<v Speaker 1>Jary, Katie and Josh one hundred. Just a few minutes ago,

<v Speaker 1>Katie was talking about how she was out for her

<v Speaker 1>little run and a woman got in her kitchen. It

<v Speaker 1>was an awkward exchange.

<v Speaker 2>And she was very mean.

<v Speaker 1>Dog was barking, children were crying.

<v Speaker 2>There's a lot going on. The police showed up. Okay,

<v Speaker 2>didn't get like that.

<v Speaker 1>Say this is the second time within a couple of

<v Speaker 1>weeks somebody's got in your kitchen. First, was it target

<v Speaker 1>with that young lady that got in your face told

<v Speaker 1>you to move, and now the lady at the park

<v Speaker 1>telling you to move.

<v Speaker 2>People under you. I think people underrest it.

<v Speaker 3>No, I think people underestimate me because I have a

<v Speaker 3>smile on my face and they think that what it

<v Speaker 3>is come at me and then they try and step

<v Speaker 3>up and I'm like, well.

<v Speaker 2>Wait a second, So we put a stop to that

<v Speaker 2>real quick. I will say, if this happens a third time,

<v Speaker 2>maybe it's.

<v Speaker 1>Me, maybe it's you. So we'll wait for that to

<v Speaker 1>pop next week probably and then. Yes, Katie was encouraging

<v Speaker 1>everybody just to be out there and smile, just be happier, smile,

<v Speaker 1>just smile about things, be happy.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Yeah, a lot it can do a lot for your.

<v Speaker 3>Mood specifically, So I'm just saying it can only help.

<v Speaker 1>Okay, Yeah, there's a story here people who have to

<v Speaker 1>fake smiles at work or suppress their emotions, which is

<v Speaker 1>generally me.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well, we have to compartmentalize a lot of our

<v Speaker 3>life to do the strike.

<v Speaker 2>Smiles so much it is good to see. Yeah, what

<v Speaker 2>time do you wake up in the morning. I'll let

<v Speaker 2>me tell you.

<v Speaker 3>So.

<v Speaker 1>Research is showing that people who regularly suppress their emotions

<v Speaker 1>or force fake smiles at work experience significantly higher levels

<v Speaker 1>of stress and emotional exhaustion. Preach it. Oh, it's a

<v Speaker 1>phenomenon called emotional labor, and it requires workers to regulate

<v Speaker 1>or hide their true feelings in professional environments, which which

<v Speaker 1>is you know, good, so you're not going around punching people.

<v Speaker 2>Uh huh. Now, they say.

<v Speaker 1>This is not a good idea because higher emotional label

<v Speaker 1>labor translates to increased rates of binge drinking when.

<v Speaker 2>You get home. So if you're faking your smiles at work,

<v Speaker 2>you're gonna go home and get tanked. Oh, so stop it.

<v Speaker 2>But that's the thing is.

<v Speaker 3>There's also something to be said about emotional maturity and

<v Speaker 3>not letting things get.

<v Speaker 1>You know, you've been somewhere for twenty years.

<v Speaker 3>It's one thing if like every time you wander into

<v Speaker 3>the kitchen, somebody stuck their finger into your lunch, right,

<v Speaker 3>somebody's got their finger in your lunch pail, Like after

<v Speaker 3>a while, that would irritate me, That would get me going.

<v Speaker 3>I don't think i'd be able to exactly stop get

<v Speaker 3>your hands on of me stuff. Yeah, but if it's

<v Speaker 3>just like the normal, like nobody filled the inter the

<v Speaker 3>printer ink, that's just got to mean you just gotta

<v Speaker 3>do it.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you can't, Like you have to be able to

<v Speaker 2>control your.

<v Speaker 1>After after day after day, Katie.

<v Speaker 3>So you're just able to let go and unleash on

<v Speaker 3>people you work with.

<v Speaker 1>No, you don't want to do that. You just go

<v Speaker 1>home and yell at your family and drink is what

<v Speaker 1>you do. So you gotta be careful. You've got to

<v Speaker 1>get in that mindset where you have to let things.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

<v Speaker 1>I mean I've had four beers before this show this morning,

<v Speaker 1>So there is that there's a I think everybody can

<v Speaker 1>like point to the one person at work to who

<v Speaker 1>you feel like might snap at some point, right, Oh, okay,

<v Speaker 1>everybody say ours one. Everybody's got now on the heels

<v Speaker 1>of that, there is a way, Katie, you're gonna love this.

<v Speaker 1>How you can train your brain to be more optimistic.

<v Speaker 1>This is what you need, this is what you're all

<v Speaker 1>about this morning.

<v Speaker 2>So there's three ways. The first way is to make

<v Speaker 2>a tadaist. Do we get to say to Doe?

<v Speaker 1>At the end of the day, you write down everything

<v Speaker 1>you got done, not just the big stuff, even like

<v Speaker 1>little things like I drank enough.

<v Speaker 2>Water today, I washed my socks.

<v Speaker 1>The goal is to remind yourself that you did a lot.

<v Speaker 1>You accomplished a lot of things, and that builds small

<v Speaker 1>amounts of confidence throughout the day.

<v Speaker 2>I like this a lot. I do stuff.

<v Speaker 1>Yours could be I do stuff list, although to do

<v Speaker 1>list is pretty okay. Then you need to schedule worry time.

<v Speaker 1>So instead of stressing all day long, give your worries

<v Speaker 1>a set time and place, write them down as they

<v Speaker 1>pop up, and then come back to them later, and

<v Speaker 1>then ask yourself can I control this? And if the

<v Speaker 1>answer is no, you got to try to let it go.

<v Speaker 1>So you got your to do list and then you

<v Speaker 1>got your worry list.

<v Speaker 2>I like that. It's not bad.

<v Speaker 1>So like at five o'clock every night, you sit down

<v Speaker 1>with yourself, you look at your worries and you just

<v Speaker 1>and then you send them off into the universe and

<v Speaker 1>you binge drink.

<v Speaker 2>Then when you crack open four natty lights, and then

<v Speaker 2>you worry, okay.

<v Speaker 1>And then the other one is use realistic affirmations. It's

<v Speaker 1>called the seven out of ten rule. Pick something you

<v Speaker 1>believe is seventy percent already. Pick something that you believe

<v Speaker 1>seventy percent already. Like I'm a hard worker. Okay, I'm

<v Speaker 1>a hard worker. I believe that's seventy percent. Then say

<v Speaker 1>it daily. Over time, your brain starts to believe it more,

<v Speaker 1>and then you change that seventy percent into one hundred

<v Speaker 1>because you keep saying it so much.

<v Speaker 2>You're like, I am one hundred percent hard worker. That

<v Speaker 2>one's kind of done. No, I like that one too, really,

<v Speaker 2>I do.

<v Speaker 3>I like the you know, personal the mantras, the manifestations.

<v Speaker 2>The yeah you're all about I.

<v Speaker 3>Am like, I like those reminding yourself, like it's all

<v Speaker 3>about your core beliefs and stuff.

<v Speaker 2>So I just I love that. I love this. Jeremy,

<v Speaker 2>you brought some good stuff today.

<v Speaker 1>You're welcome yeah, put that on to that list tonight.

<v Speaker 1>I something good on the show. I made Katie happy.

<v Speaker 2>Way to go, Jack Tudor stupid