<v Speaker 1>Here is the dangerous part. Envy does not want to

<v Speaker 1>protect to you. It wants to compete with you. Jealousy

<v Speaker 1>wants to hold you close, but envy wants to pull

<v Speaker 1>you down. Hey babe, it's Asia Christina.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome, Welcome to the channel, Welcome to the podcast.

<v Speaker 1>So today we are going to be talking about jealousy

<v Speaker 1>versus envy. Sometimes it can be interchangeable, but it's very

<v Speaker 1>important to actually make the distinction and to not preclude

<v Speaker 1>the fact that people will real life be jealous of you.

<v Speaker 1>I think what inspire this episode was I randomly saw

<v Speaker 1>this girl pop up on my TikTok and she was

<v Speaker 1>talking about her experience that she was friends with this

<v Speaker 1>girl and the girl literally was doing voodoo on her,

<v Speaker 1>and her grandmother actually had a dream God had revealed

<v Speaker 1>everything to the letter, even this girl's government name to

<v Speaker 1>the girl, and so she went to her friend's house

<v Speaker 1>to confirm and everything was in fact true. And it

<v Speaker 1>really inspired me to talk about this episode because I

<v Speaker 1>too have experienced that where someone did do that to

<v Speaker 1>me and they were trying to destiny swap with me.

<v Speaker 1>They were just so envious they just couldn't live another

<v Speaker 1>day not being me while accusing me of trying to

<v Speaker 1>be them love that. So it's very important that we

<v Speaker 1>make the distinction here, and I'm going to be talking

<v Speaker 1>about the spirit behind it as well as the psychology

<v Speaker 1>behind it as well. I have written down quite a

<v Speaker 1>bit of notes here when I was scripting this podcast.

<v Speaker 1>So there is a difference between jealousy and envy, right,

<v Speaker 1>And if you don't know the difference, you will misdiagnose

<v Speaker 1>certain people in your life. So you don't want to

<v Speaker 1>be the type of person that's calling envy love okay.

<v Speaker 1>You don't want to call jealousy passion, and you also

<v Speaker 1>don't want to call control protection, right, or you will

<v Speaker 1>end up staying around too long or sticking around people

<v Speaker 1>too long that are actually slowly resenting you. So we're

<v Speaker 1>going to be breaking down the biblical difference, the psychological difference,

<v Speaker 1>the subtle signs and also the consequences of staying connected

<v Speaker 1>to either. All right, So how do we divine what

<v Speaker 1>envy is? So envy is the desire for something another

<v Speaker 1>person has, like a two party type of dynamic, while

<v Speaker 1>jealousy is the fear of losing something you already possess

<v Speaker 1>to a rival, kind of like a three party dynamic.

<v Speaker 1>So envy involves longing and inferiority, whereas jealousy is rooted

<v Speaker 1>in suspicion, fear, and insecurity. So the key differences here

<v Speaker 1>is Envy is wanting, right, it focuses on I want

<v Speaker 1>what you have, such as talent, possessions, or even status,

<v Speaker 1>and I don't think that you deserve to have it,

<v Speaker 1>and it often involves feelings of inadequacy or resentment. Jealousy

<v Speaker 1>is a fear of loss. Right, so it focuses on

<v Speaker 1>I'm afraid that you will take what I have. Usually

<v Speaker 1>in relationships, it involves anger, distrust, and also possessiveness.

<v Speaker 2>It is desire versus fear.

<v Speaker 1>Right that wanting versus the fear of loss that is

<v Speaker 1>a distinguishing factor. So obviously, disappointment can then lead to sadness,

<v Speaker 1>which then leads to discontentment, and then it opens the

<v Speaker 1>door for bitterness, and then it takes root for resentment

<v Speaker 1>to grow. So envy often focuses on the thing that

<v Speaker 1>we want, which can then lead to jealousy, which often

<v Speaker 1>focuses on the person who possesses what we want. So

<v Speaker 1>let's break down the biblical difference. So, biblically, jealousy and

<v Speaker 1>envy are not the same. So in scripture, jealousy can

<v Speaker 1>be righteous or protective. So God even describes himself as

<v Speaker 1>jealous right in Exodus thirty four Versus fourteen, This is

<v Speaker 1>a covenantal jealousy for all my believers out there.

<v Speaker 2>You know, you know, you know what I'm talking about.

<v Speaker 1>It is about protecting what is all ready yours. So

<v Speaker 1>jealousy says this belongs to me, and it's tied to

<v Speaker 1>attachment and possession. So healthyjealousy protects covenant. What is an

<v Speaker 1>example of a covenant marriage? Right for all my believers

<v Speaker 1>out there, Unhealthy jealousy becomes control. So I was reading

<v Speaker 1>up on this and in Law and Liberty by Alan Redpath,

<v Speaker 1>he said that godly jealousy is love in action. He

<v Speaker 1>refuses to share the human heart with any rival, not

<v Speaker 1>because he's selfish and wants us all for himself, but

<v Speaker 1>because he knows that upon that loyalty to him depends

<v Speaker 1>on our very moral life. God is not jealous of us.

<v Speaker 1>He is jealous for us. Right, So when we think

<v Speaker 1>about what jealousy, how it's defined. He knows that the

<v Speaker 1>enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy, so he is

<v Speaker 1>jealous for us knowing what the enemy's goal is in

<v Speaker 1>our life.

<v Speaker 2>Okay.

<v Speaker 1>So then there are these characters named King Saul and

<v Speaker 1>also so David. So King Saul had jealousy towards David

<v Speaker 1>in first Samuel Versus eighteen, and it started out as insecurity, right,

<v Speaker 1>and then it turned into obsession. So after David, you

<v Speaker 1>know David and Goliath, the story of David and Goliath,

<v Speaker 1>that is the David that we are talking about. He

<v Speaker 1>became a national hero after he obviously defeated that giant.

<v Speaker 1>So the women of Israel were singing in the streets. Oh,

<v Speaker 1>Saul has slain his thousands and David his ten thousands,

<v Speaker 1>and that did not go over well with King Saul.

<v Speaker 2>Okay.

<v Speaker 1>So at first King Saul loved David and he brought

<v Speaker 1>him into the palace, and David even played the harp, right,

<v Speaker 1>you know, this is the same David that like, you know,

<v Speaker 1>dance like David dance.

<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah him. David played the harp to soothe him.

<v Speaker 1>And whenever he would be tormented and troubled in his mind,

<v Speaker 1>David would you know, play the harp for him to

<v Speaker 1>soothe his mind. And David was very loyal, brave, and

<v Speaker 1>he was a faithful person. So when Saul King, Saul

<v Speaker 1>had heard about the comparison, you know, thousands versus ten

<v Speaker 1>thousands that the woman were praising David after defeating the goliath,

<v Speaker 1>that's when jealousy entered.

<v Speaker 2>Jealousy then entered through comparison.

<v Speaker 1>So Saul was not losing his throne, He was not

<v Speaker 1>his throne, was not being threatened. David didn't even betray him,

<v Speaker 1>but Saul still felt threatened. Oh my goodness, how revelatory.

<v Speaker 1>This right here, before I even move any further, just

<v Speaker 1>goes speaks to the fact that it don't matter what

<v Speaker 1>some of you will ever do in life, it will

<v Speaker 1>still attract a hater, it doesn't You just existing and

<v Speaker 1>being yourself will attract somebody that.

<v Speaker 2>Is genuinely hating on you.

<v Speaker 1>Okay, So, like I said, what started as an insecurity

<v Speaker 1>started to turn into obsession, and so he even threw

<v Speaker 1>a spear at David twice, trying to literally pin David

<v Speaker 1>to the wall. He also was manipulating circumstances to send

<v Speaker 1>David into dangerous battles, hoping that he would literally die.

<v Speaker 1>He even pursued him across the wilderness to kill him. Meanwhile,

<v Speaker 1>David never even touched King Saul. He refused to harm him.

<v Speaker 1>Even when he was given the chance to get his

<v Speaker 1>lick back, he did not do it. So Saul's jealousy,

<v Speaker 1>it didn't begin with hatred, no, no no. It began

<v Speaker 1>with fear, fear of being replaced, fear of losing relevance,

<v Speaker 1>fear that someone else was more anointed, and that fear

<v Speaker 1>consumed him. Okay, so jealousy, when it's left unchecked, turned

<v Speaker 1>in this case a king into a hunter, chasing the

<v Speaker 1>very person that once brought him peace. How revelatory is that,

<v Speaker 1>where here you are trying to be a great friend

<v Speaker 1>to someone, you're you know, having a good time with them,

<v Speaker 1>in the dynamic completely just switches in turns because you

<v Speaker 1>were bringing peace to this person, you were being a

<v Speaker 1>true friend to this person after they had all these

<v Speaker 1>stories to tell about how they don't have any friends

<v Speaker 1>and all these different things, and they turn on you,

<v Speaker 1>the person that was literally just trying to be yourself

<v Speaker 1>and bring peace. Let's get into envy. Envy is different.

<v Speaker 1>Envy says I want what you have, and I don't

<v Speaker 1>think you deserve that. The first murder in the Bible,

<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, it was done over envy. Cain envied Abel.

<v Speaker 1>This is taking place in Genesis four. There is nothing

<v Speaker 1>new under the sun. Ladies and gentlemen, Okay, it's a

<v Speaker 1>tale as old as time. This happened in the biblical

<v Speaker 1>days as well. Envy is comparison plus resentment plus hostility.

<v Speaker 1>So in Genesis four, two brothers brought offerings to God,

<v Speaker 1>both Cain and Abel.

<v Speaker 2>So Abel brought his.

<v Speaker 1>Best to God, which was the first born of his flock.

<v Speaker 1>Cain brought an offering from his crops. However, God favored

<v Speaker 1>Abel's offering, and instead of correcting his heart, Cain compared himself, well.

<v Speaker 2>Why is Abel? You know?

<v Speaker 1>Why is God pleased with Abel more than me? But

<v Speaker 1>scripture says in scripture it says that his face fell.

<v Speaker 1>So God even warned him that sin is crouching at

<v Speaker 1>your door, but you must rule over it.

<v Speaker 2>He didn't. He didn't take heed to God's warning.

<v Speaker 1>Instead, he invited his brother into the field and killed him,

<v Speaker 1>his own brother. This really happened in real life, guys.

<v Speaker 1>These were real people in real life. So it wasn't

<v Speaker 1>that Abel harmed him. It wasn't that Abel, you know.

<v Speaker 1>It was the fact that Abel was accepted and he

<v Speaker 1>felt he wasn't. Abel brought the first born, which was

<v Speaker 1>the priority of his flock, and the fat portions, which

<v Speaker 1>was back in the day, obviously the best part. Cain

<v Speaker 1>he bought an offering, but it wasn't described that's his

<v Speaker 1>first or his best. This is about the heart posture

<v Speaker 1>behind what you were offering. That's what it was. Because

<v Speaker 1>I asked myself, well, why did God favor Abel's offering

<v Speaker 1>over Cain's, And it's because God knew the heart posture.

<v Speaker 2>God knows our hearts.

<v Speaker 1>Okay, he knew the heart posture of Cain, and he

<v Speaker 1>knew that Cain just brought him something good, but it

<v Speaker 1>was convenient. Abel was very honest in giving God his best.

<v Speaker 1>So Abel offered an offering by faith. So it wasn't

<v Speaker 1>about favoritism. It was about faith. And reverence, which is

<v Speaker 1>what God. Without faith, it's impossible to please God. Right

<v Speaker 1>gave God his first and his best, Cain, who appears

<v Speaker 1>to have given God what clearly was convenient right. Proverbs fourteen,

<v Speaker 1>verse thirty says, a sound heart is the life of

<v Speaker 1>the flesh.

<v Speaker 2>But envy the rottenness of the bones.

<v Speaker 1>When you look at different translations, it even compares it

<v Speaker 1>to cancer. Rottenness is like cancer of the bones. It

<v Speaker 1>just keeps on replicating. Envy decays the person that is

<v Speaker 1>carrying it, and it damages the person that they are around.

<v Speaker 1>It's a very grave and I'm using that word intentionally.

<v Speaker 1>It is a grave circumstance when you are around someone

<v Speaker 1>envious of you. I will never forget the day that

<v Speaker 1>I finally sunk in that a certain individual was envious

<v Speaker 1>of me, and I was scared because to feel the

<v Speaker 1>level of vitriol and hatred that someone has against you,

<v Speaker 1>and you genuinely didn't do anything to them, but exists,

<v Speaker 1>and everything that they are thinking has been manufactured, made

<v Speaker 1>up drama because they were just so envious of you

<v Speaker 1>that they wanted to destroy you, discredit you, destabilize you.

<v Speaker 1>They wanted to literally just take over and consume. They

<v Speaker 1>want to also control the narratives of how people see you,

<v Speaker 1>which is why they go so hard in discrediting you.

<v Speaker 2>They wanted to.

<v Speaker 1>They want to destroy you as well, which is why

<v Speaker 1>they will go on smear campaigns about you because they want.

<v Speaker 2>To see evil people like this.

<v Speaker 1>They want to see that you're hurting bad because now

<v Speaker 1>it makes them feel like they won something. If I

<v Speaker 1>can get them to feel defeated right then, and I

<v Speaker 1>can get no one to believe them, and I can

<v Speaker 1>get everyone on my side, I win you. Now you're

<v Speaker 1>worthless interesting. Okay, So let's talk about the psychological breakdown now. Psychologically,

<v Speaker 1>jealousy is the fear of loss.

<v Speaker 2>Right.

<v Speaker 1>It's attachment based, So it's gonna show up in romantic dynamics,

<v Speaker 1>you know, most often. So it's gonna look like, well,

<v Speaker 1>who was that? Why didn't you answer? Why are you

<v Speaker 1>dressing like that? It's anxious. It can feel territorial, it

<v Speaker 1>fears replacement. But at its core, jealousy is insecurity about

<v Speaker 1>losing something that you believe is yours. Envy is inferiority

<v Speaker 1>plus comparison.

<v Speaker 2>Is it landing now?

<v Speaker 1>So envy is going to show up in friendships, families, workspaces.

<v Speaker 2>And romantic dynamics too. I mean, we can't even preclude that, and.

<v Speaker 1>It's gonna sound like backhanded compliments, subtle minimizing, Yeah, must

<v Speaker 1>be nice. Passive dissonance, you know, passive distance whenever you're

<v Speaker 1>winning in life.

<v Speaker 2>You know, energy shifts whenever you elevate.

<v Speaker 1>They always want to try and talk about, Oh, they

<v Speaker 1>just can't believe this new you and oh wow, it

<v Speaker 1>wasn't it just yesterday that you were doing this and

<v Speaker 1>saying this, and now you're not. Like wow, They just

<v Speaker 1>have to keep up and adjust to the new you.

<v Speaker 1>Envy does not want to protect to you. It wants

<v Speaker 1>to compete with you, all right, And this here is

<v Speaker 1>the dangerous part. Jealousy wants to hold you close, but

<v Speaker 1>envy wants to pull you down.

<v Speaker 2>So what are the signs of that.

<v Speaker 1>Well, the signs of jealousy looks like monitoring your behavior,

<v Speaker 1>isolation tactics, accusations without any evidence, control that's disguised as

<v Speaker 1>care and concern or emotional punishment. So over time, that's

<v Speaker 1>gonna look like possessiveness, which is gonna lead into suspicion,

<v Speaker 1>and then that's gonna lead into rage.

<v Speaker 2>The signs of envy.

<v Speaker 1>They're gonna celebrate you publicly, but they're gonna withdraw privately.

<v Speaker 1>They're gonna copy you while they're criticizing you. But oh,

<v Speaker 1>let's not preclude the fact that there is a strong

<v Speaker 1>cognitive dissonance when people copy you and then criticize you.

<v Speaker 1>It's unbelievable and it's borderline infuriating. I used to always

<v Speaker 1>make this joke about, you know, this one girl that

<v Speaker 1>like went on a smear campaign about me, that like

<v Speaker 1>she looked in the mirror and she saw my face

<v Speaker 1>and then accuse me of trying to copy her. I've

<v Speaker 1>never even I wouldn't, I wouldn't genuinely respectfully, Like it's

<v Speaker 1>been so long at this point, but it's like I've

<v Speaker 1>never consumed this person's content like at all.

<v Speaker 2>And what was so bizarre is.

<v Speaker 1>Like people would eat up the things that she was saying,

<v Speaker 1>and it was just kind of insane because I'm like,

<v Speaker 1>are we okay?

<v Speaker 2>We don't look alike act to like nothing, Like.

<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't even know if we spoke about the same

<v Speaker 1>things because I don't look at this person like at all,

<v Speaker 1>so like I wouldn't know. So my question is how

<v Speaker 1>do you know what I'm always doing when I'm not

<v Speaker 1>even interested in what you're doing?

<v Speaker 2>It's you know what I mean? And this is another

<v Speaker 2>thing too.

<v Speaker 1>I also want to say this as a PSA people,

<v Speaker 1>I'm starting to notice a theme in life that people

<v Speaker 1>always people that act like they always want to put

<v Speaker 1>someone onto something. You guys, tend to be the people

<v Speaker 1>that go on smear campaigns about individuals that you swear

<v Speaker 1>you've put onto something. If those people that you deem

<v Speaker 1>as irrelevant are in fact irrelevant, why do you drag

<v Speaker 1>their names and constantly try to bring them down and

<v Speaker 1>change other people's perception of them if they are in

<v Speaker 1>fact irrelevant. Because I'll tell you this, with what I've

<v Speaker 1>accumulated on my platforms and my success, I'm not going

<v Speaker 1>to go around going on smear campaigns about anyone because

<v Speaker 1>I don't want to bring light to these situation. I

<v Speaker 1>don't want to bring attention to the situation, especially in

<v Speaker 1>real time. I would never do it in real time.

<v Speaker 1>So it's just I just don't understand. It's giving like lie,

<v Speaker 1>manipulation and control. I digress. So, like I said, they

<v Speaker 1>will get quiet when you win, but they always want

<v Speaker 1>to be celebrated with the stuff that they do. They're

<v Speaker 1>very braggadacious about it, very loud about it. Okay, they

<v Speaker 1>bond with your enemies. Oh since when? Okay, so, yeah,

<v Speaker 1>you're obviously gonna bond with somebody when you have a

<v Speaker 1>common enemy.

<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm I understand that that's the truth.

<v Speaker 1>But I'm just against smear campaigning because to me, it

<v Speaker 1>screams guilty. It screams I want to get in front

<v Speaker 1>of it. Unless you your life was harmed, this person

<v Speaker 1>scammed you out of money, this person threatened your life

<v Speaker 1>in any capacity, that's different. But if you had a

<v Speaker 1>friendship fallout, whatever basic stuff happens, you know, there's a

<v Speaker 1>lot of nuance to it. But whatever, I do not

<v Speaker 1>understand why you are going around involving millions of other

<v Speaker 1>people or even relationally. You're involving your network of people

<v Speaker 1>into something that they had no clue about. Nobody was

<v Speaker 1>even asking. But you're just offering up this information. It's classless,

<v Speaker 1>it is, and it's uncouth.

<v Speaker 2>Grow up.

<v Speaker 1>Also, they subtly compete with you instead of trying to collaborate.

<v Speaker 1>You ever notice that people are always trying to make

<v Speaker 1>it again, it's that put I put this person on

<v Speaker 1>mentality or I got invited you, I got you invited

<v Speaker 1>to this and this, and I did this and I

<v Speaker 1>did what's the intention behind it? They want to feel

<v Speaker 1>like they are helping you, like they are your savior.

<v Speaker 2>Right.

<v Speaker 1>Envy is a lot more colder than jealousy is because

<v Speaker 1>it's less loud, but it's way more strategic the strategy

<v Speaker 1>in trying to take you down.

<v Speaker 2>Let's get into it.

<v Speaker 1>So what are the consequences of staying close to people

<v Speaker 1>that are like this? This is the part that people

<v Speaker 1>do ignore. Do not ignore the signs in the Bible.

<v Speaker 1>It even says jealousy is as cruel as the grave, right, Like,

<v Speaker 1>you have to think of envy also like a cancer,

<v Speaker 1>a cancer that it will poison anyone around with a

<v Speaker 1>listening ear to get them to dislike you as well,

<v Speaker 1>because they need to isolate you so that other people

<v Speaker 1>can see you through the lens that they see you through,

<v Speaker 1>or that the lens or the lens that.

<v Speaker 2>They've created for people to see you through.

<v Speaker 1>Because clearly they think a lot of you, which is

<v Speaker 1>why they want to tear you down. Right, So if

<v Speaker 1>you stay around jealous people, you're going to shrink so

<v Speaker 1>that you can keep them calm. Remember, jealousy is more

<v Speaker 1>about possession. You're gonna start to dim your light, You're

<v Speaker 1>going to start to over explain, You're going to start

<v Speaker 1>to walk on eggshells, you know, and you're in general

<v Speaker 1>just living a lot smaller so that they don't really

<v Speaker 1>feel threatened.

<v Speaker 2>If you stay close to envious people, you will get sabotaged.

<v Speaker 1>It's not if, babe, it's when you will get sabotage.

<v Speaker 1>You were not different, you were next. Envy historically destroys relationships.

<v Speaker 1>Saul literally tried to kill David in the Bible. Cain

<v Speaker 1>actually did kill Abel, his brother over jealousy, I mean

<v Speaker 1>over envy. Envy escalates if it's not dealt with, and

<v Speaker 1>it rarely actually ever is so psychologically, envy is going

<v Speaker 1>to lead to character assassination, social undermining, withholding support, emotional distance,

<v Speaker 1>the big one, betrayal. Because here's the truth, envy does

<v Speaker 1>not resolve through reassurance. It doesn't matter how many times

<v Speaker 1>you can reassure somebody. I can't tell you how exhausting

<v Speaker 1>it was if only I knew I was wasting my

<v Speaker 1>time with certain individuals thinking that I'm showing them I'm

<v Speaker 1>being kind and I'm trying to have honest and open

<v Speaker 1>communication with them, And then all I'm doing is buying

<v Speaker 1>myself time till the next time that they collude and

<v Speaker 1>horrid ideas in their head. Like it's just exhausting to

<v Speaker 1>like always feel like someone has a problem with you.

<v Speaker 1>You're just existing and you're feeling like your existence is

<v Speaker 1>a problem for them. Just let me go then, And

<v Speaker 1>then the thing is when you leave these types of dynamics,

<v Speaker 1>they want to run a smear campaign on you. Still

<v Speaker 1>you're the one that doesn't want to be their friend

<v Speaker 1>and they're upset about it. If I was the problem

<v Speaker 1>and I left, why do you still have a problem?

<v Speaker 2>Hello? Oh okay.

<v Speaker 1>So the reason that envy does not just resolve through

<v Speaker 1>assurance is because it's not about you.

<v Speaker 2>It's about their inadequacy.

<v Speaker 1>That's why it doesn't matter how many times you assure

<v Speaker 1>someone you reassure them, it's not going to work. So

<v Speaker 1>you have to do a self check right before you

<v Speaker 1>demonize everybody. Ask yourself, have I been jealous? Have I

<v Speaker 1>been envious? Because jealousy can be healed, you know, with

<v Speaker 1>reassurance and security. Envy, though, requires identity, work and gratitude.

<v Speaker 1>Be thankful for what you have going on. Focus on

<v Speaker 1>your life. A lot of these people also have monitoring spirits.

<v Speaker 1>They are very much in the know, very much in

<v Speaker 1>the know about what's going on in your life. They

<v Speaker 1>can tell you how many times you upload.

<v Speaker 2>It to Instagram. They're hate watching you.

<v Speaker 1>I don't understand why she even wore that dress, Like

<v Speaker 1>she said she didn't even like it, and now she's

<v Speaker 1>posting about it. Oh, I feel like like you are

<v Speaker 1>passing all these opinions and judgment.

<v Speaker 2>I do not understand it. Just be done, babe, Just

<v Speaker 2>be done.

<v Speaker 1>If you don't like someone, you know you don't have

<v Speaker 1>to follow them, right, you know, you don't have to

<v Speaker 1>engage with them, right.

<v Speaker 2>You know?

<v Speaker 1>You clearly are getting some sort of emotional payoff by

<v Speaker 1>consistently ruminating on trying to talk about this person. And

<v Speaker 1>it's weird and it's unbecoming. Okay, we don't do that

<v Speaker 1>over here. It is just absolutely bizarre to me that

<v Speaker 1>people do operate like this. And this is why I

<v Speaker 1>study things and do episodes like this, because I want

<v Speaker 1>to get to the bottom of this myself.

<v Speaker 2>Okay.

<v Speaker 1>The reason envy also requires identity work is because these

<v Speaker 1>people feel like you existing is a threat to their identity.

<v Speaker 1>You're existing like you don't deserve to breathe the same

<v Speaker 1>error as them. You shouldn't be on the earth at

<v Speaker 1>the same time as them. It's basically you or it's

<v Speaker 1>me mentality, Like I don't know what is going on

<v Speaker 1>in some of these people's minds, but it's like a

<v Speaker 1>very juvenile, elementary cave man mentality of like it is

<v Speaker 1>genuinely you or it's me, And it's like, Babe, the

<v Speaker 1>world is so big.

<v Speaker 2>Are you okay? Are you well?

<v Speaker 1>You definitely like you can not be friends with people

<v Speaker 1>that are envious of you. They will go to great lengths.

<v Speaker 1>Character assassination is just a casualty, okay. They will go

<v Speaker 1>to great lengths to end you. They will literally try

<v Speaker 1>to cause you harm. They will seek, you know, spiritual

<v Speaker 1>advisement via witchcraft, voodoo, who do whatever you want to

<v Speaker 1>call it. They will go to these lengths because that's

<v Speaker 1>how much you consume their mind and they are that

<v Speaker 1>envious of you. And when you are an unsuspecting person

<v Speaker 1>like I was, you don't think anyone could ever hate

<v Speaker 1>you that much, because what did you ever do to

<v Speaker 1>them seriously, like, what did you ever do to them

<v Speaker 1>that they would feel this strongly that they would know

<v Speaker 1>you very much?

<v Speaker 2>Are that important to some people? Unfortunately?

<v Speaker 1>I know it sucks, but unfortunately, for some ill individuals,

<v Speaker 1>that's the reality of the situation. Okay, So jealousy, like

<v Speaker 1>I said, says I am afraid to lose, and envy

<v Speaker 1>says I don't believe that I can become this, so

<v Speaker 1>I have to steal this from you. I have to

<v Speaker 1>try and steal your identity because I should be that.

<v Speaker 1>But they haven't built the work to do it themselves.

<v Speaker 1>They don't actually believe that they're even capable of doing it,

<v Speaker 1>and that is a deeper wound. So in conclusion, some

<v Speaker 1>of you might be calling envy miscommunication, Babe, it's not.

<v Speaker 1>Please read the writing on the wall. Your life is

<v Speaker 1>at stake, and I say that with conviction. Some of

<v Speaker 1>you are calling jealousy passion.

<v Speaker 2>All right. Discernment is going to.

<v Speaker 1>Be the key in helping you distinguish the difference, because

<v Speaker 1>you can never build a peaceful life with people who

<v Speaker 1>resent your lights. Your existence is bringing out their demons. Okay,

<v Speaker 1>they're manifesting. If somebody feels competitive with your purpose and

<v Speaker 1>with your calling, your beauty, your peace, your growth.

<v Speaker 2>They're always trying to tear you down.

<v Speaker 1>Oh girl, Well you know, you know she's only pretty

<v Speaker 1>because because she got her teeth done. Yeah, you know,

<v Speaker 1>she's only pretty because she like does her makeup in

<v Speaker 1>a certain way. Like, yeah, you should see her without makeup.

<v Speaker 1>She doesn't even look that pretty. You know. It reminds

<v Speaker 1>you of like mean girls with like Katie Herron was like,

<v Speaker 1>you know, she you know, she's not even that pretty

<v Speaker 1>if you really look at her, like she kind of

<v Speaker 1>looks like a man, you know, and it's like you're

<v Speaker 1>just really reaching, all right, and it's just not safe

<v Speaker 1>long term.

<v Speaker 2>So if you find envy in yourself.

<v Speaker 1>Bring it to God before this rots in your spirit, okay,

<v Speaker 1>because comparison is the fastest way to corrupt gratitude. All right,

<v Speaker 1>we're just gonna keep it nice and short on today.

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