<v Speaker 1>Jerry, Katy and Josh six one hundred.

<v Speaker 2>Josh has something going on in his life where an

<v Speaker 2>ex is trying to reach back out or something, but

<v Speaker 2>not directly through you.

<v Speaker 3>No, that's the deal.

<v Speaker 1>I don't even know if I want to call this

<v Speaker 1>person an ex. I'm not gonna say her real name,

<v Speaker 1>so I'm just gonna call her Rachel Olga. She is,

<v Speaker 1>all right. I gotta give a little bit of a

<v Speaker 1>backstory about this, because I we didn't actually we were

<v Speaker 1>not a couple.

<v Speaker 3>We went on dates. I'd say maybe maybe five dates.

<v Speaker 3>Not important.

<v Speaker 1>In a couple of these dates though. In a couple

<v Speaker 1>of these dates, though, it was like friends. All of

<v Speaker 1>my friends went out with her as an outing, okay,

<v Speaker 1>like to a bar and we all got drinks and

<v Speaker 1>everything like that, and I was like, hey, come meet

<v Speaker 1>my friends. We're all going to so and so. So

<v Speaker 1>she meets these people, we hang out, everything's fine. Turns

<v Speaker 1>out this woman is and I don't want to be

<v Speaker 1>a guy that says like, oh my ex is crazy. No,

<v Speaker 1>this woman is a pathological liar. She turned out. She

<v Speaker 1>lied about her entire family life, she lied about where

<v Speaker 1>she lived, she lied about her actual name.

<v Speaker 3>So I'm now giving her a fake name.

<v Speaker 1>This woman was like on the FBI's most Wanted list

<v Speaker 1>or something and trying to start a new life here.

<v Speaker 1>She said she lived in Golden She didn't even live

<v Speaker 1>in Golden She lived in like Commerce City, I've come

<v Speaker 1>to find out. So lie after lie after lie, I

<v Speaker 1>don't want this person in my life ever again. When

<v Speaker 1>we finally called it quits, I was like, hey, I'm

<v Speaker 1>never going to reach out to you again. Never reach

<v Speaker 1>out to me again. It's totally fine.

<v Speaker 3>That was now a little bit over, like maybe around

<v Speaker 3>two years ago.

<v Speaker 1>Okay, so it's been a while now, that being said,

<v Speaker 1>just recently she has now started texting the girl friends

<v Speaker 1>of my group and being like, hey, like we should

<v Speaker 1>get coffee, we should hang out. And I'm like, why

<v Speaker 1>are you inviting yourself back? And and so those girls

<v Speaker 1>have come to text me and they're like, hey, do

<v Speaker 1>you remember this person?

<v Speaker 3>She remember Olga? Do you remember Olga? You guys smash.

<v Speaker 1>She says that you're a mutual friend and that that

<v Speaker 1>that's how they met. They don't even remember this girl.

<v Speaker 1>It's been so long, And I'm like, oh no, no, no, no,

<v Speaker 1>don't respond, don't reach out to this person. I'm like,

<v Speaker 1>why are you trying to claw back into my life here?

<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's weird. It is so weird.

<v Speaker 1>She is a pathological liar, and I don't want to

<v Speaker 1>be the guy that says she's psycho. But she was crazy,

<v Speaker 1>she really was. And so I don't know what to

<v Speaker 1>do here because now my friends are like, well, hey,

<v Speaker 1>should we reach out, should we you know, be nice

<v Speaker 1>or whatever? And I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, don't

<v Speaker 1>do that. And again, they're their own person, so they

<v Speaker 1>can do whatever they want, I guess. But that being said,

<v Speaker 1>it's such a weird thing. I've never had this happen

<v Speaker 1>to me, and I don't understand why she's doing it

<v Speaker 1>if she's trying to get back in my life where

<v Speaker 1>I'm in a relationship already. So I'm like, absolutely not,

<v Speaker 1>or is she just trying like she might have literally

<v Speaker 1>burned every bridge in her entire life that she's trying

<v Speaker 1>to go back with my friends now and just like

<v Speaker 1>try to find people to be friends with.

<v Speaker 3>I want her out.

<v Speaker 1>I want her out, But my friends are saying, well,

<v Speaker 1>should we be nice and stuff like that, so they're

<v Speaker 1>just the conundrum. I'm like, what do I do here?

<v Speaker 1>How do I stop them from bringing her into my life?

<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

<v Speaker 5>Like what do you do from there? Because I mean, obviously,

<v Speaker 5>like you said, you are in a relationship now, you

<v Speaker 5>don't want this drama in your life.

<v Speaker 3>Like now Yoga's.

<v Speaker 2>Not reaching out to you, She's just going through just

<v Speaker 2>friending your friends essentially.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because that's the thing, Like we still all hang out.

<v Speaker 1>We have a large group of friends that always do things,

<v Speaker 1>always hang out together, and so I'm like, I don't

<v Speaker 1>want to show up to you know, Lucky Joe's Bar

<v Speaker 1>or whatever that we're all going to and she's there,

<v Speaker 1>especially if I'm with my girlfriend.

<v Speaker 3>I love those awkward moments. Lucky Joe's Bar is really good. Yes,

<v Speaker 3>Oh god, I don't know.

<v Speaker 2>I guess you just start sending blanket group messages out

<v Speaker 2>to your friends saying this is Olga. I'd like you

<v Speaker 2>all to meet Olga if you haven't met before, and

<v Speaker 2>she Craig crazy.

<v Speaker 1>The weird thing is is she's saying like she's talking

<v Speaker 1>like their besties, like, hey, it's been so long, like

<v Speaker 1>I want to reach They showed me the text, like

<v Speaker 1>they sent me the screenshots and then they're like we

<v Speaker 1>don't even remember her, like it was so long ago. Oh,

<v Speaker 1>but that's why I'm like, oh please, Like.

<v Speaker 2>Maybe this is a cry for hope. Maybe she is

<v Speaker 2>like changed, she's looking for friends.

<v Speaker 3>I don't Maybe she's a normal Now you could go

<v Speaker 3>look somewhere else. Here's the thing.

<v Speaker 5>If I somebody that I dated previously wanted to be

<v Speaker 5>friends with all of my homies, I would not like that.

<v Speaker 3>I would not like that. I'd try and put the

<v Speaker 3>stop to that immediately. But how do you do that?

<v Speaker 3>You try to squash it?

<v Speaker 2>What if they were already friends with your friends while

<v Speaker 2>you were dating, Like they had already instagrammed friend each

<v Speaker 2>other and everything, and then you broke up. Do you

<v Speaker 2>ask that person then to unfriends.

<v Speaker 3>After meeting twice? Friends after meeting twice? You might have to.

<v Speaker 5>I don't know what is the protocol here with social

<v Speaker 5>media friendships? Like can you ask your friends to unfriend somebody?

<v Speaker 3>No Olga, no Olga. You could put a.

<v Speaker 2>Post on your Instagram that just has a picture of

<v Speaker 2>Olga with that circle and then the line and just

<v Speaker 2>says say no.

<v Speaker 5>To Olga, join me in my recent and.

<v Speaker 3>Ja ho ho, Olga's got to go. He's crazy dope.

<v Speaker 3>But I guess that's just my question. Is that's nice?

<v Speaker 3>Off the top of you it is? Yeah, you get

<v Speaker 3>it on the top of your head.

<v Speaker 1>I don't know, it's just should I essentially just ask

<v Speaker 1>my entire friend group to blacklister or because I know

<v Speaker 1>women love new friends, like that's the thing is, they're

<v Speaker 1>all friendly things.

<v Speaker 3>My friend did not give me a definitive note. She's like, well,

<v Speaker 3>I mean like maybe coffee maybe.

<v Speaker 2>Why can you tell them not to be friends though,

<v Speaker 2>then they can be friends?

<v Speaker 3>Can he do that?

<v Speaker 6>I don't.

<v Speaker 3>Yes, my friends first, so they have their own friends.

<v Speaker 5>Is it okay for Josh to tell them I don't

<v Speaker 5>want you to be friends with her because she's my

<v Speaker 5>crazy ex?

<v Speaker 3>Got little repeat Robert on the line.

<v Speaker 2>What's up, Robert?

<v Speaker 6>How's it going you?

<v Speaker 3>We're super dupes, Budy.

<v Speaker 2>So what's your advice for Josh?

<v Speaker 6>So? I think you can ask your friends to be like, hey,

<v Speaker 6>you know this is an accent, fooled around with so

<v Speaker 6>on and so forth, like ultimately I would not like

<v Speaker 6>her in the friend group, but then put the ball

<v Speaker 6>in their court to ultimately be like, yeah, we may

<v Speaker 6>not want to or if they do, great at the

<v Speaker 6>end of the day, you get to choose whether you

<v Speaker 6>want to be around that group and choose there or not,

<v Speaker 6>and you can choose to be cordial if you want to.

<v Speaker 1>Okay, So I can't just outright ask them, I mean

<v Speaker 1>it's probably wrong to do that. Correct, just outright ask

<v Speaker 1>him not to associate with her.

<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I mean again, ultimately put the ball in their court.

<v Speaker 6>If they want to friend her and you know, bring

<v Speaker 6>her to the gatherings, then that's up to them. You

<v Speaker 6>have control over you and your girlfriend, and they have

<v Speaker 6>control over their lives, and it's you could say, hey,

<v Speaker 6>you know, I'd rather not. But ultimately, if they decide to,

<v Speaker 6>that's then the choice of do you want to go

<v Speaker 6>to these gatherings to risking the chance of running into her.

<v Speaker 2>Okay, the thing is now, like before he goes out

<v Speaker 2>with any of these people, he has to ask, though, hey,

<v Speaker 2>is Olga.

<v Speaker 3>Going to be there?

<v Speaker 2>Like every time? Because see, he could just pop in

<v Speaker 2>and she'll randomly be there, and then there's.

<v Speaker 6>Gonna be also I just Irish Irish goodbye and be like,

<v Speaker 6>oh sorry, I forgot we had plans out a different Okay.

<v Speaker 3>I forgot my chapstick in the car and Robert.

<v Speaker 2>We appreciate your advice, sir, Thank you very very good.

<v Speaker 2>Here's Cassidy. Hi, Cassidy, Hello, Hello, what's your advice for

<v Speaker 2>Joshi boy?

<v Speaker 3>So?

<v Speaker 4>My my advice is kind of similar. I would, I would,

<v Speaker 4>you know, talk to them, talk to each individual that

<v Speaker 4>you know, feed them the details of like what you

<v Speaker 4>what what you told us, and I mean even even

<v Speaker 4>more so if there is more details and that sort

<v Speaker 4>of thing. And I mean, if you are going to compromise,

<v Speaker 4>because I understand that it's kind of an awkward state

<v Speaker 4>to kind of just demand something because I mean, you know,

<v Speaker 4>obviously if it was sort of like a small, you know,

<v Speaker 4>five date situation, like you said, then you know, it

<v Speaker 4>is kind of a smaller thing. But it's not like

<v Speaker 4>it was a crazy bad breakup or whatever else, which

<v Speaker 4>I think they would have to respect your wishes if

<v Speaker 4>you have, you know, a really really really bad breakup

<v Speaker 4>with with her, but obviously she wasn't like a girlfriend girlfriend.

<v Speaker 6>But if you're going to compromise, and.

<v Speaker 4>I would say to be like, you know, be respectful

<v Speaker 4>of me and at least tell me who you've invited

<v Speaker 4>to like these gatherings and make me aware yeah, prior

<v Speaker 4>because otherwise, you know, because that's I mean, that's keeping

<v Speaker 4>the ball in their court somewhat, and then you're not

<v Speaker 4>sounding like a control freak essentially.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah. No, that's good.

<v Speaker 1>And it also gives me a good chance to see,

<v Speaker 1>like how good my friends actually are to me. I mean,

<v Speaker 1>if they really respect me and my boundaries, hopefully they

<v Speaker 1>would not invite her to do those things, correct, I

<v Speaker 1>mean yeah.

<v Speaker 5>And I think so you them knowing that if she

<v Speaker 5>is going to show up, you won't be there. Nope,

<v Speaker 5>that's gonna help, right, I mean, come on, they're going

<v Speaker 5>to be like, if you don't come to things and

<v Speaker 5>you're not part of our friend group, then they don't

<v Speaker 5>want that.

<v Speaker 3>Listen, So what why dude?

<v Speaker 2>I've told you for years? Quit who came up with

<v Speaker 2>all the randoms?

<v Speaker 3>Everybody's a random until you meet up exactly. This is

<v Speaker 3>what happens when you hook up with random.

<v Speaker 5>Olga is like, how else are you supposed to get

<v Speaker 5>yourself out there?

<v Speaker 3>What happens when you're just good at what you do?

<v Speaker 3>Make me crazy?

<v Speaker 2>You talk for a little while before you.

<v Speaker 3>Okay, who does that? And you know, listen, this happens

<v Speaker 3>when you talking a second base now I know exactly.

<v Speaker 5>It's so different now, you know, you ain't out here, homie,

<v Speaker 5>you

<v Speaker 2>Don't know's I'm sure being named Olga, Yeah, that would

<v Speaker 2>have been number one.