Hey guys.
Welcome back to another episode
of, Here Comes The Drama.
I'm your host, Christa Innis, and
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same with skits.
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have a fully scripted out, storyline,
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I don't have.
A camera on me at all times
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Those are long gone.
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All right, starting off, we
are gonna do wedding dilemmas.
So this one was actually sent to me on
my phone, so I'm gonna read it on here.
Currently.
Now when this comes out, this skit
will probably be over, but if you
remember, the bride, Brielle's
family doesn't like the groom.
a quick little synopsis is the
girl gets engaged to Grant.
It's and Grant.
They get engaged and, when they
tell the family, they kind of just
look at them like, okay, whatever.
they move on from it.
Right now the part one was inspired
by a story that was sent to me and I
read it on YouTube, but then I just
kinda went wild with it because there
was literally only one little section
that was sent to me and I just kinda
went crazy with all these side stories
anyway, The girl, someone messaged me,
obviously she'll stay anonymous, but
the woman that messaged me said she
had a very similar situation going on.
So this family in this story that was
sent to me, they just were not supportive.
They were calling, Grant, the groom
lazy because he moved in with her and
quit his job, meanwhile also going
to school and getting a new job.
But they just did not think
that he was good enough for her.
Because of the job he had or
what he was doing with his life.
And they were just so, they
spoke so negatively about him and
they were just rude to her about
wanting to get engaged to him.
So obviously they had their own issues.
in this skit obviously I
add a lot of extra drama.
But anyway, here is what the
current dilemma, she says, I have
a similar situation going on.
My sister didn't congratulate me either.
She only did after my mom told her to.
Now she's texting my fiance and she
expects to be a part of my bachelorette
party and wanting to plan everything.
At the same time, my mom expects
me to make her part of the
wedding, even as my maid of honor.
It's horrible.
I already have a maid of honor.
It's a girl my sister and mom hate
because she's been with a guy for some
years that my sister wanted as well.
Whoa.
That's a whole thing.
Okay.
And they both expect me to unfriend her.
I mean, really, I even just invited
my sister to go dress shopping with me
just to include her in something, even
though I didn't really feel like it.
My sister has always been the problem in
her family and makes everything about her.
Ooh, this is definitely a dilemma
because it's very common that
parents want their siblings
together in a wedding, and I get it.
I mean, you want to see them together.
doesn't want their kids to be friends?
Right.
However, given everything that she's
explained, how the sister sounds, I don't
know if she's jealous or just mad, but
the fact that she didn't congratulate
her and how to be told by the mom to
congratulate her, you can tell they
don't really get along very well.
They're not close.
She already has a best friend.
I don't think siblings have to
have each other in their weddings.
And especially not maid of honor.
I feel like there's like this like
idea that your siblings have to
be maid of honor or best man and
that everyone else follows suit.
It should be about how close you
are and who you want up there
and who's going to support you.
and it's hard when you have your
parents telling you this person
needs to be in your wedding.
but it sounds like you
know what you want to do.
You already asked your friend
to be the maid of honor.
It's so weird to me that your
mom and sister hate her because
they both liked the same guy.
Like for one mom, get out of the drama.
That has nothing to do with you.
Like, okay.
Two.
I mean, I don't know how recently it
was, but it sounds like your friend's
been with this guy for a long time,
so the sister needs to let it go.
I don't know.
What I'm getting from your text
here is that you don't even want
her to be in the wedding at all.
So I think it's really big of you to
invite her and include her to certain
things that you feel comfortable
inviting her and including her at.
Right?
So if you invite her to this
dress shopping, it sounds
like it didn't happen yet.
if she acts, supportive and
is kind, and then afterwards
is texting you other things.
Go by your gut.
If you feel good about it, then maybe
invite her to be in the wedding.
If at this dress fitting or dress
shopping she's rude or puts you down
or is making sly snide comments, maybe
that's your sign to just go with your gut.
it's hard when parents hold
things over your head, like I've
talked to people before that.
They've said, oh, my parents said if
I don't have my brother as the best
man, they're not paying for anything.
Or they're gonna tell
my family not to come.
And that's just childish.
I don't understand that reasoning.
because why would you want her up
there next to you if she's rude,
doesn't support you and doesn't
wanna like, be happy for you?
I don't get that.
I don't think that just because
someone is a family member,
they have to be in your wedding.
So really listen to your gut,
see how she starts acting.
Maybe these little kind of things that
you invite her to see how she responds.
Definitely don't make
her your maid of honor.
It sounds like you already asked someone.
So that's set in stone.
If they bring it up again, say
like, Hey, I already asked my
friend to be the maid of honor.
If, you have other people, you're
gonna have you in the wedding as well,
just make sure you sound like you have
your ducks in a row, even if you don't
completely just say, you know what?
I've talked to this friend
and this friend, and they're
already gonna be in the wedding.
So sister can kind of figure out
if she wants to be on your good
side or if she wants to keep
being like, not very supportive.
so there's a lot of different moving
parts in it, but I feel like ultimately
you gotta listen to your gut because
there's so many people that I've
also heard from that caved, right?
they're like, you know what?
I'm just gonna be the peacemaker.
I'm gonna have this person in my wedding.
And then they regretted it
because they did something.
They made it about them.
They were rude at certain events.
so you really have to listen to your gut.
She wants to plan everything.
Say no, we got that taken care of.
Talk to your maid of honor.
Have her plan the bachelorette.
If your sister says, well, I'm not
coming, if I'm not planning it, then
say, alright, we'll, we'll miss you then.
be really firm on what you want and
surround yourself with people that
are going to love you and support
you because it's your time to shine.
All right.
That is the dilemma for this week.
Let me know what you guys think.
What would you do in this situation?
I know it's very complicated when
parents get involved and they want,
you know, siblings to be together,
but at the end of the day, it's your
wedding and you wanna be surrounded
by people that are gonna support you.
All right?
Getting into it.
Would you rather, would you rather remarry
in the same venue as your first wedding or
remarry in a courthouse with zero photos?
Okay.
Speaking on like personal, like I'm
saying, if something were to happen,
and I was getting remarried, I would
not want to go to the same venue.
I think that's very odd to me.
especially if you're inviting
like some of the same people.
So I would go courthouse.
I dunno.
I also feel like as I get older, I'm
like the smaller and smaller host.
So like even if my husband and I
were to do like a vow renewal or
anniversary party, I wouldn't wanna
do, I don't know, maybe anniversary
party would be different than a
remarry, but you know what I'm saying?
I don't know.
I feel like I would go courthouse.
Would you rather have your
ex publicly congratulate you
online or privately text you?
I miss you the week of your wedding.
Probably publicly congratulate you online.
Let's not make it weird.
Why are you privately texting me?
No.
Because then everyone else can
see like, oh, that's weird.
okay.
Would you rather your ex try to
talk for closure at the wedding?
Why is he at your wedding or post?
Should have been me on their story.
That's okay.
This is getting into some
romantic comedy type stuff.
The funniest part about this is my
husband puts together these show notes,
so he like put these all together.
okay.
I'll go with the post.
Should have been me on their story
because that makes them look weird.
Don't come to my wedding
and talk about closure.
Would you rather your divorced parents
refuse to be in the same photo or
they agree to photos, but start
sniping at each other the whole time?
I would say agree to be in photos because.
You know, if they've got their own
thing going on, the photographer
can say, okay, stop for two seconds.
Smile.
Great.
Now keep yelling at each time.
cause the refusal, I'm like,
it's a picture that you're
gonna put on your wall.
It's for you.
They're your parents.
Doesn't matter if they're
married or not anymore.
Let's grow up for like a couple
minutes and then part your ways.
Would you rather your parents new spouse
try to act like your bonus parent or
refuse to come because they feel excluded?
these are hard.
I mean, my parents are still married,
so I've never had a stepparent.
I have friends with divorced parents,
so I guess I can think through
their lens maybe as much as I can.
I guess it depends on
how new the spouse is.
if they got married a week before
and they're like 25 years old,
so they're like younger than me,
I would have an issue with that.
But if they've been married five
years and they're happy and I love
their relationship, then yeah.
I wouldn't want someone.
To leave because they felt excluded.
I think if they were important enough to
me as a stepparent, I would include them.
so yeah, I know that was like
a really complicated answer.
would you rather kick your sister
out of the wedding or let her stay?
But she gives the vibe, she
hates you the entire day.
This relates to that first dilemma.
if there are issues, I would
say just kick outta the way.
Leading up to the wedding, there's
constant issues where she's saying
rude things, putting you down.
Just clean, sweep out, because you
don't want her like glaring at you
in the background of photos or like
talking crap about you behind your back.
So, yeah.
All right.
Last one.
Would you rather uninvite a close
family member or invite them
and risk them causing a scene?
okay, uninvite.
If it's someone that's gonna cause
a scene in a negative way, then
I would just not invite them.
They're no, no questions asked.
All right, let's get into the first story.
I did include two because this
one seemed kind of shorter.
But sometimes I talk a lot, so
we're gonna see how that goes.
Okay.
Here's this week's story submission.
This story is about my brother
and his now ex-wife's wedding.
First of all, he never even proposed.
They attended their local Catholic
church regularly, one day she went
to the priest, asked about what dates
were available, and literally booked
a wedding without my brother knowing.
What, okay, I need to know, does anyone
know someone that has done this before?
Like I've seen things like in TV shows and
like movies, and I heard one story where
they booked a venue like two years in
advance because they were like, books out.
This is my dream venue.
And then during that time they met
their fiancé and it ended up working
out, but the fiancé was a part of it.
To just go to the priest and be
like, what dates are available?
And then book it.
That's kind of interesting.
Okay.
So yes, this is exactly the
type of person you're imagining.
She was awful, bossy, controlling,
and abusive towards my brother.
Wow.
Our whole family was hoping they would
break up, not get married, but my
brother is kind, gentle, and at that
point they already had two children.
So he went along with it because he
thought it would make life easier.
No marriage, if you're already
struggling, marriage and children
will only complicate things.
It's not gonna make things easier.
think we like see it all the time
where it's like people think, oh,
if we have kids together, be the dad
I want him to be, or she'll be this
like, no, if you're already struggling,
it's not gonna make it better.
Wedding planning was a nightmare.
They had no money, but she
wanted everything and she
demanded that we all chip in.
We live in the UK and while some
families do help pay for weddings, it's
far more common for couples to pay for
their own weddings like I'm doing now.
We aren't poor, but also don't have
thousands of pounds we can just hand
over because someone demands it.
Yeah, that's the thing
I always say is like.
It is great when family wants to help
or can help in any way, but you should
never get engaged expecting that
people are gonna pay for your wedding.
When you get engaged, you should
be like, okay, this is our budget
between the two of us, and then if
people wanna help, that's great.
That's a gift then.
But to have this idea of this huge
expensive wedding and not being
able to afford it yourselves,
I think that's a problem.
We gave money where we could,
and all she did was complain.
Then four weeks before the wedding, I
broke my foot and ended up in a boot.
I didn't wanna cause any drama or
attention, so I found heels the same
height as everyone else's wore one
heel, so it would still look normal.
She was not happy about that either.
What did you want her to do?
Like to take the boot off
just for your wedding day?
Like you gotta do what you gotta do.
At the church.
when the day finally came, the venue
looked beautiful and we were under the
impression that everything was fully
paid for, or so we thought at the church,
the priest accidentally called her by
the wrong name during the ceremony.
Oh, no.
That's like the worst kind of
person for that to happen to because
she's already like in a bad mood.
She's mean.
Not a great person.
It sounds like.
Honestly, that should have
been the first warning sign.
It immediately put her in a horrible mood.
Yeah.
I think most people wouldn't be happy.
When we got to the main venue,
she was rude to everyone.
She swore directly at people's
faces, called them awful names.
I would be leaving if the
bride was treating me that way.
I would be out of there.
There's no way.
Told everyone who would
listen that she hated today.
Then she got absolutely wasted,
not tipsy, not fun drunk, just
full on drunk, and she's got two
kids, I'm assuming that are there.
Okay.
She started walking around telling
people to F off, flipping everyone the
middle finger, and acting like she wanted
the entire day to burn to the ground.
What, this was your idea, this
was literally your idea and.
It's just like not up to
her standards or something.
By 6:00 PM nearly everyone had
left, including most of the guests.
And keep in mind, the
wedding only started at two.
Okay?
So people are like, yeah,
F this, I'm outta here.
I'm not staying.
I wouldn't be staying for that.
The only people still there were
my younger brother and her sibling.
Oh my gosh.
She then spent the rest of the
evening crying because she couldn't
understand why no one stayed.
I stayed mostly because I couldn't
believe what I was witnessing.
I ended up getting merely tipsy
with my brothers and honestly just
laughing at how unreal it all was.
The next day she sent a giant
message to everyone who attended,
telling them they ruined her day.
So you think it's your day
and you can just go around
talking to your guests that way.
People that traveled far attended this
wedding, took off work whatever they
needed to do, and they ruined your day.
No one responded.
And I think most people
went low contact With her.
A few weeks later, my brother
called me and my mom upset.
That's when we found out that she
hadn't actually used the money
we gave her to pay the vendors.
We ended up paying an additional
2,800 pounds to make sure my
brother didn't have trouble or debts
hanging over him because of her.
What?
Where did she use the money for?
Then, because it always gets worse
three months after the wedding,
she told my brother she was
pregnant with their third child.
They welcomed the baby eight months
after getting married, meaning
she was already pregnant when she
was blackout drunk at her wedding.
Oh my.
That was my first thought is like,
not her being pregnant, but like
having the kids at the wedding.
'cause it says she already has two kids,
but she was pregnant the whole time.
Wow.
And then about two months after their
daughter was born, she told my brother
to leave and admitted that she'd been
having an affair with someone from work.
Is that person the baby's father?
I have so many questions.
They've now been divorced for four years.
I hope he is happy.
I mean, that's really hard because
now you have children together, so
you still are gonna be around her.
You still have to see
her for certain things.
Oh my word.
Okay.
I would love to say it's been
peaceful, but she's still awful.
The only upside is I don't
have to deal with her anymore.
Even typing this out,
it doesn't feel real.
It honestly sounds like a made up story,
but unfortunately it all happened.
My brother is genuinely one of the
nicest people you'll ever meet, this
completely wrecked his mental health.
Thankfully, he has a lot
of support behind him.
That makes me so sad because like
it's that Nice person, right?
That gets walked all over.
They think they're being a good person,
but you need to have those boundaries
because like at the end of the day,
someone like this is gonna suck out your
soul because they're just like, I can
get whatever I want with this person
because they're the nice woman, nice girl.
I'm glad they separated, but
like I said, it's hard when
they're three kids together, to.
Balance what that life looks like
and it's hard for the kids then
to be shuffled back and forth.
cause she's now presumably
with this guy from work, maybe.
so that's, oh my gosh, that's, wow.
Well thanks for sharing that.
And I wish the best to you and
your brother and your whole family
because that sounds like a whole
rollercoaster to be thrown into.
only for it to end like that.
Wild.
I got a second story.
we gotta do a second story
'cause that wasn't that long.
All right, let's get into it.
My husband and I got married in the
middle of COVID on Juneteenth in 2021.
at that point.
We'd already been together for seven
years and had pushed our wedding date back
an entire year because of the pandemic.
I had a friend who had been my
childhood best friend since we were
eight years old, so of course I wanted
her to be one of my bridesmaids.
During the planning process, a very
close cousin of hers went missing.
The entire family was searching for her.
There were daily search parties, and my
friend was spending a lot of time going
out on her own to look for her cousin.
Obviously, I cared deeply about
the situation and completely
understood that it took priority.
Because of that, I gave her extra
time to go get her bridesmaid dress.
However, our wedding was in June
and the bridal shop told me that
March was the absolute latest month.
Anyone could order their dress.
They needed time for
shipping and alterations.
That's pretty understandable.
There usually is some kind of deadline
no matter where you get a dress from.
I explained this to her and told
her I completely understood that her
cousin came first and that it was
totally okay, but I also couldn't
keep pushing the dress deadline back.
I gently suggested that if things
were too overwhelming, she might want
to consider not being a bridesmaid.
I think that's a very,
Mature conversation to have.
Right?
Obviously the bridesmaid, the
friend is going through a lot.
I can't even fathom what that's like
to have a missing person in your
family, close friend, whatever that is.
I can't even imagine, like, I
literally just watched a show about
a child missing and I was like,
wouldn't even be able to go to bed.
Like, I'm sure it consumes you in
ways that you can't even imagine.
so that's very challenging to
be like, I love my friend over
here who's getting married.
I wanna support her, but my
cousin, my cousin, takes priority.
She got very upset with me and said she
already had an appointment at the bridal
shop later that week, and we'd be getting
her dress for the bridesmaid dresses.
I gave everyone creative control.
The only rule was that the
dresses had to be burgundy.
The style didn't matter.
Every other bridesmaid sent a picture
of their dress in the group chat
before buying it so no one had the
same one so I could approve them.
Her appointment day came and went.
Then days passed, about four days later,
I reached out and told her I couldn't
wait any longer and that I was really
sorry, but I was going to have to move
forward without her as a bridesmaid.
I mean, again, it's a mature conversation.
Sometimes people like.
You have the people pleaser
that's like, okay, whatever.
It's fine.
We'll keep them in.
doesn't matter what they do.
This story aside, in general, we
hear a lot of stories where we
have like a terrible bridesmaid or
something and they're just like, okay.
I just kept them in though because
I didn't wanna cause any drama.
This is a respectful conversation.
She said, Hey, I understand
you're going through a lot.
I understand that's a priority.
Please don't feel like
my wedding's a priority.
Like you can step down.
It's okay.
No hard feelings.
and then it sounds like she was reassured.
So it's hard when, sounds like
multiple weeks passed, right?
Because we're saying,
her appointment came in.
Went later that week was her
appointment, so it came in, went.
Multiple days passed and then
four days later, so we're talking
at least like a week and a half,
and she hasn't heard anything.
So for me, maybe I give too many chances.
I would be reaching out and saying like,
Hey, do you need help with anything?
How's everything going?
I probably would've
reached out one more time.
Again, I don't know if she did
or not, but I'm sure the bride is
like, okay, we have to move forward.
Like you need your dress at this
point the shop can't even get
your dress to the wedding in time.
She said she had already bought her
dress, couldn't return it, and went
on about how unfair I was being.
I told her, honestly, I had
no idea she bought anything
because she never said a word.
Here's the communication, or sent
a picture like everyone else.
I said, if she had already had the
dress to send me a photo so I could
see it, that made her even angrier.
So I'm thinking she probably
doesn't have the dress.
I think she's probably just saying that.
We also have to understand it's
a really complicated situation.
She's probably like think about when you
have like so many things going on, right?
And then on top of that, her
cousin's missing, I don't know where
they're at in the process during
this, but many sleepless nights.
I'm sure many calls with family members.
She's out searching, all
doing all these things.
So then she's trying her best in
all these different areas, right?
And then this friend's, like,
you're not in the wedding anymore.
I can understand getting a little angry.
I. not saying she's right or wrong,
I'm just saying I could understand
where you're like, look, I'm trying
my best, my cousin's missing.
Like I can't even imagine what
I would do or what, that kind
of does to your mental health.
Right.
she started cursing me out.. Calling
me inconsiderate and a bad friend,
even though I truly felt I had tried
to be as understanding as possible.
I explained again that everything
was already booked and planned.
I couldn't postpone the wedding
three months before the date.
Yeah, I mean, you can't
postpone the wedding.
You've everything booked and paid for.
I'm wondering Somehow the bridesmaid
was asking you to postpone it or just
because she didn't have the dress, you
were like, I had to postpone it now.
I wouldn't go to that length.
I reminded her, she's still invited,
still included in the photos,
still seated with my family.
I genuinely didn't understand
why she was so furious.
She cursed me out again, she
didn't attend the wedding.
on top of that, she convinced another
bridesmaid to drop out of the wedding too.
They're now best friends and I haven't
spoken to either of them since.
Was the cousin found?
I need to know this.
this is hard.
This is really hard because like I
said, it's a complicated situation.
I'm just thinking too, if like you had
a death in the family or if there was,
another kind situation where that takes
a lot of their brain space, right?
But at the end of the day too.
Things are still going on.
You're still getting married,
everything's still booked.
You can't push back the wedding date.
You need your bridesmaid there already.
I think there's a lot of
communication issue in this point.
I'm sure your bridesmaid or
ex bridesmaid's hurting a lot.
she's probably, like I said,
sleepless nights helping family out.
But where do you draw the line?
Right?
Where you like, okay, I either need
you, I don't, can you be here or not?
I think with someone like that.
I would have said, okay,
I'm glad you got your dress.
And just trust them, because at
the end of the day, you either
have an extra person up there or
you have one less person up there.
So I'd say like, okay, great.
Glad you got your dress.
You've got a lot on your plate.
And then if she showed up
that day, then you'd have her.
If not, you wouldn't have her.
and if she didn't have the dress,
then that's her own problem.
And then you can just take
other pictures with her.
Just because of the situation,
everything she's going through.
If it was someone else, like a
bridesmaid being really nasty, out of
nowhere and just being rude, then no.
I would just be like, okay,
you're out of the wedding.
Again, I'm not supporting her, cursing
her out and calling her inconsiderate.
But again, I don't know what that
would do to someone's mental health.
Going through that and having
a family member missing?
We don't know what happened.
I don't, there's no closure here.
So, it sucks when friendships
fall out because of weddings.
but even more so stressful situations
or life changes, can bring out
people's colors in different way.
Right.
I don't wanna say true colors because I'm
not calling either of them bad people.
It's just a challenging situation.
Of course, I'm not calling
either of bad people.
I think the cursing out was a bit much, I
don't think I would do that to a friend.
Everyone handles situations differently.
during my wedding I had, one
of my bridesmaids had, a family
thing going on, and I was just
like, you do what you have to do.
I only care about you
being at the wedding.
And that's that's the
closest thing I can think of.
Like, a couple serious things that
happened and I was just like, if
you can be there, that's great.
If you can't or you have to miss
my bachelorette party, it's okay.
We're still friends.
At the end of all this,
my wedding comes last.
that's going on with
your family right now.
Precedent.
So that's where I'm like, that's how
I think I would be in this situation.
but again, I was also a very like type B
bride, I would say like, yes, everything
on my part, on my side of things, I was
like, okay, I planned out everything.
I was very organized.
But when it came to
Groom suits and dresses.
I was very like, okay, groom
suits, order this off this site.
Done.
we're gifting you guys the shoes.
Here's that dresses.
Pick whatever style you want.
Pick the color out of these
family colors, you know?
but if someone just had told me like.
I like this dress.
It goes along with it.
I probably would've
been like, that's fine.
I wasn't crazy about stuff like that.
So, I don't know.
it's hard in those situations when,
there's other issues are kind of coming up
and people are dealing with other stuff.
We have to remember that other people's
lives don't stop because of our wedding.
And, you know, we hear of
pregnancy, other engagements moving.
But this is the first time we
heard of something like this
where someone was missing.
So yeah, that's what I
have to say about that.
You guys let me know what you guys think.
If just a reminder, all these episodes
are posted on YouTube in full, so I always
love to hear what you guys think about
these stories because you gotta remember I
read these first time as I react to them.
So a lot of times you guys will
call me out a couple times, not
anything bad, but you guys will be
like, oh, I think they meant this.
And I'm like, you're right.
Because sometimes I'm reading it
and I'm like, what does that mean?
Because I'm reading it in real time.
I'm thinking about this camera.
How's this gonna sound?
You know?
So, know what you guys
would do in that situation.
'cause that's, a very
complicated situation, for sure.
All right, let's end with some confessions
and then we'll be, we'll be on our way.
Okay.
For this week's confession, we
asked at your own or someone else's
wedding, what low key bothered
you, but you pretended was fine.
Okay.
I love this question.
Here we go.
All right.
Wedding, I was in the guest
ate dinner while the wedding
party had hours of photos.
What that would.
Annoyed me so bad if I was in a
wedding and they were like, you need
to be in all these photos and not eat.
I think one of the biggest issues,
biggest issue, I don't know.
One of the issues I see is when.
the bride and groom or the couple getting
married, always think that the bridesmaids
and groomsmen are there to serve them.
I've been in some weddings like that.
I've seen weddings like that where
they're like, oh, they'll just do this.
They'll set up the whole venue.
They'll, be in the pictures and
then they'll be on their way.
And I've been in weddings
where I was treated like.
So well, one of my best friends, she
had breakfast for us, a lunch for us.
She had her sweet, like
anything you could want.
She just wanted to take care of us.
She was like, I don't want
you guys to lift a finger.
And that's not to say like, you have
to pay more money for certain things.
It's just kinda looking at like
how you're treating people that
are taking time off to be there
for you to spend money for you.
so.
That's wrong in my opinion, what
this person can invest, okay, this
person says waiting two hours for
the reception to start while they
bar hopped with the wedding party.
Oh my gosh.
So they pushed back the reception
because the bride and groom
weren't back, is what I'm guessing.
You would hope they would have
cocktail hour with hors d'oeuvres.
I've been to a couple weddings
where the cocktail hour is
more like an hour and a half.
I don't know, maybe two sometimes.
But that's when they have like
little bites for everybody.
That's, again, you need to be
treating your guests like, thank
you so much for being here.
They're your guests.
Let's keep them fed,
let's keep them hydrated.
we can't forget about them.
Okay.
The couple arrived late to the
reception because they snuck
off to the hotel room first.
I mean, I know the couple weddings
where the couple breaks off
just to kinda like calm down.
If it's not stopping the
wedding, I don't mind it.
Like if you guys are already getting
fed and whatever, I don't mind it.
But if they're waiting for them to do
anything and you're just like sitting
around, then I think that's a problem.
All right, last one.
Because of the room, our table
couldn't see the whole dance floor.
We were off to the side.
That's hard.
Sometimes when it's a really big wedding,
there's someone that's shoved in the
corner and that's one of the reasons
why I kept my invites to a lower number.
'cause they told me like, oh,
if you invite this many, you're
gonna have a couple in the
hall or like down a little bit.
And I was like, I don't like that.
Okay.
I was gonna see if I missed any good ones.
You guys sent some good ones.
The small venue because it was way
too hot and everyone was dancing.
the couple disappearing
for too long, for photos.
I mean, you this is the
thing you have to remember.
It's their wedding day.
You are there as a guest if they
go take photos for a long time.
They want these special
photos for their wedding day.
Again, if you are fed, if there's
drinks, if there's music, enjoy the time.
It's not like the couple's gonna be
sitting at the table with you anyway,
so just let them do their thing
with the, photographer or whoever.
All right.
A relative's partner invited
their friend to meet them at my
evening reception without asking.
That's weird.
Don't meet anyone at your way.
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