<v Speaker 1>Jay Katy and Josh six one hundred. Okay, so this

<v Speaker 1>is from Sailor in our Veda, and Sailor says, I

<v Speaker 1>have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year.

<v Speaker 1>We get along great, but lately I've started noticing something

<v Speaker 1>that's really bothering me. He doesn't want to go on

<v Speaker 1>vacation with me, and not because of money or work.

<v Speaker 1>He just does not seem interested. Been there, he says.

<v Speaker 1>Every time I bring up taking a trip together, he'll

<v Speaker 1>change the subject or just say maybe someday. He also

<v Speaker 1>has zero interest in moving in together, not even a

<v Speaker 1>conversation about the future. Like Whenever I ask where he

<v Speaker 1>sees this going, his answers are completely vague. Meanwhile, I

<v Speaker 1>feel like after more than a year together, most couples

<v Speaker 1>are at least talking about taking the next step. I'm

<v Speaker 1>not asking for a ring tomorrow, but I do want

<v Speaker 1>to know if we're moving forward. The thing that keeps

<v Speaker 1>creeping into my head is this, what if he settled

<v Speaker 1>for me?

<v Speaker 2>Oo?

<v Speaker 1>What if he likes me enough to date me, but

<v Speaker 1>not enough to build a future with me. Sometimes it

<v Speaker 1>feels like I'm his girlfriend because it's comfortable, not because

<v Speaker 1>I'm the person he truly wants. My friends and co

<v Speaker 1>workers have been my therapist and they're split. So some

<v Speaker 1>say guys move at different speeds and I'm reading too

<v Speaker 1>much into it. Others say, if a man sees a

<v Speaker 1>future with you, you will know I need your help.

<v Speaker 1>Am I being impatient after only a year together? Or

<v Speaker 1>are his actions telling me everything I need to know?

<v Speaker 2>What do you think? Did he just settle for me?

<v Speaker 1>I'll be listening Sailor.

<v Speaker 2>In our vet. Oh, Sailor juice. Sailor just wants to

<v Speaker 2>be wanted. Yeah, he needs to be needed.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah, if you want to sound off about Sailor's situation,

<v Speaker 3>come sail a way, Come sail away.

<v Speaker 2>Sail great song.

<v Speaker 3>One makes three h three six nine one sixteen forty nine.

<v Speaker 2>All right, what do you mean by you've been there?

<v Speaker 1>I just I've been in the situation where I feel

<v Speaker 1>like I am way more into the person than they're

<v Speaker 1>into me.

<v Speaker 2>It's not a good feeling.

<v Speaker 1>Oh, it's the worst feeling for me, because well, no,

<v Speaker 1>it's not like with marriage. I think that's give and take.

<v Speaker 1>There are moments where you like her more, where she

<v Speaker 1>likes you more. You know, situation that goes back and forth.

<v Speaker 1>But if you're in a relationship where you really feel

<v Speaker 1>like you are the one who outkicked your coverage and

<v Speaker 1>they're making you feel like that, that's uncomfortable and I

<v Speaker 1>hate it. So I feel for Sailor because when you're

<v Speaker 1>in the situation, like, not only do you feel bad,

<v Speaker 1>but then everything that person.

<v Speaker 2>Does, you're gonna question.

<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So that's the part.

<v Speaker 5>I've been in a relationship where it was the girl

<v Speaker 5>that was she kind of positively reinforced consistently, and she

<v Speaker 5>was like, you're just too good for me, you too

<v Speaker 5>give for me, and you literally end up start like

<v Speaker 5>believing that, yeah you know, And that was one of

<v Speaker 5>the reasons we broke her are Yeah, No, I mean seriously,

<v Speaker 5>that was one of the reasons. I was like, you

<v Speaker 5>have like zero self confidence, Like you gotta believe that

<v Speaker 5>I also deserve you, you know, And that was a

<v Speaker 5>major thing that I was like, I don't think you see,

<v Speaker 5>like you put someone on a pedestal, and that's not

<v Speaker 5>a good way to be in a relationship.

<v Speaker 2>It's not healthy, you know, it's not full.

<v Speaker 3>Lines are open if you want to sound off threeho

<v Speaker 3>three six nine one sixteen forty nine Now her two examples.

<v Speaker 3>He just doesn't want to go on vacation with me,

<v Speaker 3>and he has zero interest in moving in together.

<v Speaker 2>They haven't been.

<v Speaker 3>They've been together a little over a year. Maybe he

<v Speaker 3>just doesn't want to move in with you. He's like,

<v Speaker 3>we need to go a little bit longer, okay, relax

<v Speaker 3>as a credit score.

<v Speaker 2>I get that.

<v Speaker 1>But the fact that every time she brings it up,

<v Speaker 1>he changes the subject, like he doesn't even want to

<v Speaker 1>discuss it, That's where I have the problem, because I

<v Speaker 1>feel like she's.

<v Speaker 2>Too hot and heavy, like this is just too much

<v Speaker 2>for him.

<v Speaker 1>Well, but she doesn't get an answer, so of course

<v Speaker 1>she's gonna keep asking if he's not gonna give her

<v Speaker 1>any kind of reinforcement, any kind of positive feedback.

<v Speaker 2>But if there's none and he just says, I don't

<v Speaker 2>want to do that, then she really why. I don't

<v Speaker 2>think he's.

<v Speaker 1>Told her that though, I think he's being ve And

<v Speaker 1>that's part of the problem, because.

<v Speaker 2>He doesn't want to get yelled at.

<v Speaker 3>Because if he says no, he's like, no, I don't

<v Speaker 3>want to do that, Well, why you know, then it

<v Speaker 3>turns into a whole thing. Yeah, explain times it's better.

<v Speaker 3>Joff just to like, are you kidding me? Explain yourself,

<v Speaker 3>like I don't want I don't because you're too much Sailor.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well then again that gives her the information she

<v Speaker 1>needs to Okay, well you think I'm too much, go

<v Speaker 1>find less, homie, go find less.

<v Speaker 3>She's like relaxed, Sailor. I know it's been like a year.

<v Speaker 3>I don't want to move.

<v Speaker 5>In with you.

<v Speaker 1>A year is a long time, Jeremy.

<v Speaker 2>You but that's too quick to be still moving, Like, you.

<v Speaker 1>Know whether you want to be with this person after

<v Speaker 1>a year. So if you don't want to be with

<v Speaker 1>this person for the rest of your life, then let them.

<v Speaker 3>Got this don't look quick?

<v Speaker 1>Oh don't be in a relationship because it's comfortable.

<v Speaker 3>And all I'm thinking about is like I gotta find

<v Speaker 3>buddies to help me, you know, move her in, and

<v Speaker 3>then then it's going to not work out. Then I

<v Speaker 3>gotta find friends to help me move out.

<v Speaker 1>Why are you moving out already?

<v Speaker 2>Secause it years too soon?

<v Speaker 1>Has some miss attitude where the vacation one gets me though,

<v Speaker 1>like why does he not want to just go on

<v Speaker 1>vacation And she says not because of money or work.

<v Speaker 2>He just doesn't seem interested. That one's weird to me, Yes,

<v Speaker 2>both of them, that one's really weird. Here's Joel Hijoel.

<v Speaker 4>Hey, good morning everyone, Hey.

<v Speaker 2>Body, what do you think about sailor situation?

<v Speaker 4>Oh, sire sailor. It doesn't sound like you're in a

<v Speaker 4>serious relationship. It sounds like you feel the relationship so

<v Speaker 4>one way, so like he feels another way about it.

<v Speaker 4>The slight possibility might be a side piece in the

<v Speaker 4>long run, even if not. You want to be with

<v Speaker 4>someone that makes you feel the way you want to feel,

<v Speaker 4>not the way you're you don't want to feel, you know,

<v Speaker 4>I just don't do something similar where if I felt

<v Speaker 4>like the person just it was with me just because

<v Speaker 4>I'm comfortable and not necessarily you know, and not only that,

<v Speaker 4>but man, she'd be I don't trust her anyways anymore.

<v Speaker 4>But yeah, I mean, you want to be with someone

<v Speaker 4>that makes you so good. You know, life's too short

<v Speaker 4>to be spending with someone that just makes you so crappy,

<v Speaker 4>you know, or less than let's just say less than,

<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean, because just.

<v Speaker 2>Because he doesn't want to move in though, but there's no.

<v Speaker 4>Not just that I mean, Okay, well she doesn't want

<v Speaker 4>to move like, regardless of what it is, how does

<v Speaker 4>she makes making her feel you know, because it doesn't

<v Speaker 4>sound like she feels very happy or secure or any

<v Speaker 4>of the positive feelings that you should feel when you're

<v Speaker 4>in a healthy wage relationship.

<v Speaker 3>I wish we had more backstory, like if you know,

<v Speaker 3>he's maybe a gift giver. Maybe that's his love language,

<v Speaker 3>like he's given gifts or you know.

<v Speaker 4>You know, some some guys are really like just you know,

<v Speaker 4>like sheltered when it comes to relationships.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, just really some guys are just dumb.

<v Speaker 3>They're like, I don't want to go on vacation, let's

<v Speaker 3>just stay here, and I don't want to move in.

<v Speaker 4>Yeah, they're emotional.

<v Speaker 2>Maybe she could just be super annoying to Joe.

<v Speaker 4>You never know, maybe she has the weird happened. Maybe

<v Speaker 4>she has some cats and he just really doesn't like

<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean, He's kind of waiting for

<v Speaker 4>one of them to pass on or something.

<v Speaker 3>She's cats and like one of those weird laughs. So

<v Speaker 3>when she laughs, she sucks in instead of laughs out there.

<v Speaker 4>So maybe she's like, honestly, at this point, I just

<v Speaker 4>love girls that laugh period. I love the one that laughed.

<v Speaker 2>Joel's just looking for anybody with a pulse. It sounds like.

<v Speaker 1>Joel's looking for someone who leaves him feeling comfortable. I

<v Speaker 1>don't want to have to feel anxious and uncomfortable and uneasy,

<v Speaker 1>like you don't want someone to treat you like. That's

<v Speaker 1>not what you want someone to leave you with.

<v Speaker 2>So I get Joe.

<v Speaker 1>I get what you're saying.

<v Speaker 2>Joe, we gotta find you somebody, you know.

<v Speaker 4>I don't know there's someone for everyone right now. I'm

<v Speaker 4>just working on being happy with me same.

<v Speaker 2>Maybe you're there. Are you the weird one?

<v Speaker 1>Jewel?

<v Speaker 4>No, man, dude, you're getting in shape. I work out

<v Speaker 4>every day. I am a volunteer at a school like

<v Speaker 4>send us.

<v Speaker 2>A picture, Joel. We're gonna let you go now. Katie's

<v Speaker 2>hitting you want No one wants me said now, all right,

<v Speaker 2>we love you, buddy, Thank you for the call. Thank you, Joe.

<v Speaker 2>We got to move. I got to fit one more

<v Speaker 2>in here. Hi, Hi Kristen, Hi Christon.

<v Speaker 3>All right, do you think Sailor's got a weird laugh

<v Speaker 3>or what?

<v Speaker 6>I just I think that he is just not to

<v Speaker 6>be too cheesy and quote. A book and a movie

<v Speaker 6>is he's just not that into her. Yeah, yeah, I

<v Speaker 6>agree with her friends who said that if he saw

<v Speaker 6>a future with her, she would know. You know, I've

<v Speaker 6>been in relationships both ways where you know you're in

<v Speaker 6>one for years and it's like pulling teeth and you

<v Speaker 6>never know really where you sit. And but then I've

<v Speaker 6>also been in a relationship where I knew exactly where

<v Speaker 6>I sat and things progress quickly because we just knew.

<v Speaker 6>And you know, I think of Josh and his relationships,

<v Speaker 6>you know, and all his dating and how he's gone

<v Speaker 6>back and forth, and then you know, when you find

<v Speaker 6>the right person, you guys know, you you tell each other.

<v Speaker 6>It's it's not vague and unclear.

<v Speaker 5>You do have that feeling of comfortability with that person

<v Speaker 5>for sure, and that's what I felt with his last one,

<v Speaker 5>So I agree with you.

<v Speaker 3>Actually, Andy came in and was like, do you guys

<v Speaker 3>know how much money she makes?

<v Speaker 1>No, Christin, I can tell you as the woman. When

<v Speaker 1>he came in and talked about Princess Pilot, it was

<v Speaker 1>so different than how he talked about any other girl.

<v Speaker 1>He talks like he was comfortable and that's the thing.

<v Speaker 1>He wants to do things with her. They're constantly doing

<v Speaker 1>things together, and so that tells me he likes her,

<v Speaker 1>he likes her company, and he enjoys exactly.

<v Speaker 2>Do you know how much money she makes? She's always

<v Speaker 2>bringing us Chick fil late.

<v Speaker 1>There's that too, awesome, Like you can tell he's really

<v Speaker 1>hidden her and he doesn't make any qualms about it.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah, all right, christ great, great comments, great observations.

<v Speaker 2>Thank you for coming in.

<v Speaker 3>Ye okay, bye later. Okay, I'm not really sure where

<v Speaker 3>we fell on this.

<v Speaker 1>For Sailor, I think Sailor needs to sail away.

<v Speaker 3>All right, girl, get on your dinghy and get out

<v Speaker 3>of dance right, get out of here.

<v Speaker 2>Life's too short.