could like do.

952
00:37:46,722 --> 00:37:48,342
Or, they didn't feel alone.

953
00:37:48,372 --> 00:37:49,782
I keep getting messages like that.

954
00:37:49,782 --> 00:37:51,522
I don't feel alone in this.

955
00:37:51,609 --> 00:37:54,099
I thought I was going crazy,
but I'm not the only one.

956
00:37:54,199 --> 00:37:58,239
And it's really nice to hear those
messages that, my books have helped

957
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:00,496
people and, they can relate to them.

958
00:38:00,526 --> 00:38:02,356
'cause it makes me feel less alone too.

959
00:38:02,356 --> 00:38:06,159
Like, oh my gosh, I'm not the only one
that goes through this traumatic stuff.

960
00:38:06,159 --> 00:38:10,255
especially during like a wedding, you the
wedding for me was like such a big deal.

961
00:38:10,255 --> 00:38:13,255
Like I was so excited to plan my
wedding and then like all of this

962
00:38:13,255 --> 00:38:17,172
happened it was like, okay, it was
like kind of a wake up call for me.

963
00:38:17,202 --> 00:38:20,958
'cause I was like, maybe I put
too much like, what's the word?

964
00:38:20,958 --> 00:38:22,128
Like expectations?

965
00:38:22,128 --> 00:38:22,518
Yeah.

966
00:38:22,805 --> 00:38:27,415
On my wedding and like maybe that it
allowed me to be grateful to be in

967
00:38:27,415 --> 00:38:31,105
like, the present moment and to really
value like my actual friendships and

968
00:38:31,105 --> 00:38:32,755
the relationships that I did have.

969
00:38:33,025 --> 00:38:34,945
my bridesmaids who came to bat for me.

970
00:38:34,945 --> 00:38:36,175
They were all there for me.

971
00:38:36,225 --> 00:38:39,465
I may not have had a dad walk me
down the aisle, but I had my uncle

972
00:38:39,465 --> 00:38:41,115
Matt and my girl show up for me.

973
00:38:41,115 --> 00:38:45,776
And that like, really made me realize
how grateful, I should be for all of them

974
00:38:45,776 --> 00:38:47,883
and how thankful I am for all of them.

975
00:38:48,036 --> 00:38:48,456
Yeah.

976
00:38:48,456 --> 00:38:51,336
It's like, I feel like we hear a lot
of times like in these big events that,

977
00:38:51,599 --> 00:38:53,309
People show their true colors, right?

978
00:38:53,309 --> 00:38:57,537
And so, like, people that are jealous
of you or people that have animosity

979
00:38:57,537 --> 00:39:00,554
towards you, it will show in these
like high tension moments, right?

980
00:39:00,844 --> 00:39:03,604
And so with them, yeah, it
showed, it really showed,

981
00:39:03,604 --> 00:39:04,894
and they could not handle it.

982
00:39:04,894 --> 00:39:04,984
Mm-hmm.

983
00:39:05,224 --> 00:39:07,724
But everyone else, we don't talk
about enough about like, or it

984
00:39:07,724 --> 00:39:10,874
shows that it lifts people up and
it shows the positive people in

985
00:39:10,921 --> 00:39:12,790
and influences your life as well.

986
00:39:12,790 --> 00:39:15,827
So I feel like, that's something we were
saying too before recording, is I feel

987
00:39:15,827 --> 00:39:20,594
like these stories allow people to connect
and also like learn from them or mm-hmm.

988
00:39:20,697 --> 00:39:22,257
see it from a different perspective.

989
00:39:22,257 --> 00:39:24,297
Like maybe the dad, a dad.

990
00:39:24,297 --> 00:39:26,907
And another story is watching
your story and being like,

991
00:39:26,937 --> 00:39:28,377
oh my gosh, I was an idiot.

992
00:39:28,377 --> 00:39:28,467
Mm-hmm.

993
00:39:28,750 --> 00:39:28,960
Yeah.

994
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:30,460
I'm gonna go talk to my daughter.

995
00:39:30,597 --> 00:39:35,017
I was too, because I've had moms
message me like mom's, I should say.

996
00:39:35,017 --> 00:39:36,587
Like, that would be like my parents' age.

997
00:39:36,837 --> 00:39:37,527
grandmother's.

998
00:39:37,777 --> 00:39:40,207
They'll message me and they'll be
like, when I first saw your content,

999
00:39:40,207 --> 00:39:42,547
like some of it, like, not offended
them, but they'd be like, oh, it

1000
00:39:42,547 --> 00:39:43,687
made me like think a little bit.

1001
00:39:43,687 --> 00:39:46,447
And they're like, but I've learned so
much about like how to like communicate

1002
00:39:46,447 --> 00:39:50,197
with my adult children and how to do this
differently and how when I'm overstepping.

1003
00:39:50,257 --> 00:39:52,781
And like I've got like a heartfelt
message that was thank you for that.

1004
00:39:52,781 --> 00:39:54,461
And I was like, I never
even realized that.

1005
00:39:54,594 --> 00:39:58,237
So you could think maybe I'm helping
another woman in this situation.

1006
00:39:58,237 --> 00:40:01,581
Or maybe like someone else is
watching, being like, oh my gosh, I'm

1007
00:40:01,581 --> 00:40:03,231
not gonna be the toxic stepmother.

1008
00:40:03,231 --> 00:40:04,761
I wanna be more encouraging.

1009
00:40:04,811 --> 00:40:07,301
So yes, there's a lot
that could come from it.

1010
00:40:07,551 --> 00:40:07,881
Yeah.

1011
00:40:07,881 --> 00:40:08,711
That is so true.

1012
00:40:08,711 --> 00:40:10,511
I actually never thought of it that way.

1013
00:40:10,511 --> 00:40:14,501
Like I never thought about that part
of like someone who is maybe the

1014
00:40:14,501 --> 00:40:18,881
toxic mother-in-law or the toxic
father or the bridezilla, like

1015
00:40:18,881 --> 00:40:20,291
watching our skits and being like.

1016
00:40:20,479 --> 00:40:24,506
I just did that and maybe I need to
change, like you're totally right

1017
00:40:24,506 --> 00:40:26,246
and I hope that that does happen.

1018
00:40:26,246 --> 00:40:29,103
I I would love to hear stories like
that actually, where they're like,

1019
00:40:29,128 --> 00:40:32,523
oh, I realized that this happened
and it made me be a better person.

1020
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,984
Yeah, think about like when things happen
in real life, you know, it's so much more

1021
00:40:35,984 --> 00:40:38,354
like nuanced, but you see something on tv.

1022
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:38,570
Mm-hmm.

1023
00:40:38,810 --> 00:40:40,520
And you're like, oh my
God, that's outrageous.

1024
00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:41,300
I would never do that.

1025
00:40:41,300 --> 00:40:43,988
But then you like kind you can
be like, oh, but you kinda like

1026
00:40:43,988 --> 00:40:45,008
relate it to your own life.

1027
00:40:45,008 --> 00:40:47,168
So I feel like if we're
able to see it play out in a

1028
00:40:47,168 --> 00:40:48,248
different way, we're like, wait.

1029
00:40:48,431 --> 00:40:48,701
Yeah.

1030
00:40:48,828 --> 00:40:49,218
Yeah.

1031
00:40:49,344 --> 00:40:49,854
Right.

1032
00:40:49,854 --> 00:40:50,694
Yeah, I know.

1033
00:40:50,694 --> 00:40:51,294
And I feel like.

1034
00:40:51,454 --> 00:40:54,964
I know like when you do your skits and
when I do my skits, we like we're very

1035
00:40:54,964 --> 00:40:59,646
much like with, very detailed with
the dialogue and so like I've gotten

1036
00:40:59,646 --> 00:41:03,486
that comment before where people are
like, oh my gosh, my mother-in-law or

1037
00:41:03,486 --> 00:41:07,732
whoever has said like the same exact
thing to me or something like that.

1038
00:41:07,742 --> 00:41:10,262
it's cool to like flip that
around and being like, I wonder if

1039
00:41:10,262 --> 00:41:12,062
people who are in those positions.

1040
00:41:12,261 --> 00:41:17,264
Hear what we say in our skits and think
I just said that exact same sentence,

1041
00:41:17,264 --> 00:41:19,154
maybe I need to change kind of thing.

1042
00:41:19,154 --> 00:41:21,471
So yeah, like, oh, I didn't
realize that was so toxic

1043
00:41:21,471 --> 00:41:22,251
to say, or,

1044
00:41:22,401 --> 00:41:22,791
yeah.

1045
00:41:23,061 --> 00:41:23,481
Yeah,

1046
00:41:23,586 --> 00:41:23,876
yeah.

1047
00:41:23,881 --> 00:41:24,001
Yeah.

1048
00:41:24,331 --> 00:41:27,629
I think there's a lot of learning that
comes out of the skits, oh yeah, for sure.

1049
00:41:27,839 --> 00:41:28,199
Yeah.

1050
00:41:28,204 --> 00:41:28,979
Oh yeah.

1051
00:41:28,994 --> 00:41:29,717
I think so too.

1052
00:41:29,807 --> 00:41:31,247
Thanks for sharing that.

1053
00:41:31,247 --> 00:41:33,934
I know that was like, I'm sure
that's a lot to like go through and

1054
00:41:33,934 --> 00:41:35,404
retell, but I think that's awesome.

1055
00:41:35,404 --> 00:41:35,464
Yeah.

1056
00:41:35,881 --> 00:41:37,321
Send me the links to your books too.

1057
00:41:37,321 --> 00:41:39,443
We'll talk about it after, but
like, and we'll put the links

1058
00:41:39,443 --> 00:41:40,793
to your books in the show notes.

1059
00:41:40,976 --> 00:41:44,817
I feel like listeners would love
your book as well, because like,

1060
00:41:44,817 --> 00:41:46,647
they love the romantic stories.

1061
00:41:46,647 --> 00:41:47,937
They love like the drama.

1062
00:41:47,937 --> 00:41:48,837
They love a good mix.

1063
00:41:48,837 --> 00:41:50,277
So definitely share those with me.

1064
00:41:50,457 --> 00:41:50,847
We'll put them.

1065
00:41:50,907 --> 00:41:50,937
Okay.

1066
00:41:51,117 --> 00:41:52,407
Yeah, absolutely.

1067
00:41:52,771 --> 00:41:55,863
okay, before we get to
the follower submission.

1068
00:41:56,076 --> 00:41:56,736
Why am I saying that?

1069
00:41:56,736 --> 00:41:57,816
Weird story submissions.

1070
00:41:57,953 --> 00:42:00,229
so this is Red flag versus green flag.

1071
00:42:00,349 --> 00:42:00,589
here we go.

1072
00:42:00,953 --> 00:42:05,183
The groom's sister demands to be a
bridesmaid even though she constantly

1073
00:42:05,183 --> 00:42:06,683
argues with the maid of honor.

1074
00:42:07,639 --> 00:42:07,699
Ooh.

1075
00:42:07,999 --> 00:42:08,479
Yeah.

1076
00:42:08,479 --> 00:42:11,153
I would say that's a red flag for sure.

1077
00:42:11,463 --> 00:42:12,963
but like we were saying earlier.

1078
00:42:13,093 --> 00:42:15,193
there's always two sides to every story.

1079
00:42:15,299 --> 00:42:18,629
And this is like the stuff that
I take, and I'm like, let's think

1080
00:42:18,629 --> 00:42:20,609
about it from both perspectives.

1081
00:42:20,709 --> 00:42:24,166
at first you present a skit to
be like, the sister of the groom

1082
00:42:24,166 --> 00:42:27,883
demands like to be a bridesmaid
but argues with the maid of honor.

1083
00:42:27,883 --> 00:42:31,476
But the maid of honor, you show like
the other side of what's really going

1084
00:42:31,476 --> 00:42:34,891
on and like maybe the maid of honor
is doing some evil stuff or whatever.

1085
00:42:34,891 --> 00:42:36,761
Some like how I would
flip it would be like.

1086
00:42:36,935 --> 00:42:40,865
the groom sister is actually trying
to save the wedding because the maid

1087
00:42:40,865 --> 00:42:43,865
of honor is trying to like, sabotage
ITT or, or something like that.

1088
00:42:43,865 --> 00:42:44,435
Yes.

1089
00:42:44,631 --> 00:42:48,061
It's all about how you
word it for No, totally.

1090
00:42:48,258 --> 00:42:48,378
Yeah.

1091
00:42:48,378 --> 00:42:51,268
I've even had skits where people
like, hate one character at

1092
00:42:51,268 --> 00:42:52,868
first, I see their comments.

1093
00:42:52,898 --> 00:42:53,858
I'm like, oh, just wait.

1094
00:42:53,888 --> 00:42:54,428
Just wait.

1095
00:42:54,428 --> 00:42:55,298
They're gonna find out.

1096
00:42:55,468 --> 00:42:58,048
And then I'll like completely twist
it and they're like, wait, what?

1097
00:42:58,108 --> 00:42:58,678
Oh my gosh.

1098
00:42:58,678 --> 00:43:01,478
I thought I liked, because I'm just
like, you never know from, mm-hmm.

1099
00:43:02,048 --> 00:43:02,228
Look.

1100
00:43:02,378 --> 00:43:03,008
Yes.

1101
00:43:03,165 --> 00:43:04,155
Oh my gosh, that's so funny.

1102
00:43:04,401 --> 00:43:04,581
okay.

1103
00:43:04,581 --> 00:43:09,051
A bridesmaid insists on bringing her
toddler to every pre-wedding event,

1104
00:43:09,081 --> 00:43:11,001
even though the bride said No kids.

1105
00:43:11,408 --> 00:43:12,188
Red flag.

1106
00:43:13,448 --> 00:43:13,898
Yeah.

1107
00:43:13,995 --> 00:43:18,798
Like we said earlier, if it's like a one
off thing, like, oh, I Sit or canceled or

1108
00:43:18,798 --> 00:43:20,725
whatever, I'd be like, yeah, that's fine.

1109
00:43:20,775 --> 00:43:25,078
I think my baby shower and bridal shower,
I kids or whoever wanted to bring their

1110
00:43:25,078 --> 00:43:26,831
kitchen to come of course, but mm-hmm.

1111
00:43:26,900 --> 00:43:27,140
Yeah.

1112
00:43:27,495 --> 00:43:30,958
Every wedding event, and they're like,
oh, can't, they're just coming with me.

1113
00:43:30,958 --> 00:43:31,738
It's like, okay.

1114
00:43:31,738 --> 00:43:32,038
Yeah.

1115
00:43:32,728 --> 00:43:33,058
Yeah.

1116
00:43:33,118 --> 00:43:35,975
Especially if it's every time
like, oh, disregarding the

1117
00:43:35,975 --> 00:43:37,355
bride's feelings for everything.

1118
00:43:37,355 --> 00:43:40,635
I'm just gonna bring them because
I didn't plan ahead or whatever.

1119
00:43:40,665 --> 00:43:40,995
Yeah.

1120
00:43:41,085 --> 00:43:41,445
Yeah,

1121
00:43:42,255 --> 00:43:42,975
exactly.

1122
00:43:43,135 --> 00:43:47,245
the Maid of Honor gives a 10 minute
speech that turns into a story about her

1123
00:43:47,245 --> 00:43:49,405
breakup and how she learned to love again.

1124
00:43:49,588 --> 00:43:50,848
Oh, red flag.

1125
00:43:51,343 --> 00:43:51,403
Oh

1126
00:43:52,483 --> 00:43:52,873
gosh.

1127
00:43:53,023 --> 00:43:55,558
Like mattered What way You look
at that, that's a red flag.

1128
00:43:55,791 --> 00:43:56,571
10 minute speech.

1129
00:43:56,571 --> 00:43:57,111
Red flag.

1130
00:43:58,491 --> 00:43:59,331
No, I'm just kidding.

1131
00:43:59,511 --> 00:44:01,971
My sister actually gave
like a 10 minute speech.

1132
00:44:02,001 --> 00:44:03,711
It wasn't like that, it wasn't like that.

1133
00:44:03,711 --> 00:44:06,981
But she gave a 10 minute speech that
was like, talking about all of our

1134
00:44:06,981 --> 00:44:09,021
like memories and stuff at the wedding.

1135
00:44:09,191 --> 00:44:12,931
she did that because she added on more
after like, the whole thing blew up.

1136
00:44:12,931 --> 00:44:15,901
So she was like, let's
make this like a good vibe.

1137
00:44:15,901 --> 00:44:17,851
Like remember all the good
memories kind of thing.

1138
00:44:17,851 --> 00:44:18,271
So

1139
00:44:18,331 --> 00:44:18,811
yes.

1140
00:44:18,811 --> 00:44:19,351
No, that's good.

1141
00:44:19,351 --> 00:44:22,801
That's, you need someone like that that's
gonna like really like think on their

1142
00:44:22,801 --> 00:44:25,098
feet and flip their vibe completely.

1143
00:44:25,318 --> 00:44:27,728
I've definitely heard of a
few like situations like that.

1144
00:44:27,978 --> 00:44:29,418
okay, last one.

1145
00:44:29,604 --> 00:44:34,044
The photographer rearranges the
entire timeline because they know

1146
00:44:34,044 --> 00:44:35,544
what works best for lighting.

1147
00:44:35,784 --> 00:44:36,204
Oh.

1148
00:44:36,488 --> 00:44:36,788
I would

1149
00:44:36,788 --> 00:44:39,344
say red flag at first.

1150
00:44:39,488 --> 00:44:39,848
Yeah.

1151
00:44:39,878 --> 00:44:40,058
Yeah.

1152
00:44:40,058 --> 00:44:41,138
Red flag probably.

1153
00:44:41,138 --> 00:44:42,378
But yeah, red flag.

1154
00:44:42,458 --> 00:44:47,048
I'm thinking about like putting the time
into like my timeline and I'm like, if

1155
00:44:47,048 --> 00:44:49,028
anybody changed that, I would be so upset.

1156
00:44:49,028 --> 00:44:49,418
So, yeah.

1157
00:44:49,423 --> 00:44:49,433
Yeah.

1158
00:44:49,524 --> 00:44:50,244
Red flag.

1159
00:44:50,484 --> 00:44:51,864
See, I cares about the lighting.

1160
00:44:52,404 --> 00:44:55,544
I have a weird, perspective
on this one is because, okay.

1161
00:44:55,544 --> 00:44:59,438
My photographer did my timeline,
so before the wedding, oh.

1162
00:44:59,648 --> 00:45:02,048
Like I could finalize some
stuff, but like, we did, like,

1163
00:45:02,048 --> 00:45:03,521
my photographer was amazing.

1164
00:45:03,521 --> 00:45:07,181
I don't even know if photographers did
this, but we sat on the call for probably

1165
00:45:07,181 --> 00:45:10,748
like two hours, an hour and a half,
putting the whole timeline together.

1166
00:45:10,748 --> 00:45:13,498
And she's like, okay, these photos,
if your wedding's at, I think it

1167
00:45:13,498 --> 00:45:16,918
was like we had an early wedding,
three 30 or four 30, I think four 30.

1168
00:45:17,220 --> 00:45:18,491
She was like, then we
should do photos here.

1169
00:45:18,658 --> 00:45:19,828
Your couple's photos here.

1170
00:45:19,991 --> 00:45:21,581
If we want nighttime
photos, they should be here.

1171
00:45:21,581 --> 00:45:23,381
So like, we kind like planned around it.

1172
00:45:23,511 --> 00:45:23,751
Oh, okay.

1173
00:45:23,751 --> 00:45:26,223
But, so yeah, I was like, so
If she moved it, I'd be like,

1174
00:45:26,223 --> 00:45:27,283
okay, You know what you're doing.

1175
00:45:27,283 --> 00:45:27,493
Yeah.

1176
00:45:27,669 --> 00:45:28,089
Okay.

1177
00:45:28,353 --> 00:45:28,653
Okay.

1178
00:45:28,653 --> 00:45:31,489
Yeah, see that would be green
flag like that whole thing.

1179
00:45:31,609 --> 00:45:33,869
That's really awesome that
your photographer did that.

1180
00:45:33,869 --> 00:45:34,409
That's amazing.

1181
00:45:34,744 --> 00:45:34,947
I know.

1182
00:45:34,947 --> 00:45:37,833
yeah, I don't think that's typical, but
she was like, I always get together with

1183
00:45:37,863 --> 00:45:42,329
my bride and groom the week before and
we just go over the full timeline and she

1184
00:45:42,329 --> 00:45:45,719
like sent it to, she typed it as we were
like talking and she sent the whole thing

1185
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:49,209
over to us, so then I just kinda like
updated from my brides and bridesmaids

1186
00:45:49,209 --> 00:45:50,829
and groom went and sent it out, so.

1187
00:45:50,973 --> 00:45:51,368
Oh, okay.

1188
00:45:51,543 --> 00:45:51,783
Yeah.

1189
00:45:51,783 --> 00:45:52,593
That's awesome.

1190
00:45:52,593 --> 00:45:53,493
That's really cool.

1191
00:45:53,756 --> 00:45:56,906
All right, let's get to this
week's story submission.

1192
00:45:57,089 --> 00:45:59,069
I'm a little raspy today, so bear with me.

1193
00:45:59,229 --> 00:46:00,699
Oh yeah, I understand.

1194
00:46:00,819 --> 00:46:01,269
I don't know.

1195
00:46:01,269 --> 00:46:02,469
Where are you from Krisa?

1196
00:46:02,643 --> 00:46:05,996
I'm from Chicago Suburbs, but
I live in Wisconsin now, so.

1197
00:46:05,996 --> 00:46:06,361
Oh, okay.

1198
00:46:06,716 --> 00:46:07,016
Yeah.

1199
00:46:07,046 --> 00:46:07,666
Snow lots.

1200
00:46:08,296 --> 00:46:08,956
Lots of snow.

1201
00:46:09,226 --> 00:46:09,616
Yeah.

1202
00:46:09,616 --> 00:46:11,953
Yeah, so it's just been like, we got what?

1203
00:46:12,228 --> 00:46:12,708
I don't even know.

1204
00:46:12,708 --> 00:46:14,778
Like 10 inches maybe over the weekend.

1205
00:46:14,908 --> 00:46:14,968
Oh, okay.

1206
00:46:14,968 --> 00:46:16,108
So it was like, it was like a blizzard.

1207
00:46:16,858 --> 00:46:17,278
Yes.

1208
00:46:17,638 --> 00:46:19,018
I live in upstate New York.

1209
00:46:19,108 --> 00:46:19,288
Right.

1210
00:46:19,288 --> 00:46:21,058
Like two hours from Canada, yeah.

1211
00:46:21,058 --> 00:46:21,808
Snow here too.

1212
00:46:21,868 --> 00:46:25,111
So, and I woke up this morning,
I was like, oh my gosh, I hope

1213
00:46:25,111 --> 00:46:26,851
this clears up before the podcast.

1214
00:46:28,081 --> 00:46:28,741
I know.

1215
00:46:28,894 --> 00:46:31,052
Plus I feel like, I dunno if you
feel the same way, like you're just

1216
00:46:31,208 --> 00:46:34,178
with filming and all that stuff,
you're just talking all the time.

1217
00:46:34,178 --> 00:46:34,268
Mm-hmm.

1218
00:46:34,491 --> 00:46:37,491
So there's some days, like I've lost
my voice more in the last couple

1219
00:46:37,491 --> 00:46:39,291
years than I think I ever have.

1220
00:46:39,351 --> 00:46:39,441
Mm-hmm.

1221
00:46:39,491 --> 00:46:41,021
Because it's just like recording podcasts.

1222
00:46:41,021 --> 00:46:42,551
I do YouTube and then skits.

1223
00:46:42,551 --> 00:46:44,884
I'm just like, okay, need to drink tea.

1224
00:46:45,174 --> 00:46:45,414
Yeah.

1225
00:46:45,414 --> 00:46:46,464
So there's always that desire.

1226
00:46:46,494 --> 00:46:49,048
'cause like, I'll be like, okay,
I'm not gonna do a skit today.

1227
00:46:49,048 --> 00:46:52,256
Like, I need to take the day off and I'll
just post for the podcast and then I'm

1228
00:46:52,256 --> 00:46:53,756
like, oh, they really want the next part.

1229
00:46:53,756 --> 00:46:55,046
I'm like, I don't wanna let them down.

1230
00:46:55,106 --> 00:46:55,312
Okay.

1231
00:46:55,312 --> 00:46:58,012
I'll film the skit and then my
husband will be like, rest your voice.

1232
00:46:58,042 --> 00:46:59,622
I'm like, I gotta get it done.

1233
00:46:59,622 --> 00:47:00,132
Yes.

1234
00:47:00,132 --> 00:47:01,242
Like always back here.

1235
00:47:01,312 --> 00:47:02,092
do it, do it.

1236
00:47:02,346 --> 00:47:03,066
I can relate.

1237
00:47:03,066 --> 00:47:03,276
Yep.

1238
00:47:04,796 --> 00:47:07,356
Anyway, okay, here we go.

1239
00:47:07,606 --> 00:47:08,536
Love your videos.

1240
00:47:08,536 --> 00:47:12,316
I'm happy to share my own
crazy wedding story from 2021.

1241
00:47:12,596 --> 00:47:14,726
Feel free to use it however you'd like.

1242
00:47:14,986 --> 00:47:18,796
My husband and I were supposed to
get married in 2020, but obviously

1243
00:47:18,796 --> 00:47:20,656
the Global Pandemic had other plans.

1244
00:47:20,846 --> 00:47:23,636
We ended up getting married at
the courthouse that year and

1245
00:47:23,636 --> 00:47:27,176
rescheduled our full wedding
celebration for the following summer.

1246
00:47:27,392 --> 00:47:30,522
Since we'd already made deposits
and everything, we crossed our

1247
00:47:30,522 --> 00:47:34,482
fingers that we'd actually be
able to have it in July, 2021.

1248
00:47:34,822 --> 00:47:37,516
By April, we were still
holding out that hope.

1249
00:47:37,742 --> 00:47:40,712
The governor finally started
reopening things, allowing events

1250
00:47:40,712 --> 00:47:42,989
again, but only at half capacity.

1251
00:47:43,282 --> 00:47:45,652
Venues could even be shut
down if they went over.

1252
00:47:45,839 --> 00:47:47,879
We had already planned
for an intimate wedding.

1253
00:47:47,939 --> 00:47:51,506
Our original venue capacity
was 84, they reduced the number

1254
00:47:51,506 --> 00:47:53,546
to 42, which included us.

1255
00:47:53,792 --> 00:47:57,512
That meant that we had 40 guest spots
total, so we had to be strict about it.

1256
00:47:57,752 --> 00:48:02,622
Originally, our guest list had 50 people,
so we had to make some tough cuts.

1257
00:48:02,772 --> 00:48:06,569
We did get to invite many friends,
but it was mostly entirely family.

1258
00:48:06,842 --> 00:48:08,319
It was almost entirely family.

1259
00:48:08,722 --> 00:48:12,052
After days of pouring over the
list, we finally narrowed it down.

1260
00:48:12,326 --> 00:48:16,332
While working on that list, I messaged
my sister for context She lives outta

1261
00:48:16,332 --> 00:48:20,339
state and had been dating a guy with a
younger daughter for about six months.

1262
00:48:20,369 --> 00:48:24,726
When we got engaged, she'd asked early
on if he could come, and since that was

1263
00:48:24,726 --> 00:48:27,852
pre pandemic, I'd said, sure, no problem.

1264
00:48:28,072 --> 00:48:29,072
Oh, here we go.

1265
00:48:30,567 --> 00:48:32,037
Here comes the drama.

1266
00:48:33,252 --> 00:48:34,662
Here comes the drama.

1267
00:48:34,879 --> 00:48:37,669
when it came time to trim the
list, I checked with her to see

1268
00:48:37,669 --> 00:48:39,289
if he was still planning to come.

1269
00:48:39,472 --> 00:48:44,076
I'd never even met him, but if she wanted
to bring him, I would've kept his spot.

1270
00:48:44,229 --> 00:48:46,509
It just would've been
an easy cut otherwise.

1271
00:48:46,902 --> 00:48:50,496
She said he was still coming
and then asked if his daughter

1272
00:48:50,496 --> 00:48:51,996
Violet could come too.

1273
00:48:53,376 --> 00:48:57,922
We'd already decided on a no kids rule
except for my husband's niece and nephew.

1274
00:48:57,922 --> 00:48:59,362
Funny how we were just talking about this

1275
00:48:59,602 --> 00:48:59,902
Yes.

1276
00:49:00,782 --> 00:49:02,612
Who were a part of the wedding party.

1277
00:49:02,852 --> 00:49:05,552
So I told her Violet couldn't
come and suggested that

1278
00:49:05,552 --> 00:49:06,632
Violet's mom could keep her.

1279
00:49:06,672 --> 00:49:10,822
during the trip, my sister immediately
freaked out saying, if Violet couldn't

1280
00:49:10,822 --> 00:49:12,262
come, she wouldn't come either.

1281
00:49:12,409 --> 00:49:15,619
If your boyfriend's daughter can't
come, the boyfriend that's never met

1282
00:49:15,619 --> 00:49:17,329
your sister, you're not gonna come.

1283
00:49:17,479 --> 00:49:19,069
That's wild to me.

1284
00:49:19,179 --> 00:49:20,229
that is crazy.

1285
00:49:20,259 --> 00:49:20,709
Yeah.

1286
00:49:20,859 --> 00:49:22,059
What, you're not

1287
00:49:22,212 --> 00:49:22,812
All right.

1288
00:49:22,847 --> 00:49:24,961
And also talking about communication.

1289
00:49:25,131 --> 00:49:26,481
Not even being like, okay, you know what?

1290
00:49:26,481 --> 00:49:30,251
Let me talk to him first and
let's see if his ex-wife or

1291
00:49:30,251 --> 00:49:31,661
whatever can watch the daughter.

1292
00:49:31,757 --> 00:49:32,027
Yes.

1293
00:49:32,027 --> 00:49:32,862
Just immediately freaking out.

1294
00:49:33,324 --> 00:49:34,404
Yeah, immediately.

1295
00:49:34,404 --> 00:49:36,634
Like like we were talking
about communication,

1296
00:49:36,874 --> 00:49:37,084
right?

1297
00:49:37,444 --> 00:49:38,344
Like Yeah.

1298
00:49:38,374 --> 00:49:38,709
Oh my gosh.

1299
00:49:38,739 --> 00:49:39,029
Okay.

1300
00:49:39,694 --> 00:49:42,364
It was something different where like
she lived in state and she'd met this

1301
00:49:42,364 --> 00:49:45,154
little girl many times and she's like,
okay, she's kind of like a niece.

1302
00:49:45,334 --> 00:49:46,444
Let's have her too.

1303
00:49:46,637 --> 00:49:48,257
But like, she's never met her.

1304
00:49:48,364 --> 00:49:48,754
Right.

1305
00:49:48,834 --> 00:49:51,564
So it also would probably be easier
for her to, I mean, I don't know

1306
00:49:51,564 --> 00:49:53,581
the ex's situation, but Right.

1307
00:49:53,851 --> 00:49:54,211
You know?

1308
00:49:54,481 --> 00:49:54,901
Oh my gosh.

1309
00:49:54,991 --> 00:49:55,111
Yeah.

1310
00:49:55,251 --> 00:49:55,611
Wow.

1311
00:49:55,641 --> 00:49:56,031
Okay.

1312
00:49:56,031 --> 00:49:56,661
Um, all right.

1313
00:49:56,954 --> 00:49:59,624
Honestly, I didn't care
whether my sister came or not.

1314
00:49:59,684 --> 00:50:02,937
That was her choice, but I knew
my mom would take her side as

1315
00:50:02,937 --> 00:50:04,677
always, and of course she did.

1316
00:50:04,897 --> 00:50:09,251
When I told my mom who was paying for the
venue, she freaked out too and told me

1317
00:50:09,251 --> 00:50:13,571
I needed to figure out a way to make it
work, because that's your sister's family.

1318
00:50:13,731 --> 00:50:14,451
Nevermind.

1319
00:50:14,451 --> 00:50:17,614
I didn't even know this kid or
her dad, that we were already

1320
00:50:17,614 --> 00:50:20,014
struggling to fit everyone in still.

1321
00:50:20,014 --> 00:50:21,454
I told her I would look into it.

1322
00:50:21,796 --> 00:50:25,502
We went back over the list there was
just no way to make it work without

1323
00:50:25,502 --> 00:50:29,216
cutting close friends or choosing
between cousins in the same family.

1324
00:50:29,442 --> 00:50:33,412
So I told both my mom and my sister
that we couldn't justify adding Violet.

1325
00:50:33,749 --> 00:50:38,666
I also said that once we got RSVPs,
if anyone declined, we'd probably

1326
00:50:38,666 --> 00:50:41,516
have the space, which I feel like
that's a good response, right?

1327
00:50:41,516 --> 00:50:43,721
Yeah, that's a good like backup plan.

1328
00:50:43,721 --> 00:50:44,051
Yeah.

1329
00:50:44,201 --> 00:50:44,621
Yeah.

1330
00:50:44,785 --> 00:50:45,805
That wasn't good enough.

1331
00:50:45,925 --> 00:50:48,655
My mom threatened to pull out
of the wedding completely.

1332
00:50:48,751 --> 00:50:51,421
No payment, no attendance over this.

1333
00:50:51,628 --> 00:50:54,268
Now, the mom, the mom, the mom,

1334
00:50:54,778 --> 00:50:55,990
what did

1335
00:50:55,995 --> 00:50:56,295
it say?

1336
00:50:56,295 --> 00:50:57,975
If the mom knew the daughter?

1337
00:50:58,081 --> 00:50:59,911
Did the mom it do so far?

1338
00:50:59,911 --> 00:51:01,111
It did not say no.

1339
00:51:01,291 --> 00:51:01,801
Oh, okay.

1340
00:51:01,831 --> 00:51:04,261
But she keeps referring
to it as her family.

1341
00:51:04,411 --> 00:51:05,101
Family.

1342
00:51:05,106 --> 00:51:05,116
Okay.

1343
00:51:05,161 --> 00:51:05,761
So I don't know if they're

1344
00:51:05,761 --> 00:51:07,035
like all like, let's see.

1345
00:51:07,035 --> 00:51:08,115
So it sounds like.

1346
00:51:08,558 --> 00:51:11,408
2020 when they originally got
engaged, or 2019 when they

1347
00:51:11,408 --> 00:51:12,878
originally got engaged Uhhuh.

1348
00:51:13,118 --> 00:51:16,748
So she's been with this guy for maybe a
year and a half, two years by this point.

1349
00:51:16,878 --> 00:51:17,328
Okay.

1350
00:51:17,498 --> 00:51:17,828
Huh?

1351
00:51:17,918 --> 00:51:18,398
I don't know.

1352
00:51:18,561 --> 00:51:18,571
gosh.

1353
00:51:18,571 --> 00:51:18,581
What?

1354
00:51:19,011 --> 00:51:19,701
Oh my gosh.

1355
00:51:19,980 --> 00:51:24,015
My sister accused me of playing
favorites because we made exceptions

1356
00:51:24,105 --> 00:51:25,935
to the two kids in the wedding party.

1357
00:51:26,171 --> 00:51:27,461
That's pretty normal though.

1358
00:51:27,628 --> 00:51:28,228
Yeah.

1359
00:51:28,348 --> 00:51:28,888
What Then she told

1360
00:51:28,888 --> 00:51:30,388
me I was dead to her.

1361
00:51:30,548 --> 00:51:32,408
At that point, I'd had enough.

1362
00:51:32,498 --> 00:51:36,878
I told her that was her choice and she
could consider her invitation revoked.

1363
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:37,380
Oh God.

1364
00:51:37,380 --> 00:51:37,820
Uninvited.

1365
00:51:37,820 --> 00:51:38,070
Oh my God.

1366
00:51:38,405 --> 00:51:38,765
Yeah.

1367
00:51:38,815 --> 00:51:41,485
you're done uninvited, but
you gotta like, not saying I

1368
00:51:41,485 --> 00:51:42,690
support, being like, you're done.

1369
00:51:42,690 --> 00:51:45,958
But I'm like, you gotta applaud her
for being like, two can play that game.

1370
00:51:46,155 --> 00:51:46,215
Yeah.

1371
00:51:46,215 --> 00:51:50,441
Because I think, I think half the time
when people threaten things like that,

1372
00:51:50,531 --> 00:51:51,821
they would just want you to change it.

1373
00:51:51,821 --> 00:51:53,831
Like they don't, they're not
gonna actually follow through.

1374
00:51:53,991 --> 00:51:54,291
Yeah.

1375
00:51:54,296 --> 00:51:54,466
They

1376
00:51:54,466 --> 00:51:55,911
want you to, they wanna get their way.

1377
00:51:56,065 --> 00:51:57,955
Yes, a hundred percent.

1378
00:51:58,075 --> 00:51:59,755
I will back you up on that one.

1379
00:51:59,785 --> 00:52:00,055
Yeah.

1380
00:52:00,055 --> 00:52:01,795
I've seen it happen so many times.

1381
00:52:01,845 --> 00:52:05,055
I feel like there's so many
empty, like, threats out there.

1382
00:52:05,205 --> 00:52:07,215
' cause they know they can
take advantage of someone.

1383
00:52:07,215 --> 00:52:09,435
They're like, if you don't
do this, I'm gonna do this.

1384
00:52:09,435 --> 00:52:11,830
So they're like, I just don't
wanna even risk the chance

1385
00:52:11,830 --> 00:52:13,060
of that happening, you know?

1386
00:52:13,230 --> 00:52:13,380
Right.

1387
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:14,010
Yeah.

1388
00:52:14,096 --> 00:52:14,786
Oh my gosh.

1389
00:52:14,913 --> 00:52:17,223
Cue my mom's next meltdown.

1390
00:52:17,323 --> 00:52:21,413
My sister had always been the favorite
and this just proved it again in the end.

1391
00:52:21,563 --> 00:52:22,913
My sister didn't come to the.

1392
00:52:23,413 --> 00:52:26,623
My mom eventually gave
in at the last minute.

1393
00:52:26,740 --> 00:52:31,210
One of my aunts also took my sister's
side and didn't attend though, to be fair.

1394
00:52:31,410 --> 00:52:33,810
I think it had more to do with
her finding out my uncle was

1395
00:52:33,810 --> 00:52:35,340
cheating than our own drama.

1396
00:52:35,670 --> 00:52:36,180
Okay.

1397
00:52:36,210 --> 00:52:36,510
Whoa.

1398
00:52:36,510 --> 00:52:37,470
I think that was separate.

1399
00:52:37,656 --> 00:52:37,806
Okay.

1400
00:52:37,806 --> 00:52:38,766
That's another, thing.

1401
00:52:38,940 --> 00:52:41,910
Once those people took themselves
off the list, I actually got to

1402
00:52:41,910 --> 00:52:43,620
invite a few people we wanted there.

1403
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:44,230
Oh.

1404
00:52:44,230 --> 00:52:48,540
And as a cherry on top, my mom also tried
to get me to cut my stepmom's parents,

1405
00:52:48,660 --> 00:52:52,753
even though they'd been in my life for 20
years were helping pay for the wedding.

1406
00:52:52,879 --> 00:52:54,079
Obviously I refuse.

1407
00:52:54,279 --> 00:52:57,202
I don't get the whole like telling
someone, you have to unin invite

1408
00:52:57,202 --> 00:52:58,552
or invite someone to the wedding.

1409
00:52:58,552 --> 00:53:00,079
It's like, that's not how it works.

1410
00:53:00,079 --> 00:53:00,919
It's not your day.

1411
00:53:01,115 --> 00:53:01,535
No.

1412
00:53:01,565 --> 00:53:03,215
It's not your day at all.

1413
00:53:03,215 --> 00:53:08,520
And also, of course, the mother
would target the stepmother's family.

1414
00:53:08,683 --> 00:53:13,300
I feel like there might be some jealousy
or animosity there or something.

1415
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:15,203
Story, she's story like by her parents.

1416
00:53:15,203 --> 00:53:18,197
It's like, if they've been in
her life as grandparents for 20

1417
00:53:18,197 --> 00:53:20,237
years, I think it's acceptable.

1418
00:53:20,403 --> 00:53:20,853
Oh my God.

1419
00:53:20,853 --> 00:53:20,943
What?

1420
00:53:21,427 --> 00:53:25,627
That's s so of course the mom was
never, the mom was always gonna show up.

1421
00:53:25,627 --> 00:53:26,377
I feel like.

1422
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:27,050
Yeah.

1423
00:53:27,103 --> 00:53:30,183
unless you're my dad, why are, how
are you gonna, how are you gonna

1424
00:53:30,183 --> 00:53:31,533
miss your daughter's wedding?

1425
00:53:31,533 --> 00:53:32,103
You know?

1426
00:53:32,316 --> 00:53:35,796
and now to be like, put this wedge
even more between the sisters,

1427
00:53:35,796 --> 00:53:38,946
because it sounds like they're already
kind of like far apart, like they

1428
00:53:38,946 --> 00:53:42,228
live in different states, but the
fact that they're, I don't know.

1429
00:53:42,388 --> 00:53:42,913
It's, yeah.

1430
00:53:43,208 --> 00:53:48,595
so she says, for weeks afterward, my mom
kept pushing me to apologize to my sister,

1431
00:53:48,775 --> 00:53:50,365
even though I'd done nothing wrong.

1432
00:53:50,395 --> 00:53:54,526
I told her I I wouldn't, and that my
sister actually owed me an apology.

1433
00:53:54,732 --> 00:53:56,742
We didn't speak for
months after the wedding.

1434
00:53:57,012 --> 00:54:00,492
And even now, four years
later, we barely talk.

1435
00:54:00,649 --> 00:54:02,029
So yeah, that's my story.

1436
00:54:02,029 --> 00:54:04,159
Use it, tweak it, or do
whatever you want with it.

1437
00:54:04,771 --> 00:54:05,701
Oh, oh

1438
00:54:05,701 --> 00:54:06,781
my gosh.

1439
00:54:07,031 --> 00:54:09,371
did she mean her and
her sister barely talk?

1440
00:54:09,376 --> 00:54:09,566
Mm-hmm.

1441
00:54:09,851 --> 00:54:10,211
Yeah.

1442
00:54:10,216 --> 00:54:10,486
Yeah.

1443
00:54:10,991 --> 00:54:11,801
Oh my gosh.

1444
00:54:12,101 --> 00:54:13,721
That's, that's really sad.

1445
00:54:13,900 --> 00:54:16,240
we're talking about like looking
at both perspectives, right?

1446
00:54:16,240 --> 00:54:18,400
And so like, I I could see where
the other sister would be hurt.

1447
00:54:18,430 --> 00:54:21,010
'cause like, let's say she's been living
with this guy now, what did she say?

1448
00:54:21,010 --> 00:54:21,910
She met him in?

1449
00:54:22,186 --> 00:54:23,716
it was pre pandemic.

1450
00:54:23,977 --> 00:54:25,627
When she'd asked early on.

1451
00:54:25,687 --> 00:54:27,942
So it would've been like 20, yeah.

1452
00:54:27,972 --> 00:54:30,102
2019. 2019, right.

1453
00:54:30,162 --> 00:54:30,522
Yeah.

1454
00:54:30,582 --> 00:54:33,654
So at this point they'd been
together, let's say at mo at the

1455
00:54:33,654 --> 00:54:35,904
very most, it would be two years.

1456
00:54:35,904 --> 00:54:35,914
Okay.

1457
00:54:35,934 --> 00:54:38,124
But probably not even,
maybe a year and a half.

1458
00:54:38,343 --> 00:54:38,733
Yeah.

1459
00:54:38,843 --> 00:54:41,781
so for the sister, like she's been
living with this guy for a year.

1460
00:54:41,781 --> 00:54:43,521
Maybe the daughter comes every other week.

1461
00:54:43,521 --> 00:54:45,561
Maybe she like, takes care
of the daughter mostly.

1462
00:54:45,561 --> 00:54:46,371
We don't know.

1463
00:54:46,628 --> 00:54:49,058
so I could get feeling hurt for sure.

1464
00:54:49,058 --> 00:54:50,508
Like if you're like, this
is my family, family.

1465
00:54:50,528 --> 00:54:53,828
This is my almost stepdaughter
and my boyfriend of two years.

1466
00:54:53,938 --> 00:54:57,023
But to make that be like,
the hill you're gonna die on?

1467
00:54:57,187 --> 00:54:57,487
Yeah.

1468
00:54:57,703 --> 00:54:58,063
Right.

1469
00:54:58,063 --> 00:55:02,320
Of course it would be easier for her
just to like invite, but I don't know.

1470
00:55:02,530 --> 00:55:03,160
It's, yeah.

1471
00:55:03,348 --> 00:55:08,418
I know, it makes me wonder if like
she and her sister have like some sort

1472
00:55:08,418 --> 00:55:13,438
of back history of like just sibling
rivalry kind of thing going on too.

1473
00:55:13,652 --> 00:55:15,062
maybe, I don't know.

1474
00:55:15,187 --> 00:55:18,324
that's how I think with the whole
skits thing, but that would not be

1475
00:55:18,324 --> 00:55:19,794
the hill that I would wanna die on.

1476
00:55:19,854 --> 00:55:25,317
Me and my sister, we are best friends,
but we also are like tough critics too.

1477
00:55:25,317 --> 00:55:29,165
So like, know, we've had a little bit
of sibling rivalry going on, but I

1478
00:55:29,165 --> 00:55:34,194
would never Ever not show up to her
wedding if she told me that I couldn't

1479
00:55:34,244 --> 00:55:37,064
bring my significant other or my child.

1480
00:55:37,344 --> 00:55:41,044
Actually, so Amanda, the girl I was
talking about, my bridesmaid, she's more

1481
00:55:41,044 --> 00:55:45,047
of like a sister to me, and she had her
wedding during the pandemic, and she

1482
00:55:45,047 --> 00:55:49,317
asked me to, come by myself he was just
my boyfriend at the time, actually.

1483
00:55:49,317 --> 00:55:51,765
But was like, of course,
that's no problem.

1484
00:55:51,795 --> 00:55:52,665
I'm gonna be there for you.

1485
00:55:52,665 --> 00:55:55,005
I understand because of what's going on.

1486
00:55:55,365 --> 00:55:58,732
I know you would have him there
if it wasn't the restrictions.

1487
00:55:58,922 --> 00:56:00,729
I know it's outta your control, Yeah.

1488
00:56:00,832 --> 00:56:02,872
I would not choose that
as my hill to die on.

1489
00:56:02,962 --> 00:56:03,292
Yeah.

1490
00:56:03,425 --> 00:56:07,465
I'm even thinking like, let's say my
cousin who's like a sister to me, like

1491
00:56:07,465 --> 00:56:08,875
she lives in another state, let's say.

1492
00:56:08,875 --> 00:56:11,545
Like she's getting married and
was like, we're not doing any

1493
00:56:11,545 --> 00:56:13,765
kids, so your daughter can't come.

1494
00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:16,010
I don't think I'd be offended by that.

1495
00:56:16,015 --> 00:56:16,265
Mm-hmm.

1496
00:56:16,350 --> 00:56:19,924
Like my blood daughter, I would be like,
okay, either I can make it work with a

1497
00:56:19,924 --> 00:56:23,194
babysitter or I can't, and be, I either
fly with someone to watch her in the

1498
00:56:23,300 --> 00:56:24,740
hotel room or I can't make it work.

1499
00:56:24,740 --> 00:56:28,074
I wouldn't be like, oh my gosh,
how dare you like not invite her.

1500
00:56:28,074 --> 00:56:28,854
Do you hate her?

1501
00:56:28,854 --> 00:56:30,604
Like, ' cause it's not that personal.

1502
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:31,030
Yeah.

1503
00:56:31,030 --> 00:56:32,170
Like it's not personal.

1504
00:56:32,230 --> 00:56:35,650
There's just some places that I feel
like aren't meant for kids sometimes.

1505
00:56:35,770 --> 00:56:36,190
Yeah.

1506
00:56:36,240 --> 00:56:38,967
People just don't want
that vibe and, that's okay.

1507
00:56:38,967 --> 00:56:41,157
Like when people get up in arms in
the comments about it, they're like,

1508
00:56:41,157 --> 00:56:42,637
oh, well, wedding's a family event.

1509
00:56:42,637 --> 00:56:43,477
And I'm like, sure.

1510
00:56:43,477 --> 00:56:44,587
But it's also a party.

1511
00:56:44,760 --> 00:56:44,940
Yeah.

1512
00:56:44,940 --> 00:56:45,690
It's alcohol.

1513
00:56:45,810 --> 00:56:45,900
Mm-hmm.

1514
00:56:46,140 --> 00:56:48,904
I mean, so it's teach their own,
like, you wouldn't bring your

1515
00:56:48,934 --> 00:56:50,524
child into an R-rated movie.

1516
00:56:50,524 --> 00:56:53,997
You wouldn't bring your child to like a
nightclub or, you know, there's certain

1517
00:56:53,997 --> 00:56:57,820
places and if that's the vibe you want
for your wedding, that's the beauty of it.

1518
00:56:57,820 --> 00:57:00,047
You get to pick what
vibe you want and Yeah.

1519
00:57:00,190 --> 00:57:03,584
but yeah, it's like you can't
be like up in arms about.

1520
00:57:03,707 --> 00:57:06,377
Or mad at the bride for wanting
it a certain way, you know?

1521
00:57:06,537 --> 00:57:07,467
Yeah, exact.

1522
00:57:07,467 --> 00:57:08,097
Exactly.

1523
00:57:08,097 --> 00:57:09,767
Like whatever the bride wants.

1524
00:57:09,767 --> 00:57:14,957
that's like kind of been my motto is like,
whatever the bride wants, is like what

1525
00:57:14,957 --> 00:57:18,537
you respect, I guess, or I, shouldn't
even say the bride is the couples that

1526
00:57:18,537 --> 00:57:19,917
make those decisions together too.

1527
00:57:20,522 --> 00:57:22,837
And so whatever they want, respect that.

1528
00:57:22,867 --> 00:57:26,747
Obviously I've seen crazy things happen,
but I'm talking about like the people

1529
00:57:26,747 --> 00:57:30,632
who are like, like the no kid weddings
or like other decisions that they make.

1530
00:57:30,632 --> 00:57:33,212
Like I've seen like the
dry weddings as well.

1531
00:57:33,315 --> 00:57:34,020
we kind of Yes.

1532
00:57:34,020 --> 00:57:36,405
That's a whole, like
controversy as well too.

1533
00:57:36,405 --> 00:57:37,635
So Yeah.

1534
00:57:37,902 --> 00:57:43,369
If you want to support them, respect
their wishes, otherwise just say no

1535
00:57:43,369 --> 00:57:45,019
thank you to the invite, I guess.

1536
00:57:45,019 --> 00:57:48,425
Yeah, that would be, that's kind of
like what my motto would be for that.

1537
00:57:48,565 --> 00:57:48,985
Right?

1538
00:57:48,985 --> 00:57:51,025
Because yeah, again, it's like
the entitlement because like,

1539
00:57:51,025 --> 00:57:52,465
she didn't even try to like.

1540
00:57:52,587 --> 00:57:55,594
See if they could find someone to watch
the child or like, how about we all

1541
00:57:55,594 --> 00:57:58,534
fly together and then he just stays
back with her while go to the wedding.

1542
00:57:58,534 --> 00:57:59,234
You know, like, yeah.

1543
00:57:59,234 --> 00:58:00,104
It was anything like that.

1544
00:58:00,104 --> 00:58:02,384
It was just freaking out
on the bride immediately.

1545
00:58:02,534 --> 00:58:02,654
Yes.

1546
00:58:02,654 --> 00:58:03,824
And making it her problem.

1547
00:58:03,854 --> 00:58:05,864
Change your rules for your wedding.

1548
00:58:05,894 --> 00:58:06,794
'cause I'm bringing Yes.

1549
00:58:06,980 --> 00:58:09,601
And like that doesn't sit right with me
because I'm just like, there could have

1550
00:58:09,601 --> 00:58:11,519
been so many other ways to go about it.

1551
00:58:11,604 --> 00:58:15,161
if she was like, Hey, actually,
like he has sole custody and

1552
00:58:15,161 --> 00:58:16,881
we, can't rely on the mom.

1553
00:58:16,981 --> 00:58:19,911
Okay, well how about you come here
and she can come to this, you can

1554
00:58:19,911 --> 00:58:21,627
like, communicate through things.

1555
00:58:21,814 --> 00:58:23,044
it's just demanding.

1556
00:58:23,104 --> 00:58:23,734
I don't like

1557
00:58:23,977 --> 00:58:25,267
Yeah, a hundred percent.

1558
00:58:25,297 --> 00:58:30,097
Like if she would've, instead of texted
back the demand or like the awful things

1559
00:58:30,226 --> 00:58:34,781
she could have said, Hey, let me talk to
him and see like what options we have.

1560
00:58:34,957 --> 00:58:38,137
Do you have any other options on your end?

1561
00:58:38,160 --> 00:58:42,667
could you go to the venue and say, Hey,
is there something that we could do?

1562
00:58:42,667 --> 00:58:45,391
I don't even know what the, 'cause
that was like a mandatory, mandate,

1563
00:58:45,391 --> 00:58:48,601
but, I'm just thinking like, is there
something that she could do on her end?

1564
00:58:48,601 --> 00:58:52,651
Like, like you were talking about, it's
just all about communication and Yeah.

1565
00:58:52,681 --> 00:58:55,184
When you come at someone and
just start yelling like that

1566
00:58:55,184 --> 00:58:56,624
doesn't end well for anybody.

1567
00:58:57,014 --> 00:58:57,554
Yeah.

1568
00:58:57,674 --> 00:58:58,064
Yeah.

1569
00:58:58,064 --> 00:59:00,294
That just starts off all on the bad foot.

1570
00:59:00,461 --> 00:59:00,671
Yeah.

1571
00:59:00,701 --> 00:59:01,001
Well, that was

1572
00:59:01,196 --> 00:59:02,591
a, a wild story.

1573
00:59:02,891 --> 00:59:03,371
All right.

1574
00:59:03,551 --> 00:59:04,001
Yes.

1575
00:59:04,001 --> 00:59:05,831
There's no listening what
you think about that.

1576
00:59:06,041 --> 00:59:06,371
All right.

1577
00:59:06,401 --> 00:59:09,491
I always like to end these episodes
with some confessions people send me.

1578
00:59:09,491 --> 00:59:11,777
They all have to do with
weddings and stuff, so, oh, okay.

1579
00:59:12,117 --> 00:59:12,627
Here we go.

1580
00:59:12,744 --> 00:59:13,284
All right.

1581
00:59:13,434 --> 00:59:16,554
moved across the country hoping
it will help my husband limit

1582
00:59:16,554 --> 00:59:18,954
contact with his toxic mom.

1583
00:59:19,375 --> 00:59:20,725
Oh.

1584
00:59:21,145 --> 00:59:23,125
Keep us posted on how that's going.

1585
00:59:23,547 --> 00:59:24,507
Okay.

1586
00:59:24,982 --> 00:59:26,512
Yes, exactly.

1587
00:59:26,542 --> 00:59:27,772
Oh my goodness.

1588
00:59:27,892 --> 00:59:31,042
I hope that the toxic mom is
not gonna follow you there.

1589
00:59:31,042 --> 00:59:33,632
That's like what I think of, I'm
like, I hope they don't gonna move

1590
00:59:33,632 --> 00:59:33,722
there.

1591
00:59:33,812 --> 00:59:33,992
Yeah.

1592
00:59:35,702 --> 00:59:36,089
Yeah.

1593
00:59:36,089 --> 00:59:38,369
And I feel like at the end of
the day too, it has to be him

1594
00:59:38,399 --> 00:59:40,049
that limits the toxic mom.

1595
00:59:40,109 --> 00:59:40,409
Like,

1596
00:59:40,409 --> 00:59:40,709
yeah,

1597
00:59:40,772 --> 00:59:43,892
not answer certain calls or talk to her?

1598
00:59:43,922 --> 00:59:44,642
It's not, yeah.

1599
00:59:45,002 --> 00:59:45,392
Yeah.

1600
00:59:45,792 --> 00:59:51,049
this says currently terrified that
my brother and sister-in-law will

1601
00:59:51,049 --> 00:59:53,059
announce their pregnancy at my wedding.

1602
00:59:53,219 --> 00:59:56,275
Would that terrify you if someone
were to announce their pregnancy?

1603
00:59:56,535 --> 00:59:59,979
that would not actually, I would
be the one to be like super happy,

1604
00:59:59,979 --> 01:00:03,575
especially if like they've been like
waiting for it for a while, like.

1605
01:00:03,575 --> 01:00:04,625
That would be just me though.

1606
01:00:04,647 --> 01:00:05,563
that wouldn't bother me.

1607
01:00:05,653 --> 01:00:09,163
An engagement on the other hand, I
think would bother me a little bit

1608
01:00:09,163 --> 01:00:10,663
more than a pregnancy announcement or a

1609
01:00:10,663 --> 01:00:11,833
proposal at your wedding.

1610
01:00:11,997 --> 01:00:12,747
Yeah, that's what I meant.

1611
01:00:12,747 --> 01:00:13,167
Proposal.

1612
01:00:13,167 --> 01:00:13,437
Yeah.

1613
01:00:14,037 --> 01:00:14,517
Yeah.

1614
01:00:14,693 --> 01:00:17,783
I mean, I feel like it's like,
depends on like how they would do it.

1615
01:00:17,783 --> 01:00:19,643
If they like, were just like,
Hey, you wanna let you know?

1616
01:00:19,643 --> 01:00:21,473
I'd be like, I'd so happy for you.

1617
01:00:21,503 --> 01:00:22,223
That's awesome.

1618
01:00:22,343 --> 01:00:26,117
If they were like in a speech, just
so you know, we're having a baby.

1619
01:00:26,267 --> 01:00:28,470
It's all about That's true
about relationships and I

1620
01:00:28,470 --> 01:00:30,730
think like how you go about it.

1621
01:00:30,883 --> 01:00:30,943
Yeah.

1622
01:00:30,943 --> 01:00:34,360
Because I did get a story sent
to me once where, the whole like.

1623
01:00:34,495 --> 01:00:35,155
Engagement.

1624
01:00:35,155 --> 01:00:37,045
It was like a one upper
kind of thing, right?

1625
01:00:37,045 --> 01:00:38,605
With the two siblings.

1626
01:00:38,822 --> 01:00:43,722
And the mom wanted to do a grand
gender reveal at the wedding they

1627
01:00:43,722 --> 01:00:47,502
were like, no, like they wanted like
balloons and then they saw, and one

1628
01:00:47,502 --> 01:00:51,252
of the bridesmaids saw the mom loading
boxes of balloons into the car.

1629
01:00:51,252 --> 01:00:53,052
And they were like, these
are staying out here.

1630
01:00:53,265 --> 01:00:56,338
And then they like did a
big thing at their table.

1631
01:00:56,528 --> 01:00:57,548
she would not say no.

1632
01:00:57,548 --> 01:01:00,008
She wanted her moment of like
announcing that she was gonna

1633
01:01:00,008 --> 01:01:01,178
be a grandma at the wedding.

1634
01:01:01,465 --> 01:01:05,642
That's like a, Madison Humphrey, like
I can see Madison Humphrey taking that.

1635
01:01:06,577 --> 01:01:06,797
Yes.

1636
01:01:06,897 --> 01:01:08,768
And being like, oh my gosh.

1637
01:01:08,858 --> 01:01:09,488
Wow.

1638
01:01:09,578 --> 01:01:11,648
Yeah, I can, yeah, that's on hand.

1639
01:01:11,678 --> 01:01:14,578
Yeah, no, I was thinking like, it
would be more of like they would be

1640
01:01:14,578 --> 01:01:17,398
like over in the corner, like at the
bar or whatever, and being like, just

1641
01:01:17,398 --> 01:01:19,370
let you guys know we are pregnant.

1642
01:01:19,405 --> 01:01:20,995
kind of like talking to their family.

1643
01:01:20,995 --> 01:01:23,635
Not like a whole shebang,
balloons and stuff.

1644
01:01:23,695 --> 01:01:24,265
Holy cow.

1645
01:01:24,415 --> 01:01:24,805
Right.

1646
01:01:24,918 --> 01:01:25,188
Yeah.

1647
01:01:25,528 --> 01:01:26,098
Oh my gosh.

1648
01:01:26,098 --> 01:01:29,165
So I wonder if this girl has
like a hint that something big

1649
01:01:29,165 --> 01:01:30,845
is gonna happen or I don't know.

1650
01:01:30,995 --> 01:01:31,115
Mm-hmm.

1651
01:01:31,358 --> 01:01:32,198
Good luck, girl.

1652
01:01:32,288 --> 01:01:33,008
Yeah.

1653
01:01:33,098 --> 01:01:36,308
Let us know or let Krista
know what happened.

1654
01:01:36,308 --> 01:01:36,578
Yes.

1655
01:01:36,578 --> 01:01:36,908
Let us

1656
01:01:37,793 --> 01:01:38,073
know.

1657
01:01:38,492 --> 01:01:38,972
okay.

1658
01:01:39,188 --> 01:01:43,838
This last one says, sister-in-law
to the bride called the pastor and

1659
01:01:43,838 --> 01:01:45,578
said he shouldn't marry the couple.

1660
01:01:45,872 --> 01:01:47,252
Yikes.

1661
01:01:47,342 --> 01:01:48,632
Why are we doing that?

1662
01:01:48,932 --> 01:01:54,372
The sister-in-law called the pastor and
told him that he shouldn't marry them.

1663
01:01:54,635 --> 01:01:55,775
What?

1664
01:01:55,865 --> 01:01:58,937
Wait, is the Confession is coming
from the bride or the sister?

1665
01:01:58,997 --> 01:01:59,452
No, it just

1666
01:01:59,452 --> 01:02:02,522
says, it's just says The bride's
sister-in-law called the pastor.

1667
01:02:02,582 --> 01:02:05,042
So I wonder if it's just like
things that people like, oh,

1668
01:02:05,492 --> 01:02:06,212
okay.

1669
01:02:07,352 --> 01:02:07,382
Ah,

1670
01:02:07,628 --> 01:02:07,928
that's

1671
01:02:07,928 --> 01:02:08,018
why.

1672
01:02:08,018 --> 01:02:08,468
Wow.

1673
01:02:08,788 --> 01:02:12,232
that's, I wonder why, I
wonder what provoked that.

1674
01:02:12,232 --> 01:02:16,648
I, I feel like maybe
infidelity,  I don't know.

1675
01:02:16,708 --> 01:02:17,758
Or just doesn't like her.

1676
01:02:17,982 --> 01:02:18,222
Yeah.

1677
01:02:18,222 --> 01:02:20,232
Or yeah, like the cattiness of it.

1678
01:02:20,232 --> 01:02:20,472
I'm so nice.

1679
01:02:21,797 --> 01:02:25,992
I just heard a story where a sister-in-law
tried, canceling the bride's dress

1680
01:02:26,182 --> 01:02:27,592
like she called the bridal shop.

1681
01:02:27,687 --> 01:02:31,347
And pretended to be the bride and said,
we will no longer need your services.

1682
01:02:31,377 --> 01:02:34,390
And she went around and
canceled vendors and venues.

1683
01:02:34,570 --> 01:02:36,070
I did a skit like that once.

1684
01:02:36,070 --> 01:02:39,740
I can't remember the actual details,
but I remember the mother-in-law

1685
01:02:39,740 --> 01:02:43,112
calls in and like cancels a bunch
of different things and then they

1686
01:02:43,112 --> 01:02:44,342
show up and nothing is there.

1687
01:02:44,342 --> 01:02:44,522
So.

1688
01:02:44,852 --> 01:02:47,492
I feel like that's like a popular thing.

1689
01:02:47,612 --> 01:02:47,987
oh my God.

1690
01:02:47,992 --> 01:02:49,275
Like I like hear it all.

1691
01:02:49,275 --> 01:02:50,445
I hear about that a lot.

1692
01:02:50,445 --> 01:02:54,165
Like people like, 'cause that's why,
the vendors have to have a code now.

1693
01:02:54,225 --> 01:02:58,062
so like when you call in, like they have
to make like a special code, before you

1694
01:02:58,092 --> 01:03:01,845
can like, cancel anything because they've
had problems with like, people calling in

1695
01:03:01,845 --> 01:03:03,735
and like changing stuff or canceling it.

1696
01:03:03,884 --> 01:03:04,874
that weren't supposed to.

1697
01:03:05,594 --> 01:03:06,404
That's why I know.

1698
01:03:06,404 --> 01:03:09,164
I never knew that was a thing until
people started sending me stories and

1699
01:03:09,164 --> 01:03:12,594
they were like, yeah, my mother-in-law
tried changing everything at our venue.

1700
01:03:12,594 --> 01:03:13,704
And I'm like, what?

1701
01:03:13,867 --> 01:03:15,337
Why do people, people do that?

1702
01:03:15,337 --> 01:03:17,174
Like, this is really making these skits.

1703
01:03:17,174 --> 01:03:20,024
I've really learned a lot
about how crazy some people

1704
01:03:20,084 --> 01:03:20,444
are.

1705
01:03:20,587 --> 01:03:21,667
I agree with you.

1706
01:03:21,667 --> 01:03:24,247
'cause I'm like, wait, she did what?

1707
01:03:24,517 --> 01:03:27,397
I have to act that out,
you know, kind of thing.

1708
01:03:27,397 --> 01:03:28,447
Like, oh my gosh.

1709
01:03:28,987 --> 01:03:29,467
Oh my gosh.

1710
01:03:29,467 --> 01:03:30,337
That's so funny.

1711
01:03:30,597 --> 01:03:31,257
Oh my gosh.

1712
01:03:31,410 --> 01:03:33,000
Well, thank you so much for coming on.

1713
01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:34,680
This was so fun hanging out with you.

1714
01:03:34,680 --> 01:03:34,920
Oh

1715
01:03:35,220 --> 01:03:35,460
gosh.

1716
01:03:35,460 --> 01:03:36,270
Absolutely.

1717
01:03:36,270 --> 01:03:37,560
Thank you for having me.

1718
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:39,750
I was so excited to be on.

1719
01:03:39,750 --> 01:03:43,857
It was so fun to talk about all
the different stories and stuff,

1720
01:03:43,857 --> 01:03:45,357
so thank you for having me on.

1721
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:46,060
Yeah.

1722
01:03:46,060 --> 01:03:47,740
And thank you for sharing your story.

1723
01:03:47,740 --> 01:03:51,470
I know that was a lot probably to dive
back into, but, for everyone listening,

1724
01:03:51,470 --> 01:03:54,490
can you share again, like where they
can find all your content, your, like

1725
01:03:54,490 --> 01:03:58,490
your social handles, your book name,
and anything else fun you're working on?

1726
01:03:58,882 --> 01:03:59,392
Yeah.

1727
01:03:59,462 --> 01:04:02,432
so my book name is The Invisible String.

1728
01:04:02,432 --> 01:04:04,712
I think it might be backwards,
but in the invisible string.

1729
01:04:04,712 --> 01:04:05,642
No, it's, it's forward to me.

1730
01:04:06,212 --> 01:04:07,022
Oh, it's okay.

1731
01:04:07,022 --> 01:04:07,292
Cool.

1732
01:04:07,292 --> 01:04:07,352
Yeah.

1733
01:04:07,602 --> 01:04:09,642
you can find it on Amazon.

1734
01:04:09,762 --> 01:04:13,962
and then all my handles are just at
Sarah Wiseman for any of my social media.

1735
01:04:13,962 --> 01:04:15,672
I'm on TikTok and YouTube.

1736
01:04:15,809 --> 01:04:17,429
I don't really go on Instagram that much.

1737
01:04:17,429 --> 01:04:21,885
It's just like, it's like too complicated
for me, for Instagram for sure.

1738
01:04:22,480 --> 01:04:26,455
But yeah, I'm coming out with, so
I've like challenged myself to kind

1739
01:04:26,455 --> 01:04:30,989
of release like a new book every,
like, on YouTube is more like longer

1740
01:04:30,989 --> 01:04:35,969
stories where TikTok is like my short
bridal stories and like crazy skits.

1741
01:04:36,145 --> 01:04:39,565
so I've challenged myself to like
publish a book every month, and

1742
01:04:39,565 --> 01:04:41,232
then like kind of month act it Yeah.

1743
01:04:41,232 --> 01:04:43,062
Act it out on Go girl.

1744
01:04:43,092 --> 01:04:44,862
It probably won't be as big as this.

1745
01:04:44,862 --> 01:04:47,082
Not that this is big, but it
like, probably will be like

1746
01:04:47,082 --> 01:04:48,372
short stories kind of thing.

1747
01:04:48,372 --> 01:04:51,149
But, Right now I'm working on one
'cause one of my best friends who was a

1748
01:04:51,149 --> 01:04:55,505
bridesmaid of mine, she owns a Christmas
tree farm and it is so fun to work

1749
01:04:55,505 --> 01:04:56,795
with her at the Christmas Tree Farm.

1750
01:04:56,795 --> 01:05:00,965
So the next book I'm gonna be
publishing here soon is actually a

1751
01:05:00,965 --> 01:05:03,395
Christmas tree farm story, so Oh my

1752
01:05:03,395 --> 01:05:03,935
gosh.

1753
01:05:03,935 --> 01:05:05,405
Like Hallmark story.

1754
01:05:05,405 --> 01:05:06,005
Yes,

1755
01:05:06,010 --> 01:05:06,170
yes.

1756
01:05:06,545 --> 01:05:07,805
I'm so excited about it.

1757
01:05:07,805 --> 01:05:12,469
So, and then I'll act it out and
like post it on YouTube and kind

1758
01:05:12,469 --> 01:05:13,905
of do that monthly over there.

1759
01:05:13,905 --> 01:05:19,911
But TikTok will basically stay like the
plot twist crazy wedding stuff and I

1760
01:05:19,911 --> 01:05:22,581
usually like romance, crazy relationship

1761
01:05:22,581 --> 01:05:23,931
stuff, all that.

1762
01:05:24,546 --> 01:05:25,011
I love that.

1763
01:05:25,011 --> 01:05:25,611
That's so smart.

1764
01:05:25,611 --> 01:05:29,501
That's such a smart way and fun way to
like market your books too and get people.

1765
01:05:29,501 --> 01:05:29,981
Yeah.

1766
01:05:30,108 --> 01:05:30,588
Yeah.

1767
01:05:30,874 --> 01:05:31,834
All right, well thank you so much.

1768
01:05:31,834 --> 01:05:35,044
We'll put all the links to all your books
and everything in the show notes as well.

1769
01:05:35,074 --> 01:05:35,104
Okay.

1770
01:05:35,974 --> 01:05:36,394
Thank you,

1771
01:05:36,394 --> 01:05:37,264
Krista.