<v Speaker 1>It's not your job to teach him. This is not

<v Speaker 1>how you love too bad. You can go take that

<v Speaker 1>with someone else, because nothing about that is the recipe

<v Speaker 1>for a healthy long term relationship, let alone a marriage.

<v Speaker 1>Hey babe, it's Asia Christina as. This is Quality Queen Control.

<v Speaker 2>What is happening? Hello?

<v Speaker 1>Everyone, Welcome back to Quality Queen Gontrol with your host,

<v Speaker 1>Asia Christina Foster.

<v Speaker 2>How is everybody feeling?

<v Speaker 1>I just realized that I don't know where I put

<v Speaker 1>my oar ring, but that's neither here nor there.

<v Speaker 2>Are you guys having a good week? What are we

<v Speaker 2>up to? What are we doing?

<v Speaker 1>I mean, what's the latest news? Okay, like you guys

<v Speaker 1>should let me know. Oh my gosh, maybe we should

<v Speaker 1>start something where if you're seeing this, like you kind

<v Speaker 1>of just write how your day went or something like that,

<v Speaker 1>like in the comment section. I don't know, I feel

<v Speaker 1>like that'll be kind of cute. If you have the

<v Speaker 1>option to hype the video, make sure that you guys

<v Speaker 1>are doing that. If you are listening to me and

<v Speaker 1>you have not rated the podcast yet, rate it five

<v Speaker 1>stars wherever it is that you are listening, and let's

<v Speaker 1>just have it right on into this today we're going

<v Speaker 1>to be talking about what exactly is a quality man

<v Speaker 1>and are you the woman.

<v Speaker 2>That he would actually choose? Okay, because we.

<v Speaker 1>Often do, you know, give men a run for their money. Okay,

<v Speaker 1>on here, But we also have to call ourselves to

<v Speaker 1>a high standard as well.

<v Speaker 2>That's just the truth here.

<v Speaker 1>So we need to have a real conversation today because

<v Speaker 1>I keep hearing the same thing over and over again

<v Speaker 1>that there are no good men left, All men cheats,

<v Speaker 1>all men are trash. But every time I hear that,

<v Speaker 1>to be honest with you, I do pause. Okay, I

<v Speaker 1>pause for the cause because the truth is that is

<v Speaker 1>simply not reality. There are good men. There are loyal men,

<v Speaker 1>There are provider provider men, and there are men who

<v Speaker 1>love God, who want families and who also do value commitment.

<v Speaker 1>I know it might be unfathomable, but we also have

<v Speaker 1>to take radical accountability on how we are showing up

<v Speaker 1>in these situations and want to have certain outcomes to

<v Speaker 1>say the least.

<v Speaker 2>Right, there are so many nuances to this.

<v Speaker 1>I could go on and on and on all right,

<v Speaker 1>but stay with me for just in little while, thank you,

<v Speaker 1>all right. The uncomfortable truth that a lot of women

<v Speaker 1>do not want to hear is that quality men are

<v Speaker 1>simply selective, right, just like how quality women are selective.

<v Speaker 1>But the real question is not where are the good men?

<v Speaker 1>The question is would a good man also choose you?

<v Speaker 1>This is a question that we actually do have to

<v Speaker 1>ask ourselves. You can't be someone. Let's just say, even

<v Speaker 1>on a surface level, you are someone that you're a slob.

<v Speaker 1>You don't take any sort of pride in your appearance,

<v Speaker 1>and you just like, don't you just completely let yourself go.

<v Speaker 1>You're out of shape, You're all the different things be

<v Speaker 1>So for real, a man is not going A quality

<v Speaker 1>man is not going to look at you and want

<v Speaker 1>to commit to you. Does that mean he may sleep

<v Speaker 1>with you? Of course, Hello, If you're throwing it, they're

<v Speaker 1>catching it. But getting a commitment out of a man

<v Speaker 1>is very different from placing your value on grabbing the

<v Speaker 1>attention of a man or getting a man to sleep

<v Speaker 1>with you. Is not how you can e gauge whether

<v Speaker 1>or not a man is going to commit to you.

<v Speaker 1>I think we all know that by now, So I

<v Speaker 1>don't want you to get you know, defensive, because this

<v Speaker 1>conversation is not about shaming woman.

<v Speaker 2>Hello, Hello, I am a woman.

<v Speaker 1>But it's about accountability, it's about growth and positioning yourself

<v Speaker 1>for the life that you actually want. Because a quality

<v Speaker 1>man is not just sitting around dating the the you know,

<v Speaker 1>sitting around blaming the dating pool, like honestly, you know

<v Speaker 1>they're not. So you have to become the type of

<v Speaker 1>woman that quality men would pursue. And the truth is,

<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna leave this right here, all right, I'm gonna

<v Speaker 1>throw it.

<v Speaker 2>Can you catch it? All right?

<v Speaker 1>Healthy people attract healthy people?

<v Speaker 2>Might drop?

<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, you know that meme where like the guy

<v Speaker 1>like says a word and then he just and then

<v Speaker 1>he just walks away and the crowd's going crazy.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that was that moment right there? Did you catch it?

<v Speaker 2>Because I like the wing you do that right there? Right?

<v Speaker 2>The healthy people attract healthy people? Are you one? Okay? Okay,

<v Speaker 2>what is a quality man? Let's start right there? All right?

<v Speaker 1>Social media has done a number on people's understanding of relationships.

<v Speaker 2>All right.

<v Speaker 1>A lot of women think that a quality man is

<v Speaker 1>simply rich, tall, handsome, popular and desired by other women. No,

<v Speaker 1>that's just some of it, But that's not actually what

<v Speaker 1>defines a quality man. Okay, that's just the truth. I'm

<v Speaker 1>gonna keep it about. I'm gonna keep it a buck.

<v Speaker 1>Those are surface level traits, all right. A quality man

<v Speaker 1>is defined by his character. All right, that's number one,

<v Speaker 1>because this is the truth. Let's back up here. You

<v Speaker 1>can be rich, tall, and some popular and desired by

<v Speaker 1>other women and still be a pos Okay.

<v Speaker 2>All right, that's just the truth.

<v Speaker 1>So the marker, the one of the markers, the main

<v Speaker 1>markers I would, I would argue of a quality man

<v Speaker 1>is his integrity. A quality man simply does what he

<v Speaker 1>says he's going to do, and his word actually means

<v Speaker 1>something that is very important. He moves with consistency, he

<v Speaker 1>moves with honesty. And let me tell you something. Integrity

<v Speaker 1>is rare. Okay, integrity is rare. A man with integrity

<v Speaker 1>will keep his promises. A man with integrity will respect

<v Speaker 1>your boundaries and not walk away because he's not getting them.

<v Speaker 1>Oh you didn't want you weren't available for tonight? All right, swipe,

<v Speaker 1>let me go swipe on someone else, meet someone else.

<v Speaker 1>A quality man is also going to move with intention. Yes,

<v Speaker 1>I said, quality man is going to move with intention,

<v Speaker 1>because what do you mean? You are thirty five and

<v Speaker 1>you're still buying sections at Lavo and one oak.

<v Speaker 2>Everybody in here is younger than you. Are you good?

<v Speaker 1>You have about a ten eight year age gap from

<v Speaker 1>all the people around you. You do not belong in

<v Speaker 1>the club anymore, sir. It's time to go pack it

<v Speaker 1>up and go all right. And this is what really

<v Speaker 1>eats me up.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there's no there's there's no other, there's no good

<v Speaker 2>woman out here.

<v Speaker 1>You have those men that are trying to push that argument, Well,

<v Speaker 1>where are you guys looking?

<v Speaker 2>You know the other?

<v Speaker 1>You guys want to get the girls in the clubs

<v Speaker 1>with all the outfits and the fishnets and the whatever,

<v Speaker 1>and then you want to reel them in and talk

<v Speaker 1>about how they don't know how to be they don't

<v Speaker 1>know a good man when they see one baby? Why

<v Speaker 1>are you looking in that environment? So that tells me

<v Speaker 1>everything I need to know. You. Some people are very

<v Speaker 1>good at men and women are very good at claiming

<v Speaker 1>they want said thing and wanting to do none of

<v Speaker 1>the work to actually obtain said thing. We are looking

<v Speaker 1>for love in the clubs. I don't want anyone in

<v Speaker 1>my comment section talking about I found my man in

<v Speaker 1>the club.

<v Speaker 2>I don't care. The exception never makes the rule.

<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right, so good for you girl, Okay, you're special.

<v Speaker 1>But for the vast majority, which is this aerotype, you

<v Speaker 1>do not look for love in the club. Hella, hello,

<v Speaker 1>that's not where you go. So, like I said, you

<v Speaker 1>want a man that's going to be keeping his promises,

<v Speaker 1>respecting his boundaries, and also moving with intention. And that's

<v Speaker 1>how you know a man is is of quality. He

<v Speaker 1>has intention with you. It is not this whole Uh yeah,

<v Speaker 1>I'm scared to have these conversations of what it is

<v Speaker 1>that I'm looking for. No, like adults understand that, hey,

<v Speaker 1>yes we are dating. Does it mean specifically you and

<v Speaker 1>I will sail off into the sunset forever? Who knows.

<v Speaker 1>That's to be determined. But my intention with dating is

<v Speaker 1>I am dating for marriage. There's nothing wrong with stating

<v Speaker 1>that I digress. A quality man is not going to

<v Speaker 1>breadcrumb woman, where every time he's on your he sees

<v Speaker 1>you pop up on social media, he's heart eyzing, responding

<v Speaker 1>to your stories, he's making sending you tongue emojis, winky faces,

<v Speaker 1>But then he doesn't interact with you in real life

<v Speaker 1>via text or anything like that. That is the number

<v Speaker 1>one sign to tell that this man he doesn't like

<v Speaker 1>you enough, all right, He's not looking for a true

<v Speaker 1>commitment with you, okay, all right. A quality man is

<v Speaker 1>not going to play games, right and also a quality

<v Speaker 1>man is not even going to keep a roster. You

<v Speaker 1>know why, because he don't have time for it. He

<v Speaker 1>don't have time for it. This man is working hard.

<v Speaker 1>He does not have time. He's stacking up his money.

<v Speaker 1>Most likely he doesn't have time to be dating. You

<v Speaker 1>heard her her and he dang shirt, does not have

<v Speaker 1>any time to be in the club buying sections so

<v Speaker 1>he can appease his friends on Belle Boulevard in Queens,

<v Speaker 1>New York.

<v Speaker 2>All right, he's not doing that.

<v Speaker 1>He's not getting drunk so that he can have burger

<v Speaker 1>king at the end of the night so he doesn't

<v Speaker 1>wake up hungover.

<v Speaker 2>All right, He's not doing that.

<v Speaker 1>You have to also think about the lifestyle that certain

<v Speaker 1>men come with. You have to get to the point

<v Speaker 1>where you are like unattracted to the type of man

<v Speaker 1>that's gonna be buying sections and trying to flaunt really

<v Speaker 1>bad foggy diamonds on his neck.

<v Speaker 2>Foggy diamonds. What. Yeah.

<v Speaker 1>You have to get to the point where you are

<v Speaker 1>not drawn to a guy that has his that's like

<v Speaker 1>showcasing like copious amounts of money on Instagram with like

<v Speaker 1>a blunt in his mouth and playing some like really

<v Speaker 1>really like loud trap song in the background. Okay, but

<v Speaker 1>that's one archetype. You also can't be pulled into and

<v Speaker 1>seduced into the lifestyle of like a great talker, a

<v Speaker 1>man that like apps, like he's very buttoned up, like

<v Speaker 1>he has everything together and like he knows what he's doing,

<v Speaker 1>but he absolutely has no clue. Oh yeah, you know, Uh,

<v Speaker 1>I'm very serious about the woman that I want to date.

<v Speaker 1>You know, I just saw I have gone around to

<v Speaker 1>find the right one. You know, I'm hoping it could

<v Speaker 1>be you. But I'm very serious and intentional when I'm dating.

<v Speaker 1>And yeah, I'm just really in a point in my

<v Speaker 1>life where you know, I'm just dump the games, dumb

<v Speaker 1>the games. I don't drama. I really just you know,

<v Speaker 1>drama's there. I'm leaving you start shut up, I said,

<v Speaker 1>shut up, because you are the drama queen. Okay, you

<v Speaker 1>are the drama. You're making this up and you're making

<v Speaker 1>it seem like you're so serious and you want to

<v Speaker 1>come across as so self actualized, because you're trying to

<v Speaker 1>prove the very thing that you, in fact are. You're

<v Speaker 1>trying to prove that you were not that a joker,

<v Speaker 1>a player, a good talker, a schemer. That's how you're

<v Speaker 1>trying to come across, because you're hoping that your seriousness

<v Speaker 1>will transcend into her being serious with you, so that

<v Speaker 1>at least you lock her down and she knows that

<v Speaker 1>you're not playing games, so she's not going to play games.

<v Speaker 1>But it's a selfish game that you are in fact playing, sir,

<v Speaker 1>I digress, Okay, being with a man that has integrity,

<v Speaker 1>which like I said, is rare. It's not interested in

<v Speaker 1>chaos or confusion in any capacity, and it is in

<v Speaker 1>fact true.

<v Speaker 2>Men that are.

<v Speaker 1>Of quality, they do tend to work a lot, that

<v Speaker 1>is the truth. They are filling their time with working

<v Speaker 1>a lot. They're not filling their time trying to sleep

<v Speaker 1>with this woman, that woman, that woman. It's very unattractive

<v Speaker 1>when a man has no self control in that capacity

<v Speaker 1>where they always have to fill their time with like

<v Speaker 1>lust and lustful activities and lustful conversations and using women

<v Speaker 1>as emotional getaway cars and trying like You're never when

<v Speaker 1>you have seen and experienced that much in life, your

<v Speaker 1>path is very very broad. Only Jesus Christ can save you, well, anyone,

<v Speaker 1>but like it gets to a point where it's like you,

<v Speaker 1>some men just have to be a loan to reflect

<v Speaker 1>and think and come to the Lord.

<v Speaker 2>Okay.

<v Speaker 1>Secondly, a man that is of value has discipline, right.

<v Speaker 1>A man that is a quality man has discipline, all right.

<v Speaker 1>He has self control. That means he has discipline with money,

<v Speaker 1>all right. He has discipline with woman, He has discipline

<v Speaker 1>in his habits, he has discipline.

<v Speaker 2>With his time.

<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you there's no such thing as a man

<v Speaker 1>that will ever see their true and full potential if

<v Speaker 1>women are constantly going to be their kryptonite. Some men

<v Speaker 1>are very successful and do our players, but they are

<v Speaker 1>never going to see the fullness of their potential because

<v Speaker 1>they keep on allowing woman to distract them and not

<v Speaker 1>being serious. Everyone knows that a man that is very,

<v Speaker 1>very intelligent understands the power of having a beautiful and

<v Speaker 1>supportive woman by your side, because when women feel loved

<v Speaker 1>and supported by their man.

<v Speaker 2>Oh we ride for our men. Hey.

<v Speaker 1>Half the time, you guys are writing for men that

<v Speaker 1>are not even committed to you and could care less

<v Speaker 1>about where you go or stay.

<v Speaker 2>So you know what I mean.

<v Speaker 1>If you are the type of man that's going to

<v Speaker 1>provide this great environment, you're protecting, you're providing.

<v Speaker 2>You are you know, loyal, You are.

<v Speaker 1>In a monogamous relationship, okay, you are valuing and supporting

<v Speaker 1>your wife. It's almost inevitable that women tend to reciprocate

<v Speaker 1>back that behavior as well. Okay, So you want a

<v Speaker 1>man that's going to be disciplined. You don't want a

<v Speaker 1>man that's going to be laying around on the couch

<v Speaker 1>like a princess on his phone, scrolling all day, you know,

<v Speaker 1>not doing anything. He only shows up to work when

<v Speaker 1>he has to show up to work. And that's about

<v Speaker 1>all you're going to get out of him. There's nothing

<v Speaker 1>else you can get out of this guy, okay. Because

<v Speaker 1>a man without discipline can never build anything. A man

<v Speaker 1>without discipline can never build anything, and that includes a family.

<v Speaker 2>So close your legs, okay. And if a man cannot

<v Speaker 2>build a life, he obviously can not lead a family.

<v Speaker 1>These are things that we need to start thinking about, ladies, Okay,

<v Speaker 1>especially if you were the thirty years old and above you.

<v Speaker 1>He can't lead a family, he can barely lead himself.

<v Speaker 1>So how is he going to help you raise children?

<v Speaker 1>And all these different things. A quality man also has purpose, Okay.

<v Speaker 1>Quality men are not drifting through life. They are building something.

<v Speaker 1>They have goals, they have vision, they have direction, they

<v Speaker 1>have execution, because I don't want to hear about your

<v Speaker 1>your your goals and all these different things if you're

<v Speaker 1>not pursuing any of them. We all have goals in life, right,

<v Speaker 1>and they need to have ambition and responsibility, right if

<v Speaker 1>you're gonna And also we're talking about ambition with execution

<v Speaker 1>and responsibility. I'm not talking about this like false ambition

<v Speaker 1>that this man has where he's talking about this invention

<v Speaker 1>he has going on, and you know he's just waiting

<v Speaker 1>to speak to the right guy. I don't want to

<v Speaker 1>hear the talk, walk the walk enough, all right. A

<v Speaker 1>man with purpose is going to wake up every day

<v Speaker 1>with intention. I need to provide for my family, okay.

<v Speaker 1>A quality man is also emotionally stable.

<v Speaker 2>All right.

<v Speaker 1>This is a big one, because a quality man is

<v Speaker 1>not volatile, disrespectful, manipulative, or childish. You're mad, so he's mad.

<v Speaker 1>It's a baddy fight, bad Girls club?

<v Speaker 2>What is going on?

<v Speaker 1>You know, every time it comes to solving problems, he's

<v Speaker 1>walking away. He's disappearing for hours on end. He had

<v Speaker 1>to just go leave the scene and take a drive.

<v Speaker 1>He can't communicate how he feels. He gets frustrated, he

<v Speaker 1>wants to shut down, and he doesn't want to speak

<v Speaker 1>at all. You know, here you are, you're upset about something,

<v Speaker 1>and instead of trying to figure out where you're upset,

<v Speaker 1>he's upset that you're upset, and he feels like you

<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be. You're never gonna get anywhere like that. You're

<v Speaker 1>never gonna get anywhere with a man who's gonna be childish.

<v Speaker 1>You're never gonna get anywhere with a man that's volatile.

<v Speaker 1>He's vengeful, he's vindictive, and you know, he he felt

<v Speaker 1>a way that you went out with your girls for

<v Speaker 1>the night, even when you told him, you know what

<v Speaker 1>I mean, these are not like wilds or anything like that.

<v Speaker 1>And he and he last minute is like, yeah, you know,

<v Speaker 1>since you want to you know, come home. Uh, you

<v Speaker 1>know at eleven pm, you know I'm gonna go out

<v Speaker 1>with my boys. Wait, why are you trying to like

<v Speaker 1>go tit for tat with me, like, I'm so confused

<v Speaker 1>on why you and I are competing for Like who

<v Speaker 1>has friends to hang out like? This is a very

<v Speaker 1>strange energy. Also, a man that is a quality man

<v Speaker 1>is not going to manipulate manipulate you in any capacity.

<v Speaker 1>It's just what you see is what you get. It's

<v Speaker 1>straight edge, okay. This You know a quality man. He

<v Speaker 1>can communicate, He will, you know, regulate his emotions because

<v Speaker 1>he values you. He cares about how he comes across

<v Speaker 1>to you. So he's gonna make sure that he's approaching

<v Speaker 1>this with a healthy lens because he cares about actually

<v Speaker 1>coming to a result of resolution.

<v Speaker 2>Equality.

<v Speaker 1>Man is going to take accountability at all times because

<v Speaker 1>he understands that it is emotional immaturity that will always

<v Speaker 1>destroy relationships. You know, take accountability as a man. You

<v Speaker 1>know what, Babe, I'm sorry about that.

<v Speaker 2>You know, like, hey, like.

<v Speaker 1>Even if it's not even if it's not your fault,

<v Speaker 1>you know it's your phone, Okay, and just be like babe,

<v Speaker 1>I don't even want to fight about this, not in

<v Speaker 1>a dismissive tone like yo, this is stupid. I'm not

<v Speaker 1>even finding about this. That's a different tone as opposed

<v Speaker 1>to babe, please, like, I don't want to fight about this.

<v Speaker 1>I totally hear what you're saying. I understand where you're

<v Speaker 1>coming from, and you know, like, let's come up with

<v Speaker 1>a resolution that is a man, I'm telling you, A

<v Speaker 1>man that genuinely cares for you will speak to you

<v Speaker 1>like this. You know, can we talk? Can we talk

<v Speaker 1>about what's actually going on here? I don't want you

<v Speaker 1>to be upset with me. I don't want that's what

<v Speaker 1>they're gonna do. They're not gonna run away, stop talking

<v Speaker 1>to you, ghost you for days on end to try

<v Speaker 1>and like make you learn your lesson.

<v Speaker 2>Go out on a wild night with the boys.

<v Speaker 1>Because he needed to blow some steam. Start liking girls

<v Speaker 1>photos on Instagram because he wants you to know you

<v Speaker 1>have competition and he could be doing better than you. Like,

<v Speaker 1>all this stuff is disgusting and you should never want

<v Speaker 1>to be with a man who responds in this manner,

<v Speaker 1>and it's not your job to teach him.

<v Speaker 2>This is not how you love.

<v Speaker 1>Too bad, you can go take that with someone else

<v Speaker 1>because I'm not staying here, because nothing about that is

<v Speaker 1>the recipe for a healthy long term relationship, let alone

<v Speaker 1>a marriage. Now, a quality man is going to value commitment.

<v Speaker 2>Listen to me.

<v Speaker 1>Clearly, a quality man wants peace, not chaos. All right,

<v Speaker 1>So he's gonna want loyalty, he's going to want stability,

<v Speaker 1>he's going to want respect, he's going to want a family. Right,

<v Speaker 1>He's not looking for endless options because he understands also

<v Speaker 1>that that's very taxing to just be so unsettled in life,

<v Speaker 1>where now you've got to take this girl out on

<v Speaker 1>a date and that girl out on a date, engage

<v Speaker 1>her intentions, See if she's aligned, See if she wants

<v Speaker 1>what you want, See if you have the same outlook

<v Speaker 1>on life. You know, like all these different things that

<v Speaker 1>come into being in a relationship. He's looking for the

<v Speaker 1>right woman, all right. But here's the truth that a

<v Speaker 1>lot of women do avoid. This is where the conversation

<v Speaker 1>gets uncomfortable because women love talking about what men should be. Hello,

<v Speaker 1>I'm the first one to do it. I'm just saying

<v Speaker 1>I am okay. But we don't always talk about who

<v Speaker 1>we need to become. And the truth is, a quality

<v Speaker 1>man is not going to be looking for a woman

<v Speaker 1>that is constantly involved in drama. You have this entitlement

<v Speaker 1>to yourself, You're constantly attention seeking, You are always involved

<v Speaker 1>in some sort of chaos, and you're also a bitter woman.

<v Speaker 2>All right.

<v Speaker 1>Value, you know, men that are of quality are looking

<v Speaker 1>for women who will add peace and value to his life. Okay,

<v Speaker 1>And the truth is that's going to require self reflection,

<v Speaker 1>not this constant internal battle of oh am, i am

<v Speaker 1>I reading what he said wrong? And because let me

<v Speaker 1>tell you something, you'd be shocked to see how healthy

<v Speaker 1>dynamics bring out things in yourself that actually do need

<v Speaker 1>to heal.

<v Speaker 2>The more work that you do prior.

<v Speaker 1>To, you know, getting into a healthy, serious relationship that

<v Speaker 1>is leading to marriage. When you are tested and these things,

<v Speaker 1>these themes sort of kind of resurface, you will be

<v Speaker 1>better equipped on how to handle them, as opposed to

<v Speaker 1>completely unraveling and letting all the unhealthy patterns that you

<v Speaker 1>were participating in unleash. So the woman that a quality

<v Speaker 1>man will choose is gonna be someone that has self respect, equality,

<v Speaker 1>woman does not chase male validation. I'm sorry, you know,

<v Speaker 1>long gone are the days where we think, oh, we

<v Speaker 1>have to have the tightest genes, you know, the the

<v Speaker 1>biggest shell bra and everything you're doing is for the

<v Speaker 1>male gaze like you're going to the you know, you

<v Speaker 1>guys are going out with like you know, butt cheeks

<v Speaker 1>hanging out and all these different things. I know, I

<v Speaker 1>sound so old and dated because you know.

<v Speaker 2>You're young.

<v Speaker 1>Probably you want to have fun, you want to show

<v Speaker 1>your little shape all the different things. But men need imagination, Okay,

<v Speaker 1>trust me, they have no problem with imagination at all.

<v Speaker 1>And even when you are in a like a long

<v Speaker 1>dress that's like loose fitting and things like that, but

<v Speaker 1>it's like it's a summer day, Like you just look beautiful,

<v Speaker 1>you look elegant. Do you honestly think a man's gonna go, well,

<v Speaker 1>I can't see her boobs or her butt, so yeah,

<v Speaker 1>I'm a pass on this one. No, Like he's looking

<v Speaker 1>at your face probably and he's like, wow, she's beautiful, Like,

<v Speaker 1>you know, wonder what's in the dress?

<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

<v Speaker 1>Like men have an imagination for a reason. Okay, you

<v Speaker 1>don't need to reveal every single thing to get and

<v Speaker 1>to look at you. You don't need to post videos

<v Speaker 1>of yourself twerking and doing all this stuff so that

<v Speaker 1>you can look what I can do. And this is

<v Speaker 1>what's going to make this guy hit me up. And

<v Speaker 1>all these different things. You don't have to do all

<v Speaker 1>of that.

<v Speaker 2>Right.

<v Speaker 1>Equality woman has standards, all right. A quality woman is

<v Speaker 1>going to is not going to entertain men who disrespect her,

<v Speaker 1>who waste her time, who even treat her casually like

<v Speaker 1>oh whatever, whatever, Yeah, I see you when I see you,

<v Speaker 1>don't I don't because she understands something very powerful, which

<v Speaker 1>is the way that you allow men to treat you

<v Speaker 1>teaches them how.

<v Speaker 2>To value you.

<v Speaker 1>Like I said in another episode, in the beginning of

<v Speaker 1>a relationship is usually like a man's best that is

<v Speaker 1>his maximum effort. So if you're not even liking that

<v Speaker 1>and that is subpar, that's your baseline.

<v Speaker 2>Okay.

<v Speaker 1>A quality woman is also emotionally mature, right, so you know,

<v Speaker 1>at the end of the day, a quality man, on

<v Speaker 1>the contrary, he's not gonna want to date a woman

<v Speaker 1>who thrives on drama. You know, you're always you and

<v Speaker 1>your friends are always in something.

<v Speaker 2>You're playing mind games.

<v Speaker 1>Oh well, he didn't text me back for three hours,

<v Speaker 1>so I'm not going to text him until the next day.

<v Speaker 1>You know, you're constantly testing the relationship to see how

<v Speaker 1>much he really likes you, and all these different things

<v Speaker 1>like people can feel those games if those things happened organically,

<v Speaker 1>he happened to text you, maybe he fell asleep and

<v Speaker 1>you ended up response whatever. But there's this there's not

<v Speaker 1>this weird underlying energy that you can almost feel like

<v Speaker 1>something is wrong, something is a miss here. Men also

<v Speaker 1>feel that too. A quality man is going to want

<v Speaker 1>a woman who can communicate clearly, who can take accountability

<v Speaker 1>who and who also can you know, resolve conflict in

<v Speaker 1>a healthy way. You're not like screaming, cursing, throwing subliminals

<v Speaker 1>on Facebook and Instagram and posting about all these different

<v Speaker 1>things to try and like, you know, hint at your situation.

<v Speaker 1>You're not like just moving so funny, you understand, because

<v Speaker 1>at the end of the day, peace is attractive. Peace

<v Speaker 1>is attractive, all right. When men bring peace and security

<v Speaker 1>into your life. It feels so comforting to know that

<v Speaker 1>even if you did have a hiccup and you had

<v Speaker 1>a little disagreement about something, to know that that man's

<v Speaker 1>not going to walk away and start, you know, being

<v Speaker 1>unfaithful to you and disappear for days on end and

<v Speaker 1>all these different things. And I'm sure for men to

<v Speaker 1>know that he can feel safe to come to you

<v Speaker 1>and maybe you might be upset about something, but you're

<v Speaker 1>not going to be ripping his head off and nagging

<v Speaker 1>and just like being such an unpleasant person to be

<v Speaker 1>around and bringing involving the public in everything and things

<v Speaker 1>like that.

<v Speaker 2>Hello. Hello.

<v Speaker 1>A quality woman has her own life, her own passions,

<v Speaker 1>her own goals, her own interest, her own discipline. Her

<v Speaker 1>life does not revolve around men. You cannot only be

<v Speaker 1>your best best self when it comes to being in

<v Speaker 1>a relationship. Yes, relationships should be inspiring and all the things,

<v Speaker 1>but this is why I believe some people struggle with

<v Speaker 1>relationships because you're trying to put on a performance because

<v Speaker 1>it's motivating for you at that time. But that's not

<v Speaker 1>who you actually truly are. So he's being himself, he's

<v Speaker 1>going to the gym at seven am. You're trying to,

<v Speaker 1>you know, keep up with him. You usually don't function

<v Speaker 1>like that, And now he has nothing to bounce off

<v Speaker 1>of because you're just trying to mirror the things that

<v Speaker 1>he's doing and you're wondering why, Hm, like, I feel

<v Speaker 1>like this isn't really going anywhere or anything like that,

<v Speaker 1>because it's not even who you truly are. Some of

<v Speaker 1>you have to really take a break and actually sit

<v Speaker 1>there and ask yourself, like the truth is, like, am

<v Speaker 1>I emotionally available? Am I like ready to be dating

<v Speaker 1>right now? What are the like, what are my circumstances

<v Speaker 1>that is going on right now that I'm ready fully

<v Speaker 1>to date? Because there is a such thing as maybe

<v Speaker 1>you should just take a break and really like focus

<v Speaker 1>on getting things together all the different things. Yes, the

<v Speaker 1>right man that will come along can help you sort

<v Speaker 1>through certain things in your life, but it shouldn't be

<v Speaker 1>this like You're like, what's more important in the totem

<v Speaker 1>pole of things is that you need to organize what's

<v Speaker 1>going on with you before you enter into any sort

<v Speaker 1>of dynamic, right Because I'm telling you, all these things

<v Speaker 1>will start to surface whenever a healthy relationship comes your way,

<v Speaker 1>all right, And that's just me being real. So you know,

<v Speaker 1>a woman that is of quality is going to be

<v Speaker 1>building herself and ironically, that's what's going to make you

<v Speaker 1>more attractive right when you are working on yourself. Also,

<v Speaker 1>a quality woman knows how to be supportive.

<v Speaker 2>All right.

<v Speaker 1>I know this is controversial, but let's talk about supportiveness

<v Speaker 1>for a second. A lot of women have been taught

<v Speaker 1>that supporting a man is you know somehow you know weak.

<v Speaker 1>And when I say supporting, I'm not saying you're paying

<v Speaker 1>his bills and you're paying for his way to go.

<v Speaker 2>Through life, because that's your way of supporting.

<v Speaker 1>I mean making, you know, as long as obviously you

<v Speaker 1>feel respected, making a man you know feel like they

<v Speaker 1>are respected and supported emotionally, because men do thrive when

<v Speaker 1>they feel respected and supported. And a quality woman understands

<v Speaker 1>the difference. Please hear me out between supporting a man

<v Speaker 1>versus mothering a man. So by no means, am I

<v Speaker 1>saying finance his life and that's how you're supporting him. No,

<v Speaker 1>that's not all that, that's not where I'm heading here

<v Speaker 1>at all. Wrong channel, all right, but you're supporting a

<v Speaker 1>man who's already moving with purpose. And speaking of being

<v Speaker 1>supportive to all of my quality queens, my AID team,

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<v Speaker 1>share with me what it is.

<v Speaker 2>That you're looking for in a man. Girl, What kind of.

<v Speaker 1>Man are you trying to you know, align yourself to

<v Speaker 1>be with. Okay, because at the end of the day,

<v Speaker 1>you do deserve a quality man, and I am holding

<v Speaker 1>all of us to a higher standard, okay, And this

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<v Speaker 2>I'm here for you, okay.

<v Speaker 1>I want to know what's going on in your life

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<v Speaker 2>Let's do this.

<v Speaker 1>Let's get you guys some quality men in Nasalon period.

<v Speaker 2>Okay.

<v Speaker 1>So let's get into why some women never meet quality men, Okay,

<v Speaker 1>because we do need to talk about this. Let's be

<v Speaker 1>honest about something. Sometimes the real reason that some women

<v Speaker 1>never even meet quality men is because you're simply entertaining

<v Speaker 1>the wrong ones. You want to constantly show up entertaining

<v Speaker 1>the wrong men. Then you want to participate in behaviors

<v Speaker 1>that don't even make sense, and then you want to

<v Speaker 1>turn around and blame it on well men enough, you

<v Speaker 1>can't attract a disciplined man if your life is chaotic.

<v Speaker 1>I said what I said, It is the truth. You

<v Speaker 1>will not attract a disciplined man. If your life is chaotic.

<v Speaker 1>Everything in life is spiritual, your energy can be felt.

<v Speaker 1>No man that's just getting to know you wants to

<v Speaker 1>clean up such a mess. Yes, he can be of

<v Speaker 1>assistance and help you with certain things, but when you

<v Speaker 1>were there's an energy where it feels like you would

<v Speaker 1>rather just leave that right there than even bother like

<v Speaker 1>being around it. Okay, and you guys under hopefully you

<v Speaker 1>guys are picking up what I'm laying down. It's like

<v Speaker 1>it's such a mess, it's overwhelming that you almost feel

<v Speaker 1>like someone is more of a liability than wanting to

<v Speaker 1>entertain helping them, you know, in any capacity. It's like, okay,

<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna leave this right here, especially again when

<v Speaker 1>the bond is shallow. Okay, we're not talking someone's you know,

<v Speaker 1>this is your man and he's helping you. But as

<v Speaker 1>you're getting to know somebody, sometimes that chaotic energy can

<v Speaker 1>be felt. So you cannot attract a man with standards.

<v Speaker 1>Also if you don't have any that you have all

<v Speaker 1>of these rules of oh yeah, third date, Yeah, we're

<v Speaker 1>gonna get it on, and you're showing zero restraint, especially

<v Speaker 1>when it comes to your sexual appetite. You have zero

<v Speaker 1>restraint there like men of that, and they're not going

<v Speaker 1>to want to They already are placing you in a

<v Speaker 1>certain box once a certain line is crossed. That is

<v Speaker 1>just the truth. That's not my rules. That is just

<v Speaker 1>the rules of life, all right. And you definitely cannot

<v Speaker 1>attract a godly man if you if your life is

<v Speaker 1>completely disconnected from God. That's just the honest truth. We

<v Speaker 1>have to take radical accountability and understand that the things

<v Speaker 1>that we want need to align with our actions and

<v Speaker 1>where we are in our lives as well. Okay, so

<v Speaker 1>faith always matters, right, And a lot of people want

<v Speaker 1>God to send them a good partner, but they're not

<v Speaker 1>doing the inner work to become the partner that they're

<v Speaker 1>praying for. It doesn't make any sense, all right, God,

<v Speaker 1>I want him to have washboard abs, but you are

<v Speaker 1>struggling to, you know, lose fifty pounds. All right, I'm

<v Speaker 1>just keeping it honest. I'm keeping it real here, all right.

<v Speaker 1>I'm not trying to fat shame anybody. But the truth is, yes,

<v Speaker 1>I'm sure there are people that are of that, you know,

<v Speaker 1>that have a significant amount of weight to lose, and

<v Speaker 1>they are getting partners like that. But let's be real here, okay,

<v Speaker 1>be very real, Like read between the lines.

<v Speaker 2>Okay.

<v Speaker 1>The Bible says in Proverbs thirty one that a virtuous

<v Speaker 1>woman is rare and valuable. But if you read that

<v Speaker 1>passage closely, that woman is disciplined, that woman is wise,

<v Speaker 1>that woman is trustworthy, that woman's respected. That does not

<v Speaker 1>mean we have to be everything right, Like, I know

<v Speaker 1>it's overwhelming, but I've come to the conclusion that the

<v Speaker 1>reason that Proverbs thirty one is so sometimes overwhelming and

<v Speaker 1>misunderstood is because it's laying out the accumulation of things

<v Speaker 1>that that.

<v Speaker 2>Woman has done over the course of her lifetime.

<v Speaker 1>She is not creating clothing for her husband cooking, cleaning,

<v Speaker 1>being a realtor, selling her own clothing line, all these

<v Speaker 1>different things. At the same time. They were talking about

<v Speaker 1>this from the context of all of the things that

<v Speaker 1>she's done throughout her lifetime, like a list of her accomplishments.

<v Speaker 2>Okay.

<v Speaker 1>Also, of a value is not passive. She's very intentional

<v Speaker 1>about her life. And the truth is, when it comes

<v Speaker 1>to healthy relationships, you have to be intentional about your life.

<v Speaker 1>You have to say no ninety nine times before you

<v Speaker 1>get the one that's just the truth. You have to

<v Speaker 1>show up differently so that you can expect a different outcome.

<v Speaker 1>End of story, two whole people coming together, not two

<v Speaker 1>broken people hoping that one other person is.

<v Speaker 2>Going to fix them. Okay.

<v Speaker 1>So if you are listening to this episode today, I

<v Speaker 1>want you to reflect on something honestly. Instead of asking

<v Speaker 1>where aren't the good men? Ask yourself, am I becoming

<v Speaker 1>the woman that a good man can recognize and pursue

<v Speaker 1>cold heart truth?

<v Speaker 2>Okay?

<v Speaker 1>Because quality attracts quality, growth attracts growth. So when you

<v Speaker 1>focus on becoming the best version of yourself, you're going

<v Speaker 1>to stop chasing relationships. You're going to stop trying to

<v Speaker 1>be performative in relationships to show your value because everybody

<v Speaker 1>knows it ain't tricking if you got it all right,

<v Speaker 1>and you will naturally start attracting the right one. So,

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<v Speaker 2>In a minute, I'm gonna help you.

<v Speaker 1>Get it, all right. That's what we're doing around here

<v Speaker 1>in the A Team. With that being said, do not

<v Speaker 1>forget that I love you and God loves you, and

<v Speaker 1>don't speak to beautiful angels in my next episode, Nah