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Hi, welcome to the podcast.

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Hello.

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Thanks for coming on.

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So you are the CliffNotes gal, and
I know many people know of you as a

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CliffNotes gal, but kind of to get
started, who are you and how did you get

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into  summarizing these long stories?

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I remember the first, well, and I
can talk about it later, but the

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first time I saw you, it was just
like, this is saving me so much time.

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You cover all these amazing,
stories into a quick little summary.

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So I know that wasn't

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so

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long way

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Yeah.

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Showing my age here, but it's happened
during COVID, I did the typical, like I

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needed a break from being bored in the
house, which when I say that I think

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of that song off the top of my head.

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I'm bored in the house and
I'm bored in the house.

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Yeah.

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I would take 20 minutes
every day as my lunch break.

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I would go learn a new dance and I
would do it and I would record it.

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And one of the days I decided I
didn't wanna learn a new dance, I was

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just gonna scroll and find stories.

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And I don't remember what the story was
about, but there was this long drawn

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out story that I watched for probably,
I think I watched probably 10 videos.

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'cause that's back when like
videos had to be shorter on TikTok.

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And by the time I got to the end, I
was like, I just wasted 15 minutes

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of my lunch break when this person
could have said it in a minute.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I was so annoyed.

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so I stitched one of
the parts and just said.

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This is what the story was about here's
the whole story in less than a minute.

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And I spoke really, really fast.

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and it blew up.

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I mean, blew up millions of
views when all of my videos were

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just like me doing dance trends.

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'cause I am a dancer as well.

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I did ballet, I did Point
and Lyrical for 14 years.

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I do hip hop now and love to dance.

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But yeah, it blew up.

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And then I didn't know what to
have as my name at that point.

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It was called something else,
Southern something, I think.

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And I was like, y'all,
what do I call myself?

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And I still have the screenshot
during COVID of someone saying,

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well, you're doing the cliff notes.

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And since you're like
Southern Gal something.

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You should just be the CliffNotes gal. And
I have yet to repost that clip and I need

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to, 'cause I have the screenshot telling
that person, like, thank you so much.

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so I became the CliffNotes gal and
so showing my age, some people don't

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know what CliffNotes are, really
teenagers today, they see her and

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they have no idea who the Cliff
notes or what the Cliff notes is.

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so for anybody watching this, back in the
day when I was in high school, in college,

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if there was a book that you had to read
and you had a test coming up on it, you

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wanted to get the shorter version of it
so you didn't have to read the 500 pages.

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So there was this yellow and black
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out there called Cliff's Notes.

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' cause his name was Cliff I think.

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And it was Cliff's Notes.

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And that shortened the story.

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And so you were able to read the Cliff's
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book and then go take the test on it.

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Oh my.

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So I do the shorter
versions of TikTok stories.

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So I just learned something from
you because I remember cliff notes.

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Yeah, it's Cliffs.

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Cliff's Notes.

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But I remember as a website in high

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school.

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Oh was it?

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Oh my gosh.

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Actual show.

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I don't, that

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even shows my age even more.

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I was like, I don't remember an actual
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know if thinking of the wrong thing.

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' cause I do remember people using
Cliff's notes for books in high school.

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And I'm sure I did.

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I don't really remember.

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I just remember hearing
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That's wild.

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But I was talking about it to
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remember doing book reports and like
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having to actually pull out like.

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All the encyclopedias and reference it.

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And I'm like, kids these days they can
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Using, using ai.

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It's like all their stuff and
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I don't even know.

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what?

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And there, there was something else
that came out after Cliff's Notes.

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I think it was called SparkNotes.

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SparkNotes, yes.

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That's SparkNotes came out after.

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But back when Cliff's Notes existed
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that you went to the bookstore.

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It was yellow and black and you went
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Wild.

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Golly.

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I feel old.

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No, honestly, like it
probably was around for me.

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I just don't really remember.

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I remember SparkNotes now
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Well, if you remember SparkNotes then
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paperback version of Cliff's Notes.

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Because I never used SparkNotes because
that was way after I graduated college.

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Oh my gosh.

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That's so funny.

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That's so funny.

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'cause people are probably
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They're like, oh, cliff
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She came up with, well it's funny 'cause
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up with character names from movies that
I grew up watching or like shows I watch.

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'cause it helps me remember like,
oh, the mom's so and so dad so and so

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because I call them by the wrong name.

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People would call me on, they'd
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Ashley, not Anna, or whatever.

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And so one day I did, characters
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I just like, it was a movie I
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And so I just grabbed Ferris and Sloan and
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it was like I turned into a book and I
was like, I don't want the same names.

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Anyway, so I made a video talking
about how like, yeah, these names

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came from this movie and all these
people were like, what's that movie?

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And I was like.

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How old are you?

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This is like a staple
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Yes.

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So it was just kind of funny.

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I was like, oh, I just assumed
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Wrong on me.

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I grew up with like, I
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I loved Dirty Dancing, but they
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rough remake that came out that

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I've not even seen that one.

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I refuse to

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Don't waste your Time.

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Some that are remake, I'm
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If they ever, I don't think they
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That's another classic.

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Love that.

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I gave the second dirty dancing about 20
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Really?

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It was rough.

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It was rough.

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Okay, so back to your, channel and
everything like, so it kind of started,

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you said like unexpectedly, like, did
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creator that has this big platform or.

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I had no intentions of that.

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And I'll be honest with you,
I still don't feel like I am.

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I'm in Baton Rouge, Louisiana,
and so Louisiana is a small state.

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it's funny when I'm in parades,
like I ride in the St. Patrick's Day

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parade every year, and it never fails.

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Every time I'm on a float, like people
are screaming from the street, like the

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Cliff Notes gal to throw beads to them.

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and so many people say this and it pisses
me off when they say it because like when

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they say, I'm just an everyday person,
I really am and I try to be my page.

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I try and stay like me to the core.

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So I will tell stories.

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In my pajamas.

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I will tell stories
with rough ass hairdos.

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I don't wear makeup hardly ever.

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I don't really wear makeup much anyway.

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The only thing that you'll normally
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necklace because I love jewelry.

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but I try and stay as real as because
there are so many people that I

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used to follow and I'm so happy for
them that their pages have grown.

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Like that's awesome for them.

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But I have slowly watched them change.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I don't want to become that.

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I want to still be the person
when I did my first Cliff notes.

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And I hope that my viewers
still see that by comments.

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It sounds like they still do.

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I try and stay respectful
with the stories that I do.

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but at the same time, it's
weird having a platform because.

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I do wanna make sure that every
so often a video that I do, I

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feel like I'm making a difference.

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it's a little draining to
continue constantly doing things

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that are just stupid ass drama.

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or things that are really, really,
really intense and can affect people.

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Mm-hmm.

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It can be extremely draining because
some of these stories take a long time,

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and I should have brought it with me.

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I have a notebook, that it is thick
as hell and it's my second notebook

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because I take so many notes watching
these stories, and then I refer to

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the notes when I'm retelling them
and try to memorize as much as I can.

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Every so often I'll have to use
a teleprompter to remind me of

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notes that I need to discuss
while I'm telling the story.

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But, It's just weird.

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I'm still a normal person.

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I hope people see me that way.

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'cause I don't ever wanna come
across as fake as hell out there.

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No, I totally understand what you're
saying though, because like you do see

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some accounts that automatically change
to like, let me show off what I own.

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Let me show you this.

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and I know you're just saying like, I
hate when people say that, but like,

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there's been this couple times where
I've been out in my town and someone

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will be like, I love your videos like
And they feel like almost like celebrity.

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they'll be like, oh, can I get a pic?

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Like, I love your videos.

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I'm your biggest fan.

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I'm like, I'm swear to God.

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I'm very normal.

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I have a toddler running around
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I'm wearing pajamas at home.

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Like I am very.

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Weird mother.

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Just, I don't know, I'm just me.

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That's awesome though.

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Like, stay that way.

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so, my husband and I, every year
we go to a small town in Louisiana.

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It's called Minden, Louisiana.

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When I tell you it is the
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So it is the type of town to where
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but you've got like the cute little
coffee shop where they, roast their

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own beans and you've got a couple of
restaurants and you've got a couple

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of shops, but it's like mm-hmm.

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True Hallmark Town.

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Well, we were down there for Christmas
and I went into one of the clothing

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shops, which is like a, thrift shop.

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It's called Purvey.

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It's owned by a woman named Sarah, who
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And her mission is to, take like
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and bring them back to like life.

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And she's done an amazing job.

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And so we went down there, we
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that was absolutely gorgeous.

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It inspired my background.

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The room that we stayed in at her cottage
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so that's the reason why I got this.

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but anyway, we went to Purvey.

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We were shopping in there and I was
looking at the record, collection that

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they had, and this woman tapped me and
she was like, are you the Cliff Notes gal?

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And I was like, I am.

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And so we chatted for a few minutes.

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And then she went to go leave and she
was like, it's so nice to meet you.

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I was like, it's awesome to meet you too.

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Like, I hope y'all have a Merry Christmas.

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And then her husband is like,
well wait, babe, don't you

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wanna get a picture with her?

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And she was like, no, no, no.

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I don't wanna ask her for that.

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I don't wanna ask her.

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It's like, no, we can take a picture.

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So I could tell like she wanted to,
but so I'm so glad that her husband

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said something because I tell people
the people will leave stuff in

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the comments like, oh my gosh, I
saw you at such and such in town.

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And I'm like, y'all come say hello.

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don't come attack me, but like,
come say hello we're from the south.

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Like I am so happy to say hello.

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And I mean, I've had people that, like,
we've been out to dinner at a restaurant

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and they have been so absolutely polite.

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It was another young couple that
came up to us while I was at the

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table and they were super polite.

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I think that there is a polite
way to address people and

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there is a non-police way.

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just be polite and I'm super
happy to like say hello and chat

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and take pictures or whatever.

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Yeah, yeah.

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It's fun.

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Yeah, no, definitely.

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I feel like that's the beauty of
social media and storytelling is the

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connection that you can make and I've
met so many amazing people and just

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like through doing this podcast, 'cause
like I was just saying, I'm like, most

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of the time I'm with my husband and my
daughter and we just do our own thing.

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I work from home.

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So it's like, this is a great
way to like meet other people.

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'cause like, I don't, go to
regular office and all that stuff.

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but I love that, it's cool the
connections you can make of people,

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all over and obviously you're making
an impact because people are, feel

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like they know you in some way to
be able to like go up and say hello.

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So.

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That's awesome.

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I appreciate it.

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okay, so it kind of started off where
you were like, these videos are taking

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so long, so I'm gonna make them shorter.

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Right.

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So how do you now select which
videos to do and how do you know

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they're gonna be worth your while?

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Or do you watch some and you're like,
I don't even know if it's worth it, or

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do you get tagged in a lot of videos?

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Like how do you select those?

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So I am super, super thankful to the
followers because I wouldn't find any

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of these stories if it weren't for them.

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My entire FYP on TikTok is
animals and sourdough bread.

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that's about it.

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That's about it.

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And so I'm typically not scrolling
and seeing, I don't see any of this

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stuff on my FYP, so I wake up in the
mornings, kind of like what my routine

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is, I'll wake up in the mornings
and I'll scroll in the mornings

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before I start, my actual real job.

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And I'll see how many tags I've got.

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Majority of the mornings, it's about
anywhere from a hundred to 200 tags.

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Most mornings if I wake up and there's
only a short few, I can typically scroll

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through and watch a few seconds of the
tags to figure out which video I wanna do.

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If there's a lot of them.

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I actually wait until that.

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And I'll have to scroll
the hundreds of tags.

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Mm-hmm.

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If there is a certain video that I
find I'm being tagged in more, that's

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normally the one that I will settle on.

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and then I just put in my headphones
and I sit in bed and I write

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notes for however long it takes
me to get through all the parts.

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I will do it in one
night, so then it's fresh.

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I will then type out the notes that I want
to talk about and then every day I film or

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record outside after I finish my day job.

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I normally do it around like six
or seven o'clock while the sun is

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still up and I give myself two takes.

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That is it, it again comes back to me
like I try to be as real as possible.

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So when IF up in a video, I talk over
myself a lot and I mess up words.

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I don't go back and rerecord
'cause I ain't got time for that.

323
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Yeah.

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I love that you do.

325
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I'm a mom as well, so if IF up on
it, you're gonna see me f up on it.

326
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Yes.

327
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I need to get better at that.

328
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I love that you do that because like, I
don't know if it's like from working in

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social media marketing, I'm like, I'm
always like overthinking how I sound.

330
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Plus people are so like critical in
comments sometimes that I'm like,

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oh, did I pronounce that word wrong?

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Or whatever.

333
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But like, I think people
love to see real like that.

334
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I was talking to someone recently
and I'm like, people don't like

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the over performance anymore.

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They're so turned off by it.

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They want real people with real content

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perfection.

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These is so fake.

340
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It is so fake.

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again, I don't need to have perfect hair.

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some videos.

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If you go and scroll back on my videos,
you will see I didn't even brush my hair.

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Literally didn't brush my hair.

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I threw it in a ponytail because the
notes were like fresh in my brain

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and I was like, I'm just gonna go
hurry up and record it right now.

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perfection doesn't happen.

348
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That's the thing.

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Mm-hmm.

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So I would highly encourage you,
you don't need to fix it if you

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messed up on the word, so be it.

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If you like trampled over your words
and messed up on 'em, still use it.

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I mean, I'd rather see someone being
more real than having to cut something

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out because it wasn't perfect.

355
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Then you rerecorded it and
you put it back in there.

356
00:15:04,623 --> 00:15:07,173
But then I can tell it's a cut
because you went to the next part.

357
00:15:07,417 --> 00:15:07,863
Right.

358
00:15:08,223 --> 00:15:10,300
yeah, there's too many
people trying too hard.

359
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And the thing is, is the viewers
can tell they're not stupid.

360
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Yeah.

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They can tell.

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Oh yeah.

363
00:15:15,747 --> 00:15:16,377
Yeah.

364
00:15:16,717 --> 00:15:20,927
I think too, it's like that, I feel
like it was like pre TikTok, that like

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Instagram of like the perfect photos.

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Oh gosh.

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Crisp and clean and editing them.

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And then people just realized like, most
of us don't have time for that shit.

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Like, no,

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no,

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we're busy, we're wanting to
work, we're taking care of kids,

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dogs, whatever, whatever it is.

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And it's like, we don't have time
to like, make everything crisp and

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clean and it's more relatable too.

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I feel like, when I see someone that's
just like jumped on their bed and they're

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like, Hey, and they just start talking.

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I'm like, I'm so much more intrigued.

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I'm like, we're friends hanging out.

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Like talk to me like we're on FaceTime.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I'm gonna be more intrigued
listening to your video than if you

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just sat there to just be a robot.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I find that like, some
people are like that with.

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Brand deals, which I mean, shit.

386
00:16:04,612 --> 00:16:06,172
Oh, I don't know if I
can cuss on your podcast.

387
00:16:06,172 --> 00:16:06,292
Sorry.

388
00:16:06,292 --> 00:16:06,712
Oh, you're fine.

389
00:16:06,862 --> 00:16:06,952
Yeah.

390
00:16:07,522 --> 00:16:07,542
Oh, okay.

391
00:16:07,567 --> 00:16:10,342
Uh, I'm like, get the bag.

392
00:16:10,462 --> 00:16:14,658
definitely get the bag, but at the same
time, don't get the bag for something

393
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that you wouldn't actually use.

394
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there are a lot of creators out
there, and especially I find with

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like facial products or even like
shampoos or conditioners or something,

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if you're gonna review a product,
I need you to truly, truly use it.

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Like really, really, really use it.

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Don't tell me you used it for two weeks
and then it's the most amazing thing that

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you used when for whatever product that
is, you know damn well it would take a

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good like three to six months of you using
that product to see it like in action.

401
00:16:46,495 --> 00:16:52,735
Yes, because too, I find that when people
are so inauthentic, then it makes people

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that are authentic, like harder to.

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Come across.

404
00:16:57,555 --> 00:16:57,957
makes sense.

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00:16:57,957 --> 00:16:57,987
I

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00:16:57,987 --> 00:16:59,247
totally understand what you're saying.

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Yes,

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because I've had people I remember.

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00:17:01,047 --> 00:17:05,510
I like, I'm very selective and I
remember, this brand that I actually

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used in my own wedding, birdie Gray.

411
00:17:07,757 --> 00:17:09,850
obviously not sponsor, I
use 'em in my own wedding.

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I've worn 'em for many
bridesmaids dresses.

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And I was stoked when they like,
actually wanted to work with me.

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'cause I was like, I've used
this, I've worn their dresses

415
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like three or four times now.

416
00:17:18,827 --> 00:17:22,393
And there were comments
like, oh my gosh, another ad.

417
00:17:22,393 --> 00:17:23,500
And I'm like, no.

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Like legitimately I love them.

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And meanwhile, I say no to like,
someone asked about like a dog product.

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00:17:30,377 --> 00:17:32,060
I don't even have a dog,
why would I do that?

421
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Or like, I've never heard
of this brand before.

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Why am I gonna say yes to that?

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and I think it makes people then
untrustworthy because they're

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like, oh, well I saw this
girl talk about this product.

425
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I know she doesn't use.

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So it's,

427
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yeah.

428
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Yeah.

429
00:17:46,070 --> 00:17:50,870
my people receive emails all the
time for brands and they'll forward

430
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them to me, and I'm like, why?

431
00:17:52,953 --> 00:17:57,673
Why do they feel like the Cliff Notes
gal would be good to promote a treadmill?

432
00:17:58,073 --> 00:18:00,657
what did you get from my
page that talks Fitness?

433
00:18:01,047 --> 00:18:02,797
Nothing like, yes.

434
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Nothing at all.

435
00:18:03,717 --> 00:18:06,797
And then I had one the other day
for like a weight loss app, and I

436
00:18:06,797 --> 00:18:09,163
was like, when have I ever spoken?

437
00:18:09,193 --> 00:18:11,203
Like, you don't know my page clearly.

438
00:18:11,203 --> 00:18:12,283
You don't know my page.

439
00:18:12,283 --> 00:18:14,833
You saw the number of followers
and you thought, Hey, let's

440
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see if she'll do something.

441
00:18:16,310 --> 00:18:16,510
Yeah.

442
00:18:16,510 --> 00:18:17,230
Not gonna work.

443
00:18:17,540 --> 00:18:20,540
That was like, I remember I used
to watch Bachelorette years ago.

444
00:18:20,540 --> 00:18:24,210
I haven't watched in many, many
years, but I remember as soon as The

445
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Bachelorette or whatever would get off.

446
00:18:26,820 --> 00:18:29,910
Their season, they'd do like the
waist trimmer and this, and I'm

447
00:18:29,910 --> 00:18:34,520
like, I know you did not wear a waist
trimmer before getting on at this.

448
00:18:34,520 --> 00:18:35,630
I just know you didn't.

449
00:18:35,630 --> 00:18:35,690
Yeah.

450
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And they'd talk about the
tummy teas and all this.

451
00:18:38,333 --> 00:18:39,743
Oh, I always drink my tummy tea.

452
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And I'm like, did you really?

453
00:18:41,687 --> 00:18:45,047
And it was just so inauthentic because
they immediately got off the show and they

454
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have all these deals for these things.

455
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And I'm like, these are all about weight
loss and working out and all this.

456
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And I'm just like, I, I don't buy it.

457
00:18:52,667 --> 00:18:53,027
Yeah.

458
00:18:53,417 --> 00:18:55,697
I'm like, and I love, I love
that like, they have these

459
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opportunities to make money.

460
00:18:56,927 --> 00:18:57,647
I really do.

461
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Because I mean, at the end the day, them
doing what they're doing, it's a job.

462
00:19:01,897 --> 00:19:04,147
they are out there to make some money.

463
00:19:04,207 --> 00:19:07,650
But I think that there's a line that
you have to choose if you wanna cross.

464
00:19:07,650 --> 00:19:08,910
And a lot of people do cross it.

465
00:19:08,940 --> 00:19:14,120
I'm not one of those, people
consistently ask me about face stuff.

466
00:19:14,437 --> 00:19:17,793
And I have told them I have
used the same products.

467
00:19:18,007 --> 00:19:21,127
I've never switched since No,
I think it was around COVID.

468
00:19:21,517 --> 00:19:25,653
fetish is all I use and it was
started by someone, her name's Jenna.

469
00:19:25,947 --> 00:19:29,730
She was a, DJ on a really, really
popular show called Kid Crowd.

470
00:19:29,820 --> 00:19:31,680
I don't know if you've ever heard
of Kid Crowd in the Morning.

471
00:19:32,023 --> 00:19:33,797
It's a syndicated radio show.

472
00:19:33,957 --> 00:19:37,577
It was when radio shows were extremely,
extremely popular, like the morning shows.

473
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And I would listen every single day.

474
00:19:39,467 --> 00:19:41,893
And I started listening to that show
when I was probably like 10 years old.

475
00:19:42,190 --> 00:19:46,937
Well, she realized that there was a
miss in, I guess facial world, makeup

476
00:19:46,937 --> 00:19:47,897
industry, whatever you wanna say.

477
00:19:47,897 --> 00:19:51,630
Not makeup, but, rosacea and like,
all of that stuff was happening.

478
00:19:51,630 --> 00:19:53,490
Redness in the skin and acne, all of that.

479
00:19:53,490 --> 00:19:55,690
And she realized there there
wasn't anything with CB, D in it.

480
00:19:55,720 --> 00:20:00,387
And so I had always had really bad rosacea
on my face, and I liked the radio show, so

481
00:20:00,387 --> 00:20:01,467
I was like, you know what, let me try it.

482
00:20:01,467 --> 00:20:04,347
And so she was kind of doing both
things, kicking off the company

483
00:20:04,347 --> 00:20:05,598
and then doing the radio show.

484
00:20:05,927 --> 00:20:10,060
And so I bought just the lotion and I
was like, let me see what this  girl,

485
00:20:10,060 --> 00:20:15,270
when I tell you within like a week I
was not having any on my face anymore.

486
00:20:15,270 --> 00:20:16,680
It just took a week.

487
00:20:16,740 --> 00:20:20,730
And so from there, every single time
this woman comes out with something

488
00:20:20,730 --> 00:20:22,753
new, I buy it right off the bat.

489
00:20:22,753 --> 00:20:26,810
So I've done a video before, like
if I show off my entire fetish

490
00:20:27,083 --> 00:20:29,027
skin line, it's everything.

491
00:20:29,027 --> 00:20:32,240
It's lotions and soaps and
serums and, Everything.

492
00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:37,157
So again, like anyone reaching out to
me to promote makeup or facial stuff,

493
00:20:37,157 --> 00:20:43,300
I'm like, no, because I know what works
and I'm an actual customer and can show

494
00:20:43,300 --> 00:20:47,140
proof of the thousands of dollars I've
probably spent with them over the years.

495
00:20:47,407 --> 00:20:50,113
and again, if you're gonna tell me a
lotion works, you are gonna say, you got

496
00:20:50,113 --> 00:20:52,093
it from the TikTok shop two weeks ago.

497
00:20:52,223 --> 00:20:53,003
that's bullshit.

498
00:20:53,213 --> 00:20:56,537
That's, you can't tell
me it works in two weeks.

499
00:20:57,317 --> 00:20:57,707
Yes.

500
00:20:57,947 --> 00:20:59,387
Oh my gosh, that's so funny.

501
00:20:59,753 --> 00:21:03,110
yeah, I was saying too, like with working
and, marketing too, I think I can like

502
00:21:03,313 --> 00:21:04,866
read between the lines with little people.

503
00:21:04,866 --> 00:21:07,168
my husband gets pulled into
marketing things sometimes.

504
00:21:07,168 --> 00:21:09,094
He'll be like, oh, well it's half off.

505
00:21:09,094 --> 00:21:11,434
And I'm like, what was
the price last week?

506
00:21:11,434 --> 00:21:13,694
You know, I'm like, I can
see that kind of stuff.

507
00:21:13,744 --> 00:21:15,361
it's kind of funny to notice that.

508
00:21:15,684 --> 00:21:19,449
if you're able to with this growth,
stay like true to you and like.

509
00:21:19,546 --> 00:21:20,724
Share these stories.

510
00:21:20,724 --> 00:21:23,584
I feel like it is obviously
making an impact and feel liking.

511
00:21:23,614 --> 00:21:26,224
'cause like I said, the first time
I came across your page I was like,

512
00:21:26,556 --> 00:21:29,871
oh, this is saving me so much time
because like, I don't have time to

513
00:21:29,871 --> 00:21:32,401
sit and watch these like, long things.

514
00:21:32,451 --> 00:21:35,104
but then if you like miss out on some
of the drama, you're like, that's

515
00:21:35,104 --> 00:21:36,394
what everybody's talking about.

516
00:21:36,394 --> 00:21:38,018
So what's going on in the TikTok world?

517
00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:38,468
Yeah.

518
00:21:38,468 --> 00:21:41,634
Is there anything going on right
now that's popping into your head?

519
00:21:41,634 --> 00:21:43,644
I'm trying to think if there's
like a current TikTok drama

520
00:21:43,644 --> 00:21:44,424
that's, oh gosh.

521
00:21:44,484 --> 00:21:45,024
Um,

522
00:21:45,234 --> 00:21:45,774
spot.

523
00:21:45,894 --> 00:21:46,404
I just was

524
00:21:46,404 --> 00:21:51,624
like, the most recent video that I did, I
think was about a girl who went and tried

525
00:21:51,624 --> 00:21:56,614
on a dress at a boutique for a prom dress.

526
00:21:56,974 --> 00:22:02,074
but she actually only came out with
her story time because another person

527
00:22:02,324 --> 00:22:06,381
posted a video recording because
they overheard what was going on

528
00:22:06,381 --> 00:22:07,911
in the dressing room next to them.

529
00:22:08,121 --> 00:22:12,051
And so, oh, they pressed record
recording the conversation in

530
00:22:12,051 --> 00:22:13,491
the dressing room next to them.

531
00:22:13,834 --> 00:22:18,338
And it was allegedly, it was
the owner of the store, kind of

532
00:22:18,338 --> 00:22:22,748
like belittling a 17-year-old
girl who was trying on a dress.

533
00:22:22,748 --> 00:22:27,678
It was a couture dress, and the owner
was telling her, you are too big for it.

534
00:22:27,874 --> 00:22:30,564
I don't want you chew to
put it on and ruin my dress.

535
00:22:30,564 --> 00:22:35,864
And so that recording came out and
that was out for quite a few days.

536
00:22:35,864 --> 00:22:38,234
And I guess the girl finally
was like, well, I guess I need

537
00:22:38,234 --> 00:22:40,184
to say like, Hey, this was me.

538
00:22:40,444 --> 00:22:43,704
And now a ton of stuff has
come about with this owner.

539
00:22:43,734 --> 00:22:47,154
There was an, I just saw, I was
tagged in another story time before

540
00:22:47,154 --> 00:22:48,654
you and I got on this podcast.

541
00:22:48,864 --> 00:22:51,688
I'm tagged in another story
time about the same store.

542
00:22:51,688 --> 00:22:52,978
And this is another girl.

543
00:22:52,978 --> 00:22:54,808
This is a woman telling a story.

544
00:22:54,808 --> 00:22:56,458
Now I think she said she was 35.

545
00:22:56,744 --> 00:23:00,991
She had the exact same type of issue
at that store and dealt with the owner.

546
00:23:01,051 --> 00:23:04,211
So I haven't watched her video
the full way through, but, I

547
00:23:04,211 --> 00:23:06,671
get a wide variety of tags from.

548
00:23:06,914 --> 00:23:12,556
Stories like that to break up
drama to really, really intense

549
00:23:12,556 --> 00:23:14,866
things that are triggering.

550
00:23:15,206 --> 00:23:19,606
and I've, told people plenty of times
and I appreciate the tags, but there

551
00:23:19,606 --> 00:23:25,279
are stories that I just will not shorten
ones that I feel like are extremely

552
00:23:25,279 --> 00:23:27,559
traumatic to the person telling the story.

553
00:23:27,838 --> 00:23:32,753
There was one I was tagged in recently
about a woman who was pregnant

554
00:23:32,813 --> 00:23:38,116
and I think like her husband tried
to like her, and his girlfriend

555
00:23:38,116 --> 00:23:40,246
was trying to help on a live her.

556
00:23:40,246 --> 00:23:41,626
And I was like, whoa,

557
00:23:41,746 --> 00:23:42,076
gosh.

558
00:23:42,313 --> 00:23:44,603
I wanted to be like, why are
you even tagging me in this?

559
00:23:44,603 --> 00:23:48,233
And so I responded to the tag and I
was like, this is extremely traumatic

560
00:23:48,603 --> 00:23:49,723
for the person who posted this.

561
00:23:49,723 --> 00:23:50,863
I will not be doing this story.

562
00:23:51,196 --> 00:23:54,626
and I let people know that like, if
it is really truly traumatic story for

563
00:23:54,626 --> 00:23:58,591
someone, please don't tag me in it because
I'm not taking that story from them.

564
00:23:58,591 --> 00:24:02,371
They're probably using this story time
as a way of healing for themselves.

565
00:24:02,401 --> 00:24:02,461
Yeah.

566
00:24:02,461 --> 00:24:06,601
Like I'm not taking that, I also
will not do, and typically don't

567
00:24:06,601 --> 00:24:09,551
do stories that deal with sa.

568
00:24:09,801 --> 00:24:15,721
because I'm a survivor myself and
I'm a childhood SA survivor, so I had

569
00:24:15,751 --> 00:24:18,481
some traumatic things happen to me
when I was 12 and 13 years old, but of

570
00:24:18,481 --> 00:24:20,461
course it's still like very much real.

571
00:24:20,661 --> 00:24:21,881
And it's affects me.

572
00:24:21,881 --> 00:24:26,878
And so anytime there is a story
that deals with SA or physical

573
00:24:26,878 --> 00:24:30,708
abuse, domestic violence, I
typically will not do those either.

574
00:24:30,968 --> 00:24:31,508
so yeah.

575
00:24:31,513 --> 00:24:31,653
Yeah.

576
00:24:31,704 --> 00:24:36,418
I try and focus on the ones
that are more lighthearted and

577
00:24:36,508 --> 00:24:37,798
sometimes I get tagged on stories.

578
00:24:37,798 --> 00:24:40,438
People want me to shorten their own
stories 'cause they're like, look.

579
00:24:40,751 --> 00:24:42,594
I've got five videos out here.

580
00:24:42,624 --> 00:24:44,154
It's not being pushed out.

581
00:24:44,154 --> 00:24:47,214
I really wanna get my story out,
but I'm not good at telling a story.

582
00:24:47,214 --> 00:24:50,558
And they actually ask me to do
CliffNotes for their stories.

583
00:24:50,694 --> 00:24:50,798
Wow.

584
00:24:50,798 --> 00:24:56,404
And so when that happens, I try and do
that, and then I try and stay respectful.

585
00:24:56,708 --> 00:24:59,568
TikTok has this thing
called duets and stitches.

586
00:24:59,688 --> 00:24:59,928
Mm-hmm.

587
00:25:00,624 --> 00:25:07,444
If their duets or stitches are on, I'm
under the assumption that they're okay

588
00:25:07,444 --> 00:25:12,244
with this video being shared or being
talked about, or whatever the case.

589
00:25:12,524 --> 00:25:14,311
And so those are stories.

590
00:25:14,311 --> 00:25:17,431
If I'm tagged in them and I'm
interested in doing it, if their duets

591
00:25:17,431 --> 00:25:21,271
or stitches are on, I will normally,
I will consider doing that story.

592
00:25:21,598 --> 00:25:25,891
If they are off, then I will comment
on the person who tagged me, and I will

593
00:25:25,891 --> 00:25:29,071
tell them that I'm not doing it because
their duets and stitches are off.

594
00:25:29,568 --> 00:25:33,738
So I make sure I have a pinned video
on my page that says like, I will only

595
00:25:33,738 --> 00:25:36,198
do ones with duets and stitches on.

596
00:25:36,538 --> 00:25:40,418
because there are a lot of pages
out there that are gossip pages.

597
00:25:40,418 --> 00:25:44,318
They could give two shits about
if your duets and stitches are on.

598
00:25:44,604 --> 00:25:47,201
when you put a video out
there, it's out there.

599
00:25:47,711 --> 00:25:48,371
Yeah.

600
00:25:48,371 --> 00:25:48,401
Uh,

601
00:25:48,793 --> 00:25:53,291
it's wild how quickly things travel to,
or how quickly things might go viral.

602
00:25:53,588 --> 00:25:54,889
I'll notice something.

603
00:25:55,039 --> 00:25:56,117
I'm trying to think of what I've seen.

604
00:25:56,117 --> 00:25:58,567
I mean, the different accounts
I follow where maybe someone

605
00:25:58,567 --> 00:25:59,827
was really rude at a store.

606
00:25:59,827 --> 00:25:59,917
Mm-hmm.

607
00:26:00,277 --> 00:26:04,020
And before you know what that
person's face is everywhere that

608
00:26:04,020 --> 00:26:07,527
Karen or whatever you wanna call
him, and I'm like, oh my gosh.

609
00:26:07,597 --> 00:26:10,804
the same day you'll see 'em on five
accounts and I'm like, they take

610
00:26:10,804 --> 00:26:13,454
their video down, but I'm like,
Ooh, you put out into the abyss.

611
00:26:13,484 --> 00:26:14,504
It's everywhere now.

612
00:26:14,874 --> 00:26:19,874
So it's wild how something will get picked
up and it's just like, that was the thing.

613
00:26:19,874 --> 00:26:23,900
I mean, it just got on the right
person's FYP or whatever, and they

614
00:26:23,900 --> 00:26:27,504
just shared it or someone saw it and
they're like, I need to talk about this.

615
00:26:27,767 --> 00:26:30,650
'cause that's, the power
of social media I guess.

616
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:31,580
It really is.

617
00:26:31,580 --> 00:26:36,554
And I mean, these apps are global,
so it might not kick off in the us.

618
00:26:36,554 --> 00:26:41,624
Like I have followers that tag me
from other countries and it's crazy

619
00:26:41,624 --> 00:26:46,437
because sometimes there's a really
extremely viral video in Canada and

620
00:26:46,467 --> 00:26:48,357
all of the tags are from Canadians.

621
00:26:49,197 --> 00:26:49,257
Wow.

622
00:26:49,257 --> 00:26:49,767
Canada.

623
00:26:50,046 --> 00:26:52,610
And so when I do this, when
I'll do whatever story.

624
00:26:52,980 --> 00:26:55,424
then it comes back and people
are commenting the US like,

625
00:26:55,424 --> 00:26:56,504
this hasn't been on my FYP.

626
00:26:56,504 --> 00:26:59,264
I'm like, well, because it's in
Canada, but it's still a good story.

627
00:26:59,264 --> 00:26:59,444
Like

628
00:27:00,374 --> 00:27:04,433
Yeah, I had Lucette who's on my
podcast and she in Australia.

629
00:27:04,777 --> 00:27:07,613
And as soon as I had her, then
I started getting some more like

630
00:27:07,937 --> 00:27:09,677
videos from Australia on my feed.

631
00:27:09,887 --> 00:27:13,020
But it's like, until then I was
like, not, and now I'm like, oh, now

632
00:27:13,020 --> 00:27:14,400
I'm kind of in here a little bit.

633
00:27:14,631 --> 00:27:16,804
' cause it kind of sees me
like commenting on her stuff.

634
00:27:16,804 --> 00:27:17,824
I don't know what it is.

635
00:27:18,121 --> 00:27:19,927
but yeah, it's like, you don't
necessarily think about that.

636
00:27:19,927 --> 00:27:21,641
But that's, one of the reasons
too, like, I don't put my

637
00:27:21,821 --> 00:27:23,021
child on social media at all.

638
00:27:23,021 --> 00:27:26,257
'cause I'm like, I don't ever
want someone to take her face or,

639
00:27:26,461 --> 00:27:29,371
especially, she's so little and
I'm like, she can't consent to it.

640
00:27:29,661 --> 00:27:32,531
And just people don't think when
they put their kids on social media,

641
00:27:32,531 --> 00:27:34,571
how quickly someone can grab that.

642
00:27:34,571 --> 00:27:37,441
Like, they might be like, oh, this
is such a cute moment, post it.

643
00:27:37,681 --> 00:27:40,441
Someone can take that and be like,
this is weird that this happened.

644
00:27:40,441 --> 00:27:41,821
Or look at this in the background.

645
00:27:41,821 --> 00:27:43,621
And then their, kid is everywhere then.

646
00:27:44,221 --> 00:27:47,194
My kid is not in my videos.

647
00:27:47,194 --> 00:27:50,314
And if he is, it is completely
his decision and I do not

648
00:27:50,314 --> 00:27:51,604
allow his face to be seen.

649
00:27:51,604 --> 00:27:56,797
So if you ever see him in a video,
he is so far in the background

650
00:27:57,127 --> 00:27:59,767
that his face is a blur, but he's
back there in the background doing

651
00:27:59,767 --> 00:28:03,787
something funny that he has decided
to come up with, or he's in a mask.

652
00:28:03,997 --> 00:28:06,757
So yeah, his face has never
been on my social media.

653
00:28:06,757 --> 00:28:07,777
It never will.

654
00:28:07,777 --> 00:28:11,764
Even when he is not a minor, it
still won't be, but anytime he is in

655
00:28:11,764 --> 00:28:13,564
one, it is because he wants to be.

656
00:28:13,564 --> 00:28:16,174
And he has asked me to be, and
he just likes being a little

657
00:28:16,174 --> 00:28:17,704
silly goofball in the background.

658
00:28:17,991 --> 00:28:19,804
And my husband has done a
couple with him as well.

659
00:28:19,804 --> 00:28:22,427
Like I remember I did one, I think
it was a few months ago, and I was

660
00:28:22,427 --> 00:28:24,947
in the backyard of course, telling
the story like I normally am.

661
00:28:25,177 --> 00:28:28,511
And they're both in the background
sword fighting, I think.

662
00:28:28,571 --> 00:28:32,261
And so my son had a sword, but my
husband, I think was using like a broom.

663
00:28:32,651 --> 00:28:36,311
And then he fake stabbed him and my
son like fell to the ground and then

664
00:28:36,311 --> 00:28:37,961
stayed dead the rest of the video.

665
00:28:37,961 --> 00:28:42,764
And, and so commenters are just like, did
anyone see the sword fight back there?

666
00:28:42,794 --> 00:28:43,034
Like,

667
00:28:44,729 --> 00:28:48,734
well, I love that because actually I
think one of my first videos I saw you,

668
00:28:48,764 --> 00:28:52,274
he was in the background with the mask
because I was like, what's happening here?

669
00:28:52,424 --> 00:28:55,124
And then looking at the comments and
everyone's like, what's going on?

670
00:28:55,401 --> 00:28:57,994
but that's like the same with
get ready with me videos when

671
00:28:57,994 --> 00:28:59,104
people are telling a story.

672
00:28:59,104 --> 00:29:02,584
People love watching and listening and
I feel like there's some kind of like

673
00:29:02,584 --> 00:29:06,037
correspondence with like, I don't know,
maybe some kind of fancy word for like

674
00:29:06,037 --> 00:29:10,651
a study of like, people love being able
to see and listen at the same time.

675
00:29:10,651 --> 00:29:13,757
And so if there's something going on, I
feel like it, grabs their attention too.

676
00:29:13,847 --> 00:29:19,877
So I don't have a DD or A DHD, but
I have hundreds and hundreds and

677
00:29:19,877 --> 00:29:24,491
hundreds of comments from people
saying that them either seeing.

678
00:29:25,009 --> 00:29:29,269
Gurkin catching the ball or seeing
my son in the background playing

679
00:29:29,591 --> 00:29:31,942
that it helps them focus more.

680
00:29:31,942 --> 00:29:34,582
They all say they have a d, d brain.

681
00:29:34,582 --> 00:29:38,652
And being able to see Gurkin
catching a ball while listening

682
00:29:38,652 --> 00:29:40,122
to me actually helps them.

683
00:29:40,317 --> 00:29:44,219
And it's one of the reasons why they
can't listen to the story times is

684
00:29:44,219 --> 00:29:49,799
because it's someone just looking at a
camera telling the story for 30 minutes.

685
00:29:49,971 --> 00:29:53,789
So when they can get like a small
recap of it and there's also something

686
00:29:53,789 --> 00:29:57,639
going on in the background, they're
able to absorb the information better.

687
00:29:57,901 --> 00:29:59,574
I love that, that makes so much sense.

688
00:29:59,574 --> 00:30:03,264
I'm not diagnosed, but I'm pretty
sure I've got one, one of those.

689
00:30:03,607 --> 00:30:03,991
My,

690
00:30:03,991 --> 00:30:07,051
I would never be able to watch
a dog catching a ball and focus

691
00:30:07,051 --> 00:30:09,691
on a story because I would just
wanna keep watching the dog.

692
00:30:09,991 --> 00:30:11,881
I can't understand that, but

693
00:30:13,607 --> 00:30:16,784
oh, I'm like, if there's two
things going on, I'll like then

694
00:30:16,784 --> 00:30:19,214
go back and be like, wait, what
did she do with her makeup there?

695
00:30:19,214 --> 00:30:20,444
What would she, with her eyes there?

696
00:30:20,694 --> 00:30:23,497
Or, I'll kind of go back, but yeah,
I think that's probably why I started

697
00:30:23,497 --> 00:30:26,377
doing skits because I'm like, I need
to tell these stories in like an

698
00:30:26,377 --> 00:30:30,527
interesting different kind of storytelling
way, but yeah, stories nonetheless.

699
00:30:43,303 --> 00:30:47,073
Okay, so I know before we get to
our main story, I know you said

700
00:30:47,073 --> 00:30:51,033
you have a wedding related story
that happened at your own wedding.

701
00:30:51,033 --> 00:30:51,573
So do you wanna talk

702
00:30:51,603 --> 00:30:52,713
Oh, yes.

703
00:30:53,010 --> 00:30:56,530
this year I will be married
19 years to my husband.

704
00:30:56,770 --> 00:30:57,190
Awesome.

705
00:30:57,523 --> 00:30:59,323
he and I got married, yeah.

706
00:30:59,323 --> 00:31:05,730
A long time ago, but, so I'm a diabetic
and, we got married at the worst

707
00:31:05,730 --> 00:31:07,650
time ever in the state of Louisiana.

708
00:31:07,740 --> 00:31:11,833
We got married in the summertime
in June with an outdoor wedding.

709
00:31:13,066 --> 00:31:14,976
I don't recommend to anybody to do that.

710
00:31:15,210 --> 00:31:20,370
I ate well before the wedding to manage
my sugar levels, so that was great.

711
00:31:20,460 --> 00:31:27,196
But while we were up there saying our
vows, we were holding hands and I looked

712
00:31:27,196 --> 00:31:32,160
down at our hands and realized that
our four hands turned into like 20, and

713
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,670
I was seeing quadruple of everything.

714
00:31:35,150 --> 00:31:39,663
And so I looked up as our pastor was
talking, like marrying us literally.

715
00:31:39,693 --> 00:31:42,697
And I looked up at him and I went,
I think I'm about to pass out.

716
00:31:43,123 --> 00:31:44,593
And then That was all that I remembered.

717
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,807
So I know what happens
because it's on video.

718
00:31:48,087 --> 00:31:53,273
but I did, so I pass out and, I remember
my maid of honor who is still my absolute

719
00:31:53,273 --> 00:31:57,543
best friend today, in the video, it
shows her telling my husband, you need

720
00:31:57,543 --> 00:31:59,043
to pick her up and walk off with her.

721
00:31:59,043 --> 00:32:00,243
Like, she's passed out.

722
00:32:00,517 --> 00:32:06,153
' cause he was just frozen, because like
he caught me, like I just, I fell and

723
00:32:06,153 --> 00:32:08,583
he caught me and is just holding me.

724
00:32:08,643 --> 00:32:12,370
And so my friend Lauren's
like, you need to go with her.

725
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:13,960
Like, get her out of here.

726
00:32:14,050 --> 00:32:16,320
And so it's all on video.

727
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:21,300
He carries me out and I think
brings me to the bridal suite

728
00:32:21,510 --> 00:32:22,740
where we were getting married.

729
00:32:22,770 --> 00:32:25,797
and they woke me up somehow,
but my sugar level had dropped

730
00:32:26,039 --> 00:32:27,293
Really, really, really low.

731
00:32:27,570 --> 00:32:31,237
That mixed with like the heat and
being nervous and all of that.

732
00:32:31,237 --> 00:32:33,450
So they got me some food and, all of that.

733
00:32:33,450 --> 00:32:35,913
And then, everything else
was a blur that night.

734
00:32:36,087 --> 00:32:39,117
I do not remember my first
dance with my husband.

735
00:32:39,337 --> 00:32:41,347
I definitely don't
remember saying my vows.

736
00:32:41,447 --> 00:32:46,550
I do remember signing the actual marriage
certificate itself, but I joke with my

737
00:32:46,550 --> 00:32:50,780
husband, I'm like, babe, we're gonna have
to renew our vows like at 20 years because

738
00:32:50,780 --> 00:32:52,490
I don't remember saying them to you.

739
00:32:52,930 --> 00:32:57,743
And so I would, I would like to remember
saying my vows to you, but yeah.

740
00:32:57,773 --> 00:32:58,403
So yeah, we

741
00:32:58,403 --> 00:32:59,213
hold you over.

742
00:32:59,633 --> 00:32:59,933
Yeah.

743
00:32:59,933 --> 00:33:02,543
I had the typical like, pass
out at your wedding story.

744
00:33:03,203 --> 00:33:04,013
Oh my gosh.

745
00:33:04,013 --> 00:33:05,063
That's one I have not heard.

746
00:33:05,378 --> 00:33:07,163
I love that you guys have it
on video and you're like, well,

747
00:33:07,223 --> 00:33:08,783
let's watch our video this year.

748
00:33:10,433 --> 00:33:11,753
And it's on VHS.

749
00:33:11,753 --> 00:33:16,647
So now I actually, I don't even own a tape
player, so I wouldn't, I need to do that

750
00:33:16,647 --> 00:33:20,367
little thing where you can have it sent in
and turned into like a DVD or something.

751
00:33:20,935 --> 00:33:21,117
Yeah,

752
00:33:21,122 --> 00:33:22,202
yeah, yeah.

753
00:33:22,262 --> 00:33:22,772
Kids watch it.

754
00:33:23,298 --> 00:33:24,128
oh my gosh, that's wild.

755
00:33:24,128 --> 00:33:27,072
so even after your blood sugar went
up, then you were still just kind of

756
00:33:27,072 --> 00:33:28,422
like in a daze the rest of the day.

757
00:33:28,452 --> 00:33:29,232
Oh yeah.

758
00:33:29,232 --> 00:33:29,592
Yeah.

759
00:33:29,592 --> 00:33:32,202
And anyone who's a diabetic would
understand, like, you're just

760
00:33:32,202 --> 00:33:34,768
so, it's like it's brain fog.

761
00:33:35,608 --> 00:33:38,998
And so I know I danced,
I just don't remember it.

762
00:33:39,288 --> 00:33:39,483
oh my gosh.

763
00:33:39,798 --> 00:33:43,968
And I remember sitting down and eating
some food at like our table for the

764
00:33:43,998 --> 00:33:48,372
wedding party, but, oh, and I do, I
remember this as well when we left.

765
00:33:48,372 --> 00:33:52,982
So we had a limo bring us to New Orleans
because we were gonna fly out the next

766
00:33:52,982 --> 00:33:55,592
day to go to Mexico for our honeymoon.

767
00:33:55,932 --> 00:34:00,232
I had a, pulsating migraine because
again, a diabetic will understand,

768
00:34:00,232 --> 00:34:02,602
like when you go extremely low and
you have to get your sugar levels

769
00:34:02,602 --> 00:34:04,102
back up, you just don't feel good.

770
00:34:04,102 --> 00:34:05,813
it takes a while for you to
be able to just feel good.

771
00:34:05,813 --> 00:34:10,313
And I had this horrible, horrible
migraine and so we had the limo get off

772
00:34:10,313 --> 00:34:16,307
the interstate and pull into this like
shady ass gas station and pulls up.

773
00:34:16,557 --> 00:34:19,167
there were not a lot of
lights on at this gas station.

774
00:34:19,167 --> 00:34:22,947
My husband gets out in his tucks
and goes in and buys like one of

775
00:34:22,947 --> 00:34:27,147
the gas station packs of Excedrin
Migraine for me, and then comes back

776
00:34:27,147 --> 00:34:28,467
into the limo and gives it to me.

777
00:34:28,467 --> 00:34:31,077
And I slept the whole way
to New Orleans in the limo.

778
00:34:31,377 --> 00:34:34,347
and then by the time we got to the hotel,
I felt better, but yeah, I literally

779
00:34:34,347 --> 00:34:38,127
slept the whole way to New Orleans,
which is about like a 50 minute drive.

780
00:34:38,484 --> 00:34:39,325
Oh my gosh.

781
00:34:39,415 --> 00:34:40,525
So how was your honeymoon?

782
00:34:40,525 --> 00:34:41,628
like, did you feel

783
00:34:41,838 --> 00:34:41,958
better?

784
00:34:42,198 --> 00:34:42,498
It was good.

785
00:34:42,498 --> 00:34:43,278
I remember that.

786
00:34:43,453 --> 00:34:43,793
Oh, good.

787
00:34:43,878 --> 00:34:44,388
Okay.

788
00:34:44,718 --> 00:34:45,123
Well, there you go.

789
00:34:45,253 --> 00:34:45,768
It was good.

790
00:34:45,768 --> 00:34:46,236
It was fun.

791
00:34:46,236 --> 00:34:46,555
Yeah.

792
00:34:46,555 --> 00:34:48,415
It was the typical, like all inclusive.

793
00:34:48,415 --> 00:34:50,523
Like we couldn't afford a lot back then.

794
00:34:50,523 --> 00:34:54,973
Like we were in very, very different,
different lives back then, but we did

795
00:34:54,973 --> 00:34:56,743
what we could and had so much fun.

796
00:34:56,773 --> 00:34:57,073
Yeah.

797
00:34:57,103 --> 00:34:57,553
Yeah.

798
00:34:57,673 --> 00:34:58,393
I love that.

799
00:34:58,650 --> 00:35:00,043
I love the all inclusive route.

800
00:35:00,043 --> 00:35:03,583
That just makes it easier
too, for planning and budget.

801
00:35:03,853 --> 00:35:04,633
We did that too.

802
00:35:04,753 --> 00:35:04,993
It was

803
00:35:04,993 --> 00:35:05,803
so easy.

804
00:35:05,863 --> 00:35:06,223
Yeah.

805
00:35:06,223 --> 00:35:10,220
I tell everyone, I'm like, I wish we
would've just eloped the amount of

806
00:35:10,220 --> 00:35:14,227
money that my mom who raised me as
a single mom, that she had to spend.

807
00:35:14,227 --> 00:35:14,767
And we tried.

808
00:35:14,767 --> 00:35:18,037
We stayed under budget, like extremely
under budget, but I still, I was

809
00:35:18,037 --> 00:35:20,617
like, to this day, I think back, I'm
like, I wish I would've just told her.

810
00:35:20,617 --> 00:35:21,607
Don't even worry about it.

811
00:35:22,483 --> 00:35:22,513
Aw.

812
00:35:22,777 --> 00:35:26,471
I feel like as the older I get too, people
like looking back, like your circle kind

813
00:35:26,471 --> 00:35:30,191
of gets smaller and you're also just
like, maybe I just like, it'd be easier.

814
00:35:30,498 --> 00:35:33,791
' cause the people too that spend all
this money on these big parties, I feel

815
00:35:33,791 --> 00:35:38,748
like a lot of times it's because like
families wanna be a part of it or, and

816
00:35:38,748 --> 00:35:41,791
then a lot of these stories as you might
see in this one, but like, then it just

817
00:35:41,791 --> 00:35:43,825
creates drama in a lot of these, families.

818
00:35:44,316 --> 00:35:46,831
I always say my husband and I got married
in our early thirties, but we'd been

819
00:35:46,831 --> 00:35:48,961
together since like our early twenties.

820
00:35:49,261 --> 00:35:51,815
And I was like, if we'd gotten married
in our twenties, I think it'd been such a

821
00:35:51,815 --> 00:35:53,724
way, like we would've had way less money.

822
00:35:54,051 --> 00:35:56,241
But I feel like we would've
tried to have a bigger party.

823
00:35:56,241 --> 00:35:56,301
Yeah.

824
00:35:56,301 --> 00:35:57,501
And invite more people.

825
00:35:57,758 --> 00:36:00,994
So I feel like we were able
to like, okay, these are more

826
00:36:00,994 --> 00:36:03,758
important people to us, but older

827
00:36:03,758 --> 00:36:04,508
and wiser.

828
00:36:05,213 --> 00:36:07,913
But I feel like if, again, if it
was like 10 more years later, I

829
00:36:07,913 --> 00:36:09,293
think it would've been even smaller.

830
00:36:09,293 --> 00:36:11,933
I think you just kinda like
realize like, okay, who's been

831
00:36:12,143 --> 00:36:14,002
around a little bit longer and

832
00:36:14,092 --> 00:36:14,722
That's right.

833
00:36:15,022 --> 00:36:17,872
Plus there's been some amazing elopement
stories I've heard where they go to

834
00:36:17,872 --> 00:36:21,560
like Paris or they go to, you know,
somewhere cool and they, you spend

835
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:23,240
the same amount or That's right.

836
00:36:23,240 --> 00:36:25,632
Way less for a week trip or whatever.

837
00:36:25,782 --> 00:36:28,272
Then have some have like a little
party in your backyard when you

838
00:36:28,272 --> 00:36:29,622
get back and that's your reception.

839
00:36:29,910 --> 00:36:31,062
Yeah, exactly.

840
00:36:31,122 --> 00:36:31,992
lots of options.

841
00:36:32,022 --> 00:36:32,232
Yeah.

842
00:36:32,479 --> 00:36:36,089
All right, Let's get into
this week's, story submission.

843
00:36:36,089 --> 00:36:39,996
So these are stories that are sent to
me from followers and I've not read it.

844
00:36:39,996 --> 00:36:41,316
So let's get into it.

845
00:36:41,316 --> 00:36:44,259
Feel free to stop me at
any time and we'll react.

846
00:36:44,536 --> 00:36:45,552
Okay, here we go.

847
00:36:45,642 --> 00:36:49,782
My sister is a narcissist and
honestly, my mother might be too.

848
00:36:50,069 --> 00:36:53,822
To surprise me, my fiance messaged
my mother to ask for my ring

849
00:36:53,822 --> 00:36:55,712
size and for my dad's blessing.

850
00:36:56,116 --> 00:37:00,716
My mother went out and bought a ring
herself and told him that my father

851
00:37:00,716 --> 00:37:02,726
was happy for him to move forward.

852
00:37:03,079 --> 00:37:04,769
Like a business exchange?

853
00:37:07,109 --> 00:37:08,362
No, we don't want your input.

854
00:37:08,362 --> 00:37:09,352
We'll just buy the ring.

855
00:37:09,562 --> 00:37:10,462
Oh, no.

856
00:37:10,462 --> 00:37:11,062
Okay.

857
00:37:11,369 --> 00:37:11,812
Yikes.

858
00:37:12,169 --> 00:37:17,072
Two weeks later, we flew to Luxembourg to
visit my parents at their holiday home.

859
00:37:17,372 --> 00:37:21,576
On the second day, my fiancé asked
my mom for the ring, so she knew

860
00:37:21,576 --> 00:37:23,136
he planned to propose that day.

861
00:37:23,429 --> 00:37:26,572
We told her we were going to the
waterfall and would be back later.

862
00:37:26,886 --> 00:37:28,316
I had no idea what was coming.

863
00:37:28,702 --> 00:37:32,622
The moment he proposed, my mother
suddenly showed up with her

864
00:37:32,622 --> 00:37:35,412
friends and my father all cheering.

865
00:37:35,726 --> 00:37:40,179
The quiet romantic moment my fiancé
had planned was completely gone.

866
00:37:40,536 --> 00:37:44,159
That evening he told me to get
ready for dinner, but before we

867
00:37:44,159 --> 00:37:46,259
could leave, my mother stopped us.

868
00:37:46,532 --> 00:37:51,156
She had already set up a
surprise engagement party with

869
00:37:51,186 --> 00:37:53,406
her friends and champagne.

870
00:37:54,802 --> 00:37:56,016
Come on, mom.

871
00:37:56,359 --> 00:37:59,269
why would you not even think
to like talk to the fiancé

872
00:38:00,176 --> 00:38:03,399
because mom only cares about the
way that she looks to her friends.

873
00:38:04,199 --> 00:38:05,549
Oh my gosh.

874
00:38:05,886 --> 00:38:07,509
She's like calling her
friends like, just wait.

875
00:38:07,726 --> 00:38:09,099
We're gonna have the best party.

876
00:38:09,396 --> 00:38:11,376
a full blown argument broke out.

877
00:38:11,686 --> 00:38:15,456
But we ended up canceling our dinner
plans and attending the party.

878
00:38:15,822 --> 00:38:17,952
So now it's like, not even
for you, it's for your mom.

879
00:38:18,012 --> 00:38:18,372
Right.

880
00:38:18,736 --> 00:38:22,306
After the guests left, we started
talking about wedding locations.

881
00:38:22,589 --> 00:38:25,639
When I mentioned Hawaii,
another fight erupted.

882
00:38:25,992 --> 00:38:27,966
They said they could never afford it.

883
00:38:28,276 --> 00:38:31,956
The night ended badly, and
the next day we barely spoke.

884
00:38:32,282 --> 00:38:36,401
After two days of silence, we decided
to travel with them to Belgium, where I

885
00:38:36,401 --> 00:38:38,621
grew up, to share the news with friends.

886
00:38:38,776 --> 00:38:42,817
My brother and sister were happy at
first, but within two weeks my sister

887
00:38:42,817 --> 00:38:45,157
started trying to seduce my fiance.

888
00:38:45,456 --> 00:38:46,352
What is this family?

889
00:38:46,352 --> 00:38:46,372
Okay, what?

890
00:38:46,627 --> 00:38:48,487
Okay, what's up with the family now?

891
00:38:48,517 --> 00:38:49,297
Now I'm like,

892
00:38:49,687 --> 00:38:50,917
this is very odd.

893
00:38:50,942 --> 00:38:51,847
This is what, this is a

894
00:38:51,847 --> 00:38:52,717
real story.

895
00:38:54,667 --> 00:38:55,057
I tell you.

896
00:38:55,057 --> 00:38:58,177
Sometimes I read these stories
and I'm like, this cannot be real.

897
00:38:58,177 --> 00:38:58,447
Like,

898
00:38:58,572 --> 00:38:59,617
oh my gosh,

899
00:38:59,677 --> 00:39:01,657
some are just outrageous.

900
00:39:01,657 --> 00:39:04,927
But then I'll post a story or like
I'll share, you know, story time.

901
00:39:04,927 --> 00:39:07,717
If people are like, this happened to
me, this exact thing happened to me, and

902
00:39:07,717 --> 00:39:11,124
I'm like, I don't think they're as, I
think they're more common than we think.

903
00:39:11,664 --> 00:39:12,144
It's wild.

904
00:39:12,521 --> 00:39:14,931
telling him that she
was the better option.

905
00:39:15,426 --> 00:39:17,181
We ended up staying for a month.

906
00:39:17,271 --> 00:39:19,611
I'd be out of there a
month still after that, a

907
00:39:19,611 --> 00:39:20,211
month.

908
00:39:20,521 --> 00:39:21,571
Do they not work?

909
00:39:21,839 --> 00:39:24,497
I know they're doing all this
traveling, but then the mom was

910
00:39:24,497 --> 00:39:25,287
mad that they wanted Hawaii.

911
00:39:25,287 --> 00:39:25,592
Not enough money

912
00:39:25,732 --> 00:39:26,327
for Hawaii.

913
00:39:26,659 --> 00:39:27,177
Yeah.

914
00:39:27,627 --> 00:39:28,257
Oh my gosh.

915
00:39:28,526 --> 00:39:29,147
Not enough.

916
00:39:29,466 --> 00:39:31,897
Because it wasn't a place she
selected as a wife, right?

917
00:39:32,077 --> 00:39:32,287
Yes.

918
00:39:32,287 --> 00:39:32,587
Right.

919
00:39:33,032 --> 00:39:36,121
We ended up staying for a month
because my mother promised to pay

920
00:39:36,121 --> 00:39:39,991
for the wedding dress and booked
appointments at bridal shops.

921
00:39:40,366 --> 00:39:44,171
I said, I didn't wanna bring my
sister, but I was manipulated into

922
00:39:44,171 --> 00:39:46,291
it with the whole family as family.

923
00:39:46,291 --> 00:39:46,861
Guilt trip.

924
00:39:47,188 --> 00:39:47,624
Yikes.

925
00:39:47,964 --> 00:39:53,034
at the first shop, the saleswoman told me
my body wasn't made for fitted dresses.

926
00:39:53,154 --> 00:39:54,144
My gosh.

927
00:39:54,442 --> 00:39:58,951
After trying on 10 dresses, I hated and
hearing nonstop comments from my sister

928
00:39:58,951 --> 00:40:00,391
and mother about how I looked fat.

929
00:40:00,692 --> 00:40:03,767
Why I would not be
including well either of

930
00:40:03,767 --> 00:40:03,857
them.

931
00:40:03,857 --> 00:40:04,907
That's just toxic.

932
00:40:04,937 --> 00:40:06,767
You don't even, they shouldn't
even be in the wedding.

933
00:40:06,977 --> 00:40:07,277
No.

934
00:40:07,277 --> 00:40:07,307
Or

935
00:40:07,307 --> 00:40:08,027
at the wedding.

936
00:40:08,507 --> 00:40:11,117
This is definitely a story where, I
mean, I don't know what happens, but,

937
00:40:11,117 --> 00:40:12,557
or it'd be like, let's just elope.

938
00:40:12,587 --> 00:40:12,677
Right.

939
00:40:12,902 --> 00:40:14,192
where does your family wanna go?

940
00:40:14,192 --> 00:40:14,414
Let's,

941
00:40:14,512 --> 00:40:18,502
I would hope that the husband is
saying like, look babe, let's just

942
00:40:18,502 --> 00:40:20,182
go do this thing with just us.

943
00:40:20,332 --> 00:40:20,632
Mm-hmm.

944
00:40:21,202 --> 00:40:21,682
Yeah.

945
00:40:21,966 --> 00:40:24,496
The second someone starts making
you feel bad, especially when it's

946
00:40:24,496 --> 00:40:27,376
supposed to be like your day trying
on dresses, feeling beautiful.

947
00:40:27,706 --> 00:40:29,136
I'd be like, I'm done with this.

948
00:40:29,136 --> 00:40:31,536
I'll go with a friend
or go by myself later,

949
00:40:31,536 --> 00:40:32,256
a hundred percent.

950
00:40:32,586 --> 00:40:35,466
they were saying, or I showed
too much skin or looked bad.

951
00:40:35,466 --> 00:40:38,099
I finally said I wanted to
leave at the second shop.

952
00:40:38,099 --> 00:40:40,619
I found my dress within
minutes and started crying.

953
00:40:40,870 --> 00:40:44,946
My father seemed completely unbothered
and asked how I planned to pay for it.

954
00:40:45,369 --> 00:40:48,432
I was confused and that's when
my mother said, they don't

955
00:40:48,432 --> 00:40:51,547
have the 690 euro after all.

956
00:40:51,816 --> 00:40:55,317
So they get her excited, say they're gonna
pay for the dress she finds when they're

957
00:40:55,317 --> 00:40:56,697
like, oh, we don't have the money for it.

958
00:40:56,966 --> 00:40:57,620
And I wonder, wow.

959
00:40:57,650 --> 00:41:01,100
In 690, I mean, I'm trying to
think of like the calculation, but.

960
00:41:01,439 --> 00:41:04,865
That doesn't seem very expensive
for a dress, 690 Euros,

961
00:41:05,313 --> 00:41:06,578
because I think it's like,

962
00:41:07,118 --> 00:41:08,768
I don't know what the
conversion rate is right now.

963
00:41:09,105 --> 00:41:13,245
I feel like it was pretty close,
like when I was just in, I was

964
00:41:13,245 --> 00:41:14,895
in Spain a couple years ago and

965
00:41:15,323 --> 00:41:17,778
yeah, I mean, it seems like
the price of like an average.

966
00:41:18,053 --> 00:41:20,602
I mean, I think my golly, my
wedding dress back then was like

967
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:23,455
$400, $500, something like that.

968
00:41:23,455 --> 00:41:25,785
But man, this is just toxic.

969
00:41:26,565 --> 00:41:26,895
Yeah.

970
00:41:26,895 --> 00:41:27,525
Wild.

971
00:41:27,765 --> 00:41:30,487
she says, I ran outta the shop
crying and went to the cafe

972
00:41:30,487 --> 00:41:31,837
where my fiance was waiting.

973
00:41:32,187 --> 00:41:34,680
I told him everything without hesitation.

974
00:41:34,710 --> 00:41:38,033
He marched into the store, bought
the dress without seeing it,

975
00:41:38,293 --> 00:41:42,063
booked us a hotel and said we'd
figure out everything ourselves.

976
00:41:42,243 --> 00:41:42,483
Love

977
00:41:42,483 --> 00:41:42,603
it.

978
00:41:42,783 --> 00:41:43,203
Yay.

979
00:41:43,383 --> 00:41:44,523
Good husband.

980
00:41:44,553 --> 00:41:44,913
Good man,

981
00:41:44,913 --> 00:41:45,633
good husband.

982
00:41:46,263 --> 00:41:50,013
Two days later, we returned to my
parents' house and my mother exploded.

983
00:41:50,373 --> 00:41:53,193
She was angry that we bought
the dress without telling her.

984
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:56,880
and said it was unfair because
they never had a big wedding.

985
00:41:57,130 --> 00:41:59,517
So she's now kept trying to control
it because they didn't have the

986
00:41:59,517 --> 00:42:01,227
wedding they wanted or something.

987
00:42:01,573 --> 00:42:05,023
she also claimed my father
never gave his blessing.

988
00:42:06,860 --> 00:42:10,727
My father agreed with her and
said he could never trust anyone

989
00:42:10,727 --> 00:42:12,767
with his beloved daughter.

990
00:42:13,327 --> 00:42:16,117
A massive fight broke out
and we ended up flying home.

991
00:42:16,518 --> 00:42:20,373
Once we were home, everyone there was
happy for us, but my heart was breaking

992
00:42:20,373 --> 00:42:22,383
because my own family didn't accept us.

993
00:42:22,657 --> 00:42:26,540
In January, my mom finally called
and said she needed the wedding date

994
00:42:26,540 --> 00:42:30,350
and location so she could book time
off or they wouldn't come at all.

995
00:42:30,677 --> 00:42:34,113
My father is still refusing, wait,
so this is happening right now?

996
00:42:34,113 --> 00:42:34,683
She said, my father,

997
00:42:34,683 --> 00:42:36,573
I was about to say like, this is now.

998
00:42:37,443 --> 00:42:39,633
Because sometimes people will like
send a story and then they'll be

999
00:42:39,633 --> 00:42:41,313
like, oh, that was 20 years ago.

1000
00:42:41,313 --> 00:42:42,003
We're happily married.

1001
00:42:42,033 --> 00:42:42,243
Yeah.

1002
00:42:42,507 --> 00:42:43,497
So I wasn't sure.

1003
00:42:43,497 --> 00:42:46,527
But yeah, it says my father is still
refusing to walk me down the aisle.

1004
00:42:46,577 --> 00:42:50,223
if we have a wedding weekend, that's
the short version of part one.

1005
00:42:50,343 --> 00:42:52,503
I'll write a part two when you're ready.

1006
00:42:53,150 --> 00:42:55,947
Wait, I wanna know if
the wedding happened yet.

1007
00:42:56,247 --> 00:42:56,967
I know.

1008
00:42:56,967 --> 00:42:58,107
I need to find out.

1009
00:42:58,137 --> 00:42:59,517
And where are they located?

1010
00:42:59,517 --> 00:43:01,227
Are they like in the us?

1011
00:43:01,610 --> 00:43:05,360
I'm wondering if they're in
the US and then they traveled.

1012
00:43:05,747 --> 00:43:08,507
They traveled to Belgium
where they bought the dress.

1013
00:43:08,567 --> 00:43:08,897
Damn.

1014
00:43:08,897 --> 00:43:11,927
If old girl is like anywhere near
me, within driving distance, she

1015
00:43:11,927 --> 00:43:14,687
needs to invite me to the wedding
and I will be there in a heartbeat.

1016
00:43:14,687 --> 00:43:17,177
And I'll make sure her
reception is a blast.

1017
00:43:17,237 --> 00:43:18,257
Yes.

1018
00:43:18,797 --> 00:43:19,157
Oh my gosh.

1019
00:43:19,157 --> 00:43:20,087
That'd be so fun.

1020
00:43:20,494 --> 00:43:21,472
We're like, we're coming here wedding.

1021
00:43:21,977 --> 00:43:22,457
Yes.

1022
00:43:23,034 --> 00:43:23,350
Yeah.

1023
00:43:23,350 --> 00:43:24,700
I wanna know if it happened.

1024
00:43:25,017 --> 00:43:25,240
Yeah.

1025
00:43:25,240 --> 00:43:26,230
You need the part two.

1026
00:43:26,380 --> 00:43:27,070
Yes.

1027
00:43:27,190 --> 00:43:27,610
I know.

1028
00:43:27,610 --> 00:43:29,350
I wasn't expecting it
for it to end like that.

1029
00:43:29,663 --> 00:43:33,473
I feel like, I like the way this
is going, in the way that her

1030
00:43:33,503 --> 00:43:34,913
boundaries have been really good.

1031
00:43:34,913 --> 00:43:36,173
Like her boundaries are firm.

1032
00:43:36,377 --> 00:43:37,817
Her fiance's backing her up.

1033
00:43:37,847 --> 00:43:40,897
'cause I feel like in a lot of these
stories, we don't hear about the fiance

1034
00:43:40,897 --> 00:43:44,797
or how he's like supporting his wife,
whether it's a mother-in-law or not.

1035
00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:47,953
and so I feel like it's
really good that she has him.

1036
00:43:48,247 --> 00:43:51,520
And so I'm hoping like they stick
firm on their boundaries and are

1037
00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:54,327
either like, and the mom's calling
like, okay, when's the date?

1038
00:43:54,657 --> 00:43:56,157
This is their chance to be like,

1039
00:43:57,177 --> 00:43:57,477
no,

1040
00:43:57,477 --> 00:43:59,307
you know, we're not
gonna give you the date

1041
00:43:59,577 --> 00:43:59,907
No.

1042
00:44:00,057 --> 00:44:00,747
And do our own thing.

1043
00:44:01,107 --> 00:44:06,387
No, this sounds like as much as
it sucks mom and dad, it doesn't

1044
00:44:06,387 --> 00:44:10,287
seem like it's beneficial to have
them in your adult life right now.

1045
00:44:10,633 --> 00:44:10,813
Mm-hmm.

1046
00:44:11,233 --> 00:44:13,783
it does not seem like there
is anything positive that is

1047
00:44:13,783 --> 00:44:15,253
coming from that relationship.

1048
00:44:15,497 --> 00:44:18,810
And if there is not, and this
is for friendships too, like

1049
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:20,737
if it's not positive and.

1050
00:44:21,033 --> 00:44:24,287
Bringing you joy, then why have it?

1051
00:44:24,677 --> 00:44:25,067
Mm-hmm.

1052
00:44:25,337 --> 00:44:27,587
That's why people write off
their parents sometimes.

1053
00:44:27,937 --> 00:44:28,407
Yeah.

1054
00:44:28,697 --> 00:44:32,663
And anyone that's like family is
family or blood is thicker than water.

1055
00:44:32,753 --> 00:44:33,083
No,

1056
00:44:33,293 --> 00:44:36,863
I think they're using that as like a
manipulative tactic because mm-hmm.

1057
00:44:37,103 --> 00:44:40,040
Obviously they could tell that
she's like, this isn't right, this

1058
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:41,690
isn't how family should treat me.

1059
00:44:42,023 --> 00:44:44,040
And so they're gonna
try to manipulate you.

1060
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:47,520
And that's why people stay in like
toxic family relationships for so long

1061
00:44:47,550 --> 00:44:49,720
because they're like, well, it is family.

1062
00:44:49,750 --> 00:44:50,380
Okay.

1063
00:44:50,670 --> 00:44:52,660
but no one deserves to
be treated that way.

1064
00:44:52,660 --> 00:44:55,090
Especially like when she's so happy and,

1065
00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:55,450
yeah.

1066
00:44:55,810 --> 00:44:58,952
I mean, it would be different if they're
like, look, we don't want you getting

1067
00:44:58,952 --> 00:45:02,252
married because this man is horrible
for you and does like horrible things,

1068
00:45:02,252 --> 00:45:05,912
but it's not sound like that's the
case, or at least we haven't heard that.

1069
00:45:06,282 --> 00:45:09,572
I am so glad that he stepped
up and did something though.

1070
00:45:09,572 --> 00:45:10,502
Because you hear stories.

1071
00:45:10,502 --> 00:45:10,772
Yeah.

1072
00:45:10,772 --> 00:45:11,552
Like all the time.

1073
00:45:11,677 --> 00:45:13,323
But normally it's the.

1074
00:45:13,827 --> 00:45:17,300
Spouse's parent acts a
certain way towards the bride.

1075
00:45:17,305 --> 00:45:17,595
Mm-hmm.

1076
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:20,390
And the spouse never
stands up for his bride.

1077
00:45:20,660 --> 00:45:20,960
Yes.

1078
00:45:21,157 --> 00:45:24,427
so this is even more impressive that
he's standing up for her against

1079
00:45:24,427 --> 00:45:26,497
his own in-laws or future in-laws.

1080
00:45:26,527 --> 00:45:27,157
Yes.

1081
00:45:27,307 --> 00:45:28,597
No, that's such a good point.

1082
00:45:28,597 --> 00:45:32,757
'cause I would say like 75% of the
stories I get where it's like a bride

1083
00:45:32,757 --> 00:45:36,250
and her mother-in-law, there's no
mention of the fiance in the story.

1084
00:45:36,250 --> 00:45:36,400
Agree.

1085
00:45:36,683 --> 00:45:40,030
So, like, when I like act 'em
out as skits, I kind of just

1086
00:45:40,030 --> 00:45:40,990
will like, put him in there.

1087
00:45:40,990 --> 00:45:43,993
And sometimes, but when I actually
read the story, I'm like, guys, I

1088
00:45:43,993 --> 00:45:45,523
don't know where he's at in this.

1089
00:45:45,590 --> 00:45:49,123
it's no mention like, mother-in-laws
will corner the bride and they'll

1090
00:45:49,213 --> 00:45:50,593
all these things will happen.

1091
00:45:50,927 --> 00:45:54,908
and so my advice to those brides is
always, he needs to be the one to Yeah.

1092
00:45:54,968 --> 00:45:56,823
To talk to the mom and address her.

1093
00:45:56,823 --> 00:45:56,883
Yeah.

1094
00:45:57,197 --> 00:46:01,370
so yeah, the fact that he's like
creating a blockade to her own family,

1095
00:46:01,370 --> 00:46:05,420
I think is really showing a healthy
like boundary that they're setting.

1096
00:46:05,420 --> 00:46:05,480
Um,

1097
00:46:05,722 --> 00:46:05,863
I

1098
00:46:05,868 --> 00:46:06,028
agree.

1099
00:46:06,699 --> 00:46:07,115
Yeah.

1100
00:46:07,428 --> 00:46:11,431
what advice would you give her
at this point, about mom calling?

1101
00:46:11,950 --> 00:46:16,398
Well, I don't, I feel like I have to be
limited on the advice to provide because

1102
00:46:16,398 --> 00:46:17,718
I don't know the rest of the story.

1103
00:46:18,028 --> 00:46:18,208
Yeah.

1104
00:46:18,238 --> 00:46:22,432
If it were me, which it's hard and
would take a lot of courage if that

1105
00:46:22,432 --> 00:46:26,256
was my parents acting that way, they
wouldn't be going to the wedding.

1106
00:46:26,537 --> 00:46:28,903
yeah, I don't need that
at my wedding at all.

1107
00:46:28,903 --> 00:46:36,640
And I say this because a family member
of mine who her spouse's family was

1108
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:41,623
not super accepting of her, because
she was not able to have children.

1109
00:46:41,940 --> 00:46:42,000
Mm-hmm.

1110
00:46:42,030 --> 00:46:45,650
And his family wanted him
to have children of his own.

1111
00:46:45,710 --> 00:46:49,377
And she already had two
children from a prior marriage.

1112
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:52,363
They treated her like absolute crap.

1113
00:46:52,843 --> 00:46:54,583
And at their wedding.

1114
00:46:54,893 --> 00:47:01,338
The best man was the groom's brother,
and he was supposed to do the whole

1115
00:47:01,457 --> 00:47:04,368
I think catch the garter or help take
the garter off or whatever it is,

1116
00:47:04,368 --> 00:47:05,748
like the groom takes the garter off.

1117
00:47:05,748 --> 00:47:08,463
I don't know if that's a southern thing,
but the best man is there and then

1118
00:47:08,463 --> 00:47:10,083
there's like a dance with the best man.

1119
00:47:10,307 --> 00:47:14,643
Well, when the announcement came on for
the DJ saying like, Hey, bride and best

1120
00:47:14,643 --> 00:47:18,960
man, and then groom and maid of honor
come out to the dance floor, best man

1121
00:47:18,960 --> 00:47:24,710
stood her up, didn't go on the dance floor
to dance with her, and then they left.

1122
00:47:25,013 --> 00:47:26,847
why do you want people
like that at your wedding?

1123
00:47:26,997 --> 00:47:29,397
Now granted she didn't know this
was gonna happen at their wedding.

1124
00:47:29,427 --> 00:47:31,707
Like if she would've known that, she
would've said I don't want them coming.

1125
00:47:31,707 --> 00:47:34,057
But that's what you
lead yourself to happen.

1126
00:47:34,165 --> 00:47:36,577
You have someone toxic like that.

1127
00:47:36,752 --> 00:47:41,033
If you break down and tell them,
Hey, here's the date they're going

1128
00:47:41,033 --> 00:47:43,373
to try and find a way to make
that wedding about themselves.

1129
00:47:43,898 --> 00:47:45,758
Because they've not proven otherwise.

1130
00:47:45,878 --> 00:47:47,265
So don't even have them there.

1131
00:47:47,295 --> 00:47:48,015
That's my advice.

1132
00:47:48,015 --> 00:47:48,735
They don't need to be there.

1133
00:47:48,735 --> 00:47:50,745
They haven't proven that they're
worthy enough to be there.

1134
00:47:51,055 --> 00:47:51,695
Totally.

1135
00:47:52,055 --> 00:47:56,005
I think it's like we wanna continually
give chances, especially for family

1136
00:47:56,005 --> 00:47:57,535
or people we've known for a long time.

1137
00:47:57,782 --> 00:48:00,382
But like the way she started
out, the story was saying like,

1138
00:48:00,622 --> 00:48:03,052
my mom's a narcissist and I'm
pretty sure my sister is too.

1139
00:48:03,052 --> 00:48:04,818
Or whatever order it was.

1140
00:48:05,025 --> 00:48:08,308
you have that gut feeling like, mm-hmm
ooh, someone's gonna wreck my day.

1141
00:48:08,308 --> 00:48:10,018
And you don't wanna go
into your wedding day.

1142
00:48:10,018 --> 00:48:12,928
You wanna be go into your wedding day and
be like, oh, my favorite people are here.

1143
00:48:13,165 --> 00:48:14,278
I'm so excited.

1144
00:48:14,278 --> 00:48:15,658
I'm a princess, or whatever.

1145
00:48:15,658 --> 00:48:19,188
You know, your vibe is, but like, you
know, that gut feeling just in general

1146
00:48:19,188 --> 00:48:22,158
of like, if you're going somewhere where
maybe you don't get along with someone,

1147
00:48:22,158 --> 00:48:25,905
or there's drama that like feeling
where like something's gonna happen

1148
00:48:25,905 --> 00:48:27,315
and you don't want that on that day.

1149
00:48:27,315 --> 00:48:28,485
So I completely agree with you.

1150
00:48:28,485 --> 00:48:31,875
It's like you need to be firm
with your boundaries now and.

1151
00:48:32,242 --> 00:48:35,052
Maybe it's a time to elope and
take a fun trip with your fiance.

1152
00:48:35,112 --> 00:48:35,652
That's right.

1153
00:48:36,012 --> 00:48:36,762
Don't them hanging money over your head.

1154
00:48:37,128 --> 00:48:41,278
People that use weddings and the
attendees as like a business transaction.

1155
00:48:41,338 --> 00:48:44,248
Oh, well they know my dad because
they worked with him 20 years

1156
00:48:44,248 --> 00:48:45,958
ago, so I need to invite them.

1157
00:48:45,958 --> 00:48:46,648
No, you don't.

1158
00:48:47,218 --> 00:48:47,848
No, you don't.

1159
00:48:47,938 --> 00:48:50,938
If they're not in your life right
now, do they know your date of birth?

1160
00:48:51,292 --> 00:48:51,445
Right.

1161
00:48:51,445 --> 00:48:54,235
If they don't know your birthday,
they don't need to be there.

1162
00:48:54,595 --> 00:48:54,955
Mm-hmm.

1163
00:48:55,615 --> 00:48:56,245
Yes.

1164
00:48:56,562 --> 00:48:57,508
Oh my gosh, yes.

1165
00:48:57,682 --> 00:49:00,435
I feel so lucky that I didn't
have parents come in and be

1166
00:49:00,435 --> 00:49:01,935
like, here, here's my coworkers.

1167
00:49:01,935 --> 00:49:02,775
I wanna invited to the wedding.

1168
00:49:02,775 --> 00:49:06,518
Like they, I was like, you tell me your
close friends that you wanted to come

1169
00:49:06,518 --> 00:49:07,598
to the wedding, that's totally fine.

1170
00:49:07,948 --> 00:49:09,865
but I hear stories where
it's literally like.

1171
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:12,870
Someone they met as a baby and Right.

1172
00:49:12,870 --> 00:49:15,080
They're like, haven't seen
'em in the last 25 years.

1173
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:19,223
And their mom's like, here
invite Susan from 20 years ago.

1174
00:49:19,223 --> 00:49:21,323
And they're like, I have
no relationship with them.

1175
00:49:21,473 --> 00:49:21,623
Mm-hmm.

1176
00:49:21,893 --> 00:49:24,007
And then they'll get mad because
they're like, well, why wouldn't

1177
00:49:24,007 --> 00:49:25,177
you let me invite my friends?

1178
00:49:25,177 --> 00:49:25,933
But, yeah.

1179
00:49:25,963 --> 00:49:29,053
Well, and then the threat comes out,
oh, well I'm paying for the wedding, so.

1180
00:49:29,233 --> 00:49:29,473
Mm-hmm.

1181
00:49:29,743 --> 00:49:30,793
You need to invite them.

1182
00:49:30,793 --> 00:49:31,843
I'm paying for it.

1183
00:49:32,145 --> 00:49:32,580
Yeah.

1184
00:49:32,940 --> 00:49:33,750
Thanks for the threat.

1185
00:49:34,110 --> 00:49:35,850
And that's where I'm confused
with these people too.

1186
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:37,890
'cause it's like, oh, they
say we can't afford Hawaii.

1187
00:49:37,890 --> 00:49:41,130
So are they assuming that
they're supposed to pay for it?

1188
00:49:41,428 --> 00:49:44,550
But now they're saying they can't
pay for the dress, so they're,

1189
00:49:44,670 --> 00:49:46,800
they sound like they're just gonna
try to hold money over your head.

1190
00:49:47,140 --> 00:49:47,410
Yeah.

1191
00:49:47,410 --> 00:49:47,860
I'm wanna hear

1192
00:49:47,860 --> 00:49:48,490
part two.

1193
00:49:48,867 --> 00:49:49,206
Yeah.

1194
00:49:49,266 --> 00:49:51,426
I'm gonna reach out to her and
see if we can get a part two.

1195
00:49:52,655 --> 00:49:53,125
All right.

1196
00:49:53,422 --> 00:49:55,612
I always like to end these
with some confessions that

1197
00:49:55,612 --> 00:49:57,172
people send me on Instagram.

1198
00:49:57,522 --> 00:49:59,328
So let's read these.

1199
00:49:59,328 --> 00:50:03,558
These are, what's a decision you
regret not speaking up about?

1200
00:50:03,898 --> 00:50:08,998
this person says, my in-laws were inviting
people behind our backs to our wedding.

1201
00:50:09,385 --> 00:50:10,428
They didn't say anything.

1202
00:50:10,765 --> 00:50:11,375
that's hard.

1203
00:50:11,532 --> 00:50:15,162
I had a etiquette expert on here
a while back and I asked her like,

1204
00:50:15,162 --> 00:50:16,542
what you do in that situation?

1205
00:50:16,848 --> 00:50:19,552
And she's like, it's hard when
someone's already invited 'cause

1206
00:50:19,552 --> 00:50:23,720
you don't know, like, what they were
told and like how to contact them.

1207
00:50:23,720 --> 00:50:27,720
And so that like adds a whole
new layer of like complication.

1208
00:50:27,750 --> 00:50:29,700
'cause it's like if you just
show up on the wedding day,

1209
00:50:30,043 --> 00:50:30,427
right?

1210
00:50:30,608 --> 00:50:35,075
I mean, again, weddings can happen in
a totally different way now, but I'm

1211
00:50:35,135 --> 00:50:39,758
used to like, you send the card in
the mail, they RSVP and send it back.

1212
00:50:40,105 --> 00:50:42,475
And that's how you check off how many
people are gonna be in attendance

1213
00:50:42,475 --> 00:50:45,978
because you have to provide those
numbers and you get charged per head.

1214
00:50:46,158 --> 00:50:48,173
I don't know if that's still
the same case, but like, yeah.

1215
00:50:48,318 --> 00:50:51,558
If people being invited behind the
scenes and they're not included in

1216
00:50:51,558 --> 00:50:53,932
that headcount, don't you pay more?

1217
00:50:54,260 --> 00:50:56,840
Per head if they're not
in the original numbers.

1218
00:50:57,100 --> 00:50:58,030
yeah, probably.

1219
00:50:58,030 --> 00:50:58,720
They'll probably see it.

1220
00:50:58,720 --> 00:51:02,523
There's more people there and, yeah, I
mean that's pretty much all the same.

1221
00:51:02,553 --> 00:51:05,157
Like sometimes it's more digital
now, but other than that they're

1222
00:51:05,157 --> 00:51:06,597
still counting it the same way.

1223
00:51:06,904 --> 00:51:10,654
And that tells me that there's
someone that hasn't hosted an event

1224
00:51:10,654 --> 00:51:14,224
before or been part of it to know
like you can't have extra people.

1225
00:51:14,566 --> 00:51:14,917
Yeah.

1226
00:51:15,267 --> 00:51:19,947
this says inviting some people I wanted
and went with a smaller venue instead.

1227
00:51:20,261 --> 00:51:21,161
I'm talking about garter.

1228
00:51:21,161 --> 00:51:22,121
The whole garter thing.

1229
00:51:22,121 --> 00:51:25,571
I didn't want it at all, but I
kept getting told it was tradition.

1230
00:51:25,961 --> 00:51:26,231
Uhhuh.

1231
00:51:26,531 --> 00:51:26,711
Yeah.

1232
00:51:26,711 --> 00:51:27,701
I didn't do it at my wedding.

1233
00:51:27,701 --> 00:51:28,301
I was like,

1234
00:51:28,391 --> 00:51:30,191
shit, that person must be from the south.

1235
00:51:31,811 --> 00:51:34,924
I mean, they most what I feel
like they do 'em out here, but

1236
00:51:34,924 --> 00:51:38,404
like most weddings I've been to in
recent times, I haven't seen it.

1237
00:51:38,664 --> 00:51:41,777
but I feel like it's like maybe
more, more religious weddings.

1238
00:51:41,777 --> 00:51:42,497
I don't know.

1239
00:51:42,774 --> 00:51:43,697
Where are you at?

1240
00:51:44,034 --> 00:51:45,037
I'm in Wisconsin.

1241
00:51:45,337 --> 00:51:45,787
Okay.

1242
00:51:45,847 --> 00:51:47,527
Do y'all do money dances as well?

1243
00:51:47,527 --> 00:51:48,817
'cause we do money dances.

1244
00:51:48,877 --> 00:51:52,747
I've been to a couple weddings,
but it's not like very common.

1245
00:51:53,067 --> 00:51:53,887
Okay, alright.

1246
00:51:53,887 --> 00:51:54,187
Yeah.

1247
00:51:54,581 --> 00:51:54,814
Yeah.

1248
00:51:54,814 --> 00:51:59,754
We do two different types of money dance,
either, you have like a little sash as

1249
00:51:59,754 --> 00:52:05,084
the bride and the money is put into the
sash or you carry around a boot and Oh.

1250
00:52:05,324 --> 00:52:06,644
Money gets put into a boot.

1251
00:52:07,304 --> 00:52:07,934
Okay.

1252
00:52:08,204 --> 00:52:08,534
Yeah.

1253
00:52:08,891 --> 00:52:10,854
yeah, I know there's so many
like, interesting traditions.

1254
00:52:10,854 --> 00:52:14,021
I think the one time I saw the
wedding dance was like maybe

1255
00:52:14,081 --> 00:52:15,701
going on 10 years ago now.

1256
00:52:16,121 --> 00:52:16,481
Okay.

1257
00:52:16,481 --> 00:52:17,801
So yeah, it's been a while.

1258
00:52:17,921 --> 00:52:18,101
Hmm.

1259
00:52:18,491 --> 00:52:18,851
Okay.

1260
00:52:19,101 --> 00:52:20,047
all right, I'll do two more.

1261
00:52:20,341 --> 00:52:24,361
letting my dad bring his girlfriend
who was his mistress because

1262
00:52:24,361 --> 00:52:25,801
I feared he wouldn't come.

1263
00:52:26,221 --> 00:52:27,481
He left early anyway.

1264
00:52:27,859 --> 00:52:30,257
Oh, that's one of those gut things, right?

1265
00:52:30,257 --> 00:52:33,644
Like you want it to work 'cause
you want your dad there, but.

1266
00:52:33,942 --> 00:52:37,066
But was your, mom is still
married to him, so he,

1267
00:52:37,126 --> 00:52:38,656
that's where I'm like, I don't Yeah.

1268
00:52:38,686 --> 00:52:39,556
Isn't a mistress.

1269
00:52:39,556 --> 00:52:42,226
You're still married and your
mistress is like, who you're

1270
00:52:42,226 --> 00:52:43,576
cheating on your wife with, right?

1271
00:52:44,026 --> 00:52:44,416
Yeah.

1272
00:52:44,416 --> 00:52:45,406
Unless she meet.

1273
00:52:45,406 --> 00:52:46,726
Well, yeah.

1274
00:52:46,876 --> 00:52:51,289
I'm guessing it could be like
they're now divorced, but

1275
00:52:51,289 --> 00:52:52,609
that's the one he cheated on.

1276
00:52:52,609 --> 00:52:54,979
Which either way that's
awkward if your mom's there.

1277
00:52:55,339 --> 00:52:55,489
Yeah.

1278
00:52:55,489 --> 00:52:55,789
That's weird.

1279
00:52:55,789 --> 00:52:57,379
I would be like, don't come.

1280
00:52:57,949 --> 00:52:58,279
Yeah.

1281
00:52:58,639 --> 00:52:58,969
Yeah.

1282
00:52:59,356 --> 00:53:03,044
Not telling my brother to end his
relationship earlier, love his

1283
00:53:03,049 --> 00:53:04,964
ex, but they were not compatible.

1284
00:53:05,627 --> 00:53:05,807
Okay.

1285
00:53:06,317 --> 00:53:09,917
Because that's not wedding related,
but that's, that's just a regret.

1286
00:53:10,307 --> 00:53:11,657
People are just confessing to me.

1287
00:53:12,047 --> 00:53:12,431
All right.

1288
00:53:12,431 --> 00:53:12,971
Well awesome.

1289
00:53:13,001 --> 00:53:14,591
Well thank you so much for coming on.

1290
00:53:14,591 --> 00:53:14,921
That was,

1291
00:53:14,921 --> 00:53:15,791
yes, thank

1292
00:53:15,791 --> 00:53:16,001
you.

1293
00:53:16,001 --> 00:53:16,751
Glad story.

1294
00:53:17,051 --> 00:53:20,637
Can you tell everyone where they can
find your content, follow you for more,

1295
00:53:20,937 --> 00:53:22,817
cliff notes and learn more about you?

1296
00:53:22,817 --> 00:53:23,897
Anything fun you're working on?

1297
00:53:24,347 --> 00:53:30,767
Yeah, so you can find me on, Facebook,
Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, which I

1298
00:53:30,767 --> 00:53:34,187
don't post a lot on there, but all
of them, the handle is the CliffNotes

1299
00:53:34,187 --> 00:53:39,084
gal. And, I just ask followers, keep
bringing me the stories, tag me in

1300
00:53:39,084 --> 00:53:42,364
anything that you need shortened,
and I'll shorten 'em up for y'all.

1301
00:53:42,731 --> 00:53:43,181
Awesome.

1302
00:53:43,451 --> 00:53:44,464
Well, thanks so much.

1303
00:53:44,704 --> 00:53:45,544
Thank you.