1 00:00:00,187 --> 00:00:00,947 Hey everybody. 2 00:00:00,977 --> 00:00:02,777 Welcome back to another episode 3 00:00:02,777 --> 00:00:03,827 of, here Comes The Drama. 4 00:00:03,917 --> 00:00:05,457 I'm your host, Christa Innis, 5 00:00:05,737 --> 00:00:07,001 and I'm extra excited for you 6 00:00:07,001 --> 00:00:08,441 guys to be here today because 7 00:00:08,471 --> 00:00:10,481 it's our one year anniversary. 8 00:00:10,886 --> 00:00:12,237 I can't believe I'm saying that out 9 00:00:12,237 --> 00:00:13,557 loud because I still remember the. 10 00:00:13,983 --> 00:00:15,612 Coming up with this idea, feeling 11 00:00:15,612 --> 00:00:17,472 like it was so out of my reach. 12 00:00:17,502 --> 00:00:18,342 And here it is. 13 00:00:18,342 --> 00:00:20,922 I just am so grateful to all of you 14 00:00:20,922 --> 00:00:22,896 guys for listening to sending in 15 00:00:22,896 --> 00:00:25,236 stories, to just sharing your support. 16 00:00:25,236 --> 00:00:26,586 It just means so much to me. 17 00:00:26,813 --> 00:00:28,662 So before I get too mushy and 18 00:00:28,992 --> 00:00:30,552 share too much about the podcast, 19 00:00:30,836 --> 00:00:32,399 I wanna read, this week's review. 20 00:00:33,036 --> 00:00:34,242 It's from Lady Tony. 21 00:00:34,242 --> 00:00:35,472 It says, when I was pregnant 22 00:00:35,472 --> 00:00:37,789 with my daughter in 2024, I got 23 00:00:37,789 --> 00:00:39,409 hooked with the skits on Insta. 24 00:00:39,622 --> 00:00:40,549 Then I came across this 25 00:00:40,549 --> 00:00:42,439 podcast, craving for Drama. 26 00:00:42,439 --> 00:00:43,369 Satisfied. 27 00:00:43,662 --> 00:00:46,532 I love that because we all secretly, or 28 00:00:46,532 --> 00:00:48,782 maybe not so secretly, love the drama. 29 00:00:49,096 --> 00:00:50,689 Especially when it's not our own. 30 00:00:50,939 --> 00:00:52,269 that's the reason why, you know, 31 00:00:52,269 --> 00:00:53,349 I came up with this podcast. 32 00:00:53,349 --> 00:00:54,609 You guys wanted more stories, 33 00:00:54,609 --> 00:00:56,804 you wanted to hear more stories, 34 00:00:57,104 --> 00:00:59,597 talk more, hear more drama. 35 00:00:59,927 --> 00:01:01,481 and you guys were sending me so many, 36 00:01:01,481 --> 00:01:03,611 and this is a fun way to share more 37 00:01:03,611 --> 00:01:06,534 of myself, to meet other people. 38 00:01:07,129 --> 00:01:08,119 It's been a lot of fun. 39 00:01:08,372 --> 00:01:10,922 so before we jump into the full part of 40 00:01:10,922 --> 00:01:12,952 the episode, like I said, I wanna just 41 00:01:12,952 --> 00:01:14,902 celebrate something big here and that 42 00:01:14,902 --> 00:01:17,002 is, the podcast is a year old today. 43 00:01:17,312 --> 00:01:20,429 We also hit 250,000 downloads, which 44 00:01:20,429 --> 00:01:22,885 was well beyond my expectations. 45 00:01:22,885 --> 00:01:23,935 I think I've said this before, 46 00:01:23,935 --> 00:01:25,225 but I thought we were gonna hit 47 00:01:25,225 --> 00:01:27,295 like 25,000 in the first year. 48 00:01:27,499 --> 00:01:28,832 That was my initial goal. 49 00:01:29,095 --> 00:01:31,625 so I'm just blown away by the support, the 50 00:01:31,625 --> 00:01:33,899 love, all the stories you guys share with 51 00:01:33,899 --> 00:01:36,745 me, people willing to come on the podcast. 52 00:01:36,775 --> 00:01:38,215 I've met so many amazing 53 00:01:38,215 --> 00:01:40,572 people that have been, just. 54 00:01:40,879 --> 00:01:42,254 Eager to come on the podcast and 55 00:01:42,254 --> 00:01:44,354 just be real and have conversation. 56 00:01:44,694 --> 00:01:46,314 and it's been really great for me 57 00:01:46,314 --> 00:01:48,727 to just expand because as I've said 58 00:01:48,727 --> 00:01:50,570 before, know, I work from home. 59 00:01:50,570 --> 00:01:52,639 My husband works from home, and 60 00:01:52,715 --> 00:01:54,185 it's great to just meet people, but 61 00:01:54,185 --> 00:01:55,155 with having a toddler, we don't. 62 00:01:55,625 --> 00:01:57,365 Always get out as much as we want to. 63 00:01:57,645 --> 00:01:59,025 and so this is a great way to 64 00:01:59,025 --> 00:02:00,535 meet people from all over the 65 00:02:00,535 --> 00:02:02,585 world, all over the country. 66 00:02:02,828 --> 00:02:05,088 And, that's just been such a blessing, 67 00:02:05,088 --> 00:02:06,318 such a gift to be able to do that. 68 00:02:06,662 --> 00:02:09,222 So, to say thank you to you guys after 69 00:02:09,222 --> 00:02:11,822 my blabbing here, I wanna tell you guys 70 00:02:11,822 --> 00:02:14,222 that I am doing a one year giveaway. 71 00:02:14,442 --> 00:02:15,552 not to be confused with the 72 00:02:15,552 --> 00:02:17,352 giveaway I'm doing for the new year. 73 00:02:17,532 --> 00:02:18,972 It's a little different, so pay 74 00:02:18,972 --> 00:02:21,481 attention to these specific details. 75 00:02:21,784 --> 00:02:23,074 but first I wanna share some 76 00:02:23,074 --> 00:02:24,904 fun stats about this podcast. 77 00:02:25,128 --> 00:02:27,384 So in the year, we have done 52 episodes. 78 00:02:28,044 --> 00:02:30,554 We had 34 unique guests. 79 00:02:30,614 --> 00:02:32,054 Many were on multiple times. 80 00:02:32,054 --> 00:02:34,248 I think maybe like five to 81 00:02:34,338 --> 00:02:36,348 10 were on multiple times. 82 00:02:36,644 --> 00:02:38,234 I know my best friend, Yvette has been 83 00:02:38,234 --> 00:02:39,914 on like three or four at this point. 84 00:02:40,206 --> 00:02:41,616 and some of the people I've interviewed, 85 00:02:41,736 --> 00:02:43,326 their episodes have not come out yet. 86 00:02:43,638 --> 00:02:44,733 And then I have some in my 87 00:02:44,733 --> 00:02:47,043 roster that are scheduled and 88 00:02:47,043 --> 00:02:48,573 have not been interviewed yet. 89 00:02:48,573 --> 00:02:51,459 So lots more exciting episodes coming out. 90 00:02:51,741 --> 00:02:54,069 This podcast has reached 50 different 91 00:02:54,069 --> 00:02:56,216 countries, including obviously the 92 00:02:56,216 --> 00:02:58,821 United States, well, Canada, United 93 00:02:58,821 --> 00:03:01,491 Kingdom, Australia, Germany, New Zealand. 94 00:03:01,551 --> 00:03:04,364 Ireland, Sweden, Philippines, Netherlands, 95 00:03:04,364 --> 00:03:07,864 Denmark, Norway, India, Mexico, France, 96 00:03:07,954 --> 00:03:10,444 South Africa, and many, many more. 97 00:03:10,694 --> 00:03:11,444 so that's very exciting. 98 00:03:11,444 --> 00:03:13,214 And yes, I know the UK includes 99 00:03:13,214 --> 00:03:14,204 many different countries. 100 00:03:14,451 --> 00:03:15,254 just kind of looking at 101 00:03:15,254 --> 00:03:16,304 my stats here quickly. 102 00:03:16,624 --> 00:03:17,671 so it's just. 103 00:03:17,974 --> 00:03:19,493 Mind blowing to me still, just 104 00:03:19,493 --> 00:03:20,693 to know how many of you guys 105 00:03:20,693 --> 00:03:22,343 listen to it every single week. 106 00:03:22,373 --> 00:03:23,946 And it makes me that much more 107 00:03:23,946 --> 00:03:26,129 excited to, also putting a lot 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00:04:52,309 --> 00:04:54,100 My personal way of giving back 155 00:04:54,100 --> 00:04:55,360 to you guys and saying thank you. 156 00:04:55,835 --> 00:04:56,347 All right. 157 00:04:56,587 --> 00:04:58,747 That was enough blabbing for today. 158 00:04:59,059 --> 00:05:00,377 But you know what, who am I? 159 00:05:00,437 --> 00:05:01,247 What am I saying? 160 00:05:01,307 --> 00:05:02,567 We're getting into more blabbing now. 161 00:05:02,567 --> 00:05:04,973 So let's get into today's episode. 162 00:05:05,283 --> 00:05:06,440 you would think I'd be a little 163 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:08,660 more well rested for this episode. 164 00:05:08,660 --> 00:05:09,980 I'm currently drinking this Gorge 165 00:05:10,010 --> 00:05:11,750 Energy drink, not sponsored at all. 166 00:05:12,100 --> 00:05:12,790 my husband put this in 167 00:05:12,790 --> 00:05:13,780 my stocking this year. 168 00:05:13,780 --> 00:05:14,500 Isn't it cute? 169 00:05:14,530 --> 00:05:15,640 If you're looking at the video, 170 00:05:16,097 --> 00:05:17,447 More caffeine than I'm used to. 171 00:05:17,837 --> 00:05:19,787 I did not get great sleep last night. 172 00:05:19,787 --> 00:05:21,257 It's been a doozy. 173 00:05:21,693 --> 00:05:23,870 and yeah, we stayed up too 174 00:05:23,870 --> 00:05:25,010 late watching Stranger Things. 175 00:05:25,254 --> 00:05:26,111 I'll get into that later. 176 00:05:26,389 --> 00:05:26,719 Okay. 177 00:05:26,809 --> 00:05:29,299 Let's get into, would you rather, and 178 00:05:29,299 --> 00:05:31,495 then I have a long story so I don't 179 00:05:31,495 --> 00:05:33,565 wanna take up too much time before 180 00:05:33,565 --> 00:05:36,245 that, would you rather seat feuding 181 00:05:36,245 --> 00:05:38,855 relatives together or leave one 182 00:05:38,915 --> 00:05:41,165 uninvited and deal with it forever? 183 00:05:41,672 --> 00:05:42,941 Ooh, that's hard. 184 00:05:42,941 --> 00:05:45,191 Seat feuding relatives together 185 00:05:45,551 --> 00:05:47,381 or leave one uninvited. 186 00:05:47,627 --> 00:05:49,097 That's gonna depend on my own 187 00:05:49,157 --> 00:05:51,407 personal relationship with them. 188 00:05:51,407 --> 00:05:51,497 Right. 189 00:05:51,731 --> 00:05:54,847 I hate causing drama or like 190 00:05:54,937 --> 00:05:56,977 causing something to happen. 191 00:05:57,340 --> 00:06:00,137 But if I'm thinking of like a situation 192 00:06:00,137 --> 00:06:01,787 where two people just can't get along 193 00:06:02,088 --> 00:06:04,433 and, let's say it's someone that's like 194 00:06:04,433 --> 00:06:07,270 closer to me, I would probably rather 195 00:06:07,510 --> 00:06:10,092 just not have someone invited if I knew 196 00:06:10,092 --> 00:06:11,832 they were gonna cause more drama at the 197 00:06:11,832 --> 00:06:13,762 wedding, seeing people together that 198 00:06:13,762 --> 00:06:16,102 I know aren't gonna get along is just, 199 00:06:16,339 --> 00:06:18,199 it's just asking for it at that point. 200 00:06:18,199 --> 00:06:19,823 So I think I'd rather just 201 00:06:19,823 --> 00:06:22,733 not invite one of the party. 202 00:06:23,176 --> 00:06:23,446 Okay. 203 00:06:23,853 --> 00:06:26,029 Two, would you rather your dad 204 00:06:26,029 --> 00:06:27,619 be late walking you down the 205 00:06:27,619 --> 00:06:29,959 aisle or your stepparent insist 206 00:06:29,959 --> 00:06:32,056 on being included last minute? 207 00:06:32,459 --> 00:06:33,734 I think I'd rather have my dad be 208 00:06:33,734 --> 00:06:34,964 late walking me down the aisle. 209 00:06:34,964 --> 00:06:36,284 Hopefully not too late. 210 00:06:36,627 --> 00:06:37,927 cause that's a problem. 211 00:06:38,276 --> 00:06:40,624 But again, all these things are very 212 00:06:40,624 --> 00:06:42,274 nuanced because if you're close with 213 00:06:42,274 --> 00:06:43,534 your stepparent, I would hope you 214 00:06:43,534 --> 00:06:45,364 kind of include them in some way. 215 00:06:45,662 --> 00:06:46,741 It doesn't have to be like them 216 00:06:46,741 --> 00:06:47,881 walking you down the aisle, but 217 00:06:47,881 --> 00:06:49,661 maybe you give them flowers and 218 00:06:49,661 --> 00:06:51,191 take photos with them ahead of time. 219 00:06:51,422 --> 00:06:52,184 Maybe you do like a 220 00:06:52,184 --> 00:06:53,684 special moment with them. 221 00:06:53,956 --> 00:06:54,586 but again, it's gonna 222 00:06:54,586 --> 00:06:55,936 depend on how close you are. 223 00:06:56,219 --> 00:06:58,474 If your stepparent is insisting, then my 224 00:06:58,474 --> 00:07:00,064 thought is maybe you're not that close, so 225 00:07:00,064 --> 00:07:01,444 that's why I'm gonna go with the late dad. 226 00:07:01,884 --> 00:07:02,214 Okay. 227 00:07:02,492 --> 00:07:04,707 Would you rather cover costs for a 228 00:07:04,707 --> 00:07:07,451 broke bridesmaid or ask for a step down? 229 00:07:07,921 --> 00:07:09,721 Absolutely cover the cost. 230 00:07:09,998 --> 00:07:11,874 If this person means enough to me where 231 00:07:11,874 --> 00:07:13,914 I ask them to be in the wedding, I would 232 00:07:13,974 --> 00:07:15,864 absolutely be like, don't worry about it. 233 00:07:15,894 --> 00:07:17,034 I will cover it for you. 234 00:07:17,374 --> 00:07:19,084 I've been in, not my own wedding, but 235 00:07:19,084 --> 00:07:21,231 I've been in other weddings where, a 236 00:07:21,231 --> 00:07:22,941 friend of mine reached out to me as 237 00:07:22,941 --> 00:07:24,201 like the maid of honor and was like. 238 00:07:24,495 --> 00:07:26,115 I'm in three other weddings this year. 239 00:07:26,115 --> 00:07:26,985 I don't think I can afford 240 00:07:26,985 --> 00:07:27,825 the bachelorette party. 241 00:07:28,104 --> 00:07:29,348 And I said, if you really wanna 242 00:07:29,348 --> 00:07:30,991 go, I will cover it for you. 243 00:07:31,021 --> 00:07:32,173 Like don't worry about it. 244 00:07:32,173 --> 00:07:32,623 Please. 245 00:07:32,623 --> 00:07:34,246 Like, I wanna make sure you're there 246 00:07:34,246 --> 00:07:35,899 for blank, actually come to think of 247 00:07:35,899 --> 00:07:37,459 it, I did have a couple bridesmaids, I 248 00:07:37,459 --> 00:07:39,169 wouldn't say broke bridesmaids at all. 249 00:07:39,229 --> 00:07:41,249 I'm not calling them that, but other 250 00:07:41,249 --> 00:07:42,809 ones that had other obligations like 251 00:07:42,809 --> 00:07:45,169 maybe other vacations planned or, 252 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:47,378 they were having a baby other things 253 00:07:47,378 --> 00:07:48,908 going on where I just told them like, 254 00:07:49,150 --> 00:07:51,058 let me know where I can step in. 255 00:07:51,397 --> 00:07:53,008 I would never ask them to step down if 256 00:07:53,008 --> 00:07:54,778 they couldn't afford something because 257 00:07:54,778 --> 00:07:56,308 the reason I'm asking someone to be in my 258 00:07:56,308 --> 00:07:58,498 wedding is 'cause they mean a lot to me. 259 00:07:59,066 --> 00:08:00,323 so I don't know. 260 00:08:00,323 --> 00:08:01,733 I just don't like that of like, 261 00:08:02,027 --> 00:08:03,257 oh, you can't afford this, or 262 00:08:03,257 --> 00:08:04,457 You don't wanna spend this. 263 00:08:04,457 --> 00:08:05,957 You can't stand up in my wedding. 264 00:08:06,137 --> 00:08:06,527 Nah. 265 00:08:06,911 --> 00:08:08,647 Would you rather your maid of honor, 266 00:08:08,707 --> 00:08:11,587 ghost planning, or take over everything? 267 00:08:12,124 --> 00:08:13,470 that's a tough one. 268 00:08:13,530 --> 00:08:14,970 I had the most amazing maid 269 00:08:14,970 --> 00:08:16,500 of honor, Yvette, who's been 270 00:08:16,500 --> 00:08:18,090 on my podcast many times. 271 00:08:18,408 --> 00:08:20,567 She would never either. 272 00:08:20,894 --> 00:08:22,484 God, I'm so bad because it's 273 00:08:22,484 --> 00:08:23,924 like I can't just pick one. 274 00:08:24,474 --> 00:08:25,644 Okay, I'm gonna pick one. 275 00:08:25,644 --> 00:08:27,234 I'm gonna say take over everything. 276 00:08:27,234 --> 00:08:29,584 I would rather, because think about this. 277 00:08:29,584 --> 00:08:30,394 If your maid of honor is 278 00:08:30,394 --> 00:08:32,164 ghosting you, they don't care. 279 00:08:32,194 --> 00:08:33,274 They don't wanna be there, they don't 280 00:08:33,274 --> 00:08:34,204 wanna be a part of your wedding. 281 00:08:34,434 --> 00:08:35,584 Who knows what's gonna happen to your 282 00:08:35,584 --> 00:08:37,744 relationship after your wedding day. 283 00:08:38,147 --> 00:08:39,447 so there's a lot of things, a 284 00:08:39,447 --> 00:08:41,097 lot of issues going on there. 285 00:08:41,362 --> 00:08:42,570 So if I can have them just 286 00:08:42,570 --> 00:08:43,620 take over the wedding. 287 00:08:43,990 --> 00:08:44,980 Hopefully they're good at it. 288 00:08:45,070 --> 00:08:45,430 I don't know. 289 00:08:46,643 --> 00:08:47,027 Okay. 290 00:08:47,390 --> 00:08:49,347 would you rather someone bring an 291 00:08:49,347 --> 00:08:52,093 uninvited plus one or bring their 292 00:08:52,093 --> 00:08:53,743 kids to a child free wedding? 293 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:57,147 These are tough ones. 294 00:08:57,665 --> 00:08:59,652 I think I would rather have someone 295 00:08:59,652 --> 00:09:01,212 bring an uninvited plus one. 296 00:09:01,590 --> 00:09:04,759 Because specified child-free wedding 297 00:09:05,072 --> 00:09:06,859 is not gonna be set up for more kids. 298 00:09:07,062 --> 00:09:07,689 Plus I think that's 299 00:09:07,689 --> 00:09:08,799 gonna cause more drama. 300 00:09:08,829 --> 00:09:11,219 'cause imagine if there was someone else 301 00:09:11,219 --> 00:09:12,869 that was like, oh, I can't bring my kids. 302 00:09:12,899 --> 00:09:14,009 Okay, I'll leave them at home. 303 00:09:14,009 --> 00:09:15,569 Or I'll call a babysitter or whatever. 304 00:09:15,865 --> 00:09:17,909 And then they come and this other 305 00:09:17,909 --> 00:09:18,924 person came with their kids. 306 00:09:18,924 --> 00:09:19,859 So I think that's gonna cause 307 00:09:19,859 --> 00:09:22,622 more drama, an uninvited plus one. 308 00:09:22,928 --> 00:09:23,921 Of Course, depending on the 309 00:09:23,921 --> 00:09:26,091 person, but, I think that's fine. 310 00:09:26,461 --> 00:09:27,457 ultimately it's not fine, 311 00:09:27,457 --> 00:09:28,437 but I think that's better. 312 00:09:28,747 --> 00:09:29,707 maybe they just needed 313 00:09:29,707 --> 00:09:31,301 a ride or, I don't know. 314 00:09:31,301 --> 00:09:31,811 They don't wanna come 315 00:09:31,811 --> 00:09:33,891 alone either are not ideal. 316 00:09:34,301 --> 00:09:36,107 Would you rather have a guest leave 317 00:09:36,137 --> 00:09:39,067 early and post about it or stay 318 00:09:39,067 --> 00:09:41,017 and complain the entire night? 319 00:09:41,528 --> 00:09:42,820 Well, if they're posting about 320 00:09:42,820 --> 00:09:44,080 it, are they posting like. 321 00:09:44,462 --> 00:09:45,427 Why they left earlier, 322 00:09:45,427 --> 00:09:46,327 why the wedding stopped? 323 00:09:46,327 --> 00:09:47,317 'cause that's what I'm thinking. 324 00:09:47,717 --> 00:09:50,517 Leave and post about it because if 325 00:09:50,517 --> 00:09:51,687 it's my wedding day, I am not paying 326 00:09:51,687 --> 00:09:53,007 attention to what people are posting. 327 00:09:53,007 --> 00:09:54,267 I'm not gonna see until the next day. 328 00:09:55,047 --> 00:09:55,993 So sorry. 329 00:09:56,345 --> 00:09:58,050 If they took the time out to post 330 00:09:58,050 --> 00:10:00,143 about why they left my wedding early, 331 00:10:00,143 --> 00:10:01,493 then it had more of an impact on 332 00:10:01,493 --> 00:10:02,783 them than they would like to think. 333 00:10:03,085 --> 00:10:03,490 Okay. 334 00:10:04,302 --> 00:10:05,917 Would you rather go over budget 335 00:10:05,917 --> 00:10:07,773 or cut your guest list in half? 336 00:10:08,232 --> 00:10:09,920 That's hard because to me, people 337 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:11,450 were the most important thing to 338 00:10:11,450 --> 00:10:13,060 me when planning everything out. 339 00:10:13,340 --> 00:10:14,363 it was really hard. 340 00:10:14,363 --> 00:10:15,683 There were a few people that were like 341 00:10:15,683 --> 00:10:17,123 on the, I don't know, like I haven't 342 00:10:17,123 --> 00:10:18,383 talked to 'em in a couple years, but 343 00:10:18,672 --> 00:10:20,397 when we were friends or when we did 344 00:10:20,397 --> 00:10:21,927 work together, we were really close. 345 00:10:21,927 --> 00:10:23,637 So there was a lot of people like that. 346 00:10:24,013 --> 00:10:24,973 Cutting in half would 347 00:10:24,973 --> 00:10:26,473 be really hard though. 348 00:10:26,845 --> 00:10:30,217 Now, I think I would say I would rather. 349 00:10:30,622 --> 00:10:32,152 Cut my guess list in half. 350 00:10:32,502 --> 00:10:34,288 Then I think I'd rather 351 00:10:34,288 --> 00:10:35,818 go a little over budget. 352 00:10:36,138 --> 00:10:37,422 It just depends on how much. 353 00:10:37,512 --> 00:10:37,842 Right. 354 00:10:38,208 --> 00:10:39,228 okay, last one. 355 00:10:39,368 --> 00:10:41,888 Would you rather accept money with strings 356 00:10:41,888 --> 00:10:44,572 attached or pay for everything yourself? 357 00:10:45,022 --> 00:10:46,728 Pay for everything myself, 358 00:10:46,788 --> 00:10:47,988 I've talked about this before. 359 00:10:48,245 --> 00:10:50,642 We had help on both sides and then 360 00:10:50,642 --> 00:10:52,322 we paid for a good chunk ourselves. 361 00:10:52,648 --> 00:10:55,498 but we never had any meddling parents. 362 00:10:55,758 --> 00:10:57,158 both of our parents, or say all 363 00:10:57,158 --> 00:10:59,862 four of our parents were so helpful. 364 00:11:00,097 --> 00:11:01,295 They never overstepped. 365 00:11:02,065 --> 00:11:03,370 talented in their own ways. 366 00:11:03,430 --> 00:11:04,990 And so I just found different ways to 367 00:11:04,990 --> 00:11:07,483 include each of them, especially our moms. 368 00:11:07,853 --> 00:11:10,100 Never did they once say, I'm taking 369 00:11:10,100 --> 00:11:12,110 this from you, I'm doing this, or go 370 00:11:12,110 --> 00:11:13,730 behind my back and change something. 371 00:11:13,730 --> 00:11:15,290 They were both so supportive, 372 00:11:15,583 --> 00:11:17,423 and they would never hold 373 00:11:17,423 --> 00:11:19,433 money or gifts over our head. 374 00:11:19,753 --> 00:11:22,327 so yeah, I always really sympathize 375 00:11:22,327 --> 00:11:23,677 with people that have to kind of 376 00:11:23,677 --> 00:11:25,777 like balance it all out because. 377 00:11:26,140 --> 00:11:28,837 In general, even though it is a gift, you 378 00:11:28,837 --> 00:11:31,057 do feel like, okay, they gave this to me, 379 00:11:31,087 --> 00:11:34,177 so I want to give that same respect back. 380 00:11:34,443 --> 00:11:36,692 I've never been in a, bad relationship 381 00:11:36,692 --> 00:11:39,372 where it's like a mother-in-law or a 382 00:11:39,372 --> 00:11:41,126 mom like holding money over the head, 383 00:11:41,126 --> 00:11:42,709 being like, okay, if I give you this 384 00:11:42,709 --> 00:11:44,869 money though, I get to invite my 50 385 00:11:44,869 --> 00:11:46,699 friends from church, or I get to, 386 00:11:46,966 --> 00:11:48,212 Change up the flowers 387 00:11:48,212 --> 00:11:49,939 or I get to, whatever. 388 00:11:49,939 --> 00:11:51,439 I've never personally had to deal 389 00:11:51,439 --> 00:11:53,049 with that, so I'm sure it's very 390 00:11:53,049 --> 00:11:54,519 difficult when you're in that position. 391 00:11:54,809 --> 00:11:56,669 All right, let's get into it. 392 00:11:56,886 --> 00:11:59,584 This week's line reaction, 393 00:11:59,974 --> 00:12:01,504 wedding story submission. 394 00:12:01,850 --> 00:12:02,214 All right. 395 00:12:02,554 --> 00:12:05,264 Huge fan of your videos for years. 396 00:12:05,550 --> 00:12:07,460 I actually started watching them while I 397 00:12:07,460 --> 00:12:10,310 was engaged, and the Ferris and Sloan saga 398 00:12:10,310 --> 00:12:12,890 genuinely got me through the worst of it. 399 00:12:13,314 --> 00:12:13,970 Oh my gosh. 400 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:14,360 Okay. 401 00:12:14,730 --> 00:12:15,690 I'm trying to think of how to say this. 402 00:12:15,917 --> 00:12:17,520 I love hearing that. 403 00:12:17,827 --> 00:12:19,164 But I also hate hearing that, 404 00:12:19,164 --> 00:12:19,854 if you know what I mean. 405 00:12:19,914 --> 00:12:22,250 Like, I hate hearing that people relate 406 00:12:22,250 --> 00:12:24,814 to the character so much because when 407 00:12:24,814 --> 00:12:26,734 I came up with it, it was just like 408 00:12:26,734 --> 00:12:30,194 so dramatic, so out of line, so wild. 409 00:12:30,237 --> 00:12:31,407 something I could never 410 00:12:31,670 --> 00:12:33,570 picture in my personal life. 411 00:12:33,837 --> 00:12:35,140 but I've had so many people say, 412 00:12:35,560 --> 00:12:37,510 thank you for creating this, because 413 00:12:37,510 --> 00:12:39,847 it allowed me to feel like heard 414 00:12:39,907 --> 00:12:42,067 and seen and like I wasn't alone. 415 00:12:42,467 --> 00:12:44,217 I'm glad for that part, but I'm really 416 00:12:44,217 --> 00:12:45,597 sorry that you had to go through this. 417 00:12:45,907 --> 00:12:46,204 Okay. 418 00:12:46,517 --> 00:12:48,680 My wedding story really began when my 419 00:12:48,680 --> 00:12:50,630 then boyfriend of a year and a half, and 420 00:12:50,630 --> 00:12:52,520 I decided we were ready to be engaged. 421 00:12:52,814 --> 00:12:54,004 My parents and brothers 422 00:12:54,004 --> 00:12:55,594 had met him several times. 423 00:12:55,900 --> 00:12:57,364 I'd met his family and 424 00:12:57,364 --> 00:12:59,074 everything always seemed fine. 425 00:12:59,404 --> 00:13:01,284 My parents acted like they liked him. 426 00:13:01,587 --> 00:13:03,724 My mother even told extended family. 427 00:13:03,990 --> 00:13:05,840 We would definitely get married. 428 00:13:06,220 --> 00:13:08,414 When we'd only been dating for six months. 429 00:13:08,684 --> 00:13:09,111 Okay, wait. 430 00:13:09,388 --> 00:13:10,484 So they said we'd definitely 431 00:13:10,484 --> 00:13:11,894 would get married when we'd only 432 00:13:11,894 --> 00:13:13,364 been dating for six months, which 433 00:13:13,364 --> 00:13:14,894 is an entirely different story. 434 00:13:15,235 --> 00:13:18,187 No one ever openly had a problem with him. 435 00:13:18,538 --> 00:13:21,234 He's quiet and shy, and I always felt my 436 00:13:21,234 --> 00:13:23,079 family was intimidated by the fact that 437 00:13:23,094 --> 00:13:24,624 they couldn't read or manipulate him. 438 00:13:25,218 --> 00:13:27,034 He didn't give them anything to work with. 439 00:13:27,214 --> 00:13:28,861 on the other hand, am a total 440 00:13:28,861 --> 00:13:30,817 blabber mouth and they often use 441 00:13:30,817 --> 00:13:32,827 that to make digs at me or gather 442 00:13:32,827 --> 00:13:35,287 information to use against me later. 443 00:13:35,867 --> 00:13:36,881 Oh gosh. 444 00:13:36,881 --> 00:13:37,241 Okay. 445 00:13:37,641 --> 00:13:40,237 By winter of 2021, we'd been 446 00:13:40,237 --> 00:13:42,217 talking seriously about engagement. 447 00:13:42,511 --> 00:13:43,931 We were also meeting with our 448 00:13:43,931 --> 00:13:45,701 priest for spiritual counseling. 449 00:13:46,037 --> 00:13:47,987 When we told him we were considering 450 00:13:47,987 --> 00:13:49,937 getting engaged, he was excited, 451 00:13:50,291 --> 00:13:52,151 but he also told us we need 452 00:13:52,151 --> 00:13:53,711 to book the date immediately. 453 00:13:53,964 --> 00:13:55,407 If we wanted him to marry us 454 00:13:55,407 --> 00:13:56,847 within the next calendar year, 455 00:13:57,261 --> 00:13:59,114 there were only three slots left. 456 00:13:59,497 --> 00:14:01,147 Otherwise we'd have to wait an 457 00:14:01,147 --> 00:14:03,067 additional year, which we didn't 458 00:14:03,067 --> 00:14:05,594 want, so we booked a date right then. 459 00:14:05,914 --> 00:14:06,754 Even though we weren't 460 00:14:06,754 --> 00:14:07,894 formally engaged yet. 461 00:14:07,954 --> 00:14:09,094 Ooh, I like it. 462 00:14:10,027 --> 00:14:11,737 But I can see where the 463 00:14:11,737 --> 00:14:12,757 drama might come in. 464 00:14:13,147 --> 00:14:14,261 There's a lot of people that 465 00:14:14,261 --> 00:14:15,341 want to have a say over the 466 00:14:15,341 --> 00:14:17,387 date, which I don't understand. 467 00:14:17,631 --> 00:14:19,827 I mean, I get like, so me personally, 468 00:14:20,134 --> 00:14:22,024 I get like checking in with family. 469 00:14:22,197 --> 00:14:23,037 we always hold our family, 470 00:14:23,037 --> 00:14:24,297 like we wanna spring wedding. 471 00:14:24,657 --> 00:14:26,031 and our venue, it was cheaper if you got 472 00:14:26,031 --> 00:14:27,801 married in March and on a Friday night. 473 00:14:27,801 --> 00:14:28,611 So we were like, or not 474 00:14:28,611 --> 00:14:29,631 Friday night, but Friday. 475 00:14:29,941 --> 00:14:31,561 So we kind of like threw that out 476 00:14:31,561 --> 00:14:33,841 there to like our parents at least. 477 00:14:34,114 --> 00:14:35,221 But everyone else we were like, 478 00:14:35,221 --> 00:14:36,331 if you can be there, be there. 479 00:14:36,331 --> 00:14:37,777 If you can't, you can't. 480 00:14:39,137 --> 00:14:40,564 my boyfriend wanted to do the right thing 481 00:14:40,564 --> 00:14:42,154 and ask my parents for their blessing. 482 00:14:42,507 --> 00:14:44,091 I warned him that they were 483 00:14:44,091 --> 00:14:45,741 very controlling and wouldn't 484 00:14:45,741 --> 00:14:47,511 be happy that they would use 485 00:14:47,511 --> 00:14:49,161 the opportunity to bully him. 486 00:14:49,484 --> 00:14:51,431 So you're telling me she 487 00:14:51,431 --> 00:14:52,991 never saw any issues? 488 00:14:53,684 --> 00:14:56,311 With the family and him, or they never 489 00:14:56,311 --> 00:14:58,201 said anything about him, but right off the 490 00:14:58,201 --> 00:14:59,971 bat she's like, they're gonna bully you. 491 00:15:00,317 --> 00:15:02,651 They wanna control you, what? 492 00:15:03,077 --> 00:15:04,917 While he agreed it was ultimately 493 00:15:04,917 --> 00:15:07,697 my choice, he said he was raised to 494 00:15:07,697 --> 00:15:09,977 respect parents and still wanted to ask. 495 00:15:10,314 --> 00:15:12,534 I reluctantly agreed and told him. 496 00:15:12,534 --> 00:15:14,094 I would let them know that 497 00:15:14,094 --> 00:15:15,414 he wanted to speak with them. 498 00:15:15,707 --> 00:15:17,041 Side note, I was living 499 00:15:17,041 --> 00:15:18,301 with my parents at the time. 500 00:15:18,651 --> 00:15:20,901 One morning I told my dad that my 501 00:15:20,901 --> 00:15:22,581 boyfriend wanted to ask him something 502 00:15:22,581 --> 00:15:24,471 important over Thanksgiving weekend. 503 00:15:24,801 --> 00:15:25,954 At first, my dad seemed 504 00:15:25,954 --> 00:15:27,394 excited and supportive. 505 00:15:27,647 --> 00:15:29,864 Then he said he needed to tell my mother. 506 00:15:30,154 --> 00:15:31,317 I went to class and 507 00:15:31,317 --> 00:15:32,247 didn't think much of it. 508 00:15:32,604 --> 00:15:33,901 When I got home, they were 509 00:15:33,901 --> 00:15:35,491 waiting for me and told me we 510 00:15:35,491 --> 00:15:37,471 needed to have a serious talk. 511 00:15:37,891 --> 00:15:40,107 Wait, but he didn't even say anything yet. 512 00:15:41,007 --> 00:15:42,564 They must have like had like a clip. 513 00:15:43,104 --> 00:15:44,767 They sat me down and began 514 00:15:44,767 --> 00:15:47,267 grilling me with the most bizarre 515 00:15:47,267 --> 00:15:49,067 concerns about my boyfriend. 516 00:15:49,397 --> 00:15:51,377 Okay, so this is like a bullet point list 517 00:15:51,724 --> 00:15:54,027 One, he was four years older than me. 518 00:15:54,397 --> 00:15:56,414 We were 22 and 26. 519 00:15:56,631 --> 00:15:57,807 Completely normal. 520 00:15:58,001 --> 00:15:58,211 Yeah. 521 00:15:58,211 --> 00:15:58,781 I think that's a 522 00:15:58,781 --> 00:16:00,551 completely normal age gap. 523 00:16:00,904 --> 00:16:02,591 His job paid more than mine. 524 00:16:02,861 --> 00:16:04,031 Why is that a problem? 525 00:16:04,523 --> 00:16:06,870 And also what is this obsession? 526 00:16:07,777 --> 00:16:10,360 What people's jobs pay If you are not 527 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:11,950 paying the bills, why does it matter 528 00:16:12,253 --> 00:16:14,700 and how do they know what he makes? 529 00:16:14,700 --> 00:16:15,210 Anyway? 530 00:16:15,523 --> 00:16:18,447 Three, he had a car and I didn't, 531 00:16:18,750 --> 00:16:20,577 they had actively prevented me from 532 00:16:20,577 --> 00:16:22,287 getting a license up to that point. 533 00:16:22,533 --> 00:16:24,080 Okay, so they just don't like 534 00:16:24,260 --> 00:16:27,460 that this guy is going to kind 535 00:16:27,460 --> 00:16:29,380 of be like your new family. 536 00:16:29,580 --> 00:16:30,877 It sounds like they were controlling 537 00:16:30,877 --> 00:16:33,067 you into not getting a license. 538 00:16:33,380 --> 00:16:36,033 Not, I mean, not getting a car. 539 00:16:36,093 --> 00:16:37,113 That's really odd to me. 540 00:16:37,457 --> 00:16:39,553 Number four, he was in the process of 541 00:16:39,553 --> 00:16:41,923 buying a house and they demanded that 542 00:16:41,923 --> 00:16:44,383 my name be on the title before marriage. 543 00:16:44,887 --> 00:16:45,217 Okay. 544 00:16:45,607 --> 00:16:48,367 As someone that has a daughter, if this 545 00:16:48,367 --> 00:16:50,923 was her partner, I feel like these are all 546 00:16:50,983 --> 00:16:53,660 great qualities, he has a good paying job. 547 00:16:54,070 --> 00:16:55,690 He has a car, he's in the 548 00:16:55,690 --> 00:16:56,890 process of buying a house. 549 00:16:56,890 --> 00:16:58,540 These are all great things. 550 00:16:58,540 --> 00:16:59,710 You would be like, wow, 551 00:17:00,040 --> 00:17:01,360 he's got his shit together. 552 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:02,627 He loves you. 553 00:17:02,657 --> 00:17:04,907 He wants to take this to the next level. 554 00:17:04,907 --> 00:17:05,954 Like next step. 555 00:17:05,954 --> 00:17:08,382 Like why are they so like, Nope, 556 00:17:08,412 --> 00:17:09,732 you need to do this, this, and this. 557 00:17:10,032 --> 00:17:11,475 Why are these red flags to me? 558 00:17:11,475 --> 00:17:12,645 These are green flags. 559 00:17:13,049 --> 00:17:14,789 Also like putting his her name 560 00:17:14,789 --> 00:17:16,412 on the house before marriage. 561 00:17:16,442 --> 00:17:17,432 I mean, I don't know, like 562 00:17:17,432 --> 00:17:18,842 legality stuff of that. 563 00:17:18,842 --> 00:17:21,312 I mean, I get like putting your, I 564 00:17:21,312 --> 00:17:22,572 mean, it's not like she's even talking 565 00:17:22,572 --> 00:17:24,342 about moving in yet, but I don't know. 566 00:17:24,342 --> 00:17:24,672 Whatever. 567 00:17:25,052 --> 00:17:25,352 Okay. 568 00:17:25,382 --> 00:17:26,192 Last one. 569 00:17:26,402 --> 00:17:28,445 They even implied that he might be 570 00:17:28,445 --> 00:17:31,882 abusing me, which was completely untrue. 571 00:17:32,452 --> 00:17:34,047 Why would you say something 572 00:17:34,052 --> 00:17:35,632 like that, if anything? 573 00:17:35,662 --> 00:17:38,512 He protected me from their ongoing abuse. 574 00:17:38,809 --> 00:17:39,615 Someone like that. 575 00:17:39,615 --> 00:17:41,322 And I'm not gonna make accusations 576 00:17:41,322 --> 00:17:42,672 because I'm only reading a story. 577 00:17:42,672 --> 00:17:43,842 I don't know anyone in this 578 00:17:43,842 --> 00:17:45,462 story personally, someone 579 00:17:45,462 --> 00:17:46,992 that's so used to controlling 580 00:17:46,992 --> 00:17:49,649 you and making choices for you. 581 00:17:49,865 --> 00:17:51,262 When they see another influence 582 00:17:51,262 --> 00:17:52,672 come in that's allowing you to be a 583 00:17:52,672 --> 00:17:54,715 little more independent or kind of 584 00:17:54,715 --> 00:17:56,380 go away from their grasp, they're 585 00:17:56,515 --> 00:17:57,955 gonna try to do all those things. 586 00:17:57,955 --> 00:17:59,185 They're gonna try to like point the 587 00:17:59,185 --> 00:18:01,255 finger at him and say, oh, he's bad. 588 00:18:01,512 --> 00:18:02,732 He's trying to hurt you. 589 00:18:02,942 --> 00:18:04,455 He's trying to do all these things 590 00:18:04,635 --> 00:18:06,299 because They realize that when 591 00:18:06,299 --> 00:18:07,379 you get more independent and start 592 00:18:07,379 --> 00:18:08,489 thinking for yourself, you're gonna 593 00:18:08,489 --> 00:18:09,869 realize that they're the problem. 594 00:18:10,185 --> 00:18:11,835 On Thanksgiving day, my 595 00:18:11,835 --> 00:18:13,035 boyfriend still showed up, 596 00:18:13,215 --> 00:18:15,525 polite, respectful, and hopeful. 597 00:18:15,802 --> 00:18:17,279 After dinner, he asked my 598 00:18:17,279 --> 00:18:18,599 father if they could talk. 599 00:18:18,839 --> 00:18:21,252 My father refused and said, 600 00:18:21,522 --> 00:18:22,752 now is not a good time. 601 00:18:22,842 --> 00:18:24,127 I don't think it's appropriate for 602 00:18:24,132 --> 00:18:26,355 you to ask me on Thanksgiving and 603 00:18:26,355 --> 00:18:28,515 make the holiday all about Jessica. 604 00:18:30,275 --> 00:18:31,205 Do they hate their 605 00:18:31,205 --> 00:18:33,071 daughter this is absurd. 606 00:18:33,155 --> 00:18:34,295 I don't think I ever use that word. 607 00:18:34,576 --> 00:18:36,768 This is just like, yeah, I mean, 608 00:18:36,768 --> 00:18:39,001 in my mind, 22 is young, but 609 00:18:39,001 --> 00:18:40,501 that's not for them to decide. 610 00:18:40,501 --> 00:18:41,341 She's an adult. 611 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:42,598 I think I was still living at 612 00:18:42,598 --> 00:18:45,278 home at 22, but I moved in with 613 00:18:45,278 --> 00:18:47,408 my boyfriend now husband at. 614 00:18:47,966 --> 00:18:50,875 24. 24. I think we were dating at 23. 615 00:18:51,186 --> 00:18:52,236 at that point you can't. 616 00:18:52,511 --> 00:18:53,826 They just wanted her to stay like 617 00:18:53,856 --> 00:18:56,393 under wraps, under their control Q, 618 00:18:56,393 --> 00:18:58,763 the most awkward dinner imaginable. 619 00:18:59,020 --> 00:19:00,746 My brothers kept making weird jokes 620 00:19:00,746 --> 00:19:02,306 about how women only get married 621 00:19:02,306 --> 00:19:04,250 because they're gold diggers and 622 00:19:04,250 --> 00:19:06,255 kept pushing political arguments. 623 00:19:06,315 --> 00:19:06,975 No one wanted. 624 00:19:07,580 --> 00:19:09,933 Why do they hate her so much? 625 00:19:10,196 --> 00:19:11,346 So this was their problem with 626 00:19:11,346 --> 00:19:13,136 him making more money because it's 627 00:19:13,136 --> 00:19:14,576 gonna look like she's a gold digger. 628 00:19:14,936 --> 00:19:15,536 I don't know. 629 00:19:15,596 --> 00:19:15,941 This is wild. 630 00:19:16,546 --> 00:19:18,293 The next day was my cousin's wedding. 631 00:19:18,646 --> 00:19:20,010 The whole family was acting 632 00:19:20,010 --> 00:19:21,683 strangely, but my boyfriend 633 00:19:21,683 --> 00:19:23,573 and I tried to enjoy ourselves. 634 00:19:23,860 --> 00:19:24,756 At the reception. 635 00:19:24,756 --> 00:19:27,343 I casually mentioned to my dad that I like 636 00:19:27,343 --> 00:19:29,203 the napkin color and would want something 637 00:19:29,203 --> 00:19:31,123 similar to that for my own wedding. 638 00:19:31,423 --> 00:19:33,406 He gave me a disturbed look and 639 00:19:33,406 --> 00:19:34,576 walked away without saying a 640 00:19:34,576 --> 00:19:36,530 word, dude, what is their problem? 641 00:19:36,843 --> 00:19:38,313 The day after that, my boyfriend went 642 00:19:38,313 --> 00:19:39,753 back to my parents' house for the 643 00:19:39,753 --> 00:19:42,280 conversation they had decided to have. 644 00:19:42,700 --> 00:19:43,981 The moment he walked in, 645 00:19:43,981 --> 00:19:45,631 it felt like a war room. 646 00:19:45,983 --> 00:19:48,521 They told him to sit down, then turned to 647 00:19:48,521 --> 00:19:51,258 me and told me to go wait in the attic. 648 00:19:51,598 --> 00:19:52,558 I wish I was kidding. 649 00:19:53,079 --> 00:19:53,474 Go wait. 650 00:19:53,474 --> 00:19:55,214 In the attic, where do you live? 651 00:19:55,304 --> 00:19:56,564 is that your room or do 652 00:19:56,594 --> 00:19:58,034 we need to call someone? 653 00:19:58,034 --> 00:19:59,354 Hopefully you don't still live there. 654 00:19:59,629 --> 00:20:01,201 This is like giving housemaid. 655 00:20:01,526 --> 00:20:03,364 Why are you in an attic and why 656 00:20:03,364 --> 00:20:04,259 do they want you to go there? 657 00:20:04,853 --> 00:20:05,584 This is scary. 658 00:20:05,916 --> 00:20:07,604 My boyfriend tried to insist that 659 00:20:07,604 --> 00:20:09,884 the conversation involved both of us, 660 00:20:09,939 --> 00:20:12,461 but my father demanded that I leave. 661 00:20:12,736 --> 00:20:14,364 I wouldn't wanna stay with the dad. 662 00:20:14,424 --> 00:20:15,804 I'd be like, no. 663 00:20:15,804 --> 00:20:17,798 She's gonna stay with me, otherwise 664 00:20:17,798 --> 00:20:19,774 we're both gonna leave for 40 minutes. 665 00:20:19,774 --> 00:20:22,099 They grilled him about his 666 00:20:22,099 --> 00:20:23,379 intentions and demanded. 667 00:20:23,803 --> 00:20:25,859 One that he agreed to financially 668 00:20:25,859 --> 00:20:27,693 support me getting a master's 669 00:20:27,693 --> 00:20:29,623 degree, which I never wanted. 670 00:20:29,886 --> 00:20:30,329 Okay, wait. 671 00:20:30,463 --> 00:20:32,113 So first she's a gold digger, but 672 00:20:32,143 --> 00:20:33,493 for marrying someone that's making 673 00:20:33,493 --> 00:20:35,443 more money and now they're telling 674 00:20:35,443 --> 00:20:36,913 him he has to financially support 675 00:20:36,913 --> 00:20:39,213 her in getting a master's degree, but 676 00:20:39,213 --> 00:20:40,893 she never even said she wanted that. 677 00:20:41,431 --> 00:20:44,051 Number two is that he put my name 678 00:20:44,051 --> 00:20:46,091 on the house title before marriage, 679 00:20:46,341 --> 00:20:47,787 even though the house was still under 680 00:20:47,787 --> 00:20:50,317 construction and no title even existed. 681 00:20:50,657 --> 00:20:52,357 this is insane to me. 682 00:20:52,477 --> 00:20:53,617 Completely insane. 683 00:20:53,954 --> 00:20:54,734 I don't even know, like, 684 00:20:54,734 --> 00:20:55,874 what do you do at that point? 685 00:20:55,874 --> 00:20:58,291 Like eventually I was allowed back 686 00:20:58,291 --> 00:21:00,064 in the room, my boyfriend again 687 00:21:00,064 --> 00:21:01,894 explained that a title didn't exist 688 00:21:01,894 --> 00:21:04,081 yet, but they refused to accept it. 689 00:21:04,374 --> 00:21:06,904 Then they turned to me yelling about how I 690 00:21:06,904 --> 00:21:08,974 thought I was going to pay for a wedding. 691 00:21:09,267 --> 00:21:10,464 They announced they didn't 692 00:21:10,464 --> 00:21:11,664 believe in weddings. 693 00:21:12,027 --> 00:21:13,214 They don't believe in weddings. 694 00:21:13,214 --> 00:21:14,024 Aren't they married? 695 00:21:14,317 --> 00:21:15,764 And it's not for them to decide. 696 00:21:16,187 --> 00:21:17,661 they said they wouldn't pay a cent 697 00:21:17,661 --> 00:21:20,001 because weddings were a waste of money. 698 00:21:20,361 --> 00:21:21,111 Okay? 699 00:21:21,371 --> 00:21:22,641 Just 'cause their marriage sucks, 700 00:21:22,641 --> 00:21:23,811 doesn't mean they can put it on 701 00:21:23,811 --> 00:21:25,844 you, despite having had their 702 00:21:25,844 --> 00:21:29,344 own 50 K wedding in the nineties. 703 00:21:29,661 --> 00:21:32,174 So they have $50,000 wedding 704 00:21:32,174 --> 00:21:34,014 in the nineties, which today. 705 00:21:34,104 --> 00:21:35,034 Let's look this up guys. 706 00:21:35,601 --> 00:21:39,911 A $50,000 wedding in the nineties 707 00:21:40,264 --> 00:21:42,442 is what in today's world, 708 00:21:43,431 --> 00:21:43,721 guys. 709 00:21:44,704 --> 00:21:46,864 $50,000 wedding in the nineties 710 00:21:46,864 --> 00:21:49,684 is equivalent to a 100,000 711 00:21:49,837 --> 00:21:53,131 to $150,000 wedding today. 712 00:21:53,397 --> 00:21:54,691 And they're trying to say, 713 00:21:56,186 --> 00:21:58,286 that is so freaking wild. 714 00:21:58,690 --> 00:21:59,680 here's my theory. 715 00:21:59,994 --> 00:22:00,950 They're either not doing 716 00:22:00,950 --> 00:22:03,050 well financially and. 717 00:22:03,414 --> 00:22:05,300 Maybe marriage wasn't what they thought it 718 00:22:05,300 --> 00:22:07,250 would be because they're unhappy people. 719 00:22:07,570 --> 00:22:08,677 And so they're thinking if 720 00:22:08,677 --> 00:22:10,627 their wedding was $50,000, 721 00:22:10,970 --> 00:22:14,274 they see how money has changed. 722 00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:15,694 they're thinking they're gonna have 723 00:22:15,694 --> 00:22:18,667 to lend all this money to them, and 724 00:22:18,667 --> 00:22:20,047 they're realizing they're not happy in 725 00:22:20,047 --> 00:22:22,537 their own marriage and it was a scam. 726 00:22:24,090 --> 00:22:25,327 They're trying to be like, okay, well, 727 00:22:25,327 --> 00:22:27,247 she needs to get something out of this, so 728 00:22:27,247 --> 00:22:29,257 he needs to pay for her master's degree. 729 00:22:29,483 --> 00:22:29,970 I don't know. 730 00:22:29,970 --> 00:22:31,110 That's the only thing I can think of. 731 00:22:31,566 --> 00:22:32,927 I told them I didn't need their money. 732 00:22:33,176 --> 00:22:33,957 They kept pushing. 733 00:22:34,243 --> 00:22:35,864 So my boyfriend finally said he 734 00:22:35,864 --> 00:22:37,274 had savings for a small wedding. 735 00:22:37,546 --> 00:22:39,694 My father scuffed looked him up and down 736 00:22:39,694 --> 00:22:41,750 and said, well, I guess we have a saver. 737 00:22:43,033 --> 00:22:44,467 They are jealous. 738 00:22:44,513 --> 00:22:46,684 They are so jealous of this boyfriend 739 00:22:46,863 --> 00:22:48,364 because he is doing well financially. 740 00:22:48,473 --> 00:22:51,257 He has his shit together and he's happy. 741 00:22:51,287 --> 00:22:52,607 He's happy with their daughter 742 00:22:52,823 --> 00:22:53,770 and they're not happy. 743 00:22:53,974 --> 00:22:55,664 maybe they didn't save money. 744 00:22:55,664 --> 00:22:56,834 They spent all their money on their 745 00:22:56,834 --> 00:22:58,910 wedding, and so now they're living with 746 00:22:58,940 --> 00:23:01,070 the repercussions of their actions. 747 00:23:01,465 --> 00:23:02,875 Oh my gosh, these people. 748 00:23:03,156 --> 00:23:04,956 Then my mother launched into how 749 00:23:04,956 --> 00:23:06,680 I couldn't get married the next 750 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,720 year because I was also graduating 751 00:23:09,023 --> 00:23:10,250 and the family wouldn't attend 752 00:23:10,250 --> 00:23:11,720 two parties for me in one year. 753 00:23:12,096 --> 00:23:14,663 That's when I told them, we already set 754 00:23:14,813 --> 00:23:17,903 the date Oh, to be a fly on that wall. 755 00:23:21,103 --> 00:23:22,433 They went ballistic. 756 00:23:23,523 --> 00:23:24,761 I'm laughing because I'm so 757 00:23:24,761 --> 00:23:26,441 uncomfortable and I'm not even there. 758 00:23:26,441 --> 00:23:28,865 Like, oh my gosh, this is terrible. 759 00:23:29,273 --> 00:23:30,206 They went ballistic, 760 00:23:30,464 --> 00:23:32,877 screaming verbally abusing me. 761 00:23:33,267 --> 00:23:36,177 Oh my gosh, and completely losing control. 762 00:23:36,590 --> 00:23:38,280 I finally snapped, yelled 763 00:23:38,285 --> 00:23:39,360 back, and stormed out. 764 00:23:39,647 --> 00:23:41,354 My father followed not to 765 00:23:41,354 --> 00:23:43,914 talk to me, but to apologize. 766 00:23:44,177 --> 00:23:46,225 To my boyfriend for my 767 00:23:46,225 --> 00:23:48,415 behavior saying I'm sorry. 768 00:23:48,415 --> 00:23:49,315 She's crazy. 769 00:23:50,672 --> 00:23:51,392 So now the dad's like, 770 00:23:51,392 --> 00:23:52,652 Hey buddy, we're friends. 771 00:23:52,652 --> 00:23:54,122 All these women, they're so crazy. 772 00:23:54,363 --> 00:23:55,678 Get out of here. 773 00:23:56,053 --> 00:23:57,298 Get out of here. 774 00:23:57,705 --> 00:23:59,432 We walked down the block to the 775 00:23:59,432 --> 00:24:01,172 car and just stared each other. 776 00:24:01,425 --> 00:24:02,578 Finally, my boyfriend said, 777 00:24:02,728 --> 00:24:04,288 holy shit, you are right. 778 00:24:04,902 --> 00:24:06,388 He is like, yeah, you know what? 779 00:24:07,752 --> 00:24:08,832 I think I'm gonna take some 780 00:24:08,832 --> 00:24:10,122 time to think about this. 781 00:24:10,493 --> 00:24:11,753 Oh my gosh. 782 00:24:12,055 --> 00:24:13,490 That same day he offered 783 00:24:13,490 --> 00:24:14,600 to let me move in with him. 784 00:24:14,910 --> 00:24:16,440 He said he'd always suspected that 785 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,517 my parents treated me badly, but he 786 00:24:18,517 --> 00:24:20,797 had no idea it was this dangerous. 787 00:24:21,113 --> 00:24:23,123 and don't tell, I mean, I know this is 788 00:24:23,123 --> 00:24:24,713 happening, this was in the past, but 789 00:24:25,001 --> 00:24:27,687 don't tell your parents his address 790 00:24:27,981 --> 00:24:30,850 because they sound incredibly toxic. 791 00:24:31,025 --> 00:24:33,700 Incredibly dangerous, abusive, like. 792 00:24:33,988 --> 00:24:35,102 Holy cow. 793 00:24:35,408 --> 00:24:36,308 this is not good. 794 00:24:37,195 --> 00:24:38,545 We never got their blessing. 795 00:24:38,665 --> 00:24:40,045 We never got an apology. 796 00:24:40,105 --> 00:24:42,328 Two days later, after yet another 797 00:24:42,328 --> 00:24:43,918 argument, I packed my things 798 00:24:43,918 --> 00:24:45,658 and moved in with my in-laws 799 00:24:45,748 --> 00:24:47,578 at my husband's insistence. 800 00:24:47,986 --> 00:24:49,895 I wish I could say I went, no 801 00:24:49,895 --> 00:24:51,782 contact with them, but the saga 802 00:24:51,782 --> 00:24:53,642 continued throughout our engagement. 803 00:24:54,347 --> 00:24:56,257 Wedding and even the birth 804 00:24:56,287 --> 00:24:58,177 of our son and daughter. 805 00:24:59,587 --> 00:25:02,227 Girl, you've got so many stories to share. 806 00:25:02,533 --> 00:25:04,063 I have a lot of questions. 807 00:25:04,380 --> 00:25:05,163 Maybe I'll reach out. 808 00:25:05,410 --> 00:25:06,977 the fact that they were still invited 809 00:25:06,977 --> 00:25:08,600 to the wedding, they didn't wanna 810 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:09,920 offer anything, not saying parents 811 00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:11,420 have to or need to, of course not. 812 00:25:11,420 --> 00:25:12,170 Absolutely not. 813 00:25:12,407 --> 00:25:12,930 But. 814 00:25:12,930 --> 00:25:13,978 It's not like they were holding 815 00:25:13,978 --> 00:25:15,178 a string over your head. 816 00:25:15,268 --> 00:25:17,788 They were literally screaming at you. 817 00:25:17,975 --> 00:25:19,068 They never once supported you. 818 00:25:19,068 --> 00:25:20,058 They made fun of your 819 00:25:20,058 --> 00:25:21,438 boyfriend, then boyfriend. 820 00:25:21,762 --> 00:25:23,082 So to have them be a part of the 821 00:25:23,082 --> 00:25:25,235 engagement, your wedding, and now 822 00:25:25,235 --> 00:25:27,485 the birth of your son and daughter, 823 00:25:27,733 --> 00:25:29,335 I can see now why you relate to 824 00:25:29,335 --> 00:25:31,540 Ferris and Sloan story so much. 825 00:25:32,020 --> 00:25:34,153 Oh, their first postpartum visit to 826 00:25:34,153 --> 00:25:36,193 our home is another insane story. 827 00:25:36,467 --> 00:25:38,353 One that ended with my husband banning 828 00:25:38,353 --> 00:25:40,487 them from our house entirely, but I 829 00:25:40,487 --> 00:25:42,167 think I've written enough for now. 830 00:25:43,157 --> 00:25:44,807 Oh, this poor girl. 831 00:25:45,130 --> 00:25:46,617 Oh my gosh. 832 00:25:46,980 --> 00:25:49,390 She really relates to Ferris and Sloan. 833 00:25:49,773 --> 00:25:50,822 It was, wasn't until my grandpa. 834 00:25:51,637 --> 00:25:53,227 My only remaining tethered to 835 00:25:53,227 --> 00:25:55,897 them passed away in March, 2024 836 00:25:56,150 --> 00:25:57,820 that I finally went no contact. 837 00:25:58,183 --> 00:25:59,870 I am so proud of you. 838 00:26:00,173 --> 00:26:01,883 Like it's so complicated. 839 00:26:01,883 --> 00:26:03,503 Relationships are so complicated, 840 00:26:03,503 --> 00:26:04,670 and I'm not someone that's 841 00:26:04,670 --> 00:26:06,500 like, oh, go no contact, because 842 00:26:06,500 --> 00:26:07,850 every relationship is nuanced. 843 00:26:07,910 --> 00:26:09,797 You never know, but based 844 00:26:09,797 --> 00:26:10,997 on what I know here. 845 00:26:11,402 --> 00:26:14,162 This was long overdue and I'm so proud of 846 00:26:14,162 --> 00:26:15,842 you and I'm sure it was very complicated 847 00:26:15,842 --> 00:26:17,222 and very hard to get to this point. 848 00:26:17,500 --> 00:26:19,668 They still slander me daily on Facebook. 849 00:26:19,870 --> 00:26:23,902 These are emotionally, mentally, whatever 850 00:26:23,902 --> 00:26:25,621 else, spiritually immature parents. 851 00:26:26,506 --> 00:26:27,731 The fact they treat you like this 852 00:26:27,731 --> 00:26:29,261 and post about you on Facebook, 853 00:26:29,261 --> 00:26:30,881 like, ugh, tell 'em to grow up. 854 00:26:31,216 --> 00:26:33,374 Anyway, I hope you enjoyed my story. 855 00:26:33,553 --> 00:26:35,084 I feel like it has the right amount of 856 00:26:35,084 --> 00:26:37,484 chaos to be one in one of your videos. 857 00:26:37,716 --> 00:26:39,788 And for the record, we did have a 858 00:26:39,788 --> 00:26:41,468 beautiful ceremony and reception. 859 00:26:41,736 --> 00:26:43,621 It was one of the best days of my life. 860 00:26:43,711 --> 00:26:45,638 Second only to the birth of my children. 861 00:26:45,903 --> 00:26:48,521 And yes, my mother wore a black dress. 862 00:26:48,786 --> 00:26:50,174 No one really noticed. 863 00:26:50,496 --> 00:26:52,644 Okay, well I'm glad the mom. 864 00:26:52,829 --> 00:26:54,886 Elise, I'm assuming, behaved yourself 865 00:26:54,886 --> 00:26:56,446 at the wedding and hopefully the dad, 866 00:26:56,676 --> 00:26:57,909 they still had their wedding that they 867 00:26:57,909 --> 00:26:59,709 wanted, and it still was a beautiful day. 868 00:26:59,956 --> 00:27:01,539 So I'm glad for that. 869 00:27:01,826 --> 00:27:02,933 I'm glad that some people were 870 00:27:02,933 --> 00:27:05,363 able to close their mouths on this 871 00:27:05,363 --> 00:27:07,253 special day and let them enjoy it. 872 00:27:07,586 --> 00:27:08,839 But that is a wild story. 873 00:27:09,117 --> 00:27:10,232 If you ever feel like writing in 874 00:27:10,232 --> 00:27:12,655 more and sharing the rest, please do. 875 00:27:12,935 --> 00:27:14,225 a lot of people say like. 876 00:27:14,588 --> 00:27:16,382 Writing these stories out of things that 877 00:27:16,382 --> 00:27:17,612 happened to them or things that they've 878 00:27:17,612 --> 00:27:20,081 seen it's kind of therapy in itself. 879 00:27:20,331 --> 00:27:22,095 it allows you to really go 880 00:27:22,095 --> 00:27:23,475 through your emotions again and 881 00:27:23,475 --> 00:27:24,530 really understand what happened. 882 00:27:25,045 --> 00:27:26,070 And then hearing other people's 883 00:27:26,070 --> 00:27:27,690 stories allow you to see that you're 884 00:27:27,690 --> 00:27:29,670 not alone and you're not crazy. 885 00:27:29,883 --> 00:27:31,060 because I think sometimes like 886 00:27:31,180 --> 00:27:33,003 our mind plays tricks on us and 887 00:27:33,003 --> 00:27:34,563 it's like, oh, it wasn't as bad. 888 00:27:34,613 --> 00:27:35,633 it didn't happen like that, 889 00:27:35,633 --> 00:27:37,553 but it was your experience. 890 00:27:37,825 --> 00:27:40,173 So I think writing it out can be 891 00:27:40,173 --> 00:27:41,866 really helpful, and understanding 892 00:27:41,866 --> 00:27:43,306 yourself, understanding what happened. 893 00:27:43,586 --> 00:27:44,846 and hopefully in sharing this, 894 00:27:44,846 --> 00:27:46,286 other people can relate to you 895 00:27:46,466 --> 00:27:48,153 and maybe give some advice. 896 00:27:48,360 --> 00:27:49,830 Or if other people are in the 897 00:27:49,830 --> 00:27:52,150 early stages, maybe you are in an 898 00:27:52,150 --> 00:27:53,826 engagement right now where their 899 00:27:53,826 --> 00:27:56,313 parents or your parents or some 900 00:27:56,313 --> 00:27:58,563 other relative is acting like this. 901 00:27:58,933 --> 00:28:00,703 so maybe we can share some advice as well. 902 00:28:01,183 --> 00:28:03,603 Oh my gosh, this poor couple. 903 00:28:03,603 --> 00:28:04,953 I'm really happy for you guys 904 00:28:04,953 --> 00:28:06,094 being able to go no contact. 905 00:28:06,688 --> 00:28:08,079 I think a lot of times children can 906 00:28:08,079 --> 00:28:09,309 bring that out in people because you're 907 00:28:09,309 --> 00:28:10,749 like, I don't wanna subject my child 908 00:28:10,749 --> 00:28:12,669 to this, and the cycle ends with me. 909 00:28:12,899 --> 00:28:13,679 Proud of you guys for that. 910 00:28:14,021 --> 00:28:15,676 Alright, let's end this episode 911 00:28:15,676 --> 00:28:17,626 with some confessions and then 912 00:28:17,626 --> 00:28:18,676 we'll get on with our days. 913 00:28:19,009 --> 00:28:21,776 This is your biggest wedding regret. 914 00:28:21,806 --> 00:28:22,736 We always like to mix these 915 00:28:22,736 --> 00:28:23,876 up on Instagram, so that was 916 00:28:23,876 --> 00:28:25,256 the question of the week. 917 00:28:25,256 --> 00:28:25,766 Here we go. 918 00:28:25,976 --> 00:28:27,636 My father-in-law tried to influence 919 00:28:27,636 --> 00:28:29,466 what I was wearing on my wedding day, 920 00:28:29,736 --> 00:28:32,233 but I refused, so he made me cry. 921 00:28:32,476 --> 00:28:33,969 What's with these father-in-laws trying 922 00:28:33,969 --> 00:28:36,009 to influence what the bride wears? 923 00:28:36,364 --> 00:28:37,794 I read another story like that 924 00:28:37,976 --> 00:28:40,224 about him picking out Amazon dresses 925 00:28:40,482 --> 00:28:42,014 because they were affordable, 926 00:28:42,014 --> 00:28:43,934 like he wasn't even paying for it. 927 00:28:44,024 --> 00:28:45,764 I don't understand that this regret. 928 00:28:45,764 --> 00:28:47,324 It says not getting a 929 00:28:47,324 --> 00:28:48,824 professional photographer and 930 00:28:48,824 --> 00:28:50,594 not enough pics with my parents. 931 00:28:50,869 --> 00:28:51,774 I think that's one of the 932 00:28:51,774 --> 00:28:54,234 number one regrets I see. 933 00:28:54,552 --> 00:28:55,866 Photographer is so worth it 934 00:28:55,866 --> 00:28:57,456 getting a good photographer or 935 00:28:57,456 --> 00:28:59,203 videographer because I will tell 936 00:28:59,203 --> 00:29:01,483 you, I still see my wedding photos. 937 00:29:01,513 --> 00:29:02,653 We have them hanging, I have 'em 938 00:29:02,653 --> 00:29:04,453 in a photo book and it's, it was so 939 00:29:04,453 --> 00:29:06,709 worth it to me not trying to do a 940 00:29:06,709 --> 00:29:08,869 small ceremony on a beautiful, small 941 00:29:08,869 --> 00:29:10,369 chapel that I've always wanted. 942 00:29:10,771 --> 00:29:11,191 Okay. 943 00:29:11,281 --> 00:29:12,181 That makes me sad. 944 00:29:12,449 --> 00:29:13,241 I think a lot of times we get 945 00:29:13,241 --> 00:29:15,161 influenced by other people around us, 946 00:29:15,399 --> 00:29:18,128 or we see movies or we see what our 947 00:29:18,128 --> 00:29:19,628 best friend did and we're like, ah, 948 00:29:19,628 --> 00:29:20,798 I need to have a wedding like that. 949 00:29:20,888 --> 00:29:22,058 I need to have a big wedding. 950 00:29:22,058 --> 00:29:22,868 I need to do this. 951 00:29:23,142 --> 00:29:24,994 And it pulls us away from 952 00:29:24,994 --> 00:29:26,614 what is actually true to us. 953 00:29:26,871 --> 00:29:28,701 I wish I had switched out some friends 954 00:29:28,701 --> 00:29:30,921 in my wedding party for my cousins. 955 00:29:31,261 --> 00:29:31,821 That's hard. 956 00:29:31,881 --> 00:29:34,101 That's hard when you regret having or 957 00:29:34,101 --> 00:29:35,361 not having someone in your wedding. 958 00:29:35,728 --> 00:29:37,408 All right, last one. 959 00:29:37,781 --> 00:29:39,738 I let my friend do my hair and makeup, 960 00:29:39,738 --> 00:29:41,568 but she is no longer in my life. 961 00:29:41,823 --> 00:29:43,458 She turned out to be narcissistic. 962 00:29:43,719 --> 00:29:45,311 Well, that's a whole can of worms. 963 00:29:45,618 --> 00:29:46,308 I'm sorry. 964 00:29:46,368 --> 00:29:47,448 I'm sorry that happened. 965 00:29:47,861 --> 00:29:50,788 is the regret because she was not good 966 00:29:50,788 --> 00:29:52,558 at hair and makeup or the regret is 967 00:29:52,558 --> 00:29:53,908 because you're not friends anymore? 968 00:29:54,050 --> 00:29:54,691 Because if she did it 969 00:29:54,691 --> 00:29:55,961 well, who really cares? 970 00:29:55,961 --> 00:29:56,561 Because you could just be 971 00:29:56,561 --> 00:29:57,701 like, oh, it was a hairdresser. 972 00:29:57,963 --> 00:30:00,154 If it was that she's not your friend. 973 00:30:00,433 --> 00:30:01,949 You only did it because she was 974 00:30:01,949 --> 00:30:03,759 your friend at the time and it was 975 00:30:03,759 --> 00:30:05,889 a bad hairstyle and makeup then. 976 00:30:05,889 --> 00:30:07,609 Yeah, that's a regret I would have. 977 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:10,613 Fun fact, I did my sister's hair 978 00:30:10,613 --> 00:30:12,113 and makeup on her wedding day, and 979 00:30:12,113 --> 00:30:13,283 I'm four years younger than her. 980 00:30:13,556 --> 00:30:14,969 I've always loved doing hair and makeup. 981 00:30:15,293 --> 00:30:16,469 I'm no. 982 00:30:17,339 --> 00:30:19,469 In no way, shape, or form a professional. 983 00:30:19,469 --> 00:30:20,549 You, you guys can see 984 00:30:20,549 --> 00:30:21,449 I'm learning every day. 985 00:30:21,776 --> 00:30:23,553 but makeup was not something 986 00:30:23,553 --> 00:30:25,263 that, like my sister completely 987 00:30:25,263 --> 00:30:26,613 enjoyed I think at the time. 988 00:30:26,873 --> 00:30:28,463 and I remember doing it for her prom 989 00:30:28,463 --> 00:30:30,586 too, and her, another dance too. 990 00:30:30,909 --> 00:30:31,779 so that was like fun. 991 00:30:31,809 --> 00:30:32,943 But I don't think I've 992 00:30:32,948 --> 00:30:34,473 done it for anybody else. 993 00:30:35,073 --> 00:30:35,823 Yeah, I don't know. 994 00:30:36,193 --> 00:30:37,316 Anyway, that was a wild 995 00:30:37,316 --> 00:30:38,456 episode, wild story. 996 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,143 Again, thanks for being here, you guys. 997 00:30:40,143 --> 00:30:42,003 This is my one year. 998 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