<v Speaker 1>Jerey Katy and Josh Max one hundred. So this one,
<v Speaker 1>by the way, I don't know if we really have
<v Speaker 1>a name because it just signed. I'm probably gonna end
<v Speaker 1>up as the cat lady, So there's that. But it says, hey, guys,
<v Speaker 1>love the show and I need your help with something.
<v Speaker 1>Since you work together and your friends, I feel like
<v Speaker 1>you can relate. I started a new job last year
<v Speaker 1>and I love it except one thing. Every time it's
<v Speaker 1>someone's birthday, you're expected to chip in twenty bucks for
<v Speaker 1>the cake, balloons and gift every single birthday? What the
<v Speaker 1>heck is up with that? That sounds a little crazy,
<v Speaker 1>doesn't it?
<v Speaker 2>Look says it.
<v Speaker 1>I mean, what do you think, like twenty twenty five
<v Speaker 1>people work at a business.
<v Speaker 2>That's a lot. It's a small business.
<v Speaker 1>She didn't, she didn't say. She said every birthday, but
<v Speaker 1>even then that's one hundred bucks. And she goes on
<v Speaker 1>to say, none of these people are actually my friends.
<v Speaker 2>I mean we get along. I like coming to work.
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I did reminded me of Jeremy actually, But she said,
<v Speaker 1>but don't you think buying gifts and celebrations should be
<v Speaker 1>restricted to friends and family?
<v Speaker 2>She says, I'm not a complete party pooper.
<v Speaker 1>At my last job, the people, the person whose birthday
<v Speaker 1>it was, they brought in their favorite cake for everyone
<v Speaker 1>to share. And that's more reasonable to me. Right, the
<v Speaker 1>birthday person gets their favorite cake, nobody ever forgets, and
<v Speaker 1>there's not one person solely in charge of everybody's birthday.
<v Speaker 1>So she said, I tried to mention this to our
<v Speaker 1>HR lady and she looked like she was gonna cry.
<v Speaker 1>So if it didn't go over well with HR, she says,
<v Speaker 1>help JKJ. I'm not made of money. What suggestions do
<v Speaker 1>you and your listeners have? Am I in the right here?
<v Speaker 1>Or should I just suck it up and pitch in
<v Speaker 1>twenty bucks every time someone celebrates a trip around the sun?
<v Speaker 1>I listen every day. Thank you so much for making
<v Speaker 1>me laugh. Sign the cat lady.
<v Speaker 3>All right, if you guys want to sound off about this,
<v Speaker 3>three oh three six' nine one sixteen forty, nine phone
<v Speaker 3>lines are way.
<v Speaker 2>Open you, know she's gonna get.
<v Speaker 3>Hers her birthday's gonna roll, around and she's gonna get you,
<v Speaker 3>know some really nice gifts and.
<v Speaker 1>CARDS i get, That but, again LIKE I i like
<v Speaker 1>the idea of just bringing in a. CAKE i don't
<v Speaker 1>think you need to have the full celebration at. WORK
<v Speaker 1>i MEAN i think of just being in, here, RIGHT i,
<v Speaker 1>mean how many people would you buy gifts for here
<v Speaker 1>at our? Business at our.
<v Speaker 2>Work here's the.
<v Speaker 3>Problem it would be unexpected here in our work because
<v Speaker 3>it is. Large, YEAH i have a feeling that she's
<v Speaker 3>probably in a smaller. Office, okay say five to ten
<v Speaker 3>and IT'S i don't even know if it would be,
<v Speaker 3>ten because that's a that's a big. Ask if it's,
<v Speaker 3>TEN i bet you she's in a smaller little, again
<v Speaker 3>mom and pop.
<v Speaker 1>Shot how many people would you buy gifts for in this? Building,
<v Speaker 1>Well i've tried to put the kebash on.
<v Speaker 2>YouTube NO i wouldn't let. You so that's WHAT i,
<v Speaker 2>mean is, LIKE i don't want to do that.
<v Speaker 3>Anymore, yeah just because it's one less thing that it's
<v Speaker 3>filling up my, brain one less twenty dollars bill coming
<v Speaker 3>out of my Walle we don't.
<v Speaker 2>Need to do that between the three of, them and
<v Speaker 2>we do actually actually make. Friends makes, different it's different
<v Speaker 2>people on this. Show we stopped stop, Anymore, no we.
<v Speaker 2>Don't it's just lives and we're. DONE i just a
<v Speaker 2>twenty dollars bill and you can have me any that's.
<v Speaker 1>So, Impersonal like that's the thing is when it's actually.
<v Speaker 1>FRIENDS i think it's important because you're showing your friend
<v Speaker 1>that you thought about, Them, like oh my, goodness this
<v Speaker 1>gift made me think about, you AND i bought it
<v Speaker 1>AND i can't wait to give it to you and
<v Speaker 1>see the smile that it puts on your.
<v Speaker 2>Face like. Frustration i'm not even really a fan of
<v Speaker 2>like the birthday cake. Even i'm just kind of like
<v Speaker 2>just we don't need to acknowledge. It. CAKE i know
<v Speaker 2>you like, cake AND i.
<v Speaker 1>Like that the person whose birthday it is you bring
<v Speaker 1>in your favorite.
<v Speaker 2>Cake that's. GENIUS i do it's for employee morale and.
<v Speaker 3>Everything BUT i know a lot of people were, there,
<v Speaker 3>like why are you making me take time out of
<v Speaker 3>my day to do this and eat cake and? Celebrate
<v Speaker 3>CAN i just please do my. JOB i come here
<v Speaker 3>to do my, jobs don't come here to Part.
<v Speaker 1>YEAH i think that's kind of the lengths or the
<v Speaker 1>line that she's going here as, well is like she's
<v Speaker 1>not super friendly with everybody she works.
<v Speaker 3>WITH i see a lot of you texting right. Now
<v Speaker 3>we want your, comments we want to talk to. You
<v Speaker 3>i'm going to talk to some. People three oh three
<v Speaker 3>six nine one one mix three oh three six nine
<v Speaker 3>one sixteen forty. Nine should you be required to chip
<v Speaker 3>in for people at your office for their?
<v Speaker 2>Birthday? Yeah especially ones you don't even, KNOW i. Know
<v Speaker 2>should that be a?
<v Speaker 3>Requirement would you be looked down on if you were, like,
<v Speaker 3>Nah i'm going to.
<v Speaker 2>Pass Here's alex on the. Line, Hi.
<v Speaker 1>Alex, hello how.
<v Speaker 4>Are you guys?
<v Speaker 2>Sitting? Oh we're super. Dupes how are you?
<v Speaker 4>Doing?
<v Speaker 5>Pretty pretty?
<v Speaker 1>Decent all, Right, well what.
<v Speaker 2>Are your thoughts about this birthday situation at the?
<v Speaker 5>Office my my thought process is was it in the
<v Speaker 5>contract when it was signed when she got the job?
<v Speaker 4>Off or was it in the? Contract because, like if
<v Speaker 4>you're you have that, option you, know if you're reading
<v Speaker 4>a contract and you're, like, OH i have to chip
<v Speaker 4>in twenty bucks for of my own money for the.
<v Speaker 4>Birthday DO i really want to do? This DO i
<v Speaker 4>really want this?
<v Speaker 3>Job?
<v Speaker 4>Like that's because that's For i'm just like you. GUYS
<v Speaker 4>i just want to go, in do my, job go.
<v Speaker 4>Home i'm.
<v Speaker 2>Good, well you're like. Me katie wants to? Party, well,
<v Speaker 2>NO I.
<v Speaker 1>The funny thing IS i want to party with my,
<v Speaker 1>friends AND i do have some friends, here but like
<v Speaker 1>we have a unique, Job like we sit in the
<v Speaker 1>studio together for five plus hours a, day so we
<v Speaker 1>are friends because, yeah, Exactly.
<v Speaker 2>Like it's a forced.
<v Speaker 3>Friendship but that's a funny, Thought, alex that you, know
<v Speaker 3>you get your contract and you're going over your, salary
<v Speaker 3>your bonus, structure your, benefits and then the birthday structure
<v Speaker 3>with the company.
<v Speaker 2>Exactly, yeah and you're, LIKE i don't THINK i can sign.
<v Speaker 2>THIS i don't know IF i could sign this because
<v Speaker 2>of the birthday. STRUCTURE i don't like this balloon. Budget
<v Speaker 2>that's a funny.
<v Speaker 3>Point really really appreciate you calling, It. Alex we got
<v Speaker 3>full phone. MINDS i want to get to a few
<v Speaker 3>more people while we have. Time I'm Here's, Kendra Hi,
<v Speaker 3>Kindra welcome to the. Show, hi good, Morning good morning to.
<v Speaker 3>You so what are your thoughts about this birthday situation at.
<v Speaker 6>WORK i just think it's a little, Ridiculous LIKE i
<v Speaker 6>think a cake is more than. Enough having balloons and,
<v Speaker 6>CASES i, mean they're not important people in your life
<v Speaker 6>at the end of the.
<v Speaker 2>Day, yeah well they're. Not, Like, snap you didn't pick
<v Speaker 2>to hang out with these. People you were put. There
<v Speaker 2>i've always said they're. Coworkers not, again it's unique. Here
<v Speaker 2>they're not your. Coworkers they are not friends.
<v Speaker 6>Exactly but if you end up having, friends you go
<v Speaker 6>and celebrate outside of the.
<v Speaker 4>Office from, there that's.
<v Speaker 3>True in the.
<v Speaker 2>Office, now what are your?
<v Speaker 3>Thoughts we don't, know BUT i feel like this is
<v Speaker 3>a small office. Setting so say there's roughly five to
<v Speaker 3>ten people within this small office setting and you're the
<v Speaker 3>only one who's not participating and not shipping, in then
<v Speaker 3>what do you?
<v Speaker 2>Do you are you? Guys we're gonna you live your
<v Speaker 2>life BECAUSE i feel like that would get. Awkward and,
<v Speaker 2>truly you're blowing twenty.
<v Speaker 3>Bucks on A netflix subscription or coffee for. YOURSELF i,
<v Speaker 3>mean why not blow it for Your, corekkis we're.
<v Speaker 6>Assault why do we care if we did not chip
<v Speaker 6>in twenty bucks for a? Birthday we're not teenagers.
<v Speaker 7>Anymore we're.
<v Speaker 3>Adults, Yeah, Kendra i'm just trying to play devil's advocate
<v Speaker 3>BECAUSE i am so on your. Side oh you're a rock, Star.
<v Speaker 3>Kendra thank you for, calling and have a very good.
<v Speaker 2>Day she's very, Wise. Katie there's a.
<v Speaker 1>Lot of good points here.
<v Speaker 2>Already Points Hi, Anika, hi, guys good.
<v Speaker 3>Morning oh we're being. Silly what are your thoughts on
<v Speaker 3>this birthday?
<v Speaker 8>SITUATION i completely agree with everybody. ELSE i think it's honestly.
<v Speaker 8>Ridiculous and, again she might be in a smaller. OFFICE
<v Speaker 8>i don't know how many people she works, with BUT
<v Speaker 8>i feel like twenty dollars is kind of a lot
<v Speaker 8>when you think about everybody contributing twenty, Dollars like how
<v Speaker 8>much a cake, Is like you can get a cake
<v Speaker 8>for five bucks At king Cooper is if you need, To, like,
<v Speaker 8>right you.
<v Speaker 2>Find those clearance cakes on those clearance, racks that's what
<v Speaker 2>you need to. Buy, yeah what kind of balloons are
<v Speaker 2>they get like?
<v Speaker 7>THAT i don't. Know it seems a little extensive for
<v Speaker 7>everybody to need to pitch in twenty. Dollars BUT i
<v Speaker 7>agree with like, everybody like we're, adults they're your. COWORKERS
<v Speaker 7>I i don't see the need to go all out
<v Speaker 7>for every single person's birthday, because, YEAH i it's ten.
<v Speaker 2>People it's two hundred bucks of pop every time for.
<v Speaker 2>Everybody that's a, lot but it's only.
<v Speaker 3>Twenty coming from, you and it's you, know it's twenty
<v Speaker 3>dollars to make somebody feel?
<v Speaker 1>Special hr lady keeping a cut of, This like what that?
<v Speaker 3>Work what if you do get cake balloons and then
<v Speaker 3>they get you really, nice nice gift card to go.
<v Speaker 2>Pa maybe that's. It but, again you're making somebody feel.
<v Speaker 1>Special but you're almost paying for your own gift card
<v Speaker 1>because you're contributing twenty dollars every, Time so it's like
<v Speaker 1>you're your own gift card and so it cancels out
<v Speaker 1>and so, yeah it's.
<v Speaker 2>But can you put a price on making somebody feel?
<v Speaker 2>Special twenty dollars? Bucks is what? Is? Annika thank you
<v Speaker 2>for your, Vote thank you for calling in this.
<v Speaker 7>Morning, yep thanks, Guys bye.
<v Speaker 3>Bye, Mercedes, Hi, Mercedes, hi good. Morning so would you
<v Speaker 3>would you be chicking chipping in the twenty?
<v Speaker 4>BUCKS i feel.
<v Speaker 5>Like you should kind of be able to like sign
<v Speaker 5>up for, It LIKE i would like to be, celebrated
<v Speaker 5>So i'll pitch in the Twenty but if you don't want,
<v Speaker 5>to then you don't have to.
<v Speaker 1>THAT i love, It, okay so, Smart, yes you can
<v Speaker 1>have a group of people that want to.
<v Speaker 3>Celebrate but what all nine of your coworkers do it
<v Speaker 3>and you're the only one that.
<v Speaker 4>Doesn't, well then you're the only one.
<v Speaker 6>That doesn't the.
<v Speaker 3>Back you are shunned and they don't like you in
<v Speaker 3>a small, office and that's going to get off with.
<v Speaker 5>Me i'm not used to celebrating my birthday and other
<v Speaker 5>places because it's two days Before, christmas SO i never
<v Speaker 5>like celebrated it in, school at, work, Nothing SO i
<v Speaker 5>wouldn't personally, Me i'd be, like, No i'm, GOOD i
<v Speaker 5>DON'T i don't need.
<v Speaker 1>To so that's a.
<v Speaker 2>Good, YEAH i don't.
<v Speaker 3>Care and, really isn't it like when you get to
<v Speaker 3>a certain age, too you're, like please don't acknowledge my.
<v Speaker 2>Birthday, yeah you don't need to bring attention to. This nobody.
<v Speaker 2>CARES i don't. Care let's move.
<v Speaker 1>On ten people singing at. You that's enough to make anything. Right,
<v Speaker 1>like that's the most awkward.
<v Speaker 3>Situation thank You mercedes for calling. In appreciate your thoughts, That,
<v Speaker 3>yeah that's one of my. Things there's no more of
<v Speaker 3>an awkward moment than when you're sitting there at the
<v Speaker 3>table in front of a cake and you got twenty
<v Speaker 3>people around you.
<v Speaker 2>Singing make a, wish.
<v Speaker 3>Let's sing to, you and then you spit on the
<v Speaker 3>cave and what do you look?
<v Speaker 1>At do you look at one person, singing do you
<v Speaker 1>move your.
<v Speaker 3>Eye Care, GENERALLY i just look down and be, like Oh,
<v Speaker 3>god take me. Out this would be a great time
<v Speaker 3>for me to. Die please take me, now make then stop.
<v Speaker 3>Singing for the love Of, god my wishes THAT i
<v Speaker 3>die right.
<v Speaker 2>Now Hi, Andrea, Hi, Hi. Hi well on that, note
<v Speaker 2>what are your?
<v Speaker 4>Thoughts, yeah, WELL i think with everybody, ELSE i also
<v Speaker 4>agree that it's kind of. PERSONALLY i could care less
<v Speaker 4>about a cake or. Balloons it's a waste of. Money as,
<v Speaker 4>adults it's like we don't really get excited about those
<v Speaker 4>kind of things. ANYMORE i say we pull the money
<v Speaker 4>and save it up for one big party and do
<v Speaker 4>it outside of, work and maybe if we have a
<v Speaker 4>little drinks, involved maybe everybody would become better. FRIENDS i
<v Speaker 4>want to.
<v Speaker 3>Hang out for.
<v Speaker 2>It so you've got a drinking. PROBLEM i like that
<v Speaker 2>a big community birthday, party everybody gets. Smashed you're hooking
<v Speaker 2>up with your.
<v Speaker 4>Coworkers, okay, well, YEAH i.
<v Speaker 3>Love your idea of sleeping with all your. Coworkers you
<v Speaker 3>gotta make it.
<v Speaker 5>Weird well.
<v Speaker 6>Done nobody said that totally said the.
<v Speaker 4>PARTY i think of the party you could throw if
<v Speaker 4>you pulled up twenty dollars from everybody for every. Birthday,
<v Speaker 4>yes that's what you, said.
<v Speaker 2>AND i love.
<v Speaker 3>It make your whole company at all of.
<v Speaker 2>Soup and, breadsteaks all.
<v Speaker 1>Nice the ideas of party are so.
<v Speaker 2>Different thank you so. Much all, right we got time
<v Speaker 2>for one. More It's Leah Hei. Leah, Hello, hello.
<v Speaker 4>Listen There's i'm gonna preface this with. EVERYBODY i learned
<v Speaker 4>this and training years. Ago everybody likes to be acknowledged
<v Speaker 4>differently in the, workplace, Right so some people might love
<v Speaker 4>the attention that you get and seeing that everybody thinks
<v Speaker 4>you're special on your, birthday and some people would like
<v Speaker 4>to like You jeremy calling a hole and die and
<v Speaker 4>not ever come.
<v Speaker 3>Out.
<v Speaker 4>Yeah so we at a previous employer of, mine they
<v Speaker 4>would just they would just do once a, month like
<v Speaker 4>in the middle of the, month this is the firsday,
<v Speaker 4>lunch and they would order pizza and order get A
<v Speaker 4>costco cake and everybody would do it and high. Five
<v Speaker 4>it's everybody's. Birthday have a good. Time BUT i will
<v Speaker 4>say that if this little hr lady at this job
<v Speaker 4>is the one that looked like you kicked her puppy
<v Speaker 4>when you told her you didn't want to do it,
<v Speaker 4>anymore then maybe the company should be the ones forking
<v Speaker 4>over the money to pay for all these things instead
<v Speaker 4>of expecting their employees to do.
<v Speaker 2>It, yeah it's a solid. Point start budgeting for this birthday.
<v Speaker 4>Balloons, yeah, like don't make everybody pitch, In like what
<v Speaker 4>if somebody financially can't afford to do it and now
<v Speaker 4>they feel guilty because of the pressure of doing it
<v Speaker 4>every single? Time like you, said there could be ten,
<v Speaker 4>people there could be fifty. People But i'm a birthday.
<v Speaker 4>BRAT i do my birthday all month. Long it's, like you,
<v Speaker 4>know you, know.
<v Speaker 2>Like you're one of those. Areas do you start my
<v Speaker 2>birth my thirtieth?
<v Speaker 4>Broy is it?
<v Speaker 3>So?
<v Speaker 4>Yeah so, ANYWAY i just. CRY i think it's fun
<v Speaker 4>to do things and acknowledge the people that want to be,
<v Speaker 4>acknowledged but maybe give the person whose birthday it is
<v Speaker 4>the opportunity of saying whether they want to or.
<v Speaker 2>Not, yeah that's.
<v Speaker 3>Good ray wise, Words, leah thank you so. Much we're
<v Speaker 3>excited about your birthday month coming. Up remind me to
<v Speaker 3>get you, Something, OKAY i love you mean it by Geez.
<v Speaker 3>WELL i think the consensus basically was that you don't
<v Speaker 3>need to chip. In be an adult was mentioned many. Times,
<v Speaker 3>yeah an, adult don't worry about, it just say no
<v Speaker 3>and don't be scared about.
<v Speaker 2>It, yeah that's.
<v Speaker 1>Right you can go buy your own cake and pretend
<v Speaker 1>it's your birthday every day of the. Week there are
<v Speaker 1>no rules about, That LIKE i could go get a
<v Speaker 1>cake now and eat it all to.
<v Speaker 2>Myself that is also one of the great things about
<v Speaker 2>being an. Adult you can have cake for. Breakfast if
<v Speaker 2>you want, it you can have. Cake go get. It
<v Speaker 2>get that. Cake
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