1 00:00:00,030 --> 00:00:04,140 this video is sponsored by blinken 2 00:00:03,020 --> 00:00:05,790 blinkin 3 00:00:04,140 --> 00:00:07,830 transforms the key insights of 4 00:00:05,790 --> 00:00:09,389 best-selling non-fiction books into 5 00:00:07,830 --> 00:00:12,420 powerful packs that you can read or 6 00:00:09,389 --> 00:00:14,040 listen to in just 50 minutes we're gonna 7 00:00:12,420 --> 00:00:16,170 talk more about blinkers later on in the 8 00:00:14,040 --> 00:00:18,240 video but for now let's get on with 10 9 00:00:16,170 --> 00:00:19,939 life lessons that we can learn from 10 00:00:18,240 --> 00:00:21,869 Confucius 11 00:00:19,939 --> 00:00:24,570 Confucius was one of the greatest 12 00:00:21,869 --> 00:00:26,910 eastern philosophers of all time whose 13 00:00:24,570 --> 00:00:29,490 teachings deeply influenced East Asian 14 00:00:26,910 --> 00:00:31,710 life and thought his philosophical 15 00:00:29,490 --> 00:00:34,320 movement Confucianism emphasizes 16 00:00:31,710 --> 00:00:36,540 morality honesty the importance of 17 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:39,210 social relationships and the belief that 18 00:00:36,540 --> 00:00:42,510 man is fundamentally good and capable of 19 00:00:39,210 --> 00:00:44,700 changing evolving and improving so here 20 00:00:42,510 --> 00:00:46,649 are 10 lessons we can all learn from one 21 00:00:44,700 --> 00:00:49,890 of China's most iconic historical 22 00:00:46,649 --> 00:00:54,360 figures number one learn to see beauty 23 00:00:49,890 --> 00:00:56,940 in everything Confucius says everything 24 00:00:54,360 --> 00:01:00,120 has its beauty but not everyone sees it 25 00:00:56,940 --> 00:01:02,820 in today's world our life is mostly made 26 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:04,320 up of routines and patterns many of us 27 00:01:02,820 --> 00:01:06,510 live according to the rules that are 28 00:01:04,320 --> 00:01:08,490 socially acceptable within the realm of 29 00:01:06,510 --> 00:01:11,189 comfort while living repetitively and 30 00:01:08,490 --> 00:01:13,229 dreaming of ways to escape in the modern 31 00:01:11,189 --> 00:01:16,110 business of life it's hard to appreciate 32 00:01:13,229 --> 00:01:17,939 the everyday beauty there are many 33 00:01:16,110 --> 00:01:20,400 things in life that can irritate you 34 00:01:17,939 --> 00:01:23,250 like traffic your kids throwing fits 35 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:25,080 stepping on Lego your computer running 36 00:01:23,250 --> 00:01:27,299 slowly your pet throwing up on the 37 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:30,360 carpet losing your keys or your phone 38 00:01:27,299 --> 00:01:32,549 just randomly stops working we always 39 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:35,700 fail to see the silver linings or the 40 00:01:32,549 --> 00:01:37,590 bright side in reality the simple fact 41 00:01:35,700 --> 00:01:40,110 that you're in the world and able to 42 00:01:37,590 --> 00:01:42,750 experience anything at all is little 43 00:01:40,110 --> 00:01:44,220 short of a miracle the sheer complexity 44 00:01:42,750 --> 00:01:46,290 of all the events that have had to 45 00:01:44,220 --> 00:01:47,820 happen in order for you to even exist 46 00:01:46,290 --> 00:01:51,140 and to have a computer in the first 47 00:01:47,820 --> 00:01:53,820 place to go slow is simply mind-boggling 48 00:01:51,140 --> 00:01:55,829 consider just within your own body how 49 00:01:53,820 --> 00:01:57,780 much is going on right now that just 50 00:01:55,829 --> 00:02:00,990 happens without you even thinking about 51 00:01:57,780 --> 00:02:03,360 it imagine if you had to think about 52 00:02:00,990 --> 00:02:06,810 breathing or making your heartbeat or 53 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:09,360 even digesting your lunch all of this 54 00:02:06,810 --> 00:02:11,190 and so much more is going on just so you 55 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:12,600 can watch this video and understand it 56 00:02:11,190 --> 00:02:15,300 without dying it 57 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:17,370 that incredible and this detail doesn't 58 00:02:15,300 --> 00:02:19,950 just exist in us it's in everything 59 00:02:17,370 --> 00:02:21,780 around us so this means boredom is a 60 00:02:19,950 --> 00:02:24,480 fiction that we tell ourselves instead 61 00:02:21,780 --> 00:02:26,220 of admitting laziness to truly 62 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:29,430 understand this is to see that there 63 00:02:26,220 --> 00:02:31,680 really is beauty detail and interest in 64 00:02:29,430 --> 00:02:33,780 everything around you from the pile of 65 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:36,510 manure to the flowers that grow from it 66 00:02:33,780 --> 00:02:38,610 if we look for the beauty in every 67 00:02:36,510 --> 00:02:40,680 moment we can gain new insights and 68 00:02:38,610 --> 00:02:42,860 understanding in our own lives and the 69 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:47,360 world were all living those lives in 70 00:02:42,860 --> 00:02:50,580 number two moral values start at home in 71 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:53,160 the words of Confucius the strength of a 72 00:02:50,580 --> 00:02:56,070 nation derives from the integrity of the 73 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:58,380 home moral values are a set of 74 00:02:56,070 --> 00:03:01,290 principles guiding us to evaluate what's 75 00:02:58,380 --> 00:03:03,990 right or wrong moral values such as 76 00:03:01,290 --> 00:03:06,870 integrity determination loyalty 77 00:03:03,990 --> 00:03:08,700 truthfulness honesty giving respect to 78 00:03:06,870 --> 00:03:11,390 each other and so on helps shape the 79 00:03:08,700 --> 00:03:14,100 character and personality of individuals 80 00:03:11,390 --> 00:03:15,960 according to Confucius these moral 81 00:03:14,100 --> 00:03:18,960 values can be best adopted at an 82 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:20,850 individual family level Confucius saw 83 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:23,520 the family as the sole origin and 84 00:03:20,850 --> 00:03:25,140 foundation of the nation the family 85 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:27,420 being the smallest unit in the nation 86 00:03:25,140 --> 00:03:29,310 plays a very important role in ensuring 87 00:03:27,420 --> 00:03:31,740 the stability and progress of that 88 00:03:29,310 --> 00:03:34,140 nation the principle adopted by 89 00:03:31,740 --> 00:03:35,820 Confucius that people should not do to 90 00:03:34,140 --> 00:03:38,160 others what they don't want to be done 91 00:03:35,820 --> 00:03:40,560 to them is best applicable in the family 92 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:42,240 level it means people should treat 93 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:45,060 others as they would want to be treated 94 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:47,100 themselves as in if one wants to be 95 00:03:45,060 --> 00:03:50,490 treated a certain way one should treat 96 00:03:47,100 --> 00:03:52,350 others in that way if everyone were to 97 00:03:50,490 --> 00:03:54,480 follow this rule everyone would be 98 00:03:52,350 --> 00:03:56,790 treated well and by ensuring order and 99 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:58,650 harmony at an individual family level it 100 00:03:56,790 --> 00:04:01,320 becomes automatic that the nation as a 101 00:03:58,650 --> 00:04:03,180 whole will follow suit this is so 102 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:04,830 because a nation is a combination of 103 00:04:03,180 --> 00:04:07,500 homes which are made up of different 104 00:04:04,830 --> 00:04:09,930 family members it's only by cultivating 105 00:04:07,500 --> 00:04:11,820 love among those family members that the 106 00:04:09,930 --> 00:04:14,910 nation can in turn demonstrate love 107 00:04:11,820 --> 00:04:16,790 without love and mutual respect by all 108 00:04:14,910 --> 00:04:19,410 family members whether parent or child 109 00:04:16,790 --> 00:04:21,540 it's impossible to instill the high 110 00:04:19,410 --> 00:04:24,450 moral values we'd like to see everyone 111 00:04:21,540 --> 00:04:26,250 achieve as such the more families that 112 00:04:24,450 --> 00:04:28,260 do demonstrate mutual love 113 00:04:26,250 --> 00:04:30,600 respect the more harmonious the 114 00:04:28,260 --> 00:04:32,850 coexistence of the wider community where 115 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:36,780 the local national or global will 116 00:04:32,850 --> 00:04:39,810 improve number three never do anything 117 00:04:36,780 --> 00:04:43,250 half-heartedly to quote Confucius 118 00:04:39,810 --> 00:04:46,050 wherever you go go with all your heart 119 00:04:43,250 --> 00:04:48,810 some people succeed over others because 120 00:04:46,050 --> 00:04:51,600 they give 100% to whatever they commit 121 00:04:48,810 --> 00:04:54,720 to most of us commit to something but 122 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:56,580 usually give it a half-hearted effort it 123 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:57,510 means that you don't have that much 124 00:04:56,580 --> 00:04:59,970 energy for it 125 00:04:57,510 --> 00:05:03,030 you're not that motivated for it or 126 00:04:59,970 --> 00:05:05,040 interested in doing it or inspired but 127 00:05:03,030 --> 00:05:05,600 still participate in whatever you're 128 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:08,040 doing 129 00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:10,800 most of us waste too much of our time 130 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:12,450 money and energy by not committing 131 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:16,169 wholeheartedly to something that's 132 00:05:12,450 --> 00:05:17,610 important to us putting a half-hearted 133 00:05:16,169 --> 00:05:20,040 effort into things that matter in life 134 00:05:17,610 --> 00:05:23,100 means we're constantly falling short of 135 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:25,500 our potential our half-hearted effort is 136 00:05:23,100 --> 00:05:28,350 still exhausting it consumes energy 137 00:05:25,500 --> 00:05:30,840 without producing results it's stressful 138 00:05:28,350 --> 00:05:33,120 it makes us feel like a failure when 139 00:05:30,840 --> 00:05:35,100 we're not it's just that we haven't 140 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:36,229 fully committed to something which is 141 00:05:35,100 --> 00:05:40,190 why we need to do everything 142 00:05:36,229 --> 00:05:42,840 wholeheartedly we need to give our 100% 143 00:05:40,190 --> 00:05:44,729 doing things wholeheartedly means you 144 00:05:42,840 --> 00:05:47,280 bring your whole self to work and you 145 00:05:44,729 --> 00:05:49,229 lead from your heart this way you'll be 146 00:05:47,280 --> 00:05:52,740 more likely to be the person who cares 147 00:05:49,229 --> 00:05:56,430 more shares more understands more says 148 00:05:52,740 --> 00:05:59,340 more feels more hears more and is liked 149 00:05:56,430 --> 00:06:00,830 more you can accomplish anything if you 150 00:05:59,340 --> 00:06:05,310 do it with all your heart 151 00:06:00,830 --> 00:06:07,860 number four never give up in the words 152 00:06:05,310 --> 00:06:11,330 of Confucius it does not matter how 153 00:06:07,860 --> 00:06:13,710 slowly you go as long as you do not stop 154 00:06:11,330 --> 00:06:15,750 Confucius teaches us that it doesn't 155 00:06:13,710 --> 00:06:18,750 matter if you're moving a step closer or 156 00:06:15,750 --> 00:06:20,880 an inch closer to your dreams the most 157 00:06:18,750 --> 00:06:24,330 important thing is that you keep moving 158 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:25,979 forward we all love to fall in love with 159 00:06:24,330 --> 00:06:27,750 the idea of something grand 160 00:06:25,979 --> 00:06:29,970 we love the thought of being a famous 161 00:06:27,750 --> 00:06:31,890 tech entrepreneur far more than we love 162 00:06:29,970 --> 00:06:34,349 sitting in a dark room for years on end 163 00:06:31,890 --> 00:06:36,390 learning how to code and when we hit the 164 00:06:34,349 --> 00:06:38,310 first roadblock we assume failure and 165 00:06:36,390 --> 00:06:39,430 give up entirely because knowledge and 166 00:06:38,310 --> 00:06:41,470 master over ask 167 00:06:39,430 --> 00:06:44,260 wasn't the driving force the shiny 168 00:06:41,470 --> 00:06:46,300 reward at the end was we need to 169 00:06:44,260 --> 00:06:49,150 understand that success is a work in 170 00:06:46,300 --> 00:06:51,639 progress the truth is you're going from 171 00:06:49,150 --> 00:06:53,770 point A to point B so if you're 172 00:06:51,639 --> 00:06:55,270 consistent well it might not happen in 173 00:06:53,770 --> 00:06:57,580 the time frame that you'd expected 174 00:06:55,270 --> 00:06:59,560 you'll surely reach where you want to go 175 00:06:57,580 --> 00:07:01,389 in the end if you put in the daily 176 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:04,150 required effort and keep on developing 177 00:07:01,389 --> 00:07:05,410 your skills just as there are common 178 00:07:04,150 --> 00:07:07,840 steps that people take to achieve 179 00:07:05,410 --> 00:07:10,750 success there are common steps people 180 00:07:07,840 --> 00:07:13,570 take to fail so even if you do get stuck 181 00:07:10,750 --> 00:07:15,669 do not change your goals no matter what 182 00:07:13,570 --> 00:07:18,539 the difficulty is just change the 183 00:07:15,669 --> 00:07:22,720 approach you take to get it number five 184 00:07:18,539 --> 00:07:25,479 everyone has wisdom to share Confucius 185 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:27,880 says if I am walking with two other men 186 00:07:25,479 --> 00:07:30,130 each of them will serve as my teacher I 187 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:32,740 will pick out the good points of the one 188 00:07:30,130 --> 00:07:35,460 and imitate them and the bad points of 189 00:07:32,740 --> 00:07:38,760 the other and correct them in myself 190 00:07:35,460 --> 00:07:41,530 this is one of the great lessons of life 191 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:43,479 according to Confucius everyone around 192 00:07:41,530 --> 00:07:45,820 us is a lesson and we should try to 193 00:07:43,479 --> 00:07:47,440 learn everything we can from them there 194 00:07:45,820 --> 00:07:49,630 are some things that we learn from books 195 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:51,490 by going to classes watching 196 00:07:49,630 --> 00:07:54,310 presentations or listening to lectures 197 00:07:51,490 --> 00:07:57,849 other things we learn from people by 198 00:07:54,310 --> 00:08:00,099 observing analyzing imitating practicing 199 00:07:57,849 --> 00:08:02,560 when we're open to learning from others 200 00:08:00,099 --> 00:08:04,450 we benefit from their experience and we 201 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:07,060 can inherit their wisdom and knowledge a 202 00:08:04,450 --> 00:08:09,550 good example is asking friends how they 203 00:08:07,060 --> 00:08:11,500 find time to read one book a week the 204 00:08:09,550 --> 00:08:13,300 best way to learn from people around you 205 00:08:11,500 --> 00:08:15,820 is by having friends who are better than 206 00:08:13,300 --> 00:08:17,979 yourself your friends are a guiding 207 00:08:15,820 --> 00:08:19,570 light to your future as you are often 208 00:08:17,979 --> 00:08:21,580 headed where they already are therefore 209 00:08:19,570 --> 00:08:23,770 surround yourself with friends who are 210 00:08:21,580 --> 00:08:25,930 going where you want to go who share 211 00:08:23,770 --> 00:08:27,849 your values and convictions and drive 212 00:08:25,930 --> 00:08:30,820 each other to be the best self you can 213 00:08:27,849 --> 00:08:33,279 be learning from others is not a passive 214 00:08:30,820 --> 00:08:36,099 process but one that requires work and 215 00:08:33,279 --> 00:08:38,080 commitment on our part so pick out 216 00:08:36,099 --> 00:08:40,120 qualities in others which you admire and 217 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:42,159 implement them and use negative 218 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:44,140 qualities as reminders of where you 219 00:08:42,159 --> 00:08:46,510 don't want to go or get rid of bad 220 00:08:44,140 --> 00:08:48,730 traits you might have yourself there is 221 00:08:46,510 --> 00:08:53,320 always something to be learned 222 00:08:48,730 --> 00:08:55,540 number six ignore gossips to quote 223 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:58,020 Confucius if they spit at you behind 224 00:08:55,540 --> 00:09:00,850 your back it means you're ahead of them 225 00:08:58,020 --> 00:09:02,740 there are seven billion people on this 226 00:09:00,850 --> 00:09:05,290 planet out of which will roughly 227 00:09:02,740 --> 00:09:08,470 encounter 25 to 30 thousand of them in 228 00:09:05,290 --> 00:09:10,240 our brief lifetime at any phase of your 229 00:09:08,470 --> 00:09:11,980 life there are going to be people who 230 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:13,930 are going to be more fortunate than you 231 00:09:11,980 --> 00:09:16,930 and there are going to be people who are 232 00:09:13,930 --> 00:09:18,430 going to be less fortunate unfortunately 233 00:09:16,930 --> 00:09:19,870 some of them will gossip about your 234 00:09:18,430 --> 00:09:22,390 fortunes behind your back 235 00:09:19,870 --> 00:09:24,190 it feels pretty awful to have people 236 00:09:22,390 --> 00:09:26,350 talk about you behind your back but 237 00:09:24,190 --> 00:09:29,380 people usually do this for three main 238 00:09:26,350 --> 00:09:32,200 reasons one when they can't reach your 239 00:09:29,380 --> 00:09:35,200 level two when they don't have what do 240 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:38,230 you have and three when they try to copy 241 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:39,760 your lifestyle but can't a jealous 242 00:09:38,230 --> 00:09:42,160 person won't come and tell you that he's 243 00:09:39,760 --> 00:09:44,500 jealous of you normally say it directly 244 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:45,970 to one of his friends but instead his 245 00:09:44,500 --> 00:09:49,060 jealousy will appear in the form of 246 00:09:45,970 --> 00:09:50,920 hatred resentment and gossiping the 247 00:09:49,060 --> 00:09:52,600 people who envy you the most are the 248 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:55,570 ones who are most in need of what you 249 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:57,370 possess for example your millionaire 250 00:09:55,570 --> 00:09:59,380 friends never going to envy you if you 251 00:09:57,370 --> 00:10:01,600 bought a new average priced car 252 00:09:59,380 --> 00:10:03,100 but your friend who has no car is the 253 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:06,100 one who's most likely going to be 254 00:10:03,100 --> 00:10:08,920 jealous of you good or bad people are 255 00:10:06,100 --> 00:10:11,020 going to talk focus on the people who 256 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:14,890 care about and support you not the 257 00:10:11,020 --> 00:10:17,770 people who gossip number seven think of 258 00:10:14,890 --> 00:10:21,370 the consequences in the words of 259 00:10:17,770 --> 00:10:22,500 Confucius when anger arises think of the 260 00:10:21,370 --> 00:10:25,390 consequences 261 00:10:22,500 --> 00:10:28,390 according to Confucius if were angry at 262 00:10:25,390 --> 00:10:30,340 someone then we're defeated by them we 263 00:10:28,390 --> 00:10:33,130 in the West believe that anger is not 264 00:10:30,340 --> 00:10:35,260 always bad we believe that anger is 265 00:10:33,130 --> 00:10:37,500 justified if one is angry at the right 266 00:10:35,260 --> 00:10:40,360 time and in the right context 267 00:10:37,500 --> 00:10:42,310 Confucius just like Seneca believes that 268 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:44,800 there is no such thing as a good amount 269 00:10:42,310 --> 00:10:46,600 of anger and it is extremely important 270 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:49,510 to think of the consequences when an 271 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:51,520 emotion like anger arises anger is a 272 00:10:49,510 --> 00:10:53,350 powerful emotion and it may have 273 00:10:51,520 --> 00:10:56,020 destructive results for you and those 274 00:10:53,350 --> 00:10:58,600 closest to you anger can lead to 275 00:10:56,020 --> 00:11:00,370 arguments physical fights physical abuse 276 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:02,540 assault and self-harm 277 00:11:00,370 --> 00:11:04,610 hence whenever you feel you're about 278 00:11:02,540 --> 00:11:06,170 to get angry remove yourself from the 279 00:11:04,610 --> 00:11:08,390 situation that's provoking you or 280 00:11:06,170 --> 00:11:10,400 withhold all actions until you feel 281 00:11:08,390 --> 00:11:13,550 yourself in a completely tranquil state 282 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:16,310 of mind to think of the consequences try 283 00:11:13,550 --> 00:11:18,730 reading deep breathing meditating or 284 00:11:16,310 --> 00:11:21,080 some other activity you find relaxing 285 00:11:18,730 --> 00:11:24,200 this can relieve the tension in your 286 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:26,060 muscles and help you relax even after 287 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:27,410 taking the time off if you feel that 288 00:11:26,060 --> 00:11:29,690 you're wronged you should choose to 289 00:11:27,410 --> 00:11:31,790 forgive and move on because at the end 290 00:11:29,690 --> 00:11:33,760 of the day to be wronged is nothing 291 00:11:31,790 --> 00:11:35,270 unless you continue to remember it 292 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:39,110 number 8 293 00:11:35,270 --> 00:11:42,260 practice the art of silence has been 294 00:11:39,110 --> 00:11:45,410 learn from Confucius silence is a true 295 00:11:42,260 --> 00:11:47,990 friend who never betrays silence is a 296 00:11:45,410 --> 00:11:49,760 rare privilege in the modern world when 297 00:11:47,990 --> 00:11:51,650 we're not talking with others we fill 298 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:54,080 our sonic space with different types of 299 00:11:51,650 --> 00:11:55,520 media and with the advent of podcasts we 300 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:58,250 can always have something to listen to 301 00:11:55,520 --> 00:12:00,080 for some of us the absence of sound is 302 00:11:58,250 --> 00:12:02,330 almost startling as we feel 303 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:03,410 automatically compelled to turn on the 304 00:12:02,330 --> 00:12:05,510 TV or radio 305 00:12:03,410 --> 00:12:08,120 there are times throughout the day to 306 00:12:05,510 --> 00:12:09,800 integrate silence into it if you keep an 307 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:11,870 eye out for them if you're a 308 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:13,940 stay-at-home parents you can dedicate 309 00:12:11,870 --> 00:12:16,610 the first 15 minutes of nap time to a 310 00:12:13,940 --> 00:12:18,050 silent house if you work consider 311 00:12:16,610 --> 00:12:19,640 leaving your phone at your desk and 312 00:12:18,050 --> 00:12:22,340 going for a walk on your lunch break 313 00:12:19,640 --> 00:12:24,290 uninterrupted take five minutes during 314 00:12:22,340 --> 00:12:27,320 the day to stare out the window and be 315 00:12:24,290 --> 00:12:29,930 in the present moment silence is an 316 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:31,820 inner state in the absence of silence 317 00:12:29,930 --> 00:12:35,150 you tend to get overtaken by the mind 318 00:12:31,820 --> 00:12:36,650 body and emotions the clutter prevents 319 00:12:35,150 --> 00:12:39,560 you from listening to your psyche and 320 00:12:36,650 --> 00:12:41,420 soul to listen to your soul you need to 321 00:12:39,560 --> 00:12:43,850 establish a strong relationship with 322 00:12:41,420 --> 00:12:46,300 silence without it we might remain 323 00:12:43,850 --> 00:12:47,420 unaware of many things about ourselves 324 00:12:46,300 --> 00:12:49,910 silence 325 00:12:47,420 --> 00:12:52,550 empowers you to think things through and 326 00:12:49,910 --> 00:12:54,890 come up with solutions because it's only 327 00:12:52,550 --> 00:12:57,320 in silence that you can truly listen 328 00:12:54,890 --> 00:13:01,250 well that you can listen to the deepest 329 00:12:57,320 --> 00:13:05,090 wisdom of your soul number nine practice 330 00:13:01,250 --> 00:13:07,820 filial piety in the words of Confucius 331 00:13:05,090 --> 00:13:10,400 there are three degrees of filial piety 332 00:13:07,820 --> 00:13:13,040 the highest is being a credit to our 333 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:16,030 parents the second is not disgracing 334 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:19,240 them the lowest is being able simply 335 00:13:16,030 --> 00:13:21,010 to support them filial piety is how 336 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:22,450 children show their gratitude by 337 00:13:21,010 --> 00:13:25,180 repaying their parents for their 338 00:13:22,450 --> 00:13:27,610 kindness love and caring people from 339 00:13:25,180 --> 00:13:30,370 Asia are often more communal and family 340 00:13:27,610 --> 00:13:32,260 orientated therefore children have more 341 00:13:30,370 --> 00:13:34,240 respect for their elders and will take 342 00:13:32,260 --> 00:13:37,390 care of aging parents in their own homes 343 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:39,460 until they die this is in contrast to 344 00:13:37,390 --> 00:13:41,860 the majority of us in the West who are 345 00:13:39,460 --> 00:13:44,500 unusually focused on individualism and 346 00:13:41,860 --> 00:13:46,120 youth as a result it's all too common 347 00:13:44,500 --> 00:13:48,040 for us to show little respect for 348 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:50,350 extended families and aging parents 349 00:13:48,040 --> 00:13:52,810 we're so busy developing our own careers 350 00:13:50,350 --> 00:13:55,210 raising kids and being absorbed in our 351 00:13:52,810 --> 00:13:58,270 own lives that we tend to farm our aging 352 00:13:55,210 --> 00:14:00,130 parents out to institutions according to 353 00:13:58,270 --> 00:14:02,160 Confucius children should take care of 354 00:14:00,130 --> 00:14:05,140 their aging parents for several reasons 355 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:07,180 to begin with they helped us to grow and 356 00:14:05,140 --> 00:14:09,970 without them we wouldn't even be in this 357 00:14:07,180 --> 00:14:12,490 world they provided us love shelter 358 00:14:09,970 --> 00:14:14,830 clothes and medicine whatever we needed 359 00:14:12,490 --> 00:14:16,900 at that time they also provided 360 00:14:14,830 --> 00:14:19,750 education and taught us how we could 361 00:14:16,900 --> 00:14:21,280 survive in the world parents always try 362 00:14:19,750 --> 00:14:23,770 to prepare their children for the future 363 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:26,470 and they want to see them successful and 364 00:14:23,770 --> 00:14:28,150 happy therefore one can argue that they 365 00:14:26,470 --> 00:14:30,760 have a right to expect something from 366 00:14:28,150 --> 00:14:32,890 their children in their old age so even 367 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:33,610 if you are far away occupied with your 368 00:14:32,890 --> 00:14:35,800 busy life 369 00:14:33,610 --> 00:14:38,440 you can practice filial piety by 370 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:40,390 maintaining frequent contact visiting 371 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:43,210 them more often stepping out with them 372 00:14:40,390 --> 00:14:45,370 sending the money and so on our parents 373 00:14:43,210 --> 00:14:48,430 made a lot of sacrifices for us in their 374 00:14:45,370 --> 00:14:50,680 lives so we as children should show our 375 00:14:48,430 --> 00:14:54,280 love and gratitude for elderly parents 376 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:56,920 by taking care of them number 10 embrace 377 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:59,920 getting older in our final piece of 378 00:14:56,920 --> 00:15:01,510 wisdom from Confucius he tells us old 379 00:14:59,920 --> 00:15:04,570 age believe me 380 00:15:01,510 --> 00:15:06,340 is a good and pleasant thing it is true 381 00:15:04,570 --> 00:15:08,500 you are gently shouldered off the stage 382 00:15:06,340 --> 00:15:11,370 but then you are given such a 383 00:15:08,500 --> 00:15:14,140 comfortable front stall as a spectator 384 00:15:11,370 --> 00:15:16,360 when we turn 40 we suddenly find 385 00:15:14,140 --> 00:15:18,730 ourselves slowing down gaining weight 386 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:20,890 and losing muscle tone we're less 387 00:15:18,730 --> 00:15:23,350 energized than a few short years ago 388 00:15:20,890 --> 00:15:25,180 a new study has concluded that people 389 00:15:23,350 --> 00:15:27,340 with a positive attitude about getting 390 00:15:25,180 --> 00:15:27,910 older live longer and have better mental 391 00:15:27,340 --> 00:15:29,710 health 392 00:15:27,910 --> 00:15:32,230 those who look at Aging 393 00:15:29,710 --> 00:15:34,600 a bad thing are more likely to suffer a 394 00:15:32,230 --> 00:15:37,390 heart attack a stroke or died several 395 00:15:34,600 --> 00:15:40,000 years sooner hence we need to change our 396 00:15:37,390 --> 00:15:42,400 perspective 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