1 00:00:00,095 --> 00:00:00,425 Hey guys. 2 00:00:00,425 --> 00:00:01,745 Welcome back to another episode 3 00:00:01,745 --> 00:00:02,645 of, Here Comes The Drama. 4 00:00:02,645 --> 00:00:04,145 I'm your host, Christa Innis, and 5 00:00:04,145 --> 00:00:05,784 one of these days I'm going to 6 00:00:05,784 --> 00:00:08,519 post and share a completely full of 7 00:00:08,519 --> 00:00:10,619 blooper episode where I don't redo 8 00:00:10,619 --> 00:00:12,479 it a million times before starting. 9 00:00:12,637 --> 00:00:13,586 You know, you guys hear like 10 00:00:13,586 --> 00:00:15,176 the fully edited version. 11 00:00:15,176 --> 00:00:17,186 So I think a lot of times people think 12 00:00:17,326 --> 00:00:20,416 it's scripted or I plan it out, but no, 13 00:00:20,416 --> 00:00:24,846 I record and stop so many times because 14 00:00:24,846 --> 00:00:26,856 sometimes I just jumble over my words. 15 00:00:27,070 --> 00:00:27,940 same with skits. 16 00:00:27,970 --> 00:00:29,816 Like I think sometimes people think I 17 00:00:29,816 --> 00:00:32,639 have a fully scripted out, storyline, 18 00:00:32,699 --> 00:00:34,918 but half the time I'm just seeing what 19 00:00:34,918 --> 00:00:36,448 comes out and seeing what happens. 20 00:00:36,665 --> 00:00:38,255 so I have to rerecord a lot. 21 00:00:38,411 --> 00:00:39,453 I don't have. 22 00:00:39,843 --> 00:00:41,373 A camera on me at all times 23 00:00:41,373 --> 00:00:42,933 though, to catch all these 24 00:00:43,151 --> 00:00:44,951 wild bloopers that come up. 25 00:00:45,144 --> 00:00:46,424 Especially when I record on like 26 00:00:46,454 --> 00:00:48,639 TikTok or certain platforms, I have 27 00:00:48,639 --> 00:00:51,309 to like just go back and erase. 28 00:00:51,664 --> 00:00:52,594 cause one time someone was like, 29 00:00:52,624 --> 00:00:53,884 can you post your bloopers? 30 00:00:53,884 --> 00:00:55,925 And I'm like, girl, those are deleted. 31 00:00:55,925 --> 00:00:56,945 Those are long gone. 32 00:00:57,310 --> 00:00:59,135 But maybe one of these days I will. 33 00:00:59,369 --> 00:01:00,415 it's something I need to get over 34 00:01:00,415 --> 00:01:02,605 of just like that perfectionist 35 00:01:02,605 --> 00:01:03,828 side of sounding good. 36 00:01:04,078 --> 00:01:05,150 Plus sounding good. 37 00:01:05,150 --> 00:01:06,200 I don't even know if that's correct. 38 00:01:06,260 --> 00:01:06,650 Whatever. 39 00:01:06,859 --> 00:01:08,536 Plus, like sometimes I, post stuff 40 00:01:08,596 --> 00:01:10,186 and I'll speak the wrong way or I 41 00:01:10,186 --> 00:01:14,187 stutter, or my word slur and there's 42 00:01:14,187 --> 00:01:15,327 just people that comment on it. 43 00:01:15,327 --> 00:01:16,452 So I always think about it in the 44 00:01:16,452 --> 00:01:19,155 back of my mind anyway, I wanna 45 00:01:19,155 --> 00:01:21,975 do a quick little shameless ask. 46 00:01:22,189 --> 00:01:23,165 if you guys are enjoying the 47 00:01:23,165 --> 00:01:24,935 podcast, if you 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00:01:50,166 --> 00:01:51,647 All right, starting off, we 64 00:01:51,647 --> 00:01:53,597 are gonna do wedding dilemmas. 65 00:01:53,927 --> 00:01:55,967 So this one was actually sent to me on 66 00:01:55,967 --> 00:01:57,622 my phone, so I'm gonna read it on here. 67 00:01:58,205 --> 00:01:58,805 Currently. 68 00:01:58,805 --> 00:02:00,275 Now when this comes out, this skit 69 00:02:00,275 --> 00:02:02,105 will probably be over, but if you 70 00:02:02,105 --> 00:02:04,085 remember, the bride, Brielle's 71 00:02:04,195 --> 00:02:06,034 family doesn't like the groom. 72 00:02:06,310 --> 00:02:08,650 a quick little synopsis is the 73 00:02:08,650 --> 00:02:10,360 girl gets engaged to Grant. 74 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:11,553 It's and Grant. 75 00:02:11,583 --> 00:02:13,528 They get engaged and, when they 76 00:02:13,528 --> 00:02:15,178 tell the family, they kind of just 77 00:02:15,178 --> 00:02:16,738 look at them like, okay, whatever. 78 00:02:16,905 --> 00:02:17,775 they move on from it. 79 00:02:17,775 --> 00:02:20,661 Right now the part one was inspired 80 00:02:20,661 --> 00:02:22,041 by a story that was sent to me and I 81 00:02:22,041 --> 00:02:24,566 read it on YouTube, but then I just 82 00:02:24,566 --> 00:02:26,519 kinda went wild with it because there 83 00:02:26,519 --> 00:02:28,499 was literally only one little section 84 00:02:28,499 --> 00:02:29,888 that was sent to me and I just kinda 85 00:02:29,888 --> 00:02:32,020 went crazy with all these side stories 86 00:02:32,340 --> 00:02:35,184 anyway, The girl, someone messaged me, 87 00:02:35,184 --> 00:02:36,894 obviously she'll stay anonymous, but 88 00:02:36,894 --> 00:02:38,692 the woman that messaged me said she 89 00:02:38,692 --> 00:02:40,672 had a very similar situation going on. 90 00:02:40,986 --> 00:02:43,710 So this family in this story that was 91 00:02:43,710 --> 00:02:45,660 sent to me, they just were not supportive. 92 00:02:45,660 --> 00:02:48,002 They were calling, Grant, the groom 93 00:02:48,002 --> 00:02:50,605 lazy because he moved in with her and 94 00:02:50,605 --> 00:02:52,536 quit his job, meanwhile also going 95 00:02:52,536 --> 00:02:54,156 to school and getting a new job. 96 00:02:54,303 --> 00:02:55,499 But they just did not think 97 00:02:55,499 --> 00:02:56,969 that he was good enough for her. 98 00:02:57,265 --> 00:02:59,044 Because of the job he had or 99 00:02:59,044 --> 00:03:00,454 what he was doing with his life. 100 00:03:00,454 --> 00:03:02,131 And they were just so, they 101 00:03:02,131 --> 00:03:03,781 spoke so negatively about him and 102 00:03:03,781 --> 00:03:05,131 they were just rude to her about 103 00:03:05,131 --> 00:03:06,421 wanting to get engaged to him. 104 00:03:06,674 --> 00:03:08,534 So obviously they had their own issues. 105 00:03:08,794 --> 00:03:10,384 in this skit obviously I 106 00:03:10,384 --> 00:03:11,644 add a lot of extra drama. 107 00:03:11,704 --> 00:03:13,204 But anyway, here is what the 108 00:03:13,204 --> 00:03:15,851 current dilemma, she says, I have 109 00:03:15,851 --> 00:03:17,711 a similar situation going on. 110 00:03:18,026 --> 00:03:20,185 My sister didn't congratulate me either. 111 00:03:20,497 --> 00:03:22,867 She only did after my mom told her to. 112 00:03:23,289 --> 00:03:26,095 Now she's texting my fiance and she 113 00:03:26,095 --> 00:03:28,345 expects to be a part of my bachelorette 114 00:03:28,345 --> 00:03:31,215 party and wanting to plan everything. 115 00:03:31,508 --> 00:03:33,544 At the same time, my mom expects 116 00:03:33,544 --> 00:03:34,444 me to make her part of the 117 00:03:34,444 --> 00:03:36,394 wedding, even as my maid of honor. 118 00:03:36,603 --> 00:03:37,495 It's horrible. 119 00:03:37,611 --> 00:03:38,951 I already have a maid of honor. 120 00:03:39,191 --> 00:03:41,291 It's a girl my sister and mom hate 121 00:03:41,433 --> 00:03:43,666 because she's been with a guy for some 122 00:03:43,666 --> 00:03:45,706 years that my sister wanted as well. 123 00:03:45,736 --> 00:03:45,976 Whoa. 124 00:03:45,976 --> 00:03:46,876 That's a whole thing. 125 00:03:46,906 --> 00:03:47,266 Okay. 126 00:03:47,570 --> 00:03:50,150 And they both expect me to unfriend her. 127 00:03:50,381 --> 00:03:53,148 I mean, really, I even just invited 128 00:03:53,148 --> 00:03:54,858 my sister to go dress shopping with me 129 00:03:55,046 --> 00:03:57,291 just to include her in something, even 130 00:03:57,291 --> 00:03:59,151 though I didn't really feel like it. 131 00:03:59,517 --> 00:04:01,461 My sister has always been the problem in 132 00:04:01,461 --> 00:04:04,401 her family and makes everything about her. 133 00:04:04,924 --> 00:04:06,514 Ooh, this is definitely a dilemma 134 00:04:06,514 --> 00:04:09,228 because it's very common that 135 00:04:09,618 --> 00:04:12,116 parents want their siblings 136 00:04:12,116 --> 00:04:13,526 together in a wedding, and I get it. 137 00:04:13,526 --> 00:04:15,254 I mean, you want to see them together. 138 00:04:15,458 --> 00:04:17,438 doesn't want their kids to be friends? 139 00:04:17,438 --> 00:04:17,798 Right. 140 00:04:18,112 --> 00:04:20,362 However, given everything that she's 141 00:04:20,362 --> 00:04:22,612 explained, how the sister sounds, I don't 142 00:04:22,612 --> 00:04:24,922 know if she's jealous or just mad, but 143 00:04:24,922 --> 00:04:26,242 the fact that she didn't congratulate 144 00:04:26,242 --> 00:04:27,712 her and how to be told by the mom to 145 00:04:27,712 --> 00:04:29,658 congratulate her, you can tell they 146 00:04:29,688 --> 00:04:31,218 don't really get along very well. 147 00:04:31,218 --> 00:04:32,268 They're not close. 148 00:04:32,397 --> 00:04:34,017 She already has a best friend. 149 00:04:34,372 --> 00:04:36,262 I don't think siblings have to 150 00:04:36,262 --> 00:04:38,692 have each other in their weddings. 151 00:04:39,130 --> 00:04:40,870 And especially not maid of honor. 152 00:04:40,870 --> 00:04:42,302 I feel like there's like this like 153 00:04:42,309 --> 00:04:43,989 idea that your siblings have to 154 00:04:43,989 --> 00:04:45,782 be maid of honor or best man and 155 00:04:45,879 --> 00:04:47,379 that everyone else follows suit. 156 00:04:47,548 --> 00:04:48,954 It should be about how close you 157 00:04:48,954 --> 00:04:50,574 are and who you want up there 158 00:04:50,574 --> 00:04:52,284 and who's going to support you. 159 00:04:52,630 --> 00:04:54,340 and it's hard when you have your 160 00:04:54,370 --> 00:04:56,380 parents telling you this person 161 00:04:56,380 --> 00:04:57,580 needs to be in your wedding. 162 00:04:57,980 --> 00:04:59,240 but it sounds like you 163 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:00,620 know what you want to do. 164 00:05:00,869 --> 00:05:01,919 You already asked your friend 165 00:05:01,919 --> 00:05:02,909 to be the maid of honor. 166 00:05:03,220 --> 00:05:05,080 It's so weird to me that your 167 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:07,300 mom and sister hate her because 168 00:05:07,300 --> 00:05:09,010 they both liked the same guy. 169 00:05:09,280 --> 00:05:11,710 Like for one mom, get out of the drama. 170 00:05:11,740 --> 00:05:13,420 That has nothing to do with you. 171 00:05:13,420 --> 00:05:14,551 Like, okay. 172 00:05:14,921 --> 00:05:15,611 Two. 173 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:17,887 I mean, I don't know how recently it 174 00:05:17,887 --> 00:05:19,717 was, but it sounds like your friend's 175 00:05:19,717 --> 00:05:22,454 been with this guy for a long time, 176 00:05:22,454 --> 00:05:24,014 so the sister needs to let it go. 177 00:05:24,374 --> 00:05:24,764 I don't know. 178 00:05:25,472 --> 00:05:27,332 What I'm getting from your text 179 00:05:27,332 --> 00:05:28,622 here is that you don't even want 180 00:05:28,622 --> 00:05:29,702 her to be in the wedding at all. 181 00:05:29,932 --> 00:05:31,702 So I think it's really big of you to 182 00:05:31,702 --> 00:05:33,472 invite her and include her to certain 183 00:05:33,472 --> 00:05:35,625 things that you feel comfortable 184 00:05:35,741 --> 00:05:37,468 inviting her and including her at. 185 00:05:37,528 --> 00:05:37,888 Right? 186 00:05:38,037 --> 00:05:39,280 So if you invite her to this 187 00:05:39,280 --> 00:05:40,300 dress shopping, it sounds 188 00:05:40,300 --> 00:05:41,650 like it didn't happen yet. 189 00:05:42,100 --> 00:05:44,357 if she acts, supportive and 190 00:05:44,357 --> 00:05:46,814 is kind, and then afterwards 191 00:05:46,814 --> 00:05:47,834 is texting you other things. 192 00:05:48,316 --> 00:05:49,207 Go by your gut. 193 00:05:49,327 --> 00:05:50,737 If you feel good about it, then maybe 194 00:05:50,737 --> 00:05:51,697 invite her to be in the wedding. 195 00:05:51,866 --> 00:05:54,642 If at this dress fitting or dress 196 00:05:54,722 --> 00:05:57,874 shopping she's rude or puts you down 197 00:05:58,033 --> 00:06:01,667 or is making sly snide comments, maybe 198 00:06:01,667 --> 00:06:03,857 that's your sign to just go with your gut. 199 00:06:04,208 --> 00:06:05,556 it's hard when parents hold 200 00:06:05,556 --> 00:06:06,936 things over your head, like I've 201 00:06:06,936 --> 00:06:08,256 talked to people before that. 202 00:06:08,412 --> 00:06:10,665 They've said, oh, my parents said if 203 00:06:10,665 --> 00:06:12,135 I don't have my brother as the best 204 00:06:12,135 --> 00:06:13,635 man, they're not paying for anything. 205 00:06:13,635 --> 00:06:14,205 Or they're gonna tell 206 00:06:14,205 --> 00:06:15,285 my family not to come. 207 00:06:15,527 --> 00:06:16,907 And that's just childish. 208 00:06:16,963 --> 00:06:18,523 I don't understand that reasoning. 209 00:06:18,776 --> 00:06:20,183 because why would you want her up 210 00:06:20,183 --> 00:06:21,953 there next to you if she's rude, 211 00:06:22,062 --> 00:06:23,852 doesn't support you and doesn't 212 00:06:23,882 --> 00:06:25,712 wanna like, be happy for you? 213 00:06:25,788 --> 00:06:26,568 I don't get that. 214 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:28,750 I don't think that just because 215 00:06:28,750 --> 00:06:29,800 someone is a family member, 216 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:30,940 they have to be in your wedding. 217 00:06:31,179 --> 00:06:32,330 So really listen to your gut, 218 00:06:32,330 --> 00:06:33,710 see how she starts acting. 219 00:06:33,710 --> 00:06:35,946 Maybe these little kind of things that 220 00:06:35,946 --> 00:06:38,756 you invite her to see how she responds. 221 00:06:39,026 --> 00:06:39,866 Definitely don't make 222 00:06:39,866 --> 00:06:40,411 her your maid of honor. 223 00:06:41,171 --> 00:06:42,731 It sounds like you already asked someone. 224 00:06:42,761 --> 00:06:44,171 So that's set in stone. 225 00:06:44,403 --> 00:06:45,598 If they bring it up again, say 226 00:06:45,598 --> 00:06:47,068 like, Hey, I already asked my 227 00:06:47,068 --> 00:06:48,178 friend to be the maid of honor. 228 00:06:48,471 --> 00:06:49,595 If, you have other people, you're 229 00:06:49,595 --> 00:06:51,155 gonna have you in the wedding as well, 230 00:06:51,408 --> 00:06:52,895 just make sure you sound like you have 231 00:06:52,895 --> 00:06:54,365 your ducks in a row, even if you don't 232 00:06:54,365 --> 00:06:56,197 completely just say, you know what? 233 00:06:56,421 --> 00:06:57,471 I've talked to this friend 234 00:06:57,471 --> 00:06:58,617 and this friend, and they're 235 00:06:58,617 --> 00:06:59,697 already gonna be in the wedding. 236 00:07:00,025 --> 00:07:02,193 So sister can kind of figure out 237 00:07:02,193 --> 00:07:04,203 if she wants to be on your good 238 00:07:04,203 --> 00:07:06,139 side or if she wants to keep 239 00:07:06,139 --> 00:07:08,389 being like, not very supportive. 240 00:07:08,856 --> 00:07:10,416 so there's a lot of different moving 241 00:07:10,416 --> 00:07:12,156 parts in it, but I feel like ultimately 242 00:07:12,156 --> 00:07:13,912 you gotta listen to your gut because 243 00:07:13,912 --> 00:07:15,142 there's so many people that I've 244 00:07:15,142 --> 00:07:17,242 also heard from that caved, right? 245 00:07:17,449 --> 00:07:18,109 they're like, you know what? 246 00:07:18,109 --> 00:07:19,219 I'm just gonna be the peacemaker. 247 00:07:19,219 --> 00:07:20,839 I'm gonna have this person in my wedding. 248 00:07:21,093 --> 00:07:22,023 And then they regretted it 249 00:07:22,503 --> 00:07:23,853 because they did something. 250 00:07:23,883 --> 00:07:25,806 They made it about them. 251 00:07:25,992 --> 00:07:27,532 They were rude at certain events. 252 00:07:27,856 --> 00:07:28,991 so you really have to listen to your gut. 253 00:07:29,528 --> 00:07:30,938 She wants to plan everything. 254 00:07:30,998 --> 00:07:32,288 Say no, we got that taken care of. 255 00:07:32,348 --> 00:07:33,368 Talk to your maid of honor. 256 00:07:33,368 --> 00:07:34,688 Have her plan the bachelorette. 257 00:07:34,851 --> 00:07:36,051 If your sister says, well, I'm not 258 00:07:36,051 --> 00:07:37,281 coming, if I'm not planning it, then 259 00:07:37,281 --> 00:07:39,501 say, alright, we'll, we'll miss you then. 260 00:07:39,889 --> 00:07:42,723 be really firm on what you want and 261 00:07:42,723 --> 00:07:44,373 surround yourself with people that 262 00:07:44,373 --> 00:07:46,083 are going to love you and support 263 00:07:46,083 --> 00:07:47,463 you because it's your time to shine. 264 00:07:47,835 --> 00:07:48,195 All right. 265 00:07:48,315 --> 00:07:49,845 That is the dilemma for this week. 266 00:07:49,845 --> 00:07:50,745 Let me know what you guys think. 267 00:07:50,745 --> 00:07:52,515 What would you do in this situation? 268 00:07:52,630 --> 00:07:53,752 I know it's very complicated when 269 00:07:53,752 --> 00:07:55,282 parents get involved and they want, 270 00:07:55,312 --> 00:07:56,812 you know, siblings to be together, 271 00:07:57,091 --> 00:07:58,351 but at the end of the day, it's your 272 00:07:58,351 --> 00:07:59,611 wedding and you wanna be surrounded 273 00:07:59,611 --> 00:08:00,991 by people that are gonna support you. 274 00:08:01,307 --> 00:08:01,727 All right? 275 00:08:01,997 --> 00:08:02,987 Getting into it. 276 00:08:03,107 --> 00:08:06,761 Would you rather, would you rather remarry 277 00:08:06,791 --> 00:08:09,738 in the same venue as your first wedding or 278 00:08:09,738 --> 00:08:12,343 remarry in a courthouse with zero photos? 279 00:08:13,207 --> 00:08:13,597 Okay. 280 00:08:13,807 --> 00:08:16,581 Speaking on like personal, like I'm 281 00:08:16,581 --> 00:08:18,771 saying, if something were to happen, 282 00:08:19,176 --> 00:08:21,659 and I was getting remarried, I would 283 00:08:21,659 --> 00:08:23,609 not want to go to the same venue. 284 00:08:23,669 --> 00:08:25,619 I think that's very odd to me. 285 00:08:26,008 --> 00:08:26,848 especially if you're inviting 286 00:08:26,848 --> 00:08:28,258 like some of the same people. 287 00:08:28,344 --> 00:08:30,099 So I would go courthouse. 288 00:08:30,473 --> 00:08:31,043 I dunno. 289 00:08:31,245 --> 00:08:33,435 I also feel like as I get older, I'm 290 00:08:33,435 --> 00:08:35,545 like the smaller and smaller host. 291 00:08:35,565 --> 00:08:36,906 So like even if my husband and I 292 00:08:36,906 --> 00:08:39,265 were to do like a vow renewal or 293 00:08:39,265 --> 00:08:41,392 anniversary party, I wouldn't wanna 294 00:08:41,392 --> 00:08:43,190 do, I don't know, maybe anniversary 295 00:08:43,190 --> 00:08:44,180 party would be different than a 296 00:08:44,180 --> 00:08:45,680 remarry, but you know what I'm saying? 297 00:08:45,924 --> 00:08:46,099 I don't know. 298 00:08:46,464 --> 00:08:48,144 I feel like I would go courthouse. 299 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:49,660 Would you rather have your 300 00:08:49,660 --> 00:08:51,605 ex publicly congratulate you 301 00:08:51,605 --> 00:08:54,116 online or privately text you? 302 00:08:54,236 --> 00:08:56,666 I miss you the week of your wedding. 303 00:08:57,204 --> 00:09:00,264 Probably publicly congratulate you online. 304 00:09:00,294 --> 00:09:01,404 Let's not make it weird. 305 00:09:01,404 --> 00:09:03,084 Why are you privately texting me? 306 00:09:03,204 --> 00:09:03,654 No. 307 00:09:04,147 --> 00:09:04,927 Because then everyone else can 308 00:09:04,927 --> 00:09:05,827 see like, oh, that's weird. 309 00:09:06,160 --> 00:09:06,460 okay. 310 00:09:06,730 --> 00:09:08,731 Would you rather your ex try to 311 00:09:08,731 --> 00:09:11,071 talk for closure at the wedding? 312 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:13,431 Why is he at your wedding or post? 313 00:09:13,491 --> 00:09:15,501 Should have been me on their story. 314 00:09:16,403 --> 00:09:17,693 That's okay. 315 00:09:18,293 --> 00:09:19,551 This is getting into some 316 00:09:19,768 --> 00:09:21,407 romantic comedy type stuff. 317 00:09:21,829 --> 00:09:23,329 The funniest part about this is my 318 00:09:23,329 --> 00:09:25,009 husband puts together these show notes, 319 00:09:25,257 --> 00:09:26,659 so he like put these all together. 320 00:09:26,947 --> 00:09:27,367 okay. 321 00:09:27,655 --> 00:09:28,847 I'll go with the post. 322 00:09:28,847 --> 00:09:30,167 Should have been me on their story 323 00:09:30,167 --> 00:09:31,607 because that makes them look weird. 324 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:32,810 Don't come to my wedding 325 00:09:32,810 --> 00:09:33,920 and talk about closure. 326 00:09:34,612 --> 00:09:36,352 Would you rather your divorced parents 327 00:09:36,352 --> 00:09:38,341 refuse to be in the same photo or 328 00:09:38,341 --> 00:09:40,178 they agree to photos, but start 329 00:09:40,178 --> 00:09:41,675 sniping at each other the whole time? 330 00:09:41,879 --> 00:09:43,769 I would say agree to be in photos because. 331 00:09:44,198 --> 00:09:45,128 You know, if they've got their own 332 00:09:45,128 --> 00:09:46,298 thing going on, the photographer 333 00:09:46,298 --> 00:09:47,948 can say, okay, stop for two seconds. 334 00:09:47,948 --> 00:09:48,608 Smile. 335 00:09:48,698 --> 00:09:48,998 Great. 336 00:09:48,998 --> 00:09:49,958 Now keep yelling at each time. 337 00:09:50,256 --> 00:09:51,666 cause the refusal, I'm like, 338 00:09:51,666 --> 00:09:53,018 it's a picture that you're 339 00:09:53,018 --> 00:09:54,068 gonna put on your wall. 340 00:09:54,233 --> 00:09:55,298 It's for you. 341 00:09:55,448 --> 00:09:56,408 They're your parents. 342 00:09:56,408 --> 00:09:56,978 Doesn't matter if they're 343 00:09:56,978 --> 00:09:58,028 married or not anymore. 344 00:09:58,184 --> 00:09:59,498 Let's grow up for like a couple 345 00:09:59,498 --> 00:10:01,448 minutes and then part your ways. 346 00:10:02,015 --> 00:10:04,326 Would you rather your parents new spouse 347 00:10:04,516 --> 00:10:07,748 try to act like your bonus parent or 348 00:10:07,748 --> 00:10:10,178 refuse to come because they feel excluded? 349 00:10:10,552 --> 00:10:11,061 these are hard. 350 00:10:11,061 --> 00:10:12,261 I mean, my parents are still married, 351 00:10:12,261 --> 00:10:14,096 so I've never had a stepparent. 352 00:10:14,367 --> 00:10:16,301 I have friends with divorced parents, 353 00:10:16,301 --> 00:10:18,072 so I guess I can think through 354 00:10:18,072 --> 00:10:21,014 their lens maybe as much as I can. 355 00:10:21,062 --> 00:10:21,837 I guess it depends on 356 00:10:21,837 --> 00:10:23,337 how new the spouse is. 357 00:10:23,603 --> 00:10:25,183 if they got married a week before 358 00:10:25,183 --> 00:10:26,773 and they're like 25 years old, 359 00:10:26,773 --> 00:10:27,973 so they're like younger than me, 360 00:10:28,068 --> 00:10:29,572 I would have an issue with that. 361 00:10:29,769 --> 00:10:31,084 But if they've been married five 362 00:10:31,084 --> 00:10:34,779 years and they're happy and I love 363 00:10:34,779 --> 00:10:36,699 their relationship, then yeah. 364 00:10:36,759 --> 00:10:38,589 I wouldn't want someone. 365 00:10:38,931 --> 00:10:40,581 To leave because they felt excluded. 366 00:10:40,581 --> 00:10:42,141 I think if they were important enough to 367 00:10:42,141 --> 00:10:44,590 me as a stepparent, I would include them. 368 00:10:45,097 --> 00:10:46,267 so yeah, I know that was like 369 00:10:46,267 --> 00:10:48,397 a really complicated answer. 370 00:10:48,718 --> 00:10:50,248 would you rather kick your sister 371 00:10:50,248 --> 00:10:53,459 out of the wedding or let her stay? 372 00:10:53,489 --> 00:10:54,929 But she gives the vibe, she 373 00:10:54,929 --> 00:10:56,069 hates you the entire day. 374 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:57,625 This relates to that first dilemma. 375 00:10:57,983 --> 00:10:59,153 if there are issues, I would 376 00:10:59,153 --> 00:11:00,983 say just kick outta the way. 377 00:11:01,524 --> 00:11:03,090 Leading up to the wedding, there's 378 00:11:03,180 --> 00:11:05,460 constant issues where she's saying 379 00:11:05,460 --> 00:11:06,720 rude things, putting you down. 380 00:11:06,750 --> 00:11:10,081 Just clean, sweep out, because you 381 00:11:10,081 --> 00:11:11,221 don't want her like glaring at you 382 00:11:11,221 --> 00:11:12,631 in the background of photos or like 383 00:11:12,841 --> 00:11:14,671 talking crap about you behind your back. 384 00:11:14,671 --> 00:11:15,571 So, yeah. 385 00:11:16,148 --> 00:11:16,448 All right. 386 00:11:16,448 --> 00:11:17,318 Last one. 387 00:11:17,493 --> 00:11:19,683 Would you rather uninvite a close 388 00:11:19,683 --> 00:11:21,813 family member or invite them 389 00:11:21,813 --> 00:11:24,123 and risk them causing a scene? 390 00:11:24,624 --> 00:11:25,884 okay, uninvite. 391 00:11:25,914 --> 00:11:27,234 If it's someone that's gonna cause 392 00:11:27,234 --> 00:11:28,674 a scene in a negative way, then 393 00:11:28,674 --> 00:11:29,844 I would just not invite them. 394 00:11:29,874 --> 00:11:31,584 They're no, no questions asked. 395 00:11:33,074 --> 00:11:35,864 All right, let's get into the first story. 396 00:11:35,864 --> 00:11:37,721 I did include two because this 397 00:11:37,721 --> 00:11:39,221 one seemed kind of shorter. 398 00:11:39,654 --> 00:11:41,724 But sometimes I talk a lot, so 399 00:11:41,762 --> 00:11:42,811 we're gonna see how that goes. 400 00:11:42,841 --> 00:11:43,141 Okay. 401 00:11:43,617 --> 00:11:45,537 Here's this week's story submission. 402 00:11:45,986 --> 00:11:47,726 This story is about my brother 403 00:11:47,944 --> 00:11:50,336 and his now ex-wife's wedding. 404 00:11:50,735 --> 00:11:53,525 First of all, he never even proposed. 405 00:11:53,763 --> 00:11:55,263 They attended their local Catholic 406 00:11:55,263 --> 00:11:57,804 church regularly, one day she went 407 00:11:57,804 --> 00:12:00,174 to the priest, asked about what dates 408 00:12:00,174 --> 00:12:02,206 were available, and literally booked 409 00:12:02,206 --> 00:12:03,776 a wedding without my brother knowing. 410 00:12:05,551 --> 00:12:08,816 What, okay, I need to know, does anyone 411 00:12:08,816 --> 00:12:10,976 know someone that has done this before? 412 00:12:11,582 --> 00:12:13,808 Like I've seen things like in TV shows and 413 00:12:13,808 --> 00:12:17,324 like movies, and I heard one story where 414 00:12:17,324 --> 00:12:19,544 they booked a venue like two years in 415 00:12:19,544 --> 00:12:21,981 advance because they were like, books out. 416 00:12:21,981 --> 00:12:23,331 This is my dream venue. 417 00:12:23,514 --> 00:12:25,674 And then during that time they met 418 00:12:25,674 --> 00:12:27,414 their fiancé and it ended up working 419 00:12:27,414 --> 00:12:29,906 out, but the fiancé was a part of it. 420 00:12:30,468 --> 00:12:32,268 To just go to the priest and be 421 00:12:32,268 --> 00:12:33,288 like, what dates are available? 422 00:12:33,288 --> 00:12:34,398 And then book it. 423 00:12:34,663 --> 00:12:36,698 That's kind of interesting. 424 00:12:36,788 --> 00:12:37,118 Okay. 425 00:12:37,550 --> 00:12:39,140 So yes, this is exactly the 426 00:12:39,140 --> 00:12:41,000 type of person you're imagining. 427 00:12:41,330 --> 00:12:43,820 She was awful, bossy, controlling, 428 00:12:43,850 --> 00:12:45,860 and abusive towards my brother. 429 00:12:45,950 --> 00:12:46,250 Wow. 430 00:12:46,556 --> 00:12:48,356 Our whole family was hoping they would 431 00:12:48,356 --> 00:12:51,346 break up, not get married, but my 432 00:12:51,346 --> 00:12:54,026 brother is kind, gentle, and at that 433 00:12:54,026 --> 00:12:55,856 point they already had two children. 434 00:12:56,534 --> 00:12:58,334 So he went along with it because he 435 00:12:58,334 --> 00:12:59,864 thought it would make life easier. 436 00:12:59,894 --> 00:13:02,594 No marriage, if you're already 437 00:13:02,594 --> 00:13:05,380 struggling, marriage and children 438 00:13:05,710 --> 00:13:07,810 will only complicate things. 439 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:09,690 It's not gonna make things easier. 440 00:13:09,820 --> 00:13:11,914 think we like see it all the time 441 00:13:11,914 --> 00:13:13,324 where it's like people think, oh, 442 00:13:13,324 --> 00:13:15,425 if we have kids together, be the dad 443 00:13:15,425 --> 00:13:17,015 I want him to be, or she'll be this 444 00:13:17,015 --> 00:13:19,384 like, no, if you're already struggling, 445 00:13:19,684 --> 00:13:20,734 it's not gonna make it better. 446 00:13:21,223 --> 00:13:22,663 Wedding planning was a nightmare. 447 00:13:22,963 --> 00:13:24,523 They had no money, but she 448 00:13:24,523 --> 00:13:26,143 wanted everything and she 449 00:13:26,143 --> 00:13:27,883 demanded that we all chip in. 450 00:13:28,084 --> 00:13:29,967 We live in the UK and while some 451 00:13:29,967 --> 00:13:32,142 families do help pay for weddings, it's 452 00:13:32,142 --> 00:13:34,242 far more common for couples to pay for 453 00:13:34,242 --> 00:13:36,492 their own weddings like I'm doing now. 454 00:13:36,956 --> 00:13:39,115 We aren't poor, but also don't have 455 00:13:39,115 --> 00:13:41,245 thousands of pounds we can just hand 456 00:13:41,245 --> 00:13:42,835 over because someone demands it. 457 00:13:43,227 --> 00:13:43,947 Yeah, that's the thing 458 00:13:43,947 --> 00:13:44,907 I always say is like. 459 00:13:45,394 --> 00:13:47,074 It is great when family wants to help 460 00:13:47,074 --> 00:13:49,049 or can help in any way, but you should 461 00:13:49,049 --> 00:13:51,201 never get engaged expecting that 462 00:13:51,201 --> 00:13:52,401 people are gonna pay for your wedding. 463 00:13:52,818 --> 00:13:54,348 When you get engaged, you should 464 00:13:54,348 --> 00:13:56,328 be like, okay, this is our budget 465 00:13:56,328 --> 00:13:58,243 between the two of us, and then if 466 00:13:58,243 --> 00:14:00,163 people wanna help, that's great. 467 00:14:00,163 --> 00:14:01,183 That's a gift then. 468 00:14:01,423 --> 00:14:03,370 But to have this idea of this huge 469 00:14:03,370 --> 00:14:04,780 expensive wedding and not being 470 00:14:04,780 --> 00:14:05,830 able to afford it yourselves, 471 00:14:05,830 --> 00:14:07,090 I think that's a problem. 472 00:14:07,677 --> 00:14:09,357 We gave money where we could, 473 00:14:09,657 --> 00:14:11,037 and all she did was complain. 474 00:14:11,451 --> 00:14:14,181 Then four weeks before the wedding, I 475 00:14:14,181 --> 00:14:16,881 broke my foot and ended up in a boot. 476 00:14:17,186 --> 00:14:19,286 I didn't wanna cause any drama or 477 00:14:19,286 --> 00:14:21,146 attention, so I found heels the same 478 00:14:21,146 --> 00:14:23,542 height as everyone else's wore one 479 00:14:23,542 --> 00:14:25,312 heel, so it would still look normal. 480 00:14:25,591 --> 00:14:27,031 She was not happy about that either. 481 00:14:27,228 --> 00:14:28,741 What did you want her to do? 482 00:14:29,131 --> 00:14:31,228 Like to take the boot off 483 00:14:31,228 --> 00:14:32,248 just for your wedding day? 484 00:14:32,248 --> 00:14:33,680 Like you gotta do what you gotta do. 485 00:14:34,109 --> 00:14:35,039 At the church. 486 00:14:35,428 --> 00:14:37,219 when the day finally came, the venue 487 00:14:37,219 --> 00:14:39,183 looked beautiful and we were under the 488 00:14:39,183 --> 00:14:41,043 impression that everything was fully 489 00:14:41,043 --> 00:14:44,246 paid for, or so we thought at the church, 490 00:14:44,276 --> 00:14:46,256 the priest accidentally called her by 491 00:14:46,256 --> 00:14:48,416 the wrong name during the ceremony. 492 00:14:48,993 --> 00:14:50,733 Oh, no. 493 00:14:51,153 --> 00:14:52,413 That's like the worst kind of 494 00:14:52,413 --> 00:14:54,453 person for that to happen to because 495 00:14:54,453 --> 00:14:56,524 she's already like in a bad mood. 496 00:14:56,524 --> 00:14:57,274 She's mean. 497 00:14:57,606 --> 00:14:58,446 Not a great person. 498 00:14:58,446 --> 00:14:59,226 It sounds like. 499 00:14:59,463 --> 00:15:00,684 Honestly, that should have 500 00:15:00,684 --> 00:15:02,124 been the first warning sign. 501 00:15:02,244 --> 00:15:04,614 It immediately put her in a horrible mood. 502 00:15:04,614 --> 00:15:04,914 Yeah. 503 00:15:05,004 --> 00:15:06,624 I think most people wouldn't be happy. 504 00:15:07,003 --> 00:15:08,470 When we got to the main venue, 505 00:15:08,500 --> 00:15:09,940 she was rude to everyone. 506 00:15:10,306 --> 00:15:11,860 She swore directly at people's 507 00:15:11,860 --> 00:15:13,990 faces, called them awful names. 508 00:15:14,020 --> 00:15:15,520 I would be leaving if the 509 00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:17,080 bride was treating me that way. 510 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:17,980 I would be out of there. 511 00:15:17,980 --> 00:15:18,700 There's no way. 512 00:15:19,209 --> 00:15:20,319 Told everyone who would 513 00:15:20,319 --> 00:15:22,689 listen that she hated today. 514 00:15:22,936 --> 00:15:24,604 Then she got absolutely wasted, 515 00:15:24,724 --> 00:15:27,394 not tipsy, not fun drunk, just 516 00:15:27,394 --> 00:15:29,644 full on drunk, and she's got two 517 00:15:29,644 --> 00:15:31,114 kids, I'm assuming that are there. 518 00:15:31,744 --> 00:15:32,014 Okay. 519 00:15:32,417 --> 00:15:33,947 She started walking around telling 520 00:15:33,947 --> 00:15:36,519 people to F off, flipping everyone the 521 00:15:36,519 --> 00:15:38,499 middle finger, and acting like she wanted 522 00:15:38,499 --> 00:15:40,535 the entire day to burn to the ground. 523 00:15:40,835 --> 00:15:42,995 What, this was your idea, this 524 00:15:42,995 --> 00:15:45,280 was literally your idea and. 525 00:15:45,551 --> 00:15:46,871 It's just like not up to 526 00:15:46,871 --> 00:15:48,191 her standards or something. 527 00:15:48,583 --> 00:15:50,752 By 6:00 PM nearly everyone had 528 00:15:50,752 --> 00:15:52,312 left, including most of the guests. 529 00:15:52,462 --> 00:15:53,602 And keep in mind, the 530 00:15:53,602 --> 00:15:54,862 wedding only started at two. 531 00:15:54,892 --> 00:15:55,072 Okay? 532 00:15:55,072 --> 00:15:56,182 So people are like, yeah, 533 00:15:56,182 --> 00:15:57,112 F this, I'm outta here. 534 00:15:57,350 --> 00:15:58,280 I'm not staying. 535 00:15:58,589 --> 00:15:59,874 I wouldn't be staying for that. 536 00:16:00,174 --> 00:16:01,521 The only people still there were 537 00:16:01,521 --> 00:16:03,231 my younger brother and her sibling. 538 00:16:03,909 --> 00:16:04,839 Oh my gosh. 539 00:16:05,115 --> 00:16:06,876 She then spent the rest of the 540 00:16:06,876 --> 00:16:08,526 evening crying because she couldn't 541 00:16:08,526 --> 00:16:10,206 understand why no one stayed. 542 00:16:10,493 --> 00:16:12,353 I stayed mostly because I couldn't 543 00:16:12,353 --> 00:16:13,853 believe what I was witnessing. 544 00:16:14,144 --> 00:16:15,816 I ended up getting merely tipsy 545 00:16:15,816 --> 00:16:17,552 with my brothers and honestly just 546 00:16:17,552 --> 00:16:19,412 laughing at how unreal it all was. 547 00:16:19,757 --> 00:16:21,554 The next day she sent a giant 548 00:16:21,554 --> 00:16:23,054 message to everyone who attended, 549 00:16:23,177 --> 00:16:25,547 telling them they ruined her day. 550 00:16:25,866 --> 00:16:27,253 So you think it's your day 551 00:16:27,253 --> 00:16:28,213 and you can just go around 552 00:16:28,213 --> 00:16:29,443 talking to your guests that way. 553 00:16:29,443 --> 00:16:31,801 People that traveled far attended this 554 00:16:31,801 --> 00:16:32,851 wedding, took off work whatever they 555 00:16:32,851 --> 00:16:35,218 needed to do, and they ruined your day. 556 00:16:35,632 --> 00:16:36,772 No one responded. 557 00:16:37,019 --> 00:16:37,958 And I think most people 558 00:16:37,958 --> 00:16:39,895 went low contact With her. 559 00:16:40,233 --> 00:16:41,375 A few weeks later, my brother 560 00:16:41,375 --> 00:16:43,085 called me and my mom upset. 561 00:16:43,259 --> 00:16:44,579 That's when we found out that she 562 00:16:44,579 --> 00:16:45,809 hadn't actually used the money 563 00:16:45,809 --> 00:16:47,459 we gave her to pay the vendors. 564 00:16:47,594 --> 00:16:49,318 We ended up paying an additional 565 00:16:49,348 --> 00:16:52,137 2,800 pounds to make sure my 566 00:16:52,137 --> 00:16:54,327 brother didn't have trouble or debts 567 00:16:54,327 --> 00:16:56,007 hanging over him because of her. 568 00:16:56,290 --> 00:16:56,980 What? 569 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:58,090 Where did she use the money for? 570 00:16:58,792 --> 00:17:00,622 Then, because it always gets worse 571 00:17:00,942 --> 00:17:02,529 three months after the wedding, 572 00:17:02,589 --> 00:17:03,819 she told my brother she was 573 00:17:03,819 --> 00:17:05,769 pregnant with their third child. 574 00:17:05,958 --> 00:17:07,500 They welcomed the baby eight months 575 00:17:07,500 --> 00:17:09,205 after getting married, meaning 576 00:17:09,205 --> 00:17:10,765 she was already pregnant when she 577 00:17:10,765 --> 00:17:13,555 was blackout drunk at her wedding. 578 00:17:14,107 --> 00:17:14,857 Oh my. 579 00:17:15,127 --> 00:17:17,003 That was my first thought is like, 580 00:17:17,033 --> 00:17:18,713 not her being pregnant, but like 581 00:17:18,713 --> 00:17:19,943 having the kids at the wedding. 582 00:17:19,973 --> 00:17:21,713 'cause it says she already has two kids, 583 00:17:22,065 --> 00:17:23,769 but she was pregnant the whole time. 584 00:17:24,609 --> 00:17:24,879 Wow. 585 00:17:25,248 --> 00:17:27,228 And then about two months after their 586 00:17:27,228 --> 00:17:28,818 daughter was born, she told my brother 587 00:17:28,818 --> 00:17:30,798 to leave and admitted that she'd been 588 00:17:30,798 --> 00:17:33,858 having an affair with someone from work. 589 00:17:34,493 --> 00:17:36,623 Is that person the baby's father? 590 00:17:36,623 --> 00:17:37,823 I have so many questions. 591 00:17:38,178 --> 00:17:40,158 They've now been divorced for four years. 592 00:17:40,467 --> 00:17:41,568 I hope he is happy. 593 00:17:41,598 --> 00:17:42,948 I mean, that's really hard because 594 00:17:42,948 --> 00:17:44,448 now you have children together, so 595 00:17:44,722 --> 00:17:46,462 you still are gonna be around her. 596 00:17:46,462 --> 00:17:47,092 You still have to see 597 00:17:47,092 --> 00:17:48,052 her for certain things. 598 00:17:48,352 --> 00:17:49,609 Oh my word. 599 00:17:49,609 --> 00:17:49,699 Okay. 600 00:17:50,571 --> 00:17:51,591 I would love to say it's been 601 00:17:51,591 --> 00:17:53,331 peaceful, but she's still awful. 602 00:17:53,421 --> 00:17:54,711 The only upside is I don't 603 00:17:54,711 --> 00:17:55,911 have to deal with her anymore. 604 00:17:56,257 --> 00:17:57,337 Even typing this out, 605 00:17:57,337 --> 00:17:58,327 it doesn't feel real. 606 00:17:58,327 --> 00:18:00,007 It honestly sounds like a made up story, 607 00:18:00,087 --> 00:18:02,127 but unfortunately it all happened. 608 00:18:02,327 --> 00:18:03,707 My brother is genuinely one of the 609 00:18:03,707 --> 00:18:05,904 nicest people you'll ever meet, this 610 00:18:05,904 --> 00:18:07,674 completely wrecked his mental health. 611 00:18:07,775 --> 00:18:08,734 Thankfully, he has a lot 612 00:18:08,734 --> 00:18:09,509 of support behind him. 613 00:18:09,963 --> 00:18:12,273 That makes me so sad because like 614 00:18:12,273 --> 00:18:13,992 it's that Nice person, right? 615 00:18:14,285 --> 00:18:15,934 That gets walked all over. 616 00:18:15,934 --> 00:18:17,644 They think they're being a good person, 617 00:18:17,974 --> 00:18:19,774 but you need to have those boundaries 618 00:18:19,774 --> 00:18:21,439 because like at the end of the day, 619 00:18:21,439 --> 00:18:22,999 someone like this is gonna suck out your 620 00:18:22,999 --> 00:18:24,783 soul because they're just like, I can 621 00:18:24,783 --> 00:18:26,103 get whatever I want with this person 622 00:18:26,103 --> 00:18:28,121 because they're the nice woman, nice girl. 623 00:18:28,300 --> 00:18:29,760 I'm glad they separated, but 624 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:30,830 like I said, it's hard when 625 00:18:30,830 --> 00:18:33,327 they're three kids together, to. 626 00:18:33,607 --> 00:18:34,957 Balance what that life looks like 627 00:18:34,957 --> 00:18:36,217 and it's hard for the kids then 628 00:18:36,217 --> 00:18:38,192 to be shuffled back and forth. 629 00:18:38,546 --> 00:18:40,524 cause she's now presumably 630 00:18:40,554 --> 00:18:43,074 with this guy from work, maybe. 631 00:18:43,347 --> 00:18:44,847 so that's, oh my gosh, that's, wow. 632 00:18:44,847 --> 00:18:45,807 Well thanks for sharing that. 633 00:18:45,807 --> 00:18:48,476 And I wish the best to you and 634 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:50,848 your brother and your whole family 635 00:18:50,848 --> 00:18:52,768 because that sounds like a whole 636 00:18:52,768 --> 00:18:54,418 rollercoaster to be thrown into. 637 00:18:54,651 --> 00:18:55,789 only for it to end like that. 638 00:18:56,659 --> 00:18:56,959 Wild. 639 00:18:57,524 --> 00:18:58,424 I got a second story. 640 00:18:58,586 --> 00:18:59,816 we gotta do a second story 641 00:18:59,846 --> 00:19:00,776 'cause that wasn't that long. 642 00:19:01,046 --> 00:19:02,036 All right, let's get into it. 643 00:19:02,610 --> 00:19:04,260 My husband and I got married in the 644 00:19:04,260 --> 00:19:07,710 middle of COVID on Juneteenth in 2021. 645 00:19:08,075 --> 00:19:08,825 at that point. 646 00:19:08,825 --> 00:19:10,565 We'd already been together for seven 647 00:19:10,565 --> 00:19:13,025 years and had pushed our wedding date back 648 00:19:13,133 --> 00:19:15,333 an entire year because of the pandemic. 649 00:19:15,580 --> 00:19:16,885 I had a friend who had been my 650 00:19:16,885 --> 00:19:18,505 childhood best friend since we were 651 00:19:18,505 --> 00:19:20,930 eight years old, so of course I wanted 652 00:19:20,930 --> 00:19:22,520 her to be one of my bridesmaids. 653 00:19:22,889 --> 00:19:24,659 During the planning process, a very 654 00:19:24,659 --> 00:19:26,549 close cousin of hers went missing. 655 00:19:26,835 --> 00:19:28,815 The entire family was searching for her. 656 00:19:29,128 --> 00:19:31,048 There were daily search parties, and my 657 00:19:31,048 --> 00:19:32,878 friend was spending a lot of time going 658 00:19:32,878 --> 00:19:34,528 out on her own to look for her cousin. 659 00:19:34,820 --> 00:19:36,678 Obviously, I cared deeply about 660 00:19:36,678 --> 00:19:38,028 the situation and completely 661 00:19:38,028 --> 00:19:40,038 understood that it took priority. 662 00:19:40,643 --> 00:19:42,408 Because of that, I gave her extra 663 00:19:42,408 --> 00:19:44,448 time to go get her bridesmaid dress. 664 00:19:44,914 --> 00:19:46,801 However, our wedding was in June 665 00:19:47,056 --> 00:19:48,568 and the bridal shop told me that 666 00:19:48,568 --> 00:19:50,878 March was the absolute latest month. 667 00:19:51,255 --> 00:19:52,768 Anyone could order their dress. 668 00:19:53,152 --> 00:19:54,038 They needed time for 669 00:19:54,038 --> 00:19:55,568 shipping and alterations. 670 00:19:55,818 --> 00:19:57,468 That's pretty understandable. 671 00:19:57,468 --> 00:19:58,998 There usually is some kind of deadline 672 00:19:58,998 --> 00:20:01,008 no matter where you get a dress from. 673 00:20:01,347 --> 00:20:02,637 I explained this to her and told 674 00:20:02,637 --> 00:20:04,317 her I completely understood that her 675 00:20:04,317 --> 00:20:06,007 cousin came first and that it was 676 00:20:06,007 --> 00:20:07,927 totally okay, but I also couldn't 677 00:20:07,927 --> 00:20:09,817 keep pushing the dress deadline back. 678 00:20:10,096 --> 00:20:11,656 I gently suggested that if things 679 00:20:11,656 --> 00:20:13,658 were too overwhelming, she might want 680 00:20:13,658 --> 00:20:15,548 to consider not being a bridesmaid. 681 00:20:16,030 --> 00:20:17,170 I think that's a very, 682 00:20:17,262 --> 00:20:19,002 Mature conversation to have. 683 00:20:19,002 --> 00:20:19,332 Right? 684 00:20:19,615 --> 00:20:21,554 Obviously the bridesmaid, the 685 00:20:21,554 --> 00:20:22,724 friend is going through a lot. 686 00:20:23,234 --> 00:20:26,024 I can't even fathom what that's like 687 00:20:26,024 --> 00:20:27,494 to have a missing person in your 688 00:20:27,494 --> 00:20:29,857 family, close friend, whatever that is. 689 00:20:29,967 --> 00:20:31,227 I can't even imagine, like, I 690 00:20:31,227 --> 00:20:32,967 literally just watched a show about 691 00:20:33,297 --> 00:20:34,407 a child missing and I was like, 692 00:20:34,614 --> 00:20:35,574 wouldn't even be able to go to bed. 693 00:20:35,694 --> 00:20:37,254 Like, I'm sure it consumes you in 694 00:20:37,254 --> 00:20:38,874 ways that you can't even imagine. 695 00:20:39,431 --> 00:20:41,664 so that's very challenging to 696 00:20:41,664 --> 00:20:43,274 be like, I love my friend over 697 00:20:43,274 --> 00:20:43,994 here who's getting married. 698 00:20:43,994 --> 00:20:45,811 I wanna support her, but my 699 00:20:45,811 --> 00:20:47,844 cousin, my cousin, takes priority. 700 00:20:48,275 --> 00:20:50,465 She got very upset with me and said she 701 00:20:50,465 --> 00:20:51,875 already had an appointment at the bridal 702 00:20:51,875 --> 00:20:53,885 shop later that week, and we'd be getting 703 00:20:54,005 --> 00:20:56,626 her dress for the bridesmaid dresses. 704 00:20:56,746 --> 00:20:58,456 I gave everyone creative control. 705 00:20:58,606 --> 00:20:59,866 The only rule was that the 706 00:20:59,866 --> 00:21:01,456 dresses had to be burgundy. 707 00:21:01,546 --> 00:21:02,626 The style didn't matter. 708 00:21:03,118 --> 00:21:04,888 Every other bridesmaid sent a picture 709 00:21:04,888 --> 00:21:06,088 of their dress in the group chat 710 00:21:06,088 --> 00:21:07,743 before buying it so no one had the 711 00:21:07,743 --> 00:21:09,273 same one so I could approve them. 712 00:21:09,707 --> 00:21:11,357 Her appointment day came and went. 713 00:21:11,605 --> 00:21:13,915 Then days passed, about four days later, 714 00:21:13,915 --> 00:21:15,625 I reached out and told her I couldn't 715 00:21:15,625 --> 00:21:17,635 wait any longer and that I was really 716 00:21:17,635 --> 00:21:19,625 sorry, but I was going to have to move 717 00:21:19,625 --> 00:21:21,845 forward without her as a bridesmaid. 718 00:21:22,507 --> 00:21:25,610 I mean, again, it's a mature conversation. 719 00:21:26,113 --> 00:21:27,133 Sometimes people like. 720 00:21:27,233 --> 00:21:28,324 You have the people pleaser 721 00:21:28,324 --> 00:21:29,966 that's like, okay, whatever. 722 00:21:29,966 --> 00:21:30,326 It's fine. 723 00:21:30,326 --> 00:21:31,106 We'll keep them in. 724 00:21:31,357 --> 00:21:32,508 doesn't matter what they do. 725 00:21:32,868 --> 00:21:34,818 This story aside, in general, we 726 00:21:34,818 --> 00:21:36,183 hear a lot of stories where we 727 00:21:36,183 --> 00:21:37,353 have like a terrible bridesmaid or 728 00:21:37,353 --> 00:21:38,763 something and they're just like, okay. 729 00:21:38,763 --> 00:21:39,933 I just kept them in though because 730 00:21:39,933 --> 00:21:41,193 I didn't wanna cause any drama. 731 00:21:41,763 --> 00:21:43,203 This is a respectful conversation. 732 00:21:43,203 --> 00:21:44,373 She said, Hey, I understand 733 00:21:44,373 --> 00:21:45,303 you're going through a lot. 734 00:21:45,561 --> 00:21:46,881 I understand that's a priority. 735 00:21:47,055 --> 00:21:47,617 Please don't feel like 736 00:21:47,617 --> 00:21:48,697 my wedding's a priority. 737 00:21:48,697 --> 00:21:50,107 Like you can step down. 738 00:21:50,197 --> 00:21:50,857 It's okay. 739 00:21:50,857 --> 00:21:51,577 No hard feelings. 740 00:21:51,845 --> 00:21:54,158 and then it sounds like she was reassured. 741 00:21:54,684 --> 00:21:57,026 So it's hard when, sounds like 742 00:21:57,026 --> 00:21:58,496 multiple weeks passed, right? 743 00:21:58,496 --> 00:21:59,366 Because we're saying, 744 00:21:59,529 --> 00:22:00,519 her appointment came in. 745 00:22:00,519 --> 00:22:02,146 Went later that week was her 746 00:22:02,146 --> 00:22:03,256 appointment, so it came in, went. 747 00:22:03,539 --> 00:22:05,279 Multiple days passed and then 748 00:22:05,279 --> 00:22:06,569 four days later, so we're talking 749 00:22:06,569 --> 00:22:07,769 at least like a week and a half, 750 00:22:07,769 --> 00:22:08,954 and she hasn't heard anything. 751 00:22:09,313 --> 00:22:12,066 So for me, maybe I give too many chances. 752 00:22:12,066 --> 00:22:13,446 I would be reaching out and saying like, 753 00:22:13,476 --> 00:22:14,976 Hey, do you need help with anything? 754 00:22:14,976 --> 00:22:15,726 How's everything going? 755 00:22:15,726 --> 00:22:16,236 I probably would've 756 00:22:16,236 --> 00:22:17,346 reached out one more time. 757 00:22:17,545 --> 00:22:18,595 Again, I don't know if she did 758 00:22:18,595 --> 00:22:20,366 or not, but I'm sure the bride is 759 00:22:20,366 --> 00:22:21,918 like, okay, we have to move forward. 760 00:22:21,926 --> 00:22:23,724 Like you need your dress at this 761 00:22:23,724 --> 00:22:25,729 point the shop can't even get 762 00:22:25,729 --> 00:22:26,899 your dress to the wedding in time. 763 00:22:27,405 --> 00:22:28,725 She said she had already bought her 764 00:22:28,725 --> 00:22:30,345 dress, couldn't return it, and went 765 00:22:30,345 --> 00:22:32,085 on about how unfair I was being. 766 00:22:32,295 --> 00:22:33,345 I told her, honestly, I had 767 00:22:33,345 --> 00:22:34,545 no idea she bought anything 768 00:22:34,545 --> 00:22:35,865 because she never said a word. 769 00:22:35,865 --> 00:22:37,411 Here's the communication, or sent 770 00:22:37,411 --> 00:22:38,791 a picture like everyone else. 771 00:22:39,094 --> 00:22:40,354 I said, if she had already had the 772 00:22:40,354 --> 00:22:42,004 dress to send me a photo so I could 773 00:22:42,004 --> 00:22:44,620 see it, that made her even angrier. 774 00:22:44,948 --> 00:22:46,178 So I'm thinking she probably 775 00:22:46,178 --> 00:22:47,078 doesn't have the dress. 776 00:22:47,138 --> 00:22:48,608 I think she's probably just saying that. 777 00:22:48,930 --> 00:22:50,915 We also have to understand it's 778 00:22:50,915 --> 00:22:52,355 a really complicated situation. 779 00:22:52,766 --> 00:22:54,467 She's probably like think about when you 780 00:22:54,467 --> 00:22:55,907 have like so many things going on, right? 781 00:22:56,104 --> 00:22:57,124 And then on top of that, her 782 00:22:57,124 --> 00:22:58,642 cousin's missing, I don't know where 783 00:22:58,642 --> 00:23:00,262 they're at in the process during 784 00:23:00,262 --> 00:23:02,906 this, but many sleepless nights. 785 00:23:02,996 --> 00:23:04,976 I'm sure many calls with family members. 786 00:23:05,306 --> 00:23:06,566 She's out searching, all 787 00:23:06,566 --> 00:23:07,436 doing all these things. 788 00:23:07,622 --> 00:23:09,440 So then she's trying her best in 789 00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:10,760 all these different areas, right? 790 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:11,570 And then this friend's, like, 791 00:23:11,570 --> 00:23:12,800 you're not in the wedding anymore. 792 00:23:13,102 --> 00:23:14,872 I can understand getting a little angry. 793 00:23:14,872 --> 00:23:16,595 I. not saying she's right or wrong, 794 00:23:16,595 --> 00:23:17,975 I'm just saying I could understand 795 00:23:17,975 --> 00:23:19,475 where you're like, look, I'm trying 796 00:23:19,475 --> 00:23:21,731 my best, my cousin's missing. 797 00:23:21,911 --> 00:23:24,025 Like I can't even imagine what 798 00:23:24,025 --> 00:23:25,151 I would do or what, that kind 799 00:23:25,151 --> 00:23:26,291 of does to your mental health. 800 00:23:26,291 --> 00:23:26,561 Right. 801 00:23:26,810 --> 00:23:28,980 she started cursing me out.. Calling 802 00:23:28,980 --> 00:23:30,810 me inconsiderate and a bad friend, 803 00:23:30,979 --> 00:23:33,229 even though I truly felt I had tried 804 00:23:33,229 --> 00:23:34,819 to be as understanding as possible. 805 00:23:35,159 --> 00:23:36,749 I explained again that everything 806 00:23:36,749 --> 00:23:38,309 was already booked and planned. 807 00:23:38,460 --> 00:23:39,983 I couldn't postpone the wedding 808 00:23:40,358 --> 00:23:42,242 three months before the date. 809 00:23:42,553 --> 00:23:43,843 Yeah, I mean, you can't 810 00:23:43,843 --> 00:23:44,613 postpone the wedding. 811 00:23:44,613 --> 00:23:46,083 You've everything booked and paid for. 812 00:23:46,282 --> 00:23:48,272 I'm wondering Somehow the bridesmaid 813 00:23:48,272 --> 00:23:50,194 was asking you to postpone it or just 814 00:23:50,194 --> 00:23:51,334 because she didn't have the dress, you 815 00:23:51,334 --> 00:23:52,744 were like, I had to postpone it now. 816 00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:54,640 I wouldn't go to that length. 817 00:23:54,797 --> 00:23:56,867 I reminded her, she's still invited, 818 00:23:56,987 --> 00:23:58,307 still included in the photos, 819 00:23:58,427 --> 00:23:59,777 still seated with my family. 820 00:24:00,146 --> 00:24:01,466 I genuinely didn't understand 821 00:24:01,466 --> 00:24:02,816 why she was so furious. 822 00:24:03,061 --> 00:24:04,616 She cursed me out again, she 823 00:24:04,616 --> 00:24:05,576 didn't attend the wedding. 824 00:24:06,053 --> 00:24:08,243 on top of that, she convinced another 825 00:24:08,243 --> 00:24:10,343 bridesmaid to drop out of the wedding too. 826 00:24:10,569 --> 00:24:12,309 They're now best friends and I haven't 827 00:24:12,309 --> 00:24:13,869 spoken to either of them since. 828 00:24:14,387 --> 00:24:15,376 Was the cousin found? 829 00:24:15,613 --> 00:24:16,499 I need to know this. 830 00:24:16,787 --> 00:24:17,537 this is hard. 831 00:24:17,777 --> 00:24:19,127 This is really hard because like I 832 00:24:19,127 --> 00:24:21,017 said, it's a complicated situation. 833 00:24:21,407 --> 00:24:22,937 I'm just thinking too, if like you had 834 00:24:22,937 --> 00:24:24,737 a death in the family or if there was, 835 00:24:25,059 --> 00:24:26,773 another kind situation where that takes 836 00:24:26,773 --> 00:24:28,303 a lot of their brain space, right? 837 00:24:28,651 --> 00:24:29,581 But at the end of the day too. 838 00:24:30,058 --> 00:24:31,108 Things are still going on. 839 00:24:31,108 --> 00:24:31,888 You're still getting married, 840 00:24:31,888 --> 00:24:32,818 everything's still booked. 841 00:24:32,818 --> 00:24:34,917 You can't push back the wedding date. 842 00:24:34,917 --> 00:24:36,657 You need your bridesmaid there already. 843 00:24:36,934 --> 00:24:37,761 I think there's a lot of 844 00:24:37,761 --> 00:24:39,141 communication issue in this point. 845 00:24:39,141 --> 00:24:40,791 I'm sure your bridesmaid or 846 00:24:40,821 --> 00:24:42,381 ex bridesmaid's hurting a lot. 847 00:24:42,868 --> 00:24:44,128 she's probably, like I said, 848 00:24:44,128 --> 00:24:46,288 sleepless nights helping family out. 849 00:24:46,543 --> 00:24:47,590 But where do you draw the line? 850 00:24:47,590 --> 00:24:47,950 Right? 851 00:24:47,950 --> 00:24:49,990 Where you like, okay, I either need 852 00:24:49,990 --> 00:24:51,634 you, I don't, can you be here or not? 853 00:24:51,817 --> 00:24:52,847 I think with someone like that. 854 00:24:53,388 --> 00:24:55,567 I would have said, okay, 855 00:24:55,837 --> 00:24:56,827 I'm glad you got your dress. 856 00:24:56,827 --> 00:24:58,191 And just trust them, because at 857 00:24:58,191 --> 00:24:59,421 the end of the day, you either 858 00:24:59,421 --> 00:25:01,101 have an extra person up there or 859 00:25:01,101 --> 00:25:02,541 you have one less person up there. 860 00:25:02,934 --> 00:25:04,011 So I'd say like, okay, great. 861 00:25:04,131 --> 00:25:05,121 Glad you got your dress. 862 00:25:05,477 --> 00:25:06,467 You've got a lot on your plate. 863 00:25:06,917 --> 00:25:07,787 And then if she showed up 864 00:25:07,787 --> 00:25:09,197 that day, then you'd have her. 865 00:25:09,437 --> 00:25:11,117 If not, you wouldn't have her. 866 00:25:11,340 --> 00:25:12,150 and if she didn't have the dress, 867 00:25:12,150 --> 00:25:13,290 then that's her own problem. 868 00:25:13,410 --> 00:25:14,040 And then you can just take 869 00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:14,880 other pictures with her. 870 00:25:15,329 --> 00:25:16,889 Just because of the situation, 871 00:25:16,889 --> 00:25:17,819 everything she's going through. 872 00:25:17,819 --> 00:25:19,139 If it was someone else, like a 873 00:25:19,139 --> 00:25:21,257 bridesmaid being really nasty, out of 874 00:25:21,257 --> 00:25:23,387 nowhere and just being rude, then no. 875 00:25:23,387 --> 00:25:24,347 I would just be like, okay, 876 00:25:24,347 --> 00:25:25,067 you're out of the wedding. 877 00:25:25,503 --> 00:25:27,243 Again, I'm not supporting her, cursing 878 00:25:27,243 --> 00:25:29,420 her out and calling her inconsiderate. 879 00:25:29,548 --> 00:25:30,778 But again, I don't know what that 880 00:25:30,778 --> 00:25:32,338 would do to someone's mental health. 881 00:25:32,762 --> 00:25:34,082 Going through that and having 882 00:25:34,082 --> 00:25:35,102 a family member missing? 883 00:25:35,103 --> 00:25:35,943 We don't know what happened. 884 00:25:35,943 --> 00:25:37,457 I don't, there's no closure here. 885 00:25:37,457 --> 00:25:39,489 So, it sucks when friendships 886 00:25:39,489 --> 00:25:41,469 fall out because of weddings. 887 00:25:41,726 --> 00:25:44,512 but even more so stressful situations 888 00:25:44,512 --> 00:25:47,376 or life changes, can bring out 889 00:25:47,856 --> 00:25:49,236 people's colors in different way. 890 00:25:49,236 --> 00:25:49,596 Right. 891 00:25:49,686 --> 00:25:50,886 I don't wanna say true colors because I'm 892 00:25:50,886 --> 00:25:52,446 not calling either of them bad people. 893 00:25:52,647 --> 00:25:54,657 It's just a challenging situation. 894 00:25:54,717 --> 00:25:55,347 Of course, I'm not calling 895 00:25:55,347 --> 00:25:56,517 either of bad people. 896 00:25:56,561 --> 00:25:58,496 I think the cursing out was a bit much, I 897 00:25:58,526 --> 00:25:59,846 don't think I would do that to a friend. 898 00:25:59,846 --> 00:26:01,436 Everyone handles situations differently. 899 00:26:01,866 --> 00:26:03,205 during my wedding I had, one 900 00:26:03,205 --> 00:26:04,873 of my bridesmaids had, a family 901 00:26:04,873 --> 00:26:07,146 thing going on, and I was just 902 00:26:07,146 --> 00:26:08,676 like, you do what you have to do. 903 00:26:09,115 --> 00:26:10,375 I only care about you 904 00:26:10,375 --> 00:26:11,065 being at the wedding. 905 00:26:11,065 --> 00:26:11,526 And that's that's the 906 00:26:11,526 --> 00:26:12,756 closest thing I can think of. 907 00:26:12,756 --> 00:26:14,196 Like, a couple serious things that 908 00:26:14,196 --> 00:26:15,876 happened and I was just like, if 909 00:26:15,876 --> 00:26:17,136 you can be there, that's great. 910 00:26:17,339 --> 00:26:18,569 If you can't or you have to miss 911 00:26:18,569 --> 00:26:20,699 my bachelorette party, it's okay. 912 00:26:20,959 --> 00:26:21,589 We're still friends. 913 00:26:21,589 --> 00:26:22,489 At the end of all this, 914 00:26:22,849 --> 00:26:24,169 my wedding comes last. 915 00:26:25,009 --> 00:26:25,549 that's going on with 916 00:26:25,549 --> 00:26:26,144 your family right now. 917 00:26:26,754 --> 00:26:27,294 Precedent. 918 00:26:27,539 --> 00:26:29,429 So that's where I'm like, that's how 919 00:26:29,699 --> 00:26:31,379 I think I would be in this situation. 920 00:26:31,755 --> 00:26:34,206 but again, I was also a very like type B 921 00:26:34,266 --> 00:26:36,242 bride, I would say like, yes, everything 922 00:26:36,242 --> 00:26:38,312 on my part, on my side of things, I was 923 00:26:38,312 --> 00:26:39,824 like, okay, I planned out everything. 924 00:26:39,824 --> 00:26:40,814 I was very organized. 925 00:26:41,217 --> 00:26:42,344 But when it came to 926 00:26:42,378 --> 00:26:44,058 Groom suits and dresses. 927 00:26:44,058 --> 00:26:45,258 I was very like, okay, groom 928 00:26:45,258 --> 00:26:46,788 suits, order this off this site. 929 00:26:46,968 --> 00:26:47,328 Done. 930 00:26:47,742 --> 00:26:48,912 we're gifting you guys the shoes. 931 00:26:48,912 --> 00:26:50,259 Here's that dresses. 932 00:26:50,409 --> 00:26:51,789 Pick whatever style you want. 933 00:26:51,789 --> 00:26:52,897 Pick the color out of these 934 00:26:52,897 --> 00:26:54,097 family colors, you know? 935 00:26:54,337 --> 00:26:56,044 but if someone just had told me like. 936 00:26:56,370 --> 00:26:57,180 I like this dress. 937 00:26:57,180 --> 00:26:57,930 It goes along with it. 938 00:26:57,930 --> 00:26:58,380 I probably would've 939 00:26:58,380 --> 00:26:59,370 been like, that's fine. 940 00:26:59,430 --> 00:27:01,249 I wasn't crazy about stuff like that. 941 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:02,370 So, I don't know. 942 00:27:02,409 --> 00:27:04,343 it's hard in those situations when, 943 00:27:04,408 --> 00:27:06,307 there's other issues are kind of coming up 944 00:27:06,307 --> 00:27:07,747 and people are dealing with other stuff. 945 00:27:07,747 --> 00:27:09,604 We have to remember that other people's 946 00:27:09,604 --> 00:27:11,164 lives don't stop because of our wedding. 947 00:27:11,415 --> 00:27:12,182 And, you know, we hear of 948 00:27:12,275 --> 00:27:15,335 pregnancy, other engagements moving. 949 00:27:15,388 --> 00:27:16,288 But this is the first time we 950 00:27:16,288 --> 00:27:17,248 heard of something like this 951 00:27:17,248 --> 00:27:18,088 where someone was missing. 952 00:27:18,088 --> 00:27:19,765 So yeah, that's what I 953 00:27:19,765 --> 00:27:20,335 have to say about that. 954 00:27:20,785 --> 00:27:22,345 You guys let me know what you guys think. 955 00:27:22,465 --> 00:27:25,022 If just a reminder, all these episodes 956 00:27:25,022 --> 00:27:27,326 are posted on YouTube in full, so I always 957 00:27:27,326 --> 00:27:29,276 love to hear what you guys think about 958 00:27:29,336 --> 00:27:32,353 these stories because you gotta remember I 959 00:27:32,833 --> 00:27:35,478 read these first time as I react to them. 960 00:27:35,815 --> 00:27:37,038 So a lot of times you guys will 961 00:27:37,038 --> 00:27:38,458 call me out a couple times, not 962 00:27:38,458 --> 00:27:39,658 anything bad, but you guys will be 963 00:27:39,658 --> 00:27:40,888 like, oh, I think they meant this. 964 00:27:40,888 --> 00:27:42,148 And I'm like, you're right. 965 00:27:42,508 --> 00:27:43,498 Because sometimes I'm reading it 966 00:27:43,498 --> 00:27:45,298 and I'm like, what does that mean? 967 00:27:45,808 --> 00:27:47,038 Because I'm reading it in real time. 968 00:27:47,038 --> 00:27:48,867 I'm thinking about this camera. 969 00:27:48,957 --> 00:27:50,127 How's this gonna sound? 970 00:27:50,157 --> 00:27:50,577 You know? 971 00:27:50,577 --> 00:27:52,001 So, know what you guys 972 00:27:52,001 --> 00:27:52,961 would do in that situation. 973 00:27:52,991 --> 00:27:53,689 'cause that's, a very 974 00:27:53,689 --> 00:27:55,489 complicated situation, for sure. 975 00:27:55,878 --> 00:27:57,765 All right, let's end with some confessions 976 00:27:57,765 --> 00:27:59,040 and then we'll be, we'll be on our way. 977 00:27:59,869 --> 00:28:00,139 Okay. 978 00:28:00,139 --> 00:28:01,999 For this week's confession, we 979 00:28:01,999 --> 00:28:04,789 asked at your own or someone else's 980 00:28:04,789 --> 00:28:07,236 wedding, what low key bothered 981 00:28:07,236 --> 00:28:09,876 you, but you pretended was fine. 982 00:28:10,122 --> 00:28:10,272 Okay. 983 00:28:10,272 --> 00:28:11,262 I love this question. 984 00:28:11,292 --> 00:28:11,802 Here we go. 985 00:28:12,138 --> 00:28:12,768 All right. 986 00:28:12,858 --> 00:28:14,988 Wedding, I was in the guest 987 00:28:14,988 --> 00:28:16,608 ate dinner while the wedding 988 00:28:16,608 --> 00:28:19,518 party had hours of photos. 989 00:28:19,854 --> 00:28:22,374 What that would. 990 00:28:22,703 --> 00:28:24,413 Annoyed me so bad if I was in a 991 00:28:24,413 --> 00:28:26,483 wedding and they were like, you need 992 00:28:26,483 --> 00:28:28,133 to be in all these photos and not eat. 993 00:28:28,427 --> 00:28:31,397 I think one of the biggest issues, 994 00:28:31,730 --> 00:28:32,960 biggest issue, I don't know. 995 00:28:33,325 --> 00:28:35,635 One of the issues I see is when. 996 00:28:35,937 --> 00:28:38,337 the bride and groom or the couple getting 997 00:28:38,337 --> 00:28:41,368 married, always think that the bridesmaids 998 00:28:41,368 --> 00:28:42,838 and groomsmen are there to serve them. 999 00:28:43,194 --> 00:28:44,724 I've been in some weddings like that. 1000 00:28:44,784 --> 00:28:46,816 I've seen weddings like that where 1001 00:28:46,862 --> 00:28:47,906 they're like, oh, they'll just do this. 1002 00:28:47,906 --> 00:28:49,076 They'll set up the whole venue. 1003 00:28:49,376 --> 00:28:50,806 They'll, be in the pictures and 1004 00:28:50,806 --> 00:28:51,766 then they'll be on their way. 1005 00:28:52,024 --> 00:28:53,644 And I've been in weddings 1006 00:28:53,644 --> 00:28:55,034 where I was treated like. 1007 00:28:55,273 --> 00:28:57,730 So well, one of my best friends, she 1008 00:28:57,730 --> 00:29:00,366 had breakfast for us, a lunch for us. 1009 00:29:00,368 --> 00:29:02,188 She had her sweet, like 1010 00:29:02,278 --> 00:29:03,358 anything you could want. 1011 00:29:03,358 --> 00:29:05,128 She just wanted to take care of us. 1012 00:29:05,188 --> 00:29:06,628 She was like, I don't want 1013 00:29:06,628 --> 00:29:07,648 you guys to lift a finger. 1014 00:29:08,061 --> 00:29:09,548 And that's not to say like, you have 1015 00:29:09,548 --> 00:29:10,898 to pay more money for certain things. 1016 00:29:10,898 --> 00:29:12,008 It's just kinda looking at like 1017 00:29:12,008 --> 00:29:13,688 how you're treating people that 1018 00:29:13,688 --> 00:29:14,948 are taking time off to be there 1019 00:29:14,948 --> 00:29:16,298 for you to spend money for you. 1020 00:29:16,585 --> 00:29:17,231 so. 1021 00:29:17,396 --> 00:29:19,826 That's wrong in my opinion, what 1022 00:29:19,826 --> 00:29:22,354 this person can invest, okay, this 1023 00:29:22,354 --> 00:29:24,484 person says waiting two hours for 1024 00:29:24,484 --> 00:29:26,307 the reception to start while they 1025 00:29:26,307 --> 00:29:28,467 bar hopped with the wedding party. 1026 00:29:28,982 --> 00:29:30,152 Oh my gosh. 1027 00:29:30,212 --> 00:29:32,306 So they pushed back the reception 1028 00:29:32,306 --> 00:29:33,206 because the bride and groom 1029 00:29:33,206 --> 00:29:34,556 weren't back, is what I'm guessing. 1030 00:29:34,900 --> 00:29:35,740 You would hope they would have 1031 00:29:35,740 --> 00:29:37,300 cocktail hour with hors d'oeuvres. 1032 00:29:37,333 --> 00:29:38,683 I've been to a couple weddings 1033 00:29:38,683 --> 00:29:39,613 where the cocktail hour is 1034 00:29:39,613 --> 00:29:40,813 more like an hour and a half. 1035 00:29:40,813 --> 00:29:42,373 I don't know, maybe two sometimes. 1036 00:29:42,572 --> 00:29:43,622 But that's when they have like 1037 00:29:43,622 --> 00:29:44,792 little bites for everybody. 1038 00:29:45,036 --> 00:29:46,262 That's, again, you need to be 1039 00:29:46,262 --> 00:29:48,180 treating your guests like, thank 1040 00:29:48,180 --> 00:29:49,170 you so much for being here. 1041 00:29:49,380 --> 00:29:50,280 They're your guests. 1042 00:29:50,387 --> 00:29:51,317 Let's keep them fed, 1043 00:29:51,347 --> 00:29:52,870 let's keep them hydrated. 1044 00:29:53,099 --> 00:29:53,804 we can't forget about them. 1045 00:29:54,453 --> 00:29:54,963 Okay. 1046 00:29:55,274 --> 00:29:56,924 The couple arrived late to the 1047 00:29:56,924 --> 00:29:58,664 reception because they snuck 1048 00:29:58,664 --> 00:30:00,794 off to the hotel room first. 1049 00:30:01,867 --> 00:30:03,577 I mean, I know the couple weddings 1050 00:30:03,577 --> 00:30:04,981 where the couple breaks off 1051 00:30:04,981 --> 00:30:06,841 just to kinda like calm down. 1052 00:30:07,029 --> 00:30:08,469 If it's not stopping the 1053 00:30:08,499 --> 00:30:09,827 wedding, I don't mind it. 1054 00:30:09,849 --> 00:30:11,139 Like if you guys are already getting 1055 00:30:11,139 --> 00:30:12,999 fed and whatever, I don't mind it. 1056 00:30:13,029 --> 00:30:14,999 But if they're waiting for them to do 1057 00:30:14,999 --> 00:30:15,989 anything and you're just like sitting 1058 00:30:15,989 --> 00:30:17,309 around, then I think that's a problem. 1059 00:30:17,839 --> 00:30:19,249 All right, last one. 1060 00:30:19,614 --> 00:30:21,024 Because of the room, our table 1061 00:30:21,024 --> 00:30:22,584 couldn't see the whole dance floor. 1062 00:30:22,614 --> 00:30:23,814 We were off to the side. 1063 00:30:24,183 --> 00:30:24,723 That's hard. 1064 00:30:24,783 --> 00:30:26,493 Sometimes when it's a really big wedding, 1065 00:30:26,733 --> 00:30:27,903 there's someone that's shoved in the 1066 00:30:27,903 --> 00:30:29,755 corner and that's one of the reasons 1067 00:30:29,755 --> 00:30:31,996 why I kept my invites to a lower number. 1068 00:30:32,026 --> 00:30:33,226 'cause they told me like, oh, 1069 00:30:33,226 --> 00:30:34,726 if you invite this many, you're 1070 00:30:34,726 --> 00:30:35,416 gonna have a couple in the 1071 00:30:35,416 --> 00:30:37,156 hall or like down a little bit. 1072 00:30:37,156 --> 00:30:38,373 And I was like, I don't like that. 1073 00:30:38,877 --> 00:30:39,117 Okay. 1074 00:30:39,117 --> 00:30:41,067 I was gonna see if I missed any good ones. 1075 00:30:41,464 --> 00:30:42,544 You guys sent some good ones. 1076 00:30:42,980 --> 00:30:44,540 The small venue because it was way 1077 00:30:44,540 --> 00:30:46,520 too hot and everyone was dancing. 1078 00:30:46,831 --> 00:30:48,001 the couple disappearing 1079 00:30:48,001 --> 00:30:49,531 for too long, for photos. 1080 00:30:49,927 --> 00:30:51,157 I mean, you this is the 1081 00:30:51,157 --> 00:30:52,361 thing you have to remember. 1082 00:30:52,361 --> 00:30:53,321 It's their wedding day. 1083 00:30:53,645 --> 00:30:55,421 You are there as a guest if they 1084 00:30:55,421 --> 00:30:56,891 go take photos for a long time. 1085 00:30:57,253 --> 00:30:58,153 They want these special 1086 00:30:58,153 --> 00:30:59,173 photos for their wedding day. 1087 00:30:59,173 --> 00:31:01,021 Again, if you are fed, if there's 1088 00:31:01,021 --> 00:31:03,901 drinks, if there's music, enjoy the time. 1089 00:31:03,901 --> 00:31:05,218 It's not like the couple's gonna be 1090 00:31:05,218 --> 00:31:06,538 sitting at the table with you anyway, 1091 00:31:06,538 --> 00:31:07,888 so just let them do their thing 1092 00:31:07,888 --> 00:31:09,330 with the, photographer or whoever. 1093 00:31:09,678 --> 00:31:10,158 All right. 1094 00:31:10,482 --> 00:31:11,827 A relative's partner invited 1095 00:31:11,922 --> 00:31:13,572 their friend to meet them at my 1096 00:31:13,872 --> 00:31:15,702 evening reception without asking. 1097 00:31:15,732 --> 00:31:16,332 That's weird. 1098 00:31:16,632 --> 00:31:17,202 That's weird. 1099 00:31:17,352 --> 00:31:18,672 Don't meet anyone at your way. 1100 00:31:19,083 --> 00:31:19,683 All right guys. 1101 00:31:19,683 --> 00:31:20,013 That's all. 1102 00:31:20,013 --> 00:31:21,093 I have birthday this week. 1103 00:31:21,423 --> 00:31:22,983 Thanks for hanging out with me again, 1104 00:31:22,983 --> 00:31:25,143 if you love this podcast, share 1105 00:31:25,143 --> 00:31:26,733 it with a friend, leave a review. 1106 00:31:26,733 --> 00:31:28,173 It really helps more people hear 1107 00:31:28,173 --> 00:31:30,070 the podcast and I can create 1108 00:31:30,070 --> 00:31:31,600 some more fun content for you. 1109 00:31:31,823 --> 00:31:32,246 All right guys. 1110 00:31:32,246 --> 00:31:32,996 That's all I have this week, 1111 00:31:33,026 --> 00:31:33,866 and I'll see you next time. 1112 00:31:33,866 --> 00:31:33,986 Bye now.