1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,070 So this episode is coming to you because I literally just had one of my clients 2 00:00:05,070 --> 00:00:11,719 who purchased my parenting plan write me and say, and I quote, " Why would you want 3 00:00:11,719 --> 00:00:14,519 so many details in your parenting plan? 4 00:00:14,819 --> 00:00:18,716 Let's just keep it loosey goosey." Now, I don't know how many years of 5 00:00:18,716 --> 00:00:21,926 law school her attorney went to, but I would love to know what book and 6 00:00:21,926 --> 00:00:26,867 chapter they got the terminology loosey goosey out of because that seems to be 7 00:00:26,867 --> 00:00:31,367 just like something I really want my parenting plan to say and stand for. 8 00:00:31,733 --> 00:00:38,393 This is one of the worst pieces of advice I have heard in a long time. 9 00:00:38,653 --> 00:00:42,226 And it comes up sporadically as I'm helping people build their custom 10 00:00:42,226 --> 00:00:46,414 parenting plans, but this seems to be the terminology used the most 11 00:00:46,414 --> 00:00:51,244 frequently by attorneys who see the detail that we provide to their client. 12 00:00:51,541 --> 00:00:56,758 We provide a detailed parenting plan that covers all said things, but yet these 13 00:00:56,758 --> 00:00:58,708 attorneys are saying, "You know, no, no. 14 00:00:58,917 --> 00:00:59,637 No, no, no. 15 00:00:59,804 --> 00:01:01,151 I know divorce better. 16 00:01:01,451 --> 00:01:03,821 Now, do they know family law better than me? 17 00:01:03,971 --> 00:01:04,481 Maybe. 18 00:01:04,761 --> 00:01:05,421 Probably. 19 00:01:05,826 --> 00:01:10,107 Do they know custody and co-parenting and living this shit and actually 20 00:01:10,107 --> 00:01:14,367 using the practical piece of paper that they're handing us the parenting plan? 21 00:01:14,644 --> 00:01:15,264 No. 22 00:01:15,406 --> 00:01:19,726 Most of these attorneys have not used the parenting plan that they are pushing out. 23 00:01:20,098 --> 00:01:24,073 So while they're standing there saying, " I know best," they are not the ones 24 00:01:24,403 --> 00:01:30,663 using these loosey, goosey plans because they're vague and they're undefined. 25 00:01:30,936 --> 00:01:34,566 When you can't look at it and know exactly when your time starts and 26 00:01:34,566 --> 00:01:36,719 stops, that's a fucking problem. 27 00:01:36,905 --> 00:01:40,899 These loosey-goosey plans are open for interpretation. 28 00:01:40,899 --> 00:01:43,209 And I don't know if you know anything about your ex like I know about 29 00:01:43,209 --> 00:01:44,679 mine, but we think differently. 30 00:01:44,940 --> 00:01:45,270 Okay? 31 00:01:45,270 --> 00:01:46,110 Here's a shocker. 32 00:01:46,229 --> 00:01:48,176 I think this, he thinks that. 33 00:01:48,266 --> 00:01:50,627 Hence, why we're fucking not married anymore. 34 00:01:50,875 --> 00:01:54,474 It's a constant back and forth when you keep it loose. 35 00:01:54,774 --> 00:01:55,974 That's not a plan. 36 00:01:56,291 --> 00:01:57,821 That's not a contract. 37 00:01:58,151 --> 00:02:00,557 That's future conflict written on paper. 38 00:02:00,798 --> 00:02:02,386 That's what loosey-goosey means. 39 00:02:02,562 --> 00:02:06,493 And I wish attorneys would just say what it is. 40 00:02:06,729 --> 00:02:09,997 I would have more respect for Larry the lawyer out there. 41 00:02:10,127 --> 00:02:13,893 If he would just say, "You know what, Sam? I want to keep this shit really 42 00:02:13,893 --> 00:02:18,233 loosey-goosey because I want you to have more disputes because I want 43 00:02:18,233 --> 00:02:24,503 you to hire me I would have more just for Larry. I'd be like, "That a boy. 44 00:02:24,533 --> 00:02:27,656 Say what you really mean, bud." If you just say the truth. 45 00:02:28,026 --> 00:02:33,023 You want me to have disputes so that you get paid again in two years, in 46 00:02:33,023 --> 00:02:35,153 three years, in fucking six months. 47 00:02:35,723 --> 00:02:38,183 Vagueness creates disputes. 48 00:02:38,693 --> 00:02:41,603 Between my ex and I, and when we can't figure it out, we got to 49 00:02:41,603 --> 00:02:43,323 go, " Ring, ring motherfucker. 50 00:02:43,353 --> 00:02:44,073 Hey, Larry. 51 00:02:44,313 --> 00:02:45,903 Back in action we are with you. 52 00:02:45,903 --> 00:02:48,813 Oh, you need another five to $10,000 retainer? 53 00:02:48,813 --> 00:02:49,773 Sure, no problem. 54 00:02:49,773 --> 00:02:52,503 Hold my beer." What the hell, Larry? 55 00:02:52,813 --> 00:02:55,273 Loosey-goosey only benefits you financially. 56 00:02:55,273 --> 00:02:56,503 You know what else I wish they'd say? 57 00:02:56,804 --> 00:02:59,586 Is they just really don't live this life, so they really just don't know. 58 00:02:59,943 --> 00:03:03,856 Because that has to be one of the only reasons that they would be giving me a 59 00:03:03,856 --> 00:03:08,723 loosey-goosey plan, is if they really just don't know what this life is like. 60 00:03:08,916 --> 00:03:10,373 And I'd rather them just say that. 61 00:03:10,703 --> 00:03:14,243 "Hey, Sam, we really don't know how strict it needs to be, so we're 62 00:03:14,243 --> 00:03:15,833 just gonna go with loosey-goosey. 63 00:03:16,236 --> 00:03:19,413 We don't know how much detail would really help you. 64 00:03:19,503 --> 00:03:20,493 We don't know. 65 00:03:20,943 --> 00:03:22,413 So we don't live this life. 66 00:03:22,443 --> 00:03:26,083 we've never been divorced, and if we did, it wasn't as messy as yours. 67 00:03:26,083 --> 00:03:27,883 It wasn't as high conflict as yours. 68 00:03:28,072 --> 00:03:32,323 So we really don't know what it's like to have to manage holidays or daily conflict. 69 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:33,613 Just say that. 70 00:03:34,007 --> 00:03:36,917 Don't lead me down the road to believe that, " Oh, I know exactly 71 00:03:36,917 --> 00:03:38,087 what this is gonna be like for you. 72 00:03:38,087 --> 00:03:40,217 How the fuck do you know what this is gonna be like? 73 00:03:40,530 --> 00:03:42,967 " You don't even have children, number one, so you've never even 74 00:03:42,967 --> 00:03:44,167 been divorced with children. 75 00:03:44,527 --> 00:03:46,777 You don't know what high conflict is like. 76 00:03:46,987 --> 00:03:48,157 You don't live this life. 77 00:03:48,157 --> 00:03:50,947 The only thing you do live is people calling you back to say the plan you 78 00:03:50,947 --> 00:03:53,467 gave them the first time fucked them over and they need a different plan. 79 00:03:53,830 --> 00:03:55,780 Now make that make sense real quick, by the way. 80 00:03:56,067 --> 00:03:58,580 Those of you listening that have been divorced for more than five seconds, 81 00:03:58,850 --> 00:04:00,290 you got a plan from your attorney. 82 00:04:00,290 --> 00:04:00,860 It's shit. 83 00:04:00,860 --> 00:04:02,990 It's causing you to fight and argue with your attorney and 84 00:04:02,990 --> 00:04:04,587 you call them back to help you. 85 00:04:05,337 --> 00:04:08,697 Why are you calling the person back that puts you in that spot to begin with? 86 00:04:08,697 --> 00:04:10,497 Hello, let's get a new one, okay? 87 00:04:10,749 --> 00:04:13,977 We're not hiring the same person back to fix the fuckery that they created to begin 88 00:04:13,977 --> 00:04:15,537 with with this loosey-goosey bullshit. 89 00:04:15,967 --> 00:04:18,193 And I know there's a lot of cussing in this episode, it'll all be 90 00:04:18,193 --> 00:04:19,303 bleeped out, but here's the deal. 91 00:04:19,486 --> 00:04:20,803 This is my pissed off level. 92 00:04:21,176 --> 00:04:24,330 And this is what happens because this shit right here is what's 93 00:04:24,330 --> 00:04:26,100 cost me six figures before. 94 00:04:26,194 --> 00:04:30,920 This is what's killing my clients left and right is this whole having to make their 95 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:33,980 attorney understand why they want detail. 96 00:04:34,188 --> 00:04:36,570 I want detail because I hate the motherfucker. 97 00:04:36,570 --> 00:04:37,350 He hates me. 98 00:04:37,350 --> 00:04:38,220 We don't get along. 99 00:04:38,220 --> 00:04:39,090 We have children together. 100 00:04:39,090 --> 00:04:40,170 We have 12 more years left. 101 00:04:40,330 --> 00:04:42,060 And I wanna know who has Christmas. 102 00:04:42,218 --> 00:04:45,120 I wanna know if I can make a decision without having to freaking pray to 103 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:46,350 Jesus that he'll answer the phone. 104 00:04:46,530 --> 00:04:48,480 I wanna know if I can enroll the kids. 105 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:49,710 I wanna know if my kid has a rash. 106 00:04:49,710 --> 00:04:51,660 Am I allowed to take them to fucking doctor or do I have 107 00:04:51,660 --> 00:04:52,590 to wait for their permission? 108 00:04:52,749 --> 00:04:57,030 I wanna know the answer to these very simple day-to-day fucking things, Larry. 109 00:04:57,713 --> 00:04:59,123 But you've never lived this life, Larry. 110 00:04:59,123 --> 00:05:02,456 So Larry makes these comments of like, "Don't worry when the ink 111 00:05:02,456 --> 00:05:03,656 dries, you guys will get along." 112 00:05:03,656 --> 00:05:04,256 Bullshit. 113 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:05,430 Bullshit. 114 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:08,010 And if we do, Larry, you know where that plan's gonna go? 115 00:05:08,010 --> 00:05:10,920 Up on a fucking shelf and we'll never need to fucking read it anyways. 116 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:14,129 So why not be up on the shelf with a shit ton of detail? 117 00:05:14,375 --> 00:05:17,166 Instead of when we pull it down, it's like, "Oh, well, fuck. 118 00:05:17,459 --> 00:05:18,380 That's not even included. 119 00:05:18,860 --> 00:05:21,784 God, we don't know how sentenced, it tells us what time we can do this. 120 00:05:22,094 --> 00:05:22,954 Oh, shit. 121 00:05:23,434 --> 00:05:26,403 Here's another thing I wish attorneys would just own up to. 122 00:05:26,658 --> 00:05:27,399 Just own it. 123 00:05:27,639 --> 00:05:29,259 You don't know high conflict. 124 00:05:29,722 --> 00:05:33,493 you present that you do, you advertise that you do, you set it in the consult, 125 00:05:33,643 --> 00:05:36,463 but you have no fucking clue what it's like to deal with a high conflict person. 126 00:05:36,829 --> 00:05:43,106 You have no idea what it's really like to try to co-parent with someone that truly, 127 00:05:43,289 --> 00:05:46,166 not figuratively, not like, "Oh, bad day. 128 00:05:46,226 --> 00:05:49,046 Oh, just having a problem." Fucking hates your guts. 129 00:05:49,301 --> 00:05:50,095 Hates you. 130 00:05:50,665 --> 00:05:54,885 Once you not here anymore, these attorneys have no idea. 131 00:05:55,034 --> 00:05:56,985 They play it off like, "Oh, it's a season. 132 00:05:57,015 --> 00:05:58,215 Oh, it's just a bad time. 133 00:05:58,245 --> 00:05:59,775 Oh, it's just something you're going through. 134 00:05:59,835 --> 00:06:01,995 Oh, it'll get better." No, it won't. 135 00:06:02,502 --> 00:06:05,682 No, it won't for a lot of us out there. 136 00:06:06,068 --> 00:06:08,228 The cooperation will never happen. 137 00:06:08,648 --> 00:06:10,928 The flexibility will never happen. 138 00:06:11,138 --> 00:06:12,735 The working together, uh-uh. 139 00:06:13,428 --> 00:06:15,915 And these attorneys come across that like, " Don't worry. 140 00:06:16,205 --> 00:06:16,875 I know. 141 00:06:17,115 --> 00:06:17,678 I know. 142 00:06:18,052 --> 00:06:19,132 It's going to get better for you. 143 00:06:19,342 --> 00:06:24,258 Know what you know is I'm a good person and I'm going to reduce conflict as much 144 00:06:24,318 --> 00:06:29,955 as humanly possible, which means I am going to bend more than fucking gumby to 145 00:06:29,955 --> 00:06:31,695 make sure this doesn't fuck up my kids." 146 00:06:32,078 --> 00:06:33,368 And your attorney knows that about you. 147 00:06:33,722 --> 00:06:38,043 But I wish they'd just say, I wish they would just say, "I really 148 00:06:38,043 --> 00:06:39,273 don't understand high conflict. 149 00:06:39,843 --> 00:06:42,723 I don't know how to present it to the judge without sounding crazy. 150 00:06:43,053 --> 00:06:45,753 And I sure as hell don't know how to write a parenting plan to help you. 151 00:06:46,066 --> 00:06:47,236 I wish you'd lead with that. 152 00:06:47,549 --> 00:06:51,446 I wish you'd be honest, that you just don't know how to fix the fuckery of 153 00:06:51,446 --> 00:06:56,303 my Now, the other reason some attorneys may want you to keep it loosey-goosey 154 00:06:56,713 --> 00:07:00,316 is that they're just stubborn and they're used to kicking out the same 155 00:07:00,316 --> 00:07:03,949 parenting plan they've always kicked out and they're not up for change. 156 00:07:04,194 --> 00:07:06,019 They don't want to use something different. 157 00:07:06,379 --> 00:07:08,779 They don't want to try to talk a judge into something different. 158 00:07:09,103 --> 00:07:12,253 They're just stubborn and their ego's so fricking large that they 159 00:07:12,253 --> 00:07:13,423 can't even get it in the door. 160 00:07:13,756 --> 00:07:14,386 And that's it. 161 00:07:14,776 --> 00:07:19,776 And I think this is ridiculous for us parents to have to absorb this. 162 00:07:19,776 --> 00:07:23,256 Now, I watched something and this is going to hit or miss with some of you, 163 00:07:23,256 --> 00:07:26,653 but I am a huge reality TV show person. 164 00:07:26,806 --> 00:07:30,123 Love me some housewives, love the Mormon wives. 165 00:07:30,123 --> 00:07:33,213 And when I watched the two people on the Mormon wives who are going through 166 00:07:33,213 --> 00:07:37,056 that custody dispute right now, and I watched the judges' orders in that, 167 00:07:37,459 --> 00:07:40,999 and he was literally, he gave them both protective orders, but the bullshit that 168 00:07:40,999 --> 00:07:45,219 spewed out of his mouth was what every judge I think hopes and wishes for all 169 00:07:45,219 --> 00:07:46,899 of us, that everybody will grow up. 170 00:07:47,176 --> 00:07:50,906 Everybody will realize we're in each other's lives forever and everybody 171 00:07:50,906 --> 00:07:54,626 will do what's best for the kid's interest and put this shit aside. 172 00:07:54,626 --> 00:07:57,116 He was … I mean, he said all those things to those two people. 173 00:07:57,486 --> 00:08:02,106 And I love that he said that, but none of that is measurable. 174 00:08:02,366 --> 00:08:04,766 None of that can be proven. 175 00:08:05,119 --> 00:08:08,603 And so while that was a good speech, I love that for that judge. 176 00:08:08,753 --> 00:08:09,503 Yay. 177 00:08:09,653 --> 00:08:10,463 Get along. 178 00:08:10,623 --> 00:08:11,262 Do better. 179 00:08:11,496 --> 00:08:12,696 Raise your kids together. 180 00:08:12,696 --> 00:08:14,436 Put this differences aside. 181 00:08:14,665 --> 00:08:15,576 Fucking do it. 182 00:08:15,846 --> 00:08:20,676 What judges and lawyers don't understand is some people are 183 00:08:20,676 --> 00:08:22,863 just incapable, incapable. 184 00:08:23,166 --> 00:08:28,200 There's always one parent most of the time that can put shit aside and still do it. 185 00:08:28,390 --> 00:08:29,230 Yeah, I'll work with them. 186 00:08:29,230 --> 00:08:29,650 No problem. 187 00:08:29,650 --> 00:08:30,130 I'll call them. 188 00:08:30,130 --> 00:08:30,610 No problem. 189 00:08:30,610 --> 00:08:31,381 I'll … Yep. 190 00:08:31,386 --> 00:08:31,450 Yep. 191 00:08:31,570 --> 00:08:32,140 I can handle it. 192 00:08:32,350 --> 00:08:32,890 I'll sit by him. 193 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:33,250 No problem. 194 00:08:33,250 --> 00:08:34,150 He can even ride in the car with me. 195 00:08:34,150 --> 00:08:34,570 I don't even care. 196 00:08:34,570 --> 00:08:35,470 It's fucking 20 minutes. 197 00:08:35,500 --> 00:08:35,800 Okay. 198 00:08:36,073 --> 00:08:43,356 It's the other parent who comes unglued about the littlest two biggest thing that 199 00:08:43,356 --> 00:08:47,546 loses their mind, that can't even see straight when they know I'm involved. 200 00:08:47,850 --> 00:08:52,860 There is one person whose mental capacity, and again, I'm not a therapist, so I'm not 201 00:08:52,860 --> 00:08:56,610 gonna claim to know what I'm talking about in this category, but hashtag kinda do. 202 00:08:57,006 --> 00:08:59,766 They're physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically 203 00:08:59,826 --> 00:09:02,303 incapable of getting along with you. 204 00:09:02,693 --> 00:09:06,350 And so while those are great speeches by judges and lawyers to just do 205 00:09:06,350 --> 00:09:09,440 what's best for kids and to put the differences aside and to get along and 206 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:13,753 blah, blah, blah, and power through, that takes two fucking people, okay? 207 00:09:14,053 --> 00:09:15,523 It takes two people. 208 00:09:15,823 --> 00:09:21,193 And it's really frustrating that people write parenting plans based on that theory 209 00:09:21,546 --> 00:09:25,986 will happen, that we will just get along, that we will figure it out, that we will. 210 00:09:26,016 --> 00:09:26,796 We won't. 211 00:09:27,146 --> 00:09:31,716 And again, I beg to show you that if we do, if we're getting along that 212 00:09:31,716 --> 00:09:35,106 well, then we don't even need a fucking parenting plan and we can put it on 213 00:09:35,106 --> 00:09:38,616 the shelf and just call each other and kumbaya the shit and get along and show 214 00:09:38,616 --> 00:09:41,856 up together and do the things together and put the kids first and it's easy. 215 00:09:42,006 --> 00:09:43,686 And we wouldn't even need a parenting plan. 216 00:09:43,686 --> 00:09:45,216 We wouldn't even need to look at it. 217 00:09:45,556 --> 00:09:51,793 But in the season that we don't, which for most of us is forever, we need a plan. 218 00:09:51,823 --> 00:09:55,616 We need a contract of when does your time start and when does it end? 219 00:09:55,676 --> 00:10:00,356 Clear, measurable, enforceable, not vague, because that's not a contract. 220 00:10:00,843 --> 00:10:03,990 That's words on paper, which is what a lot of you get handed. 221 00:10:04,201 --> 00:10:06,466 It's just words on paper. 222 00:10:06,706 --> 00:10:11,496 The same attorney that gave you the client, a contract says how much you 223 00:10:11,496 --> 00:10:16,120 owe them, when it's due, and what will happen if you don't pay your attorney. 224 00:10:16,443 --> 00:10:20,133 It doesn't say, "Hey, Sam, Larry here, your lawyer. 225 00:10:20,403 --> 00:10:23,246 pay what you can, pay when you can. 226 00:10:23,680 --> 00:10:24,370 And you know what? 227 00:10:24,536 --> 00:10:25,315 It'll work out. 228 00:10:25,385 --> 00:10:28,461 I'm sure I'll get my money at some point." Is that the contract 229 00:10:28,461 --> 00:10:29,571 that you and your attorney have? 230 00:10:29,865 --> 00:10:30,945 Loosey, goosey. 231 00:10:31,231 --> 00:10:33,418 Pay when you want, pay whatever amount. 232 00:10:33,741 --> 00:10:34,761 Fuck no, it doesn't. 233 00:10:35,001 --> 00:10:38,241 My attorney sued me within 30 days because I didn't pay my bill fast enough. 234 00:10:38,558 --> 00:10:41,171 Real quick on that shit, Because that was a contract I 235 00:10:41,171 --> 00:10:42,551 signed, because it had details. 236 00:10:42,881 --> 00:10:47,001 It had, "Sam, you need to have your bill paid in full within 30 days of the 237 00:10:47,001 --> 00:10:49,095 dissolution agreement." Pretty clear. 238 00:10:49,288 --> 00:10:50,698 But believe me, I went back and read it. 239 00:10:51,088 --> 00:10:52,408 It was very clear contract. 240 00:10:52,668 --> 00:10:56,538 So our attorneys have no problem giving us a clear fucking 241 00:10:56,538 --> 00:11:01,321 contract with rules, regulations, details, timestamps, everything. 242 00:11:01,515 --> 00:11:04,995 But when it comes to our plan that has to be sometimes for some of 243 00:11:04,995 --> 00:11:11,058 us 16, 17, 10, nine years, they want it to be loosey, goosey. 244 00:11:11,088 --> 00:11:13,548 Again, come back and tell me you just want my money later. 245 00:11:13,691 --> 00:11:16,001 Come back and tell me you have no idea how to protect me. 246 00:11:16,001 --> 00:11:18,881 Come back and tell me your ego's too big to make changes and let me have deed. 247 00:11:19,041 --> 00:11:22,311 Come back and tell me you just really don't understand high comp. 248 00:11:22,490 --> 00:11:27,411 Tell me that, but don't tell me loosey goosey is going to benefit 249 00:11:27,411 --> 00:11:28,968 me because it's fucking not. 250 00:11:29,138 --> 00:11:31,568 Because the whole time we've been getting divorced, we haven't 251 00:11:31,568 --> 00:11:34,718 had a plan and we've been loosey goosey because there's no plan. 252 00:11:34,843 --> 00:11:35,738 And how's that worked out? 253 00:11:35,738 --> 00:11:37,628 Well, I'm pretty sure my bill is six figures. 254 00:11:37,778 --> 00:11:40,838 I'm pretty sure we've been to court 32 times and nothing's been resolved. 255 00:11:40,939 --> 00:11:44,258 So loosey goosey has already proven itself to not fucking work. 256 00:11:44,775 --> 00:11:46,305 It's already proven itself not to work. 257 00:11:46,305 --> 00:11:48,405 Mr. collecting evidence, here's one for you. 258 00:11:48,405 --> 00:11:51,975 The past 16 months of trying to get divorced, nothing is fucking resolved in 259 00:11:51,975 --> 00:11:55,185 the loosey-goosey method of just trying to work it out and do what's best for kids. 260 00:11:55,475 --> 00:11:56,525 That's fucking evidence. 261 00:11:56,525 --> 00:11:58,265 Timestamp date that bullshit. 262 00:11:58,618 --> 00:12:03,358 I'm so over these attorneys getting away with talking you 263 00:12:03,358 --> 00:12:05,608 into loosey-goosey vagueness. 264 00:12:05,831 --> 00:12:07,091 And here's what, one of them will tell you. 265 00:12:07,358 --> 00:12:09,688 They'll say, " Well, it'll benefit you. 266 00:12:10,078 --> 00:12:13,918 " Motherfucker, it does not benefit me to not know when my 267 00:12:13,918 --> 00:12:15,718 time starts and when it ends. 268 00:12:15,718 --> 00:12:18,838 It doesn't not benefit me to not know what holiday is mine and whatnot. 269 00:12:18,999 --> 00:12:21,358 It does not benefit me to know if I can make the decision 270 00:12:21,358 --> 00:12:22,438 or not make the decision. 271 00:12:22,708 --> 00:12:24,781 That does not benefit me. 272 00:12:24,941 --> 00:12:27,841 And I know what they're trying to say in a long-winded fucking way. 273 00:12:27,981 --> 00:12:31,041 And again, I deeply apologize about the cu- … Actually, I don't fucking 274 00:12:31,041 --> 00:12:33,021 apologize about the cuss words because this is the kind of shit 275 00:12:33,021 --> 00:12:37,308 that just livid, makes me so fucking livid, is that they think we're dumb. 276 00:12:37,598 --> 00:12:38,828 They think we're stupid. 277 00:12:39,088 --> 00:12:42,268 And that what they're trying to say is, Sam, by having it loosey-goosey, 278 00:12:42,268 --> 00:12:45,958 you can kind of just break the rule that's not there and do what you want. 279 00:12:46,355 --> 00:12:49,198 If you keep it vague, Sam, then you can kind of go in and do 280 00:12:49,198 --> 00:12:50,608 whatever it is you wanna do. 281 00:12:50,638 --> 00:12:51,928 That's what they're trying to tell you. 282 00:12:51,928 --> 00:12:54,298 But here's the deal, fucking Larry. 283 00:12:54,521 --> 00:12:58,331 You're not divorced from my ex- husband who is crazy and 284 00:12:58,331 --> 00:13:00,341 will come at me for everything. 285 00:13:00,746 --> 00:13:02,208 That's what they don't get. 286 00:13:02,668 --> 00:13:07,348 My ex would come for me for crossing the street with the wrong socks on. 287 00:13:07,550 --> 00:13:11,368 And you think a loosey-goosey plan is going to benefit me? 288 00:13:11,593 --> 00:13:12,838 Go fuck yourself. 289 00:13:13,038 --> 00:13:17,118 I'm so over this feeling of thinking that you know how to protect me. 290 00:13:17,300 --> 00:13:17,958 You don't. 291 00:13:18,052 --> 00:13:18,978 You know the law. 292 00:13:19,038 --> 00:13:19,638 That's it. 293 00:13:19,638 --> 00:13:20,658 Stay in your fucking lane. 294 00:13:20,868 --> 00:13:21,948 Stay in your lane. 295 00:13:22,145 --> 00:13:25,895 I know how to protect people in high conflict, which was my fucking life, 296 00:13:26,081 --> 00:13:28,181 which is all of my followers' lives. 297 00:13:28,369 --> 00:13:32,391 We have a different kind of crazy that you lawyers just don't understand. 298 00:13:33,108 --> 00:13:36,108 These people eat, sleep, and breathe to fuck with us. 299 00:13:36,326 --> 00:13:39,588 And you think Lucy Goosey is going to help us? 300 00:13:39,931 --> 00:13:43,621 For the love of God, pay attention, take notes, follow, and subscribe for more. 301 00:13:43,725 --> 00:13:46,231 You don't know what the fuck you're talking about, and you're getting 302 00:13:46,231 --> 00:13:49,771 us to sign shit that only fucks our lives up more in the future and 303 00:13:49,771 --> 00:13:52,067 cost us more fucking money with you. 304 00:13:52,671 --> 00:13:53,991 Just say it's the scam. 305 00:13:54,051 --> 00:13:55,401 Be honest about it. 306 00:13:55,734 --> 00:13:58,164 You don't know how to protect or you just want our money. 307 00:13:58,224 --> 00:13:59,064 Which is it? 308 00:13:59,301 --> 00:14:00,771 ' Cause I think it's probably both. 309 00:14:01,137 --> 00:14:01,377 Okay. 310 00:14:01,900 --> 00:14:03,400 I'm gonna calm down a little bit. 311 00:14:03,814 --> 00:14:10,860 But this has me so amped up because I have seen my parenting plan work for people. 312 00:14:11,184 --> 00:14:13,524 I've seen judges go, "Holy shit. 313 00:14:13,874 --> 00:14:19,837 This is amazing." I have seen lawyers go, "Damn, I need to update my template." 314 00:14:20,147 --> 00:14:21,527 Yes, you fucking do. 315 00:14:21,787 --> 00:14:22,537 Wake up. 316 00:14:22,827 --> 00:14:27,690 It's 2026 and there's people out there that are out to hurt you. 317 00:14:28,020 --> 00:14:29,400 We need better protection. 318 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:34,110 We need measurable, tangible, enforceable, fucking policies in our parenting plan. 319 00:14:34,397 --> 00:14:35,867 Not this will cooperate. 320 00:14:36,107 --> 00:14:37,307 Thou shall talk. 321 00:14:37,445 --> 00:14:39,322 Go, seriously, come on. 322 00:14:39,649 --> 00:14:40,309 the gig is up. 323 00:14:40,599 --> 00:14:41,409 We all woke up. 324 00:14:41,652 --> 00:14:42,522 We're smart now. 325 00:14:42,972 --> 00:14:46,542 We got people like me educating parents all over the world 326 00:14:46,856 --> 00:14:48,686 about what's right for us. 327 00:14:49,106 --> 00:14:51,689 And it is a detailed parenting plan. 328 00:14:52,149 --> 00:14:55,746 So I hope every attorney out there that's following me and leaving me 329 00:14:55,746 --> 00:15:00,009 notes and sending me fucking emails, take my masterclass, learn a little 330 00:15:00,009 --> 00:15:01,959 something, help buy my parenting plan. 331 00:15:02,229 --> 00:15:06,352 You're gonna make the money back tenfold in three clients and go ahead. 332 00:15:06,892 --> 00:15:07,492 Use it. 333 00:15:07,966 --> 00:15:08,776 Get better. 334 00:15:09,022 --> 00:15:10,072 Do a better job. 335 00:15:10,406 --> 00:15:16,412 But the idea that you're trying to talk people in to loosey-goosey, seriously. 336 00:15:16,776 --> 00:15:17,436 Wow. 337 00:15:17,642 --> 00:15:18,872 Wow. 338 00:15:19,081 --> 00:15:21,112 Loosey-goosey will help you. 339 00:15:21,519 --> 00:15:25,212 And they truly believe, Sam, if we just put less in there, you'll 340 00:15:25,212 --> 00:15:26,622 be able to do whatever you want. 341 00:15:27,049 --> 00:15:29,689 No, sir. You don't know who my ex is. 342 00:15:30,072 --> 00:15:34,182 Loosey-goosey won't help me anywhere, but six feet under probably. 343 00:15:34,459 --> 00:15:36,032 So no, I don't want that. 344 00:15:36,339 --> 00:15:37,119 I want detail. 345 00:15:37,439 --> 00:15:39,749 I wanna know when my time starts, when it ends. 346 00:15:39,989 --> 00:15:42,599 I need to know what I'm allowed to do, what I'm not allowed to do. 347 00:15:42,782 --> 00:15:45,939 And I will stay in my lane, and I will follow, and I won't be in contempt. 348 00:15:46,102 --> 00:15:48,832 But I can't handle loosey-goosey because that means I have to 349 00:15:48,832 --> 00:15:52,156 engage with that person, and that person will control me forever. 350 00:15:52,349 --> 00:15:53,249 And I don't want that. 351 00:15:53,279 --> 00:15:56,492 Not for me, and that's not how I wanna show up for around my children. 352 00:15:57,016 --> 00:15:58,336 Get it together, attorneys. 353 00:15:58,636 --> 00:16:01,606 We're onto you, and I'm not gonna stop till we change it. 354 00:16:01,856 --> 00:16:04,342 I'm already starting to talk and teach attorneys, and if 355 00:16:04,342 --> 00:16:05,422 you need help, reach out. 356 00:16:05,422 --> 00:16:06,622 I will teach you my ways. 357 00:16:06,919 --> 00:16:09,799 I will help you build better parenting plans, but the shit you're throwing 358 00:16:09,799 --> 00:16:11,419 out now isn't working for people. 359 00:16:11,786 --> 00:16:12,498 The gig's up. 360 00:16:12,888 --> 00:16:13,809 Loosey-goosies out. 361 00:16:14,059 --> 00:16:14,749 Details in. 362 00:16:15,019 --> 00:16:15,529 Get with it. 363 00:16:17,122 --> 00:16:17,512 Okay. 364 00:16:17,512 --> 00:16:18,742 Welcome back to my channel. 365 00:16:18,742 --> 00:16:21,052 It's The Ugly Truth of Divorce, and I'm your host, Samantha. 366 00:16:21,622 --> 00:16:26,272 And we're just gonna just say what you just witnessed in the intro. 367 00:16:26,332 --> 00:16:28,942 It only gets heightened from here. 368 00:16:29,092 --> 00:16:33,772 So this will be an episode that you do not want your children within the 369 00:16:33,892 --> 00:16:36,142 house if you're listening to this, okay? 370 00:16:36,142 --> 00:16:40,612 There is explicit words, and I'm just going to say that, and I don't apologize 371 00:16:40,612 --> 00:16:42,772 because you're gonna hear the passion behind where they're coming from. 372 00:16:43,162 --> 00:16:48,832 And we're gonna really dive into parenting plans and the term loosey 373 00:16:48,952 --> 00:16:51,952 goosey, used by your attorney. 374 00:16:51,952 --> 00:16:54,502 And I want you to just listen to this episode and be thinking about, 375 00:16:54,712 --> 00:16:58,792 "Man, if I had a loosey, goosey parenting plan, how would my ex 376 00:16:58,912 --> 00:17:01,012 treat me knowing that it was loosey 377 00:17:04,092 --> 00:17:07,762 goosey?" All right, well, I don't know if you need deodorant like I do after 378 00:17:07,762 --> 00:17:09,202 that one, but it got heated in here. 379 00:17:09,232 --> 00:17:10,012 It was hot. 380 00:17:10,102 --> 00:17:14,752 And I'm just here to tell you, we cannot keep allowing these lawyers 381 00:17:14,752 --> 00:17:17,932 and attorneys and family law to take advantage of us and presume that we're 382 00:17:17,932 --> 00:17:21,202 dumb and that we don't know better and that we don't have a different way. 383 00:17:21,202 --> 00:17:21,952 And you do. 384 00:17:22,372 --> 00:17:26,212 Education is number one and/or building your own parenting plan is number two, 385 00:17:26,212 --> 00:17:29,272 and you demand that details be included. 386 00:17:29,482 --> 00:17:33,622 You take those details, you listen to every episode, you go back and you 387 00:17:33,622 --> 00:17:37,582 watch all of my social media, you go and buy the pa- masterclass, you go 388 00:17:37,582 --> 00:17:41,572 and get us to build your parenting plan, but what you don't do is settle 389 00:17:41,722 --> 00:17:45,982 on the idea that loosey-goosey will work in your future because it won't. 390 00:17:46,192 --> 00:17:49,282 I've been doing this longer than you have, and I'm here to tell you as 391 00:17:49,282 --> 00:17:53,812 your big sis, as your mother, and tell you don't settle on loosey-goosey. 392 00:17:54,022 --> 00:17:55,312 Go after those details. 393 00:17:55,312 --> 00:17:59,212 Your future depends upon it and your children want to know where they stand 394 00:17:59,212 --> 00:18:01,672 with things and where they're supposed to be and how they're supposed to be 395 00:18:01,672 --> 00:18:03,052 getting there and who's responsible. 396 00:18:03,322 --> 00:18:07,402 They don't want to be put into a washing machine of turbulence between you and your 397 00:18:07,402 --> 00:18:10,672 ex as you try to navigate loosey-goosey. 398 00:18:11,122 --> 00:18:11,752 It's out. 399 00:18:11,932 --> 00:18:12,772 Details are in. 400 00:18:16,290 --> 00:18:16,680 Okay. 401 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:17,910 Welcome back to my channel. 402 00:18:17,910 --> 00:18:20,220 It's The Ugly Truth of Divorce, and I'm your host, Samantha. 403 00:18:20,790 --> 00:18:25,440 And we're just gonna just say what you just witnessed in the intro. 404 00:18:25,500 --> 00:18:28,110 It only gets heightened from here. 405 00:18:28,260 --> 00:18:32,940 So this will be an episode that you do not want your children within the 406 00:18:33,060 --> 00:18:35,310 house if you're listening to this, okay? 407 00:18:35,310 --> 00:18:39,780 There is explicit words, and I'm just going to say that, and I don't apologize 408 00:18:39,780 --> 00:18:41,940 because you're gonna hear the passion behind where they're coming from. 409 00:18:42,330 --> 00:18:48,000 And we're gonna really dive into parenting plans and the term loosey 410 00:18:48,120 --> 00:18:51,120 goosey, used by your attorney. 411 00:18:51,120 --> 00:18:53,670 And I want you to just listen to this episode and be thinking about, 412 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:57,960 "Man, if I had a loosey, goosey parenting plan, how would my ex 413 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:00,180 treat me knowing that it was loosey 414 00:19:03,260 --> 00:19:06,930 goosey?" All right, well, I don't know if you need deodorant like I do after 415 00:19:06,930 --> 00:19:08,370 that one, but it got heated in here. 416 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:09,180 It was hot. 417 00:19:09,270 --> 00:19:13,920 And I'm just here to tell you, we cannot keep allowing these lawyers 418 00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:17,100 and attorneys and family law to take advantage of us and presume that we're 419 00:19:17,100 --> 00:19:20,370 dumb and that we don't know better and that we don't have a different way. 420 00:19:20,370 --> 00:19:21,120 And you do. 421 00:19:21,540 --> 00:19:25,380 Education is number one and/or building your own parenting plan is number two, 422 00:19:25,380 --> 00:19:28,440 and you demand that details be included. 423 00:19:28,650 --> 00:19:32,790 You take those details, you listen to every episode, you go back and you 424 00:19:32,790 --> 00:19:36,750 watch all of my social media, you go and buy the pa- masterclass, you go 425 00:19:36,750 --> 00:19:40,740 and get us to build your parenting plan, but what you don't do is settle 426 00:19:40,890 --> 00:19:45,150 on the idea that loosey-goosey will work in your future because it won't. 427 00:19:45,360 --> 00:19:48,450 I've been doing this longer than you have, and I'm here to tell you as 428 00:19:48,450 --> 00:19:52,980 your big sis, as your mother, and tell you don't settle on loosey-goosey. 429 00:19:53,190 --> 00:19:54,480 Go after those details. 430 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:58,380 Your future depends upon it and your children want to know where they stand 431 00:19:58,380 --> 00:20:00,840 with things and where they're supposed to be and how they're supposed to be 432 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:02,220 getting there and who's responsible. 433 00:20:02,490 --> 00:20:06,570 They don't want to be put into a washing machine of turbulence between you and your 434 00:20:06,570 --> 00:20:09,840 ex as you try to navigate loosey-goosey. 435 00:20:10,290 --> 00:20:10,920 It's out. 436 00:20:11,100 --> 00:20:11,940 Details are in.