<v Speaker 1>Jaredy, Katy and Josh six one hundred. This came in

<v Speaker 1>from Miley.

<v Speaker 2>Hey, JKJ needs some help and probably some judgment from

<v Speaker 2>your listeners. In parentheses, I've been seeing this really great

<v Speaker 2>guy for about a month. He's funny, he's kind, he

<v Speaker 2>has his life together. And then, also in parentheses, she wrote,

<v Speaker 2>he's so hot.

<v Speaker 1>Katie, Yeah, nig Dale, he's so hot. Now.

<v Speaker 2>She goes on to say, basically checks every box except

<v Speaker 2>for one.

<v Speaker 1>He is a single dad. Here's the thing. I don't

<v Speaker 1>have kids.

<v Speaker 2>I've always pictured my life being a little more spontaneous,

<v Speaker 2>last minute trips, lazy weekends, sleeping in past seven am

<v Speaker 2>without somebody yelling about cereal on what's that like?

<v Speaker 1>I really like him, but I'm.

<v Speaker 2>Starting I realized that his world revolves around his child,

<v Speaker 2>and I'm not sure I'm ready for that kind of

<v Speaker 2>built in responsibility. Now I feel like the world's biggest

<v Speaker 2>jerk for even thinking about breaking things off just because

<v Speaker 2>he's a dad. Does this make me a terrible person

<v Speaker 2>or just honest about what I want? You guys help

<v Speaker 2>me out here? Am I being heartless or realistic? And

<v Speaker 2>then she goes on to say, please use this for

<v Speaker 2>your show knows for show segment one. That's not what

<v Speaker 2>this is called it all, but I kind of want

<v Speaker 2>to change show knows for show.

<v Speaker 1>I like that a lot. She wrote love you guys,

<v Speaker 1>and that's from Miley. So there's a situation.

<v Speaker 2>Miley's with this great dude, kind funny, has his life

<v Speaker 2>together and oh so hot, but he's a single dad

<v Speaker 2>and she's thinking about breaking things off because.

<v Speaker 1>This guy's got a child.

<v Speaker 2>So what should she do? Have you been in this situation?

<v Speaker 2>Would you like to give her some advice? Three oh

<v Speaker 2>three six nine one one mix three O three six

<v Speaker 2>nine one sixteen forty nine is your direct link here

<v Speaker 2>into the studios.

<v Speaker 1>Now, Katie, you date a lot of random men, Okay?

<v Speaker 1>Ever been with a like a dad? Sack? Darn well.

<v Speaker 3>The funny thing is is, obviously I was a single

<v Speaker 3>mom for many years, and uh, dating as a single

<v Speaker 3>parent in general is hard. And I just think that, like,

<v Speaker 3>it seems to me that there was no uh, you know,

<v Speaker 3>people who were not being truthful in this situation. At

<v Speaker 3>least the way the letters laid out seems like they

<v Speaker 3>were honest.

<v Speaker 1>With each other up front.

<v Speaker 3>And it's okay if like she was really into him,

<v Speaker 3>and she liked him a lot, and now this situation

<v Speaker 3>presents herself and she's questioning it. It that's human, right, like, sure,

<v Speaker 3>you know what you're getting into and once you deal

<v Speaker 3>with it, then maybe you have a different name, change

<v Speaker 3>your heart. So it's okay for her to change her

<v Speaker 3>mind as long as she is honest with him.

<v Speaker 1>This is the deal breaker that he's ada.

<v Speaker 3>I mean, but if that's what she feels again, I think.

<v Speaker 2>But I will say, you know how hard it is

<v Speaker 2>out there too, and she's got a good one.

<v Speaker 1>So do you adapt to this situation?

<v Speaker 3>Well, again, that's all up to her. Like if she

<v Speaker 3>thinks that, it's something she's willing to look past, and

<v Speaker 3>that's something she has to look inwards towards. But communication

<v Speaker 3>is the biggest thing here, I think true personally true.

<v Speaker 1>Good morning, Selena, good.

<v Speaker 4>Morning, how are you guys?

<v Speaker 1>Well we're super dupees? How are you?

<v Speaker 5>Is that wonderful? Thank you?

<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

<v Speaker 1>So what are your thoughts for our girl Miley here?

<v Speaker 7>Run?

<v Speaker 5>I think she already has her mind made up and

<v Speaker 5>I think she needs to follow her gut instinct. But

<v Speaker 5>because she needs to think long term, if they do

<v Speaker 5>go to that next level, she has to think about it.

<v Speaker 5>She's going to be a stepmom and he's going to

<v Speaker 5>introduce her to that little girl, and there's going to

<v Speaker 5>be ties made there that you know, you can't easily

<v Speaker 5>explain to the little girl. Oh she's not gonna be

<v Speaker 5>in your life anymore. So she's i mean second thoughts

<v Speaker 5>about it. She really doesn't want to and she needs

<v Speaker 5>to run.

<v Speaker 2>You know, unless you're in this situation. She might really

<v Speaker 2>grow to just love this little kid. We don't know

<v Speaker 2>if it's a little girl or a little boy. I

<v Speaker 2>will point that out. But what if she grows to,

<v Speaker 2>you know, love this kid. She's not even giving it

<v Speaker 2>a chance.

<v Speaker 8>Just becausing in her email. She already knows.

<v Speaker 9>She's just funning confirmation.

<v Speaker 7>I know.

<v Speaker 1>But it's a month in. You know, kids are gross.

<v Speaker 1>A month in. You make a good point, You make

<v Speaker 1>a good point.

<v Speaker 3>You've made a lot of good points, like even the resentment,

<v Speaker 3>Like don't you think if she really does it and

<v Speaker 3>then she does it just to see like you could

<v Speaker 3>resent that poor kid, you know, yeah.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah you could jack two people if you could jack

<v Speaker 1>the kid up. And this guy leading him on Selena,

<v Speaker 1>I I mean.

<v Speaker 5>He sounds perfect send me his numbers.

<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, so I got two categories here, kids rock

<v Speaker 2>and kids are gross, And I'm putting you under kids

<v Speaker 2>are gross right now, and to run.

<v Speaker 6>I love kids. Yeah, she used to run.

<v Speaker 5>Go somewhere else and she'll find someone for.

<v Speaker 1>Her too late. Already put your vote down for kids

<v Speaker 1>are gross.

<v Speaker 2>So you're locked in, girl. Hey, Selina, can't thank you

<v Speaker 2>enough for calling in.

<v Speaker 1>You're great.

<v Speaker 6>Have a fun day you two guys, by bye bye.

<v Speaker 1>Here's Emily. Hi, Emily, good morning, Well, good morning.

<v Speaker 2>So are you in camp? Kids rock or kids are gross?

<v Speaker 4>I'm kind of split. Kids rock when they're your own.

<v Speaker 4>Maybe other people's kids are gross? Is that bad to say? Yeah?

<v Speaker 1>Right, preach it other people's kids.

<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

<v Speaker 4>I mean it's easy to love your own kids, right,

<v Speaker 4>But I think it takes a special person to step

<v Speaker 4>in and be a stepmom and co parent, right, she'd

<v Speaker 4>be co parenting. I'm wondering a couple questions. One is

<v Speaker 4>the mom in the picture? And is there split custy?

<v Speaker 4>Like would there be some reprieve from this kiddo so

<v Speaker 4>that she could still live the life she wants with him? Like,

<v Speaker 4>you know, a week on, week off type of a situation,

<v Speaker 4>but ultimately she has to, you know, follow her heart

<v Speaker 4>and if she's not in it too, like Selina said,

<v Speaker 4>be a stepmom to this kiddo and build a relationship.

<v Speaker 4>I think she owes it to herself, the dad, and

<v Speaker 4>the kiddo to first of all, be honest with him

<v Speaker 4>why she's walking away, and be certain that that's what

<v Speaker 4>she wants to do.

<v Speaker 1>But he's so hot, so hot, I'm.

<v Speaker 4>Sure there are other hot non single dads.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there is that to your point, though, she doesn't

<v Speaker 2>say anything about split custody in the message, so my

<v Speaker 2>guess is that she probably would have mentioned that. So

<v Speaker 2>I'm guessing this guy has full time custody and I

<v Speaker 2>don't know where where mom is. She didn't say, but yeah,

<v Speaker 2>that's true.

<v Speaker 1>With all that you are in camp. Kids are gross,

<v Speaker 1>uh not your own kids exactly.

<v Speaker 2>But this okay. So that's two votes in that category. Emily,

<v Speaker 2>You're very wise. Thank you for sounding off today.

<v Speaker 8>Certain thing.

<v Speaker 1>Take care all right, boy, Bye. Here's a dude's opinion.

<v Speaker 1>It's Derek.

<v Speaker 2>Hi, Derek, Hello guy, Hi mate, Hello, Hello Governor.

<v Speaker 1>Darren. You used to call all the time, didn't you.

<v Speaker 7>I used to when I was up in Denver a lot,

<v Speaker 7>but I lived down in color other Springs. I've lived there.

<v Speaker 1>All the time, but I remember you.

<v Speaker 7>There's less time for me up in Denver, and I

<v Speaker 7>miss you guys a lot.

<v Speaker 2>Well, we miss you, buddy, You're always so delightful to

<v Speaker 2>talk to.

<v Speaker 1>Well, I'm bline, thank you. I'm glad you meet it

<v Speaker 1>back in today.

<v Speaker 2>So what are your thoughts for Miley and her situation

<v Speaker 2>with this hot dude with a kid.

<v Speaker 7>Well, because she's already stated that she's really not into

<v Speaker 7>the kids thing. It doesn't make her a nasty person.

<v Speaker 7>What it makes so is somebody that's thinking a head.

<v Speaker 7>She must care about this guy enough to not want

<v Speaker 7>to let him or his child down. And that's a

<v Speaker 7>difficult thing. And the only reason I say it is

<v Speaker 7>because I was a single parent and I had three

<v Speaker 7>children and I had sold custody and I got let

<v Speaker 7>down a lot. So because she's thinking the way she's

<v Speaker 7>said thinking, she's doing technically the right thing because her mind,

<v Speaker 7>from what you said that she had, the way she

<v Speaker 7>put it, she's not into this. And there's no point

<v Speaker 7>getting into something with somebody even if he's hot. Because

<v Speaker 7>I'm hot. I think that she's being very sensible, but

<v Speaker 7>because there's a good chance that if she really isn't

<v Speaker 7>into it, she already knows, so she's not going to

<v Speaker 7>be letting anyone down, including herself.

<v Speaker 2>Don't you wish though, after you know, all those ladies

<v Speaker 2>that you went out with, it's that one of them

<v Speaker 2>gave you a chance just to get to know you

<v Speaker 2>and your kiddos a little bit more and grow to

<v Speaker 2>love you.

<v Speaker 1>Guys.

<v Speaker 7>Well, yeah, it's it's a difficult situation because the last

<v Speaker 7>one I was in, I got in a relationship and

<v Speaker 7>she was also a divorced mother with two kids, and

<v Speaker 7>her and her ex had joint custody. And I'm not

<v Speaker 7>trying to put myself on the back, but I spent

<v Speaker 7>all my money raising her kids too.

<v Speaker 1>She was that terrible Oh Derek, well, that's a whole.

<v Speaker 7>Show her name, because you're not supposed to say that

<v Speaker 7>word on radio.

<v Speaker 1>Did I miss something?

<v Speaker 7>But the good thing about the way she's thinking is

<v Speaker 7>she's sinking positively, even though it might sound negative. But

<v Speaker 7>even though that puts me on, you know, not doesn't

<v Speaker 7>put me on. The kids are great, Gail.

<v Speaker 1>I'm putting you down for the other kids are great.

<v Speaker 2>Other kids are gross at your vote, buddy, other kids

<v Speaker 2>are gross.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well up in school.

<v Speaker 7>Other kids were gross.

<v Speaker 1>Are you still single?

<v Speaker 7>I'm still single. Yeah. My kids are in their mid twenties. Now.

<v Speaker 7>I've got one that just moved to Georgia because he

<v Speaker 7>finally got into the best relationship he's ever had. So

<v Speaker 7>I helped him out for the last year and a

<v Speaker 7>half getting So you're a good dad. Dere doled it out,

<v Speaker 7>and I met his girlfriend. They were already talking about

<v Speaker 7>getting married. And she's got a beautiful four year old daughter.

<v Speaker 7>So I'm technically now your grandpa.

<v Speaker 1>Technically that's all right. Hey, you know Katie's singles.

<v Speaker 2>She's looking for love and hot guys with awesome accents.

<v Speaker 1>And did you just growled?

<v Speaker 7>Derek? If you saw me, you would think I worked

<v Speaker 7>for the FBI. I wear a black suit and the

<v Speaker 7>address shirt and the tie.

<v Speaker 1>Derek, I you've called in for years. I want to

<v Speaker 1>know what you look like.

<v Speaker 2>Can you send us a picture when we get off

<v Speaker 2>the phone to our text lane. The same number you

<v Speaker 2>just called text is a picture of you. I want

<v Speaker 2>to know what you look like.

<v Speaker 7>I will definitely do that, even though I sound like

<v Speaker 7>Michael Caine, I don't know.

<v Speaker 2>You were fantastic in the Muppet Christmas dere Derek. I

<v Speaker 2>got a couple more calls I got to get to buddy,

<v Speaker 2>but it was really good to hear from you again.

<v Speaker 7>Man. Yeah, you're very welcome. I'll try and call you

<v Speaker 7>guys more often.

<v Speaker 6>I wish sure.

<v Speaker 2>You're delightful, send us a picture and have a great

<v Speaker 2>little Thursday.

<v Speaker 1>Alrighty, we'll do mate.

<v Speaker 7>You take care. I love you, guys.

<v Speaker 1>This is bye. Such a good guy high star.

<v Speaker 7>Hello.

<v Speaker 2>Hello, okay, so real quick, what are your thoughts on

<v Speaker 2>this situation with Miley.

<v Speaker 6>I think she should run, okay she I think if

<v Speaker 6>she feels that she's not ready for it, she should

<v Speaker 6>leave because again, you know, children require a lot of

<v Speaker 6>attention and a lot of love, you know, and then

<v Speaker 6>for her to be feeling that way, it's probably her

<v Speaker 6>discernment talking to her. So if I were her, I'd

<v Speaker 6>probably just leave. I've been in a situation similar and again,

<v Speaker 6>you don't want to get attached to the kid.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then that's the big thing, you know.

<v Speaker 6>It gets taken away from you and it's just it's

<v Speaker 6>it'd be a messy situation anyways, So my advice to her,

<v Speaker 6>she has no children of her own, I would just

<v Speaker 6>probably look for someone who has no children of their

<v Speaker 6>own as well.

<v Speaker 1>Yes, solid point star, I put you down for other kids.

<v Speaker 1>Are gross? All right, funny cat, all right, appreciate your opinion.

<v Speaker 1>Have a nice day, awesome, thank you.

<v Speaker 2>All right, here's our last one, Carissa.

<v Speaker 1>Hi, Carissa, good morning.

<v Speaker 8>You guys been listening to you forever, so you love

<v Speaker 8>you all and I'm not gonna lie love you, Jeremy,

<v Speaker 8>but I still go between you and Tom.

<v Speaker 1>Well you don't have to worry about that anymore. But

<v Speaker 1>thank you.

<v Speaker 8>Radio too, because I just I love the two of you.

<v Speaker 8>We've listened to you guys for ten plus years.

<v Speaker 1>That's very kind of you. You're a sweetheart. Thank you

<v Speaker 1>for listening.

<v Speaker 8>Wonderful. I'm torn. I am last caller. I actually was

<v Speaker 8>cleaning out my van and didn't even I was like,

<v Speaker 8>that's not my circus, not my monkeys, whatever. Got to

<v Speaker 8>focus on my thing, and I was like, no, no,

<v Speaker 8>I got a call. So I'm happy that I got through.

<v Speaker 8>But I'm a stepmom and I love my son. I

<v Speaker 8>call him my son. He's been in my life for

<v Speaker 8>sixteen years. I met him when he was five months old,

<v Speaker 8>So I think the age has a lot to do

<v Speaker 8>with it too. When they're older, it's harder to commit

<v Speaker 8>to a bond with them because they know who their

<v Speaker 8>mother is, they know who their father is, and there

<v Speaker 8>is room for you too, but it's much harder. And

<v Speaker 8>the other thing, I think, like the other caller said,

<v Speaker 8>if she's not filling it, and like inside that little

<v Speaker 8>voice is like, you know, maybe it's not for me.

<v Speaker 8>I think it's not for.

<v Speaker 9>Her because it takes a special kind of person to

<v Speaker 9>also deal with the ex and not just the child.

<v Speaker 9>So you get attached to them and it hurts when

<v Speaker 9>you realize what your role really is. And if she.

<v Speaker 8>Doesn't have kids, I think she should probably as much

<v Speaker 8>as she loves a guy, she should also walk away

<v Speaker 8>and realize that she's not making a commitment to just

<v Speaker 8>the child, but she's making a commitment.

<v Speaker 9>To his ex as well. Nobody else talks about all.

<v Speaker 3>You're so logical and level headed with this when you're

<v Speaker 3>talking so much about the kids, which is the important part.

<v Speaker 3>I mean, as a single parent, it's hard for you

<v Speaker 3>to introduce your kids to somebody else in that dynamic,

<v Speaker 3>and so you're right for her to be honest with

<v Speaker 3>him and say hey, I'm not just ready. She's saving herself,

<v Speaker 3>that kid and that man a world of hurt.

<v Speaker 6>I feel exactly.

<v Speaker 8>Yeah, I'm with you guys, one hundred percent. And it's

<v Speaker 8>one of the hardest things to do because you're breaking

<v Speaker 8>kind of you're breaking his heart. Her heart's going to

<v Speaker 8>get broken, but it saves the heart of the child,

<v Speaker 8>and it also is something else that it's a self effact.

<v Speaker 8>It's it's not easy. But you know, one thing that

<v Speaker 8>my mom and dad told me when I got involved

<v Speaker 8>with my husband is are you sure you're ready for that?

<v Speaker 8>Because you're making a commitment to three people. You're making

<v Speaker 8>a commitment to one number one, the child, number two,

<v Speaker 8>your husband seem to be husband number three, the X

<v Speaker 8>She's going to be part of his life, whether it's

<v Speaker 8>a man or a woman. And I don't think people

<v Speaker 8>think about that either. They just kind of get into them, like, oh,

<v Speaker 8>the kid, I love the kid and it's gonna be great.

<v Speaker 8>And it's like my experience dealing with the ex s.

<v Speaker 2>It's we were running short on time. I can listen

<v Speaker 2>to you all day, though you can call whatever you

<v Speaker 2>want on whatever topic, because I think you're a brilliant lady.

<v Speaker 8>Yes, thank you. You know, there's been some just I've

<v Speaker 8>gotten them. I've gotten it from from lessons, but there

<v Speaker 8>they've been wonderful lessons in the end. But thank you, guys,

<v Speaker 8>and I hope you guys have a great day.

<v Speaker 1>We love you.

<v Speaker 7>Thank you.

<v Speaker 1>So sweet.

<v Speaker 2>All Right, So I essentially I'm putting her down for

<v Speaker 2>other kids are gross. Uh five out of five all

<v Speaker 2>five calls today said other kids are gross and you

<v Speaker 2>need to run. If your heart's not in it, your

<v Speaker 2>mind's not in it, you need to bounce.

<v Speaker 3>She's writing us to tell us that she's questioning it

<v Speaker 3>right and that right there is enough to be like, well, yeah,

<v Speaker 3>you got to be in it.

<v Speaker 1>You got to be in it for sure. Great email

<v Speaker 1>from Miley today.

<v Speaker 2>Really appreciate the great content for our show. And a

<v Speaker 2>big old hug and thank you to every listener sounding

<v Speaker 2>off today.

<v Speaker 1>You guys power this show and you are the superstars.