<v Speaker 1>Jerry Katy and Josh six one hundred.

<v Speaker 2>Christine says, I have a middle school age son and

<v Speaker 2>there's this kid at his school with whom he's friendly,

<v Speaker 2>but they're not close friends. He's just kind of more

<v Speaker 2>of an acquaintance now, she said. Over the past few months,

<v Speaker 2>I've noticed that this kid is showing up to school

<v Speaker 2>wearing some pretty expensive stuff like Jordan's, a lot of

<v Speaker 2>Nike clothing. She says. I saw him in some nice

<v Speaker 2>Oakley sunglasses. I've even seen him riding around on a

<v Speaker 2>couple different e bikes on multiple occasions. Thank kid's got

<v Speaker 2>it going on, yeah, she says. Recently, this kid gave

<v Speaker 2>my son a Bluetooth speaker and a nice hoodie. My

<v Speaker 2>son said, it's no big deal, he just doesn't want

<v Speaker 2>it anymore, so she goes, Here's where I'm struggling. I

<v Speaker 2>know where this kid lives, and I know the family situation.

<v Speaker 2>They're not well off. Their cars they barely run, the

<v Speaker 2>house is not in great shape, and bay everything I know,

<v Speaker 2>these kinds of items seem far outside what the family

<v Speaker 2>could realistically afford. I don't know that anything illegal is happening,

<v Speaker 2>and I don't want to make unfair assumptions about the

<v Speaker 2>kid or about the family. But I can't shake the

<v Speaker 2>concern that some of these items might be stolen. So

<v Speaker 2>now I'm stuck JKJ. Do I say something to the school,

<v Speaker 2>Do I bring it up to the parents and risk

<v Speaker 2>being wildly offensive, or do I just let it go

<v Speaker 2>and trust that I don't actually know what's going on.

<v Speaker 2>I don't want to overstep, but I also don't want

<v Speaker 2>my son benefiting from something that might not be right.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, here's a.

<v Speaker 2>Question, guys, Am I overthinking this or is this something

<v Speaker 2>that I should speak up about? Please read this on

<v Speaker 2>your show. Would love your feedback. And that is from

<v Speaker 2>sweet Christine concern Christine's getting other people's business.

<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean, but I get it, like that's her kids.

<v Speaker 2>This kid's showing up in some nice clothes, got some

<v Speaker 2>nice gear, couple different e bikes. But she's like, the

<v Speaker 2>family can't afford this, so is it all stolen? What

<v Speaker 2>do you think, Katie?

<v Speaker 1>This one's so hard.

<v Speaker 3>You don't want to assume things about people like before

<v Speaker 3>you have the whole story. But your kid's involved here,

<v Speaker 3>and I think that as a parent, you need to

<v Speaker 3>make sure that whatever decision you make it's in the

<v Speaker 3>best interest of your child, like.

<v Speaker 2>When you don't want your child to hopefully possibly get

<v Speaker 2>framed somehow if this other kid gets caught and then like,

<v Speaker 2>well he was giving me this, because where's the proof?

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, exactly, And so I think that it needs to be.

<v Speaker 2>But I think because you really on the outside, they

<v Speaker 2>might not look like they're well off, but you have

<v Speaker 2>no idea what's going on.

<v Speaker 1>Maybe this kid is.

<v Speaker 3>Like tutoring other kids or something like that, make an

<v Speaker 3>extra money on the side, and that's where he's getting

<v Speaker 3>all this stuff, Like.

<v Speaker 1>You don't know. But I think as a mom, it's

<v Speaker 1>okay to.

<v Speaker 3>Start the conversation. I think that that's a good starting point.

<v Speaker 3>But man, there's so many moving pieces here.

<v Speaker 2>I'd like to hear whatever crazy nosy.

<v Speaker 1>I kind of want to hear what everyone else has

<v Speaker 1>to say. Hi, Tara, Hey, how's it going.

<v Speaker 4>Good morning?

<v Speaker 2>Well, good morning to you. Appreciate you taking the time

<v Speaker 2>to call in. What are your thoughts on Christine's message.

<v Speaker 4>I think she's completely overreaching. I think that that's crazy

<v Speaker 4>that she would jump to assumption about something that she

<v Speaker 4>doesn't even know that family, and I think it's between

<v Speaker 4>her and her son not to be accepting expensive gifts

<v Speaker 4>from an acquaintance, and that.

<v Speaker 5>Should be it.

<v Speaker 4>I think that's the conversation you have with your own dad.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I see what you're saying. But you know, speaking

<v Speaker 2>as a parent, who's you know, with my wife, who's

<v Speaker 2>fairly involved in the school, you get to know families

<v Speaker 2>pretty darn close. Yeah, so I guess it's it would

<v Speaker 2>be easy to say that I know that family. I

<v Speaker 2>know they struggle. I know they couldn't afford this stuff,

<v Speaker 2>So where the heck is it coming from? So I

<v Speaker 2>think I might disagree with you a little bit on

<v Speaker 2>that because I think you wouldn't.

<v Speaker 4>I don't know if you know that family well enough,

<v Speaker 4>and that's a conversation you have with that family. Other

<v Speaker 4>than that, I think judging somebody from the outside just

<v Speaker 4>because of their house and and those you know, those

<v Speaker 4>just you know, from what their house looks like, I

<v Speaker 4>think that's ridiculous to assume.

<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

<v Speaker 4>So, I mean I think that she's overreaching, and I

<v Speaker 4>think that's I think it's really inappropriate. I think that

<v Speaker 4>she's a conversation with her son not to be accepting

<v Speaker 4>expensive guests from anybody. I think even a close friend

<v Speaker 4>you would have that that conversation was like, hey, this

<v Speaker 4>is a little bit, you know, if it's outside of

<v Speaker 4>a birthday or something like that, like why are you

<v Speaker 4>you know, why are you gifted absolutely these type of gifts?

<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well, and honestly, I think you make a really

<v Speaker 3>good point just about the you know, people who show

<v Speaker 3>off their wealth through their home and their cars.

<v Speaker 1>Not everybody does they.

<v Speaker 3>You know, like a lot of people don't put money

<v Speaker 3>into their house or their car because it's in the bank.

<v Speaker 1>Like, we don't know how those people roll.

<v Speaker 2>There's multiple stories about millionaires driving civic millionaires. Yeah, thank

<v Speaker 2>you very much for calling in. Really appreciate your man.

<v Speaker 2>We're gonna zip our way down.

<v Speaker 5>Hey Aron, Hey Aaron, Hey, good morning guys.

<v Speaker 2>Are and Buddy, what are your thoughts on Christine's message.

<v Speaker 5>I have to agree with the previous caller. I think

<v Speaker 5>it is very intrusive and really crass to look at

<v Speaker 5>someone and go, oh, well, they obviously can't afford this,

<v Speaker 5>This must be stolen. Growing up, my parents did not

<v Speaker 5>have much. There were months that they didn't know how

<v Speaker 5>we would pay the mortgage and not lose the house.

<v Speaker 5>And yet I was always still dressed to the nines.

<v Speaker 5>I had the nicest things. I had a great car

<v Speaker 5>when I was in high school. And it was because

<v Speaker 5>they went into debt, they opened store credit cards, They

<v Speaker 5>made sure that that image for their child was projected

<v Speaker 5>because they grew up poor and they knew how embarrassing

<v Speaker 5>that was, and so they didn't want that for their kid.

<v Speaker 5>So who's to say these parents aren't struggling, aren't, you know,

<v Speaker 5>going into debt, but they want that kid to have

<v Speaker 5>everything in life let them.

<v Speaker 2>You know. And it's funny too, Aaron. We live in

<v Speaker 2>an age a time where thrifting is massive right now,

<v Speaker 2>and there's so many apps and things where you can

<v Speaker 2>go online and buy vintage clothing, Nike clothing, you know,

<v Speaker 2>high end items for fairly inexpensively, I think. So who's

<v Speaker 2>to say that they aren't picking this stuff up on

<v Speaker 2>the cheap too, and this kid's rocking it or they're knockoffs.

<v Speaker 2>It could be knockoff Nike stuff.

<v Speaker 1>You don't know, right.

<v Speaker 2>It is probably a mind your own business situation, it

<v Speaker 2>really is.

<v Speaker 5>Because you know, there's that phrase out there. Unless they're

<v Speaker 5>paying your bills, pay those people, know mind? So who

<v Speaker 5>does she think she is to kind of interfere with

<v Speaker 5>this family's life and potentially get them in trouble with

<v Speaker 5>the law by turning them into the school.

<v Speaker 2>Look at you coming with the doctor, Phil.

<v Speaker 3>Well that's really good point though, Like they could get

<v Speaker 3>in trouble if she you know, pursues this and says

<v Speaker 3>I think this stuff's stolen, well then that's going.

<v Speaker 2>To get the ball rolling. Absolutely, Aaron, I got like

<v Speaker 2>five more people to get to Thank you so much

<v Speaker 2>for calling in today. Very wise words. Okay, how do

<v Speaker 2>you pronounce line five? Josh jar Hi chin jar hi?

<v Speaker 2>How you doing well? We're super dupes. What are your

<v Speaker 2>thoughts about Christine and this kid that her son knows.

<v Speaker 6>I don't think it's uh a bad thing to think

<v Speaker 6>about it, to be honest. If for it to cross

<v Speaker 6>your mind, what I would probably do is maybe go

<v Speaker 6>if you know where they live, just go visit and

<v Speaker 6>introduce your something to say, hey, I just want to

<v Speaker 6>say thank you for you know, your your son gave

<v Speaker 6>my son this. I just want to say thank you.

<v Speaker 6>Here's a little and I'll give card or something for them.

<v Speaker 6>And if they realized, if they realize it is stolen

<v Speaker 6>or like, hey, our son, if we never bought our

<v Speaker 6>son this, then let them deal with it. That's as

<v Speaker 6>far as it goes on on my end.

<v Speaker 2>But I like this way.

<v Speaker 1>That's so good.

<v Speaker 2>Why I love it so much.

<v Speaker 1>I never I'm a mom, and I never would have

<v Speaker 1>thought that.

<v Speaker 2>Today. I just say thank you and they're like, uh

<v Speaker 2>what e bikes?

<v Speaker 3>Ye?

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's brilliant. If she doesn't let it go, I

<v Speaker 2>think she should do what you're suggesting, buddy. Thank you

<v Speaker 2>so much for the call. Really really good smart. All right,

<v Speaker 2>I got Patty and Jeannette, thank you, chin jar. Here

<v Speaker 2>is Patty, Hi, Patty?

<v Speaker 5>Hi there?

<v Speaker 2>What should she do?

<v Speaker 7>Uh?

<v Speaker 8>Well, I think people are forgetting a possibility.

<v Speaker 4>Here.

<v Speaker 8>We have one grandson and we're the ones that fund

<v Speaker 8>the sports and buy the under Armours and you.

<v Speaker 1>Know, grandparents, yeah right, it could totally be gifts.

<v Speaker 7>Yeah yeah, because we weren't able to do that with

<v Speaker 7>our kids, you know. So that's a grandparents. Uh it's

<v Speaker 7>a joy to be able to do that. And his

<v Speaker 7>parents work hard and and they do what they can,

<v Speaker 7>but it's our job as grandparents to the under Armors.

<v Speaker 1>You get to soil a little bit.

<v Speaker 7>Right, Yeah, that's right. So I think that's got to

<v Speaker 7>be considered and Christine needs to kind of just.

<v Speaker 8>Keep her nose.

<v Speaker 6>Out of it.

<v Speaker 2>Yea, Hey, Patty, we love grandparents too, and we like

<v Speaker 2>under armours already taken care. Here's your coals cash and

<v Speaker 2>buy me an under armour hoodie, Patty.

<v Speaker 7>I'll send it to you next week.

<v Speaker 2>I love you. I love you to pieces. Patty.

<v Speaker 7>Well, thank you.

<v Speaker 2>Thank you for taking the time to call in your sweetheart.

<v Speaker 1>Another solid point.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, really good. Yeah, all right, we'll wrap things up

<v Speaker 2>with Jeanette. Jannette, you get the final word on this.

<v Speaker 9>Hi, So I agree with the previous caller. I'm that

<v Speaker 9>mother who drives a two thousand and seven SUPERU. I

<v Speaker 9>live in rent controlled housing. All of that. My kids

<v Speaker 9>have nice things because of my support system, my parents, yeah,

<v Speaker 9>my siblings, et cetera. I think for Christine this is

<v Speaker 9>a great parenting moment for her to have a conversation

<v Speaker 9>with her son about when it's appropriate to accept gifts

<v Speaker 9>and things like that. But ultimately, it's really none of

<v Speaker 9>her business where this kid is getting them from, because

<v Speaker 9>you don't know.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I think you nailed it. You really don't know.

<v Speaker 3>And I like how you said you need to have

<v Speaker 3>a conversation with your son about accepting expensive gifts from

<v Speaker 3>people and what your boundaries are in that.

<v Speaker 2>You know, you can totally say exactly.

<v Speaker 9>It's a great parenting moment, but it doesn't need to

<v Speaker 9>go past that parenting moment.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, really good, Jeanette. You're a good mom.

<v Speaker 1>We can tell.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we can totally tell. You're getting choked up. You're

<v Speaker 2>a good mom. Keep doing what you're doing, all right.

<v Speaker 9>Thank you, thank you, I have a good day.

<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Patty, thank you, everybody.

<v Speaker 2>Good call. I think the consensus is just mind your

<v Speaker 2>own business and have a talk with your kid. I

<v Speaker 2>think that's going to be the best angle.

<v Speaker 3>And that was if you're not going to even if

<v Speaker 3>you can, and then still just also do that as well.

<v Speaker 1>Go say thank you and give him a gift for.

<v Speaker 2>Or just drive by the front of the house really

<v Speaker 2>slow and be like I think your so and then

<v Speaker 2>just speed off.

<v Speaker 1>E bikes.

<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for your calls and comments and

<v Speaker 2>that email that came in Christine. Hopefully that was some

<v Speaker 2>good advice for you. If you ever want to write

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