1 00:00:00,490 --> 00:00:04,460 We had a previous episode where we broke down some common mistakes in parenting 2 00:00:04,460 --> 00:00:06,680 plans, and this episode is no different. 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:11,200 We're gonna break down how vacation clauses in parenting plans can cause 4 00:00:11,260 --> 00:00:14,170 a lot of post-divorce custody fights. 5 00:00:14,471 --> 00:00:22,001 Primarily because once again, the wording is not crystal clear about vacations. 6 00:00:22,391 --> 00:00:25,901 And again, when we think about vacations as a single parent, or maybe we've 7 00:00:25,901 --> 00:00:28,841 moved on and we have a new significant other, and we're taking our kids, this 8 00:00:28,841 --> 00:00:30,491 is supposed to be a joyous occasion. 9 00:00:30,670 --> 00:00:34,750 It's supposed to be fun, it's supposed to be lighthearted, and then we get in 10 00:00:34,750 --> 00:00:39,670 the weeds when we have to work with our ex on something specific about our case. 11 00:00:40,300 --> 00:00:41,920 And vacations is one of 'em. 12 00:00:42,160 --> 00:00:45,430 So I'm gonna break down some clauses that I've been reading and some 13 00:00:45,430 --> 00:00:49,900 parenting plans that my team did not write, and they're pretty shitty. 14 00:00:50,110 --> 00:00:53,799 And I wanna share them with you in hopes that, if you see something like 15 00:00:53,799 --> 00:00:58,059 this wrote into your parenting plan, you run for the hills, or you ask for 16 00:00:58,059 --> 00:01:02,484 it to be changed because it will not work in the future when you actually 17 00:01:02,494 --> 00:01:07,239 start participating and using said parenting plan with your co-parent. 18 00:01:07,479 --> 00:01:08,649 So first and foremost. 19 00:01:09,518 --> 00:01:14,258 each parent may take reasonable vacation time with the child. 20 00:01:14,768 --> 00:01:15,308 Period. 21 00:01:16,268 --> 00:01:17,798 End of paragraph. 22 00:01:18,278 --> 00:01:19,868 End of sentence. 23 00:01:20,708 --> 00:01:21,638 Let's break this down. 24 00:01:22,028 --> 00:01:22,658 Each parent. 25 00:01:22,688 --> 00:01:23,438 Okay, that's good. 26 00:01:23,438 --> 00:01:25,718 You, me, we both get to take vacation. 27 00:01:25,928 --> 00:01:26,978 How much vacation? 28 00:01:27,188 --> 00:01:28,058 Reasonable. 29 00:01:28,670 --> 00:01:30,710 Well, I think three weeks is reasonable. 30 00:01:30,740 --> 00:01:33,050 My ex could think 10 weeks is reasonable. 31 00:01:33,290 --> 00:01:38,393 I could think a week or two, my ex could think, let's just split the day in half. 32 00:01:39,225 --> 00:01:44,145 So yes, I have a real big problem with leaving such a vague sentence 33 00:01:44,565 --> 00:01:49,083 in a parenting plan because it doesn't tell me anything. 34 00:01:49,713 --> 00:01:51,513 What is reasonable? 35 00:01:52,059 --> 00:01:54,669 So when you're working with your attorney or you're working with a 36 00:01:54,669 --> 00:01:57,189 mediator, or you're working with somebody in my team, my team doesn't 37 00:01:57,189 --> 00:02:00,557 write shit like this, but when you're working with those people and you see, 38 00:02:00,617 --> 00:02:05,507 oh, okay, I get to have reasonable parenting time, this sounds good. 39 00:02:05,537 --> 00:02:06,107 Okay. 40 00:02:06,510 --> 00:02:08,157 You think that sounds good? 41 00:02:08,427 --> 00:02:08,967 Yeah. 42 00:02:09,027 --> 00:02:13,347 To somebody that hasn't tried to use that vacation time yet, so 43 00:02:13,347 --> 00:02:18,867 nothing is defined here, which makes vacation come back on the table. 44 00:02:19,212 --> 00:02:24,492 As something that you are going to have to focus on again, and that's not 45 00:02:24,492 --> 00:02:27,192 something what you wanna do, right? 46 00:02:27,282 --> 00:02:28,482 I wanna be one and done. 47 00:02:28,602 --> 00:02:32,652 I wanna be able to wrap this up, move on, and when it's time to take a vacation, 48 00:02:32,865 --> 00:02:36,942 I know the rules and policies around a vacation, reasonable vacation time. 49 00:02:37,103 --> 00:02:40,212 You and your ex will not think the same on that, so please, 50 00:02:40,212 --> 00:02:41,382 please, please pay attention. 51 00:02:41,652 --> 00:02:46,994 Example number two, parents will cooperate regarding vacation scheduling. 52 00:02:47,802 --> 00:02:48,612 This one's cute. 53 00:02:49,002 --> 00:02:53,595 This one's almost comical, and this is usually put in those parenting 54 00:02:53,595 --> 00:02:58,245 plans by two people who get along during the divorce process. 55 00:02:58,245 --> 00:03:03,637 They're besties, they're still doing stuff together, and then it's always ends 56 00:03:03,637 --> 00:03:09,038 up that somebody remarries or somebody gets with something else, and then it 57 00:03:09,038 --> 00:03:11,048 all blows up into a shit firestorm. 58 00:03:11,294 --> 00:03:13,544 And now we're no longer agreeing about vacations. 59 00:03:13,801 --> 00:03:17,311 When we wrote it, we were getting along and it was copacetic and you 60 00:03:17,311 --> 00:03:20,933 know, we were besties and we wrote this sentence in there thinking that 61 00:03:20,933 --> 00:03:22,313 it would be logical and reasonable. 62 00:03:22,343 --> 00:03:24,983 And then now we try to use that sentence and You hate me and I 63 00:03:24,983 --> 00:03:26,393 hate you, or one or the other. 64 00:03:26,606 --> 00:03:27,746 And now it's not. 65 00:03:28,132 --> 00:03:29,092 So this is a problem. 66 00:03:29,092 --> 00:03:33,772 Cooperation clauses fail because a high conflict person gets 67 00:03:33,772 --> 00:03:35,122 to actually make the decision. 68 00:03:35,538 --> 00:03:37,938 If we're supposed to cooperate, but somebody hates me, they can 69 00:03:37,938 --> 00:03:39,348 easily say no to everything. 70 00:03:39,610 --> 00:03:41,170 So then therefore they're actually leading. 71 00:03:41,845 --> 00:03:43,225 They're determining it's a no. 72 00:03:43,885 --> 00:03:45,955 So one parent could refuse a date. 73 00:03:45,985 --> 00:03:48,745 One parent could say, oh, that doesn't work for me. 74 00:03:48,807 --> 00:03:51,207 they might not respond to you right away. 75 00:03:51,507 --> 00:03:54,957 So it makes planning a vacation damn near impossible. 76 00:03:55,330 --> 00:03:57,100 So this sentence, run for the hills. 77 00:03:57,322 --> 00:03:58,396 Example number three. 78 00:03:59,004 --> 00:04:01,584 Oh, this is one of my favorite fucks. 79 00:04:01,761 --> 00:04:05,270 Vacation time will be mutually agreed upon. 80 00:04:05,826 --> 00:04:07,986 Are you kidding me? 81 00:04:08,829 --> 00:04:09,729 Are you kidding me? 82 00:04:09,939 --> 00:04:10,929 So let me get this straight. 83 00:04:11,079 --> 00:04:18,411 We are divorced and now I have to ask my ex, the person that hates 84 00:04:18,411 --> 00:04:20,803 me, if I can go on a vacation. 85 00:04:21,579 --> 00:04:23,619 I can tell you right now, I don't even have to send the email. 86 00:04:23,619 --> 00:04:26,100 The answer's no, I don't have to send it. 87 00:04:26,460 --> 00:04:29,070 I can just tell myself no and save myself the stamp or the money, or 88 00:04:29,070 --> 00:04:30,600 the time, or the energy or the email. 89 00:04:31,154 --> 00:04:32,107 The answer will be no. 90 00:04:32,965 --> 00:04:37,105 So again, I don't know who's creating these vague sentences, but I can tell 91 00:04:37,105 --> 00:04:40,765 you they're either one of two things, and I'm not meaning this to be rude. 92 00:04:40,795 --> 00:04:41,545 This is fact. 93 00:04:41,695 --> 00:04:46,510 They're either dumb, I said what I said, or they want my money ' cause 94 00:04:46,510 --> 00:04:50,590 anybody with two sides of their fucking brain would know that if I put this 95 00:04:50,590 --> 00:04:55,092 sentence in a divorce decree, two parents will have to mutually agree 96 00:04:55,092 --> 00:04:59,802 upon a divorce, means that one parent, my client will be calling me back. 97 00:05:00,101 --> 00:05:05,225 When they don't agree or your attorney is just dumb or your judge is just dumb. 98 00:05:05,225 --> 00:05:08,405 And I don't mean that to be rude, I mean that to be factual, that they 99 00:05:08,405 --> 00:05:12,678 don't understand how high conflict people navigate co-parenting, which 100 00:05:12,678 --> 00:05:16,894 is with hatred on their heart, ahead of the love for their children. 101 00:05:17,506 --> 00:05:18,376 That's facts. 102 00:05:18,496 --> 00:05:19,846 That's not me being rude. 103 00:05:20,026 --> 00:05:21,556 That's not me stereotyping. 104 00:05:21,676 --> 00:05:23,626 That is an absolute fact. 105 00:05:24,101 --> 00:05:25,271 And so this sentence right here. 106 00:05:26,111 --> 00:05:28,301 It's dumb or it's a money strike. 107 00:05:28,716 --> 00:05:30,906 So one parent can simply say no. 108 00:05:31,866 --> 00:05:36,665 It gives one parent veto power over all of your vacation time, and 109 00:05:36,665 --> 00:05:41,465 families end up stuck in financial loss negotiating and arguing this 110 00:05:41,465 --> 00:05:43,685 out with their attorney later. 111 00:05:44,225 --> 00:05:45,935 It's ridiculous. 112 00:05:46,427 --> 00:05:48,557 It's absolutely ridiculous. 113 00:05:48,887 --> 00:05:51,542 Okay, so example number four. 114 00:05:52,049 --> 00:05:55,919 Parents shall give reasonable notice of vacation plans. 115 00:05:55,949 --> 00:05:59,279 Now again, this sentence doesn't bother me too bad, other than the 116 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:01,379 word that I hate, which is reasonable. 117 00:06:02,069 --> 00:06:03,209 What's reasonable to me? 118 00:06:03,329 --> 00:06:08,729 I wanna know 60 to 90 days ahead of your vacation, my last minute, you know, 119 00:06:08,759 --> 00:06:11,309 X may only give me four days notice. 120 00:06:11,609 --> 00:06:13,409 Reasonable to him is four days. 121 00:06:13,409 --> 00:06:16,769 Reasonable to me is 60 to 90 days. 122 00:06:17,507 --> 00:06:19,817 So reasonable is not. 123 00:06:20,372 --> 00:06:21,542 Measurable. 124 00:06:21,962 --> 00:06:26,372 Stop signing parenting plans that use that word. 125 00:06:26,492 --> 00:06:27,362 Just take it out. 126 00:06:27,803 --> 00:06:30,443 Now, I would rather that sentence say that each parent shall 127 00:06:30,443 --> 00:06:32,963 give notice of vacation plans. 128 00:06:33,322 --> 00:06:37,102 I would rather it say that than reasonable, because now we're 129 00:06:37,102 --> 00:06:42,090 arguing about what reasonable means or here's a crazy thought. 130 00:06:42,750 --> 00:06:46,320 It could just say, parents shall give 30 days notice of vacation plans. 131 00:06:47,293 --> 00:06:53,683 What you mean that I could actually just have 30 days wrote right there? 132 00:06:53,683 --> 00:06:54,703 Yes, you can. 133 00:06:54,793 --> 00:06:55,363 Absolutely. 134 00:06:55,363 --> 00:06:57,313 My team does it all day long for people. 135 00:06:57,643 --> 00:07:04,247 We give actual details of when to do shit that's respectful with your co-parent. 136 00:07:04,942 --> 00:07:05,572 Shocking. 137 00:07:05,872 --> 00:07:06,322 I know. 138 00:07:06,592 --> 00:07:11,722 All right, so if I, me, Sam, were writing your vacation section, 139 00:07:11,962 --> 00:07:13,702 which I do for a living, by the way. 140 00:07:13,942 --> 00:07:14,182 Okay. 141 00:07:14,182 --> 00:07:16,882 My name is Sam and I write Custom parenting plans for high conflict 142 00:07:16,882 --> 00:07:19,402 situations and you never know when your situation will churn. 143 00:07:19,402 --> 00:07:20,242 High conflict. 144 00:07:20,521 --> 00:07:23,152 Here are the things that I would include, so get ready to record this, pause this. 145 00:07:23,384 --> 00:07:24,281 Take notes. 146 00:07:24,461 --> 00:07:27,414 Number one, how much vacation time does each parent get? 147 00:07:27,923 --> 00:07:30,623 How much weeks, days? 148 00:07:31,203 --> 00:07:33,245 Can it interrupt a visitation schedule? 149 00:07:33,245 --> 00:07:34,565 Can I take somebody's weekend? 150 00:07:34,565 --> 00:07:35,675 Can it be consecutive? 151 00:07:35,675 --> 00:07:36,845 Can it be year round? 152 00:07:37,583 --> 00:07:39,353 These are the questions you have to answer. 153 00:07:39,521 --> 00:07:43,103 Now I can tell you what I preference in dealing with high conflict people. 154 00:07:43,403 --> 00:07:47,093 I can tell you what I preference now that I have adult children and 155 00:07:47,093 --> 00:07:48,713 how I would do things differently. 156 00:07:48,933 --> 00:07:52,913 That's what you get whenever you hire my team, is you get the ins 157 00:07:52,913 --> 00:07:55,909 and the outs and the hindsights, but that's the kind of level. 158 00:07:56,029 --> 00:07:57,619 This should not be one sentence. 159 00:07:58,433 --> 00:08:00,713 This is not a one sentence event. 160 00:08:01,029 --> 00:08:03,851 My whole vacation is wrote in one sentence. 161 00:08:03,851 --> 00:08:04,871 I think not. 162 00:08:05,291 --> 00:08:06,341 This is a paragraph hell. 163 00:08:06,341 --> 00:08:08,171 And I think in our parenting plan, it's like three paragraphs. 164 00:08:08,447 --> 00:08:12,317 Number two, how much vacation time is requested, or how 165 00:08:12,317 --> 00:08:13,577 vacation time is requested. 166 00:08:13,607 --> 00:08:14,417 Is it written? 167 00:08:14,417 --> 00:08:15,257 Is it verbal? 168 00:08:15,387 --> 00:08:19,674 Do I get to stand in your driveway and be like, Hey, June 10th through the 17th, 169 00:08:19,674 --> 00:08:21,204 I'm gonna take the kids on vacation. 170 00:08:21,804 --> 00:08:22,614 I'm sorry, what? 171 00:08:23,321 --> 00:08:25,481 need that on paper somewhere. 172 00:08:25,677 --> 00:08:28,757 need that with like, notice, okay. 173 00:08:28,998 --> 00:08:32,842 How much notice, not just like, oh, it's the ninth and you're 174 00:08:32,842 --> 00:08:34,222 telling me you're leaving the 10th. 175 00:08:34,522 --> 00:08:36,262 Well, I, I need more notice than that. 176 00:08:36,613 --> 00:08:40,003 Again, some of you may be thinking this is a little over the top. 177 00:08:40,003 --> 00:08:42,703 Sam, you're being way too detailed here. 178 00:08:43,003 --> 00:08:45,075 Am I, are you divorced? 179 00:08:45,369 --> 00:08:47,139 Are you in a high conflict situation? 180 00:08:47,381 --> 00:08:49,959 Do you have somebody that hates your guts more than they love their children? 181 00:08:50,634 --> 00:08:53,234 If not, sit down and let me keep going. 182 00:08:53,594 --> 00:08:54,014 Thank you. 183 00:08:54,194 --> 00:08:56,871 Number three, travel and location rules. 184 00:08:57,138 --> 00:08:59,898 Now we got some people that really think that everybody should 185 00:08:59,898 --> 00:09:03,948 stay in state tweet to their own parenting plan is custom built. 186 00:09:04,313 --> 00:09:07,264 You write this puppy to make it make sense for you, but we gotta 187 00:09:07,264 --> 00:09:08,824 talk about out-of-state travel. 188 00:09:09,004 --> 00:09:11,374 We're gonna talk about international travel, we're gonna 189 00:09:11,374 --> 00:09:13,204 talk about passports and usage. 190 00:09:13,744 --> 00:09:18,047 These are the kind of things that I would rather have in here than not in here we 191 00:09:18,047 --> 00:09:20,929 have, we have people that, I had a client the other day that she's like, well, 192 00:09:20,929 --> 00:09:22,459 we've never had passports for the kids. 193 00:09:22,489 --> 00:09:23,329 Okay, perfect. 194 00:09:23,329 --> 00:09:24,079 Put that in there. 195 00:09:24,289 --> 00:09:26,906 We don't want passports for the kids till they turn 18 and 196 00:09:26,906 --> 00:09:28,076 they can go get 'em themselves. 197 00:09:28,190 --> 00:09:30,320 Write that in there, but when you don't include it. 198 00:09:30,935 --> 00:09:35,105 Now you've left the door open that he could try to go get passports and 199 00:09:35,105 --> 00:09:38,525 have you have to say yes or no, and then you're the bad guy later when 200 00:09:38,525 --> 00:09:42,305 we could just be the bad guy now and get this wrapped up and move on. 201 00:09:43,085 --> 00:09:44,105 But we gotta talk about it. 202 00:09:44,105 --> 00:09:51,036 And don't ever assume that your ex is going to be okay with you going and 203 00:09:51,036 --> 00:09:53,250 getting a passport after your divorce. 204 00:09:53,479 --> 00:09:54,528 Talk about it now. 205 00:09:54,943 --> 00:09:57,198 You guys, if you're already building this parenting plan and you're 206 00:09:57,198 --> 00:09:59,568 already pissing each other off and you're already having hard 207 00:09:59,568 --> 00:10:02,374 conversations, have 'em all get it done. 208 00:10:02,632 --> 00:10:04,552 Rip that fucking bandaid off once. 209 00:10:04,552 --> 00:10:08,272 Don't be slowly torturing yourself by ripping off a piece at a time, and 210 00:10:08,272 --> 00:10:11,092 then wait years later and rip another piece off, and then a couple years go 211 00:10:11,092 --> 00:10:15,082 by and rip another fucking rip it off and get all the hard shit taken care 212 00:10:15,082 --> 00:10:17,294 of once and move on with your life. 213 00:10:18,119 --> 00:10:21,147 But there's also not billions of dollars in that either. 214 00:10:21,325 --> 00:10:24,445 So this is where we gotta be careful and educate ourselves, and 215 00:10:24,445 --> 00:10:27,985 I want you guys sharing this with everybody that you know is divorced. 216 00:10:28,422 --> 00:10:33,342 People need to know the scams that are going on and how poor these parenting 217 00:10:33,342 --> 00:10:37,038 plans are written to keep us coming back to the family court system when 218 00:10:37,038 --> 00:10:40,668 a lot of this could be eliminated by putting it in here the first time. 219 00:10:41,229 --> 00:10:42,819 Shameless plug, that's what my team can do for you. 220 00:10:43,094 --> 00:10:45,819 Number four, communication and safety. 221 00:10:46,051 --> 00:10:48,691 Now again, this is custom built to you. 222 00:10:48,901 --> 00:10:51,841 So if you don't want your kids skydiving, put it in there. 223 00:10:52,021 --> 00:10:53,941 No, nothing dangerous till they're 18. 224 00:10:54,221 --> 00:10:56,741 But you also need to know where they at, what city, what town, 225 00:10:56,741 --> 00:10:58,631 what, what state, what hotel. 226 00:10:59,270 --> 00:10:59,600 Like. 227 00:10:59,660 --> 00:11:05,240 This is common, like respectful sense to say, Hey, we will be in Colorado, Denver. 228 00:11:05,605 --> 00:11:07,142 we're riding a train to get out there. 229 00:11:07,142 --> 00:11:09,842 We're gonna be there from June 10th to June 17th, and 230 00:11:09,842 --> 00:11:10,637 we're riding the train back. 231 00:11:11,417 --> 00:11:11,987 Cool. 232 00:11:12,047 --> 00:11:16,295 I now know if something happens in Denver, Colorado, my kids are there and 233 00:11:16,295 --> 00:11:17,945 I'm a little bit panic stricken about it. 234 00:11:18,228 --> 00:11:20,478 I can set up rules around, you know what? 235 00:11:20,755 --> 00:11:22,885 I don't normally talk to the kids on vacation. 236 00:11:22,915 --> 00:11:23,935 I don't need to talk to 'em again. 237 00:11:23,965 --> 00:11:26,845 Or maybe I'll establish that I get to talk to them at least once 238 00:11:26,845 --> 00:11:28,255 or twice during their vacation. 239 00:11:28,285 --> 00:11:32,455 Again, if you've heard me here at all, I am not an advocate for communicating with 240 00:11:32,455 --> 00:11:36,535 your children when they're with the other parent, but maybe on a very long vacation. 241 00:11:36,565 --> 00:11:37,045 You do. 242 00:11:37,680 --> 00:11:41,940 This is stuff I need you to be thinking about when you're building your 243 00:11:41,940 --> 00:11:46,050 parenting plan with your attorney or with your mediator, or with my team. 244 00:11:46,686 --> 00:11:53,000 So I don't want you to have to keep renegotiating your vacation every year. 245 00:11:53,000 --> 00:11:55,250 I mean, I have people that are panic stricken. 246 00:11:55,427 --> 00:11:58,190 Sam, can you help me write an email where I ask my ex if I 247 00:11:58,190 --> 00:11:59,600 can take the kids on a vacation? 248 00:12:00,146 --> 00:12:04,430 I'm sorry, did you just say you have to ask your ex to go on a vacation? 249 00:12:04,430 --> 00:12:04,730 Yeah. 250 00:12:04,730 --> 00:12:07,305 Our parenting plan doesn't say anything about it, so I wanna 251 00:12:07,305 --> 00:12:08,535 take my kids on a vacation. 252 00:12:09,372 --> 00:12:10,632 somebody did you dirty. 253 00:12:10,919 --> 00:12:15,415 Real dirty because that should have been allotted to you in the divorce decree. 254 00:12:15,415 --> 00:12:16,635 In the parenting plan. 255 00:12:16,985 --> 00:12:18,690 Now the other thing I wanna leave you with is this. 256 00:12:19,167 --> 00:12:22,407 You are allowed to take your kids anywhere. 257 00:12:22,407 --> 00:12:26,242 Your parenting plan allows outta state and state, international during your own 258 00:12:26,242 --> 00:12:28,222 parenting time, and it's not a vacation. 259 00:12:28,392 --> 00:12:32,607 So if you do a week on week off schedule, take your kids somewhere, but it doesn't 260 00:12:32,607 --> 00:12:33,987 have to count as one of your vacations. 261 00:12:33,987 --> 00:12:36,027 You just have to let them know if your parenting plan says you 262 00:12:36,027 --> 00:12:37,977 have to let them know that you're outta state or outta the country. 263 00:12:38,309 --> 00:12:42,899 Vacations only happen when you interrupt someone's parenting time. 264 00:12:42,899 --> 00:12:44,429 Now, that's not legal advice. 265 00:12:44,676 --> 00:12:48,366 Ask your attorney always if what I'm saying is making sense, and then 266 00:12:48,366 --> 00:12:49,446 they're gonna say, who told you that? 267 00:12:49,446 --> 00:12:50,436 And then you're gonna tell them who. 268 00:12:50,436 --> 00:12:51,666 And then they're gonna come send me some hate. 269 00:12:51,666 --> 00:12:52,506 And I really don't care. 270 00:12:52,732 --> 00:12:53,602 I got thick skin. 271 00:12:54,064 --> 00:12:57,544 But you deserve to have the ability to take your kids on as many vacations 272 00:12:57,544 --> 00:12:59,074 as your visitation schedule allows. 273 00:12:59,074 --> 00:13:01,174 If you wanna go for three days, go for three days. 274 00:13:01,174 --> 00:13:04,174 If you wanna go for five, 'cause you have five consecutive days, go for five. 275 00:13:04,381 --> 00:13:08,760 That's not a vacation because you did not interrupt the other parent's 276 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:12,150 Parenting time, as long as you don't miss the normal drop off and pick up. 277 00:13:12,537 --> 00:13:14,309 Let's go, let's go. 278 00:13:14,309 --> 00:13:18,325 That's a lot of reasons why people pick week on, week off, because they wanna 279 00:13:18,325 --> 00:13:21,385 be able to go on as many vacations as they want in the summertime. 280 00:13:21,385 --> 00:13:24,565 I mean, I want a little bit of that money, but hey, let 'em be. 281 00:13:24,956 --> 00:13:27,956 So, there's a lot of things to think about, but I wanna go back. 282 00:13:28,323 --> 00:13:34,442 If your parenting plan uses those words of vagueness, like reasonable 283 00:13:34,772 --> 00:13:37,712 cooperate, mutually agree. 284 00:13:37,945 --> 00:13:38,845 We're running. 285 00:13:38,979 --> 00:13:41,349 We're running for the hills on that. 286 00:13:41,681 --> 00:13:43,001 We're not doing that. 287 00:13:43,375 --> 00:13:43,852 Okay? 288 00:13:43,912 --> 00:13:45,472 We are not doing that. 289 00:13:46,302 --> 00:13:48,792 Make sure your parenting plan is written really well. 290 00:13:48,975 --> 00:13:51,342 And something that somebody just brought up, and I would 291 00:13:51,342 --> 00:13:52,602 love to just throw this in here. 292 00:13:52,809 --> 00:13:56,229 If your children are having to miss school, then yes, that is a vacation 293 00:13:56,229 --> 00:13:57,759 'cause you're changing their schedule. 294 00:13:57,789 --> 00:14:00,939 But if you're in the summertime and you're week on, week off, I have 295 00:14:00,939 --> 00:14:04,179 parents that go and travel every week that they have their kids because they 296 00:14:04,179 --> 00:14:07,479 have an entrepreneurship job where they work from their computer at home. 297 00:14:07,663 --> 00:14:10,723 So they're able to go on multiple vacations. 298 00:14:11,235 --> 00:14:14,565 So really be thinking about in your vacation schedule, 299 00:14:14,595 --> 00:14:16,035 the one we build for people. 300 00:14:16,035 --> 00:14:19,125 We talk about how much school can the kids miss. 301 00:14:19,347 --> 00:14:22,690 Five days with you, five days with you, 10 days with you, 10 days with me. 302 00:14:23,189 --> 00:14:27,599 What is in here is so important for your future. 303 00:14:27,946 --> 00:14:32,684 You have to make sure all of the things that you wanna do are written 304 00:14:32,684 --> 00:14:35,954 clearly so that you never have to spend more money with your attorney. 305 00:14:36,593 --> 00:14:40,043 Go engage with your ex about your vacation. 306 00:14:40,334 --> 00:14:43,347 That is ludicrous, and it should not be written that way. 307 00:14:43,857 --> 00:14:48,146 So please consider writing the details you heard down today and sharing this 308 00:14:48,146 --> 00:14:51,171 episode with somebody so that they don't get screwed for their vacation.