00:02.87
Nandi K
Welcome back to Right Quick.

00:05.11
Vance 😈
A bite-sized pop culture conversation with your favorite queer, unfriendly black hotties.

00:10.33
Nandi K
Today we're unfriendly because honestly, the trauma of my bloodline ends here. And honestly, I'm friendly because of that. I'm actually friendly because I know that I'm ending my bloodline with me.

00:31.38
Vance 😈
And I'm Vance Gowe.

00:34.01
Nandi K
Obviously I'm Nandi Kay, you know, I got, you know, this is a, this is a polarizing topic. Wow. I haven't used that word in a while.

00:43.90
Vance 😈
Ending ending your bloodline is a polarizing topic. I mean, I guess I am too. ah Like, and we're talking blood, right?

00:53.50
Nandi K
Right. Yeah.

00:53.91
Vance 😈
If we're talking blood, then yes. But I don't know. Your influence, I think, is something that will live on and um people will still talk about and believe in And I think that that means something.

01:00.54
Nandi K
Absolutely.

01:05.69
Nandi K
I think that's the real thing that I want to leave behind.

01:08.34
Vance 😈
Yeah, so like, you know, I mean, we're getting off topic, but going to bring it back.

01:12.41
Nandi K
Yeah, we are.

01:12.38
Vance 😈
But like legacy, right? Like, I think that legacy is not only like, oh, yeah, blood, because I think that is what our parents think.

01:19.78
Vance 😈
And like men, mostly like men, like my seed, my legacy.

01:23.74
Nandi K
and

01:23.86
Vance 😈
And it's like, Nigga, you suck. And like.

01:25.82
Nandi K
Also, they don't, men don't have the seed. Just a little bi, quick biology lesson for everyone. The egg is what non-men have.

01:35.70
Vance 😈
I mean, there it is.

01:35.99
Nandi K
and men have the fertile And sperm is fertilizer.

01:39.09
Nandi K
It's not a seed.

01:40.50
Vance 😈
But these Niggas be like, my, my, you know, yeah, my, my, my.

01:40.68
Nandi K
Y'all are stupid. But yeah. They be saying my seed. But they be saying my seed.

01:44.49
Vance 😈
No, they do, yeah.

01:46.14
Nandi K
Because they're illiterate. As we well know.

01:48.58
Vance 😈
And they hold that. And it's just like, oh, that's their legacy. And that's the only that's the only way they think of legacy. And I'm like, hopefully your kids are better than you, which I mean, it should be the case. But, you know, because if not, there's going to be more of you in the world.
And yikes.

02:02.42
Nandi K
But that's what they be wanting though. a lot of times. That's what they be thinking about.

02:07.19
Vance 😈
Yes.

02:08.41
Nandi K
They be like thinking another them. And I'm like, who said there should be another you?

02:15.13
Vance 😈
I mean, and I think that's the problem. I think it's just like simply because they can. I think sometimes people make kids because they can. And I think that that is maybe not how you should go about any decision.

02:26.17
Nandi K
Nick Cannon founded

02:27.27
Vance 😈
He trying to start an army or something. Like, who knows?

02:32.09
Nandi K
Who knows what he about to...

02:33.21
Vance 😈
ah Like,

02:33.65
Nandi K
Somebody needs to keep eye on his ass, though, because it's sinister, whatever he's trying to do over there.

02:38.23
Vance 😈
Right, it's not for good.

02:40.41
Nandi K
No.

02:40.39
Vance 😈
He's trying to like repopulate the like the world, the underground bunkers, what Lil Mulatresses

02:43.83
Nandi K
No. No.

02:49.78
Nandi K
Not ;ittle Moolatresses. Well, today we're talking about parenting and parents. Which, I mean... Do you want to give our disclaimer before we get into it?

03:04.15
Vance 😈
Yeah, so content warning, parents. ah So the disclaimer here is just like, we're not here to dump on parents in general. And it is actually an honor to be someone's parent, like to be charged with the rearing of children. And I think that um we joke, like, I think we both say fuck them kids all the time, but this is the pro kids podcast.

03:23.88
Nandi K
Of course.

03:25.94
Vance 😈
And that like, we, we want a better world for kids. So I think this is like even part of the conversation, like if there are better parents, then there will be stronger and better children. And

03:34.52
Nandi K
Absolutely.

03:35.48
Vance 😈
You know? So, so yeah, that's a disclaimer because I think we probably are going to get into it a little about parents. Like, I know, ah you know, spoiler, we both don't have the greatest, I guess, dynamics or relationships with our parents.

03:47.54
Nandi K
No, no, not even close.

03:48.82
Vance 😈
Yeah.

03:50.22
Nandi K
I think that's putting it kindly, TBH, to be like, we don't have the best of relationships.

03:54.29
Vance 😈
Mm-hmm.

03:56.87
Nandi K
Well, that's a nice way to say it, yeah. So we'll keep saying it nice, but yeah, like, I'm no contact with my mom. I speak to my dad and, like, you know, he'd be trying his best. And that's the only reason I speak to him.

04:12.06
Vance 😈
um I'm similar. I think um I'm like diet, no contact with both my parents. I mean, like my mom, I see her when I go to town once every four months, when I go to my hometown, once every four or five months or whatever. But like it, it, it don't feel, it don't feel like good over there. And a lot of it is me.

04:31.51
Nandi K
Yeah.

04:33.01
Vance 😈
And what I mean by that is like what I'm well like, what I'm just holding on to. And just like, sometimes.

04:38.18
Nandi K
Right. Because did she apologize or try to make amends?

04:41.02
Vance 😈
Where they do that at? And, and,

04:44.15
Nandi K
So then it's not necessarily you holding on to it. It's just leftover pain. like

04:50.84
Vance 😈
and, and I feel like it's, uh, it's not always, uh, it's not always linear, right? So sometimes it feels like you work on stuff and then you might see or hear something that kind of brings you back to a place and you kind of, you know, I don't want to rescind, but yeah, you just kind of like, yeah, so it's not linear.

05:07.42
Nandi K
yeah

05:09.72
Vance 😈
Um, you watch My Hero Academia.

05:12.15
Nandi K
of course endeavor yeah

05:13.11
Vance 😈
Uh, total rookie. Yes. And endeavor, right? Like he, he, he forgives his dad, quote unquote, forgives his dad. But then like, when you look at his phone, when the dad calls him, it's like 10 missed calls. And then all the, the text thread is just like his dad reaching out and him just being like, nah, because he's a teenage boy.

05:24.66
Nandi K
yeah

05:29.11
Nandi K
I love seeing that. Mm-hmm.

05:31.26
Vance 😈
It's realistic. It's not like, Oh, I forgave you more besties. Cause like, it's still complicated.

05:35.54
Nandi K
Yeah.

05:36.60
Vance 😈
The feelings are still there.

05:36.76
Nandi K
Yeah.

05:37.80
Vance 😈
Like, like nigga, you still hit me.

05:38.17
Nandi K
Yeah. Just because you call me now doesn't mean I forgot all the harm you did. And it's about harm caused, right? When someone harms you and then they won't acknowledge it, apologize for it, try to make amends or atone for it, but then they want to be cool. We can't be, ain't she cool. You harmed me. You maybe even abused me.

06:12.62
Vance 😈
Yeah.

06:12.76
Nandi K
and We're not cool.

06:12.73
Vance 😈
Yeah.

06:14.04
Nandi K
I'm not cool with abusers, but we know that's one of the main problems.

06:23.38
Vance 😈
Yeah

06:24.15
Nandi K
Yeah, I think that's one of the main problems. um What do you think it means to be a parent or someone raising young people? Like, what does it mean to be pro-kid for you?

06:35.93
Vance 😈
So I think for me, I think that like being a parent or being in charge of young people is like, it's a charge. It's a like, you are charged with doing this.

06:42.90
Nandi K
Yeah.

06:44.80
Vance 😈
This is regardless if you chose to or not.

06:45.34
Nandi K
Mm-hmm.

06:46.92
Vance 😈
Right. Like we got it accidents, whatever.

06:47.54
Nandi K
Mm-hmm.

06:48.92
Vance 😈
But like, once that is the case and you decide to do it, you're charged with that. So like you are responsible for like,

06:52.86
Nandi K
Mm-hmm.

06:56.41
Vance 😈
I say facilitate. And I know that sound a little woo woo, because I know some parents are like, no, bitch, that's my property. And I'm like, ah you facilitate their growth.

07:02.52
Nandi K
Yeah, well.

07:05.23
Vance 😈
And of course, that may mean that you instill your beliefs, because those are the only beliefs you have to go off of.

07:08.98
Nandi K
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

07:10.39
Vance 😈
Got it. But like, that doesn't mean that you're still not what like once you do that, you still got to like let that seed grow and do what it's going to do. And it's going to do what it's going to do.

07:20.47
Nandi K
Yeah, regardless of what you try to do, right

07:23.99
Vance 😈
Right. And you need to understand that. So I do think that like there is a level of like the idea that you can control this person is not true. um That's not true for your adult relationships.

07:32.88
Nandi K
Yeah.

07:35.32
Vance 😈
I don't think it's true for the children. Right. And I think that they've got to let that go and just kind of like understand that, like yeah, you are a facilitator. You are facilitating this little person becoming a big person and being well-adjusted and having healthy relationships.

07:47.96
Nandi K
Yeah.

07:49.27
Vance 😈
Right.

07:50.01
Nandi K
yeah

07:50.23
Vance 😈
and And maybe give them a leg up. Like, if you got resources and a nice, then you make sure that they're good and they're okay because they don't need to struggle for no reason like you did.

07:59.48
Nandi K
Yeah. Yeah. I think a lot about that because as a parent, you're literally, kids depend on you for their survival. Kids, when the kids are born, they can't do anything without you. Thanks to child labor laws, children aren't allowed to work. So they can't contribute to the household. They shouldn't be expected to. Their job should be just growing up. They should just be growing up, learning about the world. That's also the job of a parent. Teach your kids about the world. Teach your kids how to interact with the world.

08:41.02
Nandi K
Teach your kids how to be empathetic. But I agree with you. It's a charge. It's an honor. is
I think having a child, being a parent, is like a divine charge to get even more woo-woo.

08:56.36
Vance 😈
Mm-hmm.

08:57.08
Nandi K
Because in what other circumstances, unless you're an an educator, do you get to shape a life in such a way? There's not really a lot of cases outside of being a parent that you get to shape somebody's life and personality and who they are. by facilitating like you said them growing into who they are yeah kids are really cool we were just talking before we started about how kids are really funny I like talking to kids because they just have the most absurd thought pattern on Sean's podcast we talked about how Kalena thought said that pig was a boy because pig is a brown dog is brown that's why she said that pig is a boy

09:21.96
Vance 😈
huh

09:43.84
Vance 😈
Yeah, it's a ah boy color. Yeah.

09:46.58
Nandi K
Yeah, a boy. A boy color, yes.

09:52.12
Vance 😈
ah Yeah, no, kids are hilarious. I like, ah I feel like kids are always putting a mirror up to us, right?

09:58.01
Nandi K
Yes.

09:58.12
Vance 😈
So like, um you can't really fake it with kids. And of course you can try, right? But like, they see through it. And and like, it makes you have to show up. And I mean, I think people that are unable to don't like kids, right?

10:08.04
Nandi K
Mm-hmm.

10:11.47
Vance 😈
Or it's just like, these kids are always either challenging me or they're calling me out or whatever.

10:11.61
Nandi K
Right.

10:16.30
Vance 😈
What's they're gonna do? They're gonna, um kids will humble you, like, ah you you could You a CEO at work, when you come home, Nigga, you the sandwich man.

10:20.34
Nandi K
I like that.

10:24.70
Vance 😈
Like, which you like the you like the chicken tender man…

10:28.18
Nandi K
Make my sandwich, sandwich man.

10:29.27
Vance 😈
Right. Like, the chicken tender man thinks he's important.

10:31.74
Nandi K
Yeah.

10:32.31
Vance 😈
no We don't care. Like, Nigga, make the food. So...

10:34.87
Nandi K
This is why I only care about what kids think. I've never really cared about an adult's comment on something that I'm doing, but children's comments. That's children and black women. That's really the comments that I'm really showing up, taking into consideration, taking it to the bank, cashing it, buying a house.

11:05.05
Vance 😈
All all honest people. Children of Black women, the most honest groups.

11:07.61
Nandi K
Yeah. Yeah.

11:10.30
Nandi K
Truly, yeah And kids are just so funny. Kalina always gives me compliments when we see each other, which is nice. You know, I have pretty hard boundaries with Kalina. I'm a boundary person. That's my job to teach children.

11:24.76
Vance 😈
But kids kids like that, too. Like, kids kids fuck with rules. Like, I think if you if you set a rule and you're consistent, which sounds like a boundary, um kids fuck with that. Like, they they they are quick learners.

11:35.00
Nandi K
Yeah.

11:37.01
Vance 😈
I think, like, when it's fast and loose, when you're playing it fast and the kids realize real quick, I don't got do nothing that bitch say because it's fast and loose.

11:37.45
Nandi K
Mm-hmm.

11:42.01
Nandi K
Yep. This is Sean.

11:45.68
Vance 😈
And then they run you. I mean, and we were kids. That's what I used to do. Like, let like like let you run a loose ship. I'm i'm the captain now. What you mean?

11:54.90
Nandi K
Wow. I'm like, I don't, I can't even remember. Honestly, I've blocked out most of my childhood. i can't remember really ever being like bad.

12:04.89
Vance 😈
No, I wasn't. Well, I was bad. I've had my i've had my time.

12:07.67
Nandi K
You were definitely bad. You haven't told stories on this very podcast.

12:12.50
Vance 😈
I think I got bad when I was a teenager. When I was a little kid, I was chill as fuck.

12:15.77
Nandi K
All teenagers are bad.

12:16.98
Vance 😈
Yeah, ah well, I was cutting up, but it was like all a reflection of what was happening at home because like, because like, yeah, well, and at home, I didn't have to like run afoul of the rules because it was a loose shit.

12:21.62
Nandi K
Yes, that's what I'm saying.

12:30.45
Vance 😈
It was just like, you kind of do what you want. Like, I didn't,

12:34.33
Nandi K
Including take care of yourself.

12:36.15
Vance 😈
Yeah yes

12:37.34
Nandi K
Right, right. Yeah, the ship is very loose.

12:40.25
Vance 😈
You you two kids y'all raise each other and then one runs away that you gotta then you raise yourself baby and it was like oop, um but yeah so well do we even want to talk about uh the second question here

12:44.64
Nandi K
Oh my god.

12:55.42
Nandi K
No i don not yet. If it comes up, we can.

12:56.79
Vance 😈
Yeah, okay.

12:57.70
Nandi K
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

12:58.10
Vance 😈
Fair enough. ah Oh, what about the last one? I do like this question. Do you think it's important to even have a healthy relationship with your parent? And I think that's a loaded question, but...

13:05.73
Nandi K
Bitch. It depends. Are your are your ah parents healthy people to have relationships with? I think that's actually the question.

13:16.50
Vance 😈
Yeah, the more important...

13:17.91
Nandi K
Yeah, because people, the pressure to have relationships with your parents, the societal pressure to be in communication with your parents unconditionally kept me in like an abusive cycle for way longer than I would have liked.

13:40.41
Vance 😈
it It feels very Christian to me, or religious, you right?

13:43.10
Nandi K
It is.

13:44.48
Vance 😈
Where like, oh, that's your mama.

13:44.60
Nandi K
Yeah.

13:46.05
Vance 😈
you you

13:46.17
Nandi K
Yeah.

13:47.10
Vance 😈
You would tell someone the most heinous story they ever heard, and then they would follow up with, that's your mama. I'm like, bitch did you listen?

13:52.88
Nandi K
Oh, my daddy used to say that. And I said, do you want to become like her?

13:56.72
Vance 😈
Right. Did you listen to any word I just said? Like, what are we talking about?

13:59.90
Nandi K
yeah he was like, I'll stop bringing it up because I don't want to get blocked.

13:59.95
Vance 😈
then...

14:03.50
Nandi K
And I know that's right.

14:03.64
Vance 😈
That part. That part.

14:05.85
Nandi K
I bet you don't.

14:07.74
Vance 😈
Yeah, so I do think... um I see it like... I think we've talked about it several times, like the Queerness of like the way we live our lives. I think that like I, I see family is like maybe different than like traditional.So I, I, I see the important in father and mother figures, parent parental figures.

14:22.39
Nandi K
Yeah.

14:29.27
Vance 😈
And I kind of collect them. But as far as my actual parents, like yeah, like you said, like if there's and if it ain't if it ain't making sense, don't make you dont we don't got to make it make sense.

14:31.60
Nandi K
Mm-hmm.

14:39.64
Vance 😈
So like I see parents, like co-workers almost, or neighbors, where it's like, hey,

14:43.57
Nandi K
That's a great way to put it.

14:44.95
Vance 😈
If it would be nice to have a good relationship with my neighbor, it would be nice to have a good relationship with my coworkers. Right? Like it just makes it an easier place to be. If you're at work and you like your coworkers and they like you, um, you go out of town, your neighbor's watching your house and you know that, or you got to leave for a week and they could watch your dog or whatever.

14:56.19
Nandi K
Yeah.

15:03.40
Vance 😈
Right. Like those are all perks. Those are great.

15:05.34
Nandi K
Yeah.

15:05.48
Vance 😈
But like, is it necessary? Sure Isn't like, Like, I think we could all figure it out without that support. But it's obviously great to have it.

15:15.22
Nandi K
Yeah. When I see, I definitely be like feeling jealous of people who have really close relationships with their parents. Cause I can't, could never um even imagine that. I remember getting to high school and realizing that that was a thing. I just didn't even realize that people were having that experience. I thought everybody was like fighting they get fighting with their mama and like getting like treated bad. I just thought that was just the norm until I went to like a friend's house.

15:49.82
Vance 😈
Right. Or even the things that our parents tell us, like um the the fact that you got to leave home at 18. Like, I think that might be a Black thing, too.

15:56.88
Nandi K
Mm-hmm.

15:59.04
Vance 😈
But like, just being told that ever since you were five, that like when you turn 18, you got to go. So like, it always felt like I was a tenant in the house.

16:08.35
Nandi K
Mm-hmm.

16:08.89
Vance 😈
And then the closer you got to 18, it's like, well, I'm getting ready to go anyway. And I'm like, what kind of fucking like...

16:14.83
Nandi K
Uh...

16:15.15
Vance 😈
If you just think about it for a little bit, like that is no way to raise anybody to tell them that like almost like they're not wanted. Right. Like we don't want you here and you got to go as soon as you're old enough.

16:22.58
Nandi K
Listen.

16:26.04
Vance 😈
As soon as it's legal for us to kick you out, we're going to do it. And this is like and like luckily, you know, it was in the 2000 whatever is where like you could kind of afford to leave. But like these Niggas can't leave now. Like you can't be telling nobody that.

16:38.87
Nandi K
so I'm like I couldn't fucking leave My mom kicked me out when I was 17 And then she kicked me out One week after graduation. That was the last time Cause I was like you're not about to kick me out again Like I'm not letting this happen And Before that, I started working and when I was 14, but my mama also used to make make me quit my jobs whenever she got upset. So like classic abusers, how they like isolate you. You don't have money.

17:11.44
Vance 😈
Mm-hmm. Right.

17:14.10
Nandi K
Such and such and such and such. So when my mom kicked me out when I was 17, she, I guess she thought I wasn't going to have nowhere to go. i walked to my god by my house who lived in the area. Mind you, I hadn't been there for years, but it was like midnight. And I said, I hope this is the right house. It was luckily. But I stayed there. I went to school. She called my dad. My dad came and got me. My mom fell out with that lady because my mom wanted me to, I don't know, be sleeping on the doorstep when she put me out.

17:50.71
Vance 😈
It's crazy. It's crazy.

17:52.46
Nandi K
Completely unhinged behavior. So she fell out with that person for helping me. And then I went to live with my dad a week after graduation.

18:00.66
Vance 😈
That's a

18:03.10
Nandi K
And that kind of thing, I think starting there, that was irreparable damage to our relationship starting at 17. I think from there, we kind of were never mendable, but I kept trying because, you know, is your mom.

18:20.76
Vance 😈
Yeah.

18:21.88
Nandi K
Very stupid, but, you know, you're a kid. I was a kid.

18:27.64
Vance 😈
Yeah, that's some peak, peak Op shit.

18:30.33
Nandi K
Yeah, she's a peacock.

18:31.19
Vance 😈
How you mad someone helped me?

18:31.65
Nandi K
That's why had to stop talking to her. Yeah, she mad that someone helped me. Yeah, that's what I be saying, like, the abuse to like.
But my dad, who was not present when I was growing up as a kid, really, and that was a lot of their divorce shit, which grown people, listen, don't make your kids a part of whatever y'all got going on.

18:57.11
Vance 😈
That’s what they're gone do.

18:57.73
Nandi K
Don't do that. It's just, it's a mess. Don't do it. Just don't do it. But then when I got kicked out when I was 18, my dad had just dropped me off because I was there for the weekend. And then when I got there, my mom called him and was like, come pick Nandi back up. She can live here because somebody had called me on the phone and she was like, you're on punishment. I was always on punishment. Like I'm not going to take non-use disrespect. So Then I lived with my dad until I went off to college. That was really it. I've been on my own since then. I was big. I was like housing insecure in college. like does. My dad also put me out while I was in college.

19:43.29
Vance 😈
Because of the jail thing. We, the rest was it?

19:45.37
Nandi K
i mean No, it was after that.

19:46.78
Vance 😈
Oh, uh,

19:47.37
Nandi K
but Maybe, now that I'm thinking about it.

19:47.58
Vance 😈
oh

19:50.05
Nandi K
I don't remember why.

19:53.46
Vance 😈
Yeah, I similarly moved out of 17, but it was weird because I was kind of in and out of my mama's house at like 16, 17. And then ended up back with her. And then I was 17, and then something happened. I think somebody stole money out of my bank account. And someone that lived in my house. And mind you, ninety we were talking like I was a $0naire.

20:14.36
Nandi K
Right.

20:18.22
Vance 😈
So I probably had $40.

20:18.46
Nandi K
Right.

20:20.06
Vance 😈
Somebody ah wrote a check for $40, and I overdrafted. And I don't know nothing.

20:23.86
Nandi K
That's fucked.

20:26.46
Vance 😈
So I go to the bank and they're like, yeah, you overdraft. And I was like, what happened? They were like, it was a check written. And then I was like, I don't even know how to write a check. I've never done that. Like, it couldn't have been me. So I went home and asked my mom.
And my mom was like, ah oh, that I thought it was her man because he might have been a crackhead. So I was just like, I think I think that crackhead.

20:42.51
Nandi K
Mm-hmm. Well, your mama got to type.

20:45.11
Vance 😈
Yeah, i was like, that crackhead Nigga out there, I think he he might have wrote a name, you know, a check of my name. She was like, “oh, that was me.”
And she walked out the room. And I said, what? And I don't know why that was the last straw, like, cause a lot of stuff had happened.

20:54.65
Nandi K
bro

20:58.31
Vance 😈
But that was simply, look.

20:58.55
Nandi K
My mom stopped speaking to her mama over that. My grandma bought a fucking washer and dryer on a credit card, registered to my mama without her knowledge. They didn't speak for a couple years where might because she went defaulted on the payment. So then it fucked my mama credit up.

21:20.10
Vance 😈
Right, right, right.

21:21.30
Nandi K
My mama has three children. She's single. She makes no money. She used to work for the state. Like, she didn't speak to my grandma for years about that.

21:31.96
Vance 😈
Listen, heard, right, heard, right.

21:32.44
Nandi K
And I think that's correct. Because how dare you? How dare You should have maybe beat her ass low-key. Yeah.

21:39.80
Vance 😈
I mean, I was shook and then I was like, I said, I literally, I moved out that day and then like, I came and got my stuff like eventually, but then like, there was no concern.

21:44.92
Nandi K
Yeah.

21:49.36
Vance 😈
Like I wasn't really asked where I went.

21:52.70
Nandi K
Listen.

21:52.66
Vance 😈
um At my graduation, she met the lady I was 11 once. Cause I just moved in with one of my homies. And it wasn't even like, oh, thanks for taking care of my son. Nothing. It was just like, oh, hey.

22:01.78
Nandi K
Yeah, she didn't give a fuck.

22:02.85
Vance 😈
And I was like, ooh.

22:03.28
Nandi K
This is what I be saying. This is why, like, yeah, this is why, like, I moved back to my hometown and, like, I ran into my mama that one time and then I had, like, the worst year ever.

22:15.80
Nandi K
um I think it was because I worked on my birthday, but then I ran into my mama that year. And that was terrible. But like, also, shoot that's the only time she's ever seen me since I've been back. Like, she cannot see me. She cannot call me. She cannot talk to me. She don't have my address. Nothing. And I cut her off from my daddy, too. I was like, tell that hoe. If she got some more stuff that she want to give me, throw it away. Because you're not about to be be the middleman. She was trying to She was trying to get him out of there, too. She was jealous. She's jealous that we still talk. Now, my daddy... doing better. He's doing better. He's doing better. um Y'all know I'm unemployed. And so I was telling him, which he already knows that I'm unemployed over the weekend. And I was like, oh, you know, it's so hard being unemployed. And he was like, well, I told you I was going to give you some money. Now he did tell me this like a month ago, but of course, why would I believe that?

23:25.97
Vance 😈
Yeah.

23:26.78
Nandi K
But let me tell you why he's getting yeah he wants to give me some money. Because for all my other siblings, he bought them a car or put them through college. Except for me. So now at 37 years old, maybe sometime this year, he's going to give me a chunk of cash.

23:46.62
Vance 😈
Nice

23:47.86
Nandi K
Sure. Pretty crazy that the oldest child gets it last.

23:55.28
Vance 😈
I mean, yeah, I listen, parents and I don't to say favoritism, but um

24:00.60
Nandi K
Yeah, all the other children.

24:01.02
Vance 😈
Right. And it's like, oh, everybody get a car.

24:07.80
Nandi K
Interesting.

24:10.17
Vance 😈
Look, I want to talk about my dad on this.

24:12.41
Nandi K
Listen, there's not really much to say about that Nigga.

24:12.45
Vance 😈
mean, same. Period. Period.

24:16.98
Vance 😈
I mean same are here

24:18.33
Nandi K
My dad would be trying his best, though, but I do be cussing him out regularly. I do not let him off the hook. I let him know I do not forgive him for the time he was not there because you cannot make up for that. I could have had a completely different life. That was because you was weak and you married someone you probably shouldn't have married and had children with her. Mind you, I'm low-key not even his child, but still. He said he was going to be my daddy, Nigga.
And so if you say you're going to be my daddy, you got to be my daddy. I'm expecting you to be my daddy if you say you're my daddy. Like, and you weren't. So, and I say that all the time. I always be correcting him on history. I be like, Nigga, don't start. I don't let him talk about my mama because Nigga, you're part of the reason she was so fucked. Like I always say, my daddy was single. He didn't have no kids until I was like 15. So he got married. You know how these Niggas be when they get a new girlfriend.

25:23.22
Vance 😈
What, when when they, um you saying when he abandoned or when they be ah i want to be like, oh, when they be like, you better go see your kids.

25:27.54
Nandi K
No, that's when we used to see him. He was like, they play super Nigga. They play super Nigga when they get a new girlfriend.

25:33.48
Vance 😈
Mm-hmm.

25:35.38
Nandi K
They be like, oh yeah, I got kids. You know, I be having them on.

25:40.34
Nandi K
Now nigga, you know, we've been calling you, begging you to come over.

25:40.60
Vance 😈
Trash.

25:44.63
Nandi K
And now you got us over here and you got some bitch over here.

25:44.74
Vance 😈
Trash.

25:49.18
Nandi K
Bitch. You got some bitch over here too? That's crazy.

25:53.74
Vance 😈
Trash.

25:55.70
Nandi K
Well, I think we did it.

25:57.50
Vance 😈
Yeah.

25:58.74
Nandi K
Are there like any last things?

25:58.77
Vance 😈
It's...

26:00.46
Nandi K
I mean, I think the most important thing is that like, be good to your kids. Being a good parent, being a supportive parent who supports who your child is, who they tell you they are, not who you tell them you are, who they tell you are, that's a healthy adult. Now, if your kid is telling you they are the KKK, that they're Klansman, that they're MAGA, Maybe not. Maybe you failed as a parent. But raising a healthy being a healthy parent makes healthy kids and that makes healthy adults later. and like take it seriously, y'all. Don't be beating them.

26:47.99
Vance 😈
Yeah, I mean, on that note, don't beat your kids. um Big thanks.

27:11.69
Nandi K
Oh yeah, big thanks to our producer and audio Adonis, Aaron RandFreeman.

27:18.58
Vance 😈
I have Vance Gowe, and you can find me on threads and Instagram at Sir Bleep a thot. And who are you?

27:25.94
Nandi K
I'm Nandi Kay. You can find me on Instagram, threads, and blue sky at Nandi Kay, A-Y-Y-Y. We'll see y'all.

27:35.02
Vance 😈
Bye.