Hey guys.

Welcome back to another episode

of, Here Comes The Drama.

I'm your host, Christa Innis, and

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You know, you guys hear like

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So I think a lot of times people think

it's scripted or I plan it out, but no,

I record and stop so many times because

sometimes I just jumble over my words.

same with skits.

Like I think sometimes people think I

have a fully scripted out, storyline,

but half the time I'm just seeing what

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so I have to rerecord a lot.

I don't have.

A camera on me at all times

though, to catch all these

wild bloopers that come up.

Especially when I record on like

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cause one time someone was like,

can you post your bloopers?

And I'm like, girl, those are deleted.

Those are long gone.

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it's something I need to get over

of just like that perfectionist

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Plus sounding good.

I don't even know if that's correct.

Whatever.

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All right, starting off, we

are gonna do wedding dilemmas.

So this one was actually sent to me on

my phone, so I'm gonna read it on here.

Currently.

Now when this comes out, this skit

will probably be over, but if you

remember, the bride, Brielle's

family doesn't like the groom.

a quick little synopsis is the

girl gets engaged to Grant.

It's and Grant.

They get engaged and, when they

tell the family, they kind of just

look at them like, okay, whatever.

they move on from it.

Right now the part one was inspired

by a story that was sent to me and I

read it on YouTube, but then I just

kinda went wild with it because there

was literally only one little section

that was sent to me and I just kinda

went crazy with all these side stories

anyway, The girl, someone messaged me,

obviously she'll stay anonymous, but

the woman that messaged me said she

had a very similar situation going on.

So this family in this story that was

sent to me, they just were not supportive.

They were calling, Grant, the groom

lazy because he moved in with her and

quit his job, meanwhile also going

to school and getting a new job.

But they just did not think

that he was good enough for her.

Because of the job he had or

what he was doing with his life.

And they were just so, they

spoke so negatively about him and

they were just rude to her about

wanting to get engaged to him.

So obviously they had their own issues.

in this skit obviously I

add a lot of extra drama.

But anyway, here is what the

current dilemma, she says, I have

a similar situation going on.

My sister didn't congratulate me either.

She only did after my mom told her to.

Now she's texting my fiance and she

expects to be a part of my bachelorette

party and wanting to plan everything.

At the same time, my mom expects

me to make her part of the

wedding, even as my maid of honor.

It's horrible.

I already have a maid of honor.

It's a girl my sister and mom hate

because she's been with a guy for some

years that my sister wanted as well.

Whoa.

That's a whole thing.

Okay.

And they both expect me to unfriend her.

I mean, really, I even just invited

my sister to go dress shopping with me

just to include her in something, even

though I didn't really feel like it.

My sister has always been the problem in

her family and makes everything about her.

Ooh, this is definitely a dilemma

because it's very common that

parents want their siblings

together in a wedding, and I get it.

I mean, you want to see them together.

doesn't want their kids to be friends?

Right.

However, given everything that she's

explained, how the sister sounds, I don't

know if she's jealous or just mad, but

the fact that she didn't congratulate

her and how to be told by the mom to

congratulate her, you can tell they

don't really get along very well.

They're not close.

She already has a best friend.

I don't think siblings have to

have each other in their weddings.

And especially not maid of honor.

I feel like there's like this like

idea that your siblings have to

be maid of honor or best man and

that everyone else follows suit.

It should be about how close you

are and who you want up there

and who's going to support you.

and it's hard when you have your

parents telling you this person

needs to be in your wedding.

but it sounds like you

know what you want to do.

You already asked your friend

to be the maid of honor.

It's so weird to me that your

mom and sister hate her because

they both liked the same guy.

Like for one mom, get out of the drama.

That has nothing to do with you.

Like, okay.

Two.

I mean, I don't know how recently it

was, but it sounds like your friend's

been with this guy for a long time,

so the sister needs to let it go.

I don't know.

What I'm getting from your text

here is that you don't even want

her to be in the wedding at all.

So I think it's really big of you to

invite her and include her to certain

things that you feel comfortable

inviting her and including her at.

Right?

So if you invite her to this

dress shopping, it sounds

like it didn't happen yet.

if she acts, supportive and

is kind, and then afterwards

is texting you other things.

Go by your gut.

If you feel good about it, then maybe

invite her to be in the wedding.

If at this dress fitting or dress

shopping she's rude or puts you down

or is making sly snide comments, maybe

that's your sign to just go with your gut.

it's hard when parents hold

things over your head, like I've

talked to people before that.

They've said, oh, my parents said if

I don't have my brother as the best

man, they're not paying for anything.

Or they're gonna tell

my family not to come.

And that's just childish.

I don't understand that reasoning.

because why would you want her up

there next to you if she's rude,

doesn't support you and doesn't

wanna like, be happy for you?

I don't get that.

I don't think that just because

someone is a family member,

they have to be in your wedding.

So really listen to your gut,

see how she starts acting.

Maybe these little kind of things that

you invite her to see how she responds.

Definitely don't make

her your maid of honor.

It sounds like you already asked someone.

So that's set in stone.

If they bring it up again, say

like, Hey, I already asked my

friend to be the maid of honor.

If, you have other people, you're

gonna have you in the wedding as well,

just make sure you sound like you have

your ducks in a row, even if you don't

completely just say, you know what?

I've talked to this friend

and this friend, and they're

already gonna be in the wedding.

So sister can kind of figure out

if she wants to be on your good

side or if she wants to keep

being like, not very supportive.

so there's a lot of different moving

parts in it, but I feel like ultimately

you gotta listen to your gut because

there's so many people that I've

also heard from that caved, right?

they're like, you know what?

I'm just gonna be the peacemaker.

I'm gonna have this person in my wedding.

And then they regretted it

because they did something.

They made it about them.

They were rude at certain events.

so you really have to listen to your gut.

She wants to plan everything.

Say no, we got that taken care of.

Talk to your maid of honor.

Have her plan the bachelorette.

If your sister says, well, I'm not

coming, if I'm not planning it, then

say, alright, we'll, we'll miss you then.

be really firm on what you want and

surround yourself with people that

are going to love you and support

you because it's your time to shine.

All right.

That is the dilemma for this week.

Let me know what you guys think.

What would you do in this situation?

I know it's very complicated when

parents get involved and they want,

you know, siblings to be together,

but at the end of the day, it's your

wedding and you wanna be surrounded

by people that are gonna support you.

All right?

Getting into it.

Would you rather, would you rather remarry

in the same venue as your first wedding or

remarry in a courthouse with zero photos?

Okay.

Speaking on like personal, like I'm

saying, if something were to happen,

and I was getting remarried, I would

not want to go to the same venue.

I think that's very odd to me.

especially if you're inviting

like some of the same people.

So I would go courthouse.

I dunno.

I also feel like as I get older, I'm

like the smaller and smaller host.

So like even if my husband and I

were to do like a vow renewal or

anniversary party, I wouldn't wanna

do, I don't know, maybe anniversary

party would be different than a

remarry, but you know what I'm saying?

I don't know.

I feel like I would go courthouse.

Would you rather have your

ex publicly congratulate you

online or privately text you?

I miss you the week of your wedding.

Probably publicly congratulate you online.

Let's not make it weird.

Why are you privately texting me?

No.

Because then everyone else can

see like, oh, that's weird.

okay.

Would you rather your ex try to

talk for closure at the wedding?

Why is he at your wedding or post?

Should have been me on their story.

That's okay.

This is getting into some

romantic comedy type stuff.

The funniest part about this is my

husband puts together these show notes,

so he like put these all together.

okay.

I'll go with the post.

Should have been me on their story

because that makes them look weird.

Don't come to my wedding

and talk about closure.

Would you rather your divorced parents

refuse to be in the same photo or

they agree to photos, but start

sniping at each other the whole time?

I would say agree to be in photos because.

You know, if they've got their own

thing going on, the photographer

can say, okay, stop for two seconds.

Smile.

Great.

Now keep yelling at each time.

cause the refusal, I'm like,

it's a picture that you're

gonna put on your wall.

It's for you.

They're your parents.

Doesn't matter if they're

married or not anymore.

Let's grow up for like a couple

minutes and then part your ways.

Would you rather your parents new spouse

try to act like your bonus parent or

refuse to come because they feel excluded?

these are hard.

I mean, my parents are still married,

so I've never had a stepparent.

I have friends with divorced parents,

so I guess I can think through

their lens maybe as much as I can.

I guess it depends on

how new the spouse is.

if they got married a week before

and they're like 25 years old,

so they're like younger than me,

I would have an issue with that.

But if they've been married five

years and they're happy and I love

their relationship, then yeah.

I wouldn't want someone.

To leave because they felt excluded.

I think if they were important enough to

me as a stepparent, I would include them.

so yeah, I know that was like

a really complicated answer.

would you rather kick your sister

out of the wedding or let her stay?

But she gives the vibe, she

hates you the entire day.

This relates to that first dilemma.

if there are issues, I would

say just kick outta the way.

Leading up to the wedding, there's

constant issues where she's saying

rude things, putting you down.

Just clean, sweep out, because you

don't want her like glaring at you

in the background of photos or like

talking crap about you behind your back.

So, yeah.

All right.

Last one.

Would you rather uninvite a close

family member or invite them

and risk them causing a scene?

okay, uninvite.

If it's someone that's gonna cause

a scene in a negative way, then

I would just not invite them.

They're no, no questions asked.

All right, let's get into the first story.

I did include two because this

one seemed kind of shorter.

But sometimes I talk a lot, so

we're gonna see how that goes.

Okay.

Here's this week's story submission.

This story is about my brother

and his now ex-wife's wedding.

First of all, he never even proposed.

They attended their local Catholic

church regularly, one day she went

to the priest, asked about what dates

were available, and literally booked

a wedding without my brother knowing.

What, okay, I need to know, does anyone

know someone that has done this before?

Like I've seen things like in TV shows and

like movies, and I heard one story where

they booked a venue like two years in

advance because they were like, books out.

This is my dream venue.

And then during that time they met

their fiancé and it ended up working

out, but the fiancé was a part of it.

To just go to the priest and be

like, what dates are available?

And then book it.

That's kind of interesting.

Okay.

So yes, this is exactly the

type of person you're imagining.

She was awful, bossy, controlling,

and abusive towards my brother.

Wow.

Our whole family was hoping they would

break up, not get married, but my

brother is kind, gentle, and at that

point they already had two children.

So he went along with it because he

thought it would make life easier.

No marriage, if you're already

struggling, marriage and children

will only complicate things.

It's not gonna make things easier.

think we like see it all the time

where it's like people think, oh,

if we have kids together, be the dad

I want him to be, or she'll be this

like, no, if you're already struggling,

it's not gonna make it better.

Wedding planning was a nightmare.

They had no money, but she

wanted everything and she

demanded that we all chip in.

We live in the UK and while some

families do help pay for weddings, it's

far more common for couples to pay for

their own weddings like I'm doing now.

We aren't poor, but also don't have

thousands of pounds we can just hand

over because someone demands it.

Yeah, that's the thing

I always say is like.

It is great when family wants to help

or can help in any way, but you should

never get engaged expecting that

people are gonna pay for your wedding.

When you get engaged, you should

be like, okay, this is our budget

between the two of us, and then if

people wanna help, that's great.

That's a gift then.

But to have this idea of this huge

expensive wedding and not being

able to afford it yourselves,

I think that's a problem.

We gave money where we could,

and all she did was complain.

Then four weeks before the wedding, I

broke my foot and ended up in a boot.

I didn't wanna cause any drama or

attention, so I found heels the same

height as everyone else's wore one

heel, so it would still look normal.

She was not happy about that either.

What did you want her to do?

Like to take the boot off

just for your wedding day?

Like you gotta do what you gotta do.

At the church.

when the day finally came, the venue

looked beautiful and we were under the

impression that everything was fully

paid for, or so we thought at the church,

the priest accidentally called her by

the wrong name during the ceremony.

Oh, no.

That's like the worst kind of

person for that to happen to because

she's already like in a bad mood.

She's mean.

Not a great person.

It sounds like.

Honestly, that should have

been the first warning sign.

It immediately put her in a horrible mood.

Yeah.

I think most people wouldn't be happy.

When we got to the main venue,

she was rude to everyone.

She swore directly at people's

faces, called them awful names.

I would be leaving if the

bride was treating me that way.

I would be out of there.

There's no way.

Told everyone who would

listen that she hated today.

Then she got absolutely wasted,

not tipsy, not fun drunk, just

full on drunk, and she's got two

kids, I'm assuming that are there.

Okay.

She started walking around telling

people to F off, flipping everyone the

middle finger, and acting like she wanted

the entire day to burn to the ground.

What, this was your idea, this

was literally your idea and.

It's just like not up to

her standards or something.

By 6:00 PM nearly everyone had

left, including most of the guests.

And keep in mind, the

wedding only started at two.

Okay?

So people are like, yeah,

F this, I'm outta here.

I'm not staying.

I wouldn't be staying for that.

The only people still there were

my younger brother and her sibling.

Oh my gosh.

She then spent the rest of the

evening crying because she couldn't

understand why no one stayed.

I stayed mostly because I couldn't

believe what I was witnessing.

I ended up getting merely tipsy

with my brothers and honestly just

laughing at how unreal it all was.

The next day she sent a giant

message to everyone who attended,

telling them they ruined her day.

So you think it's your day

and you can just go around

talking to your guests that way.

People that traveled far attended this

wedding, took off work whatever they

needed to do, and they ruined your day.

No one responded.

And I think most people

went low contact With her.

A few weeks later, my brother

called me and my mom upset.

That's when we found out that she

hadn't actually used the money

we gave her to pay the vendors.

We ended up paying an additional

2,800 pounds to make sure my

brother didn't have trouble or debts

hanging over him because of her.

What?

Where did she use the money for?

Then, because it always gets worse

three months after the wedding,

she told my brother she was

pregnant with their third child.

They welcomed the baby eight months

after getting married, meaning

she was already pregnant when she

was blackout drunk at her wedding.

Oh my.

That was my first thought is like,

not her being pregnant, but like

having the kids at the wedding.

'cause it says she already has two kids,

but she was pregnant the whole time.

Wow.

And then about two months after their

daughter was born, she told my brother

to leave and admitted that she'd been

having an affair with someone from work.

Is that person the baby's father?

I have so many questions.

They've now been divorced for four years.

I hope he is happy.

I mean, that's really hard because

now you have children together, so

you still are gonna be around her.

You still have to see

her for certain things.

Oh my word.

Okay.

I would love to say it's been

peaceful, but she's still awful.

The only upside is I don't

have to deal with her anymore.

Even typing this out,

it doesn't feel real.

It honestly sounds like a made up story,

but unfortunately it all happened.

My brother is genuinely one of the

nicest people you'll ever meet, this

completely wrecked his mental health.

Thankfully, he has a lot

of support behind him.

That makes me so sad because like

it's that Nice person, right?

That gets walked all over.

They think they're being a good person,

but you need to have those boundaries

because like at the end of the day,

someone like this is gonna suck out your

soul because they're just like, I can

get whatever I want with this person

because they're the nice woman, nice girl.

I'm glad they separated, but

like I said, it's hard when

they're three kids together, to.

Balance what that life looks like

and it's hard for the kids then

to be shuffled back and forth.

cause she's now presumably

with this guy from work, maybe.

so that's, oh my gosh, that's, wow.

Well thanks for sharing that.

And I wish the best to you and

your brother and your whole family

because that sounds like a whole

rollercoaster to be thrown into.

only for it to end like that.

Wild.

I got a second story.

we gotta do a second story

'cause that wasn't that long.

All right, let's get into it.

My husband and I got married in the

middle of COVID on Juneteenth in 2021.

at that point.

We'd already been together for seven

years and had pushed our wedding date back

an entire year because of the pandemic.

I had a friend who had been my

childhood best friend since we were

eight years old, so of course I wanted

her to be one of my bridesmaids.

During the planning process, a very

close cousin of hers went missing.

The entire family was searching for her.

There were daily search parties, and my

friend was spending a lot of time going

out on her own to look for her cousin.

Obviously, I cared deeply about

the situation and completely

understood that it took priority.

Because of that, I gave her extra

time to go get her bridesmaid dress.

However, our wedding was in June

and the bridal shop told me that

March was the absolute latest month.

Anyone could order their dress.

They needed time for

shipping and alterations.

That's pretty understandable.

There usually is some kind of deadline

no matter where you get a dress from.

I explained this to her and told

her I completely understood that her

cousin came first and that it was

totally okay, but I also couldn't

keep pushing the dress deadline back.

I gently suggested that if things

were too overwhelming, she might want

to consider not being a bridesmaid.

I think that's a very,

Mature conversation to have.

Right?

Obviously the bridesmaid, the

friend is going through a lot.

I can't even fathom what that's like

to have a missing person in your

family, close friend, whatever that is.

I can't even imagine, like, I

literally just watched a show about

a child missing and I was like,

wouldn't even be able to go to bed.

Like, I'm sure it consumes you in

ways that you can't even imagine.

so that's very challenging to

be like, I love my friend over

here who's getting married.

I wanna support her, but my

cousin, my cousin, takes priority.

She got very upset with me and said she

already had an appointment at the bridal

shop later that week, and we'd be getting

her dress for the bridesmaid dresses.

I gave everyone creative control.

The only rule was that the

dresses had to be burgundy.

The style didn't matter.

Every other bridesmaid sent a picture

of their dress in the group chat

before buying it so no one had the

same one so I could approve them.

Her appointment day came and went.

Then days passed, about four days later,

I reached out and told her I couldn't

wait any longer and that I was really

sorry, but I was going to have to move

forward without her as a bridesmaid.

I mean, again, it's a mature conversation.

Sometimes people like.

You have the people pleaser

that's like, okay, whatever.

It's fine.

We'll keep them in.

doesn't matter what they do.

This story aside, in general, we

hear a lot of stories where we

have like a terrible bridesmaid or

something and they're just like, okay.

I just kept them in though because

I didn't wanna cause any drama.

This is a respectful conversation.

She said, Hey, I understand

you're going through a lot.

I understand that's a priority.

Please don't feel like

my wedding's a priority.

Like you can step down.

It's okay.

No hard feelings.

and then it sounds like she was reassured.

So it's hard when, sounds like

multiple weeks passed, right?

Because we're saying,

her appointment came in.

Went later that week was her

appointment, so it came in, went.

Multiple days passed and then

four days later, so we're talking

at least like a week and a half,

and she hasn't heard anything.

So for me, maybe I give too many chances.

I would be reaching out and saying like,

Hey, do you need help with anything?

How's everything going?

I probably would've

reached out one more time.

Again, I don't know if she did

or not, but I'm sure the bride is

like, okay, we have to move forward.

Like you need your dress at this

point the shop can't even get

your dress to the wedding in time.

She said she had already bought her

dress, couldn't return it, and went

on about how unfair I was being.

I told her, honestly, I had

no idea she bought anything

because she never said a word.

Here's the communication, or sent

a picture like everyone else.

I said, if she had already had the

dress to send me a photo so I could

see it, that made her even angrier.

So I'm thinking she probably

doesn't have the dress.

I think she's probably just saying that.

We also have to understand it's

a really complicated situation.

She's probably like think about when you

have like so many things going on, right?

And then on top of that, her

cousin's missing, I don't know where

they're at in the process during

this, but many sleepless nights.

I'm sure many calls with family members.

She's out searching, all

doing all these things.

So then she's trying her best in

all these different areas, right?

And then this friend's, like,

you're not in the wedding anymore.

I can understand getting a little angry.

I. not saying she's right or wrong,

I'm just saying I could understand

where you're like, look, I'm trying

my best, my cousin's missing.

Like I can't even imagine what

I would do or what, that kind

of does to your mental health.

Right.

she started cursing me out.. Calling

me inconsiderate and a bad friend,

even though I truly felt I had tried

to be as understanding as possible.

I explained again that everything

was already booked and planned.

I couldn't postpone the wedding

three months before the date.

Yeah, I mean, you can't

postpone the wedding.

You've everything booked and paid for.

I'm wondering Somehow the bridesmaid

was asking you to postpone it or just

because she didn't have the dress, you

were like, I had to postpone it now.

I wouldn't go to that length.

I reminded her, she's still invited,

still included in the photos,

still seated with my family.

I genuinely didn't understand

why she was so furious.

She cursed me out again, she

didn't attend the wedding.

on top of that, she convinced another

bridesmaid to drop out of the wedding too.

They're now best friends and I haven't

spoken to either of them since.

Was the cousin found?

I need to know this.

this is hard.

This is really hard because like I

said, it's a complicated situation.

I'm just thinking too, if like you had

a death in the family or if there was,

another kind situation where that takes

a lot of their brain space, right?

But at the end of the day too.

Things are still going on.

You're still getting married,

everything's still booked.

You can't push back the wedding date.

You need your bridesmaid there already.

I think there's a lot of

communication issue in this point.

I'm sure your bridesmaid or

ex bridesmaid's hurting a lot.

she's probably, like I said,

sleepless nights helping family out.

But where do you draw the line?

Right?

Where you like, okay, I either need

you, I don't, can you be here or not?

I think with someone like that.

I would have said, okay,

I'm glad you got your dress.

And just trust them, because at

the end of the day, you either

have an extra person up there or

you have one less person up there.

So I'd say like, okay, great.

Glad you got your dress.

You've got a lot on your plate.

And then if she showed up

that day, then you'd have her.

If not, you wouldn't have her.

and if she didn't have the dress,

then that's her own problem.

And then you can just take

other pictures with her.

Just because of the situation,

everything she's going through.

If it was someone else, like a

bridesmaid being really nasty, out of

nowhere and just being rude, then no.

I would just be like, okay,

you're out of the wedding.

Again, I'm not supporting her, cursing

her out and calling her inconsiderate.

But again, I don't know what that

would do to someone's mental health.

Going through that and having

a family member missing?

We don't know what happened.

I don't, there's no closure here.

So, it sucks when friendships

fall out because of weddings.

but even more so stressful situations

or life changes, can bring out

people's colors in different way.

Right.

I don't wanna say true colors because I'm

not calling either of them bad people.

It's just a challenging situation.

Of course, I'm not calling

either of bad people.

I think the cursing out was a bit much, I

don't think I would do that to a friend.

Everyone handles situations differently.

during my wedding I had, one

of my bridesmaids had, a family

thing going on, and I was just

like, you do what you have to do.

I only care about you

being at the wedding.

And that's that's the

closest thing I can think of.

Like, a couple serious things that

happened and I was just like, if

you can be there, that's great.

If you can't or you have to miss

my bachelorette party, it's okay.

We're still friends.

At the end of all this,

my wedding comes last.

that's going on with

your family right now.

Precedent.

So that's where I'm like, that's how

I think I would be in this situation.

but again, I was also a very like type B

bride, I would say like, yes, everything

on my part, on my side of things, I was

like, okay, I planned out everything.

I was very organized.

But when it came to

Groom suits and dresses.

I was very like, okay, groom

suits, order this off this site.

Done.

we're gifting you guys the shoes.

Here's that dresses.

Pick whatever style you want.

Pick the color out of these

family colors, you know?

but if someone just had told me like.

I like this dress.

It goes along with it.

I probably would've

been like, that's fine.

I wasn't crazy about stuff like that.

So, I don't know.

it's hard in those situations when,

there's other issues are kind of coming up

and people are dealing with other stuff.

We have to remember that other people's

lives don't stop because of our wedding.

And, you know, we hear of

pregnancy, other engagements moving.

But this is the first time we

heard of something like this

where someone was missing.

So yeah, that's what I

have to say about that.

You guys let me know what you guys think.

If just a reminder, all these episodes

are posted on YouTube in full, so I always

love to hear what you guys think about

these stories because you gotta remember I

read these first time as I react to them.

So a lot of times you guys will

call me out a couple times, not

anything bad, but you guys will be

like, oh, I think they meant this.

And I'm like, you're right.

Because sometimes I'm reading it

and I'm like, what does that mean?

Because I'm reading it in real time.

I'm thinking about this camera.

How's this gonna sound?

You know?

So, know what you guys

would do in that situation.

'cause that's, a very

complicated situation, for sure.

All right, let's end with some confessions

and then we'll be, we'll be on our way.

Okay.

For this week's confession, we

asked at your own or someone else's

wedding, what low key bothered

you, but you pretended was fine.

Okay.

I love this question.

Here we go.

All right.

Wedding, I was in the guest

ate dinner while the wedding

party had hours of photos.

What that would.

Annoyed me so bad if I was in a

wedding and they were like, you need

to be in all these photos and not eat.

I think one of the biggest issues,

biggest issue, I don't know.

One of the issues I see is when.

the bride and groom or the couple getting

married, always think that the bridesmaids

and groomsmen are there to serve them.

I've been in some weddings like that.

I've seen weddings like that where

they're like, oh, they'll just do this.

They'll set up the whole venue.

They'll, be in the pictures and

then they'll be on their way.

And I've been in weddings

where I was treated like.

So well, one of my best friends, she

had breakfast for us, a lunch for us.

She had her sweet, like

anything you could want.

She just wanted to take care of us.

She was like, I don't want

you guys to lift a finger.

And that's not to say like, you have

to pay more money for certain things.

It's just kinda looking at like

how you're treating people that

are taking time off to be there

for you to spend money for you.

so.

That's wrong in my opinion, what

this person can invest, okay, this

person says waiting two hours for

the reception to start while they

bar hopped with the wedding party.

Oh my gosh.

So they pushed back the reception

because the bride and groom

weren't back, is what I'm guessing.

You would hope they would have

cocktail hour with hors d'oeuvres.

I've been to a couple weddings

where the cocktail hour is

more like an hour and a half.

I don't know, maybe two sometimes.

But that's when they have like

little bites for everybody.

That's, again, you need to be

treating your guests like, thank

you so much for being here.

They're your guests.

Let's keep them fed,

let's keep them hydrated.

we can't forget about them.

Okay.

The couple arrived late to the

reception because they snuck

off to the hotel room first.

I mean, I know the couple weddings

where the couple breaks off

just to kinda like calm down.

If it's not stopping the

wedding, I don't mind it.

Like if you guys are already getting

fed and whatever, I don't mind it.

But if they're waiting for them to do

anything and you're just like sitting

around, then I think that's a problem.

All right, last one.

Because of the room, our table

couldn't see the whole dance floor.

We were off to the side.

That's hard.

Sometimes when it's a really big wedding,

there's someone that's shoved in the

corner and that's one of the reasons

why I kept my invites to a lower number.

'cause they told me like, oh,

if you invite this many, you're

gonna have a couple in the

hall or like down a little bit.

And I was like, I don't like that.

Okay.

I was gonna see if I missed any good ones.

You guys sent some good ones.

The small venue because it was way

too hot and everyone was dancing.

the couple disappearing

for too long, for photos.

I mean, you this is the

thing you have to remember.

It's their wedding day.

You are there as a guest if they

go take photos for a long time.

They want these special

photos for their wedding day.

Again, if you are fed, if there's

drinks, if there's music, enjoy the time.

It's not like the couple's gonna be

sitting at the table with you anyway,

so just let them do their thing

with the, photographer or whoever.

All right.

A relative's partner invited

their friend to meet them at my

evening reception without asking.

That's weird.

That's weird.

Don't meet anyone at your way.

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