02:13.78
Nandi K
Welcome back to Right Quick.

02:16.15
Vance 😈
A bite-sized pop culture conversation with your favorite Queer, unfriendly black hotties.

02:21.30
Nandi K
Today we're unfriendly because I fear I have become too tired for the Big Pride celebrations in my advanced age. I'm Nandi Kay

02:32.50
Vance 😈
And I'm Vance Gowe. Yes. Like, I mean, I don't even go to the big ones.
I'm not gone hold you.

02:40.09
Nandi K
No.

02:40.66
Vance 😈
Like, I haven't gone to a Pride event, like a big Pride, and I can't say on this. Like...

02:47.45
Nandi K
I also could not tell you. I was thinking about it while I was getting ready for this episode, and I was like, hmm. And the memories I do have, blurry, intoxicated.

03:00.22
Vance 😈
Yeah, no...

03:00.54
Nandi K
The images that I do have for when I was there, blurry, can't see well.

03:07.57
Vance 😈
Uh, it was at least sound like you'd be having fun. don't even be having fun. I went, I think I went, I think I might've tried to go last year and I went to the front and they were like, it's a hundred dollars.

03:15.40
Nandi K
no.

03:18.00
Vance 😈
And I was like, I think it's anti is anti is homophobic to.

03:19.35
Nandi K
No.

03:22.68
Nandi K
Very homophobic. It's very transphobic as well.

03:26.14
Vance 😈
Like, why would you ask anybody from the community to pay that much money? Like you need to be charging straight people with this.

03:33.88
Nandi K
Yeah.

03:34.44
Nandi K
and i Or white.

03:36.98
Vance 😈
Yeah. they Yeah.

03:37.75
Nandi K
The whites maybe can pay. But what happened to sliding scale?

03:42.00
Nandi K
Are we off sliding scales now?

03:43.16
Vance 😈
Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. They were like one hundred dollars. And then i I said something and they were like, oh, I think someone online was like not finger wagging me, but they were like explaining to me with my stupid brain like, oh, you're the sponsors dropped out because of the federal governments and their bullshit.

03:47.49
Nandi K
Whoa.

03:59.35
Nandi K
Who cares?

04:01.21
Vance 😈
What that got to do with me?

04:01.72
Nandi K
I'm not the government. I don't have government coins. What does that have to do with me, a participant?

04:09.53
Vance 😈
A gay, a Queer person. Like, this is for us. It should be free.

04:13.11
Nandi K
Actually, Queer, not the fucking gays, bitch. Those fucking log cabin faggots, they have money. Make them pay $1,000 so everyone else can get in.

04:25.21
Vance 😈
Period Period. Right. So, so yeah, I didn't even go. Like, I, do I, I'm not going. Cause like, how dare you? So yeah, that's the, the big Pride events.
are Same, same to all.

04:36.82
Nandi K
Yeah, I think the last time I tried to go to a Pride event, something happened and it ended up we ended up like running too late and maybe it was also raining and we ended up just like going to brunch, which I think is basically what is the old version. like what's more my speed of like how do I want to spend a Pride time?
Yes, let us sit down over a meal.

05:06.49
Vance 😈
I think brunch is like in in spirit of Pride. Like I think it's like in alignment.

05:10.07
Nandi K
Yeah.

05:11.49
Vance 😈
So it like makes sense. Like, yeah, we just gonna go to brunch.

05:12.76
Nandi K
Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. Well, if y'all can't tell, we're kicking off Pride Month by talking about Pride.

05:24.18
Nandi K
We're going to have a whole month full of that gay shit. Not that that's any different than Pride.

05:29.05
Vance 😈
Different than the regular, right?

05:29.29
Nandi K
Any other time on this podcast but we'll probably have some special guests uh i'll pop out so that vance can have some conversations with some of our fellow queers and same I'll be talking about lesbians um and vance will be talking about maybe gays i don't know i don't know what men do

05:51.99
Vance 😈
Uh, what do you gays, what do you gays talk about? Um, what, what is, um Pride Demon? Well, I feel like, I feel like why do we celebrate pride is probably the better way to frame that.

06:06.04
Vance 😈
Cause like everyone that listens to this podcast should hopefully like they know.

06:10.04
Nandi K
Yeah.

06:12.20
Vance 😈
Cause why wouldn't you know this?

06:13.98
Nandi K
Unless you're a homophobe.

06:17.34
Vance 😈
Hopefully, if you're a homophobe, you don't listen. But if you do listen, hopefully you're learning and you're coming around. I don't know why homophobe would be here.

06:22.90
Nandi K
And coming out of the closet, that's probably what's happened.

06:24.98
Vance 😈
Yeah.

06:26.22
Nandi K
That's probably what's the true thing of what's happening.

06:26.22
Vance 😈
Questioning that.

06:29.10
Nandi K
You're not straight if you listen to this podcast.

06:31.90
Vance 😈
That's true. it i mean, yeah.

06:32.44
Nandi K
Hate to break it to you.

06:34.14
Vance 😈
Yeah, I got some news for you, sister.

06:34.33
Nandi K
no Hate to break it to you.

06:37.38
Vance 😈
Queen.

06:37.53
Nandi K
But yeah, um, Pride.

*Church organs play*

Nandi K
LGBTQ Pride is the positive stance against discrimination and violence towards lesbian gay bisexual transgender and queer people promoting self affirmation dignity equal rights and increased visibility it celebrated globally to commemorate the movement for LGBTQIA Plus rights

*Church organs play*

06:47.48
Nandi K
But why do you call it the pride demon? Like, well, yes, but I want you to tell our listeners.

06:51.96
Vance 😈
Do you know, you know this, no?

06:54.97
Vance 😈
oh I was like, because you're deep. I was like, you're deep in internet lore.

06:58.94
Nandi K
Of course.

06:58.97
Vance 😈
No, the ah the the conservatives and their inability to create anything, anything that's um new, you know, they only destroy.

07:03.98
Nandi K
Yes.

07:08.02
Nandi K
Mm-hmm.

07:09.03
Vance 😈
ah they try to They try to make a ah meme and it said Pride Month. And then it was like the word demon was highlighted and the gays was like, oh, you cooked.

07:16.73
Nandi K
yeah yep yep because that's the last thing we need because right in the middle of pride month if you put them together demon is right there and I personally, pride demon is my sexuality I can say and my gender yeah

07:31.62
Vance 😈
A banger! It's you are a pride demon for sure. But like, it's a, it's a banger. Like if you say pride demon, right?

07:40.18
Nandi K
yeah like conservatives ate with that they be coming out with some fire gay shit like

07:45.05
Vance 😈
Unintentionally. Yeah. I mean, they're very, they, they're all also very gay.

07:46.55
Nandi K
yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah they are a lot of a lot I mean we know what happens at all the republican national conventions they shut grinder scruff sniffies shut down all the white ones.

07:56.09
Vance 😈
Listen, Grindr. Grindr, shut down. Right. The white ones. The white ones. You see Jack’d. They don't do nothing to Jackd. Jacked is Black and brown.

Nandi K
Is Jackd the Black one?

08:08.41
Vance 😈
Yeah.

08:08.47
Nandi K
Let me find out.

08:10.23
Vance 😈
Yes.

08:11.29
Vance 😈
You know JackD

08:11.44
Nandi K
I'm learning something new. I don't hang out with men, so I don't really know.

08:12.76
Vance 😈
Oh. Oh, that's fair. Well, I...

08:16.02
Nandi K
But I need to get on JackD.

08:16.69
Vance 😈
I'm not...

08:17.54
Nandi K
Maybe I can find...

08:19.74
Vance 😈
I think you can maybe. I'm not on JackD because um similar to all the other ones, it's hateful.

08:23.68
Nandi K
Oh.

08:26.40
Vance 😈
um

08:26.94
Nandi K
Okay, never mind. I won't be getting on there.

08:28.15
Vance 😈
No, it's the same it's the same thing but Black, right? And then like Niggas, oh my, they so mean.

08:31.58
Nandi K
I don't want people being mean to me because I have a vagina.

08:34.62
Vance 😈
They be on there, the Niggas be on there cussing. They be cussing everybody out. Like, like I'm sick of you, faggots.

08:39.13
Nandi K
Oh no, Vagine. Oh.

08:41.87
Vance 😈
And it's just like hateful torsos just like going in on everyone in a 10-mile radius.

08:46.10
Nandi K
My god. This is like that song from a Strange Loop.

08:51.67
Vance 😈
Which one?

08:52.44
Nandi K
um It's the one where he's on where he's like, too fat, too Black, your dick too small.

09:00.47
Vance 😈
Yeah.

09:00.80
Nandi K
It's called, hold on I'm finding it, I'm finding it. Also, Bob the Drag Queen was recently talking about A Strange Loop and mentioned um Tyler Perry writes real life.

09:18.90
Vance 😈
Oh, that's a funny song.

09:20.66
Nandi K
Yeah, so good.

09:21.62
Vance 😈
I think that whole that whole play is very funny. um I listen to that

09:24.62
Nandi K
Exile in Gayville. That's what it's called. Exile in Gayville.

09:29.30
Vance 😈
Story of my life.

09:29.56
Nandi K
Where he's like on the on the apps and there are just a lot of me hateful things being said.

09:35.58
Vance 😈
Hateful. Yeah, hateful there. um Well, Pride Demon, do you observe? and know we we we already talked about it.

09:43.13
Nandi K
As I mentioned, ah my back hurts. No, I'm tired. I need my eight hours. I can't drink all day.
I can't drink on an empty stomach. All of these ingredients combined to make it so I do not...

09:59.64
Vance 😈
Big crowds.

10:03.12
Nandi K
observe the big Pride celebrations anymore i like to think that i do gay shit all the time i mostly only hang out with other queers um even the quote-unquote “straights” in my life I got news for you buddy

10:09.40
Vance 😈
Yep.

10:17.34
Vance 😈
Sugar in their tank. Right. Sweet.

10:20.38
Nandi K
So, yeah, nobody around me is straight.

10:21.26
Vance 😈
Sweet.

10:24.34
Nandi K
So I feel like I'm constantly, you know, doing Pride every day. I'm constantly saying, break up with that man. Find yourself a nice lady.

10:35.10
Nandi K
Denounce your gender now.

10:36.50
Vance 😈
Use your butt

10:37.27
Nandi K
Is that your gender? What's your pronouns? You know, so I feel like I participate in those kinds of ways as like a part of the Gay Agenda™️.

10:48.86
Vance 😈
Fair um

10:49.43
Nandi K
And you?

Vance
Similar i think um I mean very similar to everything you said about Pride um I'm still in the military And we have drill weekend in Every Long Beach Pride So I always miss it

11:03.43
Nandi K
That's that's on purpose, you know.

11:05.72
Vance 😈
Yeah, because they're homophobic.

11:07.22
Nandi K
Yeah, they're definitely doing that.

11:07.28
Vance 😈
They line that shit up.

11:09.22
Nandi K
They're they're making the like circle of homophobia and anti-Blackness.

11:15.48
Vance 😈
Right there.

11:15.59
Nandi K
It's a full circle whenever you have to have drill on those days.

11:16.70
Vance 😈
Yes, with my name in the middle.

11:18.99
Nandi K
Wow.

11:19.86
Vance 😈
Yeah, so so it's always drill weekend. And on drill weekend, I don't like to be perceived because I'm there all day, right?

11:26.58
Nandi K
Sure.

11:26.62
Vance 😈
So at night, I go home and hibernate. But um I don't know.

11:29.14
Nandi K
Yeah.

11:30.76
Vance 😈
Just Long Beach Pride this year actually was canceled at the last minute because you saw it.

11:34.71
Nandi K
I saw that. I saw that it was all over the interwebs.

11:39.64
Vance 😈
Somebody at the office who was planning it did not like file a certificate. She didn't file a license or something.

11:45.24
Nandi K
The permits, baby.

11:46.40
Vance 😈
A permit. Yes. like Like girl. And then like Long Beach is gay as fuck. so I think that they were saying the city was trying to work with them. And I don't know. They didn't do it. So they did the festival or the parade, but not the big one. I said, come on.

11:59.74
Vance 😈
Cause like, where else is like Jennifer Hudson going to get booked?

12:03.26
Nandi K
Lord, Lord, Lord. Right. I mean, her talk show is still surprisingly somehow on, but yeah.

12:07.96
Vance 😈
I mean, yes, yes. but But for music,

12:12.66
Nandi K
Yeah, because she doesn't have any good songs, I want to say.

12:16.05
Vance 😈
nobody's booking.

12:16.89
Nandi K
She has no bangers.

12:17.14
Vance 😈
Listen, Jennifer Hudson, at Long Beach Pride, Rhyno Pride, Jaheim.

12:24.28
Nandi K
Not Jaheim. Why is Jaheim at Long Beach Pride?

12:27.45
Vance 😈
No, he, well, you know, he just be doing Pride. But I mean, this this this is not shit.

12:30.84
Nandi K
I did not know that he'd just be doing Pride.

12:33.05
Vance 😈
not Is it Jaheim? I think I got the wrong Black R&B man.

12:36.08
Nandi K
Bye. my god. You just makes...

12:38.23
Vance 😈
Tank. I meant tank.

12:39.48
Nandi K
Oh, that makes sense.

12:40.31
Vance 😈
No, but, but I think, I think Jaheim has done it.

12:40.96
Nandi K
Tank would be doing it.

12:44.21
Vance 😈
I'm going to look it up. ah Don't hold that to me, but I tank for sure.

12:45.34
Nandi K
Dream Jaheim.

12:49.44
Vance 😈
Tank for sure. Be doing Pride.

12:50.36
Nandi K
Wow. That's so funny. Tank definitely like is happy to just... Tank just be happy to be there.

12:57.91
Vance 😈
Yeah.

12:58.20
Nandi K
he be ah he has a he outside of pride and outside of his general like chillness because he's also a small Nigga so i think about like how probably like he has an unnatural allegiance to losers like outside of that like he's a big chris brown fan he loves to talk about how good R Kelly is yeah he's

13:18.92
Vance 😈
Oh, no. Is he? Uh-uh.

13:23.54
Nandi K
When it comes to like, he brought Trey Songz out at the verses.

13:24.66
Vance 😈
He's friends with Tyrese.

13:28.59
Nandi K
You know, like he he's friends with Tyrese.

13:31.65
Vance 😈
He's besties with Tyrese.

13:31.92
Nandi K
Exactly.

13:32.62
Vance 😈
Yeah.

13:33.11
Nandi K
They're best friends.

13:33.73
Vance 😈
Oof.

13:33.92
Nandi K
So it if you look around him, there's a lot of men Genuine who's just obviously all the pieces ain't quite there.

13:45.82
Vance 😈
um I don't even think about Tank.

13:46.10
Nandi K
But good to know he be at Pride.

13:48.22
Vance 😈
He do be a pride. That's like a plus for sure.

13:50.30
Nandi K
And he can really sing. So that's like really quality entertainment for pride.

13:55.13
Vance 😈
I mean, you know the gays.

13:55.38
Nandi K
And he'll have his shirt off probably, right? Like, yeah.

13:57.82
Vance 😈
we The gays love all of that. And like, yeah, the gays are also very picky about their singers.

13:59.54
Nandi K
Yeah.

14:03.14
Vance 😈
so

14:03.58
Nandi K
Yeah.

14:03.93
Vance 😈
Well, ah except Jennifer Hudson.

14:03.98
Nandi K
Oh, yeah.

14:05.33
Vance 😈
Sorry. Um...

14:06.01
Nandi K
That's why Jennifer Hudson is always getting booked.

14:10.28
Vance 😈
Um... Black pride. Do y'all, y'all got Black Pride? You, I know y'all do, but do y'all do Black Pride?

14:16.18
Nandi K
We don't have Black Pride in Jacksonville that I know about.

14:19.32
Vance 😈
Really?

14:20.18
Nandi K
Not that I know about. Now, I'm not going to say it doesn't exist. But I'm saying I don't know about it.

14:25.68
Vance 😈
Okay.

14:28.22
Vance 😈
Um,

14:28.98
Nandi K
Yeah.

14:29.45
Vance 😈
LA has Black Pride and Black Pride is in July instead of June. And I appreciate that because it's clear that, you know, they're not mixing, they're not crossing streams.

14:35.38
Nandi K
Oh, see.

14:40.30
Vance 😈
So um I actually do attend Black Pride events because they're always free. um that
14:45.88
Nandi K
Interesting.

14:46.98
Vance 😈
They'll be at the park and they'll have all the orgs there. And then, you know, you might play some Connect Four and cuss out a stranger. Like Black Pride is, ah it's always like a good, wholesome, like time.

14:56.98
Nandi K
Okay, I lied.

14:59.08
Vance 😈
Y'all do.

14:59.19
Nandi K
I lied.

14:59.44
Vance 😈
Of course y'all do.

15:01.18
Nandi K
I said that I don't know. So it looks like our Black Pride is in March, which is

15:11.00
Nandi K
not a great time, as you can imagine.

15:12.34
Vance 😈
Yeah, it's far from June. It's not the summer.

15:15.03
Nandi K
And it rains a lot.

15:16.73
Vance 😈
Yeah. I feel like you need to be outside for Pride.

15:20.95
Nandi K
You do.

15:21.88
Vance 😈
Be able to be outside for sure.

15:24.12
Nandi K
Interesting. Yeah, it looks like there's Duval Black Pride. It looks pretty recent though.

15:32.56
Nandi K
Anyways, I haven't been. um but Maybe I'll check it out next time. It doesn't look like they've had
But, you know, hey. Okay, they said what should the theme be, but I'm not seeing anything about what it is. So, hey.

15:58.47
Vance 😈
They're...

16:02.30
Nandi K
Good luck. um

16:03.60
Vance 😈
They're asking... They're asking y'all for a theme?

16:06.07
Nandi K
Sure are.

16:07.94
Vance 😈
Asking for a theme is the Blackest, gayest shit.

16:10.10
Nandi K
I agree.

16:10.65
Vance 😈
Just...

16:12.89
Vance 😈
I had someone was like, I'm having a housewarming.

16:13.24
Nandi K
I agree.

16:14.93
Vance 😈
And then I was jokingly like, what's the theme? And then they came up with a theme. And it we came just up to the theme. And I'm like, a housewarming is the theme. It's already themed. And it's like, nah, it's double. Good. Good.
because Well,

16:25.72
Nandi K
Yeah. Yeah. But in New York, I used to go to Black Pride. I used to go to like Brooklyn Black black Pride. I would do the Dyke March sometimes too because they have more like lesbian specific stuff where I can like be out with the Black lesbians specifically.

16:38.41
Vance 😈
Mm-hmm. Dykes on bikes.

16:42.94
Nandi K
And there's the Mermaid Parade, which I don't know if the Mermaid Parade actually is Pride, but it's, as you can imagine, mermaids are very gay

16:51.72
Vance 😈
Yeah.

16:54.65
Nandi K
That happens at like Coney Island, um. Which is also super fun. Yeah, Coney Island. I've gone to that. So I've got I've done most of my prides in New York City, and it's been quite a while. Yeah, like I said, the last time I was supposed to go to one here, we just went to brunch.

17:20.23
Vance 😈
I feel like ah New York has a fun pride. I've never been, but...

17:24.69
Nandi K
It's a little overwhelming.

17:27.04
Vance 😈
I could imagine...

17:27.80
Nandi K
The city is a little bit too big to be having like, because like where the parade happens, which is like downtown Union Square, fourteenthish street, 56th Avenue is like midtown downtown.
But like where you're going to go to like bars. Sure, there are some bars in that area. But where are the gays going to We want to go to the village because Stonewall is literally down there.

17:59.17
Nandi K
Right.

17:59.56
Vance 😈
Right.

17:59.73
Nandi K
So like walking for all the way from maybe let's say you're at 26th Street.

18:00.26
Vance 😈
Right.

18:08.12
Nandi K
You've been drinking for God knows how long. The parade is over. Now you're walking all the way down to the village. That's like 30 or 40 blocks, right? Because you're not going to get a car.
Then there's so many bars.

18:21.82
Vance 😈
I mean, yeah. so

18:23.54
Nandi K
And this is why, like, for me, my products kind of run together. And I kind of just, like, remember, like, going into bars. It's dark. The music is loud. Maybe I kiss some random strangers. I don't know. It's all very blurry. It's just like going in and out of places, having a lot of drinks, kissing gays. Oh, but I did love to kiss gays on the mouth back in the day. That's the other thing. Can't be kissing people on the mouth.

18:55.22
Vance 😈
Yeah, the the Gays love kissing each other on the mouth um

18:58.61
Nandi K
I love it too, but not in this economy and not in this climate.

19:01.67
Vance 😈
the mouth. They still doing it, Nandi.

19:02.60
Nandi K
Nope.

19:03.72
Vance 😈
I'll be going out and they just be... and I and I think they could tell by my face so they don't do it to me. *Cackles*

19:06.34
Nandi K
Nope.

19:10.58
Nandi K
Hey.

19:11.17
Vance 😈
But because I'll be like, don't like, I don't know you. Please don't kiss me. Like, and then my friend caught mono. And then like, and we're all in the same group. And I was like, trying not to be messy. But I'm like, hey, there was a mono outbreak in this group.

19:23.21
Nandi K
Yeah.

19:24.54
Vance 😈
Like, y'all need to stop kissing each other on the mouth.

19:24.89
Nandi K
Yeah. yeah

19:27.86
Vance 😈
And my friend thought I was being like shady.

19:28.12
Nandi K
yeah

19:30.10
Vance 😈
I'm not being shady.

19:30.90
Nandi K
It's not being shady.

19:31.97
Vance 😈
That's that's why we should not.

19:32.22
Nandi K
I dated someone who had mono years and years and years and years ago. This was like one of the first people I ever dated. And that was like such an insane thing. I was like, how does this happen?

19:43.99
Nandi K
The kissing disease? I was like, I did kind of go in on her.

19:46.01
Vance 😈
yes, like high like high schoolers. um My roommate, my former roommate that you know, caught mono, and that bitch be kissing, right?

19:53.98
Nandi K
hello

19:56.20
Nandi K
Messy. Ew. e

19:57.65
Vance 😈
I was like, what?

20:00.44
Nandi K
ill And mind you, I love kissing and I miss kissing strangers. However, in the era of COVID-19, Hantavirus, Ebola, bitch, I certainly cannot. If I wanted to kiss my friends on the mouth, we too would get many tests.

20:20.85
Vance 😈
um Yeah, I'm just not team, like... Not to say I don't like kissing, but I'm just not team go out in public and kiss a person. Like, even a friend...

20:30.57
Nandi K
Kissing people you don't know on the mouth is crazy. And it's like, I can't, my frontal lobe is now fully formed.

20:34.52
Vance 😈
yeah I just...

20:39.64
Nandi K
We've been through, we're in a pandemic. There's more on the way. I can't kiss unidentified strangers in the mouth. And that does lessen my pride experience. And I would rather not be there. Gotta say it.

20:58.89
Nandi K
Ruins it for me.

20:59.06
Vance 😈
I mean,

21:00.25
Nandi K
No point.

21:02.07
Vance 😈
I think it's full of circle. That's like part of why like you don't be at the, but same, like I, yeah.

21:07.42
Nandi K
Because when am I going to kiss men? That was also my only time to kiss gay men. It's like I never kiss men anymore. like gay men are so safe because I'm one of them.

21:22.46
Vance 😈
Also, big pride LA full of whites.

21:26.46
Nandi K
Well, L.A.

21:26.66
Vance 😈
It cannot be stated enough. Yeah. It could not be stated enough full of whites and, um, and non-whites, but also like they, they align with the whites and they're not my people.

21:29.10
Nandi K
gays.

21:31.86
Nandi K
Yikes.

21:35.58
Nandi K
Yeah. no no No, no, no, no, no.

21:37.50
Vance 😈
Um,

21:39.22
Nandi K
What do you have any like messy Pride stories?

21:44.02
Vance 😈
just Just one. i don't frequent Pride enough, right? So I had a hard time thinking, but actually a little bit of lore coming out lore.

21:48.18
Nandi K
Sure.

21:53.80
Nandi K
hmm.

21:54.65
Vance 😈
This had to be 2015. I was about 25. When I first started, ah only had like one serious ex where we lived together.

22:03.03
Nandi K
okay

22:03.26
Vance 😈
And when we first our first date date was a Black Pride event. And um it was a white party.

22:10.30
Nandi K
Oh.

22:11.37
Vance 😈
And you know, my little 25 year old, little radical ass was like, i ain't gonna fucking white party.

22:17.66
Nandi K
Oh my god.

22:18.68
Vance 😈
said, why it got to be a white party, brother? So, um, it right.

22:21.71
Nandi K
Oppression is up, brother. Struggle is up.

22:23.66
Vance 😈
So I, so my dumb ass ended up going, of course, cause I was trying to get with this, this person.

22:27.69
Nandi K
Of course. Of course.

22:29.94
Vance 😈
So, uh, I went and this person took me to their friend's house and there was just a bunch of gays and you know how the gays are like, they'd be looking like, who is that?

22:38.42
Nandi K
Yes.

22:39.60
Vance 😈
So that's kind of what they was doing.

22:41.02
Nandi K
Yes.

22:41.16
Vance 😈
And then, uh,

22:41.42
Nandi K
And you are a little snack.

22:44.18
Vance 😈
Right.

22:44.92
Nandi K
Yes.

22:44.94
Vance 😈
20, you know, 25 year old too. Uh, so that was all with it. And then, um, you know, we were there, then we left. And then I think on the way there, um, the person I was dating dumbass was like, Oh, my friends, uh, they really like you.

22:58.17
Vance 😈
Like i could hook you up with them, something like that. And then I dragged them and I was like, Nigga, I'm going to a white party that I don't want to be at. Like for your dumbass, why would you tell me that your friends are interested in their available?

23:11.41
Vance 😈
Like, why would you even suggest that dumbass?

23:11.78
Nandi K
Yikes.

23:13.69
Vance 😈
And then I think that was the first time I clearly was like, I like you. So then I felt like an energy shift there, but anyway,

23:19.16
Nandi K
Oh,

23:20.22
Vance 😈
Later that night, we kissed at the club and this messy bitch posted it online. I think he tagged me and and I was not out. Right. And my mom called me!

23:30.36
Nandi K
Yo

23:32.59
Aaron Freeman
you

23:33.90
Nandi K
Whoa your mom called you because she saw this?

23:35.68
Vance 😈
me. Yeah. so or Somebody saw it and sent it to my mom. and And my mom called me. But my mom.

23:41.58
Nandi K
She's gonna let you out that sucking dick.

23:42.84
Vance 😈
yeah Right, right. And we don't have a good relationship. So she was like being weird about it. And I'm like, what do you call it? So anyway, that was it. Like basically this nigga, this nigga outed at me.

23:50.81
Nandi K
That's

23:55.19
Nandi K
The fact that your mama called you about this, I'm like, do I have any messy Pride stories? I feel like the only messy pride story I think is like, I was dating some light-skinned person and they...

24:14.33
Vance 😈
First mistake.

24:15.80
Nandi K
Well, and they, we went to some bar in the village. We had went to a few bars and we went to like another bar and their friend was there. Now, later I did end up dating this friend that was a mistake big mistake big mistake but the only messy part was that this person was also from Florida and we kept getting in an argument because we're not from the same part of Florida number one

24:32.18
Vance 😈
Is this the messy part? Or?

24:48.58
Vance 😈
Uh-huh.

24:49.98
Nandi K
Every part of Florida is not the same. I don't claim to know shit. Anyway, we kept getting in drunk arguments because this person wanted to argue with me about Florida.

24:53.90
Vance 😈
Uh-huh.

24:58.58
Nandi K
And I'm just like, I'm but here with my new person. I'm light skin. I'm talking to. Okay. We're trying to have fun. You're over here arguing with me. Apparently it was because she liked me anyway.

25:12.90
Vance 😈
Uh-uh.

25:13.46
Nandi K
Yeah, it was mostly just we were just arguing the whole night, which I think is very on brand for me, unfortunately, as well.

25:13.92
Vance 😈
So we...

25:20.92
Nandi K
And I kissed a bunch of strangers, but that was also normal for me at the time as well.

25:21.05
Vance 😈
I was going to say, can we talk about how like, I actually hate it when people like you and they think they're arguing is flirting.

25:25.30
Nandi K
so

25:34.90
Vance 😈
I hate it.

25:35.06
Nandi K
It's annoying.

25:36.75
Vance 😈
I hate it. Could I be ready to swing?

25:38.17
Nandi K
Don't argue with me. I, in fact, hate you now.

25:39.78
Vance 😈
I'm like, hey.

25:42.59
Nandi K
So...

25:42.94
Vance 😈
Right. Like, why why do you think like we're not in third grade? Like, if you like me, why don't you say that or just be nice to me?

25:48.73
Nandi K
I hate it. B, if you like me, you need to be interested because first of all, I'm autistic, bitch. I take everything literally.

25:59.58
Nandi K
You're mean to me. I'm like, this person is mean to me because they don't like me.

26:01.18
Vance 😈
You hate me.

26:04.06
Vance 😈
Right.

26:04.45
Nandi K
I'm not reading anymore. I'm taking it at face value. We don't even know each other. I'm not over here trying to decipher that shit from you, okay? Okay.

26:16.95
Vance 😈
um Why should you? Like, you're being an asshole to me.

26:18.49
Nandi K
Why?

26:20.43
Vance 😈
I just assume you're an asshole.

26:20.70
Nandi K
Why?

26:22.15
Vance 😈
I actually don't want to date an asshole. I'm not even sorry.

26:25.55
Nandi K
ill

26:26.23
Vance 😈
Just like, you're kind of a jerk.

26:26.58
Nandi K
Yeah. And I'm like, we're why are we doing this when we're gay? It's here ah Free yourself from mental slavery.

26:35.86
Vance 😈
Yeah. Yeah.

26:37.62
Nandi K
Struggle is up my brother! Please! Okay so I guess like to wrap it up what does it mean for you to be a proud queer and how do you spend your pride these days like what what are your pride plans this year

26:37.65
Vance 😈
Somebody...

26:55.48
Vance 😈
um I'm going to do what I always do and like stay in the house. But um I will say, similar to what you said, like I think just existing and being you and not being ashamed right and like loving yourself, I think people see that and that just lets them that gives them permission to be that way and are a model to be that way.
So that. And then as far as Pride, um I know because I'm in a group that's...

27:17.40
Nandi K
Amen.

27:22.02
Vance 😈
um mix like race twice like it's black and uh black and browns um they little gay ass is probably gonna invite me to some dumb shit um if I might go to one of them things but i'm like I said uninterested in um in og pride yeah i mean

27:25.27
Nandi K
Who

27:30.44
Nandi K
I'm sure.

27:33.50
Nandi K
You might.

27:36.94
Nandi K
You're good for sliding through, though, just for the sake of, which is important. And I'm so glad you do that, because, baby, I need to start doing that more. Because I'd be like, no.

27:44.69
Vance 😈
Nandi I do it for the lore all the time i'm like you know what i might get a funny story out of this uh

27:49.62
Nandi K
The lore is not even good anymore.

27:52.50
Vance 😈
It's not. No, you see, I don't tell.

27:53.27
Nandi K
My lore is so good. Like, my past lore is so deep and, like, good and messy. I'm just like, you're...

28:00.41
Vance 😈
But, you know, you might meet someone and hit it off with them. And I don't even mean like romantically. I just mean like you might find someone.

28:06.36
Nandi K
I doubt it, but you're right. I gotta start thinking more positive. Yeah. Yeah.

28:11.99
Vance 😈
But but yeah, all of that. How about yourself?

28:15.42
Nandi K
Yeah, this year, now that I'm thinking about it, maybe I'll host a little brunch at my house with some of my favorite local queers. only have like three of them.

28:23.22
Vance 😈
Do it. Do it.

28:25.50
Nandi K
So I think that could be cute.

28:25.72
Vance 😈
That's a perfect number.

28:28.02
Nandi K
I could have a little brunch at my house. So maybe I'll do that. That sounds cute. and Yeah, I think just being super subversive. Like, I just think nobody knows what to expect from me in terms of Queerness. um I will pop out with whoever I want to pop out with.

28:51.61
Nandi K
currently looking for a partner to take care of me and my partner. And they are looking for the same. So if y'all are out there, you're rich, you're Black, you're older, maybe in your 50s, maybe in your 60s. Hey, that's like that ah for us is like, hey, how can we expand our family in a Queer way? That's also really what I'm thinking about is like living more like queerly like i've been thinking a lot about queer in the family because you know I'm like i want us to have a farm and have like tiny houses on the farm and i really want this to happen and I was talking to another one of our friends this week a trans woman and she was like it's been a rough year and i was like well i'm about to get this farm in a couple of years so if you want to come live in a tiny house i on the farm, like, come out here, ah you're more than welcome.

29:24.12
Vance 😈
Yeah.

29:46.14
Nandi K
But yeah, queer in the family is, like, really important to me right now. Just, like, other ways to do family outside the nuclear family.

29:56.73
Vance 😈
Nice.

29:57.66
Nandi K
Yeah.

30:00.25
Nandi K
Well, today's episode is sponsored by the Pride Demon, who encourages you to throw a brick at a straggot today. I second this.

30:13.37
Nandi K
We can't say who the pride demon is. Who is it? I don't know. We happen to have similar thoughts on what you should do. Wow. Huh.

30:25.24
Vance 😈
Big thanks to our producer, Adonis, Aaron Rand Freeman. I've been Vance Gowe. You can find me at IG and threads at Sir BLEEP a thawt.

30:39.83
Nandi K
And I'm Nandi Gay. You can find me on Instagram, threads in blue sky at Nandi K-A-Y-Y-Y. And you can follow us on Instagram at right quick podcast. Happy part, y'all. We'll see y'all.

Right Quick is a podcast for the Agenda Productions created by Nandi Kay and co-hosted by Vance Gowe. Aaron Ryan Freeman is our mouthy producer, theme music by Luke Santi, art by Sonja Honeycutt.